LISTENING TO A PSYCH PATIENT TALK TO THEIR FAMILY
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When you realize you are admitting your patient for the same thing you did before coming to work
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Too accurate 😂
Having a fight with my invisible friend?
Maybe a new job for you if you are in the medical field and are a druggie yourself?
When my daughter was admitted to psych, her father, my former husband, refused to believe she had anything wrong and just needed to "pull herself up by her bootstraps." It took a very long phone call to make him understand that mental illness was just as much a physical problem as any other illness. It is horribly exacerbated by emotional and psychological abuse. He came around. They now have a relationship which works for my daughter. My daughter is my hero. She fights every day to live her life on her terms and as healthily as possible. I'm proud of her.
She’s very lucky to have you for a mom.
"pull yourself up by your bootstraps" is such a bullshit because it's literally not even physically possible, it can't be done.
I like to tell people who use that phrase to bend down, grab the straps of their boots, and lift _themselves_ off the ground, first.
Yep... It's meant to represent the absurdity of the expectation, but people adopted it as a mantra 🤦♂️
@@AnnoyingNewslettersha I never realized the absurdity of that expression, and yes it is absurd and ridiculous. Lol!
I remember it got to a point where hospital staff felt it was in my best interest to not have family visit me anymore because my mental health always worsened after a visit. 😞
I was in ICU from a heart attack when my middle aged alcholic daughter called to shout at me about something going on in her life. I hadn't said anything yet, but it must have affected me because the nurse came rushing in and took the phone away from me. She couldn't believe that this is how my family treated me. I'm used to it, but my body was rebelling.
This is why I finally cut ties with mine. Life still has its struggles, but it's also been far better overall. ❤️
@katella
I’m so sorry that happened to you. I’ve suffered with addiction issues, but whenever my mom needed support I dropped that bottle immediately. I’ve even gone in shaking or in the midst of withdrawals to visit family and friends.
Sometimes they didn’t want to talk. (Or for other reasons just couldn’t.) The comfort of soothing sounds and someone holding/massaging your hand can mean so much.
Same with my narcissistic family
@@katella not rebelling but trying to tell you it practically couldn't stand them anymore.
I remember being in full on psychosis and my mom getting angry at me for answering the doctors question. "Where are you right now?"
Me " inside of a red box". Getting home was fun, everyone was angry at me for hallucinating things that were out of my control. Just be scared, cause i was frightened losing my mind. My brother was the only one who treated me normal which helped me recover quicket and snap back.
That's so upsetting when you were already dealing with something so scary.
@krabiat yeah, I was more worried about upsetting everyone and causing grief for the family. It was so isolating, then i became homeless after, and it got way worse. My family didn't want to deal with me and seemed angry so i just lived in my car. It felt safer honestly. I could have been botderline schizophrenic but the symptoms passed after a year. I forgave everyone but i still feel hurt deep down. I empathize with those who suffer this awful disease. Thank you kindly.
I have psychosis too. I'm not sure whether it was from withdrawal from meds or because I'm severely stressed. Either way, it's scary to have. I got r@ped by random men because I was delusional that they would lead me to my favorite singer. It lasted for months until I got back on meds. I was treated like crap when I was having episodes 💔
@KarishmaKhoja97 I'm so sorry that happened to you. Yes, predators definitely take advantage when the ill are not protected and in a safe place. It could have been a combination of both. I hope you're well now seeking help with the horrendous things that happened to you. Much luv and peace
Thanks for sharing this. Helpful to know💯
I remember there was a point I was down I wasn't eating. My dad used to make me a meal and just bring it to me without me asking. I'll always be thankful for that
Good dad... ✨
The people without any parents are the ones we judge for being homeless, on drugs and mentally ill. Trying to imagine the life i could have had with one parent like this.
I stopped eating when I was around 18 to see if dad would notice. (Mom was dead.) After ten days I realized he wasn't going to and started eating again. This was decades ago, I never told him what I did.
My daughter says that I taught her that a steak, fresh salad and a baked potato have medicinal properties
@@pal5683💝lessons in life
I remember being a psych patient and the satisfaction of being able to truly walk away from my family for the first time. My twin sister and I had shared a bedroom our whole lives, and she was visiting and told me I didn't need to be there. I walked back to my room and she couldn't follow! It was crazy
Our older sister is narcissistic and used to lie and smear me and stir fights so my twin kicked me out of our bedroom at age 11 and I had to share a bedroom with my mom till 15 and then shared a room storing my older sisters stuff until I was 19. People at times will try to insult me saying nobody likes me and nobody wants to be friends with me because I love alone time so much, no way. It took 20 years to get alone space. I refuse nasty people takin my time today. It makes people angry at me. We get to choose who we want in our lives and toxic people who are used to preying upon lonely people do not understand and hate our independence. Lonely people take abuse because they are so afraid of being alone and they are what abusers want the most and will try to break you down with insults to force themselves onto you because they are so not used to refusal, and they become stalkers, because you rejected them.
@@Skitdora2010I had ex friends who stalked me for literally years, calling me from other people's phones telling me to kill my self and I was a dishonor to our friend who died. My family treats me like the boogie man to the point my nephew who is 18 sends me sermons to preach the demons out of me.
You are right. People don't like it when you reject them! It can be hard alone but worse is when the people who are supposed to love you are your demons.
@@Skitdora2010 I'd like to have you understand that when you're alone, you don't need to be lonely. I found love in me first and foremost and away from the narcissistic abusers
.. they are the ones who are lonely as misery loves company type who NEED you to feel like they do... don't.. ❤ I'm glad you seem like you all are doing fine (or at least better) now. Sending love, positive vibes, and healing your way. ❤️🩹
I hope you all are able to read this.
You deserve peace and to know what happiness actually FEELS like.
At what age do you think it is best to give twins their own bedroom? I'm a mom wanting to avoid this experience for them, thank you for sharing
@mokshalani8414 That's a great question! I think it would depend a bit on the size of the room they start in, and if it can be split with a divider to start out maybe. I started puberty as early as 9- my nephew and niece were both about the same age when they started showing that they needed some space to themselves. Anywhere between 13 at the latest would have been nice. My frustration was largely due to growing up in an abusive household and then *gaining* two people to share a bedroom with at 13, for a total of four, and one bathroom for us all, plus parents a room over and a dog that slept in my bed. It was a lot.
When I was younger, my sister and I started out with the same crib, then separate twin beds, then separate queens and a room that was vaguely split. That wasn't the worst, but things were awkward. The room we moved into at 13 had one queen bed, and then two bunks, which were taken up later by our older sister and her son. Oh, and a gecko. The room was something like 11x14
I wasn’t prepared to be called out like this today. *slowly sips coffee*
Never been a psych patient but yeah..... Same....
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Was it an espresso?
