I fell in love for a single mother and became very close with her daughter. The night she broke up with me and ended our relationship I was walking out to leave and I got halfway to the car and her daughter yelled for me to wait. She came running to me and gave me a big hug and told me that she loved me. I gave her a hug and a kiss and looked up and her mom was looking at me from the balcony. I told her goodbye and that’s the last time I ever saw her. That shit about ripped my heart out of my chest. I don’t ever want to experience that shit again.
Same man! Me and my ex her son was 4. And me and him were inseparable! And it was harder losing him than my ex! But it made me wanna be a Dad. Was the lesson I learned. But man I was sad!
bad luck bro. but that doesn't mean all single moms are like that, maybe you might find that single mom who is your exact other half. don't miss out on a good thing because of bad experiences in the past i guess. my point being, whether she's a single mom or not, don't just cast out people, get to know them, now that you have already been through this scecnario, you know what kind of traits and behaviours to look out for :)
@@xyr3sNo he doesn't; that's the point. If men could tell which women would break their heart after months/years of dating, we would never date them. The fact we don't know is why he says he'll never date a single mother again; because the breakup was twice the heartache.
Never let a woman shame you into a relationship. You have the right to start your own family. She already has her family. There is no reward in being a stepfather.
It's ironically funny how she said it takes a very high alpha male to raise another man's kid. Ironically enough a very high alpha male would be the least likely to do it
Never date a single mom who thinks YOU are lucky to be with her. If she’s not acknowledging that you SHES the lucky one for you having given her a chance then bolt!!
Unfortunately, that attitude might not come out until after you marry her and by then it's too late. Best way is not to take a chance on a single mother. Let some guy that's desperate for companionship take that chance and responsibility. If you date a single mother and you get her pregnant, like my friend did I will laugh at you, just like I laughed at my friend for being an idiot. If you absolutely don't want to take the chance of getting burned; Don't go near the fire
Amazing to me how in 2023 men are told and encouraged to date the single mom but we can’t encourage or tell women to date the nice guy who won’t make you a single mom in the first place…
@@chanceklein And then we be like what's the definition of misogyny, ladies. Most of them will be like "uuhhhhhhhhhhhh". What a clown world we live in.
The trouble with all of the BS rhetoric of the single moms is that those "men" that they claim are plentiful and willing to be part of their lives and be a stepdad, are not the "men" that they want.
I will say that the only men who shouldn't date single moms are men who don't have kids. I seem to see a lot of dead beat dad's talking about single moms.
What she is trying to say is... a low value beta male provider that she would brushed aside in her early prime days will now come in to shopping her up and willing to be that savior of her kid just to have a shot with her.
As a man without kids, i dated 2 single moms, and it was the worst mistake ever, *they want you to have all the responsibilities without authority *You'll never be her priority *She will always be in contact with her ex (and something might happen again) *If something happened you have no legal right to see those kids again. MORAL OF THE STORY, STAY AWAY FROM SINGLE MOMS,
It's a bad deal for men, and women don't give a moment's thought how that bad deal affects the man. Let them be alone with their kid or sleep around looking for the next sucker.
@@janecole44 My ex wife used to text me all the time offering bootie calls. It only stopped because I stopped it when I started dating someone else......
The lady in red's approach was similar to a car salesman trying to sale you a 2004 Honda Accord that has over 200K miles with hail damage and a dent in the bumper and trying to convince me that the price is still its original 2004 value of $20,000. I've always said that instead of shaming men for not wanting to take on your ready-made family, go back to child's father and finish the family you created.
Dating a single mother is the single BIGGEST L that a man can take in life. You have ALL the financial responsibility ALL the protection responsibility and NONE OF THE AUTHORITY! you will eventually lose her and the kid and you won’t have access to that kid due to it not being yours. Men will never ask financial or any responsibility for their kids to a woman, a woman will always REQUIRE it from men.
How many times do these single mothers leave the step Dad when her brats have moved out of your home and don't need your support? Believe the stat is 75%. Of course she takes 1/2 of everything on her way out - they are such a good deal - man up.
unless the baby daddy was a shit person who peaced out when he found his girl was pregnant and didn't have the stones to handle the consequences of his actions or she's widowed.
@@xyr3sMen want sex, women want commitment. Why is it men's fault that women give up sex without commitment? Maybe if people recognized actions and consequences, and had more control over themselves, they would not do actions that have negative consequences.
@@fatmonkey4716 if you are man enough to fuck without protection, u need to be man enough to handle the consequences. Man or woman. If the woman says she doesn't want either to use protection? Have some discipline and fucking walk away.
The girl in the red is just pure comedy 😂😂😂 -tries shaming men into saying alpha is raising another man’s kid -has her tots out saying she’s an excellent mom -strings her kid along on her work thinking he cares -has no ring and thinks she’s “high value single mommy” -can’t hold down a man but somehow she’s so high worth
Priorities for single moms are: herself, her child, her parents or her besties, her ex and then her relationship. So in case you have a relationship with a single mom, you will be at best 5th priority. I know because I have been there.
Women don’t get the right to decide what an alpha male is in the first place, the fact that this woman thinks that she can redefine what an alpha male is to suit her narrative is astounding
Right now I am average guy who makes bare minimum. I have rejections by the truckload. I am working my way up. In another year or so, I strike it rich, then I become Alpha man. I don't have any intention of giving any of these woman any respect, compassion, empathy that they deserve, not even bare minimum of it.
As a widower i raised 3 children . 4,6,and 12 . Now all grown , married and i have 8 grand children . Every woman that approached me ran when they found out i had children . Thats the flip side . I never remarried . No regrets and no worries. Ive had a wonderful life with my children . Brought them up in a Christian household . Every weekend we have a family meal . And life is good . Drama free .
@ronaldolweiler7745 women who are widows her lumped into the category of single mom and are automatically considered toxic when they did nothing wrong. So.... yes, it should be the same for men. Your statement falls under the "it depends" mentality, which in itself is a toxic trait (according to men today).
@ronaldolweiler7745 I'm a single mom right now thru no fault of my own. Her father went to war and came back broken and injured. He was on 12 pills a day for his ptsd and injuries. He could not cope and went into the VA hospital for treatment. I let him go because his flashbacks could leave us injured or even dead.... and I could not risk that. I have not had a serious relationship since, and my daughter has not known another man in the house. She turns 18 in June. I will not date again till she is old enough to take care of herself. But, all men think us women chose that for ourselves and don't even look our way. But.... when I no longer have a child in the house.....I can do the same thing.
@@rondasoutherland6882 for the record I have no issue with women not wanting to be a step mom I totally get it. It's practically impossible to set boundaries as a step parent.
That's the last thing women they come across innocent yet deep down the are like he better give me something in return everything a women does is for her own selfish gains
I tried the single mother game, she had three kids, I didn't mind, but she couldn't stop talking about one of her previous exes, the father of the oldest child. I wish she had made that clear, she will never get him back he wouldn't want her, and that was my clue to get the hell outta dodge...
Men always remember, that single mom that you chose to be in your life, would never even look your way if she didn’t have a kid. Have some standards for yourself and some self worth.
I tried to date a single mom. The kid`s father had died. Kid was 3. I said.... PERFECT! No dad in the picture, and the kid is young enough so I made the dating official. THe very next day her first conversation was... to purchase frivolous material shit and tried to manipulate me due to my kindness. Now, there really are good single mothers, BUT they are a very very rare commodity.
Leviahan, you said "perferct" to the fact that the kid's father is dead, just so you can fuck his mother!? You are the worst, and you deserve to get screw over by women!
The problem is many men have pressure from their family to continue his bloodline, and many average men can not get a woman of average quality. The only option they have is a single mom in order to have kids, or else its single theor whole life. Its very hard for a average man to be tall, have a house, good career, nice car, etc. Its easy to say just avoid single moms, but getting sex without a condom is very hard to do for many men, unless they find single moms.
Yeah that's why they go for single moms. They can't get themselves a fresh shorty and a single mom knows she can't have a stud to take of her and the kid so she goes to the sub5
@@6ft7guy probably better to just go mgtow and pay for sex, and call it a life. Its very hard for a average man to wife up any woman without kids, even if she has a high body count. Life is hard.
I was out with a single mom once. During the meetup she said she would like to have a male role model and a man in her kids life. I was thinking man that is selfish as hell. You’re not looking for a man, you’re looking for a one way beneficial utility for you and your kids. I was so turned off
@@stinger4712 He wants to be useful. I don't think accepting his help is considered me taking advantage of him. Whenever I've tried to reject his help, he basically forces it on me so now when I need anything I have already been instructed to ask him. He actually gets mad at me for trying to do things on my own or worst asking someone else. Who am I to deny him his chance to help and feel good about himself.
We don’t push women to accept broke guy or homeless guy….so stop pushing men to accept single mom like it’s was the best choice…. Stop saying it’s take brave men to accept single mom….we men want the best choice that we can had….
tho there are women who date broke guys like there are guys who date single moms lol. it's the same thing, if you're a broke guy and she provides everything, you need to give some thing in return, maybe you do the house chores or what ever just as if a guyhu marries a single mom, while her kid will always be her first priority even more than her own life, she should also show him appreciation for everything he provides for her and her kid and be a good wife and mom.
