Why More Older Men Are Choosing the Single Life
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The old saying;"happy wife happy life" is getting replaced with "happy life no wife" for a peaceful retirement. 😊
It should be happy husband happy life.
Lol...yeah we have spoiled them
@RunsWithKnives yep...they have given away our testicles to another body
The RISK is no longer worth the REWARDS.
I think the major reason is the expat only has amount of dollars for himself only not including
@billy
Do the benefits outweigh the downsides? Everything in life is a trade off.
Most women are simply never fully content long term, and they will tear your life apart to try and find happiness elsewhere. By the time you are even aware something is seriously wrong, they have already made up their minds and its too late, a story told time and time again.
@@bobhunsicker8852 … your probably right for most expats. We retire on our pensions and social security and some of us have other incomes but from what I saw many were retired military with military pensions and maybe social security but not always as some still had a few years to wait until they were 62. A fixed retirement income may be all an expat needs to live comfortably but may not be enough to provide for a family too.
I’ve been to the Philippines, not impressed. Currently in Thailand ……Better Food, better prospects!
Never again I've been divorced twice
Amateur! My friend's mom has been divorced 5 times.
@@MyLifeThai371 lol!
Same here. Same pattern of behaviour. No point of getting marry at this age. I’m enjoying being single and dating
@@MyLifeThai371 some people are just slow learners.....
Those guys that don't want to get married are smart. It's wonderful to do what you want to, eat whatever food you want, or basically relax at home. Nothing better than a stress free life no matter where you live.
exactly, its not a flip thing, its anywhere, these local B have police & courts at their bek n call all over the world
I'll choose single life every time!
I am divorced, and a retired Canadian living now in Mexico. I have seen my share of retired expat guys fall in love with Mexican women only to have the rug pulled out from under them later on.
I'm single, I'm happy, no need to change! 🙂
sure, i have a Quinta down in Nicaragua, not going to move anyone in, they could try to Confiscare the property, so no
I personally just love being able to do what I want when I want. I get to prioritize my interests. It’s great!
For myself, being retired means freedom. I lived in the Philippines after I retired for 4 years and had a couple different live in girl friends. No freedom! I mean zero! You can’t walk out of the house alone with being accused of cheating. Money…they will give your last cent to their family and think nothing of it or if they have kids (my first girlfriend did) nothing but the best! Private school, only the most expensive clothes and the kids were very destructive, breaking down new furniture by walking on it. If I was to go back, I’d never have another girlfriend, not even a maid or cook. I’d never even allow a Filipina inside my house. I couldn’t even go to the gym 4 doors down the street without either being accused or her dad showing up on his tricycle watching to make sure I was alone. Yeah, I liked it over there, liked the expats, occasional beer and the weather. Liked watching people shoot pool was nice. Being badgered and constantly asking for more and more money for her family or accusing of cheating is no life.
Remain single, and have a #rotation with honesty.
🎯
sounds pretty awful and I can understand how that would make you pretty reticent to jump back in the pool. Still, keeping no Filipinos or Filipinas in your household is a sad reaction. How is that I've managed the good rltnshp--and many others? Good luck!
Thank you for you insight just recently loss my wife and I miss her but now to do what I want is revitalizing and it is a new chapter and no drama
sure, but must b giving off vibes of a sucker, they only do that to certain men, build up ur street personality cause this will happen wherever u go in the world
Single and Free is the way to be! ~ AceBachelorCool
Cool because you are!
Married or otherwise, if you're not happy being alone then you never will be.
Relationship require so much compromise and sacrifice even if they are successful. Personally after being divorced for years and enduring the rigors of single parenthood for almost two decades, I simply don't want to sacrifice or compromise with anyone. Is that selfish? I don't think so. I'm 57, hope to be retired by 60. When I retire the last thing I want is to risk my hard earned peace of mind or my hard earned $$$. I've worked so hard to earn both. Wherever I retire I will be looking for a good quality of life. A woman can fuck that up in no time. Simply not worth the risk.
