Helping an 80 year old who hasn't showered in 3 years 🥺🩷

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  • Опубліковано 30 тра 2024
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    Hi I’m Aurikatariina and I deep clean my followers' homes for free! ❤️
    Today I had the honor of helping an 80 year old lady. Her home was something I had never seen before and it was a sad sight. The Mountain off dirty pads in the bathroom for me it was lovely because I got to clean it but I can’t help but feel sad for the granny. The whole apartment was covered in grease and dirt and spiderwebs. But I can assure you that underneath all that grime there is a beautiful home. I really want to make this granny happy when she returns home. This story is something you would not believe so stay tuned!
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    Summary:
    00:00 intro
    01:38 coming up
    01:53 emptying the living room
    03:39 emptying the bed
    04:06 carrying out trash
    04:37 collecting more trash
    05:31 dusting
    06:09 Removing spider web
    07:04 trashes under the bed
    08:03 Washing the night stand
    09:41 Washing the floor
    10:09 Washing a greasy lamp
    10:49 Washing the floor
    12:21 Removing trash from the bathroom
    12:55 more trashes
    13:16 even more trashes
    13:43 Washing the sink
    14:25 Washing the shower
    14:58 Washing thw bathroom mirror
    15:48 Washing the shower wall
    16:07 before and after pictures

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  • @Aurikatariina
    @Aurikatariina  9 місяців тому +329

    💖Go to my sponsor betterhelp.com/Aurikatariina for 10% off your first month of therapy with Betterhelp and get matched with a therapist who will listen and help!

    • @sillykitty1818
      @sillykitty1818 9 місяців тому +31

      I have been using better help for about 2 months because of you. I found a great therapist and it has had a huge impact on my life. My anxiety had gotten crippling and it’s so much better now. Thanks Auri!

    • @Keti_Charkseliani
      @Keti_Charkseliani 9 місяців тому +7

      Those pads 😮😫
      Auri 👏👏👏

    • @marielaaleiramh3819
      @marielaaleiramh3819 9 місяців тому +11

      Hi Aurii I love the video I wish it was longer !!!!❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

    • @thantthirihtetjenniferwhit1816
      @thantthirihtetjenniferwhit1816 9 місяців тому +5

      It's expensive...it's so dirty...it's too much...do you want someone to clean the house?

    • @Aurikatariina
      @Aurikatariina  9 місяців тому +16

      @@sillykitty1818Omg I love to hear that!! 😭🩷

  • @evablack6934
    @evablack6934 9 місяців тому +3872

    Can't stress enough how cool it must be to have a drain in the middle of a bathroom! Finns are genius for that!

    • @unknown-kh6lb
      @unknown-kh6lb 9 місяців тому +177

      We also have it in Arab Countries

    • @Aliaselias727
      @Aliaselias727 9 місяців тому +76

      I thought the same 🙂 super practical

    • @pumpkin_fox
      @pumpkin_fox 9 місяців тому +114

      I agree it may be useful, but I personally prefer to have a bathtub. Floor drain reminds me of public showers, it wouldn't be comfortable for me in everyday use.
      I showed it to my partner and asked if he likes it, he said "no. it's like shower in prison"🤣 sorry, to each their own🙃

    • @AlexBsSecret
      @AlexBsSecret 9 місяців тому +281

      @@pumpkin_fox you can have both a bathtub AND a drain in your bathroom. The drain will still be extremely helpful in the cleaning process

    • @HelgaCavoli
      @HelgaCavoli 9 місяців тому +154

      In Brazil there's a drain in the shower and usually one outside as well (sink, toilet sit). It's VERY practical.

  • @BeatrizPereira-mk2cr
    @BeatrizPereira-mk2cr 9 місяців тому +2815

    I think more and more furniture companies should reach out to you and provide for furniture to help these people, especially elderly people. We should also be pressuring our governments more and demand better social care for the weakest of our society! It’s unthinkable that an 80 year old person, who has worked her whole life has to live in such conditions 😢

    • @zietray8347
      @zietray8347 9 місяців тому +21

      i love this idea!

    • @LoXena
      @LoXena 9 місяців тому +24

      Ikea

    • @donnamaco1
      @donnamaco1 9 місяців тому +1

      But we in the U.S. have plenty of money to bomb other poor people in foreign countries.

    • @kaylariggs5188
      @kaylariggs5188 9 місяців тому +3

      That's actually a great idea. Would be great promotion for them! Auri you should have your manager reach out to some furniture companies! They send mattresses to UA-cam creators all the time in exchange for promo/ review. Could do that with you! Right now Helix has been sending out a lot of mattresses for creator review. Purple and Nectar are two others that have commonly done the same. Also, there are companies like Brooke Linen that send sheet / bedding sets for review.

    • @BeatrizPereira-mk2cr
      @BeatrizPereira-mk2cr 9 місяців тому +1

      @@kaylariggs5188 Indeed!! I hope these companies are aware of how much influence social media ACTUALLY has and how their numbers will grow!
      The #1 caregiver should always be the government, though. I work and pay taxes so I DEMAND to have my money’s worth of care for everyone, no matter where they are in life. If you work and you pay taxes, you should have access to the services you’re paying/paid for, it’s that easy! That’s what tax money is for and yet, our “representatives” looove to waste money on sh*t that IS NOT necessary and putting it in their pockets.

  • @sebastianmaker6798
    @sebastianmaker6798 8 місяців тому +529

    You cant believe how much these videos have helped me. I've been severely depressed for months after some less than great things happened to me. Because my body felt dirty, I didn't care if my house was dirty. I would only wash my clothing for work and occasionally some dishes to eat with, and that was it. Over the last week, I've gotten my house clean. The last three days I've had the flu, which just made it harder. Now the only things I have left are to fold the laundry once it's dry and to wash the floors. Once the weather becomes rainy, I'll start on the yard too.

    • @antonattachihombori9561
      @antonattachihombori9561 7 місяців тому +31

      Hope you are much better now.

    • @cordoesart
      @cordoesart 7 місяців тому +22

      That sounds amazing! Keep it up✨✌🏻

    • @Uchuujin.
      @Uchuujin. 6 місяців тому +27

      I'm dealing with a heavy depression too so I can relate. Every little task you complete is a win! You will see that cleaning and taking care of your hygiene is a form of therapy too. Little by little ♡

    • @shmeepshmoop2717
      @shmeepshmoop2717 6 місяців тому +8

      thats really awesome!! cleaning can be so difficult sometimes

    • @kristyphan8676
      @kristyphan8676 4 місяці тому +3

      proud of you!

