11 Things You Should NOT Do in Spain!
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- What NOT to do in Spain! I’ve lived here for 8 years with Yoly my Spanish wife, and I’ve learned a lot of the do’s and don’ts of this culture. These rules will really help you get in sync with the locals and not make any major mistakes! Venga, let's go! 🥝
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Spain is a complex country! It’s also a pretty easy going one. But there are certain things that you just don’t want to get wrong. And here they are!
11. Don’t go OTT on please and thank you.
In Spanish we just don’t use the words as much. We are more likely to work ‘please’ and ’thank you’ into the tone of how we speak, or by tweaking the words (such as adding “ito” to the end of a word).
10. Don’t put bread on your plate.
In Spain, you always leave your bread beside your plate on the table. It sites beside your cutlery, because it kind of is a piece of cutlery.
9. Don’t eat with your hand under the table.
I grew up with no elbows on the table. But here in Spain we also have the rule that you should have your hands above the table at all times. Because you might have a knife??
8. Don’t offer guests a beer at 5pm
Because we eat lunch and dinner later, beer o’clock is usually about 8pm… not 5pm.
7. Don’t help with the dishes after parties.
It’s just not something that’s done here. At the end of a party or dinner party, you might help tidy up slightly, but you don’t help do the dishes.
6. Don’t be a ‘pesado’ in social situations.
Chill out! Don’t ask people what their job is straight away when you meet them in a social setting and don’t expect people to cut to the chase when telling a story - we take our time here!
5. Don’t misinterpret loud conversations.
When Yoly speaks with her mother on the phone, it can get heated. But they’re not arguing - it’s just that conversations here often sound more intense.
4. Don’t generalise about Spain.
This is a highly regional country. So don’t assume that every region of Spain has the same language, customs or food.
3. Don’t call Catalan a dialect of Spanish.
Catalan is its own language - and don’t get that wrong (especially when speaking to a Catalan)
2. Don’t used ‘usted’ willy nilly.
Here in Spain we’re pretty informal and so don’t use “usted” unless we’re speaking with older people or in very formal situations.
1. Don’t mention the civil war casually.
The Spanish civil war and the dictatorship is a really complex topic, and still an open wound in Spain. So wait until you know someone pretty well before diving into the topic.
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You don't expect your guests to help out cleaning because you don't invite people over to make them work, but to make them enjoy
True, but people want to be polite.
I agree. When I invite people over, I want them to enjoy my shit and then fuck off whenever they feel like doing so. No, really, I can't stand people waking up from their couch while in amidst of a good convo with friends and family so they can help me wash dishes. Leave dishes for tomorrow if you will, when I'm coming over their place I ain't standing up to do their dishes, that's for sure!
When we invite someone to our home we want them to have a memorable time y we want them to be welcome. That is why we are not expecting Our guest to pick up and clean
@@almabelhumeur6672 You can be polite and you can be awkward, there lies the difference. Overcommitment in somebody else's house is impolite in my land. They make you feel like they're in debt with you in some way.
yeah and in spain going to someone to have lunch means youll stay 8 hours in that house, when its over the host just want you to leave
Convendría incluir no saltar entre balcones, en España no es costumbre local y puede ser considerado de mala educación xDDDD
😂😂😂😂😂😂 en Ibiza algunos decimos que hasta que no se tira un guiri por el balcón no empieza la temporada de verano
¡Facha! Claramente es la forma TRADICIONAL de desplazarse de los británicos. Hay que respetar su cultura y ponerles unos balconcitos especiales por los que ellos puedan ir trepando como monitos, lo contrario es imperialismo cultural.
¿Cuántos tendrán que hacerse daño hasta que la sociedad no reaccione? 😭
Es como cuando botan un barco con champan, los hoteles los botan con un guiri saltando del balcón hahahahha
Balconing LOL
ja ja jaj aja!
I was stationed in Spain as US Navy, I loved my time in Spain and learned new things every day. I’m thinking of moving to Spain permanently because I like their culture and customs and saw how people were with their family and helped me stay closer in contact with my family and friends. I was very happy there and would like to go back. I also like the healthcare, so much better than what I grew up with in America. I also really loved the socializing and traveling. During my time in Spain, it brought me out of my shell and I felt right at home ❤️
I was in the US Navy as well but my duty stations didn't include Spain (unfortunately!). So what you say is great but unless you buy your citizenship (500K or 1M Euros), or marry a Spanish citizen, how do you stay in Spain past 90 days legally? (I've been to Spain twice, LOVED it, & did NOT want to come back!)
I was in the British Navy at Gibraltar, I suspect you were based at Rota, loved my time there also.
My comment is not a personal one to you but important to mention: we (the population) don’t like US military presence in Europe: WW II is over long ago more than 75 years “Ami go home”! ☮️ PEACE ✌️
Welcome everyone in Spain, US Navy, British Navy, in duty or not. I love people that appreciate my country and I love that Spanish Navy members are welcome in other countries.
Don't hesitate to settle in Spain if you want to, you have already tasted how we appreciate good people and how we love cultural exchange, and I believe most of us deeply respect such an activity and its presence and mutual cooperation here.
Peace and respect. Thank you for your words.
@@anneli1735 Spain and the United States are close allies and have excellent relations based on shared democratic values, including the promotion of democracy and human rights. Spain joined the North Atlantic Treaty Organization (NATO) in 1982 Jan 13, 2020.
According to Article 30.1 of the Spanish Constitution, Spain's American ally is there to guarantee the sovereignty and independence of Spain and to defend its territorial integrity and the constitutional order.
Totally agree with all of these, as Brit married to a Spaniard and living in Madrid for 26 years. Can I add one? Don't back off when Spaniards stand close to you when talking. They're not invading your personal space, they just have a smaller one!
..and don't back up, if they keep touching you and do not stop during the talk, it means you're part of the pack
Okay, I’m Spanish and I say please and thank you all the time, it really depends on your education and the area you’re visiting. Better to be over polite than rude!
Exactly, same here in Puerto Rico
I believe they meant more when you’re asking for something that isn’t as much of a favor.
Like asking for a beer in a bar, it’s not really a favor or an inconvenience, so we don’t say please, maybe thank you, but not please
@@-ana_banana-2098 really? In Germany we always say thank you, even when someone give you something and it’s not a big deal
Also with please. When you want something, we say „please“ like „can you please give me the pencil“ etc but also deepens with you talking to.
To my sister I would just say „can you give it to me?“ but I would still say thank you
@@-ana_banana-2098 AS the OP I also say thank you even when I ask for a beer in a Bar... It's about education, not a "Spanish" thing.
TBH can only speak basic Spanish but i would rather be polite and say gracias than be rude
As an american i hate when people want to constantly talk about about work...i dont hate my job, but honestly 40 hours a week at work is enough.
I totally agree and like how in Spain that isn’t the first thing people ask!
People use it to judge how much money you have, how educated you are etc. Sometimes I like to be inventive when I describe "work."
Agree
I dont like my job so xD
I think people default into talking about work because it is such a big part of their lives. Not because they necessarily want to.
I am a spanish nurse and I have asked older patients about their experience in the war and the post-war, and I have learned incredible stories and how they survived hunger and calamities, some orphans who went to Russia, others with their father in prison and working. at ten years old... also among my friends we have told each other about the little battles of our grandparents, each one on a side and how they went through it and that manages to generate an idea of what it really was like. It is a fascinating topic if you talk about it sensitively.
Yes, but if you speak it in front of a socialist and a conservative person, there may be problems...
That's it, you should know how to talk about that topic.
As a recent British expat living in Malaga, I found this really interesting! Personally, I HATE it when, in a social situation, the first question is 'what do you do?'. To me, it comes across as a test to see if they are 'better' than you and to try and assert dominance in the conversation. One other thing I may add to this list is 'Don't complain when it rains'. Rain here is blessing for crops and farmers and us Brits are used to grumbling about bad weather. I've learnt very quickly to say 'Yes it's raining today but we really NEED it'.
