Awkward! How to Deal When You See Your Ex
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- Опубліковано 16 лип 2015
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You broke up with your ex. It didn't end well. What do you do or say when you run into him? The trick is prepping beforehand so you are "emotionally fit" when you see him again. Do this and you'll not only tackle the awkwardness head-on, but you'll also feel pretty fabulous about yourself. I show you how in this week's LOVELife...
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I saw my ex together with his new girlfriend at the mall, he approached me first like nothing happens to us. It seems that he moved on so quicky while I was struggling to move on. I was really hurt, I didn't response to him but ran out crying. That was the saddest part of my life.
A New Love Official *massive hugs*
Just breath in and time heals all wounds. Please watch brad Browing move on . It helped me out alot.
A New Love Official at least I’m not the only one who feels this way. If I’m struggling to move on, and he’s notcoming I will be so hard. The feeling has to be equal. Mutual in order for this break up to be a little easier. If it’s not, it’s like Hills inside. It’s very much kills. We both have to be not over each other. Like we both have to know that, it’s not gonna work, but at least the feelings are equal in mutual. If I saw my ex come out with another girl, in front of my face, or since I am blind I can’t see, if I was walking with someone, let’s say my mother or her friend, and they described to me that he’s with another girl, and he’s kissing her, my heart will drop to the bottom of my feet. I don’t think I’ll be able to cope.
A New Love Official I’m sorry
Lol
This guy knows me better than I know myself
CrystalBallon Right! 😂😂😂😂
Dating guy has a different opinion check him out on UA-cam. This guy is a snake oil salesman
Women never understand themselves so that's not hard to do😏
@@petermachiela5441 But you still watch him tho🤨
Lol I saw my ex the other day and I was debating whether to say hi and when he got close to me he just started walking real fast and passed me. I just want to thank him here for saving me from my internal dilemma
Damnnnn...did u ever see him again?
Same thing happened to me today gurl
I saw him at the bus stop and he jus stared at me-
@@supernova2897 I did. Almost every weekend after that but felt nothing
I find that all you need is God. As long as you seek Him, He alone can get you through, even when its difficult, heartbreaking, agony, etc. Every day I still miss the ex I dumped and that I'm a fool for not going back to him, but then, by admitting that, it feels cathartic and I don't have to go back. I move on without the ex.
Thanks Matthew.I used these tips yesterday and they really helped. Could've got triggered at one point, but just let it go as I'd sat on the train to the venue and wrote out my gratitude list, what gives my life meaning, and what I'm excited about. It really helped to calm the disquieted mind...
Cheers, Jo.
Matthew you are so gifted. You're insights come from a place of both intelligence and empathy. You are a true healer. Thank you for sharing this gift
Thank you so much! I really needed this.
I didn't know the part when you said "own it", and "it's a little difficult being here together". It's incredible, I have to admit how painful it is still the breakup for me, even when she moved on like immediately. :/
Definately needed to hear this. I secretly wish to never and to always see my ex and his new gf. Especially since he cheated on me with her. But all I know is that both scenarios won't mend my broken heart and how used and hurt he made me feel
caitlin herzog going through this right now . It really sucks. Broken heart is one of the worst mental pain I have been through
@@prettygirl_me4699 Going through this right now. I wish I can pass this because it really hurts. She cheated on me during the last month of our relationship and then she came to me breaking up with me claiming that it is the relationship and we don't have future at all. I am in so much pain man, and even though she is a cheater but I miss her. Today, I was picking clothes from my closet and she kept one of her jackets there. It was the first time I see this jacket. I felt so much pain and I still do. damn man
Need to be emotionally fit before you see him.
Make a list of all of the things in your life that are meaningful to you that have nothing to do with him.
It could be a list about the things you’re grateful for, a hobby you’re enjoying, your goals you’re excited about,etc.
Remind yourself about how much you have in your life that have nothing to do with this person.
Proximity to them can make emotional pain deeper/ blown out of proportion.
If you don’t know what gives your life meaning then when you see him your brain will trick you and at that’s the thing which gives your life meaning.
You need to know you’re armed with all of the great things in your life to begin with.
Don’t try to play that you’re all cool and that you don’t care and that you are fine. Just be authentic when you get there. If it’s a little awkward and weird it is what it is. If you’re near him it’s okay to say that ‘it’s awkward to be here like this’.
When you admit to this and you on it, you give this feeling less power.
Perfect timing!! Great advice!! You've saved me so many times and for that I am indebted to you. I'm very lucky to have found you. Thanks Matt!!
