In the Light Podcast LIVE Q&A: The Narcissism Episode

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  • Опубліковано 5 вер 2024
  • Dr. Anita and her guest co-host, Danae Wheatley, LCSW-C are joined by Dr. Vanessa Abernathy, a clinical psychologist, relationship abuse survivor, and author of UNbaitable U: Keys to Triumph Over Narcissistic Abuse. They are answering questions about narcissism in relationships, families, and faith communities. This discussion was inspired by S7:E4 of In the Light Podcast - "The Narcissism Episode"
    Listen to The Narcissism Episode of In the Light Podcast w/Dr. Anita Phillips at this link - womanevolvedra...
    Get Dr. Abernathy's Book, UNbaitable U:Keys to Triumph Over Narcissistic Abuse at this link- amzn.to/3I1uhIy
    Vist Danae A. Wheately at: www.inolllc.com
    Visit Dr. Vanessa Abernathy at: / vabernathypsyd
    Visit Dr. Anita at: www.anitaphill...

КОМЕНТАРІ • 126

  • @DrAnitaPhillips
    @DrAnitaPhillips  2 роки тому +32

    So sorry for our technical glitch in this live. Dr. Abernathy’s video will eventually start working. Keep listening anyway - the info is worth it! 💡❤️

    • @masingitamabunda9300
      @masingitamabunda9300 2 роки тому +4

      Dr Anita your podcast, UA-cam videos are so helpful thank you so much, masingita from South Africa

    • @rhondadunn7161
      @rhondadunn7161 2 роки тому +1

      Good morning 💝 love you sister I appreciate you for the calling that God has placed upon your life this is my second day listening to you and I feel this very close connection in the spirit with you like a sister ,the messages that the Spirit of God is giving you are helping me to grow in the Lord so sister you are planting good seeds and our Heavenly Father and our Lord Jesus Christ is very pleased and I believe you are and is going to hear WELL DONE THOU GOOD AND FAITHFUL SERVANT 💝

    • @yoelbenyisrael9866
      @yoelbenyisrael9866 2 роки тому

      Shalom Dr. Anita Phillips! How are you, ma'am? I am an audiovisual transcriber with 4+ years experience. I'd love to offer my services to you, and transcribe your UA-cam videos for you. May you be interested in me doing so?

    • @denisejohnson1130
      @denisejohnson1130 2 роки тому

      Amen

    • @wastedanalogues8991
      @wastedanalogues8991 8 місяців тому

      Thank you so much! God absolutely does not want us to be in abuse, and I tried for years to save him. Now I left him after so long of no getting any love, zero validation everything else with abuse, women helped me see the truth and I finally was released.

  • @N-LeeSonSay
    @N-LeeSonSay 2 роки тому +11

    People will weaponize your faith against. Wow!😱 When Dr Abernathy said that I felt it.

  • @theultimatefoodie2666
    @theultimatefoodie2666 3 місяці тому

    I really can’t believe I went thru a 10 year relationship (7 years married) with an emotionally abusive relationship with a grandiose narcissist. To make matters worse my former manager and “mentor” of 8 years was also an abusive narcissist. It’s really by God’s grace that I’m still here, healthy and strong. Whispering a prayer for anyone going through this.

  • @Francie315
    @Francie315 10 місяців тому +1

    I have been out of a very toxic relationship with a narcissist for seven months now. And though the break no divorce from this person caused me some serious financial problems. I am still so grateful to God that he revealed to me who and what I was dealing with! My relationship was with a very close female family member. And I experienced, that what is written in the Bible is so true! Mother against daughter and daughter against mother. The children will offer their parents up for death. The love of one another will grow cold. I experienced it all! So grateful that I made it out alive!

  • @RuthDameron
    @RuthDameron 2 роки тому +7

    Bring it Dr. Phillips! Amen on your statement about abusive relationships! That truth needs to be spoken! 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽💜 I’m a survivor of domestic abuse. He was the assistant Pastor and then I dealt with the shame from the church because of my divorce.

  • @LeslieTheCaliforniaJewel
    @LeslieTheCaliforniaJewel 2 роки тому +8

    THIS WAS EXCELLENT!! I am SO very proud of my sister for stepping out and sharing this EXTREMELY timely all the time information! Her latest book totally expounds on everything discussed.

