Dave, I rarely ever log into youtube at work but decided to so I could like this and make a comment. Thank you so much for making these videos. It's an utter hug for the soul. Been watching your videos for gear reviews and good vibes for years and this video made want to reach out. As a musician in a similar spot as you, so many of us are dealing with these waves and storms of emotions (especially including the artist's depression/anxiety/substance abuse/crippling self-doubt/worth issues) and all I can say it's immensely valuable to share your stories and keep on talking to people. Anyone. Friends, co-workers, therapist, family, etc. The more we share what we feel is a troubled head, the more we realize it's widely universal. We can all help each other to help ourselves. Thanks for being brave as hell and telling your story. It's a big push in getting others to open up. Cheers my man!
I appreciate you sharing this, a lot of us have dealt with internal battles like this. Talking with others and getting help where needed is a first step. But I know it's a fight. Respect to you sir!
The power of talking is everything.. I salute you, Dave, for your courage and integrity and I want to thank you for 'speaking' to me ..I know I'm not alone. We, your viewers, are all grateful for the gifts you share with us. Thank you. 🙂
Hi Dave i've watched some of your video and at some point I will watch it all, you are a very brave young man to tell the world of your mental health issues. I am 65 years young and I've had anxiety from the age of 16 wish there was mental health awareness week back then, anyway I've had all the symptoms you've had been in hospital twice through the years, hey man i'm still here after all that time I can go on and on about the subject but hey this is your story, I play guitar myself started in first band quite good had a mind blank and gave up for 20 year never had any confidence in anything i've done, don't go down the road about your guitar playing your a very good guitarist and a nice guy hopefully people with mental health will see your video and i'm sure it will help them on the way to recovery cheers Neil
Think about this, you have everything to live for ! Life is short enough, God has given you a wonderful ability, and you have too make the best of it, you have such a talent, use it ! I suggest you Go too a children's hospital and take a look at what those little kids have to deal with, give them some of your love for music, take a look at them, and then think about what you have, you can be sick but someone else is always worse off.... Life is what it is, only you can change it. You seem like a very good hearted person.... give a little receive a lot !!!!
Hi Dave, Thank you for sharing your experiences. Anxiety sucks. The only good thing is that anxiety issues tend to disappear the same way as they come, when you least can expect it. Don't let "it" dictate anything in your life, you're an amazing, good hearted person with an incredible talent. I honestly regard you in the very top of my favourite musicians, and you certainly have helped me with music/gear things more as anyone.
"The only good thing is that anxiety issues tend to disappear the same way as they come, when you least can expect it" - so true! But so hard to believe when you are in the middle of them too.
I respectfully disagree on the coming and going of anxiety. So much of the physical symptoms are learned cns responses which make it feel like an "it" indeed. Taking on a life of it's own.
You're an inspiration, Dave. You've helped me more than you know. I'm grateful not only for your passion for guitar. I really appreciate your honesty and openness and all of your videos, but especially in this one. I'm happy that you're still here and fighting Dave! Anxiety is a terrible condition and I've been struggling with it myself lately. I never used to get it too badly, but within the last couple years I've caught my brain trying to turn on me, or tough to keep intrusive thoughts in check. I've found that my power against it actually comes from realizing that my brain is saying one thing, but that I have the power to decide whether or not that thing is true. I get to decide that. Not "it". Take baby steps in "rewiring" your brain if you can. If you can realize when you're having a terrible day or horribly intrusive thoughts won't stop attacking your brain, try to stop. Take a breath in through your nose. Focus on that one breath. In. Out. Focus on the air as you inhale through your nose. Feel it as it lifts your chest and as it goes out your mouth. This is not a fix-all, but it is a tool that you can use and other people can use as well. It is scarily easy for situations to feel like they're getting completely out of control in our minds. I've been in a similar situation lately to what you're describing. Different obviously, but I can relate to what you're describing in t his video. I hope that making this video was therapeutic for you so you might find a bit of relief. I know this has been therapeutic for me. Thanks Dave The breathing technique I'm describing in this is a type of meditation, I learned from a monk in this video called "how to train your monkey mind": ua-cam.com/video/nOJTbWC-ULc/v-deo.html Give it a watch, it's only less than 2 minutes long but it is very powerful.
Dave, I want you around. You are one of my all time favorite guitar players (that Furch video was amazing). You are one of the most soulful players I've ever heard. I knew from the fist video I watched of your's that you had something special and that you were a little bit of a wacko, which I say with all respect. But that's where I believe your magic comes from.. You are an inspiration both in your playing and your determination in fighting "it". The tune at the end was all the more emotional after hearing your story. Much Love and respect, Mike T.
In my life I have played with and seen many brilliant musicians, we all seem to get this anxiety thing, its the little chucky doll in your head that just hits you down. It is something to do with talented people. Perhaps our brains are wired differently. They do say there is a fine line between genius and madness and I think it comes down to anxiety. Not feeling able to go out, not wanting to put your talent on show because the worm in your head tells you that you are not good enough, the best worm treatment is to just do it, stop and think when you feel the worm wriggling for attention and push it back into the sludge where it belongs. Anxiety does not just affect the person with it, but the people who love you too and sometimes it is difficult to explain to them what it is dong to you. You have been an inspiration and have helped to get across to those loved ones the turmoil that anxiety can cause. Thank you for your honesty and bravery. I know how hard it is to admit.
I went through it for a long time. Went from being the life of a party loved going out at weekends etc i was never indoors as a kid always active. Went from that to not being able to leave the house aged 21 to late 30's i was mega depressed nothing excited me. Suffered panic attacks allsorts. I was at a point where life could just go and screw itself. I later moved away to a completely new place thinking new life new start. I did meet a girl and although i had feelings for her i still felt she was'nt enough. But she did make me laugh and smile again but still id have really bad days. I even ended it with her at one point cos i got it inti my head i was worthless i didnt know what she saw in me i felt like i didnt want to drag her down she could do better. And yet she fought tooth n nail to keep me even though i said things to make her hate me. Eventually we had our first child and that was the point where i said i have this little girl who needs me im gonna stick around for her. She made my life a little happier but admitedly i was still struggling. Later on we had our 2nd child my son Ryan who you saw on the photo i posted on your wall. He was born with microcephally and with it a whole host of other things like severe epilepsy hes 11 with the brain age of a 2 year old. At first i was absolutely devistated we both was. I fell into major depression again for a few months until i got over the initial shock. Then boom i took charge ! We had appointments coming in left right n centre for him to see all these specialists. So i thought right thats it booking driving lessons we are gonna need a car. I was scared i was sick with worry i even doubted myself again thinking id never pass im not strong enough ill lose my nerve. But i pushed on i actually started enjoying it after a while but i was so scared of faliure. Not cos i needed a car for my own selfish need like some 17 year old boy racer but for my boy whos problems far outweighed mine. When i was told id passed i litrally cried. Id done it! All the doubt and fear had gone ! I forgot about myself i stepped up and ive put him first for the last 11 years and still do. My problems do not stop me no longer.
Beautifully told Dave. Awesome how open you talk about mental health awareness and your experiences. It really makes me evaluate life and the mental health of me and my surrounding. Thank you for that, whishing you all the best :)
I was a big fan of you. Now I'm a master fan! LOL. You are brave to share this with the world. Congrats Dave. I'm writing from Brazil. 30 y.o, male. lawyer and hobbyist guitarrist. I'm on antidepressants for years.. My life is VERY better now with medication and therapy. Modern life is just toxic (don't matter the country or place). I am also struggling with anxiety too (as it is in the opposite side of the depression spectrum). One thing that changed my life and a golden piece of advice: DON'T DRINK COFFEE. NEVER. CUT IT FROM YOUR LIFE. Even Coca Cola (as it has caffeine). Try this for 3 months and you will be surprised with the effects. The triggers that start those ansiety crisis will disappear, those invasive thoughts, and overthinking cicles will ALL DISAPPEAR. The problems would still exist, but you will stop suffering with them and will start to understand how small they are. Be in peace.
