Jocko Podcast 354: Everything in Life Is A Negotiation. With Chris Voss.

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    Businessman, author of "Never Split The Difference". Former FBI hostage negotiator. CEO of The Black Swan Group.

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  • @timothy6966
    @timothy6966 Рік тому +160

    Two of my all time favorite books for general life and leadership skills: Extreme Ownership, and Never split the Difference. Amazing to see these two legends together.

    • @patrickdenis3446
      @patrickdenis3446 Рік тому +3

      HELL YEAH! Get Some!!!

    • @tony9146
      @tony9146 Рік тому +6

      Never split the difference is truly game changing. I’m going to have to check out the other one you mentioned.

    • @timothy6966
      @timothy6966 Рік тому +4

      @@tony9146 Extreme Ownership is actually written by Jocko, so if you like his podcast, chances are you’ll love the book.

    • @danielharris4965
      @danielharris4965 Рік тому +2

      Since you like those, Guidelines for the Leader and the Commander by General Bruce C. Clark is another book you should look into. Jocko did some videos on it I believe.

    • @Guitarrecovery
      @Guitarrecovery Рік тому

      ​@@tony9146 ▪︎▪︎ '' xx'x#

  • @ChrisV25
    @ChrisV25 Рік тому +364

    "You don't get what you deserve, you get what you negotiate" - Advice I got from a lawyer once. Stuck with me.

    • @scottsherman5262
      @scottsherman5262 Рік тому +8

      Ya, & it sure is true...but it shouldn't be!! I aught to get what I freaking earn/deserve, what my merit dictates, what my scarcity of skill dictates....but you're absolutely correct, that ain't what happens in real life.

    • @mandospurs
      @mandospurs Рік тому +14

      @@scottsherman5262 The capacity to negotiate is a skill, and adds to your merit.

    • @cdrtej
      @cdrtej Рік тому +3

      That's my first law of contracting.

    • @scottsherman5262
      @scottsherman5262 Рік тому +1

      @@mandospurs But the thing is, "negotiating" is inherently slimey, & what about American heroes like me who'd rather not be a slime ball? Is it equitable (that's for the woke peeps) that a less skilled/talented/productive person gets more simply because they're willing to play the office politics game & I'm not...because I'm busy maintaining my moral standards & again, just generally being an American hero?

    • @CharlieGr
      @CharlieGr Рік тому +5

      @@scottsherman5262 There are many slimy negotiators, but it doesn’t have to be that way. There can be a mutual respect gained by two men haggling with one another. I know you want to receive what your merit has earned, but the other person also deserves what they have earned. Often, the best case for both parties is discovered through the process of negotiation.
      I negotiate compensation between companies and executives as part of my job. Ideally I can break the deal early if there’s not a fit, but get the candidate fair compensation when it is a fit. Company gets value, candidate gets money. But neither side is wrong for initially wanting more.
      Edit: There’s a great guest article on the Art of Manliness about “haggling”. Kind of anti-American, but that’s because we’ve lost the guts for it.

  • @paulkitchen1300
    @paulkitchen1300 Рік тому +26

    I used to do that overestimate thing with my construction remodeling company. If I told them it would take two weeks and it took two weeks they were okay with it but a little bit negative. If I told them two weeks and it took me two weeks and one day they were not happy at all. If I told him two and a half weeks and it took me two weeks they were ecstatic. It's all about perception.

  • @mikereyna2680
    @mikereyna2680 Рік тому +61

    My first boss told me “under promise, over deliver and over quote, under charge. You’ll make more loyal customers than the ones you chased off.”
    He was right, every time you’re over schedule or over budget, it goes bad.

