“Men are natural empaths” really got me 😂 Of course people of any gender can be naturally empathetic and/or encouraged to become/stay empathetic, but it’s pretty funny to say that while denying someone else’s pain and centering your own experience.
@Guess I'll commit genocide On a smol side note, I'd like to point out how "not all men" is a problematic thing to use in the community and specifically at such topics. I'm saying: Please know it can get you in trouble for very valid reasons why you may have absolutely no bad intentions. I can explain that further if you like me to. But maybe we'll be fine without and you take the input and consider using it very carefully, scarcely etc. It's difficult in either situation (no matter the gender used) but it is kind of usable when someone explicitly says "All x have habit y". But if it's irony and not explicitly "All x have/do y", then it's a really really peculiar figure of speech. It'd be good if we all could move past generalisations and go more towards "X who do/say y are really (acting like) z". Much better for all parties. Again, please understand me right: It's a suggestion to spare you future conflict you may not have been aware of resulting from that specific word choice. :3
@Guess I'll commit genocide That’s my point. But they blame women for it. Like lmao, talk to your homies and be better friends and stop putting your emotional baggage on all women.
@@serpentinewolf7085 they’re also the same ones that reinforce the stereotypes that “real men don’t cry” and then go cry about the suicide rate blaming it on women even though most of that suicide rate is homosexual men they bully
As an indigenous bi trans man, I can't tell you how much I wish men's rights activists would actually fight for marginalized men and not just shit all over women all the time.
I think you need to start looking in the right place Because the biggest community of the mra is here on UA-cam and it’s has nothing to do with shitting on women
stop generalizing bruh, I can say the same thing about feminism that all they do is hate on men but that's only a small amount of feminists that do that, same with men's right activists.
For people who rant about how identity labels and minority movements are stupid, they sure do love coming up with labels and 'movements' for themselves.
some of them do it because they don’t want to admit that they’re racist/homophobic/sexist so they start things like “straight pride” “masculist” and “white lives matter” and can disguise it as “well if they have it then why can’t we”
‘Masculist’ doesn’t exist for the same reasons as ‘straight pride’ or ‘white/all lives matter.’ Masculism is necessary because of the continuance of the invisibility of men’s issues (male survivors of r@pe, abuse and the Duluth Model, the Selective Service conscription, the Boys Crisis in education, the prison sentencing gap, the list goes on).
@@nilsjohnson2636 no, masculnism is the exact same as straight pride. Is just misoginy and victimhood disguised as a "rights" movement. They spent more time complaining about women having rights, demonicing them and spreading misinformation than actually doing something helpful and that doesn't require taking away other peoples freedom.
Misogyny affects women negatively The patriarchy affects woman and men negatively Feminism is trying to get rid of both of them. So yes men, feminists are actually helping you. also you can be a feminist too. It’s not just for girls.
@@owyemen9367 at that point, you're talking about people. Some will, some won't, it's never a fixed thing. However, ideally speaking, feminism and feminists are all working in favor of equality
The only "Men's Rights" movements that I see and agree with are the ones that are pushing for societal/cultural reduction of toxic masculinity since it arguably hurts men as much as it does women. Pushing for acceptance of men being "allowed" to be vulnerable, feel feelings, and explore themselves in a healthy way. I'm super pro all of this because it helps everyone. Men, women, enbies, everyone.
It does. Because of that masculinity mindset, men are often unable to find groups for trauma and the like, and they also oftentimes cannot gain custody of a kid even if the mother is absolutely awful. They're oftentimes not believed when they are assaulted (more so than with women, I believe) and even if they are believed people often do nothing about it because they should be 'glad,' or they should be ashamed of being assaulted if the person who did it was a woman. And a whole host of other issues. All because people believe men should be unfeeling and aggressive.
@@catpoke9557 stop that victimhood, you don't know anything about socieltal problems. Specialy when you start comparing it to women's situations as if they have more than men,.when un reality Is the opposite. Just because something is a constant complain, that doesn't make it true.
@@kiriki4558 You need to speak more clearly. I can't even tell if you're accusing me of victimizing men, or victimizing women. Here's a tip: I'm not saying EITHER side has more issues. Just because someone brings up a certain side's issues, doesn't mean they think it's the only side with problems. Believe it or not, not everyone is a dumbass who thinks you can only believe strongly in ONE specific thing and have to STRONGLY oppose anything else. In fact, there can be multiple things wrong with the world. Yeah, women are victims. Men are too. Everyone has problems. Get over it.
That and fighting against genital mutilation (circumcision) without consent. I fully support those fights. But if they talk about men’s rights *only* to silence someone talking about women’s rights, you can clearly see their priorities.
As a women, I am so so so glad that my partner isn't like this 😳 I feel sorry for the women in these relationships, that is assuming that the men actually found a partner
Can confirm all 3 of the replies. Apologies, I don't mean to vent out of nowhere. TW // Vent, Abusive Relationships. . . . All my life I grew up watching my father abuse my mom. My mom said it's how my father "communicates". So I took abuse as a form of love and communication. Led to me being in a lot of bad relationships, and showing my affection through things such as light hitting, shoving, and distance. I am lucky to be blessed with a wonderful boyfriend now. I am slowly undoing all my bad habits, and he has been right there by my side to be supportive. He has shown me how love, affection, and communication should be, and I am so thankful for that and him.
@@bisexualdisasterlol you’re breaking the cycle and that makes you a strong and wonderful person. So glad you’ve found someone who cares for you ❤️❤️❤️
As someone who was sent to an all-boys Catholic high school in the Bible Belt while grappling with being a closeted enby, I heard pretty much all of this video every homeroom alone
2:19 I have the perfect approach for this guy! 1. Go up to the girl 2. Give her $100 3. Leave and never interact with her again, you don't need to be in her life. The $100 is for bothering her and assuming her sexuality based off her appearance and your desires
It is hilarious to me with the "I won't do that, it's girly" guys, gasp in horror if a girl does anything remotely similar. Ie: "I'll change my panties once you change your boxers. - YOU CAN'T! THAT DISGUSTING!" "I'll shower once you do. - NO! YOU'LL SMELL!" It's like... their brain can't manage that last little connection xD
@@ZuperZucker I assure you it's not and that's a very sad reality. The double standards are frequent and everywhere, even if they aren't always that blatantly obvious 😔
Ironically, I think it shows a profound lack of empathy on the person who wrote that comment. He so totally does not understand how much it hurts, that he thinks it hurts only as much as his empathic pain.
42 year old straight white male here, and no, I'm not okay. I was raised thinking it's healthy to suppress every emotion but anger. I'm very happy with the way things are going in our culture. Nothing is perfect, but then it never has been. Progress is progress.
Jamie saying that the pain for a father is bigger when a trans man is pregnant. You can turn an awful phrase into something nice and inclusive. You are too cute for this world. ❤️ Love you and Shaaba, you guys are the cutest!
@@ilikedarknes3351 thanks but giving birth also means we get our children, so I would never ever trade my life as a trans man for a life with any other gender. I know there's a lot of ways to have children and every one of them is valid. But then they wouldn't be the same. Though I had to have a C-section, so not the pain of labor, huh
@@Sam-zu5mr WTH, you think that people can't call men cute? Men can be cute, women can be cute, non binary people can be cute. It seems like the problem is with you. I call my bf cute all the time, because he is. So is Jamie. Cuteness doesn't have gender.
That "why guns are better then women" reminded me of this song my brother kept on showing in people called "why beer is better than women", and it's just a man whining that he wasn't allowed to treat women like absolute crap.
The childbirth vs. nut shot vs. period cramp pain debate is one of the dumbest things ever. (1)Every person has a different level of pain tolerance. Some people who have periods have never experienced pain from it; others feel crippling pain from. Same with childbirth and nut shots. (2)People can only experience up to two of these three things, meaning they can never reasonably compare all of the experiences with one another. (3)The only thing that you could reasonably argue about one being “worse” than another is frequency of the appearance of it. As in, people, regardless of their health or circumstances, can go their entire life without experiencing childbirth or nut shots; most people born with a uterus will have had a period at some point in their lives. But almost no one even tries to make this argument. Why? Because the people who realize this argument also realize how stupid the “Suffering Olympics” is.
I always felt sorry for women who suffer from period cramps because it's a regular pain. You don't really experience childbirth or nut shots that often (or at least, I don't imagine most people do).
THIS. I have a nerve disorder, so even mild injuries register as very painful for me. So I deal with everyone thinking I'm a massive baby or weak. You will never experience a pain response in the same way as everyone else.
The closest thing I can think of is childbirth-related PTSD that can be developed by both the person giving birth and the person watching the birth. But, this is psychological damage, not physical pain. I think we should all agree that childbirth is horrific for everyone involved, but a great deal more so for the person giving birth.
my dad has told me that during my birth, my mother gripped his wrist so hard that it hurt him, but he knew that it was NOTHING compared to the pain she was going through. he has admitted that it was only a glimpse of what she was feeling in that moment, and that he can never truly imagine how painful it was for her
@@peggedyourdad9560 Your intentions are clearly very good, Im not picking on you here! But saying only "more so" makes me think you havent given birth, lol... maybe I'm wrong? Let me know! I just think anyone who has both been someone's birth support and given birth themself understands that the person giving birth has gone through an experience that can almost cause a kind of derealized state, because (for most people) heavy labor is SO intense. The pain is everywhere. During the brief period when I was in heavy labor with my twins, I could feel pain OUTside of where my body ended, if that makes any sense. Additionally, giving birth is invasive of your privacy beyond belief, lol. That whole aspect is very underrated. Its like you're a car going in for major work, and a while team of mechanics have to look at you on the lift and discuss what needs to be done. And it doesn't end when the baby comes out. There is a chasm between the two experiences, no matter how much you love the person giving birth, or how emotional it might be.
@@melissasaint3283 Yea, you're correct. I haven't experienced childbirth firsthand and was mostly basing what I said on what I've heard/seen from people who have and from what my mother has told me. I think my wording was a result of my habit of generally being more conservative with my word choice and it wasn't at all my intention to downplay the experience. From what I understand there is a massive difference between the two experiences, it sounds like the difference between watching a true-crime documentary and being the victim of the crime being depicted. Thank you for taking the time and energy to educate me more on this matter, it sounds like quite the brutal and intense affair, to say the very least.
Literally the nail one got me bc when I didn't have a job I had short nails that I painted myself. and now I have a job and I make enough money I get my nails done! Like do they know how expensive this shit is!!
"Childbirth is more painful for the father than the mother" It will be if he's stupid enough to say shit like that out loud in the delivery room, and within punching distance of said mother!
As a woman (Mr. Grey is my cat) I really don't understand why men keep bothering us if they hate us so much. There's a reason single women are happier.
My husband's seen the pain I was in and he told me the only thing what kept him from staying sane and not consumed by guilt during (and after) the birth of our daughter was the fact that I wanted a child desperately. I was screaming during contractions just to distract myself and he told me afterwards he expected the experience to be intense, but not THAT intense. He had already bought me diamond earrings for the birth, but during he even promised to buy me a new Zelda game (AoC), which he did. I do not think he will ever fathom the idea that childbirth was harder on him than it was on me.
