Watched this dude on another pod too. He’s level headed and hilarious haha. Gotta buy this man a drink if I ever run into him in the city haha. Great camp sesh !
I remember this guy from SoftWhiteUnderBelly. Pretty funny and he seemed to hate the fact he’s right. Like a hopeless romantic that can’t help but to break their own heart. Great get.
Independently wealthy guy here. Not touching marriage with a 10 foot pole. Although I love the idea of a life partner, getting the state involved is no longer possible for me. That ship has sailed.
I could listen to James all day. I think I have about 5-6 different full length interviews queued up in my Watch Later section already. Very impressed with Mark as well. Saw him open for Schulz once and was blown away by his set but didn't realize how great he would be at podcast interviews too!
This is my third interview, and I just found out about him last week. I didn’t know about this channel before, but it’s the one I liked the most because of the insightful questions from the interviewer.
My soul just aches knowing I'm married to a woman who will never love me back. It aches even harder as I begin to come to terms with the idea that I may never experience the love I want in this life. And I don't know what else to fill that void with. Nothing is more beautiful.
I’m honestly questioning why people get married as well…it keeps you locked in something you may not want to be in. Took me a year and 2 months this last time to get divorced and I had to write a damn check and pay thousands in lawyer fees to someone who had gotten a PPO while we were married and a misdemeanor…abusive SOB and we were only together 16 months No thank you…you can’t uncover crazy until you marry them and then it’s too late Marriage doesn’t equal love - nor guarantee a good partner or respect of the partner…no thanks.
I never was blind to the amazing things my love with my wife first was. But she became blind to it and now we're probably done because she stopped caring
6:02 I do not dislike women, I realize their limitations and I love them within their constraints. I've owned dogs most of my life and I love dogs the same way. But make no mistake, a dog does not love you back. A dog is devoted, and devotion is good enough, but devotion is not love.
Im 32 and i just dont believe in marriage from what ive seen alone. My older sister had w big expensive wedding but got divorced a year later. My older brother been married 5 years but 2 years in his wife cheated with w co worker and theyre working it out. My parents been married 30 years but its more of an obligation. They are miserable together. And from my personal experience i don't think people really can be monogamous especially with modern age of social media. I opened my ex's Instagram DM's one time and saw alot of men shooting their shot. That kind of temptation gets to most people especially attractive women.
So much of marriage for the young woman has absolutely nothing to do with the person she is marrying. Unfortunately things like looking her prettiest in her wedding dress or having a daddy/daughter dance are so central to a woman's being that actually finding the right partner is in many cases not prioritized. I know a girl for example who got married young simply because she wanted to get married before her dad passed away. Sad stuff (and I don't know how her marriage has turned out) but for many it is nothing short of inconceivable to not have one's father "give her daughter away" at the wedding.
I think before marriage, we first need to ask what is marriage to each other. Cause as it stands right now, some see the legal side, some see the duty side, some see the social side.
With the story about the air traffic controller, I see why some people go insane and commit murder/suicide. He lost his whole life and looked to his partner and she was walking out the door with a contract that confirmed his life would continue to get worse. Not saying he should do it, but I get it.
Herre are two problems I see with having a prenup that says "if it's in your name it's yours, if it's in my name it's mine, if it's in our name it's ours"... It doesn't take into consideration the savings and benefits you can have from putting certain things in the name of say the older spouse or the lower income earning spouse or the one with the better driving record or tax benefits etc. It's better to hold your assets in a way that maximizes their value or efficiency, than a way that considers divorce. Another problem I have with it is that if one spouse has additional income that the other spouse knows nothing about, then well, it's all in the dishonest spouse's name, isn't it, and they'll feel even more entitled to it because of the prenup. I think prenups should be focused on assets that spouses had prior to being married, such that those assets are protected from being considered as co-mingled if both parties choose that.
Your mom was anything else but loveless, that was gold. Like the teacher or coach that was hard on you, so you get better at sth. In my opinion a key point for a successful relationship is the willingness of both to work on it
I’m 36 F married with a 1 year old baby. I froze my eggs when I was 32. Life can be long and divorce is almost inevitable. So if I remarry again when I’m 50 I have my frozen eggs I can use to have baby with my new husband. My husband does not know I have my eggs frozen. Women always have a plan B, C, and D. We just are quiet about it.
Find someone you love and get married. The whole concept of marriage; just like many traditional concepts has had its original definition distorted and clouded by new age lies. Go into it to solve problems and not for the happiness! It’s like jobs! No one goes into work to be happy but to pay bills! Find someone, talk to the person, love them and for God’s sake get married. Life gets incredibly lonely from age 50. I’m 30, and the number of old women I’ve encountered desperately needing relationship is staggering. Don’t lie to yourselves people. Get married - to solve problems! Thank me later
We are NOT living in the same world. It’s all a. E. X. And money. I’m so over it all as a woman! Makes me 🤢. We lose it all and agree about love. I want to feel and have an amazing love! Nothing compares to great love and a. E. X!!! How are psychedelics similar to love!? 🤦♀️ How about marriage helps with death and having legal rights to help make decions on behalf of this sacred bond but see no one sees it that way anymore Yes get a prenup if you’re scared about losing your money!!! Yes! The comment on divorce is hard on us and changes our views of love…so does a boyfriend and girlfriend relationship where we break up too. It hurts the same just one cost more money! SAME!!! Marriage is a RISK and this makes one accountable. When you think about it if you mess up most try to fix more to risk. That’s the only difference along with death as they can be helpful for arrangements so there are other reasons marriage helps.
I don’t know what this guy is talking about. Love is a lubricant that makes joining two lives together easier. Legal marriage is a necessity for women who choose to have children. Child rearing is time consuming, and the work primarily falls on women. Married fathers have a boost in their careers while the mother’s career, married or not, takes a hit. SAHMs end up having no earning potential in the event of a divorce. Marriage gives the mother access to resources in the event of divorce. This is her compensation for the sacrifice of her own earning potential in order to raise children. While a prenup would theoretically iron out all of this, young women are notoriously bad at advocating for themselves. Most have been told that good girls sacrifice their silly old careers for family, but during the divorce they get told they didn’t do anything but sit at home for 20 years. Marriage gives her the right to those resources, and the chance to scrape together a life for herself after divorce.
Experienced divorce lawyer here (Pennsylvania and New Jersey). Love this interview! I (mostly) agree with my fellow divorce lawyer from New York, James Sexton. I wish this video was required viewing by everyone BEFORE getting married. Stay safe out there!
Never though watching a divorce lawyer would be so entertaining. He was expressive, understanding and overall a bast to listen to. Mark is such a great host listening and adding his own thoughts, very happy with this episode!
Mr Sexton is absolutely fascinating to listen too. Such a down to earth, honest man with so much insight into relationships! As a divorcee twice before, I’ll never get married again. It’s merely a business contract which has nothing to do with love and companionship. Really enjoyed this discussion.
