Beauty vlogger Shalom Blac on never being in a relationship
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- Опубліковано 14 жов 2018
- Shalom Blac is a fashion and beauty vlogger, and her makeup tutorials on UA-cam are as inspiring as they are fabulous. Blac is a burn survivor, and admits to struggling with self-love in the past. Watch her talk about her struggles with being in a relationship and learning to embrace vulnerability. “Unfiltered” is a video series of from The Lily and the Washington Post that asks UA-camrs to share a story their followers haven’t heard before.
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I'm 22 and guys dont even really look at me, let alone pursue any relationship with me. You're not alone, Shalom! We are beautiful. And love will find us somehow, some day.
Same
I feel like women can look past a man's looks if he's genuinely a good guy, funny with great morals. Men on the other hand seem to not even give you a chance if something about your appearance is slightly off. Shalom Blac is gorgeous and talented. So many excellent things in store for her.
Janelle Rose yup ugly and cute guys are like this.
I see one too many good looking self motivated wealthy or on there way to wealth black men with sloppy Rosanne Barr looking white women... miss me with that.
She’s young I had my first boyfriend at 23. I hope she finds someone the really cares and loves her, she seems like a person.❤️
Same here..I had my first boyfriend at 24. Late bloomer lol..
torontoo another Christmas alone, and I’ll be turning 30 next year. I’ve never experienced being loved, never had a bf. All the men I’ve come across only want to sleep with me, they’ll never say I want to know what days you are off so I can take you out, grab a cup of coffee, so we can get to know each other. It’s always come over, the first week after taking my number. It’s hard for me sometimes, for example my brother is with his girlfriend for Xmas, my sister, and I’m in bed alone. I don’t know what it is about me, I don’t know if I’m possessed by a bad spirit that makes men running away from me. At this point I’m thinking about starting planning for option two, which is adoption. Let’s be honest, when am I going to my first child??? At 40😢
Bella Aldama you’re husband is coming sooner than you know it. Do you believe in Jesus? Have you tried praying and fasting for a number of days you can handle and present your request to God. Only do this if you’re serious and READY
@@Xena395 aww sweetie, things will surely work out don't worry.
Press Play don’t laugh 😂, but I have no idea what fasting for a number of days is. Can you please elaborate
Girl same... 22 and never experienced love. I don’t even know what that is? Boyfriend? Can’t relate 😂😩
saammee and I'm 21!!
bummy Same, but I’m 20!
Wow, boys really don’t know what they’re missing Huh? 🤔 we are gems!
You’re not missing much honestly
SAME !
I'm 29 and all my relationships have been pure trash lol. You have time my dear
Girl 😮😂🤣 No Bs! All my relationships were trash af too! They have left internal scars. I am now healing those scars and learning to finally love myself! I am finding my strength, independence and solitude with in self. Learning to be alone with out being lonely! Some days are harder then others but it's totally worth it! May GOD bless us all with someone who genuinely loves us and respects us! There are to many people in relationships that don't need to be. I'm not ready for a relationship and that's ok.
Shalom Blac is beautiful! Her channel in amazing, and she's so talented! I wish her love and happiness.💜
This honestly broke my heart. She is extremely beautiful and I'm not only saying that to be nice.
It's a shame that people are very cruel. Everyone deserves to love and be loved. You are a beautiful young lady inside and out. I told my daughter that scars are the badges we carry from the war of living. Every one is unique to it's owner. There is someone who is deserving of you out there.
I’ve never been in a relationship either and I’m 21 years old. And I have experienced the same exact feeling, where I don’t understand why the guys I talk don’t want to take me out! But remember girl it takes a special kind of men to love a strong women.
I'm 36 and never been in a real relationship and trust your outside has nothing to do with it. It's just that many men will try to get what they want without having to lift a finger if you allow it. It's about selfishness and lack of self love on their part. They dont love themselves so they cant love you or receive love in a healthy way.
This came up in my feed after watching a video of hers yesterday where she is married and now pregnant❤❤❤ so happy she found love in her life and is welcoming even more. Blessings to her, she seems like a beautiful soul
Shalom Blac is so so gorgeous and I can tell she has a beautiful spirit. She inspires me. 😍😍
Girl, chase after God, the right guy will chase you.
