As a woman id feel uncomfortable if a guy sat directly next to me during a date, especially if youre trying to box me into a space like that, no thank you
Im a weirdo who sits rollercoaster style with my bf (to let him be my extroverted social buffer) but I’d have ghosted immediately if that was a seating arrangement someone new to me just assumed off top.
Personally, I'm with you. I wouldn't feel very comfortable with someone sitting right next to me during a date. I don't want someone immediately invading my personal space before I've gotten a chance to get to know them.
Most of this guy's advice reminds me of this guy I met at a bar who I thought was going to assault me. That situation ended when I screamed "Stop trying to trap me in a corner", ran out of the bar crying, and called my friend to pick me up. I think the guy actually got banned from the bar because the bartender was concerned.
I'm a female and I'd RUN from this man. I am considered pretty aggressive, not shy about speaking my mind etc though I'm a nice person, but this character pushes my buttons of Stay Away, Get Away. He is far too aggressive, radiates narcissism and uh...aggression almost to the point of criminality. Thx Logan.
Agreed. This man radiates aggression, unfulfillment, bottled up negative emotions, self unaware. For me, this kind of a man is not even a one night stand consideration. Those men tend to be possessive, delusional, nagging and a walking red flag. This alpha bs content is preparing men for a world that isn't real. We aren't animals anymore, we don't need to be aggressive, violent and possessive to ensure our survival. Those men want to live in stone age, but the stone age has passed thousands of years ago.
I feel bad for dudes like this. They are so lost, and don’t realize these things they’re doing to “help” them, end up being a catalyst for their misery! No one likes a phony.
To be frank, it may not be the most popular opinion, but I would rather have guys listen to this nonsense for the simple fact that I would IMMEDIATELY know not to go near them. I really don't think they're lost. I think they seek validation from thinking the way they do.
Men who have that weird long stride sway walk, I notice them. I notice them because i immediately think their walk is compensating for some insecurity, are likely unstable and aggressively reactive.
@@bs667 sure Jan. It’s sad that any of these little boys think that spreading their legs far apart will convince anyone that they have a big shmick. It won’t dude.
As someone with autism, I absolutely love your channel and content. The way you describe and give reasons as to why humans behave the way they do has helped me so much with my social interactions!
As a women this guy just looks ridiculous to me, and very forced behaviour. Love this different style of content! Especially when I think a lot of young men go to these for self confidence, hopefully your video will also pop up and they may be so inclined to see how truly ridiculous this is
This content isn’t remotely interested in anything other than other men’s attention, and certainly not attracting an actual women interested in anything more than a one-night-stand.
I, a woman, wouldn't want to be anywhere NEAR this guy. He's too aggressive. Even his pointing gesture looked like he was trying to punch someone. The forceful voice almost every other syllable was grating on my nerves, and it made me want to tune him out. If this kind of guy came up to me, shoving a hand in my face with a way to aggressive greeting, I'd be glancing around for an exit. This is a guy who won't take No for an answer. I automatically think abusive. Guys who do this never take into account a real woman's reaction. And guys who do this headbutting look like kids fighting over a toy. The booth thing looks and feels awkward and unbalanced. He can also trap you there. Aside from entrapment, you'll constantly have to turn your head while eating; very uncomfortable. Sitting across, you can make good eye contact and actually show you're listening. My dad, back in his frat days, were known for how well-mannered they were. When we're outside, walking, or anywhere on a sidewalk, would always be on the right, the side the road was on. I asked him about it, and he said it had to do with protection against splashing from cars, and even from cars that stray toward the sidewalk. The frat is no longer like this, anymore. Like. Tom Hiddelston would have fit in perfectly back when. They were gentlemen.
alpha guys are marketing to men, men think being aggressive is manly. He's bang on for selling to his target audience. But sadly for those who fall for it, his product is snake oil.
I like this type of video!! I have been following this channel for many years, because I was studying the topic and I needed good and reliable informations: here, Spidey and the Behavioural Panel the best sources. The problem with these sources? The style. I am a nerd, I like to discover things, I'm all ears, I love to listen to a teacher figure, while most people hate it, and are more likable to listen to simple and simplistic tips. You know, attention span, boredom, rush to get an answer... even if you talk fast and have personality, they just can't stand it. Then there are moments when everyone is tired, mentally drained, and one can't receive that load of information, the mind melts. A reaction video like this one, is a more suitable packaging. It's packed with info, but it feels light. The more you roast, the better, if you consider the views. But I appreciate that you remained respectful, there's no need to trash people and attract rage on them, if they're ignorant but they are not causing harm; the goal is understanding how humans behave, and utilising this knowledge in an ethical way. I am also contrary to manipulation, and it's never a good idea when you change yourself entirely, like every existing behaviour is wrong and creepy. Chances are that the new Frankenstein will result creepier. Change one thing at a time. Sorry for my English. I also wanted to say that here in Italy only in the latest years there are behavioural experts on TV (and they do their best to sound pedantic and snob) so the common understanding arrives from that series "Lie to me" it was very popular, and from NLP neurolinguistic programming (the ones who took the courses are bothering the others and always sees you like an experiment). I dont understand why this human and natural form of communication is not taught at school (not the usual half page at the beginning of the grammar book! But the same hours as verbal communication, at least) you would be perfect!! Instead it falls too often in the "education kit" of manipulators, from innocuous (?) marketing to the biggest villain. It's their weapon to fool us, because we are unaware of these very intrinsic and essential human characteristics and biases. I am an artist and the colour itself has an unprecedented power, but people think of colours only to match the makeup or to paint properly the walls. That's sad. Sorry I talk too much, but you asked for a feedback, and I never commented all the other times... (Now and then, don't pivot) you should make a lighter video like this one, why not?
you know what people are attracted to? What they want to be around? AUTHENTICITY. Not trickery. If you're authentic, if you're genuine and genuinely interested in others, they are interested in you.
That's when our gut instinct kicks in and we say, "I don't know, something just seems *off* about this person." We may not cognitively know why there's de-synchronization, but our instinct will always protect us.
YES! - there’s a book called ‘The Gift of Fear” by Gavin deBecker that I have literally recommended to everyone I know that talks about the need to trust your instincts. Our brains are so much smarter than we give it credit for.
Who the FUCK goes in for a handshake with their palm up or down? It's a handshake. Your palm comes in sideways. Your hand is SIDEWAYS in order to grab the other person's hand in a comfortable grip. It just feels fucking wrong to not have my hand sideways for a handshake. Even in the video it just looks unnatural.
If you look at politicians, for example, you'll often see a "handshake game" going on. It's usually very quick too. Both go in sideways and one will then turn their hands so their own is in top. And a lot of them, the ones with the "dominating hand", will put their other hand around the upper arm or on the shoulder of the other.
