Bring back shame, morals & accountability ASAP!
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- Опубліковано 29 вер 2024
- Bring back shame, morals & accountability ASAP!
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This is one of your BEST uploads! 🙏🏾❤
Yes! I’m thankful for my old school upbringing. Just because you’re able to do something doesn’t mean you should do it. Let’s bring back class and holding ourselves to higher standards.
Yes 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
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We definitely need shame back. Sleeping with a married man or woman and then bragging about it online is crazy.
I have a cousin who's been sleeping with married men proudly for over 20 years! She don't give af and the men love it 🤢 literally stomach churning to hear them talk
Especially if they gave an std. (some women do this and be like 😊) Guy do it but don’t bring it up on social media
@@PhotoJeticPoet that’s insane, people live like they’re going to skip judgment day
@@Radientzone345 it’s mostly women that brings it to the internet
Sleeping around period is shameful
Karine you hit the nail on the head people just come out looking any kind of way and they normalize it I am 25 i work a corporate job im the youngest at my job btw i constantly have my coworkers asking me why i come to work all dressed up when i come in they don’t compliment me they ask me where I’m going and these are women in their late 30s and 40s now i work night shift but i was always raised to dress presentable because u never know what you might have to do that day i just find it sad our culture normalize this and they try to beat down the ones that do want to put effort in how they look and how they present their-self
Never change! Always put thought into your presentation because you never truly know how your day will go or what opportunities will land in your lap. Also, you stand out that way. It’s a shame that people in their 30s and 40s can’t understand this smh but you have to dress for the life you want to attract ❤
@@karinealourdementalgems thank you for the encouraging words and I wont change love love your content btw ♥️☺️
This 🙌🏾 all of this ⬆️
Yes! “Make space for the greatness that you desire.” Love this perspective.🎯🎯
I really wish society would bring back shame. everyone online just wants you to accept their disgusting behavior. I should not go online to people proudly promoting (seh) ex work, scamming, witchcraft etc. people did this stuff in private but now everyone is loud and proud about their sinful life. its truly pathetic
Shame never went anywhere. People are always going to try to use shame to control. You just can’t lose your job or livelihood for not fitting a cookie cutter mold anymore so it doesn’t work as well.
Why bring shame back if in the past people behaved like that behind closed doors?
I apply it to my family. Imagine if everyone was brave enough to check self, then their own family first 🤔
My friends know if I’m in their life, it’s to help them become all they say they want to be. That’s a true friend…at least to me.
💯. Love is honest, I'm the honest person in people's lives 😂 without aiming to insult though. But they keep coming back for more 😂. I'm 45, lived th rough a Lil bit.
I agree. The main thing is everybody want to be an influencer, get a bbl, then dress half naked cleaning their house or cooking.
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I’m crying at the cleaning the house and cooking because it’s so accurate 😂
We're living in modern Babylon😢Keep God close, stay blessed and loved Amen
Lack of shame and accountability prevents us from growth in ourselves. The pain is pretty real but at some point we need to have the strength to be honest with ourselves and move forward and grow with it. Thank you for the video love, hope that you're safe out there 💗
Hey Sheng! You are spot on and thank you love! Have a wonderful weekend ❤
@karinealourdementalgems thank you love and the background pic with your top is everything 🥰😍🫰love the colors 🤍💗🤍💗
@@sheng3229thank you queen 😘😘
When you don't Fear the Lord, you have zero shame.
"Fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom" 🙏
Thank you once again Karine ❤
🎯🎯 yes bc when you fear the Lord, you have to look in the mirror more often and make changes, bc the truth stands out like a sore thumb now and there is no hiding behind excuses anymore.
Amen 🙏🏾
Accountability is why I barely have friends. people don’t like being told that they are selfish or settling. i’m not your friend that’s gonna tell you what you wanna hear every time that’s not how the world works 😵💫😵💫
SAME. I have one good friend who holds me accountable as I do her. Notice how a lot of the people who don’t take accountability have a lot of people around them? (Flying monkeys)
I literally lost my best friend because she got a dog and claimed it would be a medical dog for her.
