Watched this dude on another pod too. He’s level headed and hilarious haha. Gotta buy this man a drink if I ever run into him in the city haha. Great camp sesh !
Never though watching a divorce lawyer would be so entertaining. He was expressive, understanding and overall a bast to listen to. Mark is such a great host listening and adding his own thoughts, very happy with this episode!
Mr Sexton is absolutely fascinating to listen too. Such a down to earth, honest man with so much insight into relationships! As a divorcee twice before, I’ll never get married again. It’s merely a business contract which has nothing to do with love and companionship. Really enjoyed this discussion.
Experienced divorce lawyer here (Pennsylvania and New Jersey). Love this interview! I (mostly) agree with my fellow divorce lawyer from New York, James Sexton. I wish this video was required viewing by everyone BEFORE getting married. Stay safe out there!
I remember this guy from SoftWhiteUnderBelly. Pretty funny and he seemed to hate the fact he’s right. Like a hopeless romantic that can’t help but to break their own heart. Great get.
6:33 Speaking on one of his good friends passing away. "I remember thinking there are so many people in the world today who aren't feeling the pain of his loss, and I'm so glad I'm not one of them. I'm so glad I feel this pain, because this pain is a function of having known the beauty of this soul." Jesus Christ I was listening to this while I was in the gym and this actually got me choked up for a moment. What an amazing way to look at a painful situation.
Spiritual people have answer. They say the greatest danger for marriage is "money and success" Because young couple, may earrn small money, but it doesnt distract them much emotionally because their first priority is love and having each other, being grateful for each other etc But later when both of them gain money and success and get better jobs, get better position. it can create a danger for the relationship because "the money and success" is slowly replacing the love, if you allow it. The love was previously the priority number one, and the money and success was priority number two. So it was very easy to experience love and support. But as the money and success grew, it became priority number one and love became priority number two. So people have to do nothing, but be aware of this danger, and never allow success or lack of time to destroy the family unit, but overgrow it, with some healthy choices and go on vacation or doing sports together etc and support each others success, by saying I like your harmonic relationship with colleagues, or that the relationships improved with your common effort, and I like the harmonic environment. It´s a dream life etc. I am glad you had good time etc. It´s not hard to understand the math of the 1. grade of elementary school. :) Yet people still have problem to understand it. But if they understand basic math, they will understand also this concept and therefore it gives them the opportunity to not blame the partner for it, but prevent it.
“[As a divorce lawyer,] that’s all I’m helping people do… is bury the body of the thing that wasn’t what they wanted it to be; that wasn’t what they thought it would be…” What a wonderfully poetic, insightful individual.
Divorce attorneys are the most realistic people on the planet. I agree with the fact people didn’t live as long back in the day. I remarried at 50 after 25 yrs having the time of my life. I figured I wouldn’t have to spend that much time with just one person, but actually we’ll probably live to 90. That’s 40 years. 😮😢
Spiritual people have answer. They say the greatest danger for marriage is "money and success" Because young couple, may earrn small money, but it doesnt distract them much emotionally because their first priority is love and having each other, being grateful for each other etc But later when both of them gain money and success and get better jobs, get better position. it can create a danger for the relationship because "the money and success" is slowly replacing the love, if you allow it. The love was previously the priority number one, and the money and success was priority number two. So it was very easy to experience love and support. But as the money and success grew, it became priority number one and love became priority number two. So people have to do nothing, but be aware of this danger, and never allow success or lack of time to destroy the family unit, but overgrow it, with some healthy choices and go on vacation or doing sports together etc and support each others success, by saying I like your harmonic relationship with colleagues, or that the relationships improved with your common effort, and I like the harmonic environment. It´s a dream life etc. I am glad you had good time etc. If you start value more your success and money, than your partner´s love, and gratitude and the love from your famly....then it means you put money and material things on pedestal, or that you both put money on pedestal. It´s not hard to understand the math of the 1. grade of elementary school. :) Yet people still have problem to understand it. But if they understand basic math, they will understand also this concept and therefore it gives them the opportunity to not blame the partner for it, but prevent it.
Wow. I'm only 10 min in and my mind is blown! I have been incredibly curious since I was born but that part of me was pushed down and silenced due to messages I got from the people/family around me. In 2016 something broke open and I began to embrace that curious side of me and then the flood gates opened and I will _never_ regret it. My questions and wondering started me down deconstructing so much, including religion. I've never been happier or more alive! I absolutely LOVE people who question things, especially things that were learned under the cloud of "what's socially/religiously" acceptable. Many are learning to use their logic again instead of going along to get along. ❤ I love the awakening that's happening!! 🎉🎉🎉
Amazing conversation, thank you so much to both you of you. Very respectful and intelligent commentary. My divorce was finalized over ten years ago and I still get asked fairly regularly when I’m going to get married again. People can’t wrap their head around the idea that not only is marriage not for everyone but also it’s borderline insane for the average person.
My favorite James Sexton interview!!!!!!!!!!!! I couldn't freaking love him more. Would LOVE to watch him in court. Would also love to have a week long conversation with him where I just sit and listen. ❤
I have watched every interview available with this guest. This one is by far the funniest out of all of them. To me, Sexton is a philosopher turned entertainer - trapped in the body of a genius lawyer. Could listen to him for hours and more hours.
