Living with your parents is a cost related thing. Especially when you are still in education, i.e. as student, living in an own apartment/flat comes with its own costs which you need to finance first. It also depends on the home. I have a friend who's parents own a big house and as he is his parents only child he will inherit the house at one point. The house is large enough for his parents and can easily fit him and his girlfriend as well without having to step on each others toes. I also know a lot of people who don't want to take a credit to finance an own home as this usually puts you into the burden of not only paying back that loan over time but also pay additional interests. I've seen families go into bankruptcy because of credits they at one point couldn't pay back further as they lost their jobs and so forth. In regards to cooking. I know how to cook but usually I don't like it that much as it requires some time to prepare, shop and what not. Time that I can usually spend on other things that are more important to me at the moment. Cooking nowadays is more of a life-style thing. For me personally a slice of bread, some meat and some veggies are enough for dinner but I know lots of people who celebrate their cooking time. To everyone their own. Yes, there are subsidized flats usually owned either in cities hands or in a so called Genossenscahft (collective) which must not do building projects for profit purposes, but, even as Austrian you may have to wait for years to get an offer. You may decline the first offer but as soon as you decline the second offer you're done. No more "Gemeindewohnung" for you then. People are usually queued based on a scoring-system. If you have 2 kids, no men i.e. you get queued before a male as the urgency to provide a home for the kids is higher compared to a man. Good friends of mine enlisted their son at the age of 16 for a Gemeindewohnung. Now at the age of 25 he still hasn't received any offer from the Gemeinde Wien and he's currently checking his options as he want to move out but as he's still a student (not finished his studies yet) his parents agreed to add the missing amount to his rent unless it is super expensive. The Arbeitsmarktservice (AMS; labor mediation service) is also something that I would only use as the last fallback in terms of finding a job. I only had to interact with them twice so far as I asked for "Bildungskarenz" (education leave) and the last time when I finished my studies and had to wait for 2 months till I could start at my new job. They were always unfriendly and unsupportive and literally demanded to take part in an English beginner course for those two month so that I don't appear in any job-less statistics. The people who were put with me in that course mostly tried to just sit off their time until they can retire completely. Only one or two really took this course to actually learn English and even the teacher was an Indian even I had at times difficulties to understand. During my education leave I had to come by every like 2 month and show the results of my lectures, which I had way more ECTS than I actually needed and at one point my adviser asked me where all of my job applications are that I had to write. There was never a hint that I had to apply for jobs during an education leave. That also bypasses any logic for that system. Rest assured that any jobs you find through AMS will only pay minimum wage as there the companies know that the people desperately need that job and can therefore go down with their payments. I'd say if you look for a job rather use kariere(dot)at or depending on your qualification some hangouts in universities or technical platforms. No, we don't call our parents with our first names. Never heard anything like that. Not sure though if foster homes here might be different though. I still call my mom "Mama" or "Mutti". We usually call close friends by our first name only or if we want to mock someone, like talking about a teacher in his absence. Even close relatives usually get a synonym instead of their real first name, like i.e. "Mitzi-Tante", "Onkel Rudi" or something like that. If you have to file an official document and own a particular academic title you need to add that as this becomes officially part of your name. Of course, if you try to brag with your title at university level everybody will just laugh at you. It is important to know that there are various levels of titles. Academic titles like doctor (Dr.), Magister/Migistra (Mag.) Diplom-Ingenieur (Dipl.Ing.) and Bachelor (Bacc) where except for the last one all need to be prepended and thus become part of the name. Bacc is an exception to this and does not really need to be added but if so it needs to follow your name not prepend it, i.e. Max Mustermann, Bacc.. Then there are a lot of job-titles like Professor, Oberstudienrat, Ingenieur, Kaufmann, Kommerzialrat which are applied based on your profession and experience and a certain payment. These titles are not officially part of your name though even though they are prepended. I'd say usually we Austrians are quite reserved. We value our privacy and getting to know us more usually requires some language skills. Especially older generations might not be able to speak English well enough or at all, i.e. my parents don't, which would make it way harder for me to bring home friends that don't speak German well enough. Some might also have the ressentiment that black people in Austria are either refugees or drug dealers for the most part, which is not true, but a certain political party explicitly plays with that fear and picture. In the words of "Avenue Q" - "Everyone's a little bit racist". There will always be people around who blame others for their misfortune or bad luck, about their downhill situation and what not. Partly also political agendas motivate such idiocrasy, i.e. when they claim that black people are mostly drug dealing criminals that came here to rob "our" people. Sadly, fear is and was always a good mean to unite people against "the others". These people often lack the understanding and also the willingness to educate themselves as such probably not even telling them on the situation in Kenia or other parts of the world may really change their picture. They just see their sad life and blame their situation onto others instead of self-reflecting what they could have done better in the past and what they could do to change it. For such racial comments I'd simply say ignore them or go to the police and report such idiots. I think treating people by their actions is way more important than by their religion, skin color or origin. And I have to admit, your hair does look very interesting as it is so different from what we can see everyday on the streets :) People asking you about your hair are therefore just curious.
