I think the most important this would be to never use autism or any disease as an excuse for bad behavior. If the child is violent toward self, others, property, you implement necessary corrections regardless of health status. Reward system, ABA, dog training techniques, what ever works. Disease can only be an EXPLANATION but never and EXCUSE.
Ummmm, you must have never been around an autistic child. And yes like any child you let them know right from wrong, but it's handled differently because their understanding is not the same as a regular child. And if you don't have an autistic child then hush and if you do them I feel really sorry for your child
@@JenniferAlvarado-dl5uj Again, there is a difference between explanation and excuse. If you treat autism as an explanation, then you implement all necessary techniques, and if they do not work you need to take the child out of the classroom. If you treat autism as an excuse, that is very harming toward the child and all others. Why? Because it ties your hands, and promotes helplessness. " He acts like that, he is autistic, we need to tolerate this or accept that" mentality. Unless a child child is intellectually retarded than I do not see the problem with teaching autistic child proper manners and acceptable behaviors.
@@lubystkaolamonola529I have an autistic 3 year old who is very behind with the social emotional side of the spectrum. He has tantrums, self hitting and hits others when he’s excited or upset. We started him with early development programs from the city and have had be every type of expert come to our house and help. He also started on an iep program to put him in early preschool for all the help and development he can get. We as parents have the daily struggle of constant and I mean constant struggle of trying everything we can to correct every behavior with a multitude of different approaches. He is the best thing that ever happened to us, however the amount of struggle is beyond comprehension to those who don’t go through it. It’s not an excuse, but it most certainly is a reason for why.
What about kids that hit non aggressively? My non verbal autistic son bites, pinches and scratches amost as a tic. He literally cant help it, its a compulsion... but its making it impossible to be around him as it happens every minute
When my son hits and has a moment I put him on a swing or a pool and therapy helps as well my son goes to ot and speech and they have been the best help. Holding them helps squeeze help to
Did you find anything to help? This is my son! Everything I research talks about Autism aggression, nothing about non aggressive hitting! Like you said, it is more like a "tic", it's random and there doesn't seem to be a trigger.
What do you do to help your autistic child if they go from happy to sad to mad within a 5 min period. I call it his moments but he can be happy and singing and see a photo in the living room of his mama (she works and im grandma the baby sitter) and his happy giggling singing self all of a sudden is crying hysterical saying mama mama, i try to calm him or just leave him be, but either way it goes from the upset crying to theowing and tipping stuff. He is 4. Then all of a sudden he is ok again. It usually last any where from 5 min or 10 min
I'm having the same trouble with a student. He just started hitting. He is 13, so I don't know of it's hormones, or something else. He will go from sweet to sour in an instant. We just don't understand.
I taught my 3 non verbal boys (all grown now) to communicate by spelling out words with refrigerator magnets, typing words out on a cell phone, PECS (pictures of things with velcro on the back they would grab off board and hand me) Theres also a speech device covered by insurance they can use. Also iPads. They all talk now and are doing fine. They disnt speak until they were 7! Dont give up Mama. Oh some toddlers take to sign language and one of mine liked it and the others didn't. It's a spectrum and no two are exactly alike
Maybe autistic parents could play Bach or Gregorian chant, or get a fish tank - things to calm the nervous system. Watching fish in a fish tank is INCREDIBLY calming. It's not aggression, it's a feeling of being overwhelmed. Find a way for them to really exercise - kids used to walk to school and milk cows and run around. It's interesting the first person diagnosed autistic is still alive. We've always been around. It was never an issue before. Our nervous systems can't handle how artificial and noisy the world is, and speed, and constant change, and lack of outlet for physical exercise. Giving them the opportunity to learn a musical instrument is good too, something to focus the mind on.
