Pema Chödrön: This Lousy World
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- Опубліковано 10 лют 2025
- Pema Chödrön, widely known for her insightful, down-to-earth interpretation of Tibetan Buddhism for Western audiences, explains how to cool down your temper when you're feeling agitated by the lousy things in the world. Explore more from Pema Chödrön:
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Much better to listen to Pema Chodron than the daily news ...absolutely !
Especially, now. Lousy covid.
@@anthonypashkov3999 Covid, now we have one more thing to complain about :)
Lousy dictatorships!
Because hers is the “nooz of trooth!”
Honestly it’s better to listen to an angry cat howling than listening to the news.
She communicates with such an open and down-to-earth language and voice. A wonderful speaker and teacher.
lol I’m laughing because she’s so bang on. Using humour to speak the truth gets me every time. Love her 💜
Anyone who is in conflict with life and with themselves should read Pema's books and listen to her audios. I have been practicing her teachings and reading most of her books for many times. I am not a person I am today without her wisdom. Pema is like my beloved grandmother who taught me unconditional love. God bless your heart Pema Chodron. Thank you.
Love you, Pema!!
I read her book “Comfortable With Uncertainty” and was deeply affected by it afterwards. Her approach is so lightweight and anonymously compassionate, She really turned my head around in my early days of recovering from chronic shitheadedness!
Love her common sense approach and her honesty about how most of us think and are sensitive to and irritated by our environment. I HATE perfumes, they have a physical effect on me and my nervoussystem. I hate the manufacturers, the sellers, the wearers of perfumes that are as toxic to me as drinking 3 bottles of vodka! But I send out compassionate vibes (while I'm throwing up in the street) to the person who feels the need to announce her presence to all around her in a big city, by wearing ... 'Poison' instead of just emitting her own subtle scent. That's just one of the reasons why I became a self-ordained, non-uniform wearing Buddhist Nun living alone in the community. I eat some meat but also love some animals, I have very short hair (because hair annoys me) I have bare feet because shoes annoy me. I like to study the frequencies of colour and sound and smells and how they affect us and how we create reality with our thoughts. I don't know what that study is called so I lump it under 'metaphysics'. And I became this way not because I hated my husband but because I hated his behaviour towards me and other woman and the example he was to our children. But I suppose because over time his behaviour gradually became his character and not something I could separate from him, I hated him AND myself for remaining attached to him. He was like the woman who walked past me in the street wearing 'Poison' and caused me to throw up. He repelled me and I felt like the guilty party because he took no accountability for his behaviour at all while I sat in Buddhist centres contemplating MY navel, wondering what I'D done in past lives to deserve bearing the brunt of HIS behaviour behaviour and I came to the conclusion that I personally had done nothing to deserve it but that COLLECTIVELY myself and other women had been in rhe habit of ACCEPTING such behaviour from men because we had believed their bullshit teachings about generations of male lineages UNDER WHICH UMBRELLA women were seen as a necessary evil, a vessel to bring children into the world to be nurtured and handed over to the Patriarchal society that exists today, after which, women can be discarded. Women even today in this man-made world of man-made religions are TOLERATED, not ACCEPTED and VALUED as equals. Prince Harry talks of 'unconscious bias' against black people but we should ALL be considering the 'unconscious bias' against women that has been the norm to date. And it's as prevalent in Buddhism as in any other religion. Nuns have been given the opinion from monks that they cannot gain enlightenment until they reincarnate as a male. I have news for them. Women are born enlightened, we just didn't know it.
Thank you for posting this! I love her.
Absolutely spot on. It's the truth said in a compassionate way..Thank you x
Wow! This really made cents to me. I've just know of this woman and her words really help me.
Stumbling on this video was serendipitous. Never met this woman; never heard of her previously. Others might also find this worth a look-see.