i see you still have a lot to learn about our culture in austria. the thing with men not paying for both at dates is about equal rights. it's about not treating a women like a commodity. you say "if you're really interested in me, just pay on the first date". but if that's valid for you it should also be valid for him to think "if she's really interested in me, she should just pay on the first date". equal rights. the same things that gets you sharing houshold duties between men and women. of course there are also those men who will pay every time for women, but they'll also usually not be fond of equal rights, not for women and not for people from abroad, especially if they have darker skin. for some people living with their parents, it is mostly a cost thing. why should they pay more than half their monthly salary for a small apartment when they can live way more comfortably in their parents' house and not pay anything. it'd be financially insane. also multi-storey houes with each storey for a different part of the family i pretty unusual. most people don't own a house. then for the people looking at you, yeah most of them are probably curious, maybe admire your hair (which is quite spectacular! i'm envious), or might just be looking because you're not average, they're just looking because it would be intrusive or borderline rude to just talk to you. at least in the cities you don't just talk to random people on the streets if you don't have a reason to. those that do typically just collect funds for a shady animal charity or something similar. for "going crazy" and shouting and especially pouring water over another person (even if he deserved it), that's ouside of what's normally socially accepted (the water thing could even potentially get you into legal trouble). you'd normally just ignore what they've said, never look at that person again, treat him like he didn't exist (and then complain about what happened to your colleagues), or or you could return with a witty, mildly insulting comment in calm voice. if he then just stares at you and doesn't have a witty comeback, you've won. (a similar sort of game of exchanging witty comments is also sort of essential if you want to get through the bureaucracy in vienna in an efficient way ;-) ). or if you have to deal with the person professionally, you can apply all the rules strictly instead of bending the rules slightly to make everyone happy as is usually the case. as i have to deal with customers all the time in my job i make use of the latter liberally when dealing with rude idiots. then calling the racist a cripple is also a big no-go*. you're lowering yourself down to his level and might lose the respect of others that might be watching. they would see a verbal fight between two aggressive people and not the idiot racist insulting the nice woman. *remember equal rights, that's supposed to be for everyone, no matter of man/women/inter/trans, black/white, hetero/gay/lesbian/bi/whatever, able-bodied/impaired-in-some-way, atheist/christian/buddhist/muslim/whatever if you don't treat people as equals, you cannot be expected to be treated as equal either. calling him a cripple make you no better than him. colleagues making comments on your new hairstyle is polite. if a colleague of mine has a new hairstyle and i don't make a positive comment (no matter how it looks), she will most likely be a little angry at me for not noticing.
I dont like the last part of your comment, but its right that we dont call our parents by the first name. That has to be a special group that does so. Or the mom is a stepmom.
