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I totally agree! I think the idea of gender euphoria is really useful when talking about this kind of stuff too, like, someone might not feel a huge amount of discomfort/disconnect when read as one way so they might not call it dysphoria, but they could feel a lot better/comfortable read another way ie. euphoria.
i think i can perfectly identify with this... like, i’m neutral with looking at my own body in the mirror, but the thought of anyone perceiving/gendering me as female when i go out is crushing. thank you so much for articulating this concept.
For me personally I have A LOT of social dysphoria- way more than physical. I have a small chest so it's "manageable" and most of the time I'm indifferent about my junk (I'm either meh about it or the bottom dysphoria is crippling). I'm glad you talked about this as sometimes I feel like I'm "not trans enough" for being meh about my body but yet people overlook the fact that being misgendered feels like I'm being physically punched and I want to scream each time it's so crushing.
Great video. Its often overlooked that there are many different ways to experience gender dysphoria, some people have no body dysphoria, but exactly as you describe, experience social dysphoria . Im mostly dyshoria free, body wise at least but I find it often rears its giggly head in social situations and its different to the social anxiety I feel, its directly related to my not feeling male enough, not understanding how to do male interactions etc. I wonder if people who say they dont have dysphoria are labelling what they feel as anxiety, rather than social gender dysphoria
That's what I wonder too. Being trans without dysphoria doesn't make much sense to me but I'm really trying to understand and I'm open for discussion. But everytime someone tried to explain it to me, all I've heard was something along the lines of "I do have dysphoria but don't call it that".
THIS. This is exactly how I feel. I'm so happy to see someone else saying it, because I often don't feel like I can express this without getting hate and being called a truscum.
Yeah my social dysphoria can be really crippling, although I do get physical dysphoria too. I absolutely agree that dysphoria is so much more than your physical shell, just as transition isn't all medical.
thank you so mush. I didn't know. didn't have the words. I have a lot of social dysphoria. that is why I'm so uncomfortable, even as a little kid. because my body dysphoria is not that bad I was thinking that perhaps am not trans or trans enough to count. I have social dysphoria. that's what is called. shit. I feel happy and really sad all at once. but thank you so much for this.
Yeah that’s me. I have always been okay with my bod my on a private level. I get less positive about it when I’m really trying to enforce my gender to the public but I have no innate problems with it. But I just feel very happy when referred to as male and pissed off when referred to as female and I’ve had that since I was a little kid. Also in puberty I always envisioned my sex life would be that of a gay man until I had to train myself out of that thought. I’m bi and I think earlier on I leaned towards men but as I’ve grown older I found myself leaning more towards women. I think this is partially because I find it hard to see myself expressing such a strange gender identity in a seemingly “straight” relationship. Sometimes I wonder if I could fix all these weird compromises I’m making in my life by medically transitioning, but I can never be sure I want to go through with that difficulty when I am quite fine in my body. I would be undergoing major surgery for the sake of other people. I like the idea of a more cis male body but i just do not need to go through with that so do not know why I would subject myself to that. But at the same time I’m constantly frustrated because there’s no other consistent way of me getting addressed the way I want to be.
I always felt really bad when people said I must be a lesbian because I was more masculine and already had a kinda deep voice. so I always hated people looking at me because I assumed that they saw me as a lesbian. But I am a gay (trans) man and I neither identify as woman nor am I interested in them and that hit me hard everytime some person said I had to be a lesbian. Short story: One time there was a drunk dude and I wasn't out then and he started talking to me because I had a Ukulele with me and then he said I was lowering my voice (which I didn't) and then he said "but you're a lesbian right? And I said NO but he insisted on his opinion and I felt like I have to punch him in the face for being so disrespectful but then again he was drunk and I am anxious. PS love your videos :)
This is so hard for me I have no physical dysphoria and strong social dysphoria. I'm terrified of having to change in order to pass and end up breaking down. I don't want my body or voice to change. I don't want to bind as having something on my chest reminds me of wearing bras. I love my long hair because I'm a metalhead and can't stand the thought of cutting it. But I can't stand how society perceives me. I feel like I could be so happy if people just could see me as masculine but it tears me up the thought of changing for others. It feels like there is no way road for me. I also know that if I'm perceived physically male I might be perceived threatening to some people and that is another thing I really don't want.
I actually made a post on /r/ask_transgender worried I wasn't trans enough because I only experience physical apathy (tldr: I see my boobs as mounds of fat on my chest; my vajayjay is a glorified hole, stuff goes in, stuff comes out. I don't want to go all amateur surgeon on myself to fix these problems and really I'm just kinda uncomfortably meh about them) while having REALLY awkward social dysphoria, made even worse because I'm pre-everything except binding because I'm over 18 and not financially stable enough. Oh btw Chase, I'm really lovin the teal hair, it looks great on you ♥!