  • @Floben-bh7xk
    @Floben-bh7xk 3 місяці тому +50

    Hi Aurikatarina, I am worried about your health. When you enter this kind of homes please wear mask all the time. Please take care of your health. May God bless you.💕

    • @RebeccaAbrahansson
      @RebeccaAbrahansson 3 місяці тому +7

      I would not go in there even with a mask

    • @Floben-bh7xk
      @Floben-bh7xk 3 місяці тому +4

      I understand you. I don’t think I can do what she’s doing. But she is doing it with great passion. So I suggested the mask. I still worried about her health. I hope she will be in good health and God bless her.

    • @mpatey63
      @mpatey63 2 місяці тому +2

      Needs more PPE than just a mask ! Why is she contaminating her own phone by using it while cleaning ?

  • @susanswanson2253
    @susanswanson2253 9 місяців тому +1458

    It's so sad that no one was helping this person. My mom is 86 and me and my siblings help her all the time. We help clean her house for her. It's sad no family was there to help.

    • @the-red-ghost
      @the-red-ghost 9 місяців тому +26

      I agree 😔rip granny

    • @unknown-kh6lb
      @unknown-kh6lb 9 місяців тому +19

      That's really warmed my heart 😢♡♡

    • @kseniyaigorevna7177
      @kseniyaigorevna7177 9 місяців тому +35

      Возможно при жизни она была плохим человеком, что посеешь, то пожнёшь😑

    • @patchouleigh_
      @patchouleigh_ 9 місяців тому +174

      Ideally, yes, family could help. Sometimes family cannot help. Maybe the family has tried to help . Sometimes elderly wont let someone help, or they are difficult to deal with, so it can be healthier for the family to stay away. Each family ia different. We just dont know whats really going on so we must not judge.

    • @Lailiana-2001-m
      @Lailiana-2001-m 9 місяців тому

      @@kseniyaigorevna7177فعلا الاشخاص السيئين يهرب الجميع منه

  • @caliinthevalley24681
    @caliinthevalley24681 9 місяців тому +1164

    Man I just adore this woman. No judgment just a willingness to help. I swear I wish I could love my job the way she does. You are an absolute angel.

    • @carnation_cat
      @carnation_cat 9 місяців тому +22

      @@flipflopsofpeaceandjustice Many of us wouldn't do it even for that! 🙃 I hope she makes $5,000 per month on sponsorships and clicks. 😊 Who knows, maybe more...

    • @kekepalmer1996
      @kekepalmer1996 9 місяців тому +2

      @@flipflopsofpeaceandjustice she isn't begging? 💀💀💀

    • @Bejaphone
      @Bejaphone 9 місяців тому +8

      @@flipflopsofpeaceandjustice it doesnt matter why she does it, it doesnt change the fact that she helps people.

    • @LuQiYun
      @LuQiYun 8 місяців тому

      ​@@flipflopsofpeaceandjusticeeven if i will have 100m subscribers and likes i wouldnt do it, so disgusting and stinky. I dont even want to smell my own fart much less other's dirt. Her job is one of a kind not many ppl want to do, she did it happily in a positive way, instead of being a jerk you better skip her channel if u dont like to see it.

    • @donnacales1975
      @donnacales1975 8 місяців тому +10

      Wow, unbelievable comments. She helps people & that means the world to those people. Please, always be kind! I know I'd welcome her completely into my home!

  • @user-bo9gp9bz4d
    @user-bo9gp9bz4d 8 місяців тому +339

    I don't understand how their mom could have been without a shower for 3 years! Did they not check on her? This is abuse of the elderly. Regardless of where they Iive or what's going on in their lives. I feel so sorry for this woman. Thank you for stepping in and helping her.

    • @KyleEvra
      @KyleEvra 5 місяців тому +2

      😂

    • @ella9574
      @ella9574 4 місяці тому +22

      Where were her children ????😮

    • @your.local_person257
      @your.local_person257 4 місяці тому +40

      you did NOT have to assume that. the kids might have been busy, the mom might have been too ashamed from judgement (and the kids didnt know), or just about endless amounts of reasons. its also NOT abuse, do your research.

    • @Aya-zr5hh
      @Aya-zr5hh 4 місяці тому +22

      I live with my grandmother who recently fell down and now thankfully she's healing but that's besides the point. My grandmother had fell in the kitchen when I stepped outside just to collect a package. I heard something fall but she didn't make a sound or call me from outside, just because she didn't want to worry me unfortunately she broke a bone so she had to go the hospital. After coming home my grandmother whenever she needed something would always apologize to me saying she's causing me trouble. Then I would have to tell her over and over again that she's not a burden and that it's my duty. Due to family reasons I live with my grandmother, but I wonder if my situation was different I wouldn't be living her and therefore I wonder what the house would've been like if I wasn't there. I guess what I'm trying to say is not all situations are abuse. Depending on the elderly person they tend to be independent and want to do things themselves afraid to be a burden therefore she probably didn't tell them and unfortunately they had to find out about the house when her daughter came to cut her hair. Please do not assume things without knowing the full story.

    • @becg5611
      @becg5611 4 місяці тому +16

      The daughter said she ‘couldn’t bear to touch’ her own mother. Disgusting.

  • @mo-sy9ws
    @mo-sy9ws 9 місяців тому +48

    I dont know why, but taking a shower always leaves me with a feeling of gratitude. No matter my problems, i always have at least this blessing in my life and i love it😊

    • @kpazsoldan
      @kpazsoldan 10 днів тому

      For me, it's when I crawl into bed at night. I always feel really grateful when I'm snuggling into my pillow that I have a warm, safe bed and I feel for the people who do not.

  • @DonnaMSchmid
    @DonnaMSchmid 9 місяців тому +937

    I have an aunt who has been slowly going down the dementia road. For those who wonder why the daughter didn't realize what was going on, let me tell you about my aunt... I live about 30 minutes from her, but her 3 sons live quite a distance further (two live, literally, across the country); because of that, I am the one who visits her the most, who has been helping her with her everyday life, etc. While the two who live in other states are good about calling her every week or two, they didn't realize how bad she had become, because often she can speak on the phone very well. When they came into town (to visit her for her 95th birthday) they had a big shock, trying to understand how she had deteriorated "so quickly"! One even accused me of buying her a computer that was too complex for her to use -- instead of understanding that when we bought the computer 3 years ago, she could use it perfectly well. Now she doesn't even remember how to turn it on! This happens a lot with dementia patients -- on the phone they can sound fairly normal, despite the fact that their everyday existence has deteriorated dramatically!
    I don't blame the family for not understanding how dire the situation was with their mother... BUT I hope they understand that she cannot live independently anymore, and that they should step in to move her to a place where she can be cared for and live safely.

