9 Things Only An INTJ Will Understand

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  • @PsychologyRefresh
    @PsychologyRefresh  2 роки тому +32

    👇You Should WATCH THIS👇
    8 Weird Habits Of An INTJ Personality Type
    ua-cam.com/video/lUwr79X56BY/v-deo.html

  • @NatureBBQ
    @NatureBBQ 2 роки тому +1348

    Relatable, as an INTJ the work that I hate the most is group work because people are incompetent

    • @PsychologyRefresh
      @PsychologyRefresh  2 роки тому +25

      Good to hear!

    • @2012International
      @2012International Рік тому +13

      Word.

    • @aalyadeorari2760
      @aalyadeorari2760 Рік тому +82

      exactly, and the worst part is we end up doing nearly all of the work and they still get the credit from the teacher

    • @shellabai8539
      @shellabai8539 Рік тому +5

      Same 😂

    • @ryuzuou
      @ryuzuou Рік тому +16

      I can relate to that. Some of my group mates are quite incompetent, so I ended up finishing the project all by myself.

  • @Luminesce07
    @Luminesce07 2 роки тому +831

    As an INTJ, I hate it when people think I’m shy or “try to bring me out of my shell”, it’s almost as if society sees being quiet and shy as synonymous with each other which is very false. If I’m minding my business please don’t talk to me. I’ve notice that as an INTJ I attract people at times when I don’t want to, like when I’m alone on my phone at work for example. Also small talk pisses me off. I work retail and it’s trash. Not staying at that job for long because I fake laugh at a good 90% of my customers jokes and not to mention the small talk is aggravating as hell.

    • @PsychologyRefresh
      @PsychologyRefresh  2 роки тому +4

      Thanks for sharing! Check out our INTJs playlist ---> bit.ly/3vUtV2A

    • @moxie5302
      @moxie5302 2 роки тому +40

      YES. exactly the same with me, i understand and relate to you completely. i HATE small talk and especially in situations like that. especially when i’m minding my own business, doing something where I CLEARLY do not want to be bothered and then people gather around me like a flock and try to have a conversation and so i’m like 😄👹👺.

    • @heibai1173
      @heibai1173 2 роки тому +19

      I think the people around me at work have just accepted that I won’t laugh at everything they say or just to “be nice”. If they speak to me, telling me something that I can tell they find humorous, I’ll give a small polite smile, then continue with my tasks.
      The trick is to give answers that are as short and vague as possible. That makes people uncomfortable and then, soon enough, you’ve trained them to stay away from you… mostly.
      I do not hate people, but I hate being AROUND people, and speaking to them? I do not exaggerate when I say I avoid it AT ALL COSTS. I only speak when it absolutely, 100%, cannot be avoided.

    • @sylviaowega3839
      @sylviaowega3839 2 роки тому +4

      As an INTP, I always find small talk irritating as hell. Also most people due to ignorance think that being shy and hating people are synonymous with each other, whilst they couldn’t be further from the truth. For starters, there are many extroverts who are shy; and many introverts like myself whom are not shy. I also don’t hate people, only that the vast majority of them are boring.

    • @CatCat-tm2cg
      @CatCat-tm2cg 2 роки тому +6

      i try to avoid conversations but sometimes people come to my desk at school and ask me why i sit at my desk for the whole recess and draw. Than i say that i enjoy it and get back to whatever i was doing. After that, they call me shy, introverted, and depressed. I ignore them, than they don’t leave me alone. JUST LEAVE ME ALONE I WOULD RATHER SPEND MY TIME DRAWING THAN TO START THE DUMBEST ARGUMENT WITH THE DUMBEST PERSON EVER

  • @jessegarnertheopinionated544
    @jessegarnertheopinionated544 Рік тому +162

    It really is a weird feeling when you have felt like no one understands you and then find out that you fit the textbook definition of this personality type. Whoever designed these groups clearly knew what they were doing.

    • @1971gift
      @1971gift 5 місяців тому +4

      Meyers-Briggs

    • @Moons_Crystal
      @Moons_Crystal 3 місяці тому +3

      Literally like I felt my whole life like people just don’t understand than boom they do understand sort of I just needed to be put in a personality group

    • @D.P.R_333
      @D.P.R_333 2 місяці тому

      yeah

    • @sloooth2703
      @sloooth2703 2 місяці тому +1

      To the T

    • @ambrozioi600
      @ambrozioi600 Місяць тому

      A ustedes les nace ser asexuales arromanticos?

  • @rb15606
    @rb15606 Рік тому +255

    I’m an INTJ, and I struggle with dealing with the incompetence of others. It gets in the way of my relationships sometimes and it’s good to try and be strict on myself, and forgiving with others, as what they do is outside of my control. I prefer to spend my time alone, expanding my knowledge, and this helps me keep improving.

    • @apextroll
      @apextroll Рік тому +7

      You are better off assuming incompetence and corruption due to humans being human, and be pleasantly surprised when not.

    • @nutmegdonkey
      @nutmegdonkey Рік тому

      What a Chad.

    • @spikeyimpact8743
      @spikeyimpact8743 Рік тому +3

      Keep low expectations for others and plan accordingly

    • @naomimaxine3509
      @naomimaxine3509 Рік тому +4

      I'm only upset when there's no improvements at all while I'm helping them in a concise way , encouraging and complimenting them at the time

    • @StephenGangi
      @StephenGangi 9 місяців тому +2

      Yes. "Lead, follow, or get out of the way"

  • @kaiisnot4u
    @kaiisnot4u Рік тому +311

    5:29 As an INTJ myself, this is very true. Just because you are older/higher in position than me, doesn't make you 'superior' automatically than I am. If you want my respect, earn it.

    • @kaiisnot4u
      @kaiisnot4u Рік тому +5

      @@LordPepe-jh5dt You did the right thing bae! Hell yeah, Respect goes both ways. And just because you're "older" or "more superior" it doesn't mean I will let you treat me like shit and treat you good. The way you treat me sets an example on how I should treat you. Kudos for standing up for yourself!!

    • @DaveM-j1n
      @DaveM-j1n Рік тому +2

      Love you. Never ever lose that attitude.

    • @BBMc107
      @BBMc107 Рік тому +5

      I have left several jobs because my boss made poor business decisions and I cannot respect a “superior” who is dumber than I am.

