In the spirit “that it takes a village” , when a child holds the door for me I not only say “thank you,”, I also add “What lovely manners.” I feel like this can reinforce the lessons the parents are teaching. Also, at Halloween, when giving out candy, I say “what good manners” to the first child who says “Thank you” and I notice that every child afterward also says thank you. Of course , I am an elderly woman.
I agree, I remember my elders doing this for me. I wanted to please them with such manners, and children want attention so give it for behavior you want to see more of! Love the comment !
I think a basic etiquette form we have lost is DINING ETIQUETTE too! Basics are: No talking with your mouth full No phones at the table Being kind to the server ✨ How to hold your knife and fork How to position your drinks and pour/hold them How to sit To never EVER comment on what another person has chosen to eat negatively
People forget that last one. You don’t know what other people’s relationship with food is (EDs etc.) and you can unintentionally make people feel insecure or uncomfortable 💛
This is the video series I didn’t know I needed!!! Love how gorgeous you look. Pearls, chiffon, curls! You’re reminding us that refined and elegant looks good in 1921 and 2021
The saying you go wise with age. Isn't true I've came across individually that's are just down right rude. Then they think they are entitled to such behaviour because there older. Which is so wrong. Respect is earned.
I liked the ideas you gave me very much. My favorite idea was to open the door to people coming after us and keep it open. It was very nice. I will follow all the ideas you gave me. Thank you for your ideas.🎉🎉
I really like this Fashion Mumblr Finishing School idea! I personally think that these kinds of basic rules of politeness and kindness are less common than they used to be and they are something worth preserving, as I think they go a long way in making our society more harmonious! :)
It is wonderful to see someone of the younger generation concerned with simple kindness. Thank you, Josie. We surely need more of these tips in the world, especially in these difficult times in our world. The hardest irk I have is people gluing to the phone instead of listening or holding a kind conversation with the person with them. I see this so much today.
Good manners never go out of fashion! I applaud you for wanting to give a refresher about good manners, or even for some an introduction. Respect, kindness and consideration will always be appropriate, even in tense and uncomfortable situations! I LOVE the idea of an entire series... from making proper introductions to table manners and everything in between! A world with more respect, kindness and consideration is a wonderful thing! 🥰❤️🥰
Josie, Etiquette is so important, I teach my daughter it daily. Manners are so important. I own a book on etiquette. Well worth the investment too look back on. It teaches how to set the table, respectfulness, amongst so many other thing’s. My grandparents truly were the best teachers in these traditions and I believe in passing them down. This will be a beautiful series. xx ❤️🌸
@@JosieIrons We have a book by "Miss Manners" which is all about etiquette but with humor thrown in as well. On the surface she seems stuffy but is really funny. Well worth it and I'm wondering if that is the book that your follower is referring to.
Josie Darlin, this is one of the BEST videos you've ever produced!! Kindness and respect - something we in America need more of desperately!!! Way too much anger here. Underlying principle of any interaction should be "Love your neighbor as yourself". "Treat others as you would like to be treated." Thank you for being a genuinely kind role model
Holding the door, is something I’ve always done... but my pet peeve is when I hold the door and the person doesn’t say thank you or even acknowledge you.. it drives me nuts! So rude!🙅♀️
I agree. When that happens to me I say to the person You’re welcome. That might get them to think next time around and say thank you. I’m from New England and people think we are cold and unfriendly but manners and respect are very important to me.
@@spontaneousjane lol, I’ve never heard that one before. Where are you from? Nevertheless, if you read correctly; I didn’t point out a specific individual. I was simply referencing a situation that bothers me, nothing rude there.
@@Faithh.222 I was referring to the suggestion to say You're Welcome to someone who hadn't thanked you. That seems ruder than not saying thank you, IMO. 😅
Josie darling 💮 When "Proper Etiquette" became a seminar in the corporate workplace in the U. S., I realized that civilization had begun to decline... Reviving or introducing this behavior is to be applauded... When I began to travel internationally, learning to say hello please & thank you in the language of the country has always been appreciated. Being more of a diverse society it's something I choose to do locally... I find it creates a moment that leaves a good feeling between people 💞
This is something I've been waiting for. Probably one of the reasons I have been so drawn to you- your elegance. Please please do a detailed etiquette series. Especially how should you respond elegantly to someone who is rude or hurtful
Thank you Josie! People not holding the door is my pet peeve. I agree it’s a total deal breaker. I also get crazy looks from people when I hold the door cause I’m a women but it’s simply just being polite.
I get weird looks when I hold the door for others as if I have to go through it first. I really just like others to pass before me, just being polite. My male coworkers especially find it weird 🙊
I always try to hold a door open. Rain or shine, cold or hot. I will be holding a door for someone. My mom was so proud of me and I made her laugh one day. I had to use the restroom really bad. We had to find a gas station. By the time we got there I was in trouble. I quickly got to the door right before to others and I still held that door for them. It was close. Mom said I was probably the only person who would've stopped and hold a door open for others when they had to go that bad. TMI. I tinkled alittle before I made it back there. I'll never live that down. Luckly they both said thank you and gave me a smile. I said you're welcome 😊. I was 32. I'm 39 know. Lol
Love the consideration point especially at this time... people love to talk about kindness but considering others especially during these times is such a kind thing to do✨🥰❤️
There is such an art to really and truly listening to someone that you are in a conversation with and it does take practice and effort - but it has a way of challenging and encouraging you both. Thanks Josie!
