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How does the study define Liberal and Conservative? By political voting record or by style of parenting?
I mean my single mom is a democrat but she used to spank us and was not a “liberal” mom.
The sarcasm is strong with you two, ‘quoted from yoda’
If you raise your children you can spoil your grand children. If you spoil your kids you raise your grandchildren.
Bars 😭
Whoa!!
This is facts
Facts
Every person I know who is raising their grandchildren are Liberals and I know a whole lot of them.
I coached my son’s soccer team last spring and a parent made a comment about how well my kids listen to me and how I should write a book on disciplining children. I said simply “there already is one, the Bible”
This is an epic post! God Bless you for that and I hope everyone heard you!
Amen
perfect answer!
Amen 🙏
Indeed & AMEN
reminds me of that famous quote: The most important thing a father can do for his children is to love their mother. Wow!
Yes! I love that quote! My parents had that hanging in their house while I was growing up! ❤️
My grandma just passed away and it really hit me in a way I can’t find words for, the kind of love my grandpa has for his wife and love. ❤️
Sadly this quote is more dangerous than helpful
@@wakeup2realityostriches
How?
@@Thetruthgirl Because it releases the wife/mother from the responsibility of actually being loveable.
The most shocking thing about this interview is that they actually reported it!
It’s “The Hill”. They’re not perfect but better than a lot of mainstream.
Right! I was shocked but pleased to hear this.
LoL that’s what I thought😂
Right?!?! Liberals everywhere are crying. 😂
The Hill is a right wing network, of course they reported on it
Most conservitive parents tend to pay closer attention to their child's needs rather then their wants. We care enough to believe our children are capable of more and expect more from them.
…and aren’t afraid to let them fail to learn about themselves or life. You will make mistakes, but learn from them and do your best to make the world better. Everyone has to live on the planet, it doesn’t revolve around you.
my father is a conservative and he did the opposite,funny how you pretend that it doesn't happen. Willfull ignorance anyone?
@@GabrielleTollerson sorry to hear that. I don’t think anyone was pretending it didn’t happen. The study didn’t say 100% of conservative parents…anything. Hopefully your upbringing provided you the tools to be happy and successful!
@@GabrielleTollerson I guess he didn't teach you what " most" mean either...
@@GabrielleTollerson that wasn't because of his political views, it was probably because he's a bad parent. just saying.
Most of the time having a better marriage isn't about having a better spouse. It's often about being a better spouse.
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Great point!
25 years ago when I was a senior in high school, I took a psychology course and we were discussing discipline. My entire class thought it was horrible that I had been spanked as a child but at that point, I was working a full-time job while going to school full-time and I pretty much had my life together as much as you can for an 18-year-old. And they told me my parents were horrible for spanking me. I looked around the room and noticed two pregnant girls a kid that had drove his car into the front of someone’s house the previous weekend. And a Marriott of other behavioral issues with my classmates. It seems like my spankings taught me a hell of a lot more than their timeouts.
I know you meant myriad and not Marriott, but in the context Marriott is funnier. I'm not throwing shade.... I said ultra violent light instead of violet for twenty years. Lol
@@sentinelsofvmi2227😅lol
@@sentinelsofvmi2227I blame it on Swype and autosuggest. Maybe proof reading would help but I have seen it change a word earlier in a sentence which is almost impossible to catch when it happens because you are focusing on the word you are typing. I say this about Marriot not violet/violent.
I had seen my siblings spank their kids a few times and i felt their pain 😢. Then later my niece tried me and let me tell you I gave her a "slap" on the wrist, then I immediately called her mum to straighten her up 😂. Kids need to be disciplined while they are under our care otherwise the world will discipline them.
There is something to be said for immediate negative consequences to an anti-social behavior
My mother is a liberal. She left me and my brother and father when I was one. My father got full custody thank God. She visited me ONCE. And i wad only 4 or five and barely remember it. She would randomly send a letter or something.
In 2019 I decided to forgive her and less than a year later it was over. She literally banned me from visiting her for Christmas because I wouldn't get the jab.
Some mother, now i understand why my family shielded me from her all my life.
Your mother didn’t leave you because she was liberal. She left you because she was severely traumatized in her own childhood. My mother was liberal and my father was conservative, and both of them were always there for my siblings and me, and we put them through a lot. Your mother probably had what is referred to as borderline personality disorder.
@@katieandnick4113 That's a bit of an assumption.
@cherilynkirschbaum2044 So sorry that had to happen to you. But atleast now you have the possibility to start a new line of mothers who won't do that.
@@katieandnick4113 She didn't say "Liberalism abandoned me" so defend your child-hating ideology elsewhere.
WHAAAAT????? Kids that grow up with love and boundaries are happier? Wow so shocking.
As a conservative, who grew up in a liberal houshold, my parents were basically absent and hardly ever enforced their own rules. My job now includes not getting too strict on my own children as a response to my upbringing.