Edit: Since youtube is uploading my long comment for 10 minutes now, I guess it's lost in the ether.......I'll give it another go tomorrow.....jesus christ 2 hours down the fu****g drain I'll write a longer comment tomorrow, but you might wanna take a Look into ptsd. I wrote that iam currently residing in a psychiatric Institution, and here i have been diagnosed with ptsd (complex variety) thanks to my bullying experience and my horrible mother. My Symptoms are very similar to yours. I'll write more tomorrow when im back at my PC, and share some of my self-grounding techniques. Stay strong!
Hey Dave! I respect your courage. That is what it takes to start to overcome the feelings. I know those feelings of anxiety I had for about 3 years when I was 30. I'm 49 now and haven't had it since, not that it could be there, but I understand what to stay away from emotionally and have learned when to turn the other way. My wife is going through some anxiety now, I'm helping her get through it and I know she will. There is always triggers that start anxiety but those triggers are not in your life anymore because you have eliminated them and yes you have better things to do than dwell and grudge on the past. Family is the most important thing in your life and with all the ups and downs along the way staying close to family helps so much. I have a wife and 4 children which is most important to me. I have played the guitar since I was 9 and it helped me get through so many times. You are going deep into feelings with your guitar and that is so awesome to create those sounds that can affect the listeners emotions. However, consider your own feelings, I remember doing the same thing and deep mind blowing music creation can execute feelings of adrenaline mixed with injections of some sadness. I found that edge of knowing when to indulge and when to pull back. Here is a link to my music ua-cam.com/video/R508jX4ywok/v-deo.html I recorded this about 17 years ago with those anxiety feelings raging up and down. I had to push myself to stay away from the deep feelings and record more of feel good songs. Do I like it? NO not really. Therefore I am going to re-record now at 49. But now I know I can do a better job of my own work. For 17 years I maintained keeping the guitar visible to me, whether hanging on the wall or on stand, I never put it away in storage, in the closet, or under the bed. This helped me realize to not forget about the talent I have throughout the years of a busy life. All the best Dave! Keep on Rockin! Richard
40,000 (and always growing) don't love you by chance or accident. It's your quirky and friendly personality, passion and talent with guitar, equipment and technique and a willingness to be helpful and share what you know with us. We're all like-minded like you and share the same passion as you. If nothing else, let us be your mirror (a là The Velvet Underground) and show you who you really are when you have a false perception of yourself! That's 1/25 of a million people think you're the dogs bollocks!
Dave that voice you call "it" is what I call the ego... You're already aware of it which is great... But yeah it never goes away... By now mine is usually like "Oh I might as well shut up... He's not going to listen anyway"... So it's possible and it sounds like you're getting there In the morning I sit in a meditation position and just close my eyes for a few minutes... Being fully aware of every impulse and in the moment... Just letting it all slide off me... So also being aware of that voice and just letting it be like any other impulse... It's quite the opposite of falling out of bed and immediately reaching for the coffee machine... And I do the same before sleeping... A lot less emotions for me to process in my dreams that way... Happy days and happy nights Just doing this twice every day constantly reminds me of the reality that I'm not one but two people... Anyone who automatically laughs at this is so very unaware of their ego... They have become it instead of forcing it to become them... It's good to see you realize you're in control... Especially if you even have thoughts of suicide With that said you're under a lot of stress and the pressure on your chest might actually be an esophagus problem worsened by a panic attack causing your heart to beat faster... I hope so because you can get pills for that... But either way I'd go see a physician and just be sure Take care of yourself Dave 🙏 and yeah fuck that voice 😊✌️ it's not you... It only has the luxury to live inside you while you do all the work and have all the responsibility... Like a parasite And what are mental issues anyway? I may be prone to depressions, autistic and just really weird 😋 But there's nothing wrong with that actually... Would people elect me as President of the United States though? Nah! 😂 Of course not! I'm a freak! You have a good heart Dave... To some people you're worthless then... But to others that's everything! And those are the only people that matter... Those are the only voices telling the truth EDIT: I commented before watching the entire video... Sounds like you're saying very similar things 👍 So you know you're definitely not alone... I hope my meditation advice helps... For me that simple twice daily ritual made all the difference
Hello Dave 4YEARS A GO I HAD A STROKE WITCH LEFT ME WITH A LOT OF PROBLEMS anxiety to the point I couldn't even leave my house and I've never been scared of anything until then it's a horrible place to be and since taken the tablets that the doctor prescribed me things have got a lot better but sometimes it's still struggle but I have to still keep pushing forward try not to let it beat me that's horrible in illness I struggle with my speech I used to play the drums I played drums for 30 years before the stroke I can no longer do that I tire very easily and obviously something's not quite right in my head now I know play guitar has have been for the last couple of years and doing something new on fresh does help I'm really proud that you put this video up and you're telling everybody on UA-cam and making people aware cause suffering in Silence is not good so keep up the fight Dave keep pushing forward and keep doing your cat channel because I watch everything you put up and it helps me and probably a lot of other people seeing you pushing forward makes everybody else want to push forward so well done thanks for putting this up and speak to you soon
After years of trying to find a way to explain depression to someone who downplays the seriousness of the situation, I finally found a concise description of the difference between "the blues" and genuine depression. There are times in almost everyone's life when they will go through the blues. The blues are a period of negative emotions usually brought on by a personal crisis of some sort. With some time and effort you will eventually come out the other side. Depression, on the other hand, often has no obvious initial trigger yet it becomes the filter through which the rest of your world is experienced. That can result in the world appearing to be a very bleak place. I wish I knew something to say that would be of use to someone in its grip. For most of my life I've either had my toes over the Edge or been very aware of how short the distance between the Edge and me.
I realize this is dated, but truly moving. I'm old and sick; there's not always a way back. No one will ever hear my playing (except for very fore-bearing neighbors), but that's not really the point. I try to pick up a guitar every day because to do that somehow contributes to the aspirations of our species; we are all connected. Anyway, thank you, Dave; there is no one I'd rather be stuck on a desert island with a couple of guitars than you. And that especially includes all those great shredders who seem to have forgotten the purpose of music and art in general...to reach other people's hearts. They don't. You do.
A few quotes that help me change my mindset “A lot of people are much meaner to themselves in their own head than they would ever be to someone else..” “Be nice to yourself. It’s hard to be happy when someones mean to you all the time.”
Thank you for this, Dave. I’ve struggled with anxiety and depression as well as alcoholism and addiction to stop feeling those feelings of anxiety and depression. Your positivity is a real gift to us all and I’m very grateful for you. Thank you, brother.
I’m with you! Anxiety for 20 years. Mindfulness exercises helped tremendously. Sometimes therapy or medication when necessary. Last year it was horrible and I changed jobs and back to mostly healthy. Don’t be afraid to try anything and make sure you are getting help.
Dave I've been a subscriber for a long time and I can certainly relate to your issues as I am going through the same battles. Stay strong.....there are a lot of folks including myself who wish nothing but the best for you.
Strength to you Dave. We are pulling for you. Reading the comments many of this community have similar issues and we support you. I know how you feel. For 30 years I've had many anxiety disorders and am currently agoraphobic and on many medications. But music and playing guitar are also my releases and your videos are a source of enjoyment. I look forward to them. Play on dude.
As long as my finances and physical health are ok I'll hang around. Being negative about your playing can cause you to try new things, constantly loving your playing can cause you to stagnate.
I have the same issues with anxiety. Started around 5 years ago after my wife died. "It" is very oppressive for sure and what works for me is a good old primordial scream, helps me to refocus and shut "it" up. Thanks for talking about this issue and if it helps one person...
Dave, always remember that people are prepared to support people in need. If all people can offer is an ear to listen then you have both of mine. What I will say is that we all have good places and one of my best is watching you play and you being honest on your channel. Stay with us mate because you may just be keeping me and others from the edge. You are an inspiration and must understand that thousands of us need you to keep posting and giving us a simple reason to stay around and never give up. I am learning guitar because you help me and that’s my simple reason. Your simple reason is you are helping me across the world in Australia..🙏🏻 Edit: The music says to me be calm, scream, be calm, scream, be calm and f**k it scream loud (50:00) because I am having a bad 30 years. Today I needed to scream..🤬👹🎸 . Thanks Dave
Dave. That simple. Powered by Dave. Love you man and thanks for putting this out there again mate 👍🏻 Edit: I'm a few more mins in and you have such a great humanity about you and when you said you are fighting 'it' I totally get it. I'm proud of you mate.
