I am sorry but the main problem is you married in a hurry for a visa with a person you were not compatible with at all. You were very different people and wished to do different things in life, that's it. I am italian and my husband is japanese we waited around two years for marriage and actually get along REALLY well. I have never met another person who thinks so much like me even back in my home country. Not a matter of country, more like a matter of incompatibility which can happen anywhere in the world.
"Because I watched a lots of anime and Japanese drama before going to Japan, I thought I had a pretty good understanding about what Japanese people would be like to live with." Ultimate weeaboo move
So, you found a random good-looking girl and married her without getting to know her first, and only afterward you started to figuring out who she is and realized that you are not good for each other. It's sad that you had to go thought that, but now it will stay with you as an important life lesson. Don't marry random people and don't trust sudden love. An important decision that changes your whole life is something you can't rush, or it ends up like this. Nowadays, it's really hard to have a long-lasting married life. People gets divorced more and more. They give up too fast. I actually got triggered by you a little, and wrote a wall of text that I just deleted, since who cares anyway. Just use the experience you got with her to work on some self-improvement. You won't fix other people, but you can fix yourself. For relationship, you don't only need a good wife. You also need to be a good husband. If just one of the two of you grew up and become a responsible partner, then it still wouldn't work. You need two responsible people to have a long-lasting relationship.
Yes, he is a complete twat. He is complaining about how difficult it was to meet other women when married and having hookups with these - I wonder how he would feel if his wife did the same.
Stop doing things in desperation. All your life moves seem to revolve around you getting backed into a corner and being forced to make a decision. Take some control back and start doing things on your terms, not anyone elses.
No bro we care haha it’s hiding in my room u need to be high to watch this guy and enjoy him but he’s an absolute gem and legend lol I don’t see anyone with his honesty on UA-cam lol
Being unfaithful in a relationship is the worst,even if it is quite understandable in a longterm relationship e.g..This behaviour is quite bad for your karma. You should stay single or being with people who are alike. I feel deeply sorry for your former wife and I think that she did not deserve it.These kind of things destroy other people.There are even people who hurt themselves or commit suicide because of this. One must be more careful with other peoples feelings.Have you ever apologized to her? Judging women only by their looks,using them and talking about them in a bad manner afterwards?Sry,this is more than awful.Think about yourself getting older and/or uglier.Or someone only judging you on your current job and not as a whole person... What do your mother and sister think about your behaviour towards women?
If I got my karma, it done. Because I’m happy after getting divorced. But you are getting karma, coz your channel is dead and you aren’t happy. You never change forever
I am sorry! 😞I don't know you both or what happened in your relationship.I am in no position to judge or give a statement about your lifes. In general people should be respected,women should be respected,privacy should be respected. I like Daniel's youtube channel because I think that he is very funny and has got talent.Maybe he is just afraid to do something else.I wish you both the best!!!
So this is your personal opinion and personality that didn't work out in the relationship. Why your relationship failed has nothing to do with the other person, it was your own expectations that you didn't think through that failed your relationship. You are not ready for a relationship period in my opinion. You need to do some work on yourself to figure out your needs and what you want. All of these expectations are only what you personally expect. For me personally getting divorced because of food is a bit troublesome as you have a very limited emotional intelligence to deal with these issues. It seems like you rely on other things in life to make you happy, which is a bit troublesome.
The most unbelievable thing about you is your insanely brutal honesty. I think it's fresh actually, someone being so blunt, even though the topics might be upsetting for some.
When Daniel says "I would just say silly things on stream" what he actually means is "I would say my wife is not very pretty and I'm not attracted to her on stream among other hurtful things" lol
I think what made the marriage fail is you being anti social with zero interest in getting to know other people outside of the woman you want to meet for the sole purpose of having sex. Your ex wife made it pretty clear
Everything is a trade off. I originally felt the same way you did when I got married but if you put the time in, you will adjust to one another. She sounds like a typical wife. 100% of our issues is my wife getting upset at me😂. We been married for 18 years and I wouldn't trade it for the world. The longer you are together the more nostalgic that person becomes to you. After 10 years of marriage I exercised my demons of wanting sexual experiences with other women not that I did anything but the strong urge that us men deal with dissipated. I'm 50 years old so I dont know if it has to do with my age. We started to go to church and that is the main reason why we are still together.
As if Japanese people eat salmon rice and fresh veggies. They eat sugar bread, sugar rice. More processed food with tons of chemicals and additives. Japanese food is unhealthy asf
You are right Japan is not what people show in social media. Japanese people are so different and foreigners won’t fit on their world. They need to know there is a whole world out there, that’s why I do not recommend living in Japan even tho you speak Japanese.
Most of the things you hated was on yourself. Basing living in Japan on anime and movies is like assuming I know Britain and British people via Mr Bean. To not hear English is your own job by doing calls with friends and family and watch entertainment in your first language. The jokes not landing... you need to have enough sense to know your audience when you use jokes. If a type of joke doesn't land with a person you adapt and if they don't find it funny you save those jokes to those where it does land. Being married in a foreign language with a spouse of a foreign culture becomes your own job to make sure you fulfill your own needs that handles homesickness by cooking the foods you miss or listen to the comedy you miss, call the people you miss, etc. Sarcasm doesn't translate so when you take the words literally it gets hurtful. I have a sarcastic sense of humor too but again, know your audience. You live and you learn but know your misery on the most part was on yourself.
I mean you wouldn't appreciate it if your girlfriend was having tinder hookups and seeking men on dating sites and getting her tube packed an hour before you two do the deed. You get what you give and when you have a reputation for treating women this way don't be surprised when it happens to you while you're dating or after you've said your vows
I had a Japanese GF for 12 years however we never lived in Japan. I see some similarities like the lack of understanding of irony, eating rice 3 times a day. what upset me the most was when we were on trips in Japan she got very sensitive to not annoying anyone else like speaking too loud or leaning against something while waiting in line ...
Hey not just you this brother is being honest,yeah some of it seems a bit silly to some. Cultural immersion is huge. I thought I could make it training for years,and there's some things you don't know unless you do what he did. Maybe you have a foreign group of friends. Sounds like he was all by himself and his wife. Big cities can be sensory overload load,go to San Francisco downtown that's a freak show in the USA,or maybe New York city. Just being open minded about his issues there.