Spiritual people have answer. They say the greatest danger for marriage is "money and success" Because young couple, may earrn small money, but it doesnt distract them much emotionally because their first priority is love and having each other, being grateful for each other etc But later when both of them gain money and success and get better jobs, get better position. it can create a danger for the relationship because "the money and success" is slowly replacing the love, if you allow it. The love was previously the priority number one, and the money and success was priority number two. So it was very easy to experience love and support. But as the money and success grew, it became priority number one and love became priority number two. So people have to do nothing, but be aware of this danger, and never allow success or lack of time to destroy the family unit, but overgrow it, with some healthy choices and go on vacation or doing sports together etc and support each others success, by saying I like your harmonic relationship with colleagues, or that the relationships improved with your common effort, and I like the harmonic environment. It´s a dream life etc. I am glad you had good time etc. It´s not hard to understand the math of the 1. grade of elementary school. :) Yet people still have problem to understand it. But if they understand basic math, they will understand also this concept and therefore it gives them the opportunity to not blame the partner for it, but prevent it.
Divorce attorneys are the most realistic people on the planet. I agree with the fact people didn’t live as long back in the day. I remarried at 50 after 25 yrs having the time of my life. I figured I wouldn’t have to spend that much time with just one person, but actually we’ll probably live to 90. That’s 40 years. 😮😢
Spiritual people have answer. They say the greatest danger for marriage is "money and success" Because young couple, may earrn small money, but it doesnt distract them much emotionally because their first priority is love and having each other, being grateful for each other etc But later when both of them gain money and success and get better jobs, get better position. it can create a danger for the relationship because "the money and success" is slowly replacing the love, if you allow it. The love was previously the priority number one, and the money and success was priority number two. So it was very easy to experience love and support. But as the money and success grew, it became priority number one and love became priority number two. So people have to do nothing, but be aware of this danger, and never allow success or lack of time to destroy the family unit, but overgrow it, with some healthy choices and go on vacation or doing sports together etc and support each others success, by saying I like your harmonic relationship with colleagues, or that the relationships improved with your common effort, and I like the harmonic environment. It´s a dream life etc. I am glad you had good time etc. If you start value more your success and money, than your partner´s love, and gratitude and the love from your famly....then it means you put money and material things on pedestal, or that you both put money on pedestal. It´s not hard to understand the math of the 1. grade of elementary school. :) Yet people still have problem to understand it. But if they understand basic math, they will understand also this concept and therefore it gives them the opportunity to not blame the partner for it, but prevent it.
My partner and I are both divorced.....together 20 years. Did a ceremony, had vows, wear wedding rings and nobody knows but us.....we are not married. I only went for this,when I made real money 😂😂😂😂.
I actually just signed my final divorce papers yesterday. Over the last three years it has been absolutely dog poo, have lost thousands upon thousands of dollars. Ended up not being able to keep my house because of the wonderful big banks. Thank goodness I made profit on my house but after everything I’m still in the hole. Lots of empty liquor bottles and painkillers pry didn’t help. However I made it through and life is good! Take it from me don’t get married!! And don’t get married young!! Have high hopes for mark and his wife god speed!
@@JoseConseco-w6ylawyer fees. That’s why this guy advocates for a prenup. Pay the lawyers first and figure out what would happen if you divorce, instead of a drawn out divorce with lawyers on payroll.
We can’t base our decision based off what you went through. If you had a real one both would have held shit down. Two tales of the story, I’m sure you did messed up stuff
“[As a divorce lawyer,] that’s all I’m helping people do… is bury the body of the thing that wasn’t what they wanted it to be; that wasn’t what they thought it would be…” What a wonderfully poetic, insightful individual.
As for me … after my ex wife and I had our first son die, we slowly just drifted apart. It wasn’t like we hated each other, but just grew apart. We were living as room mates, the destruction of emotions from Our son’s death couldn’t be mended. So we ended our marriage, I’m thankful for the time we had but it’s been better apart than together. Would I ever get married again, I don’t know? I don’t believe in “soul mates” - love languages are silly. Modern western women are completely nuts and they aren’t getting my resources….. so I guess I won’t get remarried.
Why do people say drift apart like they had no control? I’m so sorry your son died. I have a son and I don’t know how I’d cope. But why couldn’t you grieve together and find a new normal together. Did you blame each other or were you just a reminder of what you lost?
6:33 Speaking on one of his good friends passing away. "I remember thinking there are so many people in the world today who aren't feeling the pain of his loss, and I'm so glad I'm not one of them. I'm so glad I feel this pain, because this pain is a function of having known the beauty of this soul." Jesus Christ I was listening to this while I was in the gym and this actually got me choked up for a moment. What an amazing way to look at a painful situation.
imo, i would like you to get dr.ramani on here to talk about narcissism in todays society to shed some light on this issue and give it a mainstream platform
I've given everything to my wife and now we have a son. She is purposefully sandbagging the entire relationship because she's holding on to things I unknowingly did to make her mad post-pardum. Many, if not all, of these issues could have been solved with communication on her part. But she insists I must read her mind, and if I don't read her mind then that means I'm not paying attention to her and I don't love her. Every single time I've ever tried to voice my impossibility to mind read, or her hypocrisy, and all the things she's done to destroy my heart, she will not listen whatsoever. She just blames and stonewalls and plays the victim. All women these days are like this. I've spoken to countless men who have all had the same experiences. Modern soceity and courts are laughably biased towards women. I am working on putting all of my money and business assets into LLC's and offshore trusts if needed. I fear this woman's stubbornness and narcissism is going to be the end of us. It's never going to get better. She showed me who she is and now I think I finally believe her.
This guy is brilliant and it makes me sad at the same time. I’m the classic millennial that was told you’ll be happily married with kids before 25 and I think many realized that life is way messier than that. I spent the last decade of my life in two relationships and now single at 33. Life doesn’t always work out like you were told it would.
@@GordoDustinSorry to hear bro. Just take time off work and do some traveling in Turkey, Japan, Iran, China, Peru, Vietnam or the Philippines. You'll come back with a traditional wife, who'll love and respect you. Edit. I think the only European country with a relatively low divorce rate is Romania
Wow. I'm only 10 min in and my mind is blown! I have been incredibly curious since I was born but that part of me was pushed down and silenced due to messages I got from the people/family around me. In 2016 something broke open and I began to embrace that curious side of me and then the flood gates opened and I will _never_ regret it. My questions and wondering started me down deconstructing so much, including religion. I've never been happier or more alive! I absolutely LOVE people who question things, especially things that were learned under the cloud of "what's socially/religiously" acceptable. Many are learning to use their logic again instead of going along to get along. ❤ I love the awakening that's happening!! 🎉🎉🎉
He's completely wrong when he says what you win is so good that you should buy a ticket. Take a look at the faces of "happily married men" and you'll see that they're far from happy. The reality is if you set aside divorces and then look at marriages where both partners are happy and in love with each other the statistic is probably closer to a single digit percentage. That doesn't make it worth it at all....
