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First here, good on you mate.
Forget the supervillain jokes, you're now my favourite superhero.
As an aspie myself and a neuropsychologist working with folks like us I am both not surprised and VERY glad for this video.
You are doing a great service to society and I am sure your video will have wonderful informative effects.
You are also a wonderful example to be followed and I'm sure many people on the spectrum will look up to you as a great representation. Representativity is always very important.
Thank you very much, Kyle. This video makes me very happy and will certainly help many.
I am also on the spectrum. I also have plenty of relation on it as well. Thank you for the info.
As the father of two severely autistic girls, I'm proud of you, man. You're my all time favorite UA-camr and science communicator.
I have the exact same thing and behave very similar to you
Dude. This is powerful. Thank you for your example.
Sup I saw the vid about ur son and it made me feel really good because my friend has autism
It is amazing you both decided to discuss these extremely personal topics recently. You both are doing something great to help the public better understand the important conditions they don't really see or experience. One of my best friends is autistic and I have seen how people have treated him over the years, with a good portion of people genuinely just unwilling to answer him if he says hi due to how some people dehumanize those with mental conditions. Yet I can say that friend is one of the most genuine and caring people I know. He will go out of his way to ask about you and details others might forget even when you might forget to ask about him. The lack of communication abilities and differences in how they perceive the world may make some perceive them differently but it also allows them to be themselves without care for how others perceive them (a gift in many regards). Great job guys, we all definitely need these personal messages about the unseen struggle others who perceive the world differentlt go through.
Great job.
Please Mark, don't support Next For Autism!!! It is harmful and abusive towards autistic people. They use ABA and eugenics against us! Please don't give them any money! They are hurting us so much. Please don't stoop to their level.
Oh hi mark
It wasn’t obvious to me, at all. I can’t imagine the amount of people that you will be able to help. You’re the best dude
Thats the thing, except in severe cases its almost completely unoticeable. And yet people shun others because of the word alone
same, couldnt tell
I think it's also harder for people to "see" it if one is neurotypical themselves and don't have any close people who are on the spectrum. I don't know about op, but that is the case for me.
@@_blank-_ Don't be that guy. Just because you don't deal with it, doesn't mean it doesn't exist.
That's because, primarily, the world has a VERY skewed view of autistic people and what that looks like, and because we're taught to mask our autism (even if we don't know we're autistic) to look "normal" or more neurotypical. "You don't look autistic" is one of those things that people say in an attempt to be positive, but is actually pretty insulting for many people - especially because it's so often used to dismiss people and their experiences. Just look at the whole Tik-Tok autism trend last year. That's what people imagine and it's BS.
As a young woman diagnosed at 18 - and being that I'm only turning 20 this coming October - as autistic/ADHD, this makes me emotional. I had that same "This is news to me" feeling. I struggled with school socially, preferred to be alone since I was bullied for my special interests and quirks, and not accomodated properly for all my life, and I've only found this channel tonight with the Half-Life Histories videos. I fixate on literature and mythos and historical things (since I personally suck with math and numbers) and I became intrigued with The Elephant's Foot. I'm so glad you made this. I felt a bit lost in what I wanted to do in my life and seeing you do this stuff gives me encouragement to try and find what will help in getting a career or even just learning to drive, soon. Thank you, Sir. You are indeed a superhero, and I appreciate that my intrigue with history helped me find you. Just...thank you.
Fellow Hyper Aspie here, I'm with you on math being a no-go but history and mythology being the most fascinating stuff ever. Good to know I'm not the only one arranged like this
Lol women don't get autism
@@Toefoo100 lol'd
@Toefoo100 I'll say this politely: You're ignorant
I'm a woman that just turned 30 and was diagnosed with ADHD, and it's answered so many questions I never knew I had. The funniest part is that I'm an MSc chemist that scored (at least) at the 98th percentile in every assessment I've ever taken and excelled in all STEM.
Being a woman with good grades caused almost everyone to ignore my struggles. Interestingly my husband suspected I had Tourette's.
Thank you for sharing it, especially the bit about 'not being like Big Bang Theory'. I am betting that you hear a lot of 'you don't look autistic' since you are lively, eloquent and expressive. I got diagnosed at 36 and to this day the main response I get is that I don't look autistic 'enough'. It can only help to have more and more people coming out and showing that we are not a walking stereotype, we are very diverse crowd.
My favourite quote is "When you've met one person with autism, you've met one person with autism." I don't remember who said it, but yes, we are so very diverse.
The question is not whether autism causes you to be not-lively, not-eloquent and not-expressive, it is whether exhibiting these traits is deserving of such harsh judgement and ridicule (i.e. stigma). The only people that are stigmatised under the banner of autism are those who aren't lively, eloquent and expressive because it is thought to be typical for autistic people. These traits (not-lively, not-eloquent, not-expressive) are what makes people judge autistic people so harshly.
You Lacking these traits (i.e. being lively, eloquent and expressive) simply means people won't judge you because they don't consider you autistic. They don't judge you and Therefore you are not really stigmatised in any way. In fact the only way you would be stigmatised is if you would go out of your way to tell everyone about your condition.
The real stigmatisation against autistic people (and yes, many do suffer those traits, not simply due to their condition but also due to stigmatisation of these traits and the resulting social exclusion of the people exhibiting these traits) is that exhibiting these traits is judged very harshly by society.
Real improvement (moral improvement of society or actual improvement of the quality of life of autistic people, whichever you prefer) comes only through people developing more respect or tolerance for less lively, eloquent or expressive people. These traits are currently being harshly judged (stigmatised).
People who conform to some clinical definition of autism but would never themselves be judged because of how lively, eloquent and expressive they are should simply understand how language works and not introduce or describe themselves in misleading ways that will come back to bite them. They face no prejudice other than by associating themselves with a group that does.
Also being eloquent is reserved probably only for the 20% smartest people at best. Your comment, as does the video therefore serves merely to distinguish the usefull autists (sometimes called high-functioning autists) from the useless autists. Disgusting.
This behaviour is understandable as you guys don't want to be on the receiving end of this type of harsh judgment (stigma) but it does take nerve to pass this of as doing the autistic community some kind of grand moral favour.
You and the video seem to also be forgetting that autism exists on a spectrum and confuse boasting about how close you are to "normal" people with standing up for autistic people in general. The majority of the spectrum is not exactly helped by this kind of behaviour, spit in the face rather.
As one person on the Autism scale to another, you are an inspiration to a lot of people who are on the Autism scale. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. :)
Same here!!
Ditto
Hey Krishnath, would you happen to be a dragon under the Chinese zodiac?
Agreed for the same reasons.
@@JollyDGiant Nah, it's just the name I went with when I was a teenager way back in the 90's when I first got on the internet, and I kept it, because it grants me a certain level of anonymity, which I appreciate. The image was just one I liked.
my wife has ASD and I have ADHD. thank you for sharing your story, it really means a lot to see someone as cool as you have these things in common with us.
what's the difference between you two? ASD and ADHD have a ton of overlapping symptoms :)
@@zainmushtaq4347 ADHD is more like impulsiveness and easily being distracted, always being hyper, etc, ASD is moreso social and communication problems with strange habits and behaviors.
I can speak pretty accurately on this because I have both at once.
Thanks for shedding light on this topic! As a person with ASD, I often feel scared about my professional future as a teen, but knowing you've managed to become succesful leaves me hopeful for what's to come!
And here all this time I thought your superpower was writing backwards on a sheet of glass without looking at your hand
Wish I had that super power. 😂
Does he actually do that though
Two things can be true.
@@munen343 Videos are flipped. I could tell that because his nostrils are asymmetric so you can try to match how they look on writing-on-glass videos against how they look on videos with a background that makes it clear there was no flipping.
@@pierrecolin6376 I've never noticed that his nostrils are asymmetric until now, its true
"Be nice to each other because this,
is all we've got." -Kyle Hill
well said!
