There's a balance with everything. Good grades can help with some things, but can take away from others. Get good grades, but also realize what's important to you.
💜GOD IS good and He loves you!!💜 "Truly, truly, I say to you, whoever hears my word and believes him who sent me has eternal life. He does not come into judgment, but has passed from death to life." John 5:24🌈 "So now faith, hope, and love abide, these three; but the greatest of these is LOVE" 1 Corinthians 13:13🌈 "For Christ also suffered once for sins, the righteous for the unrighteous, that he might bring us to God, being put to death in the flesh but made alive in the spirit," 1 Peter 3:18🌈 "He is the propitiation for our sins, and not for ours only but also for the sins of the whole world." 1 John 2:2🌈
I normally like school, but I hate it right now. Professors teach like shit and online learning is difficult when you have to teach yourself everything
whenever I go to school , it just feels like the life has been sucked out of me ,and I just become so boring and drained that I even can't stand myself no more , I start to hate myself , it's really a horrid feeling. I do get good grades I am really grateful for , but I just wish I could feel happy like the other kids around me . I don't know why , maybe it's the people in my school or something but I just feel sick there and just want to go home do what i actually enjoy and want to learn . I don't think school is useless in all cases but for me it's doing more harm than good at the moment . From my young young childhood it has alwauys been the same ; study or else this bad thing will happen to you , go to school or this bad thing will happen to you , conform or something bad will happen to you . I have never known any different , i was raised in school , I grew up there , so I think I have spent enough time there to be qualified enough to say i don't like it much .i am so grateful for all i have and had and will have , all the opportunities and experiences i got to live , but I am still fearful that all my efforts will be wasted , hopefully not .sorry for venting but i just felt I needed to get this off my chest .
It's ok to feel that way, if you have a dream shase it, you always keep hearing something bad will happend to you, why don't you try for yourself and see if that 'bad thing' is actually bad? If you really want to quite and still got a lot of years coming to get a job, try to find a supporter financially if your parents aren't gonna help you and if you do find one...quite, if not try to balance up . I'm in my last year of high school and I will probably and most likely if God will's quite to shase my dream and it is to become an entrepreneur, I will and I believe in God and in myself that I will reach that Goal very soon, and remember If we don't risk it we will not change a thing. I hope your doing good and not letting your scholarship take away from your life and making you forget who you truly are and what you truly want. Peace
It is exactly the same for me except that i know that it is because of all the people in school. I dont know why but i literally hate 99 percent of my school.
To be honest, the way that schools give grades is like judging a lion on its ability to dive: there is very little correlation between good grades and skills for jobs. The whole concept of GPA makes school extremely stressful. Also, I learned more in your videos than I did in university. Thanks bro!
I’m literally crying rn because it’s so stressful. We have to go to these virtual meeting (only for this week) and my internet keeps messing up and I’m missing a lot and the teachers probably think I’m lying 😭
My thoughts on school are just “Hey just get passing grades! Don’t worry about the classmates that annoy you, or are mean to you cause one day you’re all leaving school and moving on in life! Maybe you’ll see them in a store and you’ll wave, or not even remember each other!”
its not even grades i care about, i just really dont want to have no interact with people i dont necessarily like, i dont get bullied or anything, infact im liked by basically everyone, the more i write, the more i feel like im complainng for nothing, i just seriously, would do anything to not go to college. Im not even just some stupid kid whos complaining about school because its boring, it really affects my mental health.
The timing of this video is just...perfect. I'm in my third year and I'm honestly exhausted and have no motivation to do any of my work and i feel like dropping out, but ima just grind for now and keep on moving forward. Thanks for the advice 😊
I never liked college. I always wanted to be a professional football player but my mum essentially took that dream away from me by saying that only small amount of people make it and that i would fail which is understandable, but now I’m stuck in college learning about something I couldn’t care less about, I’m doing it because it was the most interesting subject from high school but I loath going into lectures every single day. I’m 19 now and I hate the path that I’m going through. The only thing that kind of salvages this experience is that I will be joining the college football team next academic year. Other than that college sucks
I'm in high school rn, and I hate it so much. I'll need to go to university soon just to get a degree, which will put me in modern slavery, that is, if I'll be able to find a job in the first place. I can do so much more in those 4 years as a young adult rather than going to university just to hear my professor saying outdated nonsense, which, if I want, can just learn online for free.
I really have to let go of my internal Asian parent. Even when I get a B, I feel like I "failed" for some reason. The weird thing is, my parents never even stressed the importance of grades. Generally, they do not even care about my grades. I somehow developed these unrealistic standards of getting A's all the time on my own.
Same here. My dad even encourages me to go out and have fun instead of studying. I’ve never failed a class and the thought of even failing is frightening. I realized that my 90’s in most of my university classes up to this point really don’t mean anything to me, and I’ve seen my friends cheat their way to getting high marks. All for what? They finished the class with a higher mark but they don’t have the knowledge. That’s when I realized that marks are absolutely useless. We’ve also gotta ask ourselves what is most important to future employers? You can get good grades all throughout your university career, but does that mean you’ll automatically succeed in your new job? Likely not. If I were an employer I’d take the guy who had decent marks and good real life experience over someone who has hasn’t touched grass in 2 months because he was studying to ace a test. Point is, I’m starting to see that all my worry… all my time… has been spent on worry about something that doesn’t matter too much. C’s get degrees for a reason: you met the standard, and you deserve to receive the same degree as someone who scored higher. In the end it’s all about the degree. I worked 3 internships now and was an executive member of an investment group for almost 2 years. I definitely have more to show than just a degree(that I’ll obtain in the next year), and with that said, I’m going to prioritize my health and well-being. Take care guys, and put yourself first.