You're 100% right. You did nothing wrong. Sounds like you just been giving and giving, completely selfless, not being appreciated at all for everything you did for her. Didn't know Japanese were so inconsiderate.
I’m sure you know by now but sarcasm doesn’t exist in Japan AND their humor is quite different. This is something I found to be very hard. P.S Talking smack about your wife on stream/youtube is probably not such a good idea..
I literally cannot get enough of this channel. It can't just be me though, I want Daniel and Chihoro to get back together eventually and start a family in Japan hahahaha
man complaining about stuff he either should’ve foreseen happening or stuff he did not care enough to be better with. if you care about someone, you make a true effort to communicate and understand them. you do not have to force yourself to watch everything she does or eat everything that she does but you should respect her ways and communicate the issues you have because you LOVE that person. it just seemed like bro romanticized everything and got stuck in reality.
Sounds like my wife, but we’ve been together for 5 years going on 6 and the first three years were so bad but eventually we understood, that we are both from different cultures, but I honestly feel that if we didn’t have a daughter together we would have been broken up, our daughter keeps us together and I want to keep her happy so me being unhappy is the best thing A dad can do, as much as I love Japan if your outgoing you can’t stay here you can’t have friends because only work is important, my daughter wants me to stay and her mother wants me to leave so im doing what’s right for my baby, I’ve recently been feeling homesick and I couldn’t go out of Japan for three years because of this stupid virus but I miss friends I miss talking English to people, Japanese people are so introverted and I’m way to extroverted for japan, so I get how you feel and how I’m still here only for my daughter next year I’ll get my permanent visa and if she wants a divorce I don’t care
I believe your channel should come with a warning label. ⚠️ You are promoting a dangerous life style. However I believe you will soon reap the depravity you have sown. I hope your wife marries a man who is extraordinary perfectly faithful and loving towards her. I wish I could tell her that my heart goes out to her
On a visit to Japan, a Japanese woman showed some interest in me but I didn't follow up on it, regretted it, but now I'm not so sure 🤔 I missed bread after literally 3 days 😅. I sort of know what you mean about Japanese stores shouting slogans but every shop you go in, in the UK has blaring music too. 🎶
I don`t know exactly why, but when somebody says "lady" instead of woman or girl, it instantly turns me off. Like it suggests there was something indecent about that woman or that by saying "lady" you suggest something untoward and smutty/perv in yourself.
@@HidingInMyRoom1989 put in the hard word daniel, do more cooking with daniel, get better shots and transitions displaying you what you do head to toe etc idk just show more of yourself
Many guys are not meant to be married...you are one of those...you have to give up a lot of the freedom you had as a single person and that for many us is a deal breaker. You can't wolf around with other women if you are married- another clue you are not ready for marriage. When you get older and wiser you will know when it's time to find a compatible mate. Don't rush things. Learn from this one bad experience what issues you need and what issues you can compromise on...that gal may be someone you already know or someone you may meet any day. If you love each other and can communicate when issues arise you will both find a satisfying relationship...in the meantime, enjoy your single life, learn from your mistakes and lead the best life you can...
Last year of marriage before i divorced i witnessed an increasingly selfish, juvenile, irresponsible and cruel behaviour. I am not going back to such hell, i love living in japan but i think i will not have a relationship with another japanese woman, it just doesn't work for me.
Yeah it was a shock for me when I went to a university cafeteria and they weren't serving chips when I was craving Western food. But I went to the IKEA and it was exactly like here, meatballs, gravy and chips! In all seriousness I love Japanese food, one of the advantages of a Japanese wife, especially love miso!
They live long because they practice poverty diet, aka fasting, that slows the metabolism and the lifespan of parts of the body, ironically you eat less or just enough, you live longer. However this is not done intentionally
I’m an American living in Japan but near a military base but been in Japan for years now . I feel 100 percent exactly the same way you do...I thought I was the only one ! I feel so insecure and feeling like a prisoner living in Japan !
I feel like Japanese culture is one of those things that are great to visit but I'd never comepletely and permanently immerse myself in it, kind of like city life (although I have no choice but to live in the city lol)
You've dodged a bullet, that youtuber Techlead had his kid essentially kidnapped from him by a Japanese wife, she ran off back to Japan with him and he cannot get access and see his kid for years despite trying. ua-cam.com/video/oy1MMCZgRg0/v-deo.html Also there's this French dude who is a similar situation protesting on the streets of Japan about his kid and access rights etc.
That guy makes Daniel look honest. Watch his latest video about being arrested and how he plugs his company while talking about being interrogated. He's just a salesman
@@hkim9151 im not sure what being a millionaire has to do with it? So its fine they get their child kidnapped ? Its fine they have to pay 50k a year just for child support to some woman who stole his child away. Where do you people get your ass backwards thinking?
Lol, why would anime teach you how marry a Japanese woman? That’s like watching porn and thinking you can please every female when most porn is just acting.
This is just sad. I remember watching your videos when i could barely undertand english and now years later I see this. It's astonishing to see how you've not grown emotionally at all. I really hope this is just some joke to get some clout. Bro's a full grown adult and can't see that he's stuck in his own childish expectations and delusions. From the viewpoint of a stranger it just made it look like you married her to get a visa and then when she wasn't acting like a fictional anime waifu you cheated on her, felt no remorse for it and now came to whine about it on yt like you suffered so much because of her.
Kudos to you Daniel for trying to adapt to your wife's culture but unfortunately she is a selfish one and doesn't want to open her mind to understand you. Understand each other is an important element between two individuals husband and wife. From your story you confirmed my uncle's claim who work with a Japanese company under a Japanese boss. My uncle not encouraging me to marry a Japanese woman because Japanese people are basically just racist. And if you watch ask shogo channel you will understand how Japanese people's mind work. They're very close minded and that's why from your story your wife getting offended easily without trying to open her mind and try to understand the culture and differences of you. The problem arise when you're forced to adapt to their culture while the Japanese wife (including her family and society) denying your culture and your background completely. That's clearly a bias. Better avoid Japanese women for good. Japanese gave this thought that they're superior or something and that disgusts me.
lol. my fiance is a Korean man that I met while living in Korea... and I can empathize with a bit of this. thankfully his taste in food isn't bland and most Korean food is pretty bomb, but he definitely loves weird seafood more than me. also... oh god he loves watching Korean variety "comedy" shows which is sort of similar to Japanese tv. men shouting at the top of their lungs with stupid wigs on usually... can't stand it personally lol.
