Dating In Lagos | Menisms Ep. 1

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  • Опубліковано 9 лют 2022
  • Everybody has an opinion of what the Nigerian dating pool is like. But have you heard a Nigerian man tell you about his Lagos dating experience? WILD!
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 262

  • @Gracious240
    @Gracious240 2 роки тому +59

    Definitely hooked on this podcast 👏🏾👏🏾…please keep the content coming ❤️

  • @Melissa-td6ln
    @Melissa-td6ln 2 роки тому +88

    We, women, have decided to ban male podcasters... but definitely not y'all. This was a great episode. Keep them coming.

    • @madeauxafrica
      @madeauxafrica  2 роки тому +3

      You've got that right !

    • @lasgidibully
      @lasgidibully 2 роки тому +10

      y'all can't ban nobody...we men refuse to let that happen...bigups to the mandem for menisms podcast, mazzaleen!!!

    • @sk2busymusic
      @sk2busymusic 2 роки тому +2

      Lmao rough play 😂

    • @anotheruser7848
      @anotheruser7848 2 роки тому +6

      Nigerian men need a voice to defend themselves from all these everyday defamation 🙂 It's only right for our pride & integrity

  • @itunuoluwapelumiomotoso9057
    @itunuoluwapelumiomotoso9057 2 роки тому +47

    I love it! It's good to see Nigeria men talking maturely about relationships and situationships

  • @Hernameis994
    @Hernameis994 2 роки тому +12

    I miss being in a relationship but I meet someone and I crawl back into my shell. Thanks for this guys

  • @lasgidibully
    @lasgidibully 2 роки тому +14

    my homeboy went out on a blind date with a babe in a fancy restaurant in lagos last weekend and she ordered sea food platter, she doesn't even like seafood. fellas, beware of these women that want to experiment with their tastebuds at ur expense...shine ur eyes

    • @soniajohn
      @soniajohn 2 роки тому +3

      😂😂😂 sorry this isn’t funny but you got me with “she doesn’t even like sea food”🤣

  • @admob6156
    @admob6156 2 роки тому +10

    I love that part where Michael said, there's physical options but lack of options on other perspectives

    • @madeauxafrica
      @madeauxafrica  2 роки тому +1

      I love how detailed you were with paying close attention!

  • @oyindamolaige5433
    @oyindamolaige5433 2 роки тому +1

    This podcast is Fire! Big fan already n looking forward to more Episodes

  • @apolloattat16
    @apolloattat16 2 роки тому +1

    Now this? nah this was top shelf elite stuff. Keep it coming!!!!!

  • @Buttons99
    @Buttons99 2 роки тому +1

    I love this channel tho. So much wisdom, this is what a lot of young guys need. Glad I found this channel, keep up the good work☑

  • @Tee9156
    @Tee9156 2 роки тому +12

    This channel needs to blow. These guys get it. They get our frustrations out here. The ill- mannerism of some ladies out here is enough to make a man a sadist. But because some men have no class nor taste, the bad behaviour persists. It's an endless cycle and it's ruining a society that's otherwise known as 'cultured'.

  • @chinonsougwu7552
    @chinonsougwu7552 2 роки тому

    Great job guys. I luv ur content very insightful am binging on dis😍😍🥰

  • @3DSuccess
    @3DSuccess 2 роки тому +8

    It's so refreshing to hear these guys speak maturely as young men.. They spoke about what I call "rotational dating" and how most men are rotational dating all
    the time until exclusive. I think this is an awareness women are coming to understand. And also when you take sex out of the equation in the "dating" process, it really makes things easier.

    • @hazelgrey6463
      @hazelgrey6463 Рік тому

      I swear...I can't believe they are below 30.....

  • @osmansawaneh927
    @osmansawaneh927 2 роки тому +1

    Insane stereotypes but wonderful conversation, already subscribed, looking forward to more clever conversations!

  • @miwahxoxo
    @miwahxoxo 2 роки тому +2

    Such an amazing podcast... your views on stuffs are quite amazing 💯💯💜

  • @tobigloryy
    @tobigloryy 2 роки тому +16

    This is why I always say friendship first. Let's be friends without overthinking anything

    • @madeauxafrica
      @madeauxafrica  2 роки тому

      We totally agree 👍🏾

    • @Laura-sg6ss
      @Laura-sg6ss 2 роки тому

      THANK YOU !!! It's just the best way!

    • @alexandraagi9485
      @alexandraagi9485 2 роки тому +1

      I want someone to explain how you can go from a platonic relationship (Friends )to a romantic relationship(lovers). I really wanna know!!

