Heteronormativity - Today's Homophobia | Eli Weinger | TEDxYouth@SRDS

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  • Опубліковано 2 сер 2024
  • Eli speaks about the importance of keeping an open mind and the unintended consequences of heteronormativity. He explains that, as society has evolved, homophobia has not disappeared but evolved into its modern form of heteronormativity. Eli goes on to talk about how to combat this issue in order to create a more inclusive society. Eli is a freshman at Saddle River Day School in Saddle River, New Jersey. He is interested in politics and has a passion for ensuring social justice and equally for all in the modern era. Eli is secretary of the student council, plays soccer and lacrosse, and manages the boys varsity basketball team. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

КОМЕНТАРІ • 264

  • @DaBudder
    @DaBudder 4 роки тому +314

    i know him irl he is a legend

    • @bereavedlamb1293
      @bereavedlamb1293 3 роки тому +5

      Nice

    • @seankelly5142
      @seankelly5142 3 роки тому +7

      @Ray Kamden that’s super creepy

    • @itsbritneybeach8362
      @itsbritneybeach8362 3 роки тому +2

      @Jackson Muhammad wth get a life dude

    • @rydermoran5042
      @rydermoran5042 3 роки тому +3

      @@seankelly5142 what did ray ramadan say he deletes his comment

    • @seankelly5142
      @seankelly5142 3 роки тому +3

      @@rydermoran5042 Idek it wasn’t that good it was just a comment about the person in real life but I highly doubt he even knows him

  • @takke9830
    @takke9830 4 роки тому +232

    Great talk! I’m sad that it doesn’t have more views. This is a really real problem!

  • @pinkity914
    @pinkity914 3 роки тому +168

    honestly, what a king, he for sure deserves more hype.

  • @efegokselkisioglu8218
    @efegokselkisioglu8218 Рік тому +6

    Yeah, and how did that work out? Shows like Shehulk, Witcher Blood Origin and Amazon LOTR Fanfic(Rings of power) are abnormally bad, like, infinitely off from good. I'm not even mentioning Ve... Ve... Velma. Ugh, I just mentally vomited.
    I've not seen the benefit of "greater inclusion and representation in the media." It just sucks, and I want the opposite of whatever this amalgamation of baseless, rootless and spiritless media is.

    • @Em-jc7ct
      @Em-jc7ct Рік тому

      Don't watch it if you don't like it

  • @mactastic144
    @mactastic144 3 роки тому +40

    It’s more subtle than directly saying things. It’s actions that show the homophobia.

  • @neigeepierrot4694
    @neigeepierrot4694 4 роки тому +115

    This talk is wonderful since we need to talk more about this issue as well as how to better include LGBTQ people and other kinds of relationships

  • @bicuriousdirtbikeboi2594
    @bicuriousdirtbikeboi2594 3 роки тому +43

    I think he’s gonna do something big someday

    • @henryemrich7209
      @henryemrich7209 2 роки тому +2

      "Brent can't fit in the glory hole, and that's why we like Brent" - Peter Griffin (Family Guy).

    • @bicuriousdirtbikeboi2594
      @bicuriousdirtbikeboi2594 2 роки тому +1

      @@henryemrich7209 I appreciate this reference

    • @SB-iy9vn
      @SB-iy9vn Рік тому

      Like killing himself

    • @bicuriousdirtbikeboi2594
      @bicuriousdirtbikeboi2594 Рік тому +2

      @@SB-iy9vn just come out already

    • @justinehecht1197
      @justinehecht1197 8 місяців тому

      He already is :) Eli Clare is a well known scholar and expert in the field of disability and queer studies. You can check out his website to learn more, just search his name on Google!

  • @annemariezanzal
    @annemariezanzal 3 роки тому +46

    Eli a brave and courageous talk. Good job!

  • @fairyfrogs
    @fairyfrogs 2 роки тому +22

    let the record show i would die for this child

  • @landofthesilverpath5823
    @landofthesilverpath5823 2 роки тому +9

    So where do babies come from if Heterosexuality is not normative?

    • @Obi1Classic
      @Obi1Classic 2 роки тому +3

      Don't forget: men can get pregnant these day. 🙄
      A majority of the people in congress don't even know what a woman is.

    • @lol-ih1tl
      @lol-ih1tl Рік тому

      insemination exists.

    • @landofthesilverpath5823
      @landofthesilverpath5823 Рік тому +2

      @lol Let me explain what's really happening here.
      The logic this guy and all others who peddle heteronormativity theory proceed thusly:
      "Deviation is morally wrong, homosexuality cannot be morally wrong, therefore homosexuality cannot be deviant."
      The flaw is the assumption that anything abnormal is a moral failure-- a choice made by a person. But an abnormality is not necessarily a choice. A person born without an arm is not of a lesser moral value than a normal person.