Lol exactly! I was out the other day and a friend was like: let's go to [insert bar name here]. Friend 2: is that the bar with the creepy old men? Friend 1: yes. Me, patting my undercut: do I look gay enough?? Friend 1: yes.
@@jefrreyjeffery2192 also jumping right to "weighing as much as an elephant" is so damn rude and nasty, and the very weird way he said it with his full chest out thinking every single man on the planet agrees with him. As if there aren't huge communities of men who PREFER fat women! You can be attracted to certain qualities without being an asshole about it, come on dude
Cis men: "Men are natural empaths." Also cis men: "If a man feels anything except anger, hunger or h*rnyness, he is a women!" (The plural with singular article was intentional, since they often do that for some reason.)
I found the question I am a boy and attracted to a girl. She says that she is a lesbian. She doesn't look like one, and I want to have a relationship with her. What kind of approach must I use? Community Answer You don't have to 'look like' a lesbian to be one. Not all lesbians look a certain way, just as straight people can look all kinds of ways. If she says she is a lesbian, you have to respect that. You can't change someone's sexuality, and you can't force yourself on someone, regardless of their sexuality.
I hate how people like this also assume they have a chance even if they were straight. Not every straight person wants to be with every straight person. And moreover there's more sexualities than gay and straight. Even if lesbians had to 'look' a certain way, that doesn't automatically mean they're straight if they don't look like a lesbian.
@@salviaexpedition sorry that's also a rather poor way to take this. To start with this makes light of just how big a deal transition can be. In addition, it bands gender and sexuality together which really needs to be acknowledged as a misstep these days because it's ammunition the phobes gleefully use as a way to other trans lesbians and invalidate us.
it's SO funny that we are very incapable to be open up except on few of the videos on UA-cam, i cannot express or complain about something a man does without an arguments or attacking coming at me, even if i were like, all respectful and honest about something awful a man can do, i see this is unfair, we can't be open up not until we are called feminist..and even in reality the word "feminist" should be all about equal and rights for both gender, where is this going..?
This all reminds me of my sexist af dad- Lil story, we were on my cousin's graduation this month, and guys kept collapsing. He literally turned to me, his *daughter* , and said "huh guess they're not real men, usually girls are the ones collapsing" then tried to excuse himself with that it's cuz "women's bodies are weaker than men's" Mind you, this is a big event in my country so it's possible that they were nervous and couldn't eat or drink enough, maybe one already had some health problem, not to mention that they had to wear ties and to top it all of there was literally no fresh air with almost 40°. And this man keeps calling himself a christian that respects everyone equally (homphobia train hasn't even arrived yet)
Oh, and when I told him to stop and that it's disgusting he got offended 🤭 manz doesn't see the problem really, sometimes I feel like I'm more of the adult in my entire family
The "top 10... guns vs. women" exemplifies how misogynistic men view women as objects. That's exactly why they have these kinds of reactions - they expect an animated object and then have to deal with a real human being. And I you really want to understand why feminism is important for *everyone*, look no further. Obviously men would have much better relationships if they weren't raised to think like this.
Right. And I’m just gonna say it, if u have a 44 y/o gf/wife, ur prolly in ur 40s as well. It’s rly gross if ur in ur 40’s and dating a 22 y/o. The guy in that sounds like a creep that has too high of a seggs drive for most ppls liking
@@ashleighcollins185 not to mention that men who go exclusively/purposefully for relationships with wide age gaps like the power dynamic and are probably manipulative
@@ashleighcollins185 Have to say I hated it when I was in my teens and twenties and old dads/grandads would try and chat me up. They used to give me the creeps
@@ashleighcollins185 younger men are way way worse. I have never had problems with older guys but I have had a bunch of almost life ruining things from younger guys and one of them almost got me put in jail for a felony when I was twelve while he could high jack a car and he threatened me with a knife he stole. I will always prefer men way older then me then guys my age who are lame and arrogant and sexist.
It's insane how proudly some of these people are spreading their nonsense. I once saw a dude in a thread argue that being physically/sexually abused by your partner is the same thing as BDSM, because "choosing" to stay in the relationship is all the consent that's necessary, therefore it's ok. Truly disgusting stuff.
I'm walking the street, therefore I'm consenting to being ran over by the pizza delivery van 😍 I chose to stay walking the street ergo Carl the pizza guy is totes okay to fuckin murder me. Isn't vehicular manslaughter lovely? :)
@@nutella7162 Pretty much. I remember being so angry I had to just leave and calm down, my mother is stuck in that kind of situation and it's terrible. I remember it clearly, because it left such a strong impression. His thought process was something along the lines of "If they hate it, why not leave? If they don't leave they must be ok with it/like it, and if they don't it's their own fault it's happening". He couldn't comprehend that leaving an abusive relationship can be dangerous, and therefore really scary if there's no plan/support system in place. He also very closely compared it to BDSM, and dismissed anyone explaining to him that it's anything but. I have to find that thread again to see how it ends, I think I know where it is.
I would absolutely love a movement that fights for men to express their emotions, communicate openly, go to therapy, cook, clean, parent, cuddle fluffy bunnies, wear ruffle skirts and paint their eye lids golden! We desperately need that. It's a shame the "men's rights movement" was already taken over by silliness
Feminism and LGBT+ are the only movemets that actually push for the emotional liberation of men, without them using it to get free compation and not be held accountable for their actions or to paint men as "the real" victims.
I agree! It's feminism but at the same time it's completely welcome to have specific movements like idk "Stop male suicide! Give boys and men the tools to express their emotions!" since that is actually a systemic problem. And we'll all gladly join them and support that super important branch of feminism! Males need to step into their divine feminine qualities to be healthy and seek and receive help timely! I really wish I'd see these topics around more and not just in comment sections on feminism where they are abused as (completely false!) reasons to devalue feminism but otherwise not given a damn about 😕 Or like..... when "men have feelings, too" only appears to "top" women in their expression. But never again when their emotions are asked and almost begged for! Like "Please, talk to me!!" and "Please have compassion" moments! Love to all males who're capable and used their discernment to know it's not addressing them in such case 😉
There should be a men's rights movement, but for stuff like normalizing men having emotions, doing "feminine" things, and interacting with children, not suppressing women.
100% agree. Especially because I feel like if we normalise these things for men then they will stop being things only women should do therefore also helping with women getting equality and everybody is happy. Eg. If we normalise men looking after children without being mocked women will no longer be mocked for not looking after children and instead working.
That “movement” is pretty much part of feminism tho? Cause it means to generally accept “feminine” things as not feminine but as something normal and not something weak, looked down upon etc. If there wasn’t such a low opinion on women, there wouldn’t be one on “feminine “ thing/things often associated with women either.
When I have had to go to the ER my boyfriend has dropped everything an immediately rushed to get me there. It is so weird to see when partners are not supportive of each other or caring to each others needs or lack basic communication skills within a relationship. Those are literally the foundations of a relationship.
as a trans man, we do not claim these men (jamie is accepted ofc) edit: 739 likes? damn i didn't expect that edit 2: this is the most wholesome reply section i think ive ever seen (besides the whole taking over the world stuff lmfao)
Remember, you're struggles are always valid and they are just as important as anyone else's. You're a strong, and worthy person. Keep going, I will always believe in you, you are worth it.
Men's rights are important when it comes to custody rights. My uncle got custody of his twin daughters thanks to a men's rights group when his ex wife fled from Ohio to Texas; his ex-wife made it clear that she didn't care about the kids, she just wanted to hurt my uncle.
And it's somehow not rarely bad news, too. 😞 Let's ditch the guns and learn about real women and real relationships and about mental health problems and how objectification actually literally happens in the brain and can to some degree be relearnt (if the brain isn't otherwise damaged or affected)
@Sharee Mitchell well i wear press ons, so they are only on for about a week, then i put on a new set. But in general, it's calles hand washing and cleaning underneath the nails with a small tool.
As the dad of a beautiful, unpredictable woman who does random remarkable stuff with hair and nails, I was hoping you'd speak up. I have total faith in you.
The fact that when I ask guys whether they're feminists or not they're always unsure lol. Then I proceed to explain that feminism is basically against this whole society based on patriarchy cause everyone's issues originate from that, they're like "oh well then maybe I'm a feminist". Lol. Nowadays they have such a terrible idea of feminism that they forget the purpose of it all. Which is yes, rights and protection for women but also abolishing toxic masculinity and damaging stereotypes in general.
Love the hair! Also I think we might need a men's rights movement. - To address topics like the suicidal rate amongst men being way higher than amongst women/ men being far less likely to gain the custody of their children/ sexual and domestic abuse of boys and men being practically overlooked. But these topics are all part of the feminist movement. Because they are originated in patriarchal, misogynistic world views. Meaning we need a men's rights movement but not a "masculinist" rights movement.
I'm so glad I don't know any men like this. One time I was attracted to this guy but when I started to get to know him better he purposefully invalidated a painful experience I'd had in the past and I was immediately just like ✨bye!✨😃
Guys aren't interested in you if you "weigh as much as an elephant"?? Elephants weigh between 3000-6000 kg. If you weigh that much, I think the health concerns might be of more importance than romance... (Not to mention that weight is entirely unrelated to romantic interest for most people, as it should be)
When I was a teen, I was kayaking with friends (mixed gender group) and cut my foot on a broken bottle under the water. It was a really bad cut, clearly needed stitches. We were pretty far from anything so we decided to keep going forward to our destination, where we would be picked up by parents. I got shit for YEARS after that about how I didn’t put enough effort in paddling. “Ow, my foot hurts so my arms don’t work!” As I sat there with my blood soaked shirt wrapped around my elevated foot, lightheaded and in pain for 2 hours. Didn’t realize until this video what assholes my friends were being. Thanks Jamie.
"Women, puking emoji" Huh?? Sir?? I thought you were supposed to be attracted to women, you know, since you're so "masculine" and such a "real man" and not gay?? Did we all miss a chapter here
We do need men's rights! It's just a shame that it always devolves into opposition of women's rights instead of... Actually handling the problems that are specific to men
@@donnyshields4450 boys are often given shittyer socialization to men Things like They can't cry Being raised to be more explosive and violent Often not getting as much emotional support And one could argue Lack of consequences early in life causing criminality later on This is just socialization Not including men not getting custody even when it's blatantly obvious he is a saint and the wife is a nut job Or more It's far harder for men to get custody of children even if they show they're capable and attentive
@@donnyshields4450 I am a bit late, but hopefully this still helps. Long story short, there are issues that disproportionately affect men and those issues deserve to be taken seriously. The majority of suicides are men, men often are not taken seriously when they are the victims of domestic and sexual abuse and are commonly mocked for it and even denied help at centers which deal with domestic or sexual abuse victims. Mens mental health issues often go ignored or mocked, etc etc. It can be summed up as "toxic masculinity is bad for men too, and there are causes benefitting men that are genuinely worth advocating for." It just sucks that most "mens rights" people are not advocating for these things, that would be genuine grievances, but are just being insecure regressive assholes as seen in the video.