This was HILARIOUS. D9nt blame him for disliking a culture. He doesn't hate the people, just the atmosphere. It's his preference. Secondly, she proposed to him not the other way around. He seems like a timid guy so if he's saying something was too much I believe him lmaooo
That’s the same way with Spanish TV but yes, I understand you because speaking my language, regardless even if I speak, it, fluently is frustrating sometimes especially if if you don’t have the right words. I myself did not grow up being fond of the language due to the fact that I know I wasn’t good and other native Spanish or better Spanish speakers would just criticize on how I speak it
first of all, as an asian wife, i think she should've cooked for you too. not married yet, but if ever someday my husband doesn't want to eat a certain cuisine and i like it, i would cook for him a different food that he likes. well that's just me..not all women are the same.
I don’t know you but based on this video, you two were not compatible and you clearly married her for the wrong reasons. You did not like anything about her as a person, the only positives were “having a wife” and “not being lonely”. Boy, then any girl will do, hell even a roommate or a pet.
Jan 6th will be the 20th anniversary with my Japanese wife. In hindsight, most of the issues we ever had were mostly because we were very immature. I have to assume this is your case as well. Some of these things can end a relationship--even a full blown marriage. The good thing is it's easy to marry and divorce in Japan. The bad thing is that it's easy to marry and divorce in Japan. Food in Japan has to grow on your and it certainly has for me. Living in Italy my wife and I became very homesick for Japanese food--even the simplest things like saba with rice and miso soup. Japanese women can also be overbearing at times because they expect the highest standards from you. I don't mean they expect you to be rich, but they expect you to be driven and have things to show for your work. Also, Japanese women do not like weak or feminine men. I know that is generalizing, but you have to consider what Japanese women want, and for the most part they are looking for a secure man who knows what he wants and will put his foot down when things get too emotional on her end. Come to think of it, isn't that was all women want all over the globe? To think deeper even, Japanese women are not really that different from other women around the world. Sure they may be more traditional, and those women who reject traditionalism end up coming back to tradition anyhow, and those who do not are miserable. end of rant.
Realising you don't like the food, being homesick, not coping with a foreign language or cultural greetings, music in shops seems like stuff you can probably realise living in a country alone before you get married. Did you get married on your second week in Japan or something? -.-
This is truly sad. It seems like he really didn’t know this girl, life style or culture before getting married. Daniel, I sorry to say…. You seem such a narcissist…… who really has no idea where happiness actually is. I do know that wanting your cake snd eating it….. isn’t conducive to either a good relationship or marriage. It’s about give a take….. I’d be interested to hear exactly what chihiro’s impression on what it was like to be married to you…. Because it’s sad to say that you seem complete unable to grasp how anyone except yourself feels.
Did I hear steaks, fish and chips, burgers, hotdogs, lasagne, chicken and shepherds pies…. Yum yum. I can not take it anymore….. you make my mouth watery……… but your favorite is always cheesecake and cereal 🥣.
British really struggle with other cultures because of the sarcasm. Personally, I love British wit. I moved to Brazil and have had issues with this. People see sarcasm as passive aggressiveness (which it can be a times).
I'm tired of hearing about Chihiro and Why I hated stuff, to be honest. Would be nice to see cooking or bicycle vlog, a chill video of you doing something, anything. Anyways, I watch every your video, your voice is oddly relaxing.
I have only watched the Elden ring vid and this dude is mad he is complaining about the girl being boring and he has gotten married yet still dating and was cheating on her and complaining about her. no comment can convince me this guy is fine in the head
I'm so jealous! You had a great diet while in Japan! I eat fuss-free cooking like humbergers or steaks or shushi everyday, because I'm lazy and incompetent.
At least you got married, i wasted a decade breaking my back working half to death there and still struggled with relationships, only to leave empty handed
Do you think you are more in demand among women in Japan than in the UK. And if so, why? Loved the video. Some great insights and honesty. The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence. When you are married you wish you were single, and when you are single you wish you were married. Such is life.
How old is this boy?! A marriage, any relationship for that, takes work, understanding and compromise. I’ve been married to a Mauritian woman, of Indian origin, for 18 years and to begin with, we are a hell of a lot of rice, which was too much for me. You know what I did? I didn’t sulk; I discussed with her what I wanted to eat and we compromised. I cooked other foods that we both enjoyed. Stop your whining; look at yourself and get in with your life. You probably did the poor woman a favour by divorcing her.
@@Marcos-jr6ky not just looks, but acts immature too. I almost feel sorry for the guy, in that he is not mature enough to live life, but then that is up to him at the end of the day. Quite sad to hear that his wife was abusive towards him too. Maybe neither of them were ready for marriage.
Both of you could have compromised. One day or two per week with western meals. Too bad you both had communication issues. Also, that feeling of walking on eggshells in a relationship/marriage always leads to doom. I dated a well known youtuber and had issues with her talking about me, spewing negative drama when in reality it was a made up lie. I got tired of her lack of respect really fast. Another thing, your cheating on your ex wife is harsh. Your ex probably knew more than she let on.
You know how many people in the world had that same dream? They always think Japan is exactly or pretty close to what they watch in anime. I lived in Japan for 2 years (military) in Okinawa, but I went to the mainland many times. I never watched anime, never got into afterward either. But from what I did watch… no. It’s nothing like the cartoons… idk why people really think it is. The work culture is terrible in Japan. People there are super depressed. They’re really respectful people, but most of them are just a box of rocks. Cookie cutter. That’s not me being racist. I’m not racist by any means. They’re just so… plain. Except for the people in Okinawa. Okinawa is exceptional! The people there are so nice and friendly. They don’t even consider themselves Japanese. Most people in mainland Japan never go to Okinawa because “there’s no money there.” It’s bad. Honestly, if you want a really awesome foreign wife, assuming you’re not from the country, philipinas are amazing women. They’re so sweet and kind. And attractive imo. And they love foreigners. The country is pretty under developed, but it’s still nicer than other places if you enjoy a simple life. Either way, the whole peaceful esthetic people relate to Japanese culture is completely wrong. Go to Japan and find out. If you wanna experience the REAL Japan, go to the suburbs. Stay away from the cities.
