I’m a firm believer that everything happens for a reason. This chapter is meant to end. PERIOD. Give Adam 20 years to understand this season of life you are going through now. Always circle back to your reason- Pamela and Shadow. ❤️
This right here. My fur babies and human family and their well-being come first PERIOD. Our priorities change with age, and I can see myself being single-minded to the exclusion of everything else as well. Josh, don’t beat yourself up. Things happen, you did what you had to do, you were extremely stressed, and you were a man with a mission. You’ve got your priorities straight. 👍🏼 I hope sweet little Shadow continues to do well. 🫶🏼
Can we all just be honest? As long as Adam’s online presence revolves around drama, then association with him will always be drama, unfortunately. He’s young, and he has chosen this current path right now, but I do hope that as he grows he realizes that drama fuels drama. 😢 No shade or judgment, some things just are what they are. Sometimes these lessons can only be learned with age.
He was conditioned at an even younger age for drama thanks to a certain ukulele strumming …person. He’s young, he’s funny, and charming…he’ll come around eventually. Right now Josh and Pamela need to protect their peace. Josh continues show immeasurable grace. Adam will be ok, soon enough.
Hes still very young and immature, also impulsive and thinks hes more grown up than he actually is, its so great to see the opposite in you.. Calmly and respectfully taking responsibility for your part.. Thats all you can do.. Hopefully he will see reason but if not you did what you could to remedy the situation like a grown up..our actions are the only thing we have control over and hopefully he will come around.. But family is your priority and should be.
You need to give yourself more grace and so does Adam. Just as he is upset and disappointed, you are also upset and disappointed. Empathy should be shared and this is a situation that shouldn’t have been nor needed to be made into a public ordeal from his side. What you did wasn’t even a mistake, it’s just that life happened. What happened with Shadow put you in fight or flight and your mind compartmentalizes for a reason so of course you wouldn’t be thinking about anything else. Life just happened. Hopefully this gets resolved and I do believe he owes you an apology. You have done what you can.
No apology needed. I still respect and admire him. I appreciate your understanding and also understand why he felt (and still feels) disappointed. Nothing but love here. Just wanted to give my experience from that night. 💙
I agree. Grace is needed here. Shadow is your family and he wasn’t well. Does it suck you couldn’t do the podcast? Yes. Are you a malicious jerk for having a momentary brain fart during a crisis? Absolutely not. You’re a good man, Charlie Brown.
This is so sincere. You’re human. It’s so hard to take accountability and very refreshing to see someone who knows they messed up and wants to acknowledge it.
Idk I had something similar happen to me and I did not react like he did. Communication is always key. He chose to cut off the communication. Not everything is about himself but learning that comes with age. He needs to learn that just because something didn’t go the way he wanted it doesn’t mean there has to be someone to blame.
Honestly I understand him feeling upset before he knew the situation, but if someone’s pet, friend, or family member is sick, people get a free pass from me. That’s an emergency, whether my feelings were hurt or not they aren’t as important as what that person is going through.
I did something similar...my dog was very sick and it was sudden...panicked and ran him to emergency vet. The following night I had an obligation that I completely blanked on...and they were not happy. Of course...different situation but I definitely feel you. All this to say...you're not alone, we ALL mess up and react in tense situations that's outside our normal behavior. Hopefully one day soon, or down the road you can talk it out. Pray your pup gets better real soon.
Adam is mature in some ways and I generally enjoy his takes on things, but at the end of the day, he's only 22 and lacks a lot of understanding and empathy that comes with age. I'm in my mid 30s, and whilst I may be a little annoyed about something like this, it wouldn't be as big of a deal as he's made it out. Especially after you told him the situation. He's very young and still immature in many ways.
Awe buddy I’m sorry about this. You’ve got such a kind heart though man and it wasn’t your fault that Shadow had stuff going on. Adam would also drop everything for his dogs 100%. Yes it sucks that you forgot to contact Adam and yes it’s terrible that his time was wasted, but I think in this scenario that this would’ve slipped most people’s minds because they would only be thinking about making sure their pet was going to be ok. While I do feel for bad for Adam, this was such an extenuating circumstance that I truly feel you deserve more compassion and also forgiveness for this.
It was my fault that I completely dropped the ball and didn’t communicate though. It’s like my mind went into tunnel vision and I forgot everything else. It was my responsibility you know?
@@JoshuaDTVI understand man but this was such an extreme circumstance.. surely anyone that loves their pets and knows they are family would do the same. I do feel for you and yes it’s very unfortunate that Adam didn’t know what was happening and his time was wasted but you let him know after the fact and he has animals so he would understand. I think he’s just had terrible experiences with people so I’m sure that’s why he’s reacting the way he is. Be kind to yourself man.
@JoshuaDTV makes sense. It is difficult when you work a career and your head is full of stress and you have to get home to your family n pets and be responsible. When your career feeds you and family relies on you, the day can get away from you. UA-cam becomes a thing in the background until you realize that this is a career for others and they may be stressed out over miscommunication. It will take time for youtube career people and career offline people that do youtube to understand each other's struggles fully. I hope people understand. I planned a whole bday party once for my BFF and was so bogged by work I forgot n showered and was in bed, when everyone called me asking why I was not there. Wishing you peace in all of this
@@JoshuaDTVJosh- You missed a podcast with an online gossip. Please pick up the pieces and carry on. Wasn't it just recently, Adam was talking about a wonderful visit with you and the blue-haired gossip? And now, you miss a planned moment for filming a video, and suddenly there is a problem, and even though YOU are the one who experienced an unfortunate moment, now Adam has manipulated you into thinking you need to apologize to the world. Can't you see how he operates yet?
@@JoshuaDTV I understand why you feel that way but it happens. You had an emergency that you were taking care of and that's all you were focused on at the time. It happens.
I think this was the universe telling you its time to put all that drama and hurt to rest. Hanging on to it if just a little bit puts a roadblock up in your new road of happiness. Josh you have such a different life now...beautiful wife who adores you, a new home, a fulfilling job...why keep rehashing the past?
@@poppy-s3s Leave him alone. If he wants to create content, then he should do whatever he feels like doing. It's time to start living without caring what anybody thinks.
If a person has that much lack of understanding and empathy where they go to the point of saying they don't want you in their life, sounds like that is drama you don't need in your life. Glad shadow is doing better.
When it involves someone you love everything else slips your mind in an emergency. You don’t know until it happens to you. He’s young and he’ll learn the hard way the same way we all do if you’re wise enough and humble enough to learn.
My furbabies are my kids and no one can tell me different. Their wellbeing goes before ANYTHING! I don't have any human kids, just furry ones. I can totally understand where your head was with Shadow. Nothing else matters at that point. Some people may never understand that. I hope Adam gives you some grace and understands. ❤
I’m sorry, I literally never comment, ever, but I have to say this…Adam is being very immature. Life happens. Things happen. And when a family emergency happens, it’s hard to think about anything else. He would’ve done the same thing if his child had an emergency. His head has gotten so big since everything went down. This is honestly so sad and ridiculous. You did the right thing apologizing, but the right thing that he should’ve done was that he should’ve forgiven you instead of making you feel worse, and blasting you all over the internet. There was no reason to bring it public. You don’t deserve feeling this guilty about an emergency. You basically gave him most of his career, and then he turns on you so quickly? He’s not a bad person, but he really needs to grow up. He has a lot to learn. Real friends give you grace when these things happen. Think about that. Hang in there dude. You’re a good man. ❤
Yes, you stood him up. I wouldn’t call it a mistake because it definitely was not. Anyone should understand that there was an emergency that came up and no one would think “ oh crap! Let me check my Instagram DMs”. You had an emergency that needed your undivided attention and it would be ridiculous for you to have tried to head off to do a podcast while leaving Pamela to try to take care of Shadow. The fact that you guys don’t have a more reliable form of communication goes to the point that you aren’t close friends. You’re still acquaintances and this was more of a business deal than friends hopping on a podcast together. You offered to pay for his time/expenses for the situation. Adam is allowed his feelings but they are his to deal with and work through. You have a right to your feelings and you obviously feel terrible about how it all went down. It just feels like that you keep alluding to you having made the wrong decision and you DEFINITELY did not. You communicated as soon as the podcast was back on your radar after being stressed as all get out all day practically. You’ve made your apologies and offered amends. Now you have to let him decide to pick them up and give yourself the grace you rarely afford yourself for being human. I do also think that there is some perspective lacking for Adam that simply comes with progressing through adulthood. He’s still a young adult and what’s big to his age group is no longer big to our age group. It’s nice that you tried to create some healthy mutual connections with him given everything that linked you guys before but early 20 year olds and 40 years don’t have a lot to connect on in the first place. You both just happen to have the surreal opportunity to try because you connect over UA-cam.