I actually just signed my final divorce papers yesterday. Over the last three years it has been absolutely dog poo, have lost thousands upon thousands of dollars. Ended up not being able to keep my house because of the wonderful big banks. Thank goodness I made profit on my house but after everything I’m still in the hole. Lots of empty liquor bottles and painkillers pry didn’t help. However I made it through and life is good! Take it from me don’t get married!! And don’t get married young!! Have high hopes for mark and his wife god speed!
@@JoseConseco-w6ylawyer fees. That’s why this guy advocates for a prenup. Pay the lawyers first and figure out what would happen if you divorce, instead of a drawn out divorce with lawyers on payroll.
We can’t base our decision based off what you went through. If you had a real one both would have held shit down. Two tales of the story, I’m sure you did messed up stuff
I could listen to James all day. I think I have about 5-6 different full length interviews queued up in my Watch Later section already. Very impressed with Mark as well. Saw him open for Schulz once and was blown away by his set but didn't realize how great he would be at podcast interviews too!
This is my third interview, and I just found out about him last week. I didn’t know about this channel before, but it’s the one I liked the most because of the insightful questions from the interviewer.
49:05 - Such a great point. Judges are very unpredictable. Different Judges have different opinions on what is fair. 2:13:21 - Another great point. Judges screw up all the time. Innocents get punished and their perpetrators get rewarded. James has a fantastic understanding of the legal system.
My partner and I are both divorced.....together 20 years. Did a ceremony, had vows, wear wedding rings and nobody knows but us.....we are not married. I only went for this,when I made real money 😂😂😂😂.
Independently wealthy guy here. Not touching marriage with a 10 foot pole. Although I love the idea of a life partner, getting the state involved is no longer possible for me. That ship has sailed.
This guy is brilliant and it makes me sad at the same time. I’m the classic millennial that was told you’ll be happily married with kids before 25 and I think many realized that life is way messier than that. I spent the last decade of my life in two relationships and now single at 33. Life doesn’t always work out like you were told it would.
@@GordoDustinSorry to hear bro. Just take time off work and do some traveling in Turkey, Japan, Iran, China, Peru, Vietnam or the Philippines. You'll come back with a traditional wife, who'll love and respect you. Edit. I think the only European country with a relatively low divorce rate is Romania
Spiritual people have answer. They say the greatest danger for marriage is "money and success" Because young couple, may earrn small money, but it doesnt distract them much emotionally because their first priority is love and having each other, being grateful for each other etc But later when both of them gain money and success and get better jobs, get better position. it can create a danger for the relationship because "the money and success" is slowly replacing the love, if you allow it. The love was previously the priority number one, and the money and success was priority number two. So it was very easy to experience love and support. But as the money and success grew, it became priority number one and love became priority number two. So people have to do nothing, but be aware of this danger, and never allow success or lack of time to destroy the family unit, but overgrow it, with some healthy choices and go on vacation or doing sports together etc and support each others success, by saying I like your harmonic relationship with colleagues, or that the relationships improved with your common effort, and I like the harmonic environment. It´s a dream life etc. I am glad you had good time etc. If you start value more your success and money, than your partner´s love, and gratitude and the love from your famly....then it means you put money and material things on pedestal, or that you both put money on pedestal. It´s not hard to understand the math of the 1. grade of elementary school. :) Yet people still have problem to understand it. But if they understand basic math, they will understand also this concept and therefore it gives them the opportunity to not blame the partner for it, but prevent it.
I am 31 and have been with my woman since 17; had two kids before 20. We are unmarried after 14 years and completely happy. This guy speaks my language. As a felon I've never had a good day in court!!😂😂
@@karo1922 A felon I am, but that's only a part of my past. Right now today, I just broke seven figures, own a business, a condo, a house with acreage, and two bmws. I legally own firearms. I coach youth basketball for my son's league because I played in college. I'd say luck is on her side seeing as we're only 31. I've had a great comeback. My entire family is proud of me. And I have lots more to do. How's your life going? Future looks bright for me! 😎
Mate selection is incredibly difficult, and much like personal finance, we are rarely taught at a young(er) age HOW to vet potential husbands/wives. Personally, I got singularly lucky. My wife of 27 years is phenomenal. Honest to a fault, introspective, has been a great mother, and just overall a spectacular person to share my life with. And yet, both of my siblings are divorced, my parents are divorced. That's not really great odds in favor for the argument of marriage. The problem here, I suspect, is that it's the rare person that is good for marriage. That is so difficult to say and acknowledge if true because the payoff if the stars align, are basically everything good that a life has to offer simply because it's magnified.
I’m honestly questioning why people get married as well…it keeps you locked in something you may not want to be in. Took me a year and 2 months this last time to get divorced and I had to write a damn check and pay thousands in lawyer fees to someone who had gotten a PPO while we were married and a misdemeanor…abusive SOB and we were only together 16 months No thank you…you can’t uncover crazy until you marry them and then it’s too late Marriage doesn’t equal love - nor guarantee a good partner or respect of the partner…no thanks.
My soul just aches knowing I'm married to a woman who will never love me back. It aches even harder as I begin to come to terms with the idea that I may never experience the love I want in this life. And I don't know what else to fill that void with. Nothing is more beautiful.
