I am going through same .. depressed.. having suicidal thoughts…. Its awful .. people are sooooo insensitive. They dont care.. they think woman as a child bearing machine.. no support .. no understanding…
I feel like men just do not get it. Some don’t understand what your giving them and how much they should appreciate you, support you, love you EXTRA during pregnancy.
Couldn’t agree more. I’ve given up trying to talk to him or anyone. He wants to shut me up with quick problem solving like I’m his car that has gone faulty. I have no friends or family to talk to and my midwife just said call the doctors. I did, now I’m waiting 3 weeks for my phone appointment. I hope I make it till then. Right now I give myself 50/50
@@jewel3502 I hope you're keeping well I am in the same situation. Suffering from depression while being pregnant and having no one to talk to. Future daddy is just not it. He doesn't support me on mental level AT ALL. In fact he's the main source of stress. I truly hope you are in better place than me. You're not alone. We are not alone.
This is a very important subject for further research. My mother's best friend died infront of her from a heart defect when she was pregnant with me. I had hyperactivity as a child and in adult life an anxiety disorder. I also have disabilities in my legs which typically are caused by malformation in the womb. I doubt she had much support after the death of the friend. I am paying the price for the lack of support and knowledge in this area. I think the stress mothers are now under may now be a big cause in the rise of anxiety - such as having to go out and work, which wasn't so much the case in the past.
I am so sorry to hear this. I myself had a dream childhood and I was never aware on how many advantages this gave me. For example I have a very high measured IQ (I don't think that common ideas about the allegedly high heridability of IQ are right - because I don't think twin studies distiguish epigentic prebirth effects well from true genetics). Now the general idea of society is that those with high IQ from healthy pregnancys should be paid high. And those that get brain damage or other health damage from beeing born to highly stressed (aka bullied) mothers or very poor mothers (another form of bullying) should be paid low. Because they are not as "productive". As our political structures encouraged bullying and hierachy fights ("competition is beneficial") this is like fining the rape victim for having been raped ...
My dad committed suicide when I was pregnant with my baby girl. When she was a baby she cried unconsolably for 10-12hours a day. Nothing soothed her. Not even breastfeeding and body contact. She barely slept. 5-20mins in a row. She had extreme tantrums since she was 8month old and is aggressive at 3yrs old. I wonder how much of this has to do with the trauma or that the lot of crying and extreme sleep deprivation did definitely not help my depression but pushed it even further. I guess all of that contributes to what we experienced with her emotional development. I am so heartbroken for her. I feel guilty although I know it is not my fault she turned out this way. I still love her whatever! I just hope she will be happy in life!
@@rekaberegi2511most people never think of the impact of what the mother experiences,feels. Thinks etc. And how it can destroy the child. I had a very neglectful cold angry mother and it crippled my ability to bond love or empathize. . If I bring that up to the average person and they say I'm crazy. The level if ignorance of most people astounds me
@@a_piece_of_poo It's so disheartening how people react to depression but I see that disinterest and judgments again and again :( I can only hope that the research results of Dr. Monk become more known so that our society in the future do not punish the children from bullied mothers by pushing them into low payed jobs. Dr. Monk will not see this in a political way because she is a scientist. But if bullying (see social rank theory of depression) creates large parts of our skill differences than we should give everyone equal pay for euqual work hours. I know this politics stuff is not super helpfull for you right now but you can as well try mindfulness meditation to decrease stress (for depressed people it is however hard to learn because of the focus problem). Another method is to hang around with people who are really friendly and have understanding for the situation (social contact rreduces depression but not any kind of social contact). Maybe team up with other depressed people to watch and discuss interesting youtube videos together or play some small games? There is as well a group watch function in many streaming services today. I think my email should be accessible over my youtube account, so we could try it. Or you team up with Thandiwe (OP) only (I have just depression experience I am not pregnant).
@Thandiwe is it the child's father stressing you? Don't worry, I have done research please if you can get you some Fish oil pills helps with depression.
ur not alone😔 im 19weeks pregnant too, everyday tears in my eyes its just so tiring.. hope you get better for your baby! dont give up.. everything will be fine soon..
Im pregnant 6th month. Always in pain, pregnancy gastric, bloating, indigestion, lost appetite, always feeling tired, just want to laying in bed 24/7, hate many people around me except my husband, hate going out, this becoming depression when it effect my work performance & family relationship btwn my parent n i. I really dont know what to do.
