This question makes me angry in the moment and makes me want to reply "Why are you so loud/Why do you talk so much". But in the long term, it makes me more anxious and in conversations I actively try to think what should I say and I start feeling awkward if I haven't spoken in a while. Now I am trying to listen and observe more and disregard this stupid question
6th hits hardest. I constantly feel like people are looking at me, judging me and hate me. Even when I say something in class I overthink lot about "did I sound stupid" "do people hate me now". Everyone just seems to be judging you and it sucks :/
Yeah, and it’s like you start stressing and regretting over the things you already said, like “I shouldn’t have said that”or “I sound like I want attention or something”
1. Looking down and walking fast while passing people 2. Scared to talk/ask questions 3. Biting lips/leg/hand/etc vibrating 4. Always being aware of your surroundings 5. Spacing out 6. Very sweaty hands 7. Think everyone is talking about you/looking at you 8. Eat weird around people/ try not to eat at all 9. Sit alone or by, people not saying anything/talking less 10. Trying to always smile and look normal This is all form experience with my anxiety, so don’t assume you may not have anxiety. This list only relates to social anxiety which I thought my whole life was just my nerves. I was wrong, these are signs of social anxiety and you should talk to someone if it gets too bad. Have a good day! 💗
Nothing hurts worse then when your teacher calls on you without you raising your hand, and you don’t understand the question, so your just sitting there in silence and awkwardness with everyone staring at you.
Yup... we even did a questionnaire about ourselves and I wrote down that I don’t like to participate but even then they ask me questions even though I didn’t raise my hands I can’t tell them I have social anxiety because they will criticize me
Yeah... i really hate when that happens... i mean, if i dont raise my hand that means that i don’t want to participate, right? Then WHY am i the selected student?? That feeling of everyone staring at you in complete silence it just make me wanna cry... and it gets worse when the teacher speaks or your classmates start to gossip on your back...
Why do I feel like people never take social anxiety disorder seriously. So many people make fun of us or think we are weird. I wish people knew how hard it is.
@Juliana Perez I feel you. I can't do anything when in a large group of people other then my close friends. It takes quite a while to get comfortable and used to somebody but when you do it feels great. I hope it all works out for ya.
I have depression + social anxiety + social awkwardness and wow! Add a bit of insecure in the ingredients and boom! We have me. Though I'm not even professionally diagnosed. I don't say I have them but I have properly researched all of these things and I've shown all the symptoms of these. I'm sure..but I don't want to self diagnose.
I feel like we can all agree that one of the worst instances of social anxiety are those time in class where you need a partner... but you don’t know anyone in the class... so you have to awkwardly walk up to the teacher and quietly say that you don’t have a partner. Only for the teacher to yell out to the class that you don’t have a partner... so you stand there silently and awkwardly because now the entire class is staring at you...
Omfg this is the one moment in class that I absolutely dread...like my face would be so red and I’d barely speak and it’s just so humiliating I feel like disappearing into the earth
Or "It's just a lack of confidence" or "Can't you just have fun? You're ruining my birthday..." and even worse "what's her problem, she's weird, she just doesn't like people, she's toxic, you deserve better, can't she have some manners? She's such a baby" All those are sooooo helping me!
Or it’s are you alright, is something wrong I don’t think it’s healthy you stay home and don’t go out and socialise, like that’s not the point I have social anxiety and other then that I’m an introvert I don’t like socialising it’s hard for people to understand us but at least we understand eachother in some degree we are similar in our own ways of trying to cope with social anxiety
I remember being asked “...so are you anti-social?” on the first day of high school (this year) and I had the urge to hammer that girl down the concrete ground. I realised her behavior deteriorated around me and she was actually trying to bully me indirectly 🤦🏻♀️ it continued until late mid September, but she’s stopped now, because I had to dob on her 2-3 times.
@@beanhead7632 It’s good she stopped opening her mouth but if she continues to open it again keep dobbing her in the more she gets in trouble the better if she wants to continue being a clown we just gotta be us and do our own things even if people don’t understand there is nothing wrong with us not being social so I hope things at school improve for you 😊
Omfg i hate that. When my relatives come over i go to my room but then they go up to my room and open the door, WITHOUT KNOCKING. They even come in my room, like what is up with that i need my personal space?! Now everytime they come over i have to have my door locked and yet they don't get the message and keep bothering me, i don't like talking to others i just want to be alone it's not too much to ask. Then if i don't come out my room my parents force me to get out the room and greet them.
i got social anxiety to the point that i feel extremely uncomfortable when a car passes me or a people see me, social anxiety litterally is a recipe of failing in society
i dont know if i have social anxiety, but i feel the same way. im probably just freaking out but ive been anxious about cars passing by while they’re looking at me or seeing people from my school in public. i stress over a decent amount how my hair looks in school and have to make sure every movement i make is perfect because i always feel like im being watched. after speaking to friends for a while, i kind of just want to get out of the call and go watch some yt or play some games. the car thing has gotten better but for a little bit i was embarrassed for people to even look at me passing by very fast while i was in a passenger seat. i do also have trouble making eye contact with people, and i have to think over saying something to someone before the opportunity is missed and i regret it. (note: i used to be and still very am shy, is this just overreacting?)
i like it that way(kinda), cause it's even worse if they start asking questions or actual conversation and they'll see I'm rly dumb and my interests are crap and i can't keep up with anything they're talking about so they'll hate me and eventually avoid me on purpose which is worse than not knowing i exist oh boi do i overthinking 😳
Ok so we had recess and we were walking to the field to play volleyball. And these girls I was with were talking and I laughed (fake, but I was trying not to be awkward) and this one girl was like “oh I forgot u were there” and another girl said “oh yeah genna is always THERE but she never talks” and they just laughed. I wanted to be invisible sooo bad.
@@vip3re In my opinion, it isn't pathetic. Each person is unique and we find comfort in our own ways. Feeling calm by wearing a mask and headphones isn't pathetic. For most people, it is just not usual. It doesn't depend on how old you are, age might not change things. ^^
@@juliabarattofreitas2234 Thanks, that's very nice of you to remind me there's people out there that aren't just harsh and judgmental, I like people like you! I tend to forget that too often. But what I find most pathetic about me and the age thing is that I was never able to work through my issues in an healthy way and everything just became worst. Being an INFP with childhood trauma sure isn't helping me :D Thank you again sis! Don't ever change! The world needs people like you more than ever.
my biggest feelings with social anxiety: -going out and feeling everyone is staring -being uncomfortable with any man behind me -sensory issues -moving back and forth, never being able to stand still -always feeling like i’m going too slow while closing or opening my wallet -being exhausted after going out -heart beating very fast, sweating, getting really hot when talking to an employee -HATE calling people -HATE facetime -ending calls -interrupting people or being interrupted -eating with someone behind me or a window behind me -not knowing what to do with my arms when standing still
all of these are me. I’m wondering if, me being a teen and a girl, my paranoia about men and strangers going to kidnap me or something is part of my anxiety or if it’s unfortunately just a relatively normal part of being a teenage girl. But for me it’s to the point where if a car pulls up even like a hundred feet away while im alone, I am constantly watching them from the corner of my eye. I have no clue if this is normal
when you're around people and it's silent so you feel like you have to make conversation but then you feel like what you said was stupid so you wish you'd never said anything at all.
There is nothing more painful than having to sit back and watch All of your friends enjoy their life , be in relationships, talk , and have fun while you cant . it just makes you feel so lonely
yeah i live with my family and my brother just reminds me of everything I’m not, he is social, goes out a lot, looks good, has good grades, I mean I’m happy for him it just makes me feel miserable
Yeah especially bc one of my friends goes and talks to people and I'm not comfortable with talking that much and then if I dont follow her I'm alone which is a big fear of mine. And if I'm alone and I dont follow her then I have to find someone else and then my social anxiety comes in. She doesnt even care that I have social anxiety and just expects me to chat a bunch.
@@sittnaingaung4345 I literally agree! Sometimes we take so long that they even start to think of us as slow typers but in reality, we're just stressing out. They always seem to consider it a minor difficulty. :(
my god when i got diagnosed i was told to go to public school luckily my mom didn't do that which is good because that would have made it way worse then it is now
@@yourince7573 and that's why there are soooo many depressed and anxious teenagers nowadays because parents don't believe it exists. They always say we're just being dramatic or finding excuses but we're really struggling.
the most annoying thing is when someone tells you "don't be shy" - LIKE SURE THANKS FOR THE ADVICE, LIKE ITS A SWITCH I CAN TURN ON AND OFF WHENEVER I WANT!!
exactly,im always told,to do eye contact and to"look people in the eyes"like,i struggle,its not like i can GO FIND MY EYE CONTACT SWITCH,OR MY NEVOUSNESS SWITCH IS IT?!?
Agreed. Telling someone with social anxiety to not to be shy is like telling someone who can't swim to go to swim. That's the point, because we need training for that 💀
Summary: 1. Being social can be draining 2. You prefer texting over calling 3. You feel anxious without direct interaction 4. When it comes to firends, quality is greater than quantity 5. It's not all in your head (other symptoms) 6. You feel like everyone is judging you 7. You are your harshest judge
When I sit alone in class I feel like everyone is judging me for sitting alone but I don't have the confidence to sit by others in my class when my friend isn't here.
Same every conversation I ever have in a day at school happens in my head and because I don’t like speaking ppl say I look fake and awkward 😓 it’s a real hassle I only feel comfortable speaking around my older sister in school since I don’t even have one friend
At least u dont stand alone in front of the class (gave me a bit more confidence). I find "presentation" (by myself) much worse tbh. But both are just bullshit and i always tried to avoid them as much as i could!
I’ve had recently group projects, but I always ask if I can do it alone, I don’t care if they put me more work, it’s always better for me to do everything alone.
As a person who’s socially anxious, I always wanna socialize more but even if I’m eager to do so my heart just suddenly starts beating like crazy and I suddenly forget how to talk properly. It’s really draining and nerve-wracking.
Same, I wanna be social and stuff but I’m afraid people are gonna judge me. Everyone’s so mean at school too, the throw around slurs, pick on disabled kids, do drugs and smoke and swear in almost every sentence they speak in. I feel like most people my age are trying too hard to be over 18, why is it so hard for people to be decent human beings?
one time i had a meeting,the second the person came over,i just changed,i just went really nevous and didnt exactly find it easy to answer the questions
i hate having social anxiety. i wish i could just talk to someone new without being awkward with them and not knowing what to say. i wish i could do what i want, say what i want and wear what i want without worrying abt what other ppl r thinking of me.
Same, besides having social anxiety I also have a lot of insecurities which makes me more anxious, so I don’t feel like I’m free because I don’t wear what I want or say what I want to say, so yeah I understand.