Proceeded to only potty train him, barley spend any time with it and had the nerve to ask me to take him for a couple of weeks because "his haircut is ugly"
I sat her down and told her she was doing the dog dirty and that a pet is not an esthetic she can pawn off if she doesn't like how it looks I also warned her that the longer she went neglecting the dog and pushing him away the less likely he is to take to medical dog training.
She hasn't answered the phone nor called me in almost a year. Oh well I guess our friendship can't stand real advice.
@@PhotoJeticPoet wow. Sorry to hear that. She clearly doesn’t appreciate accountability and genuine concern from a friend. 😕
LOL I knew this was a Virgo talking before I even saw the user name, bc same for me 😸🎯
in the last days there will be very difficult times.
For people will love only themselves and their money. They will be boastful and proud, scoffing at God, disobedient to their parents, and ungrateful.
They will consider nothing sacred.
They will be unloving and unforgiving; they will slander others and have no self-control. They will be cruel and hate what is good. They will betray their friends, be reckless, be puffed up with pride, and love pleasure rather than God. They will act religious, but they will reject the power that could make them godly. Stay away from people like that!
They are the kind who work their way into people’s homes and win the confidence of vulnerable women who are burdened with the guilt of sin and controlled by various desires. (Such women are forever following new teachings, but they are never able to understand the truth.)
2 Timothy 3📚
I feel like Chloe Bailey is gonna look back and how over sexualized she was in about 6 to 10 years and regret it. All those butt pics and licking the microphone on stage wasn’t necessary, her and her sister have real talent. She can do a music video sitting down and her vocals are enough 😮💨😮💨
The fact she was trying to keep up because she had no promo...
🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🤦🏾♀️.💯
Also Chloe Bailey doesn’t realize that she has done nasty behavior that will come back in the future that she was lucky enough to do damage control. She’s kept to herself since the nail incident everyone forgot about.
This video was on point . Some ppl in this generation are lost and don’t want to see the light . I’m 28 and the world is definitely different
I agree with the regret. I know women in real life who have multiple kids and multiple baby daddies. The the second they hit that 28-32 year range, they regret their past. Some of them lie about how many baby daddies they have, other's lie about the past intimate history, and majority of them hate to go back to where they're from because people there know who they were before they tried to rebrand. When they were younger, their parents and grandparents told them to slow down because they'd regret it in the future when they'd want to get married. They told them "not everyone wants marriage, y'all keep trying to force that on everyone". Now, a decade later, it's hard for them to find life long partners that want marriage, and when they do find someone, he wants to live off them for free, and he thinks they should be happy someone's putting up with them and all of their kids. Despite him barely dealing with her kids. Please don't take that route, you'll regret it.
Yikes. And then even if you are lucky enough to find a good partner who wants to do life with you it’s hard knowing that you shared all of these intimate parts of yourself with lesser people first, it almost feels like it’s worth less than had you saved yourself…these modern “feminists” really are diabolical for spreading these lies just to make themselves feel better about their terrible choices.
Thank you, Karine, for continuing to bring salt and light to the world. Much love. 💙❤️
You are killing it with these mental gems! Thank you for the one in particular about self destruction and the need to be closer to God. 🙏🏾❤️
Thank you for always being so supportive Dana ♥️🙏🏼
Yes I love these wisdom, that supports groundless , biblical wisdom and standards for living
Thank you for coming from a SINCERE place with these gems. 💎❤️
@@Krose.e Agreed. Biblical wisdom is DEFINITELY needed. 🙏🏾
Funny thing is "Come as you are..." Means spiritually come as you are... With your burdens, with your heavy heart, and in your sin... Not wearing club clothes... Lol But the culture makes scripture fit what it wants... 🤦🏽♀️ Love your content, by the way!! ❤️
😂😂😂 This is what happens when the "cool" pastor preaches
@@Shay416 Right! 🤣 Give me a true scholar of the word vs someone that waters down the word to be accepted ANY DAY! ❤️
The public Bonnet wearing is terrible. Its over in the UK too and the other day I saw a male supermarket worker wearing a silk bonnet on his shift 😮🤦🏾♀️
It looks unhygenic. Bed clothes belong in the house. Hats, scarves, headwraps, and learning how to do your hair are alternatives for bonnets.
He said he's 28 and he's old? Oh, that sweet summer child is in for it if he's blessed enough to be really old, lol!