@@xyr3s it’s most important were the best choice that we gonna pick….everyone wants the best option….people doesn’t had options gonna take what they just had…that’s the main reason…stop pushing people to accept what’s not the best option…stop being beta dude…it’s not gonna make the pussy more wet….
Brave in female speak should pretty much always be translated to "stupid". Brave man to date a single woman. She's so brave to raise a child as a single mother.
Exactly. Women, even those who are figuring out Feminism sold them a pile of garbage, STILL think they get to set all the rules and run things. Not happening: they get to say yes or no to the initial meeting and whether to date; men get the say in who to stay with and pursue a relationship.
Feminism has them convinced that what women seek in men, men also seek in women. That’s why they try to get guys with crap like “I have my own house, a good job, I’m educated” etc. Like, girl, you’re describing a desirable MAN.
You have to remember that people sell you what they have If you go to Kentucky Fried Chicken, and if you want it chicken. And they were out they would try to sell you those nasty parfaits. Because that's what they have to offer. When people don't have what you want they try to sell you what they have
“All the responsibilities without the authority “- Myron Gains Which means she has the authority and you are not leading which means you aren’t the man in the relationship
Nothing. I guess your point is that used things have less value than new things. A single mother could reply that if you can't afford a new thing, a used thing is better than not having the thing at all.
Lady in red is SAYING everything she thinks we want to hear. Problem is we ALL KNOW there is every likelihood she’s going to flip the script as soon as she traps someone.
THE LADY IN RED HAS HER OWN BUSINESS, HER OWN MONEY AND FAKE TITS. SHE CLEARLY THINKS SHE CAN OFFER MEN SOEMTHING OTHER LADIES CANNOT. SHE IS WRONG. SHES GETTING TOO OLD TO HAVE MORE KIDS.
There's only one answer. Never date a single mother because there is a reason why she is single and why the daddy is not around. Run for the hills and find a good woman
Bs. Nr1 : after some years prople getting sick of each other is normal. Nr2: many marriages are still together while wife abd husband are miserable. Are you a kid or something?
@@Misha0013A relationship only works when both parties put the relationship above themselves. Relationships take work and dedication. You kids need to learn to be less selfish, lazy and impatient or you will never create the families that are the best for the children. The problems we as a society face now are direct consequences of the increase in single mother households.
As a child free woman, men with kids are a major turn off. I personally wouldn't date or marry a single dad. I don't want ANOTHER WOMAN'S crumbs, my first child should be YOUR first child as well and that's just my preference. If these men don't want to wife women with kids then that's their perogative, it doesnt make them less of a man. No one should be shamed for not wanting to deal with single parents, period.
Yup, even Russell Wilson is referred to as "the cleanup man." Unless the woman was raped, she controlled who she let between her legs. There are no Hallmark movies or after-school specials about the guy who wifed up the town bicycle and she took all his shit, and never let him see his kids.
The alpha is the first guy to sleep with her. After that, you can only go by the first person she born children to. As a stepfather, by definition you cannot be an alpha. If your woman is not a virgin, you are not the alpha in her situation. It's as simple as that.
I've tried it a few times. One time the mom was not a very good mom to her son, second time the mom talked about her baby daddy all the time and this last time my ex wanted to work things out with me because her baby daddy didnt want anything to do with her unborn kid. Before I said yes, i presented her with a question. I asked what would you do if the baby daddy suddenly wants to try to be apart of his kids life and work things out with you so that you guys could have a family together. Her response was I DON'T KNOW. That's when I said Peace out. Basically, Ive tried many times to date single moms and it's just not my thing. Good luck to all the amazing single moms out there.
being a single mother should be like an ex con.. you are ashamed of your past and understand the consequences to your present and future.. but for women: nah... they think they can have it all
@Deimonos85 many women are widows and become single moms due to their husband dying. I guess they chose for that to happen and somehow made a mistake, huh?
@@rondasoutherland6882 According to US Census data, the percentage of young widowed mothers in the US has declined from 16% to 12%. There are 15.78 MILLION kids living with single moms, while 60 thousand kids live with widowed moms (that's 263 times more kids with single moms than widowed moms for those in Rio Linda). That means "MANY" MORE womyn aren't widowed moms than are. There's what one expects to see, and then there are the outliers. Most Men commenting on the dumpster fire of modern relationships with womyn are willing to grant grace to widows, but that doesn't mean the general rule doesn't exist. There are, of course, womyn who become widows by their own hand. I don't think they should get sympathy.
I think a woman that lands a step dad would actually think the guy is a sucker for accepting them. They would think that man is dumb on the low. "I finessed him into taking care of another man's child". It's not the man they truly want.
you need to stop being such a pessimist lol. you say that like you know exactly what it is like being a single mom. even if that is the case, more power to the man who does become the step dad and gives that child an actual fighting chance at a good future because of having a good father figure in their life.
@@xyr3sum NO, he is right, women subconsciously know they are lower value due to being a single mother and all the high value men she has given sex never stuck around and then comes the simp who does wanna wife her ....she knows if he had better options that he wouldn't stay with her so she will NEVER subconsciously respect a lower value man but she will fuck for resources and companionship.
The problem with most single moms from USA is that they chose the man to get them preggo in the first place. Then she choses to Leave Him forcing herself to go through the single mom bs because its advertised in 🇺🇸 as the way to go. She wants unlimited options not a family nor accountability
Sorry but I would not date a single mom. You have to understand You will always be at the bottom of anything she puts before you even behind the cat or dog. You are only there for what you can do for her and then don't bother me. But kid needs this or that because I actually notice you from time to time. No thanks!
for you particularly, what should she bring to the table. i see a lot of other guys ask women this. "what do you as a woman bring to the table". i mean other than the normal wife stuff. like if you are looking for a trad wife, you date a woman who has that mind set. but what else does she need to bring to the table when guys ask this question? as a guy in my 30s, when ever i hear people ask this question, it confuses the shit out of me. do you mean like a dowry? or a nice car? sex toys? fettishes? kinks?
@@xyr3s a mans purpose is to provide and protect, he therefore needs to bring to the table all things related to that. a womans purpose is to nurture and support, she therefore needs to bring to the table all things related to that > wanting and being able to have healthy children (> age, fertility, health/not fat), being good with children, cooking, femininity (not being a masculine hog, knowing when to shut up, being submissive, supporting her mans decisions, etc etc). if you cant FEEL the answer to your question instinctively, i cant help you. this should be a primal gut feeling, this is not science.
@xyr3s Bro, if you don’t know what a woman is suppose to bring to a relationship then you're planning for disaster. Do you have any idea what you want in a woman? A few of my disqualifications 1. Poor health / obese 2. History of cheating or casual sex including sex work of any kind 3. Bad relationship with family, especially her dad 4. Materialistic or shallow 5. Hostility towards men 6. Infertility 7. Male orbiters 8. Immature or financially irresponsible 9. Poor housekeeping 10. Indecisiveness 11. disobedience or defiance 12. Drug habits of any kind 13. Smokers 14. Pets 15. Tattoos 16. Addiction to social media attention 17. Atheists 18. Vegans 19. Poor hygiene 20. Feminists
I respect Janelle but clearly all these pods shes been on doesn't help with her delusion. FNF already told her a few years ago that you cannot be masculine and feminine whenever you want. Janelle is a boss babe which is fine, but to find someone more "alpha" than her AND put up with a step child is crazy.
I told fellows these women will go on a show. Get all the answers and then go on a different show. Ask the same questions as if they didn't get the answers. And they still argue all the answers down they've already been given
THE STEP CHILD IS LIKELY A VERY GOOD SWEET BOY, JANELL IS LIKELY A BOSS DOMINANT I WANT WHAT I WANT FEMALE. SHES OLD . I DOUBT HAVING MORE KIDS IS REALLY A PRIORITY FOR HER. SHE LIKELY WANTS AMN WITH MONEY.
I am 40 never married no children because I made that decision- kids are hard work regardless how much people say they are proud of them or whatever. Respect the fact that some men just dont want to be with single mothers. Stop making men look bad just because of their personal preferences. Good men don't have to be a step daddy to somebody else's responsibility.
My Dad married my Mom after she was divorced and had four kids from another guy. That decision alone has caused so many problems in our family. All my siblings are half siblings and none of them respect my Dad even though he's the one who raised and did everything for them. They love and respect their biological Dad more even though he cheated on their Mother multiple times and couldn't be bothered to do anything to help raise them. It's so messed up to see them disrespect the man who gave them everything and love the man who abandoned and gave them nothing.
@@devilsadvocacy💯 Lady in red dress: a real alpha man would take care of my kid Man: well, shit...I can't have a woman I'm not even screwing call me beta, so I guess I'll try to fit your definition of alpha and take care of both of you! (Sarcasm)
i'd have to disagree. i would have more respect for a fellow man who actually marries a single mom if she's a good woman and gives that kid a dual parent household and that kid is raised in a good environ ment with good values. that's what the future needs. kids being raised by 2 parents. if every man in the world said what you said, the future would be a very dark place. not every single mom is a slut who doesn't use protection and loves to get creampied by 10 different dudes, maybe she's widowed, maybe they didn't want to have kids but due to bad luck, birth control didn't stick and she got pregnant and he peaced out. being a single mom and eing a horrendous human being is not mutually exclusive.
