I moved to NYC as a kid in 1990 and grew up here and I just want to give this video a little bit of context. I don't know Kelly. She seems like a very nice young person and I respect everything that she went through and the opinions of NYC she got from living here. Any one who actually takes the plunge to move to this BEAST of a city and tries to make it here deserves praise. The issues she brought up here are valid and most of them are true. That said, Kelly experienced a very specific type of transplant NYC life that MOST native NYers just do not live in. This city is HUGE. 9 million people living in 5 boroughs. Over 300 distinct neighborhoods with vastly different types of people and lifestyles. The images in this video show places where only about 10-15% of NYers live. NYC is not just Central Park and the transplant neighborhoods of lower Manhattan. It's not just the hipster neighborhoods of Williamsburg and LIC. People living on the beach in the Rockways are NYers too. Their NYC is different than what is portrayed here. People living in the suburban like mansions of Forest Hills Gardens, Riverdale, Douglaston, Mill Basin, Ditmas Park, Todt Hill, Bayside and Little Neck are as much NYers as anyone living in The Village and they live a COMPLETLY different lifestyle that Kelly frankly probably doesn't know much about. And that is the point. There is no single NYC experience or lifestyle. There are 9 million different NYCs. One distinct and unique for every person living here. On the weekends, while Kelly is hanging at some packed bar in The City, surrounded by transplants, I am on a Kayak in a bay in the same city, with not a single person within miles of me. Both experiences and lifestyles are NYC. And that is what makes NYC great. You get to pick the type of lifestyle you want to live and there is something for everyone if you look hard enough. I wish more people who came to this city from other parts of America experiences the OTHER NYC. And didn't just go to the hipster and tourist parts. There are so many other types of stories to tell that have nothing to do with what is being shown here and more people need to know about that. Good luck with everything Kelly. I have no doubts that you will do great in life.
As a new yorker that came here as a child in '93, I agree with you. Grew up in Queens and still here (currently in Bayside). I spend most of my days lounging in PJs. I drive everywhere. I couldn't relate to most things she covers here.
Yeah and as someone from Long Island, which isn’t the city but still the NY metro area, life here is completely different. I’d only consider moving to queens, maybe Brooklyn, as I don’t like the extremely fast vibe and feel of Manhattan, but NY is just too expensive and congested for me lol.
This is an important response to this video. Most New Yorkers who live regular middle/working class lives live in neighborhoods most people have never even been to or heard of.
Grew up in Flushing. Went to university in Providence, Rhode Island and then Miami, Florida. Lived in Miami for 12 years after graduating university. Moved back to NY and will never leave. NY has everything you could ever want or need. I♥NY
I don't know why people need to say what you said, I thought it was obvious. I'm from Rio de Janeiro, now I live in São Paulo (Brazil), I have friends all over the worlds, work bolleagues in NYC, London, Portugal, Netherlands, even Korea. And everytime I say that I love São Paulo or that I fell in love with NYC, or Lisbon, people come with this answer "Oh but you lived other reallity, 90% of the people from there doesn't live in the places you lived on". And I felt this during my childhood. I lived almost in the countryside of Rio de Janeiro where I could only see ruined buildings, car crashes and gunshots. When people talks about Rio they always think about Cristo Redentor, southern part, beaches, fancy restaurants, but even Rio de Janeiro being a super small city, only 10% of the Cariocas live in the south, most of the people live in the suburbs (west/north zones). People need to stop point the obvious.
I think a lot of people move to NYC just to say that they’ve lived in NYC at some point in their lives. For transplants, this is just a chapter in their lives. And that’s why transplants aren’t New Yorkers. As far as the shallow thing, that’s not reality unless you’re hanging out with shallow, corporate people.
I agree.....born and raised in NY - well the outer borough (Queens)...always worked in NYC, now in Times Square area.....so I do know of plenty of people who intentionally get involved fully into the "shallow materialistic" way of life. They can enjoy. I choose life and happiness. Not impressed with any of that.
yup exactly why I'm trying to distance myself from the corporate world ! and I don't think most transplants claim themselves as new yorkers. they just want to experience the city while they still have the chance :)
The focus of my youth was to escape NYC, or die trying. Only a great place for bankers, legal, and arts. Nothing for STEM grads, minorities and working poor.
@@elizmon8526Lived in Minneapolis and Vegas. Never interested in small towns in rustbelt Appalachia. I'm not a hillbilly, and would be treated like a Haitian.
No one really cares though. You don't get any special treatment or experience being a native New Yorker vs being a transplant who live in New York. People can enjoy the city no matter where they are from. It's just super cheesy acting like you deserve some special recognition because you're a native New Yorker. It's not like you built the city. It's just a regular city where people live, just like any other place.
I'm a native New Yorker, and it's nice to see someone who has so much passion about my city. New York is an amazing place. I'm glad you appreciated your time here. Too many people live here, but don't take advantage of all the opportunities that are available. Thank you! Loved your video.
I’ve lived in NYC for 3 years and moved here when I was 38 “just to live in New York”. My experience living here in my late 30s has been a lot different than it might have been in my 20s. You’re reminding me to push myself a little more to be adventurous while I’m here and also to listen to my gut. Thanks for sharing your wisdom with us and best of luck with your travels! If you’re not already following Damon Dominique I highly recommend his email newsletter and youtube channel. I think you might connect with some like minded travelers through his forum! :)
I had a high status job in NYC in late 90s. Hated it. Summer is hot humid and empty. Winter is cold and dark. I returned to Boston, family in the area, beaches, mountains, no regrets. Go where you are comfortable.
One of the most difficult things about living in Manhattan is that if you can afford to live there, you often miss out on the very best things that make the hassle and expense of living in Manhattan worthwhile. When you live in Manhattan for a few years, you learn that in the summer you go to the Hamptons (or maybe down the shore, if NJ is more your vibe). You occasionally fly to Boston, DC, or Chicago for a weekend, or drive up to NH, CT, of VT to see the leaves change or go apple picking. At least a few times over the dark months of Dec, Jan, & Feb, you fly to Miami for some much needed sunshine and vitamin D because Seasonal Affective Disorder is real when you live surrounded by skyscrapers and you lose daylight by 4 PM for months in a row. You lived in NYC in the best years when the City was thriving. I moved there in 1990 at the height of the recession, when crime was rampant. I was living full time in LA in 2000, having given up my apartment there. If you were miserable in NYC in the laste 90s, it is most definitely not for you because those were some of the best years NYC had since maybe the early 60s? Those were the blissful, carefree pre-9/11 years when the city was flush with money and crime was the lowest it had been since the 60s.
The difference between people who succeed and people who fail is that people who succeed push through adversity and roadblocks and people who fail make every excuse as to why they couldn’t
Please, not all of us West Coast females are impulsive, flighty, irresponsible teenagers-in-adult-bodies. Yet, there are plenty of people like that to be found on the West Coast, for sure. I think she'd do well in San Diego. Even LA might be too much for her. She has a lot of energy and that's great. She's a beautiful young woman so she would fit right in comfortably in California. Some women can't handle (the ego-ding of) the sheer number of gorgeous females (and males) that abound in the coastal cities. Traveling the globe alone is a better education than most universities provide, and so is living for several years in NYC. It's not for the weak, that's for sure. NYC will crush you if you let it.
Originally thought this was an SNL parody, especially with stupid midnight bridge visit. Had to have been high. Yes, welcome to the Hotel California wearing tatts as anxiety badges and a nose ring. I intuit the Universe manifesting an Only Fans account in her future if Daddy turns off the $$. Diddy preyed on these types, so did Epstein. In addition to 'sound healing' (🙄) add: crystals, chakras, manifesting, astrology, tarot. the hamsa, palm reading, psychics, magic, wiccan rituals, breathwork, lightwork, new moons/eclipses, spirit channeling, akashic record examinations, numerology, pyramids, vibrations, shamanism, discovering herself as a star seed, and not forgetting messages from The Pleiadian Council. Additionally 'doing the work' with ayahuasca to trauma heal from the psychological abuse dished out by her malignant, covert narcissistic ex.
respectfully, sorry it didn’t work for you, but giving up after five months? there’s absolutely NO way you could experience all that new york offers. It also looks like from your B roll that you didn’t go any further from manhattan than DUMBO or Williamsburg… Hope you are happier in your next place!
Exactly. I bet she didn't even step foot on Liberty Avenue in Queens to get any Trini roti and doubles. 🤣 I don't even consider someone a New Yorker if they didn't go to Liberty Avenue on their own initiative to try that food.
This video kinda spoke to me so I wanted to give my 2 cents. Firstly, good on you for not being scared of change. Life is to be lived. Now on to my recommendations. I’m almost certain you would love life in Southeast Asia. I lived in Hanoi, Vietnam for 3.5 years and it was life changing for me. I traveled all over Southeast Asia, and it’s just literally my favorite area of the world. I currently live in Guadalajara, Mexico, and although I love it, Asia still has my heart so I will be heading back and moving to Bali next year. I think you’d also enjoy Bali as well. I also love Thailand, so I’d suggest paying it a visit as well. Honorable mention is Japan (although different vibes from the Southeast, I do still really like Japan). You have the freedom to travel while working, so I’d hate for you to waste that blessing by staying in the States. I wish you all the good things on your next chapter. It’s about to get real good.
