TikToker describes how people treated her differently after she lost 250 pounds

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  • @egl3369
    @egl3369 Місяць тому +355

    Skinny privilege and pretty privilege are SO REAL

    • @spicybrown75
      @spicybrown75 Місяць тому +14

      Don't forget being young privilege too.

    • @thinline8504
      @thinline8504 Місяць тому +14

      skinny, blonde, and white sure lmao. almost soccer momish ..

    • @hippiechick2112
      @hippiechick2112 Місяць тому +4

      YES

    • @kittenpawsbb
      @kittenpawsbb Місяць тому +1

      Oh stop. She clearly hated herself, that’s why she was morbidly obese. Why are you putting expectations, on how strangers should treat you. #SeekGod 😌🙏🏽🌟🕊️

    • @spicybrown75
      @spicybrown75 Місяць тому +1

      @@egl3369 and young privilege too

  • @TheSimmpleTruth
    @TheSimmpleTruth Місяць тому +70

    Absolutely! I saw that myself when I started gaining weight due to undiagnosed hypothyroidism. People were meaner, more judgmental, gave me looks, ignored me, talked to me as if I was a moron, etc, etc, etc.

  • @terry4161
    @terry4161 Місяць тому +136

    This happened to me in high school years ago. I had lost 70 pounds and nobody ever sat with or spoke to me. I came back skinny and lost the weight over the summer and everyone thought I was new student and wanted to talk to me. I got a lot of attention after losing the weight. People are so shallow. They don’t really want you for your heart.

    • @KQDYMagallaz
      @KQDYMagallaz Місяць тому +9

      congrats on your weight loss, and your new healthy life

    • @terry4161
      @terry4161 Місяць тому +2

      @@KQDYMagallaz thank you!

    • @lexa_power
      @lexa_power Місяць тому

      😢💕💕💕

    • @lexa_power
      @lexa_power Місяць тому +2

      I had a similar experience. Broke my nose as a kid and my face was deformed. Got bullied so bad i wanted to self delete. Got rocks thrown at me every day in 7th grade. Had a nose job and switched to a new school and i was extremely popular in 8th grade & everyone thought i was new in town and wanted to be my friend and date me even tho the only thing that changed was my nose 😢

    • @terry4161
      @terry4161 Місяць тому

      @@lexa_power sounds like we went through similar experiences! Sorry you had to deal with the bullying. It just reveals how low down folks can be.

  • @CymonTempler
    @CymonTempler Місяць тому +104

    It’s a tale as old as time.
    Black Like Me (1964) - Fat Like Me (2007) - The Pregnancy Project (2012).
    All of these books/ movies tell of how people are treated differently because of one thing or another.

  • @Krabbypattiez2424
    @Krabbypattiez2424 Місяць тому +21

    This is so true! As someone whose weight has fluctuated most of my life, I have always found myself being treated better when I am skinnier than when I have been on my heavier side.

  • @brittanyb5942
    @brittanyb5942 Місяць тому +17

    When I was 40lbs heavier (almost 200lbs) due to a medication I was on, people and my FAMILY treated me differently. Their comments hurt my feelings.

  • @spiekd
    @spiekd Місяць тому +110

    Attractive people will ALWAYS be treated better ,be it at school ,work or social life .This is brutal fact of life .

    • @irememberla6460
      @irememberla6460 Місяць тому +6

      It is a rude awakening for them when they age, even with all the botox injections and fillers.

    • @kittenpawsbb
      @kittenpawsbb Місяць тому +6

      And she lost weight to be one of those attractive people. Can’t beat them, join them. 🤷🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️

    • @essquared24
      @essquared24 Місяць тому +4

      It's the definition of the word attractive

    • @carvedwood1953
      @carvedwood1953 Місяць тому +5

      @@kittenpawsbb she lost the weight to live longer for her kids.

    • @kittenpawsbb
      @kittenpawsbb Місяць тому

      @@carvedwood1953 Her video should be about that, but her video was to complain how people supposedly treated her when she was fat. Now it's we should shame people for having "skinny privilege", ridiculous.

  • @cynthiaholland13
    @cynthiaholland13 Місяць тому +5

    People treat you better when you're attractive and it's unfair, but most of us fall into that trap

  • @th1s1kat
    @th1s1kat Місяць тому +10

    Facts!!! I noticed this too as I recently lost quite a bit of weight.

  • @pippa3150
    @pippa3150 Місяць тому +84

    Everyone in the comments complaining. Try getting older and see how invisible you become.