Men have the upper hand in this society. They are on +1 while women are on -1. We both need to be on +1 so we can improve it and reach +2, +3 etc. Otherwise men in power will abuse it.
As someone who is an empath...even if men were natural empaths, no. Empaths don't feel pain worse than others, any sympathy pain you get for someone is only a sliver of what they feel. If anyone tries to say when you are suffering that they are an empath and they are suffering more than you because of your suffering, they are 100% manipulating and gaslighting you. Empaths may get overwhelmed by feeling sometimes, but your feelings are your own and valid, and unless you are taking out your feelings on them you aren't responsible for the empath's overstimulation of emotions. But do give them space when they are in that state.
I'm also highly empathic and good gods no I do not feel anywhere near the same amount of pain as the person actually experiencing the pain. Hell, people being in physical pain doesn't even affect me all that much, it's being around emotional pain that's hard on me. So I really really do not understand what that guy's going on about
That last part where you say to give space is such a good idea. As an empath, I've over-stimulated only once but it was very bad and I had to get my mom. I was only feeling a sliver of what my S.O. was but as soon as I started to talk about my stresses while still being stressed from him, I just spiraled. I think I went off topic or rambled. Sorry.
Add best I would experience the same amount.. by what logic would it go beyond that? Also: Even if seeing somebody stepping on lego hurts me as much as it hurts them, I can just turn away and distract myself. They can't.
Yeah for example, when you see in a movie that somebody's throat is being cut, you can kinda feel it on your own body. You may have this feeling of your throat being "unsafe", you can even start choking a little. But in no way does it feel that same as your literal throat being cut, like wdym?!!!!
My response to men who think they can tell a woman to be a certain way or they won't get laid is 'Oh good, I'm asexual anyway!..I'll continue to be curvy and shave my head thanks!'
Hello from another viewer who is deeply thankful to be Aro/Ace and have a 0% likelihood of falling in lust with someone and then discovering they are…. .
@@samarnadra Omg, I just have to say, I love fairies and anyone who sort of styles based off them. I got my first "fairy dress" as I like to call it a few months ago and I absolutely love it. Cant wait for it to be warm again so I can wear it!
as a uterus-owner, I was once going into shock due to pain. I said my pain was at a 9, because hey, I wasn’t having my body literally ripped apart whilst pushing a literal baby out of somewhere. I may have been sobbing, screaming and puking after moving or eating/drinking anything to the point i had to go to A&E in an ambulance, but I wasn’t giving birth, so it was only a 9.
I have a friend whose husband said 2 of the dumbest things while she was in labor 1. come on, it can't be that bad, followed by 2. I wish I could feel the pain for you - at which time she reached over and grabbed his junk in a death grip. Every time she had a contraction, she squeezed and when he complained she'd say "it can't be that bad!"...she left the delivery room with a healthy baby, he left with bruised testicles, a limp, and a new perspective on life. I have no idea why the doctor or nurses didn't encourage her to release him sooner (I'm guessing years of hearing this crap they were letting one get her own back), but the delivery nurse did get her to take her hand off during the pushing by telling her she was crushing him and this would be their only kid. They had 2 more and he wasn't as stupid the next 2 times.
"I tore my ACL and my husband refused to take me to the hospital straight away and made me fish instead." "Men are natural empaths so childbirth is more painful for men." Which one is it now
These things come in waves, and also depend on the types of videos you watch. I watch some diy type youtubers so I see a lot of squarespace ads. Raid shadow legends is a bit different because they didn't stick to related content, they just spam-sponser anyone willing to promote them.
I tore my ACL when I was doing PT in the army. My 1sgt and commander carried me to the aid station. All of us men at the time (I'm out as a trans woman now). My gods. That hurts and I'm left with a permit disability. Eventually they will have to replace my whole knee. That guy need to loose both of his knee caps
@@Arrzarrina I just started recently, and it's magical, my mood has been on a slow but steady upswing since I started. Part of it is definitely just being so happy about taking something to finally be able to change, but I digress
The one that said "giving birth is more painful for the father than the mother" made me face palm, because unless it's the situation that Jamie explained where the dad is trans, that is massively incorrect, because the fathers' don't have to experience contractions, or the pushing, or the sensation that you'll split in half, or be torn to the point that you need stitches.
Ever since I saw someone on TikTok ask "do men even like women?" I haven't been the same person. This video confirms that most men indeed, do not like us at all.
Tf!? Most of us do care. Just because you're watching something doesn't mean it's the majority. Those men are a minority that ruin the reputation of us others who are generally nice to girls.
demi genders, typically demigirl and demiboy, are when you feel partial attachment to one gender and partial attachment to another, most commonly male or female and nonbinary :)
My old maths teacher was EXACTLY like this. He would flip houses then rent them out, so thought he was an expert on everything business related, and had a tumour on his spine he had to take intense painkillers for so he thought no-one else's pain was ever even slightly bad. Described labour as worse for the man because he "had to watch his loved one go through that pain and not be able to do anything😔😢😓" The worst incident was when, for various reasons, I ended up in the classroom with him and two TAs while they discussed the staff Christmas party. I was the only student there, 14 at the time. He was telling them what to wear, basically, and when one of them said she didn't like short skirts, he asked how she would know if she'd never tried them, in a really gross tone of voice. He then went on to describe (while I was IN THE ROOM, maybe 8ish feet away) how he had forced (not asked, not even convinced, FORCED) his partner to wear a sexy elf outfit for him, and showed the other teachers pictures of her in said outfit. Then used transphobic slurs when the other teacher jokingly described a pair of shoes she'd found online as 'transvestite shoes'. She wasn't at all disrespectful about it, but he immediately jumped in with slurs while I, an openly trans minor, sat in the room. Swell guy, though. UPDATE: Not long after making this comment, I got in contact with another person from my old school, who said that he had, in front of the whole class (16-13 YOs), started talking about how he enjoyed receiving pain in the bedroom. Somehow he wasn't fired, but did eventually leave, and threw himself a goodbye party which no one came to.
having had unmedicated labour and a spinal tumour (fortunately at different times), I found the tumour worse. For tge tumour, there was a fear factor, as it took 5 months to be diagnosed and I had no idea what was wrong, if it would kill me, if I would ever regain use of my legs, if the pain would be with me forever, etc. Labour, fortunately, never went more than 16 hours for any of my kids, it’s a known cause and you can be mostly confident of a positive outcome. Curiously for both tumour and labour I found the best pain relief to be a hot shower. you can keep the opioids, they don’t do anything for me.
Hey Jamie I’ve been watching you since I was in middle school and now I’m a junior in high school. I was closeted for a really long time and went through a lot of internalized and external homophobia from myself, my parents, and my peers. Always having your channel to watch has helped me with my internalized homophobia and I was able to come out to some of the people in my life a few months ago. I wanted to thank you for making your channel such a wonderful safe space that many people including myself have relied on for years💖💖💖
I remember when I was in like middle school I read one similar to the gun vs women, exepct it was beer vs women, one of the points was "you can be sure you're the firts one to "open" the beer" and i was like........... *vomits* I hate it, I hate all of that. And as someone else has commented, if they hate women so much, leave them alone!!
The HUGE problem with the concrete in the car is that, if both of their names were on the car, he would not get a destruction of property charge cause it's TECHNICALLY his property too and it's not illegal to destroy your own property. Unless it's with your parents/guardians (and they're not assholes) ALWAYS BE THE SOLE NAME ON YOUR CAR'S REGISTRATION!
@@purplerose5424 well sex slavery as well as just marriages in general back then it was basically an exchange of property and women were part of that property not men. You can watch swaddles the unfeminist origins of marriage video to understand.
Nah it really is. Viewing people as chunks of meat in the supermarket. Who has "more sexual/mating value" based on looks, money, bodycount, social status, size of their ego etc. Like a really bad documentary bloody David Attenborough was forced to narrate
It does sound like that because it is. Men that think like this as described in this video think they can buy women, and/or sex from them. For example, men like this think if they pay for even the smallest, inexpensive, unimportant thing for a woman; then he thinks he is owed sex. Which, for the record no one is owed sex with anyone else ever!
the whole "if your gf isn't the most annoying person, is she really your gf?" I completely agree with that bc my fiance and I LOVE annoying the ever-living shit out of each other. I'm the most annoying person he knows, he's the most annoying person I know. and after 10 years, I wouldn't want to annoy anyone else
Pro tip for life: using "male" and "female" as nouns instead of adjectives when talking about people is always, and I mean ALWAYS, a red flag. Avoid anoyone who speaks about people that way and certainly never get into a replationship with them.
How, exactly? They are both words that refer to one’s biological sex, so usually when biology is part of a conversation they would use those because they’d include both adults and children. Of course there are plenty of times when referring to someone as male or female would be strange and sound awkward, but saying all situations using them are red flags takes away from the actual meaning of a red flag.
@@gunforall6247 Yes, they are words that refer to biological sex, but they are used when talking about humans as adjectives. Even in Biology itself when we want to include both adults and children of a specific biological sex, we would go for "biological women/men of all ages". We don't use "females"/"males" because it includes non-human life. You'll never hear an actual Anglophonic (even if it's their second language like in my case) scientist use expressions like "Females do X" because it would include also other animals, some plants et cetera. Ignoring obviously the fact that no scientist would ever use such a general form to begin with because only Siths deal in absolutes and our field is made of exceptions. Using "male" and "female" as nouns is either a form of de-humanization or an attempt at giving a negative perception (plus the already mentioned usual improper generalizations/false statements) to the matter you are talking about, both red flags. And it is plain out rude. Strict adjectives used as nouns to define groups of people are very rarely polite. Just think about "blondes", "fats", "northers" et cetera; none of these are offensive per se when used to accompany a noun, tehy are descriptive, but they are used alone to be rude.
@@credendovides20 I don’t know.. I use male and female when talking about both sexes, and I don’t mean it in a bad way. Girls and boys sound too childish, women and men too old, ladies and gentlemen too proper
@@The_Rusalka You are obviously free to use any word you prefer: the world is your oyster. Just be aware that most people will not find it appropriate nor accurate... And that they will see your not-understanding why it is not appropriate nor accurate as a huge red flag.
@@credendovides20 I don’t know if this is because I’m not in America, but I haven’t seen anybody who really cared. I don’t really like mentioning sexes in general. I actually feel like if I use girl and boy, I’m talking to a pet or a child. I’m also in middle school btw. I don’t want to call others girls or boys because they have already reached puberty, yet it feels like I’m making them seem more mature by using women/men. We do not consider ourselves young children or adults. I think “Ladies and gentlemen” is also pretty good, but it also seems too mature and a lot of them won’t agree with being ladies or gentlemen. I do not want to agree for one side, I just want to know what I should use.
