Sensitive vs. Responsive: Making Peace with our Autistic Nervous System
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- Опубліковано 10 лип 2024
- Autistic people are often told they're "too sensitive." Replacing the word "sensitive" with the word "responsive" can be an empowering change for people on the autism spectrum. This video explores the important connection we have to our nervous system.
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If people were more sensitive or more aware we’d have less damage to the world.
Yesterday I had a dental appointment. There were two different radio stations playing loudly in my area--bad country music and bad jazz piano. The dentist was humming another tune entirely. This was really bothering me, but I thought "I'm the sane person here. The only reason these people can stand all this chaos is because they are completely turned off on a sensory level."
Multiple songs together is the worst! I always feel bad for snapping at my kids (who are 16+ years old, mind you) but if there’s music playing and they hum something else it just tortures me.
I totally hate whistling. Drives me nuts.
🤯 love the swap of "I'm the sane person here"
That's an excellent way to describe it!
I started violently shaking last time I was in the chair, was so embarrassed 😳 started to cry and apologized profusely.
Who else is very reactive to things like the music swelling during a movie? For me, it's literally like turning on the tap because of the instant tears. I used to think it was an emotional thing but now I wonder if it's also a mild meltdown reaction to the increase in noise. Either way, this has always been something I rather liked about myself. I think of it as a sign of a really big heart ❤️
Yes! I cry all the time! 😭
@@whitneymason406 😊
music swells definitely do something to me!!! interesting connection, I'm glad you brought this to our attention!
It helps me enjoy the music more.
That is exactly how I feel when watching movies, or even listening to soundtracks afterwards. I get emotional very easily with music. It makes music seem all the more magical. It’s nice to know I’m not the only person who feels that way.
I am a 61 year old self diagnosed person on autistic spectrum. It is unfortunate that we call this a disorder. I like to think that our differences are evolutionary. Our sensitivity can be our super power.
Another great video. I am a 63 year-old self-diagnosed autistic. Just like there is nothing wrong with being very sensitive/responsive, there is nothing wrong with things ‘woo’. More and more people are realizing that everything is energy and becoming conscious of that just means that you’re waking up to a new dimension of life.
💯 absolutely!
Couldn’t agree more!!
Exactly 💕
Wow! I can't begin to count the times I've heard, "You are just being too sensitive." Thanks, Taylor.
This is exactly why I will probably never tell my family of origin about my diagnosis, because they have always dismissed me as being "too sensitive, too overreactive, too excited, too talkative, to moody, too..., too much!". I have had to set barriers to continue to communicate with them and they don't understand that either. It's difficult!
Sometimes people don’t want to understand, better to leave the boundary there for that.
I can totally understand that, I am still waiting for an Assessment and I am not sure If I want to Talk with my Family about it for exact this reasons. My Father was the worst case an I refused to see him for ten years now. I still often get the coment why I do that, it's such a long time now, it should be good now, shouldnt it? Family is very exausting 😅
Yes definitely protect your energy and emotional resources. Some people don’t make an investment in learning more about things they don’t know and its a waste of energy to try and change someone who doesn’t want to change. Self validation is so important! And there are many here who will also validate your experiences.
@@MomontheSpectrum Thank you and everyone so much for the support. It is really hard when people start playing old tapes and "shoulding" on you to manipulate you to behave the way they want. Since diagnosis, I am finally standing firm with my boundaries after all this time. It's great to have a supportive community!
I find that Jesus is my Joy and Strength. I’m 55 and just realizing that my grandchildren got this diagnosis genetically, from my dad and from me. I’ve not been popular in life, have had many challenges, but Jesus is everything to me. He made me and knows how to soothe my heart. I won’t do yoga and will only meditate on the verses of the Bible and God’s blessings in my life. Thanks for your hard work in putting out these videos.
I ❤ that you explain autism in the context of the nervous system because hundreds of millions of people worldwide are affected by neurological "conditions" and perhaps this will help people understand autism more accurately. I have several neurological conditions which cause sensory issues and executive function challenges; ADHD, a dysregulated autonomic nervous system (POTS), and Neuropathy. Growing up I was criticized for being "so sensitive" and "emotional". I suppose this IS what insensitive and toxic people say to those who use their words to convey their emotions and feelings of discomfort or pain. :)
Weird - We Experience Individual Reality Differently, just came up with this.