    • @JrnMnd08
      @JrnMnd08 Рік тому

      Over quote and under charge seem to not make sense. If you see this please elaborate

    • @Psycogenius
      @Psycogenius Рік тому +8

      @@JrnMnd08 As a basic example, let's say you run a landscaping business and have quoted a customer $1,000 for a job that in reality you believe could be done for $800. During the job material costs were a bit higher than expected and came out to an actual cost of $964. You can come back to the client with a bill (charge) that is less than your quote. You came in under the proposed quote price and still had all your costs covered. The customer is happy, they are likely to refer you out for more work, and your business didn't take the financial hit to finish the job.

    • @mikereyna2680
      @mikereyna2680 Рік тому

      @@Psycogenius exactly that

  • @Realerikmartinez
    @Realerikmartinez Рік тому +46

    Episode 354 is 3 hours and 54 minutes long……
    Makes this great episode even better.

    • @cactusjackhausen8508
      @cactusjackhausen8508 Рік тому +2

      It's a sign!

    • @DAdeuceeight
      @DAdeuceeight 11 місяців тому

      I was just about to hit the like button when I saw there were already 35 before me...(so here is me giving four-tenths of a 👍)

  • @katno9936
    @katno9936 Рік тому +18

    This one might be my favorite. Not only is Chris obviously at the top of his craft, he is also a great storyteller, captivating. And what a concept to focus on in this day and age.

  • @rachaeltatarka8786
    @rachaeltatarka8786 Рік тому +28

    Working for a company with the poorest leadership skills, this podcast has been a rainstorm in a drought for me. I’m so grateful there are people who do listen, are humble, and never split the difference. Thank you! #thatsright

  • @JoseGarcia-vr8mx
    @JoseGarcia-vr8mx Рік тому +41

    No WAY!!!! Why isn't this Podcast 8 hours long?! All kidding aside, I will be listening to this 4-hour-long Podcast becuase I know this will be gold! Thank you, Jocko and Chris, for making this happen!

    • @Electronicsflippa
      @Electronicsflippa Рік тому +2

      Mr. Leadership and Mr. Negotiation in the flesh. It doesn't get any better!

    • @LivinginCentralNewJersey-ep4bq
      @LivinginCentralNewJersey-ep4bq 10 днів тому

      if you haven't read his book; Never Split the Difference you have to read it....

  • @bravesfan714
    @bravesfan714 Рік тому +9

    This was a super long podcast, and yet it felt way too short. Would love to see a part 2.

  • @rktsnail
    @rktsnail Рік тому +9

    I’ve listened to hundreds of Jockos episodes and other self improvement pods. This was top 5 most useful.

  • @Mike_Phoutrides1611
    @Mike_Phoutrides1611 Рік тому +8

    Read this book in 2020 for the first time, read it about once a month after this. This book is truly a game changer. Thanks Chris!

  • @broubaby6706
    @broubaby6706 Рік тому +7

    2 of the biggest experts on leadership and negotiation on 1 show ... I feel like I have died and gone to heaven! Normally 4 hours is a long time. I couldn't stop listening and hungered for more at the end ... very well done Gents!

    • @scorch4299
      @scorch4299 Рік тому

      Willink-Voss 2024. Can you imagine how much America would start to improve?

  • @volcaniadread
    @volcaniadread Рік тому +12

    great one ty 🙏. where the fun begins 1:30:50 ...and ends 3:23:51 :)

  • @sastracaksusa2728
    @sastracaksusa2728 Рік тому +14

    1:30:52 Segue from personal interview of Chris to discussing Black Swan Techniques
    2:52:52 bookmark

  • @EOCA
    @EOCA Рік тому +7

    So pleased I got to watch this. Thank you Jocko for having Chris on, one of my favourite guests on any podcast.

  • @eddier155
    @eddier155 5 місяців тому +1

    Chris is always such a wealth of knowledge when it comes to dealing with difficult situations.

  • @DannyFrank
    @DannyFrank Рік тому +5

    First, thank you all for your service.
    I feel this is the best learning podcast ever produced. It talks about leadership, with the art of real negotiating skills. It is a must Listen/Watch for everyone. Don't let this one sit in you TO DO soon file... As a Realtor, I'm always looking for the one thing that clicks for me. This is it.