    • @noahfarai4061
      @noahfarai4061 Рік тому

      @@landofthesilverpath5823 I agree

    • @Em-jc7ct
      @Em-jc7ct Рік тому

      ​@@landofthesilverpath5823 I don't think deviance or abnormalities are morally wrong

  • @RhythmAddictedState
    @RhythmAddictedState 2 роки тому +14

    Why are there so many dislikes? Smh

    • @kurziieee
      @kurziieee Рік тому +4

      Because its pseudo science.

  • @NickDriver
    @NickDriver Рік тому +10

    I think if more people spoke like this person...kindly....instead of politicians making this issue political - people would probably be way more open to acceptance. We should all try to be kinder to one another.

  • @citrathepotatochip6637
    @citrathepotatochip6637 3 роки тому +37

    It’s true! Completely!

  • @fizzypizzel6477
    @fizzypizzel6477 2 роки тому +11

    What's with the dislikes?

  • @sophiahowell5493
    @sophiahowell5493 3 роки тому +28

    For any LGBTQIA+ babies, comment your identity below (or don't if you're uncomfortable, you're valid and beautiful nevertheless) and you'll get a free "you're valid" cupon from me. Love you! ♥️

  • @elliemartin4155
    @elliemartin4155 3 роки тому +56

    the new she-ra on Netflix is amazing for representation! All of the characters are apart of the LGBTQ+ community and there is even enby representation!

    • @nsnnsnsj7205
      @nsnnsnsj7205 3 роки тому +6

      Honestly Double Trouble is iconic

    • @elliemartin4155
      @elliemartin4155 3 роки тому +6

      @@nsnnsnsj7205 i love them and entrapta

    • @xethrion4758
      @xethrion4758 3 роки тому +2

      Problem is that it’s classified as 18+ because of that

    • @elliemartin4155
      @elliemartin4155 3 роки тому +5

      @@xethrion4758 it’s PG

    • @xethrion4758
      @xethrion4758 3 роки тому +1

      @@elliemartin4155 yeah

  • @cuddlingcoachingwithkyle3673
    @cuddlingcoachingwithkyle3673 3 роки тому +24

    Great talk! I’ll be sending this to my clients!

    • @depressedutchman
      @depressedutchman 3 роки тому

      Clients? Are you a doctor sir

    • @depressedutchman
      @depressedutchman 3 роки тому

      And what kinda doctor?

    • @cuddlingcoachingwithkyle3673
      @cuddlingcoachingwithkyle3673 3 роки тому +6

      @@depressedutchman Dear Maxim, it's good to e-meet you. Great question. I'm a platonic touch and cuddle therapy practitioner and life coach. How much did that fully answer your question or not?
      Let me know.
      Warm Regards,
      Kyle Hoffman

  • @thatonemoodyguy
    @thatonemoodyguy 2 роки тому +17

    Wow he’s incredible! Such a great talk

  • @MS-yq9uh
    @MS-yq9uh 3 роки тому +9

    A Very Well given Talk. I agreed with most of His Points, but I Always feel like Talks Like this one neglect the fact that literally everyone struggles with Meeting the expectations of Society and the Media, it ist never Just Group XYZ. Trying to Live Up to that is Generally Something that Nobody should be bothered with in my opinion.

    • @lilliankelleher5648
      @lilliankelleher5648 3 роки тому +13

      struggling with expectations is not the same as being legally persecuted. Until fairly recently, gayness was illegal. It is not the same.

    • @eliweinger4642
      @eliweinger4642 2 роки тому +5

      During this talk I took the time to point out the specific problems facing LGBTQ+ people in our society but you are absolutely correct that this is a part of a larger issue, it is a part of a larger, more powerful social force that demands conformity from us and penalizes those of us who are different. My talk connects to a larger theme, our society shouldn't create unhelpful expectations that force people to repress who they are for fear of being ostracized.

  • @thealexxlopez
    @thealexxlopez 3 роки тому +29

    i love him

  • @raphaeldesbordes2217
    @raphaeldesbordes2217 Рік тому +2

    Thank you very much for this intervention !!

  • @flavoredchris
    @flavoredchris 2 роки тому +4

    wonderfully spoken

  • @everend_xyz
    @everend_xyz 2 роки тому +1

    💖

  • @chillipepper8943
    @chillipepper8943 3 роки тому +18

    this is great

  • @ReaderAres13
    @ReaderAres13 3 роки тому +24

    This was great!