I LOVE THIS!!! 💖😄
Me too 🥰
Me three 😅
Growing up I was always encouraged to be less ‘sensitive’ and less ‘weird’. I am happy I wouldn’t ( and couldn’t) listen. I did learn to be an oscar winning actress but the only way I think I coped for as long as I did without any diagnosis is having horses in my life. They are the best for making you mindful and as of yet I have never met a horse that will judge you for being you. Animal therapy is the best
Wow. I used to tell myself “I could have won an Oscar for that” but I’m not so good at doing that anymore. These days I can’t mask so good.
@@michaelfreydberg4619 Feeling your masking skills are failing is a sign of autistic burnout. You may want to consider trying to set up a no/minimal masking and lots of special interest time vacation for yourself. Even a couple days where you can let it all go and just dive shamelessly into whatever makes you happy can work wonders for your mental health.
100%. Horses demand that you slow down, be present, and give them your focus. But you’ll 99% of the time get the same level of commitment and focus from them. Horses don’t play head games, they don’t manipulate, they aren’t full of malice. What you see is what you get, and in the complicated world of frustrating humans that is so refreshing.
I’m glad you mentioned autism impacting the way some of us meditate. I always struggle with standard meditation techniques and some friends keep telling me that I need to try harder. No, you try harder! 😂
What works better for me than meditation is rhythmic breathing apps...
I can't visualize the guided meditations and relax at the same time. Sometimes I get in the same zone if I exercise, though. It's as close to meditation as I get!❤️
@@LEO91968 me too! It’s always achieved through doing something physical. Walking in nature, working out, yoga
If it wasn't for us, mankind would still huddle around the camp fire, in the cave having small talk.
Yes!
Thank you. Your comment "the world needs everything that you are" really spoke to me - so I made a note of it and will remind nyself of the truth of it whenever I feel bad about myself - I'm a very late diagnosed adult! I'm working with an autistic adult who has rejection sensitive dysphoria and I think this video could be of help to them.
Yes those words 'the world needs everything that you are' spoke to me too - a wonderful reminder in challenging times and to be true to oneself 🙏
You speak right into my heart! For years I have been told, “you are so sensitive!”. I have always preconceived things on a much deeper level and was able to predict things much sooner than most people. More than too often I get accused of being “paranoid” or jumping into conclusions. I end up in too many very traumatic situations, one after another not knowing why, and blamed or faulted for it, and still not able to figure out what I did to cause the whole thing. I express thing better in writing than I do verbally, and that gets me into so much trouble as to those I write to such as spiritual guides whom I trust get angry and ask me to stop. Others find it too much. No I no longer write except in journals. When asked to speak, I often can’t and am very clumsy. I am not diagnosed, but seeking a diagnosis and hoping someone will listen. It is hard to find someone in the profession field who understands what an autistic spectrum is in adults.
My mom always described me as having a very soft heart.
I’m 20 seconds into the video and already had to comment. ‘The nervous system’ always reminds me of a comment I read ages ago -
‘Which nervous system? All my systems are nervous!!’ 😂 which is too accurate for me lol.
Okay now I’ll shut up and watch the video. 😅
Haha!!
'Let's create new ways of doing things and let's do it unappologetically'. Loved that and great to hear this encouragenent! 🙏Thankyou💖
Thanks for this, Tay. I love the idea of being responsive and unapologetically weird. I've been told I'm too sensitive but I now understand that's gaslighting and I'm able to brush it off more quickly than before. Thanks as always for your great content.
You’re very welcome. Thank you for your kind comment.
I like that responsive “prepares” me for response , rather than sensitive - to suppress the emotions.
It feels like I'm on edge all the time. It helps with my career (law enforcement) but it makes personal life difficult.
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I suspect that is heightened awareness based on training.
There’s a really great app called Universe of Emotions that can really help if you’re like me and you’ve been stuffing your “too sensitive” side down for decades and realise that everything has become very confused. I think it costs a couple dollars but I’ve definitely got my money worth out of it and I’m on my way to understanding things so much more.
Awesome video, Taylor 😊
Back in school, in 5th grade I was voted "most embarrassed student" and then another year I was voted "most sensitive student". 🤔
I recently moved in with my old childhood best friend of 15 years. We hadn’t spent much time together for the past 6 of those years and now I’ve realized how much we’ve both changed. She is loud, goes out of her way to belittle people and put others down as a “joke”. She says she can’t stand to be around lazy stupid people and sometimes I feel like her comments are directed at me.