@@xyr3sI agree with everything you said! I know couples who have not worked out bc they got married too young and everything fizzled out when they got a bit older.. there's lots of deeper reasons...
@@xyr3syou are living in a fantasy world. How is a singke mother a good woman in the first place ? You want a man to step up ? For what ? "You ain't my real daddy"
Problem with the lady in red is she thinks having a kid with a new man is gunna trap him or keep him vested. It won’t. She keeps harking about “starting her own family” smh yeh no guy going for that especially older men. Til they 18? No.
Dating a single mother is like finding a 1980s game console. You think it's a rare find, but you find a saved game with only one life left and 1/4 life left. Yes, it's fun to play, but you can never win.
They typically used a password system, so you can start the game wherever and however you want. The rare few that used a cartridge save system ran off a battery which died out in the 90s. All the saved data is long gone.
More like you’re excited about an 80s game console because you have some great memories playing it with friends and family but then you realize the graphics sucks and the games suck.
Some years ago I was introduced to a single mother. Her 8 year old son was the most abnoxious kid I had ever seen. Just a thought that I will have to see him every day made me run away from the woman. It doesn't matter how good a woman is, there is another person you have to live with and that person is the punishment for choosing this particular woman. A single mom is for a beta man. There are plenty of them and if he is an average man he will go for it especially if a woman provides financial security.
8:02 no, no, no...she IS cooking. She's not wrong when she says that. Men who step up ARE absolutely great men. The *problem* is that 1. Men of that caliber really deserve much better than a broken situation they have to step in and fix. A lot of women know this, but unfortunately the way they express that they know this, is via self-sabotage rather than appreciation and respect. 2. In MOST cases, those men are far more disrespected and dissed than appreciated for the amazing people they are.
I've dated single moms and even married one. The simple truth is that the relationships weren't worth it except the marriage because I got to stay in my little girl's life after we divorced, and I don't pay anything. I guarantee most single moms would never marry if an unbreakable contract that guaranteed no alimony and no child support for stepkids was enforced 100% of the time. Also, women cap about their kids not needing a stepdad or whatever. Watch what happens if you don't get the kids a birthday present or take them to the game/movie/show/whatever. They always get mad, but they lie and say you don't have to take care of their kids. I ask if a woman has kids now, and I walk away when she says yes after that conversation.
if you're going to marry the woman, obv you have to tc of the kid. i mean has any single mom who got married to a man said "no dont worry about the kid, leave him be, come let's go fuck". lol
Imagine trying to convince a woman that a man that is world ranked in Call Of Duty makes him high value and that women were wrong or “intimidated by his success” in their reasoning for disagreement. This is precisely what single mothers do when they refuse to accept what men say they actually value instead of what these women are trying to shame men into believing.
I dated a single mother of 2. I told her from the beginning we are not getting together. She was 13 yrs my senior. I met her when I was 21. Fast forward 30 years we have a 27 year old. She was the best mom and partner until the very end when cancer took her. She had the same love, affection and sex drive towards me from beginning to end. I miss her so much!!!!!
@@janecole44 yet another example of why dating a single mom is bad, sure it was good but because she was older you didn't have as much time together as you would had otherwise and now you gotta carry that pain
Until women choose better men, this single mother debate will only get worse. Pick better men. Keep the family together to produce better children who make better decisions.
@@DTreatzRight that's the issue with shows like this,it gives off the impression that men need to justify thier choices. Which simply isn't the case but i will admit they are entertaining
@@chanceklein no one is. Unregulated dating markets end up like this. Whenever women think with their uterus or men think with their dicks nothing ends well. In other word people dont make good choices during safe times. When times are safe you are going to chase hotness as opposed to stability. No one wants a corolla or camry when you have a choice of driving a lexus... even if you cant afford it.
this goes contradictory to a lot of red pill messaging where "if you pay for the date, you should get sex on the first date". a lot of red pill guys are about getting more sex to pad their stats, that women should give it up to more guys instead of just the guys they find attractive because most guys are single and lonely. kind of a paradox :) red pill guys want to marry virgins but they also want to have lots of sex before marriage :D
I saw this podcast live. Shame, Insult, Guilt, and the Need to be right is so inbred that it's pathological. At the end of the day the overwhelming number of single mothers should focus on raising their children until they're adults. They can't do both and being a stepfather is just a bad deal.
Omg stop it. There is nothing good OR a little about dating a single mom Those days r over. Cry us a river... she hit the wall and wants you to pick up the slack for the father that isn’t there. 9:23
Made this mistake twice, it never ends well. She will always have you as the bottom of the list of beneficiaries of her time effort and love, after her son or daughter. Even if, and this was my circumstance, her son became a dirty useless junkie. My status was below the junkie!!
A single mom should want their child to be the main priority however, if I’m going to date someone, I want to be their priority so there is an instant conflict of interest. I did it once and I would highly recommend avoiding that situation.
I dated a single mom during COVID. She was bed-ridden and sick so I took care of her two daughters, ages 6&5, while she rested. She later broke up with me because I was “boring” and I never saw her daughters again. My heart broke.
It's amazing how women try to convince you that marrying a single mother is alpha. In the entire animal kingdom, the human being is one of the few species in which the male takes care of the children of another male.
@15:30 Also her saying women are selfless is the most insane statement I’ve heard this year. She thinks all people think like her or she’s trying to really sell herself to the market.
Single moms fail to understand their dilema because they're motivated by survival. The great man that will make them feminine and follow his leadership is better off with another woman because the mother and child can't help but have resistance to a new father, not to mention the emotional damage the kid has to deal with. A step parent is trying to form a bond through thought and effort where a biological bond is intrinsic. And this is with best case scenario that baby daddy is gone permanently. It boils down to nature, sorry ladies live with the consequences of your actions.
I kind of agree. I am a widowed mother and I am thinking I should just wait till my kids are grown to remarry. The only issue is I want to have more children and if I wait I probably won't be able to unless I can delay menopause. Plus I feel very lonely without a man.
@@carlosizz89 Well I have a boyfriend but I feel like we can't really be married or even live together till my children are grown. My boyfriend wants me to have a child by him but being that I was used to being married for so many years, the boyfriend-girlfriend relationship doesn't feel secure enough for me. I really don't want to end up a baby momma.
Remember Gentlemen, look at the kids face. Its a reminder of the dude before you who had her at her best. A woman with a kid ruins the entire thing for you, its the experience that she will rob you. If you find yourself with a woman who doesn't have kids. She gets pregnant and both of you go on this journey of the pregnancy, birth and you are there to cut YOUR child chord. As a team. When you get with a single mother, it won't be new experience since she already been there with some other dude.
There’s a very good chance the divorced single mom, left her husband, who was probably a good decent man. But social media has made these women believe the grass is greener and they deserve this fairy tale love from the perfect man. Good luck to the men who get with these women.
I'm a 39 year old guy who is overweight and far from rich, so I'm nowhere near the definition of a high value man. I still would not date any woman who had a kid, period. I understand that I'm not the type of women Chase and that's fine - truth is I would rather be single then be with the wrong person, and a single mother is the wrong person for me.
Hit the gym and get a skill (certifications/qualifications in whatever area you think you'd succeed and thrive). There are opportunities out there. No need to be overweight and broke. Good luck buddy 👍🏿
@NinoEl81 Im ok - I have a solid career and am in a happy relationship. Just making the point that if somebody like myself (who is fairly low on the scale of female desirability) won't even touch a single mom with a teen foot pole, then what hope do they have of finding their perfect 6ft 2 millionaire who will take them?
@@pete3198 Glad to hear friend. Yes we are allowed to have standards too and we should never settle for low hanging fruits. Let them get back with their baby daddies .
Half the problem is the "cope" women take when they say things like "I am not looking". The longer they wait, the worse it gets. Their looks will fade and their kid will grow up. Unless they wait till the kid is over 18 and moves out, it only makes a man want her less. After all if your adopting into a family with a baby, you can raise it like your own. If your new wife has a teenager for a kid your basically nothing to them. They won't ever view you as a father and your impact on their life is almost nothing. All you be there for is to pay for things like College, a car etc.
Women just don't like the idea that their dating options are restricted due to the fact that they have a kid. How can they secure their connection to Chad/pookie if they don't have an "accident" pregnancy? To women, they should have endless options in dating men until they die strictly off the fact that they were born a woman. That's insane.
That's literally what it is because there are many men who would date them. They simply don't want those men and so try and shame the men the do want into lowering thier standards
Very strange society where many people run away from responsibility. It should never be a problem for a woman with children to find a husband. My wife and me grew up 6 children and I do not care if the children are potty trained or not the only thing which is important to me is that we All trust in God and let Him handle everything.