...And party on dudes!
woah an original quote for once
Many, especially neuro-divergents, don't even have this. 😕
Social media is not the means to an end, it's a tool. It's not 'real'. So be nice !
I have to say that Kyle has been priviledged to be surrounded by people who were open-minded enough to accommodate his needs. Not everybody is so lucky.
Sky is blue too :)
@@aalhard not what they were saying but cope.
@@byunbaekhyun4010 As I said but ice cream.
Even though Autism and ADD/ADHD arent the same thing, listening to your experiences made me feel like I could relate to you. What I learned is how you changed how you interacted with your environment to cope and hone the advantages you have by having autism. Im fully aware of what I am capable of with my ADD but the part I am still stuck on is how to take control of those advantages. Its about time I learned how to take control of my superpowers like you have!
My son (the little dude in my profile pic) has been trying to understand his aspergers a little better lately. He is 19 now and is realizing that his mind works in a different way than those around him. Making this video will help not only my son but so many of your fans. Thank you. I know this must have been hard.
Your an amazing father sir.
The best way I can explain to anyone is, if your brain was a clock, and so was our (aspergers) brains, our brains would just be made with different gear ratios with different Setups, but in the end we still function ideally the same.
I forgot to mention I’m 24, and I hope he finds himself. :)
Ive said this to many parents in this comments, THANK YOU! Thank you for being willing to raise someone like me, i know its not easy, but we are very grateful. Altho we have trouble expressing how thankful we are, we really are
We do it not because it is easy, we do it because it is hard
🧡🧡🧡 Proud of you. What a wonderfully thoughtful video. I'm honored to call you a friend!
We all love Kyle, we appreciate him for who he is.
To all who think like he’s less of a person now; fuck off if you think of him less just for having aspergers, as we won’t ever think of him less!
Didn't expect to see you here, you're an amazing person Dianna ❤😊
love both of you guys, Keeping youtube a classy place(lets face it thats not easy)
Hi physics girl! Love yor channel!
Dude, it's always good to see people highlighting the commonality of neurodivergence, the related difficulties and benefits and the help that is out there.
Perhaps more than anything, it raises the awareness among people which will hopefully lead to a more compassionate and understanding society.
Well done matey.
It hadn't ever occurred to me that you might have autism, it's great when people come forward because it helps everyone else so much. My son is autistic and I have a top tip for anyone who really struggles with eye contact (probably someone else has suggested this already but you have so many messages of support and love that I can't check, lol) - he was having problems with substitute teachers who would tell him to look at them as they didn't understand the issues he had. We practiced him looking people right in the eyebrows and they couldn't tell the difference ...
When I would have conversations with teachers in school I always thought it was weird when they're eyes would move back & forth looking at my left or right eye. I always would just look right between their eyes.
As I've gotten older, I find that I look at people's mouths more while they're speaking.
This is so similar to my story. I was a programmer working in a busy office, who started studying about autism when my son was diagnosed. Soon realised I was reading about me as well as him. I was also diagnosed with Asperger's, in 2016.
Thank you brother.
I used to purposely put myself into "in school suspension" back in the day. A cubicle in a silent room vs school chaos was no question.
Oh, I loved ISS! I got so much more work/reading done. Lol...
I fractured my skull just to avoid school in grade 7. I can definitely relate, i would rather risk permanent damage then the scars that schools and harassment leads to
So true
Same here
I personally always stay at the front do I don't have anyone else in front of me to distract me. That way I had my teacher's full attention
My son was diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome, and he graduated at the top of his class. He is extremely introverted, but anything he does he gives it 110%. He is my hero. My son loves insects and reptiles.
“Ass burgers” -south park, sorry if I offended
@doire aintu same here but my mom tried to get me checked
But my dad stopped her because he was a stubborn son of a bitch and believed there could never be anything wrong with me
I slowly figured out I had autism as I started questioning why I was so distant towards others and acted the way I did
To this day he still can’t even imagine the idea I might have Asperger’s. But things have gotten better since I found out.
I’ve been able to overcome most of my weaknesses.
@@Chrisgonzalz not at all
@@Skipper20009 that information could’ve helped a lot of years ago was I was trying to say
I wish your son and your family many happy years together. Make the most of the time you have together! And always keep in mind no matter what happens that nobody is perfect. Neither your son or you, so be willing to always forgive and move past your individual differences and you WILL have many happy years together.
Been talking to my friends recently about this, and it seems like I'm the last person to find out I'm autistic, but I need to be tested. I don't know if I want to, I'm concerned I'll use it as an excuse
Not sure if I ever should've been both since beginning. Isn't it a type of brain virus mental disorder retarded?? Or brain dead fucked up or something messed up in your 🧬.
If I may ask: an excuse for what? The fact that you are aware that you may use it as an excuse, helps to recognize it and prevent you from using it as an excuse. I wouldn't recommend making an explicit list of when you allow yourself to use it as an excuse (i.e. accept that this is who you are and you can't change it), and in which cases you can't and should be tough on yourself. I say this because I know autists like explicit rules, but such a list is too complicated and situational to set clear rules on. Figure it out as you go.
I'm 32 and I recently got diagnosed with autism. It did help me accept certain things about myself, and to just accept that I'm not good at certain things and shouldn't expect from myself to ever be brilliant at those things. But that's just accepting reality, not excusing yourself, imo. All in all, my diagnosis helpt me a lot.
@@voiceofstem I'm really lazy and good at procrastinating, and I think I have ADD of some form too, because my desk and thoughts are a damn mess, so it takes a lot for me to focus on something, or summon the energy to work on something. I feel like I'll just say "I did my best, I'm autistic" which I realise is fucking insulting to a lot of people, when I didn't do my best and it's got nothing to do with autism.
I don't know dude, I'm trying, and I've recently discovered I can only have two things going on in my life at a time or it all falls apart because I can't split focus at all. Learning as I go, and the "Autistic people like explicit rules" thing just made me understand something else entirely about myself.
@@GingerNingerGamesi can relate to that « excuses fear ».
@Kyle Hill First of all, Greetings from Australia. I am a father of a son that was diagnosed with high level Asperger Syndrome at age 8, he is now 23. His social interactions with people one on one have gotten better over the years but most of his communication with others is done online under the protection of anonymity so to speak. I think it's important to speak about things like this so that the general public get a better understanding of what its all about and therefore the stigma around this condition can be be broken. I admire your bravery for sharing this with us
Hey I'm just going to let you know that Aspergers isn't an acceptable term to describe an autistic person anymore. The term was made by a Doctor Asperger who was a N@zi and regularly murdered or tortured autistic children, which is why its not a valid medical term in most countries anymore. People don't like the term because of the fact it perpetuates that there are people who are "more autistic" or better then the others when in reality they are just as autistic but with different needs or traits.
The new medical term for this syndrome is ASD (Autism Spectrum Disorder) and i encourage you to use it instead of Aspergers.
I'm also autistic so i hope i didn't word this horribly or sound rude, this is just to educate you in case you didn't know because the term is extremely harmful!
@@EldritchHorrorEnthusiast It was never my intent to offend others, rather describe my sons condition. Even now after 18 years of dealing with this, I'm still trying to get my head around it and trying to deal. My apologies, I meant no offence
@@EldritchHorrorEnthusiastI always thought autism and aspergers we're 2 different things.
@@leechjim8023 because of updates to the DMS5 in most countries, they are now considered the same thing. Previously doctors felt that there was a distinction but now they are classified as the same thing under a Spectrum!
One thing that's always gotten under my skin is when I tell people that I am on the spectrum, about half of them don't believe me because I don't act like how autism is portrayed in popular media.
"aww you're so sweet we're all a little au-" No stop right there not cool shut up person I have stopped listening. I'm tired of not fitting in the Hollywood Autistic mold people want. I don't "look" autistic because autistic people don't have a specific look.
