How To Deal With Loneliness
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- Опубліковано 3 жов 2024
- Is a feeling of loneliness tied to being incomplete without a partner? Delving into the idea that it is unseemly for a woman to be alone, Kim suggests that it is the questioner's belief in this standard that is causing her unhappiness. Kim gently urges the woman to confront this deeply held belief, fully experience her loneliness without resistance, and discover her own innate internal completeness.
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This is probably the second video that I watched of Kim Eng and I seem to get everything she has to say in a very big way. I see a counselor, psychotherapist, psychic, and a good friend in the way she answers questions. What a gift to see right through a person’s heart and offer advice. Bless you Kim.👼
Kim is a SPECTACULAR teacher. I just found her on UA-cam today. I was looking for some good Eckhart videos to listen to; and I found videos of his wife teaching. Truly wonderful. Thank you both Kim and Eckhart!!!
I feel the pain in her eyes. Bless her for having the courage to speak up!
Somewhere in Eckart presentations he said, it's the desire from our own mind.
Agreed. Saw that.
I don't see the pain. Maybe it's your pain you're projecting. No judgment, just maybe?🤔💗
MH S It makes sense. We are each other’s mirrors. I also see pain in her energy. Propbably coz this pain is also in me.
But she didn’t have the courage to say she is unhappy she was obviously but was saying I m not
When Im feeling lonely and want to get back to my ex. i just played kim Eng and Eckhart teachings ... Thank you both 💖
the most beautiful couple is:
two independent people, who loves themselves, are happy without a person, but enjoy s time with the partner.
Yepp.
If I could find her
Exactly!
Absolutely yes!
Pleasent wish
“I’m married to the consciousness within myself” MIC DROP
lol ❤
I was like 👏👏👏
Lol😅
👍
I wish she could delve into THIS
Loneliness is not that you’re yearning for someone outside of yourself; it’s because you are yearning for YOUR SELF. Now, don’t read this sentence and then think about it; instead let it enter within your heart and blossom.
SighDown ⭐️💚⭐️
I never thought of this, true for me.
I believe there's a difference between 'thinking about it' and trying to analyze or rationalize it. Do the First, not the 2nd or 3rd
Wow
Personally I don’t lecture for others.... if someone tells their feeling about I like to listen and comfort them ....if the one in pain is me I like to listen to her and remember
I feel like I've evolved past the need for a romantic partner. I left the dating world two years ago and haven't felt the need to return to it, or even just meet someone organically. This messes with people's heads so I don't mention it anymore... people often feel threatened by someone who is alone, yet content and fully complete. I love being alone. I don't know why, but I love it. 💗
I was the same for about four years and now would like to meet someone, Marsha Alison. It wasn't like what the speaker her references, I really didn't want a partner, so if one had emerged, I would have sent him away. I once annoyed the husbands at a dinner party when I spoke about how much I loved being alone. They couldn't believe I was happy. I don't know why people don't get that this is possible and can be perfect. I am still satisfied but would enjoy having a companion.
Omg I am going through this right now. I assumed that after a year of designated "alone" time (which came after 2 years of simply recovering from a traumatic breakup), I would feel a natural motivation to return to dating, but I don't think that's going to happen... much to what will be my mother's chagrin lol
Omandita4, dating seems like a chore because the odds are against anyone being "the one." I believe that these things can and sometimes do happen organically if we are expecting them or not. I am hoping.
The only person who can make you happy is YOU. It is very dangerous to rely on others for validation as if they change or leave you it will be very difficult to cope. Whether in a relationship or not, learn to know and love yourself. Teach your children this 💕
@@gillianm9367 it does seem true that one is the most in charge of their own happiness.
I wish there were more videos of Kim's lectures and classes. She has the ability to break through and help a person see and identify thoughts and feelings that one can express on their own and this allows understanding oneself.
She is a wonderful teacher. When people ask a question, she always manages to make a perfect lesson.