    • @DaveM-j1n
      @DaveM-j1n Рік тому

      Exactly. @@BBMc107

    • @MV-tf7ev
      @MV-tf7ev Рік тому

      I mean it does but ok Intjs aren't the smartest and that's apparent from this comment

  • @schnitzelhd3844
    @schnitzelhd3844 2 роки тому +549

    The problem for me (an INTJ) is that I need to have things done this way but feel miserable when I don't, which sadly happens a lot. I would also comment on "doing things efficiently", many times I can be such a perfectionist that I begin to do unnecessary stuff to make something I care about the best way as possible which consumes a lot of time and energy thus creating tasks I am not able to fulfil.

    • @PsychologyRefresh
      @PsychologyRefresh  2 роки тому +7

      Thanks for sharing! Check out our INTJs playlist ---> bit.ly/3vUtV2A

    • @brokenpixie1588
      @brokenpixie1588 2 роки тому +22

      Oh my, that is so true. I am doing that a lot and it is very easy to reach a burnout stage with this "system".

    • @pixelcode6595
      @pixelcode6595 2 роки тому +18

      So true, like when i need to do a project I always make it so much more complicated than my classmates, and as a result of that I make it way too hard to finish or to present my project.🥲😂

    • @hakochan2706
      @hakochan2706 2 роки тому +4

      OMG!
      same here,
      I always want perfection, but because of stress I can't achieve a little and this makes me very frustrated.

    • @qua7771
      @qua7771 2 роки тому +4

      Same here. I've gotten so caught up in perfectionism that nothing gets done. Sometimes the details of a project get dragged out wear me out. It beats doubling back and doing things twice.

  • @flannelpillowcase6475
    @flannelpillowcase6475 Рік тому +36

    living life as an INTJ in the US (can't attest to other countries) is like living life as an involuntary villain. especially if you're female and even more especially if you had a traumatic childhood. people will either love you or hate you, but more often will hate you and will go out of their way to make your life a living hell, and ultimately ruin your life directly and/or indirectly. so yeah, wonderful experience all around.

    • @Siyah-px2uy
      @Siyah-px2uy 3 місяці тому +3

      why? it might be because of jealousy ? Entjs are also hated

    • @evensteven8573
      @evensteven8573 Місяць тому

      I believe since INTJ are not popular, they help raise other people's social status by dissing on them.

    • @asmithr280
      @asmithr280 Місяць тому +1

      Did you watch me grow up 😅

    • @janmadsen-ki2hf
      @janmadsen-ki2hf Місяць тому

      I hate when people hate me 😂

  • @Devess
    @Devess Рік тому +32

    As an INTJ I really agreed with the video and one of the things I hate is when one of my plans doesn't go as expected or my routine is interrupted, it's a feeling that leaves me in a bad mood.

    • @FocusedFighter777
      @FocusedFighter777 5 місяців тому +2

      I have many of these traits but doesnt mean i am intj.
      People want to fit in in a category so much.
      I scored intj all the time and yet the definition changes depending on who says it.

  • @sintumolefe1918
    @sintumolefe1918 Рік тому +70

    I'm an intj University student. I stopped going to lectures because I feel like the lecturers can't teach me something that I can't learn by myself. So I really resonated with the independence part of the video. I have actually found that I get much higher grades when I teach myself. It might also be because I was taught in a homeschooling setting and thus I had to be independent and manage my time efficiently. Now I genuinely cannot stand going to lectures I find them mind numbing especially if lecture slides are provided before hand..

    • @Bee23175
      @Bee23175 Рік тому +4

      This was me after COVID 😭😭 I despised the fact I didn’t choose a virtual college.

    • @prezhenz6969
      @prezhenz6969 6 місяців тому

      OMG. I skipped my mandatory freshman conference-after-lecture class in college and still did better in the class than most of the people that liked to hear themselves speak

    • @KateSmith-h2f
      @KateSmith-h2f 3 місяці тому

      100%. I didn’t attend tutorials as they’re a waste of time. I’ll figure it out myself, no need to sit around and listen to people who “don’t get it”- that’s a you problem, not a me pr. I attended midterm and final for at least 60% of my classes. Then I discovered distance ed. in fourth year. Happiest I’d been in years- zero people to contend with, work independently, as quickly as I want. Jackpot!
      I found university to be a massive waste of time; a trained monkey can do it.

  • @eddieblake5448
    @eddieblake5448 2 роки тому +57

    As an INTJ, I see the world as it should be and when it is not, I get annoyed and irritated. I am often surprised at how few people can see what I consider self evident.

    • @PsychologyRefresh
      @PsychologyRefresh  2 роки тому +1

      Thanks for sharing!

    • @SzaboDTamas-ki4wu
      @SzaboDTamas-ki4wu 6 місяців тому +5

      Oh my god exactly. I feel like the world was built and is ran by idiots for idiots. Which actually has some truth to it lol.

    • @KateSmith-h2f
      @KateSmith-h2f 3 місяці тому

      @@SzaboDTamas-ki4wulook around- you are not wrong.

  • @MrEthos
    @MrEthos 2 роки тому +377

    INTJ Here, wow. I thought this was gonna be one of those "relatable" videos that just said some things that EVERYONE can relate to, but no. This was really accurate. Well done.
    Edit: Christ almighty this blew up, glad i related to alot of you guys!

    • @PsychologyRefresh
      @PsychologyRefresh  2 роки тому +9

      Thank you so much, check our video about weird habits of an INTJ ---> ua-cam.com/video/lUwr79X56BY/v-deo.html

    • @justabitofjunkie
      @justabitofjunkie 2 роки тому

      Perhaps you'd be interested in this thing called "horoscopes". Fucking stupid.

    • @pamelajohnson4011
      @pamelajohnson4011 2 роки тому +2

      Agreed 100%

    • @MrEthos
      @MrEthos 2 роки тому +3

      how the fuck did this blow up

    • @wilxa
      @wilxa 2 роки тому

      Fr-

  • @myeyesburn7939
    @myeyesburn7939 Рік тому +17

    All my life I've been misunderstood and and now I finally found my people.

  • @TMcGlynn23
    @TMcGlynn23 2 роки тому +150

    Dealing with the autopilot feeling at work is such a challenge. Almost every job I've held has lead to this and I start to feel trapped. Doing the same thing over and over again is torchure. I start to feel like I'm not living up to my capabilities.