I have recently come to the understanding that I am on the autistic spectrum through the help and guidance of my sister who lives out of state. I’m just feeling really isolated and discouraged by my living situation and constantly feel like I’m walking on eggshells. I would appreciate any advice anyone has to offer
I’m having a really hard time
1st please ghost your childhood best friend, she is a TOXIC NARCISSIST , toxic people do not change and will only bring you down..those of us on the spectrum are usually of above average intelligence , with more integrity and honesty then most people..we usually have ocd, sleep disorders, depression and anxiety disorders.. i have learned it is ok to spend most of my time with myself and my dog as most people are highly irritating,,anti depressants did little to help,, adderall has been the most helpful med as i actually have energy to make it thru the day, which also helps my sleep,, please see a clinical psychologist if possible to help diagnose the ASD.
I had an argument at work for this. I complained very vehemently about my workstation being always ripped apart for pieces (like the mouse, the printer and so on) and I was treated like a kid having a tantrum. I managed to explain that I choose always the same workstation because I know what I'm working with (if the mouse doesn't scroll down or the printer is a bit 'aggressive') so I avoid having surprises and I think that's a valid opinion, even without playing the 'I have autism, if you change things you'll drive me insane' card!
Also I find highly disrespectful that somebody can just take pieces from a workstation and never bring them back. No. You need that? Sure, take it, but once your shift is over you place the thing back in position, cables and all, you don't leave a mess for others to cleanup!
Wow!!! So, true!!! It seems like my whole life I was told that I didn't have a right to take up space! I'm almost 55 and I'm just starting to realize that I have just as much right to take up space as anyone else! That was a really great video!
My dad points out that I’m sensitive when I’m showing big emotions (aren’t they all? Lol) but not in a way to belittle or mock. He does it in such a way that he’s validating my emotions and makes me feel ok to be that way
I do find power in my sensitivity, but in my mind I’ll call it responsive
This brought me unexpectedly to tears. I absolutely love the perspective shift from sensitive to responsive. Thank you!
So glad it is helpful to you!! It changed my world.
Same here! Sometimes I look at people and see most of them are NOT responsive and I can’t understand why. There is so much life happening, so much stimuli and noise and most people are not noticing it. And people label us as having a “disorder.”
Hi Tay. Just wanted to say thank you for making your videos. I discovered that I was autistic in 2021 at 36, still in waiting list for official diagnosis, which will hopefully be next year (UK NHS waiting lists 😭), but your videos have been so helpful to me understanding autism and more about myself as well as my 3 year old son, who is also likely autistic. Thanks
you're welcome!! thanks for your comment, Richard. Glad you're here!
I know the feeling - I started figuring it out at 32.
Thank you Taylor, I LOVE this. I love your intentional use of empowering and positive language and perspective. And I've become aware now (diagnosed at 37) just how much I need to heal my connection with my body after decades of learning to ignore it as I sit in discomfort and pushing through even as it was screaming at me.. and now dealing with the health repercussions of that learned behaviour. I want so much to learn a new way that not only heeds and honours my body, but that I can hear it in the first place, and priortise and nurture it so it can heal and hopefully thrive. Thank you for this video, it's just what I needed to hear. Please share more on this important topic, I think it's absolutely vital for Autistic people's wellbeing 💖🙏💕
There are so many forms of traditional meditation. Mostly we see a lot of Mindfulness or Za-Zen types, some relaxation types, but seldom see Mantra-Yoga or any active meditation types in pop culture. Meditation can be a excellent tool for communing with internal Emotional Parts as per Internal Family Systems and Frazer's Table or for exploring stream-of-consciousness examinations of philosophy.
Even "saying the rosery" is a form of Mantra-Yoga.
Thanks Taylor! Interesting topic and love the line about life on the spectrum being beautiful! I feel like as an autistic person, I can be incredibly more in touch with the world around me and deeply mindful when I tune in to my body's responsiveness. Thank you again for such helpful content, I am very grateful to have you as a voice on this journey.
You’re very welcome! Thank you for your kind comment.
