You'll quit Jiu-Jitsu because of this, by Professor Ryron Gracie. DON'T MAKE THIS MISTAKE!
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- Опубліковано 19 кві 2020
- Some people quit Jiu-Jitsu because they think they reached a good level of Jiu-Jitsu, some because of financial issues, or because they live too far, or maybe because their wives don't support them.
Professor Ryron Gracie believes that all those reasons are valid and that even though there might be people who quit because of them, he believes that the real reason why most people quit Jiu-Jitsu is something different.
Check out the video so you don't make the same mistake.
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Feels so different when Rener isn’t there to cut him off mid sentence
Lmao
i googled that question, ended up here and found this comment bwahaha...true that tho
LOLOLOL
SO TRUE
Lol😂
The most confusing thing about this video is why they hung the picture on a pillar when they have a nice flat wall.
They wanted the pic to be more centered?
I'm going to be thinking about that all day.
That actually looks like the center of the mat from what I can see, and typically you have to bow to that very pic of master Carlos before and after class, so maybe it's just there for emphasis? 🤷♀️
Yeah I was thinking maybe it'll be fine to have the two pictures separated by the pillar. No need to have both pictures side by side so close together.
You my friend are a master of observation. You just made my morning...
"Comparison is the thief of joy." - unknown - good one.
The Bible, 'don't covet'... Not preaching, just saying...
@@skyshrk04 Yes - that works also. But there may be another issue; that of self worth; which may or may not be about self glory.
This was actually a sermon from my priest a year ago - The Comparison Trap. There is always someone who has it better - someone with a prettier wife, someone with a faster car, someone who is better-looking, someone who is closer to his prime, someone with a bigger house, someone with more money, etc. etc. etc.
I think it is summed up in the line, "He who dies with the most toys - wins."
perfectsplit oh thank goodness I wasn’t the only one thinking there was a bible sermon in there somewhere
I think it was Roosevelt who said that
Money, boredom, injury, goals reached, toxic environment, moving away, family life, etc. There are many reasons why people "quit".
To add to your point; lack of a competitive rival, as well as too few students were the reason I quit martial arts.
Money is the biggest issue for a lot of people. The timetables are fairly flexible though.
Road construction, house renovations :))
Commitments
Not fitting in with the gym/s. I've gone to several and everyone was nice/proper but there was a lack of connection between myself and the others, or many of them had their own circles and weren't very inclusive. They were never mean or anything, but they were content with their own groups and didnt bother expanding them (which is their right and again I'm not trying to be negative towards them, they were great people).
All that to say, having a connection with people is huge.
Their is usually one person in every class that thinks they are in the UFC when they are rolling.
The wannabe badazzaz with something to prove. I'm planning on joining a gym after this virus stuff passes. I've already been researching and heard about those types. The one's that try to pull ppl's arm out of the socket or break an arm when attempting a submission just to look extra tough.
Zekaryah Child of TMH GOD its not an “average badass” but you are right with something to prove. Some people join a gym cause they dont know the feeling of winning, let alone a fight, so yeah, no need to bash somebody for being competitive
@@shepherdoffire9263 ...Well healthy competition is good but all competition isn't healthy. The purpose of training is to learn. Not to purposely try to hurt ppl just to look like a badazz.
@@shepherdoffire9263 I personally keep the roll a notch below the opponent, unless they ramp it up.
@@TalkingIsh100
Its common for white belts to go 100% against each other and higher belts. They are new and don't understand how to fully control themselves. As a white belt myself, I can even tell my opponent I want to take it easy, but as soon as I start feeling them ramp up the pace, I slowly ramp up my pace. He'll feel that, and ramp up a little more. Next thing you know, we are going 100% and risking injury and it happens so quickly that it's hard to stop.
Sometimes you get a jack ass trying to prove himself, a lot of the time its an ego thing, No one likes to lose. More often than not its both of those along with not understanding your own body and how to control yourself.
49-year-old practitioner here. Got my purple belt this March. I had a realization a while back that REALLY took the mental pressure off and made my training even more enjoyable than it already is.