  • @Lala-ht8ps
    @Lala-ht8ps Рік тому +1

    I know sister that got beat for more than 20 years but couldn't leave because she was told from the pulpit not to leave. Now ,years Gon by no longer in the marriage, but you can see the pain still on her. Lord have mercy.

  • @tangelajones8029
    @tangelajones8029 2 роки тому +5

    I love Dr. Anita Phillips!! Thank you!!

  • @apiffanyfulcher6628
    @apiffanyfulcher6628 2 роки тому +4

    This was my awesome!!! I survived a narcissist 22 years praise GOD!!!

    • @apiffanyfulcher6628
      @apiffanyfulcher6628 2 роки тому +1

      Sorry, I meant I married 22 years a narcissist and the lord got me out…

  • @anitamorrison4238
    @anitamorrison4238 7 місяців тому

    I have been adking God about narcissism and the Bible. I can't believe I just found this.
    Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

  • @cynthiabeard2016
    @cynthiabeard2016 Рік тому +1

    Recognize the patterns and draw boundaries!

  • @noah-jamesmarkham1903
    @noah-jamesmarkham1903 Рік тому +1

    i love your podcast episodes it helps me bring the light out of me and keep god with me and also learn how to break the darkness and break the cycle !!!! i love this stuff keep on doing the podcast you're really helping people out !!!!! thank you Dr.Anita Phillips

  • @rayyjayy274
    @rayyjayy274 Рік тому

    I left narcissistic abuse after 17 years and I am trying to heal all while being a single mom! Both my boys are from this relationship! My oldest son is diagnosed with high functioning autism I love Dr Ramani she has helped me so much!

  • @lauribailey580
    @lauribailey580 2 роки тому +1

    dr. anita, i saw you for the first time on right now media when you were speaking at the if conference hosted by jennie allen. i am so impressed with both your knowledge of mental health and also your passion for god. thank you for offering content that speaks to the needs of real people in this broken world.

  • @taniacole7153
    @taniacole7153 2 роки тому +1

    I've learned some much thanks for helping me to share with other's and get these 📖 books 📚 thanks for being apart of my journey as I Learn to live a better life 😊 🙏 truly appreciate the blessings more than I can explain

  • @sylviacrout5072
    @sylviacrout5072 2 роки тому

    One of the strongest mask I’ve ever seen and experienced!!! This is truly a way to see how conniving and deceitful the devil himself is!!!! I’ve always hear my whole life that the devil is in all shapes and sizes and Narcissism truly puts this saying into definition!!!!

  • @cynthiaowens7910
    @cynthiaowens7910 2 роки тому +2

    Step up or step off!!!! AMEN

  • @karlarhone5469
    @karlarhone5469 10 місяців тому

    Thank you sooo much for unlocking the truth in your new book! I love you Anita. Your are so anointed, how you speak you can tell it’s only God who can give you the wisdom that you have. 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

  • @kimhobbs678
    @kimhobbs678 2 роки тому +1

    Powerful and eye opening!! Thank you ladies for this enlightenment. Please continue to do Gods work by reaching and impacting people lives to healing ❤️‍🩹 God bless 🙌🏾

  • @latosha4603
    @latosha4603 2 роки тому

    This just started a massive change in my WHOLE life. I feel free!!! God blows me away!

  • @DDH30274
    @DDH30274 2 роки тому +1

    Thank-you for contributing to my awareness and understanding. Before this video, I had No idea what I was struggling with. I will learn to set and practice boundaries and pray for my loved ones. Thank-you. God Bless You All. Sincerely ❤

  • @margieh4053
    @margieh4053 Рік тому +1

    Awesome teaching.

  • @s.wilson6373
    @s.wilson6373 2 роки тому +1

    Dr. Phillips. You are amazing. Thank you for this and propelling us to healing. I really really really wish you could be my therapist 🥺🙏🏾🙏🏾

    • @victoriaogletree4669
      @victoriaogletree4669 2 роки тому

      I know right, Dr. Phillip's will be with Pastor Nichole Cranks' conference Jult 11& 12?

