Or when they ask me for my opinion and are shocked when I say I don't care enough to form one. "Pepsi or Coke?" They're essentially the same and I don't care for either. I don't feel compelled to chose sides in whatever socially engineered cultural conflict du jour they're promoting that day. I'll save the deep analysis for opinions on matters that I have determined to matter to me. I won't be downloading the latest opinion prompts from the Internet. No thanks.
I even planned my retirement but my family and politicians ruined everything. Now ı made new plans but all of my plans will happen if ı can get a green cart and if I don't get a green card ı have no idea what will ı do and as an intj its gonna make me mad (for me, to live in a madhouse is better than live with my family but anyway ı wish I can stay in a single room in madhouse)
Yes, why do I need to reinvent the wheel to tell you 2+2=4 bc someone's feelings might get hurt. Own your mistake, move on, and let's fix it. But no, that's not 'professional' So instead, let me waste time that could be spent making it right sugarcoating the facts so the people who get paid more than me can feel better about themselves
I'm an INFJ and many times I've forgotten to eat while involved in work or some other activity. I sometimes even struggle to recall what I've eaten for breakfast or lunch, I guess it's that unimportant to me. My brother, on the other hand, has no idea how I forget to eat.
I do prefer my Ti but I could never comfortably say that phrase... and because of that sometimes they think I am TJ type... if I use that statement, I'll scratch the "...your feeling is wrong" and replace it with "but maybe you could see it in this way.." but I'm just saying ...
Thank you for the correction. The assessment of feelings on the basis of correctness was a logical error that bothered me even though I understood it was for comic effect.
Are the feelings irrelevant *because* they're wrong, though? As in, they're misleading the person in question, whereas an INTJ's advice would be much more likely to get around any future landmines and help this person reach the intended destination without issue. Otherwise, I need to be corrected. What makes me wrong? Or rather, what is the INTJ's interpretation of their own assertion that the other's feelings are irrelevant? That one being the 'correct' one, of course. -An INTP
That's me. Got my license like 5 years ago, never drove a car since then. When I need to leave the house I just take the bus, it's more comfy than having to pay attention to the road.
My best friend is an INTJ, and although she's literally a saint and the sweetest person I ever know, sometimes she exudes the precise energy of this video (and I love her for that)
Hehe. I'm an INTJ too, and I always act polite and stuff, but then my best friend says that sometimes I drop the nice girl attitude and start acting like this.
Yeah, I don’t really _act_ like a stereotypical INTJ in public, and I’ve learned to suppress my brutally honest words (as hard as that is, sometimes). Usually results in constant politeness until proven they don’t deserve politeness.
@@Bgrosz1 I took it only once and got INFJ, but further research showed I am indeed an INTJ, just a quirky, sometimes excitable one perhaps due to my values and autism/ADHD.
I'm an INTJ and this is my shopping ideology: 1) malls are scary and confusing, they contain too many people 2) if you find a shirt you like, just buy 10 of them. My closet comtains 30 plain black shirts that are exactly the same
I'm an ISFP. I have the same plain shirt 30 times in different dark colors. Hate shopping. And yeah, malls are horrible for all the reasons stated before me.
I’m an INTJ who *does* see some value in paying attention to how I dress and I put a little effort into it. (Ignoring the fact that others immediately judge us by it, and mastering it can give us another advantage out in the world, seems illogical.) *But,* malls are horrible: full of sluggish people seemingly only there to kill time (walking several abreast, blocking traffic-flow), rather than being task-oriented; stores too disorganized and playing loud, obnoxious music; pushy kiosk salespeople assaulting me with unwanted products as I walk by. Online shopping is the way to go. And yes…. when you find the perfect item, *buy several!* 👍
@@hnwebil I think you’re really smart to buy 30 of the perfect T-shirt. By the time the first wears out, it may not be available anymore, requiring another lengthy search. My record is 9 of the same T, but in a couple of different basic colors. I need to think even further ahead, like you
"I forgot to eat for the last three days." I'm not even kidding, that reminded me that I've only had a smoothie in the last 48 hours. Now I'm feeling it. I should probably eat something.
That makes you a moron. You don't just magically not feel your body and its needs. I will put off eating like no other but it's not some imbecilic I forgot crap. It's an I am busy and I feel this is more important so I will eat when I feel like taking a break or reach a point where I can only wait. - An actual INTJ.
"I know this project is supposed to be a team effort but I already know exactly what our project will be and how we're going to do it and only I can be trusted to execute it properly." - INTJ
Hahahahahaha! INFP here married to an INTJ. You are spot on, sir. I call him my little vampire because he rarely wants to go out in the sun. I LOVE to swim, so occasionally he will come with me, but he sits at at a table under an umbrella and makes me spray him with SPF 50 every hour lol He also has been slowly optimizing our relationship over the last 11 years. So now we really have all the kinks worked out. We almost never fight, but do enjoy lively debates for fun lol, and it's absolutely amazing. I love INTJs lol :) Oh and he's definitely crazy addicted to coffee. I had to convince him to cut it down to 3 cups a day because I feared for his heart lol
@@Carol_65 Hahaha thanks! I knew our relationship was getting better every year, but it took me until a few months ago to realize this was classic INTJ behavior, and it was all calculated 😂 I love my sweet mastermind. And to any INFPs reading this. Get yourself an INTJ. I truly believe we are an ideal pairing once you get beyond the initial trying to understand one another phase. INTJs are so fascinating, and they have so much depth and passion. They just don't show it to just anyone and an INFP is made to get to the heart of who ppl truly are. ❤️
@Meeka Hahahahaha definitely challenging at times, but y'all are so worth it 😀 I challenge him, too, but mostly because I don't like schedules and just want to go with the flow. He finds that extremely challenging to deal with 😂 Poor baby 😏
@@suzihoude ok, but there’s always away not to be rude or insensitive about it? Infj here. May not seem that way to you, but like you said, truth can’t be suppressed 🤷🏽♀️
Why don't everyone just bulk buys their favourite outfit and forgets about this "shopping" issue for several years untill the clothes wear out? I genuinely don't understand. Sincerely, an INTJ with 10 identical blank black Tshirts
@@IndigoGollum Oh, so I can stay indoors AND be more like Tom "Can't Say if the Video Came out 7 Minutes Ago or 7 Years Ago" Scott? Promise me you'll tell if you recall the shop.
thats why when i buy pair of shoes i wait 2-3 weeks to see if they are comfortable then head to shop and buy another pair. i would buy 3 but one shop doesn't have 3 pairs of shoes in the same size. -.-
Infj here, only time I go outside willing during the day is if it's raining or cloudy and I'm sure there won't be people outside. Really loved the pandemic. Needed no excuse to stay home.
Sameeee. I love their brutal bluntness and I'd always ask for their advice hahaha I knew I could always rely on them when it comes to honesty. Also, I find it funny when they're so frank. My intj friend would always say I have the ugliest taste in music, but I'd just laugh at him and say my music taste is the greatest and I absolutely love it. 😂 It's funny how he never gets tired of criticizing it every time, but listens to the song I play anyway. 😂
@@evelynv8182 He has to listen because you play it for him. It's not like one can turn off hearing. Also, he likes you. You might actually show some of the same by not playing music which he clearly hates. For example my friends don't put on modern pop and rap music when I'm around, even though some of them do enjoy it. They don't do it because there is no point in playing songs that will make someone in your group feel uncomfortable or annoyed.
You must have a great boy friend.. I hope you throughly enjoy and APPRECIATE him.. Your life must be in perfect order thanks to him. Of course you had to do a lot of the work yourself too. Such a small % of people are intj and You got one . What a blessing..
I (an INTJ) have a spreadsheet that projects savings and expenses for the next 50 years so I can determine when I can finally retire and stop interacting with people forever.
I am also an INTJ and retired early due to planning and making decisions around retiring early. I regularly project out my finances all the way to death. My projection tells me I'm in good shape unless the apocalypse happens. Unfortunately, I"m also projecting the apocalypse happening soon. I have no plan for that.
@@mrizky5653 , My apocalypse statement was half joking, but only half. The destruction of America seems like a distinct possibility at this point, in one form or another - civil war or devolution into socialism. That's just from watching events play out. We are pretty far down a dark path and there is no indication of our direction changing.
After 10 years of all black shirts, pants, socks, and hoodies. I decided to "spice" it up a little bit. Now I wear all white shirts, socks, and hoodies. Truly a life-changing moment.
During my college, high school, university, most of time I was wearing black clothes. Adult life : try colorful, and mix black+ color, or grey+color Last month : during sales try to do a total white look. INFJ still in the "I don't know" explore all the possibilities.
One time I said that I was thinking about jazzing up my wardrobe by adding some brown items to it. I didn't realize how non-jazzy that sounds to everyone else.
Let me guess: the day you changed to white was the day of your enlightenment?🌚💫🌝 (Just some weird ENFP humor, but trust me, you look very cool in my imagination😎)
@@janalunadottir XD Maybe, I decided it after, inspired by Kpop group outfit. I don't find it weird, it's a funny anlyse. Actually, I still haven't worn a total white look XD. Today : black t-shirt, black t-shirt (with little touch of color : green and blue ribbons on the t-shirt) XD our functions are in the same order, but all the "i" and "e" are switch.