  • @user-kc5kx4rn6z
    @user-kc5kx4rn6z 3 роки тому +26

    Based on these statistics. There were probably at least one or two other lgbtq people in my 35 student class. Minus me of course ;)

    • @stavitic
      @stavitic 11 місяців тому

      Fun fact: the percent is actually around 20% in Gen Z, so assuming you're young it'd be roughly 4 others in your class

  • @goodysmarts
    @goodysmarts 2 роки тому +27

    Homophobia is a direct offshoot of religion/ God belief. Just as racism is a direct offshoot of religion/ God belief. So homophobia and racism are strongly tied together by the same religious / God belief threads.

    • @MurderingBass
      @MurderingBass 2 роки тому +2

      I'm not religious in any way.

    • @goodysmarts
      @goodysmarts 2 роки тому +7

      @@MurderingBass Where did I say that you are religious?

    • @goodysmarts
      @goodysmarts 2 роки тому +4

      @@MurderingBass Are you slow or are you just a numbskull? Where did I say that you are religious?

    • @goodysmarts
      @goodysmarts 2 роки тому +6

      ​@@MurderingBass Do you believe that a supernatural being exists anywhere in reality?

    • @jordanh1635
      @jordanh1635 2 роки тому +1

      I get why you may say homophobia can come from religion. But why racism Goody?

  • @takarigolliday6764
    @takarigolliday6764 2 роки тому +1

    Wow

  • @MW-sw7so
    @MW-sw7so 4 роки тому +34

    But what's so bad about that if I was a movie producer and I wanted to make a movie that I thought of and nobody LGBT is in my life or has anything to do with the story then why would I have to put one in it doesn't make any sense

    • @eliweinger7761
      @eliweinger7761 4 роки тому +78

      Hey, I totally understand what your saying and the point of my talk is addressing the issue on a macro level. The point here is that we need to actively create an environment of inclusivity. You do bring up an interesting issue however, why is it that it would never come to this directors mind to include someone who is LGBTQ? This is why a change is so desperately needed, to break a cycle which precipitates exclusion, whether knowingly or not.

    • @johnstakes1407
      @johnstakes1407 4 роки тому +4

      @@eliweinger7761 hey Eli great presentation I was just wanted to ask you should parents be allowed to control what children read or watch. like lgbtq content for children many parents wether it be for religious or other reasons do not want there kids exposed to lgbtq lifestyles what do you say to those parents who (want to protect there kids)

    • @MW-sw7so
      @MW-sw7so 4 роки тому +1

      @Elio But, there are times when you are with a certain group of friends or such and you may actually not run into every type of human. I do understand it as a selling point for a movie as in if everyone is represented you have a wider and more equal viewer base. I was just meaning in certain situations not every type included may actually be the case, i was just against the "forcing" of it. I agree on your point though.😁👍☮

    • @Imabaddieikima10
      @Imabaddieikima10 4 роки тому +8

      Eli Weinger I just wanted to say as an lgbtq+ teen your speech inspired me. I was that 4/10 until I found people like you who support me. Thank you

    • @hihowareyatoday573
      @hihowareyatoday573 3 роки тому +24

      @@johnstakes1407 when children are exposed to lgbt related things (pg of course), it makes them more open minded, and if they are lgbt+, it makes it less likely for them to be confused

  • @michaelmyers6225
    @michaelmyers6225 3 роки тому +15

    Is this guy out of the closest?

  • @loop5720
    @loop5720 2 роки тому +8

    I don't usually support LGBT people, but this ted talk is waaaaaaaaay better than the people on Twitter

    • @boghund
      @boghund 2 роки тому +25

      Please don't think that the twitter crowd represent the community. Those ppl are a whole other species

    • @ryry8327
      @ryry8327 2 роки тому +5

      @@boghund OMG so true lmfao

    • @sua8638
      @sua8638 2 роки тому +11

      Don't support lgbt?
      I'm sorry but did you mean don't support as in "neutral/don't care/mind them" or "Hate them"

  • @DrMattDestruction
    @DrMattDestruction 2 роки тому

    Universal Basic Income today! give money to the homeless today! i've given $3.50 CDN to the homeless recently!

  • @lestergreen6489
    @lestergreen6489 2 роки тому +9

    When most people are a certain way, it's the norm... that's life

    • @bibleburner
      @bibleburner 2 роки тому +9

      LGBT people deserve representation. We exist... that's life

    • @lestergreen6489
      @lestergreen6489 2 роки тому +1

      @@bibleburner Of course you exist. But it's not the norm so why should it be represented as the norm?