I support Adam and watch his channel regularly, but I do notice that he has a tendency to be too harsh on people before really getting the full story, which isn’t fair to others. It sounds like you had quite a crazy day that day, and honestly I don’t think you are to blame for anything. Adam needs to be kinder and not be so attacking.
I’m so sorry, Josh. Life happens and I totally understand how this could happen. I hope Adam calms down because as a pet owner he should understand situations like this. Please don’t feel guilty. ✌🏼
Family comes first, Shadow is family. I can see why Adam is upset, especially without a text about what was happening in the moment.. but shit happens.
Honestly in my opinion, Being separate from Adam and the drama. You have grown and put the drama behind you, and really that is where it should stay for you. Drama is Adams job but not for you.
I think your apology was very heartfelt and genuine. It hurt my heart hearing your voice break up at the end. The guilt and the hurt and sadness you feel is palpable. I'm sorry this happened.
I know that its not our place to accept an apology meant for someone else, but I have to at least say this video was impeccable, even the fact that you had the realisation that you should make it a stand alone video. Your heart really is in the right place, even if you're beating yourself up for letting someone down, even if they don't forgive you, you know your heart and I think we do too ❤️ Edit: Also I think Adam might be doing you a favour by not working with you.. I have nothing against him as a person but I just don't think you need to be associated with drama channels yknow..
As an Adam fan I think he should film with Josh again sometime because this was just a minor fluke It would be a shame if Adam’s emotions about this fluke got in the way of a likely future collaboration video
I agree with all of these comments. Adam is being a bit disrespectful here. You explained the reasons why. Not sure why he would stop talking to you over this?
Adam is selfish if he thinks you let him down. I honestly feel like he is looking for a reason to stir up drama by talking about it on his channel which he knows will then force you to have to fill in the blanks on your channel. It becomes an endless cycle because Adam doesn’t like to drop an opportunity to cause drama. He could have said there was a family emergency and the podcast session was postponed for now or something. He didn’t have to embarrass you publicly if that’s what happened. I don’t follow him anymore because of the toxic energy I feel from his content so I don’t know what was said. I do know you are being kind to him and want no ill will to come from this but I wonder if this was a blessing in disguise for you. Like maybe you dodged a bullet. Please do not regret one moment of this situation at all. Not one second. Don’t let it eat you up. You did nothing wrong. What if this emergency was your human child? Would he have changed his tune? Probably not. He is too self absorbed. Don’t let him get to you. Just keep moving on with your life. Now let’s get excited for holidays! 🍂🎄
Na man. My dog gets sick and everyone else can go to heck. When my dogs are sick that is all I’m focused on. Also having short term memory issues, adds to it and not having phone numbers for something so important is crazy. Adam should have accepted your apology, swapped numbers and rescheduled.
It just means that it does need a period at the end of it. You came to terms with a lot involving Adam. I am a believer that things happen for a reason. I hope he can see and accept the apology. But it is time to move on from it all. You are in such different seasons of life. I think if he doesn't understand now, he will, eventually. He needs to go through a lot more life to get the gravity of it all. You are human and stuff happens. Give yourself some grace. You did the right thing, apologized, and offered to compensate him for his time and expenses. You did what you could. Now ... on to the next.
I feel bad that it had to happen to Adam of all people, but I relate so strongly to this moment you had. I’ve been in this situation multiple times. You feel so awful and can’t understand how you possibly forgot about a whole event. It’s okay Josh. You’re human. Adam is entitled to be irritated, but you’re entitled to forget. It is ok. ❤️
I can see why he’d be upset before speaking with you, but after hearing about what happened, I’m surprised he’d still be upset about it. Especially because of what he’s gone thru in the last year with his cats. When you’re in that type of situation you get panicked and everything else goes out of your mind and out of the window. You were doing what you needed to do for Shadow and there’s nothing wrong with that. To hear that he’s saying he’s upset to his followers, won’t film with you etc, just leaves a bad taste in my mouth. You didn’t do it maliciously or for any other reason than a medical emergency. I’m disappointed in Adam. You did what you needed and should have done for Shadow and anyone with fur babies would have done the same. I hope Shadow is doing better, I know it’s so hard to see our “fur kids” get older, and start having medical issues. He’s your best friend and has been there with you thru the toughest part of your life and it’s a bond that only you two understand. I’ve been there. Sending love to you, Shadow and Pamela. ❤
I’m sorry but no. Do NOT be embarrassed. What happened is totally normal during a fight or flight experience. Animals are family and always come first if in need. Anyone who doesn’t understand that and doesn’t have empathy for that, is not a person I’d ever associate with. Ever. My animals are my world. And I won’t budge on that opinion. I’m glad Shadow is okay. Sweet pup. It was a nice thing you all had going on connecting over all that happened but it’s time to wish each other well and move on to your individual things. You and Pam are amazing people and don’t need UA-cam drama.
It definitely makes sense that you were frazzled in an emergency like that and forgot about everything else going on. I definitely would too. I would be focusing on my dog too. And I get how he felt too because he didn’t get ANY texts from you in that moment. He had NO idea what was going on. Totally missed opportunity. Total misunderstanding. It sucks for both sides and you are handling it so well ❤
Everything was totally adding up to Adam is so right until I HEARD the words it was all though Instagram and DMS !????? Why the heck didn't he call that would've fixed everything! Emergencies happen ..... Specially when someone has something special to do! Poor josh 😢
I can’t even imagine the feeling when you realized you had missed the podcast! I had those gut wrenching times in life. You’re human, you had human emotions taking over your thoughts for good reason! Dogs are family. I understand him being upset but not to this extent lol
You’re a good guy Josh. These things happen. He should understand you’re a grown man and not everything happens. On the day. It’s like if a friend cancels plans, there’s no need to then say they don’t want you in their life.
I love that you can take accountability but please don’t be so hard on yourself. You didn’t intentionally stand him up, you had a family matter and you did what any good dog parent would do! Life’s too short; don’t waste it being too hard on yourself- you’re human, you make mistakes but you rise up and grow and learn.. hope you’re ok 🩷
I totally understand, but I know your family is your priority and in stressful situations like that it’s completely understandable that it slipped your mind, thank you for being honest and recognizing your mistake. Don’t feel like you’re a bad person because you’re not, things happen. Sending you, Pamela and Shadow lots of love 💕
I watch adam all the time and while i think he has some great takes and everything- i do feel like he has not grown or done or half the things he says he has done. Its crazy how he wants to be more open and be less closed off with people such as starting with rosanna and what not, but outside of collabing with her and i guess just having guests on a podcast- he clearly hasnt. I mean you two put the past behind you and when something serious came up and you tried to explain to him he wouldnt listen. If hes really about opening up to people then he needs to listen. Thats genuinely his biggest issue. He wants to speak and speak and speak but never wants to listen to what people are saying unless theyre saying things that can bring him good content, or things that mimic what he believes and is saying. Quite frankly its really sad because ive been on the fence about adam for so long and this situation happening and seeing the way he reacted and how immature it was- just pushes me more. Again he has some great takes but he is so arrogant sometimes and says some really crappy things himself about other people but wants to have a moral highground. I swear if he makes a video on this and doesnt acknowledge EVERYTHING he did wrong in this situation i might genuinely unsub and unfollow and take my whole friend group who i showed him to with me. He is just becoming so incredibly put of touch.
It’s a trauma response!! Your body has been through so much trauma, blocking out everything else but the emergency response is a survival mechanism. I so hope you have a trauma informed therapist ❤
Kudos to you. It takes a lot to come on and apologize. Sometimes stuff happens in life. There is a certain panic that comes when a pet is ill and you don't know what to do because they can't tell you what is wrong. I hope you have peace in the situation. I am sure Adam will understand as he has had his own heartbreaking events with his pets.