Since when it's my responsibility to take care of another man's offspring? We are not talking here about women being widowed because their husbands lost their lives in a war. We are talking about women who didn't know how to keep their legs closed before marriage, or who were not able to honor their marriage vows (2 out of 3 divorces are initiated by the wife). Becoming a husband of a single mother equals to rewarding bad choices and behaviors. If you reward bad choices and behaviors in a society, be prepared to see them proliferating, and eventually your society being destroyed from within.
This whole topic is FOS. These women made huge mistakes by getting knocked up and having a child (or children) by dude(s) that they didn't marry and now these same women want to lecture men about why the single mother is an attractive option for men. Hogwash! Guys should also remember that that child, as soon as they are old enough to talk back to you and disagree with a decision you've made will be quick to remind you -- especially if it's a male child -- that you are NOT his father and therefore can't tell him what to do. No man wants to hear that BS.
My main Gripe is this, in a MARRIAGE your spouse always comes first that’s by Biblical and Legal standards. Having an outside child makes that more difficult because I come into the picture either I’m going to take the Back Burner or the child will have to take the Back burner I don’t want either of us to be in that position. Also something can happen to the mom and then what I’m stuck to a child that’s not mines. It’s different when the kid is yours because that’s Your assigned responsibility whether you like it or not. The best analogy I can think of is Getting Drafted to the Military Vs Volunteering to go. IYKYK
I did once and when she got up and left, it broke me when her daughter loved me and wanted me to be her dad after all the time i invested in her daughter. Heres the other problem feminist created, when a son is raise mainly or solely by a single mom, there is no masculine trait for that child to absorb. Theres no "son, lets go fishing, hunting, play catch" which will then lead to more feminine men, gay men, transgender women. The son is exposed to only feminine things during his development years so what do you think the outcome will be!
I am a single mother and what I have to give will surpass what a 25 year old will bring!!! Yassss kweeeeen!!!! Slay!!!!!! JAJAJAJAJAJAJAJHAHAHHAAHHAAHJAJAJAJS😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Everything is subjective to the people involved. I don't care how much any single mother tries to shame me, I won't do it again. I still, after 11 years, miss two children who weren't mine. So no, I wont date a single mother seriously.
I fell in love for a single mother and became very close with her daughter. The night she broke up with me and ended our relationship I was walking out to leave and I got halfway to the car and her daughter yelled for me to wait. She came running to me and gave me a big hug and told me that she loved me. I gave her a hug and a kiss and looked up and her mom was looking at me from the balcony. I told her goodbye and that’s the last time I ever saw her. That shit about ripped my heart out of my chest. I don’t ever want to experience that shit again.
Same man! Me and my ex her son was 4. And me and him were inseparable! And it was harder losing him than my ex! But it made me wanna be a Dad. Was the lesson I learned. But man I was sad!
That happens over and over again
bad luck bro. but that doesn't mean all single moms are like that, maybe you might find that single mom who is your exact other half. don't miss out on a good thing because of bad experiences in the past i guess. my point being, whether she's a single mom or not, don't just cast out people, get to know them, now that you have already been through this scecnario, you know what kind of traits and behaviours to look out for :)
@@xyr3sNo he doesn't; that's the point. If men could tell which women would break their heart after months/years of dating, we would never date them.
The fact we don't know is why he says he'll never date a single mother again; because the breakup was twice the heartache.
@@xyr3sWhy take that risk when you can be with a woman who doesn't have any kids.
Never let a woman shame you into a relationship. You have the right to start your own family. She already has her family. There is no reward in being a stepfather.
I 100 percent agree. People without kids should date each other. And people with kids should date each other.
it's taking a definite gamble as to how things will go, and the odds are not very favorable for taking that gamble
@@TheSulross Exactly! Divorce is 80% initiated by women. Would you jump out of a plane with a 20% your parachute will activate?
100% agree
Being a step dad is a THANKLESS JOB even KS knew
A 40 year old single mom thinks she can afford to wait for Mr. Right….delusional.
Ditto
This bitch said she wanted 2 more 😂 yeaaa okayyy
@@riyadgraham devon sharpe waited and found her man, a top .5 percenter named donovan sharpe. He makes 500k a year you know??
You mean like KS who thought He had time to make kids at 53 but instead died single alone with a hooker and some red bull😆🤔
hahahaha thas crazy @@liliiilllliiili
It's ironically funny how she said it takes a very high alpha male to raise another man's kid. Ironically enough a very high alpha male would be the least likely to do it
Exactly. A man raising another man’s child is a beta male provider and a cuck. Complete opposite from their perception of an alpha male.
Never date a single mom who thinks YOU are lucky to be with her. If she’s not acknowledging that you SHES the lucky one for you having given her a chance then bolt!!
Men want a desperate woman so they will stay through all their bullshit. Sad.
Facts!
PLEASE SHUT UP.
Unfortunately, that attitude might not come out until after you marry her and by then it's too late. Best way is not to take a chance on a single mother. Let some guy that's desperate for companionship take that chance and responsibility. If you date a single mother and you get her pregnant, like my friend did I will laugh at you, just like I laughed at my friend for being an idiot. If you absolutely don't want to take the chance of getting burned; Don't go near the fire
THE GUY ON THE PANEL ISNT HIGH VAUE OR HOT, EWWW
Amazing to me how in 2023 men are told and encouraged to date the single mom but we can’t encourage or tell women to date the nice guy who won’t make you a single mom in the first place…
You'd be called a misogynist.
Yep, had lots of chicks sniff around and I don't have the tattoo sleeves and gauges they apparently want lol
Society tells men to do what's best for _society_
Society tells females to do what's best _for them._
Fk society, let that shit burn.
You cooking
@@chanceklein And then we be like what's the definition of misogyny, ladies. Most of them will be like "uuhhhhhhhhhhhh". What a clown world we live in.
The trouble with all of the BS rhetoric of the single moms is that those "men" that they claim are plentiful and willing to be part of their lives and be a stepdad, are not the "men" that they want.
Boom
🎯
Facts
Placement holders until the men they want come along
I will say that the only men who shouldn't date single moms are men who don't have kids. I seem to see a lot of dead beat dad's talking about single moms.
"When I grow up, I wanna be a step-dad", says no real alpha man EVER.
Truest words EVER spoken.
Don't have to B an Alfa. It just doesn't make sense N 2023 moving forward
Say it again
What she is trying to say is... a low value beta male provider that she would brushed aside in her early prime days will now come in to shopping her up and willing to be that savior of her kid just to have a shot with her.
@@amandlaawethu1538why are you attacking biology? Don’t you think there’s a reason why almost every man dislikes it?
As a man without kids, i dated 2 single moms, and it was the worst mistake ever,
*they want you to have all the responsibilities without authority
*You'll never be her priority
*She will always be in contact with her ex (and something might happen again)
*If something happened you have no legal right to see those kids again.
MORAL OF THE STORY, STAY AWAY FROM SINGLE MOMS,
It's a bad deal for men, and women don't give a moment's thought how that bad deal affects the man. Let them be alone with their kid or sleep around looking for the next sucker.
MOST OF THR SINGLE MOMS WANT NOTHING T DO WITH EX.
@@janecole44 My ex wife used to text me all the time offering bootie calls. It only stopped because I stopped it when I started dating someone else......
Same here bro,I feel u …
No legal right, but they’ll legally tie you to a kid that isn’t yours
The lady in red's approach was similar to a car salesman trying to sale you a 2004 Honda Accord that has over 200K miles with hail damage and a dent in the bumper and trying to convince me that the price is still its original 2004 value of $20,000. I've always said that instead of shaming men for not wanting to take on your ready-made family, go back to child's father and finish the family you created.
Yeah she was one of the vilest man-eaters I've ever beheld.🤢🤮
MANE HE IS GONE AND SHE CANT FIND HIM. OR MAYBE HE REMARRIED.
nailed it 😂
have you seen what she has posted on line?
Dating a single mother is the single BIGGEST L that a man can take in life. You have ALL the financial responsibility ALL the protection responsibility and NONE OF THE AUTHORITY! you will eventually lose her and the kid and you won’t have access to that kid due to it not being yours.
Men will never ask financial or any responsibility for their kids to a woman, a woman will always REQUIRE it from men.
Only the extreme desperate no self- esteem having men, or _mentally ill_ men even consider single mother trash.
IF HE LEGALLY ADOPTS THE CHIILD HE CAN HAVE VISTATION AND LEGALLY RIGHTS .
How many times do these single mothers leave the step Dad when her brats have moved out of your home and don't need your support? Believe the stat is 75%.
Of course she takes 1/2 of everything on her way out - they are such a good deal - man up.
@@IsambardKingdom 😂😂😂🤣🤣
If your baby daddy doesn't want to be with you and the kid....why on earth would we?
unless the baby daddy was a shit person who peaced out when he found his girl was pregnant and didn't have the stones to handle the consequences of his actions or she's widowed.
Very rare instances & a prime example why they shouldn’t open 🐱 to just anyone 😉
@@xyr3sShe still picked that piece of shit.
