Bridesmaid Tears Up After Admitting She Can't Afford Dress | Say Yes To The Dress Bridesmaids
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- Опубліковано 27 тра 2019
- Bridesmaid Krista is being uncooperative during Rebecca's consultation, but when she admits that her disagreement stems from her inability to afford the dresses the bride wants, Rebecca and her mother agree to help Krista so she can be a part of the wedding.
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$260 is a lot of freaking money to shell out for a hideous ruffle dress, especially when you have four kids
That on top of shoes, proper undergarments, makeup and hair...
I can't believe she's. Making them pay for them especially that much. I'm from UK and I'm buying all my bridesmaid dresses for around £50 - 70 each. There no way I'd let them pay that much for the dresses
@@lesleyannismay8295
Same in Ireland. I would have been mortified to ask my girls to pay for a dress for my wedding. 😯
Ugh i agree
Then don’t accept to be a bridesmaid
i swear this place has the prettiest wedding dresses but the ugliest bridesmaid dresses
It’s so the bride looks like a goddess
Honestly, I think the dresses are ugly too.
Actually Dying YESSSS EXACTLY I GET U GIRL
Ok
red violet they were still ugly in 2011
“I don’t like that…”. NOBODY will like that…. Those ruffles are 🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮
that dressed look like it was from the 50s, she definitely wanted to do them dirty
I agree 🤢🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮
This episode has to be from the 2010s cause no way those ruffles would make it past that mirror!!
For my sisters wedding, she picked the color and gave us a swatch and then said find whatever dress you want. Mine came from the thrift store for $10. With four kids as well, I feel Krista’s pain.
That makes a lot of sense I'll remember to Def do that thank you for this.
@@christengardner1466 It was wonderful. I wish I had done that when I married.
The wedding was beautiful and we each had a dress we were happy with. I was particularly happy that I could find something second hand. A few months after the wedding, it went back to the thrift store, along with the other bridesmaid dresses in the back of my closet that were a lot more expensive.
My best friend got married and asked 3 of us to be bridesmaids, she gave us the colour blues she wanted and told us to get whatever dress we wanted. I got mine on eBay for $50. It was gorgeous and looked like a $200+ dress. My other friend’s mom had to help me take it in a bit and she did it for free even though I offered her money. One of the other girl’s paid $30, one went all out and paid $275 and had to have it tailored to make it not look like a prom dress. We all looked great in the end and the bride was happy!
@@AskAgainL8ter I love this idea!
I have someone who married last fall and she got the bridesmaid dresses from SHEIN, they were absolutely gorgeous and in just the soft sage and dusty blue she wanted.
Why didn’t the girls even offer to help her pay for it? Thats what my friends & I would have done for her. We would have split the remaining amount up between all of us.
Exactly! It wouldn’t hurt for everyone to pitch in maybe 20 dollars to help her pay for this dress
100% agree! Would definitely chip in to ensure someone was included without struggling
WildKatVixon maybe they’re also struggling you never know
Dofly A true, but then they should choose a more suitable budget & stick to it 🤷🏻♀️
I'd pay the full amount
Budget should’ve been discussed UPFRONT. Period. Not fair to put her on the spot like that.
Amaris Renae right I agree!
Amaris Renae periodt
Then she should have said something... no one is finna read her y
Imani Floyd yes. That’s what I’m saying
The wedding group as a whole should’ve discussed the price when the Bride made the appointment. I wouldn’t have went if I didn’t know what the budget was.
Amaris Renae true... and I understand people being embarrassed about finical problems, but closer mouths don’t get fed... all I know is that when I get married I’m making sure the dress ain’t over $60
So glad my best friend let me wear whatever I wanted to her wedding, even if I was her maid of honor. When I said “even something thrifted?”, she agreed, and said what counted was that her friends were there for her. That is what wedding should be about: love, friendship, family and that’s it.
So true! I dont know why these brides are like “its all about me, so you will wear whatever I want” I know its your wedding but its kinda selfish, what do you want your friends to be uncomfortabe?
It’s sad this wedding industry puts such expense on everyone.
Agreed problem is that it’s very competitive! If I was to get married I’d tell the bridesmaids here’s the color go get something you’re going to wear again! That way budget is considered! I’d want them to be conferrable in the dress! I never went to prom or the homecoming dance in high school! For homecoming I did the football 🏈 game and that was it! I couldn’t wrap my head around spending hundreds of dollars on a dress you’re only going to wear once! For the wedding dress I couldn’t justify spending anymore than $1,500-$2,000! The less you spend the better!
Yy
The wedding dress industry puts nothing on anyone! You put it on yourself by wanting things you can’t afford!
@@marymargaretblumhorst5359 Wanting things is a natural human feeling. You don't choose to like a dress, you see it and like it. The wedding industry is too expensive
The wedding industry builds in their profits by making their gowns in non-traditional sizes to make sure you have to alter your dress.
•I'm 5'7" and wore 2-1/2" heels and they still needed to hem it up.
•The dress had a train which they had to sew hook and eye fasteners in to bustle it up at the reception. I should have just gotten a rhinestone broach.
The alterations were almost half the price of the gown.
It's a racket.
Imagine paying 250$ (that you don’t have) for an ugly dress damn I would cry too
TheQueen yes
even more so when that particular dress is more appropriate for a funeral than a wedding
TheQueen that you’ll only wear once 🤦🏽♀️🙄
TheQueen here is where choice comes in. You love the bride and you wear it with a smile, if you can’t afford it you politely decline.
TheQueen I agree! I would never ever pay that for a dress! Even one that I loved! And I think it’s honestly rude to force someone to wear a specific dress and make them pay for it especially when it’s a lot of money.
Jesus imagine spending 200$ on a dress you dont even like
Imán Gotti yeah but she also liked the baby poop green dress too
Livy Loo Loo I feel like she liked the ugly green one because it must’ve been cheaper. She can read price tags
My mum had to spend 300 on a bright jade green lace monstrosity for one of her closest friends weddings, she did it for her but I didnt even like playing dressup in it lmao
And that you’re only going to wear once
It's something I've done six times.