Another thing - ‘thank you’ cards! I was always taught to send ‘thank you’ cards anytime someone gifts me something and I still religiously do. However, I hardly ever receive any. It’s such a small and easy act to show that you appreciate someone spending their time and money to send you a gift ✨
Regarding saying "bless you" - the actual proper etiquette requires to ignore when someone sneezes. Why? Because if there is a business meeting or other professional event, the person sneezing is already feeling awkward and by saying "bless you" you are acknowledging the situation and putting even more attention to the person, who is already feeling a bit awkward. So in those situations the proper and professional way is to ignore. However, in a more informal situation, saying "bless you" can be considered a nice gesture.
I said bless you to someone who I didn't know was a Jehovah's witness and they were very insulted and asked me not to do it again. The bless you apparently has something to do with the adsumption that if you sneeze it has a devil connotation 🙄
And it's not just about feeling awkward, but if there is a meeting with 15 other people, and everyone would start saying 'Bless you!' it would take the attention from the topic of the meeting. One of my university professor taught us this, and asked us kindly not to say 'Bless you!' to each other when we have a lecture going on, it would distract everyone's attention.
@@tirsup that's just rubbish - it's not what it means at all. It's short for 'God bless you' and was said to people at the time of the Black Death (Plague) as as sneeze could be a sign they'd got it, and has been carried on to show concerns for someone.
@@aztaNoemi Absolutely right. Same with coming too late. If you can sneak in to the meeting, you do it and apologize to the professor afterwards. But if you can't sneak in and everybody is looking at you anyways, you quickly apologize for the interruption and take your seat. Nevertheless I feel like Josie is not referring to a meeting but to private situations where I feel like saying "Bless you" is the politest thing to do when you are with friends/family.
Thank you so much for this Josie - it is SO important to afford a little respect to our fellow humans. It rubs me the wrong way when someone says etiquette is old-fashioned or unimportant - it is so important to make other people feel comfortable and respected, and having good manners shows that you are someone who puts in that effort. I'm very much looking forward to more Finishing School videos, this was so well done!
Ooo I loved this video Josie! ❤️ It’s nice to have a little reminder when morale is lower and stress is higher during this time. Interestingly, I noticed that manners are more appreciated here in the UK than they are in Canada/US which is so lovely! Door holding is a MUST in Canada, but in general our North American countries tend to be a lot more... informal! 😅
@@JosieIrons Hello Josie, I'm with young 100% on men holding the door for a woman. For me it's the little signs that will make it or break it. It's not a difficult thing to do, no matter what some people think about it by calling old-fashioned/dated, it shows a lot about a person in general - basic respect and manners.
Americans that I have come across in the UK are extremely polite, cheerful and friendly. Same for most British people too but I have come across a few that are formal but not necessarily friendly or polite.
I am very offended by this I’m a New Yorker and I always hold the door for others and have had the door held for me many times and we say thank you! I feel it’s how you are raised not which continent you’re from.
I personally really love etiquette videos, and you Josie are probably the loveliest person I have come across and I couldn't think of anyone more lovely to receive such videos from. For me its also one of the most important things to be able to teach or pass onto my children and I already have a few saved for anyone around me who might need them and I will do the same with yours. Truly to me this is such a huge blessing so please keep them coming. And this I would say, - you already smashed!
LOVED this video! So heart warming to hear the importance of manners from someone else. I hope we all put these tips into practice everyday! Wonderful video Josie! 🎉🌟💖
I am looking forward to more etiquette videos! It is a breath of fresh air to get down to basics and evaluate how we can improve on our own etiquette. Josie, I admire how you utilize your etiquette skills in your vlogs. You are such a classy woman!
This is the golden rule, “ All things therefore that you want men to do to you, you also must do to them.”, Mathew 7: 12, we all want to be treated with dignity and respect. I agree 100% with you I just wish people was more like that. We don’t have to all agree on things but being kind even when we don’t shows respect . Xx
Loved this video Josie! I’m 53 and so believe in proper etiquette. I find it so sad that the younger generation has lost the use of proper etiquette. Especially here in the USA. I find it so refreshing to watch your channel and your fashion sense. Very classy. Which more of the younger generation watched your channel. Keep up the great work. The Secret is how I like to live my life as week. Vision boards have all come true.
Thank you, Josie! It's always important to remember to be kind. Basic manners are the essentials, nowadays even more as it seems we have forgotten them. A mini series like this would be nice! I totally agree with you on everything but especially on keeping the door open, always! A simple gesture can change the day. ❤❤❤❤
This was a really great refresher. I like that you made the focus how your actions make others feel, rather than how these things reflect on the people who do them. 'People will forget what you say, but they'll never forget how you make them feel.'
This is one of the many reasons that I watch you. You are the epitome of grace. This is a really valuable video that I have saved and will remember your tips. Thank you so much Josie! x
I love this! I'm a bit older, but this is so needed. Manners are "old fashioned" and have been a part of our societies since the start of time for a reason, they are important!