My son is like that. He is a great kid. He acts so main stream that few believe me and rather think that i am covering for his rudeness or some other failing that they perceive. All he wants to do is play, laugh, and have friends. Like all people in the spectrum, there are "normal" social conventions that he does not understand or think that really matter. So is often misunderstood. The problem is not him, is them not wanting to learn about him. The few teachers that have taken the time to watch and learn about him end up enjoying his company and presence in the classroom. People can be so stupid.
I hate this. People are so ignorant nowadays. My 5 year old son is on the spectrum and I hope People around him in school and parents of kids won't be the ignorant bunch. Dad is a monster nightmare if someone hurts my children.
@@albertortiz5277 I'm astounded by how ignorant people can be.
@@KahruSuomiPerkele photographic memory is a myth
As a person NOT on the scale - I idolized you before this video, and this video didn’t change a thing about that. You are the reason I want to go back to school and do for the world what I KNOW I can do
I completely agree with you
I'm sorry but NOT changing your opinion about someone just because they have autism is the absolute bare minimum as a decent human being. The rest of your message I agree with, however. Kyle is a fantastic person and I've learned so much from him.
@@slonismo I only say that because he mentioned his previous worries of people changing their opinion in the video. Just reinforcing that his audience loves him and that he doesn’t need to have that worry 😊
@@BlakeJob9 I didn’t see that part yet. I apologize. Good on ya man. Kyle should know we love him no matter what. :)
Obviously you wouldn't look at him different. I think the point is that you should look at yourself different, at least regarding correction of some misconceptions. When you have aspergers, if you are not the best at what you do, all of your faults are amplified and highlighted. It is all people choose to see. They don't do that to 'normal' people. Flaws are what make each of us different. It's what makes us human. When you have aspergers, those very flaws are what are exploited to label you as something less than human.
Kyle you are an absolute treasure. ASD or no ASD, you are an amazing human being.
I’m finally going into therapy next week after years and years of depression since I was a child because I always felt like I had a different mindset and felt bad because of it so finding out that you, one of the main inspirations for my creative content that I do, is able to come publicly and talk about this is very heartwarming. Thank you Kyle, you are right it is a super-power after all, and you are my hero ❤️
I have ADHD but one my best friends as a kid had autism. Honestly it was really nice to have a friend who I could feel like myself around and not worry about how I was acting socially.
I just got diagnosed at age 27, I totally relate to you and to this video. And yes, I’m typing this while the video is running in the background 😂
@@eileensnow6153 same
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generally the advantage of befriending outcasts... generally... sometimes people are outcast because they are dicks
@@eileensnow6153 I honestly thought everyone read the comments while watching 😅
I am autistic too, and hearing that makes me so happy.
Personally i am quite terrified to come out to people, but you really help me feeling more confident.
Thank you
Cheers from brazil lad, we wish you a fuckin' goodluck 🇧🇷.
You should never have to feel ashamed for being who you are. Anyone who judges because you are on the autism spectrum is in the wrong, and needs to learn a better, kinder, way to interact with people. If you do decide to tell people, maybe you can help teach them that. :)
@@wildflower1397
Thanks i really appreciate that :)
You shouldn't be scared about it. It's nothing you can control.
Same
Hey Kyle thank you for showing this I and 17 this year and all my life I’ve had problems associated with this and up until this year I had not known about it I just thought a lot of the stuff was normal when I was younger I had problems associating emotions with faces and still to this day have problems with complex social Environments So it does make me feel a little bit better knowing that all of the creators that I look up to in a sense and enjoy learning from has lived through a similar situation throughout his life thank you.
I've only started realizing about half a year ago (at age 30) that certain things I do and how I react to certain situations might not be "normal" and your video really helped me quite a lot in how I approach these situations from now on. Thank you so much for opening up about this! I'm sure you have helped a great deal of people with this video, myself included!
The absolute balls on this guy to sit down and talk about autism to the _internet._
Seriously man, big ups and I’m happy you’re sharing your story. Take care!
On the other hand... it is the _internet._
You say that as if it's some crazy new thing. I've seen so many people talk about autism on the internet. In fact, it's the only place I can seem to find anyone talking about it.
There is actually a pretty good community of autistics around the internet. The real problem is the rest of society.
Source: Im one of those autistics.
@@valderon3692 Spot on. The real issue is real life. Society does not want us, nor to understand us. It is more luck than skill when a special interest also is one that can be monetized. Alot of autistics have an amazing skill set within their special interests, however they are very specific and hard to apply in real life situations. Most of us love to contribute, however very few find a way to do so because generally it is cheaper to just look for another employee for a bit longer than to help with creating a suitable workspace.
It is heartbreaking and i wish more neurotypical people would talk freely about us. It really is the only way we can have our deserved dignity in life. Also those with different needs and/or skills.
Kind regards.
He makes it seem like his autism is bad I too have aspergers and all it really does is make you really awkward
You'll inspire many people all over the world by helping them feel seen. This is great man
WOAH WOAH WOAH!!! Let me get this perfectly straight: You comment something that is completely unrelated to the fact that I have two HAZARDOUSLY HOT girlfriends? Considering that I am the unprettiest UA-camr worldwide, it is really incredible. Yet you did not mention it at all. I am VERY disappointed, dear rian
@@AxxLAfriku what in the Cinnamon Toast Fuck did I just read?
@@AxxLAfriku bro stfu
@@AxxLAfriku what... is that
@@AxxLAfriku what did you eat for breakfast today bruh..??
Thanks for sharing this.
I was diagnosed with ASD at age 53, after decades of misdiagnosis as bipolar. I've spent the last year rethinking essentially my entire life, and almost all of what made SO little sense now seems illuminated brightly. I still have a long way to go to find a peaceful, stable way to live, given my over half-century of endlessly "going down the wrong roads", but I still have a small amount of optimism left.
What we appear on the outside and who we are on the inside can be (and I think most commonly are) vastly different. It takes enormous courage and introspection to let that which is guarded on the inside become visible to all, and I applaud you, as a role model to so many, for having the guts to make this video. Thank you for sharing your inner fears and making yourself vulnerable so that others who haven't been able to express themselves, know that there are others that feel that way too. :)
The word “autism” has a lot of weight to it. When our son, Jameson, was diagnosed with Asperger’s at 4, it took the wind out of our sails because we just had no point of reference, but we knew we loved him exactly as he is, so we got him resources and support and we learned everything we could. He’ll turn 15 next month and he is a self professed science and science fiction nerd. Now our 11 year old daughter has just been diagnosed on the spectrum as well (let’s face it - girls mask better).
What’s so interesting to me about you and your diagnosis is that I check off so many boxes for the spectrum (virtually every single one that crosses over with ADHD) but I don’t believe I check enough boxes to land on the spectrum. That said, I do recognize my own tendency to avoid social interactions (though I have learned to ignore those tendencies and engage anyway) and I honestly don’t know if I’ve just learned incredible masking skills or not. I flunked out of college - then I went back and tried again, graduating at the top of my class and being honored as commencement speaker at my own graduation. I am awkward in one to one conversations, but as a professional comedian, I commanded the attention and engagement of 20,000 audience members from the stage. So even though I personally don’t have the “label” of autism, I relate to my kiddos because I recognize my same struggles in both of them (minor for me, but excessive for them).
All of this to say: Autism is a way of describing how the brain works. You obviously have a brain similar to my son’s and mine (though I would argue yours is superior) in regards to spatial thinking, complex problems, critical thinking, & a love for explaining complicated answers in simple to understand ways.
Love your videos. Love your channel. Thanks for being real and for giving my kids someone incredibly brilliant, focused, & talented to relate to...