So does that mean you discipline them or not?
Yea, my mom was liberal, when I was a kid. She was cheating on my father, moving us kids across the country and divorcing him. Having us live in government housing, eating out of food boxes. Allowing us kids to do whatever we wanted, but if I were to defend myself from my little brother who would attack me, steal my things etc. then she'd chase me and try to hit me in the head with a wooden brush. She spoiled my little brother, and he was in and out of prison his whole childhood. My mom eventually abandoned us kids, and I ended up in a foster home at 16. Liberal parents are trash.
I disagree.
It’s all about balance.
@@johnthree1611I am sorry man. Your parents failed you and your siblings in so many ways. God will bring good out of if. Trust him. Do good. And know that you still have a responsibility for YOUR legacy.
Conservatives still face mental health challenges, stress, and life troubles. It's just that our parents trained, disciplined, and prepared us to overcome those challenges in a positive and constructive way.
We weren't neglected or experimented on like many liberal kids were.
Indeed
Conservative parents neglect their children mainly… they just don’t have an excuse for it so kids have to make one up
Yup. If it hadn't been for my very old fashioned, conservative, Republican upbringing, I'd be dead many times over by now.
There are some interesting statistics about the percentage of mentally ill or maladjusted people on each side of the aisle. Apparently, while conservatives may have the occasional mental health issue, it is so much more prevalent on the left that it almost characterizes the entire movement.
@@Zaphod771 At some point I started to notice who pretty much all of the dysfunctional people in my life were.
I have never talked to my daughter like she’s a child. I treat her as an equal human. That being said there are rules to follow and consequences for breaking the rules. If she wants a new toy or something she has to work for it. You have to be a parent, not a friend.
My ex wife has no concept of this. So the first day back from her mother’s is usually spent correcting behavior. Don’t even get me started on the fact that she just married a woman who thinks she’s a man. Shouldn’t have to explain to my 8 year old gender issues. Yes, I have filed for full custody. And I fully expect to have that used against me. But I’m not going to lie and cloud the mind of my child. Had a liberal parent ask me once if I wanted to take my daughter to a drag show. My jaw hit the floor. This is why kids are having mental issues. Clouding their impressional minds with lies.
stand strong big man! I hope you do not give up!!!
@@stephenoni2019 thank you! This is a hill I am willing to die on.
God Bless You stand strong
This sounds just like a situation going on from someone I went to college with. She left her husband and came out as a lesbian. A couple years later, her partner came out as 'trans' and now she is saying her son is trans. Her ex husband filed for full custody, and now she is saying he was abusive. They live in D.C. so the law certainly won't be on his side smh
If you don’t stand for something, you’ll fall for anything. Prayers for you, your family, and all involved. 🙏
That’s me. Both my parents are liberals (in Europe) and they absolutely set me up for failure and still try to. Same goes for my peers during school time. We all ended up in unhealthy relationships, mentally ill. I see this even more nowadays as a parent myself in the interaction between my parents and my child. And made sure to bring thousands of kilometres between them, moved to very conservative countries and converted to Orthodoxy. I will break this cycle, it stops with me!
How did they set you up for failure? Some examples?
Awesome, good for you and your children.
Doesn't the church teach honoring and forgiving your parents?
@chuckielewis2814 that doesn't mean putting your kids mental health at risk. You can forgive your parents but put your kids safety first
@@Dollydollydoll I don't get how anyone's mental health was at risk. Just that there was a political disagreement.
Me realizing everything good came from Christianity and now watching people try to divorce good from Christ.
Everything good... like what?
@@wet-read Rights. Now reply and make a counterargument or sit back down.
@@kardz1848 Calm down no need to be rude he just asked a question 🥴
@@biancadukes5311 Im completely calm, if you dont like confrontation and the blunt truth you dont have to engage with me. Thats YOUR choice. So whats your role in this? Are you gonna take over the argument for him? Or are you here to make a statement like the other dude.
@@kardz1848 nah I'm just gonna eat some popcorn. Have a nice night.
Discipline is love. Discipline within reason fosters respect and shows that actions have consequences, but it also shows that you can get through troubling circumstances and learn from it.
Preach!!! Discipline is an invaluable skill for a good life…
FYI discipline means teaching not punishment
@@stargwynn1 it's both. You have to balance teaching/redemption/mercy and also punishment/respect.
You have to have both or it doesn't work.
One thing a real parent hates to say is “this hurts me more than it hurts you, but you can’t say you don’t deserve it.”
@@chriskourliourod1651I would be very careful when saying that to kids.
I think one thing young parents don’t realize is that there are two sides to love; one is discipline and the other is mercy. Ideally the mother and father provides these. If you’re a single parent like I was, you have to trust the Lord to fill in the gaps and He will.
We call it the "grace rule" in our house when someone messes up but doesn't get in trouble. If the kid realized they did something wrong and genuinely apologized, especially if it is a one off or they are having a hard day, we accept the apology and say they get a pass per the rule.