My answer is “i work”
I ask Spanish and students of other nationalities what they do, but I don't care if they are rubbish collectors or CEOs. It's just to build rapport and to get a bigger picture of their needs
I've only asked that question just to find something to talk about. Never thought about it being rude.
@@JasMcKenzie You have many other topics to start a conversation. To me it is really annoying, who cares what I am doing for living? I am just here and I am trying to have a nice moments, do not bother me talking about my job.
@@carloss5133 Not to worry. Most likely, I wouldn't speak to you at all. You're safe.
Si alguien te ve poner ketchup o tomate en la paella mueres instantáneamente
Ramón Inaudito!! El ketchup es un detergente! Los otros días me enteré que en México le ponen ketchup a la pizza???? Que asco!!!! 🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮
Que alguien "condimente" con eso cualquier cosa, salvo piedras o zapatos, debería estar tipificado penalmente.
Casi muero asfixiada por la risa que me ha dado este comentario 😂😂😂😂😂
If you can't do the time don't do the crime! Kepchup, Dios mío, tengo ganas de llorar de solo pensarlo.
Hay sitios donde usted se usa muchisimo. Y no se dirigen a personas mayores. A mi me hablaron de usted en andalucia y estabamos en cuadrilla con amigos
them: here in spain we don't say gracias and por favor constantly
yo, española cada dos por tres: gracias, por favor
them: if someone comes to your house don't offer them a drink
my parents, if anyone comes over no matter the time: quieres una cervecita??
creo que vivo en una españa diferente
Yo también. Soy una obsesionada con gracias y por favor. Si no lo dices no pasa nada socialmente, pero, a ver, eso va en la educación de cada uno
Yo vivo en la misma que tú 🤷♀️
Yo también
La España de la gente educada, en todo caso.
Same here !!!!! I was super impressed about the "do not ask about job". And even civil war. I would be happy to hear someone talk about it, coz that means they are interested.
My Please & Thank You eduction story!
Ive grown up in Australia with Spanish parents. I will never forget when I first travelled to Spain as a young backpacker and stayed with many of my extended family. I was so appreciative of their hospitality and generosity, so was always saying please and thank you.
Eventually my Aunty had had enough and totally snapped ….” I can’t do justice the way she expressed herself in that classic Spanish way … “enough already with the pleases and thank you, … who do you think you/we are?”
She was offended by good manners. I came to learn that my politeness perhaps came across as insincere due to its repetition. From her perspective No thanks needed for what is essentially expected as family.
Was a great lesson!
How can i find a job like artist for comic books in the Madrid?
Indeed. As a Spaniard living in Ireland, it kinda irks me the constant repetition of "thank you" and "sorry" from everyone, everywhere, all the time, because of meager reasons or to fill some kind of casual interaction.
They say it so much it loses its meaning.
A bartender in Spain will say thank you after I pay or if I help him/her to pile up my dishes and facilitate the work.
A bartender in Ireland can say "thank you" 2-4 times at every single interaction.
@@rotciv1492 Deal with it. It’s our tradition, just the same as it’s yours not to.
I find that when I tell people in Spain that I speak a little Spanish and ask them to please speak slowly, they speak LOUDER!😂
i will help you with one: why dont we talk about our work with people to break ice? 2 main reason:
1) we work to live, not live to work.
2) many people (many, 15-20% of adults, or 60% of youngsters) are jobless, and much more are ashamed of their jobs or in a very precarius situation.
So work is not a topic to meet people.
Good points Alejandro
I do agree with the first explanation, but not with the second one, I think that asking someone who you just met, ( what you do for a living , ) sounds like a little bit rude, basically you first talk about trivial matters and then ,,,,,,
That's very true, I have lived in California my entire life, and too many times people ask right off the bat what you do for a living, which is annoying.
@@cbs5357 a lot of people here are starting to think of their jobs as a trivial matter
I really like that with spainsh people. They don't take jobs so seriously , they just enjoy living.
Spain is my favorite travel destination.
I live in Italy and the same rules apply here:
- hands under the table are considered very rude
-we aren't expected to help to do the dishes
-we don't ask about one's job as a first question
-we speak loud too, louder in the south then in the north
- depending on the region and the province people and habits vary a lot
-we use tu and usted equivalents in the same way as the Spaniards
I'm Italian, have many friends in Castilla, Catalunya, Asturias and Galicia and I know the difference between the many comunidades . Spain is the only country I feel at home as in Italy.
Man, I don't mind being rude in Italy if it means I can fondle the pussy of a "bella ragazza" under the table. And I might even offer to do the dishes if my fingers need a rinse, afterwards.
To the "job" question - best not answer "Mafiosi".
Those in the South are farther away - hence the need to shout.
Habits - you mean the chosen form of fulfilling the "Vendetta"?
Use the equivalent of VD,, pre-penetration, and ensure you don't catch VD, post.
XD thx spain is cool
Yeeah I totally agree! I'm from Catalunya and for my job I had to move to Italy 2 years ago and I was scared at the beginning but I soon realised that it felt like home too. Obviously there were challenges but having less cultural shock helped a lot. :)
España mi natura. Italia mi ventura. Flandes mi sepultura. ⚔ 🇪🇸 🇮🇹
@@hels7 im from marbella 👁👄👁
and yes im happy being from spain uwu!
I asked my abuela about the civil war and she told me some really interesting things about our family and how we had some family members on both sides and how it ripped the family apart, there was betrayal, etc. it’s heavy stuff and I could tell with my limited Spanish, that it wasn’t super fun for her to talk about. It’s just that I wanted to write these things down for future generations of our family while I can still get the stories from my elders. I also wrote down as much of the family tree as she could remember. I am looking forward to building on that genealogical knowledge. I know that my abuela was originally from Cubillos which is in León, in the north of Spain. They moved to Barcelona when my mom was a little girl.
My family refused to talk about it. My grandfather had a brother whom I never met. He was pro-regime, so I don't think I missed out much. Sensitive subject for sure.
@@vaazig same here but German history. I don’t know anything from my father as he didn’t want to touch that issue and my mother had already passed away when I was a 4 yo 🙄 just her sister, my aunt talked a little in her late 80s before she died when I insisted like „if you don’t tell me about my roots there won’t be anybody left“ as she had been the last of her generation at that time.
Love this! So important to pass that knowledge onto next generations!
asking for the civil war is quite a risky move. the only thing I have learn from my grandma is that one of her brothers died then.
@@anneli1735 In my case it's too late. My grandmother got Alzheimer's before passing away, so we didn't get anything out of her. Shame.
This is so funny as an American with a Spanish mother. A lot of this is really relatable to me even though I grew up in Hawaii, USA. I love Spain and Barcelona so much. When I started spending more time there, I had epiphanies that were very comforting. Like the bit about the supposed arguing. 😂 Back home in the US, some people think I come off strong or like I’m angry, when it’s not the case at all. When I observe the women in my Spanish family interacting, I remember where I come from and how it’s not aggressive at all. It’s just how we talk. We are passionate and warm. 😄 I’m actually moving to Barcelona next month to live with my yaya. I’m sad to leave home, but very excited for a new start.
This is so funny as a Spaniard with a mother from Hawaii :)
Right?? The British colonies are so damn uptight, here in the USA the Americans were always uptight and nervous that we spoke loudly, got physically close to each other etc
You have forgotten a very important DON'T in Spain: Getting drunk in Spain is bad manners and you are told that you just don't know how to drink. People in Spain drink alcohol to enjoy it and never and ever with the ultimate purpose of getting drunk. This is a very serious recommendation for foreigners who want to behave properly in Spain and don't want to be perceived as low class and poorly educated.