I'm not reading that but imma like it😁
I have autism myself and yes girls mask it better... diagnosed at 20 years old after being in therapie for 7 years. I loved your story, give your precious children all the love they deserve. Much love from me aswell, Mika
Can we get the aspergers gang in here, i have it too but im a guy but my experience is somewhat different. i was shy and social at the same time. i had some friends but resented everybody and everything else that slightly annoyed me. i was diagnosed 4 years ago in 8th grade. i thought it was pretty cool because it was the first thing that really made sense to me within my self definition endeavor. I absolutely love science, specifically astrophysics. i agree with kyle all the way when he describes how we all are. LETS GET A POSITIVITY TRAIN GOING
I don't have the talent to write such a brilliant answers, but as an Asperger's I gotta agree
@@meme_mechine_brokev1587 That’s why I mentioned my own questioning. I was in management for 6 years with Lowe’s Home Improvement and got REALLY good at starting conversations with total strangers and getting them to open up and laugh before telling me what project they were working on so I could help them... and I suspect I LEARNED how to do this at Lowe’s because, while I’m loud, charismatic, & funny, I shy away from conversations in normal settings. I don’t visit with people I don’t know, I keep to myself, but when it’s a topical conversation where I can explain something or help someone - I’m a rockstar. I’m also ADHD and impulsive, yet extremely detail oriented, fascinated with problem solving, and I love to read voraciously... None of those things are supposed to exist in the same brain!
My son has autism and I get worried about his future often. He's 5 years old. But seeing amazing people like you as an example gives me hope. Thank you!
My daughter was diagnosed when she was 3. She's turning 9 next month and the progress has been amazing. I won't claim to know your situation, but don't give up and things will always get better over time in their own way. You can do it.
My daughter was diagnosed at 5. We still worry from time to time, but we don't let it get in the way. We will always be there for her and catch her when she falls.
I am 15, I am autistic
making friends is difficult
I work with people with autism. I can tell you, don't worry too much. Most countries are really well equipped in helping families and your son to become as independent as he can.
You will be fine :)
My daughter was diagnosed when she was about 5 I guess. She is almost 13 now and doing a lot better with the proper help.
First, I wanna thank you for being so honest and open. Secondly, thank you for AANE. That information will help a lot. When one of my children was designated as being on the spectrum, I’d be able to think about myself and being identified as what they called hyper in the 60s. Unfortunately, it took a lot longer for me because I came up in a time when being different was not seen as OK. When I was at a meeting with my child’s therapist, she noticed a lot of my behaviors. She referred me to someone and they gave me the diagnosis of being Asperger’s. That said, I was already in my 40s and in my mind, I was beyond help. I had already learned through many life lessons how to navigate being in public and being in crowds. The child that I referred to is a high-level IT professional now, but that would not have been possible without assistance.
We all have a different journey, and I was not helped until I was in my 50s. Now, I am in my 60s and my friends are understanding of my quirks. Or at least that’s what they call them. I wish you the best.
A true inspiration, man.
Thank you for doing this. 💪🏼🙏🏻
As an autistic girl, and a big fan, I’m here to support you!
What help me is to talk to other autistic people, it makes me feel more “normal”, maybe can help you to hahah
Saaaame.
I was dx'd with ADHD only 4 years ago but I'm very certain I'm ASD also and honestly, what's been the most wonderful thing for me was just having friends who were also ND. They understand why I act the way I do, how my mind works, and they're there for me. It's honestly so freeing to not have to mask with them.
Hello fellow member of the spectrum!
So good to see so many autistic people here! Being autistic is something that is part of you and you should be proud of! If anyone need a autistic friend to talk you can dm (@jessybunny.jpg on insta)
I’ve never seen so many other people like me and I don’t feel alone anymore.
My daughter was diagnosed with autism when she was a couple years old. This made me so happy to hear it spoken about in this light. Much love.
Same here. My son was diagnosed a few years ago - he's going to be 5 soon. I think he's amazing and I love hearing the positive and inspiring stories.
It's just another way of being. Don't let it scare you - or her.
@@catwellman9480 aaaaaw around the time i got diagnosed... it's been a RIDE since then ❤🧡💛💚💙💜🤎
My kid had his diagnose at 3yrs old, he is now 7 and the only difficulty in school is the social bit.
He has had professional "intensive social training" for 2 years before school start and it made a massive difference to his social agilitys.
Could you explain to me what signs did she give at only 2 years old?
I have aspergers myself, know only 3 more people on the spectrum. They all and myself included only were "diagsnosticable" in our teenage years...
Thanks...
I will show this to my daughter, I think she will benefit from your insight. Thank you for sharing.
I don't know why UA-cam only just suggested your channel a couple weeks ago, but I'm just now seeing this video. The timing of your suggestions for me are good, though I wish someone could have done this years ago. I've lost numerous jobs because of not understanding myself yet and trying to perform my job like the rest of the people, in fact the most was just a couple weeks ago. Thank you for the encouragement to modify my behaviors to get along better with the world around me. Thank you, man!
As a person who has ASD and was diagnosed with difficulty I have a profound and extraordinary gratitude for this video. Thank you so much for using your voice in this way.
Eh. If autism is a spectrum from 1-10. This guy is like a 0.13. This video honestly comes off like he enjoys the attention he knows he'll get from it, rather than the actual message. As a person who can't even function in society, this normie he can screw off.
"MY AUTISM MAKES ME LIKE SHERLOCK HOLMES" Must be nice.
@@janegoodall1837 your opinion doesn't change the fact that he, I, and many others exist on that spectrum and still have to push through a NT world. Don't hate your more able-passing autistic fellows as though we are still NT: we aren't and internally we are still struggling even if we've learned how to appear otherwise. Progress toward NT's accepting and understanding ASD benefits all of us, all you're doing is gate keeping and turning away potential allies berceuse the dude spreading the message "isn't autistic enough" for your tastes.
@@GuacJohnson yeah, as a more self sustainable autistic person I've encountered people making the statement "rainman autist" or "rolling on the floor retard autist", it doesn't feel good either way.
@@janegoodall1837 What you see is only what he wanted you to see. Under these things, it's hell. Too focused with the details and you have a hard time seeing the big picture, it's very tiring and it also fills your brain with an overload of information. In these cases, you need to learn how to filter and nobody is here to teach you how to do that.
If I recall correctly, according to a study on diagnosed people, 1/3 of ASD are successful (which you can see here), 1/3 is average and 1/3 fail miserably. If you can't adapt, you fail and even if you adapt it's very tiring. Someone with a deep ASD can even seem perfectly normal, that's why it's called high-functioning autism. The autism spectrum is not a scale, it's a rainbow with different difficulties. ASD is in big part social ones.
@@aedieal it's hardly even a spectrum, it's much more complex than that but calling it a spectrum is easier to refer to
I’m 24yo and just discovered I have ASD in the last year. The discovery helped save my marriage. Self understanding makes a MASSIVE difference. So cool and encouraging to hear you talk about ASD in your life.
24 yo married ASD? You are the boss! Who gets married in this day and age? Keep rocking bro!
Same here man
Hear hear!
@@JoseAbell a lot of people get married bro
@Email Mcemail I think commenter had a problem with you stating no "true" autistic married anyone.
That kinda assumes you know every autist, and comes across as a blanket statement.
Also saying "don't listen" can come across the wrong way cause it assumes that you have authority over what they can and can't listen to.
As someone who struggles with multiple mental 'issues', I've often considered that maybe my brain working differently might make me better at some things than other, more 'regular' people are. Seeing other people push forward like this despite their own brain chemistry is greatly inspiring! Your channel has been one of my favorites for a long time, and I have NO idea how I missed this video. Much love!
I love this. I've only started to watch your vids yesterday and I love how detailed you get into the stories and science of things. I never have questions that are left unanswered. My ASD radar totally went off. I just had a feeling you were on the spectrum.
As someone who's only been diagnosed this year I finally figured out why I am the way I am. Sadly, I only got help through already struggling with depression and that led to my diagnoses. One of the most valuable things that has, and is still, helping me is ASD groups. It shows you that you're not alone and it gives you many ways to solve the issues you're having in your life so you can function properly.