One of the worst things of living with social anxiety is not knowing how to hold a conversation and then thinking about the things you would’ve wanted to say when it’s too late
@@chocobun4879 my sister literally calls me out for it as a joke and makes me feel worse and every time i feel like i’ve improved i feel worse cuz it’s still not ‘normal’
@@chocobun4879 my sister literally calls me out for it as a joke and makes me feel worse and every time i feel like i’ve improved i feel worse cuz it’s still not ‘normal’
yeah... they say I’m just being sensitive and all They joke about my personality all the time and with other people too and they aren’t even funny and they repeat the same joke over and over again Anxiety? They just shrug it off thinking that my problems are too shallow and it’s totally not affecting my well-being
school is the worst thing for social anxiety. every day, i felt like only wearing a black sweatshirt and sweatpants because i was afraid wearing anything more would make me stand out. i never want to be the center of attention. it makes me feel like everybody just thinks i’m a loser that can’t even look someone in the eye. home isn’t much better. before i was diagnosed my parents blamed it on “that dang phone”. they would take away my privileges just by being myself. i would always hide in my room because i didn’t have the motivation or energy to talk to others. my parents took me to a doctor and i was diagnosed with social anxiety and severe depression. i thought this would be better because i was getting help and my parents would understand me, it wasn’t. my parents took more of my privileges away and forced me to join groups or be social when that was the only thing i didn’t want to do. i was extremely uncomfortable and felt like i was drowning and there was nobody around to save me. i felt like i was facing my problems alone and head on. i hope you understand that if your struggling, know there are always people like you who can help and provide a true solution.
Bless your heart, I’m also dealing with social anxiety, and I always think to much about what I should wear, and I hate social interaction and don’t know how to comfortably interact with people in a fun way, without sweating and feeling so nervous. Also people like us with social anxiety just hate doing small simple things that require social interaction, such as going to the doctor, the store, barbershop, we just always hate doing those thing’s because I just always feel like it’s awkward
@@evanwatson4814 the only way to overcome these fears is to repeatedly face them with baby steps and practice positive self talk and continous imporvmene - compare yourself to who you were yesterday not to who someone else is today we are all just people here at the end of the day i had expereicens that were simlar starting in my secondary school years but the only way to grow beyond therse is to get out there and train our breains we have got to overcome our anxiety and fears to live a richer and fuller life that is the only way a great way to do this i think is through working social jobs, chatting to peole in shops and cracking jokes playing sports, and travelling with a focus on people and learning
exactly,they say i struggle with stuff cuz of me always being on my tech,and i stuggle with eye contact,cuz when im nervous i just kinda sit there,staring at the floor,and i just always like to stay in my room,my parents try to encourage me to do board games,but i wont
one of my geography teachers once randomly asked me "are you a new student?" in the middle of the year.... everyone started laughing, made me feel really uncomfortable
I had already gone to that school in one year and had that (art) teacher before. Then he thought I was new and was going to give me a new folder for my art class lol.
People are always like "Talk more", "Stop being scared by people", "Why are you not living your life and being happy ?" (The last one makes me angry because being shy doesn't mean that we are not happy !)
@@jime2851 OMG exactly. My entire time in high school I always felt like nobody cared about me because even though they let me talk to them, they didn’t listen.
i really hate myself. why cant i just be normal and make friends like everybody else? i cant even hold a proper conversation with someone without feeling like crying. im scared to even eat in public because im afraid that people are judging me and think that im weird. Edit: I’m doing a lot better now. I made some friends and I feel more confident now. Thank you guys for all your comments, and for those who are also struggling, I hope things get better for you 💕
I feel the same I feel like I can’t make any friends too the main friends I have are my childhood friends that I still talk to. And the way I try to cope with sitting in public places and feeling like I’m getting judged is just taking a moment to look around and realizing that I’m not busy judging anyone around me so it’s probably the same for me. It’s safe to say just be yourself just like everyone else is being themselves and they are doing just fine. This might sound cliche but the only person stopping you is you. Of course that’s just what I feel to be true and it’s different for everyone so.
i always feel worried whenever i see someone's laughing around me, like my mind goes "are they judging me?" and feel uncomfortable asf edit: I'm happy i found my people here
I feel you.. Im always like I wish I could speak in front of anyone without worrying. Problem is I can’t stop this social anxiety inside me and I’m suffering from it since I was a kid. 😔😔
I missed out one of my once in a lifetime occasions coz of that..I still feel guilty and relieved at the same time ...but I really wish I could socialize normally
Have you ever had someone who you want to talk to so much but you feel like you’re annoying them because you’ve spoken to them only once in the past week? That hurts...
yes i can def relate! i have this friend that i used to talk to a bunch and we grew apart after not having classes together for a year and i wanted to reconnect but i freeze up around them and can’t even find the courage to approach them or look in their direction. i feel like such a bother and im not even sure if they want to reconnect either ^^” (also i used to have a crush on them when we used to talk a lot and i think it’s coming back so it’s even worse to try and communicate lol)
I literally wake up in the morning filled with dread because I have to suffer another day at school full of loneliness and despair and humiliation. Sometimes it gets so bad I really wish I would just disappear.
I'm so sorry you have to feel that way. You will get through this! I suffered from depression and anxiety, but it can get better. I hope you can get to a point in your life, where you don't want to disappear anymore! ♡
@@nna4483 This made me cry...thank you. I’ve lived the majority of my life thinking people don’t care about me, struggling day and night just to survive. No one ever understood me. But it gives me hope to know that there are people like you, who can do the smallest thing but make such a big difference. Sometimes I get really tired...tired of this winter...tired of this darkness. It feels like I’m limping through a tunnel and there’s no end in sight. Sometimes I feel like I’ll never reach the end. But reading what you wrote changed that, you made me believe that it might be possible. Thank you. You don’t know how much you’ve helped me today. I hope you have a wonderful life.
@@idk-mz7wz aw, this really touched my heart. Thank you, army. You made me day. I’ll believe you, I won’t lose hope. ARMYs like you are the reason I love being a part of this family. Let’s always support each other. Borahae 💜
I am socially anxious and have been most of my life, I am now 50, but I can't relate to this comment because I don't believe either point fits me. So what made me socially anxious then? When I know the answer, I'll get back to you.
@@tadge-rico It is great that you have lived with your anxiety for this long. It gives me hope because I am still young and SA is interfering in my life.
Does anyone ever feel really anxious to comment on any social media platforms and edits them a thousand times before posting and then rethinks posting it afterwards? Couldn’t be me 😅
omg i remember when my hands were shaking when someone asked for lead in my head i was like *_I GOT THIS_* reality: ʰ⁻ʰ⁻ʰ⁻ʰᵉʳᵉ **HANDS SHAKING SO MUCH EVERYONE IN MY TABLE CAN SEE IT** i felt so embarrassed and wanted to leave the classroom
omg same 😭 i also will state things starting with “I think” when talking to ppl when it’s not needed (ex. “I think I got my ears pierced” when it’s clear I do) and of course ppl will be like you think? then I’m like haha time to never talk again 👍🏻
It really hurts when your parents blames you for being 'silent' and not talking to others instead of understanding and saying that you're just not trying and rude.
Physical signs and symptoms can sometimes accompany social anxiety disorder and may include: Blushing. Fast heartbeat. Trembling. Sweating. Upset stomach or nausea. Trouble catching your breath. Dizziness or lightheadedness. Feeling that your mind has gone blank.
Mine ussually are sweating, upset stomach and I also have a strange sensation in my legs:it is like the muscles right above the knees are weakened and they can barely hold me. It is similar to the senzation you feel when you get up too fast, but it's only in that area
I hate when my mom forces me to talk to someone I don’t know, or sign me up for things that require being around a group of people I don’t know. She just thinks I’m being a weirdo or stubborn, but in reality I’m not comfortable.
Ikr, my mom once called me "suplada" (which means arrogant and unfriendly in tagalog) when I didn't reply to my classmate that isn't even my friend and that really made me angry
That literally happen to me today! My dad is forcing me to pick between joining gymnastics or hip hop dancing. I don't like doing any of that stuff but they insist I do because they want my to be physically fit and "look better". They are always trying to get me to talk to them or some random person when I just want peace.
Faxx. my sisters tells me to go out to hang with my friends and i give excuses like my friend's parents don't let them go out.which is not a lie but the main reason is that i have social anxiety
for me personally, its mostly not that im not able to do social activities (like i can still force myself to go to the grocery store, or endure parties / family gatherings), its simply the fact that i cant enjoy these moments because im so trapped into this thinking pattern of everyone judging and hating me (due to shaking, sweating, blushing, being awkward, etc) its just so freaking tiring to always having to live with this constant feeling of fear
yes exactly me too, if i need to talk to someone like for example in the store or whatever i will. and i try my best to look calm and composed but whenever i talk to a stranger or go outside where there are a lot of people, i start sweating and shaking and it feels like my throat gets closed and i can’t breathe. it feels like everyone’s staring at me even though i know they aren’t. and it sucks that i don’t know how to stop feeling this way.
Geez it happens to me too every single time someone says that to me, even though I'm aware that my closest friends are a bit deaf so it's normal that they don't hear me 😅
I’m that introverted friend that gets dragged in groups bc of my extroverted friend but the thing is, I can’t talk to the group...I feel too afraid to talk so I just sit there in silence listening to their convos :(
I used to have very bad social anxiety, but one day I said enough, I’m missing out on things like food, experiences etc. and I tried my best to overcome this, I started by ordering by myself food or go shopping alone. And now I do that without any problems. I still have a long way to go but I’m on that road and remember that YOU CAN DO IT too
My social anxiety has gotten worse this year-- as I've spent most of it isolated, and studying from home, even Zoom classes make me panic and sweat like crazy. Even worse, I'm returning to my job next week, and one of my duties is to answer calls, and even before COVID, I'd panic as soon as I heard the phone ring, and just be shaking throughout the entire call, until it ended, and try to calm myself after. Now that my social/ phone anxiety has gotten worse, I've been having nightmares and a hard time sleeping thinking about going back to work; I wish I could ask them to let me just do email inquiries and live chatrooms instead to help customers.
Heyy, I just uploaded a new video on anxiety, I would really appreciate if you could check it out and leave me some feedback. Maybe it helps you with your problem as well :) If you don’t have the time or if you don’t want to, that’s okay too. Thank you and have a nice day.🥺❤️
I know EXACTLY how you feel. It's almost like you read my mind. I've had to leave in the middle of zoom classes because of panic attacks and I work at a call center because talking over the phone is easier than talking in person but it still feels impossible sometimes.
fr. for me it’s my friend who keeps saying ‘can you go ask it? i have social anxiety😜’ while she obviously doesn’t, and it makes me so uncomfortable. i think i have social anxiety and i want her to stop making jokes about it but i’m too scared to ask
@@dagmar8356 so true omg, all the fucking time my friends are like "omg i feel so depressed today" or "anxiety checkkk" like shut the fuck up, if only you understood are bad it actually is.