    • @Mrs.Butterworth
      @Mrs.Butterworth Місяць тому +13

      If a person works hard on their self-confidence and happiness/gratitude, they will not care whether others see them or what they think.

    • @Psychiatricnerd
      @Psychiatricnerd Місяць тому +2

      Thankfully I don’t need the validation of others based on my looks. I’m youngish (a mom of young kids) and get plenty of attention but absolutely do not need or want it. I’m a humble Christian woman who seeks validation from the Lord and only cares what my husband thinks.

    • @HigkeyRegarded007
      @HigkeyRegarded007 Місяць тому +1

      But wouldn't everyone else be getting older with you? Thus, making you less invisible because most would have the shared experience of being invisible so they would see you for more of who you are.

    • @DeeWhitehead-g2h
      @DeeWhitehead-g2h Місяць тому +6

      The truth is that as you age you do tend to be overlooked and ignored.
      I am almost 70 and am 110, silver hair and very physically fit. I STILL notice the difference in how I am treated when younger women are around. It’s mind blowing. I am a confident happy person and the struggle is REAL.
      2:33

    • @DeeWhitehead-g2h
      @DeeWhitehead-g2h Місяць тому +3

      And I’m NOT blaming younger women…it’s just prevalent in our society that older folks have to be very careful in and watchful while in public. My parents passed 25 years ago and I remember taking my mother shopping when she was 87 and had to reprimand a young woman for shoving my mother out of her way while we were shopping. The gal just ignored me and kept on going. I mean it was unbelievable.

  • @Jamie-Gaviola
    @Jamie-Gaviola Місяць тому +9

    This is so real. People are nicer to you when you look skinny..

  • @sarahoxford8745
    @sarahoxford8745 Місяць тому +4

    She’s not lying it’s absolutely crazy how different your treated.

  • @benjip3441
    @benjip3441 Місяць тому +9

    So true and so real. Thanks for sharing

  • @judithshelton5655
    @judithshelton5655 Місяць тому +4

    I’m confused. I like the message but why all the images of her eating food?

  • @Cucumberflavoredmustard
    @Cucumberflavoredmustard Місяць тому +22

    Good for her. She made the right decision and saw it through. Life is better when healthy.

  • @shipwreck8847
    @shipwreck8847 Місяць тому +43

    To social media, please don't stigmatize weight loss as a bad thing. It's so strange how some social media is framing it that way. People judge each other differently whether you want to realize it or not based on weight and if you want to change that perception that's one reason for losing weight. But the bigger one is health. You add so much more quality years to your life. I know people with diabetes and who just suffered a stroke or heart attacks. The people who had strokes can't even walk, they are immobilize and diabetes leads to blindness and limbs having be removed surgically. Weight loss only improves your life and it shouldn't be seen as anything different unless it's extreme and leads to anorexia, but in most cases that's not the case. So please leave people alone with their weight loss journey.

    • @kittenpawsbb
      @kittenpawsbb Місяць тому +2

      Thank you. She made her choices in life to be morbidly obese, she treated herself more poorly than anyone else in this world, and it almost cost her, her life. Now she wants to complains, instead of appreciating, that she’s treating herself better by maintaining this weight loss. Being a victim is a miserable way to live. 🤦🏽‍♀️ #GodFirst 😌🙏🏽🌟🕊️

    • @laurenhoover6024
      @laurenhoover6024 Місяць тому +2

      @@kittenpawsbb the irony in the hashtag after being so judgmental in your comment... might want to go consult your god again on what he thinks you should be doing...

  • @unionunicorn6776
    @unionunicorn6776 Місяць тому +1

    The worst part is my family is the toxic people who treated me WORSE when I was a healthy weight, because they are abusive and want me to be as miserable as they are. Every time I am away from them, I am so much better off. When I’m around normal healthy people I feel better about myself inside and out.

  • @azc3153
    @azc3153 Місяць тому +16

    Well people will judge you no matter what

  • @kidrobot.
    @kidrobot. Місяць тому +1

    wow this is unheard of, glad she exposed society

  • @jessicamontaperto810
    @jessicamontaperto810 Місяць тому

    Congratulations 🎈🍾🎊🎉 on losing 250 lbs! I have lost half the inches this year so far already). Had to darn twice cancel weight in appointment sec time in a row two months I am doing the best I can in spite of the migraines been having so much for 7 months 😿.