    • @PsychologyRefresh
      @PsychologyRefresh  2 роки тому +3

      Thanks for sharing this!

    • @CatCat-tm2cg
      @CatCat-tm2cg 2 роки тому

      ikr routines make me go crazy

    • @haNa_0709
      @haNa_0709 2 роки тому +2

      I literally changed my career because of that

    • @MrGuttex1
      @MrGuttex1 2 роки тому +1

      Because of this feeling I'm now travelling to the United States to learn a new job, I am from Brazil and this will be a challenge!

    • @zenmarais8425
      @zenmarais8425 2 роки тому +6

      What I do is find ways to keep my mind engaged. Over the summer I had a job servicing defibrillators, and managed to hit record numbers by changing the order of the process and by using things like a second battery to allow me to do two things at once. After you reach that stage where the rules coalesce and telescope into one act - an art - look for ways to make it harder without effecting performance. In my case, I tried memorizing the defibrillator ID, and then date, and then battery date, to grow in some way (my memory in this case). Just keep pushing yourself, but try to not be too hard on yourself. Otherwise you fall into a habit of worrying about anything that MIGHT be counterproductive/ineffective.

  • @charlesp5419
    @charlesp5419 Рік тому +23

    I just did the test and I'm an INTJ, it made me understand a lot on how I function. Basic things like overanalyzing everything, being freaking stressed when I have a lot to do and no plan to achieve the work, laziness when I don't like something or when I'm not stimulated enough at school, etc. Thanks for the video

  • @wheredidileavemycell
    @wheredidileavemycell Рік тому +18

    I HATE SMALL TALK OR POINTLESS CHATTER
    I have a coworker that's generally pleasant but talks too much or unnecessarily

  • @jollyrozrandomvids
    @jollyrozrandomvids 2 роки тому +14

    People ask why I’m mad at them for doing some things differently, when actually im annoyed that its so inefficient

  • @IDoThings490
    @IDoThings490 Рік тому +4

    Especially hit with that part about enjoying quiet but natural places. I absolutely love just going on walks, I can think allI want but I also get the mental stimulation of a constantly changing background and noises so I never get bored during it

  • @lemongaming152
    @lemongaming152 2 роки тому +17

    This makes sense, I've had a lot of people tell me I "won't make a lot of friends" or that I'm "too harsh" but honestly, I get fed up with inefficient people quickly and if someone's failure consistently costs me my success, I don't really want to be friends with them.

  • @Izz_cloud
    @Izz_cloud 2 роки тому +32

    Being an INTJ I’ve never seen something that I can relate to this much and in a way it’s really comforting🙂

  • @BunterFreigeist
    @BunterFreigeist 2 роки тому +157

    I can relate to 95%. Have never seen such an accurate video like this one.

    • @PsychologyRefresh
      @PsychologyRefresh  2 роки тому +9

      Thank you so much! Check if these weird habits also apply to you ---> ua-cam.com/video/lUwr79X56BY/v-deo.html

  • @deji5665
    @deji5665 2 роки тому +33

    INTJ here, this video is very accurate.
    One thing I really hate is when someone wants to ask me for a favor and they start beating around the bush, just get to the point

    • @PsychologyRefresh
      @PsychologyRefresh  2 роки тому

      Thank you!

    • @darthlaurel
      @darthlaurel 2 роки тому +4

      I totally hate people wasting my time.

    • @qua7771
      @qua7771 2 роки тому +3

      Same here.
      If they tell me what they need I can get it, or say no if I cant. They don't need to bullshit for an hour, and make my head hurt guessing what they want.

    • @darthlaurel
      @darthlaurel 2 роки тому +3

      @@qua7771 It's usually extroverts, extroverting all over you. Why get to the point when you can tell someone a long story about yourself and waste their time?

    • @qua7771
      @qua7771 2 роки тому +2

      @@darthlaurel I try to reserve time for them after things are done, but they prefer to extrovert randomly. I'm learning that they think that they are bringing us back to reality by giving us a since of community. Essentially, this is their way of avoiding independence, and leaning on each-other for everything even when it could easily be avoided. They think being dependent is helping somehow. It's bizarre.

  • @pamelajohnson4011
    @pamelajohnson4011 2 роки тому +54

    As an INTJ personality, I like to see a video about the dark side of the personality.
    I had this big group of friends. I hung around with about 20 people. There was a person I really thought was a friend. I was very surprised when he betrayed me. Usually I can tell when's someone not really your friend and I usually avoid them. I did not overreact. Just move on with life. I was like screw it.
    But then that person who betrayed me started attacking my other friends because they were my friends.
    This crossed a line for me. Then I retelled. Not violently, I just whispered in people's ears and allowed the seed to grow. Manipulating people allowing them to believe that the idea was their own. I did not directly tell people what to do. I just simply said watch him do this. Then when he did it in front of them. Because they were paying attention to it, they came up with their own conclusion. Of course, I told them what I thought. But I let the thought grow in their own head.
    No one is this person's friend in my town they hated his guts.
    No one really knows what I did, nor do I ever need to take the responsibility or take credit for it. I don't need to win a popularity contest.
    I know people I know what they're going to do before they know they're going to do something, and I allowed for this to work in my favor.
    Has this happened to any other INTJ ???

    • @PsychologyRefresh
      @PsychologyRefresh  2 роки тому +3

      Thanks for sharing this!

    • @qua7771
      @qua7771 2 роки тому +26

      We're good at allowing enemies to get caught in their own web. That's for sure. I think it comes with intuition. We know their next move.

    • @i-..--..--..-i6985
      @i-..--..--..-i6985 2 роки тому

      The old " give them all the rope to hang themselves with" trick. Yeah. It's a classic Go To tactic along with viral marketing techniques to spread an idea. Works just about every time. For more fun but subtle techniques I'd suggest y'all look up some counter intelligence techniques books. That way you can use them if the need arises and more importantly so you'll recognize when some high functioning sociopath, psychopath, or malignant narcissist is running one of those plays against you or someone you care about.