Alex Lee, this helped me a lot. You aren’t just a programmer, but you are in fact like an older brother that you have us, whom we look up to. Thank you so much and please make more videos like these. Love you so much! ❤❤❤
I’m literally gonna cry, I hate my experience at my new hs so far, it’s fresh man year for me and the past 2 years were online due to the pandemic so I haven’t been in one before. I have social anxiety, call me weird or whatever you want but it’s really tough to not be anxious like all the time, I literally can’t be really social, I’m always alone at lunch, and pretty much all I do is my work, no fun or hanging out with people. It’s kinda sad tbh cause I did have friends but they changed schools and became toxic and just kinda dropped me, so I’m basically a loner rn. On top of all of this there’s also so much stress work related and I don’t know a lot about the place which makes it even worse. I kinda wanna dropout or just stop high school yk? Like I want to keep doing the work and get an education and all, but I can’t take all of the other experiences, it’s just too much. Also I have kinda bad noise sensitivity so just being at hs everyday with all that fucking noise makes me wanna cry 😭
i love these short advice vids. For some reason, they're released exactly at the time I want to hear these words. You have no idea how many people are feeling a bit relieved about themselves/their life after watching this. Thanks for this.
I hate school. I’ve tried so many times and end up dropping out :( I gave up on my program and am probably just gonna take non-program classes. I have 2 kids and enjoy learning at my own pace. I think taking single classes will give me a better opportunity to succeed in my own way. It’s not that I hate learning, I hate being on someone else’s time.
i’m completely flunking my sophomore year rn. i hate school and i have no motivation for it, and i’m severely depressed. yeah. idk what to do anymore. i’ve pretty much stopped trying.
Only me that loved online school, I did dent have to get up early and can eat when ever I want and it’s much better to study at home bc no one can interrupt me
Thank you so much for your advice. I needed to hear this. Personally, I’m one of those students who is constantly stressing over grades and trying to be as perfect as I can. Only recently, have I started to be be okay with getting a B or two. It helps knowing that it’s not the end of the world and not the only thing that matters. I matter. We all matter. Focus on what makes you happy!
Hey Alex, I'm really glad you're touching on this subject because it's been on my mind so much lately. The start of university for me lined up with the pandemic and distance learning. It's much harder to feel attached to any of the work I do in school thanks to the combination of it all being so much more distant and so much more advanced that the knowledge is even less likely to matter now. I want to be a high school math teacher and I take some inspiration from your Java tutorials in my own teaching theory. However, I feel a lack of passion about my work because set theory, abstract algebra, etc. are not going to be taught at a high school level and I just want to focus on the information that is more relevant to me, like calculus. That being said, I have been practicing the approach that you talked about in this video. I tried to put my biggest stressors in the back of my mind so that I could enjoy my own life more. However, I actually feel more miserable now than I did before. In the past, I felt like I was spending every waking hour doing work that I didn't really care about, which is what motivated me to try to enjoy my life more instead of letting work consume all of it. However, I have gone too far in the other direction, and I feel a lot worse now because my lack of success academically makes me feel like an outcast among my peers, like a failure as a person, and also not cut out for a job as a teacher if I can't even do well as a student. I agree with you in this video that it is important to value your own growth as a person, but I think it is also important to mediate that mindset with the acknowledgement that we can't avoid all of the tedium in our lives. Sometimes you have to accept that you've got boring or stressful work to do, even if you hate it, because immediate gratification isn't as good as working towards long-term success. In the upcoming quarters at my university I plan to embrace all of the work I have to do because I've discovered that trying to enjoy myself now is actually a lot less rewarding in hindsight. I just thought I'd share my own experience with this advice; I don't dislike the video in any way just because I have had a different experience. :)
I really needed this today. With finals coming up, stress is at an all time high. It's nice to get a little reminder from time to time that the world isn't going to end no matter how I do. Sure, I'll do my best, but it's good to remember that my exam score won't affect me as much as it feels it does in the real world. Thank you Alex.
I'm deeply struggling in Computer Science right now, but I am finally figuring what my heart wants, both in school, and in life. Your channel and this video help me a lot. Thank you
Thanks for this vid man, in between starting new at a university, not having any friends here, stress, i've been feeling like i might get wombo comboed into depression hard, this doesn't solve my issues but it sure as hell does help to hear this from someone who understands, thank you.
Thank you so much, college is very stressful lately and my mental health just went downhill, so I’ve taken a week off and I’m hoping to get back on track asap
I remember my high school putting major emphasis on SAT scores and they played absolutely no part in me getting into college lol. I started with two years of community college then transferred to university just fine.
I for sure can relate. I'm going to graduate HS in a little over a year, but I'm taking the hardest and most "impressive" classes my school offers to mentally reassure myself that I am "good enough" to get into a top school. I usually do fine under pressure, but recently, it's just been too much. Not only am I constantly drained and exhausted mentally, it's taking a big toll on me physically as well. Feeling like this, especially everyday, makes me less and less excited for college, which has been one of my biggest goals for a really, really long time. Thank you for this, it helped put my mind at ease for a bit. (Also, thank you so much for your java videos, they are truly lifesavers) :-)
School puts so much pressure on you I could get 100/100 out of my test IF MY TEACHER DIDN'T PUT A TIMER ON THE BOARD! AND WE ALL SAID JUST NOTIFY US EVERY 10 MINUTES BUT SAMARTH HAD TO SAY ''Oh your gonna go to slow '' BRUHHH I AM SMART IT IS JUST SCHOOL IS SO MUCH PRESSURE.