@@williamking579 coffee, but on speed mixed with crack 🤣
Starbuck's is the trap house...extra foam please😒
Sounds like the patient is the Identified Patient... the person in the family who feels the family dysfunction the worst and therefore shows the worst symptoms. The family focuses on that individual's problems instead of trying to heal the whole family unit.
Exactly!
Yup. Me: sick, dying, depressed. Family: you're lazy. What's for dinner?
True
God, why is this so on point and deeply relatable
@@natashaoneill3203 I understand.
I got put in inpatient for a suicide attempt years ago during high school. When my parents came to visit there were tears but also a lot of "why would you try to do that to us? You would just leave us like that, what were we gonna do?" Ect ect and I got it. No one in my family is equipped to deal with mental health. My dad still thinks my antidepressants are sugar pills big pharma feeds you to get ya more sad so you keep going back for more. When I told him recently I struggle to wake up in the morning and feed myself some days and I don't know how to be a 'normal' person he said "so why don't you just repress it? That's what I do."
When I mentioned to my mum after I was thinking of going back to therapy she responded: "why? I thought everything was fine? Why would you need that?" As I'm sitting on the couch sobbing.
We grew up disconnected and unable to talk about our emotions w/o the response being blame, denial and/or anger.
It's been about 7 years since that attempt and I just don't talk about my mental health issues if I can help it anymore cause lmao what can you do 🤷
Please search for SOMEONE to listen- a therapist, a support group, an online forum, SOMEONE. NO ONE should bear the soul-crushing loneliness and pain of mental illness alone! I hope you find support! 🙏🏾
I do and have every day for 40 yrs
"so why don't you just repress it? That's what I do." Geez. That explains a lot.
My mother's favourite line..."You'll live". I'm going to put that on her headstone with oops, maybe not tagged on at the end.. 😅
My parents tried to understand as well as I am still yet only now they r in better place don't have to deal w my crazy n all ass 😞it's hard n now I've started having paralysis
Not having a great family support structure is presumably a significant factor in requiring mental health treatments.
It gets to be taxing when you don’t feel you have adequate support😟😟You feel worse
connecting with negative family members😮
“Presumably”?
I'm glad that he looks like a very Caring Doctor!!- 😊💓
My mental health got way better after befriending and hanging out with friends my parents don't know behind their backs
In nursing school we learned: the person hospitalized for psych care is usually just the family member who cracked in that household...meaning that there is often a homegrown bully tearing them down who is just as maladjusted
When I was in the hospital, my mom made a huge scene during visiting hour. The other patients and even a couple nurses came up to me afterwards to ask about it and also offer their sympathies 😭
i was psych inpatient a few times, and ALLL of my fellow patients had absolutely fkd up home lives and it made me so angry. i have no family and at times I am grateful for it. the stories I heard absolutely wrecked me.
Nursing school covered a whole lot of nothing related to mental health and how to treat them. Working in a mental health facility I had to unlearn everything and completely chamfe my mentality surrounding mental illness. Doctors and nurses are kinda a joke when it comes to mental health. Family trauma is real but most of my people never had families to break them. Abandonment and genuine uncontrollable mental illness is what I see most often. Nutrition plays a huge role but again, I had to learn all that after school because nurses and doctors learn very little about nutrition. It's sad and frustrating how underprepared we are in those 2 areas
My mom😅
Ummm.... my son has had SZ for 20+ years. No, his many, many hospitalisations had nothing to do with his home life. He is extremely ill. The effect his illness has had on the family has been horrible. (He has been unable to live at home since 19 y.o. )
Please don't immediately assume home life has caused M.I. Terribly unfair and hurtful.
The first time i was in the mental hospital, there was a gentleman that would have full press conferences 'by himself'. He was very detached from reality but a really nice human.
Sounds pretty standard for modern politicians.
Edit: Hey everyone, thanks for being angry at me, while having ZERO context of my mental health issues, medications, and why I was even in there myself.
@@newtonj1460 and they're so happy...
@@newtonj1460 Do you realize what an offensive thing to say this is? Having a mental illness so severe that you require hospitalization isn’t fun in any way. Why don’t you just wish to have cancer instead? Cancer patients who proudly shave their head before their hair falls out are also unafraid to be themselves. In the worst cases, some people have to drag IV bags around with them, or else they live in a bed until they die. Wouldn’t you enjoy getting to do that without fear of societal expectations?
@@newtonj1460 And in what world exactly is **involuntary** hospitalization “freedom” ?
I remember when a family was in to visit a patient, and when she came out, she said her father chewed her out for the cuts on her arms that were so bad they needed stitches, and made her put the hand sanitizer that was lingering by the door over it because it looked "infected".
She didn't go home with them.
Wtf??! That's absolutely sickening
Thank God she didn't go home with them
Thank goodness!!!
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This makes me so sad. When I cut really bad (attempted at 16) I was lightheaded and has no energy. My mother found me and slapped me in the face. She marched me out to the dining room and my father scraped a towel over my fresh cuts, ‘cleaning them’ (it was hard). They berated me and my father told me he wouldn’t attend my funeral. I had tried to leave before because they told me to leave but when I packed my bags and tried I got guilted and ripped by the hair and thrown to the ground. It’s so horrible that people are treated like this when they are just trying to escape and cope. I live away from them now, didn’t talk to my mother for 2 years since she kicked me out for defending her children, my siblings, from her abuse. I was homeless for almost a year, sleeping in a garage at the beginning of COVID. Life is hard, and people make it so much harder, let alone family. The ones who are supposed to support and love you
I refused to have any family visits while i was in a psych ward. Best decision I could make
"Please I am very afraid, you know that guy that crawls and shouts all the time and the woman that sees angels but she is blind..."
"Dad, that's Jack, it's his way of comunicating and Helena is a sweetie"
"Oh please take me to the elevator so I don't have to see them or the other ones it makes me very uncomfortable"
Meanwhile me living with those people: :O oh well... I'll see what I can do during your joyful visit
One time I was in psych ward for suicidal ideation and my dad came to visit. He went on and on about this new diet he was on where he only eats 600 calories a day. I tried to explain to him that this wasn't healthy, and that I didn't want to talk about diets, and he just got louder and angrier until he left. That was fun.
Sounds to me, Elise, like you have a narcissistic dad. He wanted to make the visit all about himself instead of helping you heal. While I've not been down that road you have, my dad is also a narc, and while his narc tendencies display differently, I finally had to cut myself off from him and mom. I have a higher path than being their servant.
And you have a higher path than constantly having to listen to someone talk about themselves. Going no-contact is a very healing, freeing thing. 😁
Go easy on him. He is searching for topics to discuss with you. He loves you
Looks like he's a teenage girl,
@@nullnull7495 He could try being a real dad and shut up and listen.
@venswim I hate how much importance is placed on parents by society. What if the parent is abusive and/or a narcissist? What if they're the one responsible for the child's psychological state or illness in the first place? It really angers me.