I'm about to hit my 15 year anniversary in NYC. My theory is: If you can survive 1 year here you can survive 10. Kelly couldn't make it, that's fine. Theory proven. NYC isn't for everyone, and hopefully we can all agree on that. Plenty of great cities in the world that need people in them. (But NYC is the best)
Yes, but you also need one "real" year where you engage in the city like an adult, not like a summer intern. You need to find an apartment (or pay a fee to have someone help you), sign a lease, have your utilities connected, find a physician, a dentist, an obgyn, maybe adopt a pet, and more than anything you have to learn that the rules that apply to everyone else also apply to you. A true, emotionally mature adult does not assume that everyone else had to work hybrid, but they're so special that they don't have to follow those rules. I mean, that's the way a young teenager thinks (and every narcissist, sociopath and psychopath I've ever known). NYC certainly isn't for everyone. I lived in Manhattan for 10 years and kept my apartment there for another 1.5 years while I commuted back and forth every month to LA while I was deciding if I could handle beach-life there. Right now, she's too impulsive and immature at this stage in her neurodevelopment to really live in any major world city on her own, so maybe being a digital nomad will help her mature some. Plenty of great cities in the world to try out for a few months at a time, and maybe she'll mature as she travels the world? Time will tell. Right now this person still mistakes what was a fling that she had for a few months as falling in love. This means she has some more life lesson to learn, a considerable amount of growing up to do, and well as how to distinguish infatuation from stable, real, lasting love. She's beautiful and energetic, but you can tell NYC was not a good fit for her as she is right now.
@@DanniBby You're hilarious. Here, I'll explain it for you. Everyone else in the office has been required to go back into the office. She is *the only one* who did not comply with this. That is why you tell something that they are *not special* and that the rules that apply to everyone else ALSO apply to them. Now, do I think people should have to go back to the office. Hell no. So, your ASSumption that I hold that view is wrong. ASSumptions only show your own ignorance.
@ why are you so condescending? She said her reason why and it’s valid.. since there are so many jobs that do offer work from home, it is not wanting to be special to choose to see that this possibility is available for her so she doesn’t have to conform to doing something that doesn’t align with what she really wants, she can choose another job. She’s also not the only one, if she said that other people in her company were also working from home.. so she didn’t understand why only in NY they changed the rules. It’s good self awareness to know that it doesn’t fit her desires.. a more ethical professional way to go about it would have just been to tell them that you’re going to have to find a job that is fully work from home instead of not telling them but she doesn’t have to. Your views are OUTDATED & it’s why people stay and companies even when they hate their life and feel the job is draining them, because of the social conditioning that you have to stay with what you signed up for and follow accepting what everyone else has to. That’s also why people stay in dead marriages and settle for less.
I live in NYC and have done so all my life. I think you can sum up this whole video with what you said about picking a decision and sticking to it. I have also travelled a lot in the last few years in a digital nomad capacity and found a wall with the monotony of that routine. I think there are different eras in everyone’s life and as long as youre following your heart the universe will continue to smile upon you. Its not where you go but who you are with and what you do when youre there.
Guy, as a born and raised New Yorker word of advice. Visit the damn city on vacation, instead of torturing yourself as a transplant without a long term 5-10 year plan. People that come from boring boonie cities see New York as this grandiose culture shock, which is true sometimes, but never go all in on a place you're willing to ditch in a heartbeat. Translates to other aspects of your life like relationships. You gotta be willing to want real suffering as something that phases past you like air to survive a major Metropolitan city.
I can only handle NY for 3 days at a time. Not for me. Nice to see but no way would I want to live there. You are doing amazing. I did the same like you and worked online and travelled in my 20's and now I settled down, sort of, and have a kiddo. I have zero regrets about doing what you are doing as I can now fully focus on raising a child.
People like this woman are why rents are out of control in New York. Too many people will accept being financially unwise to experience life in NYC for a few years.
Rents are out of control because the lack of housing due to the uber rich owning the baulk of the real estate. Then you have secretive Limited Liability Companies that own 37% of Manhattan properties - 12% in NYC. The rich treat NYC real estate as their private savings account.
@@Kthomasritchie This is true, NYC is losing population but Manhattan is ever so slowly gaining, and most of those people are wealthy. The average income of those people is insane. It’s just going to be a rich person’s exclusive space. The wealth inequality is insane too. Some of the poorest people in other boroughs make ridiculous less than people in Manhattan. Triple their salary and they still couldn’t survive in Manhattan.
She was there a few months, and you're a fool if you blame "people like this woman" for high rents. smh Where is your most basic common sense? Where is your most basic understanding of economics and how rents increase over decades??? smh Let me guess, you haven't lived in NYC for more than a decade? smh This is why you can't figure it out. You've also clearly never had a decent university education or you'd have a rudimentary understanding, which you so very obviously lack.
I'm a lifelong New Yorker born and raised and I don't blame you one bit for leaving in part over the rules on work from home. wfh Is so great for quality of life that it would be a deal breaker for me as well if i were in your shoes. You're a lot braver than I was at your age.
I grew up in the boring suburbs and have always dreamed of living in NYC. Today I go to college right near there and fall more and more in love with the city every time I visit. My dreams are so big and I have the ambition to make my dreams come true, and they do specifically revolve around this city, but watching this video really frees up my mind. I’ve never seen your videos before, I don’t know anything about you, but knowing that there is more to dreaming big than staying still in a fast-moving place as a fast-moving person makes me feel more confident about moving forward in a world rigged against this generation. Thank you so much for the vulnerability you share in this video. I feel so much better about jumping into life now, as moving past school can be so scary.
I know you talked in your video about how lucky you feel with your New York experience compared to others, and honestly, you’re totally right. My crew and I didn’t have the smoothest move. I ended up in Jersey because it’s cheaper, while most of my friends are stuck dealing with insane rent and sketchy roommates in the city. I’ve had some cool times in New York, but didn’t find my squad like I wanted. Plus, a lot of the OG New Yorkers I know still live with their parents because the rent’s just crazy. On a brighter note, a few friends who moved to places like Nashville TN and Elizabethtown KY are doing way better mentally and financially.
You seem to be profusely confused. This is common in your twenties but don't remain glued to a state of confusion. I hope you identify your true happiness and find a way to monetize your happiness. Your twenties are the best time for making mistakes as you still have time to recover. But trust me when I tell you to save and invest your money because today you're enjoying your twenties and in a flash the 40s is your reality.
thank you for sharing your story. im also looking to move to NY. Currently in chicago. ive visited the city numerous times (twice this year alone) and know its soo different to visit vs live in a space. my main reasons for trying to move there are i) tons of my friends post college live in NYC now ii) more finance job prospects iii) more single people (chicago is surprisingly small when it comes to dating), iv) closer to europe (where im from), v) more diverse (in terms of backgrounds, experiences, opportunities)
As a person that came here as a child in '93 and grew up here, i couldn't relate to most of the things you cover. It's mostly because we live in different boroughs, which is equivalent to living in different worlds. Life in Queens is very chill here. Manhattan is for most people who want to try NYC. And of course those who do that, don't last, due to burn out. You can't live life going 200mph.
I lived in nyc from '92-2011, then again from 2017-2021. Despite being a new yorker, I couldn't make it work after living overseas for 6 years. Life got harder to live and financially couldn't grow. Now living in Hawaii and will never move back, but I do plan to move back to Singapore.
Awesome Kelly! Well done! We're sort of switching places! Last year I moved back to NYC after having lived in Europe for 4 years! I'll be here for the unforeseeable future. I do miss Europe and the UK terribly! While I was living there with my then girlfriend, we lived in Tuscany for 2 years. There's a community there that I recommend called the Alchemy School of Healing Arts. You seem like you'd be a perfect, brilliant fit for the type of vibe there.
I’m not sure why I came up on your video but I really enjoyed your reflections it reminded me a lot of traveling. I used to be a digital nomad what I would often do is go to different cities around the world for around 1 to 3 months. I think this gave me ample time to really understand what it meant to absorb the local culture. I think it really helped me learn myself and the values I aspire to as well as taught me so much about the world. I think it’s smart to go and experience the world while you still can and live the digital nomad life. It will give you an amazing perspective. New York might just be the first chapter for you !
@@kellyktang Its hard to say because all of them provided something special and all depends on what you are looking for but I would have to say. In no particular order. Guanajuato Mexico, Bali Indonesia, Ko Chang Thailand, Pai Thailand, Paris France, Mallorca Spain, Barcelona Spain, Lisbon Portugal, Volcan Fuego (Guatamala), Medellin Colombia, Puerto Vallarta Mexico, Budapest Hungary, London England, New Orleans Louisiana. I would definitely say try to go to less known places in certain countries because when you get out of the tourist bubble thats were the learning and growth happens. Also try to seek out experiences that speak to you. For example in London it was a powerful experience because I live-in an ashram/temple and this grew my discipline and spirituality, in Mallorca I interned at a tennis academy and was able to see what tennis at the highest level is all about these experiences shape me everyday!
this is a great list! I'm glad to see that I'll be visiting about half of these :) totally agree on avoiding more touristy cities and seeking my own experiences. what was the tennis academy you interned at and how did you get the position? I'm not a tennis player but still curious how you managed to land a role abroad
It seems like you liked the idea of New York that’s sold to people. 10 minutes in the video it’s obvious you don’t like New York. That’s not a bad thing or a good thing it just seems like you still have no idea what you really are about. Nothing wrong with that. Also your personality is not what New Yorkers are about. Most of the people you say you met are in the same boat as you and not new Yorkers. Figure out what you are about
idk where you got this idea that I don't like new york, I love it and had an incredible experience there. and while many of my friends are transplants, some of them are also native new yorkers who showed me more sides of the city than the typical manhattan/transplant experience. nyc still stands as the best city in the world imo and I'm not finished with it yet!
