I'm a 35 yr old man, business is falling apart, full time father, going through a breakup from a 10 year relationship, engine failed in my car today and having trouble paying rent that's due in 3 days. Hang in there, my brother. We have to keep pushing. I'm not gonna quit
Damn that's hectic. But you're still young and many more years to go you can turn this around. Sometimes all the bad things happen to us all at once but keep grinding
I am 52 tomorrow. My wife is at her sister’s house. We have no relationship anymore. I just pay bills and stay out of the way . I no longer enjoy the things I use to . The joy in life is gone . My kids are grown up and don’t need me same as my wife. I understand your feelings!!! Keep going!!! Come visit me in Indiana USA !! We can hope in my barn and eat Doritos and drink soda together!!!
The saddest thing I've learned as an adult is that you don't ever begin feeling like one, you're just a kid with a lot of responsibilities and heartache. I think this thing we call being an adult is just the final step in getting rid of everything we held dear.
50 here,divorced, broke, failing health. I live with my mother. Our lives are not as we want but small happy moments should never be lost. I hope we can all find our peace. Good luck friend
@@liun1390 Wrong, "doctors" are the 3rd leading cause of death behind heart disease and cancer which they also cause by prescribing petroleum based poison they call medicine. They are indoctrinated slaves to the system.
This is the sort of UA-cam that I remember when I was a Kid and miss - Just a guy talk about whatever he wants in front of his camera - no soundtrack, editing and sponsers
23 year old from Texas. I think people like you that even make time to make video diaries like this are underappreciated. It's good for your mental health and lets other's gain new perspectives, overall it's a great benefit to the world to share your stories and troubles.
I'm a freshman in college and these videos help me think about what I want in life, I'm inspired to seek out peace. I've been to a lot of great parties and done cool stuff but sometimes it feels very unfulfilling, I remind myself that this will not always be my life and to enjoy every aspect of it.
Also in AZ. Southern AZ, Bisbee to be exact. Great little town. I’m a tired 47. I keep going for my kids. I remember a line from the Batman movie where Alfred tells Bruce “some men just want to watch the world burn”…well, fire does clean up a lot and let the new green growth come forth. Just sayin.
I'm a 34 year old American man struggling every day. My life is miserable too. Thank you for making me not feel alone for a little bit. I hope you're well.
Dude, you still have you're whole life ahead of you what you mean struggle? I'm a 33 Single bachelor here in the UK and living my best life cause I choose to. I work in healthcare, toxic busy ward, I felt it's too much I changed work, problem solved! I have dreams and aspire to make a name as a musician, I went playing music on the streets for 2 months already, I don't have to do it cause I got a stable well paying job, but I dont give a single f*ck cause it fulfills me and makes me feel alive. It's a MINDSET, choose to do what is right for you, nevermind what other people say. If you think you're life is "miserable" well, it will be. Look on the bright side, and your life will TRANSFORM.
Such a pure and heartfelt video. But I'm barely able to make it through the comments. So many broken people, like me, and yet in their brokenness the majority still focus on sending their love to others. That's truly touching and beautiful. It's such a tragedy that we live in this world of pain, when there's so much love out there. Thank you for sharing this thought with me, whoever and wherever you are. Don't forget that I love you. And I'm praying for your happiness.❤
To all dad's that still find a way to take care of themselves despite having to take care of a family, i wish nothing but the best, you guys are real life heroes!
first you need to find God. after that, fear has no meaning. I do agree, passion is needed, if you are talking about job passion. I wake up every morning, thanking God for my blessings.
You look great for 50 and your English is genuinely fantastic. This video is also probably one of the realest videos I've ever watched; just a man sitting in his closet, eating crisps, having a drink, talking about anything and just life in general. Wishing you all the best from Germany. 頑張ってね!
She probably mad cause he is in there being happy by himself, she is thinking"he just leave me all alone, he doesnt like me, doesnt love me then treats him bad...or she is just that bad..... Remember women hate when MEN ARE HAPPY. They cant stand it, they cant stand indifference either. SO put a smile on your face, enjoy your life, even when she is yelling at you......careful....
I feel you bro, I am in a similar situation in Australia. Having a dog helps with the lack of respect and the lack of appreciation from my wife and daughter and with the loneliness. You do whatever you need to do to be happy. I appreciate you, and I think you are amazing! Be strong brother!
I wish you all would stand up for yourselves for once. The rest of the world will only give you precisely the amount of bullsht you're willing to tolerate. Stop letting people use you, even and especially your loved ones.
Ha! One of the most relatable and genuine videos I’ve ever seen on UA-cam. Sometimes you just need to hide in your closet (from your wife & kids) and just eat junk food. Classic!
I'm 33. I literally dont care. No family, no kids, no friends, no relationship, no car, no property, I also stopped talking to my relatives. I have a job with mid income and rent a flat. I workout and play computer games and that's it. No plans for future. Just nothing. Most important is that I have no depression, I dont drink and dont do drugs and everything suits me
I’m a 36 yo man. 3 kids. I can tell you most of my heart ache comes from within me and not my circumstances. My wife is patient with me. A lot of you guys aren’t so lucky, I know. But one thing I believe now is this: we all have the power to put goodness into the world. We aren’t here for ourselves as much as we are here for each other.
People worry about their financial social mental physical health and forget about a very important aspect which is spiritual health! which is the most important thing to connect your soul in the worship of Allah who created you for a purpose for a short time on Earth.. I am 40 and I have recently divorced and have lost my time with kids... Mandeep down I believe if I put my trust in Allah he will make a way out will make things easy no he has got me out of many darkness es. Looking back when I had everything materialistic like money youth family family friends I remember very well we still feel lonely at times because the heart is still void and missing something which is the worship of God Allah almighty. My happiest time is when I am reading the holy quran and praying to Allah that's what keeps me going otherwise I would be wasted., put your trust in your creator the creator of the heavens and earth and everything in between and he will make a way out for you please read the Holy Quran the final Testament and discover the purpose of your existence.. May Allah guide us all ♥️
I'm 53 living in Virginia US and I like the simple pleasure of drinking coffee and sitting outside in a little backyard. I have enjoyed the solitude of closets when they were available. Thank you for sharing this and I wish you and your family the best in all things. I'm feeling it too.
I felt that. I've worked a full-time career supporting my family for over 16 years and I still don't matter at all in the home hierarchy. My disrespectful 23 year old stepson makes it 10 times worse.
Maybe is time to move from them sell what you have move to the Philippines find a new young woman that will respect you and live a simple happy life maybe even a new family
I'm sorry for what you're going through and as a 20 year old woman, i can only sympathize. But despite the topic being quite grim, this was a really nice video. My dad passed away 2 years ago. You guys talk similarly. He was very real and transparent, he doesnt shy away from converstions like this, casually bringing it up while we eat snacks or something. Now im far from home for college where i rarely get to see family, so this video genuinely felt like eating with my dad and talking to him. Thanks a lot man.
Seeing your videos is so comforting. I’m 22 right now and I currently feel stuck in life since I don’t have a job that makes me happy and where I can put my cosmetology skills to use, then there’s financial problems as well. seeing your videos really helps me, it reminds me to take things day by day and to appreciate those small moments of happiness. Sending you lots of positive vibes, you’re doing great 🩷💪🏼
I love how this video has brought a group of strangers together and enabled them to open up about the lives in the comments section. It's a sub from me. Wishing you all the best from the UK.
I think his level of English is great too but it's pretty normal. It's only Americans who never go out of their way to learn other languages. Most other countries can speak multiple languages and its normal there to do so, they actually teach other languages in schools.
It's actually very relevant! Younger generations of Japanese learn English in school, but older generations wouldn't have had the same access or exposure. I have lived in Japan and as a native English speaker there was a marked difference in fluency by age. The original commenter is correct in including his age to compliment him. His English is excellent. @@89kilemal
41 and miserable. But it's nice hearing your perspective from a place I've always wanted to visit. Stay strong brother. Lots of us struggling out here.
@@Johanthegnarlerit doesn’t have to be like that brother. We have two choices, sulk and say “why why me, I’m just the unlucky one” or you can “I’m not happy with my situation but it doesn’t have to define me. I have free will, I’m going to work my ass off to improve my situation even if it’s the last thing I do” lock in man. Especially as a man. We take the things we want, we don’t wait around.
been there, 2kids and wife, felt the same, had full collapse and ended in the psychiatric ward for 2 months. Was diagnosed with Borderline Syndrome. it's been a year since, worked on myself, worked on my relationship with my wife and my kids. I have reached a level a bliss and happiness that i could have never imagine. This is the most important message if have to tell you: Your kids do not know the concept of looking down someone at this age. It something that you teach them because you automatically imply that this is the case. You are in a illusion of you own mental state and you blame the others for it. Mental help is stigmatized in japan. This stigma is the cancer of your society and it damaged an unmeasurable amount of people and families. You MUST break this stigma and seek psychological help. This is not something you can continue to live with or it WILL consume you. I am lucky to be standing here, i was close from ending it. Get help! From a Husband and Father to a Husband and Father Kiotsukete!