One of the problems you run into as you advance is that fewer of your training partners can really push you, and the pool of people you get meaningful training time with gets smaller, particularly if you're in a smaller town or smaller gym.
But that's the REALLY cool thing about new students that rocket past you. Your selection of effective training partners stays fresh. And if those young bucks that progress faster have certain mental or physical gifts, so much the better. You have more and varied ways to push yourself than you would have otherwise. It's like strength training - you can't build muscle playing around with the same old weight - you need progressive overload.
So when you have a kid that's been training half the time you are start tuning you up, that is NOT the time to start doubting or feeling sorry for yourself. That partner just became your most valuable training asset, because they're bringing something new to the table that's only going to strengthen your entire gym.
Shift your focus away from what makes you feel good, and learn to enjoy what pushes you to the edge. That's where it's at.
PS: I am not - repeat, AM NOT - talking about training crazy and trying to match the athleticism of younger folks. Your first priorities should be injury prevention and harm reduction, followed by precision, efficiency, and control. Find your limits, but be smart about it. 😉
100% agree. I'm 46, just started about 6 months ago. The 17 year olds with grey belts, 24 year olds with 3 stripe white belts, blue belts that don't do anything less than 100%, the blue belts that give me space and show me how, the purple belts that put intense pressure and then back off, the brown belts that (like the crazy blue belts) don't have a slow gear, the black belts that are never in any danger and are happy to have a break from their peers... ALL fun, all teaching me.
I can see how it's overwhelming. I've almost quit once. It's very personal. "Training once a week is a waste of time" is something I've seen videos about and I couldn't disagree more. Training is training, it's cumulative and older guys will understand more than the youngsters. "Your grip is strong" they tell me and I'm like yeah, get a shovel, get a pick axe, spend some time with a sledge hammer, it's all cumulative.
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I just started bjj right before the lockdown. I only have about a dozen classes under my belt and theres only 3 things I focus on with bjj. 1-show up 2-try your hardest 3- be respectful. I trust things will fall into place in due time if I keep doing that. Cant wait for my bjj school to open up again.
@D. Jiu-Jitsu yea dude i know what u mean. i was rolling with a blue belt one day and he was just toying with me but still letting me work. it's very humbling lol but after class i always feel so good even after getting my ass kicked. and that's cool you go to 10th planet. ive heard nothing but good things about them. good luck on your belt test homie.
Michael Spoto its nice when you get a partner that understands you’re new and let’s you work on things while rolling. I’ve got less than 10 classes in so I get my butt kicked most times I roll. For example I got tapped out by the same guy probably 5 times in a row this past Sunday. After the last time he said, “okay, I’m not gonna submit you anymore. Just do you.” It’s refreshing and EXTREMELY helpful when you get a good partner who understands that you don’t even know half the techniques you need to know. Like when I pass guard. I’ll freeze because I haven’t been taught what to do next.
I have the same mindset though, just have fun and eventually, I’ll get better
@@blakesimons9378 yup my school has opened up and ive been rolling for the past 2 months. i love rolling with the higher belts because they will coach me while they're smashing me lol
D. Jiu-Jitsu how is 10th planet for you?
@@michaelspoto8720 Yep, that's the way to do it. Frankly, I didn't like rolling with other white belts, there wasn't as much to learn than when you roll with say a blue belt. Especially if the blue belt is a good person who wants to pass on some knowledge during or after. And you can really see the difference when you roll with a purple belt (and you're a white belt). Many people can't take being crushed though, but I've found, that's where I learn the most. And yes, it can come down to if the blue/purple belt is a good person, because not everyone is.
I trained for 2 years and got my blue belt and then my goals in life changed, I started working 70-80 hrs a week to buy a house for my family. Now I’m in a more stable place and now my four year old, my wife, and myself are training.
That line “comparison is the thief of joy” I believe I heard Bill Johnson from Bethel Church in Redding, CA say that.
nice way to let your students what can happen if you start comparing. nice job 👍
Social media doesn't help sometimes. You see all these awesome people and expect yourself to be able to be as good when maybe they train 4 hrs a day 7 days a week, are half your age and dont have other responsibilities.
@carey sills Have you learned leg locks?