I was born and raised in the USA and I married a man from my country of origin. And while we waited to be able to file for his papers for the green card, I was living there with him. I couldn't get used to the diet. It was depressing, I literally for one second craved the lunches from the public schools of NYC. That's how bad it got. I grew up eating food from my country of origin BUT DANG the lack of variety got to me and it felt like we were eating the same thing every day. They have burger stands but that shit is fake meat. Nasty AF. I am stil with him and we have two kids.
Ok, you'll probably not read this comment but i feel like telling this to you: I understand that life can become a nightmare when we constantly find ourselves "Alone", in different moments, with those we are suppose to love and be loved by. It sucks to clash with unreasonable logic, whether It being at work or at home. But you mate are responsable for that. You my friend chose your wife, you chose a controlling girl who wouldn't fall in love with you being a British guy who sometimes, or often, eats different then her, and has his own passion and ways to find newances in life. You found yourself in the position to say YES to someone without knowing her first... So with that in mind, who Is to blame? I do not want to bash you or tackle your self esteem, but the fact that you cheated on her makes you weak in my eyes, cause instead of telling her the truth, little by little, about what you didn't like about her behaviour, about maybe your feelings of not being appreciated or loved for Who you are, you chose to dig those feelings down a hole hoping never to realize that cracks will be created in the relationship. I think you made a good choice to divorce. I hope only good things for you, since you seem a good guy.
I understand why she would be upset if you were talking about her during your live streams, especially if she explicitly told you not to. It doesn't matter if she knew about it or not, you should have respected her privacy.
@@HidingInMyRoom1989 It's not about whether or not people don't like it, no one gives a fuck what people think, and you're right, they can shove it. It's about respecting another person's boundaries when they share something private about themselves with you, or would rather you not tell the whole world about them. For example, if your sister has a baby and doesn't want anyone to post pictures of her baby, but you go ahead and do that anyways because "it's my social media account", you are only hurting your relationship with your sister and breaking her trust. It's about trust and respect between your personal relationships. Of course, you wouldn't understand anything about trust because you're a lying cheater. I still enjoy your content though, even if I don't agree with you.
Ok, so he watched a whole lot of anime and thought that it gave him an accurate understanding of japanese culture. Classic Daniel.
What do you mean? Japan is literally anime. Everybody knows that
Everyone had at least when he was younger
Lol. And you didnt? I thought ExACTLY the same thing. Japanese people equal anime!!!
bruh I hate that there's no subtitles in Japan
im guilty
I am sorry but the main problem is you married in a hurry for a visa with a person you were not compatible with at all. You were very different people and wished to do different things in life, that's it. I am italian and my husband is japanese we waited around two years for marriage and actually get along REALLY well. I have never met another person who thinks so much like me even back in my home country. Not a matter of country, more like a matter of incompatibility which can happen anywhere in the world.
That's real wisdom 💯 agreed!
"Because I watched a lots of anime and Japanese drama before going to Japan, I thought I had a pretty good understanding about what Japanese people would be like to live with." Ultimate weeaboo move
"When i'm starving hungry and stressed out and tired, after hard day of work" - daniel don't make me laugh
😆😆😆👍
That part made me laugh too loud!! 😂😂😂
You try streaming for 8 hours then.
@@hkim9151 Can you hear that? Sounds like a strong gust of wind, blowing over head.
Hey the guy is honest
So, you found a random good-looking girl and married her without getting to know her first, and only afterward you started to figuring out who she is and realized that you are not good for each other. It's sad that you had to go thought that, but now it will stay with you as an important life lesson. Don't marry random people and don't trust sudden love. An important decision that changes your whole life is something you can't rush, or it ends up like this. Nowadays, it's really hard to have a long-lasting married life. People gets divorced more and more. They give up too fast.
I actually got triggered by you a little, and wrote a wall of text that I just deleted, since who cares anyway. Just use the experience you got with her to work on some self-improvement. You won't fix other people, but you can fix yourself. For relationship, you don't only need a good wife. You also need to be a good husband. If just one of the two of you grew up and become a responsible partner, then it still wouldn't work. You need two responsible people to have a long-lasting relationship.
That poor lady I feel so bad for here to have to go through this
I agree with you
Yes, he is a complete twat. He is complaining about how difficult it was to meet other women when married and having hookups with these - I wonder how he would feel if his wife did the same.
Stop doing things in desperation. All your life moves seem to revolve around you getting backed into a corner and being forced to make a decision. Take some control back and start doing things on your terms, not anyone elses.
No bro we care haha it’s hiding in my room u need to be high to watch this guy and enjoy him but he’s an absolute gem and legend lol I don’t see anyone with his honesty on UA-cam lol
I can't believe people are still trying to give Dan advices, I thought everyone gave up on that 3 years ago.
Chihiro was wrong when she said you aren't a comedian; you definitely are.
Daniel brings the dry British humor to a completely new level.
Chihiro is just bitter
Sarcasm isn’t a 🇯🇵 strong suit
Being unfaithful in a relationship is the worst,even if it is quite understandable in a longterm relationship e.g..This behaviour is quite bad for your karma. You should stay single or being with people who are alike.
I feel deeply sorry for your former wife and I think that she did not deserve it.These kind of things destroy other people.There are even people who hurt themselves or commit suicide because of this. One must be more careful with other peoples feelings.Have you ever apologized to her?
Judging women only by their looks,using them and talking about them in a bad manner afterwards?Sry,this is more than awful.Think about yourself getting older and/or uglier.Or someone only judging you on your current job and not as a whole person...
What do your mother and sister think about your behaviour towards women?
she cheated on her first husband for over a year. guess you could say she got her karma too then?
@@HidingInMyRoom1989 See.
If I got my karma, it done. Because I’m happy after getting divorced. But you are getting karma, coz your channel is dead and you aren’t happy. You never change forever
I am sorry! 😞I don't know you both or what happened in your relationship.I am in no position to judge or give a statement about your lifes. In general people should be respected,women should be respected,privacy should be respected.