Legit 😭 like I have never met anyone to shake anything but sideways. Like which goof thinks that's a good idea to shake it like youre an alien and had never shaken hands before 😭😭😭
Because he's consciously doing it. Most of the time, those kinds of people will go in with the hand vertically, and then turn both hands so theirs on top.
there's nothing that makes me feel more confident than being hyper aware and micro managing every expression and part of my body at all times, down to controlling my feet to head ratio and measurement of my steps while walking
LOL Thank you so much for the captions, I heard "douchey end" smile from him and had to look away from work to catch the correct word. I'm a people observer myself and this junk would trigger so many red flags. I'd just be uncomfortable with them and never trust a thing they say. The walking thing annoyed me. I'm one of the tallest in my social circle, I match my pace to my less height friendly friends and family. I'm not about to force my mom to try to keep up with my larger strides. Also, I love Spidey!
when people say "I'm an empath", " I just feel so much empathy"- that's them telling you they're not. when men proclaim from the rooftops that they're alpha males... you know it's phucking bs
Eh.... agree to disagree... having the feeling of being empathetic is not similar to having the feeling of being alpha male. I am sure there are people who abuse the phrase and do not actually have empathy. That I can understand. Most alpha males in context are actually almost always completely out of touch. Empathy doesn't exist in their vocabulary. If empathy exists somehow in your life descriptively, that alone holds more weight in my mind of its existence. Empathy requires a lot of real life experiences.
@@cbeverage18 The funniest thing is - there are no alpha males. It was shown long ago that the idea of the alpha male in the wild was a misinterpretation. Packs, groups and herds are mostly lead by by a male and a female, the females often making the survival decisions (where to eat, hunt, drink) while the males provide look out for dangers.
@@cbeverage18 I run a mile from ANYONE who refers to themself as an empath. I’m quite long in the tooth, so I remember a time when such concepts were acknowledged as ridiculous. Many people who say this are the same people who, a generation earlier, would have described themselves as “sensitive”. Which, if it means more emotionally labile, caught up in their own emotions, and maybe a little immature … is pretty much true. But far from being more than normally perceptive about others, they tend to overlay their own sentimental preconceptions and narrative on them. That is, they FAIL more than average to distinguish their own emotional state from what the “object” of their empathy is experiencing. This is especially true with people who claim to be animal empaths. There’s a Dunning-Krueger aspect to it all.
I'm laughing because I always say "if you have to tell people that you're an empath/alpha/good person etc, then I'm going to immediately think the opposite" - kinda the whole "show, don't tell" thing. I've legitimately met people (all genders) that have said they're "alpha" or insinuated something of that nature and I almost immediately locked in on how insecure they sounded and looked, despite saying the opposite! 😂
All these tips just make me think of the weird guys from high school and college that were WAY too assertive and "confident". We made fun of them when they left the area and no one with any level of self-respect would go near them romantically.
That dude looks like such a parody in the thumbnail. Like AI tried to generate an "alpha" male based on certain people lmao. Let's not forget that most of these guys who claim to get all the girls tend to pay for the ones they feature in their photos, lol.
I have autism and the eyebrow flair is one I have to do consciously because I’ve had people misinterpret me as not being interested when I am and I realized it was because I wasn’t showing them with my eyes. Otherwise I’ve been told I have a very animated face, but when I’m concentrating my face tends to go very neutral, which might come across as disinterested. I mean, that’s a big reason why I watch these videos. It’s fascinating. If I met this alpha guy in person, or any alpha male type, they’d make me (and have made me) very very uncomfortable. Even with a disability I can tell really well when someone is being phony. Faking authenticity is a huge pet peeve of mine, because I and many others like me have had to work so hard on showing people that we ARE being authentic.
This was an awesome video. God, that was painful for me too! I'm an INFJ personality type, so alphas really turn me off. If you have to force yourself onto people like this to get them to like you, then clearly you have some personal growth to take care of--a hell of a lot, I might add. You can't hack sincerity . . . sorry to those who think they can. As a man, I feel embarrassed for the men who behave like this. Clearly, he looks down on all other humans, him assuming them to be unintelligent. The irony ;) Thanks so much for this!
It might be weird, but I don't even like for my husband to sit beside me in a restaurant. I need to be able to look at who I'm talking to. I don't sit beside the tv when I watch it so why would I want to crane my neck sideways to talk to someone. Also, that guy would make me never want to be around him.
These techniques are really only meant to work on insecure people. Which in the eyes of Alpha Males(TM) describes the majority of the population. This video helps me understand why, when I see an Andrew Tate-like person I can't help but wonder, "Are you even human?"
I think these techniques are also meant to be used on women during hook up scenarios. Like if you're just trying to get laid, then do these things. Because in theory, they hit all those indicators that women instinctively find attractive. Of course, these techniques only work in the short term. Unless you've attracted a woman who is super insecure or unstable. The healthy masculine men I've known show some of these traits, but also have qualities like empathy and compassion. This allows them to be strong but still pro-social. It also helps them have stable long term relationships.
TLDR of this man: "Tell me you never have ever seen, interracted with, or dated a person, without talling me you haven't seen, interracted, or dated a person." Zero social cue. Zero awareness. Zero. He's a zero. Boring. Throw it in the trash.
if I meet this type of person, I ABSOLUTELY CANNOT take them seriously! they are insecure, a bit like standing and screaming for attention in a room of deaf people 😂
I feel so sorry for the guy who first coined Alpha theory , because he debunked himself later , saying it was inaccurate and flawed. If he could see where its been taken i suspect he would be mortified.
absolutely - that's how I knew I needed a divorce. there was literally zero difference between when he was there and when he was gone (even if for long periods of time)
3:33 “by the end of this video you will learn exactly what you need to do-“, brotha all I’m learning from you is that it is, indeed, possible to strain my eyes from frequently rolling them so hard in under 4 minutes.
Here's my alternative title for this guy's video: "A psychopath's guide to manipulative body language" Also, pro tip for all the aspiring "Alphas" in the room: That entire wolf pack/alpha male BS was completely debunked. The guy that did the study where this all came from (studying wolf social dynamics and behavior), *his self* admitted his results were compromised, and near worthless. Why? He made one crucial error: The wolves he was studying, were captive wolves. As it turns out, Male Wolf dominance hierarchies and pack/family dynamics operate *completely* differently, when in their wild, natural habitat. However there is a catch... Can you guys which human dynamics this study actually DOES mirror, and where the fallacious "Alpha Male" dynamic actually IS present? Prison. Do you know which prisoners are typically at the top of these hierarchies? The psychopaths. ...Or more accurately, the most psychopathic among them. Fitting, considering the study was done on essentially, prison wolves.