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Living with your parents is a cost related thing. Especially when you are still in education, i.e. as student, living in an own apartment/flat comes with its own costs which you need to finance first. It also depends on the home. I have a friend who's parents own a big house and as he is his parents only child he will inherit the house at one point. The house is large enough for his parents and can easily fit him and his girlfriend as well without having to step on each others toes. I also know a lot of people who don't want to take a credit to finance an own home as this usually puts you into the burden of not only paying back that loan over time but also pay additional interests. I've seen families go into bankruptcy because of credits they at one point couldn't pay back further as they lost their jobs and so forth. In regards to cooking. I know how to cook but usually I don't like it that much as it requires some time to prepare, shop and what not. Time that I can usually spend on other things that are more important to me at the moment. Cooking nowadays is more of a life-style thing. For me personally a slice of bread, some meat and some veggies are enough for dinner but I know lots of people who celebrate their cooking time. To everyone their own.
Yes, there are subsidized flats usually owned either in cities hands or in a so called Genossenscahft (collective) which must not do building projects for profit purposes, but, even as Austrian you may have to wait for years to get an offer. You may decline the first offer but as soon as you decline the second offer you're done. No more "Gemeindewohnung" for you then. People are usually queued based on a scoring-system. If you have 2 kids, no men i.e. you get queued before a male as the urgency to provide a home for the kids is higher compared to a man. Good friends of mine enlisted their son at the age of 16 for a Gemeindewohnung. Now at the age of 25 he still hasn't received any offer from the Gemeinde Wien and he's currently checking his options as he want to move out but as he's still a student (not finished his studies yet) his parents agreed to add the missing amount to his rent unless it is super expensive.
The Arbeitsmarktservice (AMS; labor mediation service) is also something that I would only use as the last fallback in terms of finding a job. I only had to interact with them twice so far as I asked for "Bildungskarenz" (education leave) and the last time when I finished my studies and had to wait for 2 months till I could start at my new job. They were always unfriendly and unsupportive and literally demanded to take part in an English beginner course for those two month so that I don't appear in any job-less statistics. The people who were put with me in that course mostly tried to just sit off their time until they can retire completely. Only one or two really took this course to actually learn English and even the teacher was an Indian even I had at times difficulties to understand. During my education leave I had to come by every like 2 month and show the results of my lectures, which I had way more ECTS than I actually needed and at one point my adviser asked me where all of my job applications are that I had to write. There was never a hint that I had to apply for jobs during an education leave. That also bypasses any logic for that system. Rest assured that any jobs you find through AMS will only pay minimum wage as there the companies know that the people desperately need that job and can therefore go down with their payments. I'd say if you look for a job rather use kariere(dot)at or depending on your qualification some hangouts in universities or technical platforms.
No, we don't call our parents with our first names. Never heard anything like that. Not sure though if foster homes here might be different though. I still call my mom "Mama" or "Mutti". We usually call close friends by our first name only or if we want to mock someone, like talking about a teacher in his absence. Even close relatives usually get a synonym instead of their real first name, like i.e. "Mitzi-Tante", "Onkel Rudi" or something like that.
If you have to file an official document and own a particular academic title you need to add that as this becomes officially part of your name. Of course, if you try to brag with your title at university level everybody will just laugh at you. It is important to know that there are various levels of titles. Academic titles like doctor (Dr.), Magister/Migistra (Mag.) Diplom-Ingenieur (Dipl.Ing.) and Bachelor (Bacc) where except for the last one all need to be prepended and thus become part of the name. Bacc is an exception to this and does not really need to be added but if so it needs to follow your name not prepend it, i.e. Max Mustermann, Bacc.. Then there are a lot of job-titles like Professor, Oberstudienrat, Ingenieur, Kaufmann, Kommerzialrat which are applied based on your profession and experience and a certain payment. These titles are not officially part of your name though even though they are prepended.
I'd say usually we Austrians are quite reserved. We value our privacy and getting to know us more usually requires some language skills. Especially older generations might not be able to speak English well enough or at all, i.e. my parents don't, which would make it way harder for me to bring home friends that don't speak German well enough. Some might also have the ressentiment that black people in Austria are either refugees or drug dealers for the most part, which is not true, but a certain political party explicitly plays with that fear and picture.