I'm not a victim, I'm a survivor. Big difference. A victim whines, a survivor adapts.
lol 😂 28 is definitely still so young. He’s a baby.
@@karinealourdementalgems I know right? My babygirl recently turned 25 and she thinks she's old! 🤣🤣🤣🤣
@@ChristChickAutisticshe has no idea 😂😂 she has so many years ahead before she’s considered “old”
Lol I'm 25, and I always say I'm old next to the kids at my art studio job 😅
I think he meant we are too old to behave like this 😊
Being a single mom (marry before you carry), being overweight (eat properly and not over eat), speaking bad English (read a book, learn proper English).
And the next generation of kids are being taught lack of accountability because of their parents lacking accountability as well. It’s a horrible possible endless cycle that has been catapulted into the next round of future adults.
As an (older) Gen Z gal myself (I'm 25), I definitely see a 50/50 spilt of my generation who are brutally honest and are really emotionally intelligent, and those who call themselves "human advocates" but lack the humility and remorse to accept THEIR own sins. I'm really grateful for my mother and her old school USSR mentality I grew up with. It's tough but worth it 😂💪💖💖
Wow you said it perfectly! There’s this split between people who are brutally honest and emotionally intelligent and people who just lacks so much awareness and humility to see their condition and change. I am definitely grateful for my old school parents and grandparents 😭😭
Are family's upbringing saved us in more ways than one, that's for sure. Thank God for them🙏🏼❤✨️
Love the old school USSR mentality! You have a great mama ❤
@francesmay6380 Thank you so much dear!! 🥰🥹🥰
She's the best 💖💖
@@francesmay6380 Thank you so much dear 🥹🥰❤️. She's the literally best in the world!!! 🌎❤️
When you have normal, basic self respect, they make out like you're boujee or think you're better. It's actually so weird.
Today’s kids were raised by yesterday’s adults. They were coddled and gentle parented. They were and still are praised for the most basic things. Just no concept of self awareness. It’s impossible to plant apples and expect oranges. AND another thing is we’re living in the generation of kids that were raised in single parent homes, raised by mostly women AND children that were raised by young teenage parents. AND boys that were raised by single parent mothers to be their surrogate husbands (not in a sexual way) but raised in a way they would’ve wanted their men to be. Raised where there’s a form of godliness but no actual relationship with GOD.
Gentle parenting was never the issue. Parental bullying and lack of boundaries was always the issue.
I think that we already do have shame. I think we have so much shame, that it explains the increase of anti accountability movements, it’s to protect themselves from the shame (rational and irrational) I love your video but just to open a discussion, perhaps if there was less shame, then perhaps people would not be so afraid to take accountability.
This is an excellent point. Harsh judgment, criticism, neglect, abuse all create a sense of shame that one seeks inner healing and health or seeks to cover up with external things. The shift in society needs to be with genuine love and respect as well as genuine accountability in line with more balanced consequences that fit the action.
I think that’s why she included the clip that explains “uplifting” accountability vs shaming.
Exactly, thank you.
How is 28 old? 😂 cray cray. Ageism is alive and well. Old or older or elderly or elders imo is 60+
I understood he meant 28 is too old to keep behaving like that 🤗
28 is near middle age. The lies have to stop. It’s not ageism, it’s fact that you start getting invited to more funerals than birthdays around 55. Don’t waste time you think you have.
Another thing that is being normalized is people talking all the time about their intimate behavior, in my work, there is a couple that spread the details about what they do in sex, you can almost see the images in your had of everything they do, becouse they explaing you the "process"😮.
Their brains ARE developed at 25.
All of our brains are.
We just don't use it because we're immature.
Tha5 is the lie of the enemy used to EXCUSE BAD BEHAVIOR!
Let's take accountability for our poor decisions.
Let's stop making excuses and get our GROWN WOMAN ON!!! 😢
Anthony Hopkins days drop these five traits in people. Competitors - blamers - complainers - users - abusers. The misery enjoys company is the only consistency that wickedness can be lost in.
Right, don’t call me out on accountability when you’re not and don’t try to shame me when I fall short and you’re hiding what you’re doing secretly behind the scenes. I had a friend like that.
I love this topic! I am currently going through a situation with someone who lacks self awareness and accountability 😢 Its hard to talk to them as well because they are VERY defensive and indenial 🤦🏾♀️ I havent given up though. I drop lines and questions here and there to encourage their self awareness.