@@kellyktangif you love it - you said here’s to leaving just as it’s getting good - why aren’t you giving it more time? Or is it that you want to travel? That you would have travelled no matter what city you were in?
Remember the feeling of coming home to NYC, it will always be here for you. I too had that feeling and never left. Also, I hope you will always have the courage to do the hard thing. If you might like a Latin American country with a European feel, consider traveling to Uruguay where my family is from.
love this perspective! it's always been a dream of mine to live in NYC, if only temporarily to give it a shot. My life is very settled in Cali but hoping to make it out there someday!
It can go either way. I've seen people make many millions, and I've seen people lose many millions. It is not guaranteed that you become more successful the longer you live there, that's simply a flat out lie that you cannot backup or guarantee across the board for everyone. It may be your truth, but it is not a fact for everyone. That is very extreme, all or nothing, black and white manner of thinking.
You can't travel the world on a W2 remote job in the US. There are tax and data risk implications for your employer. You would get fired immediately if they ever audited you.
@@Winner01562 Clearly you never worked at the Big 4 if you think that's not true. Only way you can do that is as a contractor with your own LLC under a corp-2-corp agreement so that you transfer the tax liabilities from your employer to your self. You can't do that as a W2 employee for an extended period of time, duh. You're taxed based on your work location - how can you possibly not know that? Do you not pay attention to your payslip?
I'm biased because I taught at Om Factory for 14 years before leaving to teach privately and focus more on my Chinese medicine practice. But Body and Pole is cool as well as Aerial Arts. My friends teach there. Lots of places closed down during the pandemic 😢. Places in Bushwick in Brooklyn... Hope your next destination is fulfilling. If you ever end up in Taipei, Taiwan check out Nomad Om Factory, that's our sister studio, they have 6 locations. @@kellyktang
awesome storytelling and videography and editing as always - as irrational as i want to think how your decision was made, it almost felt like this is how we’re supposed to live life :) cheers to that!
GIRL. This video is so great! I love how you compiled everything into one video. The thoughts, feelings, emotions and moments from the past few months. I can’t tell you the last time I’ve clicked on a UA-cam video & saw authenticity until now. Keep shining girlie ✨ you’re going places 🔑
Your videos are truly the best. I can totally agree with your decision of why you decided to leave NY. As someone who is born and raised myself I can definitely relate to most of the problems this city can have. From high costs to the smell and the rodents is ridiculous. I wish you nothing but the best in your new endeavors❤
Thank you so much for posting this video and for sharing your journey. Your video and words really resonated with me. I am someone who is about to embark on the second half of their life at 44 years old. I never heard that quote about the whispers turning into a scream. Amazing quote! I was born in Flushing, NY and despite living in Pennsylvania, I was always visiting and staying summers in NYC while growing up. Even until today I continue to regularly visit NYC. Throughout that time I always felt in the back of my mind that NYC was where I need to go to encounter that freedom and experience that you talked about. Now - those whispers are turning into screams and your mentioning about the universe talking to you - For me - I sense that God is talking to me or in a sense screaming to me to come and make that leap of faith to NYC and where I can live this second half of my life. Your video is very inspirational and helpful. Thank You! I wish you all the best as you go forward on your life's journey.
I feel like you should return to NYC after your world tour and settle for a year, get your own apartment if you can afford it and try to see more Broadway musicals. If you go to South America, I'd definitely add Argentina to the list. Good luck!
Emotional at the end, but my thesis is that you listen to the universe more than yourself. Good luck on your journey! A 12-hour drive after packing and moving seems like H.E double hockey stick, haha.
Your open mindedness about NYC is what I needed to hear about NYC. We have totally different religions but that didn’t stop me from seeing your authentic view. Thank you for this 🙏🏽
5 months and a temporary sublet (with a roommate) is NOT living in NYC. You never even signed a real lease. You haven't really "lived" in NYC until you've signed *at least* a year lease, had utilities connected, and experienced all four seasons. Imagine someone telling you they "lived in Chicago" but never spent one day of winter there? See how absurd that sounds? You had more like a summer internship, except interns have to go into the office everyday, so there's a daily commut involved, and you didn't even have that. You come across as *highly* impulsive, and like you don't think things through before you act, even jumping into a relationship the first week you were there. You mistake a fling for falling in love, which takes years. What you had is called "infatuation" and it's not real. It's a very brief, temporary state. You didn't even get a chance to know the person you dated for a few months. Love is something *very different*. It's stable and it lasts...for years...and even after the person is gone you still love them years later, sometimes a decade or more later, even if that love is different than when you were together. The cat-calling is a VERY REAL and frequent thing in NYC. That is no lie, and it's been that way for decades. If you're hot, men DO grab you and it sucks. Hell, I was at a gay bar dancing with my gay male friends and some bisexual dude jizzed all over my leg, the freakin' sicko, then he fled the club. Security was pouring a bottle of Absolute vodka all over my leg trying to sanitize it, while asking me if I had any cuts from shaving (in case the guy was HIV positive). The f'ed up men in NYC are a lot to put up with, no doubt about that. You think you'd be safe in a gay bar? Nope. My full time job the 10 years I lived in Manhattan was traveling around the world two weeks out of the month. I had 2 dogs when I first moved there, and they had to be walked 4 times a day, taken to the vet, and they had to have a sitter when I traveled. I had physicians, a dentist, an obgyn, like adults have when they actually are a resident of a city. You didn't have to establish any form of adult life there. You didn't even have to sign a lease or get approved, you just had a brief 3 month sublet. I had to find my own apartment, I paid movers to move all my furniture into it, and I even had to pay for a crane to hoist an armoir up to my apartment. That was all before I turned 24. Oh, and I almost forgot, I also had a car I had to move to the opposite side of the street every day. That only lasted a couple of years, and then I was car free. You basically lived like a summer intern, establishing no true adult roots there, except interns have a commute they have to do to and from the office everyday. Right now, you *think* you've established life-long friends in NYC. In less than 10 years, you're going to see that *very* differently. You're a super energetic, creative, dynamic and beautiful young woman, for sure, but you did not live anything close to an adult life in NYC. You simply breezed in for a brief 3-month internship, and when your boss told you that you have to follow the rules like everyone else, you breezed out like a teenager when their summer job is over. That is NOT adulting...that's behaving like a teenager who thinks the rules that apply to everyone else do NOT apply to them. That is how a 15 year old thinks. International travel is fabulous, and if you don't want the corporate grind, then I encourage you to become that digital nomad before you turn 30 because after 30, people are going to expect you to start acting like an adult, maybe not at 30, but by the time you're 35 you need to have it together. Have fun and be impulsive now while you still can. Just know that in MANY of the world's largest cities, that cat-calling and grabbing you is a thing. I've had it happen in Paris when I studied abroad there, the two separate times I studied abroad there, and by more than one guy. Some were French, others were Italian. It is far less common in LA (where I lived for 9 years) because there are so many gorgeous females there, but it does happen occasionally when you get out of your car to go in somewhere. It's far less common in cities like Boston, San Francisco, Miami, San Diego, Seattle, and Washington, DC, Tokyo, Taipei, Sydney, Melbourne, all of Bali. I would avoid all of Italy if you don't like cat-calling and being groped. I hope you have a blast, and I sincerely hope you learn the difference between infatuation and what real love is, since no one seems to have explained the difference to you. You will be in for a lifetime of pain if you don't learn how to differentiate a fling from infatuation from what stable, consistent love is. It's a big world out there, and only a lifetime to try and see it all. Carpe diem!
the fact that there is still so much catcalling and harassment on the streets is pretty enraging; i've heard stories from girls about being followed home even in "nice" areas like greenwich. I can imagine that that makes it really taxing to try to enjoy our city's beautiful night time. hope this aspect of things improves someday
no wayy, yea I feel like I hear a new crazy thing you need to watch out for every week. like the group of men that were punching random women in the face for awhile this year
@@kellyktang that’s scary i haven’t heard of that. One of my friends (girl) was punched outside of an office in Hudson yards before though. In my anecdotal experience I’ve felt that it’s at least safer here than sf which was where i was hanging out previously
@@kimeigaI think what’s important to remember is that it may be a city, but the suburbs has the same things but in places. I have been catcalled in my old high school and it’s extremely unsafe in the night cause nobody is walking outside, which brings up the rate of being kidnapped or murdered. But crime and problems aren’t just in cities but everywhere across the world, but I DO AGREE, in cities it’s way worse cause of the amount of people, all types of people.
My friend is a nanny and she says they catcall the kids, causing one of them to experience immense anxiety going outside. Now the family is moving so this poor girl can have a normal life smh
Catcalling 🤔🤣please in 2024 anything makes women uncomfortable. I saw this video on my Instagram of an Indian women complaining and winning about a guy staring at her for 30 seconds, and she said that was creepy. Women today don't know what admiring is anymore so I guess if I stare at a woman for 30 seconds that means I must be trying to rape her🤔🤣🤣. The thing about following a woman I am going to be honest with you guys women today never give any men the time of the day and never actually make time for men because they are so full of themselves and stuck in y'all own little world. Women be on the way to work, going to lunch from work or going to school or coming from school, and when women do go out on the weekends y'all surround y'all selves with nothing but other women and gay and transgender men. Or if a woman is by herself in a restaurant or at a cafe and of course she will be sitting on her phone the entire time and then eventually starts to take pictures and record videos of herself. My point is when is a good time to approach women today the answer is it isn't so when I hear stories about women being followed I say congrats to whatever man followed that woman because it is a shame a man have to follow some nowadays to get your attention. This playing victim that women like to do isn't going to work because women today are all about themselves and don't consider anything or anyone else outside of their own little bubble. Since after 2021 everything is based on women's consent and women benefit the most from this of course because as a man I already know most women won't give consent when it comes to anything regarding themselves. This feminism and lgbtq movement is destroying the interaction between men and women and we men already knew what the agenda was from the beginning. A man can't even look at a woman today without being called creepy what a shame men can't do shit in 2024 nothing. This is why I tell men that all women are good for is waisting our time and it's true.