Ick the pointer finger handshake makes me feel so uncomfortable, like can you not basically feel up my hand? It would instantly make me want to slap someone away. All this dominance thing makes me laugh, cause I'm used to horses. Dominance in horses fluctuates, depending on which herd member they're interacting with. They also "bow" when they're trying to tell another horse that they are non-threatening or agreeing with something they want, which happens among dominant and submissive members. So the whole thing about body language changing depending on social circles is so understandable.
In my profession I shake hands about 40-50 times a day with different people. I have never had someone try to do this weird over under handshake or this finger thing and if it did ever happen I would call them out on it. It just seems very strange and douchey
That dude is so annoying, he jumps in his poor chair like some toddler that hasn't been around the block yet. It permanently makes me want to send him out to get off that toddler energy. I feared throughout the video, that the poor furniture will eventually break
The guy’s major misconception is that he has taken well-known observations of what people do in various situations - and uncritically repurposed these into prescriptions for how to make an impression on strangers. People just don’t function that way. For instance, women (in particular) who are comfortable and familiar with one another, often adopt side-by-side or right-angle positions close to each other. This does NOT mean the same people will be one bit positive about any stranger or semi-stranger cosying up to them that way.
I am the same way, cannot stand when people talk slowly. That is another reason to appreciate your videos! Miss reactions to reality TV episodes. I don't watch them myself, but love seeing you suffer through these cringy shows😅
I read about the eye wrinkles when smiling as a kid comparing why British people smiling seemed more genuine, so I made sure as a kid to make sure I got the eye wrinkles, but I only thought about it as making sure I was properly communicating, not trying to manipulate people.
Oh my gosh, yes, thank you. The eyebrow thing IS douchey and tells me a guy is not interested in a partner as equals, and if he does, he doesn’t know what the hell he’s doing. So if I catch a guy doing that, I have no patience. I am getting up and leaving. Just fricken’ ask a question or something.
I had an epiphany. I just realized how many men do this in real life, step by step. It's SO repulsive. Almost disturbing, because it's not only inconsiderate, it's actually a conscious thing, which adds a level of phonyness on top of it. Yikes on a bike.
I feel bad for the guys who buy into this stuff. I know how stressful it is to hypermask and I can't imagine sitting at a date, going through a literal checklist of all the things you should do with your body, instead of actually engaging with the situation. Sadly, I've met far too many men like this
31:08 You don’t even have to think about mirroring someone - if you are on the same page, your body does that automatically. I love knowing a lot about body language, because today I know a lot of times, why I have a certain gut feeling in certain situations. If someone tries to force their body language to do something they don’t feel most of the time - makes me feel uneasy and I always felt weird for wanting to stay away from those people because I couldn’t say why I felt this way. Today I know that one of my core values is honesty - that‘s why such a body language is appalling to me. Because it feels as if they have something to hide. That’s also the reason why I get sick when I see videos about ‚body language life hacks‘ - the body language is intuitive and therefore a lot quicker than „thinking about how to react and then do that“ - that just won’t work. It will just feel weird to you (for it’s counterintuitive) and to the other person who gets mixed signals.
I can't imagine going through life choreographing every move I make with the intention of manipulating a situation. I'm authentic. I relate to authentic people. If you have to "bro so hard" with your eyebrow, I'm gonna notice and exit stage left. Then laugh at you behind your back.
As someone on the spectrum, I’ve always loved your videos as a kind of study of various expressions, and how to establish a baseline for people. So yes, conscionable people wouldn’t use this to their own gain, but I’ve found it personally super helpful in trying to communicate with people where they’re at, and compensate for the fact that I don’t instinctively catch a lot of social cues. Thanks for helping with that. :)
After Covid, I don't know ANYONE who wants to do handshakes, now. Everyone I know, including myself, would rather just nod and smile politely than touch someone because Covid has not gone away, and people are still getting sick and dying from Covid. My grandfather just died last month from it. So, I'm not in a rush to touch anyone, especially a stranger.
I hated it 20 years ago. "I don't know you, I'm not touching your nasty hand!". I'm far from a germophile too. Your butthole is probably cleaner than your hand.
I really enjoyed your analysis/commentary bc some of these guys who claim to teach “alpha male behavior” seem to be teaching men how to manipulate women
At the beginning of this video I thought to myself, "I wonder if Logan and Spidey would ever do a video together." And I was secretly hoping you both dont secretly hate each other 😂😅 then you referenced his video! I was pleasantly surprised.
When you're a good person already, you don't need these tips and tricks to have people like you. I'm very popular at work because I am a genuinely nice and helpful person, and this is the ONLY time I will say things like that about myself, since no one else can. But I have been told this numerous times! The only time I would try to manipulate someone is when I'm wanting a job and wanting the interview to go well. But other than that, I don't really see a need to manipulate other people. Edit: And that explanation at around 13:40, this is why I think that people can overcome depression no matter how depressed. I have suffered with it to a great extent but I got so tired of being depressed all the time that I decided to try to change myself. I first started to act happy even when I wasn't. I would even smile to myself in my own room. I would change my thought process. I'm not saying it's easy, and I still go through bouts of depression, but I'm nothing like before. I feel like I have a life again. I'm not 100% happy as there's always something going on in my life, but I'm trying to stay positive and trying to not let depression win by making me give up. It's hard work but I think it's more effective than taking medicine. That and changing certain things about yourself helps as well! That's why I believe that it really is all in the head and that people have more control over their depression than they realize. And this is not to say to NEVER go to therapy or to NEVER take the medicine. I'm just saying that the biggest thing that helps with depression is mindset. When I feel those intrusive thoughts, they still win at times but at other times, I block it and tell myself, you're being so full of it right now! Also, I don't mind if a guy sitting down takes up a little more room. I mean, it must be uncomfortable to squish your bits sitting without some separation.
The only thing that makes the "alpha" guy in the other video interesting is that this channel did a video on him. The biggest thing that'll probably ever happen in that guys life
I mean tbh Jose's a multi millionaire and owns a successful business or 2 He's cringe as heck but I'm sure being on this channel isn't the biggest thing to happen to him 😂
I'd love some more content on this type of mindset. The redpill manosphere alpha BS. Their mindset is fascinating, albeit horrifying. Love to see one on Pearl or the guys on the whatever podcast or someone similar.
When I worked at sport clips, they had full on trainings on how to properly shake hands because it helps men respect us (the female barbers) more. All you need is a confident and proper hand shake. That’s all.
I think a few of the dude's "hacks" could be useful if incorporated in a natural way into daily body language so that it's not so disingenuous or unsynchronized
I used some of the tactics guys like him explain when I was at peak insecurity. I am afab and used it on guys so some things I would take the "bad advice" like the handshake. I still find body language interesting and use it to manage social situations but not to manipulate people to like and trust me but to keep myself and others safe and hopefully comfortable. All in all it is good to understand bodylanguage but in the end people should like me for who I am so fuck em if they think I am weak or whatever, I am who I am and I am proud of where I got in life 🥰.