@@camilaquinones6553 i agree with you like a lot. however, just wanted to say : talk about it ! not like it something sooo cool lmao, but try as much as you can to explain to your friends how bad you can b because of ur anxiety. since i started doing that i feel much more free
I’ve literally had panic attacks over stupid little things like sitting in the front row. Sometimes I start hyperventilating about doing a presentation or when I do a presentation I start stuttering.
me too. i haven’t been diagnosed or anything but i’m too scared to tell my mom that i think i have social anxiety, but anyway my teacher called on me to read a paragraph to the class, i started reading and my voice became shaky within seconds, my hands were shaking, i had to mute myself halfway through just to breathe, and i cried for an hour shaking after that. i just wanted to share because it’s nice to feel that the people in this comment section relate to me lol
Same, it sucks because it also happens when I WANNA present, I like showing my hard work but my social anxiety just ruins it. I get heart attacks from just hearing my name. My heart also starts beating really fast SUPER suddenly. It only calms down like five minutes later. After that I’m done for the day. I don’t want to socialize.
if im being honest rn, it feels like i've found my people. i have been dealing with this for so long by myself and just reading through these comments has made me feel less and less alone.
As a teen who has been diagnosed with social anxiety, this entire video is basically explaining what I experience in a nutshell. I need to show this video to all my teachers, classmates, friends, family, and even my psycologist. It always seems as though nobody understands what I'm mentally forced to go through every day, no matter how much I try to explain. It's either "you're over reacting", "It's not that hard", "it's not even that severe" or "just say something". The worst part (in my opinion) is having to go through this every day, knowing that there isn't any coping strategies I know of that could help me. Everything I've tried (Breathing in and out, thinking on the bright side, etc.) never worked. In grade three I skived school so often because of it, that the lady at the front office would refuse to send me home and if I managed to convince her to let me go home, she'd call my parents and all they'd say was "we won't pick *her* up." I wasn't diagnosed with Social Anxiety until 2020, so my parents didn't even know why I was like that. Not to mention the fact that my mom didn't believe I had it until my psychologist and my dad managed to convince her. I have so much more to talk about, but this comment is already super long so I'll stop here. In a nutshell, Social Anxiety ruined my life and made me want to kms in grade 4 & onwards and its still going on today. Thanks for reading, maybe you can give me some coping strategies or tips/suggestions in the replies if you would like to.
Hello, hope you're feeling better now. I think I have some symptoms of social anxiety like thinking everyone's laughing or judging me, and I'm also nervous around some people. What helped me is distracting myself with the things I enjoy, like watching movies, drawing ect. I believe that Social anxiety might fade away with time, cause it was much worse for me before, and just got better with time. I also think it largely depends on the people you're talking with, cause I don't feel nervous around introverts and older people (I'm an introvert myself), just the people who are very extroverted and judgmental. So the only thing I can tell you that has helped me is that you need to surround yourself with people who are similar to you, so you can relate and be comfortable around them and engage yourself with your hobbies. If you notice you're getting better, try to get yourself out there with baby steps. Hope that helps
I’m diagnosed (by a doctor) and I can relate to every single one of these, the best way to describe it is a little monster that’s beside you and he never goes away but he starts of as small as a small teddy bear, but if he is uncomfortable with what you are doing or is just around people for to long then he becomes bigger and bigger and you need to go home and calm him down but if you stay he will become so big he will be the only thing you can see, and sometimes even when you go home he’ll still freak out and try to “take control over you” (a anxiety/panic attack)
@Susan Ananda I would rather not say, this is a very personal question that most people do not want to answer, you probably didn’t know so just for next time don’t ask that please! Have a good day/night!
Does anybody else stare at someone for hours trying too build the confidence too even say hi? But then just end up not saying anything.. 👥 edit: I’m so glad it’s not only me 💀 tysm for the likes too ly
My girlfriend suffers social anxiety, and this was a good eye opener for me to understand what she actually suffers with.. It’s awful that so many people struggle with this 🙏
I told my mom I thought I had social anxiety, and after the third time she asked me, "Well, what is there to be afraid of?" I was like, "Nothing, Mom, but it's a physical response and then I'm afraid of that after a while. I'm scared of being scared." She had no clue what I meant but continued to try to reason me out of it. I love her to pieces, but she's really clueless on this subject. Psych2Go, thank you for building a community who understands each other. We needed that. Thank you. For all of you without social anxiety or just anxiety in general trying to help a friend out, please know this: You can't "logic" your way out of anxiety. It's irrational, and we know that. It only makes it worse. But you can help just by listening and letting your friends know that they are loved and you will never judge them; you are a safe place to be. You can help by validating them and believing them. Just love them. Please.
I can relate sm. My father always says that I don't have to be scared but it's not like I can just choose to not be scared? Like, I just am and I am aware that it's irrational but it can't be stopped that easily. He is like: don't be scared, you don't have to be scared. Thanks dad, I'm ✨cured✨
I think if the people around me were like this I would be super petty about it. I would either actually reason with them and use an example for something they are scared of (spiders are almost always a good example) and say something like "See? Spiders are really tiny and they arent actually dangerous (most of them at least). But that doesn't mean you can't be scared of them, does it?". The petty version would be saying "Why don't you just choose to not be scared then?" In a really bitchy tone when they are scared of whatever.
right lol. stupid people. another reason why I don’t really care if my sa goes away, but eventually I should seek therapy because I have to get a job and etc., you know?
Every time I try to tell my parents that I have social anxiety they just think I’m confused with shyness, and then my dad starts yelling at me about how I act.
YES, I relate a lot to this:( but I haven't exactly told anyone in my family that I think I might have social anxiety bc I feel like they'll think I'm exaggerating or just get annoyed or prob say like "no u don't, u don't know anything" :(
summary: -being social can be draining -you prefer texting over calling -you feel anxious without direct interaction -when it comes to friends, quality is greater than quantity. -its not all in your head -you feel like everyone is judging you -you are your harshest judge i’m quite social w people but i relate to ALL of these. help-
I don't think I have social anxiety but I relate to some of these signs. I understand how you guys feel. Not fully but in some level. So whoever is reading this comment right now, I hope you're doing amazing! Stay safe and enjoy your life❤❤
im scared of awkward situations. sometimes i get scared to talk to people because i fear that in the middle of talking we’ll both run out of things to say and everything will go quiet. i get anxious just thinking about it. is this just me?
Omg, no ur not! This is me all the time and I always feel tense and worried for an awkward silence to happen, so I try to keep the conversation going, mainly asking questions to the other person.
I once was looking for my friend and saw her bf and asked him If he had seen her but he was looking for her too... That was the only thing we said after that we stood in silence for 15 min trying not to look at each other. It was hell I started sweating a lot but I also couldn't go away because I didn't know where to..
My version is weird. When I’m actually talking to someone I’m completely fine but the second I’m not I instantly become terrified of any human interaction whatsoever and will literally never seek out conversation with anyone
I know covid is an awful thing that has just destroyed our normal life but for me my social life has started thriving because I feel more comfortable wearing a mask where without it I feel like people are just seeing right through me
It's so accurate. Anyone who see me wearing mask tells me " why u always put on masks like take it easy covid will not catch u if u leave it once" and blahh blah but only if the knew it's not for covid but for the insecurities about my face.
@@cuprisun Isolating yourself isn't gonna help with social anxiety tho, but exposing yourself to social situations will. How are you gonna function in adult life?, Are you just gonna live with your parents?
Do you still wear masks or what helped in letting go of masks? Please tell. I find huge relief when I have a mask on. I feel less anxious and can get go anywhere without feeling like they're all staring at me. I do want to stop wearing masks one day bec of this. I want to walk freely without any fear. Would love to know what helped you if anything did. I feel you. I completely relate to it
Social anxiety is awful. It's way more than just "being shy uwu". I'm grateful for these videos because they portray exactly what SA sufferers feel and can help others understand
The worst thing for me is that I always blush while talking to people. If my social anxiety didn’t manifested this way I would feel a little more comfortable, but I can’t even talk to my family and friends that I’ve know for years without looking like a tomato.
and the worst thing is that some of boys would think that i'm crashing on them or something. this stereotypes about blushing around those whom you like, you know
@@Tolganay_Alimzhan I agree it’s the worst thing for me too 😩 I feel like dudes probably think I have the fattest crush on them but they don’t understand my struggle. My family members have called out my blushing so many times and my sister even said “ew why are you so red 🤨” but I’m trying so hard not to care when it comes to family but in public it’s hard
Oh you’d think so… But there’s something even worse: When you say something VERY clearly, and then later find out they thought you were rude because you didn’t say anything. And then you actually become rude because “b????, I’m not rude you’re just deaf”
omg this just happened to me today..i walked so fast that i bumped into a boy that is younger than me & he thought that i'm upset bcs i didn't say anything so he ended up apologized to me even i don't think it was his fault..it's so awkward & embarassing-
Yeah, I often smile when I'm stressed or embarassed and I don't like when people see me smiling or showing any emotions on my face and the masks help a lot.
I felt this! I honestly don't know if I have social anxiety or not because I don't want to self diagnose. However, I can't stand public settings. I can't even go to school to pick up or drop off a book without getting so nervous; my stomach starts hurting, I start shaking, I get nauseous, etc., every time. When I go to school, I try to walk fast & have an angry face because that's the only way I can feel comfortable being around people. I hate having to order at restaurants or having to ask someone for help at stores. I'm tired of people treating me like I'm exaggerating. Then my parents don't believe me, my mom just gets mad because apparently me not wanting to interact with others means that I think I'm better than others. I just wish people in my life understood how difficult it is for me to even hold a conversation. I constantly feel like people judge me for every little thing I do. I don't even know how to make friends, which sucks. Oh, and group projects are a pain, I HATE THEM!!
Social anxiety has really been crippling for me. It crippled my self-esteem and cost me many opportunities. It cost me my vision. It caused my academic performance to dip. It fucked up my social life as a child and teenager. I had a hard time making conversations because my anxiety was so bad.
i have bad self esteem,and get mad at myself over things so samll as,failing a game,thinking that i wont ever be good at it,just beacuse other can do better
i cant go outside to have fun with my family pr friends i cant start any hobbies or any activites im just stuck in my house bcs im scared of being judged or stared at. I understand what you feel. Hopefully we can get over this one day. Maybe with the help of a therapist. They always say it works. I hope it works for you too if u give it a chance 🖤🖤
I literally cried because my teacher wanted to get on a call with me and I have always hated speaking on the phone. I begged my mom to call her for me but she refused so I just ended up lying to my teacher saying I hadn't seen the email till later in the day.
In the first lockdown I didn't do any online lessons because the thought of doing it made me want to cry and lucky for me my mum never found out. But in the second lockdown my form tutor called her and told her I wasn't doing them and she forced me to do them. I really wish she'd just understand that these things are hard for me. I've tried telling her before and she never believes me.
Same. But I don’t think the number of friends you have matters. What matters is that the few friends you have are true friends who truly care for you and appreciate you for who you are. One true friend who gets you and I always there for you is better than a whole crowd of friends who don’t care as much.
