Check Yourself - Accountability | Charlie Johnson | TEDxNormal

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  • @peterchristian5886
    @peterchristian5886 5 років тому +347

    Self accountability is a powerful thing. If you cannot or do not hold yourself accountable, you will not be successful at holding others accountable.

    • @ahmedsalafap5898
      @ahmedsalafap5898 4 роки тому +4

      truth .

    • @paromita_ghosh
      @paromita_ghosh Рік тому +1

      True

    • @ciaralee9760
      @ciaralee9760 Рік тому

      Yeh I'm really bad at both , I just want to be a better person . I just don't who I am right now . I used to be proud of who I was . I was not anyone special but I was real I loved and I had a good heart . I was a good person . 😢 I'm so upset with myself and I just want to show I'm better instead of feel immensely sorry

  • @smileyparto
    @smileyparto Рік тому +34

    I'm 35, and I recently realised that I've been blaming a lot of people, situations and external factors for where I am in life.
    My determination is to combine self care with personal accountability to reach my goal and improve my personal outlook.

  • @beckwilde
    @beckwilde 4 роки тому +108

    "someone asked me the other day, if i've ever figured out why i was depressed when i was younger. as much as i would've hated to admit at the time, all i wanted was to make my parents proud. and every time i failed or let them down, it was easier to say that it was some fundamental part of me that i couldn't change than acknowledge the mountain of change i was going to have to overcome to be happy."

  • @laurendurden5018
    @laurendurden5018 3 роки тому +102

    I’m watching this video to find some kind of enlightenment on my lack of self accountability. I’m 19 struggling with baggage & trauma from my past & it’s effecting my relationships with family & the man who to be life partners with. I wish everyone growth who’s struggling as well

    • @charlesjohnson4210
      @charlesjohnson4210 3 роки тому +17

      Progress is slow. Ask for help. Focus on one thing at a time. Give yourself grace without lowering you expectations. Be honest, write down what you want, write down when you fail. Failure is supposed to hurt, that's why we try so hard to avoid it. Appreciate progress and success, its supposed to feel good.

    • @madclone84
      @madclone84 3 роки тому +2

      I never asked for help. Started at 15. Hit rock bottom at 20. Instead of finding a shovel I started climbing. 👍🏽. Progress is slow but as long as you do one thing a day to improve you will

    • @lukehumes2402
      @lukehumes2402 2 роки тому

      I am

    • @AshleyB-xh1qh
      @AshleyB-xh1qh Рік тому +1

      You should also watch will smith's fault vs responsibility video! I wish I'd have seen it when I was younger!

  • @Thatdudeorbit
    @Thatdudeorbit 4 роки тому +90

    when you said all I wanted to do is make my parents proud that hit home bro

    • @scottsponaas
      @scottsponaas 3 роки тому +14

      When you said “that hit home bro” that hit home bro

    • @jahidlm7910
      @jahidlm7910 3 роки тому +1

      I cant take you seriously with that pfp💀

    • @aniketbagul4970
      @aniketbagul4970 3 роки тому

      @@jahidlm7910 why

    • @user356x84c
      @user356x84c 2 роки тому +1

      @@scottsponaas wheb you said that hit home that hit home and that hits home with a hot hamburger and peas and fries and a large soda and 2 numba 45's

    • @scottsponaas
      @scottsponaas 2 роки тому +1

      @@user356x84c bro, hearing you say what you just said hits home harder than Aaron Judge hits home after hitting a home run. It didn’t just hit my home, but like a door to door salesman, it hit every home in my neighborhood. I’ve gotta hit it homie, but I’ll hit you up when I get home.

  • @amohammed5
    @amohammed5 6 років тому +78

    It is called evolving. How do you grow if don't conquer your flaws? Being selfless and liberating yourself from opinions and learning how to be vulnerable is how you get there.

  • @nate7249
    @nate7249 3 роки тому +14

    "It was easier to say that it was some fundamental part of me that I couldn't change than acknowledge the mountain of change I was gonna have to overcome to be happy"

  • @randommode3016
    @randommode3016 3 роки тому +16

    5:18 "and if you were to ask him is there a goal in your life that you're working towards right now, he would say yes. But, you look at where he is now vs where he was six month ago, he's in worse place now. And if you look a year ago, the change is even more drastic. The hardest part about change is acknowledging that we have to do it. Admitting to ourselves that the actions were doing are not gonna lead us to where we want to go"

  • @Kristiana-mb9lk
    @Kristiana-mb9lk 3 роки тому +11

    I take account for my actions that have influenced the suffering of others.

  • @JJ-cl5wv
    @JJ-cl5wv 2 роки тому +13

    Loved and needed this. Thank you God thank you Jesus!