2:57 - “Is this implying that basic hygiene is a feminine thing?” Oh, Jamie, you sweet summer child, I take it you haven’t yet come across any posts about those men who don’t wipe their butts because it would make them gay to touch there, have you....? 🙃 Yes, this is a real thing. I wish I was making it up. 🤢
@@objection6061 bruh yes some person was making fun of dudes on the internet because they being sexist and the dudes in comments were like Some dude: "bRo yOu dIn'T hAvE tO eXpOsE pEoPlE lIkE tHaT wOmEn gEt sO pReSsEd oVeR mEn sAyInG aNyThInG" Like AAAAA and also i hate when their like "oMg mY wIfE iS sO aNoYyiNG sHe cAn'T jUsT sHuT uP" like I hate that so much
To be fair, these are pretty extreme. To also be fair, I've had to hear the milder versions of this nonsense all my life. I'm kind of tired of it. ("Kind of" here translates as VERY) To be totally fair, I've also got very tired of the women's version of this kind of thing. Can't people just learn to be humans? I'm not holding my breath, but it would be nice.
Jamie and every man who treats their SO with respect thank you because it is so easy to have these sorts of comments impact your general view on men but y’all remind me that there are good men out there ya just gotta look beyond the internet
Most of the time they are willing to listen. It's just that a lot of women assume they won't and thus place the blame on them. Communication needs to be mutual.
Honey, if those heteros have the self-awareness to say, "communicate," then they have the self-awareness to listen … and are willing to! Str8 men who aren't going to listen to you in the bedroom are _never_ going to ask you to tell them what you want while you're having sex. As a man who has sex with men, let me tell you - we're not telepathic and we know it. The guys who only care about getting their rocks off, gay or str8, are lousy lays. The only difference is that _we_ gay guys will tell him, "you're garbage in bed," while you women are trained to always acquiesce to men's desires and wants. Other guys _want_ to see their partners enjoying themselves, whether a str8 guy or a gay top. Those are the men who _want communication,_ and they find it very unappealing to have a partner who just lies there.
@@John_Weiss except that they are talking about orgasm gap and blaming women instead of admiting they tend to be selfish sex partners. The "comunicate"is not self awareness, is selfishness. Is not different than using the excuse "she didn't say no" or "they send mixed signals, when don't read minds" when you hear women coming out about sexual assault.
@@rileysjonger4192 OR women have been raised in a society where they are taught that their opinions don't matter and should go unvoiced, and men aren't how taught to process criticism properly. So, in relationships where the orgasm gap is an issue, even in other parts of their relationships, if the woman communicates an issue, the man doesn't listen, gaslights her by telling her she's overreacting, says he'll change and won't, or just otherwise women's criticism is framed as 'naggy' or unreasonable so women don't communicate their issues. There's a reason why toxic heterosexual marriage humour about how men hate their wives for asking them to pick up after themselves or do basic things is so common. We've created a culture where women get dumped on for communicating their needs and then act surprised when they don't. For men to expect women to communicate, they have to actually help create an environment where that communication is possible, and where it is consistently well recieved.
my mom was fairly thin when she was dating - her wedding dress was in the low double digits size-wise (US 10/12, 1985). These days, we're around the same size and I'm 'hopelessly' single. Though I have long, blonde hair and a fairly clear social/driving/criminal record - I'm also NOTABLY overweight. Therefore, since MEN are visual creatures, I'm screwed (as is my plus-size best friend). I'm here to say, as an Autistic individual, MEN aren't the only 'visual' creatures. Too many people think this way. Admittedly, I have a thin female friend who is also notably single - she's tall, and pretty - but doesn't look like a cover-model; therefore, the men in our region give her a wide berth also. The world is just full of ridiculously terrible people allowed to run rough-shod over other people with terrible/no excuses prepared because they lucked into power or whatever...
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Men: women are gross but I'm not gay
Us: W... What?
And those are the same kind of men who, if a woman says men are gross or men are dogs or something like that, will immediately go, "Not all men!"
Congrats on coming out as asexual then, I guess? Right? That'd be it? Or...
@@kazikek2674 as an asexual...do not put them in our category...😐
@@josukeshair8891 I understand not wanting to be in their company but I don't think anyone will take them...
@@kazikek2674 so what's the point buddy...give them to Jeff Bezos so they can ride into the 🌞 on the peni-ship 2.0
"childbirth is more painful for the fa-" NO NO NO JUST NO
literally like wtf HOW COULD IT POSSIBLY BE WORSE FOR THEM IN ANY WAY-
@@transgendy well if the father is the one giving birth (some trans men have given birth)
Us to whoever said that : *s h u t*
@@calci2679 very true but u just know the tiktoker didnt mean it like that 😭
@@calci2679 good point-
“Men are natural empaths” really got me 😂 Of course people of any gender can be naturally empathetic and/or encouraged to become/stay empathetic, but it’s pretty funny to say that while denying someone else’s pain and centering your own experience.
That’s a good point!
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i am like 200% that one is a joke among other posts here and yes im responding to an 8 month old comment
Its the same as men saying only men feel unconditional love while every word they say against women is pure hate and loathing.
I am a man and can confirm the answer is: "absolutely not but just glad someone asked"
I hope you feel better soon
Do you need to talk??
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*hugs*
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Cishet bois: Men are NOT emotional. Feelings are for women. We don't cry or have feelings.
Also cishet bois: So, men are natural empaths...
@Guess I'll commit genocide Hence the emphasis on "cishet bois", it kinda refers to "those" on its own :P
@Guess I'll commit genocide On a smol side note, I'd like to point out how "not all men" is a problematic thing to use in the community and specifically at such topics.
I'm saying: Please know it can get you in trouble for very valid reasons why you may have absolutely no bad intentions.
I can explain that further if you like me to. But maybe we'll be fine without and you take the input and consider using it very carefully, scarcely etc.
It's difficult in either situation (no matter the gender used) but it is kind of usable when someone explicitly says "All x have habit y". But if it's irony and not explicitly "All x have/do y", then it's a really really peculiar figure of speech. It'd be good if we all could move past generalisations and go more towards "X who do/say y are really (acting like) z". Much better for all parties.
Again, please understand me right: It's a suggestion to spare you future conflict you may not have been aware of resulting from that specific word choice. :3
They talk about gender stereotypes about men being less emotional then we glance to their suicide rate…
@Guess I'll commit genocide
That’s my point. But they blame women for it. Like lmao, talk to your homies and be better friends and stop putting your emotional baggage on all women.
@@serpentinewolf7085 they’re also the same ones that reinforce the stereotypes that “real men don’t cry” and then go cry about the suicide rate blaming it on women even though most of that suicide rate is homosexual men they bully
As an indigenous bi trans man, I can't tell you how much I wish men's rights activists would actually fight for marginalized men and not just shit all over women all the time.
I think you need to start looking in the right place
Because the biggest community of the mra is here on UA-cam and it’s has nothing to do with shitting on women
@@brandoncole5533 hmmmm, what?🤨
@@brandoncole5533 not really
stop generalizing bruh, I can say the same thing about feminism that all they do is hate on men but that's only a small amount of feminists that do that, same with men's right activists.
@@huhs112 no. It's true. Just not here.
For people who rant about how identity labels and minority movements are stupid, they sure do love coming up with labels and 'movements' for themselves.
In fairness I think most of them do it specifically to mock minorities.
some of them do it because they don’t want to admit that they’re racist/homophobic/sexist so they start things like “straight pride” “masculist” and “white lives matter” and can disguise it as “well if they have it then why can’t we”
‘Masculist’ doesn’t exist for the same reasons as ‘straight pride’ or ‘white/all lives matter.’ Masculism is necessary because of the continuance of the invisibility of men’s issues (male survivors of r@pe, abuse and the Duluth Model, the Selective Service conscription, the Boys Crisis in education, the prison sentencing gap, the list goes on).
@@BLZ231 That doesn't really make it fair.
@@nilsjohnson2636 no, masculnism is the exact same as straight pride. Is just misoginy and victimhood disguised as a "rights" movement.
They spent more time complaining about women having rights, demonicing them and spreading misinformation than actually doing something helpful and that doesn't require taking away other peoples freedom.
"Child birth is more painful for the father than the mother"
Not only are you wrong, you're a clown, maybe even the whole circus
His ego is the size of the whole tent
the whole circus goverment
It’s only more painful for the father if the father is the one who gave birth, which happens for some trans men
They're not Clowns, not even THE GODDAMN Circus, they're the ENTIRE FUCKING CARNIVAL
Whole traveling circus
Misogyny affects women negatively
The patriarchy affects woman and men negatively
Feminism is trying to get rid of both of them. So yes men, feminists are actually helping you. also you can be a feminist too. It’s not just for girls.
Feminism is But im not so sure feminists are
@@owyemen9367 at that point, you're talking about people. Some will, some won't, it's never a fixed thing. However, ideally speaking, feminism and feminists are all working in favor of equality
@@owyemen9367 nahnah that’s feminazis
@@edneser7592 so why don't you ever see feminist on social media talking about male struggles?
@@lachie4017 my best guess would be because you're blind.
When guys are like, “Men like this, men don’t like that,” I want to grab them and yell, “You don’t speak for me!”
It must be really annoing. Specialy when they harass and excuse themselves as "i'm a man, men can't help themselves when ..."
DOOO EEEEEET! Please! It'll mean more (to them) coming from a dude.
Same
@@kiriki4558 It's super annoying because it feels like they're pointing a finger at me and saying, "This guy's just as horrible as me."
Do you know what a generalization is?
The only "Men's Rights" movements that I see and agree with are the ones that are pushing for societal/cultural reduction of toxic masculinity since it arguably hurts men as much as it does women. Pushing for acceptance of men being "allowed" to be vulnerable, feel feelings, and explore themselves in a healthy way. I'm super pro all of this because it helps everyone. Men, women, enbies, everyone.
It does. Because of that masculinity mindset, men are often unable to find groups for trauma and the like, and they also oftentimes cannot gain custody of a kid even if the mother is absolutely awful. They're oftentimes not believed when they are assaulted (more so than with women, I believe) and even if they are believed people often do nothing about it because they should be 'glad,' or they should be ashamed of being assaulted if the person who did it was a woman. And a whole host of other issues. All because people believe men should be unfeeling and aggressive.
@@catpoke9557 stop that victimhood, you don't know anything about socieltal problems. Specialy when you start comparing it to women's situations as if they have more than men,.when un reality Is the opposite.
Just because something is a constant complain, that doesn't make it true.
@@kiriki4558 You need to speak more clearly. I can't even tell if you're accusing me of victimizing men, or victimizing women.
Here's a tip: I'm not saying EITHER side has more issues. Just because someone brings up a certain side's issues, doesn't mean they think it's the only side with problems.
Believe it or not, not everyone is a dumbass who thinks you can only believe strongly in ONE specific thing and have to STRONGLY oppose anything else.
In fact, there can be multiple things wrong with the world.