“Why are you upset right now? All I did was tell you everything that’s wrong about your opinions. Wouldn’t you prefer to be correct?” Man the accuracy of this
This used to be my bi-monthly argument with my wife. My recent realization is that she is not starting this argument.. Only took 10 years for me to pick up on that.
Don't know if I should laugh or cry... Honestly, that short video pretty much sums me up. Thank you, Frank. Now I can show this to people when I first meet them and tell them to make sure they actually want to stay...
"I know you didn't ask but I'm gonna give you some advice on how to live your life more efficiently" that's literally me every time I slightly don't dislike a person
INTJ: "Sun's out.... Looks like I'm not leaving the house today" It's funny cause my mum calls me a vampire, i even leave the curtains half open instead of fully open :')
Most of the time I don't even have my curtains open and I just live in my dark room and that's how I love it. And then my mom walk in and open the curtains... The sun... THE SUN! My eyes hurt everytime lol
INTJ here to explain the “your feelings are wrong”. Your feelings are just a part of the data. Just because you feel something doesn’t mean it is supported by the rest of the data... like actual, provable logic/facts. What we really mean is “your feelings are not supported by the external data and now you’re being emotional about it and I don’t know what to do because your feelings are irrational and not based on evidence... then we get frustrated by the wasted emotional energy and all that comes out is “you’re wrong””.
sometimes it’s also like, ‘this is what you feel right now because you perceive only a small subset of the data you have access to. had you perceived more of the data that is generally available, you would have felt differently and therefore this current emotional response is false’.
Most of the conflicts I have with my ISFJ wife is in this sentence "your feelings are wrong". And she takes it personnaly TvT. I tried to make her understand the point that she really feels that, but it's based on wrong data ! And even this doesn't work. So I tell her : "just believe me, it's just an INTJ problem, don't take anything I say personnaly, and do not understand things between lines".
I'm an INTJ and watching this made me realize that I'm still the same, but become much more subtle. Social skills are a great way to improve the efficiency so you can make your plans work (-;
Social skills are a great way to make people think that they came with that great idea themselves while you're just over here subtly 'suggesting' it. Makes it more likely that people will actually do them too.
@@demodeus2472same here. I'm often mistyped as an ENTJ in social situations. The problem is I have to spend 10 days alone to recharge from 1 day of absorbing social interaction. I sometimes am even annoyed from my partner's normal breath. Lol.
Feelings are NEVER wrong. It is the thoughts that inspire or inform the feelings that CAN be wrong. But that's the thing that INTJs lack - the emotional malleability to be able to understand and relate to feelings. It is a shortcoming that can make them very lonely at times.
No, the feelings can be wrong because people tend to analyse peoples behaviours by their actions, using their own social experiences. According to the APA Dictionary of Psychology, a feeling is "a self-contained phenomenal experience"; and feelings are "subjective, evaluative, and independent of the sensations, thoughts, or images evoking them".
And yet, this definition does not condone or justify emotionally invalidating people. You will not find anything in (healthy) psychology that supports gaslighting. Also, you are proving my point by quoting text - INTJs lack the basis to relate to feelings the way that some of the other types can and do. Reading a text and saying I understand what feelings are is very different from living with feelings day to day the way artists, poets, etc. do.
I'm a nurse and an INTJ. I can't tell you how many times we've gone into department meetings and my flat affect and suggestions have gotten me in trouble for being "rude" and "negative". I didn't have time to elaborate, I was already exhausted from dealing with management's ineptitude, and the meeting interfered with my daily plan and schedule.
@@sharonc.2207 I didn't know I was one at the time. When I found out, I realized what I had gotten into. However, I am a pretty good one, when people follow the program! LOL! However, the constant interruptions and derailments, eventually got to me.
A lot of INTJ as well as INFJ (hi!) are super high functioning Asperger’s. I didn’t realize until nearly 30 yrs old. I developed my Ti in my mid twenties and now I take less shizzles from peeps. They expect an Empath to roll over but they get the mirror and revers psychology. Annoying how people think no one will ever confront their bad behavior in public. Eff their social rules mwah hahahahaha è_é 😇
I don't know if it's only me but as an INTJ female, I actively try to wear more colourful clothes since it somewhat balances out my otherwise 'serious and intimidating nature'.
THIS. I already look too stiff because of my face and body language, different colors and shapes make me appear more approachable. Also, I plan every outfit ever.
ISTJ that once was typed as INTJ here. I do this as well. I truly love bright colors, partially because I have an aura of nigh-invisibility. My ENFJ sister went the other way and built a minimalist wardrobe of black and neutrals to offset her personality.
Yeah, that’s ESFP subconscious for ya. I just want to be ung bunga and live in the earth, but the world keeps building incredibly sharp squares and rectangles with too many borders and trims along the edges. I’m not trying to be cryptic; I just really hate post-Constantine architecture across the board, and wear dark colors in public to keep away the fascists 😭 Needless to say, I really enjoyed seeing the architecture in that new Dune movie
That's the way they trained for a journalism career in the old days.Put all pertinent info in the first paragraph. The rambling stuff that passes for writing now irks me!
As an INTJ, I’ve been pondering what the tax policy for retirement accounts for my future grandchildren will be like in the year 2110. I don’t even have a girlfriend 😕
No lie. I have an alarm on my phone to remind me to think about being hungry so that I will go eat the prep’s meal I brought and not stay at the library working all night.
Just the other day, my friend scolded me for zero communication. I was like, "we just had a two-hour video call last time". She was like, "That was June. It's December now". Time surely flies fast
@@allesdurchprobiertI should do this too, but it's harder on my case. Haven't been replying to my old friend's attempt to meet me again since 6 months ago for I'm constantly drowned by DMs from other people that provide more interesting things to chat about. 😅
@@BuizelCream yeah, the tragedy with old friends that you know since childhood is, that you might have evolved in different directions and don't have that much in common anymore.
The only thing that I never related to as an INTJ was not caring about your clothes and style. I usually use it to show the levels of annoyance that I feel And coffee. No, hate it. Give me all the tea in the world please
I also like fashion as a hobby but still alright looking like a bag of potato most of the times. Hahaha... I also don't like coffee because I palpitate a looot... tea's nice tho.
That is the one thing that I am different from the stereotype, the clothing, because neutral colors make me depressed. My outfits are colorful but they are still planned, though.
INFP with INTJ best friends here. They are exactly like this lmao. I love listening / debating about something deep and thought provoking with them. While I usually use my "intuition", they would just blast me with logic and facts. Sometimes cruel but make sense from their PoV. So can't complain too much about it Thus said, I feel like I learned a lot from them. They helped me to control my emotions better and actually do stuff rather that fantasizing about it. Best people ever.
My 11-year-old daughter recently took the test and this was her result. I let her take it alone, only assisting if she had trouble understanding the question. I realize she will continue to grow and I told her not to take the results so seriously. Her answer: No, this is pretty accurate. I'm sure that this is who I am and that you're wrong. She's also half German so I feel like that adds to the "you're wrong and I'm right" thing exponentially. So yeah. Yay me!😂I guess I have the "I told you so" to look forward to in about 10 years (or sooner, depending on her plans).
@@edennis8578 Not sure how you interpreted that I was/am upset about something so arbitrary. I was jokingly remarking about her steadfastness in relation to her German-ness. I get that not everyone's first language is English here and that nuance is hard to make out in an online comment. The Myers-Briggs tests give people a way to make sense of things. It's not a "fixed" definition of a person, especially not a child.
“Now that I have rebalanced the bills, and set up my calendar I guess I’ll be taking that shower I’ve been meaning to take the last 4 days” like lord help me.
INTJ here. This was totally me in my 20s. It's taken years of hard work to learn empathy and file off lose those sharp edges. Still don't like the sun though.
Indian INTJ here. I don't like the sun 😂 and as for the empathy, I'm still working on it. People are so uselessly emotional that I sometimes lose patience( on the inside, though) I've gotten better at pretending I understand *why* they're feeling the way they do. I call that progress
"My body no longer has any reaction to caffeine" "How many cups did you have today??" "You don't wanna know" This is exactly the conversation I have with my friends all the time.
Ok this is my mom in a nutshell. You can see the struggles we had with me being INFP and her INTJ 😅 Although she is a reader. She reads all the time. Even if the book is long
I think the skim reading thing can vary in how it presents itself between INTJs. I never thought that applied to me (an INTJ), because I read a lot of fiction all the way through. But I recently realized that I rarely read informational books entirely. Instead I treat them as references and make heavy use of the index to find the info I need at any given time.
@@SuperKatiki everyone is different. My mom can't get enough of reading. She will read even instructional stuff all the way through. She's like Hermione in that respect lol
I've been dating an INTJ for 5 years now, known him for 8, and this made me laugh harder than any of your other videos, which I always laugh at. This had me DYING!!! - Sincerely your fellow ENFP
INTJ here. The "Sun's out" one is so on point😂😂 because I use an umbrella just to fetch an online delivery from the front door to the gate which is like 10 steps. I love cloudy days and everyone thinks that I'm weird.🤷♀️
I did not understand the sunny day part. But now I do. Yes cloudy days are more relaxing. I like sunny days but cloudy days are just better for thinking and sitting and reading Etc. Thank you for helping me further understand ME.
I also don't understand seasonal affective disorder, unless we're talking August, and I honestly think if I go outside, I'm either going to sparkle or burst into flames. gray cloudy days when the sun sets at 4:00 in the afternoon in the dead of winter are so peaceful.