It's going that way these days, men want more respect and time for themselves without having the money and life sucked out of them.
exactly, its worse for me, i Inherited all my grandparents & parents Estates, therefore i cant get involved, never, its lonely at the top, its just the way it is, its my Cross to bear
Unless you want to squander you money away. Stay single enjoy the environment and culture
Family is the foundation of society
Now, once you have been through the disaster of marriage, 1 has the right to decide their path.
Retired at 39 with a lot of assets. I snowbird in cebu for almost 6 months a year and get a temporary gf every time I come over. I refuse to risk my lifestyle on a potential divorce and half my things. The juice is not worth the squeeze. As my dad told me a long time ago: " turn them upside down, they all look the same"
Well done!
They might look the same upside down but they don’t smell and taste the same.
It's all pink on the inside.
Having a girlfriend who lives with you or getting married is like adopting a child. All with the risk of losing everything early birds That's fine If not better stay single
Don't you worry about catching spots?
I totally agree with Gio. For me marriage is what I wanted but under 2 conditions: I marry in the Philippines, and I have a solid prenup to cover my behind just in case. I told her no prenup, no marriage. She’s ok with that and she understands what it means
I intend to retire over there. I have no intention to risk that retirement for the sake of a relationship.
You can go about it 2 ways, find a woman who has a Male child already and live in a de facto relationship or even marry.
Or live free and and choose who you want to be by your side.
DON'T do what I did and marry a single mum with daughters, biggest mistake of my life.
😒 its all talk, let me actually see what u do when u land
Not me. I want to have babies and start a warm family of my own someday. Their are so many men nowadays becoming dads for the first time in their mid 50's. Never too late to start a family.
😒 if u meed Progeny uhm ok
Marriage in the West is til wife gets bored do us part. Divorce is almost universally "no fault." Custody and child support is a rigged game - most lawyers advise you to give up your kids or be financially ruined.
Fine. No thank you.
Marriage in SEA is still meaningful to most people. If you can overcome your (well-earned) bitterness, it's possible still to find the 1950s Leave it to Beaver relationship. Just don't be mistaken: if you want a traditional woman, you have to fulfill the protector and provider role, be gentle and generous to your woman and children. Some of the clowns who go to thai or ph and act like rockstars on a bender, then moan about not finding nice, marriagable girls when they're only looking in the bars and brothels is utterly astounding!
yeah, I guess it's a good point, i've probably been looking in the wrong places, which i guess also includes fb nowadays
i'd have no problem with being the provider and i don't have very high demands on my partners, i mean they should mind me if im providing, it's just a given in my book, something i'd never give up. As for keeping a house and what not, i'm not very demanding, no cockroaches in the food, i guess that's my limit
don't know if i'm misinformed, but according to one woman i dated, when they move in, after a few days they won't mind you at all, they'll just turn into manipulative b-s, no matter what they've said before. what the local guys do, according to her, is they beat them into behaving somewhat ok, apparently it's ok for them as long as there are no blue eyes, she even had an english word for it that i never heard before
well fine, i guess i could do that, but that's not really how i saw a new relationship to be when im in my older years
im also pretty sure ppl wouldn't be so accepting if it's a western guy doin' it, so im not gonna go there
i guess stayin' single is the best option, 'til i find an angel, hope it'll be while im still on the ground though ☺️
@@nows1567 Yes. You should definitely stay single, sir.
😏 shiii im not looking to b a traditional little soy boy f dat
Women will drive you nuts......
@@Chris-gi9ch A lot of Americans going over there have been married 3 times 😆
No pun intended
So true GIO. You don't have to get married, there are More woman in the Philippines. Take your time.❤
😒 setup a Harrm & Coral
Being retired and gone through the marriage and kids thing. Why would I take my hard earned income and peace of mind, and trade it in to fulfill HER dreams. The dream wedding, 2 Kids and all her family moving in, or asking for money constantly. Most are uneducated and poor as well. Ain't worth the trouble guys. Date!
Gio, there are a lot of benefits for both sides of the situation. Single, do what you want, when you want. All of your money is under your control. Married, you have someone to help you whenever you are sick or injured. You also have someone to share your happiness and your sorrow.