No, we get drunk too
just the same as in France and Germany/Austria as well. seems to be the English/Americans/Nordic people who do it differently
@@Quetzacoatl85 no, we get drunk here too in Spain, we do botellón.
@@Quetzacoatl85 did you just say Germans don't drink to get drunk? lol
Here adults drink to get drunk, but not to get wasted. Teenagers drink to get wasted though, like everywhere else.
Don't put chorizo in the paella.
Rafa DZ Jamie Oliver learnt that the hard way 😂
Why?
@@dannyka6738 Its a CRIME
@@dannyka6738 Because every time you put chorizo, ketchup, or any other seasoning on the paella, a kitten dies.
Thought paella is made with newborn kittens??! No? 🤨
I’m from the USA and have always thought it rude when people immediately ask what I do for a living. People here use it to determine income and judge people.
I love how Yoly uses the word “reckon”. It’s such a great and underutilized word.
Probably she writes it "Yoli", its the most common form here. It's short for "Yolanda".
@@andressigalat602you took the time to comment but don’t even know for sure? I’m sure if it was an issue they would have informed me.
@@alyndaponder1668 I'm from the East of England (East Anglia) and people often say, 'I reckon' instead of 'I think'. Yes, it's a great word!
My answer “i work”
@@alyndaponder1668 she certainly writes it 'Yoli'. 'Yolly' is not a thing in Spain..... The person said 'probably' because of education, you can never be 100% sure. I am 99% sure though.....
I was in Salamanca for 7 months with a gang of international people, two of whom were Spaniards. We did everything together, including eating. At one point someone pointed out that my hand was always under the table at meals. But he didn't say it was considered rude. Actually I think the way he drew my attention to it was that he asked me if my hand was ok. But I was too obtuse to get what he was saying and so I continued to eat with my hand under the table. It wasn't until years later that I learned about that faux pas.
So having your hands on your lap between courses is not ok. What are you supposed to do with them, hold them up in the air?
@@chriswilliams6568 You lay them on the table or use them to gesture in conversation.
In Spain job is not our life, we work to live, we do not live to work. That´s why asking "what do you do" is not the best starter for a conversation
jajaja we wish that were true...
@@Yarblocosifilitico Quienes somos nosotros??
@@Jay-jb2vr los muchos que tenemos un trabajo de mierda. Por otra parte conozco unos cuantos españoles que su vida es el trabajo y poco más (de hecho la mayoría yo creo, pero eso es algo global me temo).
@@Yarblocosifilitico Cuáles son los trabajos más comunes en España?
@@Jay-jb2vr pues ni idea la verdad, el sector servicios es el más amplio, pero aparte de eso mejor que lo busques en google
Yo soy española y digo gracias y por favor constantemente, y nadie me ha mirado mal.
Yo también digo por favor y gracias todo el rato, pero es cierto que comparado con el inglés lo decimos mucho menos. Viviendo en Inglaterra siempre me decían que era rude porque lo usaba poco, pero se dieron cuenta que quizás el problema era suyo porque lo decían demasiado xD
No, no, en España nose dice tanto 'por favor ' y 'gracias'. Mi mujer que es española me ha explicado que la cortesía excesiva se interpreta como falta de confianza. 'Por favor' y 'gracias' son para desconocidos.
@@Pauleeeen27 Si yo tambien pero no como lo fdirian los ingleses o neocelandes que por nada ya te saltan "sorry" and "thank you"
@@jcumse No estoy de acuerdo. Con amigos y familiares digo más "porfa", o empleo el "gracias" en otro tono, es cierto. Pero lo uso.
Dion Baillargeon tal cual, incluso para pedirles que me pasen la sal o el pan les digo por favor 😅
It was lovely to see such a lovely couple discussing 'Spanish' and regional customs! Both very authentic; so quite refreshing!
As a Cuban living in the States for 25 years my recent first trip to Spain was a great experience, love that country, their culture and their people, me sentí como en casa propia, dije “gracias y por favor “ muchas veces y siempre fue bien recibido. No visitamos a nadie en su casa pero tanto en Cuba como en USA siempre ayudamos después de una fiesta o reunión familiar a los anfitriones. Thanks for the information, I guess is little different to everyone or depends where you go.
"Cuban living in the States" - american living in america, not cuban.
No es lo mismo una fiesta con amigos o familia, normalmente (navidades por ejemplo) cuando se reune la familia TODOS ayudan a cocinar y a fregar; cocinar como comer (y beber!) es un acto social. ¿Te imaginas una barbacoa con SOLO el anfitrion cocinando?
@@user-ez8le1rp3x Cuba, and all other countries in the Western Hemisphere, are part of America, but not part of USA.
@kohctahtnh Matebeeb I advise you to come visit America and learn a little before commenting on a subject you have no clue about lol …… oh yes I am a Cuban living in the States
Peter, I am Cuban too, this guy doesn't probably know where Cuba is located or that we speak Spanish lol...
I would add a number 12: I realized that people, at least in UK, used to ask "how are you?" just waiting for a "fine, thanks" as a response. In Spain (or at least in the south), if you ask "how are you" be ready to hear about our life and problems; if you ask it is because you are really interested, not just to be polite.
At least that was my feeling, in UK every time I replied with an honest answer I received a glance like "please don't botter me talking about your life...."... Then why do you ask?? XD
Helena Guedes hola que tal? Bien, tú? Bieeen. Me pones un kilo de patatas? ..... pues ni en España se elabora demasiado sobre qué tal estamos
@@jmusic2024 Una cosa es saludar al tendero y otra preguntarle a un amigo o conocido que cómo está y pretender que no te cuente su vida. En UK se interesan muy poco por la vida privada de los demás (que no estoy diciendo que sea mejor o peor que aquí, pero si es diferente y a mi me supuso un choque cultural). Al menos en Canarias, preguntale a cualquiera en el barrio que cómo le va y espérate una buena historia....
Helena Guedes You are generalising, I am British and if you need a shoulder to cry on all you need to do is ask!
vivo en UK, anda que no me han dejado sola veces hablando en la calle.... me preguntaban que tal, como estas...? y yo parandome a contar mi vida entera... cuando me daba cuenta se habían largado.... entonces para que me preguntas....!!!!!!
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Things that Spanish people (I am spanish)do is:
Laugh every second, everytime you can, everytime you breath.
Spanish people laugh a lot.
and swear
I agree while laughing and swearing at the same time. Hostia putaaajajajaja sí sí!
There is a term for it: "descojonanding"
I don't agree.
Ajo y agua ;)
Garlic and bread ;)
about washing the dishes after being invited over for dinner, i think its entirely a matter of closeness and familiarity with the people that live there. Being allowed to help around a kitchen that is not your own is a sign of trust and strong bonds between friends, cause the kitchen is the heart of any home. So if you are welcomed over inside another person kitchen i would say its a sign of a good trusting relationship.
I'm from England. We were always taught never to put our hands under the table - no elbows on the table either, like you. In a social situation, almost the first question you're asked is, what do you do - like in NZ. I think the Spanish system sounds much better.
I'm English and I've never heard the thing about no hands under the table. I do remember no elbows on the table from primary school.
I am Spanish and I personally think we feel more uncomfortable talking about our jobs to break the ice due to the unbearable unemployment rates rather than due to the motto "we work to live, not live to work". I've been a "nini" several years "ni estudia ni trabaja" and it hurts. Anyways people my age (Spanish young adults) always asked me what was my job when they met me, and trust me, you feel like a useless human being if you don't have anything "interesting" to answer. Situation has improved since then for me, luckily.
work doesn't define anyone.. I like that individuals are trying to connect with person and not a version of them based on work.. I also love that people for most part put their cellphones away and the conversation is genuine most of the time..