Karine, This topic is so needed. I love your perspective on improving our degenerating culture. You should consider coaching teen girls on these issues, if you don’t already. They need more voices like yours in real life!
The movie Pocahontas “you have shamed your father” comes to mind but yes bring it on back. so much desensitization, I feel for the younger generations and I have a 4year old 🫤The fear of God is leaving the room, my anxiety is getting triggered now lol but my goodness, “what’s going on” like what Marvin Gaye said
I’m so happy UA-cam gave me you because I agree about all this stuff and it seems I’m a 1%-5% of people who think this way! I like old fashioned glamour and class. Being polite not wearing pjs in public. I’ve almost told 2 ladies today their kids were wild animals that needed to be trained letting them go crazy running and screaming today in Ross then later at target kids were resting on the floor and running I almost scolded the mother. Kids don’t always act right but in the old days at least the parents would try to leash them and not let them run hog wild as they say where I’m from lol. You are so smart and beautiful and well spoken and I too am into deliverance warfare as well as psychology all rolled into one lol. I like sheraseven1 too and her way of pushing back against women being pickmeshas and leveling up ❤
This is an amazing video. I'm 19 and I'm learning all of these things, especially for as I go into my 20's. Thank you for this❤️❤️❤️
I’m 20 and I’m taking NOTES bc you’re not gonna catch me lacking within toxic circles
I immediately thought of Crocs and how they symbolize the decline in presentation, or Uggs-they epitomize the “laziness” we’re perceived as by foreigners.
You are 100% CORRECT with that Lil Kim reference!!!!!
It’s surprising to me too. People who are adults literally cry and play victim instead of looking fault on their own and learning their mistakes. That why they can’t ever evolve to a person they should be. and constantly blame others. It crazy to me how people do not act their age and try to follow trends of younger generation. My cousin is like this. She constantly make excuses and blame others for her own mistakes instead of learning them and she is the oldest of our cousins. That this cause so much strain in our family. She never grew up she acts more immature than 18 to 23 year olds.
I blame social media 😢
@@karinealourdementalgems agreed. Shaming and holding people accountable like adults is necessary and can prevent people from making mistakes instead of justifying them. The social media and society that keeps going on a motto “ do whatever you want” isn’t working and it cause selfish people who don’t care about their respect towards others. And it completely prevented people from looking within themselves and how their actions affect other people. This isn’t a good example for the youth and society.
Unpopular opinion: This city girl culture has also made it unsafe for women who are NOT apart of that lifestyle. I wear my natural hair 24/7 and I ALWAYS make sure it looks presentable. I always shower & do my basic hygiene routine even if I’m just going to the gas station or the grocery store. And even when I do get “dressed up” it’s not the IG girl fashion. It’s to the point I’ve had men harass & follow me saying things like they haven’t seen a clean or modestly dressed woman in awhile and they will chase you down! On top of that, they are surprised when you’re not willing to let them feel up on you or touch you because they just ASSUME all women are open to that now. It’s honestly scary.
I’m Jamaican-American and I’m gen z with Boomer parents-we were NEVER allowed to come out the house looking unkempt, not even if it was just my mom dropping me off at school. Shame needs to come back QUICKLY.
OH MY GOSH idk why people say modest women get avoided less by creepy men, if anything it attracts them more bc City Girl Culture is so common! It messed up!
@@afrofaeries Yes! I feel bad sometimes saying this b/c ppl make it seem like you’re being prude or prideful but thats not true! We live in the upside down world were being a little bit more covered up (and I don’t mean full on Muslim with a hijab) makes men act terrible but when they do see women who are exposed, they’re unfazed by it. It’s sick.
I'm glad many women are speaking up to potentiality save the younger generation from making the same mistakes. It's easy to get lost in social media seeking validation.
On point thank u girl.. u look so pretty by the way love ur shirt hair and makeup
I saw so many people at my workplace who have this mentality and it is beyond draining. They are old and everything triggered them. I cant deal with them and even scare of them because they end up always being jealous of others. They even get jealous of the fact you look presentable and you are working hard because they cant do it. Their minds is constantly stuck in this mentality and they cant perform in real life..