@@xyr3sMen want sex, women want commitment. Why is it men's fault that women give up sex without commitment? Maybe if people recognized actions and consequences, and had more control over themselves, they would not do actions that have negative consequences.
@@fatmonkey4716 if you are man enough to fuck without protection, u need to be man enough to handle the consequences. Man or woman. If the woman says she doesn't want either to use protection? Have some discipline and fucking walk away.
The girl in the red is just pure comedy 😂😂😂
-tries shaming men into saying alpha is raising another man’s kid
-has her tots out saying she’s an excellent mom
-strings her kid along on her work thinking he cares
-has no ring and thinks she’s “high value single mommy”
-can’t hold down a man but somehow she’s so high worth
It's old woman cope.
Multiple men have proposed to her? Hahaha.
She’s crazy
@@hornetguy9063many actually do. Understand the power of sex and throat skill.
Those are kinds who whisper bs into married women's ears telling them to leave their men and that they can do better. Misery loves company
My daddy always says "Single mom is like used car with salvage title" I never asked why.
Priorities for single moms are: herself, her child, her parents or her besties, her ex and then her relationship. So in case you have a relationship with a single mom, you will be at best 5th priority. I know because I have been there.
Amen . I was number five .
Am a single mom but my partner is my no.1 priority, he is my bae, nothing, absolutely nothing comes before him
Do u have kids?
@@theeasternqueen must be nice to be your kid then
you forgot the dog - that makes you number 6
Women don’t get the right to decide what an alpha male is in the first place, the fact that this woman thinks that she can redefine what an alpha male is to suit her narrative is astounding
She's essentially gaslighting dudes into doing insane s*** and calling it Alpha
How dare she. 😆
Galling, though, unfortunately these days, not so surprising.😥
Exactly
Right now I am average guy who makes bare minimum. I have rejections by the truckload.
I am working my way up. In another year or so, I strike it rich, then I become Alpha man.
I don't have any intention of giving any of these woman any respect, compassion, empathy that they deserve, not even bare minimum of it.
As a widower i raised 3 children . 4,6,and 12 . Now all grown , married and i have 8 grand children . Every woman that approached me ran when they found out i had children . Thats the flip side . I never remarried . No regrets and no worries. Ive had a wonderful life with my children . Brought them up in a Christian household . Every weekend we have a family meal . And life is good . Drama free .
I am one of those who will not date a single dad.
@rondasoutherland6882 I did not divorce nor did I sleep around . My wife died . Did that make me a bad man ? I never understood the double standard .
@ronaldolweiler7745 women who are widows her lumped into the category of single mom and are automatically considered toxic when they did nothing wrong. So.... yes, it should be the same for men. Your statement falls under the "it depends" mentality, which in itself is a toxic trait (according to men today).
@ronaldolweiler7745 I'm a single mom right now thru no fault of my own. Her father went to war and came back broken and injured. He was on 12 pills a day for his ptsd and injuries. He could not cope and went into the VA hospital for treatment. I let him go because his flashbacks could leave us injured or even dead.... and I could not risk that. I have not had a serious relationship since, and my daughter has not known another man in the house. She turns 18 in June. I will not date again till she is old enough to take care of herself. But, all men think us women chose that for ourselves and don't even look our way. But.... when I no longer have a child in the house.....I can do the same thing.
@@rondasoutherland6882 for the record I have no issue with women not wanting to be a step mom I totally get it. It's practically impossible to set boundaries as a step parent.
Woman in red: "Women are selfless"
Riiiiiight.
That's the last thing women they come across innocent yet deep down the are like he better give me something in return everything a women does is for her own selfish gains
I tried the single mother game, she had three kids, I didn't mind, but she couldn't stop talking about one of her previous exes, the father of the oldest child. I wish she had made that clear, she will never get him back he wouldn't want her, and that was my clue to get the hell outta dodge...
Men always remember, that single mom that you chose to be in your life, would never even look your way if she didn’t have a kid. Have some standards for yourself and some self worth.
That's not true 😭 my husband is so hot to me and I would've definitely have done so
Facts
Not true, a lot of women be with men either kids when they don't have any
Lol
That is sometimes very true. Sometimes not but sometimes its so true.
I tried to date a single mom. The kid`s father had died. Kid was 3. I said.... PERFECT! No dad in the picture, and the kid is young enough so I made the dating official. THe very next day her first conversation was... to purchase frivolous material shit and tried to manipulate me due to my kindness. Now, there really are good single mothers, BUT they are a very very rare commodity.
Facts
Leviahan, you said "perferct" to the fact that the kid's father is dead, just so you can fuck his mother!? You are the worst, and you deserve to get screw over by women!
Wait what....father is dead great my turn
@@pipedreamism1 LMAO I get you bro
@@LEVIAHAN 🤣 🤣 🤣
If you're a single guy, just never get involved with a single mom. Period. It's just no upside to taking on that burden.
The problem is many men have pressure from their family to continue his bloodline, and many average men can not get a woman of average quality. The only option they have is a single mom in order to have kids, or else its single theor whole life. Its very hard for a average man to be tall, have a house, good career, nice car, etc. Its easy to say just avoid single moms, but getting sex without a condom is very hard to do for many men, unless they find single moms.
Yeah that's why they go for single moms. They can't get themselves a fresh shorty and a single mom knows she can't have a stud to take of her and the kid so she goes to the sub5
@@wl6020it's better to stay single and work on yourself then raise another man's kids
@@6ft7guy probably better to just go mgtow and pay for sex, and call it a life. Its very hard for a average man to wife up any woman without kids, even if she has a high body count. Life is hard.
@@wl6020 it's not that hard, they just aren't as easy as women with kids
Gentlemen. Never date a single mom. The risks outway the rewards. Don't get cucked into raising another man's legacy.
I was out with a single mom once. During the meetup she said she would like to have a male role model and a man in her kids life. I was thinking man that is selfish as hell. You’re not looking for a man, you’re looking for a one way beneficial utility for you and your kids. I was so turned off
Good for you.
Absolutely. She's so self centered she thinks her wants/needs will automatically be yours
When I was dating my boyfriend told me that he liked that I was a single mother because he knew he could be useful and help me. Some men like to help.
@@The-Oneness11 yes some men like to help but it doesn't mean they should be taken advantage of.
@@stinger4712 He wants to be useful. I don't think accepting his help is considered me taking advantage of him. Whenever I've tried to reject his help, he basically forces it on me so now when I need anything I have already been instructed to ask him. He actually gets mad at me for trying to do things on my own or worst asking someone else. Who am I to deny him his chance to help and feel good about himself.
We don’t push women to accept broke guy or homeless guy….so stop pushing men to accept single mom like it’s was the best choice….
Stop saying it’s take brave men to accept single mom….we men want the best choice that we can had….
tho there are women who date broke guys like there are guys who date single moms lol. it's the same thing, if you're a broke guy and she provides everything, you need to give some thing in return, maybe you do the house chores or what ever just as if a guyhu marries a single mom, while her kid will always be her first priority even more than her own life, she should also show him appreciation for everything he provides for her and her kid and be a good wife and mom.
@@xyr3s it’s most important were the best choice that we gonna pick….everyone wants the best option….people doesn’t had options gonna take what they just had…that’s the main reason…stop pushing people to accept what’s not the best option…stop being beta dude…it’s not gonna make the pussy more wet….
Brave in female speak should pretty much always be translated to "stupid". Brave man to date a single woman.
She's so brave to raise a child as a single mother.
Exactly. Women, even those who are figuring out Feminism sold them a pile of garbage, STILL think they get to set all the rules and run things. Not happening: they get to say yes or no to the initial meeting and whether to date; men get the say in who to stay with and pursue a relationship.
@@xyr3swhere? What?
When will women learn that men don't want your 'experience', we value innocence.
Feminism has them convinced that what women seek in men, men also seek in women. That’s why they try to get guys with crap like “I have my own house, a good job, I’m educated” etc. Like, girl, you’re describing a desirable MAN.
Purity
Never
You have to remember that people sell you what they have
If you go to Kentucky Fried Chicken, and if you want it chicken. And they were out they would try to sell you those nasty parfaits. Because that's what they have to offer.
When people don't have what you want they try to sell you what they have
Bingo!
“All the responsibilities without the authority “- Myron Gains
Which means she has the authority and you are not leading which means you aren’t the man in the relationship
🎯🎯🎯
And if your masculinity is that fragile....
@@aelfredrex8354 🤔
It means you're a slave.
@@DTreatz correct
Ask these single mothers “What can you offer a guy that you haven’t already given to someone else?”
AND TAKEN AWAY FROM A GUY, TOO, LET'S NOT FORGET.
U CAN DATE A WOMAN WITH NO KIDS THAT HAS GIVEN HER CHOOCHIE AWAY TO MANY DUDES.
million dollar question.
Nothing. I guess your point is that used things have less value than new things. A single mother could reply that if you can't afford a new thing, a used thing is better than not having the thing at all.
@@JohnSmithEx single mothers are recreational use ONLY.
Lady in red is SAYING everything she thinks we want to hear. Problem is we ALL KNOW there is every likelihood she’s going to flip the script as soon as she traps someone.