I also wonder if the feeling of his family looking down on him might be in his head, at least to some degree. I can't see how young children would look down on their own father. I wouldn't pass judgement either way until I had heard both sides of the story, but I suppose we'll never know his wife's story.
IDK, but I've been to Japan, and I've seen the hoards of people in the cities, working hard like hamsters in a cage. I've wondered how they feel. Listening to this man, who speaks really good English, I feel a kinship. I can feel his frustration, because Japanese don't show their feelings. I can relate to his situation, even though I'm much older and retired and don't have to run the maze every day anymore. I hope his family comes to appreciate him more, because he seems like a very worthwhile person.
Are you lonely Hon? I'm willing to be your UA-cam friend if that does anything for you. I'm an old goat of 58 so don't get your hopes up. lol. Just saying!
I find many of the comments here very harsh and non-understanding. Someone who is struggling with their situation (including work, family, health, safety) and shares those struggles online will not be better magically by being told 'go spend time with your kids'. There are so many things weighing 50-san down. Being worried about uncontrollable earthquakes, and the future in which he and his children have to live, while having to go to work and act like nothing is wrong- that isn't easy at all! Life is similar to this for many of us, just in different places. I know this feeling. You do, too. Try to be kinder with yourself and others. So please enjoy your doritos and pepsi, 50-san. Have joy and peace when you can. I wish for you to be safe in these uncertain times
I think people feel frustration a little bit watching it. This guy talks like my old friend who had depression so it might be quite serious. People get angry because there is nothing they can do it is like listening a good friend with depression who is telling you all the time how his whole life is miserable and bad and there is nothing you can do. I think this is what people feel watching this.
@@grzesiek1x Indeed. All the advice in the world usually doesn't help because they are so in their own head and might throw it back at you. I think people can instinctually tell what is going on and don't know how to resolve it. Some try in comments, some get frustrated hearing things they heard before or even said themselves.
@@grzesiek1x if you look back in his videos youll notice years and years ago his vids were relatively normal and about normal topics. his highest viewed video was 3 months ago, thats when this all started.
@@Ash-fd8ww Exactly. Have you look the comments on that highest viewed video? So many people donated money to him, most around $100 per comment and sometimes $200. Thousands of dollars in just donation alone in one video. He realize a lot of people are suckers, and he capitalized on it.
I just turned 50 in mid September, never married, no kids. Thank you for this video sir. You are like my twin who has been here with me every single step of my life and experiencing every single dynamic. My only advice to share with the world is to NOT relocate to Los Angeles California. After being born and lived in LA all 50 years of my life I will confirm to the world that even the most wealthy of people are miserable here. It would take weeks upon weeks more to articulate why this place is so deeply miserable and in so many different ways.
for people in the comments: telling someone who is clearly in a high state of mental distress that they should be happy for the things they have (implying ungratefulness) does not help a single bit. you are only denying them of their struggle and worsening their state of mind.
It can go both ways. Yes, you can be telling someone something when they are actually trying to say something else, not knowing or wanting to say it. That wont' help, but people can't sit down with him or be in live chat to actually go back n forth. On the other hand, there are selfish people that don't care how good they have it, they want things specifically how they want it or are unhappy. There are layers, but overall, it's a bad idea to vent online because you open yourself up to this. You either have to take it or realize it was a bad idea.
@@carollynt You understand this does not invalidate the man's feelings? A person feeling alienated and isolated is trying to feel seen by other humans.
thank you for sharing this. i'm 33, divorced with 2 kids. paying child support to my ex wife, who just bought a house while i had to move back with my parents just to get back on my feet. i gave everything to my family leaving myself with nothing and now have to work out of debt. i feel lonely and like i wasted my best years. my kids are my world, and they love me with everything in them, but i just can't help but feel alone and down. it helps to know i'm not alone in feeling these things.
33yr woman here.. I've supported kids and husband 10yrs and helping brother and mother financially. Losing my health, hair and weight but have to keep going. Even though they don't understand that I have given my all for them I feel proud to know I've done my best. I just hope I'm not dying so they don't need to stress. Bathroom is my hiding place if I want to be alone or cry. But I will skip recording that! Good to know we are not alone..
I'm 48 y/o male. I wanted a wife and kids when I was younger but I had a spinal cord injury 11 years ago. Took me many years to get on my feet somewhat and I'm still in pain. So no relationships or kids for me. I have a nice house and make good money and have an enormous amount of free time. I'm not happy or fulfilled. I don't think a family is fulfilling in this day and age. I have it better than 90‰ of all humans but still.....
Same here mate. But we gotta improve for our kids. Never surrender. The past is forever gone and just move forward. For my self im back to playing fútbol and going to games.hope everything goes well
Yeah the only thing that could make this channel better is her perspective. Like imagine if we find out this is all in his head , they actually have plenty of money and his friends come knocking on the door looking for him everyday .
I'm in a really rough spot too and your videos help me a lot. I appreciate you being vulnerable like this, I don't know if I would have the same courage.
A man, especially one that is going through tremendous stress, needs appreciation and our 50 year old man is a great example of that and the fact that his family even looks down on him breaks my heart. He literally has to cram himself in a closet AWAY from his family to feel safe and comfortable really reflects on his family dynamic. It’s sad to see that he doesn’t have his family to rely on for his struggles and feel miserable a lot of the time, at least according to his videos
He needs to get offline and take his children and wife to the park. He needs to appreciate what he has...before it is too late! Too much time making UA-cam videos isn't good for anyone.
"He's literally me. Oh, he's married and has kids. He's not literally me." Edit: this is just a dumb, offhanded comment. Why are some people taking this so seriously?
You know, I guess I have to be more grateful. I thought my life was sad and I wasn’t going anywhere but watching this made me realize my problems are a lot smaller than I thought. Keep pushing through good men and one day you will succeed!
This is the kind of man i would be delighted to have a beer with and listen to him telling stories. I'm sorry you feel alone. If it would be at all pertinent, i would be happy to be your friend, sir. We need more kindness in this world
I'm 24 and feeling very similar to you right now. Having no direction in life and stressing about the future is a horrible feeling. I hope life starts getting better for you soon, friend.
@@thedoctorofallmen yeah im also 24 and trying to figure things out, which I assume is normal for people in their 20s. I don't really get the midlife crisis thing, how do you not have your goals figured out by the time you're in your 40s. Do these people just go through their 20s and 30s without thinking?
Don't stop working out. Work on your physical health at least 5 days a week. As you get older, your body and brain will be thank you everyday. That's my advice!!
36, U.S. Married, two children, one on the way, The company I worked for just went under putting me straight out of a job with 0 notice and im shit-outta' luck, You're not alone.
I just subscribed to your channel because you're very relatable. Sometimes it's hard to see the positive side but I see a lot of things I like about you already. You're a good man. I consume enough material about Japan to know it's hard for you sometimes. For us outsiders, Japan looks idyllic but you guys are under so much pressure. You have to work super hard and you're always scared to fail and let yourself and others down. It makes me sad to hear how many Japanese people are feeling depression or anxiety because you guys are awesome and we look up to you. You're clearly very intelligent and well-spoken, you're handsome, you're hard-working, you're compassionate, you have a beautiful family. Life is hard but if anyone can figure it out, it's you.
People worry about their financial social mental physical health and forget about a very important aspect which is spiritual health! which is the most important thing to connect your soul in the worship of Allah who created you for a purpose for a short time on Earth.. I am 40 and I have recently divorced and have lost my time with kids... Mandeep down I believe if I put my trust in Allah he will make a way out will make things easy no he has got me out of many darkness es. Looking back when I had everything materialistic like money youth family family friends I remember very well we still feel lonely at times because the heart is still void and missing something which is the worship of God Allah almighty. My happiest time is when I am reading the holy quran and praying to Allah that's what keeps me going otherwise I would be wasted., put your trust in your creator the creator of the heavens and earth and everything in between and he will make a way out for you please read the Holy Quran the final Testament and discover the purpose of your existence.. May Allah guide us all ♥️
Don’t listen to these pissed off, sad people telling you that you should be happy because you checked off some boxes on the stereotypical life check list. These are the people that believe checking off the boxes is the key to happiness when in reality, they have zero understanding of the human condition. All the best to you.
Wow, so marriage and bringing children into the world is part of a check list. No, they are aspiration basic humans have and responsibilities. They are not the entirety of happiness, but they should be if one is grateful for them and doesn't take for granted. Many people do if self-centered and depression does stem from focus on self too much. An individual has to have something to live for that can enforce the family. I've noticed many Japanese channels are bringing up why the Japanese mindset is the way it is and points to lack in beliefs; they are superstitious, ritualistic, but there is not actual faith. One can look at Europe and see the same with the churches closed. Beyond that, traditional cultural outlook and social blocks make it worse. When you look at S. Korea they don't have this issue and are far more willing to be outspoken. I don't think outside influence should make Japan change, they themselves have to do it for it to matter. The irony is many just start families there because that's what they are told or think is the norm, not always because that's what they want or understand it. They expect things to fall into place and when it doesn't and they put no effort in themselves, they want to escape in some way.
this 100% and the kind of responses you're talking about is nothing out of the ordinary for normies to say who think that think life is all about checking off boxes and as long as you're checking off boxes you should be happy..