Parents dont seem to understand theyre the ones that are causing their children to suffer. Could be ignorance, could be a constant spew of insults, could be unjustifiable judgement, i can go on as someone whos been through this.
For the most part, they’re just replicating family patterns and do not possess the self awareness necessary to break the cycle.
@@deaththekid3998 sadly self awareness is a rarity
Yep, same here. I tried to commit suicide and my parents just belittled me for supposedly "trying to ruin" their perfect image😮
Narcissism @napalm_lipbalm86
And most of them will never change
As a former psych patient, this is so incredibly accurate. From my experience, family is generally very out-of-touch and not very empathetic during visits because nobody teaches you how to handle that kind of situation (and generally people who end up the the psych ward didn’t have the best family support systems anyways). I ended up refusing to participate in visits after a few weeks because they just got so toxic- it felt like my family was just judging and ridiculing me for all of my decisions. I ended up cutting most of my ties with my family after I was discharged, and I am SO much happier and healthier after that decision. In a few weeks I will reach 1 year without attempting to take my own life- I’m very proud of myself for making it this far.
Edit: Today, 1/13/22, is the day! Thank you all for your support, it means a lot.
Please keep fighting and creating the life you deserve. I had a hard life growing up, too.. Congratulations on your progress and Happy New Year 💕 I hope it's a good 2022 for you
Very proud of you too! I hope you continue to reach these milestones
Im so so proud of you, wishing you the very best and hope 2022 is amazing, stay safe
YOU GO MOLLY!!!!
Yassssssss slayyyy
In my outpatient experience, I had interesting role-reversal experience-my mom would talk to me after psychiatric appointments about how psychiatrists were "explaining the obvious", and telling me she was proud of how I coped with some things that she "wasn't as good at coping with".
Mom also frequently expressed surprise that I was getting treatment for something she thought everyone had a hard time with, put passed no judgement because she was glad I was getting to be happier than she was I my age.
Mom also discussed medications with my psychiatrist, and occasionally made remarks like "ooh, I would love to try that" and "There's a pill that can make me feel that way?".
I'm paraphrasing heavily here, but the long-and-short of it is that my Mom taking me to psychiatric appointments had the effect educating her about her own ailments way more she bargained for.
My Mom probably would have been diagnosed with the exact same neuroses as I am, had she been born to more supportive parents (like mine), and given modern psychiatric care in adolescence.
that's really emotionally mature of your mom, and awesome. ❤ hope y'all are both doing well, sending good vibes ~
@@QUEERVEEART Aww thanks
My mom had a similar experience when one of my brothers was diagnosed with autism. One of the nurses at the clinic gave her a rundown of common comorbid conditions and how those can present differently depending on age and sex. She was able to look at symptoms specific to autism and ADHD in adult women and realize that she was looking at a description of 75% of the women in our family
@@amethyst_cat9532 Yeah, this definitely happens, and would probably happen more often if the different presentations were more widely discussed.
*When Steveioe walks in and sees the patient in the room talking to themselves in the dark, but stays to follow the family drama
That's my break right there, listening to a patient talking to their imaginary friends.
666th like… lmao
@@ameliaryan4313 hes on 666 and i aint touching t
@@fringes475 I mean, they ARE there to get mental help. So if seeing a patient suffering from a hallucinatory episode would make laugh, then you probably shouldn’t be working there anyways.
@@izstrella lol. Come and apply, we would like to have you.
I ask my girlfriend if she’s eaten, and she immediately asks “have YOU eaten??” And then we have a standoff
I had to laugh at this bant, but I hope that you both come to terms with that habit and work things out. XD
Damn, match made in heaven! XD
"How DARE you attempt to look after me while I'm looking after you? The AUDACITY.🙄"
You're an abomination.
lol I do the same thing with my girlfriend 😂
Well, you generally have to eat with antidepressants. Personally I found that I didn't need antidepressants anymore after moving thousands of miles away from my parents.
Edit: to add, I don't consider my parents abusive, but one of them has a negativity that can be infectious.
🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼
Ibuprofen also... Can cause an ulcer without food, that's why I can only stick with paracetamol and other light stuff now. 😖
And I also agree getting away from our abusers/toxic people really helps out mental health. I found I didn't have insomnia nor severe anxiety lol
Yep. 2k miles away ❤
Best decision
I moved hundreds of miles away from my Mother, but in a few years she decided to move up here too.
Then my Brother moved up here and my Father followed to help him take care of his kids.
I do better without my parents around.
I can tolerate my children, but my mother is self righteous, condescending, termagant and insulting. She treats me like a mildly retarded, mentally ill child she has to hide in the attic when her upwardly mobile friends come to visit.
My Father is totally brainwashed by my evil wicked stepsisters and his wife. I can't get near them without getting robbed.
They will try to distract me while someone else goes through my handbag or have someone else rob my house while I'm visiting them.
And they're supposed to be "good Christians". But they lie cheat and steal for Satan. If they really loved Jesus they would follow his 10 commandments.
“You realize that’s not a meal, right?”
Well, that’s just one opinion.
macro-nutrients dont care about feelings
Well, its that or nothing and all my body wants is a calorie sooo
“That’s, like, your opinion man”
😂 honestly
Its not an opinion when the Definition of a meal contains an amount of food.
Nespresso isnt food, and meds arent either. So thechnically ;)
“Eat a meal” is such a simple thing for a not-struggling person to say but when you don’t have the energy to clean dishes, don’t have any fresh ingredients, and your brain can’t cope with imagining something to create, it’s not that easy. If you want to be supportive, make them meals, help with dishes, bring disposable plates and cutlery so dishes aren’t an issue, stock their cupboard and freezer with granola bars, instant rice and microwave-steaming bags of veggies. Give practical support to help battle the many obstacles to this daily issue.
I just order people door dash...cause...ain't nobody got time for that 😆
Maybe the brain can't come up with creative dishes because it's malnourished in the first place...it's always a fine line between helping and enabling .. you do it once they expect you to continue this and now they have learned helplessness...if you're hungry...you're gonna eat....eventually.
Survival of the fittest...best part is when you do those things and they criticize whatever meal you prepared for them...
I'm done 😆
Excellent advice!!! 💛💛💛
All my family members (incl myself) have issues related to food. But I've noticed that it's better to say "I'm making this, do you want some" than "you should eat something". Even better to say "I made too much, can you help me eat this" because then it takes the guilt away.
Good idea! I'll store this away to use when I need it
I have a dishwasher, recipe books and frozen or canned ingredients. Helps a lot 😅
Families and ‘friends’ can be a patient’s worst enemies ☹️
It’s such a shame for families that ARE truly supportive and would benefit from closer involvement in care
Should change the title too "listening to a psych patient talk to the root cause of their psych issues"
This is what we a call breakthrough. Don't judge my eating🖕🏼. I've jus given up eating entirely for this reason people make me feel weird cause I used to eat my problems. I'm not necessarily a pig but I eat a lot and fast.