Much of what I hear from the "alpha male" tips sound like how to be more arrogant rather than confident. Arrogance is loud, overt and abrasive. On a different note, the point about speaking speed I find curious. Is that a reflection of our culture? The more I meditate and take life at a slower appreciative pace the more I don't understand the urgency that others choose in speaking and listening. Listening to others talk sped up strikes me like eating fast, just consuming ravenously rather than mindfully.
This was hilarious - not only the guy trying to act all macho but your reaction to him as well 😂 if I met this dude I would no doubt assume he is overcompensating for something and just laugh at him. It does worry me that there are so many impressionable young people that will probably take this to heart though 😬
I was taught to put my finger out when shaking hands with big blokes by a security guard so my hand couldn’t be crushed. As a small women who has to shake hands with a lot of wanna be alpha males it’s been extremely helpful.
Hey Logan! I've been watching a lot of the Paranormal Files channel on YT lately, and I'd love your take on whether their on-screen reactions are likely genuine or not, especially in the episodes where one of the crew members gets 'affected' by the location (which happens semi regularly). No hate to their channel, just curious as to your take on it! Cheers 😊
For genuine smiles just wanted to add that it also matter at what angle the wrinkles around the eyes are. With a genuine smile they are more diagonal (45°) while a fake smile that uses eye squinting has wrinkles more horizontal and parallel to the eye (like on this uber-masculine muppet).
This video is super interesting. With being trained in body language you can just tell everything about that guy is off. But it's you explain why and give counter advice! Love it!
I hate when men shake my hand, I avoid it if I can, they often crush my hand or hurt my wrist, be firm but gentle ffs, women absolutely nail the right handshake
Omg so glad to hear Im not the only one who can’t watch videos at normal speed anymore. Everything but behavioral videos get watched on 2x speeds behavioral stuff gets listened to at 1.5. Fave to face convos are painfully slow the older I get for some reason 🤣 SN love Spidey’s stuff too. You two are my favs in this genre!
Me too. I can't stand to watch things at normal speed! Also, yes even regular conversations take forever. I so badly want to put my coworkers in double time. Lol
Ha ha ha that's so funny, that's partly why I liked your channel originally, because you talk fast and I listen fast. I really enjoy your videos and have for a few years now. Thanks!
That point handshake reminded me of a handshake we learned about in boy scouts. In it, you would stick out both your pointer finger and your middle finger, but split them up to resemble ears. It sounds tacky and I doubt actually scouts use it. The point handshake feels similar to me.
Funny thing is this all sounds like a bastardization of a lot of information I got in the 90s. The smile thing and holding your head up when you walk, it's a fake it till you make it tactic. Smile at everyone and everything that gives you the tiniest bit of joy until you feel happier. Holding your head up and looking at the world, rather than your feet, can make you feel more confident in yourself and your surroundings. All of that's about you, internally, not about how other people feel about you. Bonus, eyes up is a good way to go as a woman when you've got to go somewhere alone at night, as I've been told it makes you appear more aware of your surroundings and less like an easy target, but I'm not sure I 100% believe that's going to make any significant difference. But the hands in the pockets... I gesture with my hands a lot and have practically zero spacial awareness when moving my body. I also work in a museum with incredibly valuable objects. You know I've got my hands in my pockets, thumbs hooked on the waistband, something to keep those hands from flailing! Same things in crowded spaces, at least one hand in the pocket or thumb hooked on the purse or something, because I'm less likely to whack someone unintentionally. I'm betting I'd get way more judgement if I didn't do those things and continued to take up way more space than makes other people comfortable because I unapologetically take up a lot of space just by existing in my loud, energetic, wildly gesturing person with an equally loud personality. Yes, people say I'm vibrant, interesting, fun, and energetic, which is great, because it's genuine... but it's also important to know there's a time and a place and when to tone it down.
As a woman id feel uncomfortable if a guy sat directly next to me during a date, especially if youre trying to box me into a space like that, no thank you
I didn't say every woman, obviously just talking from personal experience. I'm only one person
@@starShadowe for the love of god don’t sit next to her on the first date, unless directed otherwise
Im a weirdo who sits rollercoaster style with my bf (to let him be my extroverted social buffer) but I’d have ghosted immediately if that was a seating arrangement someone new to me just assumed off top.
@flooshoomoo7104 yeah, that's what I mean, I like to get to know people before they invade my space
Personally, I'm with you. I wouldn't feel very comfortable with someone sitting right next to me during a date. I don't want someone immediately invading my personal space before I've gotten a chance to get to know them.
Most of this guy's advice reminds me of this guy I met at a bar who I thought was going to assault me. That situation ended when I screamed "Stop trying to trap me in a corner", ran out of the bar crying, and called my friend to pick me up. I think the guy actually got banned from the bar because the bartender was concerned.
As a woman, this "alpha" is giving......Chihuahua with his body language. Logan's pain, while not enjoyable, does bring me joy; if that makes sense
I'm a female and I'd RUN from this man. I am considered pretty aggressive, not shy about speaking my mind etc though I'm a nice person, but this character pushes my buttons of Stay Away, Get Away. He is far too aggressive, radiates narcissism and uh...aggression almost to the point of criminality. Thx Logan.
Agreed. This man radiates aggression, unfulfillment, bottled up negative emotions, self unaware. For me, this kind of a man is not even a one night stand consideration. Those men tend to be possessive, delusional, nagging and a walking red flag.
This alpha bs content is preparing men for a world that isn't real. We aren't animals anymore, we don't need to be aggressive, violent and possessive to ensure our survival. Those men want to live in stone age, but the stone age has passed thousands of years ago.
Seeing Logan this triggered by the douchery is so validating
I feel bad for dudes like this. They are so lost, and don’t realize these things they’re doing to “help” them, end up being a catalyst for their misery! No one likes a phony.
To be frank, it may not be the most popular opinion, but I would rather have guys listen to this nonsense for the simple fact that I would IMMEDIATELY know not to go near them. I really don't think they're lost. I think they seek validation from thinking the way they do.
@@a_o011excellent point.
@@a_o011make sense, if you're stupid enough to fall for it then you're probably not the right person anyway 💀
As a woman, he makes me feel very VERY uncomfortable. The smile, body language and facial expressions just turn my hypervigilance to a 100..
I can't tell if the look on Logan's face is physical pain, mental pain, sorrow, pity, cringing, or just overall tired. Maybe all of the above.
I'd add embarrassment. Decent men will be embarrassed by poser 'alpha' males.
This guy's BS reeks so bad that Logan is experiencing sense of smell for the first time
Same as us, all of the above.😂
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@@Lindseyisloony😂😂😂
Men who have that weird long stride sway walk, I notice them. I notice them because i immediately think their walk is compensating for some insecurity, are likely unstable and aggressively reactive.