  • @britgizelle1653
    @britgizelle1653 20 днів тому

    "Pay attention to how you feel in the presence of that person", I had to pay attention to this, and I just had a baby, but I had to leave. It hurts like I don't know what...but I had to leave.

  • @jstallworth6602
    @jstallworth6602 9 місяців тому

    This was so helpful, thank you!😊

  • @jlenyear
    @jlenyear 2 роки тому

    This was just so helpful. It’s something that just isn’t talked about and can be so confusing and difficult to navigate especially as a Christian. I feel hopeful and empowered and once again reminded that I’m not crazy and that God does care.❤️

  • @willietteslifestyle4829
    @willietteslifestyle4829 2 роки тому +1

    You guys are about to make me cry. Thanks for speaking the truth.

  • @rhondabarlow860
    @rhondabarlow860 10 місяців тому

    Amen…..The declutter is beginning! Thank you❤

  • @jmladygodsgrace2788
    @jmladygodsgrace2788 Рік тому

    I need this 20 years ago! But thank God for it now.

  • @jasminehicks2525
    @jasminehicks2525 11 місяців тому

    This was so good!! I have been going through months of healing. Only if you experience this will you understand the depths of this.

  • @teresajoymarquez9375
    @teresajoymarquez9375 2 роки тому +1

    I really need this not just for me but for my understanding to others too!
    Thank you so much for sharing.

  • @karenmalone5113
    @karenmalone5113 2 роки тому +2

    This is such a powerful topic!!! Thank you for creating this platform and exposing this level of truth‼️‼️🙌🏽🙌🏽

  • @nicdpowell
    @nicdpowell 2 роки тому

    This was spot on!!!! Just a fantastic conversation that spoke the truth! Freedom comes in speaking the truth!

  • @sharris5812
    @sharris5812 2 роки тому +2

    This was an amazing episode, full of wisdom and truth.

  • @barbaragay2199
    @barbaragay2199 2 роки тому +1

    Hi Dr Anita this was best Podcast I ever had...I never knew about Narcissism I so appreciate all of you Thank you so much! God Bless you all I was married for years and experienced same thing Dr V. mentioned...I do have the ebook.

  • @peacockrose9631
    @peacockrose9631 2 роки тому

    I don't know how this popped up on my feed but I'm grateful ♥️♥️🔥🔥

  • @jacquelinerobinson4447
    @jacquelinerobinson4447 2 роки тому +2

    This was very informative and I’m very thankful for you

  • @melaniek3790
    @melaniek3790 Рік тому

    I’m so thankful that I saw/ discovered you and your work last week in Minnesota. 🤯 Feeling my feelings… oh man… going to be working in that for a while. Blessings to you! Thank you! 😊

  • @KrystalHaggans-tk4mq
    @KrystalHaggans-tk4mq Рік тому

    This is good wish the convo was longer it’s much needed

  • @barbaragay2199
    @barbaragay2199 2 роки тому +1

    Thank you Dr Anita!! Amen!

  • @taniacole7153
    @taniacole7153 2 роки тому

    Thanks sister the Holy Spirit lead me to your video so very grateful 🙏 truly helpful...and much needed...wow...thanks for always Using the scriptures to backup the counseling I love you as a sister in the body of Christ Jesus thanks again

  • @mikeyoung3381
    @mikeyoung3381 Рік тому +1

    Thank you

  • @rebaadefope2795
    @rebaadefope2795 2 роки тому

    Knowledge puff up Love builds up ☝ ☝

  • @jocestr
    @jocestr 2 роки тому +2

    Thank you for this episode!

  • @sylviacrout5072
    @sylviacrout5072 2 роки тому

    EMPATHY is KEY!!!!! Because there is no such thing as empathy with narcissist!!!

  • @anitamorrison4238
    @anitamorrison4238 7 місяців тому

    " ... and they're called BOUNDARIES!"

  • @cynthiabeard2016
    @cynthiabeard2016 Рік тому

    Identify your buttons & even remove the buttons, especially those which are flammable.

  • @stanleyumstead6035
    @stanleyumstead6035 2 роки тому +1

    Thanks ,Thanks for this podcast 🙌🙏

  • @anastasiast.pierre188
    @anastasiast.pierre188 2 роки тому +1

    Dr Anita, hello from St. Lucia,in the Caribbean, where the entire society is pretty narcissistic. Would you do some research on slavery and the legacy of narcissism it has left on Caribbean society and culture.. St Lucia and the islands need help.