We also make sure we apologize when we as parents make a mistake.
Teaching right from wrong, accountability, and grace are some seriously important jobs of parents.
@@AoG611 I like this "grace rule".
It can be tough though. I was raised by my Father, and although he tried his best to not be too strict, when he did punish me, sometimes it seemed a little harsh, depending on how rough of a day he had at work. I think the reason it works best with two parents is that a good wife will see if the dad is ready to punish the child or not and instead of throwing the child or children to the wolves maybe give the dad a few minutes to decompress first before handling the discipline.
@@cavemanjoe79 Well, you dad was angrily reacting to stress, not disciplining. Discipline means to communicate an error so the the error isn't done often (because people make the same mistakes over n over anyways.) There needs to be a team to keep both moms and dads in check. And in my belief, God keeps the whole household in check.
@@Kelli-ru7yy "communicate so errors wouldn't be made too often"
Sounds kinda disingenuous, like reality is a little different. Like there mistakes that shouldn't ever be made, again at least. And issues are actually from those mistakes
Plus, kids doesn't actually know what "trying hard" really means, which cause issues too
I remember that disappointing my parents was one of my biggest fears. Not because there would be hell to pay, but because I wanted to make them proud. That quality is missing today, especially among liberal parents.
I was once told by a very wise man, “you can be friends with your kids when they’re older OR you can be friends with your kids when they’re younger. You can NEVER have both.” That wise man was my mother’s husband, Carl… despite that he refused to allow me to call him “dad,” in many ways he was a better dad to me than my own father, and i realize it more and more every day as an adult.
I noticed it as an adult and now even the parent of an adult, it feels more like having/being a mentor than a friendship. Don't get me wrong its a valuable relationship, but in no way would I go out and get a couple of beers with my dad or even let him see me drink a beer and I'm in my 40's.
As a father I am not friends with my children nor will I ever be. Fathers are to be respected by their children, we play a role well above friendship but at the same time have to be the example to then to correct and help when they screw up, even as Adults.
And an adult should not be seeking friendships with children.
@@lizarcher7143 it's beyond me, why people cannot adopt the same friendship they can have with thier boss, with kids
Like, while everything is fine, you both friendly, but subordinates do not dare to call you anything but in respectful manner. Something happens and until conflict resolves, "friendship" is out in the window.
Respect - priority
Friendly terms - luxury
When you’re happy with each other, you can love your children better.
This applies to the relationship between man and woman as well. I’m a Gen Z woman, and it’s like men don’t know how to be authoritative (and warm) anymore. Many are too passive. That lack of authority probably leads to worse relationship outcomes, just like with liberal parents.
And women are more masculine, go figure
@@shadowincproYes, lots of manly women and womanly men on today’s dating scene. Even among Christians.
That is very true, but that is by Satan's design. I'm GenX, even so, by nature, I'm far more aggressive and assertive than my husband is, so I had to learn to let him lead in the dance of marriage. How did I do that? Jesus yelled at me. He shouted in my ear that I was a jerk and that I was ruining our marriage- our family. That's the only time I have ever heard his audible voice. What can I say, he disciplines those he loves. To help put me in my place, Jesus demanded that I wear skirts as an act of submission to my husband. I dutifully obeyed and did that for three years until Jesus said I didn't have to. Now it's FAR easier for me to accept that my husband "wears the pants" in our family, and I LOVE it!♥️
Such discipline and role reeducation by our Savior may be different for other people, but that was Jesus' method for me.☺️
@@TheBereangirlI enjoyed reading this. I so agree. When I’m on a date with a passive man, I go out of my way to be more passive or quiet than him so he has NO CHOICE but to lead, lol.
And at the same time men lack warmth. They’re so unbelievably nasty now
Woah! I work with parents affected by substance use, trauma etc. and I can say I've seen all of these, and I've lost count of the amount of parents who are STILL traumatised by parents divorcing, splitting up, abandoning etc. and I see parents who can't manage there relationship totally traumatising their children. So sad. This highlights why only God's formula works!
Thanks for the work you do and for sharing your professional perspective. Whenever I hear how “resilient” kids are, it’s usually from people who are making decisions that will negatively affect those kids for the rest of their lives.
@@KytiaLamour that’s true, and children can be resilient for sure, but the point is they shouldn’t need to face these kinds of traumas in the first place, and they wouldn’t if parents under the importance of stable relationships, like commitment in marriage
@@bobdavidbell Well said. 💯
That’s so old school, God is a made up story says EVERY liberal I know.
The Bible teaches us how to live our lives. ❤
@@PettyIsMyMiddleName Yes, the Bible really tells us how to live our lives! There are even rules in the Bible telling the right way to sell a daughter as a slave (Exodus 21: 7-11). And to marry off a daughter to her rapist! (Deuteronomy 22: 28-29). And it regulates how to attack a city and enslave or even in some instances to commit total genocide (Deuteronomy 20 :10-18)
Or did God change his mind about what is moral and immoral somewhere in history?