Just found your channel with this video and ohhhh my gawwd?? This is what I needed to hear and somewhat relate to someone one, especially with the external pushes! Excited to see more :D
I worked in nyc for 3 years and as of may got a remote job that paid more than my nyc job. I think one thing that isnt talk about alot that was hard for me about choosing to leave nyc is basically choosing to leave the possibility of a stable romantic relationship for the long-term. After my lease ending in August and coming to terms knowing this is the right track I left to sf to be here for a month and build a friend community here while I prepare to live abroad internationally but first trying sf with just suitcase(s) (and waiting for the iphone 16). While living here though I can definitely see that being stable in nyc and sf can be such a satisfying life that I can foresee myself in the future. So much that I am starting to double think how much I should travel abroad over staying in sf. But if I stay here it’s no better than having an amazing tech job hybrid. So also am excited to travel abroad and be nomad but will be hard to go to places where it will just be just a little harder to work on hobbies that need a routine, since traveling takes alot of that time. So also saying bye to developing hobbies at an advanced level with an ease in order to explore more hobbies and lifestyles is also hard since it feels that im choosing a specific part of personal development. Anyways just wanted to say these things as well maybe it helps! I know this video helped validating knowing this is a route worth traveling!
it's definitely a tradeoff! I'm understanding more and more the importance of having stability, routine, and especially a support system close by. part of me is already looking forward to finding a home base and putting down roots, so I guess I'm just getting all my adventuring out of the way first before I allow myself to get tied down to anything. hope you're able to find the right balance that works for your life -- thanks for taking the time to share and wishing you all the best!
I love this video!! I do not know you however that does not stop my excitement for you. This is your path!!! I am asking the universe for some signs to guide me too (first is to finish my undergrad hehehe).
Omgggg ur Venus AC going right by is INCREDIBLE!!! You are reselling me on going there lol 😂 I have Jupiter AC right by NYC, but my relocation chart is not as juicy for NYC as other areas in the country so I am doing a chapter in Austin where I have incredible 2nd house placements on my relocation chart. But you’re making me definitely want to spring and summer in NYC !!! Love your vibe btw ❤❤❤❤
I'd be pretty cautious with the while digital nomad thing in today's world -- keep your remote job that's awesome but I'd be putting down roots somewhere. Lived in NYC and loved it but that was pre-covid and pre this immigrant insanity. Best of luck.
Five months in NYC is not even close to pre-rookie numbers. The city will shape you & toughen you up, if you can handle it. Arrive in NYC in December 2000. Had a lot to trips and falls but got back on the saddle and kept on riding. Stuck to my plans, learned from my mistakes & is ready to enjoy my retirement. Wouldn’t ever have this opportunity elsewhere. If you can make it there, you’ll make it anywhere is all fact. It's up to you, New York, New York.
I’m beyond pissed how your company put you in that position. No one wants to be one of a handful in an office for no reason. If they like your work performance it’s so arbitrary. I completely understand your decision and also had a doomed romance the moment I moved to NYC, definitely can relate.
I really enjoyed this video I definitely want to chat in a DMs about the moving process and a few things you mentioned in your video I think are relevant to myself and I have some things that I would like to discuss on decision making and also what gear are you using to shoot your video it's good quality
maybe stop listening to the universe, focus yourself in your career, not some bf to make impulsive decisions; I think you’ll be fine. success takes time with utmost patience. remote job doesn’t mean able to travel at whim.
The thing is you are so young and act like every young people, 5 months only 150 days there is no possibility of being successful in any thing. Real success takes time, unfortunately NYC is too difficult now compared to it was 20 years ago, cost of living there is robbery. Good luck on your new city. You talk very fast but that is alright. Subscribed. Regards🙏
I got to New York for my conference events but never been a fan, too dirty and the old vibe is gone. You should check out Fort Lauderdale Florida :) you will like it. More calm and trendy.
Love this video and I can so relate. Being at that crossroads and having to make that difficult decision…after living in NYC 8 years and as much as I didn’t want to leave NYC, at the time it was the right thing to do. I left 4 years ago and in my memories I romanticize all the good parts but the sexual harassment is so real. It’s something most men will never believe or understand how bad it is that one time a girl filmed what it’s like walking through NYC as a woman and people thought it was fake and overly edited but it’s just the reality.
yes idk why some men don't believe that it's real!! I was lucky that nothing too crazy happened to me but it can get so bad. do you have the link to the video you're referring to? i'm curious
Just found you channel. Lived in NYC for 8 years. Just have to say that you will succeed anywhere because you have an intelligent head on your shoulders. So many people and friends I’ve known who’ve ruined themselves crumbling under pressure. Cheers to knowing what’s best for you and CHOOSING your life over an idea of your life. NYC is the most brilliant place on earth, but it’s brutal to its dreamers. You contributed to our community and NYC is not a place we should stay in because it doesn’t serve us. New sub and I can’t WAIT to see where your journey takes you!
Thanks for bringing me to astrocartography, this is my first video of yours I watched and I looked at my chart too (Sagittarius ♐️ ) and it says I’m supposed to be in nyc too! I feel like I was meant to watch this video ❤ good luck with your journey 🎉
I can tell you and I would get along well. You are the type of girlfriend I need in my life. I was born and raised here in NYC in Brooklyn but now live in Flushing. Sorry to hear you are leaving NYC. Also there is nothing wrong with moving fast in a relationship. Life is too short. Have fun and live your best life!
Have you taken the MBTI personality test? Are you an ENFP? Hahaha I enjoyed this video and am taking it as a sign from the universe... a quiet pat on the back saying to me.. "Cristina, you made the right decision. Thank you for finally listening to your intution"
Being asian i feel like yall naturally have really upbeat lives compared to other people. Im glad you have the financial freedom and support to do what your heart wants
I moved to NYC as a kid in 1990 and grew up here and I just want to give this video a little bit of context. I don't know Kelly. She seems like a very nice young person and I respect everything that she went through and the opinions of NYC she got from living here. Any one who actually takes the plunge to move to this BEAST of a city and tries to make it here deserves praise. The issues she brought up here are valid and most of them are true.
That said, Kelly experienced a very specific type of transplant NYC life that MOST native NYers just do not live in. This city is HUGE. 9 million people living in 5 boroughs. Over 300 distinct neighborhoods with vastly different types of people and lifestyles. The images in this video show places where only about 10-15% of NYers live. NYC is not just Central Park and the transplant neighborhoods of lower Manhattan. It's not just the hipster neighborhoods of Williamsburg and LIC. People living on the beach in the Rockways are NYers too. Their NYC is different than what is portrayed here. People living in the suburban like mansions of Forest Hills Gardens, Riverdale, Douglaston, Mill Basin, Ditmas Park, Todt Hill, Bayside and Little Neck are as much NYers as anyone living in The Village and they live a COMPLETLY different lifestyle that Kelly frankly probably doesn't know much about. And that is the point. There is no single NYC experience or lifestyle. There are 9 million different NYCs. One distinct and unique for every person living here. On the weekends, while Kelly is hanging at some packed bar in The City, surrounded by transplants, I am on a Kayak in a bay in the same city, with not a single person within miles of me. Both experiences and lifestyles are NYC. And that is what makes NYC great. You get to pick the type of lifestyle you want to live and there is something for everyone if you look hard enough. I wish more people who came to this city from other parts of America experiences the OTHER NYC. And didn't just go to the hipster and tourist parts. There are so many other types of stories to tell that have nothing to do with what is being shown here and more people need to know about that.
Good luck with everything Kelly. I have no doubts that you will do great in life.
As a new yorker that came here as a child in '93, I agree with you. Grew up in Queens and still here (currently in Bayside). I spend most of my days lounging in PJs. I drive everywhere.
I couldn't relate to most things she covers here.
Yeah and as someone from Long Island, which isn’t the city but still the NY metro area, life here is completely different. I’d only consider moving to queens, maybe Brooklyn, as I don’t like the extremely fast vibe and feel of Manhattan, but NY is just too expensive and congested for me lol.
This is an important response to this video. Most New Yorkers who live regular middle/working class lives live in neighborhoods most people have never even been to or heard of.
Grew up in Flushing. Went to university in Providence, Rhode Island and then Miami, Florida. Lived in Miami for 12 years after graduating university. Moved back to NY and will never leave. NY has everything you could ever want or need. I♥NY
I don't know why people need to say what you said, I thought it was obvious. I'm from Rio de Janeiro, now I live in São Paulo (Brazil), I have friends all over the worlds, work bolleagues in NYC, London, Portugal, Netherlands, even Korea. And everytime I say that I love São Paulo or that I fell in love with NYC, or Lisbon, people come with this answer "Oh but you lived other reallity, 90% of the people from there doesn't live in the places you lived on". And I felt this during my childhood. I lived almost in the countryside of Rio de Janeiro where I could only see ruined buildings, car crashes and gunshots. When people talks about Rio they always think about Cristo Redentor, southern part, beaches, fancy restaurants, but even Rio de Janeiro being a super small city, only 10% of the Cariocas live in the south, most of the people live in the suburbs (west/north zones).