Very courageous of you to discuss this. I have also struggled with depression and anxiety, so understand where you have been. Stay strong and keep moving forward. You are still amongst the most passionate and talented artists on The Tube. Thanks so much for sharing this with the community. Be well!
Stay strong Dave! I totally understand, not in the same way you do but, I struggle too. I recorded a Green Day vid today and it totally helped me feel better. In the words of The Offspring “ music soothes even the savage beast”. Your channel is awesome mate!!!
Dude just wanted to thank you for the like on the video I tagged you on Instagram of me soloing and jamming to the song time you shared a couple videos back meant I’ve also dealt with depression and anxiety thank god he brought me through and I thankfully didn’t commit suicide its a battle but God’s been a great help on my life! 😎🎶🎶
Thanks for talking about your experience, its helping as I understand what you’re saying better than i can understand myself at the moment 🙏🏼 take care be kind to yourself x
Dave, the creative mind is always going. It sucks sometimes and it would be nice to have a half-power switch. A lot of us are out there and it's so painful trying to get it to just be quiet. But, the pain and sacrifice is worth it because you make great music and share great ideas that so many appreciate. When things feel dark, read the comments on your videos. Every one of those were written by a person who connects with you. This goes for everyone really. People connect with each other and may never know it. All of our lives are important to one another.
never give up Dave, as well as your obvious talent as a guitar player, you are genuinely the nicest guitarist on the tube, try not to give yourself a hard time about it, and accept how you feel and why you feel that way. That's what seems to be helping me with an ongoing mental health condition, that's been with me since my teens. Though anxiety depression etc, is a kick in the teeth at the time, it definitely has a silver lining, I've met some of the best people in my struggles through the mental health system, and illness offers genuine opportunities for personal growth, people underestimate the strength people have that are going through a genuine crisis like this, and when you come through this you'll have greater strength for the things life may throw at you, thanks for sharing this and genuinely being a great bloke.
I'm learning to recognize anxiety in myself, how it has been down deep, lurking beneath my depression and ADD, and the low self esteem. I find being generous to others very therapeutic. That is the condensed version. As humans, we cannot be an island. It is all of our duty to ask people, "How are you?", and be genuinely prepared to actually listen to the real answer.
Once I stopped caring what others though about me it made my life so much lighter and happier. Asking for help isn't a bad thing Ery body need help sometimes. Just ask there is help available. No matter how bad it looks it gets better, you are worth more than you can ever know don't let the darkness win. This comment is for every one not just Dave!
I can relate to this in so many ways, Dave. My anxieties have robbed me of becoming the great guitarist I know I could've been. But now I'm too old to achieve my dream. My anxieties actually keep me from playing gigs sometimes - or from taking gigs I know would probably be okay to play but, for whatever reasons, I often say no to them. This absolutely sucks! A musician NEEDS to perform live as often as possible!! In doing so, we gain confidence, and this helps us become more immune to those very anxieties we had in the first place! A necessary "cycle", as it were. Just know that thousands of us guitarists in UA-cam land love your videos and have such genuine respect and love for you! You are our friend and you may not even know it! Just hang in there and keep the upper hand on this ugly monster, and know that we are here and with you!
You are a brave and beautiful person Dave. This has helped me more than I can express, It helps to hear from someone you respect with the same interest they are dealing with the same thing you are, on a daily basis, and are struggling, eternally, with. Keep rocking and fighting and doing the next right/good thing. You gave me strength to start fighting again with my battle, which is the worst its been in the last 25 years.
Nice song Dave, got some undertones reminiscent of "Wicked Game" in the build up before you break out into some pretty solid rock guitar. I've been through a bit and being an introvert am often misunderstood as being standoffish and arrogant. Mostly because I'm not very trusting of other people. But the people I trust and care about I hold really close. Childhoods can be tough and bring out little demons of self doubt and insecurity. For me, many of those things slipped away to be replaced with adult problems like bills and financial insecurity. At 47 with a wonderful wife and three pugs, working from home surrounded by good things and my guitars. Life is pretty good so long as I keep myself busy. Being busy stops the whispery draughts of negativity from seeping into my consciousness. You have a good thing going on here and your connecting a lot of people. I'm going to be hanging around your channel as long as your putting out videos. Your quite brave talking about all these things so frankly. Your a much stronger person than you sometimes give yourself credit for, keeping busy doing things we love and care deeply about really helps keep us grounded and a future to look forward to.
The holy Existence does not know the word "not". So by telling the Existence I do not want this or that, you give more power to the things you do not want. By telling and imaginating the things that you want in a positive way, you send more positive power. I have tried that out, and it works for me. Shure I know that it is very hard to remember this, when you are really down! Keep on rocking, I wish you all the best. Out of the Mud grows the Lotus! There is a great song from Sinead O'Connor: "The Healing Room"!!
Thanks for sharing this video David . And that breakdown solo at the end is the most impressive I've heard AND seen! You are amazing, and keep doing you thing.
Stay strong brother! You have an amazing gift in your guitar playing, and the world will be far worse off without it! That's so strong to talk about this f---ed illness, especially on such a public platform. Unfortunately not all of us have someone to talk to about this, it's still got a huge stigma around it in my neck of the woods. People see it as a weakness, so I just bottle it up. Doing us proud! Hey who is laughing now with over 41000 followers, certainly not your schoolyard bullies!
Dave, my friend, you are not alone. Your music and courage is an inspiration to more people worldwide than you will ever know. I'm a soldier in the United States Army where there are stigmas associated with seeking help from a behavioral health professional. So, I've shied away from doing so. Your videos have been therapeutic for me. I greatly appreciate you and the work that you do and will continue to tune in faithfully. Stay strong buddy!
Anxiety is something we have to deal with, especially if we are musicians, I've came to the point where "that" and some depressive feelings made me to stop playing....while gigging or on rehearsal We can get through this,hope you have a nice day!
Thank.you Dave let your guitar weep not yourself your vifues are great and that's not because of your great guitar playing ect it's because of you being a genuine great person. Take care I'm a guitarist nearly 60 I play in e band everyone over 60 health issues for some of us but we try to.give a rocking show every time. The fellowship of the guitar is strong and powerful.
So many of us out there, love you- brother. For your sake, as well as ours- please be positive to ensure you will be around for all of us, for a long, long time!!!!!!
Thank you for your music and encouragement. I'm struggling with mental health issues and been on sick-leave for 6 months now. I've always been active and healthy, now I struggle with normal daily tasks. I'm getting professional help and medication, nature, faith and music are keeping me on the right track. Inspired by you, Dave, I bought an old brown Marshall 5010 Master Lead combo. It's nothing special, but it puts a smile on my face when I crank it up... that's my first feeling of joy in along time... I am grateful waking up every morning, that I yet again are given the gift of life for an other day. One day at a time... Your doing a great job, Dave. Thank you for being a part of my life.
What a brave man to bare warts and all like that Dave. Could never say thank you enough for this. Stick to the plan, don't forgive and remember that you have a great gift. If your music or channel touches just a single soul then it is a success. That's what I keep in my head when playing live... people may like the music, people may not but if 1 person walks away from the show with a smile on their face, a new friend, discovered something new that they like then that's a win. Every Up has a down but more importantly every down has an UP
Dave. I listened to your story about your struggles with mental health through school and so on. Your story was so similar to my own. I thank you for having the guts to share it. It helped me feel not so alone. You have givin me alot of hope and helped me through some things recently. You are doing a great service. there are many of us who need to here this kind of message. Thank you!!
Yes, I am aware that I'm Mental. ♥ Artists are extra prone to these phobias because we're naturally super creative at weaving nightmares. I get claustrophobic in cars and almost have a panic attack at every busy intersection or major highway. It's adrenaline that has no place to go. You have triggered your fight or flight response and you need to channel it somewhere positive. You won't die I promise:)
I know what you mean for sure! I have type 2 diabetes and sleep insomnia and asthma I’m 49 it’s very hard to deal with not for sure how much longer I will be around 🙁🤔 great topic great video 👍😊 Thank you so much 🙏
Dave simpson your an insperation to so manny people and i know what your going threw and its horrible, Music is my best therapy but i do the wim hoff method too theres a good vice documentery on here about him "inside the super human world of the ice man" if anyones intrested. ive done EMDR and CBT therapy too. i suffer with PTSD but im not gonna be its bitch. Ive been struggling myself this past week and this vid has helped me snap out of it. I find that doing good things for others helps me feel better too. Do good things for others and good things will happen to you, its the nature of the universe. Loved the instrumental man you blow me away everytime. Keep strong my brother from another mother.