Hi all, I agree with what you all have said. I am afraid that it, speaking for the US, those etiquette lessons went by the way side when parents were practicing "new age" parenting starting in mid thur the 80s. Then late 80s through 90s when women were burning their bras (a figure of speech) plus going for traditionally men's type jobs everything from police to automotive and home improvement type chores. Then in 2000s women were joining the military. Now, that so many more of us are at home, I think Josie will get a huge interest in Mumblr Finishing School. It will be fun to watch this series. I'm going to share it with my neighborhood group. Tootles, CL By The Seashore
I love this! I was brought up with excellent manners and it does definitely seem to be lost knowledge. My 2 year old says "thank you" when she is given something and "you're welcome" when someone says thank you to her, if a toddler can do it, we all can right? And shouting from another room? Ooooh that really really gets to me. Its so rude, like the person doesn't think enough of me to come and speak to me. I totally agree with the door thing, no excuse for rudeness and that is a deal breaker for me. On the subject of people not making eye contact, it may not be that they are being rude, I have social anxiety which makes it hard to maintain eye contact. That being said it is obvious when someone is disengaged. Thank you for this series, you are an inspiration
Talking about dating... I would also notice how a guy (or anyone in general) treat/ talk to the waiters/ waitresses at restaurant 🙈 Love this series Josie!! ❤️
Josie! You’re lovely, rewatching this etiquette video after watching your vlog. You don’t seem stiff or scripted, I guess you’re a natural on camera. Just a little more hand waving than usual. But you’re still your usual lovely self. A natural on camera 🎥
Thank you for this my dear! I’m looking forward to this series! We need reminders on how to be better especially with how people are these days. Hopefully we can bring back when people used to properly talk to each other! Handle yourself with grace & beauty my dears! Sending you lots of love! Have a beautiful and magical day!💝💋
I was taught these things when I was just a tiny kid. Me and my brother knew how to act when we were out in public and at a restaurant. No screaming and running around. My mom always had someone come up to her and tell her how great it was to see 2 well behaved children. We have table manners that people still complement us on. Its sad that we are complemented on something that everyone should know.
I’m very excited for this new series! I’ve been wanting to learn about etiquettes forever 💕 I loved the consideration points... These days it’s all about how “I” am feeling and how about what’s good for “me” but it’s so important to think about what would make others happy! There’s more happiness in giving then receiving!loved this video, very positive and fitting! xx
What a great idea Josie. Something I have noticed since COVID started is that some people have forgotten how to be courteous to others. They have forgotten how to drive and causes frustration. I also don't think the younger generation get caught basic manners and respect these days. If the only things they learn are what they pick up from 'street' talk they are seriously missing out on these important life lessons.
Coming from the younger generation, i completely agree, everyone think that it is cool to be rude but its really not, and mannerism is so much better and should be encouraged
Love this. Good manners and etiquette is always a good reminder. I do shout to my husband across the house every once in a while and know it’s not a cute look for me - ha. Something to work on. Totally agree on holding the door, it’s just an easy kind thing to do. Can’t wait to watch the rest of your series! 💓
What a lovely video and idea! We could all use some grace and kindness. I am American and my parents taught me to hold the door for people which I continue to do. My husband is a total gentleman and always hold the door, not just for ladies but for everyone.
Loved this! 100% agree on the holding the door on a date thing, such a good indicator on whether someone has good manners or not. I think a lot of it boils down to observing and being present in the moment. Noticing the people around you, reading the room and giving people your full attention. But observing yourself too, so you can catch your reactions before blurting out the first thing that comes to your mind. It's not always easy but practice makes perfect!
Josie- thank you so much for reminding everyone these basic rules. It never hurts to be reminded. Please do more as it comes across very genuine from you. Second- a point about lack of eye contact...it drives me crazy as well. But please do keep in mind that many people with autism and sensory issues struggle with that. It is natural to think it rude, but sometimes there is another issue. (I say this because my son is autistic and struggles with eye contact).
Modern women NEED this form of training. Thank You for providing it. As for manners, men need to learn it as well. I'm afraid modern society frowns on traditional manners because they were never taught them.
Personally, I think there is a fine line between keeping tradition alive and 'etiquette'. Much of this feels out of date to me, as you can certainly be a lovely polite person without following anachronistic customs - unfortunately, the moment someone mentions 'etiquette' my mind immediately goes to classism (aren't these just global good manners?). Alas, you also cannot guarantee that someone will respond positively to such 'etiquette'; for example a male friend of mine opened the door for a female recently, who then proceeded to lay into him for being sexist. Just my thoughts.
He didn't open the door for her because she's a woman, he opened it because he is a gentleman. She is in the wrong here for lambasting his common courtesy.
So good to hear you say all this out loud! As a primary teacher and mummy to two daughters, I spend my time reminding children of these values every day! Lovely to hear it from someone else whom I also respect. My daughters will be asked to watch this later. So. So important to uphold these basic values ❤️❤️❤️
Thank you for these etiquettes, I’m a french girl who lives in London and sometimes I am a bit lost with what I have to answer or what I have to do 😆,So Thank you!
Totally agree Josie. Good manners is not just about using please and thank you it's about real consideration for other people. I see people often being rude or ill mannered to waiting on staff. Everyone you meet whether they are sweeping the streets or running the country should be given the same respect and value.x 😊
About the ‘bless you’, I think it’s up to the person who sneezed or coughed to say excuse me! It came out of your body, why would I say it lol. I think it’s rude when people don’t say excuse me after their own bodily functions.