People need to stop point the obvious.
I think a lot of people move to NYC just to say that they’ve lived in NYC at some point in their lives. For transplants, this is just a chapter in their lives. And that’s why transplants aren’t New Yorkers. As far as the shallow thing, that’s not reality unless you’re hanging out with shallow, corporate people.
I agree.....born and raised in NY - well the outer borough (Queens)...always worked in NYC, now in Times Square area.....so I do know of plenty of people who intentionally get involved fully into the "shallow materialistic" way of life. They can enjoy. I choose life and happiness. Not impressed with any of that.
yup exactly why I'm trying to distance myself from the corporate world ! and I don't think most transplants claim themselves as new yorkers. they just want to experience the city while they still have the chance :)
The focus of my youth was to escape NYC, or die trying. Only a great place for bankers, legal, and arts. Nothing for STEM grads, minorities and working poor.
@@elizmon8526Lived in Minneapolis and Vegas. Never interested in small towns in rustbelt Appalachia. I'm not a hillbilly, and would be treated like a Haitian.
No one really cares though. You don't get any special treatment or experience being a native New Yorker vs being a transplant who live in New York. People can enjoy the city no matter where they are from. It's just super cheesy acting like you deserve some special recognition because you're a native New Yorker. It's not like you built the city. It's just a regular city where people live, just like any other place.
I'm a native New Yorker, and it's nice to see someone who has so much passion about my city. New York is an amazing place. I'm glad you appreciated your time here. Too many people live here, but don't take advantage of all the opportunities that are available. Thank you! Loved your video.
I’ve lived in NYC for 3 years and moved here when I was 38 “just to live in New York”. My experience living here in my late 30s has been a lot different than it might have been in my 20s. You’re reminding me to push myself a little more to be adventurous while I’m here and also to listen to my gut. Thanks for sharing your wisdom with us and best of luck with your travels! If you’re not already following Damon Dominique I highly recommend his email newsletter and youtube channel. I think you might connect with some like minded travelers through his forum! :)
I had a high status job in NYC in late 90s. Hated it. Summer is hot humid and empty. Winter is cold and dark. I returned to Boston, family in the area, beaches, mountains, no regrets. Go where you are comfortable.
One of the most difficult things about living in Manhattan is that if you can afford to live there, you often miss out on the very best things that make the hassle and expense of living in Manhattan worthwhile.
When you live in Manhattan for a few years, you learn that in the summer you go to the Hamptons (or maybe down the shore, if NJ is more your vibe). You occasionally fly to Boston, DC, or Chicago for a weekend, or drive up to NH, CT, of VT to see the leaves change or go apple picking. At least a few times over the dark months of Dec, Jan, & Feb, you fly to Miami for some much needed sunshine and vitamin D because Seasonal Affective Disorder is real when you live surrounded by skyscrapers and you lose daylight by 4 PM for months in a row.
You lived in NYC in the best years when the City was thriving. I moved there in 1990 at the height of the recession, when crime was rampant. I was living full time in LA in 2000, having given up my apartment there. If you were miserable in NYC in the laste 90s, it is most definitely not for you because those were some of the best years NYC had since maybe the early 60s? Those were the blissful, carefree pre-9/11 years when the city was flush with money and crime was the lowest it had been since the 60s.
@ Before NYC I lived in SF, Buenos Aires, São Paulo. Liked them all, NYC not so much. 🤷♀️ Like to visit, take Amtrack down.
The difference between people who succeed and people who fail is that people who succeed push through adversity and roadblocks and people who fail make every excuse as to why they couldn’t
You seem a lot more like a West Coast girl tbh
Please, not all of us West Coast females are impulsive, flighty, irresponsible teenagers-in-adult-bodies. Yet, there are plenty of people like that to be found on the West Coast, for sure. I think she'd do well in San Diego. Even LA might be too much for her.
She has a lot of energy and that's great. She's a beautiful young woman so she would fit right in comfortably in California. Some women can't handle (the ego-ding of) the sheer number of gorgeous females (and males) that abound in the coastal cities.
Traveling the globe alone is a better education than most universities provide, and so is living for several years in NYC. It's not for the weak, that's for sure. NYC will crush you if you let it.
Originally thought this was an SNL parody, especially with stupid midnight bridge visit. Had to have been high.
Yes, welcome to the Hotel California wearing tatts as anxiety badges and a nose ring. I intuit the Universe manifesting an Only Fans account in her future if Daddy turns off the $$. Diddy preyed on these types, so did Epstein.
In addition to 'sound healing' (🙄) add: crystals, chakras, manifesting, astrology, tarot. the hamsa, palm reading, psychics, magic, wiccan rituals, breathwork, lightwork, new moons/eclipses, spirit channeling, akashic record examinations, numerology, pyramids, vibrations, shamanism, discovering herself as a star seed, and not forgetting messages from The Pleiadian Council. Additionally 'doing the work' with ayahuasca to trauma heal from the psychological abuse dished out by her malignant, covert narcissistic ex.
@@logica1167why in the world was your description so damn specific? Did someone hurt you?
This video sums up pretty much all the young, privileged transplants in NYC 😂
Whats a transplant
Great video Kelly. It's all working out for you!
It’s crazy how we think we have years in a place only for the universe to take us some where new so much sooner. Congrats and very happy for you!
Listening to you talk about why you're leaving NYC feels like my experience. Except I was born and raised here.
respectfully, sorry it didn’t work for you, but giving up after five months? there’s absolutely NO way you could experience all that new york offers. It also looks like from your B roll that you didn’t go any further from manhattan than DUMBO or Williamsburg… Hope you are happier in your next place!
Thank you! Because seriously
Exactly. I bet she didn't even step foot on Liberty Avenue in Queens to get any Trini roti and doubles. 🤣 I don't even consider someone a New Yorker if they didn't go to Liberty Avenue on their own initiative to try that food.
@@FunkyChild718most people who lived in NY all of their life have never been to that place in Queens so what are you talking about
I’ve lived in NYC my whole life so what is it that’s more NY has to offer? Genuinely curious because no one has told me and I haven’t seen it.
NYC is not for the weak. Wishing you the best!
NO IT IS NOT !!! 😮🥲🤣🫣🤪
Then why are there so many asian girls
it sucks
it looks absolutely disgusting
@@JiaruiChen_ .......What
This video kinda spoke to me so I wanted to give my 2 cents. Firstly, good on you for not being scared of change. Life is to be lived.
Now on to my recommendations. I’m almost certain you would love life in Southeast Asia. I lived in Hanoi, Vietnam for 3.5 years and it was life changing for me. I traveled all over Southeast Asia, and it’s just literally my favorite area of the world.
I currently live in Guadalajara, Mexico, and although I love it, Asia still has my heart so I will be heading back and moving to Bali next year. I think you’d also enjoy Bali as well. I also love Thailand, so I’d suggest paying it a visit as well. Honorable mention is Japan (although different vibes from the Southeast, I do still really like Japan).
You have the freedom to travel while working, so I’d hate for you to waste that blessing by staying in the States.
I wish you all the good things on your next chapter. It’s about to get real good.
thank you for the recs!! I'm the most excited to see SE asia, especially thailand and japan :) good luck on your move to bali - that's so exciting!
I'm about to hit my 15 year anniversary in NYC. My theory is: If you can survive 1 year here you can survive 10.
Kelly couldn't make it, that's fine. Theory proven. NYC isn't for everyone, and hopefully we can all agree on that. Plenty of great cities in the world that need people in them.
(But NYC is the best)
Yes, but you also need one "real" year where you engage in the city like an adult, not like a summer intern. You need to find an apartment (or pay a fee to have someone help you), sign a lease, have your utilities connected, find a physician, a dentist, an obgyn, maybe adopt a pet, and more than anything you have to learn that the rules that apply to everyone else also apply to you. A true, emotionally mature adult does not assume that everyone else had to work hybrid, but they're so special that they don't have to follow those rules. I mean, that's the way a young teenager thinks (and every narcissist, sociopath and psychopath I've ever known).
NYC certainly isn't for everyone. I lived in Manhattan for 10 years and kept my apartment there for another 1.5 years while I commuted back and forth every month to LA while I was deciding if I could handle beach-life there.
Right now, she's too impulsive and immature at this stage in her neurodevelopment to really live in any major world city on her own, so maybe being a digital nomad will help her mature some. Plenty of great cities in the world to try out for a few months at a time, and maybe she'll mature as she travels the world? Time will tell.
Right now this person still mistakes what was a fling that she had for a few months as falling in love. This means she has some more life lesson to learn, a considerable amount of growing up to do, and well as how to distinguish infatuation from stable, real, lasting love.
She's beautiful and energetic, but you can tell NYC was not a good fit for her as she is right now.
I've been here for almost 2 years. Gonna go get my PhD like my other friends and we'll come back to teach!
@@le_th_your view is outdated, so many people work remote.. she doesn’t have to be special to stay working remote
@@DanniBby You're hilarious. Here, I'll explain it for you. Everyone else in the office has been required to go back into the office. She is *the only one* who did not comply with this.
That is why you tell something that they are *not special* and that the rules that apply to everyone else ALSO apply to them.