"take up the space you need" dude has his legs spread apart like hes giving birth. he gives off "cool" middle school kid vibes
minus the _cool_
Maybe he has a giant thing between them and needs needs that extra space
@@bs667 even an elephant knows his skeletal form and won't take up more than he needs.
@@bs667sure he doesn’t! 😉
@@bs667 sure Jan. It’s sad that any of these little boys think that spreading their legs far apart will convince anyone that they have a big shmick. It won’t dude.
As someone with autism, I absolutely love your channel and content. The way you describe and give reasons as to why humans behave the way they do has helped me so much with my social interactions!
Same! 😄
Love your pfp! Also autistic!
same lol
Same here too.
As a women this guy just looks ridiculous to me, and very forced behaviour. Love this different style of content! Especially when I think a lot of young men go to these for self confidence, hopefully your video will also pop up and they may be so inclined to see how truly ridiculous this is
This content isn’t remotely interested in anything other than other men’s attention, and certainly not attracting an actual women interested in anything more than a one-night-stand.
@@maireadnic8280or a ‘sugar daddy’. No thanks.
I, a woman, wouldn't want to be anywhere NEAR this guy. He's too aggressive. Even his pointing gesture looked like he was trying to punch someone. The forceful voice almost every other syllable was grating on my nerves, and it made me want to tune him out. If this kind of guy came up to me, shoving a hand in my face with a way to aggressive greeting, I'd be glancing around for an exit. This is a guy who won't take No for an answer. I automatically think abusive.
Guys who do this never take into account a real woman's reaction. And guys who do this headbutting look like kids fighting over a toy.
The booth thing looks and feels awkward and unbalanced. He can also trap you there. Aside from entrapment, you'll constantly have to turn your head while eating; very uncomfortable. Sitting across, you can make good eye contact and actually show you're listening.
My dad, back in his frat days, were known for how well-mannered they were. When we're outside, walking, or anywhere on a sidewalk, would always be on the right, the side the road was on. I asked him about it, and he said it had to do with protection against splashing from cars, and even from cars that stray toward the sidewalk. The frat is no longer like this, anymore. Like. Tom Hiddelston would have fit in perfectly back when. They were gentlemen.
He's so unbelievably unpleasant.
Yes, yuck factor to the max. I prefer the "soy boy" type aka actual humans comfortable with themselves
agreed, people should just be their authentic self. that's the easiest way to find a partner that suits you, even if it takes a long time.
alpha guys are marketing to men, men think being aggressive is manly. He's bang on for selling to his target audience. But sadly for those who fall for it, his product is snake oil.
I like this type of video!! I have been following this channel for many years, because I was studying the topic and I needed good and reliable informations: here, Spidey and the Behavioural Panel the best sources. The problem with these sources? The style.
I am a nerd, I like to discover things, I'm all ears, I love to listen to a teacher figure, while most people hate it, and are more likable to listen to simple and simplistic tips. You know, attention span, boredom, rush to get an answer... even if you talk fast and have personality, they just can't stand it.
Then there are moments when everyone is tired, mentally drained, and one can't receive that load of information, the mind melts. A reaction video like this one, is a more suitable packaging. It's packed with info, but it feels light.
The more you roast, the better, if you consider the views. But I appreciate that you remained respectful, there's no need to trash people and attract rage on them, if they're ignorant but they are not causing harm; the goal is understanding how humans behave, and utilising this knowledge in an ethical way. I am also contrary to manipulation, and it's never a good idea when you change yourself entirely, like every existing behaviour is wrong and creepy. Chances are that the new Frankenstein will result creepier. Change one thing at a time.
Sorry for my English. I also wanted to say that here in Italy only in the latest years there are behavioural experts on TV (and they do their best to sound pedantic and snob) so the common understanding arrives from that series "Lie to me" it was very popular, and from NLP neurolinguistic programming (the ones who took the courses are bothering the others and always sees you like an experiment). I dont understand why this human and natural form of communication is not taught at school (not the usual half page at the beginning of the grammar book! But the same hours as verbal communication, at least) you would be perfect!! Instead it falls too often in the "education kit" of manipulators, from innocuous (?) marketing to the biggest villain. It's their weapon to fool us, because we are unaware of these very intrinsic and essential human characteristics and biases. I am an artist and the colour itself has an unprecedented power, but people think of colours only to match the makeup or to paint properly the walls. That's sad.
Sorry I talk too much, but you asked for a feedback, and I never commented all the other times... (Now and then, don't pivot) you should make a lighter video like this one, why not?
He even called them “body language tricks.” We don’t need trickery.
you know what people are attracted to? What they want to be around? AUTHENTICITY. Not trickery. If you're authentic, if you're genuine and genuinely interested in others, they are interested in you.
He does lol
That's when our gut instinct kicks in and we say, "I don't know, something just seems *off* about this person."
We may not cognitively know why there's de-synchronization, but our instinct will always protect us.
Yes!
We need toisten to our gut instinct. Fuck social norms and etiquette; when something feels off, it probably is and you need to protect yourself.
YES! - there’s a book called ‘The Gift of Fear” by Gavin deBecker that I have literally recommended to everyone I know that talks about the need to trust your instincts. Our brains are so much smarter than we give it credit for.
Who the FUCK goes in for a handshake with their palm up or down? It's a handshake. Your palm comes in sideways. Your hand is SIDEWAYS in order to grab the other person's hand in a comfortable grip. It just feels fucking wrong to not have my hand sideways for a handshake. Even in the video it just looks unnatural.
I once had someone reach out palm down for a handshake. When I took his hand I turned it sideways. It felt weird to not be sideways.
If you look at politicians, for example, you'll often see a "handshake game" going on. It's usually very quick too. Both go in sideways and one will then turn their hands so their own is in top.
And a lot of them, the ones with the "dominating hand", will put their other hand around the upper arm or on the shoulder of the other.
@@alexnorth9740And many politicians are toxic people, so….makes sense
How ridiculous. as expected of a politician@@alexnorth9740
Legit 😭 like I have never met anyone to shake anything but sideways. Like which goof thinks that's a good idea to shake it like youre an alien and had never shaken hands before 😭😭😭
7:00 Question: who puts their palm up or down in a handshake? I put my palm facing center...because that's how you shake hands 🤝
Because he's consciously doing it. Most of the time, those kinds of people will go in with the hand vertically, and then turn both hands so theirs on top.
He never taught his dog to shake cause he couldn't let it be the alpha
Also, if a man goes in for a handshake with his palm down just grasp his fingers like he's a dainty lady and give them a kiss.
He just wants to have his princess hand kissed by a handsome prince. 😂
there's nothing that makes me feel more confident than being hyper aware and micro managing every expression and part of my body at all times, down to controlling my feet to head ratio and measurement of my steps while walking
LOL Thank you so much for the captions, I heard "douchey end" smile from him and had to look away from work to catch the correct word.