Thanks a lot! I was feeling angry and sad not being able to finish some projects........ as long as you do your best and always ask for help if you're stuck you'll be better off.
I genuinely grateful for this. It's been hell in covid trying to learn and I would dare to say it's even depressing. Now the new goal in mind is just do it to get yourself out of it. Freedom is the reward I guess.
This is so true. I was blessed enough to go into my career field before graduating school and this is 100% true. School benefits the most on the resume and that's it. Get the grades you can and work on your every day skills that you need to succeed. Keep your head up kings and queens.
Thank you Alex for this Sage advice! I am returning to school after spending 10+ years in the workforce, pretty much jobs that my heart wasn't in. My wife managed a good career after graduating from college and its what motivated me to return. The only problem is that the College assignments are really difficult and they are relentless, I will remember this video when I am in a bind.
I despise school for the opposite reason that most people do. I love the learning aspect but I can never seem to get along with the people. While I long for genuine friendships and deep connections, others could care less about them. I’m realizing I just need to detach and stop caring so much about them because they could care less about me and it’s painful. At the same time I’m not sure why I care so much.
You are a lovely man with a big heart. Thank you for uploading your coding tutorials. You have no clue how much they help me. At the same time I hope you're doing okay - in these past videos you seem a bit sad. The pandemic has been rough on everyone and it's hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel. I know for me it hasn't been easy. Reach out to friends and loved ones if you find yourself going into a particularly dark place. The world is much better with you in it, and you have helped hundreds of thousands of people to learn how to code. Thank you for being you.
Currently I'm in my second year of College, I feel the pressure building on my everyday and it makes me sick to my stomach at times, I have severe insomnia so sometimes I accidently sleep through classes due to me being up all night and that really kicks me where it hurts. I am in a few classes that I absolutely hate and I am failing, but I am in some other classes that are super fun and I am passing with flying colors! I just try to look at it like I am learning what works for me so when I find a professional job I am not bored to death and miserable. I am planning on going into cybersecurity due to my great understanding of computers and interest in the field! Thanks for the little spark of motivation u made my day!
Life could be so much easier if only i know how to socialize.. school would be easy and having work would be easy if only i know how to socialize... i can do school and do work the only problem with me is socializing i just can't seem to socialize no matter what i do it makes things impossible and hard to do even now in online class im struggling so much because of so much anxiety...
i have been feeling exactly the way you'd described, almost asif you were reading my mind. thank you so much for this, the best piece of advice I've had in the longest time
Man, this video really helped. I am in university abroad, which is high-ranked, studying media and communication. I thought it would be all about social media strategy and content creation, but it turned out to be something completely different and unenjoyable. It is hard to go through all of that when you can't even change courses and this video really helped man
Thank you so much for this video. I really haven't felt myself lately especially during this quarantine and this video just took my stress away right now. I hope you are doing well.
I just found your channel to learn some JAVA because my JAVA course at school is taught in a manner that doesn't work for me and I literally cried last week during a lesson (with my camera off at least) and wanted to quit really bad. I did expect to learn some JAVA here. What I didn't expect was getting a motivational advice that actually makes me feel much better. Thank you.
Is it coincidence that this video showed up while I'm browsing to forget the presures of online class, being IT student with no friends and striving to maintain grades. Thank you alex!
I personally enjoy these videos it puts everything into perspective about life, and I’m going through the same things too, just what do you wanna be is the question
I miss so much school just cause of the fact I always feel exhausted and overwhelmed whenever I go to school, I’m kind of just the pass around friend too, I don’t have any close friends. When I go to school all I do is really sit there , do the assignments and count the seconds until I can leave, I feel bad for my parents as they work to support me, but I just can’t stop. I’ve been begging for alternatives like online school but the person I’m supposed to talk about that possibility with hasn’t been at school for weeks. Whenever I go to school which used to be 4 days out of the the week and has now been reduced to 3 because I’ve been feeling worse then ever, I usually come back so mentally drained or even crying. I’ve tried going in with a positive mindset, I’ve tried getting up extra early, sleeping extra early, trying to enjoy it. But I just can’t.
I just want to say that you really help me with Java. You have made it really easy for me to understand. And Yes, we worry to much about grades that we forget to really learn and take our time.
I love you man whenever i hear that school is about to start i get really nervous i dont wanna make my parents dissapointed like i just cry when school is about to start im stressed and tired i feel like i just wanna give up but i dont cause i have faith in Jesus❤ and i love my parents really much! I dont wanna make them dissapointed we are just poor theyve got a son whos stupid i just wanna get smarter but this video helped me thank you so much.
This was really cool dude. It's awesome and I can tell that now you have completed college and something that you wanted to do it's satisfying and really humbling for you. Thanks so much for this.
So strange I just made this conclusion this week because of school stress. Gonna take it as it comes. I’m on my second year of uni and some teachers are just making online a hellscape. Great content bud. Love seeing you post!
Everyone before high school: Grades are SUPER important, sacrifice whatever you need to get good grades! Everyone after college: Yeah they really don't matter *I will say I think grades in high school really are super important cause you can get a really great scholarship for having good grades and a good ACT score
Thank you...this helped so much....I have school today but I absolutely hate it and don't want to go....but I know I have to and my anxiety is through the roof
thank you alex! i feel like if you wanna go to uni, in highschool you DO have to get good grades, but once you're doing your degree you only need to pass it to get the title I'll be studying computer science next year and in my country the grades you get in senior year are very important to get into the university you want, and it os very hard to not stress about a bad grade but it really isn't the end of the world
amen brother. I'm a B.S. CS Major. Middle school math and barely science knowledge was how I started College/University... What A Ride. Not easy but have learned a lot and hopefully will continue to learn each and ever single day.