I took the sun's out part as there's going to be a lot of people out, so to avoid them, I'll be staying indoors. That's why I prefer to shop etc on crappy days 😆
LOL on the identical outfits…part of the reason my ENTJ dad liked the military: not having to figure out what to wear. In fact, before he married my mom, he faked being color blind in a store to get the lady to help match some outfits for him!! 🤣
ENTJs may not be the most compatible with INTJs, but they're extremely respectable, for some reason. If you look at ENTJs in pop culture, for example, you have Dr. Eggman and Brandon Rogers.
As I (ENFJ) am dating an INTJ, can confirm, specially the "wouldn't you want to be correct?" part, oh, and the coffee part, and also the clothes part, and almost everything else... but he really improved the feelings part 😂😂😂
Yeah , I swear that I'm an INTJ and I would never regret being that type , furthermore I'm really proud , planning for the future , hating feelings and having self- confidence
I'm sometimes up til' 3am to get a good laugh or work on some ideas. I'm almost always unable to let my parents see what I'm up to due to their religion.
As an INFJ I can tell you we have nothing in common, incredible, just one letter different, completely different personality, sorry guys, I think INTJs are super annoying
I’ve learned that telling people their feelings are wrong is a form of emotional abuse called invalidation so now I accept the way others feel and their perspectives by acknowledging the reality they’re in, like “given the circumstances it’s understandable for you to feel/think that way but…[insert reality]”. I’ve also learned that most people don’t want to be better humans or at least aren’t receptive to constructive feedback so unless they ask I don’t waste my energy anymore and just let people live their train wreck of a life while quietly dying on the inside.
Everyone feels at all times even when we are being logical we are still feeling some type of emotion. Doesn’t mean your decisions are emotionally driven. Emotion is just energy in motion.
0:17 Truly truuuuue 😂 Fun story, I asked my sisters about buying something together, INFP: “I liked it, It looks good… let’s pay now” Me INFJ: “Wait, I think I should do some research…” INTJ: “that’s right” After hours, Me: “I read about it, it’s nice… let’s buy it “ INTJ: “ Wait, I’m still searching” After 458754346789643 Days, INTJ: “well, it sounds good… let’s buy it” 🤕💔
So true for INFJ : still hesitant, research if something better and less expensive, compare, analyse, wait the sales, buy nothing and regret it, buy and regret it too. It's so nice you know the personality of your family members.
This is me watching netflix with friends/family. Find a movie 15 seconds in that look goods. But I say what else do they have, then proceed to look up every single movie. Then comes back a half hour later saying that first choice was good lets watch that.
Praise for the INTJ: They make great trauma/orthopedic surgeons. If I'm busted into a hundred pieces or hemorrhaging out, I want the calm, logical INTJ giving orders as he saves my life. If I need to cry & share my boo hoo feelings afterwards, I'll go find a nice ISFJ nurse (like myself) to hold my hand 😄
No, you can talk to me... just be warned that I'll tell you all your feelings emotions and opinions are wrong and that your life would be more correct if you were me.
Go for it! But don't feel coaxed to the surgical side. INTJs are furthermore predestined for internal medicine, all about abstract concepts, lab values and pathophysiology. Even introversion is not an obstacle for bein a physician/doctor. And for studying, Ni helps a lot condensing the huge amount of facts down to easy-to-understand principles. Though anatomy was giving a hard time to me. An INTJ-Attending physician @@squarepi2927
This is very accurate for me, especially the "feelings" part. And, I have to be honest here, the fact that I can easily forget basic things like eating, drinking and important dates. I don't even know how I'm still alive at this point 🤷🏻♀️
INTJs, best of the best, Everyone knows we're ahead of the rest, Though we work in the shadows so you rarely hear us But when you do, you'd better fear us, 'Cause we're always right, though we won't explain The complexities inside our brains. Behind every supervillain sits an INTJ - They get taken down, we just get away. We're the masterminds, we rule the Earth, And you can't stop us 'cause we do it from birth. It don't matter what you tell us, we do it our way, And that is the life of an INTJ.
Well I work in the fashion industry. I have to have a variety of clothes so that people don't bother me with stupid interactions. But yea out of the job I wear anything comfortable & practical
Literally just bought the same shirt but in three different muted colors. Black, navy blue and to add a little spice, striped cream and muted orange. I will wear these shirts until they no longer exist. And under the same of two open front sweaters, either grey or navy blue.
Gay INFP here, I honestly love INTJs. They’re cold and direct and can seem heartless, but if they like you they’ll make the effort to converse with you. All the “reptilian overlord” theories do come from them often, but they’re not tinfoil hat people either. They’re also super protective but they try to teach you how to stand up for yourself. The stereotype is that INFPs should avoid INTJs at all costs, but often in stories those two hook up really well, like Adama and Roslin in BSG. If feelings develop between the two they’re gonna be intense cuz we both have Fi. But because they have Se it helps to get us out of our comfort zones and it makes them seem super sensual.
Who says INFPs should avoid INTJs? My deepest relationships have been with INFP women. And even with INFP men, we still get along fine. INFPs are more intellectual than they're given credit for.
I may not plan in months, but I do plan in weeks and days. I always get weird looks from my friends when I bring an index card with everything I need to remember and do for that day while I’m looking at them wondering “do you even know what you for dinner tonight?” Also the caffeine part is very relatable, we need a stronger coffee in the world.
As an ENFJ who likes an INTJ, this is so accurate. I just hope our next phone call is not after 6 months. But yeah, I like INTJ's bluntness and honesty and how they don't sugarcoat things even if you're feeling shitty about something. They actually make you realize and see things clearer and I need that as I am a very emotional person. I just sometimes hope I don't tire them out with my shits.
Believe me your shits is sometimes the only colour they have in their life. We are so analytical to a point of being a walking calculator, having crazy around helps us reconnect to our emotional universe.
I think INTJs are my favorite of all the types with INFP a close second.. I enjoy their candid nature because I can always rely on their logical nature to help me level out my emotional response to worldly crap, and since I don't like making decisions based on emotional responses and that is their default setting (like a logical guru) lol their input is generally well respected even when brutally annihilating all the feels, /:) ..although thinking about it this probably wouldn't work in their favor if they wanted a relationship... maybe?
@TeekWell it makes sense, because if you don't marry someone that challenges your thinking from time to time, you evidently didn't marry your match. Nothing better than a mix of the head with the heart in a marriage.
Where are you in real life? I'm an INFP and my husband is an INTJ. Come be our friend! We have soooo much trouble making friends. Ppl just don't "get" us.... We like board games, and I'm an excellent cook 😂
« Your feelings are wrong » 😂 That’s so accurate! I often end judging other people ‘s feeling and thinking « why this person feels this way that makes no sense! »
I'm an INFJ and I've always done the book and the explaining-why-you're-wrong things (the later often makes me feel both great and awful at the same time)
"the latter often makes me feel both great and awful" That's the part that makes you an INFJ. An INTJ feels neither. Truth needs to be stated and falsehoods need to be unmasked. There is no personal aspect to this such that I would feel good or bad. Similarly, we don't understand emotional reactions when we point out how something is wrong. As this video states, doesn't the other person value being correct?
“Your feelings are wrong” is when I leave the chat 😂 I don’t blame anyone for feeling that way - that feeling isn’t wrong! - I can just see that we fundamentally experience reality in a different way, and likely aren’t going to have any kind of meaningful discussion. As an INFP who desires to validate everyone’s experience as true and right for them, being told my inner experience isn’t true or right can be triggering, but of course, that means it’s a chance to accept that others don’t have to validate my experience for it to be real. And vice versa! I may not “agree” with or “like” that another perceives my emotion as wrong, but I can accept that they feel that way. And recognize we have two truths that do not contradict. Thank you INTJs for furthering this practice! ❤
"INTJs just not smart enough to figure out why they can make someone uncomfortable" /j But yeah I feel that. I like discovering different angles/perspectives and see where they came from. Even behind irrational angry man that shits on strangers you'll find a deep reason why his life came this way. Feeling are indeed can't be "wrong" unless you have mental a disease that goes from how your brain literally different. But even that + it's still an explanation! Lmao
INTJs have a very characteristic cause-and-effect style of reasoning, which I think could be added to your videos! For example, “The only reason why your boss fired you is because he has to lay off the least valuable workers at a time like this. In a crisis like (insert crisis), company revenues suffer and this means his only way of protecting profits is to cut costs. This means firing people in exactly your role. Any logical person in his shoes would do the same. So there’s absolutely no reason to feel bad about being fired.”
Well I wouldn’t tell them to not feel bad because at the end of the day people have bills to pay. On the other hand, if they say that they don’t feel that it’s “fair”, then I would’ve given that answer.
Accurate 🤣 I literally just said, "I can understand that you think that way but your idea is wrong" to my partner during an argument a few minutes ago 😆
As an INTJ and a teenager, one of the most popular thing people say to me is 1. You think too much. 2. You do not speak like a teenager, you speak like a lawyer, psycologist etc. 3. HOW DID YOU KNOW??!! I cam read what type of person you are just by looking at the face, if its a bit harder to read then with seeing few body movements i can tell, if its still hard, i not need worry, once they open theirmouth to say the smallest words i would be all set. I am the therapist friend , or the tip giving friend who is secreatly a wizard typo friend in my firend circle
High EQ INTJ here. Rare breed. I use my gift to help people do better in life for purely altruistic reasons. Economic development strategies for future generations. I find an intense satisfaction in knowing that I influence the policies that have the biggest impact on people's livelihoods. I want people to be happy. Happy people are productive. And productivity is the meaning of life.