I'm a people observer myself and this junk would trigger so many red flags. I'd just be uncomfortable with them and never trust a thing they say.
The walking thing annoyed me. I'm one of the tallest in my social circle, I match my pace to my less height friendly friends and family. I'm not about to force my mom to try to keep up with my larger strides.
Also, I love Spidey!
when people say "I'm an empath", " I just feel so much empathy"- that's them telling you they're not.
when men proclaim from the rooftops that they're alpha males... you know it's phucking bs
Eh.... agree to disagree... having the feeling of being empathetic is not similar to having the feeling of being alpha male. I am sure there are people who abuse the phrase and do not actually have empathy. That I can understand. Most alpha males in context are actually almost always completely out of touch. Empathy doesn't exist in their vocabulary. If empathy exists somehow in your life descriptively, that alone holds more weight in my mind of its existence. Empathy requires a lot of real life experiences.
@@cbeverage18you just restated OP’s opinion.
@@cbeverage18 The funniest thing is - there are no alpha males. It was shown long ago that the idea of the alpha male in the wild was a misinterpretation. Packs, groups and herds are mostly lead by by a male and a female, the females often making the survival decisions (where to eat, hunt, drink) while the males provide look out for dangers.
@@cbeverage18 I run a mile from ANYONE who refers to themself as an empath. I’m quite long in the tooth, so I remember a time when such concepts were acknowledged as ridiculous. Many people who say this are the same people who, a generation earlier, would have described themselves as “sensitive”. Which, if it means more emotionally labile, caught up in their own emotions, and maybe a little immature … is pretty much true.
But far from being more than normally perceptive about others, they tend to overlay their own sentimental preconceptions and narrative on them.
That is, they FAIL more than average to distinguish their own emotional state from what the “object” of their empathy is experiencing. This is especially true with people who claim to be animal empaths. There’s a Dunning-Krueger aspect to it all.
I'm laughing because I always say "if you have to tell people that you're an empath/alpha/good person etc, then I'm going to immediately think the opposite" - kinda the whole "show, don't tell" thing. I've legitimately met people (all genders) that have said they're "alpha" or insinuated something of that nature and I almost immediately locked in on how insecure they sounded and looked, despite saying the opposite! 😂
Seeing the title and I'm already strapped in, I need popcorn
Aha same! I was like oh hell yeah 🍿🍿
Me too!!!
All these tips just make me think of the weird guys from high school and college that were WAY too assertive and "confident". We made fun of them when they left the area and no one with any level of self-respect would go near them romantically.
I've waited a long time for this. These bozos make insecure men even more insecure. And angry
Also, thank you for embedding subtitles for those of hard of hearing!!
Yes! Deeply appreciated!!
That dude looks like such a parody in the thumbnail. Like AI tried to generate an "alpha" male based on certain people lmao.
Let's not forget that most of these guys who claim to get all the girls tend to pay for the ones they feature in their photos, lol.
This man has the personality of a stock photo.
I have autism and the eyebrow flair is one I have to do consciously because I’ve had people misinterpret me as not being interested when I am and I realized it was because I wasn’t showing them with my eyes. Otherwise I’ve been told I have a very animated face, but when I’m concentrating my face tends to go very neutral, which might come across as disinterested.
I mean, that’s a big reason why I watch these videos. It’s fascinating. If I met this alpha guy in person, or any alpha male type, they’d make me (and have made me) very very uncomfortable. Even with a disability I can tell really well when someone is being phony. Faking authenticity is a huge pet peeve of mine, because I and many others like me have had to work so hard on showing people that we ARE being authentic.
It's all just so manipulative...just be yourself.
The thing is, they don't want to work on their personality or social skills. The focus is always on external change, never on the internal ones.
His 'smile' sets off warning klaxons. 🚨
This was an awesome video. God, that was painful for me too! I'm an INFJ personality type, so alphas really turn me off. If you have to force yourself onto people like this to get them to like you, then clearly you have some personal growth to take care of--a hell of a lot, I might add. You can't hack sincerity . . . sorry to those who think they can.
As a man, I feel embarrassed for the men who behave like this. Clearly, he looks down on all other humans, him assuming them to be unintelligent. The irony ;)
Thanks so much for this!
Omggg I’m a infj too!
@@IAmTheOnlyChanel Cool . . . well met!
INFJ family in the comments.
It might be weird, but I don't even like for my husband to sit beside me in a restaurant. I need to be able to look at who I'm talking to. I don't sit beside the tv when I watch it so why would I want to crane my neck sideways to talk to someone. Also, that guy would make me never want to be around him.
It’s giving I need therapy lol
His obsession with control and dominance is really telling.
So, essentially this guy is teaching people how to be a narcissist.
I'd say he's teaching people how to be a gorilla.
@@thatsalt1560😂😂😂Exactly. Oo OOO, thumps chest, snorts and growls.
Narcissism isn't about body language.
These techniques are really only meant to work on insecure people. Which in the eyes of Alpha Males(TM) describes the majority of the population. This video helps me understand why, when I see an Andrew Tate-like person I can't help but wonder, "Are you even human?"
I think these techniques are also meant to be used on women during hook up scenarios. Like if you're just trying to get laid, then do these things. Because in theory, they hit all those indicators that women instinctively find attractive. Of course, these techniques only work in the short term. Unless you've attracted a woman who is super insecure or unstable.
The healthy masculine men I've known show some of these traits, but also have qualities like empathy and compassion. This allows them to be strong but still pro-social. It also helps them have stable long term relationships.
TLDR of this man:
"Tell me you never have ever seen, interracted with, or dated a person, without talling me you haven't seen, interracted, or dated a person."
Zero social cue. Zero awareness. Zero. He's a zero. Boring. Throw it in the trash.
This guy must be a social experiment.
The wide shoulders and the fingertips-touching pose is top tier Alpha-douche
if I meet this type of person, I ABSOLUTELY CANNOT take them seriously! they are insecure, a bit like standing and screaming for attention in a room of deaf people 😂
Guys like him are why im happily single for a while now. This is so much more common in our society
And then they hate us gay guys because they are too insecure to come out themselves.
Compensation - exactly! So much insecurity here.
OMG. That dude giving off serious "$30,000 millionaire" vibes. Don't mimic this guy. He's a fool.
I feel so sorry for the guy who first coined Alpha theory , because he debunked himself later , saying it was inaccurate and flawed. If he could see where its been taken i suspect he would be mortified.
Alpha male sounds like a term a furry would coin lol, but comparing furrues to alpha males is insulting to furries, i would never do such a thing.
Thank you for educating the masses on the differences between being a douch and being confident and secure. MANY people need this…
When you speak, take time...makes your speech pattern more interesting... And yet all I can think of is William Shatner...