Aww that’s awful. You should come to a nice country like America. You’re English is rlly good for a foreigner. As long as you’re fluent in English verbally you could always get a job in the US. And with all the illegals flooding in you might be able to do some sort of communications job like construction site manager where bilingualism comes in handy
@@javiersaysHow can i find a job like artist for comic books in the Madrid?
I don't care about their jobs; I'm hardly a high-flying executive.
@@Aquarius285Like any other job, good luck and connections my friend. Although I must warn you, the comic book industry in Spain is pretty weak. People usually end op working on france or the USA (or for publishing houses from those countries, aka. online work). There is very little comic book culture, at least compared with the three titans.
There is a small industry in Barcelona, where said USA and French publishing houses will accept portafolios. But I have never heard of such a thing in Madrid. Maybe try to send your resume and portafolio to the publishing houses that probably have their main offices there, some magazines also tend to have 1 or two pages dedicated to comic strips. You could try a contest, but nowadays they are pretty rigged.
I guess try to network and gain the trust of people who are already inside the industry, make them aware if your work. Go to events when you can and talk to people. But in Spain rarely can someone live off of comics alone. Paco Roca is a goddam miracle considering we are past the comic strip age.
When (not if) an old lady jumps the queue in the supermarket, DO NOT call her out on it. Trust me, it's not worth the hassle.
If you glare at abuela long enough, she'll eventually return to her car, abandoned with the doors open in the middle of a roundabout because she spotted her neighbour on the corner and had to discus the price of alcachofas.
It is true that in Spain queues are not respected as much as in other countries. Neither do we put orderly on the right side of the escalators. Very true! 👍
Let's leave the older ladies ... it will be the best! 😂
Pablo Quesada Martínez I travel a lot and I disagree absolutely with this, sorry (but typical spanish to think any other country is better than us!
I particularly like the use of "l'ultim" instead of queuing up at the bank. I learned this in Barcelona. You walk in and ask, "L'ultim?", then the person who walked in before you will say "soc jo" and then you know your turn comes up after that person.
En los años ochenta, acuñé un término para esas señoras que de repente aparecen y se ponen delante cuando te va a tocar en la carnicería, pescadería o frutería. Las llamo "Mujeres Guadiana". Piden la vez, se largan a pedir en otros puestos, y luego vuelven y se te ponen justo delante.
I want to visit Spain and ultimately retire there. My father was born in United States and my mother was born in Chihuahua Mexico and live United States for 75 years. Both parents have passed away now, which gave me a reason to do a family ancestors search and both sides of my parents bloodline came from Spain and now I know why Spain has always been in my heart to be there. My last name is Arenas which means Sand's. God bless Spain.
How can i find a job like artist for comic books in the Madrid?
I am Spanish and when I moved to the US it was very strange to me that people bring food to your house to be part of the party you have created for them. In Spain if you invite someone to your house you prepare everything and serve it yourself, since you are the host and you are at home. You expect your guests to be in the living room having a good time, it may happen that someone is talking to you and could come to the kitchen and offer to help you, but you let the person go back to the living room or send him/her to the living room with something small, so doing the minimum because he/she is your guest. You start doing the dishes when everyone else has already left. This is often the case, because friends will also invite you to their home for special occasions. It is a Spanish custom and you invite people because you want to take good care of them.
As a Spaniard I've experienced something tricky with the "don't wash the dishes" rule. Sometimes, when you have more confidence and have visited a home a few times already, there will be this invisible moment in which you'll be close enough to them to help cleaning, and expected to, but they'll not tell you. I usually discover that I'm allowed to wash the dishes when they actually say I never do 😂 👌.
this could be a true clock of "closeness": are you allowed to wash the dishes?
@@javisobrin lol, totally hahaha!
You are absolutely right! I clean all the time at my friend's houses and help do the dishes once we finish eating. I wouldn't allow them to do it by themselves.
Im English. I have only been invited to eat with a spanish family twice (same family) ... Ive been surprised at how few 'friends' invite us to join them or to even "come round forva coffee/beer". In England, my door is "always open". Regarding the cleaning of plates after the meal .... even in England, its a question ... "do you want me to help?" the answer is either "si" or "no"
Hola Fiona
I love Yoly! Jacobo: "Rule #4: don't generalize about Spain" Yolanda: "which is something we're doing right now!"
Haha indeed!
Which is something 90% of spanish youtube commenters do about the rest of the world
I think the Spanish version of James’s name is Santiago, not Jacobo. Jacobo would be the Spanish version of Jacob/Jake.
@@Parafasio perdoname, but "Santiago" implies "St. James" thus Santiago de Compostela and not San Santiago (the Latin Sanctus Iacobus). Strictly speaking then, you probably mean "Iago." In England, the Jacobean Era coincides with the rule of James VI of Scotland/James I of England.
But then again, I was being intentionally pedantic: ordinarily, contemporary translation of the (rather common) name 'Santiago' is given as 'James.' Here's something I cut and paste from good ole Google: James can be translated to Spanish not only as Diego, but also as Iago, Jacobo, and Santiago. Also, these days it isn't unusual for the Spanish name Jaime to be used as a translation of James.
Sorry, I'm just an old man with too much time on my hands and the NYSE is about to close. Peace!
Juan Vergara No worries, Juan. You are correct that the most ethnologically (?) strict equivalence of Santiago is Saint James, and that James would then be Iago/Diego (or Diogo, in Portuguese). I’m trying to illustrate that, in modern usage, James has been directly (that is, without it having to be preceded by “saint”) with Santiago. I think we’re in agreement on that. Where we seem to disagree is in the usage of “Jacobo” for James, as I though Jacobo’s origin (as that of Jacob) is the Hebrew Yaakov.
I love this video because you have both discussed different aspects to the obvious (and excusable faux pas) los extrajaneros can make. If you come to live in Spain as an expat, finding out about the whys and wherefores of the culture is fascinating. I live in south east Spain and find that understanding Spanish culture is the best way to assimilate into your new life! Great stuff!
Sooo helpful! I am so guilty of ¨please¨´ and ´¨thank you¨. Same with helping in cleanup. Just starting to study Español. Planning our trip in March of 2023. You guys are the best. You deserve all of the support you can get for doing what you do. Just joined ' VENGA LEGS GO CONNECT! You two are a joy to watch!!! Keep it up!
I never expect guests to do dishes. They come to my home for hospitality, not to work.
Everyone could clean their things anyway. It takes little time to do it.
That being said, I usally take my dishes or whatever to the kitchen to save some time. I don't wash'em cause I feel like I'm touching to much of their things. Like I'm inside of their space (I don't know how to say it). 🤷♂️
A spanish guy.
yes you are right!
You invite some guest to your home and you want they are confortable, not to work .
Some people ask if they can help to do dishes but usually the host refuses.
unless you are in a family home, where you have more confidence to clean and use their things or put the dishwasher on without ask if you can help.
Donde vives ¿ yo tengo hambre pero no quiero lavar los platos después jajaja
Is that a thing? I don’t understand why anyone would expect guests clean when they are coming to spend time with you?
Even in U.S. guests are not expected to do dishes. Host says, "Dejeme en paz."???
In Spain, life comes first. In English culture, work comes first.
So true. Here in CA, it's always money, money money. Ughhhh
In London maybe, not the rest of the country
This is also a generalization. Saying that in Catalonia will be a conflict 😂
thats one of the reason of siesta
@@Josepcarrion So wait, just to be clear, in Catalonia do they enjoy talking about what they do for a living, or rather avoid it?
I lived in Spain for a few years and as an American my Spanish friends would say "you have more than we do but we live better than you do". This is true. Spaniards enjoy life in a way that we don't for sure.
Soy profesor de idiomas. Una anécdota que tuve de unos alumnos que vinieron a España a estudiar español eligieron Barcelona y por 3 meses estuvieron estudiando en una academia. Cuando regresaron a Japón, fueron a exámenes de español, se dieron cuenta que les enseñaron catalán. Mis alumnos tuvieron que comenzar de nuevo a estudiar español, porque catalán no se habla en Perú a donde ellos pensaba ir. Saludos desde Sevilla. España.