Yeah, women are victims. Men are too. Everyone has problems. Get over it.
I agree with this. Emotions and expression is important for everyone!
That and fighting against genital mutilation (circumcision) without consent. I fully support those fights.
But if they talk about men’s rights *only* to silence someone talking about women’s rights, you can clearly see their priorities.
“Masculist” is totally a real word. A popular synonym is “wanker”.
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As a women, I am so so so glad that my partner isn't like this 😳
I feel sorry for the women in these relationships, that is assuming that the men actually found a partner
Sadly there are women that were raised to be used to this and/or drawn to ... unhealthy relationships.
@@RuneDrageon Usually by toxic abusive parents too...
@@RuneDrageon And the elementary school shit of “Oh he’s bullying you? He likes you”....
Can confirm all 3 of the replies.
Apologies, I don't mean to vent out of nowhere.
TW // Vent, Abusive Relationships.
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All my life I grew up watching my father abuse my mom. My mom said it's how my father "communicates". So I took abuse as a form of love and communication. Led to me being in a lot of bad relationships, and showing my affection through things such as light hitting, shoving, and distance.
I am lucky to be blessed with a wonderful boyfriend now. I am slowly undoing all my bad habits, and he has been right there by my side to be supportive. He has shown me how love, affection, and communication should be, and I am so thankful for that and him.
@@bisexualdisasterlol you’re breaking the cycle and that makes you a strong and wonderful person. So glad you’ve found someone who cares for you ❤️❤️❤️
As someone who was sent to an all-boys Catholic high school in the Bible Belt while grappling with being a closeted enby, I heard pretty much all of this video every homeroom alone
Saaaame, just that I went to an all-girl hyperzealous school (in the UK) & as enby myself, it scarred my for life
lord, I'm so sorry, fucking orrible
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What a brave king o7
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2:19 I have the perfect approach for this guy!
1. Go up to the girl
2. Give her $100
3. Leave and never interact with her again, you don't need to be in her life. The $100 is for bothering her and assuming her sexuality based off her appearance and your desires
It is hilarious to me with the "I won't do that, it's girly" guys, gasp in horror if a girl does anything remotely similar.
Ie: "I'll change my panties once you change your boxers. - YOU CAN'T! THAT DISGUSTING!"
"I'll shower once you do. - NO! YOU'LL SMELL!"
It's like... their brain can't manage that last little connection xD
“guys shouldn’t change their boxers because it’s a feminine trait” has got to be the dumbest shit I’ve ever heard lmao
@@korr0su143 It's right up there with "I can't wipe my ass, that's gay!"
@@anix712 LMAO
@@korr0su143 no need to worry, as a guy I have never seen this idea/sentiment in my life up until this video.hoping that post was ironic
@@ZuperZucker I assure you it's not and that's a very sad reality. The double standards are frequent and everywhere, even if they aren't always that blatantly obvious 😔
Sexual market value guy complaining about red flags while being a huge red flag himself 😂
“Sexual market value” is literally the definition of objectifying women and I agree it’s so dumb
@@korr0su143 It's also a bigger red flag than the USSR's.
I almost thought that last sentence of his was a comment from someone else about his interesting ideas....
Feeling emphatic for another’s pain isn’t more painful than the pain itself lmaooo, these boys on another level
Ironically, I think it shows a profound lack of empathy on the person who wrote that comment. He so totally does not understand how much it hurts, that he thinks it hurts only as much as his empathic pain.
@@Mithcoriel 100% this
42 year old straight white male here, and no, I'm not okay. I was raised thinking it's healthy to suppress every emotion but anger. I'm very happy with the way things are going in our culture. Nothing is perfect, but then it never has been. Progress is progress.
U can express all ur emotions here.
Yeah
The worlds getting better
Slowly
Something we can all feel good for
And with technology
Things may move along better than ever before
❤️❤️❤️
It's okay, Mathew Steele. You're cool with us.
I'm glad you feel at home here! Your feelings are valid and they always will be! :)
Jamie saying that the pain for a father is bigger when a trans man is pregnant. You can turn an awful phrase into something nice and inclusive. You are too cute for this world. ❤️
Love you and Shaaba, you guys are the cutest!
I know right! I'm glad he included that. Some men can give birth, because trans men are real men. ❤
any trans men that give birth should have a free pass on pain tho they've already been through enough they don't need the pain of giving birth
@@ilikedarknes3351 thanks but giving birth also means we get our children, so I would never ever trade my life as a trans man for a life with any other gender. I know there's a lot of ways to have children and every one of them is valid. But then they wouldn't be the same. Though I had to have a C-section, so not the pain of labor, huh
@@Sam-zu5mr buddy are you good?
@@Sam-zu5mr WTH, you think that people can't call men cute? Men can be cute, women can be cute, non binary people can be cute. It seems like the problem is with you. I call my bf cute all the time, because he is. So is Jamie. Cuteness doesn't have gender.
That "why guns are better then women" reminded me of this song my brother kept on showing in people called "why beer is better than women", and it's just a man whining that he wasn't allowed to treat women like absolute crap.
The childbirth vs. nut shot vs. period cramp pain debate is one of the dumbest things ever.
(1)Every person has a different level of pain tolerance. Some people who have periods have never experienced pain from it; others feel crippling pain from. Same with childbirth and nut shots.
(2)People can only experience up to two of these three things, meaning they can never reasonably compare all of the experiences with one another.
(3)The only thing that you could reasonably argue about one being “worse” than another is frequency of the appearance of it. As in, people, regardless of their health or circumstances, can go their entire life without experiencing childbirth or nut shots; most people born with a uterus will have had a period at some point in their lives. But almost no one even tries to make this argument. Why? Because the people who realize this argument also realize how stupid the “Suffering Olympics” is.
How tf do you feel pain when you nut?
@@XVINutkabob Nut shot as in getting hit in the nuts, not the other thing..
@@evansgardens oh, that hurts
I always felt sorry for women who suffer from period cramps because it's a regular pain. You don't really experience childbirth or nut shots that often (or at least, I don't imagine most people do).
THIS. I have a nerve disorder, so even mild injuries register as very painful for me. So I deal with everyone thinking I'm a massive baby or weak. You will never experience a pain response in the same way as everyone else.
"Childbirth is more painful for the father than the mother" - said by no father or non birthing partner who has ever watched their child be born....
The closest thing I can think of is childbirth-related PTSD that can be developed by both the person giving birth and the person watching the birth. But, this is psychological damage, not physical pain. I think we should all agree that childbirth is horrific for everyone involved, but a great deal more so for the person giving birth.
Or anyone who has any fucking idea of how pregnancy works lmao
my dad has told me that during my birth, my mother gripped his wrist so hard that it hurt him, but he knew that it was NOTHING compared to the pain she was going through. he has admitted that it was only a glimpse of what she was feeling in that moment, and that he can never truly imagine how painful it was for her
@@peggedyourdad9560 Your intentions are clearly very good, Im not picking on you here!
But saying only "more so" makes me think you havent given birth, lol... maybe I'm wrong? Let me know!
I just think anyone who has both been someone's birth support and given birth themself understands that the person giving birth has gone through an experience that can almost cause a kind of derealized state, because (for most people) heavy labor is SO intense. The pain is everywhere.
During the brief period when I was in heavy labor with my twins, I could feel pain OUTside of where my body ended, if that makes any sense.
Additionally, giving birth is invasive of your privacy beyond belief, lol. That whole aspect is very underrated. Its like you're a car going in for major work, and a while team of mechanics have to look at you on the lift and discuss what needs to be done. And it doesn't end when the baby comes out.
There is a chasm between the two experiences, no matter how much you love the person giving birth, or how emotional it might be.
@@melissasaint3283 Yea, you're correct. I haven't experienced childbirth firsthand and was mostly basing what I said on what I've heard/seen from people who have and from what my mother has told me. I think my wording was a result of my habit of generally being more conservative with my word choice and it wasn't at all my intention to downplay the experience. From what I understand there is a massive difference between the two experiences, it sounds like the difference between watching a true-crime documentary and being the victim of the crime being depicted. Thank you for taking the time and energy to educate me more on this matter, it sounds like quite the brutal and intense affair, to say the very least.
Literally the nail one got me bc when I didn't have a job I had short nails that I painted myself. and now I have a job and I make enough money I get my nails done! Like do they know how expensive this shit is!!
"Childbirth is more painful for the father than the mother"
It will be if he's stupid enough to say shit like that out loud in the delivery room, and within punching distance of said mother!
Punching distance? Pretty sure she'll rip his head off.
@@rougerain4055 With her teeth, at least that is the image that flashed in my head when reading this.
As a woman (Mr. Grey is my cat) I really don't understand why men keep bothering us if they hate us so much. There's a reason single women are happier.
Mr grey is very handsome if your picture is him 😁
your point is very valid, i agree with you and your cat is amazing and precious
Single and non-married people as a whole are happier and better off.
@Pingo thank you 🥰
As a man, they don't hate women, they hate that women are treated as equal as them and not their personal slaves. Typical incel mindset if you ask me.
My husband's seen the pain I was in and he told me the only thing what kept him from staying sane and not consumed by guilt during (and after) the birth of our daughter was the fact that I wanted a child desperately. I was screaming during contractions just to distract myself and he told me afterwards he expected the experience to be intense, but not THAT intense. He had already bought me diamond earrings for the birth, but during he even promised to buy me a new Zelda game (AoC), which he did. I do not think he will ever fathom the idea that childbirth was harder on him than it was on me.
"We men don't like girls with short hair"
Me, a really gay person: "everything goes according to plan"
Lol exactly! I was out the other day and a friend was like: let's go to [insert bar name here]. Friend 2: is that the bar with the creepy old men? Friend 1: yes. Me, patting my undercut: do I look gay enough?? Friend 1: yes.
@@georgecooper9766 ah yes that's perfect
Honestly it's ok for ppl to have prefrences lmao including boys
aw yeah, it's all coming together
@@jefrreyjeffery2192 also jumping right to "weighing as much as an elephant" is so damn rude and nasty, and the very weird way he said it with his full chest out thinking every single man on the planet agrees with him. As if there aren't huge communities of men who PREFER fat women! You can be attracted to certain qualities without being an asshole about it, come on dude
Cis men: "Men are natural empaths."
Also cis men: "If a man feels anything except anger, hunger or h*rnyness, he is a women!"
(The plural with singular article was intentional, since they often do that for some reason.)
Hahaha 😁
Excellent 👍🏼
I'm assuming youtube would delete your comment for that word cus u censored it
Literally no one except a tiny percent says that
Damn you really paid attention to detail lmao
@@Lolbadnub a LOT OF MEN say that , it's just very hard to digest isn't lol
"Women. Are not. Objects." Thank you for restoring a bit of my faith back into men by being just a chill feminist guy.
I found the question I am a boy and attracted to a girl. She says that she is a lesbian. She doesn't look like one, and I want to have a relationship with her. What kind of approach must I use?
