I used to dream about him often especially right after we split up & he left. I've been no contact for almost 3 yrs & the dreams have all stopped. I think about him from time to time but I have no desire to re-connect with him again. He's part of my past now - lesson learned! He still tries to reach out occasionally but all he receives in return is silence - and it's going to stay that way!
What a message to read Power to you sis ❤️ And I can’t wait till the day I write this He is unfortunately still in my dream space but thankfully that’s all
I think what I dream about is the dream they stole from me by pretending to be the love of my life. Sure, he brought out that little girl in me that desperately wanted to be loved and acknowledged, but then he smacked down my innocent little girl self by turning out to be the biggest fraud and liar ever. The little girl that has been hiding for most of her life, finally came out to play, only to find out that she would enter the darkest night of her soul. She will find her freedom only this time for real.
All of this is so true. Even though I have healed and moved on, I still feel her presence occasionally. Dreams, a sudden memory or even a thought. I think there is a spiritual connection that will probably last with me forever. As long as I stay focused and avoid all contact, I will be able to stay centered and free. It is weird that you discussed this today. I was contemplating this issue earlier.
I dream of her betraying me again. Texting the other supply right next to me on the couch, moving in with him while I'm at work. And it all happened twice because I was blinded by the idealization and wanted her back.
Yes. This happens. Weird but the dreams will fade. Even my best friend dreamed one day at the same time as me and i was like 😮 wtf. Healing 💯 i know i am working hard and in the right path
You're voice is very calming lol I have a picture in my head of what you look like but I'm probably completely wrong lol Your videos are very informative 👌
I love this Joe. I have a ton of dreams about my ex during the relationship and now after the split. Whilst with him my dreams were warning me and trying to get my attention. A lot of these dreams were about his infidelity clear clear and concise dreams like I was looking into his world from the outside - I often saw him with other women in different towns, places, bars, on dates and even a whole life with someone else behind my back. Very graphic I took heed of these dreams in the end as well as in my waking life situation with him. I do believe its a soul bond that runs very deep in my subconscious probably also due to the gaslighting and manipulation.
Isn't that something. I remember when we had a big breakup after 2 years he begged me to come back. When we started talking to work things out I started having dreams similar to yours. It was warning me about the infidelity and that even though he was trying to rekindle our relationship he was still with other women. It was so crazy I was very young around 21 and I didn't have anyone to talk to about dreams and stuff so I didn't really take it for what it meant at that time.
@@bellaapple2166infidelity and lying about it really hurts!! Re. dreams It's our subconscious trying to alarm us and the way we get to realise this is in our dreams. I'm learning to trust as this is also our Intuition.
It was very interesting that I actually had 100% trust in her and started having dreams(more like nightmares) about her cheating, it was at a time the thought never crossed my mind and I never questioned what she was doing or anything like that. It was actually the dreams that made me wonder. I didn't discover her cheating till months after the dreams but turns out the cheating started at that time.
@@Aatell764 Thanks for sharing...Dreams really are our saving grace when we actually look back, I am still having the odd dream now confirming I was Right all along but it doesn't remove the hurt that was caused.
If you don't mind me saying, it's not a good idea to think like this, even though I have to an extent experienced this. It's better to manifest a complete cutting of ties with them in your mind, otherwise they will stay with you, which is not what you want. I think this soul connection is down to the fact you did indeed love them once, but it was never reciprocal, so it's best forgotten and destroyed completely, for you to be able to fully move on with your life. These people are mean and menacing, particularly after the relationship ends. I tend to think my ex lives on another planet, if at all. But I avoid thinking of him, so it rarely happens.
@@markelliott4969 I think we have a tenancy to remember all people we once loved, from time to time. The narcissist no more than any. There is no special tie unless you make it ... they were no different than anyone else who has left our life, through death or normal break-up. Often people are meant to be in our lives for a season not a lifetime.