Autism is not a disease, it's a different neurological wiring within humans. Personally, I think that is awesome and it opens so many doors for innovation. Anyone could have it without knowing. So if you feel like your a alien among the "normal people", then maybe have a look to see if you have autism... Because that literally what it feel like.
The fact that you spent 5 years before announcing this, spending all this time making content that tons of people resonate with, has probably done more to help de-stigmatize ASD than if you just came right out with it. Kudos on being able to share such a personal thing with the world, Science Thor
Science Thor must be one of the coolest nicknames there can be
He's both a superhero and super villain.
Science Thor is the most beautiful, accurate nickname and it fills me with joy 💕
@@humain1025 truly the MF DOOM of science :')
Its hard to come out especially in todays society, ppl will sadly go after any difference rather it be sexulaity, race, or ur mentally not same.
There’s a great saying regarding Autism: “If you’ve met a person with Autism, you’ve met A person with autism.”
As in, don't act like you know all about autism because you met one person with autism?
@@Sam-go3mb Yeah. Like how some person might say someones not autistic because they dont act like the one person they know with autism.
@@adrianbristol1471 Oh yeah totally agree. People love to speak on behalf of groups they barely know.
Yea that explains the spectrum aspect of it, everyone’s different! Have a good night all :)
Yep, because autism are very off what we consider the normal baselines and bell curves on most traits in most people. And it just means they are outlier in some ways. I have two close friends and a wife who are autistic, and all 3 are radically different, but far from the 'norm.
Dude! Thanks for sharing and for bringing light to the advantages of autism, not just the "disability" it's known as. I'm not autistic, but I am dyslexic which is mechanicaly opposite of autism. There are many symptoms that people have classified as "disabilities" related to it also, but it too brings "super powers" that I don't think I could live (or have survived what I've grown through) without. We're different, but we are the different that propels society foward. Good for you for seeing that in yourself! Better than that, you're awesome for helping others to see it that way too!
Kyle I never knew what that word was. I’ve gone my whole life w being sensitive to certain sounds and go into a rage as well. A lot of people think I’m crazy.
Thank you.
We also share the same super power. Thank you for this video. Thank you for everything that you do for the community and more. Keep bein nerdy.
Yessss..loud noises or repetitive noise of the same going on sends me to the edge of just shouting stfu 😂
Peace and quiet with no noise is the best ❤❤❤
I'm a teacher. One of my students loves you. I will make certain he sees this video because now you two have one more thing in common. Thank you for sharing.
If ya really wanna help, spread Awareness of how extremly awful and toxic the Organization ‚Autism Speaks’ has become.
I’m Autist and i think thats arguably the single Best Thing to do if you wanna generally help Autists.
Well, that and buying them Minecraft.
@@loturzelrestaurant over here speaking truths. ;3
@@loturzelrestaurant why Minecraft?
@@tylerdurden788 Oh,
you mean that lil side-comment that is obviously NOT THE POINT of the comment?
Well, you see: Minecraft is just good for Humans. Especially Children. But mainly just Humans. Its just good for ya.
“Nerdy, sciencey, Thor-boy.” Please tell me you have this on your business card.
OMG🤣
I think that was his high school yearbook quote
After all the insights and laughs, Kyle's got to go and make a tear jerker, cause it's a beautiful message! I'm not autistic, and I've never been diagnosed for it but I believe that I do have ADHD and no I do not want any "Pharmaceuticals for it". One given day I can focus on a single thing and ignore everything else for hours on end. Other days I'll pick up something to work on and become bored with it, drop it and won't go back to it. Other days, I'll be trying to do to many little things at once... I can have a less than a 5 - 10 second attention span if I'm in a Hyper State and I can have an attention or focus span for hours on end when I'm not. I also get distracted easily. As for audio or hearing, I don't freak out from certain sounds, but I do have very good hearing, it's just that when there are several conversations going along with any other background noises and someone tries to talk to me, I can not hear everything they are saying... I can't tune out distinct or individual sounds, yet I can end up in a state where I might just hear all the incoming sound and just ignore it all. I either hear everything or block it all. So this can be a challenge for conversations within large crowds for I'm hearing 2-3,10, 20 conversations as well as all of the background noise such as all traffic, work, etc... Yet I can relate to many of the things you have said and I've been watching your videos for close to a year or more... I find these topics interesting such as 3Blue1Brown, Ben Eater, javidx9, and many others. It's the here and the now that counts and I'm always seeking knowledge and understanding. So I just want to say that I fully appreciate all of the work that you and other content creators put into their videos, streams and projects. Quite Profound! As in the words of Gray a.k.a Florida Man: "Stay Foxy and Much Love!"
Wowed 😯 I’ve found out the hard way: mirroring through my eldest son who got diagnosed, through my divorce and consequently through my burn out I got from it (and so losing my job). All that was a wake up call, and still is, to change things for my own better health. Not trying to fight it, but accepting it and trying to utilize it to my advantage. It’s a constant work in progress, but that’s ok 🤷🏻♂️ kudos to you being brave! 👍🏻
I have autism and ADHD and other things.
Seriously and I can not stress this enough.
Thank you. Things are real tough right now...and...you saved me. Quite literally.
this right here^^
You’re unique.
My condolences, the world sucks often. I hope it gets better.
@112358 853211 wtf you can't "come out" as autistic it's not something you choose
@@dandelionxii1143 I have seen this guy posting other inflammatory comments on others' threads on this video. I suspect he is trolling to stir the pot.
I have Aspergers too i was diagnosed two years ago at 16 i never had any friends and was too ashamed that i was diagnosed but now i also see it as a superpower! This was a great video thank you it helps because ive been struggling.
I'm sure you'll make some great ones
I'm sorry that you are Israeli, hope one day you will live in a normal country 🙏
@@_blank-_ what the heck kind of comment is that? How do you even know if he still lives in Israel? He could be anywhere and have this username. Also Gal Gadot is Israeli and she’s amazing.
Can't believe I only just saw this, but this is powerful. Thank you for sharing your story with us. I personally have been diagnosed with asperger syndrome at a rather young age already, so I haven't had this type of "news flash" experience, it was just part of who I was since forever. The problem with me is that, even knowing about it, I still never found out how to best work with it. Instead, it became quite bad for me specifically. One detail about people with ASD is that they have very fixed mental patterns a lot of the time. And in my case, because I didn't know how to go about things, I fell into some bad ones, such as a very inactive routine outside of work or an extreme habit of lying my way out of uncomfortable situations. I only just recently found out how much of a problem this was both for myself and the people I care about. Now, I can finally say that I'm beginning to work on myself. I have been trying to find some strategies to develop more healthy habits for myself, and I'm finally beginning to somwhat get in touch with myself along the way as well. There's still a long journey ahead, but I'm starting to believe that I can forge this into a superpower of my own, given time and consistency.
10:38 - "Associated Misophonia" !!!
I broke down in tears. You mean there's a NAME for it??? The sonic torture I've experienced throughout my life? I'm wearing noise canceling headphones as I write this, and wore earplugs long before NC technology became widely available. I was diagnosed with autism Level 1 in 2022 at age 57. I've been researching the condition (with autistic intensity) ever since. This is the FIRST TIME anyone put a NAME to the sensitivity I have to sound, and the fact that bad sounds fill me with a sense of panic or rage.
Seems I'm not alone in this.
So thank you Kyle Hill. From the bottom of my heart:
Thank you
=)
7:42 "Did you see Kyle's coming out."
"Yeah, it's great that he can talk openly about having asperger."
"What? No! The fact that he's actually a super hero and not a super villain."
I’m a combat veteran and law enforcement veteran who knows all about isolation, but in the midst of all of that, I found a mental reprieve in a bunch of your videos and have enjoyed them greatly. You’ve impacted more people than you’ll probably ever know. Good on you bud and I hope for your continued success
Thank you for your service in both fields.