😒 no benefit, if ur a Landownder u can do all of that without a stupid mujer in the house
Why buy when you can lease.
sure, man up & be a Patron, hire a housekeeper & handyman & security & freelancers instead, my Quinta is never without someone around 😅
I've been in the Philippines for 2.5 years and have a long-term gf. However, I have no plans to get married.
Yessss, me either. Relationships are great but no marriage for me.
Keep it that way
She has the plans. Plans change..
How are you going to explain that to her lol
as long as shes not in the house ur golden, they always change their minds, when u see that get rid of the b
Just finished a frozen pizza and my first beer. About to wash it all down with a second beer while watching the Vikings play (probably lose) football on this fine Sunday afternoon. After the game maybe a bike ride and then some video games. Ahhh a perfect Sunday afternoon. No one asking me for money. No family to visit in the provinces while riding a crowded bus with no Air Conditioning.
Western culture has finally caught up to the Philippines. Thank you TIC TOC thank you Instagram thank you toxic social media.
Tiktok origins are in China. In fact most of Asia is more obsessed with it. Don't throw shade at western people
@@youngandfree93TikTok is completely different in china
@@TravelingTanga you think? It’s that simple is it?
@@youngandfree93 Social media ruined the west long before tiktok came lmao
😒 its Progress, get with the Times
No marriage needed for me, and doesn’t have anything to do with my two divorces. In the final quarter of my life, it’s all about peace, quiet, freedom, and contentment. If she can deal with that, she is welcome to hang out for a free lunch, dinner, movie, and a little help along the way. My life, my rules. My kingdom, and I’m the King. Sounds awful doesn’t it? Not really. I’m no longer in the game. I’d rather have a few close friends at this point than a wife.
Its a no brainer. I just got back from Leon, Mexico, where as a 67 year old, I had Sophia (20), Andrea (24), and Dulce (20) for $15 US each, no strings attached...
LivinLife 👑
you'd pay a bit more here in the Philippines but not as much as the States
@@chrisjuricichxl5 Hmmm... so, at EDSA say (in Manila), or a freelancer in Angeles, or Cebu, what would basic short time cost these days? (It has been a long time since I was last in Philippines!)
😒👍 vry fair prices
😊 Nicaragua its similar, i hear SEA is way overpriced compared to Latin America
not giving women access to my hard earned assets ... just enjoying living and traveling without dramas
I love my wife, but wouldn’t get married again. So much opportunities for Westerners. But then people will call u a creep. Still, the PI is a great country to find that special person
Gio, I agree with you Sincerely,
Some of us are very traditional in our values of marriage.
Nothing wrong with that.
Thanks, Ray
Exactly.
I have a filipina partner. She is 21 years younger than me. I am 69. The worry for me is that death is not far away. I will just have to try to stay healthy.
When ready for a date or go on a week adventure; I text a girlfriend the evening before meeting the next day. One of the two girlfriends are always available.
you explained admirably what one book called a “relationship time bomb”
I spent 6 years in the US Marines and that experience shaped the way I look at things. Seen too many guys get screwed over by women. I'm in my 50s now and single. I have a good job and house is paid off. Thinking about buying a new 2025 BMW M4 which is a $100K car. So, life is good! Thinking about fully retiring in a few years though. I think I'll make my move to Asia when retired. I'll have my fun and will be very careful about how I handle money once in the PI. Blows my mind to see so many guys get financially ruined. Use common sense, men!
Well said. I"m in a long term marriage but respect your choices.
Don't get the M4 get a used M850i xDrive Coupe. It's amazing. Used is much better the depreciation on a new luxury BMW is crazy . A friend has a M850i, I've got an older M3 fun fun fun!
@@spiraling69 it's a way of life for females & the government did this to our Nation. They destroyed our symbiotic relationship that's gone on since the beginning of pair bonding. Outrageous
Do not spend $100K on a car, you will be happy for a few months and then the novelty is gone, much better things to spend that spare cash on.
@@Battleneter I left Cal sold my Porsche 911 and truck.., I live in Columbia and when I’m back in the states, I rent/Turo the track model Porsche 911 GT by the week or the month it’s better than owning a depreciating asset! If it flies floats or F’s lease it. 🟣🎱🟣 ‼️ 📍Medellin Colombia 🇨🇴 #NewRich! 🛩️💃🏾💃🏾🕺🏾
I was one of them......