My sister had shcizo. My couson had personality disorder. All this defect comes from mother’s depression during pregnancy. My 1st son now might have some mental& personality issues, bcz i had stress and crying my heart out during 1st pregnancy. My second pregnancy is not that good but i try my best to be happy and kick away all those thought , anxiety that makes me stress. My second child born, normal. A normal kid. I can see the difference. This is true.
Just please be really careful with any antidepressants, anti nausea and anti reflux during pregnancy. Our two youngest children where born with Tourette's after I was given anti-nausea medication. That was over 20 years ago. A couple of years ago I had the same anti-nausea medication and now I have tardive dyskinesia. Our babies brains and dopamine are developing. If we take suppresses, tick tick tick. Please go to PubMed and look up this government studies. There are day-to-day foods that we can eat too help our dopamine levels naturally. Good luck everyone
There’s a study that linked depression in the mother with increased risk of SIDs onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1111/j.1440-1754.1992.tb02724.x I read a comment that said they are now saying SIDs is linked more to a brain “malfunction” shutting down that part that tells us to take a breath. In a Reddit post I read someone suggesting that the birth process and separation from being physically attached to the mother is a big deal. They suggested to spend as much time holding the baby, skin to skin contact all that good stuff to reduce SIDS. I remember being little and listening my parents heartbeat and syncing their breathing with mine but I was much older then an infant. I wonder if babies who don’t receive that type of connection have a less stimulated medulla oblongata making sids more of a risk for them. Which has me thinking about how there’s an increase of SIDS in daycare settings… again extended periods without a emotional connect to the mother. It would be interesting to see if sids is more prevalent in orphanages.
I was taking antidepressants and my psychiatrist told me I had to stop taking them bc it affects the baby, so it’s really frustrating ppl like this saying your depression is affecting ur baby but also knowing that meds also affect the baby… what are we supposed to do?
@@Angiemendoza05strange...I wonder if they mean depression that is unknown and the mother isn't trying to do things to feel better. It's hard to feel miserable and want stay in bed.. but is it different if you acknowledge you are feeling low vs not knowing?
May Allah bless your situation and health and make it easy for u all.. May Allah bless your baby and grant you a good recovery. Keep praying to the Lord, the One above the Seven Heavens who is the One in whose Hand is all good, help and aid.
Talk to a therapist or someone you trust and avoid or cut ties with people who are toxic, forgive people and be happy. Bake, cook, clean, go for walks, draw, go to church, watch baby videos, write in a journal, read good books, eat healthy, drink water, look at nature, sleep on time, braid your hair, move out or move away, volunteer, etc etc
Crazy I knew something was off.. as soon as I got pregnant or just weird depressing, suicidal state of mind, hopelessness, just life miserable..I felt different. I thought it's weather winter blues but then it was more than wintry blue it was insufferable pain of living next day and next... and then u got sick smack flu and I'm vomiting from flu... and took weeek recovery almost bit nasea there... and it's winter and I'sleep early to make anguish go away. .. no one talks of depression in pregnancy is always post partem or post anything. I'm prone to depression just more when pregnant and I'm. Sure my psychotic paranoid, narcissistic mother was crying with me whole pregnancy... I'm so emotional as child since beginning.. so I'm hyper sensitive and depressed easily and now pregnant on baby 4.........I didn't plan it...I had 3 out 4 miscarriage...I might miscarriage.. it's miserable
I am going through same .. depressed.. having suicidal thoughts…. Its awful .. people are sooooo insensitive. They dont care.. they think woman as a child bearing machine.. no support .. no understanding…
U gave birth ? How ur baby is?
@@kourtney5384 no i haven’t my due date is 20 jan .. just waiting ..
Sending you the best vibes, I hope you’re feeling better. I’m also 10 weeks pregnant and I am not enjoying this at all :(
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I feel like men just do not get it. Some don’t understand what your giving them and how much they should appreciate you, support you, love you EXTRA during pregnancy.
Say that out loud Preach
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Couldn’t agree more. I’ve given up trying to talk to him or anyone. He wants to shut me up with quick problem solving like I’m his car that has gone faulty. I have no friends or family to talk to and my midwife just said call the doctors. I did, now I’m waiting 3 weeks for my phone appointment. I hope I make it till then. Right now I give myself 50/50
@@jewel3502 I hope you're keeping well
I am in the same situation. Suffering from depression while being pregnant and having no one to talk to.
