How to accept your looks and parts that you cannot change?

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  • @aliya7880
    @aliya7880 6 місяців тому +18

    Your presence speaks more than your physical appearance

  • @unkownunkown9617
    @unkownunkown9617 5 років тому +26

    For some reason, I just love listening to you speak, You have such a calm and enthusiastic voice.

    • @vitajanas
      @vitajanas  5 років тому +1

      I'm glad you enjoyed it!

  • @carolineagustian4258
    @carolineagustian4258 3 роки тому +32

    I’m having a similar problem, and really really low confidence on my appearance, but you spoke right through my heart.. i feel better already. thanks so much!

  • @spookytheblackcat7416
    @spookytheblackcat7416 5 років тому +133

    Maybe if we accept the fact that we dont like something about ourselves instead of forcing oneself to like it only then will we love ourselves..so.if you dont like something then hey say to yourself you know what i dont like that thing i hate it it makes me feel bad and then sooner or later you will feel so lighter because youre not resisting it anymore.

    • @vitajanas
      @vitajanas  5 років тому +8

      Wise words, my friend.

    • @Hearts444myra
      @Hearts444myra Рік тому +1

      But i dont want to hate my whole face

    • @rosie6
      @rosie6 Рік тому +6

      @@Hearts444myra of course not, ur face is unique and you should accept it, but for example if there are so specific things like your eyebrows or hairline that u dislike, that’s okay, we aren’t perfect. ❤

    • @sofac8252
      @sofac8252 Рік тому +3

      I don’t like my body at all and my face is nothing special. Body is considered very important for women and it is so ugly i am inverted triangle with big bust,shoulders, arms and skinny legs,butt and calves i wish it were other way round. What can i do? Noone likes this body shape

    • @RAHIMATUZAINABCONTEH
      @RAHIMATUZAINABCONTEH 5 місяців тому

      @@sofac8252hit the gym and I’m sure you are so beautiful I can just feel it Idk why

  • @moka9871
    @moka9871 Рік тому +25

    How come it's always conventionally attractive people who give this sort of advice ? I mean no disrespect and I don't know them but I can't imagine them struggling with their self-image.

    • @faithwisdom788
      @faithwisdom788 Рік тому +10

      😅 perhaps because it's easier for them to accept their looks?

    • @ansr3538
      @ansr3538 7 місяців тому +4

      I was thinking the exact same thing

    • @neohermitist
      @neohermitist 3 місяці тому +2

      Yeah, this girl would have no problem physically attracting nearly 100% of the men that she encounters.

    • @rajarampatel601
      @rajarampatel601 23 дні тому +1

      ​@@neohermitistyou are totally wrong. Everyone has some insecurities, but they have accepted and learned to live with it.

    • @neohermitist
      @neohermitist 22 дні тому +1

      @@rajarampatel601 What? So what if she has insecurities. She is still physically attractive and near 100% of the men she encounters would agree with that assessment and a lot of guys would hit on her.
      Give her buck teeth, a big scar on the face and an extra 100 lbs of body fat and then lets talk about insecurity.
      Her ability to accept her looks are far easier than probably 90% of women out there. And that's just from the simple feedback she certainly gets on a regular basis from single men.
      I'm not saying she doesn't have some mental issues (maybe she does) but that is despite her appearance not because of it.
      Edit: I just looked at a video she posted 5 hours ago, she hasn't aged a day in 7 years.

  • @laurendelane6361
    @laurendelane6361 2 роки тому +7

    You have no idea how helpful this is. It's more about energy than looks. And values and character. Thank u

    • @vitajanas
      @vitajanas  5 місяців тому

      You are so welcome!

  • @ABB14-11
    @ABB14-11 Рік тому +8

    This was surprisingly super useful and heartwarming. Vita, you’re truly an angel.

  • @JeannineIsaksen
    @JeannineIsaksen Рік тому +5

    “The most beautiful, lovely, gorgeous people are the ones who:
    •Are happy
    •Spread love
    •[show]kindness”
    ☑️ Noted

  • @0178_rania
    @0178_rania Рік тому +4

    Thank you. Truly, thank you! I am trying to find love and kindness and honesty within myself and shine the light on that and love the way I look. I feel ugly when I talk and when I have a resting face but i really know im capable of learning to love that.

