Days of Summer bench scene - my most hated scene

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  • @12classics39
    @12classics39 Рік тому +456

    What Summer says is very important, though. You can't settle for somebody whom you're not sure about, like she was unsure about Tom. When she met her husband, she was finally SURE that she'd found a truly compatible partner. She's not being cold here; she's being honest. He needed to hear these words so that he could move on from her and open his heart to Autumn.

    • @felipedantas8153
      @felipedantas8153 Рік тому +2

      In my case I've never opened my heart to autumn I haved dead in summer on the beach...

    • @Remo1147
      @Remo1147 Рік тому +1

      💯

    • @mostlysanetrader
      @mostlysanetrader 11 місяців тому

      He was sure about her...stfu

    • @rohitgurav16
      @rohitgurav16 11 місяців тому +31

      But if you're unsure about someone then why would you hookup and kiss and have sex with them? That means that she actually gave hope to him didn't she?

    • @longisthenight
      @longisthenight 10 місяців тому +17

      ​@@rohitgurav16 that doesn't mean she owes him anything... when you date someone, you do all that stuff to know for sure of you actually have the right chemestry with that person, there is not a perfect timing to feel unsure about someone, maybe at the very start you feel good and later on the more you get to know the other person you don't feel right. It's not her fault to realize that later on, even thougt breaking up is always hard, it would have been way worse to be unhappy with someone you just realized you don't truly love, just for pity.

  • @MustardSeedish
    @MustardSeedish 7 місяців тому +105

    Summer gave Tom a gift here which we don't usually get after a breakup, closure. Instead of Tom's development, we get a peak of Summer's. She found true love and cared enough about Tom to seek him out and give him an explanation.

    • @ShivamShukla-66
      @ShivamShukla-66 2 місяці тому +2

      I am still stuck with summer, theirs no autumn in my life to rescue me 😭😅

    • @linapesz313
      @linapesz313 17 днів тому +2

      ​@ShivamShukla-66 Autume never rescued Tom...He just moved on with life and wanted to date again....No one will rescue you , you have to decide to move on

    • @ShivamShukla-66
      @ShivamShukla-66 17 днів тому

      @@linapesz313 i have given up bro

  • @earlisonline
    @earlisonline Рік тому +176

    People hate this specific scene because it showed the reality of this kind of situation.
    It sucks to be in the place of both characters - not being sure of the person you met, or falling in love with someone you thought will give you back the love you ask for in return. But the thing is, this is how life works. You can’t make people love you the way you love them. You can’t also give your heart to someone that you don’t see as your significant other, knowing that you’re just gonna hurt both of you. That’s a pill that’s definitely hard to swallow, but it is what it is.

    • @jordoruiz0001
      @jordoruiz0001 10 місяців тому +2

      How TF is summer situation sucking rn? She got everything she never hoped for and she is happy. The only one that sucks there is Tom, summer is fine and dandy

    • @fukunaga-kane
      @fukunaga-kane 9 місяців тому

      Tom got the short end of the stick. Tom losses everything and Summer gains everything.

    • @V_for_Victory_for_V
      @V_for_Victory_for_V 8 місяців тому +3

      ​@@jordoruiz0001 it wasnt as bad as Tom's, but dont assume that it is easy to tell someone "youre not the one i was looking for" or "i was nevee sure about you".
      the important thjng to note here is thar Summer had been very clear with one thing from the start; she bluntly told Tom that she wasnt into serious stuff.
      she never intended to lead him on.
      tom on the other hand, finally broke free from her, especially after this scene.
      also, Tom was finaply able to work on himself [career wise] after their break up.
      its honestly a win-win., it was not just that obvious.

    • @robotjoxx3166
      @robotjoxx3166 Місяць тому

      I hate this specific scene and the whole movie in general because Summer has no accountability in treating Tom badly. Never apologized. The fact that Zooey Deschanel is the actor makes it worse, because she is truly terrible at acting. Scenes that require her to have empathy make her look like a calculated psychopath. I’m aware that the moral is supposed to be that you can’t force love. Zooey Deschanel could not convey that.