  • @denisejohnson1130
    @denisejohnson1130 2 роки тому

    You guys help me so very much l cannot write in words

  • @AlwaysStampinVideos
    @AlwaysStampinVideos 2 роки тому +1

    SO GOOD! Thank you for saying and talking about things that other mental health professionals are not (for whatever reason) saying about narcissism. TYTYTY

    • @stanleyumstead6035
      @stanleyumstead6035 2 роки тому

      This is soooo beneficial ,I need to find a counselor in SC that takes Medicare :(

  • @stephanies.3198
    @stephanies.3198 2 роки тому +1

    This was so great!!! Thank you 😀

  • @victoriaogletree4669
    @victoriaogletree4669 2 роки тому

    OMG!!! The minister who did my Mom's homegoing made me promise to get counseling to get my brother- he's lost saying the spirits won't let him talk to me, they hate me through him. Look, my Mom and my brother were narcissist. I dont want to do this. I almost lost ME trying to care 4 Mom who was bed-ridden. My brother had me put out the house and was living in shelters and hotels for 8 months until a door opened up for me. I am at peace now, in a nice apartment. Pulling my life together to work again. I will play this for the counseler I locate in Detroit, Mi. Sorry to be long winded. I forgive both of them. I want to move on!

  • @mikeyoung3381
    @mikeyoung3381 Рік тому

    Truth

  • @mikeyoung3381
    @mikeyoung3381 Рік тому

    Love

  • @reginafreeland7339
    @reginafreeland7339 2 роки тому +1

    This was so POWERFUL! Happy to hear this on the other side of being in a relationship with a narcissist.

  • @mikeyoung3381
    @mikeyoung3381 Рік тому

    Process,action

  • @mikeyoung3381
    @mikeyoung3381 Рік тому +1

    Teach me

  • @charlesreed3039
    @charlesreed3039 Рік тому

    That’s so True! God is Love.. he wants us to be in a holy relationship. Not an Abusive relationship.

  • @lorettavaughn3373
    @lorettavaughn3373 2 роки тому

    Thank you ladies this is so needed🙏

  • @denisejohnson1130
    @denisejohnson1130 2 роки тому

    Thank you so much

  • @reginab8145
    @reginab8145 2 роки тому

    Excellent presentation/podcast!!!

  • @sylviacrout5072
    @sylviacrout5072 2 роки тому

    You have to allow yourself to see this is who they truly are. It’s very hard but don’t care anymore. YOU DO YOU….. OH YES THEY WILL!!!! Yes mam 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼. I may not be able to just up and leave at the moment, but God has my back. I talk to him constantly to keep me going. I know that the time is coming and God isn’t going to allow something to happen to me that I can’t handle. He will bless the true believers…. So now, I’m just waiting in his timing!!!

  • @mikeyoung3381
    @mikeyoung3381 Рік тому

    I can feel my chest

  • @sylviacrout5072
    @sylviacrout5072 2 роки тому +1

    Yes you do have to do that for yourself…. However, the Narcissist doesn’t care to hear it. That’s the wrong way to start to a conversation with a narcissist because they will immediately turn it around on you!! I know from experience and living it daily until it’s time…..

  • @phyllispotts9892
    @phyllispotts9892 2 роки тому

    This is such a wonderful discussion.

  • @cynthiaowens7910
    @cynthiaowens7910 2 роки тому

    That is the key.. Boundaries!

  • @prophecy20121
    @prophecy20121 2 роки тому

    Great massage 🙌🏽

  • @karenmalone5113
    @karenmalone5113 2 роки тому +1

    Teach this‼️‼️🔥🔥🔥

  • @Lala-ht8ps
    @Lala-ht8ps Рік тому

    I wish they were here in Indy

  • @pholoso8884
    @pholoso8884 2 роки тому

    I am happy the church is having such conversations, divorced parties are being vindicated.
    Once you leave let Christ do the work! don’t jump into other relationships.

  • @stanleyumstead6035
    @stanleyumstead6035 2 роки тому

    Oh My.......yes,Thank you!