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Ops. Wow.
Esto simplemente no es cierto, nadie que esté estudiando catalán puede pensar que está estudiando español, durante un día, quizá, no durante 3 meses. Un verdadero profesor de idiomas nunca creería tal fabulación. Afortunadamente, en Barcelona hay estudiantes internacionales estudiando castellano o catalán, e incluso los dos idiomas a la vez.
No te lo crees ni tú.
Menuda mentira 😂😂😂
Damn her accent screams SPAIN.😂😂😂
I'm Spanish
You can hear her Spanish accent in her English, and it is interesting to listen to.
As an Englishman I don’t think having a foreign accent is a bad thing, it can be quite cute
Yolanda is perfect! That Spanish fire, something us Latin Ladies share
IKR, I thought daaamn she hasn't practiced her pronunciation... Then realized I would probably sound like that or worse and shut my internal grumpy critic up.
It sounds so interesting. The fact that you can hear the spanish accent through the English doesn't happen often, as most people just have an accent but you can't tell where it is from. Omg I imagine how the guys would sound. 😊
I’m quite excited because next year I am going to Spain for my 17th birthday. My parents are not typical American parents and would rather have their children explore other cultures. So I chose España. ¡Estoy muy emocionado!
Awesome!! Congrats on the trip!
Have a nice experience!
That would be 'emocionada', remember Spanish have gender. Hope your plans didn't get cancelled due to the virus.
Espero que tengas una gran experiencia!
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You both did a great job! I was at a cafe waiting for my cousin and on the phone with a friend who didn't understand Spanish culture (totally fine!), but my friend asked, "Oh my goodness! Are people fighting!?!?!" I'm like, No! They're just asking how the other person is doing, their kids, grandkids, etc. I forget that the tone, which is I was just completely used to, needs to be explained some times lol...As a Galician, thank you for addressing the province language/dialect subject. Absolutely proceed with caution if you're lumping all provinces and languages/together. You will be promptly corrected, especially by elders, and risk offending them. Yeah, do everything possible to not offend any Spaniard unless you're ready for a 1-2 hour lecture. Lol, love to all!
Passion and expressiveness, not fighting. 😂
Thank you very much. I think your introduction to Spain for foreigners is the most inclusive and respectful I ever found. Of course, as you say, some rules don't apply equaly in every part of Spain, but it remains a great introduction.
Besides, I agree with your rule number 1. Many people has the need, as Meritxell says, to speak about the civil war, but for a newcomer it's like opening an unsuspected can of worms. Almost everybody has a relative that has been dead in or because of the war, in any of the two parties. I don't feel most of us are yet ready to speak of it without all that pain crashing into the conversation and the people in it.
That holds true for the Greek civil war as well. So many decades after it.
What??? We do use "please" and "thank you", it is of good education here in Spain. So PLEASE, don't hesitate to say it every time you have to, THANK YOU...
No dijo que no lo usásemos, sino que se usa mucho menos que en inglés y es opcional. Y totalmente cierto lo que dice Yolanda de que hay otras formas más sutiles de ser educado. Yo no digo constantemente por favor y gracias por ejemplo.
@@kennyPAGC Hay gente que no comprende ni lo que lee ni lo que escucha. No se ha dicho que no se use, sino que se usa cambiando el tono de las frases, lo cual es más inteligente que estar continuamente diciendo los términos indicados, que bien pueden decirse y no sentirse, lo cual sería hipocresía pura, que es lo que hacen los anglosajones.
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En general yo suelo ver q la gente usa mas "gracias" q por favor
I understand this, but coming from the USA at least, we use it constantly. CONSTANTLY! My first few months living in Spain, I was always told to not say it as often- it may come off as fake.
Se supone que estos vídeos son para guiris y la mayoría de los comentarios son de españoles jajaja
Para los españoles todos los no españoles son guiris jajajajajajajajajaja
Es un decir, no hace falta ser tan literal. También son guiris los de los países bajos.
Yo soy una española guiri...Solo he vivido en España mis primeros 15 años...Sigo siendo española...no americana
@Benjamin Tjaa o machupichus
@@adamc7238 Soy francés y la última vez que fui a España se me ha llamado "franchute" no guiri 😂😂 aunq un amigo mío y francés era un guiri
That’s interesting about number 1. I was literally told by a Spanish person that I shouldn’t discuss it when I mentioned it.
Wow, what a useful video, thank you. I'm British and am planning on doing a Spanish course in Spain, so I will definitely be taking note of these tips. Thank you.
No se en qué partes de España habéis estado, pero en la mía decimos "gracias" y "por favor" todo el tiempo.
En muchas partes o mas bien, con gente educada y no de juerga o prepotentes, se dice mucho por favor y gracias. No tanto como los ingleses por favor!! Se pasan un pueblo!!!
Creo que es una question de perspectiva. Yo creia que yo en España decia todo el tiempo por favor y gracias y desde que vivo en Alemania y trabajo en ingles veo que hay miles de situaciones en las que en España no diria por favor.
Totalmente
@@sietecaracolas6675 totalmente, yo estuve viviendo en Inglaterra unos años y allí es cierto que meten un por favor o gracias en cada frase que dicen y a mí a veces me decían que los españoles no decíamos gracias mucho. Y creedme, estoy diciendo gracias casi siempre jajaja
En comparación con otros paises, no tanto, sobre todo en relación con trabajos de cara al público (restaurantes, tiendas, atención al cliente... etc). Es absurdo la cantidad de veces que te dicen por favor/gracias en Reino Unido o Estados Unidos, aquí sustitituimos muchos de esos "por favores" por el tono o incluso por gestos.
I'm Spanish and here we say thanks and please constantly. In a bar or restaurant, my friends and me we say "thank you" for each plate the waiter put in the table. You guys can say thanks and please constantly without problem!
Exactly!
What part of Spain are you from? It depends. I agree with James - it often seems like the staff don't like nor appreciate it
The truth is everyone is different, in every country. I know some people in England who don't like please and thank you being used too much, but most people don't mind.
I'm also Spanish I a disagree with your comment. Maybe you and your friends do it but most people don't
you are missing the point - yes you say it but you say please/ thank you much less that you would say in the UK - in the UK if you didn't say it then people would think you are being inpolite
My family is Southern Italian. I was raised very traditionally in the US. My parents NEVER let a guest enter the kitchen. If it was dinner, the table was cleared, scraps quickly scraped into garbage and dishes put to soak. One person did this while the other entertained the guests. If we visited someone, we never offered to help.
I'd be the same way, after guests had dinner I'd prefer to do the dishes alone after everyone has left.
@Warner-uf3mf it was considered rude to leave guests alone and the kitchen was not an entertaining room
I am a New Zealander and now a nonna. My greatest pleasure is to have my family and friends around my table. I do not ask them to clean up beyone my grand daughters putting the plates on the counter. I will not go into your kitchen when I visit.
The regionality issue and Catalan being a distinct really ring true in Italy, particularly Sicily. There are a lot of similarities with all the "rules." The one big difference is the beer thing. Italians do not dring cafè con leche after noon. Italians start "aperitivi" (cocktail hour) around 6 so while 5 is a bit early for beer, it's really more appropriate. You will be treated with unvarnished scorn ifyou order coffee with milk in a bar or restaurant after noon. An espresso is fine.
So it is in France too! I remember how often waiters made fun of Spaniards ordering “Café au lait” after lunch or dinner (sometimes by very rudely saying “Olé, olé”…
Pues yo digo por favor y gracias constantemente y me encantaría que la gente lo dijera mas.
Española aquí, lo mismo digo
Sameeeee, yo igual, cuando estoy con alguien en un bar o lo q sea y no le da las gracias al camarero me pone nerviosa 😂, sé educado hombre
Yo también! Nunca está de más!