Check out any of the several books she has written, e.g., Start Where Your Are; The Places that Scare You; When Things Fall Apart; Taking the Leap... Spiritual perspectives from this amazing woman, yet practical, secular, down-to-Earth information that we can use immediately to live well/better, etc.
There are alot of good used books on Ebay.
Hearing her speak, with her voice tinged by amusement is, maybe, more powerful.
Love her books, they gave me a constructive way to meditate, even though the practice was inherent in my upbringing, it took an addiction and a good friend with a book of hers to understand what it really meant. Nearly five years now and I have never felt a need to go back on any of it.
Thank you so much for this Pema.. Your teachings really challenge and make me a better person.
I watch this video and 6 things arise in me:
1) how to escape from pain in the body?
I get cramps that debilitate and paralyze me.
what to do?
is there a metaphysical explanation?
2) I love someone
who I don't believe loves me back...
this, sadly, has been the story of my entire life.
the pain is so awful, it's soul-crushing.
3) rage. I have so much fucking rage in me.
I am constantly flooded with memories that rape me,
and fill me with rage.
4) grief: 999 trillion layers of grief in me.
there's no escape.
5) sometimes I look in the mirror and I am in love with what I see.
other times, I am disgusted.
I am old, ugly, fat, frumpty-dumpty.
6) I am so very very very ashamed at the state of my life...
Learn the SKY breath meditation offered by the Art of Living. It helps you to create an gap in our negative thinking and emotional response patterns. The more we are able to access the gap, the body, mind and emotions heal and harmonise. The secret lies in our breath.
I can never hear this enough times.
Thank you.💕❤️💕
It's more about don't waste your time and energy thinking that everything is bad when you could just step back a little from all that negativity and use your calm mind to work on the things that are here right now and make what you can better. You'll feel more positive if everything in and around you starts getting better and you'll feel good about being the one who's doing it. Although, for some things, it may be that doing nothing but looking at an issue differently can be the solution.
yeah, Pema C is a breath of fresh air. Never afraid to exhibit her humanity..lol
she always strikes a chord with me.
good comment. this has played in my mind too. this kind of teaching has to do with the understanding that the world outside is an illusion. without experiential knowledge of this, what you say makes perfect sense.
i'm not here to convince you of anything, but it just felt right to share this. oneness vs. duality - a world of difference.
Beautiful teaching
Sat Nam, (reverent greetings)
great video - there is nothing wrong there is nothing right - it is our mind that decides this - change your thought and you will change your perception !
peace and love to all !
In other words....you change yourself & the world changes. That's how you "change the world". Or as Nichiren said it "There are not 2 lands pure and impure in themselves. There is only one land. The difference lies in solely in the good & evil of our minds." ✌🏻❤️
please take into account that this is an outtake from a longer talk that would be visited by people who have a basic understanding of 'all is one', and that the world outside is a projection of our minds, a dream of duality... easy to misinterpret :)
i would do anything not to be separate from the world. i am forced into separation because of this illness. i have lost everything. my home, employment, friends and the ability to see most of my family, and yet i still find peace and joy in everyday life. it's not about that. before having mcs, i was a spiritual leader in MY community, a musician, an activist, a community builder. I am STILL all of these things but mostly virtually because I can not attend events.
It's ironic, Pema's teachings have actually brought me a great deal of peace in dealing with the trauma of being disabled by MCS myself. I trust, since Pema considers herself to be a scientific thinker, an objective observer, that she can do some research. (continued above)
@anyplace4u2 Much of what Pema Chodron writes about is based on compassion, so I don't believe she would endorse ignoring injustice at all. This, at least to my eyes and ears, is a call to cultivating personal strength and endurance amid the inevitable trials of life, rather than covering them up or living in denial. That inner strength can then be used to enter situations honestly with a clear, compassionate heart and mind, rather than focusing on creating personal "comfort".
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It is not a mental condition or a vexation it is a physical disability, serious organ injury, there's nothing we can do but try to survive given the lack of support & compassion we receive.