Thanks Kim! Lovely. Great to hear your beautiful insights. I can make sense of the times I walked on hot coals during relationships I've experienced. Thanks, I've come a long way since I first listened to Eckhart a year ago as I built my mountain bike track. I named a corner after him and think of him every time I whip through it. I no longer find a need to argue with my wife and teenage daughter. Life is now peaceful serene and creative as I experience this, now. I can't really put my finger on it with words so just thank you Kim.
This is such great advice. If only people got this the divorce rate would drop as people wouldn’t choose a partner from loneliness but from a safe happy place. Interdependent relationships are the healthiest. Not co-dependant. We come into this world alone and leave alone so be happy alone. Make that connection with your inner being and the rest falls into place 😊
Lisa Marie i got divorced when I was 27 and I pretty much have been single since then. I turned 40 four days ago, and I don’t have family of my own. I used to wonder why I’m in this situation and was blaming myself for not being able and also ashamed for not having a partner. But at the same time I’ve known that I won’t have that until I’m in peace with myself and find happiness within me. I’ve been desperately seeking for years, and have been wondering in darkness for a long time with no answers. But since half year ago, things has been revealed to me and i i know where to seek and I know the tools. I think that when I am in peace with myself and become the one I’m meant to be, the right person will show up. Somehow God will introduce that person to me. But most important I’ll be happy and have a meaningful life even without a partner.
I think you meant to write "INDEPENDENT relationships are the healthiest."
Golden... Thanks. I need the patience.
No, I think she meant interdependent; next level.
M Munroe interdependent not independent x
The BEST advice after having a break up!! Thank you!
I love how Kim didn't get stopped when the lady thanked her abruptly and sat down, and she asked her to look at why she ran away after the initial responses. Didn't get let her just slide. That was so powerful. So thorough through and through. Nothing stepped over. Thank you Kim!
She ran away because Kim was too intimidating. I would run away too
Wow Kim, thanks so much for this video. After a 14 year marriage, I am in a place now of re-building myself and really finding within me everything that I used to seek outside but that I can only find within me: self love, self appreciation and all the other "selfs" :). Thanks a lot
Why is this so good!!! The way she says it so succinctly... Definitely coming back to rewatch this!
So encouraging and inspiring to hear about your and Eckhart's relationship -- the way that you have found creative ways to honour one another's space. Thank you for sharing!!!
They’re fortunate they have the money to live separate but together....a lot of people do not.
💚💚🙏🙏
Thank you so much. It makes so much sense to me know. One should love yourself first, before you can give love to someone else.
I don’t feel incomplete, I do want a man in my life for the sharing, the growing and physical aspect of being with him. I feel happy. Wanting to have this only for an enhanced experience does not mean it is because of a need or belief.
The woman who asked the question was right that this is a question all people would like to ask, that’s why the others laughed.
Thanks to the Lady for questioning such complex and true feeling.
I love how honest Kim is about needing space in a relationship. Love relationships have been so overly romantized to the point where it seems to be symbiotic. This is to my mind why so many ppl nowwdays have committment issues....becaus they think they have to erase themselves. The best relationship is where everyone gets the space they nees without having to feel bad about it.
Well said. Yes
Can we please stop looking at Kim as a „substitute teacher“? She is her own entity, she brings her own flavor into the mix. She isn’t here to replace or rival with Eckhart. See it as peppermint and chamomile tea. Both help your tummy, but their taste is entirely different. No need to compare.
Thanks. I concur strongly xxx
Yes please and thank you!!
Thank you Moonshadow Garden
Way to work on your judgement, Mister! You see a video and project your opinion onto people you don´t know, "waste" your time on a comment about something you don´t like instead of clicking onto THE OTHER THOUSANDS of Eckhart videos available. She is on the thumbnail! It´s not like you we´re lured into believing it should have been him...
Daniel Eder ASMR Italiano Italian Still you waist your time with me on your high horse. Merry Christmas!
this is both hilarious and genius. Kim is far more revealing of and in touch with her human side than Eckhart is and it's refreshing. many of my ideas have been set aside via this conversation alone.
This is the most helpful advice I've ever heard. Thank you so much! I feel liberated now.