Loved the question and answer. Matthew always seems to pick up on things that quite often I cannot explain for myself as clearly as I'd like.
Such a wise man with awesome understated fashion sense! Thanks UA-cam for suggesting him to me.
Now I understand why I'm in so much pain every day when I have to go to classes and see all of my old friends that dropped me for no good reason. I'm in pain every day and I don't know how to stop it from hurting. It's not like I can just drop these classes because I want to succeed in my life, but having to see them every day hurts so much. This semester is over in 2 weeks and I can't wait to have a month off from seeing them. I hope during that time I can heal and it will hurt less come September.
Victoria Milazzo Chin up and know that this difficult you're feeling, and these horrid people ... will one day be behind you. You will succeed and do your very best.
I wrap my pain, in an bag of gift paper. After wrapping a box of it up, I then put a pretty ribbon around it and a bow on top.
I treat myself to still smiling and being my best self, my better self. Even though I'm hurting and want to know why they dumped me, why the don't like me ....? Eventually it doesn't really matter anymore, because the reasons and bullshit are owned by them.
I own being separate from them. I hope this helps in some way.
When others disown you, let them walk away, let them leave. You are you, and there's nothing really we can do to change others.
Just keep being your happy better self. Study, study, study, ..... good things will come your way again. mwah
Victoria Milazzo two years later... how are you doing now? :)
YOOO!! I HAD THE EXACT SAME THING! I WAS IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH THIS PRINCES (she gets everything that she wants and doesn't take no for the awnser) but it caused soo many awkwardness to her friends towards me.
Either way! You are a magnificent person! I'm sure you can go over this!
What happened after?
Victoria Milazzo hello. I feel your pain. I go to school. And I see my ex. He just became my ex because we broke up over comer taking a break. It wasn’t really even supposed to be a break up. But he jumped the gun. How he jump the gun is my texting my mom the reason why he needs a break. My mom most certainly didn’t approve it. Because in her mind. The break is a break up. When all he wanted was to take a break because he needed help to focus on himself. A mutual friend of ours, and older woman, she told them, you need to focus on you. So he needed to focus on him. And it’s not a jealous female friend with an older woman. Her grandmother. And because of all this, they broke up. It would’ve been easier to break up, if he was in a whole different location. The big problem is we live in the same city. Carson. We live in the same city. We go to the same school. Even difficult part is, I can’t just avoid him. He has to help me. Aside from him just being my friendcome up my ex-boyfriend he’s my tutor. He’s the one that teaches me computers. We are both blind. Visually handicapped. And he’s the one teaching me computer skills and helping me with my classwork. He hast to walk me from class to class not just because of an offer of kindness, but he hast to walk other children with disabilities I mean, other people with this abilities sorry, we’re not children were in college. So that is very difficult. It’s like, how could I even put on a professional basis, a student face without even putting a face that makes me revisit our feelings. Even with him. Because, in the library will talk about study things. And then a lot of times he’ll walk me outside of the library. Talking about personal things. I just don’t know how to avoid it. Or trying to be cool with it. I think he’s pretending to try to be cool with it, but I definitely can’t pretend. The pain is so great
"we're leaving in a couple of hours"
*MATTHEW'S FACE*
...hilarious
Exactly
so cute he is,that reaction
Yeah, talk about really no time to mentally prepare.
He said"good".. between surprised and confused..😂😂😂😂😂
I dont recall making that call
Personally, I gently acknowledge & move on. I recently saw an ex at a local park, he passed me a few times on his bike. We looked at each other for a split second, I gave a slight smile, & kept playing with my friends dog. No reason to be weird, but I also didn’t want to give him the wrong impression since I ended things last year.
Not sure I agree here. If you feed the negative, it grows. I'd smile, say hello, how are you, and keep walking. No need to focus on that negative "awkwardness." Show this person you are strong and the hurt was short lived, as in one night. 1-and-done. Stick to having positive energy not only in front of them, but all day long. Fake happy feelings until you have them. Leave that person wondering if they ever had an impact on you, because the truth is, in a few months, it will feel like they never did.
That's what I will do
Hmmm it's not feeding the negative, it's admitting you're hurt and now it's awkward so you can move on. But everyone has different ways of dealing with trauma
Not a fan of faking. That shit can tear you up.
