When you've been hurt, to heal you must go THROUGH the pain. Not around the pain, not suppressing the pain, not medicating the pain, not distracting away from the pain. FEELING and Processing the pain gets the pain over as quickly as possible and you LEARN.
Facts! And when you look back and have healed/are healing, your confidence just soars! If you can make it through narcissism, I'm convinced you can literally do anything.
JustSeekerLanding I totally agree with you and that is what assisted me the most with losing the desire to have any contact with the last highly narcissistic man I got caught up with, which is true freedom, even though it was excruiatingly painful at times, due to my extreme childhood trauma wounds. Mind you, I've found it a lot more difficult with family members, especially my precious daughter, and others, which is to be expected. I'm getting there though and my daughter ended up stopping contact with me a long time ago, so she made the decision. Of course, I was extremely upset at first, then realised that it was better than getting abused, including death threats. It might be different in the future, yet don't have as much hope as I used to. I've gradually cut right down on contact with other family members, who don't like my messages and put me down anyway. They'll probably criticise me for not contacting them next! I've been saying that it's best if people don't talk to me, if I'm causing them so much angst, or I'm slowly learning to stay away from those types of individuals. ❤
Take it from me I spent many years in trying to escape my Narcissists I did physically and then it was vibrational. I did many healing ways and quit some habits that the Narc could use against me. I was at my worst when I met Melanie 2014-2015 I was homeless with one of my grown children in mental breakdown and we were living in my other child’s living room; didn’t anyone care…. The NARC and his crew never ever helped…. It’s True Buck up cause if you fiddle around think things will change with time…. Oh No it won’t ! Every word Melanie shared is pure Gold. Listen to it over and over so you get it within…. It Carrie’s All the Hope of New Beginning’s a template . I Am Now after having NARP to Guide me I can live my dream life because this time I Am making my choices with out the constant chaos of being controlled and walked on. I will never be abandoned again forI have my true self. I send out peace and strength and know you got this💕
I don’t think a narcissist can manipulate anyone who knows about them! I do find myself looking at everyone wondering if they are narcs… even females when I feel slighted by them.
As a true friend to someone stuck in a what appears to a Narcissistic living situation with her parents, I can honestly say that with the Lord's help I will rescue her as soon as I can. And once she is safely our & fully healed, together she & I will help others escape the negative programming, such as Learned Helplessness & Coercive Control, that keeps them stuck under the power of Narcissists & other manipulative people.
Wow. Incredible advise. I was feeling like I was on the wrong track when I was trying to UNDERSTAND them… So I did a search on becoming immune! Fantastic advice. Thank you for sharing
They hurt you as a distraction from their own pain. They can entertain themselves with someone else not me. All those triangulations. Hope they all enjoy
To my opinion it is both beneficial and important. However the most crucial part is to be focused on your own (healed) Self, so you automatically will be signaled if something is off in your surrounding.
I’ve done well with recognizing narcissists, but I wasn’t prepared for the ptsd when my employer hired a raging narcissist. I picked up on it right away and the first conversation with him made me nauseous. It was hard to explain to my employer what they were getting into because I completely lost it. Our office was turned into utter chaos because of him. It was very difficult in a situation where I couldn’t walk away and it took 2 weeks to pull myself together. Well… that was 6 months ago… and now they understand what I was trying to tell them. His mask is off…
Actually Dr Joe Dispenza meditations are helping me with awakening to my trauma and helping me to transmute the energy of old beliefs that no longer serve and it’s Free. 😊
Thanks to 🔝🔝 It is heartbreaking that I had an intermittent relationship for 5 years with my ex-drug addict, to always forgive him and come back to him, so now I broke up after finding out he was a total cheater and flirting. i couldn't take it anymore, i had to uncover the truth thanks to 🔝🔝 who helped me gave me useful information which really proves he was a cheater and also a liar.
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It helps...if I didn't study about them I'd be married to one right now but instead I noticed the gaslighting VERY early on and left.
When you've been hurt, to heal you must go THROUGH the pain. Not around the pain, not suppressing the pain, not medicating the pain, not distracting away from the pain. FEELING and Processing the pain gets the pain over as quickly as possible and you LEARN.
Hi what you actually said is true I'm also a victim of this and i want someone to talk to me
Yes!! THROUGH is the only way!
Facts! And when you look back and have healed/are healing, your confidence just soars! If you can make it through narcissism, I'm convinced you can literally do anything.
Yes. Pain is a warning
JustSeekerLanding I totally agree with you and that is what assisted me the most with losing the desire to have any contact with the last highly narcissistic man I got caught up with, which is true freedom, even though it was excruiatingly painful at times, due to my extreme childhood trauma wounds.