THE LADY IN RED HAS HER OWN BUSINESS, HER OWN MONEY AND FAKE TITS. SHE CLEARLY THINKS SHE CAN OFFER MEN SOEMTHING OTHER LADIES CANNOT. SHE IS WRONG. SHES GETTING TOO OLD TO HAVE MORE KIDS.
SHE NOT EVEN GOOD LOOKING.
She expects you to adopt her kid? RRUUUUNNNNN!!!!
😂😂😂😂
18 years of child support for someone else kid.
🏃♂️🏃♂️🏃♂️🏃♂️🏃♂️🏃♂️🏃♂️🏃♂️🏃♂️
Get to the chopaaaaaaa
@@XerxezsX OMG that is why guns are around
NEVER date a single mom!..............NEVER!!!!
I approve this message 1000000%.
Lesson learned....NEVER! Even if the baby daddy is deceased!!
Before these women had kids, do you think they would say single moms have as much value as them? 🧐
Great question
Nope lmao
That's actually a really good question!
Lmao you know some of them secretly think they’re better than all of their “friends”
There's only one answer. Never date a single mother because there is a reason why she is single and why the daddy is not around. Run for the hills and find a good woman
✅
Bs. Nr1 : after some years prople getting sick of each other is normal. Nr2: many marriages are still together while wife abd husband are miserable. Are you a kid or something?
@@Misha0013A relationship only works when both parties put the relationship above themselves. Relationships take work and dedication. You kids need to learn to be less selfish, lazy and impatient or you will never create the families that are the best for the children. The problems we as a society face now are direct consequences of the increase in single mother households.
@@Misha0013are YOU? You assume they were married. She could have been DUMB enough to let a guy jump on w/o a glove.
Nope. I'm a happily married man coming up on my 20th anniversary. I have 3 kids and life is wonderful. And you? It must suck being alone...@@Misha0013
The woman is red is fundamentally saying: only a real man can handle being a step-father. I love how she uses shaming language to manipulate men.
Kevin Samuels - had a well known term for her language
As a child free woman, men with kids are a major turn off. I personally wouldn't date or marry a single dad. I don't want ANOTHER WOMAN'S crumbs, my first child should be YOUR first child as well and that's just my preference. If these men don't want to wife women with kids then that's their perogative, it doesnt make them less of a man. No one should be shamed for not wanting to deal with single parents, period.
yeah we're good.
Preach
Facts
It's not just "high value" men that don't want single moms. Any man with self esteem doesn't want a single mom.
High value doesn't mean you're rich it just means you won't settle for anything below you
As long as you are not a single dad there is no problem
Obviously plenty of you men still do, or this wouldn't be the subject of a youtube video.
@@bellab949 weak men date single mothers
Are widows considered single moms?
An alpha is the leader of other men Nobody is following the Stepdad
Yup, even Russell Wilson is referred to as "the cleanup man." Unless the woman was raped, she controlled who she let between her legs. There are no Hallmark movies or after-school specials about the guy who wifed up the town bicycle and she took all his shit, and never let him see his kids.
The alpha is the first guy to sleep with her.
After that, you can only go by the first person she born children to.
As a stepfather, by definition you cannot be an alpha.
If your woman is not a virgin, you are not the alpha in her situation.
It's as simple as that.
I've tried it a few times. One time the mom was not a very good mom to her son, second time the mom talked about her baby daddy all the time and this last time my ex wanted to work things out with me because her baby daddy didnt want anything to do with her unborn kid. Before I said yes, i presented her with a question. I asked what would you do if the baby daddy suddenly wants to try to be apart of his kids life and work things out with you so that you guys could have a family together. Her response was I DON'T KNOW. That's when I said Peace out. Basically, Ive tried many times to date single moms and it's just not my thing. Good luck to all the amazing single moms out there.
Same boat here buddy
A single man with NO KIDS who dates a SINGLE MOTHER is like someone who goes to 7-11 to buy last weeks losing lottery tickets.
The sad thing about this is that she is proud to be a single mother,and these women are clueless
Like a badge of honor
These womyn operate on hopium, not reality. Facts, data and statistics show that their narrative/fairy tale is exceptionally unlikely to come to pass.
being a single mother should be like an ex con.. you are ashamed of your past and understand the consequences to your present and future.. but for women: nah... they think they can have it all
@Deimonos85 many women are widows and become single moms due to their husband dying. I guess they chose for that to happen and somehow made a mistake, huh?
@@rondasoutherland6882 According to US Census data, the percentage of young widowed mothers in the US has declined from 16% to 12%.
There are 15.78 MILLION kids living with single moms, while 60 thousand kids live with widowed moms (that's 263 times more kids with single moms than widowed moms for those in Rio Linda). That means "MANY" MORE womyn aren't widowed moms than are.
There's what one expects to see, and then there are the outliers. Most Men commenting on the dumpster fire of modern relationships with womyn are willing to grant grace to widows, but that doesn't mean the general rule doesn't exist.
There are, of course, womyn who become widows by their own hand. I don't think they should get sympathy.
This is a no-win situation for any man.
I think a woman that lands a step dad would actually think the guy is a sucker for accepting them. They would think that man is dumb on the low. "I finessed him into taking care of another man's child". It's not the man they truly want.
you need to stop being such a pessimist lol. you say that like you know exactly what it is like being a single mom. even if that is the case, more power to the man who does become the step dad and gives that child an actual fighting chance at a good future because of having a good father figure in their life.
🎯 They're only after his resources and the "status".
@@xyr3sum NO, he is right, women subconsciously know they are lower value due to being a single mother and all the high value men she has given sex never stuck around and then comes the simp who does wanna wife her ....she knows if he had better options that he wouldn't stay with her so she will NEVER subconsciously respect a lower value man but she will fuck for resources and companionship.
Well put
@@xyr3sthat man is a simp who takes care of another man’s child y would any man want to do that when he can go get a girl with no kids 🤡😂😂😂😂
The problem with most single moms from USA is that they chose the man to get them preggo in the first place. Then she choses to Leave Him forcing herself to go through the single mom bs because its advertised in 🇺🇸 as the way to go. She wants unlimited options not a family nor accountability
Sorry but I would not date a single mom. You have to understand You will always be at the bottom of anything she puts before you even behind the cat or dog. You are only there for what you can do for her and then don't bother me. But kid needs this or that because I actually notice you from time to time. No thanks!
bottom line: as a single mom, youre now in the new position of having to bring something to the table and convince me of it, before i even ask.
for you particularly, what should she bring to the table. i see a lot of other guys ask women this. "what do you as a woman bring to the table". i mean other than the normal wife stuff. like if you are looking for a trad wife, you date a woman who has that mind set. but what else does she need to bring to the table when guys ask this question? as a guy in my 30s, when ever i hear people ask this question, it confuses the shit out of me. do you mean like a dowry? or a nice car? sex toys? fettishes? kinks?
@@xyr3s a mans purpose is to provide and protect, he therefore needs to bring to the table all things related to that. a womans purpose is to nurture and support, she therefore needs to bring to the table all things related to that > wanting and being able to have healthy children (> age, fertility, health/not fat), being good with children, cooking, femininity (not being a masculine hog, knowing when to shut up, being submissive, supporting her mans decisions, etc etc).
if you cant FEEL the answer to your question instinctively, i cant help you. this should be a primal gut feeling, this is not science.
Nah, leave single mothers where they belong, *in the streets*
@xyr3s
Bro, if you don’t know what a woman is suppose to bring to a relationship then you're planning for disaster. Do you have any idea what you want in a woman?
A few of my disqualifications
1. Poor health / obese
2. History of cheating or casual sex including sex work of any kind
3. Bad relationship with family, especially her dad
4. Materialistic or shallow
5. Hostility towards men
6. Infertility
7. Male orbiters
8. Immature or financially irresponsible
9. Poor housekeeping
10. Indecisiveness
11. disobedience or defiance
12. Drug habits of any kind
13. Smokers
14. Pets
15. Tattoos
16. Addiction to social media attention
17. Atheists
18. Vegans
19. Poor hygiene
20. Feminists
This list isn’t comprehensive. It’s just a few off the top of my head.
Getting w/ a single mom is like serving another dude’s jail sentence
Amazing analogy! Bravo good sir.
While they are all in jail
Comment of the year @devilsadvocacy
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I respect Janelle but clearly all these pods shes been on doesn't help with her delusion. FNF already told her a few years ago that you cannot be masculine and feminine whenever you want. Janelle is a boss babe which is fine, but to find someone more "alpha" than her AND put up with a step child is crazy.
The way she dresses just screams both narcissism and desperation
She not even hot!
I told fellows these women will go on a show. Get all the answers and then go on a different show. Ask the same questions as if they didn't get the answers. And they still argue all the answers down they've already been given
THE STEP CHILD IS LIKELY A VERY GOOD SWEET BOY, JANELL IS LIKELY A BOSS DOMINANT I WANT WHAT I WANT FEMALE. SHES OLD . I DOUBT HAVING MORE KIDS IS REALLY A PRIORITY FOR HER. SHE LIKELY WANTS AMN WITH MONEY.