Now, do I think people should have to go back to the office. Hell no. So, your ASSumption that I hold that view is wrong.
ASSumptions only show your own ignorance.
@ why are you so condescending? She said her reason why and it’s valid.. since there are so many jobs that do offer work from home, it is not wanting to be special to choose to see that this possibility is available for her so she doesn’t have to conform to doing something that doesn’t align with what she really wants, she can choose another job. She’s also not the only one, if she said that other people in her company were also working from home.. so she didn’t understand why only in NY they changed the rules. It’s good self awareness to know that it doesn’t fit her desires.. a more ethical professional way to go about it would have just been to tell them that you’re going to have to find a job that is fully work from home instead of not telling them but she doesn’t have to.
Your views are OUTDATED & it’s why people stay and companies even when they hate their life and feel the job is draining them, because of the social conditioning that you have to stay with what you signed up for and follow accepting what everyone else has to. That’s also why people stay in dead marriages and settle for less.
You can become "World's Fastest Rapper" easily.
I know--speaks SO SO fast...jeez.
LoL I was thinking the same! Maybe she was in a rush!
😂 whoops
@@kellyktang Nothing wrong with that
Good luck! You are young, it is ok to try different experiences x
I live in NYC and have done so all my life. I think you can sum up this whole video with what you said about picking a decision and sticking to it. I have also travelled a lot in the last few years in a digital nomad capacity and found a wall with the monotony of that routine. I think there are different eras in everyone’s life and as long as youre following your heart the universe will continue to smile upon you. Its not where you go but who you are with and what you do when youre there.
I completely agree!
NYC is pretty raw and it does get old after a while. Been here over 25 years.
nyc B4 COVID WAS amazing
Guy, as a born and raised New Yorker word of advice. Visit the damn city on vacation, instead of torturing yourself as a transplant without a long term 5-10 year plan. People that come from boring boonie cities see New York as this grandiose culture shock, which is true sometimes, but never go all in on a place you're willing to ditch in a heartbeat. Translates to other aspects of your life like relationships. You gotta be willing to want real suffering as something that phases past you like air to survive a major Metropolitan city.
I can only handle NY for 3 days at a time. Not for me. Nice to see but no way would I want to live there. You are doing amazing. I did the same like you and worked online and travelled in my 20's and now I settled down, sort of, and have a kiddo. I have zero regrets about doing what you are doing as I can now fully focus on raising a child.
People like this woman are why rents are out of control in New York. Too many people will accept being financially unwise to experience life in NYC for a few years.
Rents are out of control because the lack of housing due to the uber rich owning the baulk of the real estate. Then you have secretive Limited Liability Companies that own 37% of Manhattan properties - 12% in NYC. The rich treat NYC real estate as their private savings account.
@@Kthomasritchie This is true, NYC is losing population but Manhattan is ever so slowly gaining, and most of those people are wealthy. The average income of those people is insane. It’s just going to be a rich person’s exclusive space. The wealth inequality is insane too. Some of the poorest people in other boroughs make ridiculous less than people in Manhattan. Triple their salary and they still couldn’t survive in Manhattan.
Exactly, they let the standards be set and when they decide to leave, the residents feel the aftereffects
She was there a few months, and you're a fool if you blame "people like this woman" for high rents. smh Where is your most basic common sense? Where is your most basic understanding of economics and how rents increase over decades??? smh
Let me guess, you haven't lived in NYC for more than a decade? smh This is why you can't figure it out. You've also clearly never had a decent university education or you'd have a rudimentary understanding, which you so very obviously lack.
@@le_th_ Sounds like you are the one who doesn't understand squat. Do you also argue that Airbnb does not cause rent and home price inflation? Idiot.
I'm a lifelong New Yorker born and raised and I don't blame you one bit for leaving in part over the rules on work from home. wfh Is so great for quality of life that it would be a deal breaker for me as well if i were in your shoes. You're a lot braver than I was at your age.
I grew up in the boring suburbs and have always dreamed of living in NYC. Today I go to college right near there and fall more and more in love with the city every time I visit. My dreams are so big and I have the ambition to make my dreams come true, and they do specifically revolve around this city, but watching this video really frees up my mind. I’ve never seen your videos before, I don’t know anything about you, but knowing that there is more to dreaming big than staying still in a fast-moving place as a fast-moving person makes me feel more confident about moving forward in a world rigged against this generation. Thank you so much for the vulnerability you share in this video. I feel so much better about jumping into life now, as moving past school can be so scary.
I know you talked in your video about how lucky you feel with your New York experience compared to others, and honestly, you’re totally right. My crew and I didn’t have the smoothest move. I ended up in Jersey because it’s cheaper, while most of my friends are stuck dealing with insane rent and sketchy roommates in the city. I’ve had some cool times in New York, but didn’t find my squad like I wanted. Plus, a lot of the OG New Yorkers I know still live with their parents because the rent’s just crazy. On a brighter note, a few friends who moved to places like Nashville TN and Elizabethtown KY are doing way better mentally and financially.
You seem to be profusely confused. This is common in your twenties but don't remain glued to a state of confusion. I hope you identify your true happiness and find a way to monetize your happiness. Your twenties are the best time for making mistakes as you still have time to recover. But trust me when I tell you to save and invest your money because today you're enjoying your twenties and in a flash the 40s is your reality.
Good for you! Follow your gut, take chances and see what LIFE has in store for you!
thank you!! same to you 😊
Go to Westwood Los Angeles you would like it more🎉
thank you for sharing your story. im also looking to move to NY. Currently in chicago. ive visited the city numerous times (twice this year alone) and know its soo different to visit vs live in a space. my main reasons for trying to move there are i) tons of my friends post college live in NYC now ii) more finance job prospects iii) more single people (chicago is surprisingly small when it comes to dating), iv) closer to europe (where im from), v) more diverse (in terms of backgrounds, experiences, opportunities)
As a person that came here as a child in '93 and grew up here, i couldn't relate to most of the things you cover. It's mostly because we live in different boroughs, which is equivalent to living in different worlds. Life in Queens is very chill here. Manhattan is for most people who want to try NYC. And of course those who do that, don't last, due to burn out. You can't live life going 200mph.
I lived in nyc from '92-2011, then again from 2017-2021. Despite being a new yorker, I couldn't make it work after living overseas for 6 years. Life got harder to live and financially couldn't grow. Now living in Hawaii and will never move back, but I do plan to move back to Singapore.
Awesome Kelly! Well done! We're sort of switching places! Last year I moved back to NYC after having lived in Europe for 4 years! I'll be here for the unforeseeable future. I do miss Europe and the UK terribly! While I was living there with my then girlfriend, we lived in Tuscany for 2 years. There's a community there that I recommend called the Alchemy School of Healing Arts. You seem like you'd be a perfect, brilliant fit for the type of vibe there.
Best of luck with everything! Super excited for you 🎉
I’m not sure why I came up on your video but I really enjoyed your reflections it reminded me a lot of traveling. I used to be a digital nomad what I would often do is go to different cities around the world for around 1 to 3 months. I think this gave me ample time to really understand what it meant to absorb the local culture. I think it really helped me learn myself and the values I aspire to as well as taught me so much about the world. I think it’s smart to go and experience the world while you still can and live the digital nomad life. It will give you an amazing perspective. New York might just be the first chapter for you !
that’s the dream! thanks for stopping by and great to meet a fellow traveler :) what were the best locations you went to?
@@kellyktang Its hard to say because all of them provided something special and all depends on what you are looking for but I would have to say. In no particular order.
Guanajuato Mexico, Bali Indonesia, Ko Chang Thailand, Pai Thailand, Paris France, Mallorca Spain, Barcelona Spain, Lisbon Portugal, Volcan Fuego (Guatamala), Medellin Colombia, Puerto Vallarta Mexico, Budapest Hungary, London England, New Orleans Louisiana.
I would definitely say try to go to less known places in certain countries because when you get out of the tourist bubble thats were the learning and growth happens. Also try to seek out experiences that speak to you. For example in London it was a powerful experience because I live-in an ashram/temple and this grew my discipline and spirituality, in Mallorca I interned at a tennis academy and was able to see what tennis at the highest level is all about these experiences shape me everyday!
this is a great list! I'm glad to see that I'll be visiting about half of these :) totally agree on avoiding more touristy cities and seeking my own experiences. what was the tennis academy you interned at and how did you get the position? I'm not a tennis player but still curious how you managed to land a role abroad
Omg Kelly! You are such a beautiful person, and what a great video! I’m happy I had the chance to meet you. I can’t wait to see your upcoming travels!
thank you hannah!! I’m so glad we met too 🥰
Obsessed with your views of nyc landscapes and people, also the rewind at the start
Loved listening to your stories! Ive been in NJ my whole life and worked in NYC so it was nice hearing a different perspective!
It seems like you liked the idea of New York that’s sold to people. 10 minutes in the video it’s obvious you don’t like New York. That’s not a bad thing or a good thing it just seems like you still have no idea what you really are about. Nothing wrong with that. Also your personality is not what New Yorkers are about. Most of the people you say you met are in the same boat as you and not new Yorkers. Figure out what you are about
idk where you got this idea that I don't like new york, I love it and had an incredible experience there. and while many of my friends are transplants, some of them are also native new yorkers who showed me more sides of the city than the typical manhattan/transplant experience. nyc still stands as the best city in the world imo and I'm not finished with it yet!
@@kellyktangif you love it - you said here’s to leaving just as it’s getting good - why aren’t you giving it more time? Or is it that you want to travel? That you would have travelled no matter what city you were in?