@@babysister76 I had a lot of narcissists in my life, family, friends and ex partners, so I'd never just think of the ex when watching a video on narcissism! They are everywhere in life! I have a soul tie with my cat I lost 2 years ago, she was 17, I remember her often and still feel close, but not the sociopathic narcissist ex! They don't deserve your energy 🥰
I just don't think it's helping survivors to suggest you will always have a special pyschic soul-tie to your ex narcissist. It's just encouraging people to feel disempowered, like a victim. If you want to get over the narcissist you must educate yourself as much as you can about the 'trauma bond' they subjected you to, the lies and the clever manipulation they used. Radical acceptance and seeing REALITY is what will help heal you, not believing you'll never be free of them on a spiritual level or connection. These are people you must break bonds with in your mind for your survival and good. Get rid of everything that reminds you of them, photos, messages, everything. Think of them as gone for good and carry on with your life afresh. They have no power and control over you anymore. It was never love it was an abusive trauma bond folks 💔 it was domestic terrorism
All my dreams have been of him during the love bombing stage. I don’t want to wake up but when I do I’m so sad again. Like starting over with the pain.
I used to dream about my narcissist ex-boyfriend all the time. When I first break it off with him. I was thinking about everything he had done me. But, with therapy and journaling every single day. I don't have dreams of him anymore!
@@killjoyredux8361 Yes I have seen it, my ex's eyes pupils would enlarge to almost black when I perceived him to be lying or when he was in high excitement mode.
That is real. I saw my narc mom’s eyes turn black for two seconds in the garage in 2012.. I was 17. It was the most horrifying thing I’ve experienced in my life. Of course I didn’t tell anyone. I am happy now people are waking up. 😊
Hey, so I had this crazy dream about my ex-bestie, the narcissistic one. You won't believe it, but she was actually being all nice and supportive in my dream. It was like she was love-bombing me or something, just because I looked stunning with my new hairdo. Can you imagine that?
I used to have terrible nightmares about her, waking up being upset, angry and sad. I'm reacting to this now because I dreamt about her this night since a while..progress..In the dream and while waking up I wasnt stuck in her fantas. It was like yeah, whatever you say..dont believe you anyways and I dont care. I think I'm well on the way in recovery. Why I dreamt about her? I was in her hometown yesterday and then I always look over my shoulder (malignent female narcissist). But doing much better now.
She claims she doesn't dream 🙃 guess i have to take her word for it 😂 All jokes aside. I had a few dreams about her. Nightmares actually. About her cheating on me. I never caught her. But my gut was screaming at me. AND the vivid dreams. 😮
My narsisist cried when I cried and when I wanted to take a tatoo that was for us he wanted it too. When he told me he didnt wanna delete my pictures I was shocked cause I dont wanna delete pictures of him either. He is so special to me I know I cannot be with him but I will always have him in my heart hidden forever
What do I do now? November 6th of 2022 I thought I found my soulmate oh my God for 3-4 months it was just the most amazing thing ever. There were red flags and questionable things but I told myself I was overthinking and new relationship jitters. At month 4 I proposed and right after that began the discard. Idk where to go now I'm still madly in love with her and I havmt spoken to her in 7weeks this sun. I have my days where I'm okay but today is okay I guess but the last few days have been pure hell I found myself screaming yesterday morning on the way to work angry because my heart hurts just f****** bad just four months ago I was telling everybody I was going to marry this girl and we were going to start a family she really screwed my head up. I don't think I've ever loved somebody this much I really don't and I'm dealing with a sick mother who I could lose at any moment and the one person who I thought would always be there no longer exist I guess she never really did exist I guess it was just all performance she didn't want to end the relationship that day but she didn't have a choice because there was so much stuff that I questioned her about and all it was she kept screaming at me about trust is trust that trust if you don't trust me Baba by you never trust me which is a complete lie because I work an hour away from home and she could have done whatever all day long while I was at work and I never questioned anything about that. I question was stuff that anybody with half a brain cell wouldve questioned. There were major red flags I wait 2 weeks to talk and see if things would change they progressively got worse