    • @donnamaco1
      @donnamaco1 9 місяців тому +38

      100,000 thumbs up!👍

    • @Riathathor
      @Riathathor 9 місяців тому +22

      thank you, that was exactly my question

    • @prishanireddy689
      @prishanireddy689 9 місяців тому +24

      I totally agree. Thank you for having helped your aunt. Hopefully she will be placed in a nurturing environment. All will be well with the correct steps taken. Take care and God bless

    • @fionastevens4170
      @fionastevens4170 9 місяців тому +56

      People with dementia present very well on the phone and even during short face to face conversations. Dementia is becoming a much bigger problem due to us living longer and longer and is causing nightmares in hospitals where disruptive behaviour is impacting on the recovering of other patients.
      As a society we need to understand more about dementia especially after reading some of these comments.

    • @anluxem7876
      @anluxem7876 9 місяців тому +19

      She’s unlucky to have children like that

  • @mariechosgaire6984
    @mariechosgaire6984 9 місяців тому +782

    Guys, I just spent 3 days cleaning my father in laws house which was insane. I couldn't believe he lived in such conditions, everything fell apart for him when his wife, my Mil, divorced him 10 years ago. Spider webs galore, grime, maggots, you name it. I got it spotless! He will see it in the next few hours when he is back from his trip.

    • @Qrtuop
      @Qrtuop 9 місяців тому +80

      You are a saint. I hope the work was shared 50% by your husband.

    • @hadilayyad6147
      @hadilayyad6147 9 місяців тому +33

      You’re such a kind soul, he’ll probably cry when he steps in his home, I know I would

    • @mariechosgaire6984
      @mariechosgaire6984 9 місяців тому +166

      Guys, he loved it. He messaged my husband last night and simply said "Wow, you don't know how much I needed this" 😢😢Made me pretty emotional. My husband watched the kids for the whole 3 days I did it. And my furbabies so he helped tremendously. If he helped with the cleaning part, maybe we would be getting divorced now. 😂😂😂😂

    • @SuperEarther
      @SuperEarther 9 місяців тому +6

      geez thats horrible! how did you get rid of the spiders? i keep getting bit when i sleep! 🤮

    • @mariechosgaire6984
      @mariechosgaire6984 9 місяців тому +32

      @@SuperEarther I didn't get rid of the spiders yet, just their webs as I didn't have time. We thought he was back today from his trip but he came back yesterday so I was pushed for time. I catch them on their web and bring them and shake them out the window. Haven't the heart to hoover them 😂

  • @AutumLove-qy2qq
    @AutumLove-qy2qq 9 місяців тому +124

    I love how she dosent throw away stuffed animals cuz u never know if it’s from childhood that could hold tons of memories

    • @85meltor
      @85meltor 7 місяців тому +21

      She put it on the bed all dirty 😭

    • @chiba_liba
      @chiba_liba 4 місяці тому +4

      ​@@85meltor yeaah😢 and didn’t even clean the bed properly, there’s a lot of dust and mites there((

    • @icantsle3p
      @icantsle3p 4 місяці тому +13

      @@chiba_liba if you watched you'd know she said she wasnt cleaning the bed because its being replaced 7:15

    • @megsley
      @megsley 4 місяці тому +1

      I doubt those toys belonged to her kids

    • @MatthewTaylor-yz4dn
      @MatthewTaylor-yz4dn 3 місяці тому

      More likely hold billions of germs from the hundred thousand stinking wretch of bloodied sanitary towels piled up to the ceiling like a twin towers effigy. Beyond gross.

  • @Julia-zd8tc
    @Julia-zd8tc 9 місяців тому +55

    What I love and appreciate is that you don’t show the faces of the people- I am sure that you would make even more Klicks if you show the people. But you respect the helpless and desperate people and their background stories instead of blaming them and showing them to the world.
    It’s clear that you live what you do and that you love to help. Thank you!

  • @PalaszewskiFamily
    @PalaszewskiFamily 9 місяців тому +571

    Dementia was my first thought when I saw the bathroom, used diapers, cobwebs. Auri, thank you for helping Dorothy and her loved ones. Dementia is the worst and nobody should deal with it alone.

    • @SuperEarther
      @SuperEarther 9 місяців тому +10

      i saw a bag full of shitty diapers once in a bag on the street i was walking once. i looked in it and smelled the most horrible smell!!! :(
      i almost puked lol

    • @Asiya-jq7kz
      @Asiya-jq7kz 9 місяців тому +21

      @@SuperEarther...

    • @Bella77260
      @Bella77260 8 місяців тому +9

      Dementia is awful, that said the place has been like that many years, evident from its state. So glad she’s now got some help.

    • @squashtomato7803
      @squashtomato7803 6 місяців тому +4

      How can nobody have known about her issues? My moms 81 and she in better health than me. I need to get healthier as I don’t want to end up like this

    • @bunjijumper5345
      @bunjijumper5345 6 місяців тому +1

      I have cobwebs everywhere, and that doesnt meant anything. I dont like to kill anything, so I move around them.

  • @asteniaa
    @asteniaa 9 місяців тому +988

    We care about you Auri! Please get a biohazard suit, be safe ❤️

    • @lylky
      @lylky 9 місяців тому +34

      Yes please

    • @asteniaa
      @asteniaa 9 місяців тому +19

      @@flipflopsofpeaceandjustice your mom

    • @sarasparks1992
      @sarasparks1992 9 місяців тому +25

      Genuinely curious how you think this comment is "corny"...? Please explain@@flipflopsofpeaceandjustice

    • @ash3227
      @ash3227 9 місяців тому +13

      Do you not understand what biohazards are?

    • @chelongogan3904
      @chelongogan3904 9 місяців тому

      @@ash3227 she can get germs viruses mold and bacteria in her lungs...and toxic mold kills people and pets...no one should be doing that without biohazard suits and respirators

  • @emminor
    @emminor 9 місяців тому +93

    Sometimes when I watch these videos I feel really sad for the residents that live there, but at the same time I also feel joy because I know what you’re doing for them will completely change their lives for the better, I believe the work you do saves lives❤

    • @lennycorner3287
      @lennycorner3287 5 місяців тому

      Dann fängt es von vorne an. Die wird wieder den Müll horten

  • @princessmedion5342
    @princessmedion5342 9 місяців тому +20

    Heartbreaking that everyone had neglected this poor lady to such an extent. Thank you for helping her.