@@cecilyerker thank you
Thank you man. It's nice to see people coming out about it, whenever I try to tell people so they understand me a little better they just say I'm "too normal" and am just looking for attention even though I only ever tell people extremely close to me.
got diagnosed yesterday after i sought a psychiatrist about this. thank you for making me find this out about myself ❤❤❤
As a father of someone who was recently diagnosed I can't say how happy I am to hear this from you. Thanks for being a great role model
As a parent of a toddler who is likely on the spectrum, hearing this meant the world. Thank you
As a parent of a 13 year old on the spectrum, all I can say is that you're in for a wonderful journey. Throw out expectations of what your child will be and don't try to make them fit a preconceived idea. Just help them discover their strengths and encourage those. Remove roadblocks. Acknowledge their difficulties and give them tools to deal with them. Best of luck.
@@kylefrandsen2665 beautiful advice.
@@kylefrandsen2665 holy shit, dude you just validated my resentment of my mom, thank you. She wanted to "cure" my autism, I'm glad you're willing to just help your kid succeed as an autistic person rather than trying to force them to not be autistic
Toddler age is way too young to tell if they have autism, i think
@@elietheprof5678 it's absolutely not, and it's better to catch it young so you can better perform interventions and help them cope. Autistic people often have special needs.
Thank you Kyle, I "fell" onto your story here....I am an artist and was looking for the best way to clean my Liquitex spray caps...LOL....I found Ben Yockel on UA-cam and he talked about you, I have loved ones who I am sure can relate to this. Now I hope they can listen with an open mind. Particulary one son and my grandson....My son has dealt with it, although we haven't talked about autism, he is 42. My grandson, well I am very concerned about him. He is 19 and going nowhere, in depression, lives at home, has no goals and feels totally defeated. He fits into much of what you have shared here. Thank you.
Having a platform like you do to talk about not just mental health issues but your own personal experience is wonderful, and I feel like we could erase the stigma around mental health if more folks could do videos like this and let the world know that you're not alone in your journey. As someone who had studied and struggles with mental health, thank you for sharing your experience.
"I wanted to make a different slice of the Human Spectrum visible"
Thank you, Kyle. You rock.
i was diagnosed with autism by 4 different doctors as a little kid. my mother worked tirelessly to try and make me like all the rest of the kids, and i’m happy to say her efforts paid off. i was never put into special ed, but i always isolated myself growing up. i had a very lonely childhood. but i’ve always been very academically gifted. i started taking college courses in 8th grade for computer science, and at only 18 years old at the time of writing this, i’m almost entirely completed with my major (bachelors of science in CS).
while i haven’t been officially diagnosed with asperger’s or ASD, i’m confident i’m on the autism spectrum. you and i are a lot alike, i wear a man bun and obsess over small, minute details about little things (my thing is music, i’ve got a keen ear for different sounds). textures are a huge trigger for me, so if i feel something weird come into contact with my skin, i will freeze up and my joints will almost lock up. i overanalyse social situations, but my overanalysing is normally more beneficial than not.
whether or not i actually have ASD, this video spoke to me in so many ways. thank you kyle, for making a video like this. classical autism, and asd as whole, is very much misunderstood by the general population. maybe i’ll try to be more open about it. thank you :)
> . my mother worked tirelessly to try and make me like all the rest of the kids
This is generally an INCREDIBLY bad thing for even mildly autistic kids. Working WITH it to help the kids fulfill whatever needs they have that might not be typical is how that SHOULD be handled. Those are two very different things.
What steps did you take that allowed you to succeed?
I guess that something that is important for all of us with Autism is that we must know how to use it as a tool to benefit both ourselves and those around us.
I want to follow a similar path to the one you mentioned "At only 18 years old... I'm almost entirely completed with my Bachelors of Science in CS." Can you give me some advice?
I do not want to give away too much information over the internet, but I will just say that I am currently in 10th grade and trying all that I can to take AP and CE classes (I got a 5 on my AP Human Geography Exam, and I plan to get a 5 on my AP Biology and AP World History Exams. It will be difficult, but not much is worth doing unless it requires effort and is therefore valued.) However, I have not yet determined exactly what college I will go to or what I should do so I can pay for it....
I believe that I can complete this process, but it is much easier to ask for advice than to reinvent the wheel.
@@000Dragon50000 Well it apparently worked for him.
Is there an actual medical condition for issues with certain textures? I have super bad problems with this. My mom has it too, there are certain things you can’t even mention around her but I’m much worse. She only has a problem with a few specific things but for me it’s much more numerous. I always thought I was just weird and no one else could understand. Frankly I don’t even want to write specifics here because I don’t want to think about it but it’s extremely liberating to know that other people feel the same way. I’m also extremely sensitive to sound, both loud noises and specific things that just make me feel like I’m going to lose my shit. I’m extremely introverted as well although not on the levels that Kyle describes here. Idk, I’ve often speculated that I could be somewhere on the spectrum but mostly I’ve just always thought that I’m weird and didn’t think about it too deeply. It is nice to know that other people deal with similar issues though
@@000Dragon50000 that brings up another great point. i don’t like to speak super publicly about it, but i don’t really agree with the way that i had been raised by her. as being someone that multiple doctors had said was on the spectrum, i’m not quite sure i was put down the right path.
i love her to death, i really do. but i would just hate over-sharing my feelings on the internet
Kyle, I truly appreciate you making this video. I have Aspergers, Anxiety, and Depression. Open talk about these conditions help us not only be accepted, but teach us how to accept ourselves. You're changing the World.
I don't know how I haven't seen this until now, but I also have aspergers and it has severely effected my mental health since transitioning into adulthood. It means a lot to know that someone who I have looked up to for years is thriving with the same hand I've been dealt. This video has given be a good amount of hope and I really needed that right now. ❤
Man, you coming out with this actually helps the autism community. You're more proof that the stereotypes aren't true and it also helps others with autism feel less broken, I guess is the right word. I'd say one of my kryptonites is sarcasm and non-obvious social cues.
I often struggle with sarcasm too...
Same on sarcasm, but I'm kinda a point of knowing it's sarcasm when it happens, I just process it instantly.
This 💯, variables that aren't explicitly declared (with type sometimes lol) often just don't get parsed.
That's where the scientific method comes in. We can predictively model human behavior!
When I was younger I watched the series “catch phrase” helped me learn similes, took a fair few years but research and practice helps learn to spot the bizarre “normal” stuff
I dont usually understand sarcasm from others but boy do I love being a sarcastic asshole
This is just Kyle trying to hide the fact that he has x-ray vision, super speed and the ability to stand completely still.
You forgot to mention having perfect hair ;P
That's not a superpower, that's a good pillow and 6-8 hours of sleep. Bad pillows ruin your hair, it's science.
Thor had been trying to hide his identity from human.
So fast hes invisible, or... was it the standing completely still part, we.. will never know
@@GuitarsRockForever As we see with Kyle here "dethoring" his hair by just straping it to the back of his supercomputing nerd head ;)
I’d never heard of misophonia until this video, never knew my getting angry about seemingly mundane sounds was actually a condition.
Right? I had the same reaction. Was diagnosed with autism 2 years ago, and am still learning new things about the condition.
thank you for being open. it helps, really, so much.
So proud of you to come out with this 💞 Autism isn't something to shun and be ashamed of.
No, but autism fucking sucks. I have it so i would know. I was diagnosed with autism spectrum disorder when i was like 7. And im 22 now and life has been fuckin rough.
@@noname-md6pw ok
@@noname-md6pw I know a lot of people on the spectrum and have some in my family. I know it can be really hard. My comment was really about the stigma around it. I'm sorry that you have such a hard time, I hope you might reach out to people who can help you deal with these frustrations.
@@arielrose3323 the only people that can actually help me are psychiatrists. Most of my family probly doesnt understand autism. My mom understands me more than my dad. And im the only one in my family with anything like autism or aspergers. but my kind is very high functioning tho. Thats what absolutely saved me.
