This may seem silly, but I'm teary because I've been experiencing this off and on for years. I thought I was just lazy and couldn't figure out why I can't do things some days. This made me feel less alone and gave me a term to describe it. Thank you soooo much! I appreciate that you are being so honest.
I felt the same way Merissa! Honestly when someone told me about it... That's when the light bulb went off in my head! Suddenly everything made sense and I didn't feel as alone because I know people who experience similar things you know.
Ugh - YES! Thanks for sharing about autistic burnout - it took me the longest time to find out that this was a phenomenon and I wasn't just crazy. I've had days where I literally COULD NOT cut paper. Paper. Just USE SCISSORS. I was so upset with myself but I literally could not do it.
Aww yeah honestly I understand what you mean. I'll have days where I can't understand how to work washing machines. Literally I use them all the time, it's just mad to me.
I was supposed to meet up with my babies dad on a burnout. I welcomed him to come over which made things so much easier. But I couldn't get up and get ready to leave the house. I was in a panic just thinking about it. He asked me if I felt anxious, but I didn't? My best way of describing it was "I just can't do it". I felt like everything was going to fast and there wasn't enough time and I dunno, everything just feels all over the place and not in order. I still can't describe it!
It's nice to know that this isn't depression entirely. Like my diagnosis, this helps a lot. I know what to call it and how to better handle it. Thank you.
This was brilliant! Yeah, the Spectrum is not all sunshine & rainbows there's some seriously sadistic monsters that come in & shout your head off at times. I loved your expression word about how it feels to be burnt-out. I've had a job for 10 years try=ied to "fit in" without any awareness of having ASD, disclosed to a collegue who then became my manager & tormented me for 5 + years using ridicule, discrimination, humiliation & finally cooked up a report on me that I was under-performing which was then disqualified by HR as being valid but the victimisation & bullying continued. I ended up having a panic attack at work & bombed out from there.... I am burned out after years & years of masking & perseverance Maybe one day I'll have my own channel? Take care everyone, & thanks for that brilliant message IndieAndie it's about being real & acceptance of the good the bad & the downright "Erk!!!"
I have just recently realized what my burnout is...If I've been particularly busy with people/events/working extra, (before) I couldn't understand why everything would just stop and I needed to stay in bed and sleep on and off all day, or - like you said - just sit on the couch and not move all day long; like, I don't even have the energy to talk to anyone. I never felt depressed but, perhaps, from an outsiders view I sure acted depressed. I typically bounce back after a couple of days.
Yeah it is a weird feeling but something that needs to be talked about more. Ooh yeah also to be honest if someone's in burnout, it might appears that they are depressed.
Thank you SOOOOO MUCH!!!! I had no idea what this was, I just recently realized I'm even autistic, but for the past 3 months this explains exactly how I've been feeling to a T. I have had depression, but it was NOTHING like this, this is a whole other level. My whole family has been so worried, but thanks to your video I know what it is! It has a name!!!! Thank you so much.
I just got my diagnosis 2 weeks ago but I’ve known for 10 years and have been going through a burn out for 2 years. I have been so scared cause I thought I had a brain tumor or something. I went from people not believing I potentially had autism to people asking me if I was autistic. I’ve been trying to get diagnosed for years and no one would take me seriously. I got a new therapist and she picked up on it and had me tested. It’s affecting everything, my memory, I forgot how to press enter on my iPhone for 2 months, I used to be an excellent writer, I got diagnosed with dysgraphia as well as autism, I talk super loud when I’ve always been asked to speak up, it’s affecting both my hearing, my eyesite and my smells, my fixations are out of control, Being in the dark and the light are bothering me so I have to stay in a dim quiet room. I now have a stutter when I have never had one. I can’t keep a thought in my head for long. This explains so much. It comes in waves sometimes it’s not as bad but it’s very bad atm.
I think I've been going through a burn out recently, I've been masking a lot recently where I volunteer, this has been going on for weeks now, I'm clumsy, getting emotional constantly, tired beyond tired, loosing interest in everything and can't focus on anything right now x
I would get checked for ADHD. It is very often comorbid with ASD, and this sounds more like ADHD. I know that doesnt SOUND accurate at first, but read up on ADHD and emotionality and some things will probably start clicking.
I'm starting to feel like a stuck record (now that's a dying reference!) saying the same thing over and over but ...it's thanks again. I've spent so long researching the spectrum as I like to figure things out but that's nothing compared to hearing about these quirks from the inside in real life terms. We're moving home at the mo and my wife is doing most of the work. I've been getting worse because I feel like I'm being lazy but your description fits. I've been masking for decades and the stress of the move (we've lived in the old place for 15 years) has triggered this is where I would normally drive myself into the ground trying to do "my fair share". My lovely lady is more of a carer at the mo than a soulmate but she knows I'm still trying (probably why my self harm has gone mad recently, 3 or more times a day) and she does what she can to keep everything going whilst I figure out all these things out. Thanks again ;}
Ooh yeah I know what you mean like when me and my fiancé moved into our own place last September. I was very stressed about the whole thing but we got through and she did awesome. I really just gave myself tasks to do that I know I could do you know. That really helped with the transition. But I guess we are all different. I do hope that you and your lady are alright and the move goes well.