I can relate to the forgetfulness….. I am a year sober but mine is lupus it’s gotten worse as I’ve gotten sober. I just got diagnosed with lupus and now it makes sense. I think you’re very sincere and hopefully he accepts the apology and moves on.
Sometimes, I think people try to imagine if they were in a situation what they would do. It’s easier to say that when you’re not in it, but even if you were, even if you’ve been in the same situation before, it’s how our genetics interact with our environment. Some people are more forgetful than others, and this might be emphasized in an emergency. It’s easier to remember a routine, like calling out of work, than a one off thing when your mind is scattered. Of course, we should all want to respect each other’s time, and in a perfect world this wouldn’t have happened, but we are human and we will make mistakes. Since this is not a repeated pattern of behavior (which would mean there is a lot more work that needs to be done) extending grace might be warranted. This feels like a “cast the first stone” kind of thing. There was no malicious intent - just an exhausted, stressed, and forgetful human. Adam doesn’t have to forgive anyone, he has a right to protect his world and heart especially after everything he’s been through with people. I’m more so thinking about what strangers looking in should consider. Just my opinion.
You have a completely understandable reason to have had this happen. You’re clearly remorseful and that’s honorable, but I think both he and you are being far too hard on yourself. Yes it would have been polite and necessary to let him know, but you’ve explained why that didn’t happen.
hope he see this, and hope you have already learned the internet is not everything. You built a life outside it very well. Adam still is in the mindset a bit of the internet is everything it seems, but that is normal and ok where he is at. good luck with the doggo
Long comment warning ⚠️ You're only human Josh, these things happen, you had a very chaotic moment and sometimes our brain shuts down everything else so we can focus on one thing that requires our full attention. You had a totally normal reaction of flight, fight, or freeze. Sometimes triggers from what we've been through take us there too. Given the circumstances of your dog, no wonder you reacted like that. Quick tip: You're very good with advice to people, what would you tell your friend if they came to you with this exact same scenario? Adam's reaction is valid in the sense because he didn't hear from you and that would send anyone in a panic, but you have a life too. Sometimes in life things get out of your control and that's not your fault. It sounds more like he's reacting out of a trauma response more so than anything and may not be conscious of it from previous encounters with content creators in the past, more so than what actually happened. Triggers are not easy to deal with and especially if they're in the unconscious, so I do feel for him in case that's why, but either way that's not your fault. You can't control how other people react to you, but you can control how you react to it all. You did everything you could once you realised what happened. It was a lot to go through both with your job and Shadow. You said your part and offered more than enough back. I hope you are easy on yourself for this because it's not entirely on you. Maybe this reaction from him is bringing things up for you too. Mind yourself throughout this and I hope you don't feel guilt for this. I'm sending you love and I'm sorry this happened.
This has happened to me for a medical appointment that I had been waiting months for! I really wanted to attend this appt, it had been in my head for months, and my health depended on it. I could not believe my own brain for messing up like that! But It happens!!
I feel like standing up on a podcast bc you had an overwhelming day is not a big enough reason to dissolve a friendship 😭 esp as you have completely acknowledged how you hurt someone and apologized.
Hm i don't know. He texted you saying "where are you I'm worried about you," and then feels upset at you still after you explained that you had an emergency with your beloved pet. I mean I get it but I wouldn't go public talking poorly about you if I were in his shoes. Things happen and you paid him back!
Adam feeling so offended is so chidish. He wants to be a grown up but he still isn't there yet. He has so many good opinions but hey in the adult world you have to give people the benefit of the doubt. And when something urgent comes up like a family member (or pet) being in a medical emergency guess what? That comes first. And yes your nervous system and brain is going to focus on that and only that. You didn't forget. You were focused on saving your dog. And that shifted your attention. Life happens. And I don't think this generation gets it. They want everything to happen their way at their pace..no excuses. No reason to be ashamed i bet if the same thing happened to him you would act differently and wouldve understood and rebooked or made it work out somehow. But he embarrassed you and put the blame on you and made it public. And used the trauma you have already and did it again. Kid wants attention and he didn't get it. It's a learning moment for him to give people the benefit of the doubt and for you to be easy on yourself sometimes you aren't the one to blame. It just happened like that, it's destiny.
IMO It goes towards his need for attention. All due respect to the parties involved past and present but he magnified things for his own self aggrandizement. Now that time has passed, the attention falling away, suddenly there is more drama? Do the math. This has all to do with His need for overdramatic attention.
@@asmaafaisal6912 Adam. Josh was handling an emergency. If that is beyond Adams understanding and will now proceed to drag Josh now? I think we are finding out who the toxic one was.
@jahgust I agree Adam feeds of drama and tea. It started as a story now its a lifestyle. And maybe it's in Josh's best interest that Adam doesn't want to associate with him. Josh's been through enough. It's sad honestly I didn't expect Adam to be this narrow sighted.
@@asmaafaisal6912 Honestly I am not surprised. Not for for nothing but everything that happened with CB and was escalated by him to a ridiculous degree was him talking about it and re-iterating to the point of destroying someone for the sake of it. Don't mistake me excusing the stupid mistakes made by the other party, but the timing of it was after they cut ties with him for his actions. He was the toxic one all along and both her and Josh got caught and are still dealing with his wake. Good riddance I say.
I'd love to hear his side, what video is it mentioned in? My first impressions... What a petty reason to end a friendship. I believe he has pets of his own, he should know how traumatic something like this can be. You've done everything you can to make it right. I find his reaction extremely immature and disappointing tbh.
Be prepared. Adam will take this video, make it public on his site, by making a video of his own with it. Probably before even talking to you first. It’s how he works. Impeccable apology video though. He should understand. Being who he is and how young he is, I doubt it though.
In my opinion you shouldn't be so hard on yourself, especially about forgetting things. I'm going to echo most of the comments, but you had an emergency that came up. It was a stress response that your main focus was on Shadow and not on anything else. Again when you're in that type of situation you're not going to think about anything else and social media. You apologizing about not reaching out (even if you didn't have to given the situation) and offering to compensate him is enough, should be the end of story. Of course it sucks to be disappointed but life happens before social media, podcasts, etc. Take care of yourself Josh.
What happened to all the comments going against Adam? And him being immature? It was the top comment. Adam needs to stop making everything public. He does this to all creators. Airs everything out. Keep the conversations to yourself.
I think Adam is a lovely person, and while I can understand being disappointed, feeling disrespected is a bit much. When an emergency happens with your family (and Shadow is family), that takes priority and I would think the other person could understand and give grace. Centering yourself and your feelings in this situation is rather immature, honestly, and maybe just a product of Adam's age. I hope, with time, he can reflect and understand. ❤
In Adam's mind, his gossip videos are more important than anything else on the planet. He doesn't have any sense of empathy for other people. Doesn't care what's happening in their lives unless it can be turned into "content". Slowly but surely, people are seeing him for what he has always been.
Does anyone know where Adam originally talked about this? I can’t find it. Also Josh I totally understand when it comes to my fur babies everything else comes second! It was a genuine mistake (I don’t even know if mistake is the right word it was just something that happened. A family emergency if you will… thanks for sharing with us and hopefully Adam will understand as well. If not, then I think he is the problem not you
Josh while you can feel bad for missing the podcast this heavy guilt just isn’t right to place on yourself. You did nothing that a rational, caring person wouldn’t totally understand. You not only apologized but offered to cover the cost of the space he rented. Any person in your shoes would’ve done the same thing and their mind wouldn’t have been on a podcast but on their pet that needed vet care. He’s a pet owner or at least I know he had pets so I just can’t see him not getting what went on with you. Maybe he’s just too young to think rationally about situations like this. At any rate that’s not your fault and I really hope you realize you did nothing wrong. You didn’t forget him and the podcast an emergency took precedence over it and your mind and body were exactly where they were supposed to be, with your wife and Shadow. I feel like you just weren’t meant to do that podcast anyway. Be kind to yourself Josh. ❤
I understand both sides. But Adam was tipsy towards the end of the video. He was catty. But he is also a very level-headed young man. Do not feel horrible about this, furbabies come first. In chaotic situations, you're just in flight mode. But towards the end of it, he was smashed.