I like Daniel's youtube channel because I think that he is very funny and has got talent.Maybe he is just afraid to do something else.I wish you both the best!!!
Anyone can improve and change any day.
So this is your personal opinion and personality that didn't work out in the relationship. Why your relationship failed has nothing to do with the other person, it was your own expectations that you didn't think through that failed your relationship. You are not ready for a relationship period in my opinion. You need to do some work on yourself to figure out your needs and what you want. All of these expectations are only what you personally expect. For me personally getting divorced because of food is a bit troublesome as you have a very limited emotional intelligence to deal with these issues. It seems like you rely on other things in life to make you happy, which is a bit troublesome.
“The most difficult part of being married is having to live with a woman” you can say that again bub
This is true for most married guys believe me.
@@truth-uncensored2426 Stop marrying women, then?
The most unbelievable thing about you is your insanely brutal honesty. I think it's fresh actually, someone being so blunt, even though the topics might be upsetting for some.
He seems like a classic case of Asperger’s.
When you hear "I watched a lot of anime", you know this is going to be gold. I was not disappointed.
When Daniel says "I would just say silly things on stream" what he actually means is "I would say my wife is not very pretty and I'm not attracted to her on stream among other hurtful things" lol
What???? Sheesh what a douche
Yep, this guy is a Narc and an abuser.
I think what made the marriage fail is you being anti social with zero interest in getting to know other people outside of the woman you want to meet for the sole purpose of having sex. Your ex wife made it pretty clear
This video should be called "How I'm a shitty husband and a cheater and ruined my marriage"
Everything is a trade off. I originally felt the same way you did when I got married but if you put the time in, you will adjust to one another. She sounds like a typical wife. 100% of our issues is my wife getting upset at me😂. We been married for 18 years and I wouldn't trade it for the world. The longer you are together the more nostalgic that person becomes to you. After 10 years of marriage I exercised my demons of wanting sexual experiences with other women not that I did anything but the strong urge that us men deal with dissipated. I'm 50 years old so I dont know if it has to do with my age. We started to go to church and that is the main reason why we are still together.
Fucking hate it when my Japanese wife wants to cook us salmon, rice and fresh veggies when I want is a proper meal like a pot noodle and a rustlers.
Lmao 💀
bro at least u'll live longer
@@aahahahejdjejrjebfbf Do people really want to live longer?
LOVE JAPANES WOMEN AND FOOD
As if Japanese people eat salmon rice and fresh veggies. They eat sugar bread, sugar rice. More processed food with tons of chemicals and additives. Japanese food is unhealthy asf
You are right Japan is not what people show in social media. Japanese people are so different and foreigners won’t fit on their world. They need to know there is a whole world out there, that’s why I do not recommend living in Japan even tho you speak Japanese.
He hated being married, but now somewhat kinda misses being married.
It’s best to be a player.
Most of the things you hated was on yourself. Basing living in Japan on anime and movies is like assuming I know Britain and British people via Mr Bean. To not hear English is your own job by doing calls with friends and family and watch entertainment in your first language. The jokes not landing... you need to have enough sense to know your audience when you use jokes. If a type of joke doesn't land with a person you adapt and if they don't find it funny you save those jokes to those where it does land. Being married in a foreign language with a spouse of a foreign culture becomes your own job to make sure you fulfill your own needs that handles homesickness by cooking the foods you miss or listen to the comedy you miss, call the people you miss, etc. Sarcasm doesn't translate so when you take the words literally it gets hurtful. I have a sarcastic sense of humor too but again, know your audience. You live and you learn but know your misery on the most part was on yourself.
I mean you wouldn't appreciate it if your girlfriend was having tinder hookups and seeking men on dating sites and getting her tube packed an hour before you two do the deed. You get what you give and when you have a reputation for treating women this way don't be surprised when it happens to you while you're dating or after you've said your vows
'Getting her tube packed' 🤣 Whee I can't breathe
🤣🤣🤣
I had a Japanese GF for 12 years however we never lived in Japan. I see some similarities like the lack of understanding of irony, eating rice 3 times a day. what upset me the most was when we were on trips in Japan she got very sensitive to not annoying anyone else like speaking too loud or leaning against something while waiting in line ...
The 0 understanding of irony is difficult. The rest is pretty okay
She is just trying to teach you Japanese manners in japan
Someone from England complaining about bland food.. lol
Hey not just you this brother is being honest,yeah some of it seems a bit silly to some. Cultural immersion is huge. I thought I could make it training for years,and there's some things you don't know unless you do what he did. Maybe you have a foreign group of friends. Sounds like he was all by himself and his wife. Big cities can be sensory overload load,go to San Francisco downtown that's a freak show in the USA,or maybe New York city. Just being open minded about his issues there.
You're 100% right. You did nothing wrong. Sounds like you just been giving and giving, completely selfless, not being appreciated at all for everything you did for her. Didn't know Japanese were so inconsiderate.
if you married the hong kong guy he would cook u delicious HK food every day.
I’m sure you know by now but sarcasm doesn’t exist in Japan AND their humor is quite different. This is something I found to be very hard.
P.S Talking smack about your wife on stream/youtube is probably not such a good idea..
Daniel, this is EXACTLY the content we want. The old Daniel is BACK! Exactly why I subscribed. P E R F E C T!!!!!
I literally cannot get enough of this channel. It can't just be me though, I want Daniel and Chihoro to get back together eventually and start a family in Japan hahahaha
she was physically abusive towards him...that's spousal abuse
Chihoro can not have children
@@Saberdud who said that?
