To Anyone Who Doesn't Feel Good Enough
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- Опубліковано 30 чер 2024
- I feel like a fraud... should I have uploaded this? Was this good enough? Am I good enough?
Folks, welcome to my #ImposterSyndrome
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About Joey Kidney: Hi, my name is Joey and I have a pretty crazy life. I go through the ups and downs, just like anyone, but I share them with the world. Join me on my journey, let's make this life as amazing as it can be. Live to be happy and be happy to live!
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Not only are you a thoroughly lovely person, Joey, you must also be a very talented mind reader. Almost every line of this video felt as if it was coming from my own head. Thank you for doing what you do.
Ahah I am going to put that on my resume ... Mind Reader
Hey Joey, I think I’m gonna do a presentation about you in my English class because we need to do a presentation about someone who we like lol. I think that everyone should know about you and how you help people. Thank you for being here with us
Aw that is so sweet! That will be the only time a teacher would like me in my life haha
I have this feeling of not being good enough,worthless comparing myself and I am trying to sort it out
AHHH i’m so so glad and grateful that you’ve uploaded this. i literally remembered i DM’d you about imposter syndrome, and you replied me with the greatest knowledge that you have just shared in this video. thank you for the realness of you and your vulnerability. i’ve watched you for awhile now and you’ve really helped me get through the darkest moments in my life. i love you so so much
I totally know these thoughts and before all that the feeling of not being good enough. I always try to realize that I don't have to be perfect at every aspect of Life. That's impossible and it's totally Human to be vulnerable and to have different Phases of moods. We just have to be true to ourselves and remember the good things in life. Much power and love for you ❤️ Thank you for Sharing this!
Your eyes are so amazing. When you look straight into the camera, it feels authentic that you are speaking to me with care and concern. You can't fake that. And we love you for being who you are. Peace.
I'm glad I came across your video today. This has been me for the past 30+ years, and I never heard it referred to as Imposter Syndrome. Always comparing myself to others. Thinking others could do my job better. Thinking I should quit and let someone more competent take my job. Yes my boss is happy with me, but if he ONLY KNEW what I SHOULD be doing.....! Thank you, Joey.
The more and more i watch your videos and read your poems, it helps me enjoy my life more and more. Opens it up. For a couple years I've felt like the walls in my life were closing and i was drowning. Thank you for all of the things that you said to help open up my mind
so much of this resonates with me...I was watching something yesterday and some yelled "I AM NOT ENOUGH" and I Balled
I’m questioning the reason why I’m here a lot theses days…didn’t find a good one, but since you said I deserve to be here I’ll try my best to believe it. Thank you Joey❤️🩹
Wow I so felt this way when I released my second album because I kept criticizing it and let the critics get to me. I expected to feel happier. Even THE DAY AFTER. The positive comments were surreal, yet they still roll in 2 years later, I just always feel like I could’ve done better. More recently I got an amazing gig and I feel like it’s “some other version of me” who got it, even though it’s the present me, so I’ve underpromoted it. I just kinda thought that was “normal” but it helps having a reminder to be grateful for our successes, and like you said, challenging the doubts. I find journaling helps so much with this and then I can see the hard work I put into improving that mindset little by little. Thanks for helping me make more sense out of this problem :) love the sports analogy at the end
How do I be good enough?
Thank you for sharing and make us feel that we aren't alone in this and always remind me when I'm lost in my mind . I wish you know how much you helped me ❤️
Ever since I was young like 9 or so I felt like I didn't know who I was. I'm almost fourteen right now, going to highschool in four months, and I feel like I'm never gonna know who I am. I feel like I do everything for attention. Everything I do I compare to what someone did and feel like I'm acting like that person.. Thank you Joey for sharing this and informing everyone. No one is alone
This video really spoke up to me. I’ve always been an exigent person, I always want to have the best grades, to always be a good friend or familiar, and it’s a struggle to see that even though I am able to reach my goals, I am most of the time ashamed to show them to the world. Not long ago I received an award due to my grades, but felt like I didn’t deserve it after all, it was so strange, I never even got to celebrate it.
I just wanna say I think I am like the natural genius and it's really refreshing to know other feel that too. I always feel like a horrible person every time I get a math problem wrong or say something that breaks the harmony in the space, and it is exhausting. Thank you for this!