Amen take it from me got to let you know he'll bring the right one to you when you are ready and that God will meet you exactly where you are seek ye first the kingdom of God and his righteousness and all the other things will be added Matthew 6 + 33
Marian Nimoh AMEN
Amen!!
I believe someone will love you endlessly!!! You’re a beautiful women and have a beautiful heart! In due time 💜
I love this girl so much😭
I understand that everyone is just telling her to love herself first and be her own source of happiness, which is good! But how do you know she's not already doing that? This is purely her saying how she feels and things may bother her regardless of whether or not she's working on herself
TwistoutBeauty lthank you for saying that cause man these comments
she is just the perfect definition of beauty
You are beautiful. I have scars too. They make you so unique. Please never be ashamed of them, those guys who won't take you out properly *keep rejecting them*. I didn't notice any scarring until you said something, doll. What you are doing is the right most healthy thing. Not everyone deserves your love or your time, especially if they are too shallow to understand. They'd only be miserable. I believe in you.
She is not a "doll". You cannot be supportive and condescending at the same time.
@@paintedpony2935 stop trying to be offended about something.
Her scars are more noticeable without makeup. No shade just saying... so maybe that’s what she meant. I’ve been following her on UA-cam for a while.
really liked this of her speaking n she is not alone! i never been in love, felt loved, just Love n I'm 27 years old. had fun here n there butt never been in a serious committed relationship that's healthy
Such a beautiful woman. Inside and out. ❤❤❤❤
Man that’s so sad!!! I hope God sends her someone who TRULEY knows her worth like she does and Who 100% love her no matter what. Love isn’t scary lust and bad intentions are...love is always beautiful and great.
Bless you, Shalom. Many of us experience this, at ALL ages and stages of life. It is absolutely not about appearance, because even on YT there are people in every physical situation who are in relationships. Keep your standards HIGH, my dear, and keep loving and deeply caring for yourself every minute. You are, (we all are) treasures whether we have boyfriends or not. I'm proud of your wisdom at such a young age. Lots of love from the Netherlands.
This just made me teary eyed.
The last time I was in a relationship was way way back in 2013. So I can totally relate with you, even more so.
One should always keep one's own source of happiness within oneself only. Don't handover that source to somebody else. You're beautiful, you're awesome. Just Be You, fir yourself and not for anybody else.
Being single is better, no one will ever cheat on you or let you down 👍🏼
True . However, you have to move past that at one point in your life.
Well are we supposed to impregnate ourselves?! Just kidding but be careful with that independent mindset it will rob you of joy of experiencing love through community.
BlessedandRedeemed I mean there’s always adoption
@@kacyk7824 I love your comment. Would you mind expounding on this cause I was single since 2010 when mg ex husband and I broke up. I stayed single and celibate.Then got in a relationship with an old h.s. friend in 2015 he broke up with me based on the fact that he said he wants where he needed to be in life for me. Which he wasn't. Had a lot of maturity to do and would so immature things financially like spending most of his pay check money on gamer things. Gamer conventions and the latest game systems. He wasn't good with his money, saving for what's most important. And we In our early 30's so you know that's kinda ridiculous. He didn't wanna let me go but knew that would be the right thing to do cause he knows I'm wifey material. So after that break up I had a nervous breakdown and feel like I was in so much peace when I was single and celibate for years. Took a chance into opening my heart again and got damaged. So I truly do feel peace being single. So would love your advice on 'moving past" that thought.. I also dont like generalizing. I know its good men out there. I had a good man. He just had stuff to get together and I do hope we find ourselves back to each other one day. I do think with some men it takes them a little while to realize what they want and what actually really matters. Sometimes it takes them going through the ho faise and getting things out their system. I don't know I know this went all over the place but I appreciated your comment
@@angelofmery21 I'm so sorry you had to go through all of that. It is indeed a difficult situation and u understand at one point, you feel giving your heart to another man might be a waste of time . It might take several trials for a person to get certain skills in life, same goes to a relationship . I for one feel the need to be sincere when getting in a relationship. You might have a genuine reason for loving someone but that person in turn might not. I wouldn't advice you to give up, there is always someone out there for us, and when you find that genuine love, it will feel different. Just try to move past any bad relationship and try to embrace anyone that comes being careful. Somethings break us while some mend us. Unless you let go, so can you move forward for yesterday is not ours to recover but tomorrow is ours to win.