Future daddy is just not it. He doesn't support me on mental level AT ALL. In fact he's the main source of stress.
I truly hope you are in better place than me. You're not alone. We are not alone.
God has the final word on your baby!! Pray over your baby!! ❤️
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This is a very important subject for further research. My mother's best friend died infront of her from a heart defect when she was pregnant with me. I had hyperactivity as a child and in adult life an anxiety disorder. I also have disabilities in my legs which typically are caused by malformation in the womb. I doubt she had much support after the death of the friend. I am paying the price for the lack of support and knowledge in this area. I think the stress mothers are now under may now be a big cause in the rise of anxiety - such as having to go out and work, which wasn't so much the case in the past.
I am so sorry to hear this. I myself had a dream childhood and I was never aware on how many advantages this gave me. For example I have a very high measured IQ (I don't think that common ideas about the allegedly high heridability of IQ are right - because I don't think twin studies distiguish epigentic prebirth effects well from true genetics). Now the general idea of society is that those with high IQ from healthy pregnancys should be paid high. And those that get brain damage or other health damage from beeing born to highly stressed (aka bullied) mothers or very poor mothers (another form of bullying) should be paid low. Because they are not as "productive". As our political structures encouraged bullying and hierachy fights ("competition is beneficial") this is like fining the rape victim for having been raped ...
My dad committed suicide when I was pregnant with my baby girl. When she was a baby she cried unconsolably for 10-12hours a day. Nothing soothed her. Not even breastfeeding and body contact. She barely slept. 5-20mins in a row. She had extreme tantrums since she was 8month old and is aggressive at 3yrs old. I wonder how much of this has to do with the trauma or that the lot of crying and extreme sleep deprivation did definitely not help my depression but pushed it even further. I guess all of that contributes to what we experienced with her emotional development. I am so heartbroken for her. I feel guilty although I know it is not my fault she turned out this way. I still love her whatever! I just hope she will be happy in life!
@@rekaberegi2511most people never think of the impact of what the mother experiences,feels. Thinks etc. And how it can destroy the child. I had a very neglectful cold angry mother and it crippled my ability to bond love or empathize. . If I bring that up to the average person and they say I'm crazy. The level if ignorance of most people astounds me
I’m pregnant, depressed and have no means of getting any kind of help. I’m worried about my growing baby🥺🥺🥺
Same. And I feel like my S.O doesn't really notice it. He calls it me being butt hurt...
@@a_piece_of_poo It's so disheartening how people react to depression but I see that disinterest and judgments again and again :( I can only hope that the research results of Dr. Monk become more known so that our society in the future do not punish the children from bullied mothers by pushing them into low payed jobs. Dr. Monk will not see this in a political way because she is a scientist. But if bullying (see social rank theory of depression) creates large parts of our skill differences than we should give everyone equal pay for euqual work hours. I know this politics stuff is not super helpfull for you right now but you can as well try mindfulness meditation to decrease stress (for depressed people it is however hard to learn because of the focus problem). Another method is to hang around with people who are really friendly and have understanding for the situation (social contact rreduces depression but not any kind of social contact). Maybe team up with other depressed people to watch and discuss interesting youtube videos together or play some small games? There is as well a group watch function in many streaming services today. I think my email should be accessible over my youtube account, so we could try it. Or you team up with Thandiwe (OP) only (I have just depression experience I am not pregnant).
@@a_piece_of_poo I'm soory
@Thandiwe is it the child's father stressing you? Don't worry, I have done research please if you can get you some Fish oil pills helps with depression.
Same. Find myself crying almost everyday now
This is hard dealing with this alone depression anxiety 😢 21 weeks pregnant
ur not alone😔 im 19weeks pregnant too, everyday tears in my eyes its just so tiring.. hope you get better for your baby! dont give up.. everything will be fine soon..
You're not alone, 26 weeks pregnant doing it alone.
Would be nice if there was some
Solution and it just blame
On the already struggling mom
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Im pregnant 6th month. Always in pain, pregnancy gastric, bloating, indigestion, lost appetite, always feeling tired, just want to laying in bed 24/7, hate many people around me except my husband, hate going out, this becoming depression when it effect my work performance & family relationship btwn my parent n i. I really dont know what to do.
Hello I know who can help you, doctor frank the great spell caster can help you, he was the one who help my friend manifest his twins.
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Same. What did you do?