@@Javr175 me too, I'd just present things how they are
look who's all happy and flirty almost as if you had a few shots before the program; )
When i dumped my ex it ended very badly. No details but lets just say he made me leave my "second home" cause he hung there too. But i still go visit there whenever we have an event. I ran into him for the first time in months and i can tell you, that emotional ready is very important. I was ready but he wasn't. So while i enjoyed my time there and was respectful of him he ran and purposefully bothered me to try and make me uncomfortable. Be yourself and remember why you are there, whether you know ahead of time or just a run-in at the supermarket. You guys broke up for a reason, move on from the break up but don't forget why you did. It can work the same way with past friendships.
Went straight here (and not the first time I've watched this one) after a former boyfriend spotted me walking in the middle of a huge city while I was there crashing for a few days!! Man Matthew thank you!
Good advice and really can talk through experience people are far better off owning up to the fact that being in the same room with a former partner is awkward. People who say it is not awkward and concerned on the behavior of the other person is lying.
GREAT advice Matthew! Thank you for sharing this video!
Thank you so much!🙏 And I really appreciate the fact that you empower women so selflessly. Y you're superb! 👍 GOD BLESS YOU ALWAYS!😊
Great advice, Matt! I will see my ex in a few days. I feel that I am emotionally ready to see him. I understand there are two ways that this can end: 1) He will want to date me again or 2) I will finally get the closure I need to truly move on (this break up happened about a month ago where there wasn't much of a definite ending). If I do choose to date him again, I promised myself to take things slowly...I do like him, but I am unsure about having a relationship with him. So, I just promised myself to have coffee with him if things work out for us...but if it doesn't end in coffee...I will be just fine. I will focus on my life without him and just breathe. Rejection is God's protection and I will stay strong and confident. By the way, Matt, I feel that most guys and even women, don't know how to be in the relationship they want to be in...good thing is that I am more focused on what I want and good things will happen in my life.
Hey, i know this all happened to you 2 month ago but I'm still very interested in how it has turned out. I think, I'm in the same situation now...
would be so great if you'd answer me
The meeting went well..but he told me that he isn't ready for a relationship. Eventually, everything ended between us because I wouldn't be a friends-with-benefits kind of gal that he wanted while he is still figuring out his life. I packed up my bags (figuratively speaking) and moved on. Holding on to him, even a little, made me extremely depressed, so I had to let him go of him completely. I deserve so much more. He even gave me the dreaded line, "It's not you, it's me..." What a loser! I am better than this!
if you reallyy want heeeer back (and I know уou do) you needto stop eveerything aand go watch this video right now =>>> twitter.com/380ae3e0665a7c714/status/790853501416935424 Awkward How to Deal When You Seee Your Ex
Julie Rose Cook thank you so much for your answer! I am really proud of you, and you are absolutely right; you deserve so much more, so much better.
I'm about to go through this too I think. I haven't talked to my boyfriend in 4 days and I will probably see him at his brother's champagne party in 2 weeks. My birthday is also before the party. 😪😪😪 idk what's going to happen
Bam. As usual, you nailed it Matthew. Way to rock it.
Inspiring and motivating as always!!!! :
Seeing Matthew mends my broken heart
loved the question
Every word is gold. Thank you Matthew.
I dont get upsad , I uaslly just wait to see what he say , if he act like nothing happened, I say what a time we had together😉then I walk away.. I don't value the person don't care or value you back , past is past! Got too much guys outhere, will have better one out there for u !!!
I would keep short and simple. I would say hi, good to see you, enjoy your time here and walk on.
You're a good man, thank you.
Thanks Matt. I'm smiling here ☺️😊.
Great advice, wishing I heard this two days ago- my experience was full of regret and confusion, wishing I could have a do over. #AllBad
Aww that cute laugh at 5:01 🙈❤️
First comment :) Matthew you are amazing! I love your videos :) x
love when I come across videos I haven't seen
I once saw an ex at a grocery store in a town that I am not in very often. I purposely tried to avoid him by grabbing 1 item, checking out as fast as I could and he purposely went out of his way to say my name... on my way out I waved with my shiny ring in the air; no way he missed that. I didn't say a word and left as fast as humanly possible.
I soO..needed this today..my gosh x-( thank you
Thank you very much sir this was extremely helpful
Thanks for that Mathew! I'm a weld inspector and have to inspect the welders work. One of them just happens to be a welder that shared something with me. It's been awkward and I haven't known what to say. I think I'll just joke about it.
Great advice!
best advice ever
Easier said then dun, but shed feelings for someone that doesn't want u. Why miss a person that doesn't love u?
such great advice!
I don't acknowledge. I just continue on with what I'm doing.