@anyplace4u2 I understand your good point. I believe the point being made relates to how we as imperfect humans try to make the world conform to our ideas of comfort, instead of seeking equanimity and working on ourselves to cultivate a heightened, more flexible perspective on life. We cannot control everything, nor should we seek to. Sometimes, what may make a situation comfortable for you is at odds with the well-being of another. Is it still justified to make such an action?
It's a tough one. Putting your own needs above those of another is the definition of a failed society, but what do you do instead?
lovely... i will try to remember this image of leather for shoes and walking, and working w your mind
I love Pema! I think, though, that the video description--"Pema tells us how our suffering inclines us to blame others and the external world rather than change our relationship with our suffering by wearing leather shoes"--says the opposite of what she actually says in the video. She's gently poking fun at people who seek to "cover everything with leather"--i.e., remove all potential sources of pain in their lived environment--rather than transform their ways of thinking so as to allow pain
There's is no happiness without sorrow. How would you even know you're happy? How would you know you like something without disliking something else? The world is NOT torment and suffering for without suffering, bliss would just fade away and happiness will not ever be.
Love pema!
Oxxxx
The world changes not because things get better, but, because the one's whom used the old customs and methods die off. I, for one, love how older people complain about customer service, for example. They realize that by not using technology, they are promoting jobs and community. Life can't be all positive. Only being concerned about things you can change, may make life easier, but, it also is way of enabling the abusers and controllers of the world.
"Want to know my secret? ...I don't mind what happens!" ~ J. Krishnamurti
Love it!
This does not mean l can apply it totally, but l get it.
Thank you for posting.
Oh I will, and thank you. You do the same.
To the point 🥰❤
thank you, there is NO excuse. makes me feel better after avesraggiana's horrible comments.
Does anyone know if she knew neem karoli Baba? What she said about the shoe-leather is reminiscent of a teaching of his. Not sure if she picked it up from Ram Dass or if she was there herself. Just curious.
Exactly.
I think you're overlooking the whole point of what she's saying. She's using the example of chemical sensitivity to make her point about our need to make everything correct and right before we can allow ourselves to be happy. That she got a laugh out of it was probably unintended. She could have used any example of any number of life's daily vexations to have made the point that we will do anything to maintain our separateness from the rest of the world, and be CONDITIONALLY happy.
🙏
cool
(cont. from below) in this time, we need 2 recognize the planet, what we do 2 it, what we do 2 each other. that's the enlightenment we need. enuf of this mind stuff, if u can't honor the body.
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It's just so sad that there's such deep misunderstanding about this condition. Again I use the wheelchair metaphor, it wld not be acceptable for her 2 dismiss those needing ramps. For us, its about getting recognition, being treated w/ respect, gaining accessibility so we can be part of the world again. just as i'm sure u desire 2 be part of yr community fully, we do as well.
gotta stay mutable and positive!
I Love Her.....
It's always like she's talking to me
personally, embarransingly enough
Everything you say about me could only ever be a direct reflection of whatever you believe about yourself right now...it's called Projection, just in case you need someone as spiritually evolved as myself to remind you of that.
It's a shame only 266k have watched this. Probably 1k of those views are just me 😂😂
Hahaha are you still watching in 2023?
Then, school me. (Wondering how many negative votes I received? And, why?)
Pema's message seems to be: resistance is futile, so give in, change yourself, don't waste your energy trying to change the world.
Am I wrong?
I bet I can press more than Pema.
I admit I that I have caught my mind wanting to disappear people.
Wouldn't a better solution be to control or stop whatever is spreading all of this broken glass? Instead of being silent, tolerating the litter, and changing our dress, shouldn't we stand up and try and do something? If we wait and meditate, we will always take the high road, others will take advantage.
If what 'they' are getting is "advantage", for the most part they can keep it. 'We' are more alone than we realize and it is more empowering that 'we' have been taught by our parents and the school system?