I think you hit the nail on the head when you said that Imposter Syndrome keeps you humble. This is how I deal with my Imposter Syndrome....I also think you seem to be one of the most level headed, intelligent, thoughtful and thought provoking person on the internet, yet you will always remain humble because you don’t feel that way about yourself. And weirdly that’s where the beauty lies.....
thank you. i found myself in every sentence you said in this video. every single one. those kind of thoughts torture me every second of every day. and I've found my way to work on my projects despite them. but i know i'll always do my work to a certain level as to not be the best. cause i cant possibly be the best. yk. because i didnt start coding at age 15. and how can i be as good as the other people when they have been coding for 10 years and im just now starting. rationally i know im not a bad programmer. but i cant let myself be good. and I think i'll always do "not bad". but i could never believe im actually more than "not bad" at what im doing. even with drawing. sometimes i want to draw. i really really badly want to draw. but i physically cant let myself pick up the pencil because i know nothing i draw will be as good as the art my roomie does (for example). or even if it is as good as hers... it still wont be good enough because i used references or i took too much time. there is always something stopping me. and I get so frustrated, so angry with myself, that i freeze. anyhow. this sounds stupid i think. sorry
This applies such much to me today. Thank you for being this brave ❤
Dear Joey,
Hey!
This might be a long one, so buckle up.
So far, I've been a fan of your work on Instagram alone. I watch your reels of you reciting poetry each night before going to bed. It soothes me like nothing else has ever before. I even tell my friends that I would pay to have you sit next to my bed and read me poetry as I fall asleep.
I've been in love with words for as long as I can remember. I used to write but stopped somewhere along the way. But your content on Instagram has motivated me to fall back in love with writing. I've already written more poems in 2022 than I did in 2021. So a big thank you for that!
Today was the first time I watched a sit down video of yours on UA-cam. And it honestly felt like the video found me. As you listed out the 5 types, I only wondered if it was possible to be all off them. And then you said that you were the same. I can deeply resonate with how you feel. I have and am struggling with the same. But after watching this video, I'm going to figure out what works for me and learn to not struggle, but live with it.
Much Love and Respect,
Sri 💗
This just made feel so much more better, this just explains everything I have ever felt
Thanks man. Really what I needed to hear. I guess lately, I've been worried about not being good enough. I'm always body shamed by my classmates and peers, and I guess sometimes, I just feel like, you know, I'm not good enough and I kinda just feel like an outcast. Like I'm isolated in my own little world. I guess lately, I've also been feeling that I'm not good enough for my girlfriend. Kinda just been feeling that she'll probably just go for a more handsome looking guy, or a more physically fit guy. I guess I just always doubt myself and feel like I'm not good enough to be on this earth, that I'm just a guy, you know, taking up extra space. But thanks man, for showing me that, you know, I deserve to be here, and that I'm actually good enough, no matter what others think. God bless you man, and thanks for being such an inspiration
Found this very relatable thanks so much and truly love all your content
Thank you for everything you do and I really love how you can come on here and share your story thank you because you’re helping lots and especially me.Thank you so much.
Thankyou for sharing
You have expressed my struggle somehow at some level I struggle with all of them.
Hey, I wanna thank you, your video is very helpful as always and it made me understand why I feel the way I do every time something good happens or when I am not perfect at doing something. I am really thankful!!!
Thank you so much for sharing, I really really truly mean it
yes ,lately have been feeling i am not good enough....i feel no matter what i do never seems enough..i am not good at anything....this dull feeling sucks....thanks for telling all this
a year later and i still come and watch your videos, they've always helped me
Right there with you, bro. This bothers me every waking hour. Really an amazingly good video. Society (esp youtube) needs more content like this. And the world needs your honesty and analysis.
I relate to this soo much and I also have a kind of Super Imposter Syndrome because all 5 types describe me and I have a really unhealthy relationship with myself and everyone around me and I know it's bad but I don't do anything to help fix it, I hate how much almost your entire channel makes me relate, almost everything you upload relates to me in some kind of way other than stuff relating to relationships as I am still too young to have experienced love to that level yet.
Thanks, Joey for the talk. Even when I'm writing this I'm still checking if I'm writing it right or not. I just don't have any confidence that I can do anything. I'm always worried that I'm not good enough. I can't do this or anything. I'm not moving anywhere. This feeling is killing me. I double-check before doing anything. I just want to get out of this feeling so badly 😢
One big yep!! I absolutely love how you articulate all of this! Thank you for being you.
