Are You the Favorite Person of Anybody?
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- Опубліковано 5 жов 2024
- This is a simple, poignant short film, shot on a budget of $150: a man with a survey stops passersby and asks them, "Are you anybody's favorite person?" What a heartbreaking question, for somebody who DOESN'T come first in somebody else's heart! Miranda July, who wrote the short story this is based on, had just finished shooting ME AND YOU AND EVERYONE WE KNOW and made this film in the week between shooting and editing the first rough assembly. Miguel Arteta, who directed, was still in love with her at the time, and in an interview with WHOLPHIN said, "The shoot was painless but sure enough, by the time I started editing, we were broken up. This little short is like a rear-view mirror that survived a fabulous, painful crash."
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The first time I watched this (probably a couple of years ago) I felt so sad for the guy with the headphones, but my opinion on him has completely changed. I like that he's not upset by the question despite the fact that he knows he isn't anyone's favourite person - he doesn't need to be.
I've experienced the exact same change! He's confident and comfortable about it, he's thoughtful and considerate of his girlfriend's needs, he's happy to receive the oranges once it's clear that it's ok for him to do so. He seems to like himself.
@@keithklassen5320 Terrific comments. I have came back here after 10 years feeling like the guy with the headphone, and this is a nice confirmation. Actually, getting that guy's level is very hard. Not there yet.
I was heartbroken when he said his girlfriend might want one. Love this film
Ever since I was 14, (I'm 22 now) I decided to start tell people when they're my favorite person. It brightens someone's face like nothing else. This video changed my life in a very little, but effective way.
Roselia Thorn so you're basically lying to these people?
@@mnmlst1 i'm not sure where you're getting that from. "tell people *when* they're my favorite person" suggests it's not a lie to me. i would even say that what i love about this sentence is that it's hard to imagine it being a lie. if we're together and you're my favorite person right now, and i tell you so-you may not be my favorite person forever, you may not even be my favorite next month, but that doesn't mean it's a lie to say it. i think it's good to have faith in people.
@@jrmrtn i think i inderstood wrong, sorry for that.
@@mnmlst1 oh no worries at all! hope your day is going well
So you are 28 now? Do you still tell people when they are your favourite person
This has a lot more emotional impact than most big budget films, amazing accomplishment really.
Brilliant, but it also makes me sad because I'm "pretty certain" I am no ones favorite person.
Yeah, I'm not anyone's favorite, either.
This was wonderful.
Join the club. 13 years later - if ur still not anybody's favourite that just sucks. I'm really sorry :(
@@KatieJones-iq1qj So weird getting a notification for such an old comment.
Thirteen years is a long time for things to change, and they certainly have in my case. :)
@@blueoblivion WOW!! I never expected you to reply... especially not this fast. I'm glad to hear things have changed - that gives me some hope. I mean I'm only 15 so... plenty of time I hope 🙂
@@KatieJones-iq1qj I was 16 when I wrote the comment. You've got PLENTY of time.
take care
@@blueoblivion Thanks, this really helped. I'm hopeful... Although I actually have a boyfriend and I'm probably not his favourite person so I'm definitely screwed 😂😂
"My girlfriend might like one."
That part hit me pretty hard, very unexpected... it wasn't how the guy was so certain or the way he seemed very aware and very okay with it... oh, my thoughts are all over the place. Food for thought, wonderful video!
This reminds me of a story my neighbor told me about her old friend. When the old friend's mother died, my neighbor went to the funeral. My neighbor talked to everybody, including all of the children, and she noticed that all of them said they felt bad for the other children of the departed, because ALL OF THEM were convinced that they were their mother's favorite. Obviously, there can only be one, but as the headphones guy showed you don't have to be anyone's favorite. You just need love.
I'm definitely not anyone's favourite person right now, and this helped me feel more ok about that.
There's something in this video that makes me watch it many times..
i like it
Amazing writing, amazing acting, amazing directing.
This is by far the most thought provoking thing I've seen in a while.
I hope everyone realizes that the one who is better off is the man with the headphones. He quickly answered that he wasn't someone's favorite person, but didn't seem fazed at all about it. It seems his strength is derived from introspective efforts within himself.
Although it seems many people are saying he is the unfortunate one, I think that since he isn't defining himself in terms of other people and their reaction to him, it confirms his own self-sufficiency and individuality.
I watched this when it first came out and this video STILL haunts me occasionally. It really hits deep.
I don't think I'm anybody's favorite person, but its weird that people often tell me that others are jealous of me. But nobody tells me why.
I wish someone would have said "I am my favorite person."
I PROBABLY WOULD.
jk.