INTJs can justify things in multiple ways happiness is a good of its own but is also productive. INTJs can develop EQ with intuition and perspective taking, but it is aimed toward a goal rather than simply dwelling in the feelings.
But if you stop completely you get to enjoy some very prolonged tension headaches from the withdrawal symptoms, so you have to gradually wean yourself off of it.
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The self expression one helped me understand a little what the low Fi thing is all about
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Hahaahahaha😘🤗
Ha! I don't even have my license anymore! The government doesn't know what I look like after the age of 17.
Tbh I only hate the heat from the sun n not the warmth n light so I'm more active outside in fall n colder temperatures, around 74 or so
As an INTJ I hate it when there's no summary on the back of a book except praises 😑 it drives me nuts.
YES
You know what? That sucks.
I just read the content. Skimmed through the book. If its kinda interest me i'll read it. If not well at least i kinda have the gist of it
this
it indeed does!
I always think I'm smiling when I'm talking, until the other day I caught a glimpse of my face in the mirror...
Yikes
omg IKRR T-T
Lol I do the same and i actually find out while looking in the mirror that my smile looked more of a disgusted face.
Same 😂
I saw candid photos of myself and I realized that I don’t smile as much as I think...
INTJ: Gives person logical advice
Person: Doesn’t follow it and something goes wrong
INTJ: “Yep, I saw that coming a mile away.”
Or when they ask me for my opinion and are shocked when I say I don't care enough to form one. "Pepsi or Coke?" They're essentially the same and I don't care for either. I don't feel compelled to chose sides in whatever socially engineered cultural conflict du jour they're promoting that day. I'll save the deep analysis for opinions on matters that I have determined to matter to me. I won't be downloading the latest opinion prompts from the Internet. No thanks.
@Lince Matero ugh 😫 yeeeesss why just do the thing right
yeah pretty much and then I keep asking myself if I knew it was going to go that way why did I give the advice in the first place.
you were expecting empathy but it was me,dio!
@@takemikazuchihachishiki7788 HAHAHAHAHA
“I can understand that you feel that way, but your feelings are wrong” what a mood
Yes.
Me, cashier: "Were you interested in a free discount card?"
Them: "No; I'm good."
Me: "Okay, betch, time to explain why that is not true."
I can truly understand this
Well, their feelings are correct, they're just wrong feeling if they didn't have their head up their. 😂
In short, their feelings are correct for someone who has their head up their ass and isn't thinking correctly.
I'm an INTJ but I have to admit, an INTJ having plans up until 2055 feels like an exaggeration. Mine only go up to 2048 (and that's not even a joke).
i'm an infp and i have no idea what i'm going to do for the next few hours.
I even planned my retirement but my family and politicians ruined everything. Now ı made new plans but all of my plans will happen if ı can get a green cart and if I don't get a green card ı have no idea what will ı do and as an intj its gonna make me mad (for me, to live in a madhouse is better than live with my family but anyway ı wish I can stay in a single room in madhouse)
same probably like the 2040's or so
2038 gang, rise up!
I've only reached 2040. I did eat yesterday if that counts for anything.
"Why are you upset?" "Don't you want to be correct?"
Literally how I feel about every single client I've ever worked for.
😂😂 lol
Yes, why do I need to reinvent the wheel to tell you 2+2=4 bc someone's feelings might get hurt.
Own your mistake, move on, and let's fix it.
But no, that's not 'professional'
So instead, let me waste time that could be spent making it right sugarcoating the facts so the people who get paid more than me can feel better about themselves
My advice always to my family. Why would anyone wants to be wrong?
The pain is almost palpable.
Dude SAME
"Why are you upset right now? . . . Wouldn't you prefer to be correct?"
As an INTJ, I swear I said that exact phrase before. Spot on
SAME! It's quite scary how accurate this video is
said that more then one (INTP to my INFP sister)
An INFJ, maybe I am mis - typed as I do the same.
I swear, with INTP friends this can go a lot of ways...
@@flairyxd hoo boy, I can confirm
INTJs are the type to look up videos about INTJs
Sup
Hello
I'm doing that right now😅
I love being a little narcissistic like the rest of us! But just to be clear, I will never be like the rest of anything and I am better than you.
Hallo
As an INTJ, I can verify. Really, the planning, invalidating other’s opinions, forgetting to do basic things like eat, this is all just so accurate.
I'm an INFJ and many times I've forgotten to eat while involved in work or some other activity. I sometimes even struggle to recall what I've eaten for breakfast or lunch, I guess it's that unimportant to me. My brother, on the other hand, has no idea how I forget to eat.
I’m an INTJ but I don’t forget to eat because my family always reminds me to which I’m grateful for :D but yea I do get absorbed into my work
"3:00PM! Time for lunch. :P"
@@greatwavefan397 wdym I thought 3 pm at lunch was the usual ;)
Elijah Guevara For me it's like "2:00 AM, time for lunch! Wait shouldn't I be sleeping right now?"
*INFP me re-living good memories*
INTJ husband: you can't live in the past, you have to focus on the present
*proceeds to live in the future*
Every time I start to think about the future all I can think of is our eventual demise and I start to cry! ~ infp
It's not living in the future, it's logically planning and carrying out plans! Haha
@@ilxveeunchqe intj here and happily dating an amazing enfp boy. Good luck with the crush!
I love INFPs.
Well, that advice is for you.
"I understand that you feel that way, but your feelings are wrong" is probably my favorite saying from this.
Same
I do prefer my Ti but I could never comfortably say that phrase... and because of that sometimes they think I am TJ type... if I use that statement, I'll scratch the "...your feeling is wrong" and replace it with "but maybe you could see it in this way.."
but I'm just saying ...
i’ve learned to say it only with my inside voice
Don't extroverts say that to introverts?
I don't like thinking that way, though. I hate when feelings go unacknowledged.
Edit: They've probably learned that from their ExxJ parents.
More accurate would be “I can understand you feel that way but your feelings are irrelevant”
~ INTJ
Thank you for the correction. The assessment of feelings on the basis of correctness was a logical error that bothered me even though I understood it was for comic effect.
ACCURATE. I came to make this exact comment.
Yup. I've caught myself saying that a lot 😅
Are the feelings irrelevant *because* they're wrong, though? As in, they're misleading the person in question, whereas an INTJ's advice would be much more likely to get around any future landmines and help this person reach the intended destination without issue. Otherwise, I need to be corrected. What makes me wrong? Or rather, what is the INTJ's interpretation of their own assertion that the other's feelings are irrelevant? That one being the 'correct' one, of course.
-An INTP
That was genius!
the facial expression is so on point, that’s exactly how INTJs look when they talk
I don't understand,is that not normal ?
Oh yes, my INTJ is ALWAYS just like 😐
@Teek Oh trust me, if we don’t know you INTJ’s well enough (and learn about your less “intense” side), you scare us 👀😂
Wait, we do?
Well my mom has told me I have a RBF. The few differences in this is that I would read the book in 24 hours.
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Btw what's your type?
" i just realized my driver's license expired three years ago.... ah well, i won't be leaving the house anyways "
Sure useless to move if it's to buy again the same black shirt XD
That's me. Got my license like 5 years ago, never drove a car since then. When I need to leave the house I just take the bus, it's more comfy than having to pay attention to the road.
@@Gaze73 thats why i didnt get it, why did u :D
@@michaelhighlights1614 I had a lot of free time and it's something that everyone does. Also, it was a bit of a challenge to see if I make it.
I'll take a bicycle, it's better anyway.
My best friend is an INTJ, and although she's literally a saint and the sweetest person I ever know, sometimes she exudes the precise energy of this video (and I love her for that)
Are you an enfp
Hehe. I'm an INTJ too, and I always act polite and stuff, but then my best friend says that sometimes I drop the nice girl attitude and start acting like this.
@@aubredelic close enough, I'm INFP
Yeah, I don’t really _act_ like a stereotypical INTJ in public, and I’ve learned to suppress my brutally honest words (as hard as that is, sometimes). Usually results in constant politeness until proven they don’t deserve politeness.
Wow, you just described me and that’s literally what my INFP friend would say :)
P. S. She’s my only and best friend.
"Why are you upset right now? Wouldn't you prefer to be correct?"
This is so relatable.
INTJ here, seriously you played that sketch pretty well... Quite accurate.
@09CZS nah, my permit did. Never bothered to take the driver’s test and sit through that 5hour because I live in a city, so it’s pointless.
Not accurate enough for me, though.
I'd like to care about how I dress and how people feel.
“Quite accurate” is the most INTJ thing you could possibly say. - Me, an INTJ
@@greatwavefan397 ,
That makes me think you are closer to INFJ than INTJ. Have you taken the test multiple times?
@@Bgrosz1 I took it only once and got INFJ, but further research showed I am indeed an INTJ, just a quirky, sometimes excitable one perhaps due to my values and autism/ADHD.