    • @thelonercoder5816
      @thelonercoder5816 2 роки тому +1

      @@bibleburner except you do get it.. whats the prob?

    • @TheMahayanist
      @TheMahayanist 2 роки тому

      Most people are LGBT.

    • @TheMahayanist
      @TheMahayanist 2 роки тому +3

      @@thelonercoder5816 Except we don't? Being a second class citizen is not being equal.

  • @alr.3137
    @alr.3137 Рік тому +10

    I think most people are tired of this lgbt stuff being rubbed into their faces. By all means do what you want (without harming others), but why do you find it necessary to be validated by others? Just validate yourself

    • @sakuraitonen5886
      @sakuraitonen5886 Рік тому +5

      Just like A LOT of people are tired of heteronormativity in shows, movies, games and all of mainstream media all year long. This agenda isn't healthy and it shouldn't be forced down people's throats. Person A isn't anymore normal than person B. 🙂

    • @smelliot3521
      @smelliot3521 Рік тому +9

      if we dont get validated by others then we wont be socially accepted so then we would be hate crimed more often

    • @Stacy572
      @Stacy572 Рік тому +8

      Straight people should be the last people to complain about lgbt stuff being “rubbed into their faces” 🙂

    • @FirstnameLastnames
      @FirstnameLastnames Рік тому +6

      Not as tired as we are of heterosexuality constantly being pushed in our faces, trust me.

    • @JosePrimoist
      @JosePrimoist Рік тому +2

      ​@@FirstnameLastnames Heterosexuality is normal that's why

  • @DJPillow-DJNayarit-DJTape
    @DJPillow-DJNayarit-DJTape 2 роки тому +2

    My fellow white man kin (even though I am mixed) thank you for this.

  • @halierayann6729
    @halierayann6729 2 роки тому +2

    LMAOOOOO

  • @cyne06
    @cyne06 3 роки тому +20

    In what world is > 90% not the default? :D

    • @ochejohnadah8549
      @ochejohnadah8549 3 роки тому +15

      It is just insane for less than 10% that should change the 90% which is default?

    • @kayshawn.
      @kayshawn. 3 роки тому +5

      @@ochejohnadah8549 RIGHT

    • @ArtthurMorgan
      @ArtthurMorgan 3 роки тому +29

      @@ochejohnadah8549 it’s more about making everyone feel included

    • @bl33q94
      @bl33q94 3 роки тому +25

      @@ochejohnadah8549 okay then, what about countries where people are/were mostly white, where racial minorities get/got discriminated. That s basically the same situation. You just feel that your masculinity/femininity is threatened

    • @funkunko
      @funkunko 3 роки тому +24

      you understand that majority of people are literally in the closet too right? and even if there was more straight people in the world, how does that make it okay to ignore lgbt and have no representation? you ppl make me so sick

  • @germangirl16
    @germangirl16 Рік тому +2

    This is one of the most ridiculous things I’ve watched in a while

    • @Em-jc7ct
      @Em-jc7ct Рік тому

      If you have questions I can help clear up confusions you have 😊

    • @vimp6260
      @vimp6260 5 місяців тому

      I know the feeling

  • @vimp6260
    @vimp6260 5 місяців тому

    Hey if you give a ted talk know how to talk

  • @noahfarai4061
    @noahfarai4061 Рік тому

    Ice cream analogy made no sense

  • @abaddj7295
    @abaddj7295 2 роки тому +3

    You spend so much effort trying to fix nonsense when are we going to fix the real problems in this world
    1. DMV is a big problem nobody wants to talk about or get shut down
    2 money should have never been created out of debt
    Those and many other are real problems you don't have a real problem you have life annoyances that you're complaining about get over it learn how to have a thick skin

  • @klauspeter692
    @klauspeter692 Рік тому +6

    You can´t realize how angry and sad I´m because he is a perfect example of how the leftist and woke LGBTQIA+ propaganda works on our youth!!!!!

  • @myman9566
    @myman9566 3 роки тому +1

    Factory settings

  • @benhickman749
    @benhickman749 3 роки тому

    Bruh

  • @lomeinbullies5768
    @lomeinbullies5768 2 роки тому +2

    The numbers rising. But it has nothing to do with children’s entertainment, indoctrination, or influence. 😂 yeahhhh. Right

    • @acgraphics1139
      @acgraphics1139 2 роки тому +11

      Your wrong the number is rising because people feel more accepted

    • @johnpaulvillarin7905
      @johnpaulvillarin7905 2 роки тому

      You're so uneducated, educate yourself pls

    • @JosePrimoist
      @JosePrimoist Рік тому

      Ignore these ignoramus's

    • @lomeinbullies5768
      @lomeinbullies5768 Рік тому

      @@acgraphics1139 nah. Its rising with mental health and dysfunctional families

  • @davidpar2
    @davidpar2 9 місяців тому +1

    1990s: We just want to be left alone to live our lives
    2020s: Being a normal human is BAD

  • @darth_vader1174
    @darth_vader1174 Рік тому

    Woke 🤦🏼‍♂️

  • @glasscrafter669
    @glasscrafter669 2 роки тому +3

    tedtalks used to be a place for the world's greatest theologians. Talks like this is why Tedds gatherings are a joke to the world now.