I think the issue is that you’re misunderstanding his meaning because he’s using sarcasm. James Sexton has talked about this in enough interviews that I’ve heard him say it a bit more clearly so I know he’s meaning that society is doing that cost benefit analysis and they’re the ones saying “so you should buy a ticket”, *he’s not saying you actually should*. He’s speaking from the POV of the societal narrative, not giving personal or professional advice as himself lol Basically, you’re using “happily married” in the sense of what people claim they are rather than what they actually are. He’s using it to mean the ideal of marriage that we prop up societally that people buy into, regardless of that ideal being fiction. Nobody wants to win an unhappy marriage where they’re pretending and performing a happy married life for the masses. No one is buying a ticket hoping for that outcome. He’s referring to the ideal that people are buying a ticket hoping to achieve and he’s referring to how the average person does the cost benefit analysis of marriage, not what you should actually do. And based on that ideal, it’s worth it for many people to take the gamble. The issue with that lies in the fact that you don’t actually have to get married in order to gamble on that ticket (love, companionship, mutual respect, sexual passion, etc). Which is exactly what James Sexton is saying, and has said in all of his other interviews. Hence why he asks “what is the problem to which marriage is the solution”. Because that problem doesn’t exist. There’s not really any reason, outside of some legal financial benefits for some people, to make your boyfriend your husband or to make your girlfriend your wife. The bigger issue is that they’re buying a ticket hoping for an outcome that, as far as I can tell, doesn’t actually exist at all. Don’t get me wrong, there are successful marriages where people have good relationships. But the ideal that’s put forth in media is one in which you’re in the honeymoon phase for the whole relationship, your real life never interferes with your relationship, and you’re never unhappy about anything ever because your marriage magically acts as a balm to all of life’s stresses and tragedies. In reality, even if you love your spouse wholeheartedly and that never stops, even if you don’t come to resent or hate them, even if there’s no infidelity, no abuse, even if you respect them and like them until the very end, there will still be highs and lows in your life as a whole and in your marriage and there will be times when you fight and times when you can’t stand each other and times when your life itself makes you unhappy, wholly separate from your spouse (whether it’s financial issues, a job you hate or just the fact that you have to work your life away at all, political unrest, family drama, or whatever else). In reality, marriage was meant to be a soulless, passionless legal contract. And in that respect, it’s amazing at what it does. It’s great for political pairings in monarchies or for 1800s couples whose relationship was a business transaction wherein a man was buying a maid and a woman was buying financial security because she couldn’t legally work. It isn’t very good or very necessary for anything beyond that.
Marriage is a traditional religious agreement that makes sense within a culture that respects and supports it. Everyone else: don't get married. Never marry someone who doesn't actually belong to and espouse a culture and tradition that respects marriage beyond the base legal contract.
Mate selection is incredibly difficult, and much like personal finance, we are rarely taught at a young(er) age HOW to vet potential husbands/wives. Personally, I got singularly lucky. My wife of 27 years is phenomenal. Honest to a fault, introspective, has been a great mother, and just overall a spectacular person to share my life with. And yet, both of my siblings are divorced, my parents are divorced. That's not really great odds in favor for the argument of marriage. The problem here, I suspect, is that it's the rare person that is good for marriage. That is so difficult to say and acknowledge if true because the payoff if the stars align, are basically everything good that a life has to offer simply because it's magnified.
Spiritual people have answer. They say the greatest danger for marriage is "money and success" Because young couple, may earrn small money, but it doesnt distract them much emotionally because their first priority is love and having each other, being grateful for each other etc But later when both of them gain money and success and get better jobs, get better position. it can create a danger for the relationship because "the money and success" is slowly replacing the love, if you allow it. The love was previously the priority number one, and the money and success was priority number two. So it was very easy to experience love and support. But as the money and success grew, it became priority number one and love became priority number two. So people have to do nothing, but be aware of this danger, and never allow success or lack of time to destroy the family unit, but overgrow it, with some healthy choices and go on vacation or doing sports together etc and support each others success, by saying I like your harmonic relationship with colleagues, or that the relationships improved with your common effort, and I like the harmonic environment. It´s a dream life etc. I am glad you had good time etc. If you start value more your success and money, than your partner´s love, and gratitude and the love from your famly....then it means you put money and material things on pedestal, or that you both put money on pedestal. It´s not hard to understand the math of the 1. grade of elementary school. :) Yet people still have problem to understand it. But if they understand basic math, they will understand also this concept and therefore it gives them the opportunity to not blame the partner for it, but prevent it.
I am 31 and have been with my woman since 17; had two kids before 20. We are unmarried after 14 years and completely happy. This guy speaks my language. As a felon I've never had a good day in court!!😂😂
@@karo1922 A felon I am, but that's only a part of my past. Right now today, I just broke seven figures, own a business, a condo, a house with acreage, and two bmws. I legally own firearms. I coach youth basketball for my son's league because I played in college. I'd say luck is on her side seeing as we're only 31. I've had a great comeback. My entire family is proud of me. And I have lots more to do. How's your life going? Future looks bright for me! 😎
My favorite James Sexton interview!!!!!!!!!!!! I couldn't freaking love him more. Would LOVE to watch him in court. Would also love to have a week long conversation with him where I just sit and listen. ❤
Spiritual people have answer. They say the greatest danger for marriage is "money and success" Because young couple, may earrn small money, but it doesnt distract them much emotionally because their first priority is love and having each other, being grateful for each other etc But later when both of them gain money and success and get better jobs, get better position. it can create a danger for the relationship because "the money and success" is slowly replacing the love, if you allow it. The love was previously the priority number one, and the money and success was priority number two. So it was very easy to experience love and support. But as the money and success grew, it became priority number one and love became priority number two. So people have to do nothing, but be aware of this danger, and never allow success or lack of time to destroy the family unit, but overgrow it, with some healthy choices and go on vacation or doing sports together etc and support each others success, by saying I like your harmonic relationship with colleagues, or that the relationships improved with your common effort, and I like the harmonic environment. It´s a dream life etc. I am glad you had good time etc. If you support each other this way with empathy and gratitude, no commercial media may brainwash you to think otherwise. If you start value more your success and money, than your partner´s love, and gratitude and the love from your famly....then it means you put money and material things on pedestal, or that you both put money on pedestal. It´s not hard to understand the math of the 1. grade of elementary school. :) Yet people still have problem to understand it. But if they understand basic math, they will understand also this concept and therefore it gives them the opportunity to not blame the partner for it, but prevent it.
This guy has helped me make sense of all the shit marriages I have seen my parents in. Makes me revaluate if marriage is something that's really worth me doing. Seems like a mistake tbh.
Amazing conversation, thank you so much to both you of you. Very respectful and intelligent commentary. My divorce was finalized over ten years ago and I still get asked fairly regularly when I’m going to get married again. People can’t wrap their head around the idea that not only is marriage not for everyone but also it’s borderline insane for the average person.