    • @JoshuaCastillo6309
      @JoshuaCastillo6309 2 роки тому +7

      Well played. Once, I casually warned one of my enemies that I don’t tolerate bull crap from other people and that I will get physical if needed. I said this in front of my group of friends on purpose knowing that this guy would aggravate me again in front of them. (He liked to show off). He finally did and I got physical as promised. I did get in trouble with a few people except those that heard me say what I said. They defended me by saying, “Well, he did say that he retaliates and the guy should’ve taken that as a warning.” In the end, I got back at my enemy, made a statement and kept my friends.

    • @richard35791
      @richard35791 2 роки тому

      @8-Bit Andy your P and J must be slightly dominant at least 51%

  • @tylamartin5143
    @tylamartin5143 Рік тому +14

    I think I got so annoyed of people thinking I’m unemotional or rude that sometimes I just put on politeness in front of others so I don’t have to deal with their comments on my outward appearance. When I get to be around someone I truly trust I don’t put on the polite act and just let myself frown and relax cause I know they know I’m not mad.

    • @anon-tk1zg
      @anon-tk1zg 9 місяців тому

      Takes too much energy.

    • @tylamartin5143
      @tylamartin5143 8 місяців тому

      @@anon-tk1zg sure it gives me a headache and I get exhausted, but it gets better with time. Also, dealing with conflict takes more energy.

  • @ahmedalesayi5516
    @ahmedalesayi5516 Рік тому +1

    شكرًا

  • @griffcrit9905
    @griffcrit9905 Рік тому +8

    As an Intj, I do have a good amount of empathy, or at least I try my best to do so. The problem is that not everyone nowadays does and thus go off of present-nows instead of thinking how this will effect the things around them. No one wants to listen anymore and I see that as the major downfall in everything, thus why I try to get myself in an area of respect so others are more willing to listen: people will not listen to those they seem less to them but they will to those they follow, or that is what they see it as.

  • @Tom-tk3du
    @Tom-tk3du 9 місяців тому +2

    I am never bored as I am curious about everything. The more I know the better my insights. I love meeting new people because I always learn something new and interesting. People are storehouses of interesting experiences.

  • @gomezocana4802
    @gomezocana4802 2 роки тому +22

    As an INTJ, I was skeptical at first thinking, "well, this is gonna be one of those videos taking advantage of the Barnum effect to attract people and falsely relate to them."
    How the turntables, was I wrong!
    Specially with the quote, "respect must be gained."
    Well done. Great video!

    • @PsychologyRefresh
      @PsychologyRefresh  2 роки тому +1

      Thank you!

    • @rogue8903
      @rogue8903 2 роки тому +2

      I think the same everytime before I watch psychology related videos because sometimes they're not factually correct.

    • @PsychologyRefresh
      @PsychologyRefresh  2 роки тому +3

      @@rogue8903 We hope you've enjoyed our video!

    • @rogue8903
      @rogue8903 2 роки тому +1

      @@PsychologyRefresh I did! It was a very informative video❤️.

  • @kidgay3730
    @kidgay3730 2 роки тому +35

    INTJ here and am I the only one that has been slowly making a mental database that in effect turns people into a group of variables. Mainly behavioral variables. I try to keep in account emotions and it has been surprisingly helpful in my social skills because I can have a bunch of pre-planned responses for each type of person.

    • @PsychologyRefresh
      @PsychologyRefresh  2 роки тому +2

      Gotcha! This video can be helpful for you ----> ua-cam.com/video/fIaPnIjwz0M/v-deo.html

  • @dhivyamaalya
    @dhivyamaalya 2 роки тому +61

    INTJ here. I could relate to every point made in this video.

    • @PsychologyRefresh
      @PsychologyRefresh  2 роки тому +2

      Thank you! Check if you can relate to INTJs' weird habits ---> ua-cam.com/video/lUwr79X56BY/v-deo.html

    • @_Fighta_
      @_Fighta_ 2 роки тому +1

      Fr

    • @PsychologyRefresh
      @PsychologyRefresh  2 роки тому +1

      @@_Fighta_ 🇫🇷

  • @TruTrail
    @TruTrail 4 місяці тому +4

    As an INTJ, the misspelling of "authority" at 5:15 makes me insane. Fitting that it's in the "they despise incompetency" chapter.

    • @DaveBaldwin1
      @DaveBaldwin1 3 місяці тому

      Thank you. You wrote exactly what I was thinking. I think it may have been intentional. Knowing it would make us nuts, we would have to comment thus driving the algorithm.

  • @charleymingus7160
    @charleymingus7160 2 роки тому +82

    It's scary how accurate this was 👀

    • @PsychologyRefresh
      @PsychologyRefresh  2 роки тому +1

      Thanks! Check if your weird habits would be accurate as well ---> ua-cam.com/video/lUwr79X56BY/v-deo.html

    • @gggg-td5vp
      @gggg-td5vp 6 місяців тому

      I know right

  • @mel2405
    @mel2405 7 місяців тому +1

    I'm so focused on my goals, it feels like I'm not living the present. I'm living for the future, for when my goals will be achieved and I could just enjoy life

  • @x-ashkai
    @x-ashkai Рік тому +5

    This is so accurate, i am an INTJ and i completely relate to everything. Thank you for making this video, especially because it's so accurate, you've got my respect and interest.

  • @abhisheksunkale6672
    @abhisheksunkale6672 11 місяців тому +1

    The difficult part is hard to socialize
    I do a lot of good stuff and often appreciated in my job. But the problem is i feel no one with me and i am alone in the journey

  • @ThePoliticalMusician
    @ThePoliticalMusician 2 роки тому +13

    The incompetency part is spot on. I hate incompetent authorities, especially the ones that lie their asses off.

  • @evtimadimitrova5868
    @evtimadimitrova5868 10 місяців тому +1

    When I took the test ,i actually knew Nothing about my personality and when i dug in i found how much it represented me!

    • @IncredibleStan
      @IncredibleStan Місяць тому

      Same. I thought I was just so different and took the test and realized I'm not alone

  • @jiwonswifey
    @jiwonswifey Рік тому +3

    No. 3 si actually what I often answer when asked what is my weakness on job interviews. Only found out I'm an INTJ recently and now that actually made sense

  • @recherche4528
    @recherche4528 Рік тому +2

    Abhor small talk. I resent in work settings all the “niceties” that you have to play before getting down to work. I also don’t appreciate being told “my tone is problematic.” I could care less about tone. That goes both ways. If someone has a different opinion and can point out the logic of going with their strategy,I will embrace it. Just don’t blow smoke up my butt.