PLUS SHE TRAVELS ALOT. SHE LIKELY WONT BE HOME TO FILL HIS TUMMY WITH FOOD. LOLL
I am 40 never married no children because I made that decision- kids are hard work regardless how much people say they are proud of them or whatever. Respect the fact that some men just dont want to be with single mothers. Stop making men look bad just because of their personal preferences. Good men don't have to be a step daddy to somebody else's responsibility.
Same situation here but I am just learning how bad it is before I start seriously dating her
My Dad married my Mom after she was divorced and had four kids from another guy. That decision alone has caused so many problems in our family. All my siblings are half siblings and none of them respect my Dad even though he's the one who raised and did everything for them. They love and respect their biological Dad more even though he cheated on their Mother multiple times and couldn't be bothered to do anything to help raise them. It's so messed up to see them disrespect the man who gave them everything and love the man who abandoned and gave them nothing.
Wow….this is deep. And real.
Lady in red trots out the old "it takes a REAL MAN to raise some else's child!" 😂
She dressed it up quite poetically if I must say
As if shaming a guy for not wanting her is going to make him want her
shes delusional .
@@devilsadvocacy💯
Lady in red dress: a real alpha man would take care of my kid
Man: well, shit...I can't have a woman I'm not even screwing call me beta, so I guess I'll try to fit your definition of alpha and take care of both of you! (Sarcasm)
thats just a manipulation tactic if we are being honest here
Why shouldn't you date a single mom? Well because you can
Right, there is one person in the comments trying so hard to act like you should as if there is clearly not a higher risk than a woman with no child.
She said "I know I'm rare" ...what????😂😂😂...these single moms act like they have the luxury of having many choices smh
I wanna know who the Tony Robbins dude is that’s out there more than Tony and wanted her
A woman with a kid can give you experience.
You know what else gives you experience? ANYTHING!
Janelle is showing her true colors
who does she really think she's fooling with that BS about the selflessness of women? lol
Exactly i always knew she gave f@ke vibes
If she’s such an amazing exception to all the rules, why is she single again??
Whoever I find benefits me right now the most is the most alpha, masculine, and confident.
-every woman
14:52 date a single mother for the ‘experience’. Boom! Single moms are now in low supply.
These 304s had kids with men they didn’t marry.
...and somehow they claim that they are proud of it, and the whole society should be proud of them. Delulu on steroids.
A real man takes care of his own kids/genetics, don’t waste your time and resources on another man’s kid that dipped out
i'd have to disagree. i would have more respect for a fellow man who actually marries a single mom if she's a good woman and gives that kid a dual parent household and that kid is raised in a good environ ment with good values. that's what the future needs. kids being raised by 2 parents. if every man in the world said what you said, the future would be a very dark place. not every single mom is a slut who doesn't use protection and loves to get creampied by 10 different dudes, maybe she's widowed, maybe they didn't want to have kids but due to bad luck, birth control didn't stick and she got pregnant and he peaced out. being a single mom and eing a horrendous human being is not mutually exclusive.
Facts.
@@xyr3sI agree with everything you said! I know couples who have not worked out bc they got married too young and everything fizzled out when they got a bit older.. there's lots of deeper reasons...
@@xyr3syou are living in a fantasy world. How is a singke mother a good woman in the first place ? You want a man to step up ? For what ? "You ain't my real daddy"
More like "kicked" out, we know how females operate, it's more than likely they ruined the relationship.
That lady in red is living in fantasy land. 😂
SHE ONLY HAS 1 CHILD. SHE CAN EASILY GET AMAN.
@@JENKEN425 Look at her past and no High Value Man would want her - even for Pump n Dump
@@IsambardKingdom u dont know what men want
@@JENKEN425 If she can easily get a Man were is he? Cannot see any value a "Real Man" would have in a relationship with her!
@@IsambardKingdom adam said her guy is in greenroom, i think is hane was or is josh??
Problem with the lady in red is she thinks having a kid with a new man is gunna trap him or keep him vested. It won’t. She keeps harking about “starting her own family” smh yeh no guy going for that especially older men. Til they 18? No.
Dating a single mother is like finding a 1980s game console. You think it's a rare find, but you find a saved game with only one life left and 1/4 life left. Yes, it's fun to play, but you can never win.
They typically used a password system, so you can start the game wherever and however you want. The rare few that used a cartridge save system ran off a battery which died out in the 90s. All the saved data is long gone.
More like you’re excited about an 80s game console because you have some great memories playing it with friends and family but then you realize the graphics sucks and the games suck.
😂😂
Some years ago I was introduced to a single mother. Her 8 year old son was the most abnoxious kid I had ever seen. Just a thought that I will have to see him every day made me run away from the woman. It doesn't matter how good a woman is, there is another person you have to live with and that person is the punishment for choosing this particular woman. A single mom is for a beta man. There are plenty of them and if he is an average man he will go for it especially if a woman provides financial security.
Women without children are more likely to provide for a man than a woman with children is.
8:02 no, no, no...she IS cooking. She's not wrong when she says that. Men who step up ARE absolutely great men. The *problem* is that
1. Men of that caliber really deserve much better than a broken situation they have to step in and fix. A lot of women know this, but unfortunately the way they express that they know this, is via self-sabotage rather than appreciation and respect.
2. In MOST cases, those men are far more disrespected and dissed than appreciated for the amazing people they are.
Facts 💯
As South African... Bro NOBODY wanted to "step up" to raise Nelson Mandela children... Let that sink in!!
This is the equivalent of a broke homeless man yelling at the bank manager that they must accept his credit, hes just as capable and valuable 😂😂
I've dated single moms and even married one. The simple truth is that the relationships weren't worth it except the marriage because I got to stay in my little girl's life after we divorced, and I don't pay anything. I guarantee most single moms would never marry if an unbreakable contract that guaranteed no alimony and no child support for stepkids was enforced 100% of the time.
Also, women cap about their kids not needing a stepdad or whatever. Watch what happens if you don't get the kids a birthday present or take them to the game/movie/show/whatever. They always get mad, but they lie and say you don't have to take care of their kids. I ask if a woman has kids now, and I walk away when she says yes after that conversation.
if you're going to marry the woman, obv you have to tc of the kid. i mean has any single mom who got married to a man said "no dont worry about the kid, leave him be, come let's go fuck". lol
I'll never understand why your type wants to *cuck* yourself with other men's kids.
Stepdummies need to see a psychologist, clearly mentally ill.
@@xyr3s they are your kids when you go to the beach or the amusement park. They are no longer your kid or kids when it's time to set boundaries.
@@xyr3sthe court does not view them as my kids why should I ?
Woman love selling men lemons
Imagine trying to convince a woman that a man that is world ranked in Call Of Duty makes him high value and that women were wrong or “intimidated by his success” in their reasoning for disagreement. This is precisely what single mothers do when they refuse to accept what men say they actually value instead of what these women are trying to shame men into believing.
I dated a single mother of 2. I told her from the beginning we are not getting together. She was 13 yrs my senior. I met her when I was 21. Fast forward 30 years we have a 27 year old. She was the best mom and partner until the very end when cancer took her. She had the same love, affection and sex drive towards me from beginning to end. I miss her so much!!!!!
WOWO, THAT IS BEAUTFUL BUT HEARTBREAKING TOO.
@@janecole44 yet another example of why dating a single mom is bad, sure it was good but because she was older you didn't have as much time together as you would had otherwise and now you gotta carry that pain
@@usernameluis305 NO ONE KNOWS WHEM THEY WILL LOSE THEIR PARTNER. AT LEAST HE HAD MANY OWMDERFUL YEARS WITH HER AND HE HAS A Son!
May you find peace and love. God bless you
@@usernameluis305 she was only 64. Her own mother passed away at 59.
Until women choose better men, this single mother debate will only get worse. Pick better men. Keep the family together to produce better children who make better decisions.
Their brains aren't wired to pick better men during their most fertile years.
There is no debate to be had.
No *man* should be getting with a single mother for _any reason_
Treat them like heroin, *NOT EVEN ONCE*
@@DTreatzRight that's the issue with shows like this,it gives off the impression that men need to justify thier choices. Which simply isn't the case but i will admit they are entertaining
@@chanceklein no one is. Unregulated dating markets end up like this. Whenever women think with their uterus or men think with their dicks nothing ends well. In other word people dont make good choices during safe times. When times are safe you are going to chase hotness as opposed to stability.
No one wants a corolla or camry when you have a choice of driving a lexus... even if you cant afford it.
If she had kids with the wrong person, what other bad decisions did she make? Wait till marriage ladies.
this goes contradictory to a lot of red pill messaging where "if you pay for the date, you should get sex on the first date". a lot of red pill guys are about getting more sex to pad their stats, that women should give it up to more guys instead of just the guys they find attractive because most guys are single and lonely. kind of a paradox :) red pill guys want to marry virgins but they also want to have lots of sex before marriage :D
@@xyr3sIgnorant rant, people take what they can get. If women don't want to be 304s, they should not act like 304s.