@@markelliott4969 thank you I'm just so confused because it was just like there was a time where I believe she really loved me and that last argument we got into 7 Sundays ago I really thought when I walked out of her house I'll be back there the next day or she would be at my house the next day. I shouldn't have thought that though because that argument that happened that Sunday I legitimately with just trying to have an adult conversation and fix where she was messing up and she promptly told me how everything was my fault I needed an antidepressant and that she was perfect essentially and she proceeded to scream at me and call me names after that and it triggered me so I laid into her every little thing that I can think of I laid into her with everything that looked suspicious and ther was alot
@@markelliott4969 thank you for your words of encouragement I know I can get through this I know I can get just so damn I don't know I'm just so confused I've never had this where I don't have closure
I hear you it's very confusing...The last couple of days I spent with my ex he was being very shady taking his phone to the bathroom and when I questioned him about it he made up a story then proceeded to shift the issue onto me and my so called insecurities. He spent a whole evening therapising me and it was all about my past and how I project this onto him. The next day I woke up to him next to me on his phone again??!! I thought this is just too much! Later he accompanied me home but then at the last minute he said he needed to go home? We were cycling back he said he was cold!!? Then ironically left me at the crossroads were we parted ways. I cycled home furious as I knew he was going somewhere?? I watched him cycle away and that was it. A couple of days later I said no to continuing the relationship after the 1000th time of getting back together in our 2.5yrs relationship. I finally saw the light in the 3D. That was 3 months ago as I finally blocked him and went no contact. It's been difficult with lots of up and down days but I'm getting there... The connection is still there in my head and heart like a piercing knife, but for my own survival I have to keep moving forward and create a new life for myself. You can do it too 💜
Ye do narcs dream about us in the future or are they just totally focused on the next supply in life. What do narcs even dream about. Mine used to say he'd have awful stressful dreams about me cheating etc funny enough the whole time we were together I'd have dreams like that too. I never fully trusted him but I wanted him so bad. I would wake up sweating and feeling sick
Back in 2013, a year before I met the covert narcissist I had a dream that felt so realistic: I walked in my neighbourhood and there was a fat woman wearing scarf and glasses, with fully black eyes sitting on a stone and silently watching me as I was passing by. Her gazing made me feel terrible pain inside. I felt like my soul is being squeezed by an iron fist from within. It was horrible.
I dreamt of her telling me "I was frontin/playing." And I woke up in such a quick flash of pain. Like I knew it all along but was lying to myself. It had been days since I was thrown away. After a couple of minutes I felt better like a weight was off my chest. Dreams can hurt and heal
Your videos are so calming and the information and perspectives are excellent insights and I can relate to them so much. I have lots of upsetting dreams about my ex covert narcissist partner and it really does unsettle me or hurt me, because she was my whole world my everything. I left her I was very damaged but I had no clue what she is, I just was going insane with her behaviours, but now I know. I'm healing and rebuilding myself but I'm doing it with better understanding thanks to your videos. Many thanks they really help.
I think it means your "indifference" towards him now. You don't care about him anymore, good or bad. You just don't care. But, that's some heavy stuff what you're dreaming about.
The person that you once knew is gone forever, and what remains is soulless. There's a part of you in the casket too which you can never get back. He moved on, and you're making peace with it.
I used to dream about him often especially right after we split up & he left. I've been no contact for almost 3 yrs & the dreams have all stopped. I think about him from time to time but I have no desire to re-connect with him again. He's part of my past now - lesson learned! He still tries to reach out occasionally but all he receives in return is silence - and it's going to stay that way!
What a message to read
Power to you sis ❤️
And I can’t wait till the day I write this
He is unfortunately still in my dream space but thankfully that’s all
I think what I dream about is the dream they stole from me by pretending to be the love of my life. Sure, he brought out that little girl in me that desperately wanted to be loved and acknowledged, but then he smacked down my innocent little girl self by turning out to be the biggest fraud and liar ever. The little girl that has been hiding for most of her life, finally came out to play, only to find out that she would enter the darkest night of her soul. She will find her freedom only this time for real.