Thank you Kim. Also for the honesty in not putting yourself and Eckhart on a "spiritual pedastal" This shows true wisdom. You aren't ignoring our human nature whilst pointing to the Divine within us that reveals itself more and more when we acknowledge and accept ourself. We know our deeper self is beyond thought and belief. You have helped me today and many people not just women. It made me cry as I felt your love and empathy. I love Eckhart and now I see why he loves you. Blessings to you both and to everyone on here who at times feels frustrated by their seeking to understand who they truly are at the deepest level because the mind or belief gets confused for who we are. It's OK to be human but be the Presence we are in our human ups and downs. Ups and downs are essential to experiencing in this world. There's no day recognized without night. 💗
I dropped the need to be with a woman a year and a half ago. Next month I celebrate my 1 year anniversary with the woman of my dreams. In my experience what she described is 100% true
Gives me hope
@@giovannifabrik5003 3 years together now!
@@JoLaureys thank you for sharing this!
@@GillianMulholland getting married this summer 😄
A need for intimacy is natural on all levels. Not a belief but her Saturday morning is a reminder of the absence
Embracing my own beautiful company embracing being alone.
Andreas Leon Landgren ❤️
MGTOW?
This is such a great teaching. Living separately with a partner sounds like a clever idea!
If you have the money to do that!
100%
But again in today's world it's already like living desperately u wake up in the morning the. U meet at night that's it ..when u work you are seperate either way
That woman wants the feelings you get from a romantic sexual relationship and I understand that
lol
There is a type of love only a partner can give you.
Of course, the attention, the specialness, the exclusivity, the (mutual) attraction, the distraction,...
But all those last only for so long.
We live in a ‘Coupled world’ I became widowed six years ago. It’s difficult to constantly be walking into social gatherings alone, seeing couples all around you. Also 80% of the time if your other friends are couples they won’t invite you to social gatherings they are having at their house or if they’re meeting at restaurants because they know you will show up by yourself. And being a single woman you become a threat to the other women that are paired up that do not have a lot of self-confidence about their own relationships. Believe it or not ....it’s in your face a lot when you go out into a social setting. I’ve been doing it for six years. You have to be strong and feel whole like she’s saying to keep putting yourself out there. It’s not easy.
Justine...I've been widowed for 6 years too and everything you wrote is accurate. But I do not miss the question, "What's for dinner?" Lol
JG..you sound like a sensitive and fun man. May we all get through "whatever" this is without going nuts.
J G I agree . And I also find that they’re throwing all of their time into their grandkids.
Peggy Harris that’s so true! Lol
So true - we can wallow in that or think, well, I don't really need to be with my friends when they bring along their (sometimes!) not so interesting/engaging partners. I like being able to talk to my friends. Being with couples can feel 'clunky'. It is what it is. I don't take offence anymore. I feel I have to 'act' when I am in a group of couples as very often I am not as familiar with their partners, so conversation can be stilted. It depends on my mood! Ha! No ones fault .
Justine Szot I too lost my husband seven years ago. The first couple of years, I felt like I needed to find someone else...and I tried but it felt “off.” Instead, I started looking within myself and discovered a passion I had forgotten about since childhood. It was horses. I got involved with horses for many years and had absolutely no desire to be in a relationship. It grounded me and totally fulfilled me. I have since moved on from that and I’m pursuing new passions that have nothing to do with finding a partner. I go to many social events, where there are couples but also many other singles. Frankly, I really don’t ever notice it because it really doesn’t matter to me. Whether someone else is with a partner or not has no impact on me. I feel like if that is coming up for you and it seems to be all around you, then somehow you are drawing this awareness in for a reason. I actually have had times in my where I felt like what you’re describing and felt like the third wheel. But, when you truly are able to let that go, you won’t experience it anymore. I do think that sometimes we have a tendency to look for other people to fill a void, when the answer is possibly in a completely different place. And the only way to find that answer is to look within. Just my two cents and I wish you well!