  • @StellaPurple
    @StellaPurple Місяць тому +6

    when i was skinny, people just stop insisting i exercise. Still did not exercise before or after or even now.

    • @sharonrose50
      @sharonrose50 Місяць тому +1

      I use to be that way until I had blood clots in my lungs so now to remain healthy I walk at least 5 miles 5x a week to not only to maintain my weight but to stay healthy the excess weight can shorten your life.

  • @mrcr33py
    @mrcr33py Місяць тому +1

    I was 75 pounds at most over weight. Now 15 pounds overweight. Everybody starts talking to you more and more smiles. Intermittent fasting helps the most and getting at least 10k steps a day with weight training.

  • @larissawhitt9922
    @larissawhitt9922 Місяць тому +1

    I’ve recently lost 50lbs and I still feel like she does. Skinny privilege is a real thing

  • @TOROG13
    @TOROG13 Місяць тому

    I'm in the same boat people just gravitate to people that are in shape

  • @twrourke6557
    @twrourke6557 Місяць тому

    Good for you, keep it up.

  • @arlenereid8919
    @arlenereid8919 Місяць тому +2

    What diet worked for you?

  • @cynthiaholland13
    @cynthiaholland13 Місяць тому

    People assume people who gain and carry a lot of weight don't care about themselves enough to lose the weight. They treat them as less valuable which is so sad

  • @meribelgoldwin
    @meribelgoldwin Місяць тому +1

    So happy she's doing well and she mentioned pretty privilege. There also needs to be a conversation, a much larger conversation, about pretty danger and pretty exploitation and harm as a result of being pretty. These are all very real things.

  • @kellyebojorquez5695
    @kellyebojorquez5695 Місяць тому +1

    It’s a good thing for her that she is attractive. Now she is treated differently but I think it would be a different situation if she lost the weight and wasn’t also an aesthetically pretty person besides.

  • @roxybryant5076
    @roxybryant5076 Місяць тому +4

    Yup they sure do treat u different. Used to be much heavier than I am now went thru abuse even from strangers and family alike. I remember that now when I’m in the presence of other beautiful humans who have may have my experience or any other surface issue. There are valuable beautiful people being cast aside all the time because we refuse to recognize worth past what we deem as acceptable appearance. It’s a shame and a drawback for mankind.🙁

  • @iexist7408
    @iexist7408 Місяць тому +4

    I’ve been low weight my entire life and I’m constantly harassed about it.
    Well I’m glad this woman isn’t

    • @kittenpawsbb
      @kittenpawsbb Місяць тому

      No you should feel guilty for being naturally thin, and all the privileges that have come along with it. 🙄 She’s ridiculous for making up this claim, this is something she made up on her imagination. Thank you 🤗 #GodFirst

    • @TheBrandiElizabeth
      @TheBrandiElizabeth Місяць тому +1

      @@kittenpawsbbwow what a godly response

    • @kittenpawsbb
      @kittenpawsbb Місяць тому

      @@TheBrandiElizabeth It’s not, unlike you I don’t claim to be God. #SeekGod 😌🙏🏽🌟🕊️

    • @TheBrandiElizabeth
      @TheBrandiElizabeth Місяць тому +1

      @@kittenpawsbb lol I claimed to be God? I just knew I was forgetting something! 🙄

    • @kittenpawsbb
      @kittenpawsbb Місяць тому

      @@TheBrandiElizabeth Maybe you should reread your initial comment. #SeekGod 😌🙏🏽🌟🕊️

  • @the77th
    @the77th Місяць тому

    You didn’t treat yourself the same when you were heavier! That’s ALSO a fact! We gotta stop trying to make weight loss a crime! We also gotta stop making being fat seem like the only social disadvantage! I’m 6 feet 6 and athletic! I’ve seen how women treat my “not so tall” male friends! Different privileges and disadvantages happen every second of the day! Yes we must work everyday NOT to be judgmental and be better people, but it’s also ok to tell yourself the truth! You didn’t feel like your best self at that weight! Whether it was because of outside judgement or it was because you felt you could stand to lose some weight, whatever it was, YOU were the deciding factor, not just “people” !

  • @Tamara_rs45
    @Tamara_rs45 Місяць тому

    She kind of reminds me of actress Jenna Elfman. 💫✨️🤩

  • @rizingzun
    @rizingzun Місяць тому +14

    OMG but she looks so good
    😮😮😮

    • @broookehunter
      @broookehunter Місяць тому +1

      This is the problem she’s talking about

    • @lydiaheelu2681
      @lydiaheelu2681 Місяць тому

      Totally! Like an entirely different person. The way her skin is glowing.