Wardog 03 Definitely, would be surprised how many people can’t defend those, I went that route when I started getting smashed by bigger opponents. Game changer. lol
@@JP-by6pe Yup! It definitely improved my game.
As Ryron said brother, "Comparison is the theif to joy"
CR you love making excuses, don'tcha..
Wise words. Comparing myself to others is exactly what broke my desire to train.
You’re right.
On the other hand, comparing myself to others got me to give up on music and learn some stuff about fighting instead. Now I'm not worried about messing up my hands and not being able to play guitar.
I think it’s all down to the instructors. If they promote a healthy, fun, safe BJJ environment I’d wager that their students stick around far longer than the ones that don’t.
I agree. The instructors and the interaction with people on the mat make a profound difference. I know people who quit because they did not feel welcomed; they were ignored.
That’s true but The guys in the video are instructors so they softened it and deflected back onto the students. That’s sad given the fact that Helio Gracie himself was quoted as saying “There are no bad students, only bad teachers”
The anecdotal answer that I have is the environment I trained in. We had maybe 5 students, all of which weighed more than I did. So when we would grapple, they never beat me with technique, they beat me with their strength. I wasn't advanced enough to beat them with my technique, so I would just take a beating while trying to learn. I would get picked up and slammed, slung around, and sometimes even getting struck when we wouldn't allow striking in most sessions. I got more hurt grappling than I ever had sparring. So my growth was stunted because my mentality was just to survive the round by bracing for impact and trying not to get injured. I love Jiu Jitsu, but my environment caused it to have a sour taste in my mouth.
F. Scott Fitzgerald - "Comparison is the thief of joy"
Beautiful said for an ugly truth
@@vanesa2812 yep, ugly truth we've all faced and will face for eons to come
This is interesting. When I've been faced with someone whose trained for less time and is better than me, I always think "Did you expect to be the MOST gifted Jiu Jitsu practictioner when you started? No."
Yet I can't help but go to that place mentally when other climbers fall in the same category. I needed to hear this.
Gym bullying. Getting older and body can't bang any more. Jiu jitsu Has just become a festival of popularness because of the tournament scene . i hate tournaments. Not everyone is a competitor.
What do you mean by old? 35, 40 or 50? Because my coach is 52 and can kick everyone’s ass in the gym, but he is a fitness freak. He eats well, doesn’t drink and trains something Everyday like running, pads or sparring. The secret just keep training otherwise the young blood will catch up with you 👍🏻
Nothing wrong with tournaments, but I don’t like training tournament techniques that will get you killed on the street. This, and at age 55 I need to protect myself. I don’t see any Gracies rolling in their 50’s.
Nothing wrong with tournaments, but I don't like all the sandbagging cheaters who manipulate the system and ruin the integrity of the belt ranks.
@@andresmiguel2573 But he has be doing BJJ most of his life. Can't compare with older guys who don't have that experience or conditioning.
@@oldsnwbrdr Get a gun. Jiujitsu is not the best for self defense
I’ve been training bjj for 12 years and I’m still a blue belt. Took a break for 4 years due to a divorce. Now that I’m re married and have a kid I have been back for 2 years. I currently run my own business as a truck driver and my job is super physical. I’m trying to save for a house and also weight train. Every time I go jitz which is once or twice a week I get a stiff neck or some sort of injury that makes me hate my life the next day. I find it hindering my life and causing unnecessary pain. I am thinking about quitting permanently or at least stop until my situation changes. Don’t feel bad to quit or take a break guys. It’s your life and no one can shame you for living it how you want to. Stay safe.
I try to show up everday but no way im rolling everday...i Roll here and there but drill consistently
I quit because I was paying $150 a month and got eye gouged by a blue belt and had to spend $600+ to fix my eye. In Judo, I only pay $45.
Just part of the sport. Man up
Egyptian Space Odin so your gonna let that one idiot rule your life and take something away from you
@@MrJimtimslim That's why people stop training. Most leave within three months. 90% leave after getting their blue belt. Frankly, I don't like rolling around on the ground with sweaty guys. I'll take boxing any day.