Community Answer
You don't have to 'look like' a lesbian to be one. Not all lesbians look a certain way, just as straight people can look all kinds of ways. If she says she is a lesbian, you have to respect that. You can't change someone's sexuality, and you can't force yourself on someone, regardless of their sexuality.
The only approach the dude could take for them to end up together is that te dude should become a woman… not that it would be a certain way.
I hate how people like this also assume they have a chance even if they were straight. Not every straight person wants to be with every straight person. And moreover there's more sexualities than gay and straight. Even if lesbians had to 'look' a certain way, that doesn't automatically mean they're straight if they don't look like a lesbian.
@@catpoke9557 But you don't understand; they're _God's Gift To Women_ so obviously they're irresistible to straight and bi/pan women.
Here's the answer to his question: grow the fck up and take no for the answer like a man
@@salviaexpedition sorry that's also a rather poor way to take this. To start with this makes light of just how big a deal transition can be. In addition, it bands gender and sexuality together which really needs to be acknowledged as a misstep these days because it's ammunition the phobes gleefully use as a way to other trans lesbians and invalidate us.
The toxic masculinity is so intense it could be considered chemical warfare.
I think the smell of axe body spray over someone who hasn’t showered in days could be considered the smell of toxic masculinity
Never a chemical romance.
it's SO funny that we are very incapable to be open up except on few of the videos on UA-cam, i cannot express or complain about something a man does without an arguments or attacking coming at me, even if i were like, all respectful and honest about something awful a man can do, i see this is unfair, we can't be open up not until we are called feminist..and even in reality the word "feminist" should be all about equal and rights for both gender, where is this going..?
It's Chernobyl itself
This all reminds me of my sexist af dad-
Lil story, we were on my cousin's graduation this month, and guys kept collapsing.
He literally turned to me, his *daughter* , and said "huh guess they're not real men, usually girls are the ones collapsing" then tried to excuse himself with that it's cuz "women's bodies are weaker than men's"
Mind you, this is a big event in my country so it's possible that they were nervous and couldn't eat or drink enough, maybe one already had some health problem, not to mention that they had to wear ties and to top it all of there was literally no fresh air with almost 40°.
And this man keeps calling himself a christian that respects everyone equally (homphobia train hasn't even arrived yet)
Oh, and when I told him to stop and that it's disgusting he got offended 🤭 manz doesn't see the problem really, sometimes I feel like I'm more of the adult in my entire family
The "top 10... guns vs. women" exemplifies how misogynistic men view women as objects. That's exactly why they have these kinds of reactions - they expect an animated object and then have to deal with a real human being.
And I you really want to understand why feminism is important for *everyone*, look no further. Obviously men would have much better relationships if they weren't raised to think like this.
Right. And I’m just gonna say it, if u have a 44 y/o gf/wife, ur prolly in ur 40s as well. It’s rly gross if ur in ur 40’s and dating a 22 y/o. The guy in that sounds like a creep that has too high of a seggs drive for most ppls liking
@@ashleighcollins185 not to mention that men who go exclusively/purposefully for relationships with wide age gaps like the power dynamic and are probably manipulative
@@ashleighcollins185 Have to say I hated it when I was in my teens and twenties and old dads/grandads would try and chat me up. They used to give me the creeps
Not to mention that a woman can also dump her partner for a younger one. It doesn't sound so fun when it's the other way around.
@@ashleighcollins185 younger men are way way worse. I have never had problems with older guys but I have had a bunch of almost life ruining things from younger guys and one of them almost got me put in jail for a felony when I was twelve while he could high jack a car and he threatened me with a knife he stole. I will always prefer men way older then me then guys my age who are lame and arrogant and sexist.
It's insane how proudly some of these people are spreading their nonsense.
I once saw a dude in a thread argue that being physically/sexually abused by your partner is the same thing as BDSM, because "choosing" to stay in the relationship is all the consent that's necessary, therefore it's ok. Truly disgusting stuff.
That's like if you drove your car, you are consenting to car accident.
I'm walking the street, therefore I'm consenting to being ran over by the pizza delivery van 😍 I chose to stay walking the street ergo Carl the pizza guy is totes okay to fuckin murder me. Isn't vehicular manslaughter lovely? :)
@@nutella7162 Pretty much. I remember being so angry I had to just leave and calm down, my mother is stuck in that kind of situation and it's terrible.
I remember it clearly, because it left such a strong impression. His thought process was something along the lines of "If they hate it, why not leave? If they don't leave they must be ok with it/like it, and if they don't it's their own fault it's happening". He couldn't comprehend that leaving an abusive relationship can be dangerous, and therefore really scary if there's no plan/support system in place.
He also very closely compared it to BDSM, and dismissed anyone explaining to him that it's anything but.
I have to find that thread again to see how it ends, I think I know where it is.
@@idkt-t9214 I'm disabled. I was literally physically dependent on my abuser for a chunk of personal care. There was no "just leave."
... Horrific. People are this dumb or is just that they want to hate crime?
8:43 I actually saw this sign outside a shop in Wyoming...can confirm the rest of the list just gets worse and worse 🙄
I would absolutely love a movement that fights for men to express their emotions, communicate openly, go to therapy, cook, clean, parent, cuddle fluffy bunnies, wear ruffle skirts and paint their eye lids golden! We desperately need that. It's a shame the "men's rights movement" was already taken over by silliness
Feminism and LGBT+ are the only movemets that actually push for the emotional liberation of men, without them using it to get free compation and not be held accountable for their actions or to paint men as "the real" victims.
We have that. It's called feminism.
I agree! It's feminism but at the same time it's completely welcome to have specific movements like idk "Stop male suicide! Give boys and men the tools to express their emotions!" since that is actually a systemic problem. And we'll all gladly join them and support that super important branch of feminism! Males need to step into their divine feminine qualities to be healthy and seek and receive help timely!
I really wish I'd see these topics around more and not just in comment sections on feminism where they are abused as (completely false!) reasons to devalue feminism but otherwise not given a damn about 😕
Or like..... when "men have feelings, too" only appears to "top" women in their expression. But never again when their emotions are asked and almost begged for! Like "Please, talk to me!!" and "Please have compassion" moments!
Love to all males who're capable and used their discernment to know it's not addressing them in such case 😉
Well obviously that's part of feminism, however I would love for men to embrace it as THEIR movement. As something that is important for THEM.
That movement is called Harry Styles 😂 the world needs to start accepting men like him for who they are without pretending they're any less masculine
There should be a men's rights movement, but for stuff like normalizing men having emotions, doing "feminine" things, and interacting with children, not suppressing women.
This movement is already there. After all, it's an overall trend in society. It's those super-masculine guys who are the break shoes.
@@alexanderfo3886 break shoes? Never heard that expression before. Does it mean that those guys slow down the aforementioned movement?
@@Kamakiri711 Yes, exactly that. But it might be a metaphor that is not all that current as I thought.
100% agree. Especially because I feel like if we normalise these things for men then they will stop being things only women should do therefore also helping with women getting equality and everybody is happy. Eg. If we normalise men looking after children without being mocked women will no longer be mocked for not looking after children and instead working.
That “movement” is pretty much part of feminism tho? Cause it means to generally accept “feminine” things as not feminine but as something normal and not something weak, looked down upon etc. If there wasn’t such a low opinion on women, there wouldn’t be one on “feminine “ thing/things often associated with women either.
When I have had to go to the ER my boyfriend has dropped everything an immediately rushed to get me there. It is so weird to see when partners are not supportive of each other or caring to each others needs or lack basic communication skills within a relationship. Those are literally the foundations of a relationship.
as a trans man, we do not claim these men (jamie is accepted ofc)
edit: 739 likes? damn i didn't expect that
edit 2: this is the most wholesome reply section i think ive ever seen (besides the whole taking over the world stuff lmfao)
As a trans woman I already knew that
as a nonbinary human, invade iceland
@@exlipse3813 as a genderfluid person i second that. may i propose.. greenland too?
@@cateyrose977 yes
@@cateyrose977 we shall take over the world >:)
Remember, you're struggles are always valid and they are just as important as anyone else's. You're a strong, and worthy person. Keep going, I will always believe in you, you are worth it.
You too Prickly!
Ugh you don't even know the difference between your and you're 🙄/j
Okay but being serious this is an amazing message thank you
@@raz4sh1 you forgot to put a comma before thank you
Thank you other cactus!
Men's rights are important when it comes to custody rights. My uncle got custody of his twin daughters thanks to a men's rights group when his ex wife fled from Ohio to Texas; his ex-wife made it clear that she didn't care about the kids, she just wanted to hurt my uncle.
"If guns are so much better then just live with guns."
Jamie, I have some bad news about what these people are like IRL in America.
YEEHAW
And it's somehow not rarely bad news, too. 😞 Let's ditch the guns and learn about real women and real relationships and about mental health problems and how objectification actually literally happens in the brain and can to some degree be relearnt (if the brain isn't otherwise damaged or affected)
Yeah, Jamie, they DO live with guns!
And sometimes they go out and use the guns.
As someone with longish stiletto nails who used to work at Wells Fargo, that was definitely inaccurate.
@Sharee Mitchell well i wear press ons, so they are only on for about a week, then i put on a new set.
But in general, it's calles hand washing and cleaning underneath the nails with a small tool.
As the dad of a beautiful, unpredictable woman who does random remarkable stuff with hair and nails, I was hoping you'd speak up. I have total faith in you.
The fact that when I ask guys whether they're feminists or not they're always unsure lol. Then I proceed to explain that feminism is basically against this whole society based on patriarchy cause everyone's issues originate from that, they're like "oh well then maybe I'm a feminist". Lol. Nowadays they have such a terrible idea of feminism that they forget the purpose of it all. Which is yes, rights and protection for women but also abolishing toxic masculinity and damaging stereotypes in general.
A guy once asked me "why do girls need periods"'
I just didn't know how to respond-
I wouldn't know either, like how do you answer that what- 😃
WHAT 😂😭
He what. Humanity is doomed.
If you do not bleed you will IMPLODE.
Poor guy wasn’t taught anatomy properly was he-
That monotone voice when reading the gun vs. women list though.
Same, Jamie.
Can we all just appreciate he has to read through all this horrible stuff but still manages to make it funny.
Love the hair!
Also I think we might need a men's rights movement. - To address topics like the suicidal rate amongst men being way higher than amongst women/ men being far less likely to gain the custody of their children/ sexual and domestic abuse of boys and men being practically overlooked. But these topics are all part of the feminist movement. Because they are originated in patriarchal, misogynistic world views. Meaning we need a men's rights movement but not a "masculinist" rights movement.
I'm so glad I don't know any men like this. One time I was attracted to this guy but when I started to get to know him better he purposefully invalidated a painful experience I'd had in the past and I was immediately just like
✨bye!✨😃
Glad you're out here with the rest of us. Don't look back.
Guys aren't interested in you if you "weigh as much as an elephant"?? Elephants weigh between 3000-6000 kg. If you weigh that much, I think the health concerns might be of more importance than romance...