In our culture we provide the bridesmaids everything 😂even the hair pin 😂
I agree we get married in July I going paid my friend bridesmaid I only got 1 bridesmaid and 1 flower girl my wedding I paid we know the colour she can pick design what I think look nice
True, if the bride wants you to wear spezial dresses or other stuff, the bride must pay for it...
If there is no dresscode, you have to buy your own dress....
Thats the rule i know 😅😅
My mum only had her sister as her maid of honour and no bridesmaids. She couldn't afford any dresses for anyone else so she didn't have them, they were guests. It's just the wedding etiquette in Britain.
@@eleanorcooke7136 I like that idea. No one feels left out cause they can't afford to be a bridesmaid.
@@kpoppy9635 also, people understand that because the bride is paying for the dresses, there can't be many bridesmaids. So there's no jealousy over people going "I wanted to be a bridesmaid" because they know they have no right to the bride's money.
Bride should definitely pay
Yesss
told them just to stick color for the wedding at david bridal let them choose a dress makes them comfortable.
@@Kt-cn2rq I know same color but different dress is done all the time at weddings who's bridesmaid don't have a ton of money to go to a boutique and buy the same uniform dress. It never looks bad and no one hardely notices because it's the bridesday. Only reason she looked about of place when they put her in a different style was because it was lime green and the others were dark colors
Why? She spent enough on HER wedding already. 🎩
Or if you can’t pay, just don’t be in the wedding 🤷🏾♀️🤷🏾♀️
I hate the narrative of "If you love the bride you'll pay the money" like no, love doesn't mean you've got money to burn.
I wish they talked about it beforehand. Like before they even went shopping the bride should've sat down with all of the girls and talked budget
exactly. People can afford what they can afford- and I mean, I never had children but the woman had four children. Feeding kids comes FIRST- way more important than a dress.
@Redux Studio Skyfall yeah it's the same here in Argentina, a wedding it's supposed to be fun and not a show off contest
Do ppl seriously not realize u can buy a bridesmaid looking dress at freakin Marshalls like I could probably sew a bridesmaid dress w about 16 bucks like u could DIY that shit or just buy some fancy cheap dress
Exactly!! My brodesmaids all said they didnt want to pay more than $150 for a dress because they're all moms, im the only one who doesnt have kids, so I sent them links and photos of dresses that were affordable and everyone was happy, and beautiful!
I agree they should have talked about it beforehand
someone should have known whats up when she said 20 dollars
gierer yeah I would’ve peeped that and brought it up again. Like did y’all hear what I heard? That was a red flag right then and there
They know, they just didn't care.
That was an immediate red flag for me. Who pays $20 for idk how many bridesmaids dresses?
My bridesmaids all had very differing financial situations (this was before me and my husband eloped due to other circumstances, but thankfully none of them bought dresses) so I told them length and color, but to find something within that they could afford and would wear again.
Exactly! The cheapest dress I found was 80 dollars. It was infinity dresses. 80 for a dress you can stretch with and DIY was amazing.
Tbh, I don’t think the bride was even thinking about the fact that her friend couldn’t afford it. She was so preoccupied with making sure everyone felt comfortable and looked nice that she wasn’t even thinking about prices. You could see when her friend mentioned she couldn’t afford it that it clicked in her head and she had the “oh shit” look on her face. She seemed to really care about all her bridesmaids and making sure they were happy, so I don’t think she was trying to make her friend uncomfortable. I’m glad they were able to help her out in the end. ❤️
I was kind of thinking the bride is of those sweet, well-off friends that forgets that money is a factor for some people.
I agree, the salespeople were pushing her too hard & she was stressed out
I can’t believe no one could take the hint and embarrassed that poor girl, I wanna cry but I differently know the struggle
When she said “Krista just doesn’t have the money to buy it”
That hurt because she was so embarrassed about not having money she couldn’t even say “I”
This should have been discussed before they came to shop
Sharanya Maulik dame my heart broke a little bit :(
I think she probably was just hoping to pick a cheaper dress. At first she was saying they could wear whatever they picked
Jasmine Whitmill oh yeah I forgot about that, good point
Jasmine Whitmill I actually liked her dresses the best. That gold one was hideous
Stephanie Pinto I actually think the bridesmaids dresses in this store are quite ugly in general
When I had my wedding, I sat down with all my bridesmaids and asked them to write down their budget on a small piece of paper. After that, I asked them to put the budgets in a box. I looked over everything later and picked the lowest one so I could include everyone.
This is very wholesome and very awesome. You are amazing. Don't change
Wow! That truly is an amazing idea. I just got asked to be a bridesmaid and when we started talking prices and budgets, it was a little akward because my budget was alot higher than the others. We then realized some couldnt even afford anything at all. So your idea is great so that no one has to feel embarrassed or bad for not being able to afford a dress. Thank you!
Karelleee Aww thank you :)
Melissa Sanchez It really sucks when you can’t include your friends sometimes. Thank you for your kind comments!1! :)
This is very similar to what I did! My bridesmaids’ budgets were $80. The dress we found and the one everyone liked was $100. I did not expect them to compromise on the budget we had previously agreed upon, so I paid the extra $20 for each of their dresses. I wanted them in my wedding! They shouldn’t have to become financially stressed as a result.
The fact she was put on the spot like that hurt my feeling. Nobody should have to be embarrassed in front of people you don't know. Wow.
Krista looked so nervous even at the start and she's always trying to convey she's broke through mentioning the lines "20$" and "If she's gonna buy it, yes" (pertaining to the bride). If they're really friends why can't they read between the lines 🙄.
Honestly, I think it's not right for a bride to make her friends pay for an expensive dress they don't like just to attend their wedding. It's your wedding. It's your choice to make them wear those dresses. Pay for it if they can't afford it.
Yah. She was trying to tell her without telling her and they were all on tv which made it so much harder.
The accordion ruffle one was actually the most hideous thing I've ever seen in my life. That was awful🤢
Exactly, like who does that even fit? Why would anyone want to cover their cleavage and neck and make them bulkier
Agreed
ThatOneGayGirl especially the girl with the short hair she made it look worse and uglier idk why
I now!