  • @Awoosa
    @Awoosa 9 місяців тому +188

    I'm so happy that you're starting to be able to afford new mattresses for your clients lately. Seriously, there should be bedding companies who sponsor you by providing mattresses and bedsheets! 😤

  • @Chunsun-fj2oh
    @Chunsun-fj2oh 9 місяців тому +17

    This poor lady I can't believe she had to sleep in that bed I'm so glad u cleaned it for her

    • @the-red-ghost
      @the-red-ghost 9 місяців тому +4

      Unfortunately she couldn't see the final results 😔

    • @Chunsun-fj2oh
      @Chunsun-fj2oh 9 місяців тому +2

      @@the-red-ghost ik Bru that's so sad

  • @kelseyandfamily
    @kelseyandfamily 9 місяців тому +10

    Of all the houses you've cleaned, this is probably the saddest :(

  • @nemaheptinstall2896
    @nemaheptinstall2896 9 місяців тому +24

    I've never seen anyone in my life so happy about cleaning. I wish you lived near me lol! It's so nice of you and your friend to help this family. I hope they were very grateful!

  • @insi7639
    @insi7639 9 місяців тому +83

    That reminds me of the old lady I used to take care of. She couldn't do much by herself and I was hired as a domestic help. I was shocked at how neglected she lived there: It hadn't been cleaned there for at least 2 years, moldy underwear with diarrhea, rotting meat in a broken freezer...even though her son and family doctor visited her regularly. I've spent weeks getting this big house back in good shape and she had felt so uncomfortable and also embarrassed and so grateful when it was nice and clean again. I don't want to know how many old people there are who can no longer take care of themselves and live like this.

    • @genwhite1175
      @genwhite1175 9 місяців тому +18

      Bless you for doing that. Terrible that her son and doctor didn't do something about her living conditions earlier.

    • @Widdekuu91
      @Widdekuu91 9 місяців тому +1

      It is possible that they hired the domestic help...and that that is what the son and family doctor had done?@@genwhite1175

    • @insi7639
      @insi7639 9 місяців тому +17

      @@genwhite1175 thank you. It was such a sweet old lady and was really shocked, that son and doctor didn't do something about her conditions, like how could one not see this...

  • @meagan.phillip
    @meagan.phillip 9 місяців тому +364

    Just putting this out there: in situations like this story it’s not as simple and easy as “getting family to help” once people of a certain age are living in their house in this state it’s too much to manage even with assistance. Especially people with dementia/Alzheimer’s or a disability, anyone who tries to help or change their routine in any way is met with resistance. People with dementia can become very agitated and older people in general like to stay in their home they’ve stayed for years. Since she has children and grand children I’m sure they’ve tried helping many times but it’s very easy to underestimate how big and uncontrolled the issue is. Thank goodness for Auri and her skills so she could help this family

    • @carolinejohn4537
      @carolinejohn4537 9 місяців тому +60

      I don't care HOW agitated my mother would have been, there is NO WAY any human being should have been left on their own In that filth and not having showered FOR 3 YEARS! The daughter felt she had to put on rubber gloves just to touch her own mother? - well if she had looked out for her sooner and on a regular basis- arranging a nursing home sooner she wouldn't have been so repelled by her bodily condition. She's lucky - 16:30 her mother had to LIVE in that body for 3 years. I'm SO angry with her whole family for neglecting that poor soul. Good job she didn't treat THEM that way when they were growing up isnt it???!!! She was a good mum to them, and this is how they repay her in her time of need!

    • @talex1625
      @talex1625 9 місяців тому +49

      Auri says that the daughter left it for three years before she visited her elderly mother, who was living with dementia. Three years! And when she did visit, she just called on a stranger to clean up the mess. That's pretty shameful by most people's standards.

    • @carolinejohn4537
      @carolinejohn4537 9 місяців тому +9

      @@talex1625 Too right it is, totally agree! Its unforgivable.

    • @mareezy
      @mareezy 9 місяців тому +25

      We shouldn't judge if we don't know the full story.

    • @beckydustin4713
      @beckydustin4713 9 місяців тому +44

      ​@@talex1625you have no idea that relationship between this mother and daughter the mother could have been an extremely abusive person and the daughter kept her distance for her own mental health but still came in and did what she could to help you don't know and maybe you ought to think about that before you judge

  • @GameGardener
    @GameGardener 3 місяці тому +3

    Your attitude is pure. Everyone needs to be a little more like you!!!❤

  • @Lil_Pusheen
    @Lil_Pusheen 6 місяців тому +10

    This person is so adorable🥹 your hard work is appreciated 💖

  • @NataliaSantos
    @NataliaSantos 9 місяців тому +380

    Unfortunately, the elderly have suffered a lot from the lack of public policies and social assistance. In the country where I live, fewer and fewer young people want to work in elderly care because it is a stressful job. Congratulations on your big heart Auri.

    • @Fbinitie
      @Fbinitie 9 місяців тому +34

      The problem isn't public policy it's embaracing as a society our parents cared for us for years and she left her mother with dementia in a house on her own for 3 years with her unable to shower. It makes me so angry we are shameless as a society.

    • @Jako1987
      @Jako1987 9 місяців тому +17

      ​@@FbinitieIndividualism or something. Back in the days 3+ generations lived together. That propably wasn't easy either.

    • @Fbinitie
      @Fbinitie 9 місяців тому +15

      @@Jako1987 Hardly people are chosing to do that now burdening parents for their convinence. We expect so much from parents now with cost of living you have adult children free loading and living with their parents up till late 30's. This is just pure selfishness we ask for the world for our parents and basic care needs aren't considered or met when they need the bare minimum and she was left living like a homeless person in her old age.

    • @donnamaco1
      @donnamaco1 9 місяців тому +25

      In the US. we think it is OK to just let someone live like this. I called the Department of Children and Families and was told by the case worker that, "some people like to live like this," and there is nothing you as a daughter can do about this mess. My mom had suffered dementia and a lifetime of mental health torment, and I could not get any help or even verbal advise. They just let the elderly rot. The medical system in the U.S. is awful unless you have very deep deep pockets.

    • @Fbinitie
      @Fbinitie 9 місяців тому +11

      @@donnamaco1 She didn't need deep pockets clearly her mom is living alone and paying rent that money can be used for her mom to live with her. This isn't supported living. Do you know what happens when you are soiling yourself and you haven't showered in three years you get fungal rashes and bed sores ... there is no way that in that house her mother isn't covered in this and you haven't seen you mum that has had dementia for 5 years in a minimum of three years ? As she is certain her mum hasn't showered. It's not the states responsibility to take care of you parents if you think that you're silly. I hope you teach your children that because then they will leave you for the state in future. The way life is now we aren't even likely to get pensions and wont even get to retire. Keep beleving it's the responsibility of the state teach your own kids that better still keep habing fur babies see what will happen in your own old age.