Is anyone surprised that not teaching your kids discipline and not helping them set CLEAR life goals sets them for failure? The "don't be judgmental" parenting strategy leads to this. This shouldn't surprise anyone.
I lost my dad, in 1987, when I was 15, to heart disease, and it destroyed me. I went from a church going girl, to partying, within 6 months. My mom was still here, but I can’t say that she was present, mentally, because that is the only man she ever loved, until I lost her in 2019. I was raised in the church, and I have always loved Jesus, that broke me, though. I am 52 now, and I still struggle. Losing a parent is so hard, at any age, but as a teen, it breaks you.
Conservatives raise their children the way GOD expects so we need to GET BACK TO GOD!!
Not always. A certain political party doesn’t make you a good parent nor does it make you a good Christian parent. Some parents have abused their children in the name of God.
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Let's not make this a politics thing. If we do, you might want to explain guns and taxes.
@@anjieobasa1871 I'd say anyone on EITHER side of politics is a bad parent. The right way to look at politics is that it's ALL a big club, and we're not in it. Both sides are evil and help the other get away with making our lives worse. Whole thing needs to be rebuilt.
I was raised by very conservative parents, I sought treatment for severe mental health problems, the treatment didn’t work, because the “severe mental health problems” were actually an untreated seizure disorder. Can’t really blame my parents for the field of neurology still being a bit underdeveloped and doctors suffering from tunnel vision
I have witnessed the results of this study in my family. My sibs and I are Boomers. Our parents were strict and tough. There was no doubt they loved us. The contrast between my Conservative brothers' and Liberal sister's kids is night and day.
Authoritative like a father, warmth like a mother.
Like you gotta have a mom AND a dad. So weird!
Just another area the bible has been right all along...
Y'all was cracking me up at the end tho. That was good. Thanks 😂
There are rules in the Bible telling the right way to sell a daughter as a slave (Exodus 21: 7-11). And to marry off a daughter to her rapist! (Deuteronomy 22: 28-29). And it regulates how to attack a city and enslave or even in some instances to commit total genocide (Deuteronomy 20 :10-18)
Was this right all along, as well?
Or is it immoral to do such things (as described in those verses)?
@@mailill those were for a different covenant that God had in the past. Its now been made void by this New covenant in Jesus.
@@Cody-ms7hc Ah, so those horribly immoral actions were moral back them? Because the Bible says so?
God changed morality?
@@thestorytellouOh, come on! Do you really think it's ok that your book explicitly condones (actually orders!) slavery and genocide in wars - including the killing of children - and the marrying off a young woman to her rapist, or has rules for selling a daughter as a slave, or even orders stoning of women who might have been raped in the city (because of the faulty logic that if nobody heard her screaming, she was probably not forced). The existence of verses that say that in some other situations men are condemned for hurting a woman doesn't really change the verses that are horrible and downright immoral, do they?
@@thestorytellou So killing the children - even little babies - of godless parents - after their city had been taken - was ok? Really? What kind of morality is that? What has that to do with "self defense"?
Exodus 21:7-11 doesn't say marriage or wife, it uses a word meaning "slave woman", and even though the rules for Israeli slaves were much more lenient than the rules for foreign slaves, it was still bondage. They were still allowed to be beaten severely, because they are property, (but not to be killed). They were still allowed to be used for seggs by their master.
“Anyone who beats their male or female slave with a rod must be punished if the slave dies as a direct result, but they are not to be punished if the slave recovers after a day or two, since the slave is their property." (Exodus 21 : 20)
These are some truly unbelievable findings. Who could have ever imagined that giving your child direction and discipline in life will equip them to be more functioning human being???
If only there was a way to understand why we were created, what our purpose is in life, and how to find fulfillment so that we can be great examples to the children we raise and help them not to be depressed and anxious lost souls. Hmmmm. 🤔
When I became a new parent looked into parenting styles and the effects on the children. I found that the disciplinarian style yielded the best results. Obviously taking it to extremes can be harmful but what children need is a bounded orderly setting from which they can explore their environment. The material I looked into had similar findings to this study.
Who would’ve thought that developing children and teens need guidance and leadership from the authority figures in their life?
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As an atheist I have to tell you this is adorable and I love it!
I love that. So true.
Love guru
Man, I haven't heard this one in ages!
As someone with a degree in early childhood education, there’s endless research on the “best” practices to raise children. Based on that research we can statically say which groups of parents will raise more “successful” children. We can suggest which political group is “better” at parenting as well as age, income, culture, health practices, education, occupation, and much more. Most would be obvious and others are too controversial for the public to accept, but the data doesn't lie.