Thank you so much for this video! My 12 year old daughter is autistic and when she is busy in school she experiences burn out, she can’t express how it feels so hearing this explanation from you really helps to understand her! Xx
Burnout has caused me to develop an addiction to energy drinks. People keep telling me energy drinks are dangerous and all that, but I literally feel like I can't function without excessive amounts of caffiene. I get extremely tired without it
I am in burnout right now, fueled by acting more NT at work to avoid professional repercussions and a pinched nerve flare-up, which hasn't allowed me to lift or practise archery, which both recharge me. It's terrifying indeed but knowing I am not alone is a bit more comforting.
I experience autistic burnout regularly it usually lasts weeks. The thing is I'm the smartest person In my school and it's so bad that most of the time I can barely read write or even spell. I believe I get a pretty severe case of this based on the amount of cognitive difference.
Learning more about autistic burnout has explained so many times in my life when I just couldn’t figure out what was ‘wrong’ with me, I just wish I’d known about it at the time!
As an autistic myself, I do struggles with burnouts during my university years, like when there is a given assignment that need to be submitted on the given date, and presentation for the finals, I thought myself that oh, there are still plenty of time to finish those things, and during the burnouts, I always tell people last minute especially when it comes to something really important, like Final Year Project. I struggle in learning on how to tell people earlier. At the same time, I do also focus on my special interests like my favourite actor and favourite shows, but not too overobsessed about them. Unfortunately, not many people even my family didn't understand what I've been through and they just mark me as being lazy and (sorry to say, 'bodoh') but actually I'm not like that. I tell them that I have burnouts but they don't really believe it. It's such a shameful that I lived in the society where people say burnouts are just "being lazy" and "burden everyone". With this video, I have learned a lot to tell people that I have burnouts and I struggle to learn to tell people earlier and managing my times.
I actually have burnout considerably more often than meltdowns. Meltdowns were common when I was a child (before I even knew I was on the spectrum) but since I was medicated as a teen, they've become more rare and when they happen, they aren't very intense. I feel blessed because a lot of people with ASD can't tolerate medication. I'm one of the few who can, and it really helps. Burnout, though... I'm actually going through a period of burnout right now. My focus and concentration are horrible, it takes me like an hour to watch a 20-minute video on UA-cam because I have to keep starting over since my brain wasn't absorbing anything I watched.
I've never been able to explain this feeling nearly as well as you just did. I didn't even realize that was me burning out until you just described it.
Aww it's ok like I think if people try to find courage to speak about things. Then it only helps others who maybe are in a similar situation you know or even just other people who don't know anything about it. Really just thank you for watching Iris, you are the best!
Yeah it can be very difficult for sure but I hope that some of these tips would be helpful. Actually would tips on burnout recovery be a good video to make do you think?
@@IndieAndyPartially noticing that I have many of the symptoms of my students who have autism diagnosis, partially increasing meltdowns from stress, mostly because I wanted answers.
Thanks for this. I just found out that I am autistic and also I am in burnout. My burnout is from managing my also autistic high school son and his school troubles. I am trying to get him a 504 plan and an IEP, which he was previously denied twice. Once in elementary school and once in Middle School. That and all of the Covid stuff has just become way too much.
I have this as other people keep pestering me. Im a shy girl that gets bullied. Im frightened by overbearing people and can barely sleep. Eating is hard and struggle to eat . This guy upstairs started trying to interaft whenever I needed space others said they found me weird. Im disliked as I cried a lot due to a very obscure migraine issue. Since I had anorexia doctors didn't look into and im sick 19 years I'm 7 stone at 5 feet 1 and I don't believe people will ever be compassionate. People lost their happy thoughts but im suffering do much.I take great pains to avoid my neighbours. Train indoors and garden alone. One particular neighbour keeps overstepping my boundaries there were builders and combined with that and him I'm furious all day. Im reporting the neighbour as he won't take no for answer screams outside flat. Combines with building work into Saturday with bad headaches i can't take much more. I've no patience for my job. I won't leave my flat. Have headaches almost daily. Im now really angry. I try and detach. The more people interact the less I handle. I even took up self employment to avoid others. I don't trust most and I never will . I've been through a cancer scare and I learned that I need to put a stop to the burnouts. People write me off and you know what I don't have to try. I contribute so what if its alone.
Hi there! Despite the fact you are alone and others may not get you. I hope you are well and just know that you have value that others probably don't see. So as long as you know that then that's good! 👍
Ohhh thank you very much for explaining it , I had this . I was very lazy , anxious , very depressed . Omg same their was a fog over my brain and I had insomnia too . I went to a time period of stimming and irraitation also . I couldn't do my homework for a while .
Aww yeah it is just weird how this can happen really. I mean I'm still feeling not at my best which has been going on for a couple of months now. However I'm just carrying on & seeing what happens really.
Hi there! I just came across your channel today. I only listened to the video with one ear (shame on me) but I like the word "burnouty" a lot. Greetings from Upper Bavaria (roughly the area between Munich Airport and the Alps) :D I'm also in the process of starting a channel.
Angry over curry, I like that one =) I think generally my burnouts and meltdowns have been over bigger stuff (parents splitting up and divorcing was a really big one I took hard), sometimes over smaller things, anxiety in particular is a high trigger for me regardless of what it is about. But it's nice to hear about, because I don't feel quite so alone.