I have heard this man speak the truth for some time now. He validates what I’ve been thinking and how I’ve lived my life for 3 decades. Marriage is not a cookie cutter situation. It’s not a one size fits all and sometimes it doesn’t fit at all. Thank you Mr. Sexton. Please, keep on keeping on. 😊
I’m a 62 year old woman and I’ve loved this video!! You guys are both so switched on. My husband drives me crazy and I know I drive him crazy too but no way are we needing a divorce lawyer ever!! I’m a Catholic by background and for all the criticisms you can make of the Catholic Church I love the self doubt it instilled 😊My husband is a Protestant 😂Ah well!
He totally makes sense when both people have a realistic sence of fairness, even though they grew apart or want to take different paths in life. What he is saying is totally not true if you are dealing with a narcissist. The divorce stories I've wittnessed or observed through the years is tyoically the empath ( male or female) gets dragged through the mud by the narcissist the kids are used as pawns and vulnerability is weaponized. And yes there are attorneys that strategically milk the case Marriage is a legal binding institution. Read between the lines before you sign with future spouce and/ or attorney
03:07:09 “I’ll let you know when it happens” 😅 I felt that. It’s probably true for a lot of professions. This is the longest interview I’ve seen of James and it’s probably the best so far.
As for me … after my ex wife and I had our first son die, we slowly just drifted apart. It wasn’t like we hated each other, but just grew apart. We were living as room mates, the destruction of emotions from Our son’s death couldn’t be mended. So we ended our marriage, I’m thankful for the time we had but it’s been better apart than together. Would I ever get married again, I don’t know? I don’t believe in “soul mates” - love languages are silly. Modern western women are completely nuts and they aren’t getting my resources….. so I guess I won’t get remarried.
Why do people say drift apart like they had no control? I’m so sorry your son died. I have a son and I don’t know how I’d cope. But why couldn’t you grieve together and find a new normal together. Did you blame each other or were you just a reminder of what you lost?
imo, i would like you to get dr.ramani on here to talk about narcissism in todays society to shed some light on this issue and give it a mainstream platform
With the story about the air traffic controller, I see why some people go insane and commit murder/suicide. He lost his whole life and looked to his partner and she was walking out the door with a contract that confirmed his life would continue to get worse. Not saying he should do it, but I get it.
6:02 I do not dislike women, I realize their limitations and I love them within their constraints. I've owned dogs most of my life and I love dogs the same way. But make no mistake, a dog does not love you back. A dog is devoted, and devotion is good enough, but devotion is not love.
No he can't. Not because he isn't as talented, but bc Joe does UFC stuff and that really helps to boost his global exposure. People watch the UFC all over the world.
I've given everything to my wife and now we have a son. She is purposefully sandbagging the entire relationship because she's holding on to things I unknowingly did to make her mad post-pardum. Many, if not all, of these issues could have been solved with communication on her part. But she insists I must read her mind, and if I don't read her mind then that means I'm not paying attention to her and I don't love her. Every single time I've ever tried to voice my impossibility to mind read, or her hypocrisy, and all the things she's done to destroy my heart, she will not listen whatsoever. She just blames and stonewalls and plays the victim. All women these days are like this. I've spoken to countless men who have all had the same experiences. Modern soceity and courts are laughably biased towards women. I am working on putting all of my money and business assets into LLC's and offshore trusts if needed. I fear this woman's stubbornness and narcissism is going to be the end of us. It's never going to get better. She showed me who she is and now I think I finally believe her.
I’ve never seen a “perfect” marriage. My parents were together over 40 years and I swear they bickered for over 35 years over the smallest things. I see my family and friends in the same thing, argue then kiss and make up. A never ending cycle until one of them hits their breaking point. Many are afraid to be alone so they put up with a lot because of that fear. This guy is spitting truth. Marriage is overrated.
I never was blind to the amazing things my love with my wife first was. But she became blind to it and now we're probably done because she stopped caring
I do wakeup every day thinking I don’t have a cold, not pain beautiful day and I go an enjoy it. Last December I fell and I hit with shoulder I couldn’t do anything. I couldn’t comb my hair or shower or dress myself. Little by little I recovered in six months. I appreciate everything I am grateful for everything. If my daughter doesn’t talk to me I pray to God to protect her and give her health and to me patience. We really don’t know how lucky we are.
Mark it’s so weird how you can sit with a professional and legit have such an engaging conversation and ask the correct questions and be sooo prepared and be this intelligent man and on flagrant you can’t even work a laptop LMAO 😂I love you soo much and you’re great in this atmosphere and in flagrant .. ughhh much love and it’s been a pleasure watching you grow and yeah !! Sending love from the asshole army !!
Im 32 and i just dont believe in marriage from what ive seen alone. My older sister had w big expensive wedding but got divorced a year later. My older brother been married 5 years but 2 years in his wife cheated with w co worker and theyre working it out. My parents been married 30 years but its more of an obligation. They are miserable together. And from my personal experience i don't think people really can be monogamous especially with modern age of social media. I opened my ex's Instagram DM's one time and saw alot of men shooting their shot. That kind of temptation gets to most people especially attractive women.
So much of marriage for the young woman has absolutely nothing to do with the person she is marrying. Unfortunately things like looking her prettiest in her wedding dress or having a daddy/daughter dance are so central to a woman's being that actually finding the right partner is in many cases not prioritized. I know a girl for example who got married young simply because she wanted to get married before her dad passed away. Sad stuff (and I don't know how her marriage has turned out) but for many it is nothing short of inconceivable to not have one's father "give her daughter away" at the wedding.