Yo también
Sí
It's funny what you said about the dishes. I am a spaniard living in Germany and people here also help a lot after dinner. And I do agree that people doing my dishes or even loading the dishwasher feels invasive. I like to do these things my way and usually will wash things again or re-load the dishwasher after guests leave. Kitchens are a very private space in Spanish homes.
Plus, when the host starts doing the dishes, it is a covert sign that guests are overstaying and should leave.
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Hah…ok now i KNOW what Paula was doing last night!!! Got it.😊
I am mexican and totally feel the same way as you about the cleaning up after a party.
The same holds here in Greece.
In the States, like in Spain, people ONLY do dishes if they are part of the family, or friends like family. I have yet to visit a home in the US, where I have been invited to dinner, where the host/hostess expects you to take their dinnerplate, much less put them in the dishwasher. I do consider it very rude to start cleaning while my guests are still visiting. Of course, if it is 11:30 at night, and dinner was served at 8:30 PM, I do want you to leave.
In Sweden, it is not allowed to have the elbows on the table since the 60s and it is mainly based on the fact that many have Ikea tables and they can not handle the weight and fall apart easily. Having your hands under the table has become more accepted, then you support the table that is loaded with plates and food on it (to avoid collapse)
Ok.. thats funny 🤣🤣🤣
What rubbish about Ikea tables. Ikea produces simply the best for reasonable prices!
@@yebbleisaacs3570 Not funny, but emphatically stupid!
The tip is to use wood glue where ever you can. On the dowels and side of boards. But be sure you know what you are doing, and don't have to take the IKEA product apart. @@rossbrown6641
I am spanish and i love the things you see from here. Another way to say "talk me in Castilian or Spanish" is "háblame en cristiano" 😂
The "no hands under the table"rule. applies to the WHOLE of western Europe! ( greetings from the Netherlands)
But I think not realy in Germany. Could it be, that you have it in Netherlands from spanish people?
That 100% true in Hungary 🇭🇺🇭🇺
@@Kms356xfgh I grew up on Germamy and my german granny used to pull me up on a hand under the table, with words like: "No feeding the dog" WE DIDN'T HAVE A DOG🤗
and russia )
So your elbows are on the table?
lo de las manos encima de la mesa es porque parece que te estás tocando los huevos xDD
Es verdad, cuando me lo decían en las cenas de Navidad mi cabeza decía:
"Tío que estoy más cómodo así, no me estoy haciendo una p*ta paja xDDD"
Jajaja
Joder
@@david_ga8490 real😂😂
Sois muy simpáticos! I agree with everything you said. I am American but grew up in Spain , and still live here ( my husband and sons are Spanish) I consider myself half and half. I was 12 when Franco died, it was a different country. The one issue that has stood out to me that confirms that I am only spanish “by adoption “ is that I never grew up hearing stories about the civil war. Like you say, during Franco’s era it was not talked about, except in the privacy of families. All my friends have stories of what happened in their families . I only started finding out as an adult, terribly sad stories. Thank you for your channel ❤️
I love the way Yoly looks at James, smiling and nodding at everything he says :)
Y lo más importante, por favor, no hacer la tortilla en el horno.
And the most important, please, don’t make the Spanish omelette in the oven.
pero quién hace esta barbaridad????
@@paddygirl xD mi padre a veces cuando hace tortillas de patata y cebolla jajajaja pero las tortillas francesas las hace en la sartén como todo el mundo
What? Are you crazy
@@mariaastin hombre le puede dar un toque. Igual que hay gente que termina la paella en el horno.
Mi horno es demasiado pequeño para que pueda yo meterme.
I actually love this Spanish idea of not asking someone what they do when you just meet them. I feel like there are many other topics people can discuss if they are just getting to know each other, plus it is supposed to be a fun social event, not work related.
yeeeeessss same!
I agree. When anglophone people I don´t know start a conversation with, "What do you do?" I´m always tempted to answer "all sorts of things".
@@smahier It’s a boring conversation starter. People could ask about hobbies or books instead.
@@JuliasHairJourney exactly my point.
I absolutely can’t stand that people ask you what you do for a living in the US the minute that they meet you. It’s shallow. And while I am extremely proud of the work that I do, and I’m in demand….I often get responses from people that seem like it’s not lofty enough for them. I spend a lot of time with Europeans and Brazilians, and that’s never the first thing that they ask. I have people in my social circle and I don’t even know what they do for a living. I’m more interested to find out who they are. I appreciate that about Europeans in general
Hello! I come from Brazil, and although habits there may vary, I prefer to do the cleaning myself after the guests leave, so I can do it at my own pace and in my own way. I understand the kind principle of sharing the fun so why not sharing the work, but when I have the joy of having my friends at my place, I prefer to focus on the fun and share the work only if needed. By the way, I love to watch you guys, such a lovely couple 🥰
Very informative! Here in the US our civil war was over 100 years ago and we are still not “over it”. Definitely a difficult subject. Interestingly, we don’t speak much about the civil wars of other countries. For example the civil war in Spain isn’t widely known about here. ✌🏻❤️🇺🇸🙏🏻
That was 160 years ago and they still do Civil War reenactments.
I thought it was a weird scene when I married into a U.S. Southern family (Georgia) they talked about the Civil War like it *didn't* happen over a hundred years ago. And they'd use "we" when referring to the Confederacy. It really got interesting when they discussed all the winning/losing theories (facts for them). Those were the times when I was really like, wow, what in the world did I get myself into here? 😮 😄
At one point, Yoly says "I reckon", which she must've picked up from her husband. It's cute.
@@smarttreadersplatform7594 seriously?? And you can t even write "traders" properly? Go back sleep scammer🤣🤣
I'm a Slav, so ill break 7 of those rules on my first day in Spain.
LOL
Same same hahaha
LOL I would gladly allow you to do the dishes or this one doesn´t apply to you?
*_BLYAT_*
@@valiacocaserafin9175 *_I'M GREEK, SO I WOULD BREAK ALL OF THE DISHES._*
Thank you. I love reading all the comments. I’m going to Spain for the first time and I can wait. My parents are from Cuba, I thought speaking loudly was so normal, but some of my relatives were really loud. 😂❤
Really interesting video! Some interesting points here, many of them also are the same as in France, particularly conversation patterns and behaviour and manners at dinner for example. Here too, we don't talk much about work, stories last longer than in the UK, no hands under the table and the host always does the washing-up! Also here in the south 5pm is coffee or tea time, not beer time. That would be earliest at 6.30. 5pm here is the afternoon. In the UK and in northern Europe it is considered early evening. However the use of the formal word for you is very different in France as pointed out in the video, it is very common to use the 'vous' in France to strangers even of a young age and also to parents-in-law, some work colleagues to maintain a professional distance as well as always in shops and restaurants. It surprises me sometimes in Spain and in Italy when people address me with 'tu' in a public setting, such as a shop, for example. Also the point about please and thank you is interesting. In France I have always had the impression that 's'il vous plait' is used less than please in English, possible because SVP means literally 'if it pleases you' so can sound commanding and authoratitive.
Dishes stuff it´s pretty easy to explain. When you are in someone´s house, you are a guest. Guest in spain tradicionally have been treated as important people (civil war for example the police were offered a cup of your best coffee) so you offer the best you have and you show hospitality. If someone important eats at your house you don´t allow him/her to do anything related to dishes and that stuff. Nowadays when you are a guest, you should try to help or alt least ask your host as a well-educated guest but almost all host will tell you to stay in the couch or talking with them in the kitchen (if it´s a friend). The best thing you can do is always ask your host, it´s a way to be polite and show your good manners to your host (and many of them even if they tell you it´s not neccessary, they will grant your intentions anyway). Plus some people can understand that they are not being a good host if you have to help them with something while you are in their home
Muy tipico en andalucía y sur ofrecer lo mejor de tu casa y lo más caro a los extraños para agasajarlos o causar una buena impresión aunque es un comportamiento de todo el país. Algunos anfitriones preferirán que no ayudes y otros te dirán que sí pero la mayoría agradecerán que les preguntes.