I had a girlfriend my first 1,5 year, 6 months of sorrows, now i get a new whenever i need sometimes for a week sometimes for a month or two, much better life now 😅
It's not worth the trouble to carry around an expensive wife or girlfriend
When a Filipina tells her friends she is dating a foreigner the the first question they will be asked is "When are you getting married?" the second question is "When are you having a baby?"
Second question comes even if "We're not" is the answer to the first question? :)
So different than in the U.S.A. "Your getting married. Your GF must be pregnant?" lol
@@MyLifeThai371 Try story..... and her baby is from some random guy she's been doing behind your back.
*The third question is "How much is he sending your family?"*
the baby is from some kid in the barrio or her cousin 😅
Depends on what generation you are. The baby boomers grew up in a different era. If you're a gen x or younger it's a whole different ball game. Having a traditional wife was never a thing for younger generations as 90% of households are 2 income homes and never witnessed a trad family. Secondly, I've done all my own cooking, cleaning, laundry my entire life it's not hard work. And now if you're living in the PH's you're mostly retired and have all the time in the world to do it. If you're working online or just don't like doing it, hiring someone to do the domestic chores is more than affordable and way cheaper than having a live in headache.
I am a Millennial and completely agree. The boomer generation and us don't mix at all. We have nothing in common with boomers. 😊
Times changed a lot, I am a boomers, people were more happy as today. I still believe in real love, but people don't want to scarify anymore. If you find a good soul you can be very happy in your life. I so happy already for 25 years with my wife, to be alone is just nothing for me😀😀
You are correct about getting divorced in your home country and getting it registered in the PI. Even for the Filipina, as long as it’s the foreigner who files for the divorce in his home country, the Filipina can then register the divorce there and she will be considered single as though the marriage was annulled in the PI and she can marry again in the Philippines. If it’s the Filipina who files for the divorce in the foreigners country then she will still be considered married under Philippines law.
Social media has really affected the dating game in a negative way since the early 2010s. If men actually knew how a lot of these women behave in this day and age they would run away from any serious relationships or marriages. The only way you should get involved with a woman if you actually do a background check and you know for certain she doesn’t engage in any red flag behavior and is not addicted to the social media. Men would be surprised at how many vacation boyfriends a some foreign women have.
For most of my life, I worked my ass off to support my family. It didn’t work out for me 2 times. Women can’t get enough. Now I live in Panama where women are equal like in the Philippines. I do have a girlfriend for now 4 years. But holy. If she comes the wrong way, I don’t play games anymore. I can’t say how often I just said: If you don’t like it, just hit the road! I never ever said that before in my life. You know why I say it now? I am not a family “entertainer” anymore. I had no problem if one day she hits the road. I can stay alone by myself. Less stress and problems. Be careful that women in Latin America or Asia just look at you as the walking bank machine. I had this here in Panama too. Especially if you think you have to run around with a 20 year young baby girl. She isn’t with you for love.
I’m 15 months from retirement and up until a few months ago, I thought the best way to go was date online, have a LDR Filipina, and be able to jump right in bed once I get to the Philippines on my vacation…
But slowly my opinion has changed, and I don’t want to be tied down right now. I think I prefer to meet a Filipina organically when I’m there…at the gym, at the mall, at the market.
The other benefit of not getting tied down is, when I stop on my way to the Philippines in Dubai or in Thailand, I don’t have to feel like I’m cheating if I meet someone…
I still eventually want to have a steady girl, and possibly get married, but that’s after a bit of time.
Either way, I can’t wait for the next 15 months to happen!
god on you, mate...hope you like it here.
Lots of women in the US. Moving to the Philippines for the tropical fruit and beaches. If a relationship happens, cool ❤
Retired expat living in Thailand 6 1/2 years.
Not me. Have a great Thai partner
All good. Plenty of travel, adventures and great times.