Haha ooh god I can still think back to how I felt in that moment you know... Argh no can't deal 😂 Ooh well like I try to show in the videos, everyone experiences stuff differently. For me burnout comes from big things happening. But at the time I don't understand why until I really think about it you know. But I'm glad this makes your feel less alone honestly & just remember you are not alone ok? 👍
I don't have a diagnosis, but I really want to try and get one, bc I relate to nearly every symptom. Especially burnout. I was diagnosed with depression and anxiety before I turned 13, then with ADHD when I turned 16. And while at the time I probably did feel depressed, since then it's usually on-and-off periods, but I still don't know how to actually cope. During 2 weeks of online school (I already know I have an *extremely* hard time doing it, way more than my teachers realize), one of my teachers decided to put more pressure on everyone to emphasize how important it is to get it done, but instead I completely shut down in all of my classes and I'm still feeling super burnt out. I couldn't even convince myself to go to school today. It's not depression, because these feelings don't last super long and after a while, I can slowly build up the drive to go back to normal, but it's still super hard and I've never been able to explain it to my teachers. They know I have "shutdowns" like this bc this isn't the first time this has happened, but even they don't know why or how to deal with it. Oops this turned into a ramble
My burnout has come to include me being nearly killed unconscious for 2 weeks left disabled and convicted by police for implied threat of suicide. They said it was malicious communication. It was not suicide and my communication was asking for help just before my near death events. Can't find any help to give my terrible story
Awesome video and very validating information since I also had done a video on "Autistic Burn Outs" a couple of months ago. The contents in this video appears to be 100% accurately true.
God. I've only recently Found out at the age of 39 I'm Austistic. This explains why I've lost so many jobs, quit college or my grades in school dropped and when I've had meltdowns more frequently over small things such a misplacing my keys. 😓 I've completely trashed my apartment over a set of keys. Another time I actually had a huge argument with someone at work. 🤦♀️
I’ve only just figured out it was called burn out. I’ve had it every 18 months to two years my entire adult life. And I used to call it ‘critical mass’ because I could feel myself reaching that point when I would be unable to cope. Normally I would quit my job but seriously trying to keep hold of the one I have now. so just trying to understand burnout better to try and avoid it. 😊
I’ve been wondering if i have recently been overwhelmed and what that meant (diagnosed Aug 2020 at age 30). Watching this has made me realise that I have been brewing a burn out and last night I did reach that level. Felt that work was harder to do, being less tolerable of people, brain fog (not being able to find simple words etc), migraines... Now to accept and allow myself to recover
I hear about burnout which when you said, that it’s when you can’t do tasks because it takes a lot of mental energy (I’m not good at wording sorry) and everything feels fuzzy and I felt like crying, i always would want to do all these tasks and more but I end up doing none because I fight and push myself and usually that end up in me having a meltdown so I can’t push myself but I also don’t want to do nothing so I never know what to do. I feel hopeless. And I can’t explain it to my mom because I never know how. Maybe I can explain in better to her now thankfully because of this video. I was diagnosed with asd recently but I’m in a slight denial or I guess I just don’t know how to feel about it, but these videos are super helpful so thank you.
Oooooooh food/drinks dropping on my foot is a huge trigger for seemingly out of the blue meltdown/shutdown. Likewise spilling food down my shirt. No idea why it just flips a switch. It's so stressful. I hate dealing with food around other people.
I'm in the middle of this right now, I'm at work (cleaning) and I'm struggling to keep up with time and anything more than the basic is very difficult and heavy all I can think of is my bed, thankfully it's only 2 hours but I'm focusing on desks, bins, kitchens and toilets, no one is going to be touching carpets and lino on a daily basis so I'm lucky really
I think this is what I've been experiencing since high school. I don't have an autism diagnosis, and I didn't see a psychologist until I was 19 and found university really hard. She diagnosed me with ADHD, but figured the actual thing was that I'm on the spectrum and was experiencing this, along with my digestive issues that came from being gluten sensitive. I'm at the point now, where, even after 4 years, I'm only about 3/4ths done my degree, and I don't know what to do. I want to just take 2 classes, but then I won't have all the pre-requisites I need. I think I'll have to talk to my advisor. In Canada, to get an autism diagnosis, you either have to pay around $1500, or wait 3-4 years. I'm going to a clinic for chronic pain, and really hoping an occupational therapist will give me some ideas. They also have a doctor, pscyhologist, and dietician, so the combined approach is probably what I need.
Hi there! Just wanted to say that I hope things are going ok since you commented this & hope that you get the support you need. I think the OTs would be good for pointing you in the right direction for sure. But definitely have a chat with the advisor when you get back and wish you all the best.
@@IndieAndy Thanks! It just seems like my whole world is starting to make sense since watching videos from autistic creators about their experiences, and relating to it. I guess you could say my new year resolution is to not push myself to do things just because I see other people doing things that I know would make me more exhausted. Starting with removing deadlines from personal projects. I'm really hoping I can get to relax again once classes start up. Christmas break is always the hardest for me since I don't have a schedule or routine to follow, and what I do have often gets messed up. I am very glad that I have people who can support me, but they have some issues of their own sometimes. Either way, things are looking better!
Aww yeah totally agree with that about not pushing too hard. It's something that people don't think about until it's like too late to do anything about it. Ooh Christmas break is the worst for sure. I mean normally I would be at work but because I've got time off, it's just very odd and the days just don't flow as they should.... Sooo weird honestly! But as long as you have people and they have you, I'm sure you can help each other 👍👍👍
On a separate note, I have written the personal essay I was telling you about and I'm trying to sell it now. But, I have paused because I'm experiencing burn out (or close to it) and the anxiety associated with sending queries is a lot right now. :)
I think I experience burnout a lot more than meltdowns, I often disconnect entirely from people that I was close to, I always thought it was like putting a lot of energy, effort and emotion into trying to be friends with someone but eventually something triggers the burnout and I stop speaking to them entirely, I've done tis throughout my life, I thought it was putting up a self preservation barrier to protect myself but now I'm not so sure. It also might be being frightened to form relationships or friendships both of which hardly exist in my universe. I've also been told that I am always depressed and not great to be around.