(Not to mention that weight is entirely unrelated to romantic interest for most people, as it should be)
That one at 7:30 doesn't make any sense... if men are such great empaths then why do they never believe women who have been assaulted?!
Matching Shaaba with the hair colour. That's cute couple goals.
When I was a teen, I was kayaking with friends (mixed gender group) and cut my foot on a broken bottle under the water. It was a really bad cut, clearly needed stitches. We were pretty far from anything so we decided to keep going forward to our destination, where we would be picked up by parents.
I got shit for YEARS after that about how I didn’t put enough effort in paddling. “Ow, my foot hurts so my arms don’t work!” As I sat there with my blood soaked shirt wrapped around my elevated foot, lightheaded and in pain for 2 hours.
Didn’t realize until this video what assholes my friends were being. Thanks Jamie.
"Women, puking emoji" Huh?? Sir?? I thought you were supposed to be attracted to women, you know, since you're so "masculine" and such a "real man" and not gay?? Did we all miss a chapter here
We are specifically looking at men who are failing as a functioning human beings-
We do need men's rights! It's just a shame that it always devolves into opposition of women's rights instead of... Actually handling the problems that are specific to men
Can you be more specific?
@@donnyshields4450 boys are often given shittyer socialization to men
Things like
They can't cry
Being raised to be more explosive and violent
Often not getting as much emotional support
And one could argue
Lack of consequences early in life causing criminality later on
This is just socialization
Not including men not getting custody even when it's blatantly obvious he is a saint and the wife is a nut job
Or more
It's far harder for men to get custody of children even if they show they're capable and attentive
Thank you, Luna.
@@donnyshields4450 I am a bit late, but hopefully this still helps. Long story short, there are issues that disproportionately affect men and those issues deserve to be taken seriously. The majority of suicides are men, men often are not taken seriously when they are the victims of domestic and sexual abuse and are commonly mocked for it and even denied help at centers which deal with domestic or sexual abuse victims. Mens mental health issues often go ignored or mocked, etc etc.
It can be summed up as "toxic masculinity is bad for men too, and there are causes benefitting men that are genuinely worth advocating for." It just sucks that most "mens rights" people are not advocating for these things, that would be genuine grievances, but are just being insecure regressive assholes as seen in the video.
Men have the upper hand in this society. They are on +1 while women are on -1. We both need to be on +1 so we can improve it and reach +2, +3 etc. Otherwise men in power will abuse it.
all these people be like “bro i hate my girlfriend/wife i hope i never hear from them again 🙄”
are you sure you dont want a *boyfriend*
I’m actually convinced every extremely misogynistic person is attracted SOLELY to men.
As someone who is an empath...even if men were natural empaths, no. Empaths don't feel pain worse than others, any sympathy pain you get for someone is only a sliver of what they feel. If anyone tries to say when you are suffering that they are an empath and they are suffering more than you because of your suffering, they are 100% manipulating and gaslighting you. Empaths may get overwhelmed by feeling sometimes, but your feelings are your own and valid, and unless you are taking out your feelings on them you aren't responsible for the empath's overstimulation of emotions. But do give them space when they are in that state.
I'm also highly empathic and good gods no I do not feel anywhere near the same amount of pain as the person actually experiencing the pain. Hell, people being in physical pain doesn't even affect me all that much, it's being around emotional pain that's hard on me. So I really really do not understand what that guy's going on about
That last part where you say to give space is such a good idea. As an empath, I've over-stimulated only once but it was very bad and I had to get my mom. I was only feeling a sliver of what my S.O. was but as soon as I started to talk about my stresses while still being stressed from him, I just spiraled. I think I went off topic or rambled. Sorry.
Add best I would experience the same amount.. by what logic would it go beyond that?
Also: Even if seeing somebody stepping on lego hurts me as much as it hurts them, I can just turn away and distract myself. They can't.
Yeah for example, when you see in a movie that somebody's throat is being cut, you can kinda feel it on your own body. You may have this feeling of your throat being "unsafe", you can even start choking a little. But in no way does it feel that same as your literal throat being cut, like wdym?!!!!
❤ Such a wonderful response.
My response to men who think they can tell a woman to be a certain way or they won't get laid is 'Oh good, I'm asexual anyway!..I'll continue to be curvy and shave my head thanks!'
Hello from another viewer who is deeply thankful to be Aro/Ace and have a 0% likelihood of falling in lust with someone and then discovering they are…. .
@@samarnadra Omg, I just have to say, I love fairies and anyone who sort of styles based off them. I got my first "fairy dress" as I like to call it a few months ago and I absolutely love it. Cant wait for it to be warm again so I can wear it!
me asf
"Curvy" isnt unattractive.
as a uterus-owner, I was once going into shock due to pain. I said my pain was at a 9, because hey, I wasn’t having my body literally ripped apart whilst pushing a literal baby out of somewhere. I may have been sobbing, screaming and puking after moving or eating/drinking anything to the point i had to go to A&E in an ambulance, but I wasn’t giving birth, so it was only a 9.
I have a friend whose husband said 2 of the dumbest things while she was in labor 1. come on, it can't be that bad, followed by 2. I wish I could feel the pain for you - at which time she reached over and grabbed his junk in a death grip. Every time she had a contraction, she squeezed and when he complained she'd say "it can't be that bad!"...she left the delivery room with a healthy baby, he left with bruised testicles, a limp, and a new perspective on life. I have no idea why the doctor or nurses didn't encourage her to release him sooner (I'm guessing years of hearing this crap they were letting one get her own back), but the delivery nurse did get her to take her hand off during the pushing by telling her she was crushing him and this would be their only kid. They had 2 more and he wasn't as stupid the next 2 times.
I have screenshot this comment and keeping it forever. This was hilarious. 🤣
seeing this just makes me wanna 🧑🤛 him
'hold up, I'm processing' is a phrase that I will now use daily.
"I tore my ACL and my husband refused to take me to the hospital straight away and made me fish instead."
"Men are natural empaths so childbirth is more painful for men."
Which one is it now
i feel like every youtuber ever was sponsored by honey, now it’s express vpn
And Raid Shadow Legends-
These things come in waves, and also depend on the types of videos you watch. I watch some diy type youtubers so I see a lot of squarespace ads. Raid shadow legends is a bit different because they didn't stick to related content, they just spam-sponser anyone willing to promote them.
And dragon city
Don't forget about the Raycon earbuds!
I actually saw the wikihow comment under the actual article. The article was "How to get a lesbian girlfriend". Homeboy completely misunderstood.
Omg lol, I can see how the error happened
"Childbirth is more painful for the father than the mother" yeah... _IF HE'S THE ONE GIVING BIRTH_
I tore my ACL when I was doing PT in the army. My 1sgt and commander carried me to the aid station. All of us men at the time (I'm out as a trans woman now). My gods. That hurts and I'm left with a permit disability. Eventually they will have to replace my whole knee. That guy need to loose both of his knee caps
Honestly, this subreddit exemplifies one of the major reasons I decided to bite the bullet and actually start my transition...
Yo, we have the same name!! It’s even spelled the same. Congrats on starting your transition!!! 💖💙
@@queen_of_aces1563 Thanks! My hormones are arriving tomorrow so it's time to see what Oestrogen is going to do to my mental state.
congrats have a nice transition hope everything goes well
@@korr0su143 Thanks :)
@@Arrzarrina I just started recently, and it's magical, my mood has been on a slow but steady upswing since I started. Part of it is definitely just being so happy about taking something to finally be able to change, but I digress
The one that said "giving birth is more painful for the father than the mother" made me face palm, because unless it's the situation that Jamie explained where the dad is trans, that is massively incorrect, because the fathers' don't have to experience contractions, or the pushing, or the sensation that you'll split in half, or be torn to the point that you need stitches.
These are they guys who never stopped hating their girl classmates in kindergarten
Minds of 9 year olds
"It's called the back up and leave her alone approach" 🤣🤣🤣 we're starting out strong! 🥰
Ever since I saw someone on TikTok ask "do men even like women?" I haven't been the same person. This video confirms that most men indeed, do not like us at all.
The majority of men don't like us, what they like is controlling and using us
And we really don’t have to give a fuck. Let us all just live on our own and definitely on our own terms ffs
Yes Most of the 4 billion men on this earth hate women makes sense
Tf!? Most of us do care. Just because you're watching something doesn't mean it's the majority. Those men are a minority that ruin the reputation of us others who are generally nice to girls.
When men complain for things that don't affect them: Everything is not about you.
It's things like these, that gives me certain pride that I relate more being a demi-guy, than a cis-man.
Ich
what does demi stand for? If you don't mind me asking
demi genders, typically demigirl and demiboy, are when you feel partial attachment to one gender and partial attachment to another, most commonly male or female and nonbinary :)
My old maths teacher was EXACTLY like this. He would flip houses then rent them out, so thought he was an expert on everything business related, and had a tumour on his spine he had to take intense painkillers for so he thought no-one else's pain was ever even slightly bad. Described labour as worse for the man because he "had to watch his loved one go through that pain and not be able to do anything😔😢😓"
The worst incident was when, for various reasons, I ended up in the classroom with him and two TAs while they discussed the staff Christmas party. I was the only student there, 14 at the time. He was telling them what to wear, basically, and when one of them said she didn't like short skirts, he asked how she would know if she'd never tried them, in a really gross tone of voice. He then went on to describe (while I was IN THE ROOM, maybe 8ish feet away) how he had forced (not asked, not even convinced, FORCED) his partner to wear a sexy elf outfit for him, and showed the other teachers pictures of her in said outfit. Then used transphobic slurs when the other teacher jokingly described a pair of shoes she'd found online as 'transvestite shoes'. She wasn't at all disrespectful about it, but he immediately jumped in with slurs while I, an openly trans minor, sat in the room.
Swell guy, though.
UPDATE: Not long after making this comment, I got in contact with another person from my old school, who said that he had, in front of the whole class (16-13 YOs), started talking about how he enjoyed receiving pain in the bedroom. Somehow he wasn't fired, but did eventually leave, and threw himself a goodbye party which no one came to.
Yiiikes. I am so sorry.
having had unmedicated labour and a spinal tumour (fortunately at different times), I found the tumour worse. For tge tumour, there was a fear factor, as it took 5 months to be diagnosed and I had no idea what was wrong, if it would kill me, if I would ever regain use of my legs, if the pain would be with me forever, etc. Labour, fortunately, never went more than 16 hours for any of my kids, it’s a known cause and you can be mostly confident of a positive outcome. Curiously for both tumour and labour I found the best pain relief to be a hot shower. you can keep the opioids, they don’t do anything for me.
You should get permanent pink highlights, I think it's cute!
love the pink hair
That's great!!
thank youuu
I'm so genuinely damn happy for you and I don't even know you. 😆🥰
@@QueenMegaera awww thank you 🥰
That's so wonderful!!