Few days ago ...one girl from my class who was my good friend like a week ago, told me no one likes me, that I'm annoying and no one likes to be friends with me, if only she knew, she will regret those words one day
I'm sorry she's been bad to you, maybe one day you'll find your own friends, who are good people, and maybe she will be a better person in the future. Just try to remember that what people think of you, or tell you, will never define you!
I come here to feel valid about my social anxiety. It’s so refreshing to see others going through the same thing as me. The internet has been a huge help for my anxiety. In person I’m very introverted, and avoid talking to others when possible. Online I love to share my thoughts and make friends. I do a lot of my socializing through text or comments like this.
I'm the same too! I feel like since we've been required to wear masks at school here in the UK, I've become a little bit more confident speaking out in classes. It's not exactly much, but it makes me feel good!
"it's not all in your head" Gosh, thank you so much for this. The amount of times people said this to me and made me feel crazy in my teenage years were a lot! It was after I became a psychology student that I learnt I wasn't crazy at all. I wish I had videos like this back then! Thank you so much, this is amazing ❤️❤️❤️
I wondered how many people there were in the world who suffered, and continued to suffer, because they could not break out from their own web of shyness and reserve, and in their blindness and folly built up a great distorted wall in front of them that hid the truth.
My life has totally been ruined by this and I became avoidant PD which ultimately led to severe depression... I just can't function normally now at 38. The mask had to drop one day or another.... People just think I'm a bad person now because I just avoid everything and everyone. My life is hell and I don't have any friends and nothing to live for... at least I have myself and my loner introvert interests... sometimes that's enough..
I just can't believe that my mom is a Dr. and still yells at me and humiliates me cuz for her I'm " shy" in front of people when actually I'm literally dying, hands shaking and trembling just being with strangers.
My family's nothing but extroverts and only a few ambiverts making me the only introvert. My parents push me to do things I don't wanna do and try to make me a more social person. Little do they know that, even though I tried telling them, it's making me feel worse
It’s so hard for me to talk to people, even in just a simple game. I feel like people will hate me and walk away. I don’t really like to talk to people because it makes me worry even more and it’s so scary. My parents just say “stop being dramatic” or “just talk!”
I enjoy these videos because sometimes I’m scared to comment on any social media but now that everyone here is going through the same things I feel a lot more comfortable
SCHOOL IS THE REAL DEFINITION OF HELL IF YOU HAVE SOCIAL ANXIETY.
Absolutely right. Those questioning in front of class , giving a speech ,etc just tears me apart.
@@respirate_music EXACTLY, does teachers don't know what's social anxiety? They're the one that's need to educate themselves lol.
Plus the bullies ;_;
Yessss!!!!!!!
I had to Dropout it was so bad 😂
I ended up just doing online school because of it, but I guess I chose a good time because of corona XD
No1: Questions like "Why are you so quiet" makes situation much worse
Oh yes all my teachers always
true
This question makes me angry in the moment and makes me want to reply "Why are you so loud/Why do you talk so much". But in the long term, it makes me more anxious and in conversations I actively try to think what should I say and I start feeling awkward if I haven't spoken in a while. Now I am trying to listen and observe more and disregard this stupid question
@@arpitkumar4525 oh yes I know what you mean. Now I always think twice before I say something
My classmates would always say: "Owww look at her blushing". It made me feel worse every time.
6th hits hardest. I constantly feel like people are looking at me, judging me and hate me. Even when I say something in class I overthink lot about "did I sound stupid" "do people hate me now". Everyone just seems to be judging you and it sucks :/
Omg I Really relate to this
What do you do if you start realizing you are over thinking?
I feel you...btw hey ARMY 💜
Yeah, and it’s like you start stressing and regretting over the things you already said, like “I shouldn’t have said that”or “I sound like I want attention or something”
Omg same
@@yui607 yeah exactly!!! :/
1. Looking down and walking fast while passing people
2. Scared to talk/ask questions
3. Biting lips/leg/hand/etc vibrating
4. Always being aware of your surroundings
5. Spacing out
6. Very sweaty hands
7. Think everyone is talking about you/looking at you
8. Eat weird around people/ try not to eat at all
9. Sit alone or by, people not saying anything/talking less
10. Trying to always smile and look normal
This is all form experience with my anxiety, so don’t assume you may not have anxiety. This list only relates to social anxiety which I thought my whole life was just my nerves. I was wrong, these are signs of social anxiety and you should talk to someone if it gets too bad. Have a good day! 💗
THIS
I mean I like the 4. tbh. It feels nice to be aware🤷♀️
@@yukkiyukkiii2493 yeah but in an anxious way
i do 9 of these things 🏃♀️
@@jellyfish2913 I mean yea true😭
Nothing hurts worse then when your teacher calls on you without you raising your hand, and you don’t understand the question, so your just sitting there in silence and awkwardness with everyone staring at you.
I can relate so much :/
Honestlyy, I pretend to be sick sometimes so I can stay off school to miss certain lessons. I worry about it to the point where I feel sick
Yup... we even did a questionnaire about ourselves and I wrote down that I don’t like to participate but even then they ask me questions even though I didn’t raise my hands
I can’t tell them I have social anxiety because they will criticize me
I relate
Yeah... i really hate when that happens... i mean, if i dont raise my hand that means that i don’t want to participate, right? Then WHY am i the selected student?? That feeling of everyone staring at you in complete silence it just make me wanna cry... and it gets worse when the teacher speaks or your classmates start to gossip on your back...
i can’t leave my house without feeling like everyone is staring at me
I know it’s like everyone is judging me
samee
Same ☹️
Same! My family doesn't understand why I hate going to the supermarket alone but I just feel so looked at all the time and can't explain it to them
Exactly
Why do I feel like people never take social anxiety disorder seriously. So many people make fun of us or think we are weird. I wish people knew how hard it is.
@Juliana Perez I feel you. I can't do anything when in a large group of people other then my close friends.
It takes quite a while to get comfortable and used to somebody but when you do it feels great. I hope it all works out for ya.
right
Ikr? And that gives me more anxiety that I really don't tell that I have that and just pretend I'm fine
Sometimes people make fun of me for being scared of people
😐😑😔😕🙁
I have depression + social anxiety + social awkwardness and wow! Add a bit of insecure in the ingredients and boom! We have me. Though I'm not even professionally diagnosed. I don't say I have them but I have properly researched all of these things and I've shown all the symptoms of these. I'm sure..but I don't want to self diagnose.
I feel like we can all agree that one of the worst instances of social anxiety are those time in class where you need a partner... but you don’t know anyone in the class... so you have to awkwardly walk up to the teacher and quietly say that you don’t have a partner. Only for the teacher to yell out to the class that you don’t have a partner... so you stand there silently and awkwardly because now the entire class is staring at you...
truly the worse
THISSS
This is one of the moments when I like having my twin in the same class with me because me and her always are partners
Omfg this is the one moment in class that I absolutely dread...like my face would be so red and I’d barely speak and it’s just so humiliating I feel like disappearing into the earth
I had to team up with 4 people during online classes for a big project, so now I'm doing it on my own because I'm too scared to ask anyone. Fml.
Idiot: why are you so quiet? You don't you talk much, do you?
Me: *combusts and explodes on the inside while fighting the urge to smack the person*
Or "It's just a lack of confidence" or "Can't you just have fun? You're ruining my birthday..." and even worse "what's her problem, she's weird, she just doesn't like people, she's toxic, you deserve better, can't she have some manners? She's such a baby" All those are sooooo helping me!
this too "why are you so quiet, you meed to talk more or you will fail in life, its a simple life skill you need to talk"
Or it’s are you alright, is something wrong I don’t think it’s healthy you stay home and don’t go out and socialise, like that’s not the point I have social anxiety and other then that I’m an introvert I don’t like socialising it’s hard for people to understand us but at least we understand eachother in some degree we are similar in our own ways of trying to cope with social anxiety
I remember being asked “...so are you anti-social?” on the first day of high school (this year) and I had the urge to hammer that girl down the concrete ground.
I realised her behavior deteriorated around me and she was actually trying to bully me indirectly 🤦🏻♀️ it continued until late mid September, but she’s stopped now, because I had to dob on her 2-3 times.
@@beanhead7632 It’s good she stopped opening her mouth but if she continues to open it again keep dobbing her in the more she gets in trouble the better if she wants to continue being a clown we just gotta be us and do our own things even if people don’t understand there is nothing wrong with us not being social so I hope things at school improve for you 😊
Don’t y’all hate it when your parents disturb your personal space like a family member would come over and they would force me to talk to them
Yeah, or like force you to speak on the phone with a relative
Omfg i hate that. When my relatives come over i go to my room but then they go up to my room and open the door, WITHOUT KNOCKING. They even come in my room, like what is up with that i need my personal space?! Now everytime they come over i have to have my door locked and yet they don't get the message and keep bothering me, i don't like talking to others i just want to be alone it's not too much to ask. Then if i don't come out my room my parents force me to get out the room and greet them.
Pretend you’re sleeping maybe that would help
YES!! I know it’s my family and all but I DONT WANNA TALK! I try to stay in my room but my mom forces me to “be social” and put me in the spotlight
Yes this omg
I hate how my parents always just blame my social anxiety on me just being “introverted.” Like, I want to socialize so much but I just... can’t.
I feel exactly the same. I want to socialize but my social anxiety doesn't let me. It's not like I want to be this way like many people think.
YES I WANT TO SO BAD BUT I JUST DKDHCIDH
I'm introverted and have social anxiety😭😭
Same here!!
finally someone who feels the same as i do!
the fact that we all have social anxiety here but still talk like we are most confident people ever 💀
cause we know that no ones gonna judge us here 💀
This is what I love about this environment. I don’t socialize as often but I feel comfortable here
this 😭
It's comfy here :) I like it
It’s different because we’re just typing our thoughts
i got social anxiety to the point that i feel extremely uncomfortable when a car passes me or a people see me, social anxiety litterally is a recipe of failing in society
God bless you
SAME
i dont know if i have social anxiety, but i feel the same way. im probably just freaking out but ive been anxious about cars passing by while they’re looking at me or seeing people from my school in public. i stress over a decent amount how my hair looks in school and have to make sure every movement i make is perfect because i always feel like im being watched. after speaking to friends for a while, i kind of just want to get out of the call and go watch some yt or play some games. the car thing has gotten better but for a little bit i was embarrassed for people to even look at me passing by very fast while i was in a passenger seat. i do also have trouble making eye contact with people, and i have to think over saying something to someone before the opportunity is missed and i regret it. (note: i used to be and still very am shy, is this just overreacting?)
sunflower ur just the same as me.. its very tiringg😞it feels as if someone watching me all the time..
yeah and i get overly cautious on how i walk or talk or stand or where i look at and where my hands go
I hate when people at school are like: “omg I didn’t even notice you today haha.”