My burnout is ALL THE TIME! Thank goodness for gaming! Such a relief outlet. Btw, where do you get that light in the background Pikachu is sitting on? (The one that says ‘Stay U, Stay Indie)
Aww yeah I think gaming can be good for that! Ooh those are just strip lights I bought off Amazon. I had to buy connectors and do some cutting and stuff which was a nightmare 🤯
Literally you just need to search for LED strip lights and different ones come up. Ooh I'm kind of into Pokémon Go at the moment. Don't really play games alot honestly!
Ooh I didn't know anything about Turner's syndrome until now. It's not something I've come across so thank you for giving me something new to learn about 👍
@@IndieAndy Yeah my family are health activists because my cousin and I are special needs! I am missing a chromosome and have leg and height problems due to it bit other than that it doesn't affect my college education.
I have a 2yo and a 4yo and ASD, I’m so burnt out. Im not sure I would recommend having children for anyone with autism. I love them but I never realized how much alone time I truly needed to function in a neurotypical world. Nowadays I get like an hour or two to my self each day and I’m forced to constantly be doing something to attend to the needs of others. If it wasn’t for lack of money I think a nanny a couple days a week would help out so much. But in America we don’t value families or childcare, so we can’t afford it.
I think this has been happening at about noon, every day for the last several months. Which is better than how it used to be, before my diagnosis, where in college, I would come home for winter break and spend all of my time in bed - I ate because my father brought me food and there was ice-cream downstairs. Yes, it feels really awful, and at least I can do some things for a while.
I 100% relate because this sounds identical to depression (not saying t is depression but it just sounds similar. I’m sorry you’re going through this 😔
Autism shut down sounds a lot like when I get overwhelmed with anxiety for too long. Like, oh I dropped one thing. Pick it up? Nah, yell at myself for being stupid and useless and then cry.
Ooh gosh that's me. Like I'd pick it up but I would get annoyed at myself for doing something so basic wrong 😂 But at least we can understand it though! 👍
Yep I have the same thing whem I have burnout I cant do anything just lay on the bed and sleep many times on the day. I live In Finland and we dont have lot of sun. Most of time the weather is dark and could and that makes my burnouts More difficult.
I’m having hella burnout! I’ve mentioned my ongoing life reboot on my videos. I’ve been looking for local supports and new friends. So I joined my local Freemasonry lodge because the pageantry is cool. However the unexpected demands on my time, disruption of my routine, and navigating organizational politics has burnt me out. Because my Brothers were complaining about my social awkwardness, I doubled down on masking and in the process I returned back to self-loathing. Despite this, I ended up in the middle of a political quagmire which has zapped all my social energy. Meltdowns? Let’s see: I kicked in the door of my car, ranted incoherently on Facebook, I’m still in the dog house with my SO, and I’ve had to do yet another apology tour with my friends. I’m wiped out, Andy. But it’s hard to explain the phenomenon to neurotypicals. Which has led me to resent dealing with NTs.
Aww gosh Doug I'm sorry to hear your trials and tribulations. I do feel though that it's always good to give things a go. It didn't work on this occasion but it might next time. Think it should be on your terms though! Think things always work better when they are on your terms you know.
Right now I’m severely burned out, I’m having trouble starting conversations with my long distance fiancée, I haven’t talked to her in 2 months but think about her all the time, I’m even getting her a promise ring for her birthday, I’ve been feeling guilty and ashamed and sometimes am hard on myself about it
Hello ! I just look this video and seen others earlier about the subject so i have a question : what differences do you make between autistic burnout and shutdown ?
Thanks for your answer. Then i still don't know if i'm experiencing autistic burn out now. Some things make me think i am : i cry all the time for nothing, including everytime i watch a video about autistic burnout ; i have more shutdown and meltdown and i soon won't be able to hide them ; the anxiety become anger, i know what you mean when you re talking about mixed up words when you speak and regression of abilities. But i'm still not sure because : i didn't have any big event wich might have cause this ; i've made a burnout before wich was work related and i m really not feeling the same, i m really tired but not stressed, i have a great job where i can do litteraly whatever i want, i m not in full time, my bosses know my autism and they re really great about this so i don t have pressure and i don t see what else could be the cause of burnout. Plus i m more lethargic when i m in shutdown that right now and i don t mind speaking. Finally i don t feel legit to say i m in autistic burnout because it s different of work burnout and my diagnostic is not official yet... Anyway, burnout or not, i need to get slower and take care of me. Ps : i m french so i hope my english is understandable
Chronic criticism and ostracism from most of a workplace for not being neurotypical Even management and bosses poking at the autistic person for being different with a subtle chuckle hoping to encourage them to neurotypical
I always get ill every six months or so where I feel so awful and I can’t get out of bed. It always follows a period high stress or lots of meltdowns and overloads. Is this burnout or a coincidence?