  • @levelintent
    @levelintent Місяць тому

    I wish we could all find out what we need to "shed" in order to be treated like a normal human being... for her it was being fat. But what about people who are not fat but still treated like shxt and ignored? What are other things that non-fat people who are treated badly have to shed so that everyone can experience a normal life?

  • @lucasfrank8843
    @lucasfrank8843 Місяць тому +8

    People treat people differently when they are different. Ok. Thanks.

  • @zman4444
    @zman4444 Місяць тому +2

    Being fat is a choice, nobody is pushing food down to your throat. Eating processed garbage and visiting McDonald every day is a choice. Intermittent fasting, avoiding bad choices is a must, we were not designed to eat all the time.

  • @HighMaintenanceMinimalist
    @HighMaintenanceMinimalist Місяць тому +7

    She sure does do a lot a car eating.

  • @chrisljieun
    @chrisljieun Місяць тому +2

    Of course your kids treat you differently!!! You have more energy to play with them!!! You lost a lot of weight!! That means you are determined! That you are motivated!! That you have self control!!!! All good things!!!

    • @ThePickledStories
      @ThePickledStories Місяць тому +36

      She didn't say her kids treat her differently. She said her kids were treated differently (by doctors etc)

    • @kasa9884
      @kasa9884 Місяць тому

      Pickles
      She didn't say treated differently by doctors, she said by others, strangers

  • @Hunter-2689
    @Hunter-2689 Місяць тому

    I will be completely honest- I have had many overweight/obese friends and had bad experiences with them stealing my food so I went hungry/missed meals or taking 2nds, taking the last of the food at meals before i had my first serving. It made me feel less respect for overweight people.
    Now I am biased and when i see overweight people I have no interest in them whatsoever, ill be friendly and kind but have zero interest in being friends because i assume they lack discipline and over eat. I have a hard time being friends with people who cant control their urges, people I struggle to respect.
    I understand thyroid issues can make a person gain weight, i had a friend who lost 100 pounds just by getting on thyroid meds. I had hypothyroidism as well however and though it was difficult, i stayed lean. It was very difficult. But its still a choice to be disciplined or not.
    It is true, people will not admire or respect you if your obese. They should still be kind and treat you fairly. But its no surprise people now respect and admire you once youve gotten in shape.

  • @ClaudiaM-f1y
    @ClaudiaM-f1y Місяць тому +20

    hard truth, your weight tells the world about your physical and mental health, as well as your values (discipline, motivation, passion for life, self love,) and most importantly self respect and self esteem. Its an unconscious message

    • @susannehuber3996
      @susannehuber3996 Місяць тому

      Wow you’re a really mean spirited person

    • @MercyMe3
      @MercyMe3 Місяць тому +20

      But it doesn't tell the "why". Why is this person undisciplined, why is this person unmotivated, why this person has no passion for life, why does this person lack some self-love, why, why, why? People need to ask why. Maybe their compassion, mercy and empathy muscles will kick in. Just b/c a person is a "normal weight" does not mean they have or exhibit these characteristics. THEE TRUTH.

    • @ClaudiaM-f1y
      @ClaudiaM-f1y Місяць тому +5

      @@MercyMe3 its instinct, biology, human nature. It doesn't hasve reason. Then, the human empathic thing to do is ask all those questions, but since we are first animals, then humans, that is the main impression we have of the person.

    • @renejohn0409
      @renejohn0409 Місяць тому +8

      Your weight tells the world about your discipline. Motivation, passion for life and self-love.!!?!?!?
      No, it does not. Again, this is pretty privilege, because there are many people that are not overweight, and some of these people are the most narcissistic, antagonistic and insulting and rude people that walk this Earth, but they get described as loving and supportive and just funny people, and then you conclude with self-respect and self-esteem!!!!
      Your weight does not define this. How you treat other people and how you live your life in this world defines that...not your weight. What's even more hilarious is that you can be overweight and still have all of the same characteristics of being narcissistic, antagonistic, insulting and rude and not have any self-love or self-respect.