❤️❤️❤️❤️🤗 I know how feel about that little girl ☺️
Absolutely
All of this is so true. Even though I have healed and moved on, I still feel her presence occasionally. Dreams, a sudden memory or even a thought. I think there is a spiritual connection that will probably last with me forever. As long as I stay focused and avoid all contact, I will be able to stay centered and free. It is weird that you discussed this today. I was contemplating this issue earlier.
Me too! It's like her image is etched in my brain! I can't get it out of my head.
No evidence of any of this, so cut the crap! They impacted us, we think about them. Go figure!
I dream of her betraying me again. Texting the other supply right next to me on the couch, moving in with him while I'm at work. And it all happened twice because I was blinded by the idealization and wanted her back.
I dream of her sometimes, but mostly, i dream of the child she used me for, and I've never met. Its really kinda sad.
Yes. This happens. Weird but the dreams will fade. Even my best friend dreamed one day at the same time as me and i was like 😮 wtf. Healing 💯 i know i am working hard and in the right path
You're voice is very calming lol
I have a picture in my head of what you look like but I'm probably completely wrong lol
Your videos are very informative 👌
I love this Joe. I have a ton of dreams about my ex during the relationship and now after the split. Whilst with him my dreams were warning me and trying to get my attention. A lot of these dreams were about his infidelity clear clear and concise dreams like I was looking into his world from the outside - I often saw him with other women in different towns, places, bars, on dates and even a whole life with someone else behind my back. Very graphic I took heed of these dreams in the end as well as in my waking life situation with him. I do believe its a soul bond that runs very deep in my subconscious probably also due to the gaslighting and manipulation.
Isn't that something. I remember when we had a big breakup after 2 years he begged me to come back. When we started talking to work things out I started having dreams similar to yours. It was warning me about the infidelity and that even though he was trying to rekindle our relationship he was still with other women. It was so crazy I was very young around 21 and I didn't have anyone to talk to about dreams and stuff so I didn't really take it for what it meant at that time.
@@bellaapple2166infidelity and lying about it really hurts!! Re. dreams It's our subconscious trying to alarm us and the way we get to realise this is in our dreams. I'm learning to trust as this is also our Intuition.
It was very interesting that I actually had 100% trust in her and started having dreams(more like nightmares) about her cheating, it was at a time the thought never crossed my mind and I never questioned what she was doing or anything like that. It was actually the dreams that made me wonder. I didn't discover her cheating till months after the dreams but turns out the cheating started at that time.
@@Aatell764 Thanks for sharing...Dreams really are our saving grace when we actually look back, I am still having the odd dream now confirming I was Right all along but it doesn't remove the hurt that was caused.
If you don't mind me saying, it's not a good idea to think like this, even though I have to an extent experienced this.
It's better to manifest a complete cutting of ties with them in your mind, otherwise they will stay with you, which is not what you want.
I think this soul connection is down to the fact you did indeed love them once, but it was never reciprocal, so it's best forgotten and destroyed completely, for you to be able to fully move on with your life.
These people are mean and menacing, particularly after the relationship ends. I tend to think my ex lives on another planet, if at all. But I avoid thinking of him, so it rarely happens.
But it does happen Amanda. That is the jest of it. If even rarely.
How can you not think about your ex if you're watching a video about narcissistic behavior?
@@markelliott4969
I think we have a tenancy to remember all people we once loved, from time to time. The narcissist no more than any. There is no special tie unless you make it ... they were no different than anyone else who has left our life, through death or normal break-up. Often people are meant to be in our lives for a season not a lifetime.