Omg yesss like it's so ugly HONESTLY for me the most beautiful was the one that Krista wore the first time that was like a purple/lavender dress like it was the prettiest of the all in color and style
I'm sorry but they should've cut this part out. I felt like they have just embarrassed Krista in front of everyone just to add some drama.
@Redux Studio Skyfall I know right? The implication that you measure how much you care about someone with how much you're willing to cash out is abhorrent. I get that it's edited for the drama but come on... everyone will now think that the lady is financially struggling. Even if she really is, it's not something strangers should be privy to.
Agree!!!
Anna Banana yup....agreed...
I think they're actors
Kudos to her for stating she couldn't afford it. So many people live beyond their means.
My matron of honor called me a month before the wedding and said she couldn’t afford her dress, and would have to drop out of the wedding. For context, this was 30 years ago, and the dresses were $50. I paid for her dress. There was no way I wasn’t going to have her in my wedding.
Honestly I find the whole idea of "I pick the dress you wear and you pay for it" very weird.
fruhest when I got married I told my bridesmaids that I wanted them in different color pastels and the same type of fabric and let them go lol.
Everyone’s dresses were under $20 and they were all happy because the dresses were in their own personal style.
I’d been a bridesmaid before and had to shell out $236 on a dress I absolutely hated, I never wanted to do that to my girls.
I have two dresses I paid over 100 dollars for that I couldn't afford, that I wore once. It is a little ridiculous being a bridesmaid if you ask me.
My best friend was really awesome about the dresses. We had to have the same color but we could choose whatever style dress we wanted. We still had to pay for it. But she also made it a 200 dollar limit.
fruhest lol my mom is like that to me but she pays for it
I had mine pick whichever they wanted just in the same colour. I also talked to each privately about what they could afford and just made the budget the lowest one
she literally dropped so many hints and they all just completely ignored her until she broke down..🤦🏻♀️
fantabulous me why not just be upfront instead of dropping hints. Why not just be honest and let her know that you can’t afford it and stop dropping hints like you trying to tell me you got a crush on me
@@PrincessZaire100 She is embarrassed about not being able to afford to be part of her best friends wedding, so she didn't want to get into her personal life on her best friends special day on live fucking TV. That might have something to do with it. Just a thought
RomanDoughnut Complete agree. It’s unbelievable how many people just have ZERO emotional intelligence , sheesh !!!
LE 88 first off you don’t know me so for you to say I have no emotional intelligence. Second off, everyone knows that being in a wedding cost money, so she should’ve said something when she was asked. No one is going to read your mind or pick up on hints. She’s an adult and can articulate her situation like one. If you know you can’t afford something say something, and from this clip I’m pretty sure the bride would’ve helped if she spoke up
Imani Floyd Firstly, Direct me to where I said YOU don’t have emotional intelligence or even mentioned you at all????? I made a general statement. And secondly, you don’t get it, so I’m not going to go back and forth with you. I hope you don’t have too many friends because you are obviously lacking in the empathy department.
there's absurdity in the concept of "You're gonna wear whatever i tell you to, but YOU'RE going to pay for it."
Yeah I find that absurd too, while I understand that the weddings are expensive I think that your bridal party’s formal wear should be part of your budget if you’re going to pick it for them. Be a little stingy on other parts of the wedding if it means you can’t afford bridesmaids dresses and be considerate towards your attendants, you know? Or just don’t have them? Or just have one or two if that’s all you can afford.
i honestly wouldn't have picked up on the "hints" everyone's saying the woman was giving. i would've just thought she was being rude. however... the price should've been discussed with her beforehand, especially since she has 4 kids.
i agree! they should've picked a budget and then the mother with four kids should've talked with the bride and figured out a way to get a dress without breaking the bank. she didn't give any hints, all she did was say she didn't like the ruffles and didn't like the dresses. how is that a hint to her situation?
Beforehand, the bride said they could all pick their own dress. The first dress Krista picked was lovely and apparently she was ready to spend that amount.
I paid for the dresses, shoes and accessories.
Krista said that Rebecca (bride) knew her situation well ahead of time; I don't have any kids of my own but that doesn't mean I have 300 dollars (let's round up for tax sake) to drop on an ugly dress I'll never wear again because some stuck up bridal boutique employee tells the bride it's what looks cute.
$260 is not a compromise. It is an investment for something that you are never gonna use.
Abigail Lyttle exactly!
They literally said in the beginning around 150, and the consultant put them in 260$ dresses. Like that’s so fucked up.
I'd be cool with it if I could like reuse the dress on dates and evenings out, but bridemaids dresses are always so goddamn ugly
If someone excepts me to pay for a dress to suit someone else goodbye.😢😤
Abigail Lyttle that was my car payment at one point, that’s insane
IS IT JUST ME or was krista right the whole time THE RUFFLES ARE SO UGLY lmaoo
I feel you gurrllllll
Yes they were
Fr
They where disgusting
Agree
I feel for this girl, I was a bridesmaid for a friend while I was in college and I was in debt for so long because I literally couldn't afford the dress. The bride was later mad at me because I couldn't get her a nice wedding gift and hasn't spoken to me since a week after the wedding :/ it was such a waste of money
What an awful "friend". You should feel grateful for not having her in your life anymore
When I got married I paid for all my bridesmaids' dresses, which were custom designed. I also paid for their shoes. And I am in the U.S. I think it's terrible to force people to shell out hundreds of dollars for an outfit the bride likes but the bridesmaids will probably never wear again.
I'd never humiliate my friend like that. We would speak ahead of time about budget and not poor shame them on TV.
No one shamed her she just kept saying that she didn’t like it she didn’t like any of the dresses and then at the very end she said it was money. I don’t know why everyone keeps saying that she was shamed for being poor she could’ve just been honest from the very front
@@ellielopez2479 don't you understand? She was embarrassed, that's why she said something for like 20 dollars. She also has kids and doesn't have the money to buy it. I would be hella embarrassed :(
Bored Fish Dish 13 uh yes, I understand. She could have been clear and honest from the beginning instead of saying she didn’t like any of the dresses and wasting everyone’s time. Do you understand??
forget the tv, why poor shame ppl anywhere? SHAME ON THESE PEOPLE. No wonder american marriages break down. If this is what people are starting with, by humiliating others over $250 dresses, they are inviting all the ill luck in the world.