  • @iamkeith_
    @iamkeith_ 11 місяців тому +3

    As an INTJ, I hate the act of people who claim to be INTJ whilst they aren't 😂

    • @SunInJar
      @SunInJar 9 місяців тому

      I did personality test couple of times at different times and still got INTJ, to be honest sometimes I feel overwhelmed and think if I truly have INTJ personality since most people addressing them as "quiet, cold and smart" and that is why I'm here trying to learn more about myself through these videos.

    • @Dostoywhisky-i5t
      @Dostoywhisky-i5t 8 місяців тому

      True

  • @ViewportPlaythrough
    @ViewportPlaythrough 2 роки тому +4

    this is one of the mostly accurate intj videos that it made me feel 'read'.. a really really rare one from many videos that tries(and fails) to explain intj..
    plus the comment section is golden

  • @this_is_my_username200
    @this_is_my_username200 2 місяці тому +1

    I used to doubt that I was INTj, until I saw this video. Basically everything listed in this video is me and what I tend to struggle with. Now I know for sure that I am INTJ.

  • @PrayoshreeBasak
    @PrayoshreeBasak Рік тому +8

    As a intj female, i can relate 😌💙

  • @nimityaka
    @nimityaka 2 роки тому +2

    I almost never ask for help. Not in the office, not with friends, not with family. I have to deal with my shit on my own. I also don’t wanna bother ppl with my problems.

  • @idutchess7225
    @idutchess7225 2 роки тому +20

    TBH, what’s so surprisingly true about this video is that I have always worked my way through things top down or what some may call introverted intuition, or root cause analysis.

  • @Cuspofrevolution
    @Cuspofrevolution 3 місяці тому +1

    Hi intjs. Infp here 😊 just learning personality typology now. I always loved different personalities but never heard of mbti until recently. All the connections ive made now from my interests to my fears it all makes sense. As an infp i also suffer from overwhelming environment. Im a mum and the noise and lights can cook me, also if im bombarded with too much info dumping or multitasking. Getting better at it but i have my sanctuary to renergize. Also very independent and strive to do things on my own😊

  • @anasofiaene936
    @anasofiaene936 2 роки тому +8

    ENFJ here! You guys are the most mysterious humans I've ever seen

    • @PsychologyRefresh
      @PsychologyRefresh  2 роки тому +1

      Why do you think so?

    • @iriastuti
      @iriastuti 2 роки тому +9

      INTJ here🖐, it's a daily struggle for me to live coz most people can't understand me at all

    • @PsychologyRefresh
      @PsychologyRefresh  2 роки тому +1

      @@iriastuti How do you handle with that?

    • @iriastuti
      @iriastuti 2 роки тому +8

      @@PsychologyRefresh sometimes i just ignore them or just pretent that i doesn't bother me, but it became harder with family coz they wanted me to be like other women but won't understand that i'm different

    • @PsychologyRefresh
      @PsychologyRefresh  2 роки тому +1

      @@iriastuti Thanks for sharing!

  • @j_mart_rising
    @j_mart_rising Рік тому +2

    as a double introverted intj, its hard to show empathy or any sense of care for other people thoughts or feelings, i simplify disaprove what they say with facts and logic and becasue their feelings are incorrect to the reality they get mad at me for not accepting those false feelings, i simpily run on reality, not what you "feel"

  • @louspi
    @louspi 2 місяці тому

    Working with so many incompetent people make me enraged. I yell and get overwhelmed despite all my efforts to ignore them and to keep calm. I am so tired and so desperate about this

  • @moxie5302
    @moxie5302 2 роки тому +5

    woah, i haven’t even finished the video yet but #2 describes me perfectly. so far i relate highly with all of them.

    • @PsychologyRefresh
      @PsychologyRefresh  2 роки тому +1

      Thanks for sharing! Check out our INTJs playlist ---> bit.ly/3vUtV2A

  • @roughrosa
    @roughrosa 7 місяців тому +2

    I have allergies as an INTJ towards;
    1. Idiots
    2. Incompetents
    3. Liars/bullshitters
    All of the above will result in ‘inefficiency’ in my mind, that will hinder my goals towards world domination. 😂
    That basically sums all INTJs, I think.

  • @静离
    @静离 Рік тому +1

    I’ve been critisizing myself so much for being such a weird person. I never realize those “weird thoughts” are actually parts of an INTJ’s traits... OMGG

  • @Onions-Fear-Me
    @Onions-Fear-Me 2 роки тому +11

    I honestly don’t relate as much to the feeling misunderstood part that much because I have an INTJ father as well and we have an identical sense of humor and think similarly. I’m lucky, there are a few things though, like our inner world is different, we have different ways of accomplishing a problem, but they are always the most efficient ways we can think of. I just finished it, the autopilot description was astoundingly accurate.

    • @PsychologyRefresh
      @PsychologyRefresh  2 роки тому +1

      Interesting approach!

    • @Bee23175
      @Bee23175 Рік тому

      I have a twin with the same personality type too!

  • @-optimist-2697
    @-optimist-2697 Рік тому

    True. Everytime I start working my goal is how to learn and do the work in half of its required time.

  • @matthewdevereux1288
    @matthewdevereux1288 2 роки тому +32

    This is interesting. I started reading a couple of years about the INTJ type and it just made perfect sense to me - it was an epiphany to me to understand more about how I operate. I then did a few tests and I came out as INTJ which didn't surprise me as I had already felt an affinity with the type. It helps me to understand how I think and how to operate and the strengths and weaknesses I have and how I have always felt different from most other people (although not as different as an INTJ female who is even more rare!)

  • @sethshuemaker1395
    @sethshuemaker1395 Місяць тому +2

    As an INFJ I actually relate to some of this
    To All of the INTJs. Y'all may feel like the villains and the outcasts of the world but the world needs you. Y'all's ability to think critically and plan ahead is unmatched. Y'all are some of the main peoplr that will design our future. Don't let what mean people say or do damage you.

    • @artiglesias9317
      @artiglesias9317 28 днів тому +1

      Do not let anyone damage you ever. What the world needs, and what the world deserves are light years apart.