@@xyr3su all over the comments mad cause men dnt want single mothers 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
@@kylonp7311 gotta fight for the under dog's and the down trodden :p
@@xyr3s wat I dnt understand Ebonics 🤡😂😂😂😂
Worse mistake of my life was dating a single mom.
I’m 6 foot, six pack , six inches , 6 organisms a day and 6 figures. NEVER AGAIN!
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I'm not even close to that, but also I'm going to say: never again !
What made it bad
6 organisms?
YOU ARE ALSO ILLITERATE . !!!!!!!!!! :lolllllllllllllllllllllll
The single women's defense built a bigger case against single mothers then the men experience with them.
I saw this podcast live. Shame, Insult, Guilt, and the Need to be right is so inbred that it's pathological. At the end of the day the overwhelming number of single mothers should focus on raising their children until they're adults. They can't do both and being a stepfather is just a bad deal.
Omg stop it. There is nothing good OR a little about dating a single mom
Those days r over. Cry us a river... she hit the wall and wants you to pick up the slack for the father that isn’t there. 9:23
And if you dont do it, you're not a "Real Alpha man"
@KingJancelot yeah that worked on our simp uncles and parents generation. Not working us millennials or zinneals.
I laughed when the 40 year old said she wanted to have kids. Lady your eggs are gone!
My mother had me in her 40s. As long as a woman is still menstruating, she can have children.
@@MsLotusBlooms An exception doesn't make the rule.
@Joel-uc5lo Nothing in life worthwhile comes without risk.
@@MsLotusBlooms What a ridiculous cope
@@MsLotusBlooms biology, and science would disagree with your argument in mass
Made this mistake twice, it never ends well. She will always have you as the bottom of the list of beneficiaries of her time effort and love, after her son or daughter. Even if, and this was my circumstance, her son became a dirty useless junkie. My status was below the junkie!!
😂😂😂
WELLS TOP BWING A P****** AND STAND UP FOR YOURSELF.
A single mom should want their child to be the main priority however, if I’m going to date someone, I want to be their priority so there is an instant conflict of interest. I did it once and I would highly recommend avoiding that situation.
I dated a single mom during COVID. She was bed-ridden and sick so I took care of her two daughters, ages 6&5, while she rested.
She later broke up with me because I was “boring” and I never saw her daughters again. My heart broke.
It's amazing how women try to convince you that marrying a single mother is alpha. In the entire animal kingdom, the human being is one of the few species in which the male takes care of the children of another male.
unless you're a cuckoo in which case you make another mom take care of your kid xD
Well, there was also the cuckoo.
Except it went extinct. 🤡
@15:30 Also her saying women are selfless is the most insane statement I’ve heard this year. She thinks all people think like her or she’s trying to really sell herself to the market.
Single moms fail to understand their dilema because they're motivated by survival. The great man that will make them feminine and follow his leadership is better off with another woman because the mother and child can't help but have resistance to a new father, not to mention the emotional damage the kid has to deal with. A step parent is trying to form a bond through thought and effort where a biological bond is intrinsic. And this is with best case scenario that baby daddy is gone permanently. It boils down to nature, sorry ladies live with the consequences of your actions.
I kind of agree. I am a widowed mother and I am thinking I should just wait till my kids are grown to remarry. The only issue is I want to have more children and if I wait I probably won't be able to unless I can delay menopause. Plus I feel very lonely without a man.
@@The-Oneness11 as a widow you have better odds but there will still be difficulties for the step dad and kids.
@@carlosizz89 Well I have a boyfriend but I feel like we can't really be married or even live together till my children are grown. My boyfriend wants me to have a child by him but being that I was used to being married for so many years, the boyfriend-girlfriend relationship doesn't feel secure enough for me. I really don't want to end up a baby momma.
Being a step-dad gives the single mom power she did not earn to NOT cooperate with the biological father!
As a single mother I will say that their rejection is our protection. I do not want anyone who doesn't want me. All women need to think like this.
Remember Gentlemen, look at the kids face. Its a reminder of the dude before you who had her at her best. A woman with a kid ruins the entire thing for you, its the experience that she will rob you. If you find yourself with a woman who doesn't have kids. She gets pregnant and both of you go on this journey of the pregnancy, birth and you are there to cut YOUR child chord. As a team. When you get with a single mother, it won't be new experience since she already been there with some other dude.
There’s a very good chance the divorced single mom, left her husband, who was probably a good decent man. But social media has made these women believe the grass is greener and they deserve this fairy tale love from the perfect man. Good luck to the men who get with these women.
I'm a 39 year old guy who is overweight and far from rich, so I'm nowhere near the definition of a high value man.
I still would not date any woman who had a kid, period. I understand that I'm not the type of women Chase and that's fine - truth is I would rather be single then be with the wrong person, and a single mother is the wrong person for me.
Louder for the kids in back. Even self-assessed low value men don't want to date single mothers.
Hit the gym and get a skill (certifications/qualifications in whatever area you think you'd succeed and thrive). There are opportunities out there. No need to be overweight and broke. Good luck buddy 👍🏿
@NinoEl81
Im ok - I have a solid career and am in a happy relationship. Just making the point that if somebody like myself (who is fairly low on the scale of female desirability) won't even touch a single mom with a teen foot pole, then what hope do they have of finding their perfect 6ft 2 millionaire who will take them?
@@pete3198 Glad to hear friend. Yes we are allowed to have standards too and we should never settle for low hanging fruits. Let them get back with their baby daddies .
Half the problem is the "cope" women take when they say things like "I am not looking". The longer they wait, the worse it gets. Their looks will fade and their kid will grow up. Unless they wait till the kid is over 18 and moves out, it only makes a man want her less. After all if your adopting into a family with a baby, you can raise it like your own.
If your new wife has a teenager for a kid your basically nothing to them. They won't ever view you as a father and your impact on their life is almost nothing. All you be there for is to pay for things like College, a car etc.
11 girls 4 guys, still couldnt make good arguments
The lady in red, the fact that she said all that means it's all untrue.
Women just don't like the idea that their dating options are restricted due to the fact that they have a kid. How can they secure their connection to Chad/pookie if they don't have an "accident" pregnancy? To women, they should have endless options in dating men until they die strictly off the fact that they were born a woman. That's insane.
That's literally what it is because there are many men who would date them. They simply don't want those men and so try and shame the men the do want into lowering thier standards
The women on this UA-cam talk show circuit are absolutely nuts!
Very strange society where many people run away from responsibility. It should never be a problem for a woman with children to find a husband. My wife and me grew up 6 children and I do not care if the children are potty trained or not the only thing which is important to me is that we All trust in God and let Him handle everything.
Since when it's my responsibility to take care of another man's offspring? We are not talking here about women being widowed because their husbands lost their lives in a war. We are talking about women who didn't know how to keep their legs closed before marriage, or who were not able to honor their marriage vows (2 out of 3 divorces are initiated by the wife).
Becoming a husband of a single mother equals to rewarding bad choices and behaviors. If you reward bad choices and behaviors in a society, be prepared to see them proliferating, and eventually your society being destroyed from within.
Ole girl in the black blazer facial expressions are hilarious 😂
This whole topic is FOS. These women made huge mistakes by getting knocked up and having a child (or children) by dude(s) that they didn't marry and now these same women want to lecture men about why the single mother is an attractive option for men. Hogwash! Guys should also remember that that child, as soon as they are old enough to talk back to you and disagree with a decision you've made will be quick to remind you -- especially if it's a male child -- that you are NOT his father and therefore can't tell him what to do. No man wants to hear that BS.
My main Gripe is this, in a MARRIAGE your spouse always comes first that’s by Biblical and Legal standards. Having an outside child makes that more difficult because I come into the picture either I’m going to take the Back Burner or the child will have to take the Back burner I don’t want either of us to be in that position. Also something can happen to the mom and then what I’m stuck to a child that’s not mines. It’s different when the kid is yours because that’s Your assigned responsibility whether you like it or not. The best analogy I can think of is Getting Drafted to the Military Vs Volunteering to go. IYKYK
Non sense that's not biblical at all the creator comes first then your children then wife! Men are not suppose to worship the women!!!
Never be a step dad i did it countless of times was used taken for granted never again. Dont do it guys
I did once and when she got up and left, it broke me when her daughter loved me and wanted me to be her dad after all the time i invested in her daughter.
Heres the other problem feminist created, when a son is raise mainly or solely by a single mom, there is no masculine trait for that child to absorb. Theres no "son, lets go fishing, hunting, play catch" which will then lead to more feminine men, gay men, transgender women. The son is exposed to only feminine things during his development years so what do you think the outcome will be!
I am a single mother and what I have to give will surpass what a 25 year old will bring!!! Yassss kweeeeen!!!! Slay!!!!!! JAJAJAJAJAJAJAJHAHAHHAAHHAAHJAJAJAJS😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Everything is subjective to the people involved.
I don't care how much any single mother tries to shame me, I won't do it again. I still, after 11 years, miss two children who weren't mine.
So no, I wont date a single mother seriously.
What a woman with a kid can give you is trouble, financial burdens, and time and energy... They forgot to include that in when dating single moms.