@@frogerp898 So instead of having a private conversation with her friend she waits till they are being filmed at the bridal shop????
That accordion style ruffle dress should be illegal it’s so ugly 🤢
Agreed. Its hideous.
Catie M I kinda like it
StarCaptain 7733 you do you
Catie M lol irk
Some people wants the bridemades to be uggly
I bought my bridesmaids their dresses. Then I gave them their purse and jewelry and a beach bag etc for a gift. They all had to drive or fly to the beach for my wedding. I also rented a huge beach house and invited people to stay there. I didn’t want my wedding to be a burden on everyone
You sounds rich.
@@jro2231 nope. I just only had four bridesmaids and their dresses were 200 each. We also bought the groomsmen their khakis and button downs at tj maxx as well as the ring bearer and I ordered the flower girls dresses online for maybe 60 a piece. I had a beach wedding. It was small and casual and I had saved my money
6:11… not only is this disrespectful, but it’s just wrong telling her that “it comes with being a bridesmaid” if she can’t afford it than the bride needs to pay for it.
The dress is 🤢 and everyone liked it wtf
Eveyone has different opinions
Like fr
It was hideous
It was horrendous
Ikr
That manager should be ashamed about insinuating paying for a dress she can’t afford is a reflection of her love for her friend. Mind your own damn business.
She hadn't yet said she couldn't afford it at that point. She was just complaining about the style, and that seemed to be the sticking point for her until she revealed it was that she didn't have the money.
atelierfrost it doesn’t matter whether she said she could afford it or not. It was an inappropriate comment and not her place.
Yeah, insinuating that she didn’t love the bride for not shelling out $250 for a dress she’s only gonna wear one day was horrible
the bridesmaid had a bad attitude and the manager was not aware it was a financial issue. she was trying to advocate for the bride who had trouble "putting her foot down." nothing to be ashamed of.
ashley I beg to differ. Insinuating what she did was rude and not her place.
Wow. I feel so bad for Krista. I have been the bridesmaid who couldn’t afford expensive hairdos and etc for a wedding. This should have been discussed before they went shopping.
Krista did say she would wear it if Rebecca bought, and Rebecca, the bride, was suppose to be paying for the bridesmaids' dress anyway. Let's not pretend she was being difficult for the sake of being difficult.
I've been watching these clips 'cause I have no life right now. Love these!
I swear to God, if I gave Krista $1000 during that appointment, she still wouldn't have wanted to buy that dress. That girl has got her priorities STRAIGHT! She understands the value of money. I'm nowhere near her situation but as someone who is newly on their own financially, I kinda get it. I bet she counted that price tag in the amount of meals that would feed her and her kids.
I feel like the bride was a bit insensitive because if you have a friend like Krista, you know what situation she's in and you should plan around that.
That consultant lady was wrong. “Some times you have to compromise” she has kids and can’t afford it.
@Teanna :D oh, give me a break. Who told you she wanted? Maybe the bride asked her and they're such good friends that she couldn't say no 🙄🙄🙄🙄
Teanna :D period* and that’s just ignorant. I can tell what type of person you are. I would’ve said yes whether I have the money or not. I would’ve expected to definitely have better friends then that though.
The lady said that before she admitted she had the money to buy it.
Also, I agree w the other comments. Don’t agree to be a bridesmaid. Say, “I’m sorry I don’t have the money to afford being a bridesmaid.” so she can pick someone else. You know it costs a lot of money. Everyone knows that whether they’ve been in a wedding or not. My friend had a tiny, crappy, low budget wedding and it still cost me close to $400.
Unfunny Bunny Right! If she knew her friend had all those kids and doesn’t have much money she shouldn’t have asked her. Why try to make this lady pockets break and make her pay money she doesn’t have for a dress she’s gonna wear one time.
probably shouldn't pop out 4 kids if you are not financially comfortable. It's not like kids are cheap
*260$ for a dress with ruffles?!*
*Like, not even the good kind of ruffles*
*You know, the sour cream ones*
🤣🤣🤣🤣😇
audrey1053 lmao 😂
audrey1053 the sour cream oneeesss😭😭😭
Sour cream and onions ruffles are good tho 😰
Lmfao
Weird. In my country the bridesmaids' outfits are also shouldered by the couple esp if they want certain motif etc, and if it's over the budget they can also opt to just rent the dress.
It is absolutely ridiculous to say to someone compromise on your budget for someone else’s wedding
There is nothing flattering about those stupid ruffles around the neck and down the front.
It was so ugly
I thought it was just me that thought that
It’s very odd, to me at least.
Yup they were hideous
And it’s stops in at a stupid place on the chess
This bride has a foul taste in fashion indeed, I wouldn't wear that ruffled neck dress if my life depend on it.
Hello Sunshine death before ruffles😂
Oof (no hate)
Not only unattractive style but each of her bridesmaids wearing a different color.
Hello Sunshine we all kno u would wear it if ur life depends on it lmao
same. i'd rather not go to the wedding xD
I wouldn’t pay $60 for those dresses.
Pretty girls, ugly dresses.
I remember when my brother was getting married and they asked me to be a bridesmaid. I told them I was very honored to be asked but I just don’t have the money to participate. No hesitation they told me don’t worry they would pay for it. No embarrassment and it was a great day.
In my culture, the bride pays for all the bridesmaids dresses and flower girls. The groom also pays for all the suits.
Right! I'm honestly not knowledgable about weddings in my culture but I automatically assumed that's what was supposed to happen, it's common sense!
SymphonicMotion right??
But in my culture groom has to pay for the dress, the wedding,and almost everything. I know , that's a lot 😂
In my culture the bride and groom pay for everything equally.
I thought that's how it worked...🤔
This was gross...very bad friend, I would have picked up the vibe from her behavior that she couldn’t afford it...she was humiliated on tv cause her hints were being ignored..
I completely agree.. no need to air someone's struggle... she looked upset after the fact.. I would be embarrassed to be put on the spot and admit in front of everyone that I could not afford the dress.