    • @sethshuemaker1395
      @sethshuemaker1395 28 днів тому

      @@artiglesias9317 true

  • @Jackz45
    @Jackz45 2 роки тому +32

    Very relatable and logical it sums my life up pretty well I hate incompetence and ineffiecncy and especially laziness but in my life I am unstructured and quite lazy I hate laziness but I end up being a bit lazy its hard to explain I do things lazy and then end up efficient it's weird but it works I think the word I'm looking for is methodical

    • @PsychologyRefresh
      @PsychologyRefresh  2 роки тому +1

      Thanks! Check if this playlist is accurate as well ---> bit.ly/3vUtV2A

    • @heibai1173
      @heibai1173 2 роки тому +3

      Same. Sometimes my brain is so overheated, it makes me anything BUT efficient.

    • @Jackz45
      @Jackz45 2 роки тому +1

      @@heibai1173 yea and sometimes I experience brain fog and progressive over load it's an issue I think I might have a mental illness or brain damage and I have high levels of stress even tho I'm extermly confident that's also weird

    • @heibai1173
      @heibai1173 2 роки тому

      @@Jackz45 I alphabetize things, draw, or organize my hard drives to calm down. Except, then when I go to sleep, I dream about all of my folders and I am forced to sort things in my dreams! Alas, not even in sleep does my mind find repose.

    • @Jackz45
      @Jackz45 2 роки тому

      @@heibai1173 my mind is too rapid and fast so I get insomnia but i can still function I go bed like 4:00 its hard for me cause I'm always constantly in stress and trauma

  • @joghaella9500
    @joghaella9500 Рік тому +1

    Man, this is so relatable. I left 2 jobs literally because the manager and the colleagues were absolutely incompetent. Not even because they were stupid, but they just refused to put in the effort. Or when management is one decision away from setting up a structured work environment with everyone knowing their roles, but instead they just talk about how it should be done, but don’t do it, as if waiting for some magic to happen or for someone else to create the thing they want. It’s extremely frustrating. I can’t even say that I know everything, but everyone’s just so unserious and careless.

  • @adhiesive
    @adhiesive 2 роки тому +5

    We As INTJ are Architecht to build a better future by leaving any inefficiencies behind. We move like time, always future

  • @Tropic-m7x
    @Tropic-m7x 3 дні тому

    I have never felt misunderstood, but I never feel obligated to agree with a group-or expect myself to be infallible.
    But when I sense that the purpose is not a search for the truth, I lose all interest.
    No need to rub everyone’s nose into it.

  • @DiegoBR
    @DiegoBR 2 роки тому +8

    I find out today that I'm supposed a INTJ and a lot of sh*it in my life start make sense to me.
    I've been struggling negatively with myself because I thought I was so weird. That's why I failed so many times and thought I was a failure.
    I like to create plans and turn them into methods for myself, but I found this strange. I could study things, turn them into methods, and sell. Looks good, right?
    I always had problems with my parents and I understood why. They are the "it will work, just believe me, just starts, God decides" type.
    I hate being around people like that.
    How do you fuc* know it works if you don't even has a base where you can think correctly??? Don't make sense. I thought those people was full crazy and life a big injustice. Why did I fail when those people achieved success?
    Looks like, I need to adapt to myself now.
    I'm not a failure!
    * And stop with this "it will works" without a good base.

  • @littlepurple4794
    @littlepurple4794 2 роки тому +2

    INTJ here. I can become overstimulated and it can cause anxiety but somethings that I love to do are listen to LOUD ASS MUSIC. it brings me out of my head and I can focus on what I'm doing rather than being stuck in my head.

    • @PsychologyRefresh
      @PsychologyRefresh  2 роки тому +1

      Thank you for bringing up your perspective!

    • @alleycat616
      @alleycat616 Місяць тому

      Yes! I love to physically feel the music beats

  • @Riegawa
    @Riegawa 2 роки тому +5

    As an INTJ who grew up home schooled in a family of 8...
    I do, in fact, absolutely, NOT need a plan. We would literally make things up as we go and that was that. Because I was home schooled if we wanted/needed to go somewhere we left "as soon as we were ready" at any time of the day. Day trips and mini-vacations were like that too. Dad comes home from work and decides "time for a bike ride" or we finish our homework in the morning and mom decides "Oh? well...who wants to go to the park!".
    Do I like having a plan? Yes. Do I hate it when the plan is derailed? Also yes. But I do not need a plan, I am a very go-with-the-flow INTJ *so long as a plan has not already been established.*

  • @Kravattisonni
    @Kravattisonni 4 місяці тому

    I’m 36 and did the test few days ago. Never knew anything about personality types. Got INTJ and felt bit scared and on same time relieved. Scared because of the descriptions fitting me perfectly (how few questions can tell me me exactly how I am) relieved because I know now that there is nothing wrong with me. I’ve been diagnosing myself all my life thinking that I have some sort of autism or something. Always felt different. Now I know I’m not alone.

  • @birkhatribirkhatri3816
    @birkhatribirkhatri3816 2 роки тому +4

    I am an intj girl. That's right., I just am different and I think I am different too. And also I am always in my head. Like thinking about something that I don't like..

  • @calicochuu4217
    @calicochuu4217 Рік тому +1

    My own overly detailed oriented expectations, and want to be perfect, can sometimes even piss myself off. A group work, that's torturing others and especially myself. Farewell😂

  • @tlamiczka
    @tlamiczka 2 роки тому +42

    It's great you presented not only positives but also negatives of being INTJ. Good video.
    Also - it would be interesting to see team made fully of INTJs work on some difficult problem together. Would they enhance each other's effectivness thanks to their similar analytical approach or would the cooperation of several introverted and strict people have problem with creating proper "team jell" (without some extroverted mediator)?

    • @PsychologyRefresh
      @PsychologyRefresh  2 роки тому +6

      Great suggestion!

    • @llcoffee
      @llcoffee 2 роки тому +6

      I think the solution would never get done because everyone will check after everyone just to be sure everything is done right.

    • @allanbumby7261
      @allanbumby7261 Рік тому +2

      If they are a group of INTJs who trust each other and are friends then it is probably one of the most efficient and creative and intelligent groups of people you will come across. If not, then it falls apart extremely quickly.