    • @alexandraagi9485
      @alexandraagi9485 2 роки тому

      If I say you are my friend, I am not attracted to you in any way (sexually, emotionally, and physically). So I don't see how you can transition from friends to lovers.

    • @tobigloryy
      @tobigloryy 2 роки тому +6

      @@alexandraagi9485 Hey! when you’re just friends with a guy, you get to truly be yourself because you’re not overthinking basic things. For example- putting on makeup just for the sake of or overthinking what to wear( not to say these things are not important but in the context of friendship, you can truly be free with your movements). As the friendship grows organically, you get to see the persons likes/ dislikes/ values/ character etc because again you’re friends and no one is trying to “perform”. When/ if feelings develop and you both want the friendship to transition into a relationship, you can now address this from a more informed perspective because you’re operating from a place of clarity.

  • @tolulope3872
    @tolulope3872 2 роки тому

    Nice one guys and the messages was well pasted correctly and simple which is being in a matured way .. more guys 👍🏾👌🏾

  • @damolaakinleye101
    @damolaakinleye101 2 роки тому +1

    please don't stop this... I having been looking for a nigerian podcast for ages

  • @buddysoul2995
    @buddysoul2995 2 роки тому

    Great stuff guys.. 👏

  • @CapreDiem42
    @CapreDiem42 2 роки тому

    👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 yaaaassss they’re learning the more honest you are with self and the person you’re dealing with the possibilities are endless

  • @isay_whatilikepodcast
    @isay_whatilikepodcast 5 місяців тому

    This so amazing 🤩

  • @kelechiiheme5107
    @kelechiiheme5107 2 роки тому

    omo this is needed oh, ... heavy heavy

  • @CSLOUE
    @CSLOUE 2 роки тому +46

    11:37 Yes getting intimate way too quick takes away from properly getting acquainted past sexual intimacy. It can become the blind spot and in my opinion lead to a stagnant relationship.

  • @wendy7915
    @wendy7915 2 роки тому +1

    Enjoyed this conversation.

  • @zainabbalogun9684
    @zainabbalogun9684 2 роки тому

    I enjoyed this❤️

  • @florizel5009
    @florizel5009 2 роки тому

    really enjoyed this

  • @benirugoji2771
    @benirugoji2771 2 роки тому +5

    I was glued to the whole conversation lol . Wow . Definitely enjoyed this .

  • @jaiyesimiolaidehannah5162
    @jaiyesimiolaidehannah5162 2 роки тому +1

    Beautiful content 🔥👏👏..notification on 🥰

    • @madeauxafrica
      @madeauxafrica  2 роки тому

      You're doing the right thing Jay Jay 🥳🥳

  • @lateefatayodeji5391
    @lateefatayodeji5391 2 роки тому +12

    I had a good laugh watching this 😂😂. Michael's perspective and stories are top notch.

  • @oluwaferanmi4501
    @oluwaferanmi4501 2 роки тому +1

    I’m definitely hooked on this one. Thanks guys

  • @luciaquintas1586
    @luciaquintas1586 2 роки тому +6

    I like that they defining culture. Where you find yourself geographically is important especially in Africa.

    • @madeauxafrica
      @madeauxafrica  2 роки тому

      That's one angle to look at things 🤔

  • @judithwilly7258
    @judithwilly7258 2 роки тому

    I’m really enjoying this podcast

  • @QueenOfTheCoast
    @QueenOfTheCoast 2 роки тому +7

    Love how healthy and evolved your minds are.

  • @preciouswanjiku3667
    @preciouswanjiku3667 2 роки тому +25

    I am not nigerian but i must say this podcast is gonna go a long way to make all ladies understand a nigerian man's mind in a different and more understandable perspective...love it love it love it❤❤🥂keep the episodes coming.

    • @madeauxafrica
      @madeauxafrica  2 роки тому +1

      We couldn't have said it better ourselves!

    • @Tanyalapatrone
      @Tanyalapatrone 2 роки тому

      The truth in this statement ☝️

  • @heyitsjojoo
    @heyitsjojoo 2 роки тому +13

    What of guys who feel like a first date is "the girl coming over to the house ". Big RED FLAG for most of us...
    If you agree 👍🏾 say I

    • @madeauxafrica
      @madeauxafrica  2 роки тому +4

      Well, going to someone's house for a first date, is not a date at all dear.

    • @3bonyprincess
      @3bonyprincess 2 роки тому +1

      That one’s even insult😭😭

    • @fa9183
      @fa9183 Рік тому

      ​@@madeauxafrica can you say when is the best time to have sex in a relationship?