49:05 - Such a great point. Judges are very unpredictable. Different Judges have different opinions on what is fair. 2:13:21 - Another great point. Judges screw up all the time. Innocents get punished and their perpetrators get rewarded. James has a fantastic understanding of the legal system.
I’m a 62 year old woman and I’ve loved this video!! You guys are both so switched on. My husband drives me crazy and I know I drive him crazy too but no way are we needing a divorce lawyer ever!! I’m a Catholic by background and for all the criticisms you can make of the Catholic Church I love the self doubt it instilled 😊My husband is a Protestant 😂Ah well!
He totally makes sense when both people have a realistic sence of fairness, even though they grew apart or want to take different paths in life. What he is saying is totally not true if you are dealing with a narcissist. The divorce stories I've wittnessed or observed through the years is tyoically the empath ( male or female) gets dragged through the mud by the narcissist the kids are used as pawns and vulnerability is weaponized. And yes there are attorneys that strategically milk the case Marriage is a legal binding institution. Read between the lines before you sign with future spouce and/ or attorney
Unfortunately the Wills in certain places are not at all honored. Every document can be obliterated l. Add legal corruption or a good ole boys network... see what happens..
Wow 😱 This man is fascinating... And I've only said that two or three times in my life. Sir, you've made my day. I wonder what he would say about ex-wifes who refuse money from their ex-husbands. Just a question. Anyway, this interview is incredible.
57% chance that the parachute is NOT going to open and there is no reserve parachute...!?!?....Have a nice day sky-diving....Not for me....I love spectator sports....Will congratulate you as you touch down....IF you don't crash land....good luck. I rather buy a pint of milk now and then....keeping a cow can be expensive....not to mention inconvenient....a cow can leave a lot of shit around, for you to pick up....
IMHO, if a man could REALLLY read what a woman want's in a marriage, he'd run like hell! If a woman really know's what motivates her man, she's run like hell! Unfortunately, and in my case, I was so damn direct in both of my marriages, AND I RAN LIKE HELL! As it turned out, I was never afraid of my wives; BUT I DAMN SURE WAS AFRAID OF THE STATE! Thanks for reading.
When is Mark going to get an interview with Rogan? Andrew should be gettin his boy in there! He deserves the bump for having this awesome pod. I haven’t heard his standup but I’m sure he’s decent opening up for Andrew.
I have watched every interview available with this guest. This one is by far the funniest out of all of them. To me, Sexton is a philosopher turned entertainer - trapped in the body of a genius lawyer. Could listen to him for hours and more hours.
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This guy here did my prenup! My wife and I were very happy with his work, 10/10 would recommend hiring him
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Watched this dude on another pod too. He’s level headed and hilarious haha.
Gotta buy this man a drink if I ever run into him in the city haha. Great camp sesh !
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I'm seeing this play out in my life 💔 He doesn't make me happy anymore 💔 He betrayed me one too many times and he's a porn addict
I remember this guy from SoftWhiteUnderBelly. Pretty funny and he seemed to hate the fact he’s right. Like a hopeless romantic that can’t help but to break their own heart. Great get.
Whenever people ask if I am married, I always answer "oh no, I'm not that stupid.'
Independently wealthy guy here. Not touching marriage with a 10 foot pole. Although I love the idea of a life partner, getting the state involved is no longer possible for me. That ship has sailed.
Same bro. I'd love to have someone there when I get old. But itll never happen, no chance in hell as a high net worth individual.
How did you make your money?
@@jo18533 me or the other guy?
I could listen to James all day. I think I have about 5-6 different full length interviews queued up in my Watch Later section already. Very impressed with Mark as well. Saw him open for Schulz once and was blown away by his set but didn't realize how great he would be at podcast interviews too!
This is my third interview, and I just found out about him last week. I didn’t know about this channel before, but it’s the one I liked the most because of the insightful questions from the interviewer.
My soul just aches knowing I'm married to a woman who will never love me back. It aches even harder as I begin to come to terms with the idea that I may never experience the love I want in this life. And I don't know what else to fill that void with. Nothing is more beautiful.
You won't be eligible to meet the right person as long as you're with the wrong person
@@MIJBMIJB Well said. Why stay with someone misaligned? Believe you deserve better!
@@smokingcrab2290 How familiar... I feel exactly the same for my husband 😔 I wish you the best 🩷
you get the life you deserve and choose.
In the end you choose this destiny noone else.
This episode helped me get through an anxiety attack following surgery. I want to thank you so much for this.
I love how well versed he is. Bro opened up so many doors I thought I closed. Ty for this guest
I’m honestly questioning why people get married as well…it keeps you locked in something you may not want to be in. Took me a year and 2 months this last time to get divorced and I had to write a damn check and pay thousands in lawyer fees to someone who had gotten a PPO while we were married and a misdemeanor…abusive SOB and we were only together 16 months
No thank you…you can’t uncover crazy until you marry them and then it’s too late
Marriage doesn’t equal love - nor guarantee a good partner or respect of the partner…no thanks.
That's a great point. Getting married to fulfill a higher purpose (family, grandkids, etc.)
I never was blind to the amazing things my love with my wife first was. But she became blind to it and now we're probably done because she stopped caring
6:02 I do not dislike women, I realize their limitations and I love them within their constraints. I've owned dogs most of my life and I love dogs the same way. But make no mistake, a dog does not love you back. A dog is devoted, and devotion is good enough, but devotion is not love.
Prenups are also lead gen for divorce lawyers, he forgot to mention that part😅
Better to spend $3000 on prenup than $300,000 on attorney fees😂😂😂
Im 32 and i just dont believe in marriage from what ive seen alone. My older sister had w big expensive wedding but got divorced a year later. My older brother been married 5 years but 2 years in his wife cheated with w co worker and theyre working it out. My parents been married 30 years but its more of an obligation. They are miserable together. And from my personal experience i don't think people really can be monogamous especially with modern age of social media. I opened my ex's Instagram DM's one time and saw alot of men shooting their shot. That kind of temptation gets to most people especially attractive women.
So much of marriage for the young woman has absolutely nothing to do with the person she is marrying. Unfortunately things like looking her prettiest in her wedding dress or having a daddy/daughter dance are so central to a woman's being that actually finding the right partner is in many cases not prioritized. I know a girl for example who got married young simply because she wanted to get married before her dad passed away. Sad stuff (and I don't know how her marriage has turned out) but for many it is nothing short of inconceivable to not have one's father "give her daughter away" at the wedding.
So informative objective and interesting! Thanks guys
I think before marriage, we first need to ask what is marriage to each other. Cause as it stands right now, some see the legal side, some see the duty side, some see the social side.
I was recommended this video. 9:19 I am here, and I am going to watch the whole thing. The conversation is engaging.
Atty Sexton is awesome! I would love to be around this guy is fun to listen to!!!