So, in ur opinion and research you have seen, what's the best, or better on average, the way to go when becoming a first time parent? I'm with the soon-to-be father, over five yrs, engaged. His cousins kid outta control an my sister's kid outta control. But I'm terrified of goin too far other way. Which parenting style, whatever you wanna call it, is the way you would suggest?
There’s a whole Bluey episode about this. I love it!
The dad literally throws the “gentle parenting” book in the trash in the end. 😂
Wow, that is impressively bold. Good for them!
Every Liberal parent I have ever known placed themselves and their needs above their children's needs and they acted like large children themselves.
I know both liberal and conservative parents that were great others that were horrible. What’s crazy is that people are who they are. Some of the children from great families turned out to be awful people and people raised by worst parents turned out to be great people. I find it so interesting that many Christian can be so judgmental and critical of those who have a difference of opinion. Let’s focus more on the similarities of people instead of the differences.
When the conversation turned to: "If there was just a good book...; maybe even a collection of books...," I devolved into giggles; yet, I feel sad that so many people reject the Bible's teaching without ever really reading it--or, at least, reading it in context. It seems that they'd rather knee-jerk react to what they think Christianity is without reading the recorded words of our (and their potential) Savior. (I say "their potential Savior" to refer to anyone who rejects the gift of Salvation offered to everyone.)
I’ve read the Bible cover to cover multiple times, referenced all kinds of apologetics for the backwards, self contradictory passages, and prayed fervently for understanding to flow into me. It’s probably the single biggest reason I’m an atheist today. So if people just need to read the good book, then what’s your excuse for people like me who already know it better than most Christians
@@elilane8627Great statement. I would love to know the answer to your question. While I’m the opposite. I haven’t read it cover to cover, I don’t understand most of the passages, and I find it very confusing…I believe in Jesus.
@@elilane8627 I am basically the same way. I see it as little more than a guide to manipulating paranoid schizophrenics.
@@elilane8627 only God knows your heart. I’m sure you know the Bible better than I do. I am learning but I know Jesus. I pray for you to know Jesus as your redeemer.
@@elilane8627 Who knows. Things taught to you in this world got in the way, like evolution. Your ego got in the way of faith. You didn't really listen to what you were reading. You read without an open mind. You lacked understanding in what you read. The principalities of darkness that we struggle with influenced you to ignore context and thus find "contradictory passages". Only (potentially) you and God know where you fell off / short.
These guys nearly killed me with their sarcasm 😂😂
Yeah, if there was just a good book, maybe even a collection of books. 😂😂
Same here!
What I have noticed is that in general, liberals are more likely to try and find external fixes to life's problems, while conservatives are more likely to try and fix their problems themselves. The former can lead to a tenancy to blame third-parties for troubles, while the latter can lead to more introspection, leading to active changes in behavior, rather than victimized yourself.
As a mother I love this episode . I read a book written in the 50s about how to be a good parent the first chapter was of the wife is submissive to her husband the children will be submissive to parents . Relationship between mom and dad matters
That ONLY applies if the MAN submits to Jesus Christ as his head.
That book unless you missed mentioning, seems like it only gave half truths.
Because there are many examples of women submitting to her abusive , drug addiction, alcoholic , predatory husband who doesn’t submit to Jesus and LEAD his family into a Godly life.
@@PettyIsMyMiddleName I 2nd this. Even in the Bible, Abigail disobeyed her man to do what God wants. The man has to be submissive to Christ.
@@PettyIsMyMiddleName but what if the man submits to both excessive alcohol consumption AND Jesus??!!
Then he and his family will likely have some challenges ahead while he learns to more fully lean on Christ. And she'll still need God's wisdom to help in navigating their scenario.
@@robfromvan No such thing. Being a drunkard is the world's ways. Not Jesus' way.
Trying to be like Jesus when raising my kids. Kids are doing amazing and we have a great relationship!
A man once said that its easier to raise strong children than to fix broken men ...
Our pastor just started a series on the family and we touched on God first, then souse, then kids; this study seems to support that!
Its simple: you can see the father/mother in the childs face. My friends constantly told me how similar I looked to my parent when they were in their 20s. If you dislike, distrust or despise your partner, you will not be able to look at your child in a loving light
I see this a lot in my community. Single motherhood runs rampant in my culture and every kid I grew up with was being raised by a single mother... ALL of them. I noticed years ago that if the mother preferred a certain child's father, she would be kinder to the child that looked like him. If she DESPISED the father, she would emotionally bludgeon the child that looked like him! My sister and I have different fathers, and my mom prefers my father; I was the golden child to her! SMH😢
And let's not forget that they seem to commit heinous adult acts on the kids they adopt.
Lol I love the humor at the end 😅 The elephant in the room. (Whisper) Christianity. Gods ways will be proven true one way or another amen? His ways are better for us.