Hey Alex this is off-topic, but I wanted to thank you for your Java tutorial videos! I am taking AP Compsci (which teaches Java) and whenever I don't understand something, I come to your channel for help. Thanks again!
Bro you are very pure❤️ you helped me alot with my programming and I want to thank you alot for your advices too❤️ keep posting videos and keep inspiring us please😊 god bless you and I wish you the best of luck ❤️
Secondary school or "high school" is horrible for me because everyone is just trying to fit in and doesn't care about education but I'm the opposite...this video helps a lot thank you
My classmates and schoolmates man, im in IX-th grade and they keep bullying me, today i handed a study book of romanian to my classmates, that has some space at the end for notes and my sister (30 years old), wrote a song about dad's daughter, and they kept laughing about it, it really hurted me, i thought we were friends for life, turned out to be friends for a minute and that is just for saying hello and goodbye. I will make friends at college, I'm sure of it, and if someone goes through this type of thing again i will protect them at all costs. I hate my old friends, now i remain lonely and can't talk to anyone but teachers, because at least they are the ones that really care about me.
Man...needed to hear this video! as a third yr student always stressing that my grades are my future this really helped! Pls make more content like this!!
Bro thank you so much I don’t aim for super high grades I only care about passing so if I get a c I’m alright but If I get a D that’s when I try a little bit because I want to be more focused on what I want not what school wants of me and I can say I’m a better person because of it because I’m not completely focusing on school but focusing on moulding myself in to society because I really want to become an actor not for the fame but for the chance to meet new people
I have been adopting the same attitude lately. I am in my third year at university, studying and training in person-centred counselling. It is heavy going, especially for those of us who are not academic and have learning difficulties. My course leader is open that he is a strict grader. I can't rise above 68% (upper second class). This has been frustrating, but my new attitude means I don't even need to score 60%. It requires that I lower the bar, which has been a difficult change, but one I choose to maintain.
Thats so crazy you made this today I was considering withdrawing from a class because I have been procrastinating on my school work always doing something I prefer more, thanks for solidifying the voice in my head that says "NO, keep going!" by the way my teacher recommends your videos in her class!
i went to school threw the mail in the 90's i sent all my work back threw the mail and talked to teachers on the phone and got my diploma threw the mail in 1994 i loved it it was great
dam, this was needed. I didnt think i wanted to do A levels but i had no other option, now i want to drop out, its so mentally draining and terrible for me and my way of life, but i have to commit now, i cant drop out. Thank you
For me its not about the work. Its about the ppl and teachers. I get anxiety over teachers and ppl in my class. Teachers saying my behaviour is unacceptable when they are the ones doing it and causing more problems in my life and its like I can't reach put and speak to anyone anymore because mostly they don't care or they act like they care and then just stab me in the back.
"If you hate school this might help"
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@@amaanali9525 Wait till the projects and stress of due dates come
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@@amaanali9525 to my therapy office..
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What might help every body?
alex isn't just a coding expert...
he's our older brother
He's the kind of an old brother that gives you advise on how you can hit up on girls AND be respectful to them at the same time
Yeah, the older brother I wish I had. haha.
Maybe younger brother
Are all the kids here? He is a smart young man for me. I should be considered as a grandma lol.
💜GOD IS good and He loves you!!💜
"Truly, truly, I say to you, whoever hears my word and believes him who sent me has eternal life. He does not come into judgment, but has passed from death to life."
John 5:24🌈
"So now faith, hope, and love abide, these three; but the greatest of these is LOVE"
1 Corinthians 13:13🌈
"For Christ also suffered once for sins, the righteous for the unrighteous, that he might bring us to God, being put to death in the flesh but made alive in the spirit,"
1 Peter 3:18🌈
"He is the propitiation for our sins, and not for ours only but also for the sins of the whole world."
1 John 2:2🌈
I normally like school, but I hate it right now. Professors teach like shit and online learning is difficult when you have to teach yourself everything
Yeah......
After you graduate, you won't hate your professors any more. I hated them when I was at a university. But now, sometimes, I think there were right.
Yes
Yeah
Definitely
whenever I go to school , it just feels like the life has been sucked out of me ,and I just become so boring and drained that I even can't stand myself no more , I start to hate myself , it's really a horrid feeling. I do get good grades I am really grateful for , but I just wish I could feel happy like the other kids around me . I don't know why , maybe it's the people in my school or something but I just feel sick there and just want to go home do what i actually enjoy and want to learn . I don't think school is useless in all cases but for me it's doing more harm than good at the moment . From my young young childhood it has alwauys been the same ; study or else this bad thing will happen to you , go to school or this bad thing will happen to you , conform or something bad will happen to you . I have never known any different , i was raised in school , I grew up there , so I think I have spent enough time there to be qualified enough to say i don't like it much .i am so grateful for all i have and had and will have , all the opportunities and experiences i got to live , but I am still fearful that all my efforts will be wasted , hopefully not .sorry for venting but i just felt I needed to get this off my chest .