With the story about the air traffic controller, I see why some people go insane and commit murder/suicide. He lost his whole life and looked to his partner and she was walking out the door with a contract that confirmed his life would continue to get worse. Not saying he should do it, but I get it.
To give a balance, is there a good interview that we can learn on how to build and maintain a good marriage?
Herre are two problems I see with having a prenup that says "if it's in your name it's yours, if it's in my name it's mine, if it's in our name it's ours"... It doesn't take into consideration the savings and benefits you can have from putting certain things in the name of say the older spouse or the lower income earning spouse or the one with the better driving record or tax benefits etc. It's better to hold your assets in a way that maximizes their value or efficiency, than a way that considers divorce. Another problem I have with it is that if one spouse has additional income that the other spouse knows nothing about, then well, it's all in the dishonest spouse's name, isn't it, and they'll feel even more entitled to it because of the prenup. I think prenups should be focused on assets that spouses had prior to being married, such that those assets are protected from being considered as co-mingled if both parties choose that.
Pray for James regaining his faith
Your mom was anything else but loveless, that was gold. Like the teacher or coach that was hard on you, so you get better at sth. In my opinion a key point for a successful relationship is the willingness of both to work on it
I’m 36 F married with a 1 year old baby. I froze my eggs when I was 32. Life can be long and divorce is almost inevitable. So if I remarry again when I’m 50 I have my frozen eggs I can use to have baby with my new husband. My husband does not know I have my eggs frozen. Women always have a plan B, C, and D. We just are quiet about it.
thats that "criminal" lawyer that jesse was talking about in breaking bad
Vitamins= interesting colored pee.
This is hilarious
And why don't I get to decide who is allowed in the emergency room instead of some 3rd party?
Stay single kings. Rent or borrow them as needed.
Women too! Borrow the kids. Just find someone to have "fun" with on occasion.
Ewe
Such a great pod!
Hey! I'm in Wisconsin & I'm one of the greatest stained glass artists in the country 😮😂
Find someone you love and get married. The whole concept of marriage; just like many traditional concepts has had its original definition distorted and clouded by new age lies. Go into it to solve problems and not for the happiness! It’s like jobs! No one goes into work to be happy but to pay bills! Find someone, talk to the person, love them and for God’s sake get married. Life gets incredibly lonely from age 50. I’m 30, and the number of old women I’ve encountered desperately needing relationship is staggering. Don’t lie to yourselves people. Get married - to solve problems! Thank me later
We are NOT living in the same world. It’s all a. E. X. And money. I’m so over it all as a woman! Makes me 🤢.
We lose it all and agree about love. I want to feel and have an amazing love! Nothing compares to great love and a. E. X!!!
How are psychedelics similar to love!? 🤦♀️
How about marriage helps with death and having legal rights to help make decions on behalf of this sacred bond but see no one sees it that way anymore
Yes get a prenup if you’re scared about losing your money!!! Yes!
The comment on divorce is hard on us and changes our views of love…so does a boyfriend and girlfriend relationship where we break up too. It hurts the same just one cost more money! SAME!!!
Marriage is a RISK and this makes one accountable. When you think about it if you mess up most try to fix more to risk. That’s the only difference along with death as they can be helpful for arrangements so there are other reasons marriage helps.
You take on unnecessary risk to ensure accountability? That makes no sense. That is down right irresponsible.
0mg, how long is the dk commercial
A divorce lawyer saying the odds are against you but go for it anyways, conflict of interest much?
Over 3 hour long video?!
I don’t know what this guy is talking about. Love is a lubricant that makes joining two lives together easier. Legal marriage is a necessity for women who choose to have children. Child rearing is time consuming, and the work primarily falls on women. Married fathers have a boost in their careers while the mother’s career, married or not, takes a hit. SAHMs end up having no earning potential in the event of a divorce. Marriage gives the mother access to resources in the event of divorce. This is her compensation for the sacrifice of her own earning potential in order to raise children. While a prenup would theoretically iron out all of this, young women are notoriously bad at advocating for themselves. Most have been told that good girls sacrifice their silly old careers for family, but during the divorce they get told they didn’t do anything but sit at home for 20 years. Marriage gives her the right to those resources, and the chance to scrape together a life for herself after divorce.
Don't kid yourself, a prenup will save you both money. A reasonable prenup will only hurt divorce lawyers pockets.
nearly ruined me!
Mark is goated
1:53:01 damn you got me man I thought he seems a little on the fruity side 😂
I was thinking the same thing lol . Glad he touched on it
Why would anyone hand their time and assets over to the 'pale of the state' to administer? It's a fucking trillion $ state of insanity...
The evangelical christian community would call this guy the devil.George Peterson too.
Vocabulary and word diversity is brilliance and limited Vocabulary is apparently the norm..sadly
To sum up the whole video in a few sentences. Play the game, what are you, gay? Strong independent feminists need to get paid
Happily married people that grow old together exist but it is rare.
It's not rare across the board. It's very rare in some cultures and very common in other cultures.
@@gorkyd7912 True
@cuzIjust It's not worth it.
@@gorkyd7912 It's rare across the board.
I don’t know any. I know people who have been married forever and literally hate each other and are the walking dead.
Experienced divorce lawyer here (Pennsylvania and New Jersey). Love this interview! I (mostly) agree with my fellow divorce lawyer from New York, James Sexton. I wish this video was required viewing by everyone BEFORE getting married. Stay safe out there!
Good to see you here Jonathan!
- WanderingDoc
Should I stay away from marriage?
I totally agree. Definitely would have had a prenup.
@@josephb2689marriage depends on the people. Just get a prenup. Watch more James Sexton.
Never though watching a divorce lawyer would be so entertaining. He was expressive, understanding and overall a bast to listen to. Mark is such a great host listening and adding his own thoughts, very happy with this episode!
Mr Sexton is absolutely fascinating to listen too. Such a down to earth, honest man with so much insight into relationships! As a divorcee twice before, I’ll never get married again. It’s merely a business contract which has nothing to do with love and companionship. Really enjoyed this discussion.
Your views completely contradict his, you understand that, right?
@@RommyAlifunny enough, you don’t understand anything
Indeed. Relationships are a business.
Totally agree.
Have to say.. mark is such a great conversationalist. He can carry a great convo with just about anyone.
Hope you have so much success with this pod.
I agree, I want to see him interview Putin!
Spiritual people have answer.
They say the greatest danger for marriage is "money and success"
Because young couple, may earrn small money, but it doesnt distract them much emotionally because
their first priority is love and having each other, being grateful for each other etc
But later when both of them gain money and success and get better jobs, get better position.
it can create a danger for the relationship
because "the money and success" is slowly replacing the love, if you allow it.
The love was previously the priority number one,
and the money and success was priority number two.
So it was very easy to experience love and support.
But as the money and success grew, it became priority number one
and love became priority number two.
