Release the intense painful charges and trauma of narcissistic abuse. 💜 The Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Program: courses.melanietoniaevans.com/p/narp 🦋
Being trauma bonded is absolute hell. My heart has been broken so many times. But I'm keeping my head up and moving forward. Not looking back is hard though, I still seem to believe I can save people. But I realized it's just an illusion I've created for myself. I need to work on me.
Forget about them,they are bed with someone else,hard as it is to hear they don't care. Having the ego that you are "special " to someone to who no-one is special leads to nothing but heartbreak.
I'll bet the farm...they know exactally what they've lost..but they will NEVER admit it..and they will blame you for everything...after all..perfection does not make mistakes..
Thank goodness people like you are able to share your experiences with others... caught in the web 29 years ago... there was a gapping lack of knowledge and information on Narcissists yet alone the devastation they cause to others. Having walked away from my abuser 15 years ago, my heart aches for those who are still seeking understanding and release... keep shining the light!
Your NARP program literally saved my life in 2020 after I finally left my marriage /relationship of 32 years to a raging narcissist who did the unthinkable, which was a blessingin hind sight,, giving me the push I needed to finally get out!!!! I still use your Modules and am grateful for the amazing work you do in this world! You are a gift!!!
It is an incredible feeling when you have reached the point in your healing where you can see eye to eye with the truth and accept that they never loved you and are very clear why the narc picked you. In my case the character traits I brought to the table are what has kept me alive and successful after the divorce and numerous, and cruel legal battles. These days I am at peace. I’m happy he is with someone else/someone else’s problem. It took a long time to heal but now I’m ready to enjoy life, to love deeply, to be in a healthy and supportive relationship and tap into my full potential. The kids are doing very well too and are mature beyond their age. I am deeply grateful for everything narcissistic abuse has taught me. At last I am myself. May the narc miss me. I truly don’t care. Only four more years of co parenting, nine already under my belt. Last leg on the journey, equipped with a good set of emotional tools. Life is good and thanks to great people like you, Mel, I’m alive. My daughter is too. You personally helped me after her suicide attempt. Today she is drug free and recently made it on the Deans list. Our relationship is still strained and she is very much under the influence of her narcissistic father, whom she lives with. Yet, against all odds she chose health, school and success over drugs and abusive boys. I’ll keep working on my healing so she can follow the positive energy. Sending you a big, big hug, Mel. You and your work mean the world to me. God bless you and your family. I want my daughter to become another Zack!
I also only have a few years before my youngest turns 18. However I am starting to see how lifelong contact with this man is inevitable. The kids seem to have more occasions as they get older where their dad and I have to be together. This particular weekend I’ve had to spend about 18 hours in this man’s presence lol. When we have grandkids it only going to get worse. I’ve come to realize I have to get my PhD in dealing with narcissistic personalities (my mom is also one). It’s sucks but it’s life. 😩
I bet they're missing the narc supply and dumping problems on you devalue and degrading you. They reminisce about the negative things they've done, and how badly they destroyed you. 😯
@@Js-wd6dr It's like they live their lives in a twisted cycle lovebomb, devalue, discard. It makes no sense to normal people but that's the norm to narc's. 😁
Just going through it, he disappeared after physically attacking me and head butting me which caused his head to split and then still took an ornament from the house which he is threatening that I used to attack him and apparently has his blood on it. I was laying on my bathroom floor and when I came to, I noticed blood on my face which was not mine and realised he was gone. I tried calling and texting. I only got a response from him 2 days later about our storage until and then he told me i hit him with the ornament and he has evidence. I’m still shocked
I have a narcissist in my life, not in a relationship but he’s in a higher position of authority, I seen that he ONLY THINKS OF HIM SELF, everything is working because of him, he’s the only one with the good ideas, and when something goes wrong, it’s everybody’s fault, a narcissist does not appreciate other people hard work, but he expect everyone to acknowledge everything he does, no matter how hard you work, it’s never enough, narcissist love to talk about themselves and everything they have accomplish, so what I have learned, stay away as far as possible, ignore him. Not worshiping he’s crap. I don’t give him what he wants.
So much do I appreciate your videos Melanie. You’re amazing and a comfort to so many. You look stunning. You’re an inspiration and living proof that as Beyoncé would say “you can’t break my soul”.