Agreed. I studied Judo and it was alway more affordable. Everytime I thought about joining a BJJ school I was always turned off by high cost. I trained at a very reputable Judo school for $65/month. I just couldn't do the BJJ cost.
Yeah, $150 per month, eye gouging, and $600+ in medical expenses. That’s absurd! Go Judo! 😆
This mind set is so incredibly helpful and unfortunately it is discouraged in most schools. I find more opportunities to learn and enjoy rolling when I implement his perspectives of JiuJitsu.
It's kinda like learning how to play basketball I guess and expecting to be able to play like an NBA player. We play to have fun and get a work out and sure it can get competitive, it's fun to pretend like you are playing in an NBA Finals game, but you don't really expect to win any NBA rings anytime soon in real life. It's when you take yourself too seriously that ego starts to get in the way and makes you wanna quit when things don't turn out your way. We just need to leave our ego at the door. When you get to be over 40, you're just happy to be able to play in a pick up basketball game. Same goes with jiujitsu.
I quit Jiu jitsu because I kept getting soft tissue injuries. My day job requires a lot of me physically. That and my gym was focusing on competitive applications rather than practical self-defense.
As a self defence its very limited in real life situations involving groups and weapons.
## CMG18 everything has its place.
Go lift heavy weights.. And roll a little lighter. The increase in strength and size will give you more resilient muscles.. And if you roll lighter and focus on things you're working on, you can prevent major injuries.. Also roll out with a foam roller, drink plenty of fluids and maybe do ice baths/cryotherapy
This is so true, I still do this and let it get to me. Thank you for this video. Thank you.
I needed to hear this thank you my buddy whom I've been training with half of my time as a jiu-jitsu player and as an mma practitioner which is about 2 years now I just saw he got his first stripe on his white belt and I feel like im staying stagnant because my aunt who I live with wants me to stay home cuz of the whole virus thing or whatever and I saw hes making all of these progressions while I'm stuck at home with no one to train with and it was bothering me so thank you
good lesson on ability to teach vs rank, id much rather a good purple belt teacher vs a black belt that can't
100% agreed! The instructor is what makes the learning experience. I’ve had some amazing ones in the early years (Relson Gracie school), but I moved and had a hard time finding quality instructors. Ended up quitting because of it and too damn expensive.
I have fun. I started martial arts 20 years ago and I still enjoy it. So many layers. I noticed very few people last.
As an older person starting it was difficult to roll with younger people trying to prove how good they were. I was trying to survive instead of learning the moves at my own pace. Plus seems I was getting hurt every other lesson roiling too hard. That was my take.
I was always more wary of young white and blue belts.
@@kuriosites Yes, great points, as an older person I've been injured many times by going to hard or too soon to try to keep up with younger and fit people. Also be wary of people willing to hurt you and not get good coaching. For example, I've just learned, after 6mos that you shouldn't attack until you pass guard and all the pressure I tried to put on people in guard just caused me rib problems. :-) or just getting my lame guard passed and getting smashed didn't help either.
I disagreed initially. The injuries and getting stuck at blue belt for an indefinite future were the reasons I would’ve chosen initially. But after thinking about this, I think he’s right. It just stops being fun. There are a lot of reasons that could happen but that’s the overarching point.
Good words here. This applies to all things in life. Thanks for posting.
Injuries must be a big factor as well. I’m a mailman and I’ve contemplated quitting many times because I can’t get injured again. I love it, I love training. The injury factor is so stressful for me.
Same here bro
That stuff can demoralise someone greatly. Your sparing partners should spar in more of a playful way to avoid injuring people.
Character Rank my sparring partners are awesome. It’s 99% playful. It’s jiu jitsu, everyone has some kind of injuries.
It is for me as well, I can check my ego but being 40 father of 2 young kids, can't afford to sit out due to injuries. The other thing that bothers me is how some think that they have to win or die every round.
Are you in relatively good shape? Aside from breaking my toes I rarely ever got injured rolling because the instructor was huge on not going balls to the wall (leave that for the competition classes he would say). I'm not trying to troll, I'm just really curious, because if 99% of the people you're rolling with are being playful there might be an underlying cause; hence the question of being in shape.