And they spent the whole beginning of the episode painting it out to be her controlling attitude
ajay jones exactly that pissed me off
@@jennifernelson6187 Personally I wouldn't have suspected she couldn't afford the dress. I would have though she just was not compromising and was just being difficult. Maybe though like at the beginning when she said her piece range was like 20 dollars that's kind of hint that the bride should have took into account.
@@nataliaaguon516 except all of the girls literally talked about how she is a mother of four. And she couldnt afford a lot and there wasnt a lot to spare. They ALL knew. And they still put her in that position. I personally think if you want bridesmaids to be dressed a certain way, you buy the dress for them.
that was my situation when my best friend of 20+ years was getting married and i didn't have the money to pay for the dress..to the point i almost felt like I had to back out of the wedding..but my best friend with the kindness of her heart understood and she helped me pay for my dress. I still have the dress and its one of my favorites cus it came from a person i love.
I didn't realize the bride didn't pay for the dresses, I'm planning my wedding and I planned on paying for them, I can't ask them to shell out that kind of cash.
I bought the bridesmaids dresses, shoes and accessories. It was understanding that the bride's family pays for the wedding. My mom was retired early due to stroke and my dad passed weeks after my 21st birthday. I spent about $250 total per bridesmaid. I shopped for the dresses 3 months ahead and they're were half off by the time of purchase. They were all able to wear the dress and shoes again.
When i got married i paid for everything my bridesmaids wore, my wedding, my cost.
God bless you ❤️
Exactly! My bridesmaids offered half ($90) for their dresses (which they chose) and that's it. My wedding, my vision, my cost.
Good job
Thank you!
Bless you god bless you I mean I would do the same thing I mean it’s my wedding and if I want to be perfect I will pay for everything
$260 for that dress ABSOLUTELY NOT!!
Girl lmaoooo
I agree, I would pay 50 tops for that and even that's too much imo.
@@MrWereWolfGirl my bridesmaid's dresses were about $20 and my wedding dress was $40 (and I still wear it)
come to dubai 260$ can only get u like two pencil boxes
Thats nothing
This is why when I have a wedding I’m factoring the bridesmaids dresses into my wedding budget. I’m not going to put financial stress on people I care about for an event I ASKED them to be apart of.
Someone else put up a good suggestion: ask the bridesmaids to write down their budget on a little piece of paper. Then read all the papers anonymously and budget around the lowest one.
I had a very small wedding and my Maid of Honor wore a taffeta dress from the 1950s that we found in a vintage clothing store for $20. She looked absolutely fabulous.
She literally said Rebecca know my situation.... meaning the bride knew she couldn’t afford the dress and brought her there to poverty shame her on television.
Then why did she go? I think she just wanted the pity and a free dress. You don’t get engaged and go shopping the next day. Why did she not just up front tell her? At what point was she planning to win the lottery and vastly change her situation? If she had a sudden financial crisis, just say so like an adult. It’s not a shame to not afford this stuff, but she has effectively made this show about her, not the bride. Does she really not know the cost? Has she never attended a wedding or heard about one? Never seen a show or article about the cost of being in a wedding party? Come on! This stinks to high heaven.
Are you kidding? She knew where they were going shopping and she knew it will be filmed. She also knew she cannot afford any dress in that store. So why did she go????
I'm confused as to why she went there in the first place. There is no way in hell she thought they would have $20 dresses at this shop, and she had to give consent beforehand to be taped for the show. She is an adult who knew her own financial situation and somehow people are blaming others for her lack of foresight.
Yeah, the whole time she was hinting at it like ffs. Is the bride just dumb? read between the lines, dude. Your friend is humiliated. And then the manager... you are crazy if you think shes doing to put a bride ABOVE her 4 children that need to eat. 250+ dollars on a dress that hideous is a lot during this time too.
@@uggggggghhhhh If she's humiliated, that's 100% her own choice. You can't be on this show unless you give consent to be filmed. If she knew she couldn't afford it, why was she there on camera?
I once had to back out as bridesmaid because I couldn’t afford the dress chosen. The bride stopped speaking to me because I wouldn’t buy the dress.
Don’t talk to her too if she’s a real friend and love u and understand u she wouldn’t do that to u u deserve better 🤍🤍
That's terrible omg
Aw I’m so sorry 🙏
That's sad
You got rid of a toxic person for free👍🏽
Helping Others In Hard Times Is More Than A Blessing! 🤗
I do like that even though the bride hadn't paid attention to the hints, when she discovered the real reason was budget, she stepped up and helped her friend because she wanted her there.
In most countries, the bride pays for the bridemaids' dresses. Your wedding, you pay for it.
Dany Loup yup! I think most Americans that are well off don’t expect anyone to pay to be part of their party. It’s the ones that are planning a wedding way above their means that are forcing people to pay for their Pinterest weddings. Yuck!
Yeah, America it’s pretty weird to me.
I personally wouldn't mind paying for my own bridesmaid dress as long as it's 1. affordable (i.e. less than $50) 2. something I would wear again. I think as long as brides keep that in mind it's OK.
If I were a bridesmaid I would pay for my dress since I want the bride to be happy as long as the budget is not like something crazy I’m fine but that just my opinion
Dany Loup
I say yes and no for that
It should be like the bride should pay half of the dresses and the biredmaids pay the other half
Krista was completely destroyed admitting that she wasn’t able to purchase the dress with her own means, the look on her face of sheer pain and discomfort as everyone went in happily for hugs.. that made me tear up. The way she moved her
For the manager to say that it puts her in a weird position is so insensitive, she obviously hasn’t struggled in her life. 🤬
I've been in Kristas situation. Hard time in my life and people expected me to shell out the dough. Ugh...seeing this brought back all the anxiety through it all. I finally had to pull out. It was all getting expensive. Didn't go to friends wedding I was so embarrassed. And no a bride will not understand your financial hardship when she is surrounded by well off friends. Its super humiliating.
@@bellaa.933 no she won't usually
Quite the opposite. The manager meant she felt in a difficult position to do her job, which is encouraging and helping clients to decide to buy, because she felt this would be a problem for the girl.