So people have to do nothing, but be aware of this danger,
and never allow success or lack of time to destroy the family unit, but overgrow it, with some healthy choices and go on vacation or doing sports together etc
and support each others success, by saying I like your harmonic relationship with colleagues, or that the relationships improved with your common effort, and I like the harmonic environment. It´s a dream life etc. I am glad you had good time etc.
It´s not hard to understand the math of the 1. grade of elementary school. :)
Yet people still have problem to understand it.
But if they understand basic math, they will understand also this concept and therefore it gives them the opportunity to not blame the partner for it, but prevent it.
Thanks for getting him. These hours are going to feel like minutes
Divorce attorneys are the most realistic people on the planet. I agree with the fact people didn’t live as long back in the day. I remarried at 50 after 25 yrs having the time of my life. I figured I wouldn’t have to spend that much time with just one person, but actually we’ll probably live to 90. That’s 40 years. 😮😢
Spiritual people have answer.
They say the greatest danger for marriage is "money and success"
Because young couple, may earrn small money, but it doesnt distract them much emotionally because
their first priority is love and having each other, being grateful for each other etc
But later when both of them gain money and success and get better jobs, get better position.
it can create a danger for the relationship
because "the money and success" is slowly replacing the love, if you allow it.
The love was previously the priority number one,
and the money and success was priority number two.
So it was very easy to experience love and support.
But as the money and success grew, it became priority number one
and love became priority number two.
So people have to do nothing, but be aware of this danger,
and never allow success or lack of time to destroy the family unit, but overgrow it, with some healthy choices and go on vacation or doing sports together etc
and support each others success, by saying I like your harmonic relationship with colleagues, or that the relationships improved with your common effort, and I like the harmonic environment. It´s a dream life etc. I am glad you had good time etc.
If you start value more your success and money, than your partner´s love, and gratitude and the love from your famly....then it means you put money and material things on pedestal,
or that you both put money on pedestal.
It´s not hard to understand the math of the 1. grade of elementary school. :)
Yet people still have problem to understand it.
But if they understand basic math, they will understand also this concept and therefore it gives them the opportunity to not blame the partner for it, but prevent it.
Mrs. McCooey, who recently died, was divorced from 50 until she died at 90.
In all honestly u probably aren’t gonna live until 90 lol.. Average lifespan for a guy is 76
My partner and I are both divorced.....together 20 years. Did a ceremony, had vows, wear wedding rings and nobody knows but us.....we are not married.
I only went for this,when I made real money 😂😂😂😂.
"I only went for this,when I made real money " you are male or female?
Very cool.
BACK TO CAMP
You goin to that Tech Window Camp brah?
Glad to see you watch James Sexton. You guys are one of the few I follow on youtube
I actually just signed my final divorce papers yesterday. Over the last three years it has been absolutely dog poo, have lost thousands upon thousands of dollars. Ended up not being able to keep my house because of the wonderful big banks. Thank goodness I made profit on my house but after everything I’m still in the hole. Lots of empty liquor bottles and painkillers pry didn’t help. However I made it through and life is good! Take it from me don’t get married!! And don’t get married young!! Have high hopes for mark and his wife god speed!
What is it that costs so much ??? I thought things were just split 5050 and that was it ??
@@JoseConseco-w6ylawyer fees. That’s why this guy advocates for a prenup. Pay the lawyers first and figure out what would happen if you divorce, instead of a drawn out divorce with lawyers on payroll.
We can’t base our decision based off what you went through. If you had a real one both would have held shit down. Two tales of the story, I’m sure you did messed up stuff
@@Liljay82ndlifer
He didn't take the roof from over her head at least😂
@@JoseConseco-w6y lawyer fees back and forth kid custody back and forth aka more lawyers involved that charge 100 bucks to read your e-mail.
“[As a divorce lawyer,] that’s all I’m helping people do… is bury the body of the thing that wasn’t what they wanted it to be; that wasn’t what they thought it would be…”
What a wonderfully poetic, insightful individual.
You both very funny. I never married never believed in it. I’m a 68 yr. Old woman. Happy. Great video.
As for me … after my ex wife and I had our first son die, we slowly just drifted apart. It wasn’t like we hated each other, but just grew apart. We were living as room mates, the destruction of emotions from Our son’s death couldn’t be mended. So we ended our marriage, I’m thankful for the time we had but it’s been better apart than together. Would I ever get married again, I don’t know? I don’t believe in “soul mates” - love languages are silly. Modern western women are completely nuts and they aren’t getting my resources….. so I guess I won’t get remarried.
Why do people say drift apart like they had no control? I’m so sorry your son died. I have a son and I don’t know how I’d cope. But why couldn’t you grieve together and find a new normal together. Did you blame each other or were you just a reminder of what you lost?
Until you meet me lol
The loss of a child is very traumatic to recover from.
6:33 Speaking on one of his good friends passing away.
"I remember thinking there are so many people in the world today who aren't feeling the pain of his loss, and I'm so glad I'm not one of them. I'm so glad I feel this pain, because this pain is a function of having known the beauty of this soul."
Jesus Christ I was listening to this while I was in the gym and this actually got me choked up for a moment. What an amazing way to look at a painful situation.
imo, i would like you to get dr.ramani on here to talk about narcissism in todays society to shed some light on this issue and give it a mainstream platform
Yes, totally agree, was thinking the same as you
Gentlemen. Stay single ie learn the hard way. Don’t believe me? Talk to 5 married men, 5 divorced men, and 5 single men. Come to your own conclusion.
The farthest from gay. He sounds like a well educated, experienced man to me.
42:10 lol
@@NotDr.Evil137 ?
@@saw727 This is not so farthest from gay as you thought, just saying 😬
@@NotDr.Evil137 Don't hate Lol He seems like an educated man, that knows his shyt. Just saying. I love gay dudes anyhow so 🤷
@@saw727 Okae, what if YOUR man is in the closet? I've heard plenty of wives dunking on their rich husband 🤣
I've given everything to my wife and now we have a son. She is purposefully sandbagging the entire relationship because she's holding on to things I unknowingly did to make her mad post-pardum. Many, if not all, of these issues could have been solved with communication on her part. But she insists I must read her mind, and if I don't read her mind then that means I'm not paying attention to her and I don't love her. Every single time I've ever tried to voice my impossibility to mind read, or her hypocrisy, and all the things she's done to destroy my heart, she will not listen whatsoever. She just blames and stonewalls and plays the victim.
All women these days are like this. I've spoken to countless men who have all had the same experiences. Modern soceity and courts are laughably biased towards women. I am working on putting all of my money and business assets into LLC's and offshore trusts if needed. I fear this woman's stubbornness and narcissism is going to be the end of us. It's never going to get better. She showed me who she is and now I think I finally believe her.
Divorce her. Start living your life happily!
This guy is brilliant and it makes me sad at the same time. I’m the classic millennial that was told you’ll be happily married with kids before 25 and I think many realized that life is way messier than that. I spent the last decade of my life in two relationships and now single at 33. Life doesn’t always work out like you were told it would.