Loneliness is a frequency and just like every other frequency that you put out to the world you get back to you. So until you become aware of that feeling you will be stuck admitting that frequency to the world. if you become aware of this feeling of loneliness you can then move on to accepting this feeling. A powerful thing to do is to just lay down and feel the emotion fully no matter how much it sucks don't run, don't wish it was different, don't ask why this is happening to you. See it for what it is and shine the light of your presence on the situation. Once you reach that stage your frequency that you admit will be of higher vibration and then you will attract people and circumstances that match that vibration. Once you find the love within yourself it can shine through into the world and match with someone else's. Edit: thanks for the responses! I have more stuff that will help on my channel check it out♥️
Sumbee loneliness only exists in the mind.
Sumbee Thank you for your comment.☺I never saw it that way. And I really learned something from what you wrote. So ya.... thank you and much appreciation.🖒🌻🌻🌻
@@ianaustin5541 oh wow, I was not expecting that! I'm glad to help. I explain Eckhart's wisdom on my channel in a way that is different and perhaps helpful to my viewers. Take a look!
-Sumbee
@@Sumbee Oh ok, I'm gonna go check it out. Thank you☺
I wonder: when you truly find love within yourself, does this mean there is no desire anymore to connect with other people? Friendships or relationships
Thank you very much for your insights and reminders, I really appreciated the information. This was the first time I've heard of this wonderful teacher. Thank you for sharing this material, and for being available for help to all of us. Much love ❤️😊
Kim Eng SO REAL
The anger behind the resentment that the woman felt was for Kim Eng intellectualizing her comment and her not feeling understood or accepted for the loneliness. The woman raises her left shoulder 3 times or more and that is shame and anger for being alone and for unprocessed anger towards her husband. It's not about ego. Kim is angry during part of this interview for the woman to feel lonely and that is what everyone missed. What I think is the woman is unhappy because she's attached to having a partner, and that causes the loneliness but it's not about all the spiritual stuff and ego, it's a human being wanting love. I appreciate a lot of what I saw and for the courage to stand up and admit she was lonely was awesome.
Why would Kym Eng be "angry" during that interview? Can you please clarify for me?
“It is not the critic who counts…the credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena”. Teddy Roosevelt
I thought I saw and felt that, too, but didn't want to dwell on it... wasn't sure if I wasn't projecting some of my own stuff...
Kim is no comparison to ET. She’s not compassionate or warm.
Eckhart, you have changed!
Kim is ok as maybe a counselor but just because she’s with tolle she’s not tolle she sounds like a judge mental know it all counselor not my cup of tea she raises controversy tolle does not
Too bad
This talk is great. Questioning the taboo of loneliness is really important. However, Kim misses an important point about partnering. They enable creativity and service. It isnt just inner work. Relationships can become too internally focused. There is an outer life aspect as well. The soul of the world. People need a worldly connection as well.
I really resonate with the idea of feeling the emotion without resistance.
Yes
And without adding any extra “words” or “stories” as you feel it... it’s pretty wild hey!
Standing independently is our True Nature.
A real woman giving a real teaching- priceless!
Independently doesnt mean alone... It means that you are not in need.... Not much people having selfconfidance, so we dont beleive that we can have...
That answer was so insensitive... i feel bad for the woman who had the courage to speak and had her feelings denied. Maybe a partner wouldnt be the answer, ok, but human connection is a serious need, and a partner surely helps a lot. Its too easy to say we need to "be complete" and "be independent" and all, but it is simply impossible to live alone.
Living alone doesn't involve not connecting. I connect with people every day, we share, we laugh, we connect. Attachment is different. Attachment means 'neediness, can't live without, how can I manage without them'.
That's Codependency.
Inter- dependency is when 2 people decide to live together because they WANT and choose to. Not because they need to.
Not every single person is unhappy. What you're saying is YOU can't live alone. And that's fine. Some people can. And that's fine too ❤😊
In other words, look within and fall in love with self. Then after truly loving 🥰 self, can we share that part of us with another to enjoy the dual completeness. Blessings
Fill your emptiness from within. Quit looking to others to make you whole. Loneliness is a state of mind.