  • @marktheboys
    @marktheboys Рік тому +22

    I really liked Chris’ book and am excited for this podcast.

    • @matthewlynch3841
      @matthewlynch3841 Рік тому

      Absolutely

    • @Last_Chance.
      @Last_Chance. Рік тому +1

      Thanks for watching

    • @tony9146
      @tony9146 Рік тому

      I’ve read many business and leadership books and the only modern one worth its salt is Never Split the Difference. Chris is a legend and his techniques work so well when applied in the real world.

    • @matthewlynch3841
      @matthewlynch3841 Рік тому

      @@tony9146 Same exact sentiment!

  • @kcraig9950
    @kcraig9950 Рік тому +4

    Perfect timing with this podcast! I am taking an 8 week Master's in Counseling Techniques course and everything you just covered (listening, demo understanding, tone of voice, pause, open ended questions, mirroring, labeling...) is straight from my textbook! This podcast is like the cheat code to applying the content I have learned. Thank you!

    • @almmason7
      @almmason7 2 місяці тому

      So, true!❤ Same here in my Grad program but we didn't get enough practice in my opinion I think it should be a requirement and taught throughout the program. Now I'm a Realtor which requires these skills alot and I'm practicing all day...😅

  • @reknirbecurb
    @reknirbecurb Рік тому +4

    Chris Voss!! Bring on the late night DJ voice 😂😂

  • @chrisgodfrey7329
    @chrisgodfrey7329 Рік тому +6

    This episode is fantastic. These two guys are super heroes in their field and a major influence in my success. Thrilled they sat down to chat and we got to listen.

  • @wagnerp1213
    @wagnerp1213 17 днів тому

    "Good evening echo ! " Good evening " showing up for duty demeanor 😂😂

  • @josevilla3709
    @josevilla3709 Рік тому +4

    Two of my favorite books, extreme ownership and never split the difference

  • @suzanhodges415
    @suzanhodges415 Рік тому +26

    You are the best interviewer Jocko and your guests unendingly interesting, educational and inspiring.

  • @martyletitbee1519
    @martyletitbee1519 Рік тому +17

    Navy Seal lip reading lesson 1 folks let's go we can do it!!

  • @volcaniadread
    @volcaniadread Рік тому +5

    2:21:37 behavioural change stairway model!
    1. active listening
    2. empathy
    3. rapport
    4. influence
    5. behaviour change

  • @johngriffin8879
    @johngriffin8879 Рік тому +7

    The two most impactful personalities of mine over the last few years…..this is pure gold👊🏻

  • @davidalderman3620
    @davidalderman3620 Рік тому +4

    Great conversation and insights into human behavior and learning new skills. I have read Chris’s books both Never Split the Difference and Full Fee agent since I am a Realtor.

  • @james9902
    @james9902 Рік тому +5

    Just placed my order. Thank you for bringing this book to my attention.

  • @brunosoaresrodrigues8957
    @brunosoaresrodrigues8957 Рік тому +18

    Audio: no go.

  • @YG-zv3me
    @YG-zv3me Рік тому +9

    This podcast has some of the most interesting guests and is the main reason I watch UA-cam!

  • @vladimir.zlokazov
    @vladimir.zlokazov Рік тому

    I've read Mr. Voss's book a while back. It was great to renew all that and also to get to know him better. Thank you for this podcast!

  • @simpleman7203
    @simpleman7203 Рік тому +2

    Brilliant conversion that has absurd amount of useful gems.
    Definitely will go reread the book with making notes and comeback again. And I hope these guys will do the part 2 (and 3 too 🙄🙄)

  • @user-yk5lz2go6w
    @user-yk5lz2go6w 2 місяці тому

    Incredible! I could watch this a million times and still learn something new! Thank you all for your service.