I KNOW😭😭😭
i like it that way(kinda), cause it's even worse if they start asking questions or actual conversation and they'll see I'm rly dumb and my interests are crap and i can't keep up with anything they're talking about so they'll hate me and eventually avoid me on purpose which is worse than not knowing i exist
oh boi do i overthinking 😳
Omg yess it’s like I’m just a ghost in their eyes
Someone once told me that if I died nobody would know
Ok so we had recess and we were walking to the field to play volleyball. And these girls I was with were talking and I laughed (fake, but I was trying not to be awkward) and this one girl was like “oh I forgot u were there” and another girl said “oh yeah genna is always THERE but she never talks” and they just laughed. I wanted to be invisible sooo bad.
I’ve found wearing headphones, and now masks, in large public settings helps keep me calm.
Can never leave my house without headphones!
Same
Same and I'm 38.. i'm so pathetic 😔
@@vip3re In my opinion, it isn't pathetic. Each person is unique and we find comfort in our own ways. Feeling calm by wearing a mask and headphones isn't pathetic. For most people, it is just not usual. It doesn't depend on how old you are, age might not change things. ^^
@@juliabarattofreitas2234 Thanks, that's very nice of you to remind me there's people out there that aren't just harsh and judgmental, I like people like you! I tend to forget that too often.
But what I find most pathetic about me and the age thing is that I was never able to work through my issues in an healthy way and everything just became worst. Being an INFP with childhood trauma sure isn't helping me :D
Thank you again sis! Don't ever change! The world needs people like you more than ever.
my biggest feelings with social anxiety:
-going out and feeling everyone is staring
-being uncomfortable with any man behind me
-sensory issues
-moving back and forth, never being able to stand still
-always feeling like i’m going too slow while closing or opening my wallet
-being exhausted after going out
-heart beating very fast, sweating, getting really hot when talking to an employee
-HATE calling people
-HATE facetime
-ending calls
-interrupting people or being interrupted
-eating with someone behind me or a window behind me
-not knowing what to do with my arms when standing still
I can totally relate to all of these-
and it hurts as hell :)
all of these are me. I’m wondering if, me being a teen and a girl, my paranoia about men and strangers going to kidnap me or something is part of my anxiety or if it’s unfortunately just a relatively normal part of being a teenage girl. But for me it’s to the point where if a car pulls up even like a hundred feet away while im alone, I am constantly watching them from the corner of my eye. I have no clue if this is normal
@@dynosaurrrr i thinks it’s probably a combo of both. normal to feel paranoid abt that, but the fact that we’re teenage girls make it’s worse
And it's worse when you also have autism on top of that because you're awkward from it and don't even know what to say or do! Ugh
when you're around people and it's silent so you feel like you have to make conversation but then you feel like what you said was stupid so you wish you'd never said anything at all.
There is nothing more painful than having to sit back and watch All of your friends enjoy their life , be in relationships, talk , and have fun while you cant . it just makes you feel so lonely
Unless they're also sad and are just putting a smile on their faces.
Ikr. I feel like I'm in the prison of my own anxiety:(
yeah i live with my family and my brother just reminds me of everything I’m not, he is social, goes out a lot, looks good, has good grades, I mean I’m happy for him it just makes me feel miserable
I feel trapped and helpless
Yeah especially bc one of my friends goes and talks to people and I'm not comfortable with talking that much and then if I dont follow her I'm alone which is a big fear of mine. And if I'm alone and I dont follow her then I have to find someone else and then my social anxiety comes in. She doesnt even care that I have social anxiety and just expects me to chat a bunch.
When you want to talk to someone but you don't know how to start a conversation.
Hi, we can talk if you’re comfortable with that~ I feel this sm
@@SonyaKhanOfficial ur name is samah?
The problem is i dont even know how to reply if someone's start talking to me..I'm always sooooo careful and unconfident with my words.
@@sittnaingaung4345 I literally agree! Sometimes we take so long that they even start to think of us as slow typers but in reality, we're just stressing out. They always seem to consider it a minor difficulty. :(
@@nayara745 Yes.. Why are you asking?xD
Me : how to cure my social anxiety?
My parents : socialize
Me : but-
Parent never understand how struggle we are...
Omg PLSS my mother literally did this to me today
my god when i got diagnosed i was told to go to public school luckily my mom didn't do that which is good because that would have made it way worse then it is now
@@fewbronzegames i feel u
@@yourince7573 and that's why there are soooo many depressed and anxious teenagers nowadays because parents don't believe it exists. They always say we're just being dramatic or finding excuses but we're really struggling.
the most annoying thing is when someone tells you "don't be shy" - LIKE SURE THANKS FOR THE ADVICE, LIKE ITS A SWITCH I CAN TURN ON AND OFF WHENEVER I WANT!!
"Press the attack button to attack"
Thanks, helps a lot.
exactly,im always told,to do eye contact and to"look people in the eyes"like,i struggle,its not like i can GO FIND MY EYE CONTACT SWITCH,OR MY NEVOUSNESS SWITCH IS IT?!?
Agreed. Telling someone with social anxiety to not to be shy is like telling someone who can't swim to go to swim.
That's the point, because we need training for that 💀
Summary:
1. Being social can be draining
2. You prefer texting over calling
3. You feel anxious without direct interaction
4. When it comes to firends, quality is greater than quantity
5. It's not all in your head (other symptoms)
6. You feel like everyone is judging you
7. You are your harshest judge
I guess I now have depression with a side of social anxiety.
Good job on the list!
But if I may, harchest ≈ harshest
How is this comment "1 day ago" if the video is posted 2 hours ago?
@@Balloushop13 Thank you :) I thought it felt a bit off.
@@pratik3563 Wierd, re-uploaded?
I hate it when people just like: why r u soo quite?
It'll make me feel anxious even moree
Whenever I attended any family occasions my relatives everytime telling me why are u so quite don't be shy blah blah. It's annoying asf
Can totally relate!! :)
Me too....this always happens when ever I visit my relatives and friends
Exactly it’s so annoying
When people say that to me, I genuinely have the urge to hammer them down the floor.
But it really depends on who that person is and how they say it.
When I sit alone in class I feel like everyone is judging me for sitting alone but I don't have the confidence to sit by others in my class when my friend isn't here.
at least you have a friend
Never heard anything more relatable
Chloe Driscoll Is it okay if i mention your comment in my school project about social anxiety? If not it's fine ✨😃🌼
@@MOLIASS yeah thats fine!
@@chloedriscoll4487 ty✨❤️
My social anxiety is the main reason why i don't open my camera during online classes
Same here
Samee
Yeah samee 🥲
Its the reason my history teacher terrifies me.
My mom forces me to open my camera-
I hate eating (or doing anything) in public or even when I'm with my friends. I always feel like people are looking at me and judging me
Oh god, I feel exactly the same.
I always prefer eating in a private space where I feel comfortable..
Same!
I know this is irrelevant, but I love your pfp
@@missroseanne5791 me too, rosie is so precious ^^
@JORDAN MUNTER I rarely eat at school 👁️👄👁️
The truth is they are people will always judge 🙂
Social anxiety is literally the only reason why my life is so miserable.
ong bro...
Same man like I can’t literally do anything without sweating thinking about people are all looking at me
Mine too I feel so insecure when I’m in public and it becomes hard for me to even breathe.
Same every conversation I ever have in a day at school happens in my head and because I don’t like speaking ppl say I look fake and awkward 😓 it’s a real hassle I only feel comfortable speaking around my older sister in school since I don’t even have one friend
This
"group project"
these two words are enough to make me feel like i'm bouta break
At least u dont stand alone in front of the class (gave me a bit more confidence). I find "presentation" (by myself) much worse tbh. But both are just bullshit and i always tried to avoid them as much as i could!
I’ve had recently group projects, but I always ask if I can do it alone, I don’t care if they put me more work, it’s always better for me to do everything alone.
Yes. Its awful. I cant even start a convo with my classmates i know for several years because im so scared that they judge me.
"pick your partners" UGHH like I always am so alone while everyone already knows who they want as their partner
@@jasmincampos1326 fr tho, every. single. time. 💀
As a person who’s socially anxious, I always wanna socialize more but even if I’m eager to do so my heart just suddenly starts beating like crazy and I suddenly forget how to talk properly. It’s really draining and nerve-wracking.
Sameeeeee😔
Same, I wanna be social and stuff but I’m afraid people are gonna judge me. Everyone’s so mean at school too, the throw around slurs, pick on disabled kids, do drugs and smoke and swear in almost every sentence they speak in. I feel like most people my age are trying too hard to be over 18, why is it so hard for people to be decent human beings?
one time i had a meeting,the second the person came over,i just changed,i just went really nevous and didnt exactly find it easy to answer the questions
Is it me or when I was younger I was so cheerful, joy, and not shy but when I got older I got social anxiety all the sudden and shy around people?
Same here
I was more outspoken back then but now I don't have the confidence to do anything
Same
@@seyixo4644 same what made it worse was moving; that gave me all the anxiety
Definitely
i hate having social anxiety. i wish i could just talk to someone new without being awkward with them and not knowing what to say. i wish i could do what i want, say what i want and wear what i want without worrying abt what other ppl r thinking of me.
Same here whenever I want to do something i have to force myself
Same, besides having social anxiety I also have a lot of insecurities which makes me more anxious, so I don’t feel like I’m free because I don’t wear what I want or say what I want to say, so yeah I understand.
Ikrrrr
THIS
One of the worst things of living with social anxiety is not knowing how to hold a conversation and then thinking about the things you would’ve wanted to say when it’s too late
there’s nothing like being criticized about having social anxiety, and having more anxiety because people are judging you for having anxiety.
Agree my family call me wierd because I have trouble socializing.
Instead of actaully trying to get me help I get compared to others because others.
Sentara W Is it okay if i mention your comment in my school project about social anxiety? If not it's fine ✨😃🌼
@@chocobun4879 my sister literally calls me out for it as a joke and makes me feel worse and every time i feel like i’ve improved i feel worse cuz it’s still not ‘normal’
@@chocobun4879 my sister literally calls me out for it as a joke and makes me feel worse and every time i feel like i’ve improved i feel worse cuz it’s still not ‘normal’
yeah... they say I’m just being sensitive and all
They joke about my personality all the time and with other people too and they aren’t even funny and they repeat the same joke over and over again
Anxiety? They just shrug it off thinking that my problems are too shallow and it’s totally not affecting my well-being
school is the worst thing for social anxiety. every day, i felt like only wearing a black sweatshirt and sweatpants because i was afraid wearing anything more would make me stand out. i never want to be the center of attention. it makes me feel like everybody just thinks i’m a loser that can’t even look someone in the eye. home isn’t much better. before i was diagnosed my parents blamed it on “that dang phone”. they would take away my privileges just by being myself. i would always hide in my room because i didn’t have the motivation or energy to talk to others. my parents took me to a doctor and i was diagnosed with social anxiety and severe depression. i thought this would be better because i was getting help and my parents would understand me, it wasn’t. my parents took more of my privileges away and forced me to join groups or be social when that was the only thing i didn’t want to do. i was extremely uncomfortable and felt like i was drowning and there was nobody around to save me. i felt like i was facing my problems alone and head on. i hope you understand that if your struggling, know there are always people like you who can help and provide a true solution.