There will be other opportunities to connect with Adam. I've only seen a couple of his videos, but he seems very level headed, fair and compassionate. I'm sure he understands the situation and from just the two or three videos of his I've seen, he's not quick to judge or pass judgement. He seems very much like you, a caring person with an open heart. I look forward to a future video collab with him with lots of fun and laughs.
I don’t think a grovelling apology is needed, yes Adam is young but by no means is he a child and should understand that life happens and emergencies come up and your first thought isn’t the acquaintance you were meeting, it’s the situation you’re in there and then, it’s unfortunate he feels the way he does but ultimately it isn’t the end of the world as we know it.
Ugh I’m so sorry about this. I totally understand the time blindness and memory issues! It’s probably the hardest part about recovery. I’ve even stood up my own daughter and of course I was looking forward to that. You’ve done your part and life can be taxing enough so try not to hold on to it. Grateful Shadow is ok!
I think weve all had moments where we forget something important. The absolute PANIC you feel once you realize.... you and Adam both seem like wonderful people and I hope at some point you can at least be in communication again!
I understand why you feel bad, but bottom line is, family comes first and Shadow is your family. It would have been incredibly inhumane and disturbing if you had ignored the signs Shadow was showing you to say he needed help. You did the right thing and as a 45 year old with life experience, I completely understand how you could have forgotten about other commitments. Your family and Shadow is lucky to have you.
I don't blame either of you for feeling like you do. I run tests for students at a college and when they no-show with no message it is immensely frustrating, so I can really sympathize with Adam for that. However, I also have animals, including one that suffered from chronic illness whose death I am still healing from two years later, so I also fully sympathize with you and why you could not do the podcast. I just feel like the situation overall kinda sucks. I hope the door's not fully closed for you two, and that this is just the end of a chapter instead of the end of the book, but if so, then so be it, I guess.
I actually just went through this same thing, could be substance/alc abuse or could be 30yrs old.. but I don't even think it was anything like that.. my dog is my kid, so I truly black out when he's not right.. allll you can think about it he was just fine one second and then the next out of nowhere you don't know what is going on... my pup is almost 2yrs old and something happened out of the blue to his tail or tail end, it put him down soo fast. He was a completely diff dog and I mean I honestly thought he was going to pass. I couldn't think about even checking my phone for messages. I'm not even sure my phone was on me. It truly was a jump straight into action moment for me as well.. my brain genuinely neverrr thought about what else I was supposed to be doing at the time.. luckily four days later, hundreds of dollars and gabapentin/rimadyl every 12hrs, he's somehow back to normal completely and now I'm back to normal too. But that was terrifying. I cannot believe how different he acted out of nowhere and sooo quick too. The vet can't even really say what happened or what was wrong.. just that we treated based on symptoms and he's fine now. Thankfully. I was not ready to lose my almost 2yr old pup that I rescued for $300, and have spent thousands on training him and fixing him/shots/meds/etc.. whew. Glad your pup is in the clear too Josh, I think it's a hard situation to truly understand unless you've been there yourself. And I don't wish anyone and/or their dog to go through that honestly. :(
Stress does a number on the body and mind. Could happen to anyone. It's not like you were having a jolly old time and simply forgot because you didn't care. It sucks when people don't have compassion but it will likely happen to him one day and he'll realise how it feels to not be given grace. Lessons for everyone, is life.
I agree with the instagrams dms and not having a phone number. That seems a little weird not having a phone number if you are communicating about doing a collab and have even met in person.
I think Adam is impulsive and immature. I would have been really angry at first, but if you were to tell me that it was for your pup, immediate pass and forgiveness. I would do the same thing with any of my animals. I would drop and forget everything to make sure they were taken care of. So I think you’ve done your part and if he can’t get over it, that’s his own issue.
It sounds like you did everything you could given the circumstances you were going through. I really like Adam but it sounds like he may have overreacted in this situation. Much love!💜
Awe man, I know he may understand because he has fur babies too ❤ sorry to hear about this, I feel bad that it went down like this, I hope you two can mend things.
I want to start with I love Adam. I think if he thought about this objectively, this was your pup you were concerned with. That is the period. If the roles were reversed, Adam loves his animals too and it could have been him forgetting something important. He just needs time to see it from that direction. I didn't see what he said so i could just be speculating, but i don't think he'll be holding a grudge forever over this. I had a similar situation not too long ago when one of my doggies got into a huge amount of chocolate that my son had left out. He was so sick and i rushed him to the vet and forgot i had agreed to take my uncle to his doctor appointment. I got to the vet and left my phone in the car. He called and called but i was pacing around the vets office not even thinking of anything else. It happens and there isn't anything we wouldn't do for our animals and this will bridge the gap between standing someone up and having a legit reason to miss something. Big hugs to you and Adam. ❤❤❤
Heyyyy don't be so hard on yourself! Shadow is part of your family, and that was an emergency. If he doesn't understand that, then that says a lot about him. You apologized. What more can you do? If you and I had plans and you did that to me, I wouldn't be upset with you. I would put you first and make sure you were okay. I wouldn't expect you to put me before your sweet shadow. Especially if something was wrong with him.
Adam has cats and they have also had health problems. The way he is acting sounds entitled and very unkind. He should try having a little empathy and be a little more understanding. Especially since you offered to pay and didn’t even have his phone number.
While it sucks that it happened, it was a genuine mistake and Adam can feel however he feels but if he hears that you had a pet emergency and doesnt give you grace for that, that's more reflective of him than you. Especially when you offered to pay for the spot. That is just petty on his part.
The fact it had everything to do with your dog, adam should give you more grace, he would of expected the same when he lost his animals, granted you got lucky and still have your dog, but hes been thru it and should get it. This was very thoughtful of you, and i really dont think adam should of made this public, especially since you reached out privately before he decided to talk about it on his channel. He could of made a statement as to why the pod never happened and left it at that, im sorry you feel so bad, but this was 100% NOT your fault! Adam still has some growing up to do, obviously. But hopefully this wasnt the end to your guys friendship. Hopefully this can become positive in the future after adam calms down from feeling like he was betrayed when he wasnt. LIFE HAPPENS.
I’m sorry but this is all so absurd. The fact that Adam felt the need to speak about this publicly is very immature. The fact that Josh felt like he had to make this video is so sad. Not saying Josh is innocent. He could have communicated that he wasn’t going to make it. But Adam can deal with stuff like this privately.
I’m a firm believer that everything happens for a reason. This chapter is meant to end. PERIOD. Give Adam 20 years to understand this season of life you are going through now. Always circle back to your reason- Pamela and Shadow. ❤️
This right here. My fur babies and human family and their well-being come first PERIOD. Our priorities change with age, and I can see myself being single-minded to the exclusion of everything else as well.
Josh, don’t beat yourself up. Things happen, you did what you had to do, you were extremely stressed, and you were a man with a mission. You’ve got your priorities straight. 👍🏼
I hope sweet little Shadow continues to do well. 🫶🏼
This I agree with wholeheartedly. It's time for this chapter to end for you.
Exactly what I was thinking: everything happened for a reason. ❤
@@bnc821 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
Adam needs to either grow up quick or hang out with friends his own age. I’m honestly surprised he hasn’t posted a video complaining about this.
Can we all just be honest? As long as Adam’s online presence revolves around drama, then association with him will always be drama, unfortunately. He’s young, and he has chosen this current path right now, but I do hope that as he grows he realizes that drama fuels drama. 😢 No shade or judgment, some things just are what they are. Sometimes these lessons can only be learned with age.
this is why I can't watch him. Hopefully he can move on to other things in his life as he gets older.
He was conditioned at an even younger age for drama thanks to a certain ukulele strumming …person. He’s young, he’s funny, and charming…he’ll come around eventually. Right now Josh and Pamela need to protect their peace. Josh continues show immeasurable grace. Adam will be ok, soon enough.
Hes still very young and immature, also impulsive and thinks hes more grown up than he actually is, its so great to see the opposite in you.. Calmly and respectfully taking responsibility for your part.. Thats all you can do.. Hopefully he will see reason but if not you did what you could to remedy the situation like a grown up..our actions are the only thing we have control over and hopefully he will come around.. But family is your priority and should be.
Very’
Yep, this exactly.