Its not insensitive for her to say that. If thats how it made her feel, then so be it. You dont know that woman's life. You stop being insensitive, hypocrite.
@@evelina2363
The only part that irk me about the staffs is when they didn't try to ask Krista by what Krista meant if the bride bought the dress for her then she'd wear. Like was it really she hated the dress or was it because of something else. Saying Krista not loving the bride was not a good move imo
I heard of a wedding once where everyone’s budgets were tight. The bridesmaids wore thrifted and borrowed dresses from other weddings. The day was beautiful and no one felt guilty.
I just donated four bridesmaids dresses that have been in the back of my closet gathering dust.
I’m 11 and I already know I am paying for my bridesmaids dresses. The only reason I am not going to make them wear it is if they feel exposed, if they feel they r showing parts of their body they are uncomfortable with.
These hideous dresses aren’t even worth $50. The bride has horrible taste. It can’t be worn again because it’s ugly!
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They could have gone to Ross and got something 10x cheaper and cuter
Exactly each of those dresses are sooo freaking bad
Is this any of yous wedding?!?! No, so stfu about your opinions on something that does not concern you! Judgements ass people who can’t even put a profile picture of their god damn selves stfu
You don’t even have a profile picture of your “god damn’ self”
"Sometimes you have to compromise, it's part of being a bridesmaid."
Okay yeah, so she should put herself in debt and cough up some money to pay for a dress she'll wear for one day instead of using that money to pay for food and clothes for her 4 KIDS!?
Ehat a disgusting comment from the consultant to say that shit I would never buy a dress from a place when they have attitudes like that to me if you are the bride and you are asking someone to be your bridesmaid they should pay for the dresses themselves or aleast have a cheaper budget
In any case, over 200 for a dress you will wear once is ridiculous
I think when the consultant said that she was under the impression that the girl just didn’t want to pay for the dress, not that it would actually strain her budget to buy. They deal with a lot of stuck up girls on this show and the consultant said she wouldn’t force someone to buy a dress if they couldn’t afford it
But when she was saying that she didn't know that she can't afford it.
She could’ve said no to being a bridesmaid. She knew what would have come out of it to say yes to it. I’m a bride to be and if one of my bridesmaids said straight up they couldn’t afford to be my bridesmaid but will still support me and come to the wedding then I would 100% be okay with that. These are the responsibilities you take from being someone’s bridesmaid. That’s what the consultant was trying to get at, not to be rude to her situation
Whew that made me tear up. If you don’t have the money then you don’t have it. Coming up with a firm budget before dress shopping is a must. If you’re a bridesmaid and can’t afford the dress regardless of the price, talk to the bride before agreeing to be in the wedding. It’s just a fact of life, some people have the money and some people are barely surviving.
Very true ! And that’s what happened in the wedding I was in. That comment made by the saleswoman was disgusting “we do it because we love the bride”… there is no way the friend wasn’t aware of Kristas situation .
They put her in such a difficult position. "It comes with being a bride's maid?" If the bride was really her friend she would have never put that kind of pressure on her and mortify her in front of everyone like that.
the dresses look like $40 max
Lol my thoughts exactly
I don't want to spend 200 on a dress !!! Regardless
more like $0.04 max
@@jaylyndawson four dollars sounds a bit more reasonable though
chiemela does it really though
I was so pissed when after she said: 'I can't afford to buy it' the manager instantly said: Yes but we all have to give a little to the bride and show her that we lover her.
EXCUSE HER? I'm sorry but showing you love the bride doesn't mean taking food out of your children's mouths and getting yourself in a crappy financial situation just to be part of a wedding that's not even your own.
**Edit** Oh wauw, this comment got a lotta attention lol.
If I was there she would’ve heard a mouthful from me, extremely inconsiderate of her to do
The bride and groom should pay for the dress if she can't afford it
@@berlinwall6674 The first coherent comment I see in this section. It's your wedding, your way..your money.
It's odd because I always thought that the bride paid for the dresses
I mean.. it costs money to be a bridesmaid, maybe she should’ve just been a guest. Don’t accept something you can’t afford period. Don’t make anyone feel bad for YOUR inability to buy it.
When my best friend got married , she helped me pay for shipping for a dress . She remained so cognizant of other people’s needs financially and never made anyone feel like this bride did. I cannot imagine being friends with a person like in this video .
I hate that one of the consultants literally had to question Christa’s love for the bride to get her to admit she didn’t have money for a dress…
Am I the only one that hates the ruffles? Honestly it looks pretty bad
Reena Baswa I hate them too
Its ugly.
I mean look at all the other comments, I don’t think anyone likes the ruffles
Reena Baswa I love them 😂
Despise them 🤮
I feel so sorry for Krista and if the bride was her real friend she would understand her situation smh and the consultants were out of place period
Idk...i feel like she was being dramatic & making excuses because she didnt like the dress. She didnt make a stink about the other dress & that one couldnt have been much less. Im curious to know how much the dress was she liked & was willing to pay for. No way in the world does that place even have a $20- dress for sale.
The bride did pay for the dress for her so she did understand...
She knew she couldn't afford it when she was asked to be one.
Real friends know of difficulty and would not put someone in the situation. The consultants need a few lessons in reality.
What are you babbling
I love a wedding with the bridesmaids dresses on different dresses!
I’ve turned down being a bridesmaid bc I couldn’t afford a dress. It sucks but it’s expensive! Paying for the dress is just the tip of the iceberg.
I had a "friend" who invited me to be her bridesmaid but wanted me to pay for my dress, flowers, shoes, bags etc. I did some calculations and of course, communication with her to find out what she wanted. Everything came up to about $600. I couldn't afford it so I told her as it is and she literally ignored me since then. But honestly, that was one of the best decisions I've made. 😀
I’m sorry, wtf? She wanted you to pay for everything to attend her wedding?
@no body nope, I didn't. I didn't attend her wedding as well.
She really just ignored you because you can’t afford a ridiculous amount of money??? It’s her wedding she should have took peoples situation into account. At least she has shown you her true colours x
Good riddance.
This reminds me of my friend who totally ignored and unfriended me after she passed the college exam in one of the "prestigious university" in my country and I cant even afford to take the exam. Different stories but same ending.