Good luck !!
Love Shalom, she’s beautiful inside & out!! Such a sweet person 💗
38 years old never been in a relationship . It plays on your mental and will have you self esteem super low . I just keep hope alive but, deep down I know I will eventually be a golden girl .
I’m so proud of you. Naija no de carry last. You’ve thought me a lot. Thanks for having your courage.
I'm 27 I know my love is on the way. I would get a lil desperate and break my dating rules. Every time I almost cross that line, the guy would show me earlier on as to why I have my rules. For me, I have to get out and socialize more. I'm always at home.
Same here!! I’m 25, never been in love before either but at this point in my life I refuse to settle for anything less than what I deserve. I do have faith that the right guy is out there for me!
@@rachxoxo18 it's also why I'm celibate. It weeds out a lot of ain't 💩 men. So I don't take it personally either when the relationship ends early. There are a lot of people using sex as a weapon or leverage or a settling tool.
Exactly, I'm until marriage as well. Soul ties are real. Also, your connection with your significant other grows deeper when sex is not the center point of the relationship. It's a journey but I believe its hope out there for us.
Shalom blac is a woman with the hearts of gold, a woman with inspirations and a beautiful woman indeed. You will find your love soon sweetheart
Shalom is very beautiful not even saying that because she's a survivor. But like she's actually really pretty, she has nice eye shape and a cute shaped head. Like she's gorgeous
I can understand how you are feeling. Stop thinking it will never happen because it will. He will love you with the wig, the make up, the burns, the way your body is shaped, the way you laugh, the way you talk, for your character, your business savvy, your intelligence, for the self-love and confidence you have. Just open your heart and leave it open. You already know how to weed them out. You will meet someone who is genuine. Put it out there to the universe if that’s what you want. Then get out of your own way meaning your own head
Be Strong ❤️ God Bless❤️
Aww shalom my heart goes out to you. You are truly beautiful! Do not ever let any guy make you feel less than and you are right...if they are embarrassed to be seen with you...they shouldn't see you at all!! That's right baby girl,take a stand! You have so much to offer and the right guy would be honored to have you. Take care sweets💕
i am 24 years old darling and also never been in a relationship, and i would love to experiment love 2.
Love Shalom so so much!! ❤️❤️❤️
Sweetness, you're beautiful inside out❤Don't worry, the best is yet to come😘😘😘
You are a beautiful, talented and great person. Don´t let other people’s ignorant opinions affect you.
Beautiful inside and out. Your time will come for that real loving relationship. You're so young. God bless you!
Girl your burns made you stronger and you learned earlier in life about wanting real love. Most women with scars, burns or any other issues face the same thing.
Shalom, let me start out by saying that I just love you ❤️! You are truly an inspiration to all, especially me! Your catch phrase is Remember to be your own kind of beautiful! I want to ask you to continue being beautiful not only on the inside but also on the Outside!!!! Blessings to you and thank you for sharing your story.❤️
Just from the title... she’s about to speak my life. I love her. Absolutely beautiful inside and out. I’m 29 and this is so my life.
Same!And she's so beautiful, I love her authenticity!
You are gorgeous.💕 Has nothing to do with looks. You haven't met a man yet.
Rhys Porter her scars are more noticeable without makeup so maybe that’s what she meant. Regardless she is still beautiful those are very shallow men.
Rhys Porter Say it again for the people in the back to hear! 👍🏽
@@ItsMyLifeDaralynn girl I know right! That's exactly what it is! She hasn't met a man yet. It's plenty of F boys out here.
She is extraordinarily beautiful no cap and is so deserving of love like I admire this girl and all that she embodies I’m glad she exists and was bold enough to put herself on this often time daunting platform ❤️ she personifies strength
Thank you for sharing your story. YOU are truly beautiful inside and out and your story is inspirational ❤️
They blind sis, your beautiful ❤❤ let no one tell u different
The beautiful Shalom Black!!! I love her
I love this. ❤️
Love u shalmon😍 all the way from trinidad🇹🇹🇹🇹
You are amazing!!and so so pretty ❤️❤️❤️
I love the control you have on your own story! Everything I’ve heard, read, and learned about you and your story has been from YOUR mouth. You own your audience sis, and I am here for it. 🙃
She's so gorgeous with and without makeup! Love her! The right one will come along that will appreciate you. Take time to do you love.