@@Bluboy511 i feel like low self esteem naturally comes with autism.
I was diagnosed with ADD as an adult, I appreciate you sharing your history, godspeed science Thor
Science Thor is so perfect!
Thats perfect this needs to be a new name for him or something.
@@doge8726 when shit hits the fan irl, you’ll see which one is more valuable.. Kyle hill is a premium Thor
Add isn't autism
Kyle, I’m new to your channel and I thought your half life series was amazing before I found this video. This was so powerful and enlightening. Thank you for opening up and sharing and being such a good representative for us neuro atypical people. Thank you!!
Thank you for this Kyle.
I saw the difficulty you had in delivering this message to us.
I myself am not diagnosed as autistic. But it seems fairly obvious to me after a dr mention it 7 or so years ago. I hated him saying that. But then I didnt really know what that meant.
But it explains why I am the way I am. Why social situations and banter are baffling to me and why some things come so easily to me and not others.
Dont want to go on. But seriously, thank you.
Love your videos man. I'm nearly done on "half life histories" 😊.
My daughter was classed as "developmentally delayed" when she was 3 years old. She spent years in special ed and while we tried to push for something to be more specifically identified they kept telling us no. Finally when she was 18 we were able to get her tested and diagnosed with ASD. Thank you for coming out and saying this.
Why did it take you 18 years for her to get a diagnosis i got mine at 13
@@coffintears5821 equity in access is not a thing. Congrats on getting your diagnosis solar. Others are not so lucky
I feel like an actor because I have trained myself to do "normal" everyday things and behaviours. None of it, and I mean none of it comes naturally to me. I am pretending to social. I am pretending to be "normal". This scares me to no end. I am going to make a call and find out for sure. I know the answer but I'm going to do it.
I identify with you so much and I am terrified.
dont be afraid of diagnosis, it changes nothing about your life except that you can know how to cope and thrive as a neurodivergent individual.
I empathize with this. I have basically studied social interactions like I would any other subject, and interact with people that way. I do not have these skills automatically. It is a very conscious effort.
Just know that it's not you that's weird or disabled. It's the world failing to be inclusive of anybody that strays from neurotypical mindsets.
That's why I find social interaction so tiring. I am basically giving a live improv performance whenever I am talking with most people.
@@matteste yes. so much yes.
Kyle, thank you for doing this. My son who is 14 now was diagnosed with autism and adhd when he was 3. He struggles with sensory and social issues, but does the best he can. He has a wonderful support system that advocates for him, and also wants the best for him. I think that you are showing that being on the autism spectrum isn't always this death sentence. There are so many more resources available to individuals on the spectrum, as well as parents. Again, thank you for this video.
I’m coming back to this video to let you know that it was my final straw. After years of misconceptions and misunderstandings about ASD, this finally pushed me to get tested. I had previously thought that ASD diagnosis had to be given at a young/developmental age, so when I started truly entertaining the possibility at 18/19, I thought I didn’t qualify. Through this video and a better understanding of the depth of ASD, I came to the conclusion that I may be on the spectrum, and at 21, I was diagnosed. This may be cliché or cheesy, but thank you for being that final push.
I isolated myself to such a degree that I'm pushing 40 and finally just now trying to find help thanks to the observations of my spouse and her family.
@@irgeeksauce4165 i like people able to help themselves, i simply have to like it
From a colleagues' description, I always thought I had some form of ADHD. Now I'm surprised how many things in this video perfectly line up with my experiences (especially the sounds part. My colleague was scratching against wood the other day and it pushed me from 0 to 100 in like a second.)
I think it's a sign that I ought to get myself tested as well. I'm a 27yo engineer, and the facts that I'm both outperforming most older colleagues - and that I can barely focus on any task once I got more than a single items on my to-do list - was put into a new light here.
I'm not saying any of this is proof, but at the very least the video spawned some new thoughts and motivates me to get testes now, too.
@@McKay1108 aw man i wish i could outperform anyone.. i've adhd and a gazillion other worries and it's been a long while since i felt superior..
The last thing i felt amazed about was 2 years ago, when a university friend told me that i could focus like crazy on complicated stuff. Well, since then i'm close to living on the street. I couldnt handle all of it at once, the corona isolation, a regular job and university. So i dropped out and now i'm kinda brocken. I have absolutely no idea how to get past the combination of anxieties and adhd-like performance problems. And mom thinks of throwing me out, since she can't handle my depts.
And the utmost horrible thing is, i still have to deal with thoughts like "oh hey, if you can do xy than you can't have adhd or anything - see you're absolutely fine rn" and "you're so brocken despite having the experience, if you can't fix yourself, nobody, not even professionals, would be able to - ever".
I see the flaw in my thinking, but that doesnt help me to get further.
And ontop of my problems the reality says nope:
Day clinic: "to get on our waiting list, you have to do a million things beforehand, sorry"
Everyone: "you have to wait 1 year minimum"
The professionals i'm getting: "you've just a bunch of personality disorders and you're overexxaggerating" OR "your situation is indeed very horrible, just go to a psychiatry, we can do nothing for ya"
Psychiatry: "we can't help ya, because you don't stick to schedules (while i have to think of everything on my own, from searching up all therapies to showing them, what i have choosen a million times while still getting nothing done and having to hear, that i did nothing at all and that is was my fault and coz i'm lacking initiative and rather did my own thing)"
My doctor: "you need to talk with professionals asap (while handing me over a bunch of brocken numbers from therapists either being out business for years or like "wait 3 months. Wait another 3 months. Wait yet another 3 months. Oh sorry we just forgot ya, hence wait another 3 months")
And it's obviously my fault to have ran in circles for over a decade now. This life is a joke, i want my money back D:
Edit: typOs, obvisly
@@McKay1108 ADHD and ASD have a lot of common symptoms. You should get tested but not go in thinking it is either or. It could be both too.
No lie: this is probably one of the best, most accepting environments for you to say this. Big fan, Mr. Hill.
Nerds are the most salty but also the most integrating
It may be shocking to some, but I kind of suspect that the audience watching science videos for fun is going to be heavily loaded with Aspies. I hope Mr. Hill sees all the comments and realizes he's never been alone.
Thanks for the vid man. We should all strive to understand ourselves better.
This has the same energy as when I came out to my dad, and he laughed and said "you still have to wash the dishes. Love you" and I mean that with much love and respect
As a teacher, I’ve used you as SO MANY POSITIVE EXAMPLES. Thank you for just being you. I also run my MTG club for my kids and use you there as well. Keep being such a positive example and I’ve never thought you on anything other than positive.. thank you, Kyle. Just for being you ❤️❤️
All this. Also, fellow MTGer, I feel connected, just through that
Spread that white mana
as an autistic person who recently discovered your videos & loves them, i really appreciate this video. it's so uplifting to see fellow autistic people, especially ones who were diagnosed late in life like me, succeed and do what they love. thank you for being open about this.
Oh my gosh. I didn’t even realize how textbook similar we were. Like from the legos, to not remembering names, and even not going to college parties. Of course that’s not all of it either. I always knew I thought differently. Seeing you go out and get a diagnosis at an older age really eases my mind at looking more into it. Thank you for sharing it’s an inspiration and brings some comfort.
Sent this to my friend who's going through a rough patch at the moment. I think they'll really benefit from your thoughts on the subject, You're awesome! Keep at it man!
As a fellow autistic with asperger's this is all to familiar and I understand. You already inspire me but this makes me feel more connected to you. Thank you
Hell yeah dude the three of us are aspies fuck yeah :D
There are more of us, than the most people even realise. I read an articel a few months ago, that claims that mankind gets more and more autistic traits because of the technical development.
Nobody's going to think of you different Kyle, we're all still your loyal supporters of the FACILITY. It's great that you're speaking out about it and we're all glad that you did it in such a positive way.
I think of him differently, it makes him seem extra cool that he was able to work through this and use it in a positive way.