  • @gudbeatzent4665
    @gudbeatzent4665 2 роки тому

    Yes finally something for the men 👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿

  • @DerrickCNdu
    @DerrickCNdu 2 роки тому +9

    This channel go blow. Very matured conversations unlike the podcasts from the West. Having guests on might be great too.

  • @camaa_pearl
    @camaa_pearl 2 роки тому

    OMG! I needed this for my books' research

  • @dhamiiadegbenro
    @dhamiiadegbenro 2 роки тому

    It’s a good thing the hosts of this podcast are mature men👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

  • @contentcapture3965
    @contentcapture3965 Рік тому +1

    We like topics like these plsssss do more

  • @marthaakokhia3598
    @marthaakokhia3598 2 роки тому +16

    This was an expository podcast, but I must say I don’t feel the generalizations is fair.
    From the conversation you all been dating LEKKI ‘n’ VI babes.
    Lagos is a big places and there are still sensible babes out there.

    • @madeauxafrica
      @madeauxafrica  2 роки тому +1

      We agree. There are still many great women out there

    • @TMartins379
      @TMartins379 2 роки тому

      Forget that thing, olosho don take over lagos. No be this same lagos.

  • @chukaofulue4898
    @chukaofulue4898 2 роки тому +3

    Great production quality!

  • @mealstopnigeria3096
    @mealstopnigeria3096 2 роки тому

    Been here since noon.... extremely interesting!

  • @topluck1805
    @topluck1805 2 роки тому +1

    Like seriously, I gbadun(enjoy) this Tori(topic) I even have to gist with my friends abt it and am not gonna miss this show every Thursday

  • @ntambieessie5265
    @ntambieessie5265 2 роки тому

    I love Michael’s brain. He is very level headed.

  • @NavigatewithJane
    @NavigatewithJane 2 роки тому +11

    Loved this discussion, we need more men open enough to speak. Please do a mens mental health episode.

    • @madeauxafrica
      @madeauxafrica  2 роки тому

      One men's mental health episode coming soon Jane!💪🏾

  • @kymberlycourage
    @kymberlycourage 2 роки тому +2

    Michael’s voice is 🥰 lol I don’t have much to add besides that because I don’t live in Nigeria. Just here to listen.

  • @angelukoh5718
    @angelukoh5718 2 роки тому +20

    I’m really loving the conversation. I just wanted to correct something though, you said good sex is a pre-condition for you being faithful. Actually, sex isn’t always mind blowing and that’s not a bad thing. So maybe, you might have to reconsider your reasons for remaining faithful. Sex being great shouldn’t be a criteria for whether or not to be faithful to your mate. Just saying.
    Other than that, the episode was really nice. It’s high time guys open up and have real conversations. Kudos❤️

    • @patrickrumbu2902
      @patrickrumbu2902 2 роки тому +3

      I guess he meant sexual compatibility. Me for example, I hear men who cheat say a man is polygamous & I shut it down quickly.
      When I do meet a girl I like, I plan to be faithful..that's why I can't afford not finding the one

    • @madeauxafrica
      @madeauxafrica  2 роки тому

      Your point of view is respected 👏🏾

    • @nma_25
      @nma_25 2 роки тому +1

      Someone has already stated what he prefers. Sexual compatibility still remains high in most people's list.

    • @MartyByrdeIntern
      @MartyByrdeIntern 2 роки тому

      I feel like that applies more to females. If you can’t satisfy them they will secretly cheat

  • @loveakubo5805
    @loveakubo5805 2 роки тому

    Great content 👌🏾

    • @madeauxafrica
      @madeauxafrica  2 роки тому

      Thank you Jare! Real recognizes Real !

  • @TheTydike06
    @TheTydike06 2 роки тому

    I enjoyed this guy's....really enlightening

  • @amponsahameyawclifford3542
    @amponsahameyawclifford3542 2 роки тому +2

    Can't wait for the next episode. This is dope

    • @madeauxafrica
      @madeauxafrica  2 роки тому +1

      Next week is just right around the corner dear!

  • @CurlyLemongrass
    @CurlyLemongrass 9 місяців тому

    Nice perspective 😉👌🏼.

  • @master-ik9ro
    @master-ik9ro 2 роки тому +1

    There is lowkey hope that you can get there faster! word!