ah burnout... my old friend. Of course, that's probably because of the flames in my case, or at least that's what I tell myself and not the potentially undiagnosed aspergers
Hi there! Aww thank you so much! My friend Katy has her own autism clothing line which this is one of the items. Here's the link incase you want to have a look ➡️ weirdtriangle.com/shop/#!/invisible-i She also has a UA-cam channel as well 👍
When I’m in burnout, I won’t get out of bed and I’ll order takeaway. I like to exercise at home when I’m comfortable and don’t have to go out I can function so much better. Then I go out, get stressed and need a day to recover. I then get annoyed at myself because I’ll order unhealthy food instead of cooking healthy food and get depressed because I’m eating junk but I can’t ohsically make myself food. I’m better to just not leave my house so I can keep myself going. I hate when people call me lazy... they should see how much exercise I do when I’m not in burnout 🙄
I feel like I have to spend every waking moment learning about my special interests which fluctuate every few months. I'm undiagnosed but feel this may be a symptom of autism
I just stop wanting to do exercise people ringing the bell while I'm trying to process my environment. Like drives and quiet activities. My environment also needs to be calm.
Now I'm confused cause I definitely have depression but this is pretty similar so have there been times I could have gotten them both mistaken with one another
Hmm yeah 100% because if someone is in burnout, they could feel overwhelmed and feel helpless which could affect their own self-esteem which ties into depression. So yeah it's definitely possible from what I understand.
Burnout mental and physically is directly tied to mental health decline and unable to mask or focus day to day, basically it breaks you down. Can take years or subsequent events over time.
That cat is so pretty. I've been diagnosed with depression. And now they arnt as bad and happen every now and then, wonder if I'm having autism burnout. That would makes sense lol.
Kind of but shutdowns are a reaction to something the same way that a meltdown does. But burnout is that feeling of feeling beaten everyday. It makes autistic people feel weak, helpless etc. Because of this we may not be as tolerant or able to do social situations as example. Burnout can caused more shutdowns and/or meltdowns as we are less able to take things on. I hope that was an ok explanation friend & thank you for your comment!
I can be like this. 3 hours or 7 hours. Dishes... I am slow. And a slow cleaner. I cant do a hotel housekeeper job I had anxiety attacks now I got anxiety medication.
This is the first video I've come across that explains burnouts in an understandable way. Years ago I was diagnosed with clinical depression (although I didn't tell me GP the full story and didn't finish my treatment, but never mind) and I've always thought that the depression comes and goes and I've kind of got used to it... but watching this video I think maybe this could really be another potential symptom that I've been unable to understand for years. 🤔
Aww well I'm glad this video helped and maybe it'll help you going forward. Because some may feel they experience burnout but don't realise that it is and mistake it for depression or something.
@@IndieAndy Re-reading my comment I realised I didn't mention that I don't have an autism diagnosis, but I've got a GP appointment tomorrow (a phone consultation, argh!) to ask for a referral. Not sure how that'll go what with everything going on, but thanks to your videos and some others I think I've come up with a compelling amount of evidence to help state my case. 🤞
This cant be schizophrenia or bipolar? I feel unable to do things or i am such a slow cleaner. Like my dishes. I do it but slow. I am on seroquel and that is for bipolar. I get burnouts too.
Hmm I think people generally can burnout but burnout for autistic people can also hinder alot of other aspects of life like I mention in this video. But that's a really interesting thought so thanks for sharing 👍
I having autistic bun out I have a bad mind grane I hope I can gve Sarah the gift I got her and the brasslett I made her I feal burned out I suting down I feal the wrlod Is scary I cried wen I woke up I take a sick day from work today June 6th I hope next wends day I can gve Sarah a huge hug long one to
@@IndieAndy thak you I'm fealing mitch better I just finished a 5km marathon I did it in 33 mins I raised 1000 $ Canadian for my spcal culb I got 5 huge hugs from Anne louse the team captain and a kiss on the check and this Wednesday I get to see Sarah I hope your weekend is good ? I'm glad your my friend I'm the king about changing my UA-cam name
Ive encountered a "Narcissist" @employment . He was a psychology major in the army. me,.i been in the AF , ..... he commanded that i finish certain tasks within a certain amount of time, i was well lower than that timeframes he however was well above,.... he tryed to emotionally and mentally abuse me,.. but ,............ i could not connect his attacks,.... therfore he tryed to physically and mentaly harm me like "he says im gonna drag you to the HR office".
Hi Karl, I wanted to reply to you in one comment to the multiple comments you left. Firstly I am sorry to hear about your past experiences with people & that abuse you suffered. It's not something that I think anyone deserves regardless of who they are. With the eye contact side of things, I'm not very good at it most of the time and often just stare at their forehead or something just to make it look like I'm looking in their eyes. That could be something you should try if you feel able to. I fully get that looking into eyes is scary but for some reason, it's everyone else's normal so if you want to take that advice then that's fine. Also with the routine side of things, there's no problem in not following a routine through. Maybe that routine you had didn't work for you right now but maybe try something else if it's what you need.
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thank you, just found your channel and I have autism.
This may seem silly, but I'm teary because I've been experiencing this off and on for years. I thought I was just lazy and couldn't figure out why I can't do things some days. This made me feel less alone and gave me a term to describe it. Thank you soooo much! I appreciate that you are being so honest.
I felt the same way Merissa! Honestly when someone told me about it... That's when the light bulb went off in my head! Suddenly everything made sense and I didn't feel as alone because I know people who experience similar things you know.