  • @ThKiwi
    @ThKiwi 9 місяців тому +15

    The poor resident! Oh my gosh, I’m so glad you were there to help. 😢😢

    • @diannebernau3293
      @diannebernau3293 9 місяців тому +1

      This video was so sad. I can’t imagine my mother living in such conditions. Has she had any visitors in years or been left on her own? It appears that her daughter hadn’t seen her mother in three years and was there to cut her hair. To be so repulsed that she couldn’t touch her mother was the saddest thing I have ever heard. I wonder what the story is between the daughter and her mother. This apartment looks like a garage. It is so cold in atmosphere. Thank you Auri for your compassion and big heart in helping this lady. You are truly an angel 😘💕🥰😇🇦🇺.

  • @Yinyangandgalaxy210
    @Yinyangandgalaxy210 9 місяців тому +40

    When I watch her videos I always get a huge burst of motivation to clean my house.

  • @heathermariesmith5267
    @heathermariesmith5267 Місяць тому +1

    I wish the States had a bathroom setup like in most of these videos,it makes cleaning so much easier. It just makes sense.

  • @diannebernau3293
    @diannebernau3293 9 місяців тому +57

    This video was so sad. I can’t imagine my mother living in such conditions. Has she had any visitors in years or been left on her own? It appears that her daughter hadn’t seen her mother in three years and was there to cut her hair. To be so repulsed that she couldn’t touch her mother was the saddest thing I have ever heard. I wonder what the story is between the daughter and her mother. This apartment looks like a garage. It is so cold in atmosphere. Thank you for your compassion and big heart in helping this lady. You are truly an angel 😘💕🥰😇🇦🇺.

    • @tigertbalm
      @tigertbalm 9 місяців тому

      I assume the daughter doesn't live nearby. My mother with dementia washes her body but just pulls her hair back in a ponytail. it seems to be a muscle memory to do that but she doesn't wash her hair anymore. She will let me wash it but never seems to notice if it needs washing,I always initiate it. But she does brush it before pulling it back.

  • @TheSweetSundown
    @TheSweetSundown 9 місяців тому +256

    I'm usually careful to judge people but I just can't comprehend how no one cared for the lady especially since she has dementia
    No one should have to face this condition on their own
    This apartment really was a cage of isolation and being overwhelmed. You are an angel for what you do Auri!!
    I truly hope granny got help after all ❤

    • @paulamunhoz
      @paulamunhoz 9 місяців тому +37

      I know stories where the elderly really pushed back help… and it’s difficult to get official intervention.

    • @donnamaco1
      @donnamaco1 9 місяців тому +24

      This happens in the U.S. a lot, but it is hidden, and the people that experience this do not have a voice to communicate the suffering and often do not have presents of mind to be their own advocate. I was a crime scene tech and saw this way too often. The average person does not realize how often it happens. Remember you inherit this awful system of healthcare. If nothing is done to rectify this problem, you will be this woman too. What is in place to stop it?

    • @ContactsNfilters
      @ContactsNfilters 9 місяців тому +46

      You never know what people are going through. My mother was abusive and even after my older sister came to stay and take care of her she was still verbally abusive and would just go off at the drop of a hat. If you met her you wouldn't know at first because she would probably be super pleasant to you. She refused to go to a doctor after awhile and my sister was afraid she would lose her nursing license and she left. So now I'm staying with her and after a couple years and many trips to the ER for her seizures she finally agreed to go to a doctor and thankfully we got one that was very understanding and not pushy for extra test. I think she was also dealing with recurrent UTIs which can really affect their cognitive abilities and now I have her taking a high dose of d-mannose and drinking plenty of water. Many people are barely making it with the wages and prices of things today and if I had to work on top of bring here for my mom and having my own mental health issues... well I probably wouldn't be able to deal with it and I definately wouldn't be able to afford my medications and insulin while earning minimum wage (7.25 in Texas.)

    • @trishf2184
      @trishf2184 9 місяців тому +25

      Care of the elderly is HARD. Many parents are asshats, and get wors0e as they get older. It's expensive and gross a lot of the time. There are no RIGHT answers. As a person you do the best you can and go to your community for help .
      in the US if you live in a city that has NOT defunded THE POLICE , they all have social.workers on staff JUST for this kind of help and resources for folks in their town.

    • @Suelynngrr
      @Suelynngrr 9 місяців тому +1

      I absolutely agree!

  • @brendabenton2554
    @brendabenton2554 8 місяців тому +6

    Most elderly people 75 & older are too old & weak to clean their homes anymore..as well as some have dementia & Alzheimers. It's so sad. But, it's so beautiful when a younger, caring person will suddenly pitch in, & clean these homes for elderly grandparents. 😢❤❤

  • @user-se7ro9wj4m
    @user-se7ro9wj4m День тому

    Μου φαίνεται αδιανόητο η οικογένειά της να την έχει αφήσει για τόσο μεγάλο διάστημα σε αυτήν την κατάσταση!

  • @janeemflores
    @janeemflores 9 місяців тому +60

    It's so sad to see someone live through this. I hope somebody helps her clean up after this. It should be at least 3-4x a week if it can't be done daily. Thank you for helping her.

  • @ktopalova2310
    @ktopalova2310 9 місяців тому +111

    Auri, this may sound weird, but watching you touch so many dirty things makes me overcome my germophobia little by little 😅 Also I just love watching your videos, you’re amazing ❤

    • @Stopthisrightnow560
      @Stopthisrightnow560 9 місяців тому +4

      I wouldn't say I was ever a germaphobe but after cleaning for a while, I'm horrified to admit to myself the kinds of things I'd be okay touching with my bare hands. 😅

    • @jessicaann5641
      @jessicaann5641 9 місяців тому +10

      I'm the opposite, I just keep screaming (in my head) "OMG WHERE'S YOUR HAZMAT SUIT AND RESPIRATOR AND GOGGLES!!!!????" Surely this is NOT healthy to do wearing a tshirt and jeans. Jesus.