  • @Mercury_EG
    @Mercury_EG Рік тому +4

    Solid interaction here. Leadership and Negotiation tend to be closely tied and it's interesting to see this play out by two of the best.

  • @EstaySure
    @EstaySure 16 днів тому

    Discipline and leadership from war is a good Standard to build discipline in your life

  • @ukfan1230
    @ukfan1230 Рік тому +9

    I’ve been waiting for this podcast for 3 years.

  • @WebbiestZeus
    @WebbiestZeus Рік тому +3

    Chris is a goat I'm glad he's getting out there

  • @shannoncurtis7640
    @shannoncurtis7640 Рік тому +4

    Shout out from Kansas City but born in Cedar Rapids Iowa!!! Wonderful place to live & still a hell of a place to raise good people with manners and hard working!! Great episode Jocko and thank u both for your service sir!!! KC ❤️💛❤️Go Chiefs!

  • @kennethkernen7031
    @kennethkernen7031 Рік тому +5

    This podcast is a game changer! Amazing. Just ordered the book. Get some.

  • @alexandernelson9190
    @alexandernelson9190 Рік тому +1

    I discovered Voss on youtube when trying out for my agencies Hostage Negotiations Team. saw this in my recommended videos HAD to watch.

  • @leesonoutdoors
    @leesonoutdoors Рік тому +1

    Outstanding!!! Already ordered the book

  • @mcd3731
    @mcd3731 Рік тому +1

    I love listening to Jocko read! 🤗

  • @deadarmd
    @deadarmd Рік тому +1

    Thank you guys for the Content!

  • @billy8216
    @billy8216 26 днів тому

    I read Voss book, it was great.. seen his other talks.. very good.. don’t know how I missed this with jocko but watched it all and it was awesome….ill watch anything with Voss on and he’s right on as I too had fbi time….

  • @BASEDinMaine
    @BASEDinMaine Рік тому +3

    Excited for this one. Love Chris Voss. Read his book (Never Split the Difference). Content is definitely relevant to Jocko's leadership and organizational work, and his voice and demeanor will fit the "noir-style" lighting :)

  • @razorgen4
    @razorgen4 Рік тому +3

    I've been hoping for this mash-up forever. Get some.

  • @aliciascott3176
    @aliciascott3176 Рік тому +2

    So excited to watch this interview. Like Echo I got this book when it came out, took the Master class and have taken advantage of all the free stuff from Black Swan. Thank you guys for putting this one together.

  • @biggSHNDO
    @biggSHNDO 7 місяців тому +1

    Busta rhymes story made me geek out. That was awesome.

  • @nicholashuys977
    @nicholashuys977 Рік тому +1

    Shout out to Mt Pleasant! Attended and played football there at Iowa Wesleyan! Awesome to hear about someone from the area!!

  • @nihaofamily
    @nihaofamily Рік тому

    fascinating... gotta replay it on less than 1.5 and take notes

  • @maribethcondrillon1079
    @maribethcondrillon1079 4 дні тому

    Thank you so much for the safe of my life ❤

  • @grantharper7515
    @grantharper7515 Рік тому

    I'm learning so much useful information, thank you!

  • @scottsherman5262
    @scottsherman5262 Рік тому +1

    Seems like this is one of the most interesting Jocko podcasts recently.

  • @mydog7771
    @mydog7771 Рік тому +2

    What an awesome guest. Very mind opening.. I will buy the book

  • @areid2214
    @areid2214 Місяць тому

    Absolutely fascinating ,I'd love to get into the science of it. Thank you for all you do. I love these thought experiments it is so informative and ground-breaking.

  • @hiramhaji7813
    @hiramhaji7813 Рік тому +3

    Outstanding podcast

  • @aaronsabel
    @aaronsabel Рік тому +1

    another excellent interview and all the more grateful for a positive perspective of the agency, down to the agent perspective and experience, in this day and age when there is so much criticism regarding the politicization of the agency.
    if you interview Chris again would be interested in his opinion and experience on the politics within the agency and whether the idea of heading fed agencies in the future from within the ranks of that agency rather than outside of agency political appointees would be helpful.