There is nothing you said that I don't agree with 💯. Yes, be yourself and authentic, but strive to become the best version of that. One should always want to be elevated, not wallow in the mud.
Great video as usual and I agree shame can be an uncomfortable feeling but by recognizing it you can begin to become a better version of yourself. It can be small things like exercising 5 days a week or as you mentioned making your bed and changing out of your sleeping clothes.
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Yes! Yes! Yes! ~ Karine 🧡
It starts young and at home.
Yes bring back shame
And people keep attacking Candice Owens for speaking out on these WAP matters.
You shouldn’t hold up Coondince Owens as an example. She is paid by Russia to say racists things about black people that white people can’t say. She is just a grifter who is in it for the money.
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The Bible says; THEY GLORY IS THEIR SHAME
As an educator, yes the entire family unit is built differently 😂. Adults support only bad behavior, and they are selfish. Bring back shame, morals and accountability.
Again… WE’RE doomed 😩😭 as a collective & I say that to say, one person ruin it for the bunch. NOW,individually I assert my presence and show I’m different even with prejudgement, prejudice with GRACE and class. Take it or leave! Bring back shame !!!! 🇭🇹🌹
Prayers for Shannon fink and her spouse and children and grandchildren,and Anna fink and her spouse and children, and Desiree David and her spouse and children, Corey David and her spouse and children, and Michael Ian Bradley and his spouse and children from Pennsylvania
I am 60 yrs old and don't dress in older ladies clothes and look younger than my age BUT, I am not dressing provocative, don't have a bbl, implants or tattoos. I don't even have gray hair. Just letting myself age gracefully. That doesn't make me better, just not looking for that type of affirmation or attention at my age. I would feel convicted doing what many my age are doing right now. So, accountability is definitely lacking.
I'm 37 and I'm grateful everyday that I'm old enough to have gotten a lot of the old school discipline. Where the elders would impart wisdom , correct you when you were out of line, and hold you ACCOUNTABLE! Social media changed the trajectory..."everyone" young or old wanted to be some type of influencer. No matter whatvit took to get there. You saw professionals with degrees becoming IG BADDIES, tweens becoming makeup influencers at 12, passport bros, grown grown women willing to risk deleting on a table to "fix" a body you had for 40 years, and preachers becoming celebrities. Sad where the culture has gotten in a little under 10 years. I'm from the "hood" too and it was very rare to see anything close to a Sexxy Red. The few times that archetype came around ALL the parents and grandparents would actually pity that child for lack of hometraining and guidance.
16:43 THANK YOUUUU!!! Omg i’ve been saying this for the longest, ppl got way too comfortable putting their situations on platform to gain publicity is CRAZY !! i’m so glad for my old school parents!!! this is so on point
Yes! Low -negative value people only ever learn from consequences!
This was so needed… lots of confirmation. Thx woman of God
Thank you for this. It explains alot.
Such an important video, thank you 🙏
The first 59 seconds 🔥🔥🔥
Accountability is key like you said there are so many shaming tactics going on online
A lot of these people don’t care about being shamed they know it’s a shame low down one
1:13 Can someone please tell me who this gorgeous dark skin lady is please
I definitely agree then they get in the minds of young women and they think they gonna make it out like some of these artists but end up in the worst situations prostitution ect.
That was one heck of an introduction;and it's true
8:08 - 9:05 .
I love that you made this video !
💯💯💯 yes yes yes everything you said yessssss
Wow! ❤ amazing video Karine 💐
Bring it back!!
Spot on !
Thanks ❤
Truth❤
Argeed
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Wearing makeup, eye lashers, coloring your hair/finger nails is a sin of vanity. Seek God before it is too late. When you were makeup, you are telling God you are not content with what you are given. So you create a new face to glorify yourself.
Thank you 💌
For this reality ✔️
Also more reasons for
Self awareness and the healing process 🥵
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And that is the issue right there mother stop being a mother’s grandmother stopped being grandmother, and they started trying to compete with the younger women
We need shame and accountability 🤍
Omg! Karine I feel like you know exactly what I am going through 🤣🤣 I am leaving my husband because of the lack of awareness, accountability and disrespect. We have tried to work it out but I learned that he got to willing to change for himself I can’t do it!! 🙌🏾🩷