Egos of guys coming in day one thinking the instructor will give them a blue belt if they just smash everyone. White belts with little technique and no desire to learn it bit just want to smash people and causing injuries because of it, terrible instructors or no curriculum. Start learning a loop choke on the first day and end up seriously hurt because some guy doesn't understand what a tap is. These are some of the reasons I have seen. Wanna be UFC fighters are the worst.
Let’s be honest: jiu jitsu is HARD. It’s hard physically and emotionally. I sometimes have to force myself to go just knowing the amount of work it is and that I’m going to get my neck cranked to hell.
Yeah don't allow no one to crank you on that just tap.
Life is hard
Yes, when I first started, some "grappling" classes were full of bodybuilders who would execute poor technique guillotines. Because the a technique wasn't good enough to choke me I wouldn't tap, so I got my neck vertabre jacked up a bit. If I go back, I'm going to tap early to neck things like that but may stick to gi where there are less neck cranks
I've been training for almost a year and a half and I still have to force myself to go. I usually am glad I went afterwards, but it's rare that I'm excited about going lol.
@@Torey1976 dude why isn't it fun to you
IfThatThenThis not everyone loves BJJ. I love it until I have to do it... then I’m tired and injured lol
Went to purple belt but got tired of always feeling beat up all the time.
Finally just started getting back and this Covid thing kicked up. Hopefully I can get back and stay
I needed to hear this video thank you so much guys ♥️
I called it! Fun! First thing you gotta learn is to let it be fun! Then the nerves start becoming excitement. Then the movements start becoming more liquid. You start tapping more because you’re trying more and failing (vs being afraid of failure). Fun was a HUGE turning point for me and it happened after a month-in.
Thanks so much for this video. I just got my 1st stripe after 3 months at 55 years. It means a lot
Wise words from such a respectful thoughtful person
Honestly, I was getting less injuries in kickboxing. I also got more W's under my belt with the after class sparring. Sometimes it's good to take off for alittle while. Just my personal experience. Still a white belt. Still rolling. Still love it.
EGO is the problem. So lack of proper guidance of how to deal with your own unique difficulties is what make people quit. They are not quitting BJJ, they are quitting having to deal with something they don't know how to deal with. Their shattered EGO. Their emotions, Their lack of maturity, lack of patience. Every person will have a different psychological monster to deal with. BJJ can be the place were you learn to deal with that monster. But if you don't have instructors looking out for you and trying to understand you for who you are, and what you are trying to do, you might feel lost and hopeless. After a few weeks of that feeling your brain will switch off and excuses will start to creep in without you even noticing. Face your demons, Face your emotions, Face your doubts, Face your limitations with a positive attitude. Whatever happen from there doesn't matter much, and you are now in the right path to fully development as a person.
Controlling others shows strength, Controlling yourself shows POWER.
Rickson Gracie pedindo pra ser enrolado no tapete de casa para superar sua "claustrofobia" é só mais um exemplo da necessidade de vencer seus próprios demônios.
Concordo, mas também acho que muitos dos problemas no BJJ vêm de cima , quando o mestre ou os mais graduados não dão o exemplo. E depois é a cultura do corpo e do exibicionismo...
I don't necessarily disagree with you, but for me, ego, emotions, maturity, and patience are not the problem. My problem is with poor instructors. You mentioned Rickson. I've trained briefly at Dave Kama's school, who happens to be one of Ricksons top students, so I have had a taste of quality instruction. I literally have learned more in two weeks at Dave's school, teaching the way Rickson teaches, than months of training at any of the other schools I've been to.
@@frontdeskstaff9359 Once you've experienced a decent instructor is hard to go back to the Cowboy ones.
what a great piece of insight, thank you
Dam you’re good! Thanks for the tips.
Excellent coaching advice!!
I work rotating schedule days/nights for 12 hrs @ a blue collar job also have 3 kids and a wife, and still manage to stay consistent.
Been training for almost 2 years and it is rough. Excuses are easier to make!
Can't see life without BJJ
This is exactly what I needed to hear.