Thank you, Josie, for sharing this. I would love for society to return to greetings such as, “How do you do?” I concur that holding the door for someone is not only mannerly but a kind and respectful gesture. Hope you have a lovely day!
Thank you. Great information! When my son was almost three years old, we stopped by a grocery store and I held the door for an elderly woman. When we got back to the car, I explained to him that as people get older, it's often harder for them to open the heavy doors, so it is kind to help them out. I also told him that mothers who are holding children or anyone who is carrying something would welcome the door being opened for them. The next week when we went shopping again, my son opened the door for an elderly man who told him thank you. That was such a proud moment as a mother to see him notice when he could help others!
Good manners cost nothing and I do not understand people who are rude. I find people in villages are more friendly in towns and have really noticed this when out walking during COVID. I think your series will be useful as it is a reminder of how we should conduct our selve. Thanks Josie for another inspiring video
Loved this video, great idea to just update and remind people how important it is to show respect and be kind to others, it makes all the difference and just makes you feel good to know that the way you behave will have a good impact on others. My kids are 22 and 19 and I have always taught them the value of showing respect and to be kind, thank goodness they still practice this today. Thank you. ❤️😘
I love this video and playlist idea. Its surprising to see how many of these tips are just common sense but so many people don't do them any more which is such a shame. I always try and say hello to any fellow walkers when out walking my dog. If I get a hello or even a smile back it makes me feel so good and sets me up for the day xxx
Respect & kindness is something I go by everyday. Treat others the way you’d like to be treated 🌸🤍 I feel like basic manners could be overlooked especially in the US so easily due to entitlement unfortunately. Thank you for reminding everyone to be more grateful Josie! 🌤🤍
Loved this video, my mother went to a convent school, she had elocution lessons so when we were going up she taught us, so when I had a daughter I automatically taught her and now she has children I'm hoping she will teach them x
Hi Josie, I have been watching all of your vlogs now since I stumbled across you in the first lockdown last year and must say I have loved each and every one. What a good idea to refresh ourselves on good manners whilst we are in lockdown. I think you delivered this very professionally and eloquently, in a different style, yes, but appropriately. Excellent.
I really like this video and I think a series on etiquette will be lovely to watch. I liked the points you made about not shouting in different rooms and treating people with grace when they have been rude to you and I shall start practicing in my every day life. I will look forward to seeing other videos in this series, really lovely idea.
In the spirit “that it takes a village” , when a child holds the door for me I not only say “thank you,”, I also add “What lovely manners.” I feel like this can reinforce the lessons the parents are teaching. Also, at Halloween, when giving out candy, I say “what good manners” to the first child who says “Thank you” and I notice that every child afterward also says thank you. Of course , I am an elderly woman.
Saying things such as ‘what lovely manners’ to a child often ends up more patronising than polite, even if you didn’t mean it to though.
I agree, I remember my elders doing this for me. I wanted to please them with such manners, and children want attention so give it for behavior you want to see more of! Love the comment !
God bless you my lady.
Great idea! Positive reinforcement usually works.
what a lovely way of acting!
I think a basic etiquette form we have lost is DINING ETIQUETTE too!
Basics are:
No talking with your mouth full
No phones at the table
Being kind to the server ✨
How to hold your knife and fork
How to position your drinks and pour/hold them
How to sit
To never EVER comment on what another person has chosen to eat negatively
People forget that last one. You don’t know what other people’s relationship with food is (EDs etc.) and you can unintentionally make people feel insecure or uncomfortable 💛
@@Jaderoselima ❤️🙌🏽
No elbows on the table as well!
dania 2010 Yes!
I think you mean "Talking with your mouth full" but yes, I agree with you.
I’m 15 years old and I rlly do want to curate a good habit of etiquette manners. This video was absolutely delightful, thanks josie 💕
Yes, more please. Thank you so much.
I am 14-years-old and I am looking for ways to improve myself. It is nice to know that others are doing this too.
This is the video series I didn’t know I needed!!! Love how gorgeous you look. Pearls, chiffon, curls! You’re reminding us that refined and elegant looks good in 1921 and 2021
Woohoo!!
So true, so lovely and refreshing. Manners make us all.
Would love to have this series for my grands
I'm such a stickler for good manners and definitely feel like we should keep it up! Would love to see this as a series!
So happy to hear that!
Ms. Conway, I need as a best friend!
A kind word, caring, empathic personality does go along way x
The saying you go wise with age. Isn't true I've came across individually that's are just down right rude. Then they think they are entitled to such behaviour because there older. Which is so wrong. Respect is earned.
I liked the ideas you gave me very much. My favorite idea was to open the door to people coming after us and keep it open. It was very nice. I will follow all the ideas you gave me. Thank you for your ideas.🎉🎉
I agree, remembering people's names is a very kind and nice thing to do
I really like this Fashion Mumblr Finishing School idea! I personally think that these kinds of basic rules of politeness and kindness are less common than they used to be and they are something worth preserving, as I think they go a long way in making our society more harmonious! :)
So many seem to have forgotten the basics!
@@JosieIrons yes! It's easy to do in the hectic world we live in today, and especially now... But these videos are a nice reminder :)
Also check out the competition. Ana Bey runs an online finishing school called School of Affluence. She has worked hard with this for years.