It is similar to men having a man cave to get time to themselves. People able to enjoy alone time is so important, so they can be a better member for their family.
Introverts in particular do not do well with constant company, that's just how it is. It's even worse if your constant company looks down upon you like his situation.
I’m a 28 year old man in south eastern USA. I struggle with bi polar 1 and all the other wonderful obstacles of life we all face. I just had to finance a camper for the wife and I because our trailer is infested with black mold and we can’t get it out. We bought the place 2 years ago and with a new roof but the damage was already in the walls. I don’t have good enough credit to get us another home right now. I could go on life has been hitting me hard the past couple weeks to the point I broke down and lost it and then reset again. Today has been a lot better. My thoughts are shifting from always negative to looking for the gratitude and positivity. I will only be more wise and stronger from here, and it ain’t all that bad when I just breathe and try to be happy. We actually love camper life and getting rid of all the usefulness clutter we accumulated. Most of the things I end up stressing about are out of my control anyways and I just need to ride the wave. I enjoyed your video man. Vulnerable and honest. I gave up the booze a month ago and weed yesterday. My new go to for a unhealthy treat is a good caffeine free root beer! I like the blazing Buffalo Doritos and the spicy nacho! God bless brother ✌🏻
I quit the alcohol game, was a weekend warrior. I've been sober eight years now; it was the best decision for my life moving forward. I did it for myself first, then family second. My first true feeling of being drunk was when I was in my late teens, eighteen, to be specific. The habit continued into my twenties. It began slowly but craving heavier, harder, and more consumption as I kept fueling my addiction. Like I said earlier, I was a weekend warrior. My job and family were slowly becoming less important to me, and I was excited to plan my next drink or place to drink. I had a couple of times I could have saved myself earlier trying to quit, but it was very tough on me, and I wasn't ready yet. I was screaming; "HELP ME!!" inside my mind. When I was almost thirty, March was my first clean month in 2016. I made a decision to myself, a vow basically, and said if I want to save myself, I have to quit cold turkey. I debriefed and dropped the drinking buddies and bad friends and removed ALL alcohol from the hiding places and cabinets. Anything like connections to drinking removed. From each conscious thought, your mind can think clearly with no brain fog of alcohol as the first month kicks in of sobriety. The hump months are the toughest part of getting out of this habit. Don't give into the evil thoughts of falling off the wagon. No one said this was easy. I was considered a binge drinker. My liver was fatty and health in a troubled state. However, you want to help yourself first when you're ready. Once you can do that, be strong, have a strong will, and then show your family a huge achievement by moving further into maintaining the sobriety lifestyle. I'm thirty-eight now, and looking back on how far I've come. I can only share my story to help people. You're not in this fight alone. Be strong, stay focused, and don't give up on yourself. The most important key is to stay true to yourself and have a strong willpower. Just take it one day at a time, and know you can do it!
@OkinInc My first true feeling of being drunk was when I was in my late teens, eighteen, to be specific. The habit continued into my twenties. It began slowly but craving heavier, harder, and more consumption as I kept fueling my addiction. Like I said earlier, I was a weekend warrior. My job and family were slowly becoming less important to me, and I was excited to plan my next drink or place to drink. I had a couple of times I could have saved myself earlier trying to quit, but it was very tough on me, and I wasn't ready yet. I was screaming; "HELP ME!!" inside my mind. When I was almost thirty, March was my first clean month in 2016. I made a decision to myself, a vow basically, and said if I want to save myself, I have to quit cold turkey. I debriefed and dropped the drinking buddies and bad friends and removed ALL alcohol from the hiding places and cabinets. Anything like connections to drinking removed. From each conscious thought, your mind can think clearly with no brain fog of alcohol as the first month kicks in of sobriety. The hump months are the toughest part of getting out of this habit. Don't give into the evil thoughts of falling off the wagon. No one said this was easy. I was considered a binge drinker. My liver was fatty and health in a troubled state. However, you want to help yourself first when you're ready. Once you can do that, be strong, have a strong will, and then show your family a huge achievement by moving further into maintaining the sobriety lifestyle. I'm thirty-eight now, and looking back on how far I've come. I can only share my story to help people. You're not in this fight alone. Be strong, stay focused, and don't give up on yourself. The most important key is to stay true to yourself and have a strong willpower. Just take it one day at a time, and know you can do it!
no kids = no stress. you'll be fine my friend. Just make sure you have friends at least. Happiness is a finite state, nobody is happy except small bursts. security, comfort and stability > happiness. People seeking happiness are some of the most unstable people I've ever met in my life.
Everyone please watch the movie "Perfect Days" about a toilet cleaner living in Tokyo, it's about how he is very happy with his simple life and doesn't need more. It's truly a lovely movie. ❤
I remember when I was a kid I used to think I'd feel different when I turned 18 and thought I'd feel like an adult at 18. Im 23 now and i still fill like a child. I believe the more you learn and know the more questions you have... Just like a child. And now I look around at other adults who I thought looked so big as a kid and they all look like kids in suits and fancy outfits but still the intellect of kids. I've come to relize nobody really knows whats going on or really what they are doing in life which came as a scary shock to me, but Ive come to learn just to appreciate the present moment as thats all there is and all that really matters. I heard someone say recently that she wished she could know everything and that made a thought pop into my head of just how terrible that would be because the more we learn and know in life the more insignificant, dumb and limited we are as human beings on this little rock floating through space in a possibly infinite universe on a planet were the smartest people on earth are only slightly different DNA wise to a monkey and the smartest person on earth is only comparatively more smart to the absolute dumbest in terms of all possible intelligence. Anyway ive stopped trying to figure things out for a goal or purpose and focus on my own happiness.
Man, I was literally at the lowest point of my entire life at the beginning of the year, I thought it was over! Same thing, midlife crisis! Then I found a new job and recently met the most amazing person ever and it feels like no matter what I made a friend for life! So don't give up, things will turn around!✌️
You look fantastic! Doritos & Pepsi sound like the perfect combination. Also, there’s something comforting & childlike about you being in the closet. It’s your way of dealing with things, to just get peace away from everyone. Thank you for sharing ❤️
My Japanese father was very similar. He had lots of anxiety at your age. If possible, spend 1 or 2 days away from your wife and children with other family. Don't go out, don't watch anything exciting like horror movies or something you really like. Just rest for 2 days and do as boring of things as possible. It will help rest your system. If you drink coke and eat chips every day, take a few days rest from eating them. I think you will feel better if you have rest periods for your body.
You're implying that he has a dopamine overdose, because that's what you advice in the case of a dopamine overdose. It seems to me, that pepsi and coke is the single thing in his life that makes him feel comfortable, and that his world will crumble if you just remove these things. Obviously, I can't tell him what to do, but I think, that he should firstly sort things out with his family, no matter how hard it is to do.
@@endlessparadoxdce I never said remove coke and chips completely. but if his family is making him upset, it would help him to be away from them and if they are away from him maybe they will appreciate him more Aswell. If he wants to sort things out with his family it would help to get relatives on his side of the family to calm his wife and children down in being aggressive towards him.
I’m sending you a massive hug from the UK. I live in my own and get fairly lonely sometimes. These little moments (like eating your favourite snack and drink) can mean a lot. I completely understand ❤
Same. Although I still prefer living alone. We could also try sitting in our wardrobes with snacks, but since we have no one to hide from it’s not quite the same 😅
The fact you can enjoy simple pleasures alone and articulate your condition to us, your audience, is already a pleasure and great start. We’re proud of you for pushing through and are cheering you on everyday! Life is hard, but you talking about it is bringing moments of peace to at least me. Thank you!
54 year old man here dying inside... Your life sounds pretty great to me! I've never married but have a 22 year old daughter that has been in a mental facility recovering from drug addiction for nearly 2 years. Her mother is also a drug addict and causes many problems for me and my fiance'. I have been in a relationship for 4 years and thought I met the woman of my dreams that I would finally get married and enjoy life with. She told me she was leaving me and could not deal with all the drama from my daughter and baby mama. I can't turn my daughter over to the streets and just pretend she does not exist. I will never turn my back on her and not help her.
Hi. I’m 29. I live in China. I am American. I came here to get away from my crushing life in a small city in the US. But I am also stuck in a job I dislike and am not able to truly pursue my dreams. I feel stuck for reasons I cannot fully explain. I am not happy either. I am with you.
@@billybobarinoit's like nobody watching this video knows about Asian genetics. I guess you guys have never watched many foreign Asian Media or movies of any kind. But yes Asian people age physically the slowest out of all other races and nationalities. And their diet also contributes to it as well as the culture.
I’m praying for you (and your family). So sorry this is a sad time. Things will turn around. In the meantime, are you able to drink lots of water, exercise, etc.? Sometimes that helps. Take care. ☀️
@@bilsid allah used to be cool when he was single. but now allah is worthless. he grants no wishes. he just sits there and whines. he got married and became miserable.
@@506jeffYou’d think with the Plethora of knowledge available they would atleast deduce Islam is false. Search “Jay Smith - A historical critique of Muhammed”. He basically disproves it in an hour and a half
Make it where? He's a salaryman with a family that doesn't respect him living in a country with some big problems approaching (massive population crash namely). He's operating out of sheer obligation, at some point he's likely to crack.