    • @OuterRimPride
      @OuterRimPride 2 роки тому +2

      the speaker's name is Charlie Johnson

  • @jt6264
    @jt6264 5 років тому +79

    I broke down during this video because I realize how changes I have to makes as person I don’t know how but I’m willing to make the changes and sacrifices to become a better person even though it will take adversity and many challenges

  • @tylercaskey1931
    @tylercaskey1931 9 місяців тому

    This video randomly popped up and I clicked on it. It was like going to church after a week of having something on your mind and the pastor was talking about you. Nice.

  • @thrashersplinter
    @thrashersplinter 2 роки тому +10

    I AM four months sober after an injury and an od that almost took my life. I am grateful for this video I could feel the connection. Thank you ☮️💛

  • @Magne1
    @Magne1 4 роки тому +24

    Yes, being open to change and development is so important.

  • @mendalz
    @mendalz 3 роки тому +7

    The first two minutes feels like he’s describing my life. I needed this reminder right now.
    Thank you for this video.

  • @PinkYellowGreen2023
    @PinkYellowGreen2023 Рік тому +2

    Accountability is the ultimate grown up move that many never make. To acknowledge the role you played in a situation good or bad is to show empathy for yourself and others. It means to realize that the facade of always being right is just that - a facade. To so many Americans,being accountable for the way their actions effect others is a lesson never learned!!

  • @TonettaClay
    @TonettaClay 2 роки тому +9

    A great message. Holding yourself accountable and taking responsibility is one of the major keys in life. Thanks for this video. It's helping me think about some things I need to work on.

  • @XAEX12
    @XAEX12 2 роки тому +2

    The most underrated talk ever

  • @UrbanSipfly
    @UrbanSipfly 4 роки тому +8

    Accountability is a deed that experience says we must do and become.

  • @courtneylane8225
    @courtneylane8225 4 роки тому +26

    Thank you Charlie- I searched accountability Ted talk and this was perfect

  • @universingwithLina
    @universingwithLina 7 місяців тому

    I remember that feeling of anxiousness before starting my healing journey. it felt impossible. 1 year later though i can say i am a completely different person, still unlearning and changing mindsets but happier

  • @JacobDover-s4m
    @JacobDover-s4m 3 місяці тому +1

    I need to hold myself more accountable in public and in private.

  • @Blessed2bhere34
    @Blessed2bhere34 2 роки тому

    This is my biggest challenge! I love this!

  • @tmmofficial17
    @tmmofficial17 3 роки тому +4

    Thank you so much for this video it helped me a lot to understand myself more deeply take love from Bangladesh 🇧🇩 I really appreciate this kind of initiative keep it up!

  • @davidpearson8954
    @davidpearson8954 5 років тому +13

    Great speech.. Inspiring and wise..

  • @wiskatraders8673
    @wiskatraders8673 2 роки тому

    Thanks God bless you and your family 🌹🌹

  • @Aries2711
    @Aries2711 3 роки тому +5

    Wow. This hit me real good. Excellent video

  • @SaidurRahmanTV
    @SaidurRahmanTV 5 років тому +25

    Having a friend as an accountability partner can help stay accountable.

  • @jodo7814
    @jodo7814 Рік тому +1

    When your mom has the resources to send you across the country to a wilderness field trip so you can feel better, you have a better chance than most.

  • @jcalderairl
    @jcalderairl 4 роки тому +4

    Great speech. One day just one thing...

  • @Kimberly-ul1ph
    @Kimberly-ul1ph Рік тому

    Changing self vs taking responsibility for the actions of others
    Currently feeling overwhelmed

  • @victorallencook7107
    @victorallencook7107 4 роки тому +3

    Accountability started a longtime ago . The marathon will have rough terrains .

  • @elizabethgreenacre1720
    @elizabethgreenacre1720 5 років тому +7

    Great speech!!

  • @ohthatsjaz
    @ohthatsjaz 3 роки тому

    Consequently even though we are able to view the faults of others, it is the greatest epiphany to realize our own faults and acknowledge our own idiosyncrasies. If we all walked around with a mirror would we only glance into it or would we look at it closely and acknowledge all of our imperfections? Sometimes people are afraid to even pick up a mirror and look at themselves that deeply, much easier to correct others. I would say that comes with maturity but I have friends that are 70-80 who still fail to ever acknowledge where they went wrong in their own lives, and the longer we live the more you have to face the reality of self accountability. Quite sobering.