Wouldn't have felt real though
15 minutes ago, I searched the Internet for "knowing that you are not loved by anyone" and somehow this video came up to me. I was thinking about how lonely and unhappy I was while searching on the internet, but when I watched this video, I started thinking that maybe I could be happier if I just loved myself and evaluated everything like the guy with the headphones in the video.
i remember watching this back in 2009 or so... i was always sad that i wasnt anybodys favorite person. but now a decade plus later ive realized its enough to be your own favorite person. much love to you
Ned Schnibbly... You can be my favorite person.
thanks for posting this. fantastic.
i love miranda july and all of her work
the girl in the beginning is Miranda July, the director of "Me you and everyone we know" who was also the leading lady in that film and wrote the script for this one.
When I saw this video, I wrote a textmessage for my best friend and said, she was my favourite person. It must be nice for her to know, how I feel.
Thanks. Great video :)
It's John C. Reilly, a fairly well-known actor. He's been in Magnolia, The Perfect Storm, Gangs of New York, The Thin Red Line, Boogie Nights, He's known as one of the best supporting actors around.
Thanks! I didn't know that. I knew him in high school, when we worked at a car repair shop together. I always knew he would be destined for greatness, but didn't know it would be THAT much greatness. Nice!
@@senseiparks He's so good. Also a really good all-rounder. Got known through drama then did a lot of really good comedy roles.
I am no ones favorite person. I thought about this short film tonight and had to watch it again. It's been a decade since I've seen it last and nothing has changed. I dont feel is though I am anyone's favorite person. I feel that my life doesn't matter at all to anyone I engage with in my life.
Well it's weird but I'm someone's favorite person because of all the stuff I do for them. And I think that if I didn't do these things for them I wouldn't be.
Same!
Motherhood?
i'm nobody's favorite person.
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goddamn 12 years ago
@@mrb-btw update: i'm my own favorite person, took a lot of self-love and healing to get here :-)
@@ch3rryp3psi wow good for you!
@@ch3rryp3psi i love that your back after 12 years😂 how's life? Did it get better or worse
@@vazorta The perks of using the same youtube account since day one... ;) Life is generally better, but have definitely gone through some ups and downs over 12 years for sure. I think emo me 12 years ago would not have guessed I'd be where I am now, and late twenties are a bizarre mix of figuring out myself (still!) but being OK with that. :-)
this really hit me...am i anyone's favorite person? i honestly dont know...great film by the way
Well, watching this really made me think. At first, I thought my answer was 'no'....but weeks after watching this, I realized: I really was someone's favorite person: My gram. My answer for #2 would be 'very certain'. She died last year....It struck me, just now, that I will probably never be loved this much by anyone else..certainly not as unconditionally. So I feel lucky, but also sad, right now. If your answer IS yes, you're very lucky!! Be worthy of it! (or at least try to be.)
The point is to just get you thinking about who loves/cares about you, and how often it is expressed. Look at how awkward it is for the survey guy to ask the question, and especially how odd it is when the one guy answers "No" and he's absolutely positive, then mentions his girlfriend. The point is to express how insecure we are about the affections of others, and in essence our own self worth...
the part about the runner and his gf made me almosrt cry.
this struck me in may ways...
very well done
Dr. Steve Brule!
"This one I don't-I have no idea what this one is. I didn't ask for this."
It's like asking people "Do you realise how miserable your life is?".
No matter what... whenever I see John C. Reilly now, I get "Cellophane, Mr. Cellophane coulda been my name, Mr. Cellophane..." in my head.
I know that for at least the first four years of my niece's life, I was her favourite person. She always had a stronger attachment to me than most other people. It was nice. My sister moved away with her though, so I don't see her anymore. :(
I am certain I'm someone's favourite person.
And that makes me so so happy.
Alina - Aww, I’m so happy for you 😊
Thanks for the respons eAndy. I hope you enjoy the rest of the weekend.
Jim
I'm sure I'm someone's favorite person, but they are not my favorite person. I don't have a favorite person. That's just sad all around.
I think I am someone's favorite person.
Great video. I think more people should watch this and more importantly, more people should think about the message it conveys.
I am my own favorite person.
Its Dr. Steve Brule
With more Brule Rules
miranda july is what i cant wait to come home and read when im at work. she makes me feel less weird and less alone.
The movie's simplicity moved me. Such a simple question, simple filmmaking can stir all this convo.
Well i am nobody's favourite !
But to my self my favourite person on earth is myself and i will never stop loving myself even tho nobody else love me or appreciates my values
i just found this video once again,
and it still is so amazing.
no, im not anyones favourite person.
and i'm not my favourite persons' favourite person.
how sad.
:|
I'll never forget this
aww...the 2nd guy is so sweet.
I'm no one's favorite person and I never mean as much to anyone as they mean to me and I've come to terms with that still hurts sometimes
First made me realise how many people love me and put me very high on their list. Then when i thought about who my favourite person is, i realised there really is no such thing but much love, in different forms.