@@electrodynamicorb6548 if "making it" means being immortal to you, might as well be a 10th century alchemist, my guy. Every living being dies one day, and if you cannot accept that, you wont be happy unless you somehow live through the heat death of the universe.
At 4:45. I too was drinking a lot at one time. I gave up drinking 27 years ago. In addition to saving money, it improves other parts of your life immensely.
Thank you for sharing. Even given the sentiment and topic, it's comforting to hear someone so calmy share in this misery that is so often hitting in waves as my life goes on. I appreciate life, but the real work is going home and pep talking yourself after fulfilling responsibilities that demand you and your time. Sitting on my floor on cushions and eating favorite snacks is often a happy place for me. Kudos to you giving what it takes to keep going ❤
I think living in the Closet seems very peaceful and quiet. My G4andpa always locked himself in the Bedroom with a Hobogrill and Cans for Weeks because my Grandma would not stop talking.
The closet makes you happy because has it has a strong energy of emptiness. In Japan, I believe they call them "Power spots." Where there is emptiness, there exists no anxiety.
God bless you sir. We all go through difficult times. I’m glad you can find peace and enjoyment even though you are dealing with some family issues. I hope things get better for you soon. 🙏
@@rachelismean ourselves after a point. Im content being alone for the most part but I wish I could interact with people better so I could do it more often. Like if I can randomly find out you like Metal Gear Solid or anime or something I like completely unlock and could talk your ear off. If I dont know you and just met you at a party id probably just say hi and introduce myself then go back to standing there quietly alone hoping someone I know shows up.
Hang in there buddy, we're rooting for you. Since your English is pretty decent, is it entirely impossible to consider a new start in life with your family in another place in the world?
Ngl those doritos and pepsi look good. Going to 7-11 now. Your english is really good. Thank you for making this video. Feel like I understand my dad more. Im in college now and self sufficent. Listening to you I dont ever want to get married
What a time to be alive! Here I am sitting in the middle of nowhere canada watching a japanese man in his closet telling me about his day.
WELCOME TO THE FUTURE LOL
Lmfao
You have no life.
@@BHJ7115 Come live in butt fuck nowhere and tell me how your get a life.
😂
I'm a 35 yr old man, business is falling apart, full time father, going through a breakup from a 10 year relationship, engine failed in my car today and having trouble paying rent that's due in 3 days. Hang in there, my brother. We have to keep pushing. I'm not gonna quit
God Bless
@@MotoM0nk God is good
Damn that's hectic. But you're still young and many more years to go you can turn this around. Sometimes all the bad things happen to us all at once but keep grinding
Sending love
@Ann3M4r13 I truly appreciate it
Dude looks great for 50 years old though
@@spicy_xinger It's because he has peace in his wardrobe and a bag of snacks and pepsi. He lives like a king.
East Asians always age pretty well
@@lilly_scott dude...
That doesn't take away from how he feels though.
@@lilly_scottthis b right here going through some problems of her own.
I am 52 tomorrow. My wife is at her sister’s house. We have no relationship anymore. I just pay bills and stay out of the way . I no longer enjoy the things I use to . The joy in life is gone . My kids are grown up and don’t need me same as my wife. I understand your feelings!!! Keep going!!! Come visit me in Indiana USA !! We can hope in my barn and eat Doritos and drink soda together!!!
Happy Birthday 7 days ago! Best wishes for you!
Happy birthday, man, the best moment is still to come :)
Same exact spot as you. Can I Join? I'll bring the pepsi. 50 yr old from México.
This made my eyes tear up😭😭😭 I want to give you a hug 🫂
Happy birthday (8 days late)! Now you can start living for yourself!
The saddest thing I've learned as an adult is that you don't ever begin feeling like one, you're just a kid with a lot of responsibilities and heartache.
I think this thing we call being an adult is just the final step in getting rid of everything we held dear.
This is deep you gave me the words to explain how I feel
I feel the same...
❤🔥
well shit😢
Then you’re doing it wrong.
50 here,divorced, broke, failing health. I live with my mother. Our lives are not as we want but small happy moments should never be lost. I hope we can all find our peace. Good luck friend
Take care of your health first, eating less often helps a lot (2 times or even 1 time per day)
@@simonescelsa Eating once a day is pretty unhealthy for most people, please don't listen to this advice unless you're told to by your doctor.
@@liun1390 Wrong, "doctors" are the 3rd leading cause of death behind heart disease and cancer which they also cause by prescribing petroleum based poison they call medicine. They are indoctrinated slaves to the system.
@@liun1390 it isnt. Stop spreading misinformation, you're literally contributing to the decline of humanity and death of billions by doing this.
@@liun1390 this is a very generalized comment and not accurate in a general sense.
This is the sort of UA-cam that I remember when I was a Kid and miss - Just a guy talk about whatever he wants in front of his camera - no soundtrack, editing and sponsers
So true, this was yt back before companies found out they could earn money off it
Corporations ruin everything
100%
Exactly! I miss this
crazy to hear "youtube" and "when I was a kid" in one sentence, damn I'm old. When I was a kid, we used AOL and that was pre-internet
So many of us are appreciating this very simple video❤ Praying for you. Blessings.
23 year old from Texas. I think people like you that even make time to make video diaries like this are underappreciated. It's good for your mental health and lets other's gain new perspectives, overall it's a great benefit to the world to share your stories and troubles.
Exactly he gets pressure off he's chest and we gain insight
I'm a freshman in college and these videos help me think about what I want in life, I'm inspired to seek out peace. I've been to a lot of great parties and done cool stuff but sometimes it feels very unfulfilling, I remind myself that this will not always be my life and to enjoy every aspect of it.
I agree
Experiential journalism I refer to it as… he is reporting his actual experience.
Another 23 here, and yeah these life crisis are real ngl. Quarter life crisis. Had one before college at 18 too. Life is tough
Funny thing is this type of content was the original purpose of YOU-Tube. Thanks for sharing and insight to YOU.
Nonsense
@@michaelmarama-de4gx He's right. You must be very young and immature
@@martymarl4602 BULLSHIT
@@michaelmarama-de4gxinteresting some people get off making comments like these.
@@adamw8579 nonsense
It's so peaceful inside the wardrobe. Wardrobe, snacks, pepsi. Life is good.
It sounds crazy but sometimes those places like the closet give me a strange sense of adventure and happiness and peace.
🤣🤣🤣
@@szebike Next stop Narnia!
Grab a Gameboy and you won't have to leave!
When I was 10 I had a friend who used to lock himself inside cabinet and eat chips while playing games and crying.. I think it's common among people
Tough times don't last, but tough people do, keep pushing through!
So true
Never did I think I’d find this type of video so relatable, stay strong brother. Sending you love, positivity and good energy from Arizona, USA!
Wow, thanks あざする
@@peterbaillif4607 hey Pete, I’m here in AZ as well and hold on with all that I am. Stay safe brother
Also in AZ. Southern AZ, Bisbee to be exact. Great little town. I’m a tired 47. I keep going for my kids.
I remember a line from the Batman movie where Alfred tells Bruce “some men just want to watch the world burn”…well, fire does clean up a lot and let the new green growth come forth. Just sayin.
I'm a 34 year old American man struggling every day. My life is miserable too. Thank you for making me not feel alone for a little bit. I hope you're well.
❤
Can I ask why? Do you have health, financial, relationship problems? Or something else. I will try to give advice.
❤
Dude, you still have you're whole life ahead of you what you mean struggle? I'm a 33 Single bachelor here in the UK and living my best life cause I choose to. I work in healthcare, toxic busy ward, I felt it's too much I changed work, problem solved! I have dreams and aspire to make a name as a musician, I went playing music on the streets for 2 months already, I don't have to do it cause I got a stable well paying job, but I dont give a single f*ck cause it fulfills me and makes me feel alive.
It's a MINDSET, choose to do what is right for you, nevermind what other people say. If you think you're life is "miserable" well, it will be. Look on the bright side, and your life will TRANSFORM.
@introman1016 you sound insufferable
This is so human. Appreciate you taking the time to give us a slice of your world.
Such a pure and heartfelt video. But I'm barely able to make it through the comments. So many broken people, like me, and yet in their brokenness the majority still focus on sending their love to others. That's truly touching and beautiful. It's such a tragedy that we live in this world of pain, when there's so much love out there. Thank you for sharing this thought with me, whoever and wherever you are. Don't forget that I love you. And I'm praying for your happiness.❤
To all dad's that still find a way to take care of themselves despite having to take care of a family, i wish nothing but the best, you guys are real life heroes!
I'm a 44 year old man in Ireland. Enjoy your happy moments, brother. I hope things get better for you.
The Irish are Europe's inspiration in these times. Kick out your rulers and invaders
Bro do Something Maybe Fish ? Get a ps5 Smoke some bud talk to people you got alot to be grateful for fuck it get a ps5
@@adriansanchez5657NO GET A SERIES X
@@adriansanchez5657You don't fucking know his life especially different cultures
Things don't get better. People change them and make them better.