Me too. In Thailand with Thai partner 2 years, no marriage. Same as you, so far all good. This year Vietnam twice, Malaysia, Philippines. No offloading issues, great food, infrastructure.
it’s too expensive getting married or involved in a long term relationship
Many people value their individual freedom over that now
😏 exactly, most men are Slaves
For me I'm moving to Duma for the cost of living, plain and simple. I'm spending $4K a month here or mortgage, utils, gas, food, and entertainment. In the PH, I know I can successfully do that for less then $1500 a month. Now if I find a GF down there, so much the better.
Since you have to buy a plane ticket anyway. Why not go to Thailand for a month or two first. Look online check out a few cities. Decide where to go and just have a little vacation before you go to the philippines. If you're moving there for a better standard of living please consider this. At the worst you got to vacatin a beautiful country. Strong possibility when you step off the plane in the Philippines.Your first thought will be God.I missed thailand
@@marchoman1776 i first visited Thailand in 1987. since moving to the Philippines, i've been there half a dozen times either on my own or with my wife and always had a good time.
AxelSixySix in the comments has it right. Alot of us come over here to keep it simple, enjoy the rest of our lives and be able and willing to walk away from our stuff if need be, great motto and rules to live by as we are visitors here and the rules can and do change. Marriage is traditional but also a Trap for men, my opinion. I choose a long term live in relationship but no marriage and no kids. I'm 68, she is 52 cute, sexy, fun, agreeable, 2 kids grown and out of the house. 2 years, So far so good. Their is no one size fits all but good luck finding your size. Smiles.
Agreed!
I could say i was lucky by choosing well. I’m divorced new yorker with no alimony payments, no child payments, kept my home …she was a good woman and did her own. Just not a good partner. I’ve been fortunate dating here even as an old guy. So my tastes has not been jaded by life. I do hope for a wife, but want to find good company above all. Not a cook, cleaner or sex partner. A good person i’d enjoy traveling or being with. I agree with gio. Finding a good woman to love, and her loving me for who i am is important for the complementary aspects and mutual respect.
Stop recommending Prenups. For a Prenup to be valid, you have to disclose all your assets, their location and their value to your Filipina and possibly her family, Doing so in the PH is dangerous. Do a Trust instead and you don't have to disclose anything to anyone.
A far better solution is what I call a "No Nup". It works 100% of the time.
@@markadler8968 I've been married to 'my' Filipina since 1985, now retired here in the Philippines. Were I ever to be available due to widowhood or divorce, I'd spend a good deal of time sowing some wild rice but eventually would want to settle in with a pleasant, attractive gal. Not sure I'd want to marry again.
At 68 I really don’t need marriage in my future and even thinking about a lifetime partner has to be something that comes over time, not something to rush into. Better to be single, and surround yourself with great friends, 😊
From my experience, computerize = wife's choice. Please keep up the wonderful work.
My reason is all these girls just want a free ride and so the heck with it I’ll play that game as well
Not to many faithful girls with the ones I’ve spoken with
Peace, quiet, and freedom. Most Pinays are for recreational use only
99,98 % are for recreational use. ( then you don't get insane! ) Just play and pay!
the last sentence is pathetic.
Many men have been married several times in their own country, and the fact is that Filipino women are shying away from marriage because of the divorce issue in the philippines. Many Filipinas already have a child or children and don't want anymore and just want a man in their lives who can show them a good time and want to have fun. A lot of Filipinas are separated and not single yet want to just date as they can't get married, and that can be dangerous for a foreign man if their husband still has an interest in them .
Best thing don't have to put up with Tampo 😂😂
I'm here to get some affirmation for my choice of being alone..
Even here in the USA I do get approached at my gym or the grocery store and I'm less handsome than you. we're not as invisible in Michigan as what you saw on vacation here, I understand men feeling this way, it's not always a good deal for men and yes saying "no to it all" is a peaceful way to live even here. you have an exception wife, so I see your side of this too and I could see myself in a marriage where the biggest problem is pizza or Thai food. but for now, the road is better alone
Nice to see someone else who lives in Michigan commenting here. I feel less alone now.
Interesting topic ... even a lot of the younger people in their 20's don't want to get married here in China. Also, in South Korea and Japan people want to remain single and have freedom. The times have really changed.