I try to get my daughter out of her rigidity. She does hit when it doesn’t go her way, but I think it’s for the best and change is what she needs constantly to overcome this phase in her life
My daughter 3yr old,i put her in dark room alone after she make mess with stuff in the house,about 5 min non-stop crying i open up the door she seem developing to calm herself she punch her head but still crying, dont know what to do because we afraid shes going to get worse when getting older
3 year olds are messy, especially without close enough supervision. Being put in a dark room alone is scary and confusing, especially when it's for being a kid exploring the world you just entered. They're still learning social and household rules, and how to communicate - both of which are harder for autistic people. So a dark room alone is one way to try and deter a certain behavior, but it's traumatic/distressful for the kid so hitting themselves is one way they try to cope in the moment. I say this as an autistic adult, who still feels the urge to hit my head on the wall when I'm in acute distress every blue moon, and who also has kids who used to hit themselves as toddlers. That feeling doesn't really go away, but we can learn to redirect our energy in less harmful ways. It will get worse if their triggers continue/get worse, but you can help it get better instead. Be there to protect her head when she tries to hit it, putting your hand or something soft between to block, don't restrain her. And teach healthier coping techniques- hitting a pillow is better than a head, give her stim toys/tools, learn about emotions with her, and how to express herself the way she wants, etc. The more you learn about autism and how it looks for her specifically, the easier it will be to help her. And it is hereditary, so if you have it too, you'll come to understand yourself even better too, which can help you help her as well. ❤
@@cradicalcompassionI very much agree with you on the closed dark room alone situation. That broke my heart. I have a 8year old autistic son, and people always thought I was being “too lenient” with him because I wouldn’t discipline the same way that a nuerotypyical child would be disciplined. It takes longer and sometimes you have to be creative with how you get them to understand, but I always focused on trying to get him to understand why what he did was wrong more than the punishment. And his punishment was usually natural consequences of his own actions (like breaking a toy) or if he did something out of malice he would get his computer privileges taken away for the day and could earn them back the next day. Yes it sucks because you have to deal with the outbursts but the more you stay steady in those consequences the less upset he/she will be the next time they misbehave. They will start to understand and their behavior will improve. I never ask my son to be perfect but I do ask that he tries his best to control his emotions when he’s upset and I also let him know it’s okay to be upset just not ok to hurt himself or others.
Autism kids don't understand right from wrong its not there fault that there different but some Autism kids are smart. U don't lock a child like that up what is wrong with u grow up please tour learn about these kids before u fucking judge them
You don't have the expertise to comment on this topic, and your information is general knowledge. Some of it is flat wrong. I have a child in the spectrum, scrolling past click bait like this can be soul crushing. Thanks.
Having a child on the spectrum makes you expert of your child, not autism. I have 3 children on the spectrum and this vidéo is spot on. This information is more useful than hours of thérapie ! Thank you, while simple so hard to implement. Watching this as a reminder to myself🙏
Same, my older autistic brother used abuse them till I got so fed up where I punched him ufc style till he begged to stop. Then he started to do self-harm just cause he knew he couldn't hurt me, and hit walls.
@@whirlybird268yeah even a kid in my class do same...i know he is mild autistica and we are trying to be best with him..but he warns us that he will poke us....he tries to harm others but when it comes to him he cries always...at first i loved him cuz i thought he was innocent and autistic but as time flew i just started to get irritated by him....and ignored him alot....cuz we cant giveuch attention in normal school...we have more kids to look after and cant focus only on himas fees paid by other parents are equal to his parents then why would i always give him importance
The rituals are very difficult to handle, especially if you do not have time to do all those rituals and it messes up the day.
As an Autistic person Neurotypical Kids have hit ME in elementary school and JUSTIFIED it.
I think the most important this would be to never use autism or any disease as an excuse for bad behavior. If the child is violent toward self, others, property, you implement necessary corrections regardless of health status. Reward system, ABA, dog training techniques, what ever works. Disease can only be an EXPLANATION but never and EXCUSE.
Ummmm, you must have never been around an autistic child. And yes like any child you let them know right from wrong, but it's handled differently because their understanding is not the same as a regular child. And if you don't have an autistic child then hush and if you do them I feel really sorry for your child
@@JenniferAlvarado-dl5uj Again, there is a difference between explanation and excuse. If you treat autism as an explanation, then you implement all necessary techniques, and if they do not work you need to take the child out of the classroom. If you treat autism as an excuse, that is very harming toward the child and all others. Why? Because it ties your hands, and promotes helplessness. " He acts like that, he is autistic, we need to tolerate this or accept that" mentality. Unless a child child is intellectually retarded than I do not see the problem with teaching autistic child proper manners and acceptable behaviors.