I'm an INTJ and this is my shopping ideology:
1) malls are scary and confusing, they contain too many people
2) if you find a shirt you like, just buy 10 of them. My closet comtains 30 plain black shirts that are exactly the same
I'm an ISFP. I have the same plain shirt 30 times in different dark colors. Hate shopping.
And yeah, malls are horrible for all the reasons stated before me.
I’m an INTJ who *does* see some value in paying attention to how I dress and I put a little effort into it. (Ignoring the fact that others immediately judge us by it, and mastering it can give us another advantage out in the world, seems illogical.) *But,* malls are horrible: full of sluggish people seemingly only there to kill time (walking several abreast, blocking traffic-flow), rather than being task-oriented; stores too disorganized and playing loud, obnoxious music; pushy kiosk salespeople assaulting me with unwanted products as I walk by. Online shopping is the way to go. And yes…. when you find the perfect item, *buy several!* 👍
@@altitudeiseverything3163 don't get me wrong, I do care about my parents and our address. A lot. I just find a look that I like and preserve it
@Manuel Salokangas I agree!
@@hnwebil I think you’re really smart to buy 30 of the perfect T-shirt. By the time the first wears out, it may not be available anymore, requiring another lengthy search. My record is 9 of the same T, but in a couple of different basic colors. I need to think even further ahead, like you
"I forgot to eat for the last three days."
I'm not even kidding, that reminded me that I've only had a smoothie in the last 48 hours. Now I'm feeling it. I should probably eat something.
Smoothies are amazing all of the nutrition none of the effort. I wish I had gotten a nutribullet years ago.
🤣🤣
Well this is literally so accurate seriously and not kidding. I require an alarm for it
This is your reminder to eat (this'll sound crazy) multiple times a day
That makes you a moron. You don't just magically not feel your body and its needs. I will put off eating like no other but it's not some imbecilic I forgot crap. It's an I am busy and I feel this is more important so I will eat when I feel like taking a break or reach a point where I can only wait.
- An actual INTJ.
"I know this project is supposed to be a team effort but I already know exactly what our project will be and how we're going to do it and only I can be trusted to execute it properly."
- INTJ
You forgot that we already analyzed the success of the project. It's determined by how the other team members take our opinions into consideration.
Lmao so me 😂
Hahahahahaha! INFP here married to an INTJ. You are spot on, sir. I call him my little vampire because he rarely wants to go out in the sun. I LOVE to swim, so occasionally he will come with me, but he sits at at a table under an umbrella and makes me spray him with SPF 50 every hour lol He also has been slowly optimizing our relationship over the last 11 years. So now we really have all the kinks worked out. We almost never fight, but do enjoy lively debates for fun lol, and it's absolutely amazing. I love INTJs lol :) Oh and he's definitely crazy addicted to coffee. I had to convince him to cut it down to 3 cups a day because I feared for his heart lol
Thank you for giving me hope.
INTJ
He's been slowly optimizing our relationship... This made me lol.🤣 It's so good to hear that you have such a great relationship!🥰
@@Carol_65 Hahaha thanks! I knew our relationship was getting better every year, but it took me until a few months ago to realize this was classic INTJ behavior, and it was all calculated 😂 I love my sweet mastermind. And to any INFPs reading this. Get yourself an INTJ. I truly believe we are an ideal pairing once you get beyond the initial trying to understand one another phase. INTJs are so fascinating, and they have so much depth and passion. They just don't show it to just anyone and an INFP is made to get to the heart of who ppl truly are. ❤️
@Meeka Hahahahaha definitely challenging at times, but y'all are so worth it 😀 I challenge him, too, but mostly because I don't like schedules and just want to go with the flow. He finds that extremely challenging to deal with 😂 Poor baby 😏
Has he ever said he is such a good husband that he wants to marry himself?
INTJ: your feelings are wrong
INFJ: (triggered)
yeah, i notice that with my INFJ hubby. but truth can't be suppressed. lol
@@suzihoude ok, but there’s always away not to be rude or insensitive about it? Infj here. May not seem that way to you, but like you said, truth can’t be suppressed 🤷🏽♀️
@@myangimeowgi Yes, an INFJ Ti burn, love it. 😂
XD I did a similar comment.
_ "Your feelings are wrong", "Everything that's wrong with your opinions" : (It's hurt my INFJ heart)
@@Elodie_N_INTJ_Analyzes Nice :)
Why don't everyone just bulk buys their favourite outfit and forgets about this "shopping" issue for several years untill the clothes wear out? I genuinely don't understand.
Sincerely, an INTJ with 10 identical blank black Tshirts
Fun fact: You can bulk order plain solid color t-shirts online. I forgot the website name it's where Tom Scott gets his iconic red shirts.
I do that with socks, at least. All black socks, all identical, all the time. Matching them is hell otherwise. -INFP
@@IndigoGollum Oh, so I can stay indoors AND be more like Tom "Can't Say if the Video Came out 7 Minutes Ago or 7 Years Ago" Scott? Promise me you'll tell if you recall the shop.
thats why when i buy pair of shoes i wait 2-3 weeks to see if they are comfortable then head to shop and buy another pair. i would buy 3 but one shop doesn't have 3 pairs of shoes in the same size. -.-
@@cssghostPL I find out what type of shoe it is and order another pair or two of it online. Black shoes go with EVERYTHING.
“Suns out, time to stay inside”
This is literally me
Me now today
Me hate on sun to death. I'm willing to change my city just for that, even though I love my city.
I live in the south, so the sun is my greatest enemy
Infj here, only time I go outside willing during the day is if it's raining or cloudy and I'm sure there won't be people outside. Really loved the pandemic. Needed no excuse to stay home.
OK but I live in Texas. Believe me, your average summer day you have to stay inside or DIE! Or at the least be blinded.
As an INFJ, I appreciate the bluntness and honesty of INTJs, I like it
Sameeee. I love their brutal bluntness and I'd always ask for their advice hahaha I knew I could always rely on them when it comes to honesty.
Also, I find it funny when they're so frank. My intj friend would always say I have the ugliest taste in music, but I'd just laugh at him and say my music taste is the greatest and I absolutely love it. 😂 It's funny how he never gets tired of criticizing it every time, but listens to the song I play anyway. 😂
@@evelynv8182 He has to listen because you play it for him. It's not like one can turn off hearing.
Also, he likes you. You might actually show some of the same by not playing music which he clearly hates.
For example my friends don't put on modern pop and rap music when I'm around, even though some of them do enjoy it. They don't do it because there is no point in playing songs that will make someone in your group feel uncomfortable or annoyed.
@@harmoniics T stands for Truth and F for Fear. 😂
Same here but I am an ENFP. I hate going around in circles.
My INTJ BF watched this twice, laughed, and said it is scary. 😂
You must have a great boy friend.. I hope you throughly enjoy and APPRECIATE him.. Your life must be in perfect order thanks to him. Of course you had to do a lot of the work yourself too. Such a small % of people are intj and You got one . What a blessing..
Oh i don't think its all rainbows and butterflies like that😂😂
I (an INTJ) have a spreadsheet that projects savings and expenses for the next 50 years so I can determine when I can finally retire and stop interacting with people forever.
I am also an INTJ and retired early due to planning and making decisions around retiring early. I regularly project out my finances all the way to death. My projection tells me I'm in good shape unless the apocalypse happens. Unfortunately, I"m also projecting the apocalypse happening soon. I have no plan for that.
@@Bgrosz1 hmm interesting, can u share some data about apocalypse soon? Maybe bec ww3 or from asteroid?
@@mrizky5653 ,
My apocalypse statement was half joking, but only half.
The destruction of America seems like a distinct possibility at this point, in one form or another - civil war or devolution into socialism.
That's just from watching events play out.
We are pretty far down a dark path and there is no indication of our direction changing.
Haha this is hilarious
may I have a copy? I'd like to compare it to the one I have, just to make sure mine is better. 🤪
"It looks like i'm not leaving the house today" reaches me
Because it's sunny outside, no less.
After 10 years of all black shirts, pants, socks, and hoodies. I decided to "spice" it up a little bit. Now I wear all white shirts, socks, and hoodies. Truly a life-changing moment.
😂
During my college, high school, university, most of time I was wearing black clothes.
Adult life : try colorful, and mix black+ color, or grey+color
Last month : during sales try to do a total white look.
INFJ still in the "I don't know" explore all the possibilities.
One time I said that I was thinking about jazzing up my wardrobe by adding some brown items to it. I didn't realize how non-jazzy that sounds to everyone else.
Let me guess: the day you changed to white was the day of your enlightenment?🌚💫🌝 (Just some weird ENFP humor, but trust me, you look very cool in my imagination😎)
@@janalunadottir XD Maybe, I decided it after, inspired by Kpop group outfit. I don't find it weird, it's a funny anlyse. Actually, I still haven't worn a total white look XD.
Today : black t-shirt, black t-shirt (with little touch of color : green and blue ribbons on the t-shirt)
XD our functions are in the same order, but all the "i" and "e" are switch.
Frank's YT shorts are some of the YT shorts that don't make people cringe
he figured it out nicely
INTJ new to the channel. "The sun is out, and I guess I'm going to stay in all day" is spot on for me. lol (actually I chuckled)
INTJ and INFJ make for a really great friendship
And couple ❤☺ I have an INTJ in my life
Why?