@@loacyric I think its more about the fact that parents/family are usually the cause of someone's psych issues, not the comments made by the parents/family in the video
@@loacyric the conversation topic doesn't matter. they meant that the family is usually the root of the psych issues, that the family caused trauma to the patient.
People keep calling it the root cause because just by listening to their tone of voice and specific pauses you can feel a very specific underlying person that either targets this family member or everyone in the household. Which causes a breakdown to where they actually feel so crazy and so overwhelmed by that person that they "snap" and decide to put their life in the doctors and nurses hands because they can't leave the hospital, but that's a better environment then where they were! Speaking from experience.. my "break down" was me joining the army and attempting to escape my controlling parents. @@loacyric
Exactly
My schizophrenic brother told me yesterday, that his Lucky strike cigarettes have almonds in them, so, they keep his cholesterol low.
Oh wow… that’s a new one
That positive outlook 🌞
Ironically half right kinda. The almonds thing is...well yeah. But nicotine is an appetite suppressant.
@@loongaming105
What does appetite has to do with cholesterol ??? You're really talking shit rn. Smh
I had a schizophrenic patient tell me that his glass eye was lined with mirrors and that he could squirt meat out of it. He was a helluva nice guy.
Sounds like the conversation I have with my mum every morning. Ill ask if she's eaten today and she says the same thing every morning "no... but I took my meds and my coffee so I'll survive".
me taking meds just know.. maybe someone would Care to to ask if I ate today
@@lenalena1529 did u eat today?
Relatable
@@lenalena1529 dear you should care enough about yourself to eat, i mean no harm saying this
And thus far , she has survived, knowing you care enough to ask 🤍
Yea I cut off my immediate siblings and foster parents because they think because you’re family means they can pick on you and make fun of you for your disability.
well I went to my foster dad and said “I’m being made fun of for my cerebral palsy,I’ve told you I’ve told mom,I don’t want to live here if all of my life is going to be getting bullied for something I can’t control,I’d rather not have a family.” It keeps going
I had a snapped,I cursed out my foster mom,foster dad,brothers,sisters,cousins then I just went quiet and layed on the living room door sobbing “please,stop making fun of me “ repeatedly
Gets sent to therapy.
Therapist told them “stop making fun you your child’s disability,this child basically has ptsd now.it’s not love it’s bullying ,this is a child not an adult.”
Foster mom :”you need to man up”
Me at 28 ,foster mom calls: “why don’t you call your family anymore😢”
Me “I told y’all to stop bullying me when I was a kid,too bad bye.”
Haven’t talked since,they haven’t seen me since I moved out at 18 with my first job .
Just because their your parents doesn’t mean they get to treat you however.
My brother has cp. Hes 51 now. Groeing up he got made fun of n id stick up for him im 44. N people thought he was s ary because of the way he looks. But hes cool we fought like regular siblings. Actually he was mean to me lol but he had it rough. My mom tales care of him . We all had an outing to walmart today
Once when I was a psych ward patient, it was literally doctor's orders that I not be permitted to leave the dining area until I ate. And they wouldn't even let me have my coffee (decaf) until I cleaned my plate. It's because when I would stop eating, I would consequently stop taking my meds.... and then do something that landed me in the hospital.
Tough love, huh
My classmate had to feed me today. She said i looked hungry .....and depressed. She was right.🤧
I hope you're doing better now ☺️
@@SarahGraceBennett hopefully after graduation 🤞🏾
You have a great classmate there mate
@@marshappleTrust me everything gets better after school. I was severely bullied all through school because I was the sick girl (I have an autoimmune disease and CRPS) I couldn’t wait to get away. My life after school has been harder but that’s due to my illnesses in terms of finding myself, finding my happiness and my people it has been amazing! I now have an incredible fiancé and three perfect babies. I hope you are eating and doing better and know that things will always get better.
When I was on day 2 in the psych ward waiting for a bed at a facility for trying to do myself in, my mum spent a visit talking about how nice it would be of me to visit my cousin whenever I got out…
Turns out that teaching your child they exist to please others unquestioningly, to never have or express needs -or god forbid- wants, and that showing any negative emotion was somehow immediately harmful to others and I was at fault; wasn’t normal and I was in fact the only sane one in the family system
It wasn't my attention to comment. But yours got my attention. First, I hope you're doing better. Second , family can sometimes hurt more than help. This is why the stigma surrounding mental differences needs to stop. It's very real and family and friends need to be better educated. It's nothing to fear. It's perfectly ok, to not be ok at times. Understanding and learning more can result in good support for the individual struggling. Unfortunately, that's not always the case.
Hmm that sounds sooooo familiar to me 🤔. It feels so comforting to hear that other people experience similar things. Thanks for sharing this; I'm having a hard time right now and this helps a lot!
I totally relate. I feel better now.
That sounds so much like my malicious narcissist mother and my enabling sister.
They pushed my borderline personality disorder dad to unalive himself, then fought each other like harpies for the inheritance, to finally tell everyone that I was the one trying to steal everything for myself... a bunch of sociopaths, really.
My "sister" is the result of my mother sleeping with her brother in law to force my dad to have children.
When I caught them red handed at a Christmas party, they threatened to tell everyone that I'm crazy, and have me locked up in a "nut house" where they will stick needles into me and give me electrical shocks. A real bunch of sickos.
Tbf, the fact that I know that is probably why the thing that gave birth to me is actively trying to get me to do the same thing my dad did. Don't worry, not gonna happen.
I went no contact years ago.
Therapists are impressed at how functional I am after all that psychological abuse from so many people since I'm a toddler.
Man it's like they all have the same minds. You are struggling but should do something nice for someone else. I don't know what the situation is for you with your cousin but it's even worse if you are expected to do something for another toxic person.
My family is the whole reason I'm a psych patient in the first place, so you'd probably never catch me talking to them 😂
My experience is that parents are way more out of touch than clients. The clients know what they want and need, they just struggle getting it. Family, though, has no idea what's going on, asks for things that set progress backwards, and are more often than not the root cause of many of the things we're treating for.
facts
We all struggle to understand what is going on for others
People aren't mind reader's, I suffer from depression but I don't expect anyone to change anything for me. I'm the one that has to work on myself and find out what are my triggers and how to deal with them when I come across them which I do everyday of my life. People aren't going to change for us, we have to learn how to cope.. The only person I can say understands me is my husband. My mother's side of the family are one of my biggest triggers I try to stay away as much as I can..
Or maybe I understood wrong on what you were saying, I do apologize
Yep...
That used to be my life. I was raised with judgement and criticism from every family member until I attempted suicide to escape it.
I have been "no contact" for over thirty years now, and I couldn't be happier. I've moved several times now, because they keep trying to find me. When they do, they threaten violence, but I have the restraining order now, and have moved again, so things are once again peacefull.