I turned 50. You MUST find your passion or any challenge. There is no other choice, love you brother
Does learning a language count?
first you need to find God. after that, fear has no meaning. I do agree, passion is needed, if you are talking about job passion. I wake up every morning, thanking God for my blessings.
he has a 137k sub channel that would generate decent money. he knows what hes doing
@@TanManFixes People like you genuinely need physiological help.
@TanManFixes Why choose violence? Yes, telling others to believe in what you believe is violence.
You ARE enough! You are worthy and unique and NO-ONE should ever look down on you. You have touched my heart xx
I don’t know you but I care about you. Watching this made me feel a little bit less alone. Thank you. Love from Canada.
You look great for 50 and your English is genuinely fantastic. This video is also probably one of the realest videos I've ever watched; just a man sitting in his closet, eating crisps, having a drink, talking about anything and just life in general. Wishing you all the best from Germany. 頑張ってね!
She probably mad cause he is in there being happy by himself, she is thinking"he just leave me all alone, he doesnt like me, doesnt love me then treats him bad...or she is just that bad.....
Remember women hate when MEN ARE HAPPY. They cant stand it, they cant stand indifference either. SO put a smile on your face, enjoy your life, even when she is yelling at you......careful....
@@who346you reek of misery bro. 😢
can we have italians join this conversation for the sake of good ol' times?
@@NomadUrpagi 💀💀💀
Japan, Germany, & Italy were so tight
I feel you bro, I am in a similar situation in Australia. Having a dog helps with the lack of respect and the lack of appreciation from my wife and daughter and with the loneliness. You do whatever you need to do to be happy. I appreciate you, and I think you are amazing! Be strong brother!
You're all good mate. You're a real man looking after your family with no appreciation. Just here to say from your british brothers I appreciate you.
You r lucky to live in Australia. I wish to be there.
I wish you all would stand up for yourselves for once. The rest of the world will only give you precisely the amount of bullsht you're willing to tolerate. Stop letting people use you, even and especially your loved ones.
Ha! One of the most relatable and genuine videos I’ve ever seen on UA-cam. Sometimes you just need to hide in your closet (from your wife & kids) and just eat junk food. Classic!
"The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation." --Thoreau
be an alpha.
@@deathandrebirth-y8xwow what a fix! Time to grow up lil bro.
Real desperation. Not this
@@M_SC Desperation comes on many flavors, just as war. You dismissing him does not make it disappear.
My happy place is the ensuite toilet❤🚽
I'm 33. I literally dont care. No family, no kids, no friends, no relationship, no car, no property, I also stopped talking to my relatives. I have a job with mid income and rent a flat. I workout and play computer games and that's it. No plans for future. Just nothing. Most important is that I have no depression, I dont drink and dont do drugs and everything suits me
Sounds peaceful
Talk to your relatives…
@@nicholasbroadhurst9096 they are toxic, that's why I stopped
Does your family bring drama? Is that why you don't see them?
@@cheribelz5869that's gotta be it.
I’m a 36 yo man. 3 kids. I can tell you most of my heart ache comes from within me and not my circumstances. My wife is patient with me. A lot of you guys aren’t so lucky, I know. But one thing I believe now is this: we all have the power to put goodness into the world. We aren’t here for ourselves as much as we are here for each other.
People worry about their financial social mental physical health and forget about a very important aspect which is spiritual health! which is the most important thing to connect your soul in the worship of Allah who created you for a purpose for a short time on Earth.. I am 40 and I have recently divorced and have lost my time with kids... Mandeep down I believe if I put my trust in Allah he will make a way out will make things easy no he has got me out of many darkness es. Looking back when I had everything materialistic like money youth family family friends I remember very well we still feel lonely at times because the heart is still void and missing something which is the worship of God Allah almighty. My happiest time is when I am reading the holy quran and praying to Allah that's what keeps me going otherwise I would be wasted., put your trust in your creator the creator of the heavens and earth and everything in between and he will make a way out for you please read the Holy Quran the final Testament and discover the purpose of your existence.. May Allah guide us all ♥️
Thank you for your kind words
your wife i patient with you? wtf does that even mean? i really dont know whats wrong with you guys..
Said something positive about a woman. You’re not gonna get much interaction here lol
49 year old single mum of one, I wish I had a patient wife too 😊
I'm 53 living in Virginia US and I like the simple pleasure of drinking coffee and sitting outside in a little backyard. I have enjoyed the solitude of closets when they were available. Thank you for sharing this and I wish you and your family the best in all things.
I'm feeling it too.
"In my family's hierarchy, I'm at the bottom." That hit hard. And he's not the only one.
Nope. That’s pretty much the default role of the adult male in the family unit these days
I felt that. I've worked a full-time career supporting my family for over 16 years and I still don't matter at all in the home hierarchy. My disrespectful 23 year old stepson makes it 10 times worse.
@@mark9294lol by choice
Maybe is time to move from them sell what you have move to the Philippines find a new young woman that will respect you and live a simple happy life maybe even a new family
me too brother me too
47 year old stay at home mom here. You are not alone. Sending a hug from Florida. Enjoy your happy place 💗
your very sweet to send that japanese man a hug.....thats what the world needs more than ever now..
I'm sorry for what you're going through and as a 20 year old woman, i can only sympathize. But despite the topic being quite grim, this was a really nice video. My dad passed away 2 years ago. You guys talk similarly. He was very real and transparent, he doesnt shy away from converstions like this, casually bringing it up while we eat snacks or something. Now im far from home for college where i rarely get to see family, so this video genuinely felt like eating with my dad and talking to him. Thanks a lot man.
That was incredibly sweet to read! :)
@@BlowAway11 thank you, i'm glad you think so. i think its sweet too that i can relive my memories with my father this way!
Seeing your videos is so comforting. I’m 22 right now and I currently feel stuck in life since I don’t have a job that makes me happy and where I can put my cosmetology skills to use, then there’s financial problems as well. seeing your videos really helps me, it reminds me to take things day by day and to appreciate those small moments of happiness. Sending you lots of positive vibes, you’re doing great 🩷💪🏼
I love how this video has brought a group of strangers together and enabled them to open up about the lives in the comments section. It's a sub from me. Wishing you all the best from the UK.
Hello from Pennsylvania
You seem like a cool cat. I’d give anything for a friend like you
Sounds like love 😂
Do you want to be my friend?
Liar like all the rest.humans are thieves only want people to use
Ditto
Also, this guy's english is amazing for a 50-year-old Japanese man!
I think his level of English is great too but it's pretty normal. It's only Americans who never go out of their way to learn other languages. Most other countries can speak multiple languages and its normal there to do so, they actually teach other languages in schools.
Putting his age in there seems irrelevant
It's actually very relevant! Younger generations of Japanese learn English in school, but older generations wouldn't have had the same access or exposure. I have lived in Japan and as a native English speaker there was a marked difference in fluency by age. The original commenter is correct in including his age to compliment him. His English is excellent. @@89kilemal
It is not normal in Japan. Japan has very low english literacy rates which you'd know if you ever went there.
Speaks better than some people I know who's native tongue is English
No way you're 50.
You have a youthful glow and seem kind.
You can be 50 and be kind..
@DevonRexLady yes, and you can be 20 and be mean.
41 and miserable. But it's nice hearing your perspective from a place I've always wanted to visit. Stay strong brother. Lots of us struggling out here.
You've always wanted to visit his closet? Laugh brother. Sometimes it helps us get through
@@deeorr6403 lol, I suppose that does sound odd 🤣
@@Johanthegnarlerit doesn’t have to be like that brother. We have two choices, sulk and say “why why me, I’m just the unlucky one” or you can “I’m not happy with my situation but it doesn’t have to define me. I have free will, I’m going to work my ass off to improve my situation even if it’s the last thing I do” lock in man. Especially as a man. We take the things we want, we don’t wait around.
@@Johanthegnarler keep your keep up 🙏🏻 Prayin you find happiness
been there, 2kids and wife, felt the same, had full collapse and ended in the psychiatric ward for 2 months. Was diagnosed with Borderline Syndrome.
it's been a year since, worked on myself, worked on my relationship with my wife and my kids. I have reached a level a bliss and happiness that i could have never imagine.
This is the most important message if have to tell you: Your kids do not know the concept of looking down someone at this age. It something that you teach them because you automatically imply that this is the case. You are in a illusion of you own mental state and you blame the others for it.
Mental help is stigmatized in japan. This stigma is the cancer of your society and it damaged an unmeasurable amount of people and families. You MUST break this stigma and seek psychological help. This is not something you can continue to live with or it WILL consume you. I am lucky to be standing here, i was close from ending it.
Get help!
From a Husband and Father to a Husband and Father
Kiotsukete!
I also wonder if the feeling of his family looking down on him might be in his head, at least to some degree. I can't see how young children would look down on their own father.
I wouldn't pass judgement either way until I had heard both sides of the story, but I suppose we'll never know his wife's story.
Thanks for sharing this message.