    • @arturocastroverde3349
      @arturocastroverde3349 25 днів тому

      ​@@jordoruiz0001plus, tom was the one who had to learn all the lessons. Summer learned nothing

  • @ajaxtyson
    @ajaxtyson 9 місяців тому +125

    Summer relaized Tom was right. Tom realized Summer was right.

    • @Sabit1858
      @Sabit1858 3 місяці тому +2

      Great observation 🗿

  • @junyboypogi8328
    @junyboypogi8328 10 місяців тому +34

    "It's just wasn't me that you were right about... 💔"

  • @enricococo6201
    @enricococo6201 Рік тому +62

    This screen until the end of the movie is so true to life.

    • @HCforLife1
      @HCforLife1 6 місяців тому +4

      The ending is unfortunately a fantasy. In so many cases this is the end for most people, and what awaits them is loneliness

    • @saadmeer6293
      @saadmeer6293 Місяць тому

      ​@@HCforLife1 Harsh bitter reality

  • @ErnestoRayas-r6y
    @ErnestoRayas-r6y Рік тому +25

    She loved him enough to give him the closure he needed

    • @Struggle_Streaming_With_BK
      @Struggle_Streaming_With_BK 11 місяців тому +9

      She didn't do that for him.....she did it for herself..... She knows she did him dirty, and she feels guilty about it.....she doesn't love Tom.....she never did...... Tom was a Toy to her

    • @curlygirldeeex3425
      @curlygirldeeex3425 9 місяців тому +8

      @@Struggle_Streaming_With_BKshe literally told him she ddnt want to be with him she was clear he allowed him self to tell a story in his head that is not on her that’s in him he’s an adult

    • @Struggle_Streaming_With_BK
      @Struggle_Streaming_With_BK 9 місяців тому

      ​@curlygirldeeex3425 was Tom delusional. Sure....but she invited him to a party that her man was going to be at, knowing how he felt about her.... this 🐝 is a devil!!!!! She didn't show up to give Tom closure.... she showed up because she feels guilty about what she did to him. She wanted to know if Tom was good, so she didn't feel bad anymore. She doesn't GAF about Tom's feelings, she never did..... Thats why Tom is delusional

    • @gigachad2018
      @gigachad2018 4 місяці тому

      @@Struggle_Streaming_With_BK tom was a fucking dumbass just like 90 percent of the men rn yall get butthurt when it all was well deserved and then grieve on the internet like incels,she could not have been clearer its completely toms fault

    • @Clivetinker
      @Clivetinker 2 місяці тому +1

      @@curlygirldeeex3425 and there are scenes that counter that (Ikea, initiating the kiss, initiating reconnecting after the fight, etc.). That's more than the friends with benefits setup she pushed it off as

  • @makotolam9820
    @makotolam9820 7 місяців тому +23

    its just hurts looking at this. I am in the same situation. She just hooked up with someone that she barely just met, even when I was chasing her for years. Its just unfair and I know life is always unfair but this word just keeps coming out of my mouth every time I think about it.
    "What I was never sure of you". Which might have been what she thought too. What could I have done to not made her unsure of me, I don't know.
    I like just the way she is, all I want is to just have that special connection with her.
    I really wish there won't be anymore of anyone ever have this cursed feeling I'm having.

    • @castleedits8700
      @castleedits8700 7 місяців тому +2

      you cannot force someone to love you, it's a hard pill to swallow.

    • @pinkfuture8275
      @pinkfuture8275 5 місяців тому +1

      Just find a more beautiful, better girl for you and make sure to let her friends and her know. She will be jealous because she wants the attention not you. So sorry but you might be dealing with a narcissists.