I'm so sorry this happened to you. Keep being strong
You have and are doing so amazing for yourself wow!
It’s important for people to know that history or how long we’ve known someone doesn’t mean that we need them/that they are good for us!
Awesome on you fam!!
@Olivia K forgiveness? they don’t owe their family shit wtf
@Olivia K Are you one of their relatives? It would make sense why they are running from you then.
@Olivia K no one bullied you
“You’ve had antidepressants and ibuprofen washed down with espresso you realise that’s not a meal right” the staff everyday to all of us on the psych ward 😭😭
As a former eating disorder patient, I can't help but laugh at this because it's so true
I battle cibophobia (which is a kind of food/eating phobia that's tied in with my OCD and panic disorder) and I could definitely relate 😂 I even sent it to my bf because he's the one who patiently and diligently tries to keep me fed, lol
I'm bipolar, and I have a number of pills to take, we use to joke about me using them for breakfast like cornflakes with milk.
I put my antidepressants into my cornflakes sometimes
@@mael2039 idk what kind of pills they are, but you could be reducing the effectiveness doing that
@@kyriansalvar247 if he’s on Prozac then what an absolute madlad or madlady. I can barely take those with a giant glass of water
@@GamingComic123 Why are Prozac hard to take? They are tiny.
@@mael2039 I wouldn’t do that with mine cause my meds are chalky (lithium and lamictal) lol like i usually wash it down with a flavored drink
Sounds like this one girl I met while in the psych ward when i was 13 only way she would eat is if the other girl with the same issue promised to do the same. They were lovely I hope they are doing better now :)
aww, that's really sweet. Seemed like a really healthy way to heal :) Glad you shared this
Throwback to when a nurse in the ward I was in heard a girl getting chewed out by her toxic ex on the phone and once she hung up was like "So I'll remove him from the call list..."
Whiningly mocking: "you realize that's not a meal, right."🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
I feel this. I survive on coffee, meds, and insulin. I have to remind myself to eat. My husband will text me throughout the work day to remind me. I'm very thankful to have such a loving supportive husband and daughter. ❤
Type one too
With bpd on three meds! I'm a server and even my managers have to remind me to eat lol
@@dezmauldin8600 my stepdaughter has bpd, I can always tell when she is doing well because she eats…when she isn’t eating I know she has something going on...
@@clarissathompson yeah I don't eat much when I'm doing poorly or out of control my meds keep me pretty on track though :)
@@dezmauldin8600 I know it can be so hard, we try to sit down to dinner all together pretty much every day, though sometimes work schedules don’t mesh. I think it helps, though. Eating as part of a collective routine probably benefits all of us.
@@thesoundofonefupaslappin-zc5bj go eat your Wheaties
As someone who was in there recently, what sucks is when the family is the reason you've tapped out of reality for a moment. Toxic, toxic, toxic. It sucks but meh it's reality. 😭🤦🏽♀️
Never been to a psych ward but struggling with only recently being diagnosed with adhd and bipolar at 16. Family is so out of touch sometimes. My adhd affected me the most and what i hate most now is listening to the long rants my parents give me about how i should be living instead. I told them clearly that i do not want to hear them bickering about this anymore, i get what theyre trying to say, theyve said it 10000 times, i do not need to hear them saying that me not being able to complete the “easiest” task is unbelievable to them. It doesnt make me feel any better mom. And no dad, stop trying to make me stop taking my meds, my disorders are not myths and most likely even came from YOU. My meds help me like A LOT and basically saved my life bc i got so depressed about the way i was that i tried k*lling myself a few times. My family’s trying, but even after my doctors told them DIRECTLY what NOT to do when dealing with me, and i repeat it again to them, they still dont listen…
Aw man, that's rough. 2 more years and you can escape if you're still 16, less if that was a while ago! Best of luck to ya!!
This is exactly why phyc don't allow visitors until they have had chance to fix the patient.
This is a real life conversation I have had with my family. I have been struggling with depression for 6 years and honestly that shit is hard. Although it seems like no one's there I know my family is it's just really hard to look at like that sometimes. I have attempted (TW) suicide twice and this conversation was basically the one I had with my mom before my second attempt. I still don't eat right but at least I eat once a day. At that time I wasn't eating for weeks. All I can really say from my experience is to please eat well and get help if you need it.
Thank you for this comment. As a parent with a struggling child in treatment this gave me some understanding. I hope that you will have a wonderful and peaceful life .
@@anjafrohlich1170 so you're saying to let your child starve?
But as shown by title of this video, when you seek “help” (what a Holy Grail that is!), you’re stigmatized as a Psych Patient, which is a long tumble down steep stairs. These “Professionals” think they’re better than you, smarter than you. Not having that.
@@anjafrohlich1170 In my family (including in my 50s-early 60s, they’re all gone now), nothing I did was right.
I like to believe professionals are empathetic and educated to have humility, or that they've experienced something directly or second-hand that inspired them to work in their profession. Definitely not the case with some of them - there are professionals who can still be ignorant (I've experienced this too, and really sorry that you seem to have gone through something similar).
I really hope you're doing well, and any obstacles you've faced thus far have dissolved or changed for the better!
The sad thing is once a patient goes through an unfavourable experience with health professionals, I can understand completely why said patient would be hesitant or scared to be helped again. But they're not all like that 💛
@@rubyparchment5523
"You had antidepressants and ibuprofen washed down with espresso."
This could have been a college student.
Edit: For better or worse, it looks like we can all relate to this guy.
Go team.
Or a working woman
Ya this is me every morning. Thank goodness I’ve never been to the psych ward. Fingers crossed, I still have 2 more years of suffering.
How dare you attack me like this, stop watching me through my camera
@@utahimeiori8739 Shared life experience.
For the college student it would have been Ritilan and ibuprofen hahaha
If you put a fistful of bran into your coffee it becomes a meal. Not a substantial meal but a very breakfasty one
This is infinitely funnier when you've been the psych ward patient
In this situation, I am the psych patient telling my family that antidepressants, coffee, and alcohol are not a meal. And they are the ones saying they don't need my judgment.
That’s me, a college student who recently had sleep for dinner 😂
Throwback to my step-dad starting an argument with my mom in the one family meeting we were able to have after my suicide attempt. It was a 45 minute meeting, I hadn't seen them for days and was so excited, and he couldn't handle himself for me. I was humiliated in front of the other patients and just wanted to cry.
I’m so so so sorry, I also got yelled at and heard a argument during my attempt , but I was to out of it to really process what was happening and thank god for that, but I’m so so sorry. He’s an actual child for not being able to handle himself. I really REALLY hope your mom and you ran far far far away from that man, cause WHAT THE HELL.
That isn’t even “ couldn’t handle himself” he full on didn’t care about blowing up infront of you after all that, and or the other patients, there was no consideration there,. Only himself and his feelings.