This is excellent advice
I have BPD too and relate as a woman
Sounds like you’re insane
You look good King. 50 years? Wow. Dont forget about nature. Contact with it cleanses the body and mind. Stay strong, greetings from Poland
IDK, but I've been to Japan, and I've seen the hoards of people in the cities, working hard like hamsters in a cage. I've wondered how they feel. Listening to this man, who speaks really good English, I feel a kinship. I can feel his frustration, because Japanese don't show their feelings. I can relate to his situation, even though I'm much older and retired and don't have to run the maze every day anymore. I hope his family comes to appreciate him more, because he seems like a very worthwhile person.
I’m a 28 year old woman and thanks for making me feel less alone today
Are you lonely Hon? I'm willing to be your UA-cam friend if that does anything for you. I'm an old goat of 58 so don't get your hopes up. lol. Just saying!
28 is not even old lol
God bless you 🙏
@@osirisadonai6281 What's your point? They just said they were 28. They didn't say anything about being old.
Do you need someone to talk to?
I find many of the comments here very harsh and non-understanding. Someone who is struggling with their situation (including work, family, health, safety) and shares those struggles online will not be better magically by being told 'go spend time with your kids'.
There are so many things weighing 50-san down. Being worried about uncontrollable earthquakes, and the future in which he and his children have to live, while having to go to work and act like nothing is wrong- that isn't easy at all!
Life is similar to this for many of us, just in different places. I know this feeling. You do, too. Try to be kinder with yourself and others.
So please enjoy your doritos and pepsi, 50-san. Have joy and peace when you can. I wish for you to be safe in these uncertain times
I think people feel frustration a little bit watching it. This guy talks like my old friend who had depression so it might be quite serious. People get angry because there is nothing they can do it is like listening a good friend with depression who is telling you all the time how his whole life is miserable and bad and there is nothing you can do. I think this is what people feel watching this.
Sharing these things online is probably the worst thing one can do instead of actually talk to someone that wants to help.
@@grzesiek1x Indeed. All the advice in the world usually doesn't help because they are so in their own head and might throw it back at you. I think people can instinctually tell what is going on and don't know how to resolve it. Some try in comments, some get frustrated hearing things they heard before or even said themselves.
@@grzesiek1x if you look back in his videos youll notice years and years ago his vids were relatively normal and about normal topics. his highest viewed video was 3 months ago, thats when this all started.
@@Ash-fd8ww Exactly. Have you look the comments on that highest viewed video? So many people donated money to him, most around $100 per comment and sometimes $200. Thousands of dollars in just donation alone in one video. He realize a lot of people are suckers, and he capitalized on it.
I just turned 50 in mid September, never married, no kids. Thank you for this video sir. You are like my twin who has been here with me every single step of my life and experiencing every single dynamic. My only advice to share with the world is to NOT relocate to Los Angeles California. After being born and lived in LA all 50 years of my life I will confirm to the world that even the most wealthy of people are miserable here. It would take weeks upon weeks more to articulate why this place is so deeply miserable and in so many different ways.
Get out of there.
What problem people in LA have they are filthy rich
@@ayushsewa9373rich people are human beings with their own problems like every person. They’re simply rich as an added bonus
I think we all find the wrong people to be in our lives …the wrong friends the wrong job the list goes on and on….
@@oldfriend327 may you find happiness
Today i realised just driving and sitting in the country alone is so bliss
for people in the comments: telling someone who is clearly in a high state of mental distress that they should be happy for the things they have (implying ungratefulness) does not help a single bit. you are only denying them of their struggle and worsening their state of mind.
It can go both ways. Yes, you can be telling someone something when they are actually trying to say something else, not knowing or wanting to say it. That wont' help, but people can't sit down with him or be in live chat to actually go back n forth. On the other hand, there are selfish people that don't care how good they have it, they want things specifically how they want it or are unhappy. There are layers, but overall, it's a bad idea to vent online because you open yourself up to this. You either have to take it or realize it was a bad idea.
You do understand that this is an act put on for the purpose of attracting subscribers?
@@drbalbon7332 facts. The guy is desperate for attention.
It’s all an act. Everything he posts has a shocking title as clickbait.
@@carollynt You understand this does not invalidate the man's feelings? A person feeling alienated and isolated is trying to feel seen by other humans.
thank you for sharing this. i'm 33, divorced with 2 kids. paying child support to my ex wife, who just bought a house while i had to move back with my parents just to get back on my feet. i gave everything to my family leaving myself with nothing and now have to work out of debt. i feel lonely and like i wasted my best years. my kids are my world, and they love me with everything in them, but i just can't help but feel alone and down. it helps to know i'm not alone in feeling these things.
33yr woman here.. I've supported kids and husband 10yrs and helping brother and mother financially. Losing my health, hair and weight but have to keep going. Even though they don't understand that I have given my all for them I feel proud to know I've done my best. I just hope I'm not dying so they don't need to stress. Bathroom is my hiding place if I want to be alone or cry. But I will skip recording that! Good to know we are not alone..
I'm 48 y/o male. I wanted a wife and kids when I was younger but I had a spinal cord injury 11 years ago. Took me many years to get on my feet somewhat and I'm still in pain. So no relationships or kids for me. I have a nice house and make good money and have an enormous amount of free time. I'm not happy or fulfilled. I don't think a family is fulfilling in this day and age. I have it better than 90‰ of all humans but still.....
Same here mate. But we gotta improve for our kids. Never surrender. The past is forever gone and just move forward. For my self im back to playing fútbol and going to games.hope everything goes well
Never get married in the west, or this will surely happen to you
Brutal… Have faith brother. Never give up
His wife's channel; I am a 40 year old Japanese Mom and my husband keeps hiding in the closet 🤔
😂😂
Yeah the only thing that could make this channel better is her perspective. Like imagine if we find out this is all in his head , they actually have plenty of money and his friends come knocking on the door looking for him everyday .
Scrolling through the comments I was thinking the same thing, we need his wife to start a UA-cam channel to hear her side.
😂😂😂😂
@@JohnAlexanderramboparyjrthe3rddefinitely not. I find it a bit devaluing to even entertain the possibility
I'm in a really rough spot too and your videos help me a lot. I appreciate you being vulnerable like this, I don't know if I would have the same courage.
A man, especially one that is going through tremendous stress, needs appreciation and our 50 year old man is a great example of that and the fact that his family even looks down on him breaks my heart.
He literally has to cram himself in a closet AWAY from his family to feel safe and comfortable really reflects on his family dynamic. It’s sad to see that he doesn’t have his family to rely on for his struggles and feel miserable a lot of the time, at least according to his videos
I think he's just in the closet because the audio resonates better. He normally broadcasts from downstairs.
I hear you. That's what I see too. I wish 50 year old Japanese man the very best in life.
He needs to get offline and take his children and wife to the park. He needs to appreciate what he has...before it is too late! Too much time making UA-cam videos isn't good for anyone.
@@MaryBeth1965 you are right, but...what if they don't want to go?
@@enriquejoseantequerasanche6180 then that would be sad. All I know is that he better try , or divorce will happen .
It is good finding comfort in the small things in life, like a cold drink and a snack. Stay strong man!
"He's literally me.
Oh, he's married and has kids. He's not literally me."
Edit: this is just a dumb, offhanded comment. Why are some people taking this so seriously?
Bro lmao. So true. Let us UNITE!!!
Exactly my thoughts!
Yep
It gets worse when you get married and have kids. If you are miserable now, it will be hell later.
@@DeltaPi314 no it doesn't lol living for someone else is way easier
You know, I guess I have to be more grateful. I thought my life was sad and I wasn’t going anywhere but watching this made me realize my problems are a lot smaller than I thought. Keep pushing through good men and one day you will succeed!
This is the kind of man i would be delighted to have a beer with and listen to him telling stories.
I'm sorry you feel alone. If it would be at all pertinent, i would be happy to be your friend, sir.
We need more kindness in this world
I'm 24 and feeling very similar to you right now. Having no direction in life and stressing about the future is a horrible feeling. I hope life starts getting better for you soon, friend.
me as well bro i’m 24 and thinking about what to do, hopefully we look back at this moment in 6 years and laugh
Me now at 28
@@thedoctorofallmen yeah im also 24 and trying to figure things out, which I assume is normal for people in their 20s. I don't really get the midlife crisis thing, how do you not have your goals figured out by the time you're in your 40s. Do these people just go through their 20s and 30s without thinking?
Don't stop working out. Work on your physical health at least 5 days a week. As you get older, your body and brain will be thank you everyday. That's my advice!!
36, U.S. Married, two children, one on the way, The company I worked for just went under putting me straight out of a job with 0 notice and im shit-outta' luck, You're not alone.
Stay strong man. Good things will come along 💪
Keep ya head up soldier one door closes and another one opens 💯 🙏
M47 with 3 kids and unemployed for a year. I'm right there with you brother!
Return To The Land community in the Ozarks might have work for you.
It’s going to be rough. But one day, years from now, you’ll look back and talk about how you guys made it through.
I just subscribed to your channel because you're very relatable. Sometimes it's hard to see the positive side but I see a lot of things I like about you already. You're a good man.
I consume enough material about Japan to know it's hard for you sometimes. For us outsiders, Japan looks idyllic but you guys are under so much pressure. You have to work super hard and you're always scared to fail and let yourself and others down. It makes me sad to hear how many Japanese people are feeling depression or anxiety because you guys are awesome and we look up to you.