I agree with the idea of keeping the door open.
It's a very nice video that covers everything from thanking to closing process.
I agree with the idea of giving people grace.
It is wonderful to see someone of the younger generation concerned with simple kindness. Thank you, Josie. We surely need more of these tips in the world, especially in these difficult times in our world. The hardest irk I have is people gluing to the phone instead of listening or holding a kind conversation with the person with them. I see this so much today.
Super video information is excellent, I liked the idea of opening the door when someone is coming.
Good manners never go out of fashion! I applaud you for wanting to give a refresher about good manners, or even for some an introduction. Respect, kindness and consideration will always be appropriate, even in tense and uncomfortable situations! I LOVE the idea of an entire series... from making proper introductions to table manners and everything in between! A world with more respect, kindness and consideration is a wonderful thing! 🥰❤️🥰
Josie, Etiquette is so important, I teach my daughter it daily. Manners are so important.
I own a book on etiquette. Well worth the investment too look back on. It teaches how to set the table, respectfulness, amongst so many other thing’s.
My grandparents truly were the best teachers in these traditions and I believe in passing them down.
This will be a beautiful series.
xx ❤️🌸
Ooh I love the sound of this book!
@@JosieIrons We have a book by "Miss Manners" which is all about etiquette but with humor thrown in as well. On the surface she seems stuffy but is really funny. Well worth it and I'm wondering if that is the book that your follower is referring to.
These rules may be basic, but it’s amazing how quick we forget the basics, so its very nice to have these reminders!😊 Thank you very much❤️
I could not agree more Josie! There is nothing more attractive than an individual with good manners 😘💕
Josie Darlin, this is one of the BEST videos you've ever produced!! Kindness and respect - something we in America need more of desperately!!! Way too much anger here. Underlying principle of any interaction should be "Love your neighbor as yourself". "Treat others as you would like to be treated." Thank you for being a genuinely kind role model
Holding the door, is something I’ve always done... but my pet peeve is when I hold the door and the person doesn’t say thank you or even acknowledge you.. it drives me nuts! So rude!🙅♀️
I agree. When that happens to me I say to the person You’re welcome. That might get them to think next time around and say thank you. I’m from New England and people think we are cold and unfriendly but manners and respect are very important to me.
@@rosemaryfromrhodeisland-usa that’s a good tip, thank you. 😊
I will use it next time around.
Yes, manners are super important!
It’s bad manners to point out another persons bad manners. Maybe something to consider...😊
@@spontaneousjane lol, I’ve never heard that one before.
Where are you from?
Nevertheless, if you read correctly;
I didn’t point out a specific individual.
I was simply referencing a situation that bothers me, nothing rude there.
@@Faithh.222 I was referring to the suggestion to say You're Welcome to someone who hadn't thanked you. That seems ruder than not saying thank you, IMO. 😅
I agree with what you said about the remote control…
Josie darling 💮 When "Proper Etiquette" became a seminar in the corporate workplace in the U. S., I realized that civilization had begun to decline... Reviving or introducing this behavior is to be applauded... When I began to travel internationally, learning to say hello please & thank you in the language of the country has always been appreciated. Being more of a diverse society it's something I choose to do locally... I find it creates a moment that leaves a good feeling between people 💞
I agree with what you said about the remote control
This is something I've been waiting for. Probably one of the reasons I have been so drawn to you- your elegance.
Please please do a detailed etiquette series.
Especially how should you respond elegantly to someone who is rude or hurtful
Yes please! Especially in a digital world
I really liked the door holding
Thank you Josie! People not holding the door is my pet peeve. I agree it’s a total deal breaker. I also get crazy looks from people when I hold the door cause I’m a women but it’s simply just being polite.
Women should do this too! Everyone should practise politeness!
I get weird looks when I hold the door for others as if I have to go through it first. I really just like others to pass before me, just being polite. My male coworkers especially find it weird 🙊
My pet peeve is when I open the door and the people I open it for don’t say thank you or even look at you! Drives me crazy!! No manners.:(
I always try to hold a door open. Rain or shine, cold or hot. I will be holding a door for someone. My mom was so proud of me and I made her laugh one day. I had to use the restroom really bad. We had to find a gas station. By the time we got there I was in trouble. I quickly got to the door right before to others and I still held that door for them. It was close. Mom said I was probably the only person who would've stopped and hold a door open for others when they had to go that bad. TMI. I tinkled alittle before I made it back there. I'll never live that down. Luckly they both said thank you and gave me a smile. I said you're welcome 😊. I was 32. I'm 39 know. Lol
Love the consideration point especially at this time... people love to talk about kindness but considering others especially during these times is such a kind thing to do✨🥰❤️
I’ve been doing these things my whole life! I think I was raised well. People are so rude these days. Be Kind!🦋
There is such an art to really and truly listening to someone that you are in a conversation with and it does take practice and effort - but it has a way of challenging and encouraging you both. Thanks Josie!