My mom always tells me to smile, but I got an award at my school and everyone was frowning and wearing pjs
It's ok to feel that way, if you have a dream shase it, you always keep hearing something bad will happend to you, why don't you try for yourself and see if that 'bad thing' is actually bad? If you really want to quite and still got a lot of years coming to get a job, try to find a supporter financially if your parents aren't gonna help you and if you do find one...quite, if not try to balance up . I'm in my last year of high school and I will probably and most likely if God will's quite to shase my dream and it is to become an entrepreneur, I will and I believe in God and in myself that I will reach that Goal very soon, and remember If we don't risk it we will not change a thing. I hope your doing good and not letting your scholarship take away from your life and making you forget who you truly are and what you truly want.
Peace
It is exactly the same for me except that i know that it is because of all the people in school. I dont know why but i literally hate 99 percent of my school.
This was great. Anxiety and stress dropped down real quick
Cap
my friend always tease me my mind is stressed to max sometimes i domt go to school and the teachers are sick of me
😂😂😂😂😂
To be honest, the way that schools give grades is like judging a lion on its ability to dive: there is very little correlation between good grades and skills for jobs. The whole concept of GPA makes school extremely stressful. Also, I learned more in your videos than I did in university. Thanks bro!
Most rich people don’t go to college
I hate school because school gives me anxiety and I want to be able to be myself for who I am and be the person that I want to be
this didn't help. I still hate school.
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Real bro tmrw is Monday n i needa go to schl fro freeking 6days I hate schl sm
I’m literally crying rn because it’s so stressful. We have to go to these virtual meeting (only for this week) and my internet keeps messing up and I’m missing a lot and the teachers probably think I’m lying 😭
Teachers hate me 🙄 I have 10 classes and 19 amount of homework
Bro what r u talking about I love online school
@@IDiamond2727 no I can actually understand through online classes ;)
Same I'm crying rn
@@IDiamond2727 So? Would that somehow demean his point?
I f*cking needed this so bad, you have no idea.
ditto
@@latedeveloper7836 I don’t do my schoolwork cus it’s not about trolls
My thoughts on school are just “Hey just get passing grades! Don’t worry about the classmates that annoy you, or are mean to you cause one day you’re all leaving school and moving on in life! Maybe you’ll see them in a store and you’ll wave, or not even remember each other!”
True
That day literally cannot come soon enough
its not even grades i care about, i just really dont want to have no interact with people i dont necessarily like, i dont get bullied or anything, infact im liked by basically everyone, the more i write, the more i feel like im complainng for nothing, i just seriously, would do anything to not go to college. Im not even just some stupid kid whos complaining about school because its boring, it really affects my mental health.
I can relate alot I wish we can talk more onto this?
@@mahimajaggiviiih4262 we definitely can
I get bullied so its hard for me
@@mahimajaggiviiih4262 definitely
@@tregittens3971 would you like to talk
The timing of this video is just...perfect. I'm in my third year and I'm honestly exhausted and have no motivation to do any of my work and i feel like dropping out, but ima just grind for now and keep on moving forward. Thanks for the advice 😊
same here! Almost done keep it up it’s the home stretch and do what you can 💪
I'm in exactly the same place bro we got this.
Same here💥💥
have you graduated yet? :P
@@nguyenngo5929 Yup I am a graduate ^-^
I never liked college. I always wanted to be a professional football player but my mum essentially took that dream away from me by saying that only small amount of people make it and that i would fail which is understandable, but now I’m stuck in college learning about something I couldn’t care less about, I’m doing it because it was the most interesting subject from high school but I loath going into lectures every single day. I’m 19 now and I hate the path that I’m going through. The only thing that kind of salvages this experience is that I will be joining the college football team next academic year. Other than that college sucks
This is my life right now. School is a straight forward path to wage slavery and I want to drop out before it is too late.
Bro your mom reminds me of my dad
My dad also encourages me to drop out im 16 and currently in 9th grade 😭
My whole life has been a mental struggle
I'm in high school rn, and I hate it so much. I'll need to go to university soon just to get a degree, which will put me in modern slavery, that is, if I'll be able to find a job in the first place. I can do so much more in those 4 years as a young adult rather than going to university just to hear my professor saying outdated nonsense, which, if I want, can just learn online for free.
Even just the thought of school is enough to completely ruin my mood, being in school is pure stress, even in lessons I like.
Going into college finals week, feeling insanely stressed today. I really appreciate you Alex. Thank you.
I really have to let go of my internal Asian parent. Even when I get a B, I feel like I "failed" for some reason. The weird thing is, my parents never even stressed the importance of grades. Generally, they do not even care about my grades. I somehow developed these unrealistic standards of getting A's all the time on my own.
Same
Same here. My dad even encourages me to go out and have fun instead of studying. I’ve never failed a class and the thought of even failing is frightening. I realized that my 90’s in most of my university classes up to this point really don’t mean anything to me, and I’ve seen my friends cheat their way to getting high marks. All for what? They finished the class with a higher mark but they don’t have the knowledge. That’s when I realized that marks are absolutely useless. We’ve also gotta ask ourselves what is most important to future employers? You can get good grades all throughout your university career, but does that mean you’ll automatically succeed in your new job? Likely not. If I were an employer I’d take the guy who had decent marks and good real life experience over someone who has hasn’t touched grass in 2 months because he was studying to ace a test.
Point is, I’m starting to see that all my worry… all my time… has been spent on worry about something that doesn’t matter too much. C’s get degrees for a reason: you met the standard, and you deserve to receive the same degree as someone who scored higher. In the end it’s all about the degree.
I worked 3 internships now and was an executive member of an investment group for almost 2 years. I definitely have more to show than just a degree(that I’ll obtain in the next year), and with that said, I’m going to prioritize my health and well-being.