Excellent advice
IS MATTHEW HUSSEY not impressive? :) Is this guy a serious specimen of a man? Keep Calm And Talk About It. 'Be Prepared'... Simply Infiltrating Thought.
You are amazing 😊
It's so good advice
I’m going to a retreat today as well and I’m going to see my ex thank you for the advice
I always wonder why Matthew Hussey so openly flirts with the callers! :)
"Preparation starts before you see him..." Que..me here preparing for that day
That was such an adorable laugh
Best video ever!!!
well you know what sucks? I'm working with my ex and he's sitting right in front of me. I feel suffocated and I just want him to be gone from my life!
My problem is when I accidentally bump into my ex in the office my heart is pounding so hard. I never feel like that to anyone 😢
the besttttt guyyy in the worlddd!!!!!!!
We get devorced after 2 months of mariage and 9 months of a relationship
I still love him so much and cry every day, we study together at the same class in university besides next monday we'll start the studies.. I have no idea how i'm gonna react and i'm so afraid he'll be with another girl..outch
Oh no how are you now? How is it?now
Walk past him, head held high, looking amazing! Preferably in the arms of another guy hotter than him.
You forgot to say please like this video and subscribe for more love life, etc or to hear YOUR ( yore,in my best British accent) question on line/air... Your a stud. Thx Matt always a pleasure
All related to him and him, are strangers to me. They don’t deserve my attention
Great advice Matthew Sir
I've been a rebound girl and I'm looking for a video that speaks to people who have been deceived, are used, why not make a video for us. You know what it is to feel used and worse if you have fallen in love with that person
I was someones rebound and feel so broken
Its not good to see your ex and ive been seeing him almost everday when i go to work there so many emotions involved but i had to do what i have to coz when i cave i know ill be the one who will be hurt if i give him the slightest chance and i dont want that .
Great respond
Love from India...like to listen to you.
I literally sat down to order lunch at a restaurant when a waitress put food on the table next to mine. The next thing I saw was my ex sitting down to eat. He was outside on the phone while waiting for his food. I dyed my hair blonde so he didn’t recognize me at first. We hugged, his hug was long and hard. We then spoke about our lives for an hour. We went our separate ways and he said, “maybe I will run in to you again sometime!” I thought about him all day afterwards!
What happened after?
Just having the situation now.. As in super now... We were on the same car...omg...im trying to distract myself because i feel like crying, nervous and angry at the same time..... Plus my real name sounds like the caller so surprisingly i laugh a bit omg. 😁😁
Matthew what if you work with your ex and we dont have a proper break up? How will I act around him?
I would cut ties with all related to him
My boy friend cheated on me with his ex. When he saw her he had feeling about her and he wanted to try with her again .He did so much bad to me because of her and even he push me out from the apartment we lived together. After broke up with me he wanted to back to me. I tried to forgive him but I couldn't.
Im in the same position as you. Its very difficult for me
Matt, I'm just goin though it right now. I don't know how I'd take it if I saw him with someone else....
Danielle B I had to see my ex with his other girl because he started dating another girl at my job 😥. I was sad and crying all the time. I was miserable and then my friends would give me constant updates on how he was doing 😭😥😩
Got it ❤
Thank you so so much
Does he still do this? basically I'm asking can I ever call him and ask him these questions I have, like omg I have specific questions that I'd like answers to soon xP
i'm still living with my ex and she already had a new man a week after we broke up. The lease still have a few months before it ends.
Omg that's just the video i need NOW. How comes that you know? ;)
Because he's a WIZARD.
Synchronicity
this full video should have a script below the video. cz the girl on the phone talk with a great speed.
My ex broke up with me yesterday and we are going back to school soon
Thanx Matthew
I went to a hang out that my ex goes to. He was chatting a lot with another female. I am surprised at how much it bothered me. Like intense emotion.
I'm trying to not be a pshyco.
I am also really tired and have had an off week diet wise. Lack of nutrition, foods, hydration, etc. I tend to be much more sensitive when I am off balance.
I don't want to blow it out of proportion. I left the establishment. And now listening to this....
I want to know how it went for her! Haha, I hope everything went alright :)
I ended up meeting a British guy, which made for a fun little fling. And my ex went out of his way to try and hang out with me but I was a bit busy ;)
+Riley Nelson Oh my gosh! That's awesome, haha you go girl!
danceoncardboardd she punched him in the face!
Riley Kate i’m so proud of you! hopefully you feel better now!
how did it end? Did she meet him? was she cool and collected? im sooo curious
I wouldn’t have gone if he was there anywhere..