Hey Jamie I’ve been watching you since I was in middle school and now I’m a junior in high school. I was closeted for a really long time and went through a lot of internalized and external homophobia from myself, my parents, and my peers. Always having your channel to watch has helped me with my internalized homophobia and I was able to come out to some of the people in my life a few months ago. I wanted to thank you for making your channel such a wonderful safe space that many people including myself have relied on for years💖💖💖
jamie’s hair makes me so happy and i don’t know why
the pink hair looks AMAZING on you!! the colour suits you so well!
These guys seem to hate women so much and yet still want relationships with them. Make it make sense!
Easy; they don't want relationships with women. They want to get laid with the best-looking woman that'll have them.
I remember when I was in like middle school I read one similar to the gun vs women, exepct it was beer vs women, one of the points was "you can be sure you're the firts one to "open" the beer" and i was like........... *vomits* I hate it, I hate all of that. And as someone else has commented, if they hate women so much, leave them alone!!
The HUGE problem with the concrete in the car is that, if both of their names were on the car, he would not get a destruction of property charge cause it's TECHNICALLY his property too and it's not illegal to destroy your own property. Unless it's with your parents/guardians (and they're not assholes) ALWAYS BE THE SOLE NAME ON YOUR CAR'S REGISTRATION!
2:51
“is this implying that basic hygiene is a feminine thing?”
me: i’m so masculine rn
Mulan flashbacks....
“remember, men, if you shower then you’re not a real man” LIKE WHO THE FUCK SAID THAT
When men are actually women because they shower sometimes.
What the hell do they think we use to wash our bodies? Estrogen??
Making me dysphoric because I'm really only unhygienic because I don't want to look at myself in the shower...
I feel like we should call this “are cis men okay”
Jamie’s pink hair is ✨magnificent✨
8:47 i googled this and it is as ridiculous as it looks, they even have mugs and t-shirts of it
There are only four types of good men.
The ally men,
the trans men,
the wholesome men,
and the most powerful of all,
the Himbo
If the wholesome man is not an ally then he is not wholesome
@@ZuperZucker If someone is not an ally then are they really human?
@@kingcharlesFrench purely by biology
HIMBOS❤️
@@ZuperZucker i think it’s because not every ally is wholesome
4:24 sexual market value sounds like sex slavery, am I the only one who thought of this
Yep this guy is stuck in an ancient patriachal society
@@carolinpurayidom4570 glad I’m not the only who picked up how wrong that specific phrase was, I was afraid that I just had a really dirty mind
@@purplerose5424 well sex slavery as well as just marriages in general back then it was basically an exchange of property and women were part of that property not men. You can watch swaddles the unfeminist origins of marriage video to understand.
Nah it really is. Viewing people as chunks of meat in the supermarket. Who has "more sexual/mating value" based on looks, money, bodycount, social status, size of their ego etc. Like a really bad documentary bloody David Attenborough was forced to narrate
It does sound like that because it is. Men that think like this as described in this video think they can buy women, and/or sex from them. For example, men like this think if they pay for even the smallest, inexpensive, unimportant thing for a woman; then he thinks he is owed sex. Which, for the record no one is owed sex with anyone else ever!
Everytime Jamie sighs or just looks like he's super duper tired of that mysoginistic sh*t is such a mood
I don’t like nail polish or gel nails - I guess I’m not a girl anymore…
the whole "if your gf isn't the most annoying person, is she really your gf?" I completely agree with that bc my fiance and I LOVE annoying the ever-living shit out of each other. I'm the most annoying person he knows, he's the most annoying person I know. and after 10 years, I wouldn't want to annoy anyone else
Valid. As long as its not toxic annoyance 😊
Thats so cute !
@@maxinesenior596 nah, just playful teasing
I would get broken up with
Pro tip for life: using "male" and "female" as nouns instead of adjectives when talking about people is always, and I mean ALWAYS, a red flag. Avoid anoyone who speaks about people that way and certainly never get into a replationship with them.
How, exactly? They are both words that refer to one’s biological sex, so usually when biology is part of a conversation they would use those because they’d include both adults and children. Of course there are plenty of times when referring to someone as male or female would be strange and sound awkward, but saying all situations using them are red flags takes away from the actual meaning of a red flag.
@@gunforall6247 Yes, they are words that refer to biological sex, but they are used when talking about humans as adjectives. Even in Biology itself when we want to include both adults and children of a specific biological sex, we would go for "biological women/men of all ages".
We don't use "females"/"males" because it includes non-human life.
You'll never hear an actual Anglophonic (even if it's their second language like in my case) scientist use expressions like "Females do X" because it would include also other animals, some plants et cetera.
Ignoring obviously the fact that no scientist would ever use such a general form to begin with because only Siths deal in absolutes and our field is made of exceptions.
Using "male" and "female" as nouns is either a form of de-humanization or an attempt at giving a negative perception (plus the already mentioned usual improper generalizations/false statements) to the matter you are talking about, both red flags.
And it is plain out rude. Strict adjectives used as nouns to define groups of people are very rarely polite. Just think about "blondes", "fats", "northers" et cetera; none of these are offensive per se when used to accompany a noun, tehy are descriptive, but they are used alone to be rude.
@@credendovides20 I don’t know.. I use male and female when talking about both sexes, and I don’t mean it in a bad way. Girls and boys sound too childish, women and men too old, ladies and gentlemen too proper
@@The_Rusalka You are obviously free to use any word you prefer: the world is your oyster.
Just be aware that most people will not find it appropriate nor accurate... And that they will see your not-understanding why it is not appropriate nor accurate as a huge red flag.
@@credendovides20 I don’t know if this is because I’m not in America, but I haven’t seen anybody who really cared. I don’t really like mentioning sexes in general. I actually feel like if I use girl and boy, I’m talking to a pet or a child. I’m also in middle school btw. I don’t want to call others girls or boys because they have already reached puberty, yet it feels like I’m making them seem more mature by using women/men. We do not consider ourselves young children or adults. I think “Ladies and gentlemen” is also pretty good, but it also seems too mature and a lot of them won’t agree with being ladies or gentlemen. I do not want to agree for one side, I just want to know what I should use.
2:57 - “Is this implying that basic hygiene is a feminine thing?”
Oh, Jamie, you sweet summer child, I take it you haven’t yet come across any posts about those men who don’t wipe their butts because it would make them gay to touch there, have you....? 🙃 Yes, this is a real thing. I wish I was making it up. 🤢
I wish I didn’t know what you were talking about, but sadly I do.
That's it- we've failed. Humanity had it's go, it did terribly.
You're gonna laugh, I really had someone call me effeminate for washing my hands too often. On a festival where there was mud and dirt all over.
Oh god, do those guys actually smell like it?
@@Mithcoriel Yupp. And you don't want to see the house of that guy in my anecdote.
I am so tired of people making memes about hating women an whenever I point it out their just like "wOmEn cAn'T tAkE a jOkE" it irritates me so much
The best part is when a woman makes a sexist joke they get triggered. In some situations they weren't even sexist just random memes bruh
@@objection6061 bruh yes some person was making fun of dudes on the internet because they being sexist and the dudes in comments were like
Some dude: "bRo yOu dIn'T hAvE tO eXpOsE pEoPlE lIkE tHaT wOmEn gEt sO pReSsEd oVeR mEn sAyInG aNyThInG"
Like AAAAA and also i hate when their like "oMg mY wIfE iS sO aNoYyiNG sHe cAn'T jUsT sHuT uP" like I hate that so much
@@ch1oee_0702 omg yes I've seen people make edits of this sexist men like what-
2:40 Why would you use The Rock of all people? Everyone knows the Rock cooks, you can always smell what the Rock is cooking
also he posts the food he makes for his EPIC CHEAT DAY...like bro....
„ Are the men okay? “
Short Answer: no
Long Answer: this video
To be fair, these are pretty extreme. To also be fair, I've had to hear the milder versions of this nonsense all my life. I'm kind of tired of it. ("Kind of" here translates as VERY)
To be totally fair, I've also got very tired of the women's version of this kind of thing. Can't people just learn to be humans?
I'm not holding my breath, but it would be nice.
Jamie and every man who treats their SO with respect thank you because it is so easy to have these sorts of comments impact your general view on men but y’all remind me that there are good men out there ya just gotta look beyond the internet
I actually know a couple where the father was in more pain during childbirth than the mother, in the exact same situation you described!
Whenever straight women talk about the 0rgasm gap, every man comments "Communicate" without realizing that they need to listen too 🙄
Most of the time they are willing to listen. It's just that a lot of women assume they won't and thus place the blame on them. Communication needs to be mutual.
@@alexreid7386 🤣
Honey, if those heteros have the self-awareness to say, "communicate," then they have the self-awareness to listen … and are willing to! Str8 men who aren't going to listen to you in the bedroom are _never_ going to ask you to tell them what you want while you're having sex.
As a man who has sex with men, let me tell you - we're not telepathic and we know it. The guys who only care about getting their rocks off, gay or str8, are lousy lays. The only difference is that _we_ gay guys will tell him, "you're garbage in bed," while you women are trained to always acquiesce to men's desires and wants. Other guys _want_ to see their partners enjoying themselves, whether a str8 guy or a gay top. Those are the men who _want communication,_ and they find it very unappealing to have a partner who just lies there.
@@John_Weiss except that they are talking about orgasm gap and blaming women instead of admiting they tend to be selfish sex partners.
The "comunicate"is not self awareness, is selfishness. Is not different than using the excuse "she didn't say no" or "they send mixed signals, when don't read minds" when you hear women coming out about sexual assault.
@@rileysjonger4192 OR women have been raised in a society where they are taught that their opinions don't matter and should go unvoiced, and men aren't how taught to process criticism properly. So, in relationships where the orgasm gap is an issue, even in other parts of their relationships, if the woman communicates an issue, the man doesn't listen, gaslights her by telling her she's overreacting, says he'll change and won't, or just otherwise women's criticism is framed as 'naggy' or unreasonable so women don't communicate their issues. There's a reason why toxic heterosexual marriage humour about how men hate their wives for asking them to pick up after themselves or do basic things is so common. We've created a culture where women get dumped on for communicating their needs and then act surprised when they don't.
For men to expect women to communicate, they have to actually help create an environment where that communication is possible, and where it is consistently well recieved.
my mom was fairly thin when she was dating - her wedding dress was in the low double digits size-wise (US 10/12, 1985). These days, we're around the same size and I'm 'hopelessly' single. Though I have long, blonde hair and a fairly clear social/driving/criminal record - I'm also NOTABLY overweight. Therefore, since MEN are visual creatures, I'm screwed (as is my plus-size best friend). I'm here to say, as an Autistic individual, MEN aren't the only 'visual' creatures. Too many people think this way. Admittedly, I have a thin female friend who is also notably single - she's tall, and pretty - but doesn't look like a cover-model; therefore, the men in our region give her a wide berth also. The world is just full of ridiculously terrible people allowed to run rough-shod over other people with terrible/no excuses prepared because they lucked into power or whatever...