    • @MercyMe3
      @MercyMe3 Місяць тому +8

      @@ClaudiaM-f1y I get so tired of people blaming other people for how they see/treat them. Like they have no self-control over their thought life. It is a choice. You can choose to think negatively or positively. You are solely responsible for your own thoughts, feelings, actions, how you see the world and how you see other people. No one can "make" you see them a certain way. You see things the way you do b/c that's who YOU are. Thus, how you will treat other people. Your mind is already made up before you encounter anybody. There is no excuse for being mean or unkind to anyone especially to those who are not bothering you. We are Spirit first, then human. Animals are dogs, cats etc. You have that main impression of that person because the way you think is the problem. Change the mindset. Change the problem. How you think about how that person looks, NOT HOW THAT PERSON LOOKS, is YOUR problem.

  • @renderuntocaesarwhatiscaes2300
    @renderuntocaesarwhatiscaes2300 Місяць тому

    I bet the calls for pound town went thru the roof huh? She’s been on both sides of it now she knows what husky folks go thru now

  • @thinline8504
    @thinline8504 Місяць тому +3

    yet. I love fat women.. so it would be opposite lmaoo ...

  • @Psychiatricnerd
    @Psychiatricnerd Місяць тому

    I mean having her body half exposed might also have something to do with it. I’ve never been big though so can’t relate.

  • @ragetobe
    @ragetobe Місяць тому

    When you abuse yourself why do you expect others not to join in, I’m not saying it’s right but it is fact.

  • @kittenpawsbb
    @kittenpawsbb Місяць тому +5

    Doesn’t she not realize she treated herself differently, to gain all that weight. As oppose to how she treats herself now, in order to maintain this weight loss. Don’t be so quick to point her finger at others, you were the reason why, you were morbidly obese in the first place. 🤦🏽‍♀️ #SeekGod 😌🙏🏽🌟🕊️

    • @electrodynamicorb6548
      @electrodynamicorb6548 Місяць тому

      Fuck god

    • @tltinatl
      @tltinatl Місяць тому +5

      Do you have some kind of personal conflict with this lady or something? You're all over this comment section, blaming her for how she was treated.

    • @kittenpawsbb
      @kittenpawsbb Місяць тому +1

      @@tltinatl She's a victim, whining and complaining about being thin now. Instead of enjoying her life. So she wasn't happy being morbidly obese and now she isn't happy being normal weight. What's the common denominator? 🤷🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️ #SeekGod 😌🙏🏽🌟🕊

    • @User_U571
      @User_U571 Місяць тому +2

      Getting pregnant and having postpartum…… I don’t think she meant to gain the weight and most people don’t plan to gain a lot of weight, be careful with straight up blaming people for weight gain, some drugs can cause weight gain, but yes seeking God is good advice for all of us. 😊 ✝️ 🙏🏼

    • @kittenpawsbb
      @kittenpawsbb Місяць тому +1

      @@User_U571 She admitted her life style change, led to her finally losing weight. Why don’t you accept that reality? This is about her and not most people, and definitely not about you. #Accountability #SeekGod 😌🙏🏽🌟🕊️

  • @electrodynamicorb6548
    @electrodynamicorb6548 Місяць тому +1

    Poor baby had to be treated like a man

    • @User_U571
      @User_U571 Місяць тому +5

      Are you ok? Do people talk to you like that, just wondering if this is a repeat what you hear kind of thing….sorry if I sound like I’m just being rude…. but really are you doing alright?

  • @ane6856
    @ane6856 Місяць тому

    Why cant you just be happy being healthier instead of focusing on past traumas

  • @lissahernandez5308
    @lissahernandez5308 Місяць тому +9

    GIRL let it go and move on! Sheesh!!

    • @nicoletrudell2065
      @nicoletrudell2065 Місяць тому +38

      What a weird response. Her point is to make others aware that people who are overweight are treated less compassionately. Why does acknowledging this bother you so much?

    • @ifym5455
      @ifym5455 Місяць тому +14

      @@nicoletrudell2065 exactly, I agree with you. She sounds a bit triggered; she may have been one of the ones who not only treated her differently but others too as well.

    • @lilyinthewater161
      @lilyinthewater161 Місяць тому +12

      Right to bully is not a thjng

    • @EtherealSolana
      @EtherealSolana Місяць тому +9

      Damn you’re rude

    • @leecyleigh12
      @leecyleigh12 Місяць тому

      @@nicoletrudell2065 it's not a weird response. you americans love using the word weird so much even when it's not applicable. grow up and get a life

  • @electrodynamicorb6548
    @electrodynamicorb6548 Місяць тому +1

    Boo hoo now she can go cheat on her hubby