It’s over. It took almost 4 years. And some EMDR. Once I did that I was over it.❤️🖤❤️ Please people listen to these videos. Figure out what kind of narcissist you’re dealing with. And if you can’t for whatever reason go no contact mine is across the hallway. I just truced. But I let her know that absolutely no way we could be friends. I’m now free.❤️🖤❤️ I’m sending everyone watching this tons of healing energy and strength and positive vibes. 🕊🕊🕊☮️☮️☮️
I stood up to the narc that’s when I seen a different person - rage gaslighting and discarded I couldn’t stop contacting him for healthy closure met with silence I ended up taking a nervous breakdown - it’s 2 years since I’ve seen him
No, My Narc ex wife does not miss me, since she committed adultery by marrying her 2nd husband, why her blaming mother is married to a Baptist pastor from Bainbridge Island in which he's married into a trap. Glad you know my heart, Mel.
Not the ones that have passed away. I don't think the others miss me at all. They are family. Now it's just up to me to heal and find myself. I am in NARP now.
I just "Cut the Narcissist Free" three or 4 weeks ago (& I have wondered about this) in some moments.. I just DON'T want to get HOOKED-IN again. So I'm really interested in hat you say in this video!
I worked for a narcissist female manager and she was insane the most unprofessional incompetent person I've ever worked with in my life when she hired me everything was great but once I started the question her tactics and saw the incompetence in her ability to run the store she went ballistic started to degrade me the value me on and on and on until I eventually just handed the keys and walked out of the store I don't understand how this person is in charge she is a store manager for a well-known company The North Face it's unbelievable to me that these people are employed hopefully not for long and she'll be found out eventually awful only thing I could say is I prayed for her because I am a man of God and I hope the Lord can help her and save her soul
This Is What It Felt Like From The Vantage Point Of My Sleeping Mind. It Felt Familiar Normal But I Couldn't Help Noticing The Withdrawal Of The Good Stuff. Anything That Made Me Feel A Bit Better And The Ramping Up Of The Bad Stuff. Stuff That Makes Me Feel Bad. So My Problem Now How Do I Reset My Inner Thermostat To A New Normal? Where I Accept And Evan Expect More Good Stuff And Reject More And More Bad Stuff. This Is Not Some Cosmetic Repair But A Major Overhaul. Your Course Sounds Good Like What I Need But I Got A Very Poor Record With Study Courses 0 Out Of 10 Success Rate. I Think I Got ADHD. So I Just Do What I Feel I Can. Educate Myself And Self-Study And Hope For The Best.
Thanks to 🔝🔝 It is heartbreaking that I had an intermittent relationship for 5 years with my ex-drug addict, to always forgive him and come back to him, so now I broke up after finding out he was a total cheater and flirting. i couldn't take it anymore, i had to uncover the truth thanks to 🔝🔝 who helped me gave me useful information which really proves he was a cheater and also a liar.
my previous narc stopped feeding on my soul; and pulled the pin on the fat grenade at 58. she switched to more wine and pasta instead, i guess. glad i'm skinny and SOBER 14 years.....
well one big misconception here is many narcist dont have to seek out others,others seek them out.i used to be more the narcist badboy type and the way ladies treated me was great.meanwhile the nice decent guys that would have loved to have had someone in their lives and would have treated a lady with respects and deciency were alone.this more than anything is the biggest problem when we are talking about this issue.
Release the intense painful charges and trauma of narcissistic abuse. 💜 The Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Program: courses.melanietoniaevans.com/p/narp 🦋
Being trauma bonded is absolute hell. My heart has been broken so many times. But I'm keeping my head up and moving forward. Not looking back is hard though, I still seem to believe I can save people. But I realized it's just an illusion I've created for myself. I need to work on me.
Forget about them,they are bed with someone else,hard as it is to hear they don't care. Having the ego that you are "special " to someone to who no-one is special leads to nothing but heartbreak.
Perfectly explained
I'll bet the farm...they know exactally what they've lost..but they will NEVER admit it..and they will blame you for everything...after all..perfection does not make mistakes..