  • @PeacefulYo
    @PeacefulYo 9 місяців тому +7

    I have dark circles hollows they ruin my quality of life "you look tired?" , "have you slept?" 24/7 I feel powerless not going to lie I will accept them for now but I feel like I have to get filler when I get older because I can't afford them rn since i'm 17. I'm a male so concealer is probably not an option maybe glasses to hide them i'm not sure so ig I have to accept them for now 😢

    • @vitajanas
      @vitajanas  3 місяці тому +2

      Skin discolouration around the eyes is so so common, normal and actually beautiful! It can create a perfect contrast that will allow your sparkling eyes to stand out! 😍 ✨ joy, serenity, kindness can’t be hidden even if one hasn’t slept for days 🫶

  • @mandydickinson5806
    @mandydickinson5806 7 місяців тому +2

    Thank you SO much for this - it was so reassuring. I hope I can 'let go' of all my insecurities, and become the best person I can be. It's so hard when you are 7 years old to be told by an adult very close to you that you are ugly.and deformed, and then continue experiencing that from others throughout your life. I must try to remember it is their problem for being unkind.

    • @vitajanas
      @vitajanas  3 місяці тому

      Oh my goodness, I’m so sorry for that little 7 year old… and I’m glad that you are taking power back to yourself! 🫶 thank you for this comment and all the best on your journey ☺️

  • @neon_quest
    @neon_quest Рік тому +2

    I'm here because of my insecurities but I also wanted to mention, I find you so pretty. Love the hair band~

  • @prodmavvy
    @prodmavvy 5 місяців тому +3

    THANKYOU SM I REALLY NEEDED THIS

  • @amangadpale9284
    @amangadpale9284 3 роки тому +3

    I came to accept and saw somebody beautiful .... Well my first time on this channel

  • @00iilliiil
    @00iilliiil 4 роки тому +13

    You’re such a blessing for this world❤️

  • @chantelh532
    @chantelh532 2 роки тому +6

    Wow this woman is incredible. I needed to watch this… thank you so much vita! You’re so outstanding beautiful inside and out. I wish I had a friend in my life like you! 😭❤️

    • @vitajanas
      @vitajanas  5 місяців тому

      This is such a heartwarming comment, thank you 🥹🤍

  • @naranjanarancia9389
    @naranjanarancia9389 Рік тому +4

    Thanks I had a bad day. I’ve always struggled with my frizzy curly hair. There’s always side comments about it by my mom and friends. They’re always telling me to straighten it or comb it. I have no absolute idea how to take care of it or manage it since none of my family has curly hair. I try my best but I always frizzes up. I always wished I had straight hair just like the other girls

    • @rosie6
      @rosie6 Рік тому +2

      Curly hair is beautiful 😢I’m sorry they made u feel that way

  • @safiyasulthana3531
    @safiyasulthana3531 3 роки тому +9

    I really hope and pray your messages reach many people.. Keep going Vita!!!🔥🔥

    • @vitajanas
      @vitajanas  3 роки тому

      Thank you so much for your kindness! x

  • @daleburns7110
    @daleburns7110 2 роки тому +18

    Thanks for the video.
    My only concern with so many videos showing how to Accept flaws, is that nobody seems to be explaining many ways in how to do that? It seems videos people will say and explain what’s happening to you and say you just need to accept and embrace it. My problem is how? What do you physically do as I’ve been telling myself these kinda things for years and it doesn’t seem to work? I can’t just say I accept it and embrace it and everything’s perfect otherwise mental health wouldn’t exist?
    Any help would be appreciated thank you 👍

    • @DrAamir7
      @DrAamir7 Рік тому

      it's psychological problem, to cure it make a appointment with psychiatrist 2nd option is go and find your creater which is offcourse Allah and then he will heal you.
      In this materialistic world only peace is within Allah worship and to obey his commands.

    • @rosie6
      @rosie6 Рік тому +2

      Try to practice not looking into the mirror or focusing on ur other values aside from looks ❤I know it’s hard. I’m going through it too. Good luck and know u have so so much more value than just your face or body.

    • @lolasimmons9152
      @lolasimmons9152 Рік тому

      ​@@DrAamir7Allah is a false God. The true God of the Bible is the only one who is real and exists. Mahamed was not a Prophet of God. The Lord Jesus Christ is the true Son of God. God Himself has testified that Jesus Christ is His Son by raising Him from the dead. If you can personally prove that Jesus Christ's body is still buried in the tomb, then I will believe you. The truth is that Jesus Christ rose from the dead! He's real and alive and He sits at God's right hand. Please believe the truth.