Your so fucked for saying that
@@lubystkaolamonola529I have an autistic 3 year old who is very behind with the social emotional side of the spectrum. He has tantrums, self hitting and hits others when he’s excited or upset. We started him with early development programs from the city and have had be every type of expert come to our house and help. He also started on an iep program to put him in early preschool for all the help and development he can get. We as parents have the daily struggle of constant and I mean constant struggle of trying everything we can to correct every behavior with a multitude of different approaches. He is the best thing that ever happened to us, however the amount of struggle is beyond comprehension to those who don’t go through it. It’s not an excuse, but it most certainly is a reason for why.
Exactly, you have never been around autistic children. Don't pretend you know what you are talking about, when you evidently don't.
In 1960s. Deemed psychopaths
No feeling
No empathy
It’s so often now! What is in the food?
Great 👍 insights! Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge.
Glad it was helpful!
What about kids that hit non aggressively? My non verbal autistic son bites, pinches and scratches amost as a tic. He literally cant help it, its a compulsion... but its making it impossible to be around him as it happens every minute
I’m having the same issues with my toddler. It makes for a very long, stressful and depressing day.
When my son hits and has a moment I put him on a swing or a pool and therapy helps as well my son goes to ot and speech and they have been the best help. Holding them helps squeeze help to
@cassandrasimonton6313 yes the swing is wonderful and my son likes squeezes to
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Did you find anything to help? This is my son! Everything I research talks about Autism aggression, nothing about non aggressive hitting! Like you said, it is more like a "tic", it's random and there doesn't seem to be a trigger.
What do you do to help your autistic child if they go from happy to sad to mad within a 5 min period. I call it his moments but he can be happy and singing and see a photo in the living room of his mama (she works and im grandma the baby sitter) and his happy giggling singing self all of a sudden is crying hysterical saying mama mama, i try to calm him or just leave him be, but either way it goes from the upset crying to theowing and tipping stuff. He is 4. Then all of a sudden he is ok again. It usually last any where from 5 min or 10 min
I'm having the same trouble with a student. He just started hitting. He is 13, so I don't know of it's hormones, or something else. He will go from sweet to sour in an instant. We just don't understand.
And they bite
But with Autism in some toddlers and kids that are non verbal its hard to communicate and compramise with them.
I taught my 3 non verbal boys (all grown now) to communicate by spelling out words with refrigerator magnets, typing words out on a cell phone, PECS (pictures of things with velcro on the back they would grab off board and hand me) Theres also a speech device covered by insurance they can use. Also iPads. They all talk now and are doing fine. They disnt speak until they were 7! Dont give up Mama. Oh some toddlers take to sign language and one of mine liked it and the others didn't. It's a spectrum and no two are exactly alike
Maybe autistic parents could play Bach or Gregorian chant, or get a fish tank - things to calm the nervous system. Watching fish in a fish tank is INCREDIBLY calming. It's not aggression, it's a feeling of being overwhelmed. Find a way for them to really exercise - kids used to walk to school and milk cows and run around. It's interesting the first person diagnosed autistic is still alive. We've always been around. It was never an issue before. Our nervous systems can't handle how artificial and noisy the world is, and speed, and constant change, and lack of outlet for physical exercise. Giving them the opportunity to learn a musical instrument is good too, something to focus the mind on.
I try to get my daughter out of her rigidity. She does hit when it doesn’t go her way, but I think it’s for the best and change is what she needs constantly to overcome this phase in her life
But watching your video I know that when I am more patient that I can ignore these things and see her good qualities through this whole phase
Also, correct thing her mistakes triggers her. I was a stay at home mom for 3 1/2 years and I have to learn to let her make her mistakes.
Read about pathological demand avoidance. It ease our life tremendously
Accepting her is loving her.