Once i forgot to wish hbd to an infj...i never saw him again
@@JustANeutralThinker oh damn-
My brother is Infj
“Why are you upset right now? All I did was tell you everything that’s wrong about your opinions. Wouldn’t you prefer to be correct?”
Man the accuracy of this
This used to be my bi-monthly argument with my wife. My recent realization is that she is not starting this argument.. Only took 10 years for me to pick up on that.
@@jarretpaul never too old to learn 😂
and as intj i sometimes forget that this statement is insulting to many and the intj in me is thinking im just helping to correct opinions😅😂
Right?! It's physically painful for me to not point out a wrong fact or poorly informed opinion.
Don't know if I should laugh or cry...
Honestly, that short video pretty much sums me up.
Thank you, Frank. Now I can show this to people when I first meet them and tell them to make sure they actually want to stay...
bruh you commented before the video was uploaded
Nani the fuck?
@@dalen533 they can see into the future
I know right, it was SO accurate
Why? You are amazing, I'm INFP
"I know you didn't ask but I'm gonna give you some advice on how to live your life more efficiently" that's literally me every time I slightly don't dislike a person
They dislike us immediately afterwards. Has happened to me a lot. 😓
🤣
I hate it when people don’t listen and keep making The same mistakes over and over
The efficiency one is very accurate. Other people's lack of efficiency pisses me off and makes no sense to me
INTJ: "Sun's out.... Looks like I'm not leaving the house today"
It's funny cause my mum calls me a vampire, i even leave the curtains half open instead of fully open :')
Same :')
Most of the time I don't even have my curtains open and I just live in my dark room and that's how I love it. And then my mom walk in and open the curtains... The sun... THE SUN! My eyes hurt everytime lol
@@zuzanastrakova5169 lmao and then i wonder why am I lethargic and deprived of vitamin C like :')
@@mayttay1739 Exactly :'))
Same, my mom and dad call me a vampire. When they leave the house I'll close the curtains and shut doors so that no sun can get through the windows.
INTJ here to explain the “your feelings are wrong”.
Your feelings are just a part of the data.
Just because you feel something doesn’t mean it is supported by the rest of the data... like actual, provable logic/facts.
What we really mean is “your feelings are not supported by the external data and now you’re being emotional about it and I don’t know what to do because your feelings are irrational and not based on evidence... then we get frustrated by the wasted emotional energy and all that comes out is “you’re wrong””.
sometimes it’s also like, ‘this is what you feel right now because you perceive only a small subset of the data you have access to. had you perceived more of the data that is generally available, you would have felt differently and therefore this current emotional response is false’.
Exactly.
It comes from the implicit understanding that you decide what you feel about anything.
Omg spot on
Most of the conflicts I have with my ISFJ wife is in this sentence "your feelings are wrong". And she takes it personnaly TvT.
I tried to make her understand the point that she really feels that, but it's based on wrong data !
And even this doesn't work.
So I tell her : "just believe me, it's just an INTJ problem, don't take anything I say personnaly, and do not understand things between lines".
I'm an INTJ and watching this made me realize that I'm still the same, but become much more subtle. Social skills are a great way to improve the efficiency so you can make your plans work (-;
**maniacally twiddles fingers** "MuuuuhhaaaHAHAHAAAAAAaaaaaaaa!!!!"
@@jennifer9047 I'm more a sitting-in-a-big-rotating-chair-twisting-moustache kinda guy, don't have a cat tho
Hey I can relate. Im an INTJ too. I learned that It's easier to have things your way when you have social skills.
Social skills are a great way to make people think that they came with that great idea themselves while you're just over here subtly 'suggesting' it. Makes it more likely that people will actually do them too.
@@demodeus2472same here. I'm often mistyped as an ENTJ in social situations. The problem is I have to spend 10 days alone to recharge from 1 day of absorbing social interaction. I sometimes am even annoyed from my partner's normal breath. Lol.
“Your feelings are wrong.”
is my go-to sentence.
Feelings are NEVER wrong. It is the thoughts that inspire or inform the feelings that CAN be wrong. But that's the thing that INTJs lack - the emotional malleability to be able to understand and relate to feelings. It is a shortcoming that can make them very lonely at times.
No, the feelings can be wrong because people tend to analyse peoples behaviours by their actions, using their own social experiences. According to the APA Dictionary of Psychology, a feeling is "a self-contained phenomenal experience"; and feelings are "subjective, evaluative, and independent of the sensations, thoughts, or images evoking them".
And yet, this definition does not condone or justify emotionally invalidating people. You will not find anything in (healthy) psychology that supports gaslighting. Also, you are proving my point by quoting text - INTJs lack the basis to relate to feelings the way that some of the other types can and do. Reading a text and saying I understand what feelings are is very different from living with feelings day to day the way artists, poets, etc. do.
I'm a nurse and an INTJ. I can't tell you how many times we've gone into department meetings and my flat affect and suggestions have gotten me in trouble for being "rude" and "negative". I didn't have time to elaborate, I was already exhausted from dealing with management's ineptitude, and the meeting interfered with my daily plan and schedule.
How on earth did you become a nurse as an INTJ?
@@sharonc.2207 I didn't know I was one at the time. When I found out, I realized what I had gotten into. However, I am a pretty good one, when people follow the program! LOL! However, the constant interruptions and derailments, eventually got to me.
That's why I left the hospital setting. Now working as an inpatient medical coder.
A lot of INTJ as well as INFJ (hi!) are super high functioning Asperger’s. I didn’t realize until nearly 30 yrs old. I developed my Ti in my mid twenties and now I take less shizzles from peeps. They expect an Empath to roll over but they get the mirror and revers psychology. Annoying how people think no one will ever confront their bad behavior in public. Eff their social rules mwah hahahahaha è_é 😇
This is why I did not fit well in management 😬
I don't know if it's only me but as an INTJ female, I actively try to wear more colourful clothes since it somewhat balances out my otherwise 'serious and intimidating nature'.
THIS. I already look too stiff because of my face and body language, different colors and shapes make me appear more approachable. Also, I plan every outfit ever.
ISTJ that once was typed as INTJ here. I do this as well. I truly love bright colors, partially because I have an aura of nigh-invisibility. My ENFJ sister went the other way and built a minimalist wardrobe of black and neutrals to offset her personality.
Idk for a girl, but for a guy, black is our nature, hell no we wear colorful shirt😅
Yeah, that’s ESFP subconscious for ya.
I just want to be ung bunga and live in the earth, but the world keeps building incredibly sharp squares and rectangles with too many borders and trims along the edges.
I’m not trying to be cryptic; I just really hate post-Constantine architecture across the board, and wear dark colors in public to keep away the fascists 😭
Needless to say, I really enjoyed seeing the architecture in that new Dune movie
Makes sense. You changed my mind. -intj
The book one is exactly me, which is why the books I've written are very brief and to the point. No fluff or excessive paraphrasing required.
Exactly! I hate books with too much unimportant details and prefer ones that get to the point.
That's why I (lawyer) stopped reading literature and started Chemistry 101 and Programming languages, Great to see some resemblance.
Googling is like going to the library, but the librarian suggests pages rather than entire books.
That's the way they trained for a journalism career in the old days.Put all pertinent info in the first paragraph. The rambling stuff that passes for writing now irks me!
😂😂😂😂😂. Facts. I love giving unsolicited advice. They should be grateful for all this free information.
They usually end up hating you if it goes terribly wrong for them like you predicted.
“I only date people that don’t want anything from me.”
The accuracy
that hit
You have NO IDEA how you just... called someone out.
Or that are mutually beneficial. I won't date soneone if I feels that the benefits we would be getting out of the relationship are unbalanced
Damn I feel called out
As an INTJ, I’ve been pondering what the tax policy for retirement accounts for my future grandchildren will be like in the year 2110. I don’t even have a girlfriend 😕
🤣🤣
Lmao
🤣🤣 bro
I hope anti-gravity racing will be a thing, at the time.
Are you me? LMAO
"i know you didn't ask but i'm going to give you advice on how to live your life mor efficiently"
that's literally me in every group chat i have
I have to plan to eat or I won’t. 😭 I’ll literally work nonstop until I pass out.
That's why i do meal prep, just more efficiency and less time spend cooking
@@Darkxfin I’ve been meal prepping also and it’s been helpful, but I still have to force myself to actually eat it lol
I don't do this only through the learned panic reaction from the consequences of overworking. Now I can't do much of anything!
No lie. I have an alarm on my phone to remind me to think about being hungry so that I will go eat the prep’s meal I brought and not stay at the library working all night.
Exactly
Just the other day, my friend scolded me for zero communication. I was like, "we just had a two-hour video call last time".
She was like, "That was June. It's December now".
Time surely flies fast
😂
That reminds me to text my best/oldest friend. I really should make sure to take the initiative at least every 2 months.
@@allesdurchprobiertI should do this too, but it's harder on my case. Haven't been replying to my old friend's attempt to meet me again since 6 months ago for I'm constantly drowned by DMs from other people that provide more interesting things to chat about. 😅
@@BuizelCream yeah, the tragedy with old friends that you know since childhood is, that you might have evolved in different directions and don't have that much in common anymore.
my fav lines: "I don't care ", " I just wanna be alone", "Do I need to explain?", " there's no need to talk", "I'm not going out in the next 5 days"
The only thing that I never related to as an INTJ was not caring about your clothes and style. I usually use it to show the levels of annoyance that I feel
And coffee. No, hate it. Give me all the tea in the world please
I also like fashion as a hobby but still alright looking like a bag of potato most of the times. Hahaha... I also don't like coffee because I palpitate a looot... tea's nice tho.