You made me cry man and idk why… It’s the first time I know of this syndrome and I felt like you are describing me. Much love j you always succeed at being the best to say what in my mind🤍
I can feel every word of what you're saying and I didn't know there was actually a psychological term for that. I always thought I'm just too anxious and that I overthink every little thing even if it's- just like you said- as simple as meeting someone for the first time. Sometimes it gets hard to get past it when the doubting is in process, my mind just refuses to continue whatever I am doing until it is 'approved' if you know what i mean.
Thank you man for being there ,your videos help lot .I will keep support until my death 😅
What you said at the end…I want to thank you for that, I really needed that, I still do sometimes
i never realized that me wanting everything to be perfect or wanting to get everything right on the first try was part of the impostor syndrome; i genuinely thought i was just acting out
well i mean don't use this video as a diagnosis but definitely look into and read about it cause it truly is interesting
I realised that I have imposter syndrome and have been living with it for more than a year. You know I feel like I should do something else whenever I am like taking a break. I feel like I am wasting my time and not doing anything to achieve my dream. It's like I always have this disappointment in myself even though I am a very productive guy. Sometimes whenever I am having have a great time for a while I feel like how have I been so Happy these days,its been so long,where are my bad days,I guess they are on the way... but anyways thanks Joey. You have always helped me alot. thanks a lot
I WANNA SAY A LOT BUT MAINLY...Many will relate to this videos,each his way depending on their cases,backgrounds ,personalities,characters and even paths and lives( you can check it from the comments yourself)
1.You speaking up about it,making this video and get it out to the world is a living proof of how wrong those voices in our heads can and are actually very wrong ,cause obviously to me and to many more -and hopefully to you-this video is actually GOOD ENOUGH, this video is actually RELATABLE, this video actually can help both US and YOU.
2. How to live with it? From my own perspective and looking to the fact that ive a little bit of each type like yourself..like you mentioned i go through it,i feel it ,i analyze it and process it BUT most importantly when i start having that flashback of what i actually went through to get where i got the feeling slowly starts to fade and the smile on my face gets back again and even if i can't say it outloud, inside my head i can manage to say i do actually deserve this .
All and all, we own our lives ,we own our paths, we own what we achieved..it all eventually happens for a reason, it ain't random, so as cliche as it seems and as complicated is it can get ,it is still very simple...so simply LIVE ,do live through it and with it!
3.For you Joey, if you ever read this,thank you for staying YOU ,thank you for staying BEAUTIFUL ❤❤
i think this wins the most sincere comment award
*Feeling proud because it's coming from someone who is sincere to his mental, psychological and even emotional sides *
hands down, I'm a soloist. It's something I still struggle with, can't help but feel that I must accomplish success in every category in my life on my own. What sucks is that those successes I have accomplished on my own, I don't feel like they are milestones. I think, "everyone else must have accomplished this already, I'm not the first, it's nothing radical." Thinking like this has made me forget that I have achieved many things. It's illuminating to know that my "must do it all on my own" attitude is a segment of imposter syndrome, because now I can begin changing how I think going forward. Thanks for sharing
I appreciate all of your thoughts in this video, and can resonate with the majority of them! Regarding the last segment of the video, one thing that has also helped me is understanding that at the core essence of who we are, while it may sound counterintuitive, we are essentially nothingness… I think in Buddhism, there is a concept that captures this idea quite nicely with anatta. This was a good starting point for me and understanding, perhaps the oneness of us all. I found it fascinating within the context of all the major world religions, such as Christianity, Taoism, Judaism, Islam, and Hinduism this is an underlying emphasis of this fact of oneness. I feel like first we must develop a strong sense of self to realize our potential but then also be able to let it go and realize that we are far more than just our own ego and sense of self. This also leads paradoxically to the idea of nothingness of a letting go of one's self and embracing everything and fully being who we are meant to be without limitations or attachments and insecurities.
I lined up with all 5, like very deeply and I felt everything in this video. I’d never heard of that term before, makes things about me and how I feel make a lot of sense. I enjoyed this video thank you for this and your words :)
Thank you Joey this relates to me a little to much and it’s hard right now and I found this video and it really helped
Glad it helped
Just know...I do know how you feel. Not in the exact same way but I know. You are not alone in this. Thank you so much for sharing!!!