@J G No, you only cover it up.
c fedyszyn - If it isn't about completeness, why is there so much emptiness when a relationship ends?
This. Yes, and we are human, and therefore social by nature. Yes, loneliness is a state of mind, but when you're alone and you don't want to be it manifests as a real physical manifestation that can loop itself into a deep depression if you're not careful.
Black Bird Hollow - "Loneliness is a state of mind." -- Correct... But just because it's a state of mind doesn't mean it's illegitimate -- it's perfectly natural and a sign of a deficiency. It would be comparable to say:
"Fill your stomach from within. Quit looking to food to sustain you. Hunger is a state of the body." ... Correct... It's natural, that's why we need to eat.
OK ? so how ?
Wow, I think Kim Eng really shines in this video. Inspired
Loneliness is basically due to craving for socialization, this craving energy is already there in the subconscious mind of every human being when he is born, it intensifies when he grows older resulting in a state of mind called loneliness. that state is delusional and dominated by lack of companionship and feelings of left out from the society.
If eckhart tolle would speak he would say: when you feel loneliness, you feel a lacking and a need for more. A need for the the ego personality to feel whole with another person. But a lacking and needing something is there when toughts arise in your mind. Dont resist them but observe your toughts. Be present and be in the now. Namaste
Jajaja thank you eckart namaste♡
That is a dismissive comment and completely rude and very typical of a male chauvinist attitude. Why can’t you accept all that Kim said? It was perfect.
I don't agree with Wotiluv. Man or woman it doesn't matter, what Divero said resonates better with me.
Absolutely!
Seems you listen to ekhart a lot. You have responded so well.
Absolutely great question from that lady 👌👌👌👌
This really speaks to me as a single woman. I’ve been single since 2014 and we’re now in 2020. I often feel myself consumed by bitterness, resentment, jealousy and anger because I see so many people (often younger than me) moving through the healthy, “normal” stages of life such as being in relationships, engagements, marriages and babies. Loneliness twists everything pleasant in my life because like she said... I’m craving something external to complete me. I truly understand this is useless as my own completion already exists within myself. It really resonated with me that I’m still holding onto a belief of what is expected of me. I’m still placing the responsibility and expectation on an unidentified man to come riding in on a white horse to save me from myself. I hope one day I can let this fantasy truly go and marry myself like she mentioned as I know true contentment comes from within and having a partner is simply an extension or an external manifestation of the internal completion you already feel.
I just told myself there is nothing wrong with me. Unlike this lady, I’m not looking for a partner. However, what Kim is saying is true. The problem with looking for anything from another person, in my case approval, they are only human themselves. Thus, I need to approve.of myself. There is nothing wrong with me. I will say this to myself daily from now on.
WHY does everyone minimize the NORMAL feeling of wanting to have a significant other to share life with? There's absolutely nothing wrong in wanting a life partner to share life with... everyone always makes the person who is ready, eager and happy to share life with a partner feel guilty about that want and sincere desire... You can have everything, and feel "Complete" in your own company, but having a significant other to maximize that feeling is always rewarding... Enough of making the ones looking to share life with a partner feel guilty or in a "Wrong Frequency".
Agreed! The fact that this woman "has it all" but still feels empty proves it. There is an innate need for loving human beings to be intimate with someone. To share thoughts feelings and life experiences with one another person. Just like there is an innate need for food, and water. You can fast, and discipline yourself but at one point you will have to eat and drink again. It isn't a co-incidence that one of the highest forms of punishment in our society is solitary confinement. It also isn't a co-incidence that serial killers are usually lonely outcasts of society. Perhaps there is a state of consciousness in which you suddenly do not desire human intimacy. If so, I certainly have not experienced it yet. :)
People aren't all the same at all stages of life. We don't have to defend our feelings here, do we?
I don't think the point of this video was to say that this desire is wrong. It was more about being careful what you wish for: so often we head into new relationships because of this desire that are not good for us or the other person/people involved. We just kinda let this desire controll our actions without being conscious about it. We seek an ideal instead of a human and are surprised and hurt when the human comes to light.