In the words of "Avenue Q" - "Everyone's a little bit racist". There will always be people around who blame others for their misfortune or bad luck, about their downhill situation and what not. Partly also political agendas motivate such idiocrasy, i.e. when they claim that black people are mostly drug dealing criminals that came here to rob "our" people. Sadly, fear is and was always a good mean to unite people against "the others". These people often lack the understanding and also the willingness to educate themselves as such probably not even telling them on the situation in Kenia or other parts of the world may really change their picture. They just see their sad life and blame their situation onto others instead of self-reflecting what they could have done better in the past and what they could do to change it. For such racial comments I'd simply say ignore them or go to the police and report such idiots. I think treating people by their actions is way more important than by their religion, skin color or origin.
And I have to admit, your hair does look very interesting as it is so different from what we can see everyday on the streets :) People asking you about your hair are therefore just curious.
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Hahahahaaa...I like the part you poured water on that guy
Lol, I swear if he didn't apologised, I'd have done it over and over again😂
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Iam proud of us the ladies we don't give up in showing them that we can't pay.
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i see you still have a lot to learn about our culture in austria.
the thing with men not paying for both at dates is about equal rights. it's about not treating a women like a commodity. you say "if you're really interested in me, just pay on the first date". but if that's valid for you it should also be valid for him to think "if she's really interested in me, she should just pay on the first date". equal rights. the same things that gets you sharing houshold duties between men and women. of course there are also those men who will pay every time for women, but they'll also usually not be fond of equal rights, not for women and not for people from abroad, especially if they have darker skin.
for some people living with their parents, it is mostly a cost thing. why should they pay more than half their monthly salary for a small apartment when they can live way more comfortably in their parents' house and not pay anything. it'd be financially insane. also multi-storey houes with each storey for a different part of the family i pretty unusual. most people don't own a house.
then for the people looking at you, yeah most of them are probably curious, maybe admire your hair (which is quite spectacular! i'm envious), or might just be looking because you're not average, they're just looking because it would be intrusive or borderline rude to just talk to you. at least in the cities you don't just talk to random people on the streets if you don't have a reason to. those that do typically just collect funds for a shady animal charity or something similar.
for "going crazy" and shouting and especially pouring water over another person (even if he deserved it), that's ouside of what's normally socially accepted (the water thing could even potentially get you into legal trouble). you'd normally just ignore what they've said, never look at that person again, treat him like he didn't exist (and then complain about what happened to your colleagues), or or you could return with a witty, mildly insulting comment in calm voice. if he then just stares at you and doesn't have a witty comeback, you've won. (a similar sort of game of exchanging witty comments is also sort of essential if you want to get through the bureaucracy in vienna in an efficient way ;-) ). or if you have to deal with the person professionally, you can apply all the rules strictly instead of bending the rules slightly to make everyone happy as is usually the case. as i have to deal with customers all the time in my job i make use of the latter liberally when dealing with rude idiots.
then calling the racist a cripple is also a big no-go*. you're lowering yourself down to his level and might lose the respect of others that might be watching. they would see a verbal fight between two aggressive people and not the idiot racist insulting the nice woman.
*remember equal rights, that's supposed to be for everyone, no matter of man/women/inter/trans, black/white, hetero/gay/lesbian/bi/whatever, able-bodied/impaired-in-some-way, atheist/christian/buddhist/muslim/whatever
if you don't treat people as equals, you cannot be expected to be treated as equal either. calling him a cripple make you no better than him.
colleagues making comments on your new hairstyle is polite. if a colleague of mine has a new hairstyle and i don't make a positive comment (no matter how it looks), she will most likely be a little angry at me for not noticing.
30 plus should be staying in their own houses
Lol I know. Some men just like staying with their mommas even when they shouldn't
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Noone is calling their mother by the first name here. We all say Mama or Mami . You say you live here for a decade and thats what you think? haha
No 2 people have the same experience. Who offended you?
I dont like the last part of your comment, but its right that we dont call our parents by the first name. That has to be a special group that does so. Or the mom is a stepmom.