Wow 😱 This man is fascinating... And I've only said that two or three times in my life. Sir, you've made my day. I wonder what he would say about ex-wifes who refuse money from their ex-husbands. Just a question. Anyway, this interview is incredible.
I dont think a person can really understand the hate you can feel for an ex unless you've been accused (through the courts and their attorney) of being any number of untrue things with the sole purpose of reducing or eliminating your custody just for money. I think that's when a person can really learn to hate especially when knowing you would never even consider doing the same because of how it would damage your children.
When is Mark going to get an interview with Rogan? Andrew should be gettin his boy in there! He deserves the bump for having this awesome pod. I haven’t heard his standup but I’m sure he’s decent opening up for Andrew.
This guy has helped me make sense of all the shit marriages I have seen my parents in. Makes me revaluate if marriage is something that's really worth me doing. Seems like a mistake tbh.
I think before marriage, we first need to ask what is marriage to each other. Cause as it stands right now, some see the legal side, some see the duty side, some see the social side.
Great content, I am one of those people that “won the lottery”. I can understand why so many people want what I’ve had over 46 years but it’s rare. That said if I live longer than my husband I will not remarry because I don’t think I will “win the lottery”twice. For the record I kissesd and slept with plenty of toads before we married.
37 years old. No kids, been with the same man for 7 years. This video reassures me that he + I are correct in our decision to not put a legally binding contract between us. Marriage is not synonymous with commitment.
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This guy here did my prenup! My wife and I were very happy with his work, 10/10 would recommend hiring him
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Watched this dude on another pod too. He’s level headed and hilarious haha.
Gotta buy this man a drink if I ever run into him in the city haha. Great camp sesh !
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I'm seeing this play out in my life 💔 He doesn't make me happy anymore 💔 He betrayed me one too many times and he's a porn addict
Never though watching a divorce lawyer would be so entertaining. He was expressive, understanding and overall a bast to listen to. Mark is such a great host listening and adding his own thoughts, very happy with this episode!
1:18:28 James is going at it! love this man when he is on fire and so passionate!
Mr Sexton is absolutely fascinating to listen too. Such a down to earth, honest man with so much insight into relationships! As a divorcee twice before, I’ll never get married again. It’s merely a business contract which has nothing to do with love and companionship. Really enjoyed this discussion.
Your views completely contradict his, you understand that, right?
@@RommyAlifunny enough, you don’t understand anything
Indeed. Relationships are a business.
Totally agree.
Happily married people that grow old together exist but it is rare.
It's not rare across the board. It's very rare in some cultures and very common in other cultures.
@@gorkyd7912 True
@cuzIjust It's not worth it.
@@gorkyd7912 It's rare across the board.
I don’t know any. I know people who have been married forever and literally hate each other and are the walking dead.
Experienced divorce lawyer here (Pennsylvania and New Jersey). Love this interview! I (mostly) agree with my fellow divorce lawyer from New York, James Sexton. I wish this video was required viewing by everyone BEFORE getting married. Stay safe out there!
Good to see you here Jonathan!
- WanderingDoc
Should I stay away from marriage?
I totally agree. Definitely would have had a prenup.
@@josephb2689marriage depends on the people. Just get a prenup. Watch more James Sexton.
I remember this guy from SoftWhiteUnderBelly. Pretty funny and he seemed to hate the fact he’s right. Like a hopeless romantic that can’t help but to break their own heart. Great get.
6:33 Speaking on one of his good friends passing away.
"I remember thinking there are so many people in the world today who aren't feeling the pain of his loss, and I'm so glad I'm not one of them. I'm so glad I feel this pain, because this pain is a function of having known the beauty of this soul."
Jesus Christ I was listening to this while I was in the gym and this actually got me choked up for a moment. What an amazing way to look at a painful situation.
Have to say.. mark is such a great conversationalist. He can carry a great convo with just about anyone.
Hope you have so much success with this pod.
I agree, I want to see him interview Putin!
Spiritual people have answer.
They say the greatest danger for marriage is "money and success"
Because young couple, may earrn small money, but it doesnt distract them much emotionally because
their first priority is love and having each other, being grateful for each other etc
But later when both of them gain money and success and get better jobs, get better position.
it can create a danger for the relationship
because "the money and success" is slowly replacing the love, if you allow it.
The love was previously the priority number one,
and the money and success was priority number two.
So it was very easy to experience love and support.
But as the money and success grew, it became priority number one
and love became priority number two.
So people have to do nothing, but be aware of this danger,
and never allow success or lack of time to destroy the family unit, but overgrow it, with some healthy choices and go on vacation or doing sports together etc
and support each others success, by saying I like your harmonic relationship with colleagues, or that the relationships improved with your common effort, and I like the harmonic environment. It´s a dream life etc. I am glad you had good time etc.
It´s not hard to understand the math of the 1. grade of elementary school. :)
Yet people still have problem to understand it.
But if they understand basic math, they will understand also this concept and therefore it gives them the opportunity to not blame the partner for it, but prevent it.
“[As a divorce lawyer,] that’s all I’m helping people do… is bury the body of the thing that wasn’t what they wanted it to be; that wasn’t what they thought it would be…”
What a wonderfully poetic, insightful individual.