  • @nicholastracy4915
    @nicholastracy4915 Рік тому

    After inflicting hardship and adversity upon myself in a business that I had used to hate, and in conditions that were brutally cold outdoors, alone, covered in dirt and mud, I started to change. Made an effort to, every time I wanted to quit and run, when anxiety attacks started to overcome me, and self hate would plague me, begin to thank the Lord for this struggle, and ask the Holy Spirit to guide me in the ways of humility and help me combat my ego. Though I am not free of insecurities completely, I have come far and I get very little anxiety now. All by doing the work.

  • @Meatislife
    @Meatislife 3 роки тому

    Didn’t take long to hear this to know you’re talking about Alldredge Academy! Was there myself back in a cold winter in January 07.A time that will never be forgotten. That drum beat down to the village is something you never forget.

  • @CreateAnkita
    @CreateAnkita 10 місяців тому

    Love it. Thankyou

  • @davidr321
    @davidr321 4 роки тому +1

    Spot-on! 👌

  • @mohamedhassan-dj8ov
    @mohamedhassan-dj8ov 4 роки тому +6

    Believe it or not I came here from Kevin Gates interview with complex 💪🏾 Breadwinner

  • @jacobhibbard8038
    @jacobhibbard8038 3 роки тому

    Brilliant speech, so valuable 👌

  • @susheeladabla6502
    @susheeladabla6502 2 роки тому

    Great talk!

  • @Aphrosyche
    @Aphrosyche 4 роки тому +1

    Thank you

  • @begrateful6153
    @begrateful6153 2 роки тому

    You’re talking about internal and external locus of control. Those with internal locus of control can change and improve because they hold themselves accountable. However, people with external locus of control don’t change, and get worse over time, because everyone & everything else is accountable except themselves.

  • @TheZZZAAA333
    @TheZZZAAA333 3 роки тому +1

    Please share more information about the facility in West Virginia. How do families afford this type of help? So many of them are so expensive only the rich can afford them.

  • @SsGh-yi1ie
    @SsGh-yi1ie Рік тому

    Speech great

  • @TheTruth-fully
    @TheTruth-fully 6 років тому +5

    There's no true happiness in this life, because it's always temporary. What we should be aiming for is contentment.

    • @charlesjohnson4210
      @charlesjohnson4210 6 років тому +5

      That assumes the definitions of happiness and contentment are mutually exclusive. I disagree, I would be happy being content.

    • @TheTruth-fully
      @TheTruth-fully 6 років тому

      @@charlesjohnson4210 You can never be happy all the time, it comes and goes. What lasts is contentment. It shapes how we view the world. The goal is contentment, not happiness.

    • @charlesjohnson4210
      @charlesjohnson4210 6 років тому +1

      @@TheTruth-fully You did not acknowledge my point at all, happiness and contentment are not mutually exclusive. So let me pose the question to you, what is the definition of happiness, and what is the definition of contentment?

    • @TheTruth-fully
      @TheTruth-fully 6 років тому

      ​@@charlesjohnson4210 Happiness is an emotion. Contentment is a state of mind. The goal is to be content whether you are happy or sad. It's to find your inner peace.

    • @charlesjohnson4210
      @charlesjohnson4210 6 років тому +1

      @@TheTruth-fully Those aren't really definitions, so I'll probe a bit deeper, what's the difference between a state of mind and an emotion? Or more specifically, define what an emotion is and define what a state of mind is. Try to be as specific as possible, please.

  • @cdothmedia
    @cdothmedia 2 місяці тому

    Craziest part is when you know what you need to dk but still won’t

  • @PokASnitchA
    @PokASnitchA 2 роки тому

    Preach.

  • @monaiannucci7831
    @monaiannucci7831 2 роки тому

    Im checking me on the daily

  • @monaiannucci7831
    @monaiannucci7831 2 роки тому +2

    My problem is finding a friend on my level

  • @Leanna-w4f
    @Leanna-w4f 4 роки тому +6

    I’m just here because of school

  • @shayboogie83
    @shayboogie83 2 роки тому +1

    Damn! 🥺

  • @himanchalvlogs4866
    @himanchalvlogs4866 Рік тому

    Hello there I m from Chhattisgarh,India

  • @Weeeeeeelp
    @Weeeeeeelp 6 років тому +7

    Ok, “decide to hold yourself accountable.” Now how?

    • @charlesjohnson4210
      @charlesjohnson4210 6 років тому +22

      Schedule time each day to reflect on whether you achieved your goals THAT DAY. Setting an alarm on your phone to go off daily is a good place to start.

    • @charlesjohnson4210
      @charlesjohnson4210 6 років тому +14

      Writing down whether you did or did not each day, so you can track your success. And you can reflect back on times when you're more effective and try to figure out why.