Old enough to know better though
You need to give yourself more grace and so does Adam. Just as he is upset and disappointed, you are also upset and disappointed. Empathy should be shared and this is a situation that shouldn’t have been nor needed to be made into a public ordeal from his side. What you did wasn’t even a mistake, it’s just that life happened. What happened with Shadow put you in fight or flight and your mind compartmentalizes for a reason so of course you wouldn’t be thinking about anything else. Life just happened. Hopefully this gets resolved and I do believe he owes you an apology. You have done what you can.
No apology needed.
I still respect and admire him. I appreciate your understanding and also understand why he felt (and still feels) disappointed.
Nothing but love here. Just wanted to give my experience from that night. 💙
@ I know. Always sending you both the best. 💕
I agree. Grace is needed here. Shadow is your family and he wasn’t well. Does it suck you couldn’t do the podcast? Yes. Are you a malicious jerk for having a momentary brain fart during a crisis? Absolutely not. You’re a good man, Charlie Brown.
This is so sincere. You’re human. It’s so hard to take accountability and very refreshing to see someone who knows they messed up and wants to acknowledge it.
Idk I had something similar happen to me and I did not react like he did. Communication is always key. He chose to cut off the communication. Not everything is about himself but learning that comes with age. He needs to learn that just because something didn’t go the way he wanted it doesn’t mean there has to be someone to blame.
Honestly I understand him feeling upset before he knew the situation, but if someone’s pet, friend, or family member is sick, people get a free pass from me. That’s an emergency, whether my feelings were hurt or not they aren’t as important as what that person is going through.
I did something similar...my dog was very sick and it was sudden...panicked and ran him to emergency vet. The following night I had an obligation that I completely blanked on...and they were not happy. Of course...different situation but I definitely feel you. All this to say...you're not alone, we ALL mess up and react in tense situations that's outside our normal behavior. Hopefully one day soon, or down the road you can talk it out. Pray your pup gets better real soon.
Adam is mature in some ways and I generally enjoy his takes on things, but at the end of the day, he's only 22 and lacks a lot of understanding and empathy that comes with age.
I'm in my mid 30s, and whilst I may be a little annoyed about something like this, it wouldn't be as big of a deal as he's made it out. Especially after you told him the situation.
He's very young and still immature in many ways.
Awe buddy I’m sorry about this. You’ve got such a kind heart though man and it wasn’t your fault that Shadow had stuff going on. Adam would also drop everything for his dogs 100%. Yes it sucks that you forgot to contact Adam and yes it’s terrible that his time was wasted, but I think in this scenario that this would’ve slipped most people’s minds because they would only be thinking about making sure their pet was going to be ok. While I do feel for bad for Adam, this was such an extenuating circumstance that I truly feel you deserve more compassion and also forgiveness for this.
It was my fault that I completely dropped the ball and didn’t communicate though. It’s like my mind went into tunnel vision and I forgot everything else. It was my responsibility you know?
@@JoshuaDTVI understand man but this was such an extreme circumstance.. surely anyone that loves their pets and knows they are family would do the same. I do feel for you and yes it’s very unfortunate that Adam didn’t know what was happening and his time was wasted but you let him know after the fact and he has animals so he would understand. I think he’s just had terrible experiences with people so I’m sure that’s why he’s reacting the way he is. Be kind to yourself man.
@JoshuaDTV makes sense. It is difficult when you work a career and your head is full of stress and you have to get home to your family n pets and be responsible.
When your career feeds you and family relies on you, the day can get away from you.
UA-cam becomes a thing in the background until you realize that this is a career for others and they may be stressed out over miscommunication. It will take time for youtube career people and career offline people that do youtube to understand each other's struggles fully.
I hope people understand. I planned a whole bday party once for my BFF and was so bogged by work I forgot n showered and was in bed, when everyone called me asking why I was not there.
Wishing you peace in all of this
@@JoshuaDTVJosh- You missed a podcast with an online gossip. Please pick up the pieces and carry on. Wasn't it just recently, Adam was talking about a wonderful visit with you and the blue-haired gossip? And now, you miss a planned moment for filming a video, and suddenly there is a problem, and even though YOU are the one who experienced an unfortunate moment, now Adam has manipulated you into thinking you need to apologize to the world. Can't you see how he operates yet?
@@JoshuaDTV I understand why you feel that way but it happens. You had an emergency that you were taking care of and that's all you were focused on at the time. It happens.
I think this was the universe telling you its time to put all that drama and hurt to rest. Hanging on to it if just a little bit puts a roadblock up in your new road of happiness. Josh you have such a different life now...beautiful wife who adores you, a new home, a fulfilling job...why keep rehashing the past?
literally if he is as happy as he says he is he wouldnt be trying to come back as a vlogger 😂
@@poppy-s3sMore info needed. Also, you misused the word “literally.”
@@poppy-s3s Leave him alone. If he wants to create content, then he should do whatever he feels like doing. It's time to start living without caring what anybody thinks.
As a pet owner who regularly speaks about his "babies" on videos and live, I thought Adam wouldve been more understanding...
I was thinking the exact same thing
I don’t think he’s mature enough to really get it yet.
Same.
If a person has that much lack of understanding and empathy where they go to the point of saying they don't want you in their life, sounds like that is drama you don't need in your life.
Glad shadow is doing better.
Exactly. These are the moments Adam prays for. Once more, someone has "wronged" him. It's tiresome.
@@CraiginOhioUSA Absolutely.
Literally.
@@CraiginOhioUSA um… yup.
When it involves someone you love everything else slips your mind in an emergency. You don’t know until it happens to you. He’s young and he’ll learn the hard way the same way we all do if you’re wise enough and humble enough to learn.
My furbabies are my kids and no one can tell me different. Their wellbeing goes before ANYTHING! I don't have any human kids, just furry ones. I can totally understand where your head was with Shadow. Nothing else matters at that point. Some people may never understand that. I hope Adam gives you some grace and understands. ❤
I’m sorry, I literally never comment, ever, but I have to say this…Adam is being very immature. Life happens. Things happen. And when a family emergency happens, it’s hard to think about anything else. He would’ve done the same thing if his child had an emergency. His head has gotten so big since everything went down. This is honestly so sad and ridiculous. You did the right thing apologizing, but the right thing that he should’ve done was that he should’ve forgiven you instead of making you feel worse, and blasting you all over the internet. There was no reason to bring it public. You don’t deserve feeling this guilty about an emergency. You basically gave him most of his career, and then he turns on you so quickly? He’s not a bad person, but he really needs to grow up. He has a lot to learn. Real friends give you grace when these things happen. Think about that. Hang in there dude. You’re a good man. ❤
Yes, you stood him up. I wouldn’t call it a mistake because it definitely was not.
Anyone should understand that there was an emergency that came up and no one would think “ oh crap! Let me check my Instagram DMs”. You had an emergency that needed your undivided attention and it would be ridiculous for you to have tried to head off to do a podcast while leaving Pamela to try to take care of Shadow.
The fact that you guys don’t have a more reliable form of communication goes to the point that you aren’t close friends. You’re still acquaintances and this was more of a business deal than friends hopping on a podcast together. You offered to pay for his time/expenses for the situation.
Adam is allowed his feelings but they are his to deal with and work through. You have a right to your feelings and you obviously feel terrible about how it all went down. It just feels like that you keep alluding to you having made the wrong decision and you DEFINITELY did not. You communicated as soon as the podcast was back on your radar after being stressed as all get out all day practically.
You’ve made your apologies and offered amends. Now you have to let him decide to pick them up and give yourself the grace you rarely afford yourself for being human.
I do also think that there is some perspective lacking for Adam that simply comes with progressing through adulthood. He’s still a young adult and what’s big to his age group is no longer big to our age group. It’s nice that you tried to create some healthy mutual connections with him given everything that linked you guys before but early 20 year olds and 40 years don’t have a lot to connect on in the first place. You both just happen to have the surreal opportunity to try because you connect over UA-cam.
I support Adam and watch his channel regularly, but I do notice that he has a tendency to be too harsh on people before really getting the full story, which isn’t fair to others. It sounds like you had quite a crazy day that day, and honestly I don’t think you are to blame for anything. Adam needs to be kinder and not be so attacking.
Adam is immature. Move on from ALL of these people and don't look back.