    • @ambersosnowski8630
      @ambersosnowski8630 9 місяців тому

      It’s ok. It helps me to so I know how you feel

  • @gsand07
    @gsand07 9 місяців тому +6

    I loved watching this even though it made me cry a little. I have always loved to clean and started cleaning homes for extra $ about 8yrs ago. It was only supposed to be a temporary gig but my clients wouldn't let me quit 🙂 So now at 63yrs old I am still cleaning houses and I must confess it keeps me in shape because it is hard work! It is very satisfying, though! Much love to you, great job!❤

  • @user-bz2zk8pi6l
    @user-bz2zk8pi6l 4 місяці тому +6

    May God bless you 10x over for the compassion and care and help you share and give to others! You're an angel, my dear!! 🥲🥰💜

  • @sabinekarlsson8803
    @sabinekarlsson8803 9 місяців тому +176

    I hope that poor grandma can move into a nursing home suitable for her as quickly as possible!

    • @marh8750
      @marh8750 7 місяців тому +8

      She passed away

    • @marianna3253
      @marianna3253 6 місяців тому

      how do you know?@@marh8750

    • @rescue4lifeAB
      @rescue4lifeAB 3 місяці тому +1

      ​@@marh8750 really? 😢

  • @user-pz7qv6ey4z
    @user-pz7qv6ey4z 9 місяців тому +9

    Hiting the like button,before seeing the video,because you know it is Auri!

  • @nheffie6300
    @nheffie6300 7 місяців тому +4

    Your commentary and sing-song voice is pure light! Love your positivity and hard work. You are an angel

  • @laurelwhite5102
    @laurelwhite5102 9 місяців тому +6

    I’m so glad you are wearing gloves and mask at least. You do such a wonderful job of making the home safe for people

  • @MermaidPrincessLuna
    @MermaidPrincessLuna 9 місяців тому +35

    What a fantastic transformation. That lamp was beautiful underneath all that dirt!

  • @sarahconklin1256
    @sarahconklin1256 9 місяців тому +46

    You should tell the daughter not to feel guilty. They hide that aren’t doing well and then it goes downhill from there. Thank you for all your work. You are a Saint.

  • @angelxx3
    @angelxx3 3 місяці тому

    Your attitude is just so beautiful. Thank you for helping this woman

  • @Texasdittos
    @Texasdittos 8 місяців тому +4

    This is beautiful and I know the Lord smiled down at you when you did this.

  • @notjustanotherbrickinthewall
    @notjustanotherbrickinthewall 9 місяців тому +5

    My block was without hot water since june. We had it for 5 days and then they shut it off again because of construction work. Today we received hot water and I finally took as shower normally and I was so so grateful!

  • @Rebecca_Bailey
    @Rebecca_Bailey 9 місяців тому +3

    Anyone else find Aurikatariina’s voice soothing? 😂😂

  • @brendamccormack4576
    @brendamccormack4576 9 місяців тому +4

    You are the best kindest cleaner in the world. I think Granny needs residential care

  • @chrismc1975
    @chrismc1975 9 місяців тому +37

    This is so sad watching this one, especially knowing from the short you posted a month ago. That the old lady died the next day and didn’t get to see or enjoy her clean home 😢
    I feel for her and her family, it’s heartbreaking ❤️💜
    Thankyou for all you do Ari xx

    • @liviabunzen
      @liviabunzen 9 місяців тому +6

      Omg 😭😭😭😭

    • @meatavoreNana
      @meatavoreNana 8 місяців тому +5

      So sad😢😢

    • @EmL-kg5gn
      @EmL-kg5gn 7 місяців тому +11

      Oh that’s so sad 😢 It’s still a big relief for the family to have this taken care of, but it is tragic that she spent the last years of her life in this mess

    • @rescue4lifeAB
      @rescue4lifeAB 3 місяці тому +2

      That's so sad 😢

    • @mariekatherine5238
      @mariekatherine5238 3 місяці тому +2

      Sad, but at least the apartment can be let out to someone else, maybe even a relative.

  • @margaretstephens6649
    @margaretstephens6649 9 місяців тому +32

    All elderly people deserve so much better than this. Thank you for helping her.

  • @annieabadeer_
    @annieabadeer_ 2 місяці тому

    I haven't watched one of your videos in a while and I can tell your English has really improved! I almost forgot how satisfying it is to watch you cleaning

  • @michhall0103
    @michhall0103 5 місяців тому +2

    This is One of The Most Helpful Generous Act of Kindness i have ever seen. God Bless You for Helping this Woman 🙏❤️

  • @kristinanoall
    @kristinanoall 9 місяців тому +83

    I’m less than two minutes in, and just want to say again that you’re an angel on earth! Anyone living that way is heartbreaking and unthinkable, but especially an elderly person. Thank heaven for you actually being willing to tackle that disaster!

  • @sharonsomers5513
    @sharonsomers5513 9 місяців тому +28

    I came from Midwest cleaning. I give you guys a lot of credit cleaning and helping these people. My heart breaks how some people live.

  • @Radio_Jingles_55
    @Radio_Jingles_55 9 місяців тому +2

    I think you are a lovely and generous person giving your time for free to help clean an elderly lady's apartment.

  • @jocelynecupcake
    @jocelynecupcake 9 місяців тому +2

    I feel so bad for the poor elderly lady! Glad you went to clean it up for her, she could have lice or something, it's not good for her hair or skin that she didn't shower for so long and has lived in such filth. Bless her

  • @mimi_elk.7614
    @mimi_elk.7614 9 місяців тому +17

    I have a grandma 👵 who turned 90 this year…
    Thanks God one of her daughters is taking care of her I love her so much and all the family and i can’t imagine her going through this,is actually so sad…
    Thanks for helping her 😢

  • @pujajain3604
    @pujajain3604 9 місяців тому +20

    Thanks for helping people without judging them and understanding their pain. You are one hell of a rockstar keep going!!

  • @queenkinky
    @queenkinky 8 місяців тому +4

    Honestly, you are a Angel! Not many could do what you do without judging the person, where you see someone that just needs help. Much love sent to you.

  • @ErdbeereRot
    @ErdbeereRot 9 місяців тому +3

    I am so glad, that you helped in this case. It is a great idea too, sponsoring of declutering and cleaning services for people like this old lady who can not do it by herself

  • @jennetrose566
    @jennetrose566 9 місяців тому +25

    Had a tiring and long day studying.... got back home and watching this video is soooo relaxing... thank youuuu soo muchhh

  • @twauynettacollin2837
    @twauynettacollin2837 9 місяців тому +7

    Your giving is totally a gift from GOD. May GOD continue to bless u and protect u in jesus name.