Divorce attorneys are the most realistic people on the planet. I agree with the fact people didn’t live as long back in the day. I remarried at 50 after 25 yrs having the time of my life. I figured I wouldn’t have to spend that much time with just one person, but actually we’ll probably live to 90. That’s 40 years. 😮😢
Spiritual people have answer.
They say the greatest danger for marriage is "money and success"
Because young couple, may earrn small money, but it doesnt distract them much emotionally because
their first priority is love and having each other, being grateful for each other etc
But later when both of them gain money and success and get better jobs, get better position.
it can create a danger for the relationship
because "the money and success" is slowly replacing the love, if you allow it.
The love was previously the priority number one,
and the money and success was priority number two.
So it was very easy to experience love and support.
But as the money and success grew, it became priority number one
and love became priority number two.
So people have to do nothing, but be aware of this danger,
and never allow success or lack of time to destroy the family unit, but overgrow it, with some healthy choices and go on vacation or doing sports together etc
and support each others success, by saying I like your harmonic relationship with colleagues, or that the relationships improved with your common effort, and I like the harmonic environment. It´s a dream life etc. I am glad you had good time etc.
If you start value more your success and money, than your partner´s love, and gratitude and the love from your famly....then it means you put money and material things on pedestal,
or that you both put money on pedestal.
It´s not hard to understand the math of the 1. grade of elementary school. :)
Yet people still have problem to understand it.
But if they understand basic math, they will understand also this concept and therefore it gives them the opportunity to not blame the partner for it, but prevent it.
Mrs. McCooey, who recently died, was divorced from 50 until she died at 90.
In all honestly u probably aren’t gonna live until 90 lol.. Average lifespan for a guy is 76
Wow. I'm only 10 min in and my mind is blown!
I have been incredibly curious since I was born but that part of me was pushed down and silenced due to messages I got from the people/family around me. In 2016 something broke open and I began to embrace that curious side of me and then the flood gates opened and I will _never_ regret it.
My questions and wondering started me down deconstructing so much, including religion.
I've never been happier or more alive!
I absolutely LOVE people who question things, especially things that were learned under the cloud of "what's socially/religiously" acceptable. Many are learning to use their logic again instead of going along to get along. ❤
I love the awakening that's happening!! 🎉🎉🎉
Thanks for getting him. These hours are going to feel like minutes
Amazing conversation, thank you so much to both you of you. Very respectful and intelligent commentary. My divorce was finalized over ten years ago and I still get asked fairly regularly when I’m going to get married again. People can’t wrap their head around the idea that not only is marriage not for everyone but also it’s borderline insane for the average person.
My favorite James Sexton interview!!!!!!!!!!!! I couldn't freaking love him more. Would LOVE to watch him in court. Would also love to have a week long conversation with him where I just sit and listen. ❤
He is expensive in every possible way. You might not want to have that experience.
I have watched every interview available with this guest. This one is by far the funniest out of all of them. To me, Sexton is a philosopher turned entertainer - trapped in the body of a genius lawyer. Could listen to him for hours and more hours.
I actually just signed my final divorce papers yesterday. Over the last three years it has been absolutely dog poo, have lost thousands upon thousands of dollars. Ended up not being able to keep my house because of the wonderful big banks. Thank goodness I made profit on my house but after everything I’m still in the hole. Lots of empty liquor bottles and painkillers pry didn’t help. However I made it through and life is good! Take it from me don’t get married!! And don’t get married young!! Have high hopes for mark and his wife god speed!
What is it that costs so much ??? I thought things were just split 5050 and that was it ??
@@JoseConseco-w6ylawyer fees. That’s why this guy advocates for a prenup. Pay the lawyers first and figure out what would happen if you divorce, instead of a drawn out divorce with lawyers on payroll.
We can’t base our decision based off what you went through. If you had a real one both would have held shit down. Two tales of the story, I’m sure you did messed up stuff
@@Liljay82ndlifer
He didn't take the roof from over her head at least😂
@@JoseConseco-w6y lawyer fees back and forth kid custody back and forth aka more lawyers involved that charge 100 bucks to read your e-mail.
I could listen to James all day. I think I have about 5-6 different full length interviews queued up in my Watch Later section already. Very impressed with Mark as well. Saw him open for Schulz once and was blown away by his set but didn't realize how great he would be at podcast interviews too!
This is my third interview, and I just found out about him last week. I didn’t know about this channel before, but it’s the one I liked the most because of the insightful questions from the interviewer.
This is so good ! James sexton I can listen to you for hours. 3 hours flew away like a minutes!
49:05 - Such a great point. Judges are very unpredictable. Different Judges have different opinions on what is fair. 2:13:21 - Another great point. Judges screw up all the time. Innocents get punished and their perpetrators get rewarded. James has a fantastic understanding of the legal system.
This episode helped me get through an anxiety attack following surgery. I want to thank you so much for this.
My partner and I are both divorced.....together 20 years. Did a ceremony, had vows, wear wedding rings and nobody knows but us.....we are not married.
I only went for this,when I made real money 😂😂😂😂.
"I only went for this,when I made real money " you are male or female?
Very cool.
You both very funny. I never married never believed in it. I’m a 68 yr. Old woman. Happy. Great video.
Independently wealthy guy here. Not touching marriage with a 10 foot pole. Although I love the idea of a life partner, getting the state involved is no longer possible for me. That ship has sailed.