You missed the point entirely...which is, seek a mate, but don't do it from your own place of loneliness. Do it from a place of inner fulfillment.
I think the point she was trying to make is - happy if you are alone and happy if you are with a partner ...so many are not happy when they are alone and it is addressing this …..
Thank you Kim :) Just married myself tonight cause I know I'm not marrying anyone else!
For now, untill you meet the 'crazy' person who's 'crazy' about you the same way you are 'crazy' about that person.
you can hide from yourself, but you can't hide from the nature honey XD
Erica- That would be a Loner Nun, honey.
Frank Houttave Oh, well yeah :) But when I meet that crazy person haha I won’t want to be legally married to them because I don’t believe that the church or state really ought to be involved in romantic relationships. A ceremony/celebration of our love would be beautiful though 💜
beamer Uhh, no, not as I see it. I just meant I never want to be legally married to someone because I think it’s a hassle :)
"Look at why you just ran away."
☆
I think I ran away because I was looking for myself and didn't know it at that time...
@@lilianamorice7846 wait, were you there?
@@shubhamraj25 Was I where?
@@lilianamorice7846 I thought you were the women in the video
@@shubhamraj25 😂😂😂
I know why Eckhart chose a woman like her , you both are beautiful spirits , I love you two so much ❤️❤️
She looks amazing too, she's a grandmother?
She's truly gorgeous. Radiant.
Kim Kim Kim King 👑 Queen, so True, so full of Loving fullness🙏🐳💜 I thank you deeply
With due respect, I don't agree with the answer she got. I don't think it is a belief, it is one of the greatest human needs and that is the need for intimacy. If it were a belief she wouldn't have enjoyed being alone for a long time. As human beings we have this urge to share and be intimate with someone. I think a human being is not created to be forever alone and shouldn't be taught to be fine with that. For some time ok, maybe years, but eventually this urge to share your internal world with someone will come up. I agree though that she should surrender to this feeling without resistance and from accepting a change will arise, either internally or externally. Even Eckhart chose to share his life with someone. My advice would be to have a pet and to surrender to the feeling. There are so many lonely women, I hope that men will soon start to wake up, we yearn for a healthy masculine energy. If God created us to be enough on our own, he wouldn't have made feminine and masculine energy, they are complementary.
Oh wow! Very well said and very true. Thanks!
Sandra Stojanović Thank you for this wonderful, soul-touching message.
That is not what she meant
Sandra Stojanović-okay I’m gonna leave the purpose of god aside here. I agree that humans have this biological need, but through the spiritual path, i believe it’s possible to transcend this evolutionary urge. This is also why there are humans that willingly lock themselves in a cave and live in solitude for years and experience the most blissful moments of their lives. You are a complete person.
At the level of the human form, we need a partner. At the level of the self, we are whole and complete. You decide where you want to reside.
Wow....past few days I've been learning to say no to people coz I was always codependant on them to validate my existence. For the first time I'm spending time alone researching such topics and tapping into my conscious mind. I have stopped imposing myself on men to try get a rshp. I have told God...I leave it to you . Let him come
Wow, i was down looking for consolation and i found this video. It helped me so much.. i was sad about the idea in my head. There is something so freeing in the awarness of it.
Wow wow...not even Ekhart can fulfill me ..thats so powerful statement..
Thank you very much🙏🏼 Sooo helpful😍
Thinking you are lonely, and unfulfilled creates resistance and pain. Being at one with god, and finding stillness around you is very peaceful. It’s a state of knowing that it’s safe to be on your own. What you think is what you get.
Life is not about having it all, otherwise you suffer and can’t appreciate anything 🌹
So many people can’t admit that they are unhappy.
I'm going through a break up and this really helps alot. Thank you Kim.
Thank you for taking this to the 'end'🙏
I feel it all the time but Saturday mornings are the worst
Wow, what a clarity, very insightful, thank you so much
Beautiful video 🤩
“Same sh** but a different pile.” 😆 7:00
I’m dealing with this. I was with my ex gf for 11 years and grew attached to her family and friends. When we broke up, I lost all of those relationships. Now I feel alone. I have family but not close. My brothers don’t live near me. I feel very homesick.