Hello there,
I would like to know from you the following please:
Which one is a better marriage choice overall in the Philippines...a civil or church wedding?
Thank you.
Civil is quicker and has fewer requirements.
Thank you for your reply. It would be nice if one day you could do an informative video about the above-mentioned issue for the general public to watch.
Thank you again
I have a video on Maya and I marrying and the whole process and also on my website.
I am referring to the specific differences, and requirements between (civil & church) weddings in the Philippines, and what might be a better option of the two for an expat to go with.
When my wife in Malaysia ask me what i want to eat I say I don't care and she does not like that. I just don't care.
She's probably tired of deciding every day. Surprise her occasionally.
@@gregwil694 She is a very famous actress and I am a scientist. A pill would do.
I'll never get that drunk and stupid again !! Renting company for the evening and being alone the next morning is so peaceful, beyond words...
😏 i prefer they stay over, in the morning she can help the housekeeper with all the things that need to get done around the Quinta
I choose to be married part time 3 or 4 days a week travel 4 months a year. 80% alone Dont want 24/7 marriage.
Yeah I'm a single guy here in the Philippines Gio I like it that way I can do what I want and don't have to compromise with anyone and I usually take naps in the afternoon It's freedom for me
I think these older guys are tired of seeing these horror stories of Filipinas ripping expats off. Marriage today isn't a thing. The juice isn't worth the squeeze anymore 🤨
Yeah, the older dude that are SIMPS and so happy to get their willy wet that they lead with their wallets. I don't feel bad for any of them. There's thousands of videos warning them before they come here. Their stupidity should be mocked and laughed at and then maybe it would stop. If you get scammed here it's because you didn't do your due diligence and guard your finances.
I look forward to taking that risk of getting married. When All my friends were getting married in the late 20's early 30's I was still focused on my job and having a secure job so whoever I would marry would not have to worry. Well it wasn't very far into my 30's when all the available women were divorced and had young kids. So I missed the boat the first time around. Looking forward to the second chance.
I appreciate this on a basic level for the simpler life. However you get what you get. I would rather date someone for a long term period of time for the trust factor and less drama. Ironic, but the hard truth is you get what type of partner you get with the amount of effort you put in. TBH it is not easy, but I would choose harder with someone.
I don’t trust marriage. Women change their mind.
I’ll have to look into the Philippines annulment laws.
Correct Filipina in the Philippines is changing, too. Their hypergamy is creeping up Western style.
No need to look up Annulment laws in the Philippines. Very hard to get and expensive. You can go to your home country and get a divorce if needed. Best not to get married in the first place as far as I am concerned. Been there done that.
It will cost you aroun 10K USD...
I tend to agree with the person you spoke to if it happens naturally great but there's no need to force something into place that doesn't need to be forced into place if it's natural and it feels right yeah but otherwise Keep On Keepin On
Hello! And thank you for your constant nice and informative videos on very interesting topics that deal with the Philippines and Dumagete! I really like your choice of residence, I also want to live in an apartment with the possibility of using a swimming pool in Dumaguete! May I ask the name of your Resort in Dumaguete? Greetings Jon from Norway!
Freedom from guilt is bliss😅
Getting too risky here to hook up. Mine passed from Cancer. I think I’m one and done. Gonna pay for the retirement visa.
live-in gf or married, to me you'd start with living together, and when you've done it for a year or two and it works, you can marry. I'd have a prenup but also write a will, so she's protected financially if something happens.
you have to find a lady that fits first though, my experience so far is, if their looks aren't great, they seem to have decent personalities. the ones I've met that's been young and pretty though, wow, totally different, they may look like innocent schoolgirls, but may still be users to the extent it often backfires on themselves, i've never seen anything like it before
yes, some pretty, young girls here are poor, i'd say, that's not really the case in the west anymore, so it's a difference. Some of the pretty ones you meet here seem to be morally broke though, not just financially. but I guess there are lots that are great, they just don't reach out to expats, like the others do
the question is how to find the good ones
The reason why older men are choosing the single life is because they have been watching UA-cam videos about all the horror-stories of guys being murdered, robbed, cheated, jailed, scammed in PH, and they just don't want that to happen to them. It is a good decision on their part.