Same bro. I'd love to have someone there when I get old. But itll never happen, no chance in hell as a high net worth individual.
How did you make your money?
@@jo18533 me or the other guy?
This guy is brilliant and it makes me sad at the same time. I’m the classic millennial that was told you’ll be happily married with kids before 25 and I think many realized that life is way messier than that. I spent the last decade of my life in two relationships and now single at 33. Life doesn’t always work out like you were told it would.
Millenials werent being told 25, they were told 30. I'm Gen X, ahd maybe 25 was a goal.
@@GUITARTIME2024 that’s your opinion, I heard different and so did many of my friends.
@@GordoDustinSorry to hear bro. Just take time off work and do some traveling in Turkey, Japan, Iran, China, Peru, Vietnam or the Philippines. You'll come back with a traditional wife, who'll love and respect you.
Edit. I think the only European country with a relatively low divorce rate is Romania
Children do not always cement relationships. There is no guarantee.
Thinking about leaving my girl for some time now and this video gave me the motivation and reassurance to finally do it
How'd it go lol
Spiritual people have answer.
They say the greatest danger for marriage is "money and success"
Because young couple, may earrn small money, but it doesnt distract them much emotionally because
their first priority is love and having each other, being grateful for each other etc
But later when both of them gain money and success and get better jobs, get better position.
it can create a danger for the relationship
because "the money and success" is slowly replacing the love, if you allow it.
The love was previously the priority number one,
and the money and success was priority number two.
So it was very easy to experience love and support.
But as the money and success grew, it became priority number one
and love became priority number two.
So people have to do nothing, but be aware of this danger,
and never allow success or lack of time to destroy the family unit, but overgrow it, with some healthy choices and go on vacation or doing sports together etc
and support each others success, by saying I like your harmonic relationship with colleagues, or that the relationships improved with your common effort, and I like the harmonic environment. It´s a dream life etc. I am glad you had good time etc.
If you start value more your success and money, than your partner´s love, and gratitude and the love from your famly....then it means you put money and material things on pedestal,
or that you both put money on pedestal.
It´s not hard to understand the math of the 1. grade of elementary school. :)
Yet people still have problem to understand it.
But if they understand basic math, they will understand also this concept and therefore it gives them the opportunity to not blame the partner for it, but prevent it.
Oh no. Did you?
Awesome, let your next girlfriend know right out the gate "any unnecessary drama, manipulation or s3xless-nights and I'm GONE!!!" 😠
*drizzle drizzle
plan it smartly...dont fall for the manipulation tactics they are great at...wish you the best
I am 31 and have been with my woman since 17; had two kids before 20. We are unmarried after 14 years and completely happy. This guy speaks my language. As a felon I've never had a good day in court!!😂😂
And there was a woman who agreed to have kids with a felon ? Good luck to her…
@@karo1922 A felon I am, but that's only a part of my past. Right now today, I just broke seven figures, own a business, a condo, a house with acreage, and two bmws. I legally own firearms. I coach youth basketball for my son's league because I played in college. I'd say luck is on her side seeing as we're only 31. I've had a great comeback. My entire family is proud of me. And I have lots more to do. How's your life going? Future looks bright for me! 😎
@@lucidethos not really convinced about her luck, let’s see in 10 years when you are around 40 ;)
@@karo1922 yeah I'm sure you're not a loser 😭
@@lucidethos uff, glad you are sure 👌
Why does this guy make so much sense! So sensible and logical and down to Earth!
Definitely, common sense advice.
This guy is awesome. Very well spoken. Great interview
Mate selection is incredibly difficult, and much like personal finance, we are rarely taught at a young(er) age HOW to vet potential husbands/wives. Personally, I got singularly lucky. My wife of 27 years is phenomenal. Honest to a fault, introspective, has been a great mother, and just overall a spectacular person to share my life with. And yet, both of my siblings are divorced, my parents are divorced. That's not really great odds in favor for the argument of marriage. The problem here, I suspect, is that it's the rare person that is good for marriage. That is so difficult to say and acknowledge if true because the payoff if the stars align, are basically everything good that a life has to offer simply because it's magnified.
I’m honestly questioning why people get married as well…it keeps you locked in something you may not want to be in. Took me a year and 2 months this last time to get divorced and I had to write a damn check and pay thousands in lawyer fees to someone who had gotten a PPO while we were married and a misdemeanor…abusive SOB and we were only together 16 months
No thank you…you can’t uncover crazy until you marry them and then it’s too late
Marriage doesn’t equal love - nor guarantee a good partner or respect of the partner…no thanks.
Never thought that I am going to get the best relationship advice from a divorce lawyer. Very thankful.❤❤
Whenever people ask if I am married, I always answer "oh no, I'm not that stupid.'
Wow! I did not expect to get sucked into this episode as much as I did. Incredible guest.
I've seen Sexton a few times but this interview was singularly excellent
100% agree!
My soul just aches knowing I'm married to a woman who will never love me back. It aches even harder as I begin to come to terms with the idea that I may never experience the love I want in this life. And I don't know what else to fill that void with. Nothing is more beautiful.
You won't be eligible to meet the right person as long as you're with the wrong person
@@MIJBMIJB Well said. Why stay with someone misaligned? Believe you deserve better!
@@smokingcrab2290 How familiar... I feel exactly the same for my husband 😔 I wish you the best 🩷
you get the life you deserve and choose.