  • @Midnight76
    @Midnight76 Рік тому +1

    Cant believe I missed this one! Chris is great, reminds me a bit of Christopher Walkin’

  • @jasonhagensen5963
    @jasonhagensen5963 Рік тому +2

    I've read his book 6 times! Such valuable information

    • @deborahcooler8392
      @deborahcooler8392 Рік тому

      I can believe it. I am listening to the podcast...again. Yes, valuable and lots of it.

  • @kevinyoung1480
    @kevinyoung1480 Рік тому +1

    Killer book i have tried some of the techniques out of this book and they work. I always look for the black swan.

  • @SpiritualMachines
    @SpiritualMachines Рік тому +9

    No audio? Good. More time to learn to lip read

  • @lefthooklarry1348
    @lefthooklarry1348 Рік тому

    Love this book

  • @kennethkernen7031
    @kennethkernen7031 8 місяців тому

    Might be the most educational Jocko podcast yet!

  • @toms1197
    @toms1197 11 місяців тому +1

    Charles schwab did exactly the same thing when he addressed the steel workers at bethlehem steel when they had to make liberty boats for world war one.

  • @donfrance3
    @donfrance3 3 місяці тому +1

    this is correct - good interview

  • @jasonroberts4065
    @jasonroberts4065 Рік тому +1

    Would love to hear you have a couple of Aussie SAS guy's on the show. Keep up the awesome work.

  • @logsignup9887
    @logsignup9887 9 місяців тому +11

    All time stamps
    01:00:00 - How I became a negotiator
    01:05:00 - Negative emotions
    01:15:00 - FBI hostage negotiation
    01:20:00 - Mirroring
    01:25:00 - Better deals
    01:35:00 - Listening
    01:40:00 - Voice tones
    01:45:00 - Psychological reactants
    01:50:00 - Empathy
    01:55:00 - Negotiating with Muslims
    02:00:00 - Empathy
    02:05:00 - Negatives
    02:10:00 - Start with now
    02:15:00 - Get a no
    02:20:00 - Behavioral change
    02:25:00 - Neurochemicals
    02:30:00 - Deadline
    02:35:00 - Respect
    02:40:00 - Manipulation
    02:45:00 - Calibrated questions
    03:00:00 - Rapport
    03:05:00 - Differences
    03:10:00 - Jacko's Fulpment
    03:15:00 - War between big companies
    03:20:00 - Chris Voss's podcast
    03:25:00 - Emotions
    03:30:00 - Rational thinking
    03:35:00 - Negotiation
    03:40:00 - Juicers
    03:45:00 - Face and body language
    Hope this helps ❤
    There maybe some mistake in time stamp if you find any tell in the comments 😊

    • @gambar
      @gambar 8 місяців тому +1

      legend!!!!

  • @romeoorosco6795
    @romeoorosco6795 Рік тому

    Thank you 🙏 for the podcast

  • @verpalorian310
    @verpalorian310 Рік тому +3

    Podcast 354 that's 3:54 long.
    Noice!

  • @Dr.P.I.
    @Dr.P.I. Рік тому +1

    1:34:11 Mirroring ahas been well studied. It’s seen in animals too. It calms the limbic system reduces Adrenalin and bonding hormones like oxytocin. Hence you see two people in love sit the same way take the same way. It occurs naturally.
    Great interview with Chris. I’ve seen others and there didn’t seem as much value. I love communication/negotiation, it makes life more interesting when you see this play out in real life.

  • @wearethehaunted3831
    @wearethehaunted3831 Рік тому +1

    3 hours and 54 minutes long podcast!! I'm in!!