Dont be a spectator if you come across bullying. I never have and never will. I will get involved and do what ever it takes. I will always try to reason with bully. If needs to take bullying a bully have no problem with that if its the only alternative. Had a police situation couple weeks ago for slapping the crap out of 20 something kid for making sexual comments to middle age women at the gas station. Asked him to stop . He told me piss off Gave him choice of stopping aploligizing. He made more remarks to her she was really scared. So i slapped the shit out of him in the parking lot. Police came and pretty much asked him if he learned a lesson. Probably wrong way to handle situation but i refuse to sit back and watch someone be treated like that. You can beat this dave. I have been fighting severe anxiety. Since i lost my son six years ago. Just lost my job because of missing time from dealing with severe trembles. You are a great man who cares in general. We can all beat this together. Remember taking easy way out just puts everything on the people who loved you and you left behind.. Rock on dave. You help and bring enjoyment to alot of people! You can do it!
Hi Dave I found your channel by accident. It really struck a chord with me. 3 years ago my brother committed suicide. The worst thing about it was I was closest to him and I knew it was going to happen. I wanted to help, I tried to help. I never even got close to doing enough to really help him. I have so many memories of him that are really not how I want to remember him. You are doing the right thing by opening up, even a little bit. By being open about your feelings in the present, it helps your friends, including the friends you have on this channel, support you any way you can. You are not on your own. You are incredibly brave opening up about the issue. We all look for ways out, but life is always worth living. Don’t let IT beat you! You are a talented guy and you have a new subscriber thanks to this video👍
Even though I am an older player who’s ‘seen it all’ (apparently not)I have watched several of your videos and have found them informative, helpful and a good watch. You are a great player. You should know how much what you do is appreciated and hopefully that will be a help.
You are very brave to open yourself up to the world. I've been dealing with palpitations since September 2018 and meditation has helped me a great deal. Also, I work from home and I'm hardly in touch with other people until my wife gets home from work and I've been doing this for 5 years. I've found that getting out of the house and riding my bike or talking a stroll to the park is great help too. Making music is the best outlet for me though. Yo do it much better, though, Dave. Rock on, push "it" back. Your existance makes my life better and I'm not exaggerating.
Yeah, times can be tough. It can be a royal bitch. I've had many times where depression and wanting to be happy get in this screwed up tug-o-war and it can be incredibly psychologically draining. The same with the darkest of times where I am sitting around and crying my eyes out and wanting to end it all. But, then it goes back to that tug-o-war where the side that wants to keep going fights with the side that just wants to give up. But, at the end of the day, I've stuck around this far and at this stage of my life, I don't see myself giving in to those darker impulses. I keep thinking to myself: "Well, if I haven't done it at this point, I doubt that it's ever going to go that way." Plus, the last 9 months were an insane whirlwind of medical craziness. That alone made me think: "Okay, damn it. You're going to throw all of this at me? Well, fuck you. I won't let that take me down, either." That's not to say that I haven't had some depressive days over it, because I certainly have. But, I think to myself: "Fuck it. Just keep pushing on. That's all you can do." So, I have no choice but to keep going.
Great discussion Dave I am glad you chose the right weapon your AXE.You are a true inspiration and don't give in without a fight.Ps I think you should put your logo on the Tshirts,Cheers and have a great weekend,here in Canada were celibrating Victoria day on Monday.
Excellent video Dave,as an ex anxiety sufferer it can be beaten but it still tries it’s hand now and then.I have someone close to me that suffers with the one I regard as the big one the dreaded cloud that is Depression.This all consuming horrible disease is so hard to live with and also I hope people give a thought to people knowing someone tying to live with this monster.Good luck to all that are having to cope with this. Best regards.
Mental health really is one of the last big taboo's we face in this part of the world. I have suffered with anxiety for years now. The breathless symptom is one I've had and it is horrible, that and this sudden feeling that my throat is blocked. I've had the palpitations, the tingling in my limbs, feeling of passing out, sweating for no reason, waking in the night mid panic attack not being able to breath and having no idea where I am. I was prescribed fluoxetine recently for depression and it really has kerbed the anxiety symptoms in a big way. I'd recommend anyone go and see their doctor. Help is out there and there is no need to feel any stigma attached to this type of medication, it could change your life.
I'm sorry that you're struggling. I've struggled at times too. Stay tough. You have a great talent at reaching people and connecting, both with your music and your personality. Love you Dave!
Great video mate. Your situation is completely relatable with those who go through this shit. You my friend are doing so well but I understand your anxiety keeps telling you're not great. I also have a feeling you've found the remedies to cure this problem and life will get so much better for you. Seek and destroy anxiety brother. Best wishes and prayers.
Dave I'm going threw it as well, it feels like someone or something is holding you down on the ground and want let you move an inch, all the while someone else is sitting on your chest. So you can't breath. And both those people are saying horrible things in your ear. It sucks!!! You are not alone brother, I dealt with this as a 22 year old and it subsided. Now I'm 51 and recently had some real stressful stuff happen and it came back like a dark cloud. It can be beat, don't listen to IT, and when your having the attacks, try your best to ride it out. Love you brother!!!
don't let your demons get the best of you man, life is a blessing. I suffer the same as you with my mental health its like you are talking about me. and this video will help many people thanks for sharing.
We are creatures of our environment...even people who grow up on a silver platter grow up unable to handle letdowns, I found eastern philosophy, it helps me but I'm always depressed, tough and funny
It's sad here in the philippines, some families here the relatives are the one that's mentally abusing you. They may not be physically abusing you but they are mentally torturing you. Based on the standards here that they want you to be. Good thing my will is strong and i just laugh it off. And of course with the help of the guitar and metal/rock music.
You're not alone brother when you mentioned the breathlessness it really hit home with me, the little niche that you're into with frusciante and the love you have for guitar playing and gear is fucking cool man, It's easier said than done but the only one who is judging you is yourself and that is something that I try to tell myself daily, keep your head up dude x
Hi Dave, We're going through problems and a story very similar to yours with my 17 year old daughter, listening to you tell your story helps so much in my understanding of the things she's going through and helps me to help her, thank you for being so brave to share your thoughts and help others.
Dave, I rarely ever log into youtube at work but decided to so I could like this and make a comment. Thank you so much for making these videos. It's an utter hug for the soul. Been watching your videos for gear reviews and good vibes for years and this video made want to reach out. As a musician in a similar spot as you, so many of us are dealing with these waves and storms of emotions (especially including the artist's depression/anxiety/substance abuse/crippling self-doubt/worth issues) and all I can say it's immensely valuable to share your stories and keep on talking to people. Anyone. Friends, co-workers, therapist, family, etc. The more we share what we feel is a troubled head, the more we realize it's widely universal. We can all help each other to help ourselves. Thanks for being brave as hell and telling your story. It's a big push in getting others to open up. Cheers my man!
Also, I reposted this on my Facebook page. You made such a banger video. Will share for a while
Thank you very much. : )
It takes so much courage to publicly talk about this topic, thank you for that dave. I can't express how much you're helping
I appreciate you sharing this, a lot of us have dealt with internal battles like this. Talking with others and getting help where needed is a first step. But I know it's a fight. Respect to you sir!
Thank you very much. : )
The power of talking is everything..
I salute you, Dave, for your courage and integrity and I want to thank you for 'speaking' to me ..I know I'm not alone.
We, your viewers, are all grateful for the gifts you share with us.
Thank you. 🙂
We don’t give up Dave I have same problem. 8 years have bean struggle deep battle I feel white you 🎸🎶🎸
It's videos like this that youtube needs, raw talent, raw emotion, raw feeling. No clickbait nonsense about lifehacks or free energy.
Thank you very much. : )
Needed to hear this today. Thank you.