Does anyone else watch the show "Strict Parents"??? Without a fail when parents who are having trouble disciplining their teens send them to a structured Christian household their children seem to do extremely well. I believe this is because there is something about applying God's word while trying to do the best you can do in child rearing. "Train up a child in the way he/she should go and they will not depart from it". 😊😊❤❤
My oldest brother doesn’t spank or discipline his kids at all and the oldest is still good but his younger son couldn’t be set up more for failure in life.
He probably loves the older one more.
My parents tried their best to raise me and I can’t thank them enough for that, but I was a stubborn kid growing up and a lot of lessons I had to learn the hard way but I came out a much better man for it. My father and grand father are the two biggest role models in my life. They perfectly capture what true masculinity is and what it actually means to be a man and it’s not some cigar smoking lone wolf type but it’s someone who honors their word and knows what integrity actually is and means
This is ABSOLUTELY NO SURPRISE.
“The heart of the wise inclines to the right, but the heart of the fool to the left.”
Ecclesiastes 10:2 NIV
Wow, the anger bleeding out from behind those fake emotionless faces on the women speaks volume. "Im ToTaLlY uNbIaSeD jOuRnAlIsT!"
Yeah i could hear it too
"Demandingness or lack of demandingness"?!!
He means having higher expectations & standards of acceptable behaviors. Kids will rise to meet them.
My brothers a atheist liberal, he has 2 (adult) daughters, both are unable to make it in the world, neither graduated HS, can’t hold jobs, maintain relationships and are perpetually unhappy, I have 3 adult sons all, graduated all are in great relationships have great jobs and are genuinely happy and satisfied in life!!!
Glory be to God!!! 🙌🙌
My mom had a brain aneurysm when I was 12, there's no way the kids of today could have lived my life, its a honest concern for me, they are not given the chance to grow up and grow a backbone
When you have family, you have resiliency to handle what life throws at you.
That’s because the weight of life is supposed to be managed by a parent, not by the children. Kids get crushed by the consequences and stress of making their own decisions.
I’ve been saying this for many years. It’s such a burden from a toddler to a teenager to expect them to make all of their own decisions and suffer the consequences. Shame on those people that are blessed with children and refuse to parent them.
God’s world, God’s way!
Thank God he put me in a family that loves him im so grateful i never had to go through the wickedness of this world
The thing with the Correlation Causation Fallacy (and partially the Genetic Fallacy) is that it goes both ways: similar to someone being more liberal as a result of stressors causing poorer mental health, someone can be more conservative due to the same stressors. That being said, one of these camps happens to alleviate poor mental health and the other camp exacerbates it.
The other funny thing is correlation isn't causation... but it doesn't mean it's not the cause either. Fallacist's fallacy.
Jeeze, you can hear that woman's discomfort. She sounds like she's on the verge of collapsing or breaking down into tear and is barely holding herself together.
Progressives don't have ideas they worship them! Her idol was wounded and it breaks her heart.
Woooow! What a shocker.........who could've seen that coming?!
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Me! The amount of entitlement we are seeing is astounding. It has become apparent that the parents who set rules and expectations raise better people.
Ive seen so many people tell me that you should love your kids more than your spouse. Or that its a "different" kind of love. This study pretty much says they are wrong.
It's a different kind if love. Stop equatting the two. Both parents should be willing to sacrifice and lay their lives down for their children. That a parent children love.
Why equate or even compare that to spousal/romantic love? Yuck!
Shall we spell it. Spousal of romantic love is the epitome of conditional love that must be diligently kept. Both spouses loved because of something and it's a transaction. Parental love is the love that comes out of the reproduction from the spousal love. The parent loves the child just cause. The child can be short, tall, fat, skinny, pretty, ugly etc. The parents typically still love the child. That definitely the definition of being different kinds of love. Now quit this nonsense about loving more etc. Most parents will prefer that their children survive them, that's not because they hate their spouse or love the spouse less, it just is because it's different.
@@STak-ju7gxYou are on a Christian channel and you dont even know what love is. Go research the words agape, eros, and philos. You have no idea what you are talking about.
Also look up what a covenant is. God is pretty big on those. You dont make a covenant with your children.
@@mastershake4641 I know where I am. And let's not decieve ourselves that couples are pairing up based on Agape alone. By the way, if we are talking Agape, that love is a love that has no discrimination, it will not distinguish wife, brother, sister, friend, children etc. It is love of God with which you love all. We as humans in the flesh do not have Agape, we can only start to express it through transformation.
Now I didn't say anything about marriage being unimportant or not being being a covenant. I specifically said that there is no such thing as comparing love for children and love for spouse because they are different types of loves and shouldn't be compared. Or where in the Bible does it establish that you should engage yourself in pitting love of spouse vs. Love of Children?
Where does the Bible tell you that your spouse is more important than your children and you should be wasting any precious time comparing the love you have for one vs. The other?
By the way, if you belive that, I hope you're also fine with the married and childless trend. To those guys, they are definitely more important to each other.