When he was showing the genuine smile, he looked like the old people in Medicare Insurance commercials 😂😭
absolutely - that's how I knew I needed a divorce. there was literally zero difference between when he was there and when he was gone (even if for long periods of time)
3:33 “by the end of this video you will learn exactly what you need to do-“, brotha all I’m learning from you is that it is, indeed, possible to strain my eyes from frequently rolling them so hard in under 4 minutes.
😂
Here's my alternative title for this guy's video: "A psychopath's guide to manipulative body language"
Also, pro tip for all the aspiring "Alphas" in the room: That entire wolf pack/alpha male BS was completely debunked. The guy that did the study where this all came from (studying wolf social dynamics and behavior), *his self* admitted his results were compromised, and near worthless. Why? He made one crucial error: The wolves he was studying, were captive wolves. As it turns out, Male Wolf dominance hierarchies and pack/family dynamics operate *completely* differently, when in their wild, natural habitat.
However there is a catch... Can you guys which human dynamics this study actually DOES mirror, and where the fallacious "Alpha Male" dynamic actually IS present?
Prison.
Do you know which prisoners are typically at the top of these hierarchies? The psychopaths. ...Or more accurately, the most psychopathic among them. Fitting, considering the study was done on essentially, prison wolves.
I think true alpha males should be gay, that's how you truly transcend and become a real alpha.
Ick the pointer finger handshake makes me feel so uncomfortable, like can you not basically feel up my hand? It would instantly make me want to slap someone away. All this dominance thing makes me laugh, cause I'm used to horses. Dominance in horses fluctuates, depending on which herd member they're interacting with. They also "bow" when they're trying to tell another horse that they are non-threatening or agreeing with something they want, which happens among dominant and submissive members. So the whole thing about body language changing depending on social circles is so understandable.
And the teeth clacking in the younger ones to show submission to the older ones.
As always, thank you so much for the subtitles, very grateful for them.
In my profession I shake hands about 40-50 times a day with different people. I have never had someone try to do this weird over under handshake or this finger thing and if it did ever happen I would call them out on it. It just seems very strange and douchey
That dude is so annoying, he jumps in his poor chair like some toddler that hasn't been around the block yet. It permanently makes me want to send him out to get off that toddler energy.
I feared throughout the video, that the poor furniture will eventually break
[8:30] Note: As weird as a "dead fish" handshake might look in many "western" countries, it is the proper polite handshake in some Asian countries.
Yikes! This guy gives me the creeps so badly! He simultaneously feels insecurity & threatening. Thanks for validating those feels!
The guy’s major misconception is that he has taken well-known observations of what people do in various situations - and uncritically repurposed these into prescriptions for how to make an impression on strangers. People just don’t function that way.
For instance, women (in particular) who are comfortable and familiar with one another, often adopt side-by-side or right-angle positions close to each other. This does NOT mean the same people will be one bit positive about any stranger or semi-stranger cosying up to them that way.
I am the same way, cannot stand when people talk slowly. That is another reason to appreciate your videos!
Miss reactions to reality TV episodes. I don't watch them myself, but love seeing you suffer through these cringy shows😅
I read about the eye wrinkles when smiling as a kid comparing why British people smiling seemed more genuine, so I made sure as a kid to make sure I got the eye wrinkles, but I only thought about it as making sure I was properly communicating, not trying to manipulate people.
Oh my gosh, yes, thank you. The eyebrow thing IS douchey and tells me a guy is not interested in a partner as equals, and if he does, he doesn’t know what the hell he’s doing. So if I catch a guy doing that, I have no patience. I am getting up and leaving. Just fricken’ ask a question or something.
Observe always serves us obs with these videos, and I couldn't be more grateful
That video was painful and embarrassing. Enjoyed your critique 😆
I had an epiphany. I just realized how many men do this in real life, step by step. It's SO repulsive. Almost disturbing, because it's not only inconsiderate, it's actually a conscious thing, which adds a level of phonyness on top of it. Yikes on a bike.
I feel bad for the guys who buy into this stuff. I know how stressful it is to hypermask and I can't imagine sitting at a date, going through a literal checklist of all the things you should do with your body, instead of actually engaging with the situation. Sadly, I've met far too many men like this
I was one of those guys that bought into this. It feels much better to just be my authentic
love this, also feel that my personal space should not be interfered with on the first date, just to pushy
31:08 You don’t even have to think about mirroring someone - if you are on the same page, your body does that automatically.
I love knowing a lot about body language, because today I know a lot of times, why I have a certain gut feeling in certain situations. If someone tries to force their body language to do something they don’t feel most of the time - makes me feel uneasy and I always felt weird for wanting to stay away from those people because I couldn’t say why I felt this way. Today I know that one of my core values is honesty - that‘s why such a body language is appalling to me. Because it feels as if they have something to hide.
That’s also the reason why I get sick when I see videos about ‚body language life hacks‘ - the body language is intuitive and therefore a lot quicker than „thinking about how to react and then do that“ - that just won’t work. It will just feel weird to you (for it’s counterintuitive) and to the other person who gets mixed signals.
9:25 dead ringer for every other Monty Python comedy-sketch character.
I can't imagine going through life choreographing every move I make with the intention of manipulating a situation.
I'm authentic. I relate to authentic people. If you have to "bro so hard" with your eyebrow, I'm gonna notice and exit stage left. Then laugh at you behind your back.
As someone on the spectrum, I’ve always loved your videos as a kind of study of various expressions, and how to establish a baseline for people. So yes, conscionable people wouldn’t use this to their own gain, but I’ve found it personally super helpful in trying to communicate with people where they’re at, and compensate for the fact that I don’t instinctively catch a lot of social cues. Thanks for helping with that. :)
I can't imagine this guy at dinner parties, all anxious putting all of that in practice and not giving a crap about what the others are saying. 💀🤦🏽♀
After Covid, I don't know ANYONE who wants to do handshakes, now. Everyone I know, including myself, would rather just nod and smile politely than touch someone because Covid has not gone away, and people are still getting sick and dying from Covid. My grandfather just died last month from it. So, I'm not in a rush to touch anyone, especially a stranger.
I hated it 20 years ago. "I don't know you, I'm not touching your nasty hand!". I'm far from a germophile too. Your butthole is probably cleaner than your hand.
I really enjoyed your analysis/commentary bc some of these guys who claim to teach “alpha male behavior” seem to be teaching men how to manipulate women
At the beginning of this video I thought to myself, "I wonder if Logan and Spidey would ever do a video together." And I was secretly hoping you both dont secretly hate each other 😂😅 then you referenced his video! I was pleasantly surprised.
When you're a good person already, you don't need these tips and tricks to have people like you. I'm very popular at work because I am a genuinely nice and helpful person, and this is the ONLY time I will say things like that about myself, since no one else can. But I have been told this numerous times! The only time I would try to manipulate someone is when I'm wanting a job and wanting the interview to go well. But other than that, I don't really see a need to manipulate other people.