Thank you.: )
Hi Dave i've watched some of your video and at some point I will watch it all, you are a very brave young man to tell the world of your mental health issues. I am 65 years young and I've had anxiety from the age of 16 wish there was mental health awareness week back then, anyway I've had all the symptoms you've had been in hospital twice through the years, hey man i'm still here after all that time I can go on and on about the subject but hey this is your story, I play guitar myself started in first band quite good had a mind blank and gave up for 20 year never had any confidence in anything i've done, don't go down the road about your guitar playing your a very good guitarist and a nice guy hopefully people with mental health will see your video and i'm sure it will help them on the way to recovery cheers Neil
Think about this, you have everything to live for ! Life is short enough, God has given you a wonderful ability, and you have too make the best of it, you have such a talent, use it ! I suggest you Go too a children's hospital and take a look at what those little kids have to deal with, give them some of your love for music, take a look at them, and then think about what you have, you can be sick but someone else is always worse off.... Life is what it is, only you can change it. You seem like a very good hearted person.... give a little receive a lot !!!!
Hi Dave,
Thank you for sharing your experiences.
Anxiety sucks. The only good thing is that anxiety issues tend to disappear the same way as they come, when you least can expect it.
Don't let "it" dictate anything in your life, you're an amazing, good hearted person with an incredible talent. I honestly regard you in the very top of my favourite musicians, and you certainly have helped me with music/gear things more as anyone.
The final jam was painfully beautiful btw. Amazing
"The only good thing is that anxiety issues tend to disappear the same way as they come, when you least can expect it" - so true! But so hard to believe when you are in the middle of them too.
Thank you very much. : )
I respectfully disagree on the coming and going of anxiety. So much of the physical symptoms are learned cns responses which make it feel like an "it" indeed. Taking on a life of it's own.
You're an inspiration, Dave.
You've helped me more than you know. I'm grateful not only for your passion for guitar.
I really appreciate your honesty and openness and all of your videos, but especially in this one. I'm happy that you're still here and fighting Dave! Anxiety is a terrible condition and I've been struggling with it myself lately.
I never used to get it too badly, but within the last couple years I've caught my brain trying to turn on me, or tough to keep intrusive thoughts in check. I've found that my power against it actually comes from realizing that my brain is saying one thing, but that I have the power to decide whether or not that thing is true. I get to decide that. Not "it".
Take baby steps in "rewiring" your brain if you can. If you can realize when you're having a terrible day or horribly intrusive thoughts won't stop attacking your brain, try to stop. Take a breath in through your nose. Focus on that one breath. In. Out. Focus on the air as you inhale through your nose. Feel it as it lifts your chest and as it goes out your mouth. This is not a fix-all, but it is a tool that you can use and other people can use as well.
It is scarily easy for situations to feel like they're getting completely out of control in our minds. I've been in a similar situation lately to what you're describing. Different obviously, but I can relate to what you're describing in t his video.
I hope that making this video was therapeutic for you so you might find a bit of relief. I know this has been therapeutic for me.
Thanks Dave
The breathing technique I'm describing in this is a type of meditation, I learned from a monk in this video called "how to train your monkey mind": ua-cam.com/video/nOJTbWC-ULc/v-deo.html
Give it a watch, it's only less than 2 minutes long but it is very powerful.
Thank you very much. : )
Dave, I want you around. You are one of my all time favorite guitar players (that Furch video was amazing). You are one of the most soulful players I've ever heard. I knew from the fist video I watched of your's that you had something special and that you were a little bit of a wacko, which I say with all respect. But that's where I believe your magic comes from.. You are an inspiration both in your playing and your determination in fighting "it". The tune at the end was all the more emotional after hearing your story. Much Love and respect, Mike T.
In my life I have played with and seen many brilliant musicians, we all seem to get this anxiety thing, its the little chucky doll in your head that just hits you down. It is something to do with talented people. Perhaps our brains are wired differently. They do say there is a fine line between genius and madness and I think it comes down to anxiety. Not feeling able to go out, not wanting to put your talent on show because the worm in your head tells you that you are not good enough, the best worm treatment is to just do it, stop and think when you feel the worm wriggling for attention and push it back into the sludge where it belongs. Anxiety does not just affect the person with it, but the people who love you too and sometimes it is difficult to explain to them what it is dong to you. You have been an inspiration and have helped to get across to those loved ones the turmoil that anxiety can cause. Thank you for your honesty and bravery. I know how hard it is to admit.
I went through it for a long time. Went from being the life of a party loved going out at weekends etc i was never indoors as a kid always active. Went from that to not being able to leave the house aged 21 to late 30's i was mega depressed nothing excited me. Suffered panic attacks allsorts. I was at a point where life could just go and screw itself. I later moved away to a completely new place thinking new life new start. I did meet a girl and although i had feelings for her i still felt she was'nt enough. But she did make me laugh and smile again but still id have really bad days. I even ended it with her at one point cos i got it inti my head i was worthless i didnt know what she saw in me i felt like i didnt want to drag her down she could do better. And yet she fought tooth n nail to keep me even though i said things to make her hate me. Eventually we had our first child and that was the point where i said i have this little girl who needs me im gonna stick around for her. She made my life a little happier but admitedly i was still struggling. Later on we had our 2nd child my son Ryan who you saw on the photo i posted on your wall. He was born with microcephally and with it a whole host of other things like severe epilepsy hes 11 with the brain age of a 2 year old. At first i was absolutely devistated we both was. I fell into major depression again for a few months until i got over the initial shock. Then boom i took charge ! We had appointments coming in left right n centre for him to see all these specialists. So i thought right thats it booking driving lessons we are gonna need a car. I was scared i was sick with worry i even doubted myself again thinking id never pass im not strong enough ill lose my nerve. But i pushed on i actually started enjoying it after a while but i was so scared of faliure. Not cos i needed a car for my own selfish need like some 17 year old boy racer but for my boy whos problems far outweighed mine. When i was told id passed i litrally cried. Id done it! All the doubt and fear had gone ! I forgot about myself i stepped up and ive put him first for the last 11 years and still do. My problems do not stop me no longer.
Beautifully told Dave. Awesome how open you talk about mental health awareness and your experiences. It really makes me evaluate life and the mental health of me and my surrounding. Thank you for that, whishing you all the best :)
Luka Banovic really makes you see the privilege we don’t even acknowledge on a daily basis
Thank you very much. : )
I was a big fan of you. Now I'm a master fan! LOL. You are brave to share this with the world. Congrats Dave. I'm writing from Brazil. 30 y.o, male. lawyer and hobbyist guitarrist. I'm on antidepressants for years.. My life is VERY better now with medication and therapy. Modern life is just toxic (don't matter the country or place). I am also struggling with anxiety too (as it is in the opposite side of the depression spectrum). One thing that changed my life and a golden piece of advice: DON'T DRINK COFFEE. NEVER. CUT IT FROM YOUR LIFE. Even Coca Cola (as it has caffeine). Try this for 3 months and you will be surprised with the effects. The triggers that start those ansiety crisis will disappear, those invasive thoughts, and overthinking cicles will ALL DISAPPEAR. The problems would still exist, but you will stop suffering with them and will start to understand how small they are. Be in peace.
Edit: Since youtube is uploading my long comment for 10 minutes now, I guess it's lost in the ether.......I'll give it another go tomorrow.....jesus christ 2 hours down the fu****g drain
I'll write a longer comment tomorrow, but you might wanna take a Look into ptsd.
I wrote that iam currently residing in a psychiatric Institution, and here i have been diagnosed with ptsd (complex variety) thanks to my bullying experience and my horrible mother.
My Symptoms are very similar to yours. I'll write more tomorrow when im back at my PC, and share some of my self-grounding techniques. Stay strong!
It's all part of the same spectrum, and science hasn't completely solved it. One human brain is as complex(or more complex) than the universe itself!
you now have 41,000 friends ,helping you how meny friends do the bullies have at your bad time lean on all of us
Change that number to a 108k now 🤘🏻
122k - 8/7/23
Hey Dave!
I respect your courage. That is what it takes to start to overcome the feelings. I know those feelings of anxiety I had for about 3 years when I was 30. I'm 49 now and haven't had it since, not that it could be there, but I understand what to stay away from emotionally and have learned when to turn the other way. My wife is going through some anxiety now, I'm helping her get through it and I know she will. There is always triggers that start anxiety but those triggers are not in your life anymore because you have eliminated them and yes you have better things to do than dwell and grudge on the past. Family is the most important thing in your life and with all the ups and downs along the way staying close to family helps so much. I have a wife and 4 children which is most important to me. I have played the guitar since I was 9 and it helped me get through so many times. You are going deep into feelings with your guitar and that is so awesome to create those sounds that can affect the listeners emotions. However, consider your own feelings, I remember doing the same thing and deep mind blowing music creation can execute feelings of adrenaline mixed with injections of some sadness. I found that edge of knowing when to indulge and when to pull back.