  • @devilsadvocacy
    @devilsadvocacy 5 місяців тому +6

    I can change my attitude all I want. But what I can’t change is the fact that pretty privilege is real, and for those of us who don’t have it, we have to grind just to get the same stuff that attractive people take for granted

    • @MultiGames4You
      @MultiGames4You 4 місяці тому +7

      This type of thinking leads to hatred and projection and it becomes a never ending cycle

    • @devilsadvocacy
      @devilsadvocacy 4 місяці тому +2

      @@MultiGames4You I have come to accept it. But when people tell me it's not real is when I call B💩

    • @vitajanas
      @vitajanas  4 місяці тому +3

      Oh, it is 100% real. And I think our changing mindsets about the looks is what will help us to detach from these external validations and connect to deeper truths about ourselves and all humans.

  • @sarahjanecross6127
    @sarahjanecross6127 2 роки тому +7

    Valuable advice and very life changing thank you x

    • @vitajanas
      @vitajanas  2 роки тому

      Yay, this makes me so happy!

  • @ellisjackson336
    @ellisjackson336 5 місяців тому +1

    Come to terms with the possibility of dying alone and you will be ok. Why else would anyone care about their looks other than trying to attract others?

    • @Doris-jk4re
      @Doris-jk4re 5 місяців тому

      I feel this so much. ❤

  • @speedymclips1572
    @speedymclips1572 2 роки тому +10

    I'm 17 years old boy. I have androgenic allpecia. So I'm balding. Other students in my school make jokes about me because of my hair loss. And they laugh at me. My self-confidence is very low because of this. 😪

    • @kaveekarunanayaka7815
      @kaveekarunanayaka7815 2 роки тому

      diwan bro... randomly see your comment ..I can understand you . it never easy i know. But we wanna next level power ✋ diwan but i really dont know how to gain it 😂😔. In otherwise you know ..✌️❤️‍🔥 we are stronger than
      Others
      Im suffering from some injuries in my face 😌. As 20 yrs old Girl .its a challenge. 🥲
      My classmates , naughbours some of them laugh at me. dont look at me 😑.
      It s hurt me sometime.
      They Give Emotional damage. 🤐 But Sometime I really dont care. and say" If you have this how you feel ✌️😂 so im stronger than you.
      Diwan,,,, you must be more Strong infront of other Student. When they laugh honestly you strong than them ✌️ trust me,,,
      Long note, i wann say some thing to u soo bee confident brother ♥️ and do studies well.
      Bro we must build nice personality as young generation 😊

    • @speedymclips1572
      @speedymclips1572 2 роки тому +1

      @@kaveekarunanayaka7815 thank you ❤️❤️❤️ yeah personality matters 🔥 I'M improving my personality 😃

    • @jahathelo3270
      @jahathelo3270 Рік тому +1

      I literately just cut my hair rn and I have been blaming myself rn for 1 week now 😭, can’t even go out with my friends coz I think am not attractive without my hair

  • @Blue_Lugia
    @Blue_Lugia 11 місяців тому +9

    I came here because no one can't deny the fact that humans are attracted to looks after all.
    I'm considering myself one of the ugliest woman.
    My overbite cause my uppger jaw to stick out, my teeth are BIG and yellow.
    I have acne in some periods. I have started to have wrinkles.
    I have droopy eyelids that make me look drunk or something.
    My hair is thick and sometimes it looks like a trolls hair. Very wavy.
    Do I sound like someone anyone would like to date? No?
    Exactly!
    And in top of that, I am very quiet and insecure in social situations and I don't say many words which causes people to questioning why I'm so quiet which makes the situation even worse.
    Sometimes I tell myself that I'm really attractive and that everybody have their eyes on me.
    Then I come home, look at myself in the mirror and I be like "Oh my god, your REALLY ugly..."

    • @Yram0018
      @Yram0018 6 місяців тому

      Wow I related so much to this. How old are you? Im 24 and lately I’ve been feeling super insecure ad ugly. I look at other girls and question how they’re so pretty and I’m so ugly. I have a boyfriend (he’s my fist ever bf barely this year) and I’ve been comparing myself so much to other girls he can possibly have that are better looking than me or smarter. I hate it so much. Ive been having so many negative thoughts on my appearance, especially my butt. I feel like i have such a small butt and his friends will compare me to “baddies” those girls who have a gym body :( idk how I’m doing it …. I just wanna tell you, you are not alone. Look at me, i have a bf but i feel even more insecure ;( please dot think you are along because you are not. You have your own beauty. If you don’t like something about yourself that you think or know you can fix, then yo should fix it. Example; the yellow teeth comment, you can fix that by using white strips. Droopy eyelids? Try to sleep better and put ice on your bags every morning to de puff them. Your hair is thick? Try straightening it or braiding it. Try buns, ponytails, headed, hair claw. These are small things you can change :)
      Try loving these things though. Like for me, the butt insecurity, I’m trying to go to the gym more and living weights 😅 its hard but it’s something i can change you know … You got this though