    • @syebethel
      @syebethel Рік тому +1

      I think, as long as jealousy doesn't creep in, or the stakes very high (million-dollar prize, say), it wd be marvelous to watch such a project unfold.
      Trick is: to get / find a good number of the 2% INTJs together with the subject knowledge, who aren't currently (secretly) world dominating! 🤔😂

    • @johnphelps7519
      @johnphelps7519 Рік тому +1

      I think it would work just fine, with a good chance of providing superior results.... PROVIDED the group as a whole assigned one member to the leadership role, with it being understood by all that this person has the function of moving the geoup forward.

  • @Voltron21
    @Voltron21 Рік тому +1

    Omg someone recently told me to smile, why do i look so serious, why dont you talk. Its the most annoying thing and I've heard it my whole life. I'm not some dancing monkey here for your entertainment.
    But one thing i have learned to do as an INTJ is find people who demonstrate competency and trust them since i sort of have to as a people manager.

  • @stolkn
    @stolkn 2 роки тому +8

    As an INTJ i can relate very much.

    • @PsychologyRefresh
      @PsychologyRefresh  2 роки тому +2

      Great! Check if you can relate to these weird habits ---> ua-cam.com/video/lUwr79X56BY/v-deo.html

  • @TMS2020
    @TMS2020 10 місяців тому +1

    This describes me perfectly.

  • @heibai1173
    @heibai1173 2 роки тому +4

    Yes to everything. Except, I COULD complete my work tasks quicker, but I have to strategically stall and time my tasks in order to make it last till the last hour, cause I need money. 😑

  • @EpisodeAnon27
    @EpisodeAnon27 Рік тому

    I became a subscriber just today. The content you're uploading is accurate and I'm INTJ-T.

  • @geostol
    @geostol 2 роки тому +3

    A someone who is an INTJ-T all of this is very true to me and probably others with the same personality type as me.

    • @PsychologyRefresh
      @PsychologyRefresh  2 роки тому +1

      Yes! Check out if this is true for you ---> ua-cam.com/video/lUwr79X56BY/v-deo.html

  • @wilxa
    @wilxa 2 роки тому +2

    I was just nodding my head throughout the video 🙌

  • @MikeScott55
    @MikeScott55 2 роки тому +3

    My motto that my wife now has adopted is “backups for backups”. Everything I do has to have a second and third option by design.

  • @graceamsterdam5404
    @graceamsterdam5404 5 місяців тому

    Wowwwww you nailed it with the career and the incompetent bosses!!! Nightmare-ish career in corporate… what a waste of my time and talent.
    My first reaction at my first job: ‘huhhh do people gat paid this much to do this little’ 😂. Should have been a huge red flag for me.

  • @myaim3300
    @myaim3300 2 роки тому +4

    Wow I can relate to the whole points. Now I kind of feel like I've become a typical intj 🤣

  • @lilianagonzalez-jarquin9086
    @lilianagonzalez-jarquin9086 Рік тому +1

    Does anyone else when they have too much task just to think of all the step they have to do make them stop ?

  • @shiro9821
    @shiro9821 2 роки тому +6

    I no longer expect high from people. I've been disappointed by a lot.

  • @The-witty-kitty
    @The-witty-kitty Рік тому +1

    This whole video is the first actually relateable intj video i've seen

  • @santikamd5653
    @santikamd5653 2 роки тому +4

    This video is accurate. But reading all the comments, makes me feel not alone to be an INTJ.

  • @aylon1678
    @aylon1678 Рік тому

    I hear that “smile more” from my dad every day. Such a frustrating thing

  • @chaoticstudent1815
    @chaoticstudent1815 2 роки тому +9

    Now I see why ENFPs and INTJs fit together that well. The INTJ works quite fine where the ENFP fails and the other way around even though they could have the same thought at the same moment. And they share some things. I'm ENFP and one of the few things that would enrage me are inefficiency and incompetence. I may have more patience when people are in a position in which I don't expect them to know of the things in front of them, but if they are in a position in which they should know what to do and I'm facing plain incompetence and inefficieny, my blood starts boiling quite fast while being overly sarcastic and direct. I even understand the "hate to work on autopilot". I need challenges, I love knowledge. Independency is also a big thing for me, but I want to achieve it with someone together, since I absolutely love to see others succeed, too.
    I love lone strolls through woods and fields, too, even though I enjoy having people around me most times.

    • @PsychologyRefresh
      @PsychologyRefresh  2 роки тому +2

      Great comment!

    • @haNa_0709
      @haNa_0709 2 роки тому +3

      No wonder me an INTJ who gets attracted to every enfp's I meet and get along so well with them. ENFPs are the only people who understand my INTJs thoughts and behaviour!

  • @ain9158
    @ain9158 9 місяців тому

    I thought that i am the weird one. My husband always told me so. Sometimes i show no emotion. I hate when my someone blabbering on trivial matter or emotional one. Just look at the logical and reasonable method men! And i dont give respect to people based on their seniority or superiority. But now I realize INTJ is my personality. Yes, the rare INTJ women. Thank you for your video. Done subscribed.

  • @iboughtjiminsstolenjamfor337
    @iboughtjiminsstolenjamfor337 2 роки тому +21

    Being an INTJ i can relate 99% with this 😌

    • @PsychologyRefresh
      @PsychologyRefresh  2 роки тому +1

      Great to hear! Check if you can relate to this ---> ua-cam.com/video/fIaPnIjwz0M/v-deo.html

    • @Nai_101
      @Nai_101 2 роки тому

      Cuz nothing is 100% certain?

  • @rizalali7307
    @rizalali7307 2 місяці тому

    I took MBTI test when I was in middle school, it turned that I am an INTJ. And I can relate to everything what this video says, thank you for understanding us. ❤

  • @al0rraa
    @al0rraa Рік тому +4

    As an INTJ all of those points that you mentioned are strongly valid .

  • @CerisMoonlight
    @CerisMoonlight Рік тому

    I'm an INTJ and I almost burst laughing when I heard about the incompetency. I have complained out loud using the word incompetency. "Can they just quit being incompetent and inefficient?!" -Me.

  • @LittleYoki
    @LittleYoki Рік тому +11

    Don’t tell me Elon is an INTJ

    • @Metallicazor
      @Metallicazor 2 місяці тому +2

      Thats comically evident to me as an INTJ

    • @Winterborn5
      @Winterborn5 Місяць тому +3

      He is. No doubt about it. His problem is his ego has gotten away from him. Having endless access to cash made him arrogant and removed most of the natural “limits” the rest of us have. An INTJ with no respect for limitations is damn near unstoppable.