@@Kipperlab In Catalonia it's not that "open", takes longer to invite someone to your place, the trust must be won for real, but once it is, becomes the same, a guest will have everything without having to ask, your place its their place.
That makes us look "more cold" sometimes, but it's just a different process to get to the same place, that's what I love from this piece of land, we all so different and so similar at the same time, how better would be if we use those differences to learn instead to "fight" each other (sorry for going a bit political, but with all the politic crap nowadays it's hard to not to)
@@wiros I am from the north too so I have the same pov but my granny is from the south so she explained me that "way of Life"
The first time I went into the kitchen and washed the dishes at my mother-in-law's (from Jaraicejo, Cáceres), she was shocked. Her comment was, ¡Oish, oish, oish! ¡Habiendo mujeres en casa! More or less, How can you dare wash the dishes when there are women in the house? Years went by and her line changed to, Michel, hace mucho que no friegas. In English, Michel, it's been a while since you last washed the dishes :))
Also in Italy, same as Spain. The guest is “sacred” (this is probably a Mediterranean tradition dating back to the ancient Greece times, not joking). So you would never like to ‘see’ the guest doing the dishes or similar. The guest is the guest ;)
Olvidaste una importante:
No comer los kiwis con la piel.
jeje!
a los aussies y kiwis le tienes que sacar las piel para comerlos.. buen consejo.
La piel es donde están las vitaminas, !todo el mundo lo sabe¡.
Ni las pipas... he visto extranjeras que no sabían comer pipas y las masticaban con la cáscara...
Pero ¿quién hace eso? 😱
Love your channel, love your connection, energy, honesty, desire to inspire, enjoyment of life
I am American and even here, there are different norms for different regions.
Where I grew up, we say the ENDING first then build up to it. So for example, I would say I broke my leg and build up explaining how. As opposed to starting the story and leading to saying breaking my leg. I have a short attention span so I enjoy knowing where things are going.
2. I grew up, you take left overs from a dinner party. But I know some people find taking food home impolite
3. Generally in America, for a party you bring alcohol for the house and everyone can have some, you leave it there. But once in college, I went to a party with International students and they bought beer for themselves and left with it.
I will be in Madrid either this year or next. I am exciting to learn so many things. Thanks for the video
For many Spaniards, "help with the work" is one of the key differences between "guests" and "family". Also expressed by the people who live in that house answering "¡hasta la cocina!" (all the way to the kitchen) when an arriving visitor asks "¿se puede?" (may I come in?). When I'm invited to someone's house for lunch by the first time I ask "want me to come early and give a hand, maybe bring something over?" and the answer tells me if I'm being treated as a guest or a relative-alike.
From my point of view, that question also has another advantage: it saves me from bringing an expensive bottle of alcohol as hostess gift for a teetotaler, as my friends abroad have very often done when coming to visit me. I mean, my stews do improve when I add some 12yo whisky to them, but it seems like such a waste of whisky!
I am English and wouldn't dream of asking or expecting my dinner guests to wash up! They are guests!
What a lovely lady she is, so happy , just reminds me what I love about spain, fantastic people and great culture
Great video, the subtle remarks about conveying politeness through tone was helpful, be great to have some more language videos with information on how to speak Spanish more naturally.
Great video! The number 1 rule is accurate. You only bring up the topic if the situation is really about it, like when you're talking about some people that you already know quite well and want to know about their family past experience, or want to listen to their train of thought about the topic, but it is a very sensitive issue, with still unresolved threads.
I'll take a beer at 5pm any day of the week with a big thank you
I like how you think Fernando! 😁🍺👍
¿Qué no decimos casi por favor y gracias? Ein?! No comparto esa vivencia en concreto, pero que conste que los dos sois la mar de majos.
en comparación con los anglosajones lo decimos poquísimo.
@@xalau5270 Yo la verdad discrepo. He vivido varios años en Suecia y he estado varias veces tanto en Reino Unido y Estados Unidos (aunque no he tenido la oportunidad de visitar Oceanía). Pero nunca he tenido esa percepción. Supongo que varia de persona a persona.
Yo cada vez que voy a Reino Unido vuelvo abusando de esas palabras y aquí suenan excesivas. Sí que hay una diferencia cuantitativa importante.
@@blanche1935 Yo fui a un cole inglés... y si, se entiende que un anglosajón debe ser correcto (polite), y dar las gracias por todo, pedir por favor. NO es cosa de decir Thanks y Please... son otras muchas expresiones que se añaden al lenguaje del sentido correcto. Ahora, eso no implica que el inglés actual, no se comporte como un gentleman, o una dama, vamos... Expresiones como May you/I do this... son un ejemplo.
Yo tampoco coincido... En mi entorno todo el mundo dice por favor y gracias xD
I believe coming from a once British country of New Zealand as compared to Spain is similar to my wife from Colombia and myself from the states. I like it when people stay behind and help cleanup or put the dishes in the dishwasher. Many hands make light work.
Thanks! Love your videos, you have a great chemistry, it’s fun to see you together.
Bread on the table depends on the establisment (fancy restaurants will have their own plates).
Cleaning up after parties, only very close friends tend to stay and help out. Families will almost always stay to clean up and help.
Never talk about civil war or politics UNLESS you are in someway interested around the subject of wars.
Do not worry if you do not understand any of the other 4 languages that are in Spain, 99% of the spanish population knows spanish either as their first or second language. So tourists or students abroad should not worry, but respect the fact that they are not dialects.
Totally - thank you for that!!
IAN WARD valencian and catalan are the same language, but we call it our way. Just like Balear.
Its disrespectfull when you call it a dialect from catalan, because its the same. And it sounds like a second leveled catalan.
@IAN WARD I could also say that Catalan is a dialect of Valencian (which has older historical writings), but is all a matter of nationalisms.
IAN WARD Don’t feel bad. Its me who have to thank you for preserving and using our language. You keep it alive, thanks for that effort!
The question of which language is a dialect of wich is pointless bc they all evolved together from latin at the same time.
Family is from Nicaragua, and grew up around mexicans, from what i noticed, we are taught to ask to help with dishes at least twice. The person cooked for us, or opened their house to us and its our way of saying thank you. Now, we mostly decline it but its nice to hear that they want to help as guests
I am Colombian-Irish. I am moving to Spain with my family later on this year, probably to Cádiz, Jerez, Arcos de la Frontera so I am interested in your videos a lot. Here for instance, we use Usted for family, pets and animals and close friends!
Good video.
I think we put bread on the table because culturally bread is always available to share. And on many occasions, even outside home, it feels good to break it without a knife, but with your hands. It is a very familiar gesture, and I think it is very beautiful and represents us.
In Hungary, it's also kind of rude to eat with hands/ a hand under the table. It is said to be inappropriate because others may never know what you're actually doing down there, as some people jokingly say; you could be scratching your testicles or trying to grab someone else for all they know, so it's better to put both hands on the table, making it possible for everyone to see that you're not into some weird shenanigans.
But anyway, thanks for the entertaining and very informative video, as always! :)
haha ok!
I guess scratching your balls under the table is a NO NO in Europe lol
@Hillary Clintub Idk where you're from, but back here we eat at tables, on which you rest your arms. lol
@Hillary Clintub I agree with Csongor. While most countries disapprove of elbows on the table, hands and forearms are fine.