I’m so sorry, Josh. Life happens and I totally understand how this could happen. I hope Adam calms down because as a pet owner he should understand situations like this. Please don’t feel guilty. ✌🏼
Family comes first, Shadow is family. I can see why Adam is upset, especially without a text about what was happening in the moment.. but shit happens.
This
Honestly in my opinion, Being separate from Adam and the drama. You have grown and put the drama behind you, and really that is where it should stay for you. Drama is Adams job but not for you.
I think your apology was very heartfelt and genuine. It hurt my heart hearing your voice break up at the end. The guilt and the hurt and sadness you feel is palpable. I'm sorry this happened.
I know that its not our place to accept an apology meant for someone else, but I have to at least say this video was impeccable, even the fact that you had the realisation that you should make it a stand alone video. Your heart really is in the right place, even if you're beating yourself up for letting someone down, even if they don't forgive you, you know your heart and I think we do too ❤️
Edit: Also I think Adam might be doing you a favour by not working with you.. I have nothing against him as a person but I just don't think you need to be associated with drama channels yknow..
💔.
This will always out there for him to see. Thank you for making this beautiful apology. I’m so sorry things went down for you the way they did.
As an Adam fan I think he should film with Josh again sometime because this was just a minor fluke
It would be a shame if Adam’s emotions about this fluke got in the way of a likely future collaboration video
Where did Adam talk about this to begin with? I can’t find it!
@ same here, I don’t know where he talked about it
If Adam is respectful and appreciated Josh. , yes
I agree with all of these comments. Adam is being a bit disrespectful here. You explained the reasons why. Not sure why he would stop talking to you over this?
Adam is selfish if he thinks you let him down. I honestly feel like he is looking for a reason to stir up drama by talking about it on his channel which he knows will then force you to have to fill in the blanks on your channel. It becomes an endless cycle because Adam doesn’t like to drop an opportunity to cause drama. He could have said there was a family emergency and the podcast session was postponed for now or something. He didn’t have to embarrass you publicly if that’s what happened. I don’t follow him anymore because of the toxic energy I feel from his content so I don’t know what was said. I do know you are being kind to him and want no ill will to come from this but I wonder if this was a blessing in disguise for you. Like maybe you dodged a bullet. Please do not regret one moment of this situation at all. Not one second. Don’t let it eat you up. You did nothing wrong. What if this emergency was your human child? Would he have changed his tune? Probably not. He is too self absorbed. Don’t let him get to you. Just keep moving on with your life. Now let’s get excited for holidays! 🍂🎄
Na man. My dog gets sick and everyone else can go to heck. When my dogs are sick that is all I’m focused on. Also having short term memory issues, adds to it and not having phone numbers for something so important is crazy. Adam should have accepted your apology, swapped numbers and rescheduled.
It just means that it does need a period at the end of it. You came to terms with a lot involving Adam. I am a believer that things happen for a reason. I hope he can see and accept the apology. But it is time to move on from it all. You are in such different seasons of life. I think if he doesn't understand now, he will, eventually. He needs to go through a lot more life to get the gravity of it all. You are human and stuff happens. Give yourself some grace. You did the right thing, apologized, and offered to compensate him for his time and expenses. You did what you could. Now ... on to the next.
I feel bad that it had to happen to Adam of all people, but I relate so strongly to this moment you had. I’ve been in this situation multiple times. You feel so awful and can’t understand how you possibly forgot about a whole event. It’s okay Josh. You’re human. Adam is entitled to be irritated, but you’re entitled to forget. It is ok. ❤️
I can see why he’d be upset before speaking with you, but after hearing about what happened, I’m surprised he’d still be upset about it. Especially because of what he’s gone thru in the last year with his cats. When you’re in that type of situation you get panicked and everything else goes out of your mind and out of the window. You were doing what you needed to do for Shadow and there’s nothing wrong with that. To hear that he’s saying he’s upset to his followers, won’t film with you etc, just leaves a bad taste in my mouth. You didn’t do it maliciously or for any other reason than a medical emergency. I’m disappointed in Adam. You did what you needed and should have done for Shadow and anyone with fur babies would have done the same. I hope Shadow is doing better, I know it’s so hard to see our “fur kids” get older, and start having medical issues. He’s your best friend and has been there with you thru the toughest part of your life and it’s a bond that only you two understand. I’ve been there. Sending love to you, Shadow and Pamela. ❤
I’m sorry but no. Do NOT be embarrassed. What happened is totally normal during a fight or flight experience. Animals are family and always come first if in need. Anyone who doesn’t understand that and doesn’t have empathy for that, is not a person I’d ever associate with. Ever. My animals are my world. And I won’t budge on that opinion. I’m glad Shadow is okay. Sweet pup.
It was a nice thing you all had going on connecting over all that happened but it’s time to wish each other well and move on to your individual things. You and Pam are amazing people and don’t need UA-cam drama.
This is a class act, a gracious and mature way of how to deal with a ‘typical messy life we are all just human’ situation 😊
It definitely makes sense that you were frazzled in an emergency like that and forgot about everything else going on. I definitely would too. I would be focusing on my dog too. And I get how he felt too because he didn’t get ANY texts from you in that moment. He had NO idea what was going on. Totally missed opportunity. Total misunderstanding. It sucks for both sides and you are handling it so well ❤
My intuition was spot on. I could feel your sadness from your posts later and I knew there was more going on. 💔
Everything was totally adding up to Adam is so right until I HEARD the words it was all though Instagram and DMS !????? Why the heck didn't he call that would've fixed everything! Emergencies happen ..... Specially when someone has something special to do! Poor josh 😢
I can’t even imagine the feeling when you realized you had missed the podcast! I had those gut wrenching times in life. You’re human, you had human emotions taking over your thoughts for good reason! Dogs are family. I understand him being upset but not to this extent lol
You’re a good guy Josh. These things happen. He should understand you’re a grown man and not everything happens. On the day. It’s like if a friend cancels plans, there’s no need to then say they don’t want you in their life.
I love that you can take accountability but please don’t be so hard on yourself. You didn’t intentionally stand him up, you had a family matter and you did what any good dog parent would do! Life’s too short; don’t waste it being too hard on yourself- you’re human, you make mistakes but you rise up and grow and learn.. hope you’re ok 🩷
Josh, you inspire me more than you know. I hope you know how much we love you and appreciate you as a creator and a human.
❤❤ we love him.
I totally understand, but I know your family is your priority and in stressful situations like that it’s completely understandable that it slipped your mind, thank you for being honest and recognizing your mistake. Don’t feel like you’re a bad person because you’re not, things happen. Sending you, Pamela and Shadow lots of love 💕
I watch adam all the time and while i think he has some great takes and everything- i do feel like he has not grown or done or half the things he says he has done.
Its crazy how he wants to be more open and be less closed off with people such as starting with rosanna and what not, but outside of collabing with her and i guess just having guests on a podcast- he clearly hasnt. I mean you two put the past behind you and when something serious came up and you tried to explain to him he wouldnt listen. If hes really about opening up to people then he needs to listen. Thats genuinely his biggest issue. He wants to speak and speak and speak but never wants to listen to what people are saying unless theyre saying things that can bring him good content, or things that mimic what he believes and is saying. Quite frankly its really sad because ive been on the fence about adam for so long and this situation happening and seeing the way he reacted and how immature it was- just pushes me more. Again he has some great takes but he is so arrogant sometimes and says some really crappy things himself about other people but wants to have a moral highground.
I swear if he makes a video on this and doesnt acknowledge EVERYTHING he did wrong in this situation i might genuinely unsub and unfollow and take my whole friend group who i showed him to with me. He is just becoming so incredibly put of touch.
It’s a trauma response!! Your body has been through so much trauma, blocking out everything else but the emergency response is a survival mechanism. I so hope you have a trauma informed therapist ❤
Kudos to you. It takes a lot to come on and apologize. Sometimes stuff happens in life. There is a certain panic that comes when a pet is ill and you don't know what to do because they can't tell you what is wrong. I hope you have peace in the situation. I am sure Adam will understand as he has had his own heartbreaking events with his pets.
So glad Shadow is ok, sending my love ❤
I can relate to the forgetfulness….. I am a year sober but mine is lupus it’s gotten worse as I’ve gotten sober. I just got diagnosed with lupus and now it makes sense. I think you’re very sincere and hopefully he accepts the apology and moves on.