Take care guys, and put yourself first.
I just hate school because of the seating arrangements that teachers plan
There is so much nonstop pressure to get good grades from myself and everyone else. Thank you so much for this
But I can’t I can’t stand it anymore I *SUPER HATE FUCKING school*😭😭😭😭😭😭
Alex Lee, this helped me a lot. You aren’t just a programmer, but you are in fact like an older brother that you have us, whom we look up to. Thank you so much and please make more videos like these. Love you so much! ❤❤❤
I’m literally gonna cry, I hate my experience at my new hs so far, it’s fresh man year for me and the past 2 years were online due to the pandemic so I haven’t been in one before. I have social anxiety, call me weird or whatever you want but it’s really tough to not be anxious like all the time, I literally can’t be really social, I’m always alone at lunch, and pretty much all I do is my work, no fun or hanging out with people. It’s kinda sad tbh cause I did have friends but they changed schools and became toxic and just kinda dropped me, so I’m basically a loner rn. On top of all of this there’s also so much stress work related and I don’t know a lot about the place which makes it even worse. I kinda wanna dropout or just stop high school yk? Like I want to keep doing the work and get an education and all, but I can’t take all of the other experiences, it’s just too much. Also I have kinda bad noise sensitivity so just being at hs everyday with all that fucking noise makes me wanna cry 😭
i love these short advice vids. For some reason, they're released exactly at the time I want to hear these words. You have no idea how many people are feeling a bit relieved about themselves/their life after watching this. Thanks for this.
I hate school. I’ve tried so many times and end up dropping out :( I gave up on my program and am probably just gonna take non-program classes. I have 2 kids and enjoy learning at my own pace. I think taking single classes will give me a better opportunity to succeed in my own way. It’s not that I hate learning, I hate being on someone else’s time.
i’m completely flunking my sophomore year rn. i hate school and i have no motivation for it, and i’m severely depressed.
yeah. idk what to do anymore. i’ve pretty much stopped trying.
what you have said is so true, especially for us who are experiencing anxiety and panic attack during finals.
Only me that loved online school, I did dent have to get up early and can eat when ever I want and it’s much better to study at home bc no one can interrupt me
Thank you so much for your advice. I needed to hear this. Personally, I’m one of those students who is constantly stressing over grades and trying to be as perfect as I can. Only recently, have I started to be be okay with getting a B or two. It helps knowing that it’s not the end of the world and not the only thing that matters. I matter. We all matter. Focus on what makes you happy!
School takes away my freedom to me
Hey Alex, I'm really glad you're touching on this subject because it's been on my mind so much lately. The start of university for me lined up with the pandemic and distance learning. It's much harder to feel attached to any of the work I do in school thanks to the combination of it all being so much more distant and so much more advanced that the knowledge is even less likely to matter now. I want to be a high school math teacher and I take some inspiration from your Java tutorials in my own teaching theory. However, I feel a lack of passion about my work because set theory, abstract algebra, etc. are not going to be taught at a high school level and I just want to focus on the information that is more relevant to me, like calculus.
That being said, I have been practicing the approach that you talked about in this video. I tried to put my biggest stressors in the back of my mind so that I could enjoy my own life more. However, I actually feel more miserable now than I did before. In the past, I felt like I was spending every waking hour doing work that I didn't really care about, which is what motivated me to try to enjoy my life more instead of letting work consume all of it. However, I have gone too far in the other direction, and I feel a lot worse now because my lack of success academically makes me feel like an outcast among my peers, like a failure as a person, and also not cut out for a job as a teacher if I can't even do well as a student. I agree with you in this video that it is important to value your own growth as a person, but I think it is also important to mediate that mindset with the acknowledgement that we can't avoid all of the tedium in our lives. Sometimes you have to accept that you've got boring or stressful work to do, even if you hate it, because immediate gratification isn't as good as working towards long-term success. In the upcoming quarters at my university I plan to embrace all of the work I have to do because I've discovered that trying to enjoy myself now is actually a lot less rewarding in hindsight.
I just thought I'd share my own experience with this advice; I don't dislike the video in any way just because I have had a different experience. :)
I really needed this today. With finals coming up, stress is at an all time high. It's nice to get a little reminder from time to time that the world isn't going to end no matter how I do. Sure, I'll do my best, but it's good to remember that my exam score won't affect me as much as it feels it does in the real world. Thank you Alex.
I'm deeply struggling in Computer Science right now, but I am finally figuring what my heart wants, both in school, and in life. Your channel and this video help me a lot. Thank you
The fact that my friends are doing well in their studies spoils the whole thing.
Thanks for this vid man, in between starting new at a university, not having any friends here, stress, i've been feeling like i might get wombo comboed into depression hard, this doesn't solve my issues but it sure as hell does help to hear this from someone who understands, thank you.
Thank you so much, college is very stressful lately and my mental health just went downhill, so I’ve taken a week off and I’m hoping to get back on track asap
I remember my high school putting major emphasis on SAT scores and they played absolutely no part in me getting into college lol. I started with two years of community college then transferred to university just fine.
I for sure can relate. I'm going to graduate HS in a little over a year, but I'm taking the hardest and most "impressive" classes my school offers to mentally reassure myself that I am "good enough" to get into a top school. I usually do fine under pressure, but recently, it's just been too much. Not only am I constantly drained and exhausted mentally, it's taking a big toll on me physically as well. Feeling like this, especially everyday, makes me less and less excited for college, which has been one of my biggest goals for a really, really long time. Thank you for this, it helped put my mind at ease for a bit. (Also, thank you so much for your java videos, they are truly lifesavers) :-)
School puts so much pressure on you I could get 100/100 out of my test IF MY TEACHER DIDN'T PUT A TIMER ON THE BOARD! AND WE ALL SAID JUST NOTIFY US EVERY 10 MINUTES BUT SAMARTH HAD TO SAY ''Oh your gonna go to slow ''
BRUHHH I AM SMART IT IS JUST SCHOOL IS SO MUCH PRESSURE.