Another thing - ‘thank you’ cards! I was always taught to send ‘thank you’ cards anytime someone gifts me something and I still religiously do. However, I hardly ever receive any. It’s such a small and easy act to show that you appreciate someone spending their time and money to send you a gift ✨
Thank you, Ms. Josie! As a children's etiquette consultant, I appreciate you sharing this information with your followers. :)
Regarding saying "bless you" - the actual proper etiquette requires to ignore when someone sneezes. Why? Because if there is a business meeting or other professional event, the person sneezing is already feeling awkward and by saying "bless you" you are acknowledging the situation and putting even more attention to the person, who is already feeling a bit awkward. So in those situations the proper and professional way is to ignore. However, in a more informal situation, saying "bless you" can be considered a nice gesture.
I said bless you to someone who I didn't know was a Jehovah's witness and they were very insulted and asked me not to do it again. The bless you apparently has something to do with the adsumption that if you sneeze it has a devil connotation 🙄
@@tirsup wow, that’s probably why I say “God bless you!” ❤️
And it's not just about feeling awkward, but if there is a meeting with 15 other people, and everyone would start saying 'Bless you!' it would take the attention from the topic of the meeting. One of my university professor taught us this, and asked us kindly not to say 'Bless you!' to each other when we have a lecture going on, it would distract everyone's attention.
@@tirsup that's just rubbish - it's not what it means at all. It's short for 'God bless you' and was said to people at the time of the Black Death (Plague) as as sneeze could be a sign they'd got it, and has been carried on to show concerns for someone.
@@aztaNoemi Absolutely right. Same with coming too late. If you can sneak in to the meeting, you do it and apologize to the professor afterwards. But if you can't sneak in and everybody is looking at you anyways, you quickly apologize for the interruption and take your seat.
Nevertheless I feel like Josie is not referring to a meeting but to private situations where I feel like saying "Bless you" is the politest thing to do when you are with friends/family.
5:29 I really agree that this is good behavior
5:29 I agree very good behavior
Thank you so much for this Josie - it is SO important to afford a little respect to our fellow humans. It rubs me the wrong way when someone says etiquette is old-fashioned or unimportant - it is so important to make other people feel comfortable and respected, and having good manners shows that you are someone who puts in that effort. I'm very much looking forward to more Finishing School videos, this was so well done!
Exactly - it’s not old fashion - it’s just showing respect to those around you!
5:29 I totally agree
My daughter, a Millennial herself, shocked me one day when she blurted out "All the manners have been sucked out of my generation!"
Wow sad but true
Ooo I loved this video Josie! ❤️ It’s nice to have a little reminder when morale is lower and stress is higher during this time. Interestingly, I noticed that manners are more appreciated here in the UK than they are in Canada/US which is so lovely! Door holding is a MUST in Canada, but in general our North American countries tend to be a lot more... informal! 😅
Thank you darling glad you like it! Haha yes I know what you mean 😅
I lived in Canada and US, will attest to that, which is a shame.
@@JosieIrons Hello Josie, I'm with young 100% on men holding the door for a woman. For me it's the little signs that will make it or break it. It's not a difficult thing to do, no matter what some people think about it by calling old-fashioned/dated, it shows a lot about a person in general - basic respect and manners.
Americans that I have come across in the UK are extremely polite, cheerful and friendly. Same for most British people too but I have come across a few that are formal but not necessarily friendly or polite.
I am very offended by this I’m a New Yorker and I always hold the door for others and have had the door held for me many times and we say thank you! I feel it’s how you are raised not which continent you’re from.
I personally really love etiquette videos, and you Josie are probably the loveliest person I have come across and I couldn't think of anyone more lovely to receive such videos from. For me its also one of the most important things to be able to teach or pass onto my children and I already have a few saved for anyone around me who might need them and I will do the same with yours. Truly to me this is such a huge blessing so please keep them coming. And this I would say, - you already smashed!
LOVED this video! So heart warming to hear the importance of manners from someone else. I hope we all put these tips into practice everyday! Wonderful video Josie! 🎉🌟💖
How about : party etiquette, both as a host & guest, house guest etiquette and perhaps gym too
Josie, I have always admired how respectfully you and Charlie treat each other. "Bless you!"
I am looking forward to more etiquette videos! It is a breath of fresh air to get down to basics and evaluate how we can improve on our own etiquette. Josie, I admire how you utilize your etiquette skills in your vlogs. You are such a classy woman!
This is the golden rule, “ All things therefore that you want men to do to you, you also must do to them.”, Mathew 7: 12, we all want to be treated with dignity and respect. I agree 100% with you I just wish people was more like that. We don’t have to all agree on things but being kind even when we don’t shows respect . Xx
The fact that so many doesn’t even know these etiquettes is beyond me!
and here in sweden we say ’Prosit’ of course,not ’bless you’ 💛
This is absolutely needed!🤗💖 Many people lack basic social graces such as these and fail to teach their children as well. Beautiful!
Thank you Josie.😊
A lot of people seemed to have forgotten about this throughout 2020! Great reminder 👑
Loved this video Josie! I’m 53 and so believe in proper etiquette. I find it so sad that the younger generation has lost the use of proper etiquette. Especially here in the USA. I find it so refreshing to watch your channel and your fashion sense. Very classy. Which more of the younger generation watched your channel. Keep up the great work. The Secret is how I like to live my life as week. Vision boards have all come true.