Thank you so much!
Your video made me feel heard, that I m not alone ❤
Your voice really gets through. I wish I got a chance to hang out with you.
Your fear is loss. I have the same issues they also stem from childhood. But an intuitive mind is also very difficult to satisfy. I read books from Lorna Byrne . Sometimes we gotta open our minds to more spiritual connections because they make us feel that although the failures we face hurt they also served a larger purpose not only in ur life but to those around u. Nothing is meant to defeat u. U write books because they will serve purpose and help to those in this world who need to hear it. Ur Chanel is so engaged on love , relationship and self motivation. The book I suggested has so many answers to love beyond our own human minds. It brings acceptance and peace for being yourself. 100% genuinely you.
I cried at my work place, late shift. 'Cause yeah I still feel like I'm not good enough, so must work harder, even my period cramps is killing me, I can't even eat or sleep probably. I still work.
Your words touch my heart, my pain and my bleeding wound. Thank you for sharing. I just want you to know, you're not alone. We're experiencing the same thing, the same pain.
But life is beautiful, so please keep going.
Bro i love you man , You are just such an amazing person thanks for sharing this⚡
Thank you, it helped me a lot. I'm a fan of the show called Murder Drones, for me its so good that it makes me feel bad about myself and my art, and what writting skills i have. I'm just 17yo and i had 2 mental breakdowns because of that i'm not good enough to create such amazing thing, and it hurts so much. I can;t even reason with myself, even if i say "this show is produced by a team of people that have years of experience" or "Im just 17yo kiddo, i shouldn't be so hard on myself" or anything like that, it doesn't help. And i thank you for that because this video helped me ease my pain a bit. Even if it is just a bit
My bf just broke up with me. I got depressed and was watching all of your videos. They made me feel good, thank you so fucking much for the quality of the videos and the content!
Great Video! I think I am the Type soloist/ superhero
me and my boyfriend have thought i have impostor syndrome for a while and i think this kindve proves it to me, and all the types, i resonate with, i dont know how to write much abt my thoughts but i wanted to comment something at least so here it is
I always keep coming back here everytime i feel like I’m not good enough .
I also get that thought of guilt when expressing emotion, I have many accomplishments but I don’t see their worth, I don’t show affection to others not even my mom because there’s a tiny thought that it stops me, I try to at times because she is great but I can’t bring myself to it
Ouuu I get that too!
I don't think you realize how much I missed the "stay you stay beautiful and I'll talk to you next time".
I relate to this id say a mix of the perfectionist and the soloist. Had never heard of it before so might do some research.
You are talking about mee! Thank u!
I always need to hear this
When you started counting the 5 types and i resonated with every single one, kind of felt scary but just know you arent the only one who feels like a Super imposter. Thanks for the video though.its my first ever comment on any public platform but i just had to write this one.
we have each other :)
Nice video! I feel the same way! 💯
Hey Joey, you are not alone, I’m feeling like a super imposter too and I’m really happy to see that I’m not alone ❤
You deserve the world joey!! Honestly! You are my favorite youtuber, even tho you don't post that often. But your videos are honest and true ❤️
I think im the superhero because I feel like I need to be great in everything and if I don't I think anyone else could do it. That it shouldn't be this hard, it should be easier. I feel like I should be able to be a great daughter, friend, sister, student and an overall good person all the time. Which obviously doesn't work, but I can usually avoid to think like this and let it go.
Thank you so much for the video, Joey♡!
When you said you deserve to be here that hit hard. And I aint meming.
Hey Joey, I want to reach out and say I’ve known your Tiktok for the longest time and I have always loved your videos and I just now listened to your “Listen to this if you wanna feel better when you’re alone” podcast and it really touched me because I’m really, badly struggling with it and it’s making me feel sad a lot. And I am trying to fix it, it’s just taking a lot of work in my mind and I had to quite track because I was so busy with work and band that I have lost who I was. I just have some questions. I hope whoever is reading this that they have a good day and I’m happy that you took time to read this. Thank you.
I also got rid of social media just to help with my mental health so that’s why I can’t reach out on Instagram.
I feel like I am not good enough for someone. And it gets to me quite often.
…. Everything you said perfectly describes me, even up to the writing your own book. I’ve always wanted to write a book since I was a kid but I felt like it’s not the right path because I didn’t like reading.