Ugh - YES! Thanks for sharing about autistic burnout - it took me the longest time to find out that this was a phenomenon and I wasn't just crazy. I've had days where I literally COULD NOT cut paper. Paper. Just USE SCISSORS. I was so upset with myself but I literally could not do it.
Aww yeah honestly I understand what you mean. I'll have days where I can't understand how to work washing machines. Literally I use them all the time, it's just mad to me.
it's sounds reasonable , your brain is occupied in other things so much that it can't
use it's resorces effeciantly .
I was supposed to meet up with my babies dad on a burnout.
I welcomed him to come over which made things so much easier.
But I couldn't get up and get ready to leave the house.
I was in a panic just thinking about it.
He asked me if I felt anxious, but I didn't? My best way of describing it was "I just can't do it". I felt like everything was going to fast and there wasn't enough time and I dunno, everything just feels all over the place and not in order.
I still can't describe it!
Hmm yeah that sounds like burnout to be honest. Hope you are ok ☺️
It's nice to know that this isn't depression entirely. Like my diagnosis, this helps a lot. I know what to call it and how to better handle it. Thank you.
This was brilliant! Yeah, the Spectrum is not all sunshine & rainbows there's some seriously sadistic monsters that come in & shout your head off at times. I loved your expression word about how it feels to be burnt-out. I've had a job for 10 years try=ied to "fit in" without any awareness of having ASD, disclosed to a collegue who then became my manager & tormented me for 5 + years using ridicule, discrimination, humiliation & finally cooked up a report on me that I was under-performing which was then disqualified by HR as being valid but the victimisation & bullying continued. I ended up having a panic attack at work & bombed out from there.... I am burned out after years & years of masking & perseverance Maybe one day I'll have my own channel? Take care everyone, & thanks for that brilliant message IndieAndie it's about being real & acceptance of the good the bad & the downright "Erk!!!"
Gosh I'm sorry to hear this but yes I definitely you could make your own channel and share your experiences for sure!
I have just recently realized what my burnout is...If I've been particularly busy with people/events/working extra, (before) I couldn't understand why everything would just stop and I needed to stay in bed and sleep on and off all day, or - like you said - just sit on the couch and not move all day long; like, I don't even have the energy to talk to anyone. I never felt depressed but, perhaps, from an outsiders view I sure acted depressed. I typically bounce back after a couple of days.
Yeah it is a weird feeling but something that needs to be talked about more. Ooh yeah also to be honest if someone's in burnout, it might appears that they are depressed.
Thank you SOOOOO MUCH!!!! I had no idea what this was, I just recently realized I'm even autistic, but for the past 3 months this explains exactly how I've been feeling to a T. I have had depression, but it was NOTHING like this, this is a whole other level. My whole family has been so worried, but thanks to your video I know what it is! It has a name!!!! Thank you so much.
I just got my diagnosis 2 weeks ago but I’ve known for 10 years and have been going through a burn out for 2 years. I have been so scared cause I thought I had a brain tumor or something. I went from people not believing I potentially had autism to people asking me if I was autistic. I’ve been trying to get diagnosed for years and no one would take me seriously. I got a new therapist and she picked up on it and had me tested. It’s affecting everything, my memory, I forgot how to press enter on my iPhone for 2 months, I used to be an excellent writer, I got diagnosed with dysgraphia as well as autism, I talk super loud when I’ve always been asked to speak up, it’s affecting both my hearing, my eyesite and my smells, my fixations are out of control, Being in the dark and the light are bothering me so I have to stay in a dim quiet room. I now have a stutter when I have never had one. I can’t keep a thought in my head for long. This explains so much. It comes in waves sometimes it’s not as bad but it’s very bad atm.
I think I've been going through a burn out recently, I've been masking a lot recently where I volunteer, this has been going on for weeks now, I'm clumsy, getting emotional constantly, tired beyond tired, loosing interest in everything and can't focus on anything right now x
Aww bless you Kayleigh, I do hope you are ok! Just take it easier 👍
I would get checked for ADHD. It is very often comorbid with ASD, and this sounds more like ADHD. I know that doesnt SOUND accurate at first, but read up on ADHD and emotionality and some things will probably start clicking.
I'm starting to feel like a stuck record (now that's a dying reference!) saying the same thing over and over but ...it's thanks again. I've spent so long researching the spectrum as I like to figure things out but that's nothing compared to hearing about these quirks from the inside in real life terms. We're moving home at the mo and my wife is doing most of the work. I've been getting worse because I feel like I'm being lazy but your description fits. I've been masking for decades and the stress of the move (we've lived in the old place for 15 years) has triggered this is where I would normally drive myself into the ground trying to do "my fair share". My lovely lady is more of a carer at the mo than a soulmate but she knows I'm still trying (probably why my self harm has gone mad recently, 3 or more times a day) and she does what she can to keep everything going whilst I figure out all these things out. Thanks again ;}
Ooh yeah I know what you mean like when me and my fiancé moved into our own place last September. I was very stressed about the whole thing but we got through and she did awesome. I really just gave myself tasks to do that I know I could do you know. That really helped with the transition. But I guess we are all different. I do hope that you and your lady are alright and the move goes well.
@@IndieAndy The tough stuff has been done and we haven't shouted at each other once! :D Yes, small bites, a little at a time, that kind of thing.