So beautiful 😭❤️
Thank u Shalom thanks for speaking your truth i am sharing u are the definition of beauty
Shalom Blac blessings YOU ARE gorgeous inside out!!
This girl is amazing.
Shalom, you are eternally beautiful inside and out. Forever an inspiration.
Shalom makes me love her more and more ❤️
I LOVE SHALOM SO MUCH❤️❤️ she’s so amazing and beautiful 🤧
This made me wanna cry. She’s so beautiful
I without a doubt believe that someone out there will love her unconditionally ♥️
Oh yes! I love this girl!💙
Soo inspiring!!❤️❤️❤️❤️
I love her strength not many had...
She is so beautiful! ❤
Love her 💕 sweet spirit
I love you....I have been learning from you for a while now ~ you are truly amazing, beautiful, funny and talented. I enjoy you so much ...just keep doing you babe, the right people will show up in your life and stay ❤️🥰👍🏽😊😜
Relationships these days ain't worth it baby girl... The dating world is scary... 10 months still single... You're a beautiful human being you'll find love one day and the man will show you off...there's somebody for everyone 💖💕
Sending you love🌻🌍❤ from South Africa
She's so young ♥️♥️...there's no standard for beauty... She's beautiful
Hun you are BEAUTIFUL, you will MEET and FIND someone who will LOVE YOU! Its only a MATTER of time. I love your confidence🤗
Shalom blac is so beautiful💙💚💚
You are young, very young. With you coming into your woman hood, you will attract a confident man that will love you regardless of what others think.❤️
Girl ur gorgeous!!
This was powerful
This is why women are competitive towards one another , fighting for a mans attention and tearing one another down. I know this isn’t what the video is about but it came to mind . I won’t say all men are shallow , I’d never broad stroke because that’s unfair. Let’s just say there are a lot of men that are shallow. Men are naturally visual . Some like women before they physically meet them. It’s simply based on looks. Of course some of the most prettiest women have the nastiest attitudes . Due to some men being visual it takes time and maturity to see a women from the inside out first.
You’re doing right, don’t sell yourself short to be used like a 🚗. One day someone is going to realize your beauty inside and out . Don’t force it, but you’ll know. Real men knows a real woman when they see one. You haven’t met a real man yet. 😘
how can women compete with one another over men's attention when men are are very specific about who exactly they like?
That's how women are wired lol. Accept it.
@@mindingmybusiness6309 I know. That's the majority of women.
Allison Mcinnis When has that stopped anyone from trying ? Do you watch the News or read articles where women try to force themselves upon men? Come on now ...
drew erving You know the thoughts and feelings of the majority of women all over the world? That’s amazing !
I really do love her
Shalom, you are gorgeous. Get to know and love yourself before you anyone else to enter your sacred space.
I went through the same sadness about being alone and when you really least expect it it will come hun!
She’s very beautiful 😍
She’s sooo pretty I swear😩😍
I love you so much!! Your so beautiful. Amazing you are!!💗💗
I love her and any man who lands you will be lucky indeed. Yessss, Shalom 🇳🇬😍
You are such a beautiful person💞💖
I’m damn near 20 years old and never had a boyfriend lmao time is ticking
Honestly you're still very young.
Ha girl don’t worry I’m 23 🤷🏾♀️ live ur best life! Just graduated college and can’t wait for what the future unfolds 🙇🏿♀️
You good! Live your best life!
I believe God brings the perfect mate for you. Self love will bring someone that will love you for you. I pray that she finds true love and happiness.
I had my first real boyfriend at 24, 6 years after I left highschool, so girl..... Just be patient and the right person for you will come along.
Your amazing💕
She is so beautiful 🥰❤️
Shalom!!!!😍😍😍😍
You are beautiful keep moving forward in your love journey & the right man will find you👍🏾
Love you sis
*QUEEN*
You are beautiful no matter what 💕
Dear shalom, we are now Best friends. 😍😍 girl I love you so much.
She’s very pretty❤️
i just love you😭😭you so beautiful😍
Awww 🥰!!
Baby girl you are beautiful, don’t ever forget that. ✨✨✨✨❤️