Bless your heart, I’m also dealing with social anxiety, and I always think to much about what I should wear, and I hate social interaction and don’t know how to comfortably interact with people in a fun way, without sweating and feeling so nervous. Also people like us with social anxiety just hate doing small simple things that require social interaction, such as going to the doctor, the store, barbershop, we just always hate doing those thing’s because I just always feel like it’s awkward
So damn true
@@evanwatson4814 the only way to overcome these fears is to repeatedly face them with baby steps and practice positive self talk and continous imporvmene - compare yourself to who you were yesterday not to who someone else is today
we are all just people here at the end of the day
i had expereicens that were simlar starting in my secondary school years but the only way to grow beyond therse is to get out there and train our breains we have got to overcome our anxiety and fears to live a richer and fuller life that is the only way
a great way to do this i think is through working social jobs, chatting to peole in shops and cracking jokes playing sports, and travelling with a focus on people and learning
exactly,they say i struggle with stuff cuz of me always being on my tech,and i stuggle with eye contact,cuz when im nervous i just kinda sit there,staring at the floor,and i just always like to stay in my room,my parents try to encourage me to do board games,but i wont
one of my geography teachers once randomly asked me "are you a new student?" in the middle of the year.... everyone started laughing, made me feel really uncomfortable
That’s so sad I’m so sorry i would feel horrible
I'm so sorry:(
I think they were trying to be funny. However it didn’t work out .-. He’s just an asshole. Should’ve left it at that and instead asked your name.
Same lol
I had already gone to that school in one year and had that (art) teacher before. Then he thought I was new and was going to give me a new folder for my art class lol.
People are always like "Talk more", "Stop being scared by people", "Why are you not living your life and being happy ?" (The last one makes me angry because being shy doesn't mean that we are not happy !)
Ikr, watching movies and shows makes me happy. So why am I expected to go out every day to do things that don’t make me happy.
@@daniperotti1856 ong !!
Facts!!
It's frustrating because they say I have to "talk more" but when I do, they ignore me
@@jime2851 OMG exactly. My entire time in high school I always felt like nobody cared about me because even though they let me talk to them, they didn’t listen.
i really hate myself. why cant i just be normal and make friends like everybody else? i cant even hold a proper conversation with someone without feeling like crying. im scared to even eat in public because im afraid that people are judging me and think that im weird.
Edit: I’m doing a lot better now. I made some friends and I feel more confident now. Thank you guys for all your comments, and for those who are also struggling, I hope things get better for you 💕
I hope you’re doing better 🙌
@@stefani8183 aw, yeah i’m doing a little now better thank you for asking :) it means a lot
amity blight I’m so glad to hear that!! I’ve been through the same and can understand the feeling. We deserve to be happy 💕
@@stefani8183 aw your so kind!! 💕 sorry you had to go through that, it really is hard. thank you so much and i hope you have a nice day :)
I feel the same I feel like I can’t make any friends too the main friends I have are my childhood friends that I still talk to. And the way I try to cope with sitting in public places and feeling like I’m getting judged is just taking a moment to look around and realizing that I’m not busy judging anyone around me so it’s probably the same for me. It’s safe to say just be yourself just like everyone else is being themselves and they are doing just fine. This might sound cliche but the only person stopping you is you. Of course that’s just what I feel to be true and it’s different for everyone so.
i always feel worried whenever i see someone's laughing around me, like my mind goes "are they judging me?" and feel uncomfortable asf
edit: I'm happy i found my people here
me too 😔
same, it always ruin my mood
same 😔
Get you💔
Me too
Am I the only who never makes an eye contact with people even if they’re your own family members?
I am aware I'm doing it try to look them in the eye and then panic after literally less than a second.
OMG YES idk if its just cuz im shy but like i was able to do that before..
omg same
I do try to make eye contact but I don't know why, I just get distracted with things
I avoid eye contact
I HATE MYSELF I WANT TO BE NORMAL AND TALK NORMALLY
I feel you.. Im always like I wish I could speak in front of anyone without worrying. Problem is I can’t stop this social anxiety inside me and I’m suffering from it since I was a kid. 😔😔
Jesus exist and Help.
@@joanna4237 when the pandemic end i will try to go to the church
I know. For me, my social anxiety has caused me to become distant with friends and it's just overall so frustrating to deal with.
I missed out one of my once in a lifetime occasions coz of that..I still feel guilty and relieved at the same time ...but I really wish I could socialize normally
Have you ever had someone who you want to talk to so much but you feel like you’re annoying them because you’ve spoken to them only once in the past week? That hurts...
Same
sooo true i always hesitate talking to someone cause i constantly feel like I'm annoying them or they don't want to talk to me and it sucks
ong !!
yes i can def relate! i have this friend that i used to talk to a bunch and we grew apart after not having classes together for a year and i wanted to reconnect but i freeze up around them and can’t even find the courage to approach them or look in their direction. i feel like such a bother and im not even sure if they want to reconnect either ^^” (also i used to have a crush on them when we used to talk a lot and i think it’s coming back so it’s even worse to try and communicate lol)
Yes oml and ahhh it’s fricking annoying
I literally wake up in the morning filled with dread because I have to suffer another day at school full of loneliness and despair and humiliation. Sometimes it gets so bad I really wish I would just disappear.
I'm so sorry you have to feel that way. You will get through this! I suffered from depression and anxiety, but it can get better. I hope you can get to a point in your life, where you don't want to disappear anymore! ♡
@@nna4483 This made me cry...thank you. I’ve lived the majority of my life thinking people don’t care about me, struggling day and night just to survive. No one ever understood me. But it gives me hope to know that there are people like you, who can do the smallest thing but make such a big difference. Sometimes I get really tired...tired of this winter...tired of this darkness. It feels like I’m limping through a tunnel and there’s no end in sight. Sometimes I feel like I’ll never reach the end. But reading what you wrote changed that, you made me believe that it might be possible. Thank you. You don’t know how much you’ve helped me today. I hope you have a wonderful life.
@@KA-om1my ARMY we are here for each other. Don't worry. Don't lose hope. I can feel you.
@@idk-mz7wz aw, this really touched my heart. Thank you, army. You made me day. I’ll believe you, I won’t lose hope. ARMYs like you are the reason I love being a part of this family. Let’s always support each other. Borahae 💜
@@KA-om1my borahae ARMY 💜 let's love ourselves and our boys. Cuz they are the cuz of our euphoria.
You are either a natural introvert or were ignored your entire life to a point that you chose to remain quiet, and now are socially anxious.
damn that hits hard-
I'm number two:(
Or you were yelled at which made you become anxious.
I am socially anxious and have been most of my life, I am now 50, but I can't relate to this comment because I don't believe either point fits me. So what made me socially anxious then? When I know the answer, I'll get back to you.
@@tadge-rico It is great that you have lived with your anxiety for this long. It gives me hope because I am still young and SA is interfering in my life.
Does anyone ever feel really anxious to comment on any social media platforms and edits them a thousand times before posting and then rethinks posting it afterwards? Couldn’t be me 😅
Me 😣
Yeah same-
*hahahahhabsnsjusj also did it kinda with this comment sorry*
@@kokomi8704 oh lol you’re all good
Nice. I see the (edited) thing above your comment, but yeah I do that a lot too.
Same
Person: Why is your voice shaky?
THANKS, NOW I WILL CRY
same but I stutter ;-;
omg i remember when my hands were shaking when someone asked for lead
in my head i was like *_I GOT THIS_*
reality: ʰ⁻ʰ⁻ʰ⁻ʰᵉʳᵉ **HANDS SHAKING SO MUCH EVERYONE IN MY TABLE CAN SEE IT**
i felt so embarrassed and wanted to leave the classroom
Sameeee
Omg so relatable, I sometimes get called out on some things and I will be thinking "please don't cry, please don't cry" it's so hard😔
omg same 😭
i also will state things starting with “I think” when talking to ppl when it’s not needed (ex. “I think I got my ears pierced” when it’s clear I do)
and of course ppl will be like you think?
then I’m like haha time to never talk again 👍🏻
It really hurts when your parents blames you for being 'silent' and not talking to others instead of understanding and saying that you're just not trying and rude.
Physical signs and symptoms can sometimes accompany social anxiety disorder and may include:
Blushing.
Fast heartbeat.
Trembling.
Sweating.
Upset stomach or nausea.
Trouble catching your breath.
Dizziness or lightheadedness.
Feeling that your mind has gone blank.
I have all those symptoms. Just never put a label on it. This was an eye opener.
Oh shoot :'')
Mine ussually are sweating, upset stomach and I also have a strange sensation in my legs:it is like the muscles right above the knees are weakened and they can barely hold me. It is similar to the senzation you feel when you get up too fast, but it's only in that area
all of the above
I have those....
I hate when my mom forces me to talk to someone I don’t know, or sign me up for things that require being around a group of people I don’t know. She just thinks I’m being a weirdo or stubborn, but in reality I’m not comfortable.
Ya same my dad is always like "speak up" and I hate it
Ikr, my mom once called me "suplada" (which means arrogant and unfriendly in tagalog) when I didn't reply to my classmate that isn't even my friend and that really made me angry
That literally happen to me today! My dad is forcing me to pick between joining gymnastics or hip hop dancing. I don't like doing any of that stuff but they insist I do because they want my to be physically fit and "look better". They are always trying to get me to talk to them or some random person when I just want peace.
righhtttt when i first met my teacher in 5th grade i started getting nervous and anxious then my dad is like "🙄 t a l k"
Yes exactly!!
I've literally used every excuse in the book to avoid going out.
Faxx. my sisters tells me to go out to hang with my friends and i give excuses like my friend's parents don't let them go out.which is not a lie but the main reason is that i have social anxiety
omg same! at least now I can use the "in the middle of a pandemic?" excuse
Me to I missed out on so many fun things in my life that I could of done
I have to go back to school and i used a excuse not to..because the pandemic is saving my but right now😖
Give me some examples please
There are days that I feel like a QUEEN when I’m out.....but if my panic attack and anxiety hit it’s over I’m crying in the middle of the class
for me personally, its mostly not that im not able to do social activities (like i can still force myself to go to the grocery store, or endure parties / family gatherings), its simply the fact that i cant enjoy these moments because im so trapped into this thinking pattern of everyone judging and hating me (due to shaking, sweating, blushing, being awkward, etc)
its just so freaking tiring to always having to live with this constant feeling of fear
yes exactly me too, if i need to talk to someone like for example in the store or whatever i will. and i try my best to look calm and composed but whenever i talk to a stranger or go outside where there are a lot of people, i start sweating and shaking and it feels like my throat gets closed and i can’t breathe. it feels like everyone’s staring at me even though i know they aren’t. and it sucks that i don’t know how to stop feeling this way.
“I can’t hear you, talk louder” tho I’m talking normally
Makes me cry💀
Hey Jimin, you nice, keep going!