sure, youtube takes down those videos, its a big coverup, south east asia is a ghetto, be careful
What I noticed over in the Phillipines is that they values westerner’s in a relationship as a business deal, your gonna pay for her, her family, her friends, her vacations, the extra cost for a bigger apartment for 2 people and the electric, wifi, basically her whole existence. For what? To be accused 5 times a day of cheating, them being insecure and wrecking the mood several times a day, tampo, ect ect… that’s what we are all trying to get away from… I suggest use the Philippines just like they look at us, business. Get a new girl every week, cheaper, more fun, no commitments, and enjoy and use the country to reflect how they treat us. They estimate 5k women leave Philippines every day to live overseas getting married. This helps their government in many ways. If the marriage rate goes down I more than guarantee the visas will change, they will scream for westerns to live and spend money there. Play the game boys, just remember apart from all the west does for them, “we are just visitor” show the country the respect they show us, get a new lady every week.
It seems it is nearly impossible for me to marry a Filipina... I was married to a Filipina 10 years, she filed for divorce here in USA and left me. So, inquiry in Philippines shows Cenamar listing I am still married-so unable to marry in Philippines. Further investigation shows that I will be unable to file a fiancé visa for a Filipina because the Filipina filed for divorce whereas if I had filed for the divorce I could bring a Filipina to USA to marry.... SO, i am stuck to being single, even if I move to Philippines. But I can have girlfriends/mistresses etc. GO FIGURE!
You should have never brought your wife back to the USA. Girls all get big ideas when they enter the USA. She used you and moved on.
what? that cant be right, what difference does it make who filed for the divorce, if you are legally divorced you can remarry.
As far as I can see that's a good thing for you. I don't see it as being stuck at all.
Never take your Filipina back to your first world nation.... A huge risk!
who wants a dependent? even if you think you do, if you find the "dream" , chances are it isn't as good as the fantasy.
Cheaper to Rent than Own
I’m not exactly sure what qualifies as an "older guy"-whether it’s about having a certain kind of character or just crossing some arbitrary age line.
Before we dive in, let me just make it clear that I genuinely value traditional values, especially family. After all, it's the glue holding society together. The points I’m about to make are purely factual-objective, unemotional. But, let’s be honest, the refusal to settle down or start a family boils down to three key reasons.
The first one’s easy: refusing to financially support a woman and kids. Look, it’s simple math. Every additional person means multiplying the budget, and past experiences probably didn’t show a great return on investment, whether that’s in terms of affection, respect, or just basic appreciation. You can only spend so much on dinners and school fees before you start wondering, "What exactly am I getting out of this?"
The second point is even more practical: responsibility. This one’s global. The moment a man shares his life with a woman, he silently agrees to take on every job imaginable-he’s a psychologist, a banker, a bodyguard, a mechanic, a plumber. And in all this, who’s solving his problems? Exactly. No one. He’s on his own. Not everyone’s born to be a Samaritan, and even if they are, when there’s no reciprocity, it leaves you feeling lonelier than ever. "Let’s share the load," they say. Except the load-sharing often ends up feeling like you’re carrying the lot.
Lastly-and you mentioned this in your video-freedom. This is key. A man who’s spent his life supporting a household, solving everyone else’s problems, often without a word of gratitude, finally gets his freedom back. Free to control his schedule, his budget, his life. And if he married young, he’s suddenly discovering this well of energy and peace he never knew existed-once the weight of responsibility and financial strain is lifted. The relief is so massive, it’s no wonder he’s not ready to take on that burden again. Especially when the return on investment, as mentioned earlier, is often... lacking.
Sure, let’s say the Philippines is an exception where local partners offer limitless love, affection, and loyalty. Let’s assume that. But can they really take on a significant part of the household problems? Because, come on, giving someone your laundry to wash isn’t exactly going to break the bank. Neither is paying for a cleaner, especially if you’re living alone. Cooking? That’s an hour a day, max, and a full meal in town costs less than 200PHP. We’re not talking back-breaking tasks here. So unless you’re someone who’s bored out of their mind being alone, the real added value of a relationship comes down to love and intimacy. Meanwhile, the impact on your budget and schedule? Yeah, that’s significant.