In the end you choose this destiny noone else.
I have heard this man speak the truth for some time now. He validates what I’ve been thinking and how I’ve lived my life for 3 decades. Marriage is not a cookie cutter situation. It’s not a one size fits all and sometimes it doesn’t fit at all. Thank you Mr. Sexton. Please, keep on keeping on. 😊
I love how well versed he is. Bro opened up so many doors I thought I closed. Ty for this guest
I can listen to him all day!🤩
That's a great point. Getting married to fulfill a higher purpose (family, grandkids, etc.)
BACK TO CAMP
You goin to that Tech Window Camp brah?
Glad to see you watch James Sexton. You guys are one of the few I follow on youtube
I usually hear these during work and turn it off when I get clock out but daym I had to finish it at home
i felt it when he said the only thing I go to is comedy shows! been thinking the same thought for a few years now!
Been married twice...never ever again.
I’m a 62 year old woman and I’ve loved this video!! You guys are both so switched on. My husband drives me crazy and I know I drive him crazy too but no way are we needing a divorce lawyer ever!! I’m a Catholic by background and for all the criticisms you can make of the Catholic Church I love the self doubt it instilled 😊My husband is a Protestant 😂Ah well!
He totally makes sense when both people have a realistic sence of fairness, even though they grew apart or want to take different paths in life.
What he is saying is totally not true if you are dealing with a narcissist. The divorce stories I've wittnessed or observed through the years is tyoically the empath ( male or female) gets dragged through the mud by the narcissist the kids are used as pawns and vulnerability is weaponized. And yes there are attorneys that strategically milk the case
Marriage is a legal binding institution. Read between the lines before you sign with future spouce and/ or attorney
Gentlemen. Stay single ie learn the hard way. Don’t believe me? Talk to 5 married men, 5 divorced men, and 5 single men. Come to your own conclusion.
03:07:09 “I’ll let you know when it happens” 😅
I felt that.
It’s probably true for a lot of professions.
This is the longest interview I’ve seen of James and it’s probably the best so far.
As for me … after my ex wife and I had our first son die, we slowly just drifted apart. It wasn’t like we hated each other, but just grew apart. We were living as room mates, the destruction of emotions from Our son’s death couldn’t be mended. So we ended our marriage, I’m thankful for the time we had but it’s been better apart than together. Would I ever get married again, I don’t know? I don’t believe in “soul mates” - love languages are silly. Modern western women are completely nuts and they aren’t getting my resources….. so I guess I won’t get remarried.
Why do people say drift apart like they had no control? I’m so sorry your son died. I have a son and I don’t know how I’d cope. But why couldn’t you grieve together and find a new normal together. Did you blame each other or were you just a reminder of what you lost?
Until you meet me lol
The loss of a child is very traumatic to recover from.
imo, i would like you to get dr.ramani on here to talk about narcissism in todays society to shed some light on this issue and give it a mainstream platform
Yes, totally agree, was thinking the same as you
With the story about the air traffic controller, I see why some people go insane and commit murder/suicide. He lost his whole life and looked to his partner and she was walking out the door with a contract that confirmed his life would continue to get worse. Not saying he should do it, but I get it.
6:02 I do not dislike women, I realize their limitations and I love them within their constraints. I've owned dogs most of my life and I love dogs the same way. But make no mistake, a dog does not love you back. A dog is devoted, and devotion is good enough, but devotion is not love.
James Sexton is the truth, good chemistry with you two - earned a sub
you could be as big as Rogan one day man, you grown a lot Mark… keep it up you are on the break of something huge. Such enticing guests, no misses
No he can't. Not because he isn't as talented, but bc Joe does UFC stuff and that really helps to boost his global exposure. People watch the UFC all over the world.
What is UFC?
@@bluecollarlit crazy, 5 month call is looking good so far
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So informative objective and interesting! Thanks guys
1:18:28 Going at it! love this man when he is on fire and so passionate!
I've given everything to my wife and now we have a son. She is purposefully sandbagging the entire relationship because she's holding on to things I unknowingly did to make her mad post-pardum. Many, if not all, of these issues could have been solved with communication on her part. But she insists I must read her mind, and if I don't read her mind then that means I'm not paying attention to her and I don't love her. Every single time I've ever tried to voice my impossibility to mind read, or her hypocrisy, and all the things she's done to destroy my heart, she will not listen whatsoever. She just blames and stonewalls and plays the victim.
All women these days are like this. I've spoken to countless men who have all had the same experiences. Modern soceity and courts are laughably biased towards women. I am working on putting all of my money and business assets into LLC's and offshore trusts if needed. I fear this woman's stubbornness and narcissism is going to be the end of us. It's never going to get better. She showed me who she is and now I think I finally believe her.
Divorce her. Start living your life happily!
His version of Adam and Eve was absolutely fantastic and 100% factual 😂
I’ve never seen a “perfect” marriage. My parents were together over 40 years and I swear they bickered for over 35 years over the smallest things. I see my family and friends in the same thing, argue then kiss and make up. A never ending cycle until one of them hits their breaking point. Many are afraid to be alone so they put up with a lot because of that fear. This guy is spitting truth. Marriage is overrated.
I love this guy. I respect people that give you the real.
I never was blind to the amazing things my love with my wife first was. But she became blind to it and now we're probably done because she stopped caring
I like your format, James Sexton’s point of view on marriage is refreshing.