@@babysister76
I had a lot of narcissists in my life, family, friends and ex partners, so I'd never just think of the ex when watching a video on narcissism! They are everywhere in life! I have a soul tie with my cat I lost 2 years ago, she was 17, I remember her often and still feel close, but not the sociopathic narcissist ex! They don't deserve your energy 🥰
I just don't think it's helping survivors to suggest you will always have a special pyschic soul-tie to your ex narcissist. It's just encouraging people to feel disempowered, like a victim. If you want to get over the narcissist you must educate yourself as much as you can about the 'trauma bond' they subjected you to, the lies and the clever manipulation they used. Radical acceptance and seeing REALITY is what will help heal you, not believing you'll never be free of them on a spiritual level or connection. These are people you must break bonds with in your mind for your survival and good. Get rid of everything that reminds you of them, photos, messages, everything. Think of them as gone for good and carry on with your life afresh. They have no power and control over you anymore. It was never love it was an abusive trauma bond folks 💔 it was domestic terrorism
All my dreams have been of him during the love bombing stage. I don’t want to wake up but when I do I’m so sad again. Like starting over with the pain.
You nailed it.
I used to dream about my narcissist ex-boyfriend all the time. When I first break it off with him. I was thinking about everything he had done me. But, with therapy and journaling every single day. I don't have dreams of him anymore!
I had a dream where my ex narc had pitch black eyes....scary stuff
They have this in real life... Look it up
@@killjoyredux8361 Yes I have seen it, my ex's eyes pupils would enlarge to almost black when I perceived him to be lying or when he was in high excitement mode.
That is real. I saw my narc mom’s eyes turn black for two seconds in the garage in 2012.. I was 17. It was the most horrifying thing I’ve experienced in my life. Of course I didn’t tell anyone. I am happy now people are waking up. 😊
Hey, so I had this crazy dream about my ex-bestie, the narcissistic one. You won't believe it, but she was actually being all nice and supportive in my dream. It was like she was love-bombing me or something, just because I looked stunning with my new hairdo. Can you imagine that?
I used to have terrible nightmares about her, waking up being upset, angry and sad.
I'm reacting to this now because I dreamt about her this night since a while..progress..In the dream and while waking up I wasnt stuck in her fantas. It was like yeah, whatever you say..dont believe you anyways and I dont care. I think I'm well on the way in recovery. Why I dreamt about her? I was in her hometown yesterday and then I always look over my shoulder (malignent female narcissist).
But doing much better now.
She claims she doesn't dream 🙃 guess i have to take her word for it 😂 All jokes aside. I had a few dreams about her. Nightmares actually. About her cheating on me. I never caught her. But my gut was screaming at me. AND the vivid dreams. 😮
My narsisist cried when I cried and when I wanted to take a tatoo that was for us he wanted it too. When he told me he didnt wanna delete my pictures I was shocked cause I dont wanna delete pictures of him either. He is so special to me I know I cannot be with him but I will always have him in my heart hidden forever
Your no alone. I’m the exact same as you. I keep her photos hidden in my plane but saw one if her on the net. I miss her and the lady I addored
What do I do now? November 6th of 2022 I thought I found my soulmate oh my God for 3-4 months it was just the most amazing thing ever. There were red flags and questionable things but I told myself I was overthinking and new relationship jitters. At month 4 I proposed and right after that began the discard. Idk where to go now I'm still madly in love with her and I havmt spoken to her in 7weeks this sun. I have my days where I'm okay but today is okay I guess but the last few days have been pure hell I found myself screaming yesterday morning on the way to work angry because my heart hurts just f****** bad just four months ago I was telling everybody I was going to marry this girl and we were going to start a family she really screwed my head up. I don't think I've ever loved somebody this much I really don't and I'm dealing with a sick mother who I could lose at any moment and the one person who I thought would always be there no longer exist I guess she never really did exist I guess it was just all performance she didn't want to end the relationship that day but she didn't have a choice because there was so much stuff that I questioned her about and all it was she kept screaming at me about trust is trust that trust if you don't trust me Baba by you never trust me which is a complete lie because I work an hour away from home and she could have done whatever all day long while I was at work and I never questioned anything about that. I question was stuff that anybody with half a brain cell wouldve questioned. There were major red flags I wait 2 weeks to talk and see if things would change they progressively got worse
We have all lived this challenge that you are currently going through. I promise you, with time it will get better. Much better. Hang tough my man.