  • @mikeyoung3381
    @mikeyoung3381 Рік тому

    Working process

  • @mikeyoung3381
    @mikeyoung3381 Рік тому +1

    Wow

  • @livdooley
    @livdooley 2 роки тому

    Such a phenonemal podcast!!!

  • @sylviacrout5072
    @sylviacrout5072 2 роки тому

    PLEASE…..Could we bottle up the boundaries and make this a body spray?? lol 😂

  • @shakiacurry1770
    @shakiacurry1770 2 роки тому

    Thanks 🙌🏽💜🙏🏽

  • @sage8889
    @sage8889 4 місяці тому

    🔥 🔥

  • @carolbrooks8613
    @carolbrooks8613 2 роки тому

    Married to one and they're also a minister as well...

  • @tvcater1
    @tvcater1 2 роки тому

    We are some beautiful people!!

  • @mikeyoung3381
    @mikeyoung3381 Рік тому

    WOW

  • @janinedelport5532
    @janinedelport5532 Рік тому

    THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU for talking about God not expecting us to remain in abusive marriages and the why - because this never covered properly. I firmly believe that God will not keep us in covenant with evil because that is what the person becomes. A person is also made to feel that even if you get divorced because of it l, that you would still 19:46 be committing adultery if you do meet someone else - I believe that God can bring us the person who will love us as Hod intended

  • @AshleyMWilson
    @AshleyMWilson 2 роки тому

    Boundary dance 👏🏽👏🏽

  • @Lm-yo5lv
    @Lm-yo5lv 3 місяці тому

    I need the book. I don't have a Kindle

  • @Lala-ht8ps
    @Lala-ht8ps Рік тому

    How do you avoid situations when it is a spouse.

  • @mikeyoung3381
    @mikeyoung3381 Рік тому

    Message

  • @cynthiabeard2016
    @cynthiabeard2016 Рік тому

    Remove the debris!

  • @denisejohnson1130
    @denisejohnson1130 2 роки тому

    Share Share Share

  • @Lm-yo5lv
    @Lm-yo5lv 3 місяці тому

  • @Herc6969
    @Herc6969 Рік тому

    ❤❤❤

  • @stanleyumstead6035
    @stanleyumstead6035 2 роки тому +1

    Married to a Elder who is critical, rigid,vengeful,attention seeking,non commitment to Christian Education. (Dir)
    Talked to pastor (female) told her in detail ,has not spoke to wife "Yet"

  • @latashaburnard7778
    @latashaburnard7778 2 роки тому

    Dr. Phillips, my interpretation = abuse is infidelity to the core principles and responsibilities placed on a husband as advised in the Bible, his/her vow to him/her before God and all that witnessed. Love your husband/wife as Christ loves the church. If it's mentally, physically, verbally, etc IT'S INFIDELITY.

  • @stanleyumstead6035
    @stanleyumstead6035 2 роки тому

    how can a Minister "Not see" family as her Ministry outside of Church!

  • @Erupt212007
    @Erupt212007 2 роки тому

    I have several narcissist in my family, starting with my Granny how do I heal from it?

  • @Truthseeker0926
    @Truthseeker0926 2 роки тому +1

    You all may be interested in my very unique story. I did lots of research only to discover I created a textbook Narcissist. A "Golden Child ". Because I've never met my biological mom and was raised by my father's wife, I over loved and over valued my daughter only for it to backfire on me. Book is now being written.

  • @robindavidson2700
    @robindavidson2700 2 роки тому

    Auntie Dr. Anita, who are the authors of the books mentioned?

  • @sharemeone
    @sharemeone 2 роки тому

    how do you go about looking for a therepist in Atlanta

  • @tsiongirmay181
    @tsiongirmay181 2 роки тому

    is IN THE LIGHTt podcast on youtube?

  • @tonyascreativespace3067
    @tonyascreativespace3067 10 місяців тому

    scriptures make very clear! God is spirit! God very essence is divine pure love, beyond human vocabulary of expression! Any thing outside this is not of God!

  • @Lala-ht8ps
    @Lala-ht8ps Рік тому

    Some of the pastors will take you well baby just keep on praying. Smh