Sometimes, I think people try to imagine if they were in a situation what they would do. It’s easier to say that when you’re not in it, but even if you were, even if you’ve been in the same situation before, it’s how our genetics interact with our environment. Some people are more forgetful than others, and this might be emphasized in an emergency. It’s easier to remember a routine, like calling out of work, than a one off thing when your mind is scattered.
Of course, we should all want to respect each other’s time, and in a perfect world this wouldn’t have happened, but we are human and we will make mistakes. Since this is not a repeated pattern of behavior (which would mean there is a lot more work that needs to be done) extending grace might be warranted. This feels like a “cast the first stone” kind of thing. There was no malicious intent - just an exhausted, stressed, and forgetful human.
Adam doesn’t have to forgive anyone, he has a right to protect his world and heart especially after everything he’s been through with people. I’m more so thinking about what strangers looking in should consider. Just my opinion.
You have a completely understandable reason to have had this happen. You’re clearly remorseful and that’s honorable, but I think both he and you are being far too hard on yourself. Yes it would have been polite and necessary to let him know, but you’ve explained why that didn’t happen.
hope he see this, and hope you have already learned the internet is not everything. You built a life outside it very well. Adam still is in the mindset a bit of the internet is everything it seems, but that is normal and ok where he is at. good luck with the doggo
I don’t know if you need someone like this in your life at this point Josh. Everything happens for a reason
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You're only human Josh, these things happen, you had a very chaotic moment and sometimes our brain shuts down everything else so we can focus on one thing that requires our full attention. You had a totally normal reaction of flight, fight, or freeze. Sometimes triggers from what we've been through take us there too. Given the circumstances of your dog, no wonder you reacted like that. Quick tip: You're very good with advice to people, what would you tell your friend if they came to you with this exact same scenario?
Adam's reaction is valid in the sense because he didn't hear from you and that would send anyone in a panic, but you have a life too. Sometimes in life things get out of your control and that's not your fault.
It sounds more like he's reacting out of a trauma response more so than anything and may not be conscious of it from previous encounters with content creators in the past, more so than what actually happened. Triggers are not easy to deal with and especially if they're in the unconscious, so I do feel for him in case that's why, but either way that's not your fault. You can't control how other people react to you, but you can control how you react to it all.
You did everything you could once you realised what happened. It was a lot to go through both with your job and Shadow. You said your part and offered more than enough back.
I hope you are easy on yourself for this because it's not entirely on you. Maybe this reaction from him is bringing things up for you too. Mind yourself throughout this and I hope you don't feel guilt for this. I'm sending you love and I'm sorry this happened.
This has happened to me for a medical appointment that I had been waiting months for! I really wanted to attend this appt, it had been in my head for months, and my health depended on it. I could not believe my own brain for messing up like that! But It happens!!
I have had to cancel friend appointments without notice because of family issues like this- if someone doesn’t understand, that’s their problem 🤷🏽♀️
I feel like standing up on a podcast bc you had an overwhelming day is not a big enough reason to dissolve a friendship 😭 esp as you have completely acknowledged how you hurt someone and apologized.
I unsubscribed from Adam. Used to love him but now it’s just about clout chasing and he’s also immature.
I pray Adam finds grace and forgives you 🙏
He won't cause he's immature
Eventually Adam finds a way to make himself the victim in every situation in his life.
Hm i don't know. He texted you saying "where are you I'm worried about you," and then feels upset at you still after you explained that you had an emergency with your beloved pet. I mean I get it but I wouldn't go public talking poorly about you if I were in his shoes. Things happen and you paid him back!
Honestly I'd be more concerned if you WERE checking your Instagram DMs during all of that
Adam feeling so offended is so chidish. He wants to be a grown up but he still isn't there yet. He has so many good opinions but hey in the adult world you have to give people the benefit of the doubt. And when something urgent comes up like a family member (or pet) being in a medical emergency guess what? That comes first. And yes your nervous system and brain is going to focus on that and only that. You didn't forget. You were focused on saving your dog. And that shifted your attention. Life happens. And I don't think this generation gets it. They want everything to happen their way at their pace..no excuses. No reason to be ashamed i bet if the same thing happened to him you would act differently and wouldve understood and rebooked or made it work out somehow. But he embarrassed you and put the blame on you and made it public. And used the trauma you have already and did it again. Kid wants attention and he didn't get it. It's a learning moment for him to give people the benefit of the doubt and for you to be easy on yourself sometimes you aren't the one to blame. It just happened like that, it's destiny.
IMO It goes towards his need for attention. All due respect to the parties involved past and present but he magnified things for his own self aggrandizement. Now that time has passed, the attention falling away, suddenly there is more drama? Do the math. This has all to do with His need for overdramatic attention.
@jahgust Josh or Adam?
@@asmaafaisal6912 Adam. Josh was handling an emergency. If that is beyond Adams understanding and will now proceed to drag Josh now? I think we are finding out who the toxic one was.
@jahgust I agree Adam feeds of drama and tea. It started as a story now its a lifestyle. And maybe it's in Josh's best interest that Adam doesn't want to associate with him. Josh's been through enough. It's sad honestly I didn't expect Adam to be this narrow sighted.
@@asmaafaisal6912 Honestly I am not surprised. Not for for nothing but everything that happened with CB and was escalated by him to a ridiculous degree was him talking about it and re-iterating to the point of destroying someone for the sake of it. Don't mistake me excusing the stupid mistakes made by the other party, but the timing of it was after they cut ties with him for his actions. He was the toxic one all along and both her and Josh got caught and are still dealing with his wake. Good riddance I say.
I'd love to hear his side, what video is it mentioned in?
My first impressions... What a petty reason to end a friendship. I believe he has pets of his own, he should know how traumatic something like this can be. You've done everything you can to make it right. I find his reaction extremely immature and disappointing tbh.
It's in his recent podcast video with his friend neave. I think it's towards the end of the video when he mentions Josh
@itsollieyx3 thank you 💓
Be prepared. Adam will take this video, make it public on his site, by making a video of his own with it. Probably before even talking to you first. It’s how he works. Impeccable apology video though. He should understand. Being who he is and how young he is, I doubt it though.
He is a twenty-two year old grown man...right?
So what is Josh referring to about him speaking on it? Or did he take it down?
In my opinion you shouldn't be so hard on yourself, especially about forgetting things. I'm going to echo most of the comments, but you had an emergency that came up. It was a stress response that your main focus was on Shadow and not on anything else. Again when you're in that type of situation you're not going to think about anything else and social media. You apologizing about not reaching out (even if you didn't have to given the situation) and offering to compensate him is enough, should be the end of story. Of course it sucks to be disappointed but life happens before social media, podcasts, etc. Take care of yourself Josh.
What happened to all the comments going against Adam? And him being immature? It was the top comment.
Adam needs to stop making everything public. He does this to all creators. Airs everything out. Keep the conversations to yourself.
Where does he mention it I can't find it
I think Adam is a lovely person, and while I can understand being disappointed, feeling disrespected is a bit much. When an emergency happens with your family (and Shadow is family), that takes priority and I would think the other person could understand and give grace. Centering yourself and your feelings in this situation is rather immature, honestly, and maybe just a product of Adam's age. I hope, with time, he can reflect and understand. ❤
In Adam's mind, his gossip videos are more important than anything else on the planet. He doesn't have any sense of empathy for other people. Doesn't care what's happening in their lives unless it can be turned into "content". Slowly but surely, people are seeing him for what he has always been.
Does anyone know where Adam originally talked about this? I can’t find it.
Also Josh I totally understand when it comes to my fur babies everything else comes second! It was a genuine mistake (I don’t even know if mistake is the right word it was just something that happened. A family emergency if you will… thanks for sharing with us and hopefully Adam will understand as well. If not, then I think he is the problem not you
You had a family emergency. Forgive yourself. He is clearly still a child
It takes a lot of maturity to just apologize and taking responsibility without being defensive or anything. Again shows the kind of person you are!