Happy birthday to me... The best gift I've given myself is getting out and letting go. 😁❤️🤗 Peace and love 💞
Thank goodness people like you are able to share your experiences with others... caught in the web 29 years ago... there was a gapping lack of knowledge and information on Narcissists yet alone the devastation they cause to others. Having walked away from my abuser 15 years ago, my heart aches for those who are still seeking understanding and release... keep shining the light!
Your NARP program literally saved my life in 2020 after I finally left my marriage /relationship of 32 years to a raging narcissist who did the unthinkable, which was a blessingin hind sight,, giving me the push I needed to finally get out!!!!
I still use your Modules and am grateful for the amazing work you do in this world! You are a gift!!!
It is an incredible feeling when you have reached the point in your healing where you can see eye to eye with the truth and accept that they never loved you and are very clear why the narc picked you.
In my case the character traits I brought to the table are what has kept me alive and successful after the divorce and numerous, and cruel legal battles.
These days I am at peace. I’m happy he is with someone else/someone else’s problem.
It took a long time to heal but now I’m ready to enjoy life, to love deeply, to be in a healthy and supportive relationship and tap into my full potential.
The kids are doing very well too and are mature beyond their age.
I am deeply grateful for everything narcissistic abuse has taught me.
At last I am myself.
May the narc miss me. I truly don’t care.
Only four more years of co parenting, nine already under my belt. Last leg on the journey, equipped with a good set of emotional tools.
Life is good and thanks to great people like you, Mel, I’m alive.
My daughter is too.
You personally helped me after her suicide attempt.
Today she is drug free and recently made it on the Deans list.
Our relationship is still strained and she is very much under the influence of her narcissistic father, whom she lives with.
Yet, against all odds she chose health, school and success over drugs and abusive boys.
I’ll keep working on my healing so she can follow the positive energy.
Sending you a big, big hug, Mel. You and your work mean the world to me.
God bless you and your family.
I want my daughter to become another Zack!
I also only have a few years before my youngest turns 18. However I am starting to see how lifelong contact with this man is inevitable. The kids seem to have more occasions as they get older where their dad and I have to be together. This particular weekend I’ve had to spend about 18 hours in this man’s presence lol. When we have grandkids it only going to get worse. I’ve come to realize I have to get my PhD in dealing with narcissistic personalities (my mom is also one). It’s sucks but it’s life. 😩
So true you part with so much when you are with them ! ❤️
Good job! You look fabulous!
The narcissist is all business and no heart!
Dear Melanie,
This has come to the right Time. I was really ruminating about this....
Thank you ❣️
When I finally called time on the tovic merry go round my ex narc actually said no more parasite for you. They know what they are.
I bet they're missing the narc supply and dumping problems on you devalue and degrading you. They reminisce about the negative things they've done, and how badly they destroyed you. 😯
They miss the cycle...lol...love bombing, devalue and the discard
@@Js-wd6dr It's like they live their lives in a twisted cycle lovebomb, devalue, discard. It makes no sense to normal people but that's the norm to narc's. 😁
@@paulzedx636ninja7 yep they are crazy birds!
Just going through it, he disappeared after physically attacking me and head butting me which caused his head to split and then still took an ornament from the house which he is threatening that I used to attack him and apparently has his blood on it. I was laying on my bathroom floor and when I came to, I noticed blood on my face which was not mine and realised he was gone. I tried calling and texting. I only got a response from him 2 days later about our storage until and then he told me i hit him with the ornament and he has evidence. I’m still shocked
Out of all the videos I’ve watched on UA-cam you’re the only one who understood me so well! Thank you for bringing peace to my mind and heart 🌹
I have a narcissist in my life, not in a relationship but he’s in a higher position of authority, I seen that he ONLY THINKS OF HIM SELF, everything is working because of him, he’s the only one with the good ideas, and when something goes wrong, it’s everybody’s fault, a narcissist does not appreciate other people hard work, but he expect everyone to acknowledge everything he does, no matter how hard you work, it’s never enough, narcissist love to talk about themselves and everything they have accomplish, so what I have learned, stay away as far as possible, ignore him. Not worshiping he’s crap. I don’t give him what he wants.
Thank you so much, Melanie, for continuing to do this incredible work you are doing on this earth and this great topic! ❤️🦋❤️
So much do I appreciate your videos Melanie. You’re amazing and a comfort to so many. You look stunning. You’re an inspiration and living proof that as Beyoncé would say “you can’t break my soul”.