Thank you, Josie! It's always important to remember to be kind. Basic manners are the essentials, nowadays even more as it seems we have forgotten them. A mini series like this would be nice! I totally agree with you on everything but especially on keeping the door open, always! A simple gesture can change the day. ❤❤❤❤
This was a really great refresher. I like that you made the focus how your actions make others feel, rather than how these things reflect on the people who do them.
'People will forget what you say, but they'll never forget how you make them feel.'
Wait i actually will use the “how do you do” instead of “nice to meet you” makes so much senses
This is one of the many reasons that I watch you. You are the epitome of grace. This is a really valuable video that I have saved and will remember your tips. Thank you so much Josie! x
I LOVE this idea! Etiquette is becoming a lost art. Common courtesy, respect, and being nice don’t cost a thing! Please continue with this!
I love this! I'm a bit older, but this is so needed. Manners are "old fashioned" and have been a part of our societies since the start of time for a reason, they are important!
People do tend to forget the basics. Especially these days when everyone is so tense and distracted.
Absolutely!
Hi all, I agree with what you all have said.
I am afraid that it, speaking for the US, those etiquette lessons went by the way side when parents were practicing "new age" parenting starting in mid thur the 80s. Then late 80s through 90s when women were burning their bras (a figure of speech) plus going for traditionally men's type jobs everything from police to automotive and home improvement type chores. Then in 2000s women were joining the military.
Now, that so many more of us are at home, I think Josie will get a huge interest in Mumblr Finishing School.
It will be fun to watch this series. I'm going to share it with my neighborhood group. Tootles, CL By The Seashore
I love this! I was brought up with excellent manners and it does definitely seem to be lost knowledge. My 2 year old says "thank you" when she is given something and "you're welcome" when someone says thank you to her, if a toddler can do it, we all can right? And shouting from another room? Ooooh that really really gets to me. Its so rude, like the person doesn't think enough of me to come and speak to me. I totally agree with the door thing, no excuse for rudeness and that is a deal breaker for me. On the subject of people not making eye contact, it may not be that they are being rude, I have social anxiety which makes it hard to maintain eye contact. That being said it is obvious when someone is disengaged. Thank you for this series, you are an inspiration
Talking about dating... I would also notice how a guy (or anyone in general) treat/ talk to the waiters/ waitresses at restaurant 🙈
Love this series Josie!! ❤️
Josie! You’re lovely, rewatching this etiquette video after watching your vlog.
You don’t seem stiff or scripted, I guess you’re a natural on camera. Just a little more hand waving than usual. But you’re still your usual lovely self. A natural on camera 🎥
Thank you for this my dear! I’m looking forward to this series! We need reminders on how to be better especially with how people are these days. Hopefully we can bring back when people used to properly talk to each other! Handle yourself with grace & beauty my dears! Sending you lots of love! Have a beautiful and magical day!💝💋
I was taught these things when I was just a tiny kid. Me and my brother knew how to act when we were out in public and at a restaurant. No screaming and running around. My mom always had someone come up to her and tell her how great it was to see 2 well behaved children. We have table manners that people still complement us on. Its sad that we are complemented on something that everyone should know.
I’m very excited for this new series! I’ve been wanting to learn about etiquettes forever 💕 I loved the consideration points... These days it’s all about how “I” am feeling and how about what’s good for “me” but it’s so important to think about what would make others happy! There’s more happiness in giving then receiving!loved this video, very positive and fitting! xx
What a great idea Josie. Something I have noticed since COVID started is that some people have forgotten how to be courteous to others. They have forgotten how to drive and causes frustration. I also don't think the younger generation get caught basic manners and respect these days. If the only things they learn are what they pick up from 'street' talk they are seriously missing out on these important life lessons.
Coming from the younger generation, i completely agree, everyone think that it is cool to be rude but its really not, and mannerism is so much better and should be encouraged
This would be an amazing series! I’ve always been interested in etiquette so i’m so excited🥳
Love this. Good manners and etiquette is always a good reminder. I do shout to my husband across the house every once in a while and know it’s not a cute look for me - ha. Something to work on. Totally agree on holding the door, it’s just an easy kind thing to do. Can’t wait to watch the rest of your series! 💓
Finishing school series is such a good idea!! Love it ❤️
What a lovely video and idea! We could all use some grace and kindness. I am American and my parents taught me to hold the door for people which I continue to do. My husband is a total gentleman and always hold the door, not just for ladies but for everyone.
Loved this! 100% agree on the holding the door on a date thing, such a good indicator on whether someone has good manners or not. I think a lot of it boils down to observing and being present in the moment. Noticing the people around you, reading the room and giving people your full attention. But observing yourself too, so you can catch your reactions before blurting out the first thing that comes to your mind. It's not always easy but practice makes perfect!
Dear Josie, thank you for that video. I am looking forward to your etiquette series. Kind regards from Germany
There isn’t someone else who can pull off these type of videos more than you! Keep shining 🥰♥️
Josie- thank you so much for reminding everyone these basic rules. It never hurts to be reminded. Please do more as it comes across very genuine from you.
Second- a point about lack of eye contact...it drives me crazy as well. But please do keep in mind that many people with autism and sensory issues struggle with that. It is natural to think it rude, but sometimes there is another issue. (I say this because my son is autistic and struggles with eye contact).
What a great idea, Josie ! Bring on the etiquette academy ! 😁❤️
I agree, let's keep the door open when a person passes by.