I don't think this is a good use of time. Both are different things and really shouldn't be compared. As a child, I don't concern myself with if my dad or mom love me more than they love the other, that's absurd! It's also absurd for full grown adults to be comparing if a spouse love them more than they love a child. Seriously! How sick is that? I definitely know that my mother and father will die first than bury me and many parents express that as their worst fear , even before the fear of losing each other death and it's only natural because it's a different love and not a comparison at all. It is also meant to be different. When a couple lose their child, both typically wish they could be in place of their child. They don't go, "oh well, thank goodness it's not my husband or wife" . They lose a child, they both wish it could be them instead of their own child, and they don't think anything further in terms of comparing who is more important than who.
Btw do you even care to know why the Bible doesn't compare both or play this ranking game? Because both are sacred and highly symbolic in the Bible. God shows in many passages the importance and symbolism of the parent child relationship as well as the marriage relationship. These are not compared or ranked and one is not used to diminish the other. They are different relationships that also happen to show our relationship to God. One is a relationship of life and nature, the other is a relationship of covenant and promise. To try to rank them and make one more important than the other is the problem. Who sent anyone to start these rankings and hierarchies?
@@STak-ju7gx they literally said in the study how you treat your spouse determines how you treat your kids
@@STak-ju7gx also I don't know why you think you can speak for every spouse, those who follow the Bible know as the husband they must love their wives as Christ loved the church, and the wife as well love their husbands. If you think the husband and the wife at least in a Christian household don't genuinely love each other and they just use each other for romantic purposes then you have a lot to learn buddy, and I'm assuming you're not married so I don't know why you think you can speak for them.
Maybe having two parents in the household IS a good thing.
You can do all the mental gymnastics you want, but if you want the truth, you need to be willing to accept it no matter how much it contradicts our sensibilities. "and you will know the truth and the truth will set you free" John 8:32
I was raised by conservative parents, were they perfect,no. I was diagnosed with major depressive disorder in 5th grade. I deal with it daily. But my parents got me help and were very supportive at home. They also expected a lot from me. My adhd and mdd did not define me, and they taught me to be responsible for myself and my actions. Yes, my mental health affects me, but it doesn't control me. My parents set me up for success to live with it as an adult. I talk about and seek help when it arises, but my personality isn't my mental illness.
I'm a non-spanking, authorative conservative parent. My children are amazing. I guess as an early education provider, i understand how to discpline without causing physical pain. It is definitely something that is a learned skill.
Good for you. here's a gold star
@@davidharman7245 why thank you so much!
Works for many, just not most! Glad it worked out well for your children, too.
Same, and you definitely deserve a gold star and more because parenting is hard.
My favorite kind of parent!! Many kids turn into criminals and have major behavioral problems even though they’re spanked. There’s other disciplining issues like lack of consistency, etc. Spanking doesn’t automatically mean quality discipline!
Burbank doesn't realize this research has been around for twice as long as she's been on this earth, and that these findings have been picked apart and analyzed numerous times to check for the very objections she is raising. I completed a BS in Psychology 20 years ago, and I remember studying these parenting styles, which were already 30ish years old when I was in college. One of the strengths of the parenting style categories is that it differentiates between Authoritative and Authoritarian. My faith is what defines my goals in raising my family, but I would say that studying the psychology literature on the topic did give me some direction in how would be the most effective way to guide my kids in following Jesus without being cold and authoritarian.
It takes courage to accept the truth. Not everybody can do it.
You can hear the disdain in the way she says conservative.
The amount of ice cream one eats don't cause sunburns, but not having the discipline to wear sunscreen does.
Thank god money has nothing to do with it. I raised two sons and a daughter while working two jobs. I wasnt watching my money like i should but after paying off my mobile home i bought a duplex after talking with my eldest son & daughter. He bought a duplex so i did too. Which now i am glad. My son and his friend pays minimal amount so they can buy a car or whatever. My daughter lives with me. But i seem to be part of the norm but not because i was in jeopardy of my life. I obtained a duvoce decree with restraining order for life from a judge who thought i needed it. I didnt ask. I was too afraid of him. But you can raise your children as a single parent and have great adults. My children are proof of that. Trauma or not deal with it and move on.
My dad used to say: kids with too much freedom will kill your freedom
Children need a strong leader. If not they are completely lost.
The just isn't about parenting. About how to parent in God's way.😊
My mom was a old feminist but she made sure to grow us sons masculine. Tough love. I depend on nobody but myself. I couldn't ask my mom for money for help I had to figure it out on my own.
Interesting how perfectly the most effective parenting style aligns with the relationship outlined in the Bible. An omnipresent, omniscient all powerful God lays out the tasks, conditions and standards for His children to live and what they should expect in return from Him and it works. "Never saw that coming", said nobody ever with 2 spare brain cells to rub together. Turns out we were right again -- not all cultures are equal.