You're clearly very intelligent and well-spoken, you're handsome, you're hard-working, you're compassionate, you have a beautiful family. Life is hard but if anyone can figure it out, it's you.
Japanese: 50 years old, midlife crisis.
Others: 50 years old, pre-death crisis.
Yup 😂
He’s soft like you Bet you watch anime also
@@OscarDeLaCoca get back on the oil rig oscar
Maybe he should be more vocal & firm. Stand up for yourself, stop acting like a victim.
He’s eating Doritos and drinking Pepsi. wtf are you even talking about
I just turned 31 my dad died 2 years ago since then been rising my daughter on my own hope you keep finding happiness in the little things.
You got this dude. Take one day at a time, deep breaths. Find happiness in your daughter.
You will find ways to remember your dad 🧡
People worry about their financial social mental physical health and forget about a very important aspect which is spiritual health! which is the most important thing to connect your soul in the worship of Allah who created you for a purpose for a short time on Earth.. I am 40 and I have recently divorced and have lost my time with kids... Mandeep down I believe if I put my trust in Allah he will make a way out will make things easy no he has got me out of many darkness es. Looking back when I had everything materialistic like money youth family family friends I remember very well we still feel lonely at times because the heart is still void and missing something which is the worship of God Allah almighty. My happiest time is when I am reading the holy quran and praying to Allah that's what keeps me going otherwise I would be wasted., put your trust in your creator the creator of the heavens and earth and everything in between and he will make a way out for you please read the Holy Quran the final Testament and discover the purpose of your existence.. May Allah guide us all ♥️
One day at a time it will get better though ❤🤗
Don’t listen to these pissed off, sad people telling you that you should be happy because you checked off some boxes on the stereotypical life check list. These are the people that believe checking off the boxes is the key to happiness when in reality, they have zero understanding of the human condition. All the best to you.
100%. do what actually makes you happy, not what other people tell you should make you happy
Damn someone finally said it right
What makes this guy happy? @@spicy_xinger
Wow, so marriage and bringing children into the world is part of a check list. No, they are aspiration basic humans have and responsibilities. They are not the entirety of happiness, but they should be if one is grateful for them and doesn't take for granted. Many people do if self-centered and depression does stem from focus on self too much. An individual has to have something to live for that can enforce the family. I've noticed many Japanese channels are bringing up why the Japanese mindset is the way it is and points to lack in beliefs; they are superstitious, ritualistic, but there is not actual faith. One can look at Europe and see the same with the churches closed. Beyond that, traditional cultural outlook and social blocks make it worse. When you look at S. Korea they don't have this issue and are far more willing to be outspoken. I don't think outside influence should make Japan change, they themselves have to do it for it to matter. The irony is many just start families there because that's what they are told or think is the norm, not always because that's what they want or understand it. They expect things to fall into place and when it doesn't and they put no effort in themselves, they want to escape in some way.
this 100% and the kind of responses you're talking about is nothing out of the ordinary for normies to say who think that think life is all about checking off boxes and as long as you're checking off boxes you should be happy..
Sending you hugs and best wishes from Australia!
This is so sad that you're hiding from your family. Hope you're ok now, also like others have said you look really good for 50 years old.
It is similar to men having a man cave to get time to themselves. People able to enjoy alone time is so important, so they can be a better member for their family.
Introverts in particular do not do well with constant company, that's just how it is. It's even worse if your constant company looks down upon you like his situation.
@@nini1588exactly my first thoughts when I saw this video, it’s the same escape that men use sheds or go fishing to find.
The way you explain your hierarchy of your family home explains a lot.
i'm from the philippines, brother. 41 yrs old and trying to find peace and enjoying the happy moment of my day as well. keep on keeping on.
I’m a 28 year old man in south eastern USA. I struggle with bi polar 1 and all the other wonderful obstacles of life we all face. I just had to finance a camper for the wife and I because our trailer is infested with black mold and we can’t get it out. We bought the place 2 years ago and with a new roof but the damage was already in the walls. I don’t have good enough credit to get us another home right now. I could go on life has been hitting me hard the past couple weeks to the point I broke down and lost it and then reset again.
Today has been a lot better. My thoughts are shifting from always negative to looking for the gratitude and positivity. I will only be more wise and stronger from here, and it ain’t all that bad when I just breathe and try to be happy. We actually love camper life and getting rid of all the usefulness clutter we accumulated. Most of the things I end up stressing about are out of my control anyways and I just need to ride the wave.
I enjoyed your video man. Vulnerable and honest. I gave up the booze a month ago and weed yesterday. My new go to for a unhealthy treat is a good caffeine free root beer! I like the blazing Buffalo Doritos and the spicy nacho! God bless brother ✌🏻
I quit the alcohol game, was a weekend warrior. I've been sober eight years now; it was the best decision for my life moving forward. I did it for myself first, then family second.
My first true feeling of being drunk was when I was in my late teens, eighteen, to be specific.
The habit continued into my twenties. It began slowly but craving heavier, harder, and more consumption as I kept fueling my addiction. Like I said earlier, I was a weekend warrior.
My job and family were slowly becoming less important to me, and I was excited to plan my next drink or place to drink.
I had a couple of times I could have saved myself earlier trying to quit, but it was very tough on me, and I wasn't ready yet. I was screaming; "HELP ME!!" inside my mind.
When I was almost thirty, March was my first clean month in 2016. I made a decision to myself, a vow basically, and said if I want to save myself, I have to quit cold turkey.
I debriefed and dropped the drinking buddies and bad friends and removed ALL alcohol from the hiding places and cabinets. Anything like connections to drinking removed.
From each conscious thought, your mind can think clearly with no brain fog of alcohol as the first month kicks in of sobriety. The hump months are the toughest part of getting out of this habit. Don't give into the evil thoughts of falling off the wagon.
No one said this was easy. I was considered a binge drinker. My liver was fatty and health in a troubled state.
However, you want to help yourself first when you're ready. Once you can do that, be strong, have a strong will, and then show your family a huge achievement by moving further into maintaining the sobriety lifestyle.
I'm thirty-eight now, and looking back on how far I've come.
I can only share my story to help people. You're not in this fight alone. Be strong, stay focused, and don't give up on yourself. The most important key is to stay true to yourself and have a strong willpower.
Just take it one day at a time, and know you can do it!
Happy for you. I look forward to the day I can say the same. All the best.
@OkinInc My first true feeling of being drunk was when I was in my late teens, eighteen, to be specific.
The habit continued into my twenties. It began slowly but craving heavier, harder, and more consumption as I kept fueling my addiction. Like I said earlier, I was a weekend warrior.
My job and family were slowly becoming less important to me, and I was excited to plan my next drink or place to drink.
I had a couple of times I could have saved myself earlier trying to quit, but it was very tough on me, and I wasn't ready yet. I was screaming; "HELP ME!!" inside my mind.
When I was almost thirty, March was my first clean month in 2016. I made a decision to myself, a vow basically, and said if I want to save myself, I have to quit cold turkey.
I debriefed and dropped the drinking buddies and bad friends and removed ALL alcohol from the hiding places and cabinets. Anything like connections to drinking removed.
From each conscious thought, your mind can think clearly with no brain fog of alcohol as the first month kicks in of sobriety. The hump months are the toughest part of getting out of this habit. Don't give into the evil thoughts of falling off the wagon.
No one said this was easy. I was considered a binge drinker. My liver was fatty and health in a troubled state.
However, you want to help yourself first when you're ready. Once you can do that, be strong, have a strong will, and then show your family a huge achievement by moving further into maintaining the sobriety lifestyle.
I'm thirty-eight now, and looking back on how far I've come.
I can only share my story to help people. You're not in this fight alone. Be strong, stay focused, and don't give up on yourself. The most important key is to stay true to yourself and have a strong willpower.
Just take it one day at a time, and know you can do it!
Dam I did 3 months and fell back into it, whoever made alcohol needs to be brought up on charges 😂
@@Sig-ud9mp Brother, thank you so much for taking the time to respond with something really helpful. Truly appreciate you Sir. Day 1 tomorrow. 🙏
Why does everyone use the term “ weekend warrior” what does this even mean?
I'm 50 year old Korean, no kids and no wife. Life isn't miserable nor good. Just in the middle.
you your gumpla!!!
I'm a 50 year old Australian. My life is the same - not happy, not miserable.
So true 😂
Understand. In the middle, understand. I was like that for 20 years😊
no kids = no stress. you'll be fine my friend. Just make sure you have friends at least. Happiness is a finite state, nobody is happy except small bursts. security, comfort and stability > happiness. People seeking happiness are some of the most unstable people I've ever met in my life.
Everyone please watch the movie "Perfect Days" about a toilet cleaner living in Tokyo, it's about how he is very happy with his simple life and doesn't need more. It's truly a lovely movie. ❤
Or that 2021 Korean film Aloners which is kinda the opposite and is reminiscent of this man's self imposed isolation.
Lovely movie!
I'll check it out. Thanks. :)
@@buyerofsorts no prob ☺️
Great movie!