Here is a link to my music ua-cam.com/video/R508jX4ywok/v-deo.html
I recorded this about 17 years ago with those anxiety feelings raging up and down. I had to push myself to stay away from the deep feelings and record more of feel good songs. Do I like it? NO not really. Therefore I am going to re-record now at 49. But now I know I can do a better job of my own work. For 17 years I maintained keeping the guitar visible to me, whether hanging on the wall or on stand, I never put it away in storage, in the closet, or under the bed. This helped me realize to not forget about the talent I have throughout the years of a busy life.
All the best Dave!
Keep on Rockin!
Richard
Extremely brave to post like this buddy! And such a wonderful piece of music at the end. Sending all our love and support as always 🙏
Thank you very much. : )
40,000 (and always growing) don't love you by chance or accident. It's your quirky and friendly personality, passion and talent with guitar, equipment and technique and a willingness to be helpful and share what you know with us. We're all like-minded like you and share the same passion as you. If nothing else, let us be your mirror (a là The Velvet Underground) and show you who you really are when you have a false perception of yourself! That's 1/25 of a million people think you're the dogs bollocks!
Thank you very much. : )
Dave that voice you call "it" is what I call the ego... You're already aware of it which is great... But yeah it never goes away... By now mine is usually like "Oh I might as well shut up... He's not going to listen anyway"... So it's possible and it sounds like you're getting there
In the morning I sit in a meditation position and just close my eyes for a few minutes... Being fully aware of every impulse and in the moment... Just letting it all slide off me... So also being aware of that voice and just letting it be like any other impulse... It's quite the opposite of falling out of bed and immediately reaching for the coffee machine... And I do the same before sleeping... A lot less emotions for me to process in my dreams that way... Happy days and happy nights
Just doing this twice every day constantly reminds me of the reality that I'm not one but two people... Anyone who automatically laughs at this is so very unaware of their ego... They have become it instead of forcing it to become them... It's good to see you realize you're in control... Especially if you even have thoughts of suicide
With that said you're under a lot of stress and the pressure on your chest might actually be an esophagus problem worsened by a panic attack causing your heart to beat faster... I hope so because you can get pills for that... But either way I'd go see a physician and just be sure
Take care of yourself Dave 🙏 and yeah fuck that voice 😊✌️ it's not you... It only has the luxury to live inside you while you do all the work and have all the responsibility... Like a parasite
And what are mental issues anyway? I may be prone to depressions, autistic and just really weird 😋 But there's nothing wrong with that actually... Would people elect me as President of the United States though? Nah! 😂 Of course not! I'm a freak!
You have a good heart Dave... To some people you're worthless then... But to others that's everything! And those are the only people that matter... Those are the only voices telling the truth
EDIT: I commented before watching the entire video... Sounds like you're saying very similar things 👍 So you know you're definitely not alone... I hope my meditation advice helps... For me that simple twice daily ritual made all the difference
Just wanted to say that those are some great words of wisdom you shared. Best wishes to you and thanks for the valuable insights :)
Hello Dave 4YEARS A GO I HAD A STROKE WITCH LEFT ME WITH A LOT OF PROBLEMS anxiety to the point I couldn't even leave my house and I've never been scared of anything until then it's a horrible place to be and since taken the tablets that the doctor prescribed me things have got a lot better but sometimes it's still struggle but I have to still keep pushing forward try not to let it beat me that's horrible in illness I struggle with my speech I used to play the drums I played drums for 30 years before the stroke I can no longer do that I tire very easily and obviously something's not quite right in my head now I know play guitar has have been for the last couple of years and doing something new on fresh does help I'm really proud that you put this video up and you're telling everybody on UA-cam and making people aware cause suffering in Silence is not good so keep up the fight Dave keep pushing forward and keep doing your cat channel because I watch everything you put up and it helps me and probably a lot of other people seeing you pushing forward makes everybody else want to push forward so well done thanks for putting this up and speak to you soon
Thank you Dave.
We share a lot of the same afflictions. This vid could be " divine intervention " for me . I could feel the pain in the tune.
Thank you very much. : )
After years of trying to find a way to explain depression to someone who downplays the seriousness of the situation, I finally found a concise description of the difference between "the blues" and genuine depression. There are times in almost everyone's life when they will go through the blues. The blues are a period of negative emotions usually brought on by a personal crisis of some sort. With some time and effort you will eventually come out the other side. Depression, on the other hand, often has no obvious initial trigger yet it becomes the filter through which the rest of your world is experienced. That can result in the world appearing to be a very bleak place. I wish I knew something to say that would be of use to someone in its grip. For most of my life I've either had my toes over the Edge or been very aware of how short the distance between the Edge and me.
That is spot-on!
I realize this is dated, but truly moving. I'm old and sick; there's not always a way back. No one will ever hear my playing (except for very fore-bearing neighbors), but that's not really the point. I try to pick up a guitar every day because to do that somehow contributes to the aspirations of our species; we are all connected. Anyway, thank you, Dave; there is no one I'd rather be stuck on a desert island with a couple of guitars than you. And that especially includes all those great shredders who seem to have forgotten the purpose of music and art in general...to reach other people's hearts. They don't. You do.
A few quotes that help me change my mindset
“A lot of people are much meaner to themselves in their own head than they would ever be to someone else..”
“Be nice to yourself. It’s hard to be happy when someones mean to you all the time.”
Thank you for this, Dave. I’ve struggled with anxiety and depression as well as alcoholism and addiction to stop feeling those feelings of anxiety and depression. Your positivity is a real gift to us all and I’m very grateful for you. Thank you, brother.
Thank you very much. : )
I’m with you! Anxiety for 20 years. Mindfulness exercises helped tremendously. Sometimes therapy or medication when necessary. Last year it was horrible and I changed jobs and back to mostly healthy. Don’t be afraid to try anything and make sure you are getting help.
Dave I've been a subscriber for a long time and I can certainly relate to your issues as I am going through the same battles. Stay strong.....there are a lot of folks including myself who wish nothing but the best for you.
Strength to you Dave. We are pulling for you. Reading the comments many of this community have similar issues and we support you. I know how you feel. For 30 years I've had many anxiety disorders and am currently agoraphobic and on many medications. But music and playing guitar are also my releases and your videos are a source of enjoyment. I look forward to them. Play on dude.
Thank you very much. : )
Thank you Dave. Just keep on fighting... and please... keep playing for all of us. You are an inspiration !
Thank you very much. : )
Thank you❤️
As long as my finances and physical health are ok I'll hang around. Being negative about your playing can cause you to try new things, constantly loving your playing can cause you to stagnate.
I have the same issues with anxiety. Started around 5 years ago after my wife died. "It" is very oppressive for sure and what works for me is a good old primordial scream, helps me to refocus and shut "it" up. Thanks for talking about this issue and if it helps one person...
I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. Thank you for watching.
Dave, always remember that people are prepared to support people in need. If all people can offer is an ear to listen then you have both of mine.
What I will say is that we all have good places and one of my best is watching you play and you being honest on your channel. Stay with us mate because you may just be keeping me and others from the edge. You are an inspiration and must understand that thousands of us need you to keep posting and giving us a simple reason to stay around and never give up.
I am learning guitar because you help me and that’s my simple reason. Your simple reason is you are helping me across the world in Australia..🙏🏻
Edit: The music says to me be calm, scream, be calm, scream, be calm and f**k it scream loud (50:00) because I am having a bad 30 years. Today I needed to scream..🤬👹🎸 .
Thanks
Dave
Dave. That simple. Powered by Dave. Love you man and thanks for putting this out there again mate 👍🏻 Edit: I'm a few more mins in and you have such a great humanity about you and when you said you are fighting 'it' I totally get it. I'm proud of you mate.
Very courageous of you to discuss this. I have also struggled with depression and anxiety, so understand where you have been.