In conclusion, i think there s not much point in asking this question. Why do we love the people we do, might be a better one and thus, what do people who love us, value in us? Maybe he should be doing a survey like "What do people like about you?"
Wow this is brilliant. It's a tough question. Extremely creative with a touch of simplicity.
I really liked the dialogue with the second guy, that was really sad and thought provoking at the same time. (2)
I used to be, but my best friend had a daughter so I am sure her daughter is now her favorite person. I really don't care to be anyone's favorite, being liked a lot is nice though.
thanks for the post... hit me hard that it hurts... :(
I will always have myself.
@Emmely454
That's Miranda July! She also wrote both films.
this question should not bother you, as long as you have someone in your life you can love. but if you have no one to love, than it wont matter, that you are the favourite person of someone.
I am confident that I am not.
left me with a smile, nice video
I wish people could think without watching UA-cam.
This is such a powerful piece. I used it in a post on my blog
i get it! that so cool. i love miranda! i think she is genius. i know i have lots of favorite people.. i hope i am the favorite of someone!
I don't even know what to say...I can't finish a thought in my head...it was very simple yet threw my mind into a spin.
Im liked by many people, i have some good friends, a caring family too... yet, im sure im not anyone favorite person... it's that a problem of my own perception? Or it's just sad?...
I'm guessing the $150 was spent on the.... oranges?
But they were from the garden. Maybe they spent it on Reilly's salary.
Replying nine years later...
Probably the film stock and processing, if it was shot on film (it looks like it could've been video, but that may just be the picture quality here). Maybe the rental of the camera and sound equipment. And probably the oranges too. I expect everyone worked for free.
It really instils doubt. I started off of course I'm my husband's favorite person and as the movie went on I got less sure. Not about if he loves me because I know that but, if he's better friends with someone else. Poignant is the perfect word to discribe this flim.
I think i might be someone's favourite person....or that could just be my narcissistic tendencies coming out...
this makes me sad for some reason.. i dont think im anyones favourite person =( ..
-sigh-
why does everybody think it's sad that the jogger knows his girlfriend doesn't see him as the favourite in her life?
I think it's perfectly OK. Why would you even WANT to be the MOST favourite? That's pointless. I know I ain't and that doesn't make me feel sad... I think the jogger is the happiest person in this movie, because he realises it, and knows you just have to be the best friend you can be.
If you're not the favorite person of someone, you get free oranges. Sweet.
I'm three peoples' favorite person. this made me feel all fuzzy inside.
I'm my niece's favorite person. She's always telling me so.
I love this film so much.
well regardless of if this people are actors or not, i think the message means so much more. I hope (hope) and wish i am someone favorite person. This makes me feel shity. because i dont no.
i THINK he was even in anger management briefly.
Miranda is the best thing to happen to me this summer (and two summers ago, when I saw her movie).
this film is pretty beautiful.
good film, and oh he's such a good actor in any film ive seen him in
the thing, that you have someone you love is more important than being somebody's favourite. that orange thing is deep
stunning.
Brule’s Rules: no you aren’t special
You know I love all my friends so I couldn't pick a favourite. Lots of people are my favourite person.
I really like this video, so thoughtful.
It's called love to be the favorite person of someone I guess
This is fantastic
amazing.
A lot of videos or films have "The Point" of making you think about certain things. I feel that that is the goal of art, and many other things. I don't mean this pretentiously, either.
That's the guy from "Chuck & Buck"! (the guy w/ headphones). I LOVE that guy! He rules. This is a nice film. Poignant. Makes you think.
Well done...
Hey that's that woman from that video for that song with the posing for the short amount of time with the singing! I like that one.
Oranges are the queens of the fruit world, btw.
If you're with someone,a gf or bf,aren't you considered the favourite person of her/him?
So the guy with the orange,,it's a little sad,i'm trying to get it cuz he claims he has a girlfriend but he's not the fav person of anyone?
So he thinks his girlfriend doesn't really love him?
Saw this at SF Exploratorium. Had to watch it again.
alot of ppl are nobodys, but dont nobodys become friends with nobodys and eventually becomes a somebody?i used to not be anyones favorite but i think im becoming this new guys favorite person in my P.E. class,
aw the poor second guy he didnt even think he was his girlfriends favourit person .
its sad how the guy with the girlfriend wouldnt think she thought he was her favourite person.
absolutely great video
that was.. interesting...i like it!!!
nicely done
i like it, it's brilliant. can't tell why.
This could be the way that we gave love to other people that make us know that we are someone favorite person. It's like looking at the mirror.
I think I might be my cat's favorite person, besides that I'm nobody's and I'm very certain of it.