Well, not quite. As close as this assertion can be to "a good idea", it must try to use a contrived, though sincere, form of Denial. Which is missing the mark but the archer can't tell. because the light is impacting their perception of it.
Complaining is a *normal human expression* of tool use that must NOT be discarded (you would never have survived your infancy without it!).
Discouraging complaining is a monumental mistake with serious long consequences.
But doesn't wrapping yourself in leather insulate you from the problems of the world? Like rose coloured glasses, but for your... um .... feet.
Doesn't the Buddhist path also include Right livelihood and Right action?
The problem isn't that we feel pain or feel sad or that we see that there are problems in the world. Our real problem is that we are so self-centered about it.
And so you demonstrated that you understood ab-so-lute-ly nothing of what this wonderful lady said...
the real air nomad
Hmm,she had me till the end part
Oh Really? Yes? If a criminal mugs someone for his wallet and accidentally kills his son by a a stray bullet cause cops came and he was scared, is that FACT not important in and by itself, but only if he makes it important in his head??
please elaborate using this or similar examples, of course I used a "reductio ad absurdum" argument to fetch my point across.
i do no ee itta o dada e no watee m. i ga me ii :)
there r people who r seriously devastatingly disabled by chemicals, inc. perfumes, & need 2 avoid them. They r excluded from public places b/c of this kind of misunderstanding. In this case laughed at! one w/ this disability (not allergy!) wd not b able 2 safely attend an event like this 2 hear a so called "enlightened master" speak. wd it b acceptable 4 her 2 say, "o wheel chair people, get over it, just drag urself up the stairs, stop asking for ramps, use yr mind!")i don't think so.
s/b Hamlet's not Hamlet
it must be nice to be so enlightened. do u worship people who make fun of people with cancer and ms too?
people with mcs can be very happy but when they're made ill by perfume and other chemicals, um, not so much. it's a serious and life-threatening illness, not a vexation and you could succumb next. people with mcs suffer loneliness and depression because of other peoples right to use toxic chemicals. they do NOT want to be separate. so please be happy in your ignorance whether CONDITIONAL or unconditional.
the lack of respect here is searing and i especially cannot take it from the supposedly enlightned.
She teaches but she is not filled w ego seems just like us just like lots more work. No hippie bullshit or pontificators or adolescent souls telling us about things.
I don't worship anyone, but you seem to - the "God of Taking Offence when someone makes light of My Own Personal Debilitating Condition...". Give it a rest. You're maintaining your own separateness by shaming another human being for only apparently not honouring and respecting your own particular condition. And I AM enlightened, as are you. We're both just choosing to overlook it right now.
Doesn't change the fact that this world is filled with assholes. Don't get me wrong, I like her teachings and I wish I was strong enough to put this into practice, but can someone tell me the difference between denying there is a problem and what she's teaching? In other words, how is what she's teaching any different than tricking your mind into believing that the problem isn't there? And according to Jung, the only way we can grow is by facing our problems. I'm looking for honest feedback.
very sad that a supposedly enlightened teacher would trivialize another human beings very real disability. mcs is a recognized disease, not a chosen inconvenience. her insensitivity disgusts me.
she has a disability of the heart and is passive aggressive
Too this, too that, too skinny, too fat, too here, too there-y, too beardy, too hairy, too will-be, too has-been, too twelve --- too thirteen
see my video reponse 'baby's cold'
thanks pema
x
john
Wow! This is why the world is in the mess it's in. For pete's sakes, be sure you get offended and totally miss the point that is trying to be made. So she's not POLITICALLY CORRECT, and maybe she made a mistake by mentioning people with allergies . . .
Did you ever think that there are people out there who complain to be people like you, but are not? Those are the folks she speaks of. Those folks who just want to bitch and pretend they have a serious problem, but actually don't. Hello!?
speak for yourself, i actually don't know how you live with yourself and i would like to stop speaking to you
Sounds like she is making fun of SJW/Leftist types..
Oh I will, and thank you. You do the same.