Stay strong and keep moving forward. You are still amongst the most passionate and talented artists on The Tube. Thanks so much for sharing this with the community. Be well!
Stay strong Dave! I totally understand, not in the same way you do but, I struggle too. I recorded a Green Day vid today and it totally helped me feel better. In the words of The Offspring “ music soothes even the savage beast”. Your channel is awesome mate!!!
Dude just wanted to thank you for the like on the video I tagged you on Instagram of me soloing and jamming to the song time you shared a couple videos back meant I’ve also dealt with depression and anxiety thank god he brought me through and I thankfully didn’t commit suicide its a battle but God’s been a great help on my life! 😎🎶🎶
Thanks for talking about your experience, its helping as I understand what you’re saying better than i can understand myself at the moment 🙏🏼 take care be kind to yourself x
Dave, the creative mind is always going. It sucks sometimes and it would be nice to have a half-power switch. A lot of us are out there and it's so painful trying to get it to just be quiet. But, the pain and sacrifice is worth it because you make great music and share great ideas that so many appreciate. When things feel dark, read the comments on your videos. Every one of those were written by a person who connects with you. This goes for everyone really. People connect with each other and may never know it. All of our lives are important to one another.
never give up Dave, as well as your obvious talent as a guitar player, you are genuinely the nicest guitarist on the tube, try not to give yourself a hard time about it, and accept how you feel and why you feel that way. That's what seems to be helping me with an ongoing mental health condition, that's been with me since my teens. Though anxiety depression etc, is a kick in the teeth at the time, it definitely has a silver lining, I've met some of the best people in my struggles through the mental health system, and illness offers genuine opportunities for personal growth, people underestimate the strength people have that are going through a genuine crisis like this, and when you come through this you'll have greater strength for the things life may throw at you, thanks for sharing this and genuinely being a great bloke.
I'm learning to recognize anxiety in myself, how it has been down deep, lurking beneath my depression and ADD, and the low self esteem. I find being generous to others very therapeutic. That is the condensed version. As humans, we cannot be an island. It is all of our duty to ask people, "How are you?", and be genuinely prepared to actually listen to the real answer.
Once I stopped caring what others though about me it made my life so much lighter and happier.
Asking for help isn't a bad thing Ery body need help sometimes. Just ask there is help available.
No matter how bad it looks it gets better, you are worth more than you can ever know don't let the darkness win.
This comment is for every one not just Dave!
I can relate to this in so many ways, Dave. My anxieties have robbed me of becoming the great guitarist I know I could've been. But now I'm too old to achieve my dream. My anxieties actually keep me from playing gigs sometimes - or from taking gigs I know would probably be okay to play but, for whatever reasons, I often say no to them. This absolutely sucks! A musician NEEDS to perform live as often as possible!! In doing so, we gain confidence, and this helps us become more immune to those very anxieties we had in the first place! A necessary "cycle", as it were. Just know that thousands of us guitarists in UA-cam land love your videos and have such genuine respect and love for you! You are our friend and you may not even know it! Just hang in there and keep the upper hand on this ugly monster, and know that we are here and with you!
You are a brave and beautiful person Dave. This has helped me more than I can express, It helps to hear from someone you respect with the same interest they are dealing with the same thing you are, on a daily basis, and are struggling, eternally, with. Keep rocking and fighting and doing the next right/good thing. You gave me strength to start fighting again with my battle, which is the worst its been in the last 25 years.
Nice song Dave, got some undertones reminiscent of "Wicked Game" in the build up before you break out into some pretty solid rock guitar.
I've been through a bit and being an introvert am often misunderstood as being standoffish and arrogant. Mostly because I'm not very trusting of other people. But the people I trust and care about I hold really close. Childhoods can be tough and bring out little demons of self doubt and insecurity. For me, many of those things slipped away to be replaced with adult problems like bills and financial insecurity. At 47 with a wonderful wife and three pugs, working from home surrounded by good things and my guitars. Life is pretty good so long as I keep myself busy. Being busy stops the whispery draughts of negativity from seeping into my consciousness.
You have a good thing going on here and your connecting a lot of people. I'm going to be hanging around your channel as long as your putting out videos. Your quite brave talking about all these things so frankly. Your a much stronger person than you sometimes give yourself credit for, keeping busy doing things we love and care deeply about really helps keep us grounded and a future to look forward to.
Thanks for sharing that Dave. Powerful stuff reaching out to more of us than you imagine. Keep up the amazing music & God bless you!
Dave. You are one of lifes good guys aswell as a great rocker.. You're also an inspiration man...
The holy Existence does not know the word "not". So by telling the Existence I do not want this or that, you give more power to the things you do not want. By telling and imaginating the things that you want in a positive way, you send more positive power.
I have tried that out, and it works for me. Shure I know that it is very hard to remember this, when you are really down! Keep on rocking, I wish you all the best. Out of the Mud grows the Lotus! There is a great song from Sinead O'Connor: "The Healing Room"!!
Thanks for sharing this video David . And that breakdown solo at the end is the most impressive I've heard AND seen! You are amazing, and keep doing you thing.
Stay strong brother! You have an amazing gift in your guitar playing, and the world will be far worse off without it! That's so strong to talk about this f---ed illness, especially on such a public platform. Unfortunately not all of us have someone to talk to about this, it's still got a huge stigma around it in my neck of the woods. People see it as a weakness, so I just bottle it up. Doing us proud!
Hey who is laughing now with over 41000 followers, certainly not your schoolyard bullies!
Dave, my friend, you are not alone. Your music and courage is an inspiration to more people worldwide than you will ever know. I'm a soldier in the United States Army where there are stigmas associated with seeking help from a behavioral health professional. So, I've shied away from doing so. Your videos have been therapeutic for me. I greatly appreciate you and the work that you do and will continue to tune in faithfully. Stay strong buddy!
Anxiety is something we have to deal with, especially if we are musicians, I've came to the point where "that" and some depressive feelings made me to stop playing....while gigging or on rehearsal
We can get through this,hope you have a nice day!
MarkTwan once wrote, "I've seen many troubles in my life, and most of them never came true''
Depression and that S word pressing at me have crushed me these last two years so what you have to say means everything I've gone through.
Thank.you Dave let your guitar weep not yourself your vifues are great and that's not because of your great guitar playing ect it's because of you being a genuine great person. Take care I'm a guitarist nearly 60 I play in e band everyone over 60 health issues for some of us but we try to.give a rocking show every time. The fellowship of the guitar is strong and powerful.
So many of us out there, love you- brother. For your sake, as well as ours- please be positive to ensure you will be around for all of us, for a long, long time!!!!!!
Much love Dave. Keep on keeping on brother.
Thank you for your music and encouragement.
I'm struggling with mental health issues and been on sick-leave for 6 months now. I've always been active and healthy, now I struggle with normal daily tasks. I'm getting professional help and medication, nature, faith and music are keeping me on the right track.
Inspired by you, Dave, I bought an old brown Marshall 5010 Master Lead combo. It's nothing special, but it puts a smile on my face when I crank it up... that's my first feeling of joy in along time...
I am grateful waking up every morning, that I yet again are given the gift of life for an other day. One day at a time...
Your doing a great job, Dave. Thank you for being a part of my life.
What a brave man to bare warts and all like that Dave. Could never say thank you enough for this. Stick to the plan, don't forgive and remember that you have a great gift. If your music or channel touches just a single soul then it is a success. That's what I keep in my head when playing live... people may like the music, people may not but if 1 person walks away from the show with a smile on their face, a new friend, discovered something new that they like then that's a win. Every Up has a down but more importantly every down has an UP
Thank you very much indeed. : )
Dave. I listened to your story about your struggles with mental health through school and so on. Your story was so similar to my own. I thank you for having the guts to share it. It helped me feel not so alone. You have givin me alot of hope and helped me through some things recently. You are doing a great service. there are many of us who need to here this kind of message. Thank you!!