Josh while you can feel bad for missing the podcast this heavy guilt just isn’t right to place on yourself. You did nothing that a rational, caring person wouldn’t totally understand. You not only apologized but offered to cover the cost of the space he rented. Any person in your shoes would’ve done the same thing and their mind wouldn’t have been on a podcast but on their pet that needed vet care. He’s a pet owner or at least I know he had pets so I just can’t see him not getting what went on with you. Maybe he’s just too young to think rationally about situations like this. At any rate that’s not your fault and I really hope you realize you did nothing wrong. You didn’t forget him and the podcast an emergency took precedence over it and your mind and body were exactly where they were
supposed to be, with your wife and Shadow. I feel like you just weren’t meant to do that podcast anyway. Be kind to yourself Josh. ❤
I understand both sides. But Adam was tipsy towards the end of the video. He was catty. But he is also a very level-headed young man. Do not feel horrible about this, furbabies come first. In chaotic situations, you're just in flight mode. But towards the end of it, he was smashed.
He should have said sorry if he was ‘tipsy’.
@@J97736 they spoke privately about it. Josh is just telling his side of the story .
There will be other opportunities to connect with Adam. I've only seen a couple of his videos, but he seems very level headed, fair and compassionate. I'm sure he understands the situation and from just the two or three videos of his I've seen, he's not quick to judge or pass judgement. He seems very much like you, a caring person with an open heart. I look forward to a future video collab with him with lots of fun and laughs.
I don’t think a grovelling apology is needed, yes Adam is young but by no means is he a child and should understand that life happens and emergencies come up and your first thought isn’t the acquaintance you were meeting, it’s the situation you’re in there and then, it’s unfortunate he feels the way he does but ultimately it isn’t the end of the world as we know it.
He’s an adult. Old enough to understand when emergencies and things need to take place in front of a podcast interview
Ugh I’m so sorry about this. I totally understand the time blindness and memory issues! It’s probably the hardest part about recovery. I’ve even stood up my own daughter and of course I was looking forward to that. You’ve done your part and life can be taxing enough so try not to hold on to it. Grateful Shadow is ok!
I think weve all had moments where we forget something important. The absolute PANIC you feel once you realize.... you and Adam both seem like wonderful people and I hope at some point you can at least be in communication again!
Can’t believe he felt disrespected over an EMERGENCY though. Childish much. You don’t owe him anything Josh.
I understand why you feel bad, but bottom line is, family comes first and Shadow is your family. It would have been incredibly inhumane and disturbing if you had ignored the signs Shadow was showing you to say he needed help. You did the right thing and as a 45 year old with life experience, I completely understand how you could have forgotten about other commitments. Your family and Shadow is lucky to have you.
I don't blame either of you for feeling like you do. I run tests for students at a college and when they no-show with no message it is immensely frustrating, so I can really sympathize with Adam for that. However, I also have animals, including one that suffered from chronic illness whose death I am still healing from two years later, so I also fully sympathize with you and why you could not do the podcast. I just feel like the situation overall kinda sucks. I hope the door's not fully closed for you two, and that this is just the end of a chapter instead of the end of the book, but if so, then so be it, I guess.
I actually just went through this same thing, could be substance/alc abuse or could be 30yrs old.. but I don't even think it was anything like that.. my dog is my kid, so I truly black out when he's not right.. allll you can think about it he was just fine one second and then the next out of nowhere you don't know what is going on... my pup is almost 2yrs old and something happened out of the blue to his tail or tail end, it put him down soo fast. He was a completely diff dog and I mean I honestly thought he was going to pass. I couldn't think about even checking my phone for messages. I'm not even sure my phone was on me. It truly was a jump straight into action moment for me as well.. my brain genuinely neverrr thought about what else I was supposed to be doing at the time.. luckily four days later, hundreds of dollars and gabapentin/rimadyl every 12hrs, he's somehow back to normal completely and now I'm back to normal too. But that was terrifying. I cannot believe how different he acted out of nowhere and sooo quick too. The vet can't even really say what happened or what was wrong.. just that we treated based on symptoms and he's fine now. Thankfully. I was not ready to lose my almost 2yr old pup that I rescued for $300, and have spent thousands on training him and fixing him/shots/meds/etc.. whew. Glad your pup is in the clear too Josh, I think it's a hard situation to truly understand unless you've been there yourself. And I don't wish anyone and/or their dog to go through that honestly. :(
I feel like he would understand more considering he went through hell with losing his cats. :/
Wishing you peace and understanding to you and everyone involved.
Stress does a number on the body and mind. Could happen to anyone. It's not like you were having a jolly old time and simply forgot because you didn't care. It sucks when people don't have compassion but it will likely happen to him one day and he'll realise how it feels to not be given grace. Lessons for everyone, is life.
Puppy comes first. Hopefully, you can sort this out
Exactly !
I agree with the instagrams dms and not having a phone number. That seems a little weird not having a phone number if you are communicating about doing a collab and have even met in person.
Family comes first. I have been in similar situations and EVERYTHING else falls by the wayside.
Thank you for the apology and taking accountability. I know how you feel. My memory is failing me too.
Adam is a clout chasing goblin 👺
I think Adam is impulsive and immature. I would have been really angry at first, but if you were to tell me that it was for your pup, immediate pass and forgiveness. I would do the same thing with any of my animals. I would drop and forget everything to make sure they were taken care of. So I think you’ve done your part and if he can’t get over it, that’s his own issue.
It sounds like you did everything you could given the circumstances you were going through. I really like Adam but it sounds like he may have overreacted in this situation. Much love!💜
Awe man, I know he may understand because he has fur babies too ❤ sorry to hear about this, I feel bad that it went down like this, I hope you two can mend things.
I want to start with I love Adam. I think if he thought about this objectively, this was your pup you were concerned with. That is the period. If the roles were reversed, Adam loves his animals too and it could have been him forgetting something important. He just needs time to see it from that direction. I didn't see what he said so i could just be speculating, but i don't think he'll be holding a grudge forever over this. I had a similar situation not too long ago when one of my doggies got into a huge amount of chocolate that my son had left out. He was so sick and i rushed him to the vet and forgot i had agreed to take my uncle to his doctor appointment. I got to the vet and left my phone in the car. He called and called but i was pacing around the vets office not even thinking of anything else. It happens and there isn't anything we wouldn't do for our animals and this will bridge the gap between standing someone up and having a legit reason to miss something. Big hugs to you and Adam. ❤❤❤
You both are amazing, josh please don’t blame yourself. It’s nobody’s fault
Ugh, that's such a bummer. 😢 I'm sorry that happened.
I'm sure he will understand, you had a family emergency
Heyyyy don't be so hard on yourself! Shadow is part of your family, and that was an emergency. If he doesn't understand that, then that says a lot about him. You apologized. What more can you do? If you and I had plans and you did that to me, I wouldn't be upset with you. I would put you first and make sure you were okay. I wouldn't expect you to put me before your sweet shadow. Especially if something was wrong with him.
Adam has cats and they have also had health problems. The way he is acting sounds entitled and very unkind. He should try having a little empathy and be a little more understanding. Especially since you offered to pay and didn’t even have his phone number.
While it sucks that it happened, it was a genuine mistake and Adam can feel however he feels but if he hears that you had a pet emergency and doesnt give you grace for that, that's more reflective of him than you. Especially when you offered to pay for the spot. That is just petty on his part.
Doesn’t Adam have pets? Surely he would understand?
Thank you Josh. Addressing things as a gentelman. (As always)
The fact it had everything to do with your dog, adam should give you more grace, he would of expected the same when he lost his animals, granted you got lucky and still have your dog, but hes been thru it and should get it. This was very thoughtful of you, and i really dont think adam should of made this public, especially since you reached out privately before he decided to talk about it on his channel. He could of made a statement as to why the pod never happened and left it at that, im sorry you feel so bad, but this was 100% NOT your fault!
Adam still has some growing up to do, obviously. But hopefully this wasnt the end to your guys friendship. Hopefully this can become positive in the future after adam calms down from feeling like he was betrayed when he wasnt. LIFE HAPPENS.
I’m sorry but this is all so absurd. The fact that Adam felt the need to speak about this publicly is very immature. The fact that Josh felt like he had to make this video is so sad. Not saying Josh is innocent. He could have communicated that he wasn’t going to make it. But Adam can deal with stuff like this privately.
Adam is very immature. And clearly needs to learn empathy. It’s getting ridiculous