    • @gigachad2018
      @gigachad2018 4 місяці тому +2

      just because you want her badly doesnt mean you deserve her/she deserves you, you cannot makeher chase you just move on

    • @TahsinAhmed-nl9ff
      @TahsinAhmed-nl9ff Місяць тому

      Same situation with me brother😅
      It's very hurt to see someone with her.what should i do now? I have no idea🙂Day by day its give me more pain

  • @cyclone411
    @cyclone411 6 місяців тому +18

    Lived that scene. Did not hold it together like Tom did. Painful. It was hard to believe the people who told me I'd get over it. It took two years. I''m stronger now. Smarter now about how relationships are. Having a good life. But still miss living in the happy delusion even though I would never go back to it. The other movie that nails a similar mindframe is The Matrix. That one's not about love but all about "happy delusion". And when I saw it post divorce, for the first time I understood the slimy "traitor" that wanted to go back into the Matrix.

  • @LFC241
    @LFC241 6 місяців тому +20

    I read somewhere that this was an imaginary scene, and that Tom didn't really meet Summer here. It was just a situation that he imagined in his head, him wanting closure and all. I went through something similar 16 years ago where we were young and in love and we suddenly broke up and she moved on way better than I did. But I never got closure, so I kinda had to look back at the warning signs and where it was going wrong, like Rachel said to Tom

    • @tristanyuri4680
      @tristanyuri4680 2 місяці тому +1

      this made me really uhmmmmm, in a state of fugue

  • @spiderpigcallis
    @spiderpigcallis 3 місяці тому +7

    Summer is the ultimate girl next door. They give off the vibe of "I can be with you . . . right now" even when you will never be with them. Summer is being sincere with checking on Tom, but it can be more difficult on letting go.

  • @V_for_Victory_for_V
    @V_for_Victory_for_V 8 місяців тому +17

    i havent watched this movie.
    but... if someone had the courage to tell me what exactly he/she feels no matter how hard or harsh it could be,
    id definitely appreciate that person.
    and it will help me get thru the moving on process much faster too.

  • @aaronsmith-q8v
    @aaronsmith-q8v 7 місяців тому +40

    Well, for all we know Summer left her husband 4 years later whereas Tom had a great Autumn and a happily ever after. People like Summer don't make great life long partners or any sort of lasting partner as they act on whims (which she did throughout the movie). She would most likely end up only being "happy" in an open marriage or relationship. The movie beautifully shows how two people navigate relationships in polar opposite ways. I dislike that it potrays Tom's sensitivity, as some sort of naivety. Tom's attachement style indeed has problems and doesn't gel well with a character like Summer. But given that, lasting relationships are hardwork and not some sort of mystical and magical randomness event. People like Tom are the ones who end up having a "life" partner whereas people like Summer usually die alone after their 4th failed marriage.

    • @carlaconnor8347
      @carlaconnor8347 7 місяців тому +4

      Oh shut up

    • @dapidyunanto7968
      @dapidyunanto7968 6 місяців тому +12

      ​​@@carlaconnor8347yeah summer is a major red flag for a girl. She didn't even know why she's unsure about Tom. She's just using her emotion without any realizing tom is sincere for the beginning. Instead she's just accepted a proposal from a man who she barely knows. Any sane person would not think otherwise.

    • @gigachad2018
      @gigachad2018 4 місяці тому +5

      @@dapidyunanto7968 absolutely not summer was completely valid in her decision and tom is the delusional one, he chases the idea of him being happy only when he finds the perfect girl, the most obvious clue of this is when he meets autumn and it all starts again, tom might never learn considering how the movie ends and in summers defence she stated MULTIPLE TIMES that she just wants to be friends and nothing more, i agree that the stuff they did was wayyyy more than just being friends but thats just who she is, even in the beginning of the movie when they show both of them as kids the narrator tells us how much summer absolutely loves her dark long hair but also cuts them with no remorse or feelings. if only tom wouldve not had this idea of a perfect girl that you meet then they both wouldve stayed friends even after her marriage, but tom did overreact and blamed her even tho she stated it ike 1000 times in the movie. and if you blame summer for not knowing why she didnt think of tom as perfect applies to tom more than her cuz tom is the one who believes in the idea of "love"/"perfect girl" and that he cannot enjoy life without one, summer was happy without him and happier with him, as per her husband she probably saw something in him that she didnt in tom. basically if i was tom and shi like this wouldve happened to me then i wouldve kms so his reaction is also justified, hence no one was the villian in this movie just two very complicated people with different idea of love