Wish I’d heard this before last night. He came in and sat at a table that was directly in front of me. Was no way to ignore him. We looked right at each other. I got up and moved to the other side of the table with my back to him and ate my burger. He ordered his and sat and ate his. W walked past him to use the ladies room and then to leave and never said a word.
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I'm having a difficult times now, because I broke up with my ex-girlfriend a week ago. due to the childish thing. we have been in relationship for one month and a half, I have told her my plans that after two years I will marry her. because i have dated her for two and half years when she was in another relationship. and after she became mine. the problem is every time I call he in the midnight i found her talking on a phone, I can call her around 10 times in that midnight and she spent around 1 hour on the phone, and once she hang up the call she text me that it's too late, we will talk tomorrow. and in the morning she can't call, i have to be the one to call er again, and when I ask her why she behaved in that way, she told me that nothing to worry about. (she told me she was talking with her friends). I caught her doing that 10 times in one month. and i asked her to never do that because it hurts me, she said no i can't change, i said please do it during the day not in the midnight, or if you can't d it, let's stop our relationship here. and she decide to stop our relationship because she can't change that. she can't even find a small time to talk to me and i found her talking to the persons (which i don't really know) on the phone, can you imagine.
and I have asked her to meet me so that we can solve the issue, but what i really want is not to get her back is to end our relationship forever.
what can i do please
any help
Hi Matthew, I was just wondering if you take calls from overseas as well? I live in Sweden and I have a question I would like to ask! Thanks :)
My problem is I still care about this person and just want so badly to apologize if I see this person for me having to move on.
It depends on what was the reason of your breakup I guess. If you did something wrong, go ahead and apologise, it will only make it easy for you. But if you didn't, well.. I think you don't have anything to apologise for.
& what to do if I’m seeing him every single day!!!
i am going into school and i saw my ex and i just froze and he said hey i could not respond
all the love to U .. thank you alote •°♡ .. from sara .. saudi arabia :>
What about when they go eat at your job because you work at a restaurant and his a truck driver and has to stop to eat I guess the man has to eat but I don’t know how to act it makes me feel bad . I feel like quitting my job 🤔😭
Hi Mathew what if you work together? Need contact a little bit. He's the one that stopped communication. I'm good with that feels uncomfortable though.
I've dumped my ex 2 years ago bcs she was a cheater & I've been avoiding friends gathering to not run into her but in 4 days I have to attend this close friend of mine wedding's that my ex is also invited too, it's sickening and uneasy for me to see her face again & have to shake her hand & act calm, I just hope that day comes & ends fast .
Every thing was already over to you about 3 months ago but I am still curious to ask how it was then. Coz Im thinking the same thing would happen to me some day. How did you handle it?
The thing is to be honest with yourself. If she ask how you feel you can say literally "uneasy" you gain more power
+Kristyl Fox Exa tly! I cannot wait for my Houdini so called b /f to call me, so I can and will f ing will ignore him. Now he might not ever call me again, and frankly he is truly no great loss. Even though I still care about the little freak and at one time felt love for him. There is a part of me that still likes him too. Most unfortunately and regrettably.
Question should you apologize for breaking up with someone after they are with someone else?
no that’s weird
You didn’t even ask if she still has feelings….. isn’t that kind of important?
this makes me remember the first time i saw my ex after the brake up. He hesitate to say hi and i was like debating in my head whether I say hi or pass acting like we never knew each other and that's what really happened. it brake my heart even more that things seems soo easy to him while my heart went on peices at that moment so I hold my tears, i went to a place with none in there i just cried untill i felt like no tears left to cry. I saw him so many times after that, sometimes i feel like my legs can carry me more, sometimes my heart goes fast and sometimes i cry on my own. I didn't know how to handle those moments. I didn't see him for like more tha a year now and i'm afraid that the next time i will see him things won't be different cause it really should. He moved on so fast with his life,got a new girlfriend. I moved on two .. I hopefully wish it will no longer be that dramatic seeing him again
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@@drisellaowens425 No thanks. I don't want any ex back :)
You made it dramatic. It’s in your head. Next time smile and say hi. It’s not that hard
IGNORING! 😂😂😂
Randomly was walking in public location and saw my ex for the first time in 14 years. she broke up over a text. I was walking in a good mood and looked good was looking over at something and when I looked straight I saw her about 7 feet away solo I think she saw me first but I made no expression like I noticed her and looked over in a different direction but not awkwardly very smooth and nothing in me had emotion it was like seeing a stranger.