I spent lots of time and money. Even went on a Gracie cruise. Finally went to a convention in Atlantic City NJ where I was rolling with an opponent while Royce Gracie was at our feet. We finished and he told us we both got our blue belts. Me and this stranger looked at each other and were amazed. No one gave us a belt. When we asked, we were told we could go buy one. I was quite a disappointment.
Wow, what a brutal story, it’s stories like this that make me wish there was no belts, catch wrestling is catching my eye a lot more lately. You must have went from being amazed getting a belt from Royce, to utter disappointment. That’s shitty brother.
Are you sure it was Royce and not some random?
lol! As Royce likes to say, "a belt only holds up your pants". To be given your blue by the most famous jiu-jitsuka of all time is still pretty cool regardless though.
That sounds about right. He's a tough man and it sounds like a way he would communicate. Interesting story.
@@greasebob Royce isnt the most famous jiujitsuka
Ryron has such a good philosophy on teaching. I would like to learn from him so that I can achieve a similar jiu jitsu philosophy.
True. Thats the core of coaching. Speak to your potential.
side control is the cause of 95% of people quitting jiujitsu lol
LOL
Really?! Of all damn things.
@@arielsuarez5471 lol i was just joking
Thanks dude. I was doing ITF TKD and my 4th dan instructor put me down by saying some stupid shit like “if you do thing to a black belt you will be put down”. My response was like “I would like to see that happen”.
I left as he was not supporting myself but others to improve.
I listen to a guy named Jordan Peterson all the time. I really like him. He has a statement where he says compare yourself to who you were yesterday instead of who someone else is today. I have always thought that for martial arts, especially for kids, part of the mantra should be something along the lines of I train to compete against who I was yesterday. Or something along those lines. Haven’t worked out the exact words for it but U get the idea. Great video by the way.
Peterson is a legend dude. I'm sure a lot of guys into BJJ listen to him. Keep on the path homie.
Jigoro Kano said first this thing lmao
I feel good point's to some feel why am i rolling and always tapping out, to never be able to defense and escape to counter and maybe it's not for me and able to do this and in themselves lose confidence they can accomplish jiu jitsu marital arts and throw in the towel
I already knew the answer before he said it because it's exactly what I'm experiencing right now. I'm older, 45, and just learning so I'm rolling with guys more fit and flexible then me. I feel like I can handle newbies like me but when I go against striped white belts I get my a** kicked. I wonder if I'll be able to progress into being competitive rolling with higher belts so I contemplate quitting. However, I don't want to be a quitter so I'm trying to push through and hopefully something positive will come of it.
I would agree this is the biggest reason. I almost quit a month in because I wasn't getting it and I was just getting crushed. Then I let go and started having a lot more fun. A year later I still get beaten up a lot, and being a smaller guy makes things difficult, but I've made many friends and am just enjoying my time.
Appreciate What You Have.. Golden Gospel
My Professor saved me from this. He told me fuck those thoughts all you need to do is focus on being a better version of you then you were yesterday. My other Professor saved me by calling me out and told me to just show up. God Bless everyone, keep at it, be better than you were the day before, stay safe OSSSS
Would love to watch this video...but I can't! Can barely hear it...like most of your other videos! Maddening!
When i show up to any class for martial arts i focus on three things, in this order.
1. Goofing off and having fun with teammates first and foremost. Whats the point if im not having fun.
2. Learning. Trying to improve what i know im not good at. Try to weaponize what i know i am good at. Become a better fighter. Practice the mindset youl take into competition in your sparring. Etc etc.
3. Get in good shape. Happens all by itself so long as you do your best.
I dont worry about trophies or medals. The better guy on one day could be a loser on the next. Nothing to be gained from staking your pride and ego off of an object that only means you looked good on a particular day. Ive had losses im more proud of that wins because i knew i learned something vs getting my ego inflated that led to much bigger consequences down the road.
I dont worry about belts. Its mentally exhausting thinking of when i might get the next one. Be confident and happy with who you are, not what your wrapping around your waist to keep your pants up. Obviously belts mean something but you know what i mean and when i do advance im obviously happy about it, but i try to keep it out of mind. A lower ranking person can still beat you. A big person who is only half as good can still beat you. The belt doesnt mean all that much, its just a personal milestone marker for you and its only relevant at your school. Dont treat it as anything more than that.