    • @queebanns
      @queebanns Місяць тому

      It’s true

  • @jasonbeatty831
    @jasonbeatty831 Рік тому +81

    They both are dumb. She sucks because she knew she could string him along, he was clearly super into her and she just let him get more infatuated, and he’s stupid for falling g for it and ignoring all the signs that she’s never going to chose him.

    • @gianperez2103
      @gianperez2103 Рік тому +21

      That's life bro. Nothing is ever cut and dry.

    • @ryokohonda4619
      @ryokohonda4619 Рік тому +7

      She clearly said she doesn't want anything serious

    • @jasonbeatty831
      @jasonbeatty831 Рік тому +17

      @@ryokohonda4619 and she still said she did whatever she wants with him. Not saying he isn’t at fault, but that’s pretty terrible to do also

    • @jasonbeatty831
      @jasonbeatty831 Рік тому +4

      @@gianperez2103Summer: “hey, I don’t like you the way you like me, and I never will, let’s go our separate ways” Tom: “yeah, I need to listen to what you’re saying and not follow signs I’ve made up in my head about you, thanks for the clarity”. See? Easy. Cut and dry.

    • @Tgogators
      @Tgogators 9 місяців тому +4

      Nah, Summer is *not* his mother. Tom was an adult (albeit a young one), he made the choice, and he knew there was a risk of it not going how he wanted it to, and (like everyone has to) he had deal with the consequences. She communicated with him well before he took the leap, and that's the whole arc of Tom.. He was not being honest with himself, and this echoed throughout the whole movie. The most noticeable was Summer wasn't what he wanted, but he hoped she would change her mind in-time and unnoticeably. He didn't particularly like his job one and he knew it was not his true calling. He shrugged off Summer's advice to go after his true calling and she referenced it at the engagement party= he lacked ambition. Also, lacking honesty breeds neediness, Tom was incredibly needy, although understandably in the situation he was in.

  • @tsw2748
    @tsw2748 Рік тому +23

    The reality check here for me is this: If you ever fall into a relationship which is unhealthy or makes you feel unhappy, you will grab hold of the first opportunity to get out of it.
    In this case. yes. Summer met someone in the diner and he is now her husband. It does not necessarily mean he is her true love but that guy gave her something that she might not find again - an opportunity to escape Tom.
    People dont realize but they choose someone because of convenience first and "love" second

  • @jgonz0325
    @jgonz0325 3 місяці тому +24

    Summer: "i just woke up one day and i knew"
    Tom: "knew what?"
    Summer: "what i was never sure of with you!"
    Dangggggggg!

    • @1995arv
      @1995arv 2 місяці тому

      If the statement ‘it’s not you, it’s me’ were a few lines in a movie…

  • @XercasPathology
    @XercasPathology Рік тому +95

    One day you will be Summer and understand

    • @spiderscurry5614
      @spiderscurry5614 Рік тому +3

      ikr

    • @angelicabarlis7236
      @angelicabarlis7236 10 місяців тому +1

      Yes it took me 14 years to finally understand Summer.

    • @jordoruiz0001
      @jordoruiz0001 10 місяців тому +6

      You are wrong. Not all of us become her. I know I'll never be like her

    • @Tgogators
      @Tgogators 9 місяців тому +5

      We all get rejected and will end up rejecting people. It's just how interpersonal relationships work. Even on the platonic level.

    • @aslaradfx7068
      @aslaradfx7068 8 місяців тому

      Shit i experienced it just noww

  • @That_dude87
    @That_dude87 2 місяці тому +12

    I like to think this scene was all in his head and was just him accepting closure.