    • @drivers99
      @drivers99 7 місяців тому +1

      Wait, episode 354 is 3hr54 long

  • @KJW742
    @KJW742 Місяць тому

    Thank you for sharing

  • @redsix5165
    @redsix5165 Рік тому +1

    1:20:05 big tips- the framework of his negotiation strategy

  • @parveezsaligh9248
    @parveezsaligh9248 4 місяці тому

    always the best educational content .

  • @ely410
    @ely410 Рік тому +1

    Been waiting to see this. Headphones on.

  • @maribethcondrillon1079
    @maribethcondrillon1079 4 дні тому

    Yes i can change never entertain the toxic people ❤

  • @sailesemanoel2755
    @sailesemanoel2755 Рік тому +1

    Thanks for this poadcast! Brazilian police office here.

  • @jonathans1547
    @jonathans1547 Рік тому +1

    You did a 5:49:31podcast with Tim Kennedy.. witch was awesome! So invite Chris back and let's hear some stories!!

  • @EvaandJavier
    @EvaandJavier Рік тому +6

    Loved this episode, Jocko 👍🏼

  • @suziehartwright
    @suziehartwright Рік тому

    I've enjoyed listening to Chris Voss and his son on UA-cam the past couple of years. They give such great insight and advice. Thank you for Interviewing him on your podcast.

  • @sasquatch6829
    @sasquatch6829 Рік тому

    This is a good one.

  • @CostasSchuler
    @CostasSchuler 4 місяці тому

    Life changing book, made more after reading this and got rid of the rif raf in my life

  • @arthurcitron9774
    @arthurcitron9774 Рік тому

    Knocked it out of the park🇺🇸👊🏻🇺🇸

  • @brunosoaresrodrigues8957
    @brunosoaresrodrigues8957 Рік тому +3

    Audio is a go.

  • @EricLerma-kt9hn
    @EricLerma-kt9hn 25 днів тому

    I can see you take this topic of the video serious ,your man enough to own up and take accountability for your actions Ese Dubs! I Respect that! That is something I as well learned to do and to admit when I am In the wrong no matter what. I always say NO BODY can make me do anything I don't want to do.

  • @swoodc
    @swoodc 7 місяців тому

    why jocko litearlly only autopplays when Im about to go to bed and it autoplays from the most random videos into a jocko video lmfao

  • @golden_bjj
    @golden_bjj Рік тому +5

    No audio. Good.

  • @TommyLentsch
    @TommyLentsch Рік тому

    Brilliant!!!

  • @zacksmootz9975
    @zacksmootz9975 Рік тому +2

    I heard great parenting advice. Shared this one with a bunch of parents.

  • @Electronicsflippa
    @Electronicsflippa Рік тому +1

    2nd time listening to this one with my Jocko GO pineapple coconut in hand. Let's Goooo!

  • @HELLEKSONART
    @HELLEKSONART Рік тому

    Good Interview

  • @thoughtfullyjohn
    @thoughtfullyjohn Рік тому +3

    Never split the difference

  • @carlosbravo6282
    @carlosbravo6282 5 місяців тому

    Excelente episodio señor jocko bad hombre

  • @sysy1221
    @sysy1221 6 місяців тому +1

    Good to hear from students of Marshal Rosenberg...never credited

  • @koiulm84
    @koiulm84 Рік тому +4

    Jocko has amazing insights but oh boy does he need external validation

  • @chrisnkc07
    @chrisnkc07 Рік тому

    It makes a huge difference when the interviewer reads the book.

  • @maribethcondrillon1079
    @maribethcondrillon1079 4 дні тому

    I promise and i respect you ❤

  • @jurajturansky413
    @jurajturansky413 11 місяців тому

    This was great

  • @Tacit_Tern
    @Tacit_Tern Рік тому +4

    *Jocko Willink is the Reluctant Leader we need.*
    .....We know you've done enough, but your Nation needs you.
    🇺🇸 *2024* 🦅