I mean, have you seen the staff and all the interns around here?
@@Yora21 pretty sure his subscriber pool has a at least twice the nornal size margin of people on the spectrum than a random selection of people.
There have always been 'different' thinkers.
You are blessed to live in this time in history.
In past times,'different' thinkers faced many horrible fates.
I thank you for bringing your situation out to the public.
You are an inspiration to anyone with this condition as well as other brain challenges they face.
Thank you, Kyle.
I am glad to get more awareness out there and support for people with ASD. However, with more knowledge about people with disabilities, I have found that portraying certain people as superheroes can negatively affect the self worth of those with the same disability.
As a father to an 8 year old with autism I agree that it’s a super power, despite what the neurotypical world says.
You're a good dad. Wish I was raised by someone more like you.
I do too and so does my autistic son.
A superpower is something that makes someone better in some way than ordinary human beings. Autism isn't a superpower, people with autism are not overachievers, in fact quite the opposite a very high percentage of people with autism also fit the criteria for a learning disability and generally below average IQ.
People with autism should be treated with all the respect you would have for anyone else and not be subject of discrimination in any way but ignoring the facts and perpetuating the myth of the "Rain Man" autistic savant is not helpful. A problem doesn't go away because you pretend it doesn't exist.
(not Kyle from the video) My son's 13 now. I always think of him as having wings. He may not fit into a business suit when he grows up, but the dude can fly so I don't care. You're in for a wonderful, challenging journey.
@@BigUriel it’s not about being better than anyone, it’s about self-empowerment in the face of an ableist world.
“...pretty obvious, but it was news to me”.
That is spot on how it felt when I got diagnosed with ADHD as an adult. The people I told were surprised that I didn’t already know it, because they were already sure of it.
Same, i'm 30 now, realized that around 27 with the help from someone who was diagnosed. It made so much sense instantly, like you gave me the last part of a big puzzle. Since then, I talked about it with close people even my parents, everybody was just like, of course you are.. seem like my dumbass was the only one that didn't know haha
adhd. aka, autism lite. or as i like to call it, the if depression and autism had a baby
How can you not know something is wrong?
I've had people who claim to be on the spectrum claim that I'm on the spectrum. I have to advise them that I have other neurological problems.
Generalized damage to the central nervous system that has yet to be classified. I know that this is a problem I feel it's effects there's radiological evidence of this damage which four neurologists and a neurosurgeon now say isn't significant enough to be causing my symptoms, but they're not denying I have damage to my spine at this point (which is something at least).
ASD has become a catch-all for people who are just slightly off and for all intents and purposes I'm sure a team consisting of a psychology, psychiatrist and neurologist would put me on the spectrum erroneously until they discover an actual problem. Autism can cured because it is a learning disorder not caused by any neurological malformations. So when anyone brings up ASD linking anyone who is on it as not being "neurotypical" they actually have no idea what the they're talking about.
An ASD diagnosis ranges from mild social awkwardness all the way to a severe clinical disability that renders the individual almost incapable of living a normal life, but without an intellectual disability (how doctors really tease the two apart accurately is a mystery).
Making matters much worse is that most people who fall on the spectrum also have legitimate intellectual impairments which are separate diagnoses (again how these are really teased out by doctors is really unclear), but by mashing all four forms of these learning disorders into ASD it ensures that nearly everyone who is on the spectrum can be confused with those "high functioning" ASD individuals that have "superpowers" on social media which makes them feel so much better and probably makes the depression when they can't graduate secondary or post secondary schools find a fulfilling career or live a comfortable life all that much harder to deal with later because depression too is a separate diagnosis, which those with intellectual impairments and ASD also have in greater numbers than the rest of society. False hope is a b••••.
The DSM IV paved the way towards all of this, but the DSM V made ASD as you know it now what happened just a few short years ago.
More clear and concise definitions are what is needed, not more vague and less clear fanciful stuff... it's made to placate the masses who aren't even effected. The field of medicine has long since become politically charged. As always it starts small by seeing what marginalized groups can be made to feel better by changing definitions and sometimes these changes are not all bad people with mental disabilities used to be treated far worse so societal normalization was positive however it has gone as ever too far now we consider it a "superpower" that shouldn't be cured because treatment keeps these individuals the vast majority who don't have any mental impairments are in fact not actually any different from anyone else and are indeed "neurotypical," facts and reason be d•••••.
[One major correction to a single sentence was made by adding a the word "without" to it. Other smaller changes throughout this comment were made for easier reading.]
@@tieflingcorpse9817 Can you explain? people with ADHD always seem happy and energetic to me
@@LaurensHouweling yea but the symptoms tend to overlap. like lack of motivation to even get out of bed or shower being the main one
Dear Kyle. Thank you for this. I was diagnosed with aspergers when I was 8 years old, and I didn't really know about it or believe it until I was in high school. I always felt a little different, and when I finally knew what I have, it felt like everything clicked into place. You are very inspiring to me, and I want to be like you, in the sense of being a scientist and educating others. You show that people like me can be as awesome as you are. Thank you for being my hero.
This makes total sense and I thought I was projecting. I wish I had seen this sooner! I got my diagnoses-- yes, ASD and ADHD!-- a couple of years ago.
Makes total sense why you're one of my happy binges.
Thanks for having the courage to be vulnerable. We will always love you - you're an inspiration in more ways than you know.
being so "vulnerable" requires a lot of strength :-)
I'm 36, and working on getting an evaluation for autism after reading a bunch about it and taking my concerns to my therapist. Back when I was a kid, you didn't get tested unless you looked different, so they just labeled me with add/adhd and shoved meds at me. Thank you for sharing this.
I'm 37 and had a similar experience. Thankfully my dad was adamantly against the drugs, so I avoided that part.
And also similarly, I've just recently started to take the idea seriously that I might be on the spectrum
@@blackoak4978 , may you find the peace of mind the you're looking for hun. I know I'm trying to.
You didn't even touch on the propensity for addiction to ameliorate the unbuffered hell of stimulation and effort and being overwhelmed that is life on Aspergers.
Since autism was pretty much unknown in the English-speaking world until the 1990s, I grew up undiagnosed. It wasn't until I met a kid who was diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome that I noticed similarities between him and I and began to suspect that I was also autistic. The more I learned and the more online tests etc I took, the more it seemed that I was autistic so I got my GP to refer me to a specialist for clinical assessment. So I was finally diagnosed with autism ("severity 1" - what used to be called "Asperger's Syndrome" in DSM IV) in my 50's.
It was liberating to finally have confirmation of what I had suspected for quite some time and it certainly explains why I'm really good at things I'm interested in, and really bad at certain other things and why I frequently get "peopled out" or irritated by stimuli that doesn't seem to bother others.
Knowing that I'm autistic enables me to be more mindful of areas in which I struggle and to be better aware of what state I'm in so I can avoid situations that would be unhealthy for me.
As someone who is not diagnosed, but can struggle with similar aspects, having someone do something like this is extremely encouraging.
Thank you so much for helping everyone understand a bit better.
Are you ashamed of wearing glasses (if you do)? Then why would you be ashamed of being in the spectrum?? It's just a part of you that makes it so you have a special something you can use on whatever you do, rejoice and make the best out of it!
@@aikou2886 not really ashamed thankfully!
But it's like this one girl i've seen say, it's like everyone received a instruction manual to how social interactions work but i missed it.
I am considerably social considering the other people in the spectrum that I've met, but still.
@@nikolaskaarsberg7754 I totally get you. Sometimes I don't know how to react on social settings either but that's not the end of the world.
I used to beat myself so hard over this when I was younger but at some point I think I realized that doesn't matter as much as I thought it did, at least not to people that I see on a constant basis since they just get used to it.
@@aikou2886 Indeed, i got a habit of just simply saying that i am awkward and i know it, and since I am pretty happy with my life, anything that change could change my entire life.
Butterfly effect style.