    • @ronmc1677
      @ronmc1677 5 місяців тому

      I have pretty much the same problems minus the woman side of things as I'm a guy. and instead of the overbite, I have too much underbite. Same things with the teeth tho. The shape of my face is a big insecurity of mine. And also I'm 27 but I'm soo skinny no matter how much I try to gain weight by trying to eat everything I can possibly fit into my little belly! I am so skinny that I don't look even, I don't know, 21 - 22 maybe? People younger than me by 4-5 years have addressed me in a certain way thinking that I am younger than them! I have allergies and almost constant sniffles, it is so bad that I can't step outside the house without a handkerchief or a tissue paper because my nose just keeps on running like a leaky tap (sorry if it sounds gross, but it really sucks) Sometimes, pretty often actually, I find myself wishing that I wasn't born. I just hate the way my life is so hard (it certainly feels that way). But I never think of ending myself, because I believe in the afterlife... Yeah, it sucks big time.
      The worst part is when you look at other people's lives and theirs is soo easy, looks like cakewalk. And then I look at mine and I hate myself even more.

    • @BlueXanthe
      @BlueXanthe 5 місяців тому

      ​@ronmc1677 I know it's hard, but try to love yourself.

    • @neohermitist
      @neohermitist 22 дні тому

      I bet this girl has NO IDEA what you have to go through. It's like someone saying just be happy with the car you have when she drives a brand new Mercedes and you have a 30 year old rusted out clunker.

  • @GodHelpMe369
    @GodHelpMe369 5 місяців тому +1

    suicidal despair and breathless longing

  • @leonardovelasquezmagino9671
    @leonardovelasquezmagino9671 2 роки тому +2

    Hello Vita! Thanks a million for sharing your toughts . Can you recomend me some books about what were you talking?
    🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
    Ty!

  • @deanmarquezjr9467
    @deanmarquezjr9467 5 років тому +2

    Thank you Vita needed this.

  • @whoisabdy3117
    @whoisabdy3117 Рік тому +1

    Wise words ❤

  • @DavisSchulz
    @DavisSchulz 3 роки тому +2

    great video, thank you.

  • @freespirit7450
    @freespirit7450 Рік тому +3

    I want to stop envying others people looks. I accept that im not beautiful. Need to stop search for a husband.

    • @Aaroncadwell
      @Aaroncadwell Рік тому +2

      Me too but it's uncontrollable,and it makes me feel really depressed and foolish

  • @rxx3081
    @rxx3081 4 роки тому +1

    Thank you for this vita💜

  • @ImKezo-kq4pq
    @ImKezo-kq4pq 11 місяців тому

    My acne makes me insecure but don't get me wrong I'll still get rid of it but I'm gonna learn to accept it and be confident, For me it's a way to have sympathy for those who also have acne because I never had till now that I'm 18

  • @mariamimi8497
    @mariamimi8497 Рік тому +3

    God’s eyes are different than humans eyes, always believe God’s eyes cause the source of beauty is him and it’s not us humans who created beauty. Trust that you’re beautiful cause this is how God created you.
    People think they’re imperfect cause they’ve been conditioned that beauty has a limit. people think big nose, stretch marks, skinny, fat, curves, short, tall, ect....are imperfect because they’ve been conditioned that beauty has a limit. What if we’ve never been conditioned that beauty has a limit ?? Would we think imperfection is real ??

    • @noelleb2844
      @noelleb2844 Рік тому

      This is rly true and got me thinking

  • @CarrieHeyes
    @CarrieHeyes 2 роки тому

    This is spot on!

  • @thatrunningirl
    @thatrunningirl 3 роки тому +3

    this video is beautiful X

  • @sd02
    @sd02 3 роки тому +1

    You’ve helped me thank you

  • @user-vn1nd8hx7r
    @user-vn1nd8hx7r Рік тому +1

    the standard of beauty is almond eyes small nose and big lips and thin face with a nice chin. I am all the opposite

    • @Ella-te7fe
      @Ella-te7fe 3 місяці тому +1

      There are different standards of beauty, not just one.

  • @KevinBrown-sv3kq
    @KevinBrown-sv3kq 2 роки тому +2

    Being beautiful on the inside is so EASY if your beautiful on the outside. Not a good comparison. They are happy because what they "cope" with is trivial.

  • @drsurbhibhanot7397
    @drsurbhibhanot7397 3 роки тому

    Your each word is so true

  • @torinostar3383
    @torinostar3383 4 місяці тому

    You are beautiful, God bless!

  • @hillarycarol1115
    @hillarycarol1115 3 роки тому

    You're wonderful. I love your videos.