@@Saberdud thank god
He is way too selfish to be anyones partner in life let alone a father…… lol
man complaining about stuff he either should’ve foreseen happening or stuff he did not care enough to be better with. if you care about someone, you make a true effort to communicate and understand them. you do not have to force yourself to watch everything she does or eat everything that she does but you should respect her ways and communicate the issues you have because you LOVE that person. it just seemed like bro romanticized everything and got stuck in reality.
not to mention some of these things you complain about you actively ALLOWED to happen due to your seemingly passive nature
Sounds like my wife, but we’ve been together for 5 years going on 6 and the first three years were so bad but eventually we understood, that we are both from different cultures, but I honestly feel that if we didn’t have a daughter together we would have been broken up, our daughter keeps us together and I want to keep her happy so me being unhappy is the best thing A dad can do, as much as I love Japan if your outgoing you can’t stay here you can’t have friends because only work is important, my daughter wants me to stay and her mother wants me to leave so im doing what’s right for my baby, I’ve recently been feeling homesick and I couldn’t go out of Japan for three years because of this stupid virus but I miss friends I miss talking English to people, Japanese people are so introverted and I’m way to extroverted for japan, so I get how you feel and how I’m still here only for my daughter next year I’ll get my permanent visa and if she wants a divorce I don’t care
What do you mean she wants you to leave? Like divorce? Which country are you from and does she still give you the pussy?
That is sad
Excellent shirt layering Daniel!
She gave an ice cold stare! - that’s marriage!
😂😂😅
A true narcissist
takes one to know one
@@HidingInMyRoom1989 No, it doesn't
Could be.
I believe your channel should come with a warning label. ⚠️ You are promoting a dangerous life style. However I believe you will soon reap the depravity you have sown. I hope your wife marries a man who is extraordinary perfectly faithful and loving towards her. I wish I could tell her that my heart goes out to her
Lmao title "Why I HATED being Married in Japan" Daniel's conclusion "i miss being married"
On a visit to Japan, a Japanese woman showed some interest in me but I didn't follow up on it, regretted it, but now I'm not so sure 🤔 I missed bread after literally 3 days 😅. I sort of know what you mean about Japanese stores shouting slogans but every shop you go in, in the UK has blaring music too. 🎶
I don`t know exactly why, but when somebody says "lady" instead of woman or girl, it instantly turns me off. Like it suggests there was something indecent about that woman or that by saying "lady" you suggest something untoward and smutty/perv in yourself.
If this dudes channel dies i will cry my eyes out
It’s already dead 😭
@@HidingInMyRoom1989 put in the hard word daniel, do more cooking with daniel, get better shots and transitions displaying you what you do head to toe etc idk just show more of yourself
@@HidingInMyRoom1989 LOL--RIP
@@Saberdud nah fuck that we need more misogyny videos
@@HidingInMyRoom1989 NO ITS NOT DANIEL
Many guys are not meant to be married...you are one of those...you have to give up a lot of the freedom you had as a single person and that for many us is a deal breaker. You can't wolf around with other women if you are married- another clue you are not ready for marriage. When you get older and wiser you will know when it's time to find a compatible mate. Don't rush things. Learn from this one bad experience what issues you need and what issues you can compromise on...that gal may be someone you already know or someone you may meet any day. If you love each other and can communicate when issues arise you will both find a satisfying relationship...in the meantime, enjoy your single life, learn from your mistakes and lead the best life you can...
Last year of marriage before i divorced i witnessed an increasingly selfish, juvenile, irresponsible and cruel behaviour. I am not going back to such hell, i love living in japan but i think i will not have a relationship with another japanese woman, it just doesn't work for me.
""I got fed up with the japanese language"" XD
Come from an incel like this guy is a compliment
Yeah it was a shock for me when I went to a university cafeteria and they weren't serving chips when I was craving Western food. But I went to the IKEA and it was exactly like here, meatballs, gravy and chips! In all seriousness I love Japanese food, one of the advantages of a Japanese wife, especially love miso!
The japanese live long lives because they eat so clean. I'm surprised you didn't like their food.
Taste boring
no its because they are poor and live on a hunger diet
They live long because they practice poverty diet, aka fasting, that slows the metabolism and the lifespan of parts of the body, ironically you eat less or just enough, you live longer. However this is not done intentionally
also I rather lose 8 years of my life eating the stuff I want rather than living longer eating bland japanese crap
@@HidingInMyRoom1989 LOL
I’m an American living in Japan but near a military base but been in Japan for years now . I feel 100 percent exactly the same way you do...I thought I was the only one ! I feel so insecure and feeling like a prisoner living in Japan !
Feel for you bro. You need to get on the front foot.
It's not for everyone. Let me guess, iwakuni?
You are the dollar store TechLead
Omg so tru
I feel like Japanese culture is one of those things that are great to visit but I'd never comepletely and permanently immerse myself in it, kind of like city life (although I have no choice but to live in the city lol)
No choice ?
These comments on this video 📹 are hilarious 😂🤣🤣🤣 so is the young man sharing his story, it left me in hysterics.🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣.
I don't think you missed being married or regretted the divorce. You missed having companionship and living in Japan when you thought about it.
This guy is a absolute legend watched whilst high at 16 now now in my 20s doing the same thing big up Daniel
UA-cam is about consistency 🏅
@@HidingInMyRoom1989 LOL
The 1000th version of the story
Yes please 💀
Should I do why I hated tomoko or single mother next?
@@HidingInMyRoom1989 yes let's start with the single lady please 👍
Single mothers have children
@@HidingInMyRoom1989 single mother
Sounds like the Japanese way of eating is healthier than the British way of eating.
Hi Daniel, what are some of your favorite videogames?
joe mama
Cheating on wife simulator
@@Alex-kc7tp don't think he needed the simulator for that one though
NTR Japanese Wife simulator
How many times will you tell this damn story!
Thanks for telling me. Now I know to stay single for the rest of my life.
3:39 well, that fish and plant-based diet is the reason why japanese people benefit from a quite long lifespan and no obesity problems
You've dodged a bullet, that youtuber Techlead had his kid essentially kidnapped from him by a Japanese wife, she ran off back to Japan with him and he cannot get access and see his kid for years despite trying.
ua-cam.com/video/oy1MMCZgRg0/v-deo.html
Also there's this French dude who is a similar situation protesting on the streets of Japan about his kid and access rights etc.
So in short don't date Japanese girls, thanks for the tip, gonna cut off some people right now
He the good version of Daniel he is vegan and is a millionaire
@@hkim9151 yes beware of tales of woe and cam girls on the internet shilling for something
That guy makes Daniel look honest. Watch his latest video about being arrested and how he plugs his company while talking about being interrogated. He's just a salesman
@@hkim9151 im not sure what being a millionaire has to do with it? So its fine they get their child kidnapped ? Its fine they have to pay 50k a year just for child support to some woman who stole his child away.