Millenials werent being told 25, they were told 30. I'm Gen X, ahd maybe 25 was a goal.
@@GUITARTIME2024 that’s your opinion, I heard different and so did many of my friends.
@@GordoDustinSorry to hear bro. Just take time off work and do some traveling in Turkey, Japan, Iran, China, Peru, Vietnam or the Philippines. You'll come back with a traditional wife, who'll love and respect you.
Edit. I think the only European country with a relatively low divorce rate is Romania
Children do not always cement relationships. There is no guarantee.
Wow. I'm only 10 min in and my mind is blown!
I have been incredibly curious since I was born but that part of me was pushed down and silenced due to messages I got from the people/family around me. In 2016 something broke open and I began to embrace that curious side of me and then the flood gates opened and I will _never_ regret it.
My questions and wondering started me down deconstructing so much, including religion.
I've never been happier or more alive!
I absolutely LOVE people who question things, especially things that were learned under the cloud of "what's socially/religiously" acceptable. Many are learning to use their logic again instead of going along to get along. ❤
I love the awakening that's happening!! 🎉🎉🎉
He's completely wrong when he says what you win is so good that you should buy a ticket. Take a look at the faces of "happily married men" and you'll see that they're far from happy. The reality is if you set aside divorces and then look at marriages where both partners are happy and in love with each other the statistic is probably closer to a single digit percentage. That doesn't make it worth it at all....
HAPPY WIFE HAPPY LIFE 🤪🤪🤪🤪🤪
I think the issue is that you’re misunderstanding his meaning because he’s using sarcasm. James Sexton has talked about this in enough interviews that I’ve heard him say it a bit more clearly so I know he’s meaning that society is doing that cost benefit analysis and they’re the ones saying “so you should buy a ticket”, *he’s not saying you actually should*. He’s speaking from the POV of the societal narrative, not giving personal or professional advice as himself lol
Basically, you’re using “happily married” in the sense of what people claim they are rather than what they actually are. He’s using it to mean the ideal of marriage that we prop up societally that people buy into, regardless of that ideal being fiction.
Nobody wants to win an unhappy marriage where they’re pretending and performing a happy married life for the masses. No one is buying a ticket hoping for that outcome. He’s referring to the ideal that people are buying a ticket hoping to achieve and he’s referring to how the average person does the cost benefit analysis of marriage, not what you should actually do. And based on that ideal, it’s worth it for many people to take the gamble. The issue with that lies in the fact that you don’t actually have to get married in order to gamble on that ticket (love, companionship, mutual respect, sexual passion, etc). Which is exactly what James Sexton is saying, and has said in all of his other interviews. Hence why he asks “what is the problem to which marriage is the solution”. Because that problem doesn’t exist. There’s not really any reason, outside of some legal financial benefits for some people, to make your boyfriend your husband or to make your girlfriend your wife.
The bigger issue is that they’re buying a ticket hoping for an outcome that, as far as I can tell, doesn’t actually exist at all. Don’t get me wrong, there are successful marriages where people have good relationships. But the ideal that’s put forth in media is one in which you’re in the honeymoon phase for the whole relationship, your real life never interferes with your relationship, and you’re never unhappy about anything ever because your marriage magically acts as a balm to all of life’s stresses and tragedies. In reality, even if you love your spouse wholeheartedly and that never stops, even if you don’t come to resent or hate them, even if there’s no infidelity, no abuse, even if you respect them and like them until the very end, there will still be highs and lows in your life as a whole and in your marriage and there will be times when you fight and times when you can’t stand each other and times when your life itself makes you unhappy, wholly separate from your spouse (whether it’s financial issues, a job you hate or just the fact that you have to work your life away at all, political unrest, family drama, or whatever else).
In reality, marriage was meant to be a soulless, passionless legal contract. And in that respect, it’s amazing at what it does. It’s great for political pairings in monarchies or for 1800s couples whose relationship was a business transaction wherein a man was buying a maid and a woman was buying financial security because she couldn’t legally work. It isn’t very good or very necessary for anything beyond that.
Marriage is a traditional religious agreement that makes sense within a culture that respects and supports it. Everyone else: don't get married. Never marry someone who doesn't actually belong to and espouse a culture and tradition that respects marriage beyond the base legal contract.
Mate selection is incredibly difficult, and much like personal finance, we are rarely taught at a young(er) age HOW to vet potential husbands/wives. Personally, I got singularly lucky. My wife of 27 years is phenomenal. Honest to a fault, introspective, has been a great mother, and just overall a spectacular person to share my life with. And yet, both of my siblings are divorced, my parents are divorced. That's not really great odds in favor for the argument of marriage. The problem here, I suspect, is that it's the rare person that is good for marriage. That is so difficult to say and acknowledge if true because the payoff if the stars align, are basically everything good that a life has to offer simply because it's magnified.
This is so good ! James sexton I can listen to you for hours. 3 hours flew away like a minutes!
His version of Adam and Eve was absolutely fantastic and 100% factual 😂
This guy is awesome. Very well spoken. Great interview
Thinking about leaving my girl for some time now and this video gave me the motivation and reassurance to finally do it
How'd it go lol
Spiritual people have answer.
They say the greatest danger for marriage is "money and success"
Because young couple, may earrn small money, but it doesnt distract them much emotionally because
their first priority is love and having each other, being grateful for each other etc
But later when both of them gain money and success and get better jobs, get better position.
it can create a danger for the relationship
because "the money and success" is slowly replacing the love, if you allow it.
The love was previously the priority number one,
and the money and success was priority number two.
So it was very easy to experience love and support.
But as the money and success grew, it became priority number one
and love became priority number two.
So people have to do nothing, but be aware of this danger,
and never allow success or lack of time to destroy the family unit, but overgrow it, with some healthy choices and go on vacation or doing sports together etc
and support each others success, by saying I like your harmonic relationship with colleagues, or that the relationships improved with your common effort, and I like the harmonic environment. It´s a dream life etc. I am glad you had good time etc.
If you start value more your success and money, than your partner´s love, and gratitude and the love from your famly....then it means you put money and material things on pedestal,
or that you both put money on pedestal.
It´s not hard to understand the math of the 1. grade of elementary school. :)
Yet people still have problem to understand it.
But if they understand basic math, they will understand also this concept and therefore it gives them the opportunity to not blame the partner for it, but prevent it.
Oh no. Did you?
Awesome, let your next girlfriend know right out the gate "any unnecessary drama, manipulation or s3xless-nights and I'm GONE!!!" 😠
*drizzle drizzle
plan it smartly...dont fall for the manipulation tactics they are great at...wish you the best
I am 31 and have been with my woman since 17; had two kids before 20. We are unmarried after 14 years and completely happy. This guy speaks my language. As a felon I've never had a good day in court!!😂😂
And there was a woman who agreed to have kids with a felon ? Good luck to her…
@@karo1922 A felon I am, but that's only a part of my past. Right now today, I just broke seven figures, own a business, a condo, a house with acreage, and two bmws. I legally own firearms. I coach youth basketball for my son's league because I played in college. I'd say luck is on her side seeing as we're only 31. I've had a great comeback. My entire family is proud of me. And I have lots more to do. How's your life going? Future looks bright for me! 😎
@@lucidethos not really convinced about her luck, let’s see in 10 years when you are around 40 ;)
@@karo1922 yeah I'm sure you're not a loser 😭
@@lucidethos uff, glad you are sure 👌
2:10 he forgot to mention the ones that end in cold blooded murder.