Aww that's awesome well done you! Ooh gosh the smaller the better 😊
Thank you so much for this video! My 12 year old daughter is autistic and when she is busy in school she experiences burn out, she can’t express how it feels so hearing this explanation from you really helps to understand her! Xx
Aww that's no problem! Maybe if she watches the video herself as well. She might understand also that she's not alone too. ☺️
I will definitely show it to her when she gets back from her dads house! Xx
The other day I started crying because my brother accidentally scared me and I spilled a bit of water lol
Burnout has caused me to develop an addiction to energy drinks. People keep telling me energy drinks are dangerous and all that, but I literally feel like I can't function without excessive amounts of caffiene. I get extremely tired without it
I am in burnout right now, fueled by acting more NT at work to avoid professional repercussions and a pinched nerve flare-up, which hasn't allowed me to lift or practise archery, which both recharge me. It's terrifying indeed but knowing I am not alone is a bit more comforting.
Think that's the thing I like to showcase in videos like this and I'm glad that it's helped you too 😊
I experience autistic burnout regularly it usually lasts weeks. The thing is I'm the smartest person In my school and it's so bad that most of the time I can barely read write or even spell. I believe I get a pretty severe case of this based on the amount of cognitive difference.
Learning more about autistic burnout has explained so many times in my life when I just couldn’t figure out what was ‘wrong’ with me, I just wish I’d known about it at the time!
As an autistic myself, I do struggles with burnouts during my university years, like when there is a given assignment that need to be submitted on the given date, and presentation for the finals, I thought myself that oh, there are still plenty of time to finish those things, and during the burnouts, I always tell people last minute especially when it comes to something really important, like Final Year Project. I struggle in learning on how to tell people earlier. At the same time, I do also focus on my special interests like my favourite actor and favourite shows, but not too overobsessed about them. Unfortunately, not many people even my family didn't understand what I've been through and they just mark me as being lazy and (sorry to say, 'bodoh') but actually I'm not like that. I tell them that I have burnouts but they don't really believe it. It's such a shameful that I lived in the society where people say burnouts are just "being lazy" and "burden everyone". With this video, I have learned a lot to tell people that I have burnouts and I struggle to learn to tell people earlier and managing my times.
I actually have burnout considerably more often than meltdowns. Meltdowns were common when I was a child (before I even knew I was on the spectrum) but since I was medicated as a teen, they've become more rare and when they happen, they aren't very intense. I feel blessed because a lot of people with ASD can't tolerate medication. I'm one of the few who can, and it really helps. Burnout, though... I'm actually going through a period of burnout right now. My focus and concentration are horrible, it takes me like an hour to watch a 20-minute video on UA-cam because I have to keep starting over since my brain wasn't absorbing anything I watched.
I've never been able to explain this feeling nearly as well as you just did. I didn't even realize that was me burning out until you just described it.
Thank you for being so open and honest about this difficult part of autism 💙 Learning from you with every new video 😊
Aww it's ok like I think if people try to find courage to speak about things. Then it only helps others who maybe are in a similar situation you know or even just other people who don't know anything about it. Really just thank you for watching Iris, you are the best!
@@IndieAndy 😊
This is a very accurate description of how I have been feeling since yesterday... Burnout is definitely very frustrating for me and hits periodically.
Yeah it can be very difficult for sure but I hope that some of these tips would be helpful. Actually would tips on burnout recovery be a good video to make do you think?
@@IndieAndy I would appreciate those as someone who only recently found out at the ripe young age of 41!
That's good to hear and also what made you decide to go for an assessment?
@@IndieAndyPartially noticing that I have many of the symptoms of my students who have autism diagnosis, partially increasing meltdowns from stress, mostly because I wanted answers.
Thank you for an honest, open and interesting video. I hope things get better soon. Treat yourself kindly 🐻 x
Aww thank you ☺️ Still feeling kind of rough after 2 weeks since this was filmed. But I am slowly getting back on my feet 👍
@@IndieAndy I'm glad to hear that. Take it easy, there's no rush😺x
I relate so much to the sock part! Thank you for the video, your voice is really calming btw
Aww god yeah that feeling is so bad 😫 Ooh thank you, really appreciate that!
Thanks for this. I just found out that I am autistic and also I am in burnout. My burnout is from managing my also autistic high school son and his school troubles. I am trying to get him a 504 plan and an IEP, which he was previously denied twice. Once in elementary school and once in Middle School. That and all of the Covid stuff has just become way too much.
a very relatable video!
Thank You for sharing.
I have this as other people keep pestering me. Im a shy girl that gets bullied. Im frightened by overbearing people and can barely sleep. Eating is hard and struggle to eat . This guy upstairs started trying to interaft whenever I needed space others said they found me weird. Im disliked as I cried a lot due to a very obscure migraine issue. Since I had anorexia doctors didn't look into and im sick 19 years I'm 7 stone at 5 feet 1 and I don't believe people will ever be compassionate. People lost their happy thoughts but im suffering do much.I take great pains to avoid my neighbours. Train indoors and garden alone. One particular neighbour keeps overstepping my boundaries there were builders and combined with that and him I'm furious all day. Im reporting the neighbour as he won't take no for answer screams outside flat. Combines with building work into Saturday with bad headaches i can't take much more. I've no patience for my job. I won't leave my flat. Have headaches almost daily. Im now really angry. I try and detach. The more people interact the less I handle. I even took up self employment to avoid others. I don't trust most and I never will . I've been through a cancer scare and I learned that I need to put a stop to the burnouts. People write me off and you know what I don't have to try. I contribute so what if its alone.