    • @flattlandermontgomery1524
      @flattlandermontgomery1524 6 років тому +17

      My idea is regarding delayed gratification. You dont get to do any of the fun or relaxing stuff until you have checked off all the tasks you wanted to get done each day. Set a goal, reverse engineer it into daily tasks and then don’t watch tv/netflix, play a video game, drink a beer or whatever until you did that daily task.

  • @mts2457
    @mts2457 2 роки тому

    Does this mean Normal IL?

  • @Davinci637
    @Davinci637 2 роки тому

    Yo estudié una carrera relacionada con la contabilidad. Aunque no me acuerdo de nada. XD.
    Sin embargo, aún así, le envié una carta al presidente de mi país, en la cual le aconsejaba que subiera el impuesto al alcohol extranjero, dejándole claro que aquello traería varios beneficios.
    Estoy practicamente seguro que nunca tomó en serio nada de lo que le dije. XD.

  • @guineveregruntle6746
    @guineveregruntle6746 2 роки тому +1

    We have evolved into an unaccountable, dare I say soft, society. I notice a lack of accountability varies across a broad spectrum of ages from Baby Boomers to Gen Zs. It is found in various socio economic backgrounds. It’s fascinating to identify and observe these people in the workplace.

  • @firasgoryoka3705
    @firasgoryoka3705 3 місяці тому

    Very interesting speech. Please Anyone know this person you tube channel or fb page?

  • @Greg-hg9cs
    @Greg-hg9cs 4 роки тому +1

    This was given in a program. The funny thing is that the very ones who suggested this are the very ones who accually never done this and participate in Gangstalking.

  • @agape843
    @agape843 5 місяців тому

    Timely,and hard as it should….than you.

  • @theancientsam
    @theancientsam Рік тому +1

    just a quick thought before watching, is it "normal" if they just tell you its normal? im a little suspicious xd

  • @visualelement7youtubechann941
    @visualelement7youtubechann941 6 років тому +9

    Training is correct It's a fight everyday a personal choice. if It was easy everyone would be doing it.
    Mortal Combat

  • @ComputroniumMan
    @ComputroniumMan Місяць тому

    I want to be accountable for a very selfish reason. Fishing and bowling sound fun.

  • @bmevolunteers
    @bmevolunteers 2 роки тому +1

    🙏🏿🔥🙏🏿

  • @dimitrist4511
    @dimitrist4511 3 місяці тому

    I wonder what makes the speaker think they are properly equipped to judge the direction of their cousin's life.

  • @goldeagle6391
    @goldeagle6391 2 роки тому

    good speech

  • @paromita_ghosh
    @paromita_ghosh Рік тому

    I went like i would do this bhana which is bad really bad !
    But see

  • @jish55
    @jish55 3 роки тому +3

    Sadly, if you call someone out on something they say or do, you're now "canceling" them, because for some reason, we've reached an era where people aren't able to handle criticism and instead want to hold onto their archaic ideals and ideology, where they don't want to be told those views are no longer acceptable.

    • @charlesjohnson4210
      @charlesjohnson4210 3 роки тому +1

      That's why you need to hold yourself accountable. You are the only one who sees and knows everything you do.

  • @TestigoAburrido
    @TestigoAburrido 4 роки тому +1

    Shane dawson

  • @missyrittenhouse8673
    @missyrittenhouse8673 6 років тому +3

    Hi

  • @wiskatraders8673
    @wiskatraders8673 2 роки тому

    👏👏👏👏👏👏🇰🇪🇰🇪🇰🇪🇰🇪🇰🇪🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹👂👂👂👂🔊🔊🔊🔊💓💓💓

  • @PinkYellowGreen2023
    @PinkYellowGreen2023 Рік тому +1

    People who feel they have no accountability for what they do and say are crazymakers. They try to talk you into thinking they haven't done or said anything wrong!!! Foools......

  • @lukka511
    @lukka511 Рік тому

    Hello Im Luka 16 years old from Germany and Im looking for an accountability partner

  • @RAtheGoodRailfanner_888
    @RAtheGoodRailfanner_888 Рік тому

    Ughh!

  • @GamingtheOtter
    @GamingtheOtter 4 роки тому +5

    Lmao Shane Dawson

  • @opensausage6643
    @opensausage6643 2 роки тому

    1° world problems...

  • @monaiannucci7831
    @monaiannucci7831 2 роки тому

    Attention seeking ?

  • @Greg-hg9cs
    @Greg-hg9cs 4 роки тому +1

    It is a cult

  • @justa2049
    @justa2049 10 місяців тому +1

    All BS!!!😂😂

  • @otisgcc
    @otisgcc 4 роки тому +1

    Great speech!