Couldn't have put that better👍
So I just got tested for autism and she is saying that I won’t have it. But here are something’s that I did and do now. As a baby I use to bang my head bang on stuff, biting myself and biting my sister . Certain things I picked up on really quick and other things I kind of have to get a feel for before I know what I am doing. I am very picky with food. I don't like my food touching each other. I am very particular on how things had to be situated. If somebody moved my stuff I would know it because even if it was moved just a little bit I would get mad because I knew where I had it. keeping my things organized by size and color. All my stuff had to be separated by size as long as everything was grouped together by color. All my clothes I wear have to be soft. Don't like shoes or socks on my feet. Don't make eye contact with anyone. I can’t do loud sounds or certain lights. And the last thing is I do the hand flapping. I’m going to try to get a second opinion. What do you think I should do
I’m 21
Definitely get a second opinion 👍🏻
@@kimjohns6733 people say that I have it. But my parents never cared
@@Ash-eb3oo it sounds very much like high functioning autism. I would seriously consider going to another doctor for a better diagnosis. You deserve to know, even if it won't change how unique you are 😊
I had a co worker who couldn’t stand foods touching each other. His family couldn’t understand why he would refuse to eat at a buffet.
I don’t have that, but there are a lot of textures and tastes that don’t agree with me.
I love your perspective. I've been saying for a while now that the "D" in adhd,add, so-on, stands for "difference" NOT "disorder". Thank you.
My daughter is autistic. I love the wording you use. Especially “ one foot 🦶 on the gas pedal one on the brake.” It really gives me an eye opener on what she goes through. Also how her nervous system works. Myself I have seizures. I tell her we both have something that we can see but can be difficult to understand. Thank you for coming forward.
have you tried CBD for your seizures ? if not please give it a try..
Great video. I had similar thoughts but couldn't put it into words, you summarise it perfectly. I've quit all social media to be present and it has helped so much.
Love this!
This vid helped me understand myself way more, explaining so much. I haven’t been diagnosed and probably cannot do that without overwhelming risk. However, this helps.
Glad to hear it is helpful!
a while ago I started to understand any group of humans, and in the end humanity at large... as a superorganism. individual organisms connect (mostly through communication in different forms) and form a group that is more than just the summ of the individuals in it. it has it's own dynamic and is it's own thing that exists between and around the individuals that make it up. and thinking about a group of people as a superorganism makes a lot of things make sense. because it means, that we aren't looking at how successfull an individual is.. but how successfull the superorganism is. and having specialised individuals that are very good at one thing and therefore bad at an other thing can be an advantage for the superorganism, as long as the strenghs and weeknesses of the individuals balance eachother out. let's not even get into brain function at first. let's just stick with far and shortsightedness... if there are people in the group who can see very well what is far away and people who can see very well what is tiny and close in front of them... amongst the memebers of the group, the group as a superorganism has it all covered. same for brainfunctions. so you got people who are very responsive and get overwhelmed and have to be draged along in a dangerous situation so they don't get killed... they get overwhelemed because they are so responsive. but they also suck up more details and come up with new ways to do things that can be better than the old ways. and the people who didn't get overwhelemed, didn't get overwhelemd because they are not as responsive. makes them survive better in stressfull situations but also doesn't let them suck up as many details and come up with new ideas as easily... but togeter... as a group, they got it all covered.
Thanks, Taylor - I've been told I was too sensitive my whole life!
Thanks for this video. Very helpful. I recently experienced a series traumatic events which triggered a complete shutdown. Still recovering. Videos like this one really help with perspective.
thank you for all your information and energy. I just foud out about 4 months ago about my adhd/autism so it has been rough to undersand and your videos are amazing!
I'm 40 & throughout my life, I've heard that I'm too sensitive & I just need to suck it up like everyone else.
"you deserve to take up space." 😭 thank you, i needed that. 💗💕💖
oh also mindfulness & meditation & yoga have been instrumental in helping me navigate my audhd stuff.
Beautiful video, beautiful message. Thanks Taylor ✌️💕🌻
Does anyone go into the movies and find an employee and ask that the volume be turned down? The last time I went to a theater movie was when Covid started, and I didn't have a dx. My thinking was kids usually run the projectors, and their ears are damaged by loud music.
Ironically that sensitivity/responsiveness comes into play here. I'm so glad your videos are captioned because I often don't want/can't handle sound.
Really enjoy your videos. Thank you
Thanx Tay a brilliant video! For me it's spot on. I'm 75 years old awaiting diagnosis & have been told I'm too sensitive all my life, it's used as a put down. Maybe it's the other person who is insensitive & toxic.
Thank you for your clarity and your kindness!! And for continuing to make videos for us!!
It’s truly my pleasure! You’re welcome.
Going to the DMV all the lights and numbers saying what number always gives me anxiety plus not knowing the unknown like waiting for something but it's delayed I can't stand it .