    • @Lizna-r4k
      @Lizna-r4k 27 днів тому +2

      Makes it even more sad as a scene 😢

  • @JAZEPEDA13
    @JAZEPEDA13 6 місяців тому +6

    Damn, that guy probably never read that book. It's sad she fell for it

  • @pankajrangsha9063
    @pankajrangsha9063 4 місяці тому +6

    Do not give what is holy to the dogs; nor cast your pearls before swine, lest they trample them under their feet, and turn and tear you in pieces.
    Mathew 7:6

  • @nataliematta_
    @nataliematta_ 7 місяців тому +4

    The last look Summer gave Tom was the same look I gave my ex boss when he fired me “imma get you for unemployment 😎😈✌🏽”

  • @Vesper778
    @Vesper778 Місяць тому +2

    A hard to swallow pill but nonetheless, a closure. My last relationship of 7 years just one day told me she didn't want to move on anymore and blocked me. Since we're half the globe apart I cannot even find her to get an explanation, I'm married with kid now but not gonna lie it still hurts to think about it sometimes, in a sad way, not a regretful way.

  • @rizwanahmed1216
    @rizwanahmed1216 10 місяців тому +6

    Summer is wild.

  • @Nchinc
    @Nchinc 3 місяці тому +5

    I still wonder the quote about “people just grow apart” kind of things is really quoted in the movie or not?
    I have watched this several times but I don’t think it is in the movie. 😅

  • @neneukegbu
    @neneukegbu 8 місяців тому +24

    Summer is one of the most selfish human character i have seen. Everything she did in the movie was for herself. She never for once considered tom's feelings

    • @HCforLife1
      @HCforLife1 6 місяців тому +10

      That's the usual woman for you.

    • @gigachad2018
      @gigachad2018 4 місяці тому

      yall fucking dumbasses, this is why i see mfs on the internet all sad and shi she left and all that bullshit like DUDE SHE SAYS A 100 TIMES SHE NOT LOOKING FOR ANYTHING SERIOUS ITS TOMS FAULT HE GOT ATTACHED AND YOU CANNOT MAKE A PERSON LIKE YOU BACK, IF ONLY HE DID NOT HAVE A FUCKED UP IDEA OF LOVE THEY STILL WOULDVE BEEN GOOD FRIENDS.
      just because you want someone very badly doesnt mean you deserve them or that they should want u too, life doesnt work like that

    • @gigachad2018
      @gigachad2018 4 місяці тому

      @@HCforLife1 dumbass

  • @MadisonBonnar
    @MadisonBonnar 14 днів тому

    This scene is what I would have said to my first love, had I found my spouse before he met his, he was Mormon and I was brought up christian years before. When we met I was a raging non-believer and still am to this day. But I can say the phrase there's a reason for everything, resonates even to a secular person like me

  • @rumblebird9888
    @rumblebird9888 5 місяців тому +1

    It's one of those days where you wanna break stuff

  • @aishayna
    @aishayna Рік тому +17

    Can you please fix your video? The speaking is not aligned with the image. Thank you.

  • @MoJoeShoMo
    @MoJoeShoMo 2 місяці тому +3

    This all you need to rewatch in this movie. And then rewatch the ending because it's funny when he meets autumn. The one that follows summer. Because he's better educated about love and relationships so you know he's going to be alright.

  • @WilliamDelorenzo-y9v
    @WilliamDelorenzo-y9v Місяць тому +2

    this scene is an absolute gem......well done to both of these actors...Bravo

  • @argonhelix8394
    @argonhelix8394 Рік тому +6

    Real talk...

  • @shinrodanreviews4322
    @shinrodanreviews4322 6 місяців тому +1

    This is a brilliant scene. If it helps, this is clearly meant to be in Tom’s head.

  • @ALTheFreeMan
    @ALTheFreeMan 6 місяців тому +7

    Summer was cold-blooded, she was only willing to settle down with a certain type of guy. However, this should also be a lesson to young men that love shouldn’t take the place of having a career path. Tom was an underachieving young man, who was trying to find his happiness through “falling in love”, and that’s not a good recipe.