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And that explanation at around 13:40, this is why I think that people can overcome depression no matter how depressed. I have suffered with it to a great extent but I got so tired of being depressed all the time that I decided to try to change myself. I first started to act happy even when I wasn't. I would even smile to myself in my own room. I would change my thought process. I'm not saying it's easy, and I still go through bouts of depression, but I'm nothing like before. I feel like I have a life again. I'm not 100% happy as there's always something going on in my life, but I'm trying to stay positive and trying to not let depression win by making me give up. It's hard work but I think it's more effective than taking medicine. That and changing certain things about yourself helps as well! That's why I believe that it really is all in the head and that people have more control over their depression than they realize. And this is not to say to NEVER go to therapy or to NEVER take the medicine. I'm just saying that the biggest thing that helps with depression is mindset. When I feel those intrusive thoughts, they still win at times but at other times, I block it and tell myself, you're being so full of it right now!
Also, I don't mind if a guy sitting down takes up a little more room. I mean, it must be uncomfortable to squish your bits sitting without some separation.
I'm 5'2" I'd look like a mime school drop out if I took steps that big 😂
better practice pulling that fake rope
The only thing that makes the "alpha" guy in the other video interesting is that this channel did a video on him. The biggest thing that'll probably ever happen in that guys life
I mean tbh Jose's a multi millionaire and owns a successful business or 2
He's cringe as heck but I'm sure being on this channel isn't the biggest thing to happen to him 😂
I'd love some more content on this type of mindset. The redpill manosphere alpha BS. Their mindset is fascinating, albeit horrifying. Love to see one on Pearl or the guys on the whatever podcast or someone similar.
I'm guessing this guy would take eye to eye contact and a neutral invitation to a handshake as a threat, especially from a woman.
Seems the type.
When I worked at sport clips, they had full on trainings on how to properly shake hands because it helps men respect us (the female barbers) more.
All you need is a confident and proper hand shake. That’s all.
I think a few of the dude's "hacks" could be useful if incorporated in a natural way into daily body language so that it's not so disingenuous or unsynchronized
amazing topic selection, this is gonna be a good video
We appreciate your efforts.
I used some of the tactics guys like him explain when I was at peak insecurity. I am afab and used it on guys so some things I would take the "bad advice" like the handshake. I still find body language interesting and use it to manage social situations but not to manipulate people to like and trust me but to keep myself and others safe and hopefully comfortable. All in all it is good to understand bodylanguage but in the end people should like me for who I am so fuck em if they think I am weak or whatever, I am who I am and I am proud of where I got in life 🥰.
Much of what I hear from the "alpha male" tips sound like how to be more arrogant rather than confident. Arrogance is loud, overt and abrasive. On a different note, the point about speaking speed I find curious. Is that a reflection of our culture? The more I meditate and take life at a slower appreciative pace the more I don't understand the urgency that others choose in speaking and listening. Listening to others talk sped up strikes me like eating fast, just consuming ravenously rather than mindfully.
Love your content! Thanks For this!
This was hilarious - not only the guy trying to act all macho but your reaction to him as well 😂 if I met this dude I would no doubt assume he is overcompensating for something and just laugh at him. It does worry me that there are so many impressionable young people that will probably take this to heart though 😬
I was taught to put my finger out when shaking hands with big blokes by a security guard so my hand couldn’t be crushed. As a small women who has to shake hands with a lot of wanna be alpha males it’s been extremely helpful.
Dude, thank you for confirming my belief that people on YT talk slow! Much slower than real life. Why is that?
The "over it" face right after the sixth "tip" 😂
Hey Logan! I've been watching a lot of the Paranormal Files channel on YT lately, and I'd love your take on whether their on-screen reactions are likely genuine or not, especially in the episodes where one of the crew members gets 'affected' by the location (which happens semi regularly). No hate to their channel, just curious as to your take on it! Cheers 😊
For genuine smiles just wanted to add that it also matter at what angle the wrinkles around the eyes are. With a genuine smile they are more diagonal (45°) while a fake smile that uses eye squinting has wrinkles more horizontal and parallel to the eye (like on this uber-masculine muppet).
This video is super interesting. With being trained in body language you can just tell everything about that guy is off. But it's you explain why and give counter advice! Love it!
I heard the dude say “the douchey-anne smile” and lost it. 😂
I love his pouty yelling lips. That is the face of someone who has decided to look angry.
I hate when men shake my hand, I avoid it if I can, they often crush my hand or hurt my wrist, be firm but gentle ffs, women absolutely nail the right handshake
Omg so glad to hear Im not the only one who can’t watch videos at normal speed anymore. Everything but behavioral videos get watched on 2x speeds behavioral stuff gets listened to at 1.5. Fave to face convos are painfully slow the older I get for some reason 🤣 SN love Spidey’s stuff too. You two are my favs in this genre!
Me too. I can't stand to watch things at normal speed! Also, yes even regular conversations take forever. I so badly want to put my coworkers in double time. Lol
Ha ha ha that's so funny, that's partly why I liked your channel originally, because you talk fast and I listen fast. I really enjoy your videos and have for a few years now. Thanks!
That point handshake reminded me of a handshake we learned about in boy scouts. In it, you would stick out both your pointer finger and your middle finger, but split them up to resemble ears. It sounds tacky and I doubt actually scouts use it. The point handshake feels similar to me.
If a dude sat right next to me on a first date, I'd simply leave. I need my personal space broskie
Thanks for the great debunking session! 🙌
Funny thing is this all sounds like a bastardization of a lot of information I got in the 90s. The smile thing and holding your head up when you walk, it's a fake it till you make it tactic. Smile at everyone and everything that gives you the tiniest bit of joy until you feel happier. Holding your head up and looking at the world, rather than your feet, can make you feel more confident in yourself and your surroundings. All of that's about you, internally, not about how other people feel about you. Bonus, eyes up is a good way to go as a woman when you've got to go somewhere alone at night, as I've been told it makes you appear more aware of your surroundings and less like an easy target, but I'm not sure I 100% believe that's going to make any significant difference.
But the hands in the pockets... I gesture with my hands a lot and have practically zero spacial awareness when moving my body. I also work in a museum with incredibly valuable objects. You know I've got my hands in my pockets, thumbs hooked on the waistband, something to keep those hands from flailing! Same things in crowded spaces, at least one hand in the pocket or thumb hooked on the purse or something, because I'm less likely to whack someone unintentionally. I'm betting I'd get way more judgement if I didn't do those things and continued to take up way more space than makes other people comfortable because I unapologetically take up a lot of space just by existing in my loud, energetic, wildly gesturing person with an equally loud personality. Yes, people say I'm vibrant, interesting, fun, and energetic, which is great, because it's genuine... but it's also important to know there's a time and a place and when to tone it down.