@@markelliott4969 thank you I'm just so confused because it was just like there was a time where I believe she really loved me and that last argument we got into 7 Sundays ago I really thought when I walked out of her house I'll be back there the next day or she would be at my house the next day. I shouldn't have thought that though because that argument that happened that Sunday I legitimately with just trying to have an adult conversation and fix where she was messing up and she promptly told me how everything was my fault I needed an antidepressant and that she was perfect essentially and she proceeded to scream at me and call me names after that and it triggered me so I laid into her every little thing that I can think of I laid into her with everything that looked suspicious and ther was alot
@@markelliott4969 thank you for your words of encouragement I know I can get through this I know I can get just so damn I don't know I'm just so confused I've never had this where I don't have closure
Research trauma-bond, it explains everything and gives you the tools to rid yourself of these feelings 💟
I hear you it's very confusing...The last couple of days I spent with my ex he was being very shady taking his phone to the bathroom and when I questioned him about it he made up a story then proceeded to shift the issue onto me and my so called insecurities. He spent a whole evening therapising me and it was all about my past and how I project this onto him. The next day I woke up to him next to me on his phone again??!! I thought this is just too much! Later he accompanied me home but then at the last minute he said he needed to go home? We were cycling back he said he was cold!!? Then ironically left me at the crossroads were we parted ways. I cycled home furious as I knew he was going somewhere?? I watched him cycle away and that was it. A couple of days later I said no to continuing the relationship after the 1000th time of getting back together in our 2.5yrs relationship. I finally saw the light in the 3D. That was 3 months ago as I finally blocked him and went no contact. It's been difficult with lots of up and down days but I'm getting there... The connection is still there in my head and heart like a piercing knife, but for my own survival I have to keep moving forward and create a new life for myself. You can do it too 💜
I mean REALLY Joe?!
🥴💗🤔
I’ve Experienced the Twin Flame Phenomenon as well! I would also like to write about that!😊
I still have dreams 18 years later. It's some crazy juju with these types
Does this mean they dream about you too?
Ye do narcs dream about us in the future or are they just totally focused on the next supply in life. What do narcs even dream about. Mine used to say he'd have awful stressful dreams about me cheating etc funny enough the whole time we were together I'd have dreams like that too. I never fully trusted him but I wanted him so bad. I would wake up sweating and feeling sick
Back in 2013, a year before I met the covert narcissist I had a dream that felt so realistic: I walked in my neighbourhood and there was a fat woman wearing scarf and glasses, with fully black eyes sitting on a stone and silently watching me as I was passing by. Her gazing made me feel terrible pain inside. I felt like my soul is being squeezed by an iron fist from within. It was horrible.
You need to break soul tie
I dreamt of her telling me "I was frontin/playing." And I woke up in such a quick flash of pain. Like I knew it all along but was lying to myself. It had been days since I was thrown away. After a couple of minutes I felt better like a weight was off my chest.
Dreams can hurt and heal
I want nothing to do with them
Ditto.
Your videos are so calming and the information and perspectives are excellent insights and I can relate to them so much. I have lots of upsetting dreams about my ex covert narcissist partner and it really does unsettle me or hurt me, because she was my whole world my everything. I left her I was very damaged but I had no clue what she is, I just was going insane with her behaviours, but now I know. I'm healing and rebuilding myself but I'm doing it with better understanding thanks to your videos. Many thanks they really help.
It’s been a year and 7 months since I been gone. Dreamed of her last night, jus lets me kno she still tryna get back to me in some way. Never again 🤞🏾
I dreamt that he died, and I saw him in a coffin. In my dream I didn't feel anything. What does that mean?
I think it means your "indifference" towards him now. You don't care about him anymore, good or bad. You just don't care. But, that's some heavy stuff what you're dreaming about.
@@SagittariusBabe87 i think so too. Thank you ♥️
The person that you once knew is gone forever, and what remains is soulless. There's a part of you in the casket too which you can never get back. He moved on, and you're making peace with it.
Indifference is freedom.
Hello
Excellent content.
SM/TF dynamic, perhaps previous incarnations..
Ty 🕊️✨🪽🫶