This is directly applicable to the battlefield of business also. Stay hungry!
Great advice! 💯 👍👍👍👍
Appreciate what you have,definitely.Well if people arent A holes to each other it should be fun,right.
Live without having to prove something to anyone or yourself focus on your own individual growth goals self development stay postive fun humble
The problem with knowing enough BJJ, is that it is a perishable skill. Granted I have only been training 2 years, so much the techniques I have not been introduced to, but the ones I have been are not as sharp as before the COVID shutdown. I would imagine when you stop completely the slow deterioration of your technique leads to massive drops after a few years.
It can be the school environment. Ive seen places if you don’t compete, no one puts any time into helping you. If you just want to do it for fitness, or, God forbid, self defense, “there is something wrong with you.” And if you don’t compete “you can’t fight.” Crap like that.
Great advice for coaches
I instruct in TKD/mma and this is a True statement for Most.
I wonder if He teaches this to kids... this is a valuable lesson that kids also need to learn
Completely agree. I stalled at 2 stripes on my blue then had a bunch of great brown belts get their black belt and they moved on. Classes then became less interesting, then injuries, then work, then kids, now I’m done and I really miss it but was glad to have the journey
Just because I'm not there anymore, doesn't mean I stopped training. The Basics was too far for me to drive to. That's why I initially changed gyms. But I am still training. Even during the pandemic I am doing what I can. I appreciate having met Ryron and having trained at The Basics. Now I am training on the West Coast, several years after I started at The Basics.
yeah, Toronto is around 150 a month a good gym. you will maybe go 3 times a week maybe 4 depending on ur life style.
Can't wait to get back to grappling once we re-open. Striking is one thing, I can keep that sharp on a bag, but many multiple partners are needed to get any better at jiu jitsu and wrestling.
Very true. Grappling is way more complex than striking. Striking is like biology and grappling is like physics.
you won’t get sharp on a heavy bag, you need to spar to get you reactions and timing right
@@frantisekstemberk2346 for sure, but I'm not training to fight, I'm training to keep myself from getting fat so I can train my students to fight when this lockdown shit is done with. Gotta stay fast at the least.
@HEAT1996 hit it with the tretise dawg, I agree, but due to lack of being able to move around with people at this juncture you can keep from getting slow on the bag at least. Keep my limbs limber, set up the garage with cones for footwork drills and such. When things reopen ill go back to getting kicked in the thighs and waking up feeling like shit just from holding pads.
@HEAT1996 I never made an argument that you can just strike without a partner and be good. I was just saying grappling is more complex. It takes longer to become a good grapple than a striker.
there is a period in a martial arts journey when you get good quick & then you have a "suck" period that can last a long time. A lot if people quit during that phase.
So strange that they put this out. I don't even practice jujitsu. But I had recently been thinking about how internally cancerous comparison can become. It erodes the will and desire to excel, can even lead to depression.
I think the instructor does make a big difference in understanding that not everyone is there for the same reason. Also, there's opportunity cost. If I go to a 90 minute class, twice a week, that might be 5 hours a week with travel, changing, etc. We all have a finite amount of time and some activities go by the way side.
Very profound insight.
Everything my new gym coach has to say is with such a condescending attitude and the whole energy in there is so serious and full of ego. Been trying for months to create relationships and bring some fun and positivity but i just can’t seem to overcome it. Killing my heart cause i dont wantto give up
This is another lesson that could be applied across the spectrum.
That could be used as a life lessons if people figure it out .
100% Ryron Gracie . his mind set is life inspiration.
Want to have things that you cant have make you unhappy. Accept the situation and be happy
Desire causes suffering. To be free of desire frees us from suffering. This is part of the four noble truths of Buddhism.
Many quit a Martial Art to start with another one, as this is the only way to fully pursue their curiosity and passion.
Time comes when an Art, teacher or fellows community has given all they could. Then, you realize further learning is elsewhere.
I bet these patrinizing masters never speak this truth out.
Most important part is, to have fun! If you have fun, you will always have joy at what you are doing.