  • @akhigbejoy7424
    @akhigbejoy7424 2 роки тому

    Nice one guys. U just got a new subscriber

    • @madeauxafrica
      @madeauxafrica  2 роки тому

      Thank you !!! More amazing episodes to come

  • @yabawa_ai
    @yabawa_ai 2 роки тому

    I loveeeeeee this

  • @bomatelawson4133
    @bomatelawson4133 2 роки тому

    loved it

    • @madeauxafrica
      @madeauxafrica  2 роки тому

      This love reciprocated my dear 🥰🥰

  • @joygeorge6538
    @joygeorge6538 2 роки тому

    I enjoy watching this

  • @sarahfowler5988
    @sarahfowler5988 2 роки тому

    This is making sense to me 👍

  • @florenceatienoodongo5795
    @florenceatienoodongo5795 Рік тому +2

    I love your podcast it’s a recent discovery and I feel bad I have finished every episode in a week you guys are amazing when you start doing live show kindly consider coming to Kenya 😊

  • @admob6156
    @admob6156 2 роки тому

    Definitely inviting some girls to come watch thissss

  • @_denike
    @_denike 2 роки тому +1

    I’m a fan😭😭😭
    The guest is so beautiful.

  • @oluwatosinjustinaabe8379
    @oluwatosinjustinaabe8379 2 роки тому +3

    It's interesting to see men come out to speak about these things.

  • @toluakande6870
    @toluakande6870 Рік тому +1

    Dating could mean getting to know each other, could also be being exclusive with a particular person, it all boils down to the context in which it is used.

  • @favourofudje4514
    @favourofudje4514 2 роки тому +2

    Michael is doing a great job🤞🥰🥰

  • @renseyyy
    @renseyyy 2 роки тому +4

    I like how the other other guy emphasized all he sees around are “bills”

    • @madeauxafrica
      @madeauxafrica  2 роки тому +1

      😂😂 ofcourse you like that Rensey 😅 we do too !

  • @Sunshine-pv5zv
    @Sunshine-pv5zv Рік тому +1

    Vulnerability is a good thing… I commend you good sirs.

  • @nateeka9228
    @nateeka9228 2 роки тому +1

    Sonariwo, please allow the other gentleman,to finish his conversation. Good podcast.❤️

  • @jefferson3328
    @jefferson3328 2 роки тому

    all I can say is MENISMSSS!!!😫😫💪🏽💪🏽❤️❤️❤️please ride on brooosss I feel like saying I love you guys(no homo tho😂)

  • @omoregbeeowen2632
    @omoregbeeowen2632 2 роки тому

    Firee

  • @yuungsims
    @yuungsims 2 роки тому +2

    This is way too interesting

  • @chuksniky
    @chuksniky 2 роки тому

    🤣he said my current perspective. "Did you see that bill?"

  • @DmistVite
    @DmistVite 2 роки тому

    Nicee podcast... literally alot of men don't voice out

  • @oluwatimilehinakin1969
    @oluwatimilehinakin1969 2 роки тому

    learnt alot from this

    • @madeauxafrica
      @madeauxafrica  2 роки тому

      There's a lot more coming. Just you wait 🤑

  • @emekadavis2118
    @emekadavis2118 2 роки тому +1

    Nice, bro you see that part were she asked if you got the bills cover? Na bcos of Wetin yahoo boys don use their eye see🤣🤣🤣

  • @danieces.7262
    @danieces.7262 2 роки тому +2

    I'm an American woman who's newly acquainted with a Yoruba man ... listening to you guys is so funny, refreshing & very informative. I love it! Good work, guys.

  • @jaiyesimiolaidehannah5162
    @jaiyesimiolaidehannah5162 2 роки тому +1

    Exactly 🔥..don’t be leading people on

    • @madeauxafrica
      @madeauxafrica  2 роки тому

      Yesss. It's not right to lead people on😒 people sha !!

  • @Amazeballs
    @Amazeballs 2 роки тому

    Take care of yourselves Kings 🤴

  • @twelvebeatzthefinisher535
    @twelvebeatzthefinisher535 2 роки тому +4

    I don’t feel like both party don’t have sacrifice their dreams either dating or married. I feel it should be support. If you have to leave your dream. Then you are not meant for each other

  • @patrickemechebe9822
    @patrickemechebe9822 2 роки тому

    🔥🔥🔥

  • @sisi_mo
    @sisi_mo 2 роки тому +6

    Maybe in Lagos specifically, dating should be defined differently from relationships. So we not defining what's going on between us should be dating (casual), once there's a definition to what we're doing, that is we know we're boyfriend/girlfriend, then it's a relationship. Because I've been in more situationships because of lack of "definition." But never again sha, if you joke with me, I joke back, if you're serious, I'll get serious as well. Lol, no time.