Amazing interview! 🎉
Atty Sexton is awesome! I would love to be around this guy is fun to listen to!!!
that didn't feel like 3 hours. and at the end, felt like James could have gone for another 3
I’m already waiting for the shorts, especially about the prenup
I was recommended this video. 9:19 I am here, and I am going to watch the whole thing. The conversation is engaging.
Im against marriage
I do wakeup every day thinking I don’t have a cold, not pain beautiful day and I go an enjoy it. Last December I fell and I hit with shoulder I couldn’t do anything. I couldn’t comb my hair or shower or dress myself. Little by little I recovered in six months. I appreciate everything I am grateful for everything. If my daughter doesn’t talk to me I pray to God to protect her and give her health and to me patience. We really don’t know how lucky we are.
Hope you are doing much better now :)
Mark it’s so weird how you can sit with a professional and legit have such an engaging conversation and ask the correct questions and be sooo prepared and be this intelligent man and on flagrant you can’t even work a laptop LMAO 😂I love you soo much and you’re great in this atmosphere and in flagrant .. ughhh much love and it’s been a pleasure watching you grow and yeah !! Sending love from the asshole army !!
Im 32 and i just dont believe in marriage from what ive seen alone. My older sister had w big expensive wedding but got divorced a year later. My older brother been married 5 years but 2 years in his wife cheated with w co worker and theyre working it out. My parents been married 30 years but its more of an obligation. They are miserable together. And from my personal experience i don't think people really can be monogamous especially with modern age of social media. I opened my ex's Instagram DM's one time and saw alot of men shooting their shot. That kind of temptation gets to most people especially attractive women.
So much of marriage for the young woman has absolutely nothing to do with the person she is marrying. Unfortunately things like looking her prettiest in her wedding dress or having a daddy/daughter dance are so central to a woman's being that actually finding the right partner is in many cases not prioritized. I know a girl for example who got married young simply because she wanted to get married before her dad passed away. Sad stuff (and I don't know how her marriage has turned out) but for many it is nothing short of inconceivable to not have one's father "give her daughter away" at the wedding.
Best podcast EVER!
Great episode!!
James Sexton is a very wise man. ❤❤❤❤❤
Pray for James regaining his faith
2:10 he forgot to mention the ones that end in cold blooded murder.
Sadly Numbers don’t lie😮😮
Wow 😱 This man is fascinating... And I've only said that two or three times in my life. Sir, you've made my day. I wonder what he would say about ex-wifes who refuse money from their ex-husbands. Just a question. Anyway, this interview is incredible.
I dont think a person can really understand the hate you can feel for an ex unless you've been accused (through the courts and their attorney) of being any number of untrue things with the sole purpose of reducing or eliminating your custody just for money.
I think that's when a person can really learn to hate especially when knowing you would never even consider doing the same because of how it would damage your children.
Bingo. People don’t understand how hard it is to be on good terms with someone who has manipulated you at every level.
Prenups are also lead gen for divorce lawyers, he forgot to mention that part😅
Better to spend $3000 on prenup than $300,000 on attorney fees😂😂😂
I enjoy James Sexton’s talks
When is Mark going to get an interview with Rogan? Andrew should be gettin his boy in there! He deserves the bump for having this awesome pod. I haven’t heard his standup but I’m sure he’s decent opening up for Andrew.
His stand up is just as great as you think it is. Mark is the man
It is crazy to me that after 4 days this doesn't have more views. Very sage advice, very clippable, accessible to both sexes. Hmm
This channel is a gold mine!
This guy has helped me make sense of all the shit marriages I have seen my parents in. Makes me revaluate if marriage is something that's really worth me doing. Seems like a mistake tbh.
Im in love with this episode
CAMP Gagnon coup de coeur 2024 ❤
Marry the right person; worth it 100%
I think before marriage, we first need to ask what is marriage to each other. Cause as it stands right now, some see the legal side, some see the duty side, some see the social side.
I would love to see him talk to Jordan Peterson that advocates for marriage due to psychological reasons. Wonder what would come out of their debate.
Divorce lawyer shading corporate lawyer🤣
Great content, I am one of those people that “won the lottery”. I can understand why so many people want what I’ve had over 46 years but it’s rare. That said if I live longer than my husband I will not remarry because I don’t think I will “win the lottery”twice. For the record I kissesd and slept with plenty of toads before we married.
this is an excellent episode
The farthest from gay. He sounds like a well educated, experienced man to me.
42:10 lol
@@NotDr.Evil137 ?
@@saw727 This is not so farthest from gay as you thought, just saying 😬
@@NotDr.Evil137 Don't hate Lol He seems like an educated man, that knows his shyt. Just saying. I love gay dudes anyhow so 🤷
@@saw727 Okae, what if YOUR man is in the closet? I've heard plenty of wives dunking on their rich husband 🤣
Adam to Eve, “Jesus, do you have to eat Everything?”
The advice about prenups at 45:30 is gold.
37 years old. No kids, been with the same man for 7 years. This video reassures me that he + I are correct in our decision to not put a legally binding contract between us. Marriage is not synonymous with commitment.
Wish I saw this about 5 year ago. Good info and a great convo tho!
its like the lottery if you were financially ruined for losing
And the jackpot was nothing tangible, just the vague concepts of companionship or happiness which only you can control.
Another great one
Love it. Good talk