Moon Turns The Tides me too
I think suffering just comes from that way to this women, as it's take other ways in other people lives, but it can't be solve by getting a partner or whatever because that's not really the source of the pain.
As long as you believe in the illusion of separation there will be loneliness.
Loneliness can happen in relationships too, especially when you're married for many years.
You are the universe as Deepak Chopra says. When you realize this you will never be lonely.
Give to get. Be friendly and helpful and you will attract people naturally.
We are one. Helping others means helping yourself. Do not focus on your needs too much.
Also loneliness is a so called first world problem. When you struggle with feeding a family of 12 you won't have it.
"Give to get" ? That sounds like manipulation, expectation, compensation...(I could go on) But I know, you only meant it in the 'beautiful' sense.
@@peggyharris3815 Yeah, that's just for starters. Ideally you just give. After awakening you realize that you and the others are not separate so that what you give them you give yourself. Until then it's a bit like barter.
@@onreact ...I'll buy that.
Thanks, Kim, for this insightful discussion, I have been widowed for five years and have felt lonely for my husband often but haven’t dated another man since he passed. I don’t think I’m unhappy as I enjoy my own company but I look at people who are partnered and sometimes wonder if I should more seriously seek a partner. However I know that not all partnerships are happy. Sometimes it’s worse to be partnered than to be alone so I’m searching within myself my true feelings about loneliness and what I really desire in my life. I think a LAT (living alone together) relationship would be nice. That’s kind of what you described yours an Eckhart’s relationship to be like, I think. But if I continued being without a partner but am okay being alone, that’s okay too.
Bring back Eckart
I like your videos alot. So much pain in this world, because we are losing touch to ur true nature. Two beautiful people trying to help some other people :)
Keep it up.
Thanks 💡
Being independent
not identified attached
to anything
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I relate to her so much and I am glad she asked that question. Thanks much o her. I do not think she really got an answerthough. No rel ationship is perfect but there can be and are good ones that last. never happened for me though. Hope she finds what she finds what she is looking for.
Human beings are pact animals. We can mindfully talk about it or remind ourselves that we already are whole, we don't need anyone to fill our void, but I don't think that is realistic. We need to love and be loved, share joys and sorrows, not just outside of our homes, but in our homes on a Saturday and a Sunday. One of the latest studies that medical research is showing now regarding the opioid epidemic in United States is that loneliness and isolation has been such a huge cause of it...
I have the same feeling-pain of wanting a partner. I feel more the desire, to share because it's a connection. It has meaning to be with someone rather than not too be with someone.
We are conditioned to think we need someone, its just a state of thinking but you need to find that out for yourself. No one can give us what we need to give ourselves❤🙏
Kim has a kind of bluntness that Exkhart doesn't, that really complements his teaching. I like to listen to one, then the other, like a constrast bath kind of thing haha. Sometimes she will say something blunt that irritates me slightly, and then I know right there she struck a hidden little thought I didn't notice I had. Thank you Kim
She did NOT ran away... she just decided to sit down because of the invalidation of her feelings.... URgh, I kept watching to see if there was a value in the message.... but nope...
Anceli Peguero I agree with you! The questioner was being very open and vulnerable and was invalidated and minimized by the “teacher.” A fine reason to just sit down and cut your losses. A good teacher can create safety before challenging a person’s beliefs and guiding them in a new direction. That was awful!
Invalidating. So you want to be emotionally enabled and if you don't hear what you want then cut and run. People need to truth slapped across their face, because their current way of emotional reasoning has got them nowhere.
I think she sort of did. I think you're projecting your thought patterns and perceptions to the interaction. So you saw invalidation, because you're feelings weren't affirmed. Maybe watch it again.
“It is not the critic who counts…the credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena”. Teddy Roosevelt
An Pe Hah! I thought the same thing exactly! What a horrible answer. She all but blamed her for being lonely and didn’t even take a moment to validate this woman’s feelings. She should have run away in my opinion, from that horrible treatment!