I don’t know what that argument is about but I don’t even care; that shows the lack of respect interest consideration and “love” your “step dad” had for you, if there was consideration towards you and his situation ,. If he was mad he should have staid behind , let your MOTHER have her moment with HER CHILD , but he walked in and ruined it for both of you, mainly you and did that knowing what a vulnerable position your in.i hope you and your mother got out. I really do.
Hope your doing better now , and we’ll all look back at these situations when we’re old and giggle at the ridiculousness and stupidity which is those situations 🫶
I'm always amazed at how often in/out-patient psych cases present with fewer mental health issues than anyone else in their family.
Even when that's not the case there're nearly always family dynamics that have a negative impact on the patient.
I'm enjoying my meds & iced coffee & this comes on lol 🙋♀️ it's that time of year
Not to brag, buuutt, when a nurse found out I was back at the psych ward she asked if she could transport me because she remembered me from last time and I was her favorite 😎
That's a flex.
That’s so pure, aww. I hope your treatment went/is going well!
I get you, but this shit is serious.
@@yesterdayitrained · How are they not taking this seriously? They can't look at the bright side of a difficult situation that THEY EXPERIENCED?
@@izstrella Look Iz, you're not grasping how serious this is.
I wish in the future you can respect seriousness.
Is there ever a time a psych patient and the fam has a long and positive conversation?
Yep. Thank you to those of you who run the psyche ward. I used to be trapped by my narcissistic family, but once I got Baker Acted, I felt “trapped” in the will of God. This is when my overprotective and over involved mom and brother finally had to stop.
Now they don’t care about me at all. It’s still kind of hard, but it finally revealed their truth nature. I hope more people get the help they need. It can feel wrong, but that’s because everything in your life is wrong. I really hope that those of us who have had go to a psyche ward continue to get the help and support we need. It’s not easy having disabilities or dealing with narcissistic abuse when it’s invisible to most people.
“I DONT NEED YOUR JUDGEMENT” Assertive boundaries for the win. If your child is already in a psych facility, leave their diet up to the doctors you left them with. Only call them to give support. If you can’t do that, just don’t call.
As a frequent flyer psych patient (tho i haven't been in 2 years, really proud of myself! I used to go once or twice every year!🥳🥳🥺🥺) i can confirm.
Edit: thank you for all the positive comments! To anyone out there struggling, i am sure you have heard it but, it will get better!
Edit2: omg thank you so much this blew up! Sending virtual hugs to all you folks!
as a former psych patient myself CONGRATS!!!!!! IM SO PROUD OF YOU!!!!!!!!!! YOURE SO STRONG AND WORTH IT!
@@-ella-9449 thank you so much! I basically grew up in psych, and i have been mostly emotionally stable in the past years. I am so proud of myself
Frequent flyer here too 🤣 7 months off, 5 months in/out… repeat every year… for the past 4 years 🤣… I can also confirm 😂 glad you’re doing well!!! If you have any tips, shoot them my way!!! I’m currently 5 months off on my 7 months thing…
Thats awesome! I am glad you are proud, keep at it!
As a frequent flyer psych patient currently, I am very proud of you! You’re doing so amazing!!!!
Welp... I'm screwed. I have to take my thyroid pill on an empty stomach, but my brain pills say to take with food - and I need caffeine in the morning.
I've grown accustomed to the feeling of my stomach trying to dissolve itself for an hour each morning. 😄
Thats why I hope to never get thyroid deficiency... Waking up is difficult, eating is difficult and beeing awake, functioning and then having to wait sounds pretty hard. I need some sugar rush and my adhd med to really wake up (or I use adrenaline but will go without food til noon)
I've heard this about thyroid medication, that it must be taken on an empty stomach and that you can't eat until X amount of time aferwards. I found out my grandma sets an alarm to take her pill and then go back to sleep for an hour or two . Yet, I take levothyroxine for hypothyroidism and no one, doctor or pharmacist, told me these specific instructions. I take it in the morning and only after learning this from my grandma and my research, began to consciously wait to eat anything.
I was just diagnosed with Hashimoto's and was given two new medications. It was then I asked the pharmacist if I could take these at the same time as the Levothyroxine, basically told him no one told me about the empty stomach requirement of it, basically asking his feedback on it. I expected him to say, "Oh yeah, Levo MUST be taken without food and you MUST wait before eating, it says it right on the information packet and OF COURSE someone told you!" Etc, etc. Instead it was like "Yeah, you could take them together. Most people take it in the morning, as long as it's the same time everyday" 🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️🤷♀️ No clarification that that was for a different brand, or for hyper instead of hypo.. nothing. So I just left it at that and continue to do it how everyone else does.
I just take it so early in the morning, like 7a, that I can usually just go back to sleep and not hear anything or feel anything until it's time for the other 14 meds I need to take.
Then I take my compromise between my lack of appetite and my concerned family and Drs: a 16 oz cup of hot milk with 2 tbsp of instant coffee, 1 tsp of grd cinnamon (to help with my blood sugar stability. I have to take steroids for life, same as levothyroxine.), and 1/4 tsp of raw sugar. That's all my food until about 6p. I drink water, about 2 quarts throughout the day because of kidney and bladder issues as well.
I take my thyroid pills first thing, but since I can't eat, I usually will forget food until my husband reminds me to eat lunch, then my ADHD pills, and then I usually forget to eat for the rest of the day. If my husband doesn't remind me to eat lunch, I often won't eat at all until it's 11pm and I'm supposed to go to bed, but I've been super distracted by life and I realize I haven't eaten, drank or taken my ADHD meds, but it's too late by then, so I just give up, go to bed and hope tomorrow will be better.
@@belaayya5094 Same. There will always be a better tomorrow 💚 we gotta believe it! Best wishes.
Been in the psych ward 3 times. I hope i never have to go back. Grew up with 2 narcissistic parents who neglected me. And abused i think. Idk. I get gaslit to this day. I'll hopefully be getting help soon to have my own housing. Even a 1 room place. Just 1 room. I'd be happy. Living with the family is miserable. I cannot wait to escape. All thru life i was the "problem" but it's not me. And it's not these other people. They taught us to hate ourselves and hurt ourselves. That takes an incredible amount of work to undo and re-teach yourself EVERYTHING! I finally love myself. If you want something done right, do it yourself. Nobody will be there for you 100% so love yourself always even when it's hard. They are the monsters, not you ❤
You got that shi' right in the bag, keep the mindset, they ain't shit for realizies
When I visit my daughter I brings some homemade yummies.. it’s nice to see face light up. And hear “ oh, Yumz”.
Yesterday I was trying to convince my mother that an oatmilk latte is pretty much the same as eating oatmeal with a caffeinated boost and therefore it is all I need until about 9 pm and she bought me a burrito because she was worried about me
Give your Mom a hug. You are loved.