I always like to differentiate between physical dysphoria and social dysphoria! I think it helps to separate the two and describe how I feel in both aspects because I have so much social dysphoria but my physical dysphoria is not as bad and is about very specific things. I've been called "not trans enough" for not having a lot of physical dysphoria and it just kinda sucks.
I experience a lot of social dysphoria and some bottom regarding the monthly cycle. to top the social dysphoria I have social anxiety and because of it I don't feel comfortable finding a job, for example. great news tho I'm somewhat close to getting HRT but need to run karyotype and diagnosis and hopefully HRT at the end.
I can never tell if what I have counts as social dysphoria because for me it's so mild. I found that when I was saying "I am she" it was a bit of a letdown to know that I dare not say "I am he" in that context, but that dysphoria was (at least for the most part) resolved by having the option to express whichever gender I want in other contexts. I think some of the confusion may come from the fact that it's possible to be dual-gendered, which is under the trans umbrella, but if a person's birth gender is one of their genders, why would they necessarily have dysphoria about it at all?
i think i've always had social dysphoria since i was kid. i've always hated my name. it always felt wrong/off. i don't leave the house (go to college or work) cuz i don't want to be gendered as my birth gender. this also goes for getting haircuts. i hate hearing my name being called. i never want to introduce myself cuz i don't want to say my birth name so i turn the other way. my family introduces myself for me, cuz i'm uncomfortable. it feels gross and wrong. sometimes i get rlly angry over it and just want to sleep it off all the time. i feel like when i'm around girls i have to act like a douche bag or something so i don't come off as (birth gender). since being more "sensitive" is socially feminine. and terms like "pretty," ect rlly bother me. it makes me feel rlly ugly and hate myself.
I really like your hoodie, it’s really cool :)
Social dysphoria hits so hard when the lesbians try to hit me up cause I don't pass. c: *this kills the man*
who care maybe they're not fully lesbian. But yeah that burns urgh
omg yes!
people hit on y’all ?? 😔
I totally agree! I think the idea of gender euphoria is really useful when talking about this kind of stuff too, like, someone might not feel a huge amount of discomfort/disconnect when read as one way so they might not call it dysphoria, but they could feel a lot better/comfortable read another way ie. euphoria.
i think i can perfectly identify with this... like, i’m neutral with looking at my own body in the mirror, but the thought of anyone perceiving/gendering me as female when i go out is crushing. thank you so much for articulating this concept.
Potatohead827 Exactly the same for me. I feel less alone now
This is the exact thought I had about “trans people without dysphoria”. THANK YOU for saying it with your big platform. I appreciate this so much
For me personally I have A LOT of social dysphoria- way more than physical. I have a small chest so it's "manageable" and most of the time I'm indifferent about my junk (I'm either meh about it or the bottom dysphoria is crippling). I'm glad you talked about this as sometimes I feel like I'm "not trans enough" for being meh about my body but yet people overlook the fact that being misgendered feels like I'm being physically punched and I want to scream each time it's so crushing.
Great video. Its often overlooked that there are many different ways to experience gender dysphoria, some people have no body dysphoria, but exactly as you describe, experience social dysphoria . Im mostly dyshoria free, body wise at least but I find it often rears its giggly head in social situations and its different to the social anxiety I feel, its directly related to my not feeling male enough, not understanding how to do male interactions etc. I wonder if people who say they dont have dysphoria are labelling what they feel as anxiety, rather than social gender dysphoria
That's what I wonder too. Being trans without dysphoria doesn't make much sense to me but I'm really trying to understand and I'm open for discussion. But everytime someone tried to explain it to me, all I've heard was something along the lines of "I do have dysphoria but don't call it that".
I definitely feel like I feel way more social dysphoria than body dysphoria😊
I hope you feel as happy as you seem here, and you're not just disassociating
THIS. This is exactly how I feel. I'm so happy to see someone else saying it, because I often don't feel like I can express this without getting hate and being called a truscum.
Yeah my social dysphoria can be really crippling, although I do get physical dysphoria too. I absolutely agree that dysphoria is so much more than your physical shell, just as transition isn't all medical.
daddi adjusts hoodie at end to reveal no shirt underneath I AM ALERT
Thank you for covering this topic.
I love your jumper, it looks so good on you!!
thank you so mush. I didn't know. didn't have the words. I have a lot of social dysphoria. that is why I'm so uncomfortable, even as a little kid. because my body dysphoria is not that bad I was thinking that perhaps am not trans or trans enough to count. I have social dysphoria. that's what is called. shit. I feel happy and really sad all at once. but thank you so much for this.