@@lio7963 💜☠️☠️
@@ncxymj8182 💜
Same 😓
Geez it happens to me too every single time someone says that to me, even though I'm aware that my closest friends are a bit deaf so it's normal that they don't hear me 😅
I’m that introverted friend that gets dragged in groups bc of my extroverted friend but the thing is, I can’t talk to the group...I feel too afraid to talk so I just sit there in silence listening to their convos :(
Feels 😓
same
this was me!
Same
same
I used to have very bad social anxiety, but one day I said enough, I’m missing out on things like food, experiences etc. and I tried my best to overcome this, I started by ordering by myself food or go shopping alone. And now I do that without any problems. I still have a long way to go but I’m on that road and remember that YOU CAN DO IT too
I'm fighting it too
Trying to get a job even
I've grown so much
It's still exhausting but not so crippling
My social anxiety has gotten worse this year-- as I've spent most of it isolated, and studying from home, even Zoom classes make me panic and sweat like crazy. Even worse, I'm returning to my job next week, and one of my duties is to answer calls, and even before COVID, I'd panic as soon as I heard the phone ring, and just be shaking throughout the entire call, until it ended, and try to calm myself after. Now that my social/ phone anxiety has gotten worse, I've been having nightmares and a hard time sleeping thinking about going back to work; I wish I could ask them to let me just do email inquiries and live chatrooms instead to help customers.
Heyy, I just uploaded a new video on anxiety, I would really appreciate if you could check it out and leave me some feedback. Maybe it helps you with your problem as well :) If you don’t have the time or if you don’t want to, that’s okay too. Thank you and have a nice day.🥺❤️
U should be grateful to not answer my mom call cause it can cause more anxiety ( well she never stop asking , why how wht n all those stuff)
Zoom classes make me sweat and feel dizzy,couldn't imagine going back to school
Same your not alone❤️
I know EXACTLY how you feel. It's almost like you read my mind. I've had to leave in the middle of zoom classes because of panic attacks and I work at a call center because talking over the phone is easier than talking in person but it still feels impossible sometimes.
It’s funny how “pick me girls” say they have anxiety or social anxiety for attention while people who actually have it, are embarrassed by it like me.
Yea...Social anxiety isn't quirky, shy or "different" it's feeling like your constantly being judged no matter what you do.
fr. for me it’s my friend who keeps saying ‘can you go ask it? i have social anxiety😜’ while she obviously doesn’t, and it makes me so uncomfortable. i think i have social anxiety and i want her to stop making jokes about it but i’m too scared to ask
@@dagmar8356 so true omg, all the fucking time my friends are like "omg i feel so depressed today" or "anxiety checkkk" like shut the fuck up, if only you understood are bad it actually is.
@@camilaquinones6553 i agree with you like a lot. however, just wanted to say : talk about it ! not like it something sooo cool lmao, but try as much as you can to explain to your friends how bad you can b because of ur anxiety. since i started doing that i feel much more free
@Pizza Hut omg yeah, the worst part is when they’re like « yeahh me too » and they start explaining THEIR problems...
Ahhh, their voice always calms me down 💫
Akward?.... Always
Right? By far her voice is the easiest to listen too and most pleasant to hear.
I experience a meltdown everyone honestly
I just sleep 😴 listing to her voice Soo soothing
I got an ad about improving your speaking voice 🤔
I’ve literally had panic attacks over stupid little things like sitting in the front row. Sometimes I start hyperventilating about doing a presentation or when I do a presentation I start stuttering.
me too. i haven’t been diagnosed or anything but i’m too scared to tell my mom that i think i have social anxiety, but anyway my teacher called on me to read a paragraph to the class, i started reading and my voice became shaky within seconds, my hands were shaking, i had to mute myself halfway through just to breathe, and i cried for an hour shaking after that. i just wanted to share because it’s nice to feel that the people in this comment section relate to me lol
Same, it sucks because it also happens when I WANNA present, I like showing my hard work but my social anxiety just ruins it.
I get heart attacks from just hearing my name. My heart also starts beating really fast SUPER suddenly. It only calms down like five minutes later. After that I’m done for the day. I don’t want to socialize.
@@LilSigmaRatThing literally the same things happen to me
I start hyperventilating and stuttering and to make things worse, my voice either becomes too low or too high🤦🏻♀️
I started stuttering and shaking over asking someone for a box of markers one time back in middle school : (
"he's probably cheating on me"
*"mmmm bagels"*
This makes me feel less different from everyone to know that others go through it and it's normal. Thanks for the video 👍
if im being honest rn, it feels like i've found my people. i have been dealing with this for so long by myself and just reading through these comments has made me feel less and less alone.
So true 😊
Reading the comments made me feel so relieved that I wasn’t the only one struggling with social anxiety.
you know what's funny though? I've NEVER met anyone with my personality type (having social anxiety and all..)
like i've met other shy people but I still would always feel like I had it worse than them :(
As a teen who has been diagnosed with social anxiety, this entire video is basically explaining what I experience in a nutshell. I need to show this video to all my teachers, classmates, friends, family, and even my psycologist. It always seems as though nobody understands what I'm mentally forced to go through every day, no matter how much I try to explain. It's either "you're over reacting", "It's not that hard", "it's not even that severe" or "just say something". The worst part (in my opinion) is having to go through this every day, knowing that there isn't any coping strategies I know of that could help me. Everything I've tried (Breathing in and out, thinking on the bright side, etc.) never worked. In grade three I skived school so often because of it, that the lady at the front office would refuse to send me home and if I managed to convince her to let me go home, she'd call my parents and all they'd say was "we won't pick *her* up." I wasn't diagnosed with Social Anxiety until 2020, so my parents didn't even know why I was like that. Not to mention the fact that my mom didn't believe I had it until my psychologist and my dad managed to convince her. I have so much more to talk about, but this comment is already super long so I'll stop here. In a nutshell, Social Anxiety ruined my life and made me want to kms in grade 4 & onwards and its still going on today. Thanks for reading, maybe you can give me some coping strategies or tips/suggestions in the replies if you would like to.
Hello, hope you're feeling better now. I think I have some symptoms of social anxiety like thinking everyone's laughing or judging me, and I'm also nervous around some people. What helped me is distracting myself with the things I enjoy, like watching movies, drawing ect. I believe that Social anxiety might fade away with time, cause it was much worse for me before, and just got better with time. I also think it largely depends on the people you're talking with, cause I don't feel nervous around introverts and older people (I'm an introvert myself), just the people who are very extroverted and judgmental.
So the only thing I can tell you that has helped me is that you need to surround yourself with people who are similar to you, so you can relate and be comfortable around them and engage yourself with your hobbies. If you notice you're getting better, try to get yourself out there with baby steps.
Hope that helps
I’m diagnosed (by a doctor) and I can relate to every single one of these, the best way to describe it is a little monster that’s beside you and he never goes away but he starts of as small as a small teddy bear, but if he is uncomfortable with what you are doing or is just around people for to long then he becomes bigger and bigger and you need to go home and calm him down but if you stay he will become so big he will be the only thing you can see, and sometimes even when you go home he’ll still freak out and try to “take control over you” (a anxiety/panic attack)
@Susan Ananda I would rather not say, this is a very personal question that most people do not want to answer, you probably didn’t know so just for next time don’t ask that please! Have a good day/night!
What a precise analogy😂😭
Does anybody else stare at someone for hours trying too build the confidence too even say hi? But then just end up not saying anything.. 👥
edit: I’m so glad it’s not only me 💀 tysm for the likes too ly
Or you do say something and they brush you off and leave for not sounding interesting/fun enough... yeah 🥲😒
Or just even asking a question 😭😭
Also with your parents?
+Yes, I'm like that 😔
YESS
Damn yesss
People always ask: What is psych2go?
But they never ask: How is psych2go?
How are ya'll? Everyone good?
Great, and what about you😄
No
I'm fine....
Probably not....
It's been a shit month but I'm trying to find some good in it. Also I hope everybody is feeling better than me.
To all the people who said no to this: You are beautiful! You are strong! Hang in there. :)
My girlfriend suffers social anxiety, and this was a good eye opener for me to understand what she actually suffers with.. It’s awful that so many people struggle with this 🙏
At least you care.
I told my mom I thought I had social anxiety, and after the third time she asked me, "Well, what is there to be afraid of?" I was like, "Nothing, Mom, but it's a physical response and then I'm afraid of that after a while. I'm scared of being scared." She had no clue what I meant but continued to try to reason me out of it. I love her to pieces, but she's really clueless on this subject. Psych2Go, thank you for building a community who understands each other. We needed that. Thank you.
For all of you without social anxiety or just anxiety in general trying to help a friend out, please know this: You can't "logic" your way out of anxiety. It's irrational, and we know that. It only makes it worse. But you can help just by listening and letting your friends know that they are loved and you will never judge them; you are a safe place to be. You can help by validating them and believing them. Just love them. Please.
I can relate sm. My father always says that I don't have to be scared but it's not like I can just choose to not be scared? Like, I just am and I am aware that it's irrational but it can't be stopped that easily.
He is like: don't be scared, you don't have to be scared. Thanks dad, I'm ✨cured✨
I think if the people around me were like this I would be super petty about it. I would either actually reason with them and use an example for something they are scared of (spiders are almost always a good example) and say something like "See? Spiders are really tiny and they arent actually dangerous (most of them at least). But that doesn't mean you can't be scared of them, does it?". The petty version would be saying "Why don't you just choose to not be scared then?" In a really bitchy tone when they are scared of whatever.
not me crying right now after watching this because i relate so much to this
I started crying when I read all the comments and related to 98% of them 🥲😓
@@syliramn.1354 sameee! It also made me feel a bit better now i know im not the only one
@@christina-tg9nx yes me too!!
Same 😭
and then they call me arrogant for being scared to speak
same.
same in fact adressed as 'high class'
i feel like people hate me because i cant carry a conversation, but i just really dont know what to say and i really hate it
@@fruit_ella yes..
right lol. stupid people. another reason why I don’t really care if my sa goes away, but eventually I should seek therapy because I have to get a job and etc., you know?
Every time I try to tell my parents that I have social anxiety they just think I’m confused with shyness, and then my dad starts yelling at me about how I act.
i feel u:( i send you a virtual hug
@@hwasunnie619 and I send one back to you ❤️
@@clioox6800 😂
YES, I relate a lot to this:( but I haven't exactly told anyone in my family that I think I might have social anxiety bc I feel like they'll think I'm exaggerating or just get annoyed or prob say like "no u don't, u don't know anything" :(
@@cuprisun I am very sorry for that, I’m glad that we can relate though. I know it’s tough, I hope you get through what your dealing with. ❤️
summary:
-being social can be draining
-you prefer texting over calling
-you feel anxious without direct interaction
-when it comes to friends, quality is greater than quantity.