It’s over. It took almost 4 years. And some EMDR. Once I did that I was over it.❤️🖤❤️ Please people listen to these videos. Figure out what kind of narcissist you’re dealing with. And if you can’t for whatever reason go no contact mine is across the hallway. I just truced. But I let her know that absolutely no way we could be friends. I’m now free.❤️🖤❤️ I’m sending everyone watching this tons of healing energy and strength and positive vibes. 🕊🕊🕊☮️☮️☮️
No, because they didn’t know what they had.
I stood up to the narc that’s when I seen a different person - rage gaslighting and discarded I couldn’t stop contacting him for healthy closure met with silence I ended up taking a nervous breakdown - it’s 2 years since I’ve seen him
No one will replace the things I could do
Thanks for your content.
Needed this tonight💓
No, My Narc ex wife does not miss me, since she committed adultery by marrying her 2nd husband, why her blaming mother is married to a Baptist pastor from Bainbridge Island in which he's married into a trap. Glad you know my heart, Mel.
You hit the nail on the spot❤
Bless you. I needed to hear this tonight ❤
Very powerful! Thank You Melanie💐😘
Love ur compassionate tough love, thank u for helping me across this wild river 💕☮️💫🙏🏾
Not the ones that have passed away. I don't think the others miss me at all. They are family. Now it's just up to me to heal and find myself. I am in NARP now.
Thank you 🙏. I needed to hear this today.
Your work is very much appreciated. God bless you!
You have such a soothing voice
I just "Cut the Narcissist Free" three or 4 weeks ago (& I have wondered about this) in some moments.. I just DON'T want to get HOOKED-IN again. So I'm really interested in hat you say in this video!
Great video. Thanks for all the info.
Thank you, this is very helpful ❤️
Thank you so much
Thank you Melanie
The new recruit has it all to come..god help that poor woman. It’s torturous when in it and when getting out of it.
He left me to move back by his mama but tells me we Re still in a relationship
I worked for a narcissist female manager and she was insane the most unprofessional incompetent person I've ever worked with in my life when she hired me everything was great but once I started the question her tactics and saw the incompetence in her ability to run the store she went ballistic started to degrade me the value me on and on and on until I eventually just handed the keys and walked out of the store I don't understand how this person is in charge she is a store manager for a well-known company The North Face it's unbelievable to me that these people are employed hopefully not for long and she'll be found out eventually awful only thing I could say is I prayed for her because I am a man of God and I hope the Lord can help her and save her soul
Sending love out to you
This Is What It Felt Like From The Vantage Point Of My Sleeping Mind. It Felt Familiar Normal But I Couldn't Help Noticing The Withdrawal Of The Good Stuff. Anything That Made Me Feel A Bit Better And The Ramping Up Of The Bad Stuff. Stuff That Makes Me Feel Bad. So My Problem Now How Do I Reset My Inner Thermostat To A New Normal? Where I Accept And Evan Expect More Good Stuff And Reject More And More Bad Stuff. This Is Not Some Cosmetic Repair But A Major Overhaul. Your Course Sounds Good Like What I Need But I Got A Very Poor Record With Study Courses 0 Out Of 10 Success Rate. I Think I Got ADHD. So I Just Do What I Feel I Can. Educate Myself And Self-Study And Hope For The Best.
hey beautiful lady! you look well.
Thanks to 🔝🔝 It is heartbreaking that I had an intermittent relationship for 5 years with my ex-drug addict, to always forgive him and come back to him, so now I broke up after finding out he was a total cheater and flirting. i couldn't take it anymore, i had to uncover the truth thanks to 🔝🔝 who helped me gave me useful information which really proves he was a cheater and also a liar.
my previous narc stopped feeding on my soul; and pulled the pin on the fat grenade at 58. she switched to more wine and pasta instead, i guess. glad i'm skinny and SOBER 14 years.....
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children need to be reminded about how good they are Ms Evans. And the narcissist is ultimately a child, please keep that in mind.
well one big misconception here is many narcist dont have to seek out others,others seek them out.i used to be more the narcist badboy type and the way ladies treated me was great.meanwhile the nice decent guys that would have loved to have had someone in their lives and would have treated a lady with respects and deciency were alone.this more than anything is the biggest problem when we are talking about this issue.