Csongor Kakuk both hands under the table is a no no🤭
One more thing for you to know for your next video: We Spaniards tend a lot to complain about the country, the system, the people. I would say that it is because we have a lot of self criticism because we include us in that complain. But if you are a foreigner and hear that self-criticism, careful, don’t get into it!!!, because although between spaniards we accept that and tend to create long conversations about it, we don’t like foreigners to comment bad things about the country. I think that comes from a typical phrase very rooted in spain which is “Ver la paja, en el ojo ajeno”. We are taught to see our flaws and try to change them, but it’s super unpolite (unless your relationship is very close), to point out others flaws. Same with countries.
I think that’s a normal concept. It’s like when parents complain about their children; you can listen, laugh, or even complain about your own kids but never would you hear a parent complain about their child and try to join in. Lol
I've heard this before too .. thank you
I do agree with this, we Ricans tend to do the same yet don't do it if you are visiting, I'm guessing it's the same all over, my wife from Peru and it's the same story.
So basically, if you’re a foreigner in a group of Spaniards then you’re excluded from the ‘long’ conversation. Great! Sign me up!
Sounds a lot like the Brits too (or at least the English). I witnessed some foreigners fall into that trap in Liverpool and it did not go over well.
I'm an English Canadian who speaks fluent French and half-decent Spanish. Great video. Thanx for explaining the tú and Usted issues. I know it so well in French. Ciao.
This is so enlightening! I was raised to always keep one hand in my lap when eating unless I need it to use a knife to cut the food! These are social cues that you just don’t know as a foreigner.
Hola Brenda Collins
Very similar to the culture in Greece, but then so very many Spanish Jews came to Greece after their expulsion from Spain, there is even a version of the Churro in Greece, generally the Mediterranean countries share a lot of culture.
Really! Wow!
Very many spanish jews this is a wrong Word we are Muslims too and i'm Spanish. So in our country we have three religion that's All
@@spainrevealed eso no es asi
@@pogonaVisitor ¿Tú sabes lo que es la historia? En España se expulsó a los judíos sobre el 1500 y a los últimos moriscos unos años más tarde, que obviamente es a lo que se refería el comentario anterior. BTW, la religión musulmana (Ya no te digo la judía) es muy minoritaria en este país, y ha sido reintroducida por los emigrantes durante las últimas décadas del S.XX.
@@pogonaVisitor Los judios se expulsaron de España por orden de los reyes católicos a finales del siglo XV, Y los moriscos fueron expulsados por orden de Felipe III a principios del siglo XVII. Obviamente el comentario se refiere al primer evento y en ningún caso se refiere a hoy en dia, aprende historia antes de meter así la pata.
In the Philippines we grew up using terms like “Kastila” (Castilla) and “Kastillano” (Castellano) for the the citizens and language of España.
Its correct.. its a synonym... castilla and castellano .. castilla was a kingdom within spain.. today two autonomias have that name.
Yeah people usually use Castellano as a synonym of Español but not for people. We don't say castellanos=españoles
how interesting omg
Maria Astin de hecho yo creo que es un término que se aplica al idioma para diferenciarlo del español latino. Al menos yo lo utilizo así.
eva LP español americano* , “latino” es una cagada semántica
I've lived in Spain on and off for 5 or 6 years. I love Spain and hope to move back in a month or two. But one thing that has always bothered me is their strict timetable for eating lunch and dinner. I didn't know about beer o'clock. That's weird too. I love coffee but if I have one at 5pm I might not sleep at night. haha. In the US we have happy hour, so we also like to have a beer around 5pm.
as a spanish i can tell you we can drink beer at 5 pm, idk is their experience but i never saw something like that...actually most people i know offer you coffe, beer, infusion...doesn't really matter the time
Thank you very much for These heads up for our up coming first trip to Spain and Portugal!!!😊
La cerveza a las 5 pm no va bien porque ya se tomaron unas cuantas a las 11 am . Si no , compruebalo en los bares.
Yo diría que las 11 es muy temprano. A partir de las 12 o 12,30 si que ya ves gente tomándose un "aperitivo"
@@pedrofmc0000 como que temprano y hasta las 9 o 10 de la mañana a partir de semana Santa 😂
ademas lo del cafe con leche está relacionado con despertarse de la siesta del todo y aguantar hasta la noche xd
Lo que se conoce en las obras como "la hora del angelus"
Una cervecita a partir de las 2 o 3 de la tarde en verano especialmente en un bar se agradece y se vé por lo menos en Andalucia
You forgot a 12th rule...
Don’t go through life being paranoid about stupid rules!
Hola que comico saludos Ibero
Yeah, that is the best rule.
☝️☝️
I know right! Totally a Pesado move!
Yeah, I do say thank you a lot.
Cleaning after a party is both tiering and meditative. its a moment to unpack yourself before bed, and to chat with your flatmate or partner about how everithing went
A Spanish guy once pointed out that the British always opened a conversation with "So what do you do for a living?" After some time back in the UK I've realised it's a class thing. Middle-class people with interesting jobs love to talk about them - in fact it's a big identifier of who they are. Meanwhile, working-class people would never ask this or want to discuss their boring job in a warehouse or factory - if you want to chat to a local in a pub, for example, do not ask this question straight off the bat.
En verano la regla de la cerveza no existe, ya que chocaría con el deporte nacional de ir de terracitas.
siempre y cuando te la pongan bien fresquita 🤤
De todas formas hay bastante gente que toma cervezas en los bares a media tarde, e incluso a media mañana, y la verdad es que nadie lo ve como una cosa rara. Y con el vino lo mismo.
A mi me puede ofrecer a cualquier hora JAJAJA
Yo no se en que pais vives tu o que colegas tienes pero sea la hora que sea todo mis colegas quieren una birra. Siempre.
Si es la hora del cafe, bueno porque no. Pero la cerveza en españa es lo mas tipico siempre siempre a toas horas joder! Birraaaa cruzcampo y gambrinus!! XD
Supongo que dependerá de qué tan bien conoces a la persona y del tipo de "invitación" a tu casa que se trate. Siempre puedes ofrecer las dos cosas con una pregunta del tipo ¿quieres una cerveza o todavía estamos en la hora del café? Y santas pascuas. A mí también me pareció raro porque hay gente que a media mañana se toma una caña con unas tapas para "desayunar" en el break del trabajo. Pero luego lo pensé y sí, la verdad es que a las 5 yo voy más por el café que por la cerveza. Pero es que yo prefiero el café a la cerveza a cualquier hora.
I’m from the US and even I feel uncomfortable when people ask me what I do for work straight away. Maybe it’s my culture, not sure but, it bothers me. It feels almost equivalent to asking me how much money I make.
SurferGirl yes I totally agree! Here in Canada, people ask it often when they meet you. I think it’s more because they don’t know what to talk about...work and weather lol. I find it weird as if if they don’t have any interests
Salima Lavallee Yes! I usually ask them what they like doing or something about what’s going on at that moment. I think I’ve just always been one of those people that like to talk about meaningful stuff, although, I think talking about the weather can be a good start off because it shows people are interested in conversing with you. This gives us the sense that both people are welcoming and open. I like that. 😊
it is important to ask, i like to know who i'm talkin' with...what if i'm talkin' to a waiter???....i don't want to be seen talkin' to a waiter, i struggle to keep workin' class away from me
Interesting point! I normally ask about the job when I meet with a person for the first time, but never considered as if I was trying to identify how much they earn. It's more like I want to show interest on them and it is an easy way to start with. Doing this, you can also know about the type of things that that person likes. But reading your comments, this type of questions can be quiet uncomfortable for you, and there are many reasons to think so...
It's harmless, most people that ask are just attempting to have a passive conversation instead of having the awkward silence in a social setting, don't overthink it.
This video is very interesting to learn about other cultures and beliefs. Thanks for sharing!
You are very articulate. Doing the dishes deprives the host of fulfilling his role of being hospitable. (Hospitality is a prime value.) A good host needs good guests. Each must stay within their assigned role!