My sister had shcizo. My couson had personality disorder. All this defect comes from mother’s depression during pregnancy. My 1st son now might have some mental& personality issues, bcz i had stress and crying my heart out during 1st pregnancy. My second pregnancy is not that good but i try my best to be happy and kick away all those thought , anxiety that makes me stress. My second child born, normal. A normal kid. I can see the difference. This is true.
Wow.. we're you crying from depression or no support or fighting in marriage or hormonal??
Just please be really careful with any antidepressants, anti nausea and anti reflux during pregnancy. Our two youngest children where born with Tourette's after I was given anti-nausea medication. That was over 20 years ago. A couple of years ago I had the same anti-nausea medication and now I have tardive dyskinesia. Our babies brains and dopamine are developing. If we take suppresses, tick tick tick. Please go to PubMed and look up this government studies. There are day-to-day foods that we can eat too help our dopamine levels naturally. Good luck everyone
This is what I have been saying, but for some reason there is no Communication or study about this.
There’s a study that linked depression in the mother with increased risk of SIDs
onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1111/j.1440-1754.1992.tb02724.x
I read a comment that said they are now saying SIDs is linked more to a brain “malfunction” shutting down that part that tells us to take a breath.
In a Reddit post I read someone suggesting that the birth process and separation from being physically attached to the mother is a big deal. They suggested to spend as much time holding the baby, skin to skin contact all that good stuff to reduce SIDS.
I remember being little and listening my parents heartbeat and syncing their breathing with mine but I was much older then an infant.
I wonder if babies who don’t receive that type of connection have a less stimulated medulla oblongata making sids more of a risk for them.
Which has me thinking about how there’s an increase of SIDS in daycare settings… again extended periods without a emotional connect to the mother.
It would be interesting to see if sids is more prevalent in orphanages.
Hello I know who can help you, doctor frank the great spell caster can help you, he was the one who help my friend manifest his twins.
Whatsapp him now
✝2349155400957⏯⏯⏯⏯⏮⏮⏯⏯⏮⏯⏯
Nice...makes mums feel even worst, now it's not just you feeling awful, but also you've already harmed you baby 👏 👏
Could antidepressants help ?
I was taking antidepressants and my psychiatrist told me I had to stop taking them bc it affects the baby, so it’s really frustrating ppl like this saying your depression is affecting ur baby but also knowing that meds also affect the baby… what are we supposed to do?
@@Angiemendoza05strange...I wonder if they mean depression that is unknown and the mother isn't trying to do things to feel better. It's hard to feel miserable and want stay in bed.. but is it different if you acknowledge you are feeling low vs not knowing?
@@Angiemendoza05 how are you now? hows your baby now
Cate blanchett from wish
Is it iugr??
Im also struggling
U gave birth ? How ur baby is ?
@@kourtney5384 No not yet , I am much better now.
May Allah bless your situation and health and make it easy for u all.. May Allah bless your baby and grant you a good recovery.
Keep praying to the Lord, the One above the Seven Heavens who is the One in whose Hand is all good, help and aid.
Hello I know who can help you, doctor frank the great spell caster can help you, he was the one who help my friend manifest his twins.
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Madam.im in depression.my family .members dipress me too much.i feel subside.plz advise me.plz help me.
Please stay strong for your baby. Maybe do some random acts of kindness, exercise, go for a walk. 🙏
Talk to a therapist or someone you trust and avoid or cut ties with people who are toxic, forgive people and be happy. Bake, cook, clean, go for walks, draw, go to church, watch baby videos, write in a journal, read good books, eat healthy, drink water, look at nature, sleep on time, braid your hair, move out or move away, volunteer, etc etc
Crazy I knew something was off.. as soon as I got pregnant or just weird depressing, suicidal state of mind, hopelessness, just life miserable..I felt different. I thought it's weather winter blues but then it was more than wintry blue it was insufferable pain of living next day and next... and then u got sick smack flu and I'm vomiting from flu... and took weeek recovery almost bit nasea there... and it's winter and I'sleep early to make anguish go away. .. no one talks of depression in pregnancy is always post partem or post anything. I'm prone to depression just more when pregnant and I'm. Sure my psychotic paranoid, narcissistic mother was crying with me whole pregnancy... I'm so emotional as child since beginning.. so I'm hyper sensitive and depressed easily and now pregnant on baby 4.........I didn't plan it...I had 3 out 4 miscarriage...I might miscarriage.. it's miserable