Where do you people get your ass backwards thinking?
I love Japanese food it's living food which is natural and you get to live long. The food should not be a problem. But noise irritates.
Lol, why would anime teach you how marry a Japanese woman? That’s like watching porn and thinking you can please every female when most porn is just acting.
Did TechLead copy this video?
This is just sad. I remember watching your videos when i could barely undertand english and now years later I see this. It's astonishing to see how you've not grown emotionally at all. I really hope this is just some joke to get some clout. Bro's a full grown adult and can't see that he's stuck in his own childish expectations and delusions. From the viewpoint of a stranger it just made it look like you married her to get a visa and then when she wasn't acting like a fictional anime waifu you cheated on her, felt no remorse for it and now came to whine about it on yt like you suffered so much because of her.
i appreciated your honesty - keep going brother, good luck
okay dude, another whiny stuff on this channel again
you should come into his life and change him
Dude did a whole anime arc.
Kudos to you Daniel for trying to adapt to your wife's culture but unfortunately she is a selfish one and doesn't want to open her mind to understand you. Understand each other is an important element between two individuals husband and wife. From your story you confirmed my uncle's claim who work with a Japanese company under a Japanese boss. My uncle not encouraging me to marry a Japanese woman because Japanese people are basically just racist. And if you watch ask shogo channel you will understand how Japanese people's mind work. They're very close minded and that's why from your story your wife getting offended easily without trying to open her mind and try to understand the culture and differences of you. The problem arise when you're forced to adapt to their culture while the Japanese wife (including her family and society) denying your culture and your background completely. That's clearly a bias. Better avoid Japanese women for good. Japanese gave this thought that they're superior or something and that disgusts me.
Bro you are the problem im sorry
lol. my fiance is a Korean man that I met while living in Korea... and I can empathize with a bit of this. thankfully his taste in food isn't bland and most Korean food is pretty bomb, but he definitely loves weird seafood more than me. also... oh god he loves watching Korean variety "comedy" shows which is sort of similar to Japanese tv. men shouting at the top of their lungs with stupid wigs on usually... can't stand it personally lol.
Damn she was slapping him?!?! His first marriage was a learning experience. Learn to communicate, don't hit your partner. He's right to leave
🙇🏻♂️ thank you, ありがとう
Daniel pls age. The suspension of disbelief is getting too much!
Edit: Damn of course he ends on a gem of a reason.
This was HILARIOUS. D9nt blame him for disliking a culture. He doesn't hate the people, just the atmosphere. It's his preference. Secondly, she proposed to him not the other way around. He seems like a timid guy so if he's saying something was too much I believe him lmaooo
That’s the same way with Spanish TV but yes, I understand you because speaking my language, regardless even if I speak, it, fluently is frustrating sometimes especially if if you don’t have the right words. I myself did not grow up being fond of the language due to the fact that I know I wasn’t good and other native Spanish or better Spanish speakers would just criticize on how I speak it
first of all, as an asian wife, i think she should've cooked for you too. not married yet, but if ever someday my husband doesn't want to eat a certain cuisine and i like it, i would cook for him a different food that he likes. well that's just me..not all women are the same.
Hi Daniel, I'm very pleased with the latest videos, good job, hopefully, you'll get back to Japan as soon as possible for more drama
I don’t know you but based on this video, you two were not compatible and you clearly married her for the wrong reasons. You did not like anything about her as a person, the only positives were “having a wife” and “not being lonely”. Boy, then any girl will do, hell even a roommate or a pet.
Jan 6th will be the 20th anniversary with my Japanese wife. In hindsight, most of the issues we ever had were mostly because we were very immature. I have to assume this is your case as well. Some of these things can end a relationship--even a full blown marriage. The good thing is it's easy to marry and divorce in Japan. The bad thing is that it's easy to marry and divorce in Japan. Food in Japan has to grow on your and it certainly has for me. Living in Italy my wife and I became very homesick for Japanese food--even the simplest things like saba with rice and miso soup. Japanese women can also be overbearing at times because they expect the highest standards from you. I don't mean they expect you to be rich, but they expect you to be driven and have things to show for your work. Also, Japanese women do not like weak or feminine men. I know that is generalizing, but you have to consider what Japanese women want, and for the most part they are looking for a secure man who knows what he wants and will put his foot down when things get too emotional on her end. Come to think of it, isn't that was all women want all over the globe? To think deeper even, Japanese women are not really that different from other women around the world. Sure they may be more traditional, and those women who reject traditionalism end up coming back to tradition anyhow, and those who do not are miserable. end of rant.
You describe 99% of marriages.
Realising you don't like the food, being homesick, not coping with a foreign language or cultural greetings, music in shops seems like stuff you can probably realise living in a country alone before you get married. Did you get married on your second week in Japan or something? -.-
Is there such a thing as a mail order groom? lol
Grow up dude ! Be mature !
dont be such a child
u just not ready for marriage life
A bit childish to whine and blame everything on her, innit? Grow up.
He's a neck beard, anime pillow fucking, weeabo asshole
This is truly sad. It seems like he really didn’t know this girl, life style or culture before getting married.
Daniel, I sorry to say…. You seem such a narcissist…… who really has no idea where happiness actually is.
I do know that wanting your cake snd eating it….. isn’t conducive to either a good relationship or marriage.
It’s about give a take….. I’d be interested to hear exactly what chihiro’s impression on what it was like to be married to you…. Because it’s sad to say that you seem complete unable to grasp how anyone except yourself feels.
Did I hear steaks, fish and chips, burgers, hotdogs, lasagne, chicken and shepherds pies…. Yum yum. I can not take it anymore….. you make my mouth watery……… but your favorite is always cheesecake and cereal 🥣.
British really struggle with other cultures because of the sarcasm. Personally, I love British wit. I moved to Brazil and have had issues with this. People see sarcasm as passive aggressiveness (which it can be a times).