Sadly Numbers don’t lie😮😮
My favorite James Sexton interview!!!!!!!!!!!! I couldn't freaking love him more. Would LOVE to watch him in court. Would also love to have a week long conversation with him where I just sit and listen. ❤
He is expensive in every possible way. You might not want to have that experience.
Crazy you post this today. The same day my wife asks for a divorce. Fuck me.
Bruh
Spiritual people have answer.
They say the greatest danger for marriage is "money and success"
Because young couple, may earrn small money, but it doesnt distract them much emotionally because
their first priority is love and having each other, being grateful for each other etc
But later when both of them gain money and success and get better jobs, get better position.
it can create a danger for the relationship
because "the money and success" is slowly replacing the love, if you allow it.
The love was previously the priority number one,
and the money and success was priority number two.
So it was very easy to experience love and support.
But as the money and success grew, it became priority number one
and love became priority number two.
So people have to do nothing, but be aware of this danger,
and never allow success or lack of time to destroy the family unit, but overgrow it, with some healthy choices and go on vacation or doing sports together etc
and support each others success, by saying I like your harmonic relationship with colleagues, or that the relationships improved with your common effort, and I like the harmonic environment. It´s a dream life etc. I am glad you had good time etc. If you support each other this way with empathy and gratitude, no commercial media may brainwash you to think otherwise.
If you start value more your success and money, than your partner´s love, and gratitude and the love from your famly....then it means you put money and material things on pedestal,
or that you both put money on pedestal.
It´s not hard to understand the math of the 1. grade of elementary school. :)
Yet people still have problem to understand it.
But if they understand basic math, they will understand also this concept and therefore it gives them the opportunity to not blame the partner for it, but prevent it.
This guy has helped me make sense of all the shit marriages I have seen my parents in. Makes me revaluate if marriage is something that's really worth me doing. Seems like a mistake tbh.
This isn't complex. Marriage will never die because women require it. Marriage rates will decrease but only if alimony becomes extinct.
Wow! I did not expect to get sucked into this episode as much as I did. Incredible guest.
I've seen Sexton a few times but this interview was singularly excellent
100% agree!
Amazing conversation, thank you so much to both you of you. Very respectful and intelligent commentary. My divorce was finalized over ten years ago and I still get asked fairly regularly when I’m going to get married again. People can’t wrap their head around the idea that not only is marriage not for everyone but also it’s borderline insane for the average person.
49:05 - Such a great point. Judges are very unpredictable. Different Judges have different opinions on what is fair. 2:13:21 - Another great point. Judges screw up all the time. Innocents get punished and their perpetrators get rewarded. James has a fantastic understanding of the legal system.
I would love to see him talk to Jordan Peterson that advocates for marriage due to psychological reasons. Wonder what would come out of their debate.
I usually hear these during work and turn it off when I get clock out but daym I had to finish it at home
its like the lottery if you were financially ruined for losing
And the jackpot was nothing tangible, just the vague concepts of companionship or happiness which only you can control.
I’m a 62 year old woman and I’ve loved this video!! You guys are both so switched on. My husband drives me crazy and I know I drive him crazy too but no way are we needing a divorce lawyer ever!! I’m a Catholic by background and for all the criticisms you can make of the Catholic Church I love the self doubt it instilled 😊My husband is a Protestant 😂Ah well!
that didn't feel like 3 hours. and at the end, felt like James could have gone for another 3
i felt it when he said the only thing I go to is comedy shows! been thinking the same thought for a few years now!
He totally makes sense when both people have a realistic sence of fairness, even though they grew apart or want to take different paths in life.
What he is saying is totally not true if you are dealing with a narcissist. The divorce stories I've wittnessed or observed through the years is tyoically the empath ( male or female) gets dragged through the mud by the narcissist the kids are used as pawns and vulnerability is weaponized. And yes there are attorneys that strategically milk the case
Marriage is a legal binding institution. Read between the lines before you sign with future spouce and/ or attorney
Been married twice...never ever again.
Unfortunately the Wills in certain places are not at all honored. Every document can be obliterated l. Add legal corruption or a good ole boys network... see what happens..
Wow 😱 This man is fascinating... And I've only said that two or three times in my life. Sir, you've made my day. I wonder what he would say about ex-wifes who refuse money from their ex-husbands. Just a question. Anyway, this interview is incredible.
I can listen to him all day!🤩
Adam to Eve, “Jesus, do you have to eat Everything?”
57% chance that the parachute is NOT going to open and there is no reserve parachute...!?!?....Have a nice day sky-diving....Not for me....I love spectator sports....Will congratulate you as you touch down....IF you don't crash land....good luck. I rather buy a pint of milk now and then....keeping a cow can be expensive....not to mention inconvenient....a cow can leave a lot of shit around, for you to pick up....
That punt of milk comes with risks I would never be ok with.
I'd like to see this attorney and Dave Ramsey debate. Not rooting for anyone, just the debate itself.
Never thought that I am going to get the best relationship advice from a divorce lawyer. Very thankful.❤❤
IMHO, if a man could REALLLY read what a woman want's in a marriage, he'd run like hell! If a woman really know's what motivates her man, she's run like hell! Unfortunately, and in my case, I was so damn direct in both of my marriages, AND I RAN LIKE HELL! As it turned out, I was never afraid of my wives; BUT I DAMN SURE WAS AFRAID OF THE STATE! Thanks for reading.
When is Mark going to get an interview with Rogan? Andrew should be gettin his boy in there! He deserves the bump for having this awesome pod. I haven’t heard his standup but I’m sure he’s decent opening up for Andrew.
His stand up is just as great as you think it is. Mark is the man
I have watched every interview available with this guest. This one is by far the funniest out of all of them. To me, Sexton is a philosopher turned entertainer - trapped in the body of a genius lawyer. Could listen to him for hours and more hours.
12:05, 20:00, 23:15, 26:45, 40:00, 43:20, 49:00, 1:02:00, 1:05:00, 1:19:50, 1:40:00, 1:42:00, 1:55:20, 2:04:50, 2:05:50, 2:19:00, 2:21:30, 2:22:50, 2:28:00, 2:29:00, 2:31:00, 2:33:00, 2:36:00, 2:42:00, 3:07:00, 3:16:50
Why does this guy make so much sense! So sensible and logical and down to Earth!
Definitely, common sense advice.
I used to always hear this guy talk with rude Jude on shade 45
Jude rules!