These dresses are hideous. I wouldn't wear that for free.
Omg I watch your channel!! 😃
@@nycpells07 hehehe hi!!
not everyone is as rich as you are gurl, that was their best choice with the budget...
luckily nobody is asking you to
Llama Del Fid there surely would have been nicer dresses in that budget
It was awesome that the bride was willing to help out a bridesmaid financially
She is NOT saying she doesn't love the bride. How rude to out her in such an awkward position.
The first purple dress Krista picked out was my absolute favorite for a bridesmaid’s dress like the ruffles are absolutely hideous
Augh the "accordian" was ugly
Ikr
They were all ugly
This chick did that on purpose. Like she was trying to get them to be in the ugliest thing she could find. Eww lol what a bad friend...
My cat is so Handsome it’s not your wedding DONT judge!
How could you humiliate your friend like that? If you know she can’t afford a $200 dress, pay for it for her. It’s your wedding you pay for it. And you organise it privately with her.
Technically, the bride is not responsible to buy dresses for the bridesmaids. They put money in their dress, the wedding, location, food and other wedding essentials. The bridesmaids are specifically informed that they have to provide their own funds for their dresses and shoes. That’s how weddings traditionally work. Now, if the bride is generous enough, they will buy their bridesmaids their dresses. If you cannot afford to buy your own dress, then come as a guest. I’ve had plenty of good friends ask me to be their bridesmaid and had to pay for my own dresses, only one wedding I couldn’t be a bridesmaid because I have kids of my own and couldn’t afford one. So out of respect I came as a guest because it just doesn’t fit having a bride pay for your stuff. It’s almost like asking to be maid of honor only to come out that you can’t afford throwing the bachelorette party, buy wedding essentials and bridal shower. Just doesn’t make sense.
@@ImYourHuckleBearer idk, in other country. But in my country, the bride pays for the braidesmaid dress. About this situation, doesn't that bridesmaid said that the bride knows her situation "rebecca knows my situation".
@@paulinawinter8188 Same here in our country. It's rude to ask your support(bride's maid,groom men, etc) to pay for their suits or dresses. If want extravagant wedding, you must have the budget. But if not, just have your marriage in the mayor's office and that's okay.
@@ImYourHuckleBearer In old-school families like mine, we still cling to the belief that the wedding costs are assumed by the family of the bride, and that is actually still very common in a lot of families and cultures. It's horribly arrogant for the bride to expect her bridesmaids to pay for the dresses AND not discuss the budget with them and try to work something out where if money is an issue, there's help. One can't assume that just because you ask someone to do it, doesn't mean that they are in a position to afford it. I was a single mother who had to work 2-3 jobs just to make ends meet and make sure that my daughter had everything she needed. I was approached by a woman who had been a friend for over a decade and she tried to give me the budget of $600. She actually got very angry and ended our friendship over the fact that I told her that I had to put my daughter, myself, and our home first and I just didn't have that kind of extra money to spend on a dress. *shrugs* When I married my husband, my family paid for EVERYTHING. That's like asking the guests to pay money to attend the wedding. It's just in poor taste and it creates tension in what should be a joyous occasion.
A $200+ dress that's not even pretty or in her comfort zone is asking for allot. My dress was so much cheaper, allot prettier, and long. It looked elegant. I paid for it because I agreed to be a bridesmaid, if I couldn't afford it I would have said no. But my friend wanted us to choose what we felt comfortable in and to choose something that fits our unique styles aslong as the colors were either the same or similar shades. However I do believe if you (aka the bride) have a certain/particular image and want your bridesmaids to wear something that's not comfortable for them and demand it then you should pay for the dresses as it's something the bridesmaids clearly won't wear again. You can't expect someone to spend so much on demand for your image. Blame can also be put on the woman who agreed to be a bridesmaid knowing she couldn't spend atleast $50 on a dress even if she were to like it.
I'm so annoyed with the manager... You mean to say that she couldn't read between the lines?! These people are so hungry for money that they don't even care if they push someone to pay for something they don't have.
She shouldn’t have agreed to be a bridesmaid if she can’t afford a dress honestly.
It's so weird that Americans make their bridesmaids pay for their dresses - in other countries, that's considered rude and completely unfair to them, not to mention obnoxious of a bride to pick the dress and then expect her brides to pay for it. Krista clearly felt humiliated having to admit that she couldn't afford the dress - the bride should've paid for the dresses as a matter of course, instead of putting a friend in that position.
My thoughts exactly! I was like wtf, the bridesmaids have to pay for a wedding you’re asking them to be in?! I’d never make my bridesmaids pay for anything. Even in the weddings I’ve stood up in I never paid. Horribly selfish culture
well that’s in other countries 🙃
In Brazil the bridesmaids also pay for the dress.
Kinda unfair for you to spend so much planning a wedding and still have to pay for other peoples outfit.
right? it’s stupid. you decided to get married; you decided to have a bridal party. why am i paying for that? i’m not having a wedding party at my wedding but even if i did, i would be paying for my bridesmaid’s dresses. i’d feel guilty otherwise.
Same in Sri Lanka. The bride pays for the bridesmaids' dresses. Honestly, even the groom's men's outfits are paid for by the couple getting married.
$220-260 is ridiculous for a dress she won't wear again because it's hideous...
My bridesmaid dress cost 240 and I wore at least 20 more times
@@morganterrell3753 that seems fair. It's value for money, she'll probably only wear that dress once so it's not worth it. If it were a nice navy blue or black dress it would he more of an investment in a piece of occassionwear. Initially they were choosing their own dresses so she'd have been able to get something she'd have reworn but I don't know that she'll ever wear what she ended up with again
I’ve been a bridesmaid several times and never once did I wear one of the dresses again. I’ve also been strapped for cash sometimes when it came time to buy them. But I understand being a bridesmaid costs money, and I would be very honest with the bride up front. In some cases (like choosing between a dress and feeding your kids), it might be better to decline and offer to do something else. It isn’t necessary to put yourself and the bride in such an uncomfortable position.