A good old British chicken pie is just what you need after a long hard day as an adult model
I'm tired of hearing about Chihiro and Why I hated stuff, to be honest. Would be nice to see cooking or bicycle vlog, a chill video of you doing something, anything. Anyways, I watch every your video, your voice is oddly relaxing.
im tired of talking about it but people click it more than other stuff
@@HidingInMyRoom1989 because it's the best! that's why we're here 🙂and really great story telling that we love
Funniest thing to me is to imagine someone coming to this video randomly, they would have such wrong first impression of Dan
i’m so confused rn
I have only watched the Elden ring vid and this dude is mad he is complaining about the girl being boring and he has gotten married yet still dating and was cheating on her and complaining about her. no comment can convince me this guy is fine in the head
Daniel needs to get 2 girlfriends a the same time and plan (vlog) a road trip with both of them
To save his channel.
Great vid tho
He's been there, done them, stole their t-shirts
Yes, I think the Japanese have this control freak tendency. If I ever marry a Japanese we will definitely need a long talk about expectations.
I'm so jealous! You had a great diet while in Japan! I eat fuss-free cooking like humbergers or steaks or shushi everyday, because I'm lazy and incompetent.
At least you got married, i wasted a decade breaking my back working half to death there and still struggled with relationships, only to leave empty handed
Do you think you are more in demand among women in Japan than in the UK. And if so, why? Loved the video. Some great insights and honesty. The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence. When you are married you wish you were single, and when you are single you wish you were married. Such is life.
This guy here calling British food "western" 😂😂😂bruh
How old is this boy?!
A marriage, any relationship for that, takes work, understanding and compromise.
I’ve been married to a Mauritian woman, of Indian origin, for 18 years and to begin with, we are a hell of a lot of rice, which was too much for me. You know what I did? I didn’t sulk; I discussed with her what I wanted to eat and we compromised. I cooked other foods that we both enjoyed.
Stop your whining; look at yourself and get in with your life. You probably did the poor woman a favour by divorcing her.
I believe he is 33 years old, he just looks young
@@Marcos-jr6ky not just looks, but acts immature too.
I almost feel sorry for the guy, in that he is not mature enough to live life, but then that is up to him at the end of the day.
Quite sad to hear that his wife was abusive towards him too. Maybe neither of them were ready for marriage.
Both of you could have compromised. One day or two per week with western meals. Too bad you both had communication issues. Also, that feeling of walking on eggshells in a relationship/marriage always leads to doom. I dated a well known youtuber and had issues with her talking about me, spewing negative drama when in reality it was a made up lie. I got tired of her lack of respect really fast. Another thing, your cheating on your ex wife is harsh. Your ex probably knew more than she let on.
To me it's a huge red flag if a woman proposes to you.
You know how many people in the world had that same dream? They always think Japan is exactly or pretty close to what they watch in anime. I lived in Japan for 2 years (military) in Okinawa, but I went to the mainland many times. I never watched anime, never got into afterward either. But from what I did watch… no. It’s nothing like the cartoons… idk why people really think it is. The work culture is terrible in Japan. People there are super depressed. They’re really respectful people, but most of them are just a box of rocks. Cookie cutter. That’s not me being racist. I’m not racist by any means. They’re just so… plain. Except for the people in Okinawa. Okinawa is exceptional! The people there are so nice and friendly. They don’t even consider themselves Japanese. Most people in mainland Japan never go to Okinawa because “there’s no money there.” It’s bad. Honestly, if you want a really awesome foreign wife, assuming you’re not from the country, philipinas are amazing women. They’re so sweet and kind. And attractive imo. And they love foreigners. The country is pretty under developed, but it’s still nicer than other places if you enjoy a simple life. Either way, the whole peaceful esthetic people relate to Japanese culture is completely wrong. Go to Japan and find out. If you wanna experience the REAL Japan, go to the suburbs. Stay away from the cities.
I was born and raised in the USA and I married a man from my country of origin. And while we waited to be able to file for his papers for the green card, I was living there with him. I couldn't get used to the diet. It was depressing, I literally for one second craved the lunches from the public schools of NYC. That's how bad it got.
I grew up eating food from my country of origin BUT DANG the lack of variety got to me and it felt like we were eating the same thing every day. They have burger stands but that shit is fake meat. Nasty AF.
I am stil with him and we have two kids.
What's your country of origin? Sounds like you got some good food.
Ok, you'll probably not read this comment but i feel like telling this to you:
I understand that life can become a nightmare when we constantly find ourselves "Alone", in different moments, with those we are suppose to love and be loved by.
It sucks to clash with unreasonable logic, whether It being at work or at home.
But you mate are responsable for that.
You my friend chose your wife, you chose a controlling girl who wouldn't fall in love with you being a British guy who sometimes, or often, eats different then her, and has his own passion and ways to find newances in life.
You found yourself in the position to say YES to someone without knowing her first... So with that in mind, who Is to blame?
I do not want to bash you or tackle your self esteem, but the fact that you cheated on her makes you weak in my eyes, cause instead of telling her the truth, little by little, about what you didn't like about her behaviour, about maybe your feelings of not being appreciated or loved for Who you are, you chose to dig those feelings down a hole hoping never to realize that cracks will be created in the relationship.
I think you made a good choice to divorce.
I hope only good things for you, since you seem a good guy.
I understand why she would be upset if you were talking about her during your live streams, especially if she explicitly told you not to. It doesn't matter if she knew about it or not, you should have respected her privacy.
this is my youtube channel i can and will talk about anthing i want. if people dont like it they can get lsot and shove it
@@HidingInMyRoom1989 It's not about whether or not people don't like it, no one gives a fuck what people think, and you're right, they can shove it. It's about respecting another person's boundaries when they share something private about themselves with you, or would rather you not tell the whole world about them. For example, if your sister has a baby and doesn't want anyone to post pictures of her baby, but you go ahead and do that anyways because "it's my social media account", you are only hurting your relationship with your sister and breaking her trust. It's about trust and respect between your personal relationships. Of course, you wouldn't understand anything about trust because you're a lying cheater. I still enjoy your content though, even if I don't agree with you.
When were you starving, hungry and stressed out after a long hard day at work in Japan? I thought you were mostly a full time UA-camr there
was i waiting for my wife to come home and feed me
@@HidingInMyRoom1989 Waiting for your wife to mother you
Never stop making videos, Daniel or else I'll be so lonely. Love you :)
This channel is so sad. Like he’s a great looking guy with a wonderful voice, but he just sets himself up for misery in every single way
A lot of men do.