In conclusion, even in the Philippines, finding a partner who doesn’t add stress, doesn’t hijack your schedule, solves a meaningful part of household issues, while also being an intimacy champion and a stellar companion, well... that's a tough equation to balance. And that’s not even touching the budget, which, let’s face it, is an issue no matter where you are.
Spot on.... I've been married a couple times. Learned a lot. You are so right it comes down to Financial, Responsibility, and Freedom. The three reasons I did not have kids but I did get married couple times. Now knowing what I know the juice is usually not worth the squeeze, no more marriage for me but a great relationship is good. The unicorn you describe in conclusion is not out there. Smiles.
very well put and 100% correct, Cheers :)
If you're 60+ you're officially an old guy 😂
@@youngandfree93I see guys in their teens or 20s every day, doing nothing but standing around all day with their mouths open in front of a screen. To me, that’s what being old really looks like. Age is just a number, and some lucky ones never grow old. Being old depends on what you get done and how quick your brain still is. And by the way, I’m not 60+.
Lots of man bashing going on nowadays
I have wonderful girlfiend over there i met 15 years ago no issuses not married im gone away for 4 months at time never issuse lucky i guess great blog by the way of course been married you have better visa control that in the news lately too😮😮
At fit age 80, I’ve enjoyed during the past 3 years sharing joy happiness and love with 33 & 40 years old svelte fit Medellin, Colombia girlfriends; and a 50 year old Cebu girlfriend. The Cebu girlfriend meets me in Illinois, USA.
I think some older men aren't either willing or able to fight the prejudice against them. This is called early death. 😅
It is easy to have a fling or gig in Thailand once a month for years.
Yeah man when are you going up to Angeles City and do a Vlogger of the developments of the Clark Hospital--We hear, Heard that the Clark Hospital is going to be turned into a Museum. Will it be this year or next year. We are waiting Gio..
I'm getting to that point myself. I have found out that a tourist life in the Philippines is rather attractive than having a wife or girlfriend. massage therapist can do just as much now as a girlfriend and much cheaper with extra services you know what i mean.
STD will scare some men, the pendulum will swing back into favouring marriage
@@tedrobertson1344 they have no gov stats on HIV little testing. They hate condoms and sex is even less taboo than in the west. What do you think your chances are of getting a life changing STD are? No thank you
What are the child support laws in the Philippines? Is it based on a %?
i agree. many men have paid to high a price in past...
Same vibe for us older dudes in Thailand.
Thanks for Video...guess I'm old fashioned...long term and marriage is what I will look for there.
I am 50 and i stopped looking. Women feel entitled and possessive. Girlfriend, yes!! I am not signing any papers anymore!! The system is against men!! If you know of any woman that is interested in an arrangement like that send her my way.
Pretty simple, the dating world has become too toxic; no longer worth the investment.
Is that your pool in your condo, or is it a shared apartment building pool?
Shared between 5 units. Empty 90% of the time.
staying single means ive learned that marriage is a horror show, period. im 61 and im done playiing their game.
sure, Rocky Horrow Show =)
There are lots of women today are ok not getting married, so there’s less reason to mark these days. Many don’t want kids as well, so there’s a lot of choice to do what you want to do there
If you're in a good happy marriage with a loving and supportive affectionate non argumentative woman (like many Filipinas are) than life can be great. If that's not the case, much better to remain single! Fortunately I'm in the former group and love being with my Filipina wife
Geo don’t confuse married with comfort of ‘the girl being there’ and ‘holding hands into their 80’.
They just want their inner peace. They don't need to put up with the BS either in the matrix or even in Asia. It's called #MGTOW 😊. I am MGTOW here in Europe since 2014 best decision ever.
in Thailand you don't even need a girlfriend because of so many massage parlors provide services.
I'm 62 I'm staying single enjoy my poor retirement. I think don't move to Philippe will be good. If you live near too poor people will rob you. Is that barr wire above your wall.