    • @JulianR0108
      @JulianR0108 11 місяців тому +1

      this comment is why I’ve lost hope in humanity

  • @ssmbrodies8530
    @ssmbrodies8530 2 роки тому +7

    LOVE heteronormativity

    • @jaklm4221
      @jaklm4221 2 роки тому +6

      It's literally the pillar of human reproduction and existence

    • @ssmbrodies8530
      @ssmbrodies8530 2 роки тому +2

      @@jaklm4221 yes

    • @M.A.C.01
      @M.A.C.01 2 роки тому +1

      @@jaklm4221 but overpopulation is a problem

    • @Obi1Classic
      @Obi1Classic 2 роки тому

      @@M.A.C.01 It's fine. Abortion has helped out by stopping over 60 million people from taking up unnecessary space.

    • @TheMahayanist
      @TheMahayanist 2 роки тому

      @@jaklm4221 No it isn't.

  • @thetornadocrusader968
    @thetornadocrusader968 2 роки тому +10

    Yes straight is normal

  • @ioliiixe6931
    @ioliiixe6931 2 роки тому +13

    No such thing as homophobia. Heteronormativity is good and healthy and valid. Only haters demonize heterosexuals.

    • @goodysmarts
      @goodysmarts 2 роки тому +30

      Homophobia is a direct offshoot of religion/ God belief. Just as racism is a direct offshoot of religion/ God belief. So homophobia and racism are strongly tied together by the same religious / God belief threads.

    • @chromaticstar7303
      @chromaticstar7303 2 роки тому +38

      It exists bro.

    • @_gorillazfreakinc._2
      @_gorillazfreakinc._2 2 роки тому +8

      Homosexaulity exists in animals. Your entire argument is easily blown out of the water. It is natural, it's just been demonized by idiots like you

    • @brownpaperbag6159
      @brownpaperbag6159 2 роки тому +25

      You know what else is valid? The fact you get no bitches.

    • @emberphoenix3039
      @emberphoenix3039 2 роки тому +24

      If hetronormativity is healthy then how come growing up I couldn't recognize myself and my attractions and who I am, and when I did, I shoved it away because I felt sick? Hetronormativity made me hate myself. I don't think that's healthy.

  • @isaywhateveriwantandyougot7421
    @isaywhateveriwantandyougot7421 3 роки тому +2

    "Withhouthh shso muhch ofv efven thhtinking"

    • @DylanB05
      @DylanB05 3 роки тому +34

      Wow bullying kids, your parents must be so proud😐

    • @isaywhateveriwantandyougot7421
      @isaywhateveriwantandyougot7421 3 роки тому

      @@DylanB05 I know

    • @hithere7080
      @hithere7080 3 роки тому +1

      Hahahahahahahahhahahahahaha lisp funny

    • @henryemrich7209
      @henryemrich7209 2 роки тому +1

      @@DylanB05 Just pointing out the fact that someone purportedly engaged in public *speaking* should just possibly learn to *speak*.
      If advocating that Eli Weinger spend more time on *speech therapy* - and less time whining about something as utterly non-problematic as "heteronormativity" constitutes "bullying" - then I am most definitely pro-bullying.

  • @TefZee
    @TefZee 3 роки тому

    Lol nah

  • @alwaysrahaf
    @alwaysrahaf 2 роки тому +2

    Oo shut up 🤮

    • @sorshipie
      @sorshipie 2 роки тому +12

      seethe nerd

    • @_gorillazfreakinc._2
      @_gorillazfreakinc._2 2 роки тому +7

      Cope harder

    • @willmt9728
      @willmt9728 2 роки тому

      Grow up please Jesus Christ. The behaviour of homophobes today is like the behaviour of racists from the 60s it’s vile and horrible

    • @sam15342
      @sam15342 Рік тому +3

      go outside and touch grass man

    • @JosePrimoist
      @JosePrimoist Рік тому

      The replies:🤓

  • @ChadElk88
    @ChadElk88 Рік тому +1

    That's a chick.