Because of Rener always cutting him and talking all the time I didn’t knew he could express himself so well and was so wise
Imagine comparing yourself to others...and being a Gracie!! They would have all quit thinking they'll never be Rickson.
Good teaching philosophies
I will start a new job next summer and I want to train in Jiu-jitsu because I want to lose weight, I want to feel good about myself and learn how to defend myself.
I should have... I shouldn't have... What stories we tell ourselves.
I'm enough. I'm whole.
thank you... this is good advise.
Constant injuries is making me contemplate sadly
“Keep it playful” written behind Ryron 😎
The instructors are at the center. I've picked up and dropped many things ive tried. But BJJ is something that I enjoy because the academy I go to promotes family and unity. And all the students I've trained with, even the higher belts are very respectful and eager to teach you. Culture and etiquette is very huge, its hard to retain people when they don't buy into your system. Another reason is lifestyle, let's be honest. Most people that want to lose weight or try anything new quite. Very few people stick to something and make it a part of their life. If you want to stick to BJJ, you have to go for your own reasons. And when doubts kreep up, just show up anyways. Showing up is the hardest part, once you're there its all good.
There is also the slow progression and the stagnation at a belt level that discourages people
Money, financial problems, life , boredem and worked related.
I think that a fair # who quit got injured while rolling. this is true of most martial arts. injuries are the most common reason overall that people quit exercise long-term. and BJJ is a sport where joint injuries are very common. othewise, good discussion.
I left my BJJ gym because of an injury but also because I made zero friends. As a smaller guy, I felt like the odd man out whenever it was time to partner up. I often had to roll with newbies or women who were big complainers. The few times I made a friend in class who wanted to roll with me, he would quit after a few months. It sucks. No rapport = no money.
Or when you roll with bigger guys, they like to stroke their egos by smashing you?
I am very interested in Jujitsu for self defense, I have a black belt in goju Ru but stop training/ teaching at 52 because of joint soreness I moved over to Taichi, Qicong and yoga, practice everyday, I play volleyball 3-4 times aweek rec-competitive, I am now 68 and looking to spend more time on the road RVing, is the classes in your art the is geared to seniors?
You will feel out of place being around mostly 20 somethings. And you will eventually get hurt. Do you really want that?
I compared my self to see where I’m at but I don’t get butthurt if someone better just mean I gotta work hard find out what I’m doing wrong an fix it
I quit because I just wasn't interested anymore. I lost interest because the gym I was going to was 90 percent sport oriented and that just wasn't for me. I was there to learn self defense and I did a little bit. But after a year or so I just lost all motivation. I tried hard to stick with it and hang in there even though I was getting my ass handed to me lol but I stopped going to that school. I tried to look for other schools around me that were more self defense related and that didn't push competition so much but I was unsuccessful. It sucks because I really miss training and the folks there were very nice. It was a little clickish….but that's ok I guess. He is true about comparing yourself to others though. Hard not to do that.
Mind body n soul that's y i train every day I'm been fighting since I could walk but now it just 2 stay ready n fit i learned street fighting 💪 no rules remember that when u r on the streets
Yeah I get that but why use jiu jitsu for the streets why not just pull out a 9 mil or 40 caliber no rules right
That elbow escape analogy is so accurate. I've seen a kid get caught in a triangle and his dad was telling 2 in or 2 out. That doesn't help; obviously they know to keep two in or two out, shit happens and you yelling that doesn't help
Hit that learning curve
Good encouragement
To suggest that outside pressures like homelives or work aren't the reasons for many simply because it's not the reason for some is rediculous. I could just as easily point out that lots of people stick with it even though they think they aren't progressing as fast as they should be. In fact I've known people to simply switch gyms rather than quitting because of they thought they weren't progressing as fast as others. It's all individual. Other than that I agree.
I have trained boxing and bjj together. I quit bjj because it went from $120 to $170 a month in a span of 2 years. I stayed with boxing because its only 50 bucks a month.
"Check your ego at the door" I saw that on a sign at a few jui jitsu places over the years.
it has been a bodybuilding term for decades as you enter the gym.
This is great!