  • @claudiawilms2605
    @claudiawilms2605 5 місяців тому

    I deal with dismorphic disorder since over 40 yrs. Haven't found one thing I like on myself...
    You needto learn that in childhood otherwise it get difficult
    I grew up in a cult and talking about my problems was forbidden that caused mental health issues

    • @vitajanas
      @vitajanas  3 місяці тому

      I’m so sorry you had to go through that. And I’m glad you are seeking information that is allowing you to become more self-aware as well as learn new tools, ways of seeing yourself & the world. I admire your openness and the fact that you are claiming your space here, in this comment section. There is so much power in you! I wish you well 🫶

  • @hazelndera399
    @hazelndera399 Рік тому +3

    In the Bible God says you are loved you are chosen . God looks at you and smiles with gladness . in the beginning Adam and Eve sinned and that sin was spread up to today but For God so loved the world that he gave his only son Jesus Christ to die for our sin that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life .😊😊😊😊😊😊

  • @eliotglassier5848
    @eliotglassier5848 3 роки тому +2

    Rights

  • @wa0187
    @wa0187 Рік тому +1

    I recently had a medical and aesthetic nose surgery. When I was younger I had a nose trauma which changed the shape of my nose, even though others never noticed I was always extremely insecure about it. 3 weeks ago I had surgery to help with my breathing issues and to straighten my nose. Everyone around me told me it looks amazing, my nose is not crooked anymore, but I don't feel like myself anymore. I am in deep depression and trying to accept how I look now.

    • @DrAamir7
      @DrAamir7 Рік тому +1

      Brother don't think about people.
      Think about your comfort, you are okay with breathing issue.
      In the world everyone is so busy about their work that they even notice you.

  • @spr4019
    @spr4019 2 роки тому

    Thankss

  • @Lololololol-q7v
    @Lololololol-q7v Рік тому

    you are really smart you should start a podcast! :)

  • @maceyr.6583
    @maceyr.6583 3 роки тому +2

    Bleaching part is 😭

  • @blitosz
    @blitosz 2 роки тому +2

    Does this apply for men?

  • @prasadchaugule9492
    @prasadchaugule9492 Рік тому

    I look very young for my age. This has destroyed my life. Anyways, thanks for the video!

    • @Ella-te7fe
      @Ella-te7fe 3 місяці тому

      It gets better. Imagine being 70 and looking 60. Or even 40 and looking 30.

  • @Roquea.207
    @Roquea.207 2 роки тому +3

    I would take that advice from a young woman with this level of attractiveness who have tons of orbiters and DM’s everyday you can’t preach in underwear

  • @TheJRE313
    @TheJRE313 2 роки тому

    Uuuuummmmm"........you do realize your are very attractive right 😊🤔

  • @KingCalb
    @KingCalb Рік тому

    My head shape like tyler1's but not as bad

    • @degiilandir6314
      @degiilandir6314 Рік тому

      Same, plus hair loss, protruding jaw, ugly skin
      It is hard to accept how you look when you see yourself in the mirror and just want to fucking cry. People stare at you, laugh, make fun of you etc.
      But attractive people will just say accept it. They dont even realize how hard it is and how miserable we feel. At least I feel that way

    • @KingCalb
      @KingCalb Рік тому +1

      @@degiilandir6314 I'm actually very handsome. I just have a funny shaped head I still get attention from girls just insecure about my head shape.

    • @degiilandir6314
      @degiilandir6314 Рік тому

      @@KingCalb good for you, im not that lucky

  • @user-kx9yn4zh2u
    @user-kx9yn4zh2u 4 роки тому +1

    297 | subscribe you mati 💜
    Love yaaaaa!😃💞

    • @vitajanas
      @vitajanas  4 роки тому

      Thank you and love you back! x

  • @starfox370
    @starfox370 2 місяці тому

    Marry me!

  • @staatsanwaltschaftemskirch4709
    @staatsanwaltschaftemskirch4709 2 місяці тому +1

    Thank you

  • @FlaminggMoe
    @FlaminggMoe 9 місяців тому +1

    Thanks for this, and on a related note, you're absolutely beautiful 😍

    • @vitajanas
      @vitajanas  3 місяці тому

      Thank you 🤍🤍🤍

  • @juliannatarot
    @juliannatarot 10 місяців тому +1

    You are so pretty ❤

  • @meralymequibal1431
    @meralymequibal1431 4 роки тому +8

    This really helps me a lot. Thank you 🤗

    • @vitajanas
      @vitajanas  4 роки тому

      Reading this makes my heart sing!

  • @gambred498
    @gambred498 Рік тому

    I hate how i look