Modern women NEED this form of training. Thank You for providing it. As for manners, men need to learn it as well. I'm afraid modern society frowns on traditional manners because they were never taught them.
Dating etiquette please! Or even more specific, meeting your partners parents, etc!!
love this series idea!
Yes yes! More of this etiquette series please!
This is great. How many times have we been involved in conversations where the other person asks nothing. I loved this.
So excited to watch this! Would love to see more content like this!!
Good manners never go out of style. A reminder of them is a good thing. Thank you
Personally, I think there is a fine line between keeping tradition alive and 'etiquette'. Much of this feels out of date to me, as you can certainly be a lovely polite person without following anachronistic customs - unfortunately, the moment someone mentions 'etiquette' my mind immediately goes to classism (aren't these just global good manners?). Alas, you also cannot guarantee that someone will respond positively to such 'etiquette'; for example a male friend of mine opened the door for a female recently, who then proceeded to lay into him for being sexist. Just my thoughts.
Being angry at someone for opening a door?!!! Wow......
He didn't open the door for her because she's a woman, he opened it because he is a gentleman. She is in the wrong here for lambasting his common courtesy.
So good to hear you say all this out loud! As a primary teacher and mummy to two daughters, I spend my time reminding children of these values every day! Lovely to hear it from someone else whom I also respect. My daughters will be asked to watch this later. So. So important to uphold these basic values ❤️❤️❤️
Thank you for these etiquettes, I’m a french girl who lives in London and sometimes I am a bit lost with what I have to answer or what I have to do 😆,So Thank you!
Totally agree Josie. Good manners is not just about using please and thank you it's about real consideration for other people. I see people often being rude or ill mannered to waiting on staff. Everyone you meet whether they are sweeping the streets or running the country should be given the same respect and value.x 😊
I found your channel through your graceful video! Josie, I am definitely looking forward to this series
I love videos like this! Not old fashioned at all! We all need to learn how to be respectful and be pleasant to each other. Please make it a series.
About the ‘bless you’, I think it’s up to the person who sneezed or coughed to say excuse me! It came out of your body, why would I say it lol. I think it’s rude when people don’t say excuse me after their own bodily functions.
Thank you, Josie, for sharing this. I would love for society to return to greetings such as, “How do you do?” I concur that holding the door for someone is not only mannerly but a kind and respectful gesture. Hope you have a lovely day!
Omg I love this new series ! Exactly what I needed now 😍
Thank you. Great information! When my son was almost three years old, we stopped by a grocery store and I held the door for an elderly woman. When we got back to the car, I explained to him that as people get older, it's often harder for them to open the heavy doors, so it is kind to help them out. I also told him that mothers who are holding children or anyone who is carrying something would welcome the door being opened for them. The next week when we went shopping again, my son opened the door for an elderly man who told him thank you. That was such a proud moment as a mother to see him notice when he could help others!
Yeeey, I am so happy that you uploaded this ❣❣, hopefull that this becomes a series 🥰🥰🥰.
Good manners cost nothing and I do not understand people who are rude. I find people in villages are more friendly in towns and have really noticed this when out walking during COVID. I think your series will be useful as it is a reminder of how we should conduct our selve. Thanks Josie for another inspiring video
I’d love to hear Wedding etiquette, travel etiquette, restaurant etiquette, hosting guests/at home etiquette
Loved this video, great idea to just update and remind people how important it is to show respect and be kind to others, it makes all the difference and just makes you feel good to know that the way you behave will have a good impact on others. My kids are 22 and 19 and I have always taught them the value of showing respect and to be kind, thank goodness they still practice this today. Thank you. ❤️😘
Definitely would love to see more videos like this! Can’t watch to watch this 🥰
Yay!!
0:34 Best Win Money🎰 ua-cam.com/video/ytxfSJoHkCk/v-deo.html
I love this video and playlist idea. Its surprising to see how many of these tips are just common sense but so many people don't do them any more which is such a shame. I always try and say hello to any fellow walkers when out walking my dog. If I get a hello or even a smile back it makes me feel so good and sets me up for the day xxx
Respect & kindness is something I go by everyday. Treat others the way you’d like to be treated 🌸🤍
I feel like basic manners could be overlooked especially in the US so easily due to entitlement unfortunately.
Thank you for reminding everyone to be more grateful Josie! 🌤🤍
Sadly that’s so true!
Giving grace is the most elegant thing a person can do in my humble opinion. I needed this reminder! Thank you Josie
Loved this video, my mother went to a convent school, she had elocution lessons so when we were going up she taught us, so when I had a daughter I automatically taught her and now she has children I'm hoping she will teach them x
Ooh so interesting!
Hi Josie, I have been watching all of your vlogs now since I stumbled across you in the first lockdown last year and must say I have loved each and every one. What a good idea to refresh ourselves on good manners whilst we are in lockdown. I think you delivered this very professionally and eloquently, in a different style, yes, but appropriately. Excellent.
This has made my day! I'm so happy you're doing this!
I really like this video and I think a series on etiquette will be lovely to watch. I liked the points you made about not shouting in different rooms and treating people with grace when they have been rude to you and I shall start practicing in my every day life. I will look forward to seeing other videos in this series, really lovely idea.
I wish people even knew what the word "etiquette " actually meant. Thank you for doing this.