Remember the feeling of coming home to NYC, it will always be here for you. I too had that feeling and never left. Also, I hope you will always have the courage to do the hard thing. If you might like a Latin American country with a European feel, consider traveling to Uruguay where my family is from.
My body does the opposite of relaxing in NY. The fact that I can’t see the horizon because of the buildings. It feels like I’m in a box.
Depends where you live
I completely agree, there is no amount of money you can pay me to work in the office again, I do not care. I will never do it again.
love this perspective! it's always been a dream of mine to live in NYC, if only temporarily to give it a shot. My life is very settled in Cali but hoping to make it out there someday!
You’ll never be successful here If you leave so fast. The longer you stay the more you will be successful.
It can go either way. I've seen people make many millions, and I've seen people lose many millions. It is not guaranteed that you become more successful the longer you live there, that's simply a flat out lie that you cannot backup or guarantee across the board for everyone. It may be your truth, but it is not a fact for everyone. That is very extreme, all or nothing, black and white manner of thinking.
Great video. NYC is very expensive but a fun place none the less.
You can't travel the world on a W2 remote job in the US. There are tax and data risk implications for your employer. You would get fired immediately if they ever audited you.
Not true
Dude, there are plenty of people working remotely for US employers while living in a foreign country. What are you on?
@@quietreader4190 I think you clearly don't understand tax laws if you think any US based company would allow that.
@@Winner01562 Clearly you never worked at the Big 4 if you think that's not true. Only way you can do that is as a contractor with your own LLC under a corp-2-corp agreement so that you transfer the tax liabilities from your employer to your self. You can't do that as a W2 employee for an extended period of time, duh. You're taxed based on your work location - how can you possibly not know that? Do you not pay attention to your payslip?
@@FunkyChild718 how would they know though
This was just too good! Keep living!
Awww, I love that you discovered Om Factory and aerial arts while here ❤🎉.
I tried to try out every aerial studio in nyc! do you have a favorite?
I'm biased because I taught at Om Factory for 14 years before leaving to teach privately and focus more on my Chinese medicine practice. But Body and Pole is cool as well as Aerial Arts. My friends teach there. Lots of places closed down during the pandemic 😢. Places in Bushwick in Brooklyn...
Hope your next destination is fulfilling. If you ever end up in Taipei, Taiwan check out Nomad Om Factory, that's our sister studio, they have 6 locations. @@kellyktang
awesome storytelling and videography and editing as always - as irrational as i want to think how your decision was made, it almost felt like this is how we’re supposed to live life :) cheers to that!
GIRL. This video is so great! I love how you compiled everything into one video. The thoughts, feelings, emotions and moments from the past few months.
I can’t tell you the last time I’ve clicked on a UA-cam video & saw authenticity until now.
Keep shining girlie ✨ you’re going places 🔑
aww what you are the sweetest ! thank you so much girlie, wishing you well 🫶✨
Your videos are truly the best. I can totally agree with your decision of why you decided to leave NY. As someone who is born and raised myself I can definitely relate to most of the problems this city can have. From high costs to the smell and the rodents is ridiculous. I wish you nothing but the best in your new endeavors❤
thank you! :)
new sub girl i am so excited for youuuuuu
Doing what feels right is always the best
Thank you so much for posting this video and for sharing your journey. Your video and words really resonated with me. I am someone who is about to embark on the second half of their life at 44 years old. I never heard that quote about the whispers turning into a scream. Amazing quote!
I was born in Flushing, NY and despite living in Pennsylvania, I was always visiting and staying summers in NYC while growing up. Even until today I continue to regularly visit NYC. Throughout that time I always felt in the back of my mind that NYC was where I need to go to encounter that freedom and experience that you talked about.
Now - those whispers are turning into screams and your mentioning about the universe talking to you - For me - I sense that God is talking to me or in a sense screaming to me to come and make that leap of faith to NYC and where I can live this second half of my life.
Your video is very inspirational and helpful. Thank You! I wish you all the best as you go forward on your life's journey.
I feel like you should return to NYC after your world tour and settle for a year, get your own apartment if you can afford it and try to see more Broadway musicals. If you go to South America, I'd definitely add Argentina to the list. Good luck!
Chiang Mai is amazing especially Nov-Dec!
Emotional at the end, but my thesis is that you listen to the universe more than yourself. Good luck on your journey! A 12-hour drive after packing and moving seems like H.E double hockey stick, haha.
Your open mindedness about NYC is what I needed to hear about NYC. We have totally different religions but that didn’t stop me from seeing your authentic view. Thank you for this 🙏🏽
All your reasons for leaving get stronger.
Pretty funny you didn't make it half a year. Good luck on the journey.
5 months and a temporary sublet (with a roommate) is NOT living in NYC. You never even signed a real lease. You haven't really "lived" in NYC until you've signed *at least* a year lease, had utilities connected, and experienced all four seasons. Imagine someone telling you they "lived in Chicago" but never spent one day of winter there? See how absurd that sounds? You had more like a summer internship, except interns have to go into the office everyday, so there's a daily commut involved, and you didn't even have that.
You come across as *highly* impulsive, and like you don't think things through before you act, even jumping into a relationship the first week you were there. You mistake a fling for falling in love, which takes years. What you had is called "infatuation" and it's not real. It's a very brief, temporary state. You didn't even get a chance to know the person you dated for a few months. Love is something *very different*. It's stable and it lasts...for years...and even after the person is gone you still love them years later, sometimes a decade or more later, even if that love is different than when you were together.
The cat-calling is a VERY REAL and frequent thing in NYC. That is no lie, and it's been that way for decades. If you're hot, men DO grab you and it sucks. Hell, I was at a gay bar dancing with my gay male friends and some bisexual dude jizzed all over my leg, the freakin' sicko, then he fled the club. Security was pouring a bottle of Absolute vodka all over my leg trying to sanitize it, while asking me if I had any cuts from shaving (in case the guy was HIV positive). The f'ed up men in NYC are a lot to put up with, no doubt about that. You think you'd be safe in a gay bar? Nope.
My full time job the 10 years I lived in Manhattan was traveling around the world two weeks out of the month. I had 2 dogs when I first moved there, and they had to be walked 4 times a day, taken to the vet, and they had to have a sitter when I traveled. I had physicians, a dentist, an obgyn, like adults have when they actually are a resident of a city. You didn't have to establish any form of adult life there. You didn't even have to sign a lease or get approved, you just had a brief 3 month sublet. I had to find my own apartment, I paid movers to move all my furniture into it, and I even had to pay for a crane to hoist an armoir up to my apartment. That was all before I turned 24. Oh, and I almost forgot, I also had a car I had to move to the opposite side of the street every day. That only lasted a couple of years, and then I was car free. You basically lived like a summer intern, establishing no true adult roots there, except interns have a commute they have to do to and from the office everyday. Right now, you *think* you've established life-long friends in NYC. In less than 10 years, you're going to see that *very* differently.
You're a super energetic, creative, dynamic and beautiful young woman, for sure, but you did not live anything close to an adult life in NYC. You simply breezed in for a brief 3-month internship, and when your boss told you that you have to follow the rules like everyone else, you breezed out like a teenager when their summer job is over. That is NOT adulting...that's behaving like a teenager who thinks the rules that apply to everyone else do NOT apply to them. That is how a 15 year old thinks.
International travel is fabulous, and if you don't want the corporate grind, then I encourage you to become that digital nomad before you turn 30 because after 30, people are going to expect you to start acting like an adult, maybe not at 30, but by the time you're 35 you need to have it together. Have fun and be impulsive now while you still can. Just know that in MANY of the world's largest cities, that cat-calling and grabbing you is a thing. I've had it happen in Paris when I studied abroad there, the two separate times I studied abroad there, and by more than one guy. Some were French, others were Italian. It is far less common in LA (where I lived for 9 years) because there are so many gorgeous females there, but it does happen occasionally when you get out of your car to go in somewhere. It's far less common in cities like Boston, San Francisco, Miami, San Diego, Seattle, and Washington, DC, Tokyo, Taipei, Sydney, Melbourne, all of Bali. I would avoid all of Italy if you don't like cat-calling and being groped.
I hope you have a blast, and I sincerely hope you learn the difference between infatuation and what real love is, since no one seems to have explained the difference to you. You will be in for a lifetime of pain if you don't learn how to differentiate a fling from infatuation from what stable, consistent love is. It's a big world out there, and only a lifetime to try and see it all. Carpe diem!
the fact that there is still so much catcalling and harassment on the streets is pretty enraging; i've heard stories from girls about being followed home even in "nice" areas like greenwich. I can imagine that that makes it really taxing to try to enjoy our city's beautiful night time. hope this aspect of things improves someday
no wayy, yea I feel like I hear a new crazy thing you need to watch out for every week. like the group of men that were punching random women in the face for awhile this year
@@kellyktang that’s scary i haven’t heard of that. One of my friends (girl) was punched outside of an office in Hudson yards before though. In my anecdotal experience I’ve felt that it’s at least safer here than sf which was where i was hanging out previously
@@kimeigaI think what’s important to remember is that it may be a city, but the suburbs has the same things but in places. I have been catcalled in my old high school and it’s extremely unsafe in the night cause nobody is walking outside, which brings up the rate of being kidnapped or murdered. But crime and problems aren’t just in cities but everywhere across the world, but I DO AGREE, in cities it’s way worse cause of the amount of people, all types of people.