  • @stacielyons4003
    @stacielyons4003 9 місяців тому +6

    I don’t know how I happened on this video because usually hoarding type videos cause me anxiety but I must say that while the work you have done to this poor lady’s home is wonderful, it was your absolute beautiful state of mind that really amazed me! Your heart and sense of caring about others is so uplifting! You stayed so positive and hopeful in such an obvious negative atmosphere where one can easily dwell on the bad. You actually appeared grateful to be able to contribute to her situation! That my dear was refreshing! Most people would feel pride of course but you seemed to inhale so much more and hopefully your beautiful and kind disposition and self worth will be exhaled and then inhaled by rest of us. I found it delightfully intoxicating!! You truly are an angel! Your video warmed my heart and made me feel hopeful again. Thank you so much for that. Take care of yourself and please get yourself a biohazard suit as one of your other reader/fans suggested! I wish you well!
    Stacie L

  • @ebonyhicks2013
    @ebonyhicks2013 6 місяців тому +1

    Amen to the part when she said consider it a blessing to be able to shower and clean yourself in YOUR OWN bathroom ❗️❗️❗️Having had been homeless myself as a young adult, nothing feels better than coming home to your own toilet 😅😅😅💯😅😅😅

  • @neverwise
    @neverwise 9 місяців тому +4

    It makes me want to cry seeing anyone let alone an 80 year old woman living in these conditions.

  • @hannahalley1219
    @hannahalley1219 9 місяців тому +4

    You are so amazing! An angel on Earth. Please wear a mask when you are cleaning. You are breathing in a lot of harmful things!

  • @MiriamACNH
    @MiriamACNH 7 місяців тому +2

    I have so much respect for you doing this job with such a positive attitude. I love your videos because of that

  • @beachobsession29
    @beachobsession29 7 місяців тому +2

    Dorthy needs Home care to come in and help her out. No one should have to live like this.
    Thank you for helping this women.

  • @TheSUPERHAPPY1
    @TheSUPERHAPPY1 9 місяців тому +4

    Hi Auri,
    She may not be able to put-on those socks due to hip mobility.
    I work with seniors, slip-on shoes are usually what they use because they can no longer flex their hips enough to put-on socks.
    Thanks for all that you do!

  • @joyfullrecipesjoyfullrecip6009
    @joyfullrecipesjoyfullrecip6009 9 місяців тому +16

    Mamma mia!!!!😱 You really are a blessing Auri! I think this bathroom is one of the worst I’ve ever seen in your videos. Thinking of this old lady alone in that condition makes me feel sad. But as you said... always bring joy and light in those human situations. A big thank to you! 🙏🏻🙋🏼‍♀️🥰

  • @endmindes
    @endmindes 3 місяці тому +1

    I'm so used to seeing places like this from Britain and America(Hoarders etc.), I couldn't believe my eyes when I noticed that this is from my home country. We certainly don't seem to make shows about cleaning out places like these. Props to you for tackling this!

  • @jcondreras8606
    @jcondreras8606 9 місяців тому +1

    God bless you for the work you do and for not judging others! You are a true inspiration!

  • @rabiasen216
    @rabiasen216 9 місяців тому +16

    You’re an angel on world ❤️

  • @Hatbox948
    @Hatbox948 9 місяців тому +15

    Oh wow. I can't imagine even going 3 days with no shower. Bless you Auri for cleaning this woman's place.

  • @user-su6lb3de8m
    @user-su6lb3de8m 8 місяців тому +2

    Respect for helping elderly people that can't help themselves for whatever reason.. they borned us they raised us to become men or women but now that the years have passed its our turn to take care of them... keep up miss..

  • @adeade1210
    @adeade1210 7 місяців тому +1

    You are an angel for helping out this granny. I’m so glad I came across your video . Sending you lots of love ❤❤❤❤❤❤

  • @belindam3797
    @belindam3797 9 місяців тому +19

    Its very sad to see how this Granny was living, but I’m glad that her daughter reached out to you for help! You are wonderful ❤ I think for many elderly people an assisted living situation is much better than the isolation of living alone. I think there should be more investment in the kind of communities where older people with varying levels of ability can live in a small apartment and have help with cleaning, personal care and access to medical care. Also, social connection with others.

  • @the-red-ghost
    @the-red-ghost 9 місяців тому +11

    I was waiting for this vedio although it's a very sad one😔unfortunately the old lady had passed away before they finished cleaning 💔

    • @pePs_Kab4ch0g
      @pePs_Kab4ch0g 9 місяців тому +5

      So sorry for the family 😢 what a sad news! How did you find out?

    • @the-red-ghost
      @the-red-ghost 9 місяців тому +3

      @@pePs_Kab4ch0g she shared her story on Instagram 💔😔

    • @user-gt7vh3rs8j
      @user-gt7vh3rs8j 9 місяців тому +1

      Она болела, да? В больнице умерла?

    • @the-red-ghost
      @the-red-ghost 9 місяців тому +2

      @@user-gt7vh3rs8j да, к сожалению, это

    • @zahraasedki270
      @zahraasedki270 9 місяців тому +3

      😢😢

  • @bonraerieger
    @bonraerieger 9 місяців тому +2

    Bless you for helping her

  • @MomAsol
    @MomAsol 3 місяці тому

    Wow! thank you for your help cleaning her house.

  • @rhyfelwrDuw
    @rhyfelwrDuw 9 місяців тому +7

    Wow that lampshade looks amazing!
    Poor lady having dementia, it's a horrible disease! It's easy to say (as some comments said) that the daughter should have helped her but none of us know the circumstances! Perhaps the daughter lives miles away or suggests from an illness or times when she has illness!
    My mum died in 2021 and I should visit my dad more but he keeps saying he's fine and don't come to see him etc! Although he's happy when I do see him! Work, depression and fatigue get in the way so often, for me, so I do find it difficult to get the energy levels up! I clean when I visit, although he does a good job keeping his house clean and tidy!

  • @ankewebster9025
    @ankewebster9025 9 місяців тому +3

    Thank you for all your great heart and love for this old lady. It makes me sad. No one reckognizes her daily need for help and have slme visitors here and there. God bless you and the old lady.

  • @truenestpie
    @truenestpie 7 місяців тому

    Youre amazing! Indeed you are bringing light not only to the homes you clean but to everyone who watches you!

  • @brie3679
    @brie3679 7 місяців тому +2

    Thank you for doing this. I went through a severe phase of agoraphobia, ans tackling my rooms felt… impossible. Where do you begin when you’re that overwhelmed? Not only that but you’re still dealing with mental health issues while trying to gain control of it, so that makes it even harder. This isn’t even my home, I don’t even know this woman. And yet my gratitude for what you do has me tearing up.