    • @madeauxafrica
      @madeauxafrica  2 роки тому +1

      It's so nice to see you air your views! 💪🏾

  • @ayinawutanko791
    @ayinawutanko791 2 роки тому +1

    Dating in Lagos sounds stressful for these guys. HECTIC🤧

    • @uceclassic
      @uceclassic 2 роки тому

      It's stressful o, you can't imagine.

  • @angelukoh5718
    @angelukoh5718 2 роки тому

    Yup, I love the podcast. Really nice stuff

  • @lasgidibully
    @lasgidibully 2 роки тому +7

    dating in lagos is stressful...build urself kings, these women are not going anywhere...u will have them in surplus, just have money, girls don't care about love, just comfort and lifestyle...laloosh way

  • @jefferson3328
    @jefferson3328 2 роки тому

    Wait ooo how am I just watching this??!!!😂😫

  • @lasgidibully
    @lasgidibully 2 роки тому +6

    met one babe like that, ijgb babe oh...so we went out to eat...as "friends", bill came and I offered to pay then she said she will "pay for her own meal" because she is independent and she don't need no man controlling her or telling her what to do, I said ok no p...gave her the bill and then she saw what she ordered costs about 60k including tax, she now said I should pay because I'm a man, I told her that I believe firmly in the equal rights act where all men and women should and are treated as equals with equal responsibilities etc...safe to say I left and she was still there for a long while. CityBoiz are up for life.

  • @alexandriajereel7401
    @alexandriajereel7401 2 роки тому +3

    The kind of places you go will influence the kind of women you meet. The apple does not usually stray far from the tree. Interesting podcast! Dating is hard, but one thing people need to know... All that glitters is not gold.

  • @JaycelineBrand
    @JaycelineBrand 2 роки тому +4

    The dream sacrifice usually hurts more when it all ends. Cause after all that you still loose these people

  • @chonaamos6389
    @chonaamos6389 2 роки тому

    Interesting

  • @tiktoksshortvideoswithaolu84
    @tiktoksshortvideoswithaolu84 2 роки тому

    I will really like to join u on ur podcast.

  • @nikkydiamond3024
    @nikkydiamond3024 Рік тому

    Walahi Lagos guys dey see shege too from lagos girl o😂😂😂survival of the fittest

  • @Laura-sg6ss
    @Laura-sg6ss 2 роки тому +3

    Ah ah😭😭 a male podcast.. berra just...😭💀
    1:12 oya oya okay okay we shall see 🤣
    Yeah I wanna see the vulnerable tings, I was watching a video and a man was talking about being sexually abused and I think it is IMPORTANT to speak on it!

  • @bolubamiro5610
    @bolubamiro5610 2 роки тому

    Y'all should try and get Daniel Akpata cos he's good in these topics

  • @oyiin
    @oyiin 2 роки тому +3

    The honesty part is what most guyss get wrong
    Please be straightforward!

    • @madeauxafrica
      @madeauxafrica  2 роки тому

      Yes. Everyone should be straightforward. It makes things easier

  • @Alex-dt3nx
    @Alex-dt3nx 2 роки тому

    Dude in glasses sound like Burna 😊

  • @ifeolunu
    @ifeolunu 2 роки тому +2

    Lol. I don’t have a sugar daddy ooo 😂 I love that you men have standards!!!

  • @lucianlackman8103
    @lucianlackman8103 Рік тому

    While this is a very true about women. Many things they talked about men are also guilty of.
    Everyone has been damaged from their past, it’s just difficult to find people that are both willing to agree to commit without overthinking until there is a reason. But why this is tricky is because nobody knows truly the intentions of another person. The dating scene is crazy everywhere not just lagos.

  • @ayomidebunmi5430
    @ayomidebunmi5430 2 роки тому +3

    Keyword in “LAGOS” 🤣🤣🤣

  • @topluck1805
    @topluck1805 2 роки тому

    Still can't stop to imagine of that 100k bill🙆
    And that miss late comer also, so bad, those are the ladies that like men saying we ladies are the same
    Point of correction guys we ladies are not the same o, and I also believe that the guys are not d same too

  • @AdahGlamour
    @AdahGlamour 2 роки тому

    please share the picnic location

    • @madeauxafrica
      @madeauxafrica  2 роки тому

      We will ask Michael to drop the pin 📌

  • @jaiyesimiolaidehannah5162
    @jaiyesimiolaidehannah5162 2 роки тому

    We have to wait a whole weeek??!!😭😭😭🥺😩

  • @praiseboluwarindare8874
    @praiseboluwarindare8874 Рік тому

    Date friends👍🏾