If she left him for selfish reasons, then she should feel guilty. Hurting others isn’t something you can let go until the other forgives you
They sure have a lot of provisions, stipulations and extra needs for an enlightened couple. She says that she is the space but yet she needs so much space. I bet she doesn’t need space when those checks roll in...
I feel this woman has a human need. Like I am hungry, I need food. Sometimes spirituality will help feeling connected...we live in society that creates a sense of separateness. I think Kim means well, but she over explains a very simple concept.
I agree.
kim missed the boat with this answer.
the correct answer is using acceptance to enter the now.
thank you very much anyway was the lady's answer. she did not get an answer from Kim.
15:40: "The independence really is our true nature".
... But I thought we were all connected and that separation was an illusion...??
We are but you've only as strong as your weakest link
co dependent relationship 1 + 1 = 0
independent relationship 1 + 1 = 2
Interdependent relationship 1 + 1 = 11
I love this woman
Such a great video. Thank you so much for this teaching.
Since I was a child I needed my space, me-time, most of my life people judged me for not being "normal". Thank you for clarifying. I can't see myself living with a man in the traditional ways society taught us to be "normal". I feel empowered to stay true to my needs, connection with source, my ultimate love partner. Thanks🙏
You have bad teachers and good teachers, that woman was humiliated and laughed at and that will hurt her. I can't believe what I just saw.
I agree 100%
@@danashannon8234 Me too Kim was tacky/uncouth. Low class.
That is so incredibly wise. Being completely independent is SO hard for me.
This really helped. I cried through it. Glad I watched it.
no one completes you,correct ,but living without human affection or intimacy for yrs.. isn't exactly the happiest place.
Thank you Kim, this was very helpful.
Wow! This was everything I needed, even after working on myself for so long I still need these reminders! I need to go within and this lockdown time is really reinforcing this message to me
I subscribed Eckhart Tolle not Kim Eng. Why doesn’t she have her own?
Too much ‘ no no no no’ to the woman. ‘ Do this, do that, don’t that ‘ too much instruction. Never give her a chance to find her own answer. Never give her a chance to explore her question with a reliable and safe guide. Kim just said her question is a good question. What a surprise. The woman who asked a question got a good evaluation.
Wow, pretty judgemental statement. I hope you will continue to listen to Eckhart. I get the feeling you have missed a big part of what Eckhart and others are pointing us to. Blessings...
Kim you are amazing!!! This was so helpful thank you! xx
It is normal for people to seek a partner but you must know it will not necessarily make you happy. We want to be admired appreciated for our abilities our brain etc. I don’t belong in this world so knowing none of these things will make me ‘happy’ knowing this, I’m content, will not seek for happiness because it’s probably not there. I do not think or hope it may happen, I’m content to accept it might be nice but I’m content without it. 😊
Thank you Mrs Kim, very well said and said from experience, thanks for your words, Namaste 🙏
I believe Eckhart would answer much better, or depper I would say. With all respec to this lecturer. I feel like russian women is left unresolved
She left....she ran away
I quite liked this answer.eckharts talks on lonliness are awful quite honestly. Atleast the ones on UA-cam. Apart from this subject Eckhart is awesome
i think loliness is TOTALLY ALIGNIED WITH identification of the ego with another person ..AT LEAST FOR ME IT IS..its the ego identification with the VALUE that the person represents ..the ego wanting to get some kind of attatch\ identification\ to the value and loliness is the LACK \ not the value there to identify with ..that you once could rely ..werever is your friends that had the value of "similarity" or a parthner with value that you praise or want ...ITS THE APROPRIATIOn of ego . you ..i dont know, something in you want the value in other ..THATS IT..it want to merge itself in value.
Agreed! Who is this woman? She doesn't have any the peace or joyfulness that brought me to Eckhart in the first place. She is more on the level of Dr. Phil.
@@spockboy "That woman" is Kym Eng and she is Eckhart Tolle's wife. Very intellegent woman a you can see.