Thank you. Great video.
Thank you!
No kidding! My mom complained about me being "too sensitive."
I can't thank you enough for the information you provide! There's many more decades of camouflage to peel back just thinking of the years. Could you recommend a channel for the 50+ ladies newly diagnosed (yay science!)??
The times I've heard "You're too senstive!" 🤮🤮 Thank you, Taylor and Dr. Williams for this word "responsive."
Thank you for making the video. It went for the perfect length for me haha.
Haha great to hear! Thanks for the feedback. 💓
The most nauseating smell experience I had as a child was in grade 3 at lunchtime, on the playground. Naturally there was food smell close by, probably mine, and it was a meaty food that smelt on the spicier scale of things. Unfortunately, our school being positioned next to a road, a van carrying sweet smelling goods passed by. It smelt like the color sweet pink and it was gross how these two smells meshed.
This is very helpful! Thanks. ❤
You’re welcome!
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Good Video! Thank you ❤
Yaaas. 💯 I'm so over being told that I'm not enough the way I am. Yes, I am, deal with it. 😉
I am 30 yrs old living in the Austin metro area of Texas. I really hope I can get an accurate diagnosis without it costing an arm and a leg.😬😬😬🤞🤞🤞
Hey community! What type of optional ways to meditate works for you? 🙏❤️✨ I need my daily double meditation.. After being mute ¬ communicating whole morning, while doing journaling, taking ice cold shower/bath, doing yoga (I also have back problems that require daily exercise, though since recovering my possible (likely) autism & adhd I've started to suspect that part of my continuing pains is not about the vertebras in my spine but about my overly active nervous system...), In the end of yoga I meditate laying down with "Body Scan meditation" (learned from Jon-Kabat Zinn, helps to alleviate pains also later during the day), and then additionally by being seated and concentrating to my breath. I seem to need all of these types of mediation - silence practice, journaling, ice bath, exercise, whole body relaxation meditation and breathing meditation - in order to function physically &mentally. I live in a community so my need for space/solitude is constantly being pushed.
Have you heard of “forest bathing?” (Bathe not bath) I think I have that right.
It’s an interesting idea of spending time being around green growing things. It’s supposed to be grounding and refreshing.
The way I do it is to really notice all the little details around me as I walk or sit somewhere. Clouds, trees, the light, the sounds, creatures, plants, sensations... Really sinking into the feeling of enjoying being present to that. It helps me a lot when I remember to do it!
Good differentiation 😊🎉❤
Hippy dippy woo woo
I love it 😁
I still get overwhelmed if i don't know the surround sound intro is coming.....
There are a few comments about the right to "take up space", which is one of my challeges/(triggers?), I get into arguments when out grocery shopping because someone always wants me to move so they can get to something that I'm looking at, at the exact same time. I get upset, feeling denied the right to "be where I am/take up space", they get upset when I deny them the right to bully me/shove me aside for their selfishness. I don't like to move, when they could politely wait for me to finish or go someplace else until I'm out of their way. I have a thing about "excuse me" doesn't mean "move", NOR is it Polite in the slightest in this context. Thus, arguments and loud voices ensue, because I do not back down when I know I have just as much "right to take up space" as the bullies. 💪
When are you having another seminar so I can join and see if it works with my work schedule because I really want to join because I’m at 20 years old and trying to make new friends that are on the autism spectrum and stuff and thank you
Check www.taylorheaton.as.me for availability :)
We have every right to have ADHD diagnosed and treated no matter what
I never thought about it before this video, but I can't hear "sensitive" without thinking of the gendered connotation of the term. I wonder if that relates to how boys are more often diagnosed as autistic - if "sensitive" is associated with female, then a boy who is "sensitive" is more likely to be labeled as abnormal...girls are expected to be "sensitive" so it's less likely to be seen as something "wrong"... Just an idea..
Curiously having been an active meditator (Vajrayana Buddhism) for more than a decade made me suspect that I am someone in the autism spectrum.