School be making me feel real dumb
Thanks a lot! I was feeling angry and sad not being able to finish some projects........ as long as you do your best and always ask for help if you're stuck you'll be better off.
I genuinely grateful for this. It's been hell in covid trying to learn and I would dare to say it's even depressing. Now the new goal in mind is just do it to get yourself out of it. Freedom is the reward I guess.
Whoever disliked this video......
*I NEED TO SPEAK WITH YOU*
Same, in private... with a Baseball bat.
Mood
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You really know how to comfort and motivate people.YOU ARE GREAT 👍
This is so true.
I was blessed enough to go into my career field before graduating school and this is 100% true.
School benefits the most on the resume and that's it.
Get the grades you can and work on your every day skills that you need to succeed.
Keep your head up kings and queens.
Thank you Alex for this Sage advice! I am returning to school after spending 10+ years in the workforce, pretty much jobs that my heart wasn't in. My wife managed a good career after graduating from college and its what motivated me to return. The only problem is that the College assignments are really difficult and they are relentless, I will remember this video when I am in a bind.
In these days i always get stressed about school and grades. You helped a lot. Thank you so much.
I despise school for the opposite reason that most people do. I love the learning aspect but I can never seem to get along with the people. While I long for genuine friendships and deep connections, others could care less about them. I’m realizing I just need to detach and stop caring so much about them because they could care less about me and it’s painful. At the same time I’m not sure why I care so much.
You don't realize how much this video helped me, I'm stressed out like I've never been before and it feels like I'm just barely hanging on. Thank you.
You are a lovely man with a big heart. Thank you for uploading your coding tutorials. You have no clue how much they help me. At the same time I hope you're doing okay - in these past videos you seem a bit sad. The pandemic has been rough on everyone and it's hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel. I know for me it hasn't been easy.
Reach out to friends and loved ones if you find yourself going into a particularly dark place. The world is much better with you in it, and you have helped hundreds of thousands of people to learn how to code. Thank you for being you.
Currently I'm in my second year of College, I feel the pressure building on my everyday and it makes me sick to my stomach at times, I have severe insomnia so sometimes I accidently sleep through classes due to me being up all night and that really kicks me where it hurts. I am in a few classes that I absolutely hate and I am failing, but I am in some other classes that are super fun and I am passing with flying colors! I just try to look at it like I am learning what works for me so when I find a professional job I am not bored to death and miserable. I am planning on going into cybersecurity due to my great understanding of computers and interest in the field! Thanks for the little spark of motivation u made my day!
I hate college, i feel so bored, the lessons feel pointless. 😞
@@Anonymous_world5000 I feel ya brother
Life could be so much easier if only i know how to socialize.. school would be easy and having work would be easy if only i know how to socialize... i can do school and do work the only problem with me is socializing i just can't seem to socialize no matter what i do it makes things impossible and hard to do even now in online class im struggling so much because of so much anxiety...
i have been feeling exactly the way you'd described, almost asif you were reading my mind. thank you so much for this, the best piece of advice I've had in the longest time
Man, this video really helped. I am in university abroad, which is high-ranked, studying media and communication. I thought it would be all about social media strategy and content creation, but it turned out to be something completely different and unenjoyable. It is hard to go through all of that when you can't even change courses and this video really helped man
Thank you so much for this video. I really haven't felt myself lately especially during this quarantine and this video just took my stress away right now. I hope you are doing well.
I just found your channel to learn some JAVA because my JAVA course at school is taught in a manner that doesn't work for me and I literally cried last week during a lesson (with my camera off at least) and wanted to quit really bad.
I did expect to learn some JAVA here. What I didn't expect was getting a motivational advice that actually makes me feel much better. Thank you.
Is it coincidence that this video showed up while I'm browsing to forget the presures of online class, being IT student with no friends and striving to maintain grades. Thank you alex!
I personally enjoy these videos it puts everything into perspective about life, and I’m going through the same things too, just what do you wanna be is the question
I miss so much school just cause of the fact I always feel exhausted and overwhelmed whenever I go to school, I’m kind of just the pass around friend too, I don’t have any close friends. When I go to school all I do is really sit there , do the assignments and count the seconds until I can leave, I feel bad for my parents as they work to support me, but I just can’t stop. I’ve been begging for alternatives like online school but the person I’m supposed to talk about that possibility with hasn’t been at school for weeks. Whenever I go to school which used to be 4 days out of the the week and has now been reduced to 3 because I’ve been feeling worse then ever, I usually come back so mentally drained or even crying. I’ve tried going in with a positive mindset, I’ve tried getting up extra early, sleeping extra early, trying to enjoy it. But I just can’t.
Everyone on earth should’ve clicked on this video
For me it's so stressful and I just start crying because it's hard
I just want to say that you really help me with Java. You have made it really easy for me to understand. And Yes, we worry to much about grades that we forget to really learn and take our time.
I love you man whenever i hear that school is about to start i get really nervous i dont wanna make my parents dissapointed like i just cry when school is about to start im stressed and tired i feel like i just wanna give up but i dont cause i have faith in Jesus❤ and i love my parents really much! I dont wanna make them dissapointed we are just poor theyve got a son whos stupid i just wanna get smarter but this video helped me thank you so much.