Mind you, I've found it a lot more difficult with family members, especially my precious daughter, and others, which is to be expected.
I'm getting there though and my daughter ended up stopping contact with me a long time ago, so she made the decision. Of course, I was extremely upset at first, then realised that it was better than getting abused, including death threats. It might be different in the future, yet don't have as much hope as I used to.
I've gradually cut right down on contact with other family members, who don't like my messages and put me down anyway. They'll probably criticise me for not contacting them next!
I've been saying that it's best if people don't talk to me, if I'm causing them so much angst, or I'm slowly learning to stay away from those types of individuals. ❤
Take it from me I spent many years in trying to escape my Narcissists I did physically and then it was vibrational. I did many healing ways and quit some habits that the Narc could use against me. I was at my worst when I met Melanie 2014-2015 I was homeless with one of my grown children in mental breakdown and we were living in my other child’s living room; didn’t anyone care…. The NARC and his crew never ever helped…. It’s True Buck up cause if you fiddle around think things will change with time…. Oh No it won’t ! Every word Melanie shared is pure Gold. Listen to it over and over so you get it within…. It Carrie’s All the Hope of New Beginning’s a template . I Am Now after having NARP to Guide me I can live my dream life because this time I Am making my choices with out the constant chaos of being controlled and walked on. I will never be abandoned again forI have my true self. I send out peace and strength and know you got this💕
I don’t think a narcissist can manipulate anyone who knows about them! I do find myself looking at everyone wondering if they are narcs… even females when I feel slighted by them.
That's for sure: once you know a given narcissist, to ever trust them again is like going back to meat that has outlived it's expiration date.
As a true friend to someone stuck in a what appears to a Narcissistic living situation with her parents, I can honestly say that with the Lord's help I will rescue her as soon as I can.
And once she is safely our & fully healed, together she & I will help others escape the negative programming, such as Learned Helplessness & Coercive Control, that keeps them stuck under the power of Narcissists & other manipulative people.
You're are a wonderful resource of information. Finally free. Now healing. Phoenix rising from the ashes. 🌺
NARP does work, and helped me change my focus from the narcissist to myself. What a difference that makes! Thank you so much, Melanie. 💓
I have been watching and learning from you for 2yrs. You keep getting more beautiful as time goes on. Thank you so much for all your help for me. 🥰
Wow. Incredible advise. I was feeling like I was on the wrong track when I was trying to UNDERSTAND them…
So I did a search on becoming immune! Fantastic advice. Thank you for sharing
They hurt you as a distraction from their own pain. They can entertain themselves with someone else not me. All those triangulations. Hope they all enjoy
Lots of love, too Melanie
Very valuable topic here!!! Details on exactly HOW can I be free if it forever as I keep attracting them! It’s maddening 😫
Give a chance to someone "boring"
So brilliant and so tremendously helpful. Thank you.
Thank you Melanie so empowering- thank you for the powerful Mantras
To my opinion it is both beneficial and important. However the most crucial part is to be focused on your own (healed) Self, so you automatically will be signaled if something is off in your surrounding.
exquisite advice - im working on it - thank you!
I’ve done well with recognizing narcissists, but I wasn’t prepared for the ptsd when my employer hired a raging narcissist. I picked up on it right away and the first conversation with him made me nauseous. It was hard to explain to my employer what they were getting into because I completely lost it. Our office was turned into utter chaos because of him. It was very difficult in a situation where I couldn’t walk away and it took 2 weeks to pull myself together. Well… that was 6 months ago… and now they understand what I was trying to tell them. His mask is off…
Real 👄 🦜 🗣 talk you hit it all. 👏 👏 👏 👏 👏 I take my hat off to you.
Thank you, I really needed this
Though we don't have narc repellent spray this video should help us a lot. LOL 😁😅😁
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Where do I find the video of you and your son Zach? I think my daughter has narcissistic traits. Thank you for sharing all of your knowledge 💗
You are only vulnerable if you care. As soon as you have the courage to treat them like shit they will panic and run!!!!
Actually Dr Joe Dispenza meditations are helping me with awakening to my trauma and helping me to transmute the energy of old beliefs that no longer serve and it’s Free. 😊
I love your videos...but you needed a microphone with this one :(
Thanks to 🔝🔝 It is heartbreaking that I had an intermittent relationship for 5 years with my ex-drug addict, to always forgive him and come back to him, so now I broke up after finding out he was a total cheater and flirting. i couldn't take it anymore, i had to uncover the truth thanks to 🔝🔝 who helped me gave me useful information which really proves he was a cheater and also a liar.
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