Me too Joey, thank you you’re amazing
i just found your channel after getting broken up with today and i’m obsessed w you i wish we could be friends
I'm all 5 types too. I'm very cocky with everything and when something goes bad I get sad and I complain alott and that makes me lonely because I'm over here trying to get attention but everybody hates me and rather not talk to me. I'm trying my best to fix it but it's just like you said a way of life.
Or even my career. I like making music and when I hear others I wanna try to be like them because I don't know myself fully and I get jealous so easily and I feel like I'm still not good enough when I make something of my own. Like no worth at all. The feeling of "oh no one's going to like this tho" is always on my mind..
Wow we have alot in common
I’m just worried about not reaching potential, I don’t want to look back at my life with regret but I’m just so scared about what to do with my life, I’m in my early 20s and I know I have time but it almost feels like I need to have all these answers already :(
Yep I can relate... :) It sounds like you might be HSP (Highly Sensitive Person) - all these things are typical for us. And yeah I've just experienced that success being taken away from me twice within last year and yeah does it hurt. So in these circumstances I got no other option than to put the impostor syndrome aside for a while and keep fighting because if I don't, I'll lose. Stumbled upon your video today because I've been procrastinating for a couple of weeks already, I have to do UA-cam to survive and I know I suck at it, and in any other situation I would never do anything that I'm not good at. ...you know, all that usual stuff.
I'm kinda late, but joey I feel all those things you mentioned. This video definitely hit a spot I tried to bury deep within...
Hi Joey I'm a happy boy but not all the time I go on walks on Sunday's and I like things neat and tidy person and I got a book off confidents off myself and feelings
A superhero is not necessarily who is successful but who help others to be.
the natual genius whenever i feel i cant do it on first try or dindt understand or if its not perfect i leave it i run i fail all other negative effects.
also alot of dubts even before i start anything and i keep comapring myslef even way before that i dodnt even more my first thought becomes to run away than try and fail and every other thought with failure
This made me so calm
And i am glad I'm not alone here
Thankyou for this lovely and supportive video
I def resonate !
I am feeling like the second type is me. A few days ago I didn't get my driver's license because of stress and I felt like I disappoint others like friends, family, bf and even myself.. I really wanted to do it for the first time but I didn't.. A few days later I failed in my final exam in high school ("maturita") and I felt that same feeling again.. It's like I must to do good. I must to please others. It sucks. I will have my second time in driving in a few days and I am so freaking scared that I will not get it.. And even tho if I will get it I will not be happy for myself because I will get it for the second time. Not like others..
i am the soloist mostly but they all relate 🥺
Omg, I was just talking to myself to figure out what's really wrong with me and your video showed up
Thanks so much Joey.
Thank you Joey.
Hi Joey thanks for being you. You have no idea how much your Videos help me I appreciate you 🤍
and thank you for being here!
Again bro, ur vids came at the right timeee
Thank you for this!
No matter how hard I try .it's like it's not enough. And if by chance it somewhat works out I fear the other shoe is going to drop. Why can't I just enjoy it a little. They say this is learned behavior. But it sure sucks to live like this.
When you say it our loud Joey. It resonates ..
It’s not just an imposter syndrome…. It’s the way our childhood shaped us. The trauma that lives within us. The constant need to prove / validate our existence. Like being “good enough” to exist. As if it wasn’t that the right to exist wasn’t given when we were born but we had to earn it. To be perfect and to not be abandoned as long as I was good enough/ successful enough/ capable enough.
I am for sure #1: The Perfectionist. Can definitely relate!
I can relate.
Bro...this is so true...
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first! so proud of you joey ❤️
i just dealt the lowest point in my life like me getting rejected i would laugh hysterically or smiling as if its a joke i alrdy tried to talk to someone it didnt work what do i do?
Damn! It happens sometimes 😶
I definitely think way too much about what people think of me and how I act around them..
This video did the impossible. It made everyrthing make sense
I am so glad that it helped
I resonate with all of the 5 traits 😂😢
thank you man. i lost everything.
Can you tell me the Name of the song at 4:19? I'm looking for it everywhere!
My girl left me after 4.5 years and went out with the guy she told me not to worry about after 4 days of being single. Now I’m heartbroken I feel like I’m not good enough for the world I feel like I’m a bad person she made me feel like that. I’m extremely unhappy with life and think about her everyday……