@@kristenmarie9248 I agree! You should be thankful to have such a loving mother who cares whether you eat or not! Keep in mind there are some mothers out there actually killing their kids! I'm glad she didn't fall for that oatmilk latte BS. If you had told it to me, I'd slap your face and then offered you breakfast!
That’s love. Burritos are awesome.
@@vansnk12 face slapping IS NOT love in ANY way, shape or form! Please STOP Normalizing abusive behavior by branding it "love!".
@@AllieTheVibe oh shut up!
This is an example of a family who have no concept of what he is going through and I doubt they ever will.😢
lol as if the psyche ward ever helped anybody
Well it helped me recover from a psychotic episode.
As one as escaped this abuse, I wish you all the best, peace and freedom, and bodily autonomy. 😥🤬
Good Lord. That sounds like my mother. "Did you eat anything today?" Sorry, but when you're extremely depressed and have gastroparesis, eating solid food is about as feasible as jumping to the moon.
We are the same person. If you have any tips please let me know TT_TT
My mom criticizes me for eating even a banana.
I have gastroparesis too. I’m sorry you’re struggling
Making sure someone eats is another way of saying: “I love you”.
I had a friend do this for a few weeks after my daughter died. It helped tremendously because I was still breastfeeding my youngest and I was absolutely forgetting to eat.
Years later, we're not in contact as much, but that friend still has a big place in my heart.
That's exactly what I was thinking. I remind my bf/son & struggling friends, and when my bf & son would remind me or make me food when I go through my depressive episodes I appreciate it, even when I'm irritated because I think I'm not hungry. I feel better after.
Blessed words, it's so true 👍
NOT IF THEY ARE YELLING IN YOUR TREATMENT CENTER DURING FAMILY THERAPY
Jesus look if your the parent in this … this is your sign to do better
Learn about mental health and don’t just say eat…. Ask why they don’t eat!
@@Lillpixeychic my mom encourages me not to eat because she's obsessed with me losing weight quickly. It's caused me to relapse into restrictive eating and now I might be going down the road to anorexic behavior. Sure, I'm obese but now I have no appetite whatsoever and the sight or even the thought of my next meal makes me feel physically sick. I'm seeing a nutritionist and she's trying to help me have a good relationship with food again.
To clarify, I was not always obese. I gained a ton of weight from going from antidepressant to antidepressant until I found one that didn't make me gain weight.
Caffeine and antidepressants...that's the breakfast of champions.
"I don't need your judgment!" 😂
Honestly I found it easier to eat once I was put on meds (stims specifically) because it helped with sensory integration and gave me enough motivation to actually eat. I wanted to so badly, but my mental issues created huge barriers of motivation and having to ration energy that I just couldn't. Now I actually eat like a semi-normal person and take my vitamins to make up the difference 🤷♀️
Hang in there! Different meds work for different people, there's also genetic tests you can do to see what kinds of medication you metabolize properly. It's a bit expensive but worth it if your meds aren't helping you improve.
Yes!!! I did the whole “I’m doing great clearly don’t need the delicate balance of antidepressant and Adderall” and dropped to 80 lbs from around 100lbs. I don’t eat if I’m depressed. And sadly, depressed is my baseline. I didn’t start gaining weight until I got back on my meds (ironically enough they apparently ruin people’s appetites, but saved my life 😩😂). No one will ever understand the pain of not being able to will your own body to go do the most basic of things. When I was little, I had chronic bladder infections from not peeing often enough 🤦🏻♀️
My meds help me eat too! My anxiety presents with nausea/vomiting/other gut discomfort (which was difficult to explain to parents/doctors who thought I was anorexic) so I just never ate much. The first year I started pills that worked, I gained 40lbs and I am so much happier 😊
Yes!! Finding the right medication really helped me turn tasks like eating from a thought into an actual reality (ie: I would get hungry but always forget to eat before)
Look into getting Nestle Boost Very High Calorie shakes! The very vanilla and awesome!
I fkng knew it. They can tap into our calls
Never making calls in hospital again
yeah now I understand why they always asked me to hang up 😭
He’s standing out the open with his arms crossed. I think the pt put the call on speaker so dr could hear it.
@@lizr9894 no, you can't put calls on speaker in the pysch ward. at mine, you couldn't even dial in a number, they had to call the number of approved calls from the nurses station and then transfer it to the phones in the unit. (hence they could stay on the line after transferring it and listen)
Haha, this was me calling my narcissistic family from the psych ward😅
I had this client who always used to borrow our staff phone to call his mom and it was heartbreaking to listen to her berate him calling him a “shizo” and “nutjob” and “freak” all the time. Good news is he eventually stopped letting her call while he focused on healing❤️
I can relate so well to that look on your face after the patient mocks the family member…
I used to be able to be able to eat almost nothing with my antidepressants and Ritalin, but now I'm on 5 meds including an antipsychotic so it's now impossible.
Antipsychotic meds are notorious for causing weight gain. 😩
@@stephw6046 🥲is... there a reason you had to bring that up?
*cries in mirtazapin*
@@bryanviera1895 probably because it can cause it even if you barely eat diddly squat. They are also notorious for causing you to crave sweets like it’s ducking heroin or something, which just further enhances the God awful side effect of weight gain. I speak from experience, on a laundry list of different antipsychotics in the 17 years since my first diagnosis.
@@Pressity1 I wish that was all of it ☠ do you know what a heavy of heavy meditation including 700 mg of Seroquel does to you when you have eaten in 20 hours? Limitless nausea and throwing up any water you drank.
I feel personally attacked. 🤣👀
As someone who struggles with ED and who also has to take a bunch of medication, sometimes I have absolutely no appetite and no interest in eating but need to eat something for the sake of it being on my stomach to take meds, so I’d eat something small or bland if I’m nauseous, a muffin, a few cookies, a handful of plain chips, a few crackers, a glass of milk - just something small because it was better than nothing and hey that’s better than starving myself for the time being. Sometimes it’s hard to push yourself when you’re in a dark place but you have to be proud of the smallest of things you accomplish because otherwise you’ll tear yourself down even more and end up worse and it doesn’t help when your family does it as well. My mom would say similar stuff to “that’s not a meal” and I’d reply “yes I know but at least it’s something, at least I’m eating something instead of the alternative which would be so easy for me to do” it’s hard to take care of yourself when you just want to not feel things anymore or to take care of yourself when you can’t feel anything because nothing makes a difference.
Wow I relate to this so much.
ED? Erectile dysfunction?
@@criminallyautistic8372 eating disorder
@@alexandraa5424 Ohhhhh. Sh*t! Please ignore me. Sorry.
@@criminallyautistic8372 I’m glad you weren’t trolling. No worries 😌
If you're relating to this, please try to eat something today loves. Even something small. And stay hydrated! Y'all can get through this.