Yes, I am aware that I'm Mental. ♥ Artists are extra prone to these phobias because we're naturally super creative at weaving nightmares. I get claustrophobic in cars and almost have a panic attack at every busy intersection or major highway. It's adrenaline that has no place to go. You have triggered your fight or flight response and you need to channel it somewhere positive. You won't die I promise:)
Important video, brave man
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I know what you mean for sure! I have type 2 diabetes and sleep insomnia and asthma I’m 49 it’s very hard to deal with not for sure how much longer I will be around 🙁🤔 great topic great video 👍😊 Thank you so much 🙏
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Dave simpson your an insperation to so manny people and i know what your going threw and its horrible, Music is my best therapy but i do the wim hoff method too theres a good vice documentery on here about him "inside the super human world of the ice man" if anyones intrested. ive done EMDR and CBT therapy too. i suffer with PTSD but im not gonna be its bitch. Ive been struggling myself this past week and this vid has helped me snap out of it. I find that doing good things for others helps me feel better too. Do good things for others and good things will happen to you, its the nature of the universe. Loved the instrumental man you blow me away everytime. Keep strong my brother from another mother.
Dont be a spectator if you come across bullying. I never have and never will. I will get involved and do what ever it takes. I will always try to reason with bully. If needs to take bullying a bully have no problem with that if its the only alternative. Had a police situation couple weeks ago for slapping the crap out of 20 something kid for making sexual comments to middle age women at the gas station. Asked him to stop . He told me piss off Gave him choice of stopping aploligizing. He made more remarks to her she was really scared. So i slapped the shit out of him in the parking lot. Police came and pretty much asked him if he learned a lesson. Probably wrong way to handle situation but i refuse to sit back and watch someone be treated like that. You can beat this dave. I have been fighting severe anxiety. Since i lost my son six years ago. Just lost my job because of missing time from dealing with severe trembles. You are a great man who cares in general. We can all beat this together. Remember taking easy way out just puts everything on the people who loved you and you left behind.. Rock on dave. You help and bring enjoyment to alot of people! You can do it!
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Hi Dave
I found your channel by accident. It really struck a chord with me. 3 years ago my brother committed suicide. The worst thing about it was I was closest to him and I knew it was going to happen. I wanted to help, I tried to help. I never even got close to doing enough to really help him. I have so many memories of him that are really not how I want to remember him.
You are doing the right thing by opening up, even a little bit. By being open about your feelings in the present, it helps your friends, including the friends you have on this channel, support you any way you can. You are not on your own. You are incredibly brave opening up about the issue. We all look for ways out, but life is always worth living. Don’t let IT beat you!
You are a talented guy and you have a new subscriber thanks to this video👍
Thank you very much and I am so so sorry for your loss. Its heartbreaking to hear about your Brother. I'm so sorry. : )
Even though I am an older player who’s ‘seen it all’ (apparently not)I have watched several of your videos and have found them informative, helpful and a good watch. You are a great player. You should know how much what you do is appreciated and hopefully that will be a help.
You are very brave to open yourself up to the world. I've been dealing with palpitations since September 2018 and meditation has helped me a great deal. Also, I work from home and I'm hardly in touch with other people until my wife gets home from work and I've been doing this for 5 years. I've found that getting out of the house and riding my bike or talking a stroll to the park is great help too. Making music is the best outlet for me though. Yo do it much better, though, Dave. Rock on, push "it" back. Your existance makes my life better and I'm not exaggerating.
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Yeah, times can be tough. It can be a royal bitch. I've had many times where depression and wanting to be happy get in this screwed up tug-o-war and it can be incredibly psychologically draining. The same with the darkest of times where I am sitting around and crying my eyes out and wanting to end it all. But, then it goes back to that tug-o-war where the side that wants to keep going fights with the side that just wants to give up. But, at the end of the day, I've stuck around this far and at this stage of my life, I don't see myself giving in to those darker impulses. I keep thinking to myself: "Well, if I haven't done it at this point, I doubt that it's ever going to go that way." Plus, the last 9 months were an insane whirlwind of medical craziness. That alone made me think: "Okay, damn it. You're going to throw all of this at me? Well, fuck you. I won't let that take me down, either." That's not to say that I haven't had some depressive days over it, because I certainly have. But, I think to myself: "Fuck it. Just keep pushing on. That's all you can do." So, I have no choice but to keep going.
Very well said. Thank you for sharing. I have an "it" too and it sucks.
Thank you for making this video.
Truly magnificent and awesome outro - Axemageddon - the slaying of the beast.
Great discussion Dave I am glad you chose the right weapon your AXE.You are a true inspiration and don't give in without a fight.Ps I think you should put your logo on the Tshirts,Cheers and have a great weekend,here in Canada were celibrating Victoria day on Monday.
We love you Dave, you are so awesome, and so inspirational.
Thank you for being so brave and honest. We can all fight our own brains together.
You don't seem like a negative person to me. You love everything you feature in your videos. Keep them coming. They make my world better.
Excellent video Dave,as an ex anxiety sufferer it can be beaten but it still tries it’s hand now and then.I have someone close to me that suffers with the one I regard as the big one the dreaded cloud that is Depression.This all consuming horrible disease is so hard to live with and also I hope people give a thought to people knowing someone tying to live with this monster.Good luck to all that are having to cope with this.
Best regards.
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Mental health really is one of the last big taboo's we face in this part of the world. I have suffered with anxiety for years now. The breathless symptom is one I've had and it is horrible, that and this sudden feeling that my throat is blocked. I've had the palpitations, the tingling in my limbs, feeling of passing out, sweating for no reason, waking in the night mid panic attack not being able to breath and having no idea where I am. I was prescribed fluoxetine recently for depression and it really has kerbed the anxiety symptoms in a big way. I'd recommend anyone go and see their doctor. Help is out there and there is no need to feel any stigma attached to this type of medication, it could change your life.
U rule Dave. So proud of you man.
Much respect for putting it out there, please know you are not alone .
Thanks Dave for this vid, i cant say anything more now i just wanna cry and sleep at the same time
I'm sorry that you're struggling. I've struggled at times too. Stay tough. You have a great talent at reaching people and connecting, both with your music and your personality. Love you Dave!
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Great video mate. Your situation is completely relatable with those who go through this shit.
You my friend are doing so well but I understand your anxiety keeps telling you're not great.
I also have a feeling you've found the remedies to cure this problem and life will get so much better for you.
Seek and destroy anxiety brother.
Best wishes and prayers.
"Fan, vad bra du spelar!" That is swedish and it means: "Damn, how fantastic you play!"
It's owerflowing with soul, it's shocking, I love it.
Dave I'm going threw it as well, it feels like someone or something is holding you down on the ground and want let you move an inch, all the while someone else is sitting on your chest. So you can't breath. And both those people are saying horrible things in your ear. It sucks!!! You are not alone brother, I dealt with this as a 22 year old and it subsided. Now I'm 51 and recently had some real stressful stuff happen and it came back like a dark cloud.
It can be beat, don't listen to IT, and when your having the attacks, try your best to ride it out. Love you brother!!!
Thank you very much indeed. : )
don't let your demons get the best of you man, life is a blessing. I suffer the same as you with my mental health its like you are talking about me. and this video will help many people thanks for sharing.
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We are creatures of our environment...even people who grow up on a silver platter grow up unable to handle letdowns, I found eastern philosophy, it helps me but I'm always depressed, tough and funny
It's sad here in the philippines, some families here the relatives are the one that's mentally abusing you. They may not be physically abusing you but they are mentally torturing you. Based on the standards here that they want you to be. Good thing my will is strong and i just laugh it off. And of course with the help of the guitar and metal/rock music.
Very good words Dave great listening to you !!
You're not alone brother when you mentioned the breathlessness it really hit home with me, the little niche that you're into with frusciante and the love you have for guitar playing and gear is fucking cool man, It's easier said than done but the only one who is judging you is yourself and that is something that I try to tell myself daily, keep your head up dude x
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Hi Dave,
We're going through problems and a story very similar to yours with my 17 year old daughter, listening to you tell your story helps so much in my understanding of the things she's going through and helps me to help her, thank you for being so brave to share your thoughts and help others.
I hear ya. Stay strong brother!
Thanks Dave. Stay strong brother.
sending healing vibes important informative advice thanks Dave best gift known too man "encouragement".
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Well said , Dave . And , my GOD you're putting some excellent music into the world - thank you !!
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Thanks Dave for this, for your open minded reviews and for your playing. keep on!!
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Respect you for posting these videos, Dave. Thank you.
Stay strong. The world needs more good people like you, not less 🤘🏻