My daughter 3yr old,i put her in dark room alone after she make mess with stuff in the house,about 5 min non-stop crying i open up the door she seem developing to calm herself she punch her head but still crying, dont know what to do because we afraid shes going to get worse when getting older
3 year olds are messy, especially without close enough supervision. Being put in a dark room alone is scary and confusing, especially when it's for being a kid exploring the world you just entered. They're still learning social and household rules, and how to communicate - both of which are harder for autistic people.
So a dark room alone is one way to try and deter a certain behavior, but it's traumatic/distressful for the kid so hitting themselves is one way they try to cope in the moment.
I say this as an autistic adult, who still feels the urge to hit my head on the wall when I'm in acute distress every blue moon, and who also has kids who used to hit themselves as toddlers. That feeling doesn't really go away, but we can learn to redirect our energy in less harmful ways. It will get worse if their triggers continue/get worse, but you can help it get better instead. Be there to protect her head when she tries to hit it, putting your hand or something soft between to block, don't restrain her. And teach healthier coping techniques- hitting a pillow is better than a head, give her stim toys/tools, learn about emotions with her, and how to express herself the way she wants, etc. The more you learn about autism and how it looks for her specifically, the easier it will be to help her.
And it is hereditary, so if you have it too, you'll come to understand yourself even better too, which can help you help her as well. ❤
@@cradicalcompassionI very much agree with you on the closed dark room alone situation.
That broke my heart.
I have a 8year old autistic son, and people always thought I was being “too lenient” with him because I wouldn’t discipline the same way that a nuerotypyical child would be disciplined.
It takes longer and sometimes you have to be creative with how you get them to understand, but I always focused on trying to get him to understand why what he did was wrong more than the punishment.
And his punishment was usually natural consequences of his own actions (like breaking a toy) or if he did something out of malice he would get his computer privileges taken away for the day and could earn them back the next day.
Yes it sucks because you have to deal with the outbursts but the more you stay steady in those consequences the less upset he/she will be the next time they misbehave.
They will start to understand and their behavior will improve. I never ask my son to be perfect but I do ask that he tries his best to control his emotions when he’s upset and I also let him know it’s okay to be upset just not ok to hurt himself or others.
and when they do that, charges needs to be pressed, just because they have a handicap they are not allowed to break the law
Autism kids don't understand right from wrong its not there fault that there different but some Autism kids are smart. U don't lock a child like that up what is wrong with u grow up please tour learn about these kids before u fucking judge them
Charges need to be pressed when an autistic child hasn’t learned to regulate their emotions yet??
@@quatsiesuttonsaturn850 yes, they have to follow the law like everyone else
How they will follow the law if they are unable to understand their reason of hitting. You are insane
My son when ever he is bored he hit😂
And that's funny how??
You don't have the expertise to comment on this topic, and your information is general knowledge. Some of it is flat wrong. I have a child in the spectrum, scrolling past click bait like this can be soul crushing. Thanks.
Having a child on the spectrum makes you expert of your child, not autism. I have 3 children on the spectrum and this vidéo is spot on. This information is more useful than hours of thérapie ! Thank you, while simple so hard to implement. Watching this as a reminder to myself🙏
I hit when I am frustrated
When they punch, you punch back 🤜🏼🫵🏼👊🏼
Stop bad behavior into learned behavior
what an ignorant comment.
Punch my kid, I dare you
Same, my older autistic brother used abuse them till I got so fed up where I punched him ufc style till he begged to stop. Then he started to do self-harm just cause he knew he couldn't hurt me, and hit walls.
@@whirlybird268yeah even a kid in my class do same...i know he is mild autistica and we are trying to be best with him..but he warns us that he will poke us....he tries to harm others but when it comes to him he cries always...at first i loved him cuz i thought he was innocent and autistic but as time flew i just started to get irritated by him....and ignored him alot....cuz we cant giveuch attention in normal school...we have more kids to look after and cant focus only on himas fees paid by other parents are equal to his parents then why would i always give him importance
Amen!
I don't like the noise that micro phone sounds when ur talking.
I babysit my friends daughter who has autism but she hits me 4 times this video has helped