Why can’t you rent bridesmaid dresses from bridal shops like the guys can just rent tux’s, i get why the bride buys her dress, as its from her special day, but why do people need to spend so much money on bridesmaid dresses.. I mean they are useless after the wedding anyway and you can’t even resell it since everybody need to wear matching dress’s.
@@BeanieBae there are rentals. I've found the ad for one here in UA-cam by following related videos once. They offered some measure of fitting and also the option to buy it if someone wanted it because they liked it or as a keepsake.
It’s disgusting the fact that the bride knew the bridesmaid’s situation and STILL pushed for a dress that she couldn’t afford, I would run at that moment
sweetest bride that’s ever been on this show
I don’t get why brides expect their bridesmaids to pay for their own dresses?? It’s a cost of the wedding! I would NEVER expect my girls to pay for something I want them to wear! Madness.
Naomi W. Lit rally madness luv x
My bridesmaids bought their own dresses, but they did so as a wedding gift to me. They chose the style, I chose the color, and at any point if they couldn’t pay or no longer wanted to as a gift to me, then I was gonna pay.
I feel like that’s how it should be.
Issa Vibe I was thinking same thing hahahaha
jem intensifies that’s what I’m going to do for my wedding. My bridesmaids are gonna have the same color, but they can choose the style that they like! Also we’re super chill and not “fancy” people so I’m sure our dresses aren’t gonna be extremely expensive.
A wedding is A lot of money and my sister let the bridesmaids have a different style dress but sales color and they pay for it themselves. I personally think that the bridesmaids should pay for there own dress because depending on the wedding and the dresses it is just too much extra money for the bride/family
As a mom of 4, I completely empathize with Krista.
Shellie CawfeeMama i have one child and I wouldn’t be able to afford such dresses 👗 plus not so pretty
as just a human being even without kids and no particular other responsibilities other than rent would still understand! And they're supposed to be the closest friends in your life..
I don't even have kids and I totally get her. Bride was rude
Right, but expecting to pay 20 dollars for a bridesmaid dress is not realistic.
@@evelina2363 My aunt got a dress from Burlington for my mom's wedding, got lucky on the day she went to actually buy it and found it $13. If the bride had actually taken her situation into account and searched somewhere else first Im more than sure they would have found something, prettier than that dress even.
The bride should pay for her bridesmaid dresses.
They are such awful people. She's knows her position and still blasts her on tv? And the manager had the audacity to say to "make compromises"? WTAF
Its 2019 guys, why is every dress looking like its 2009 prom?!
Literatouristin I think this is an old episode
This is most likely from 2009
How can you not tell how old this episode is 😂
hey I was a part of Prom 2009 and nothing I saw was this bad XD
The first one 🤢
krista looked so embarrassed, i felt really bad for her dude
In my country, bride choose the bridesmaids dresses and pay for it. No body argues and give their full support to make the wedding beautiful ❤️
Ohhhh how sweet i almost tear up. It happened to me befoore ages ago thank Gos i i had found a true who understand and supported me in my trials and difficulties. ❤
This made me so mad, the girls made her seem like a opinionated jerk until she literally had to say on TV that she can’t afford any of the dresses. It’s so unfair to ask someone who has that much of an income difference to be part of the bridal party if you aren’t going to immediately offer to cover costs up front. I would’ve been so embarrassed, I’ve been in a similar situation where I couldn’t afford what my friends were doing, it’s horrible to go through
@Teanna :D you don't know her finacial situation or her personal life. Some people are broke and you have to accept that. And you also don't realize probably when she was told the news of her becoming a brides maid. There are so many unknown factors so don't blame her for that.
+ Teanna :D
She didn’t make it about herself. She was asked to become a bridesmaid. Anyone not wanting to upset said bride would take up that offer. Not everyone has the backbone to outright say “no”. On top of this, if you’re close enough to someone to ask them to be a bridesmaid at your wedding, you should already know their financial situation and be willing to assist them off the bat without assuming they’d just pull through. It’s not a fair situation.
As you comment on what she “should’ve” done, you’re merely placing down what you would’ve done in that situation. Because as a person, I’ll bet you will have the backbone to actually say “no”.
Perhaps it isn’t even hard for you to do so. However, people are not all the same.
So instead, it’s best to understand her actions rather than blame her and input things like “she should’ve done this”. Some moments are so sudden you can’t even think properly.
And even if she did have the time to think about it, I bring up the point that she probably wouldn’t have wanted to upset said bride. And still come to the same conclusion. What’s done is done. There’s no reason to place blame on anyone.
† Sebastian † well said
Teanna :D I don’t think she made it all about herself if anything you see her trying to not come out and directly say her financial situation to stop the attention from going to her. Also there are times when even if you are doing poor financially you still want to be part of such an important moment to someone you care about. Maybe the bridesmaid wanted to be there for her friend and was hoping the price wouldn’t be too far beyond her budget.
It’s also getting more and more expensive to be a bridesmaid these days. It used to just be about helping your friend plan the wedding and showing up on the wedding day. Then there’s bachelorette parties. Now there are destination bachelorette weekends and the bride doesn’t pay for any of the activities, and the costs are spread among the bridesmaids. I’ve been a bridesmaid 3 times and have had serious conversations w other bridesmaids on the budget. Talking to people about your finances is difficult, especially when you’re treated like a “bad friend” for not being in the same financial situation as your friends.
They sell those same dresses at JC Penney or Macy's for $50 plus 30% off 🤦
K m IKR. like, I’ve seen similar ones at Nordstrom for 50 bucks, and they’re way prettier.
Well at the time it was probably really popular, and I think that’s why the price was higher.🤷🏻♀️
K m IM FUCKIN WEAK🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
😂 I think this episode was filmed in 2011
I'm glad they were understanding. You could tell she didn't want to admit she didn't have the money for it.
I was the maid of honor in my best friend’s wedding. She had one bridesmaid, her sister. Knowing that her sister and I were both very limited on funds, she found a gorgeous lilac dress online for under $40. IMO it looked SO much nicer than every single bridesmaid dress I’ve seen on this show. It’s one freaking day, who cares how much the dress costs as long as everybody loves it. Even her wedding dress was less than $200.