I remember when I was a kid I used to think I'd feel different when I turned 18 and thought I'd feel like an adult at 18. Im 23 now and i still fill like a child. I believe the more you learn and know the more questions you have... Just like a child. And now I look around at other adults who I thought looked so big as a kid and they all look like kids in suits and fancy outfits but still the intellect of kids. I've come to relize nobody really knows whats going on or really what they are doing in life which came as a scary shock to me, but Ive come to learn just to appreciate the present moment as thats all there is and all that really matters. I heard someone say recently that she wished she could know everything and that made a thought pop into my head of just how terrible that would be because the more we learn and know in life the more insignificant, dumb and limited we are as human beings on this little rock floating through space in a possibly infinite universe on a planet were the smartest people on earth are only slightly different DNA wise to a monkey and the smartest person on earth is only comparatively more smart to the absolute dumbest in terms of all possible intelligence. Anyway ive stopped trying to figure things out for a goal or purpose and focus on my own happiness.
you are my favorite right now, keep your head up my man.
Man, I was literally at the lowest point of my entire life at the beginning of the year, I thought it was over! Same thing, midlife crisis! Then I found a new job and recently met the most amazing person ever and it feels like no matter what I made a friend for life! So don't give up, things will turn around!✌️
At least you’ve got that big bag of Doritos. I don’t have a big bag of Doritos.
doesn't change the fact life is terrible
@@HPLovesCraftsCat Only with that outlook
😂
I love doritos he always makes me want a bag
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I wish you the best. This video is weirdly cathartic. Thank you
You look fantastic! Doritos & Pepsi sound like the perfect combination. Also, there’s something comforting & childlike about you being in the closet. It’s your way of dealing with things, to just get peace away from everyone. Thank you for sharing ❤️
I’m listening to this in my closet 😂 it’s comforting
Don't encourage him, he's a grown man with kids and a wife
Being young is a mindset. Stay young king 👑
My Japanese father was very similar. He had lots of anxiety at your age. If possible, spend 1 or 2 days away from your wife and children with other family. Don't go out, don't watch anything exciting like horror movies or something you really like. Just rest for 2 days and do as boring of things as possible. It will help rest your system. If you drink coke and eat chips every day, take a few days rest from eating them. I think you will feel better if you have rest periods for your body.
You're implying that he has a dopamine overdose, because that's what you advice in the case of a dopamine overdose. It seems to me, that pepsi and coke is the single thing in his life that makes him feel comfortable, and that his world will crumble if you just remove these things. Obviously, I can't tell him what to do, but I think, that he should firstly sort things out with his family, no matter how hard it is to do.
@@endlessparadoxdce I never said remove coke and chips completely. but if his family is making him upset, it would help him to be away from them and if they are away from him maybe they will appreciate him more Aswell. If he wants to sort things out with his family it would help to get relatives on his side of the family to calm his wife and children down in being aggressive towards him.
@@marumisu9560Japanese are soft that’s why they watch anime
It’s just Pepsi guys there’s no Coke
Stay strong, brother ❤
I’m sending you a massive hug from the UK. I live in my own and get fairly lonely sometimes. These little moments (like eating your favourite snack and drink) can mean a lot. I completely understand ❤
Same. Although I still prefer living alone.
We could also try sitting in our wardrobes with snacks, but since we have no one to hide from it’s not quite the same 😅
The fact you can enjoy simple pleasures alone and articulate your condition to us, your audience, is already a pleasure and great start. We’re proud of you for pushing through and are cheering you on everyday! Life is hard, but you talking about it is bringing moments of peace to at least me. Thank you!
2nd this
54 year old man here dying inside...
Your life sounds pretty great to me!
I've never married but have a 22 year old daughter that has been in a mental facility recovering from drug addiction for nearly 2 years. Her mother is also a drug addict and causes many problems for me and my fiance'. I have been in a relationship for 4 years and thought I met the woman of my dreams that I would finally get married and enjoy life with. She told me she was leaving me and could not deal with all the drama from my daughter and baby mama. I can't turn my daughter over to the streets and just pretend she does not exist. I will never turn my back on her and not help her.
Fuck, all you can do is keep on pushing through... Your daughter needs you and you have to have hope that things will get better. Don't give up 🙏🏼
You are a good man. God is with you
@@manikyum Thank you
You made the right decision. Your daughter needs you.
Hi. I’m 29. I live in China. I am American. I came here to get away from my crushing life in a small city in the US. But I am also stuck in a job I dislike and am not able to truly pursue my dreams. I feel stuck for reasons I cannot fully explain. I am not happy either. I am with you.
wtf were you thinking 😂
I also find myself in a rather low point in life, but somehow this video gave me comfort. Never commented on a youtube video before but thank you!!
When you don't know what to do, you do what you can. You are a pure soul my friend.
out there looking like a 38 year old
He's doing well genetically despite the stressors of life..Good on him for finding solaces in the little things.
No alcohol, No Smoking
@@billybobarinoit's like nobody watching this video knows about Asian genetics. I guess you guys have never watched many foreign Asian Media or movies of any kind. But yes Asian people age physically the slowest out of all other races and nationalities. And their diet also contributes to it as well as the culture.
He's got high blood pressure at a young age. He's not healthy at all.
@@MtnGirll age 50 isn't young for high blood pressure, especially for males.
You are a great man of honor. Please keep posting these videos!
Please don’t give up my friend!!! You inspire a lot of us struggling.
I’m praying for you (and your family). So sorry this is a sad time. Things will turn around. In the meantime, are you able to drink lots of water, exercise, etc.? Sometimes that helps. Take care. ☀️
Hang in there. You're a hero in my eyes. Taking care of your family is the greatest purpose a man can find.
Disagree. Surely in the remembrance of Allah do hearts find comfort.
@@bilsid allah used to be cool when he was single. but now allah is worthless. he grants no wishes. he just sits there and whines. he got married and became miserable.
@@bilsidallahu snackbar ain’t real brother
@@506jeff take your pills and go to sleep gramps
@@506jeffYou’d think with the Plethora of knowledge available they would atleast deduce Islam is false. Search “Jay Smith - A historical critique of Muhammed”. He basically disproves it in an hour and a half
I love the honesty, vulnerability, and snacks. Subscribed.
hang in there dude, we are gonna make it!
News flash no one survives life
@@electrodynamicorb6548 and?
@@atfaydnturanlstudent6662 and….just saying we’re not making it….duh
Make it where? He's a salaryman with a family that doesn't respect him living in a country with some big problems approaching (massive population crash namely). He's operating out of sheer obligation, at some point he's likely to crack.
@@electrodynamicorb6548 if "making it" means being immortal to you, might as well be a 10th century alchemist, my guy. Every living being dies one day, and if you cannot accept that, you wont be happy unless you somehow live through the heat death of the universe.
At 4:45. I too was drinking a lot at one time. I gave up drinking 27 years ago. In addition to saving money, it improves other parts of your life immensely.
What other parts of your life does giving up drinking alcohol improve?
@@gandalfstormcrow7943 Better quality sex life, weight loss, better energy, lower blood pressure, better social life, and meeting better quality women.
Big hugs . . . you hang in there. Just being able to post this video shows real strength and courage.
Thank you for sharing. Even given the sentiment and topic, it's comforting to hear someone so calmy share in this misery that is so often hitting in waves as my life goes on. I appreciate life, but the real work is going home and pep talking yourself after fulfilling responsibilities that demand you and your time.
Sitting on my floor on cushions and eating favorite snacks is often a happy place for me.
Kudos to you giving what it takes to keep going ❤
Looking good at 50 on Doritos diet. Hope you feel better
Difference is: The Japanese don't eat ONLY Doritos... It's a treat for him, like he said...
I think living in the Closet seems very peaceful and quiet. My G4andpa always locked himself in the Bedroom with a Hobogrill and Cans for Weeks because my Grandma would not stop talking.
The closet makes you happy because has it has a strong energy of emptiness. In Japan, I believe they call them "Power spots." Where there is emptiness, there exists no anxiety.
Place of power, gotta be
God bless you sir. We all go through difficult times. I’m glad you can find peace and enjoyment even though you are dealing with some family issues. I hope things get better for you soon. 🙏
As a man, I condone this.
Loneliness can be sweet.
@HaroldPlum who comdems it?
@@rachelismean ourselves after a point. Im content being alone for the most part but I wish I could interact with people better so I could do it more often. Like if I can randomly find out you like Metal Gear Solid or anime or something I like completely unlock and could talk your ear off. If I dont know you and just met you at a party id probably just say hi and introduce myself then go back to standing there quietly alone hoping someone I know shows up.
keep telling yourself that cope lonely man
Loneliness is sweet for about 2% of the time….but guess we’re all different.
Being alone and loneliness isnt the same
Hang in there buddy, we're rooting for you. Since your English is pretty decent, is it entirely impossible to consider a new start in life with your family in another place in the world?
Ngl those doritos and pepsi look good. Going to 7-11 now.
Your english is really good. Thank you for making this video. Feel like I understand my dad more. Im in college now and self sufficent.
Listening to you I dont ever want to get married
Thank you for taking time and letting us know about your day sir, if y’all going through it, you got this ily 🎉❤