-its not all in your head
-you feel like everyone is judging you
-you are your harshest judge
i’m quite social w people but i relate to ALL of these. help-
I relate also to all
@@aylinc4447 oh :(
Me too
@saleha nadeem thanks 🤗
I also relate :(
I don't think I have social anxiety but I relate to some of these signs. I understand how you guys feel. Not fully but in some level. So whoever is reading this comment right now, I hope you're doing amazing! Stay safe and enjoy your life❤❤
That means a lot
im scared of awkward situations. sometimes i get scared to talk to people because i fear that in the middle of talking we’ll both run out of things to say and everything will go quiet. i get anxious just thinking about it. is this just me?
Omg, no ur not! This is me all the time and I always feel tense and worried for an awkward silence to happen, so I try to keep the conversation going, mainly asking questions to the other person.
@@nz7464 good to know im not the only one :)
I once was looking for my friend and saw her bf and asked him If he had seen her but he was looking for her too... That was the only thing we said after that we stood in silence for 15 min trying not to look at each other. It was hell I started sweating a lot but I also couldn't go away because I didn't know where to..
@@min_hobi1105 omg😭😭I feel your pain girl!!
No i feel the same way
i feel like ill be judged for everything i do. i can’t even tell my friends that it’s my birthday without feeling like it’ll annoyed them
all i do at this point is think about what everyone else is thinks of me, and I freaking hate it.
I feel the exact same way, it’s miserable to live like this. I just wish there was a way for it to stop but it never does.
Before knowing about anxiety disorder, I used to think that's just how everyone else feels/it's normal for some people to feel like this :"0
It is.
My version is weird. When I’m actually talking to someone I’m completely fine but the second I’m not I instantly become terrified of any human interaction whatsoever and will literally never seek out conversation with anyone
I know covid is an awful thing that has just destroyed our normal life but for me my social life has started thriving because I feel more comfortable wearing a mask where without it I feel like people are just seeing right through me
Or having to stay home and avoid social interaction!🌞
It's so accurate. Anyone who see me wearing mask tells me " why u always put on masks like take it easy covid will not catch u if u leave it once" and blahh blah but only if the knew it's not for covid but for the insecurities about my face.
@@cuprisun
Isolating yourself isn't gonna help with social anxiety tho, but exposing yourself to social situations will.
How are you gonna function in adult life?, Are you just gonna live with your parents?
I relate to this completely
Do you still wear masks or what helped in letting go of masks? Please tell. I find huge relief when I have a mask on. I feel less anxious and can get go anywhere without feeling like they're all staring at me. I do want to stop wearing masks one day bec of this. I want to walk freely without any fear. Would love to know what helped you if anything did. I feel you. I completely relate to it
Social anxiety is awful. It's way more than just "being shy uwu". I'm grateful for these videos because they portray exactly what SA sufferers feel and can help others understand
The worst thing for me is that I always blush while talking to people. If my social anxiety didn’t manifested this way I would feel a little more comfortable, but I can’t even talk to my family and friends that I’ve know for years without looking like a tomato.
and the worst thing is that some of boys would think that i'm crashing on them or something. this stereotypes about blushing around those whom you like, you know
@@Tolganay_Alimzhan ughh I hate when that happens
@@Tolganay_Alimzhan I agree it’s the worst thing for me too 😩 I feel like dudes probably think I have the fattest crush on them but they don’t understand my struggle. My family members have called out my blushing so many times and my sister even said “ew why are you so red 🤨” but I’m trying so hard not to care when it comes to family but in public it’s hard
@@Tolganay_Alimzhan SO TRUE
@@salma-pf5sj i hate this kind of comments. I can feel my face burning, you don't have to tell me my face is red!!! Ugh it's awful
The worst thing is when you accidentally bump into someone and you just stand there without saying anything or just saying something softly.
Oh you’d think so… But there’s something even worse: When you say something VERY clearly, and then later find out they thought you were rude because you didn’t say anything. And then you actually become rude because “b????, I’m not rude you’re just deaf”
@@amaracea oh ok that’s true as well :)
omg this just happened to me today..i walked so fast that i bumped into a boy that is younger than me & he thought that i'm upset bcs i didn't say anything so he ended up apologized to me even i don't think it was his fault..it's so awkward & embarassing-
I’ve found that wearing masks make me feel a lot safer and people can’t see my full face, so I’ve been less anxious about myself.
Yes, the mask do save face, so to speak, and hide a multitude of sins.
I'm surprised by how much I relate to this
Yeah, I often smile when I'm stressed or embarassed and I don't like when people see me smiling or showing any emotions on my face and the masks help a lot.
Yeah, but I should stop doing that because the anxiety will get even worse
same
THE CAUSE OF MY SOCIAL ANXIETY
- BULLYING
- BULLYING
- BULLYING
- BULLYING
For years since i was born
Put a little parents into the mix and you've got mine
@@RenSaxonin my case parents too.. all inclusive
Literally I have ptsd of what people say to me and it always repeats itself when I’m around people my age
@@romangraves7910 that is awful
Jesus exist and you can pray Him
Sometimes my teachers or classmates think I’m just dumb but I’m really smart I just don’t like to talk so I never raise my hand it’s tough
Same here 😭😭💔
I felt this! I honestly don't know if I have social anxiety or not because I don't want to self diagnose. However, I can't stand public settings. I can't even go to school to pick up or drop off a book without getting so nervous; my stomach starts hurting, I start shaking, I get nauseous, etc., every time. When I go to school, I try to walk fast & have an angry face because that's the only way I can feel comfortable being around people. I hate having to order at restaurants or having to ask someone for help at stores. I'm tired of people treating me like I'm exaggerating. Then my parents don't believe me, my mom just gets mad because apparently me not wanting to interact with others means that I think I'm better than others. I just wish people in my life understood how difficult it is for me to even hold a conversation. I constantly feel like people judge me for every little thing I do. I don't even know how to make friends, which sucks. Oh, and group projects are a pain, I HATE THEM!!
Social anxiety has really been crippling for me. It crippled my self-esteem and cost me many opportunities. It cost me my vision. It caused my academic performance to dip. It fucked up my social life as a child and teenager. I had a hard time making conversations because my anxiety was so bad.
i have bad self esteem,and get mad at myself over things so samll as,failing a game,thinking that i wont ever be good at it,just beacuse other can do better
It’s gotten so bad for me I have trouble even going outside my house, school is awful and I cry everything I come home.
i cant go outside to have fun with my family pr friends i cant start any hobbies or any activites im just stuck in my house bcs im scared of being judged or stared at. I understand what you feel. Hopefully we can get over this one day. Maybe with the help of a therapist. They always say it works. I hope it works for you too if u give it a chance 🖤🖤
Why do you cry when you come home? ;(
Me too, that describes my life ._.
nooo :(( talk to ur family
I absolutely hate talking to people, I once got anxiety because I had to pick up pizza for my mom.
I literally cried because my teacher wanted to get on a call with me and I have always hated speaking on the phone. I begged my mom to call her for me but she refused so I just ended up lying to my teacher saying I hadn't seen the email till later in the day.
Same I hate when we are in online class and the only person in the classroom is my teacher I would wait for 2 more people to join so I can join
In the first lockdown I didn't do any online lessons because the thought of doing it made me want to cry and lucky for me my mum never found out. But in the second lockdown my form tutor called her and told her I wasn't doing them and she forced me to do them. I really wish she'd just understand that these things are hard for me. I've tried telling her before and she never believes me.
Honestly I hate it when my parents force me to make 'a lot' of friends in school and when I didn't, they always blame me for being too shy or quiet😭
Me too. My stepmom is always mad at me for that reason, she just doesn't understand. My other family members just doesn't care of this.
Same. But I don’t think the number of friends you have matters. What matters is that the few friends you have are true friends who truly care for you and appreciate you for who you are. One true friend who gets you and I always there for you is better than a whole crowd of friends who don’t care as much.
Me too 😭😭 they always force me onto making friends and when I cant.. they blame it on me not 'adapting to the environment' or sum
Few days ago ...one girl from my class who was my good friend like a week ago, told me no one likes me, that I'm annoying and no one likes to be friends with me, if only she knew, she will regret those words one day
I'm sorry she's been bad to you, maybe one day you'll find your own friends, who are good people, and maybe she will be a better person in the future. Just try to remember that what people think of you, or tell you, will never define you!
@@clararinconterracciano8751 thank you
I think she's no friend of yours, I think you would be better off on it own than with a friend like her, maybe she'd jealous of you?
I come here to feel valid about my social anxiety. It’s so refreshing to see others going through the same thing as me.
The internet has been a huge help for my anxiety. In person I’m very introverted, and avoid talking to others when possible. Online I love to share my thoughts and make friends. I do a lot of my socializing through text or comments like this.
Idk why but wearing masks make me feel so much comfortable in public
Same! Nowadays I feel so self conscious without my mask, I feel so awkward without it
I'm the same too! I feel like since we've been required to wear masks at school here in the UK, I've become a little bit more confident speaking out in classes. It's not exactly much, but it makes me feel good!
Same
Same I just don't want the pandemic to end because of masks and school.
I know right thank you COVID - 19 but not thank you to Covid 19
I’m honestly so thankful for online classes because I feel like everyone’s watching me at school
"it's not all in your head"
Gosh, thank you so much for this. The amount of times people said this to me and made me feel crazy in my teenage years were a lot!
It was after I became a psychology student that I learnt I wasn't crazy at all. I wish I had videos like this back then!
Thank you so much, this is amazing ❤️❤️❤️
the worst thing is going up in front of the class and thinking people are judging you
I wondered how many people there were in the world who suffered, and continued to suffer, because they could not break out from their own web of shyness and reserve, and in their blindness and folly built up a great distorted wall in front of them that hid the truth.
My life has totally been ruined by this and I became avoidant PD which ultimately led to severe depression... I just can't function normally now at 38. The mask had to drop one day or another....
People just think I'm a bad person now because I just avoid everything and everyone. My life is hell and I don't have any friends and nothing to live for... at least I have myself and my loner introvert interests... sometimes that's enough..
I just can't believe that my mom is a Dr. and still yells at me and humiliates me cuz for her I'm " shy" in front of people when actually I'm literally dying, hands shaking and trembling just being with strangers.
My family's nothing but extroverts and only a few ambiverts making me the only introvert. My parents push me to do things I don't wanna do and try to make me a more social person. Little do they know that, even though I tried telling them, it's making me feel worse
Same story
Same :((
Same
I love your pfp 👉👈
@@kpro_1188 m-me? or someone else-?
me: doesn't have Social Anxiety
also me: relates and understands to all of these
me: do i have Social Anxiety?
@@katie1433 Yep
@@katie1433 yes
Same
@found the change name option lol i feel like it depends, some already feel like that there is something wrong and then get diagnosed with it too.
It’s so hard for me to talk to people, even in just a simple game. I feel like people will hate me and walk away. I don’t really like to talk to people because it makes me worry even more and it’s so scary. My parents just say “stop being dramatic” or “just talk!”
I enjoy these videos because sometimes I’m scared to comment on any social media but now that everyone here is going through the same things I feel a lot more comfortable