This was really cool dude. It's awesome and I can tell that now you have completed college and something that you wanted to do it's satisfying and really humbling for you. Thanks so much for this.
So strange I just made this conclusion this week because of school stress. Gonna take it as it comes. I’m on my second year of uni and some teachers are just making online a hellscape. Great content bud. Love seeing you post!
Everyone before high school: Grades are SUPER important, sacrifice whatever you need to get good grades!
Everyone after college: Yeah they really don't matter
*I will say I think grades in high school really are super important cause you can get a really great scholarship for having good grades and a good ACT score
Thank you...this helped so much....I have school today but I absolutely hate it and don't want to go....but I know I have to and my anxiety is through the roof
thank you alex!
i feel like if you wanna go to uni, in highschool you DO have to get good grades, but once you're doing your degree you only need to pass it to get the title
I'll be studying computer science next year and in my country the grades you get in senior year are very important to get into the university you want, and it os very hard to not stress about a bad grade
but it really isn't the end of the world
amen brother.
I'm a B.S. CS Major. Middle school math and barely science knowledge was how I started College/University... What A Ride. Not easy but have learned a lot and hopefully will continue to learn each and ever single day.
Hey Alex this is off-topic, but I wanted to thank you for your Java tutorial videos! I am taking AP Compsci (which teaches Java) and whenever I don't understand something, I come to your channel for help. Thanks again!
This was actually great advice! I'm under so much pressure right now, and I needed this.
Bro you are very pure❤️ you helped me alot with my programming and I want to thank you alot for your advices too❤️ keep posting videos and keep inspiring us please😊 god bless you and I wish you the best of luck ❤️
Love this little advices, they're so exact and keeping me afloat
The worse you're doing in school the harder it is to get back on track.
It sucks studying 5 hours for a test and getting a 60
Thank you for this brother. Good luck out there
Thank you so much, I really needed that especially because I'm so stressed going through College applications right now.
Secondary school or "high school" is horrible for me because everyone is just trying to fit in and doesn't care about education but I'm the opposite...this video helps a lot thank you
Really coming in clutch during my finals rn, thanks.
My classmates and schoolmates man, im in IX-th grade and they keep bullying me, today i handed a study book of romanian to my classmates, that has some space at the end for notes and my sister (30 years old), wrote a song about dad's daughter, and they kept laughing about it, it really hurted me, i thought we were friends for life, turned out to be friends for a minute and that is just for saying hello and goodbye. I will make friends at college, I'm sure of it, and if someone goes through this type of thing again i will protect them at all costs. I hate my old friends, now i remain lonely and can't talk to anyone but teachers, because at least they are the ones that really care about me.
Man...needed to hear this video! as a third yr student always stressing that my grades are my future this really helped! Pls make more content like this!!
Thanks Alex! Agreed 110% with what you've said!
Bro thank you so much I don’t aim for super high grades I only care about passing so if I get a c I’m alright but If I get a D that’s when I try a little bit because I want to be more focused on what I want not what school wants of me and I can say I’m a better person because of it because I’m not completely focusing on school but focusing on moulding myself in to society because I really want to become an actor not for the fame but for the chance to meet new people
Just in time when I was getting myself to study for the finals, thanks man.
More power to you ☺️💪
Thanks for your video ❤️
you have no idea how much I needed to hear that
You helped me get through my introductory programming class. I’m going through a tough semester but I’m trying to hang in there
So true.....
Thank You So Much
Thanks for motivating.
It is difficult for me to be happy.
I cry 24*7
Really appreciate the advice! I'm stressing about school right now xD Helps to hear some advice from someone I look up to!
I have been adopting the same attitude lately. I am in my third year at university, studying and training in person-centred counselling. It is heavy going, especially for those of us who are not academic and have learning difficulties. My course leader is open that he is a strict grader. I can't rise above 68% (upper second class). This has been frustrating, but my new attitude means I don't even need to score 60%. It requires that I lower the bar, which has been a difficult change, but one I choose to maintain.
Man you are really genuine and cool, watching you since I have started learning java
I'm at the very edge of failing a course (maybe even two). I'm really scared for this semester to end.
It's my first year programming and being in high-school it's really hard to get good grades. Perfect timing for the video.
Are you trying to save us in every single way? It may be working... Thank you for sharing!
Thats so crazy you made this today I was considering withdrawing from a class because I have been procrastinating on my school work always doing something I prefer more, thanks for solidifying the voice in my head that says "NO, keep going!" by the way my teacher recommends your videos in her class!
i went to school threw the mail in the 90's i sent all my work back threw the mail and talked to teachers on the phone and got my diploma threw the mail in 1994 i loved it it was great
U explained the struggle so well 😩
I need this pep talk. School does take a toll on my soul.
Thank you! I have my first exam at the uni in IT tomorrow🙏🏼
dam, this was needed. I didnt think i wanted to do A levels but i had no other option, now i want to drop out, its so mentally draining and terrible for me and my way of life, but i have to commit now, i cant drop out. Thank you
Thank you keep this up as a Software Engineering student in my final year I needed this 🙏💯
I watch this when I'm stressed with school. Thank you for making this
For me its not about the work. Its about the ppl and teachers. I get anxiety over teachers and ppl in my class. Teachers saying my behaviour is unacceptable when they are the ones doing it and causing more problems in my life and its like I can't reach put and speak to anyone anymore because mostly they don't care or they act like they care and then just stab me in the back.