I’m a 30 year old male, I’ve had a lot of struggles through life regarding my experience of reality, mostly because my experience is so abstract to the norm and I was never able to articulate my perspective and experience and wasn’t taken seriously because I ‘present’ well, for lack of a better phrasing. I’m suspecting I’m autistic and have masked severely through life. I don’t relate to the need for routine, and I’m incredibly intuitive to people’s emotions which conflicts with what I’ve heard about autism. Like I’m weirdly sensitive to people. And a strong communicator generally (but I watch charisma videos so there is that 😂) But I’m in no way a linear thinker and have massive sensory perks and problems should we say!… to name a few examples. Like yoga for me is really sensory seeking, clothes I don’t like can really effect me in weird ways. To the point of almost painful if it’s that bothersome. From watching a few other of your videos I’m realising me singing and dancing is stimming, it’s a discomfort for me to not do it at times. But now I have a kid, family commitments and a full time job I’m experiencing burnout I’ve never had before and am having to make adjustments to accommodate things like dimming the lights because the lights exhausting sometimes. And now I’m older I suddenly find it almost impossible to pretend to be interest in other people when they’re talking at me. I only recently started considering I may be autistic, does anything I’m saying sound plausible ?
Could very well be autism. People manage to hide it well sometimes. I have a diagnosis but people don’t know I’ve got it unless I tell them and sometimes they don’t believe me even after I tell them. I can often “brute force” myself past a problem. Things that aren’t as intuitive for me socially I can often overcome it I need to think about it more. But the more people the more difficult it is. Talking to one or two people isn’t an issue but a group of people and trying to keep track of when it’s my turn to talk and remember to look into the eyes of the person talking and so on becomes to much. There are so many different ways of being on the spectrum. I got an Asperger’s diagnosis but now that’s considered just a part on the autism spectrum. I have a friend with autism who is very different from me. I got diagnosed at 24 and only because I had depression so talked to a bunch of therapists and one suggest I should be checked for Asperger’s but he got diagnosed early and it was clear from the start that he has it. He could never mask it because it was so severe and he didn’t have the intellectual capacity to “brute force” it either.
Why would I POSSIBLY want to fit into THAT mess! 😅
Let's be weird together!!! Hust wondering, do you have Synesthesia? Lots of people on the spectrum do ❤😊
one of my friends tends to tell me I'm too sensitive when it comes to my emotions when I'm upset. she says I am emotional too much.
I’m sorry. That’s so annoying and even angering to have someone say that to you! I got picked on by both family and friends for bing “too sensitive.” It didn’t help those relationships for sure!
Do you have video on reasons why we experience more poor treatment than others because I really can’t get passed it
One perspective that has helped me is to know that how they treat others is how they treat themselves. Standing up for yourself and not buying in to the lies but clinging to the truth and treating them the way you want to be treated will dissolve conflict and coach them on what is appropriate. And instead of pain, you will feel joy and even be gratitude for those that mistreat you because they reminded you of the truth. So what's the truth? You have control over how you respond and what you think about yourself.
Hi I am new to this community I am a 38 year old woman with ADHD OCD and autistic. Try to find out what to do now! I am so worried that I can not express my feelings out of fear of rejection, what to do with this information and who do I share my diagnosis with. Are these all normal thoughts?
Hey there I'm also 38 years old -- let's be friends! My name is Kristina I'm not diagnosed as being on the spectrum but I have panic attacks every day. My search for trying to regulate my central nervous system kinda led me here and I love this lady
I find fellow neuro divergent at Wondercon. We are happily weird.
Curious: is it "too sensitive" and "too responsive"? Or, "too sensitive" and "responsive*? I do like the word" responsive". Until now, I've eliminated "too" and have said "I'm sensitive", and it's who I am.
what are your thoughts on taylor swift's music
I like Taylor Swift. But I like most female pop artists. Selena Gomez, Lady Gaga, Britney Spears, Katy Perry etc. One of my favourites in recent years though is Ava Max “It’s ok to be different cuz baby so am I” I love that song. As well as the song Salt. They are all good.
Yup run run run away so fast !!! - nope STOP - breaks screeching 🤪
Hippy dippy woo woo lol
Why not go ahead and get licensed? Pell grants could help??
I thought the Life-Script defined the _rules._ It did not make me happy.
I chose not to marry. So I rebelled.
Have you tested your DNA? Mine confirmed my genealogical research into who passed the ASD gene onto me frm my 13th Great Grandfather.
Great point. Yet "sensitive" is also gendered female, so we need to also reclaim it or yield to patriarchal and toxic masculinity as the norm.
Females have bigger areas of the brain dedicated to emotion so they do in fast experience more emotion.
Taylor you are beautiful. ❤
I think I just understood something about why kids movies about robots bonding with children make me cry so hard (iron giant, big hero 6). Thanks so much for your channel!!