I feel so bad for kids raised in super liberal households. They won’t stand a chance in the real world.
I love your guys' trolling at the end! If only there was a book or even a collection of books, you know like Basic Instructions Before Leaving Earth...hahahahahaha! Good one!
You guys had me rolling with that "Good Book" bit 😂😅😂😅
Obedience is such an amazing thing.
I praise my children for their obedience. It pays off! Recently we were at a Walmart when a criminal had an altercation with police. Several police cars came flying in. Scared errant children could have been hit by police cars. I gave clear firm commands and was obeyed without hesitation by my children and everyone was safe.
We also had a debrief about what happened and how their obedience kept everyone safe.
I just hope they’re trusting the science.
If only we had some acient wisdom to glean from about life and parenting...
So the body of research on parenting styles and outcomes shows that while Authoritive parenting is best overall, Authoritarian parenting, short of abuse, has significantly better outcomes than Permissive parenting. Tiger mom is a better parent than an anything goes party clown of a parent. Who knew?
I am conservative and so is my family, but we have quite a bit of mental health issues. God is good , though.
Remember the Mark Twain quote, “When I was a boy of 14, my father was so ignorant I could hardly stand to have the old man around. But when I got to be 21, I was astonished at how much the old man had learned in seven years.”😂
Bro…Zack is wild for that thumbnail 😂
It is not inaccurate though
Never thought I'd hear the word "derelict" and "goober" in the same sentence. That's why I subscribe. Lol
*Single Mothers* vs. Single Fathers
The one metric revealing the largest disparity in children's mental health and well-being.
I read once the word discipline derives from the word disciple. Your child is your disciple. You are their most important teacher and it is your responsibility to teach them how to be independent, responsible, upstanding members of society.
What book was it? Did you figure it out?
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Matthew 22 1-13 (KJV)
"22 And Jesus answered and spake unto them again by parables, and said,
2 The kingdom of heaven is like unto a certain king, which made a marriage for his son,
3 And sent forth his servants to call them that were bidden to the wedding: and they would not come.
4 Again, he sent forth other servants, saying, Tell them which are bidden, Behold, I have prepared my dinner: my oxen and my fatlings are killed, and all things are ready: come unto the marriage.
5 But they made light of it, and went their ways, one to his farm, another to his merchandise:
6 And the remnant took his servants, and entreated them spitefully, and slew them.
7 But when the king heard thereof, he was wroth: and he sent forth his armies, and destroyed those murderers, and burned up their city.
8 Then saith he to his servants, The wedding is ready, but they which were bidden were not worthy.
9 Go ye therefore into the highways, and as many as ye shall find, bid to the marriage.
10 So those servants went out into the highways, and gathered together all as many as they found, both bad and good: and the wedding was furnished with guests.
11 And when the king came in to see the guests, he saw there a man which had not on a wedding garment:
12 And he saith unto him, Friend, how camest thou in hither not having a wedding garment? And he was speechless.
13 Then said the king to the servants, Bind him hand and foot, and take him away, and cast him into outer darkness, there shall be weeping and gnashing of teeth."
Mothers set the standard for who their sons will choose for their partners and fathers set the standards for their daughters...a good relationship between mom & dad is also crucial.
Remember not just that collection called the bible, but the divine institution that gave it to us, the Catholic Church. If you have the bible but no clue how to interpret it, you will be all over the place. Jesus prayed "may they be one".
One flock, one shepherd.
Unsurprising
I seem to be an outlier. I was a non spanking very conservative, authoritative parent. The adult kids are ok.
Me, too. My son does not back talk us. It’s not allowed. There are rules. There are consequences. The consequences just don’t include physical assault.
Authoritative does not require spanking or even raising your voice often. I was a teacher, 5’2” in some of the most difficult to control high schools, where students already hated authority. Had no issues because I was authoritative, meaning firm, fair, and consistent. Subbing in classrooms that were still the Wild West, if I had just a couple of my usual students, the class would be under control. In fact, most of my students loved my classes because we could do fun things and learn without drama. It requires the parent/teacher to be self aware, and engaged. I only raised my voice once in 10 years. Authoritarian is the opposite, seems to wield power for power’s sake, treats subordinates unequally, lots of aggression and threats which are rarely followed up on. Conservatives tend towards authoritative because the two principles are very similar. Authoritative means you cannot parent based on guilt. You have to be willing to be unliked to teach the bigger lesson because you care about the long term results. I would say that is a fundamental difference between conservatives and liberals.
That's the same woman who thought car jackings were going up because the price of cars was too high, so people were stealing cars so they could get to work.
I'm a conservative Christian with mental health problems. I think one of the big differences is that I believe in ultimate good. I believe God created me, loves me, wants the best for me and that in the end He is in control.
I can't imagine going through this thinking the universe is a cold and uncaring place and that I am nothing more than atoms that came together for the 80+ years I intend to live.