My friend is a nanny and she says they catcall the kids, causing one of them to experience immense anxiety going outside. Now the family is moving so this poor girl can have a normal life smh
Catcalling 🤔🤣please in 2024 anything makes women uncomfortable. I saw this video on my Instagram of an Indian women complaining and winning about a guy staring at her for 30 seconds, and she said that was creepy. Women today don't know what admiring is anymore so I guess if I stare at a woman for 30 seconds that means I must be trying to rape her🤔🤣🤣. The thing about following a woman I am going to be honest with you guys women today never give any men the time of the day and never actually make time for men because they are so full of themselves and stuck in y'all own little world. Women be on the way to work, going to lunch from work or going to school or coming from school, and when women do go out on the weekends y'all surround y'all selves with nothing but other women and gay and transgender men. Or if a woman is by herself in a restaurant or at a cafe and of course she will be sitting on her phone the entire time and then eventually starts to take pictures and record videos of herself. My point is when is a good time to approach women today the answer is it isn't so when I hear stories about women being followed I say congrats to whatever man followed that woman because it is a shame a man have to follow some nowadays to get your attention. This playing victim that women like to do isn't going to work because women today are all about themselves and don't consider anything or anyone else outside of their own little bubble. Since after 2021 everything is based on women's consent and women benefit the most from this of course because as a man I already know most women won't give consent when it comes to anything regarding themselves. This feminism and lgbtq movement is destroying the interaction between men and women and we men already knew what the agenda was from the beginning. A man can't even look at a woman today without being called creepy what a shame men can't do shit in 2024 nothing. This is why I tell men that all women are good for is waisting our time and it's true.
Just found your channel with this video and ohhhh my gawwd?? This is what I needed to hear and somewhat relate to someone one, especially with the external pushes! Excited to see more :D
I worked in nyc for 3 years and as of may got a remote job that paid more than my nyc job. I think one thing that isnt talk about alot that was hard for me about choosing to leave nyc is basically choosing to leave the possibility of a stable romantic relationship for the long-term. After my lease ending in August and coming to terms knowing this is the right track I left to sf to be here for a month and build a friend community here while I prepare to live abroad internationally but first trying sf with just suitcase(s) (and waiting for the iphone 16). While living here though I can definitely see that being stable in nyc and sf can be such a satisfying life that I can foresee myself in the future. So much that I am starting to double think how much I should travel abroad over staying in sf. But if I stay here it’s no better than having an amazing tech job hybrid. So also am excited to travel abroad and be nomad but will be hard to go to places where it will just be just a little harder to work on hobbies that need a routine, since traveling takes alot of that time. So also saying bye to developing hobbies at an advanced level with an ease in order to explore more hobbies and lifestyles is also hard since it feels that im choosing a specific part of personal development. Anyways just wanted to say these things as well maybe it helps! I know this video helped validating knowing this is a route worth traveling!
it's definitely a tradeoff! I'm understanding more and more the importance of having stability, routine, and especially a support system close by. part of me is already looking forward to finding a home base and putting down roots, so I guess I'm just getting all my adventuring out of the way first before I allow myself to get tied down to anything. hope you're able to find the right balance that works for your life -- thanks for taking the time to share and wishing you all the best!
What website did you use to look up your astrocartography chart? Thank you in advance!
Thanks for sharing, looking forward to following your Nomad journey
Damn, you are able to keep my interest and that's not easy! I'll keep following to see where you end up. Good video.
I love this video!! I do not know you however that does not stop my excitement for you. This is your path!!!
I am asking the universe for some signs to guide me too (first is to finish my undergrad hehehe).
Omgggg ur Venus AC going right by is INCREDIBLE!!! You are reselling me on going there lol 😂 I have Jupiter AC right by NYC, but my relocation chart is not as juicy for NYC as other areas in the country so I am doing a chapter in Austin where I have incredible 2nd house placements on my relocation chart. But you’re making me definitely want to spring and summer in NYC !!! Love your vibe btw ❤❤❤❤
Where can I check this out? Which website?
I'd be pretty cautious with the while digital nomad thing in today's world -- keep your remote job that's awesome but I'd be putting down roots somewhere. Lived in NYC and loved it but that was pre-covid and pre this immigrant insanity. Best of luck.
Five months in NYC is not even close to pre-rookie numbers. The city will shape you & toughen you up, if you can handle it. Arrive in NYC in December 2000. Had a lot to trips and falls but got back on the saddle and kept on riding. Stuck to my plans, learned from my mistakes & is ready to enjoy my retirement. Wouldn’t ever have this opportunity elsewhere. If you can make it there, you’ll make it anywhere is all fact. It's up to you, New York, New York.
Fick that saying. Tired of hearing that bs, It’s an excuse to not leave for better opportunities
I hated nyc, until I got a motorcycle and could actually move about and see all of ny.
I’m beyond pissed how your company put you in that position. No one wants to be one of a handful in an office for no reason. If they like your work performance it’s so arbitrary. I completely understand your decision and also had a doomed romance the moment I moved to NYC, definitely can relate.
hahah a doomed romance must be a rite of passage when moving to nyc 🤣 and ikr the office rule is so silly !
FACT: Bosses like putting pretty girls in offices.
I really enjoyed this video I definitely want to chat in a DMs about the moving process and a few things you mentioned in your video I think are relevant to myself and I have some things that I would like to discuss on decision making and also what gear are you using to shoot your video it's good quality
maybe stop listening to the universe, focus yourself in your career, not some bf to make impulsive decisions; I think you’ll be fine. success takes time with utmost patience.
remote job doesn’t mean able to travel at whim.
I am also fully remote. I was just in the Philippines for 2 months. Next trip will be Bogota Colombia which has good WIFI.
Where are you now? I live in NY FOR LIFE. Of course I might leave or a month or two, But New York City is my home...
Wow. This is inspiring. That’s amazing what you’re doing and very courageous! The experiences you’ll have will be priceless!
Check out Aomori in Japan; eat everything in Okinawa 😊
how to find apartments to live for couple months or so if you wanna be a digital nomad?
The thing is you are so young and act like every young people, 5 months only 150 days there is no possibility of being successful in any thing. Real success takes time, unfortunately NYC is too difficult now compared to it was 20 years ago, cost of living there is robbery. Good luck on your new city. You talk very fast but that is alright. Subscribed. Regards🙏
Thanks for your perspective.
I got to New York for my conference events but never been a fan, too dirty and the old vibe is gone. You should check out Fort Lauderdale Florida :) you will like it. More calm and trendy.
Real new yorkera cant stand these people
Good for you. You should be proud of yourself.
Love this video and I can so relate. Being at that crossroads and having to make that difficult decision…after living in NYC 8 years and as much as I didn’t want to leave NYC, at the time it was the right thing to do. I left 4 years ago and in my memories I romanticize all the good parts but the sexual harassment is so real. It’s something most men will never believe or understand how bad it is that one time a girl filmed what it’s like walking through NYC as a woman and people thought it was fake and overly edited but it’s just the reality.
yes idk why some men don't believe that it's real!! I was lucky that nothing too crazy happened to me but it can get so bad. do you have the link to the video you're referring to? i'm curious
@@kellyktang yes it’s this video: “10 hours of walking in nyc as a woman” ua-cam.com/video/b1XGPvbWn0A/v-deo.htmlsi=oalEqkused0jrH4F
Just found you channel. Lived in NYC for 8 years. Just have to say that you will succeed anywhere because you have an intelligent head on your shoulders. So many people and friends I’ve known who’ve ruined themselves crumbling under pressure. Cheers to knowing what’s best for you and CHOOSING your life over an idea of your life. NYC is the most brilliant place on earth, but it’s brutal to its dreamers. You contributed to our community and NYC is not a place we should stay in because it doesn’t serve us. New sub and I can’t WAIT to see where your journey takes you!
I really appreciate that dalton, thank you!
safe travels
The way she calls life problems and how we make decisions based on them, aka lease issue or job stuff, as "signs from the universe" 😂
I can only do nyc max 3 days then i have to get out. Its got some amazing things but i couldn't do it long term.
Thanks for bringing me to astrocartography, this is my first video of yours I watched and I looked at my chart too (Sagittarius ♐️ ) and it says I’m supposed to be in nyc too! I feel like I was meant to watch this video ❤ good luck with your journey 🎉
that’s so wonderful to hear! maybe I’ll see you back in nyc one day :) good luck with your journey too!
any recs for astrocartography breakdown? never even heard of it but sounds so cool
I used astro.com!
What website did you use for astrocartography ??? I’ve been trying to read mines but it’s a lot of lines and kinda overwhelming 😅
try astro.com!
What’s the link for the birth chart line thing hehe
This is a really good video and I'm looking forward to seeing your travel vlogs
thanks so much ryan! :)
amazing!!
I feel like I need caffeine to watch this
I can tell you and I would get along well. You are the type of girlfriend I need in my life. I was born and raised here in NYC in Brooklyn but now live in Flushing. Sorry to hear you are leaving NYC. Also there is nothing wrong with moving fast in a relationship. Life is too short. Have fun and live your best life!
Have you taken the MBTI personality test? Are you an ENFP? Hahaha I enjoyed this video and am taking it as a sign from the universe... a quiet pat on the back saying to me.. "Cristina, you made the right decision. Thank you for finally listening to your intution"
NYC left me, the NYC I came from changed and became a weird place. 2024, New York is not worth it.
New York right now has too many issues.
Being asian i feel like yall naturally have really upbeat lives compared to other people. Im glad you have the financial freedom and support to do what your heart wants