  • @the-LeoKnightus
    @the-LeoKnightus Рік тому

    I bounce back and forth between introverted and extroverted. But definitely an intuitive, thinker, judger. Biggest advice I can give is to not take life so seriously.

  • @nabihafatima444
    @nabihafatima444 Рік тому +6

    I am an intj still at school, and I have been in complete stress because of over-stimulation from loud high-school drama and the constant city bustling. I am all of these things but i despise myself as i cannot embrace my own personality. I fake laugh a lot and I am nice to people which isn't the real me(people still dislike me). it makes me more upset to see movie characters who are intjs being classic and emotionless.

  • @NekoJoyT
    @NekoJoyT Рік тому +1

    I´m an INTJ, and I felt related to all of them

  • @xinyiwang1525
    @xinyiwang1525 2 роки тому +3

    Just turned to be intj from ENTJ, I can relate to all these points, however, some look like the trait in an extreme form. It looks like an extreme version of intj or the real real intj. I feel that i am these traits but to to that much extend.

  • @andrijaknezevic9401
    @andrijaknezevic9401 Рік тому +1

    I didn't believe before in this personality types but when it showed itself how useful it is I tried to take a test. I am INTJ so I thought what is so special that I am rare. And when I saw this video it's all coming together from these facts to my experience. About predicting future is surely true for me. I am a guy who doesn't like that much teamwork and likes to ask myself questions and being alone to refresh my mind. Others thought being alone is bad for me but I see it like peacful time with myself.

  • @wecallhimchristwist
    @wecallhimchristwist 2 роки тому +30

    As an INTJ, I want to know if there is a natural connection between INTJs and OCD? I have always had OCD, and it became a much bigger part of my life after my TBI (traumatic brain injury). I hope that I will get some useful comments from people who know about this.

    • @PsychologyRefresh
      @PsychologyRefresh  2 роки тому +4

      We are do not have the knowledge about this connection, but it is very interesting topic. Do you have any take on that?

    • @wecallhimchristwist
      @wecallhimchristwist 2 роки тому +7

      @@PsychologyRefresh As an INTJ with OCD, I am always worried about the future. My deepest core thought is "am I safe." I take this to a very unhealthy level, and then I need my compulsive action to make me feel protected, even though I am very consciously aware that this compulsive reaction isn't actually why I am safe. Now, I have been working on this part of myself for years, using CBT (cognitive-behavioral therapy). It has a lot less power over me than it used to have, but I have to remember that the reality is what is happening right now. OCD is a version of feeling trapped in our own heads. I get obsessive, using loops of thoughts that usually don't change very much. As a person with OCD, I get so deep in my own thoughts that I don't open up to the actual world around me. Parts of this video talk about this part of an INTJ, as people who love our alone time, but at the same time, it can also give us too much time to focus on unhealthy thoughts, to be too connected with our personal minds and not enough with the world around us. This is just my personal story, though. A personal story is different from having facts to connect OCD with people with INTJ. I would be very interested to see if there is any information about this. I also think that this might be an interesting video in the future. I would love to talk with you about making this video.

    • @PsychologyRefresh
      @PsychologyRefresh  2 роки тому +1

      @@wecallhimchristwist Definitely we will consider this type of video and thank you very much for sharing all of this!

    • @Luminesce07
      @Luminesce07 2 роки тому +11

      I’m an INTJ and I have intense ocd. My intrusive thoughts come in many forms so it’s a long story but I can relate. I think it’s our introverted intuition.

    • @wecallhimchristwist
      @wecallhimchristwist 2 роки тому +3

      @@Luminesce07 thank you for connecting with your story. I have learned that there are 4 happy chemical in our brain. People with OCD have a lack of Serotonin, a chemical that makes us feel safe and confident in ourselves.

  • @aceofspades9503
    @aceofspades9503 6 місяців тому

    INTJ- my biggest pet peeve and the surest way to send me into a meltdown: have an event planned, everything set, all the people informed of the time, place, and what they need to have done before they show up.......all that taken care of, and then have a person suddenly say "Hey, how about we do it this other way instead!"

    • @YouTuber1303
      @YouTuber1303 5 місяців тому

      I cant describe to you how accurately I feel the same about this. It's like you shone a lazer at the moon and hit the bullseye on a target I placed there. I once took the time to plan a massive work social thing between dozens of staff (rare for me to even bother) and someone did this last second, persuading everyone to change the plan. You can imagine how happy I was about that.

    • @aceofspades9503
      @aceofspades9503 5 місяців тому

      @@UA-camr1303 Totally sympathize- that really sucks. And people never really see how much WORK goes into that planning- much of the time, things are so well planned that it seems effortless, and no one is really aware of what it took to get there.

  • @anormaldude127
    @anormaldude127 2 роки тому +3

    yes the word "SPONTANIUS" dosen't exist for me, there is always a resson for it to "HAPPEN"

    • @ViewportPlaythrough
      @ViewportPlaythrough 2 роки тому

      and hate it when other people push "spontaneity" in my life, thinking it would make me happy.
      then they would get upset with me when i get upset with them because of shoving their "spontaneity" on me

    • @anormaldude127
      @anormaldude127 2 роки тому +1

      @@ViewportPlaythrough offfff yea i feel you.
      My big sister told me to get more friends, and i asked: how many do you want me to have!? (cuz i had like 2-3 friends) She responded: 5 or 10. And I like: ??? what?

    • @PsychologyRefresh
      @PsychologyRefresh  2 роки тому +1

      Alright!

  • @JJ-rp2df
    @JJ-rp2df Рік тому

    To work well with incompetence is considered being a good team player but so hard to do as an INTJ

  • @cosmok783
    @cosmok783 2 роки тому +5

    From this video most of it is true and I’ve been called cold or a villain by some people because of how I am but it is what it is and I tend to analyse and break things down but things that are interesting to break down tho and I plan ahead for my future

    • @PsychologyRefresh
      @PsychologyRefresh  2 роки тому +1

      Check out what is true about you with this video ---> ua-cam.com/video/N0Op1R8V6KE/v-deo.html

  • @mikemcgown6362
    @mikemcgown6362 Рік тому

    Spot on! Every point is valid.