💙💚💙
Thank you!! ✔️💚
id try but i just throw up lol
_You had antidepressants and ibuprofen washed down with espresso..._
Breakfast of champions!
I'm at the psych ward right now. Jokes on you, my family doesn't call
Well their healthier then what I was, I used to wash antidepressants with whiskey and hoped I never woke up.
I hope you’re still kickin’ dude
@@TiktokBurnedMyCrops I am thank you
That's me to my partner the last time I went to the hospital tbh
I miss my husband who had to go back to the office while I still get to work from hom... I always forget to eat anything and I miss the coffee he always brought me. Such a small thing but really made my day lol.
'that's not fair, I smoked a cigarette, too!'
😂 my dad would absolutely respond this way, we both take meds and are caffine addics, but he also smokes
I remember being in psych for a few days as a kid and getting a phone call from my mom where she started with, “I need you not to react or you’ll be in there longer.” My dad had shattered his knee and was being flown across state to try and save the leg. Knowing the nurses and doctors could hear that call now, I don’t know why she’d even tell me at that moment.
I worked with alzheimers/dementia patients and some of their families were more out of touch with reality than they were. I felt like I needed to protect them sometimes, they would be so hurt and frustrated when the family left. Sometimes they needed a PRN anxiety med when they were just fine before the family came. Its was so sad and frustrating. Some people stay willfully ignorant on what their family members are going through.
My grandfather recently passed after haveing alzheimers.
My siblings/cousins would constantly remind him his wife of almost 70 years was dead. I told them to stop as it only hurts him and they said "well, he needs to know."
I got pissed and refused to come to family gatherings with him after. I couldn't listen to him cry over his lost love every 30 minutes.
@@SilverWolf_-cj4qn I'm so sorry, that is really sad. I wish people would educate themselves! The first thing alzheimers patients forget is the last thing they learned.
That seems like a conversation I would have with my wife, except SHE’S the one who’s telling ME to eat, because I only eat about every 3-4 days lol
😢
Bodies are weird sometimes we just are not hungry. Thank you for all u do for patients
I be sitting over here feeling personally attacked rn.
SHEEEEEEEESH another great short
I remember I was issued to the psych ward, legally obligated mind you due to an event I was witness to that the state of Florida deemed to be traumatic (and with self awareness, it was but my brain refuses to wire itself that way), my father came into my hospital room while I was awaiting transfer and proceeded to scream his head off at me at how horrible I was to do this to them (which I was absolutely confused about, but I figure the police said something about my results to a psych assessment sheet I filled out + my responses to a Rorschach test), but all-in-all was so mad at me for expressing that I experienced suicidal ideation that neither he nor anyone else in my family came to visit me at all during my lockdown in the ward. I really do wonder what goes on in people's minds when they see someone doing so terrible and then go on to make the situation worse or even prove a point as to why they feel suicidal. I was only 13.
I mean atleast he took his meds i forget both
I was admitted to an epilepsy center once for having unexplained seizure-like episodes of uncontrollable convulsions and shaking in my body, and they told me certain conditions can cause stress to physically manifest itself in what looks like seizures, but is not epilepsy. Then proceeded to ask me if I had any reason to be stressed in my life…after two minutes the doctor goes “😬 yeahhh I’m gonna say you’re under a lot of stress…”
Unfortunately was transferred to another doctor who told me to just stop being stressed and hysterical because I was making them happen, so needless to say, I was admitted to a psych unit two years later after receiving nothing but bills the first time
Being able to afford food AND meds...what's that like?
For some reason this reminds me of something that happened during covid. I was trying to get medi-cal and needed a number from a hospital so i could turn in the paper work at a building. They lead me(a physically disabled person) to call the place people on suicide watch are sent to. I remember how upset she was, like the same people had told a lot of people to call her instead of the right number. I told her the hospital and man she was pissed. Apparently she had colorful words on how to express her thoughts on the people who did that.
When I had to go to crisis at 17 after 3 failed attempts my mom played nice and cool inside but when it was time to be released because I “promised” the nurses I’d never try again, she was livid in the car that she had to leave work to pick me up. That night she ended up getting black out drunk which ALWAYS led to big arguments (sometimes physical but I had hit her back before and was much bigger and more muscular) and I’ll never forget her saying “why don’t you just go upstairs and slit your wrists again you big baby” and it’s been 15 years and I can still recall how horrified I was that I meant so little. I was lucky my mom stopped drinking, we have a wonderful relationship now she’s my best friend. It took a lot of work on both of our ends, she was raised by the pull up your boot straps and just get over it, I couldn’t
literally me, ive been to the psych ward twice and this is so accurate
Apparently pain meds and Diet Coke is not considered a meal either. Lolz.
That was a 2yr period in my life right after my husband died. Sometimes I would add a xanax.
Oof. I'm sorry for your loss.
Hope you're doing better now ☺️.
I’m so sorry. I can’t imagine…I hope you’re better today.
@@tiffanyreyna6949 aw thank you. Im okay now. This was back in 2012. My depression always starts with me not eating. I lost about 35lb after his death. My doctor was keeping an eye on me and I was told not to loose any more weight or she would have to intervene. It was around that time I started to stabilize. I also was blessed with a little grandson. He sure helped.
I went through a similar phase when my fiance died Unexpectedly 2014 from Vfib. But replace pain meds with IV Heroin, or fentanyl if I felt Boujee. And the "phase" lasted 7 years. Um, ooooppppsieeeessss? 🤦🤷😭
@@AllieTheVibe Im a chronic pain patient. Been on pain meds for over 12yrs.
When I started cutting, my parents got super angry at me. Both of them are boomers, and they grew up in a time and area with poor mental health care, and they both suffer from clinical depression, my dad especially. When I started high school, I got incredibly depressed and began cutting. When my parents saw (my mom really, my dad had to work out of town for 4 years because of work, basically my entire high school years), they became super upset and angry, grounding me, etc. I started hiding them because I didn't want to get in trouble. Finally, my mom, dad, and I had a serious sit-down after they discovered I was hidingmy cutting (I told a friend, the friend, being the wonderful person she is, told them about it). They explained to me that they didn't mean to make me scared of telling them things, but that they genuinely didn't know how to deal with that stuff. As kids, and even adults, they just had to tough through it. They of course got me the help I needed and now I'm doing much, much better, but it's very easy to judge families for being "callous" when sometimes they just...don't know what to do. Or they've spent so long worrying about you and your problems only to be met with anger or denial or whatever, that they're exhausted. Sometimes we get so caught up in our own suffering we don't see how it makes the people around us suffer as well.
Tip for medical staff from a person with depression. Feed us first thing. I dont mean saltiness, a real meal will make the whole process easier on everyone. All other discussion about if we need to go inpatient will go way better with food.
I mean, on a lot of people I guess, but not on everyone. For example, I have an eating disorder AND depression, so for me, it would just make it worse.