  • @hussnainshirazi6996
    @hussnainshirazi6996 12 днів тому

    what a movie

  • @malo_213
    @malo_213 6 місяців тому +1

    LOVE THIS SCENE!!!! LOVE THIS MOVIE!! NO HOMO

  • @natbrownizzle1387
    @natbrownizzle1387 21 день тому

    Well, Summer 1st said she did not want anything serious and then she did with Tom, at thr end she took the dude who was financially more stable, at the party at the end she said that Tom could be a great architect if he wanted to.
    I mean Dorian Grey, really? She was thr one who asked Tom about The Smiths, is that not the same nonsense. Fact is, love is shit, has nothing to do woth what you do, you cant make anyone live you, Tom was in love she was bored, end of the story.
    Like, why the hell does she touch his damn hand at the end.

  • @dannygalvezgonzalez7922
    @dannygalvezgonzalez7922 8 місяців тому +5

    Summer is and animal

    • @V_for_Victory_for_V
      @V_for_Victory_for_V 8 місяців тому +4

      i would choose to encounter a person like summer than someone who cant be honest about the most basic things.
      do not forget,
      from day 1- summer had always been veey honest about her intentions of not wanting anything serious with Tom.

    • @craigburch464
      @craigburch464 4 місяці тому +1

      @@V_for_Victory_for_V for real! my version of summer was a woman that was lying about her commitment level the whole time we dated until i fell for her and then she just dipped. wish she would have been up front about her needs so i could have subverted my expectations. FRICK!

  • @pinkfuture8275
    @pinkfuture8275 5 місяців тому +8

    Summer is the worst person here. In reality, these type of people end up old and alone because they used others and laugh at their pain. These are the type of people who will cheat on you if they got bored. 😢

  • @christofferjenzen78
    @christofferjenzen78 9 місяців тому +10

    What annoys me about Summer is how it not arrogant or cynical but downright immature and childish. A woman that age mocking the very concept of love existing despite all the proof around her. It seems like a defense mechanism that gives her the ability to act however she feels until maybe, eventually that changes and she does fall in love...again? Don't remember if she ever heen in love but her wannabe edgy and oh so jaded outlook on life was nothing but a sham. I say good riddance although Tom can't realise he never had chemistry with her,that she isn't just someone to be won like a prize and not realizing he doesn't even love her personality,just her looks.
    They both kinda suck, it's just that Summer feels alot more disingenuous.

    • @ALTheFreeMan
      @ALTheFreeMan 6 місяців тому

      Very disingenuous!! She was hurt about her parent’s divorce, and it would take a relationship with Prince Charming to make her settle down. Whether her marriage works out or not, she’ll be financially set.

  • @aswin8399
    @aswin8399 3 місяці тому +1

    Who else wants a climax where Andrew tate appears as summer' husband and mocks Tom and a part two where we see a red pilled Tom 😁

  • @prateekl968
    @prateekl968 10 місяців тому +2

    Andrew tatt was right

    • @qy23
      @qy23 2 місяці тому

      About what?

  • @BigBoss-kk8hq
    @BigBoss-kk8hq 8 місяців тому

    What a b

  • @ErnestoRayas-r6y
    @ErnestoRayas-r6y Рік тому +233

    She loved him enough to give him the closure he needed

    • @bobothefumo
      @bobothefumo Рік тому +16

      actually if you watch the commentary this scene is played out in his head - shes not actually there

    • @cringlez1096
      @cringlez1096 9 місяців тому +3

      @@bobothefumoreally??

    • @bobothefumo
      @bobothefumo 9 місяців тому +5

      @@cringlez1096yup! It’s in the commentary

    • @nkkbee
      @nkkbee 7 місяців тому +3

      @@bobothefumo whaaaaat

    • @redesignedlife777
      @redesignedlife777 7 місяців тому

      @@bobothefumoyou have the link to that commentary clip?