  • @janettescott580
    @janettescott580 9 місяців тому +13

    I found this to be the saddest story so far. Why has it been three years since the Daughter saw her eighty year old Mother for a start. Poor old thing, she probably needs to be in care by the sound of that. Besides that, you are an Angle and do WONDERFUL work. X

    • @brendapatterson7123
      @brendapatterson7123 9 місяців тому +2

      I wondered the same thing... perhaps the daughter lives out of town?

    • @janettescott580
      @janettescott580 9 місяців тому +1

      @@brendapatterson7123 that crossed my mind too.

  • @staciesidloski2481
    @staciesidloski2481 9 місяців тому +4

    I would’ve barfed upon opening the door. You are a saint!

  • @dianaa.2802
    @dianaa.2802 6 місяців тому

    You’re doing such a great job there are many reason why a person might get to a situation where everything is so dirty and you are being very sensible and not judgy about it. ❤

  • @Emma_Elizabeth
    @Emma_Elizabeth 9 місяців тому +1

    You can tell she tried to keep it organized, bless her 😢 I hope she gets the care she needs.

  • @toni5431
    @toni5431 9 місяців тому +15

    Now the apartment has been cleaned it won't take much to make it a nice happy house. Some bright cheerful coloured paint, new flooring and some lovely pictures and it will be a comfortable home. I do hope the cleaning changes bring happiness to the lady and don't trigger her stress too much :)

  • @tinanieborg787
    @tinanieborg787 9 місяців тому +9

    my deepest respect for you and your friend to clean houses like this, you help people back on there feet again, a new start.

  • @Elainerunmore
    @Elainerunmore 8 місяців тому +2

    Girl I appreciate you so much! Thank you for what you do 💕

  • @dearmeecha1310
    @dearmeecha1310 3 місяці тому +1

    You are a beautiful human. Doing the work of an angel. ❤

  • @xTapirmaedchen
    @xTapirmaedchen 9 місяців тому +67

    My grandma suddendly died a few weeks ago and we were decluttering and cleaning her house this weekend. And I am SO thankful that I learned so many cleaning tips from you Auri! It was so much faster and easier than we all expected. Especially after I told everyone how to fold the microfibre cloths for wiping :'D This was super fun!

    • @Robson-wwwe
      @Robson-wwwe 9 місяців тому

      Damn

    • @MillicentsElements
      @MillicentsElements 8 місяців тому +4

      Sorry for your loss doll. Glad that the cleaning process went well🤍

    • @zz-ic6vy
      @zz-ic6vy 6 місяців тому +1

      How the microfibre cloth folding should be done?

  • @latoyann
    @latoyann 9 місяців тому +9

    Bless her heart. She needs family or friends to come over and help her keep this clean. Thank you for helping her Auri!

  • @user-dr3yh2jd7m
    @user-dr3yh2jd7m 4 місяці тому

    You are such an amazing person! You have helped me tremendously with an anxiety and depression. At first, I'm so anxious and overwhelmed when your videos start; then, as you clean, I become calmer and calmer. You have helped me so much! Overcoming anxiety and depression is a process and takes a lot of work, which can be overwhelming. I'm always working with my therapist to find different activities to help me. After watching your videos and listening to you passing no judgment at all, I have discovered the best coping activity for me is cleaning!!!!!! Thank you so much for helping so many people and sharing your story!

  • @haleyadams28
    @haleyadams28 5 місяців тому

    You are an angel. I know it can't be easy for anyone to live that way. You have a heart of pure gold ❤

  • @CHrisPetE056
    @CHrisPetE056 9 місяців тому +6

    So sad. Thank you Auri for helping this woman. I wish there were services available that the elderly could trust and afford to get the help they need sometimes. ❤❤❤

  • @marissaa8506
    @marissaa8506 9 місяців тому +51

    I’m glad her daughter asked for help, but it amazes me that she even got to this point in the first place. Makes me wonder how long her own family was not seeing her for.

    • @soeren72
      @soeren72 9 місяців тому +11

      3-5 years it looks like, Horrific children.

    • @fionastevens4170
      @fionastevens4170 9 місяців тому +37

      My father in law has lifelong undiagnosed mental health issues and after his wife died 15 years ago he refused to let anyone in the house. He would meet us out and about sometimes (we live 1.5 hours away) but refused to let us in the house, that also goes for my brother in law and his family and relatives from Ireland. If someone refuses you can't do much. Two years ago a neighbour saw his front door open and went in - it was horrendous and rats and mice had moved in. He was living off jars of pickles and had lost the use of his legs and a lot of his fingers.
      He then accepted our help, he moved in with us and we got the use of his fingers back however he refused to exercise and will never walk again. He choses to soil himself and will not wash unless strong coercion is used. He is now in a care home as that was his choice and at all times we have respected his wishes.
      It is not easy to stand back and watch someone decline like this. However there was absolutely no way he would let us into the house nor would he accept any help we offered him. Despite the mess he was living in he claimed it was the neighbours (who are clean and tidy) who caused the rodent problem. I cannot stress enough how mental health impacted his choices and beliefs.
      It is shocking when you find out someone has a family but please take time to understand that if someone chooses to live like this then you cannot change them. Only a professional therapist can help and even then only if the person wants to change. Watch programmes on hoarders to understand how even a loving and involved family cannot help.
      Do not judge others unless you have walked in their shoes, we don't know what problems her family has themselves.
      And always be kind.

    • @Suelynngrr
      @Suelynngrr 9 місяців тому

      Well spoken. @@fionastevens4170

    • @kila8046
      @kila8046 9 місяців тому +14

      It was like this with my great-aunt and great-uncle. They didn‘t have any children and my father was the closest relative (bloodwise and locally) they had. But unfortunately they weren‘t ‚nice‘ people. The were always complaining, always making ill-meaning remarks to my father and mother (for example asking my mother straight in the face if she ‚even got fatter again‘!)
      Finally my parents told them, they didn‘t want to spent time with them any longer. They left their phone number and told them to call, if there was an emergency.
      It took 3 years, then my great-uncle was calling again. It was late at night and he said somebody had kidnapped my great-aunt. Turned out he had brought her to the hospital the night before (the was starved and emaciated) which he had forgotten because of dementia. Both were an a bad shape physically and mentally. The house was almost as bad like the one above.
      After that my parents took them to a nursing home and were visiting them daily till they died a year later.

    • @LyraLove1
      @LyraLove1 9 місяців тому

      @@soeren72 exactly that

  • @eternamenteamata
    @eternamenteamata 3 місяці тому

    You are such an inspiration and you are truly showing that even the biggest messes can be cleaned!!!

  • @_Adelyn
    @_Adelyn 7 місяців тому +1

    She would be a good mom