@Manuel Salokangas it's definitely either not caring what you wear or planning the whole outfit for your own specific reason
Ditto on everything u just said
Levels of annoyance, my words exactly👍🏼
That is the one thing that I am different from the stereotype, the clothing, because neutral colors make me depressed. My outfits are colorful but they are still planned, though.
The "I've got my life figured out till 2055" is so real. I'm an INTJ and I have planned my entire life.
😂😂😂 I am an ENFP and I have no words.
INFP with INTJ best friends here. They are exactly like this lmao. I love listening / debating about something deep and thought provoking with them. While I usually use my "intuition", they would just blast me with logic and facts. Sometimes cruel but make sense from their PoV. So can't complain too much about it
Thus said, I feel like I learned a lot from them. They helped me to control my emotions better and actually do stuff rather that fantasizing about it. Best people ever.
I'm also an INTJ tho
"I saw that coming" my favorite line
My 11-year-old daughter recently took the test and this was her result. I let her take it alone, only assisting if she had trouble understanding the question.
I realize she will continue to grow and I told her not to take the results so seriously. Her answer: No, this is pretty accurate. I'm sure that this is who I am and that you're wrong. She's also half German so I feel like that adds to the "you're wrong and I'm right" thing exponentially.
So yeah. Yay me!😂I guess I have the "I told you so" to look forward to in about 10 years (or sooner, depending on her plans).
That sounds….like fun…
Ja, my mom is German. I don't get scared by much of anything and she's ALWAYS right. 😂
Soooo... are you actually upset that she's an INTJ? Why? Are you saying that you hope she'll "grow out of it"?
@@edennis8578 Not sure how you interpreted that I was/am upset about something so arbitrary.
I was jokingly remarking about her steadfastness in relation to her German-ness. I get that not everyone's first language is English here and that nuance is hard to make out in an online comment.
The Myers-Briggs tests give people a way to make sense of things. It's not a "fixed" definition of a person, especially not a child.
“Now that I have rebalanced the bills, and set up my calendar I guess I’ll be taking that shower I’ve been meaning to take the last 4 days” like lord help me.
“Sun’s out. Looks like I’m not leaving the house today.” This is totally me. And ironically I live in the tropics…
INTJ here. This was totally me in my 20s. It's taken years of hard work to learn empathy and file off lose those sharp edges. Still don't like the sun though.
Same. Even after years of learning to have more empathy and gain better social skills, the sun is still my enemy.
Indian INTJ here. I don't like the sun 😂 and as for the empathy, I'm still working on it. People are so uselessly emotional that I sometimes lose patience( on the inside, though) I've gotten better at pretending I understand *why* they're feeling the way they do. I call that progress
Is this really a thing? I'm also INTJ and hate being in the sun. Always have, even as a child.
Me too! 😂 Love rainy days and love the night! It's so peaceful
Same - your intuition mimics empathy and we can learn to soften those edges.
"My body no longer has any reaction to caffeine"
"How many cups did you have today??"
"You don't wanna know"
This is exactly the conversation I have with my friends all the time.
that's exactly the conversation I have with my coffee maker.
This is probably why I saw nothing wrong with Navy coffee from the start.
I usually just forget my daily cup(s), but when I don't it feels that much better.
I can fall asleep while drinking my coffee, so yes, it is not doing its job.
The awakening creature doesn't achieve human status unless there is enough caffeine to wake Rip Van Winkle or cold start a diesel.
I'm an INFJ but I relate to the caffeine one
"My body no longer has any reaction to caffeine"
"How many cups have you had?"
"You don't wanna know"
Ok this is my mom in a nutshell. You can see the struggles we had with me being INFP and her INTJ 😅
Although she is a reader. She reads all the time. Even if the book is long
Wow me too
I think the skim reading thing can vary in how it presents itself between INTJs. I never thought that applied to me (an INTJ), because I read a lot of fiction all the way through. But I recently realized that I rarely read informational books entirely. Instead I treat them as references and make heavy use of the index to find the info I need at any given time.
@@SuperKatiki everyone is different. My mom can't get enough of reading. She will read even instructional stuff all the way through. She's like Hermione in that respect lol
I believe he was alluding to the INTJ knowing whether the book was worth his time to read from only reading the back.
Intjs I LOVE those.
Intjs are awkward in the dryest possible way, I love that.
Intjs are super hit
I've been dating an INTJ for 5 years now, known him for 8, and this made me laugh harder than any of your other videos, which I always laugh at. This had me DYING!!! - Sincerely your fellow ENFP
*A full video based on INTJs*
Me: I see this as a win-win situation!
omg! a heart from FJ
As an INTJ all of this are painfully accurate lol
INTJ here. The "Sun's out" one is so on point😂😂 because I use an umbrella just to fetch an online delivery from the front door to the gate which is like 10 steps. I love cloudy days and everyone thinks that I'm weird.🤷♀️
I did not understand the sunny day part. But now I do. Yes cloudy days are more relaxing. I like sunny days but cloudy days are just better for thinking and sitting and reading Etc.
Thank you for helping me further understand ME.
I also don't understand seasonal affective disorder, unless we're talking August, and I honestly think if I go outside, I'm either going to sparkle or burst into flames. gray cloudy days when the sun sets at 4:00 in the afternoon in the dead of winter are so peaceful.
Honestly I love parks. But I guess I'm still hiding under sun hat and sunglass and sunscreen. Maybe INTJs do have sun aversion.
I took the sun's out part as there's going to be a lot of people out, so to avoid them, I'll be staying indoors. That's why I prefer to shop etc on crappy days 😆
I've done something like that too. But then you are allowed to call it a parasol.
LOL on the identical outfits…part of the reason my ENTJ dad liked the military: not having to figure out what to wear. In fact, before he married my mom, he faked being color blind in a store to get the lady to help match some outfits for him!! 🤣
Nice tip. Lol
😂 that’s brilliant
ENTJs may not be the most compatible with INTJs, but they're extremely respectable, for some reason.
If you look at ENTJs in pop culture, for example, you have Dr. Eggman and Brandon Rogers.
INTJ in MBTI: The Mastermind
Me: Where are my socks?
First part of the master plan is to hire someone capable of managing clothes and food.
The book, mom's call, the house thing, the news, correcting the opinions and giving smart life advices is 100% me😂❤..good job
As I (ENFJ) am dating an INTJ, can confirm, specially the "wouldn't you want to be correct?" part, oh, and the coffee part, and also the clothes part, and almost everything else... but he really improved the feelings part 😂😂😂
I don't meet people very often, but the most ENFJ fictional character I've seen so far is Charlie Magne from _Hazbin Hotel._
Yeah , I swear that I'm an INTJ and I would never regret being that type , furthermore I'm really proud , planning for the future , hating feelings and having self- confidence
I would die from a lack of sleep anytime soon for being too focused on doing stuff I like.
I'm sometimes up til' 3am to get a good laugh or work on some ideas.
I'm almost always unable to let my parents see what I'm up to due to their religion.
@Lince Matero XDDDDD
INTJ's are like INFJ's without the INFJ part.
As an INFJ I can tell you we have nothing in common, incredible, just one letter different, completely different personality, sorry guys, I think INTJs are super annoying
help i cant stop laughing at how accurate this is. ESPECIALLY. THE COFFEE ONEE
At this point I just drink coffee for the flavor.
I’ve learned that telling people their feelings are wrong is a form of emotional abuse called invalidation so now I accept the way others feel and their perspectives by acknowledging the reality they’re in, like “given the circumstances it’s understandable for you to feel/think that way but…[insert reality]”. I’ve also learned that most people don’t want to be better humans or at least aren’t receptive to constructive feedback so unless they ask I don’t waste my energy anymore and just let people live their train wreck of a life while quietly dying on the inside.
You sound like an INTJ who has matured... Or just became sick of dealing with people.
@@kuramacabre
Both!
Everyone feels at all times even when we are being logical we are still feeling some type of emotion. Doesn’t mean your decisions are emotionally driven.
Emotion is just energy in motion.
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@@sarahjane542 alr then where do u wanna start
0:17 Truly truuuuue 😂
Fun story, I asked my sisters about buying something together,
INFP: “I liked it, It looks good… let’s pay now”
Me INFJ: “Wait, I think I should do some research…”
INTJ: “that’s right”
After hours,
Me: “I read about it, it’s nice… let’s buy it “
INTJ: “ Wait, I’m still searching”
After 458754346789643 Days,
INTJ: “well, it sounds good… let’s buy it”
🤕💔
it's so accurate.. I can't think of the appropriate adjective
So true for INFJ : still hesitant, research if something better and less expensive, compare, analyse, wait the sales, buy nothing and regret it, buy and regret it too.
It's so nice you know the personality of your family members.
This is me watching netflix with friends/family. Find a movie 15 seconds in that look goods. But I say what else do they have, then proceed to look up every single movie. Then comes back a half hour later saying that first choice was good lets watch that.