Yeah that’s me. I have always been okay with my bod my on a private level. I get less positive about it when I’m really trying to enforce my gender to the public but I have no innate problems with it. But I just feel very happy when referred to as male and pissed off when referred to as female and I’ve had that since I was a little kid. Also in puberty I always envisioned my sex life would be that of a gay man until I had to train myself out of that thought. I’m bi and I think earlier on I leaned towards men but as I’ve grown older I found myself leaning more towards women. I think this is partially because I find it hard to see myself expressing such a strange gender identity in a seemingly “straight” relationship. Sometimes I wonder if I could fix all these weird compromises I’m making in my life by medically transitioning, but I can never be sure I want to go through with that difficulty when I am quite fine in my body. I would be undergoing major surgery for the sake of other people. I like the idea of a more cis male body but i just do not need to go through with that so do not know why I would subject myself to that. But at the same time I’m constantly frustrated because there’s no other consistent way of me getting addressed the way I want to be.
You look great, chase and I love your hoodie! 😊
Your hoodie kind of looks like a rug I love it!
You look so good on this video??
Thank you Chase :) will wait for your video about it that you mentioned
Love you chase! 💙
Social dysphoria and social transitioning is the hardest part of my transition.
Wear that hoodie more often, cute
I always felt really bad when people said I must be a lesbian because I was more masculine and already had a kinda deep voice. so I always hated people looking at me because I assumed that they saw me as a lesbian. But I am a gay (trans) man and I neither identify as woman nor am I interested in them and that hit me hard everytime some person said I had to be a lesbian.
Short story:
One time there was a drunk dude and I wasn't out then and he started talking to me because I had a Ukulele with me and then he said I was lowering my voice (which I didn't) and then he said "but you're a lesbian right? And I said NO but he insisted on his opinion and I felt like I have to punch him in the face for being so disrespectful but then again he was drunk and I am anxious.
PS love your videos :)
thank you so much for this video
nice socks
This is so hard for me I have no physical dysphoria and strong social dysphoria.
I'm terrified of having to change in order to pass and end up breaking down. I don't want my body or voice to change. I don't want to bind as having something on my chest reminds me of wearing bras. I love my long hair because I'm a metalhead and can't stand the thought of cutting it.
But I can't stand how society perceives me.
I feel like I could be so happy if people just could see me as masculine but it tears me up the thought of changing for others.
It feels like there is no way road for me.
I also know that if I'm perceived physically male I might be perceived threatening to some people and that is another thing I really don't want.
What a nice hoodie! damn
I actually made a post on /r/ask_transgender worried I wasn't trans enough because I only experience physical apathy (tldr: I see my boobs as mounds of fat on my chest; my vajayjay is a glorified hole, stuff goes in, stuff comes out. I don't want to go all amateur surgeon on myself to fix these problems and really I'm just kinda uncomfortably meh about them) while having REALLY awkward social dysphoria, made even worse because I'm pre-everything except binding because I'm over 18 and not financially stable enough.
Oh btw Chase, I'm really lovin the teal hair, it looks great on you ♥!
I always like to differentiate between physical dysphoria and social dysphoria! I think it helps to separate the two and describe how I feel in both aspects because I have so much social dysphoria but my physical dysphoria is not as bad and is about very specific things. I've been called "not trans enough" for not having a lot of physical dysphoria and it just kinda sucks.
AN AD!!
I experience a lot of social dysphoria and some bottom regarding the monthly cycle. to top the social dysphoria I have social anxiety and because of it I don't feel comfortable finding a job, for example. great news tho I'm somewhat close to getting HRT but need to run karyotype and diagnosis and hopefully HRT at the end.
I can never tell if what I have counts as social dysphoria because for me it's so mild. I found that when I was saying "I am she" it was a bit of a letdown to know that I dare not say "I am he" in that context, but that dysphoria was (at least for the most part) resolved by having the option to express whichever gender I want in other contexts. I think some of the confusion may come from the fact that it's possible to be dual-gendered, which is under the trans umbrella, but if a person's birth gender is one of their genders, why would they necessarily have dysphoria about it at all?
Am I trans even if I have physical disforia but not social?
I GOT AN ADD💙
i think i've always had social dysphoria since i was kid. i've always hated my name. it always felt wrong/off. i don't leave the house (go to college or work) cuz i don't want to be gendered as my birth gender. this also goes for getting haircuts. i hate hearing my name being called. i never want to introduce myself cuz i don't want to say my birth name so i turn the other way. my family introduces myself for me, cuz i'm uncomfortable. it feels gross and wrong. sometimes i get rlly angry over it and just want to sleep it off all the time. i feel like when i'm around girls i have to act like a douche bag or something so i don't come off as (birth gender). since being more "sensitive" is socially feminine. and terms like "pretty," ect rlly bother me. it makes me feel rlly ugly and hate myself.
totally beside the point of this video, but i love your hoodie! 😍 fits very well to your awesome hair colour
totally beside the point of this video, but i love your hoodie! 😍 fits very well to your awesome hair colour