“I can understand that you feel that way, but your feelings are wrong” gosh how did you know my mind😭😭
Praise for the INTJ: They make great trauma/orthopedic surgeons. If I'm busted into a hundred pieces or hemorrhaging out, I want the calm, logical INTJ giving orders as he saves my life. If I need to cry & share my boo hoo feelings afterwards, I'll go find a nice ISFJ nurse (like myself) to hold my hand 😄
as an entering medical student reading this, thanks
No, you can talk to me... just be warned that I'll tell you all your feelings emotions and opinions are wrong and that your life would be more correct if you were me.
Go for it! But don't feel coaxed to the surgical side. INTJs are furthermore predestined for internal medicine, all about abstract concepts, lab values and pathophysiology. Even introversion is not an obstacle for bein a physician/doctor.
And for studying, Ni helps a lot condensing the huge amount of facts down to easy-to-understand principles. Though anatomy was giving a hard time to me.
An INTJ-Attending physician @@squarepi2927
I have never felt more emotionally validated in my entire life 😂
This is very accurate for me, especially the "feelings" part. And, I have to be honest here, the fact that I can easily forget basic things like eating, drinking and important dates. I don't even know how I'm still alive at this point 🤷🏻♀️
We don’t say these, we think them.
INTJs, best of the best,
Everyone knows we're ahead of the rest,
Though we work in the shadows so you rarely hear us
But when you do, you'd better fear us,
'Cause we're always right, though we won't explain
The complexities inside our brains.
Behind every supervillain sits an INTJ -
They get taken down, we just get away.
We're the masterminds, we rule the Earth,
And you can't stop us 'cause we do it from birth.
It don't matter what you tell us, we do it our way,
And that is the life of an INTJ.
That's quite apt! You definitely called it!
Now that you're finished, help me find my wallet...
How long did it took you to write that down?
Superiority complex but ok.
Nice rhyming couplets; you should also try iambic pentameter. INTJ.
Cringe
The only thing wrong here is that we INTJ’s don’t have the same color outfits, we just have the same outfits. 😆
E F F I C I E N C Y
@@shoeberrypie B E E P B O O P
Mine are all the same
Well I work in the fashion industry. I have to have a variety of clothes so that people don't bother me with stupid interactions. But yea out of the job I wear anything comfortable & practical
Literally just bought the same shirt but in three different muted colors. Black, navy blue and to add a little spice, striped cream and muted orange. I will wear these shirts until they no longer exist. And under the same of two open front sweaters, either grey or navy blue.
Gay INFP here, I honestly love INTJs. They’re cold and direct and can seem heartless, but if they like you they’ll make the effort to converse with you. All the “reptilian overlord” theories do come from them often, but they’re not tinfoil hat people either. They’re also super protective but they try to teach you how to stand up for yourself. The stereotype is that INFPs should avoid INTJs at all costs, but often in stories those two hook up really well, like Adama and Roslin in BSG. If feelings develop between the two they’re gonna be intense cuz we both have Fi. But because they have Se it helps to get us out of our comfort zones and it makes them seem super sensual.
Who says INFPs should avoid INTJs? My deepest relationships have been with INFP women. And even with INFP men, we still get along fine. INFPs are more intellectual than they're given credit for.
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the scheduling of social interaction is spot on 😅
I may not plan in months, but I do plan in weeks and days. I always get weird looks from my friends when I bring an index card with everything I need to remember and do for that day while I’m looking at them wondering “do you even know what you for dinner tonight?” Also the caffeine part is very relatable, we need a stronger coffee in the world.
As an INTJ ...the first part about having your life planned out is so true😂😂😂
That quote is the very definition of my life.
As an ENFJ who likes an INTJ, this is so accurate. I just hope our next phone call is not after 6 months. But yeah, I like INTJ's bluntness and honesty and how they don't sugarcoat things even if you're feeling shitty about something. They actually make you realize and see things clearer and I need that as I am a very emotional person. I just sometimes hope I don't tire them out with my shits.
Believe me your shits is sometimes the only colour they have in their life. We are so analytical to a point of being a walking calculator, having crazy around helps us reconnect to our emotional universe.
@@thevindictive6145bro speaks factsanese
The drivers license was so spot on 🤣
I think INTJs are my favorite of all the types with INFP a close second.. I enjoy their candid nature because I can always rely on their logical nature to help me level out my emotional response to worldly crap, and since I don't like making decisions based on emotional responses and that is their default setting (like a logical guru) lol their input is generally well respected even when brutally annihilating all the feels, /:) ..although thinking about it this probably wouldn't work in their favor if they wanted a relationship... maybe?
INTJ here, completely yes, relationships are a pain to get. I can't use my usual tactic of "Think of it like chess."
It's really annoying.
@@player1641 well with an INFJ you probably could 😂 all other types not so much.
@TeekWell it makes sense, because if you don't marry someone that challenges your thinking from time to time, you evidently didn't marry your match. Nothing better than a mix of the head with the heart in a marriage.
Where are you in real life? I'm an INFP and my husband is an INTJ. Come be our friend! We have soooo much trouble making friends. Ppl just don't "get" us.... We like board games, and I'm an excellent cook 😂
@@bunny_0288 lol Cali ..but that's the best combo for friends the perfect balance of lovable and logical 😂👌
« Your feelings are wrong » 😂 That’s so accurate! I often end judging other people ‘s feeling and thinking « why this person feels this way that makes no sense! »
I'm an INFJ and I've always done the book and the explaining-why-you're-wrong things (the later often makes me feel both great and awful at the same time)
"the latter often makes me feel both great and awful"
That's the part that makes you an INFJ. An INTJ feels neither. Truth needs to be stated and falsehoods need to be unmasked. There is no personal aspect to this such that I would feel good or bad. Similarly, we don't understand emotional reactions when we point out how something is wrong. As this video states, doesn't the other person value being correct?
“Your feelings are wrong” is when I leave the chat 😂 I don’t blame anyone for feeling that way - that feeling isn’t wrong! - I can just see that we fundamentally experience reality in a different way, and likely aren’t going to have any kind of meaningful discussion. As an INFP who desires to validate everyone’s experience as true and right for them, being told my inner experience isn’t true or right can be triggering, but of course, that means it’s a chance to accept that others don’t have to validate my experience for it to be real. And vice versa! I may not “agree” with or “like” that another perceives my emotion as wrong, but I can accept that they feel that way. And recognize we have two truths that do not contradict. Thank you INTJs for furthering this practice! ❤
"INTJs just not smart enough to figure out why they can make someone uncomfortable" /j
But yeah I feel that. I like discovering different angles/perspectives and see where they came from. Even behind irrational angry man that shits on strangers you'll find a deep reason why his life came this way.
Feeling are indeed can't be "wrong" unless you have mental a disease that goes from how your brain literally different. But even that + it's still an explanation! Lmao
I have never relied on feelings. I'm Joe Friday. Just the facts mam just the facts.
INTJs have a very characteristic cause-and-effect style of reasoning, which I think could be added to your videos!
For example, “The only reason why your boss fired you is because he has to lay off the least valuable workers at a time like this. In a crisis like (insert crisis), company revenues suffer and this means his only way of protecting profits is to cut costs. This means firing people in exactly your role. Any logical person in his shoes would do the same. So there’s absolutely no reason to feel bad about being fired.”
I did that with friends at work. Didn't go down well as you can imagine. Its not like I said it to those getting fired. I said it to my friends lol
Well I wouldn’t tell them to not feel bad because at the end of the day people have bills to pay. On the other hand, if they say that they don’t feel that it’s “fair”, then I would’ve given that answer.
There is a reason to be upset though.
1. You are one of the "least valuable workers"
2. You have no job
Yeah, it's creepy how they often can't empathise with a person they are talking too. 😳Thats exactly the reasoning.
@Steve P Yeah, I get the tough love approach, but you have to read the room sometimes.
Accurate 🤣
I literally just said, "I can understand that you think that way but your idea is wrong" to my partner during an argument a few minutes ago 😆
My son is an INTJ and you literally just became him, right down to the black t-shirts! 😂
As an INTJ and a teenager, one of the most popular thing people say to me is
1. You think too much.
2. You do not speak like a teenager, you speak like a lawyer, psycologist etc.
3. HOW DID YOU KNOW??!!
I cam read what type of person you are just by looking at the face, if its a bit harder to read then with seeing few body movements i can tell, if its still hard, i not need worry, once they open theirmouth to say the smallest words i would be all set.
I am the therapist friend , or the tip giving friend who is secreatly a wizard typo friend in my firend circle
High EQ INTJ here. Rare breed. I use my gift to help people do better in life for purely altruistic reasons. Economic development strategies for future generations. I find an intense satisfaction in knowing that I influence the policies that have the biggest impact on people's livelihoods. I want people to be happy. Happy people are productive. And productivity is the meaning of life.
“Productivity is the meaning of life” 🤔 That’s an interesting perspective, never heard that before. How’d you come to that conclusion?
INTJs can justify things in multiple ways happiness is a good of its own but is also productive. INTJs can develop EQ with intuition and perspective taking, but it is aimed toward a goal rather than simply dwelling in the feelings.
That's why you have to stop drinking coffee for like a week, so it hits harder again after that. You gotta plan out your addictions better mate.
But if you stop completely you get to enjoy some very prolonged tension headaches from the withdrawal symptoms, so you have to gradually wean yourself off of it.
@@RialuCaos Nah, I go cold turkey on that shit. I don't fear pain.
"Wouldn't you prefer to be correct?" I lost it.😂