Hi there! Despite the fact you are alone and others may not get you. I hope you are well and just know that you have value that others probably don't see. So as long as you know that then that's good! 👍
Ohhh thank you very much for explaining it , I had this . I was very lazy , anxious , very depressed . Omg same their was a fog over my brain and I had insomnia too . I went to a time period of stimming and irraitation also . I couldn't do my homework for a while .
Aww yeah it is just weird how this can happen really. I mean I'm still feeling not at my best which has been going on for a couple of months now. However I'm just carrying on & seeing what happens really.
@@IndieAndy that is Strange , I say it's the aftermath of a burnout . It's hard to just kept going at times tho isn't it ?
Yeah it absolutely is :)
Hi there! I just came across your channel today. I only listened to the video with one ear (shame on me) but I like the word "burnouty" a lot.
Greetings from Upper Bavaria (roughly the area between Munich Airport and the Alps) :D
I'm also in the process of starting a channel.
Aww gosh hearing videos in one ear is just weird to me 🤣 Yeah I like that word too! It's fun what you end up saying in the moment 👍
Angry over curry, I like that one =) I think generally my burnouts and meltdowns have been over bigger stuff (parents splitting up and divorcing was a really big one I took hard), sometimes over smaller things, anxiety in particular is a high trigger for me regardless of what it is about. But it's nice to hear about, because I don't feel quite so alone.
Haha ooh god I can still think back to how I felt in that moment you know... Argh no can't deal 😂 Ooh well like I try to show in the videos, everyone experiences stuff differently. For me burnout comes from big things happening. But at the time I don't understand why until I really think about it you know.
But I'm glad this makes your feel less alone honestly & just remember you are not alone ok? 👍
I don't have a diagnosis, but I really want to try and get one, bc I relate to nearly every symptom. Especially burnout. I was diagnosed with depression and anxiety before I turned 13, then with ADHD when I turned 16. And while at the time I probably did feel depressed, since then it's usually on-and-off periods, but I still don't know how to actually cope.
During 2 weeks of online school (I already know I have an *extremely* hard time doing it, way more than my teachers realize), one of my teachers decided to put more pressure on everyone to emphasize how important it is to get it done, but instead I completely shut down in all of my classes and I'm still feeling super burnt out. I couldn't even convince myself to go to school today. It's not depression, because these feelings don't last super long and after a while, I can slowly build up the drive to go back to normal, but it's still super hard and I've never been able to explain it to my teachers. They know I have "shutdowns" like this bc this isn't the first time this has happened, but even they don't know why or how to deal with it.
Oops this turned into a ramble
My burnout has come to include me being nearly killed unconscious for 2 weeks left disabled and convicted by police for implied threat of suicide. They said it was malicious communication. It was not suicide and my communication was asking for help just before my near death events. Can't find any help to give my terrible story
Awesome video and very validating information since I also had done a video on "Autistic Burn Outs" a couple of months ago. The contents in this video appears to be 100% accurately true.
Hmm to be honest this whole thing wasn't scripted and I filmed in while I wasn't feeling great also.
God. I've only recently Found out at the age of 39 I'm Austistic. This explains why I've lost so many jobs, quit college or my grades in school dropped and when I've had meltdowns more frequently over small things such a misplacing my keys. 😓 I've completely trashed my apartment over a set of keys.
Another time I actually had a huge argument with someone at work. 🤦♀️
I’ve only just figured out it was called burn out. I’ve had it every 18 months to two years my entire adult life. And I used to call it ‘critical mass’ because I could feel myself reaching that point when I would be unable to cope. Normally I would quit my job but seriously trying to keep hold of the one I have now. so just trying to understand burnout better to try and avoid it. 😊
I’ve been wondering if i have recently been overwhelmed and what that meant (diagnosed Aug 2020 at age 30). Watching this has made me realise that I have been brewing a burn out and last night I did reach that level. Felt that work was harder to do, being less tolerable of people, brain fog (not being able to find simple words etc), migraines...
Now to accept and allow myself to recover
Hi, i just discover the term 'autistic burnout' and it explained perfectly what i really feel for a few months.
I hear about burnout which when you said, that it’s when you can’t do tasks because it takes a lot of mental energy (I’m not good at wording sorry) and everything feels fuzzy and I felt like crying, i always would want to do all these tasks and more but I end up doing none because I fight and push myself and usually that end up in me having a meltdown so I can’t push myself but I also don’t want to do nothing so I never know what to do. I feel hopeless. And I can’t explain it to my mom because I never know how. Maybe I can explain in better to her now thankfully because of this video. I was diagnosed with asd recently but I’m in a slight denial or I guess I just don’t know how to feel about it, but these videos are super helpful so thank you.
Oooooooh food/drinks dropping on my foot is a huge trigger for seemingly out of the blue meltdown/shutdown. Likewise spilling food down my shirt. No idea why it just flips a switch. It's so stressful. I hate dealing with food around other people.
I'm in the middle of this right now, I'm at work (cleaning) and I'm struggling to keep up with time and anything more than the basic is very difficult and heavy all I can think of is my bed, thankfully it's only 2 hours but I'm focusing on desks, bins, kitchens and toilets, no one is going to be touching carpets and lino on a daily basis so I'm lucky really
I think this is what I've been experiencing since high school. I don't have an autism diagnosis, and I didn't see a psychologist until I was 19 and found university really hard. She diagnosed me with ADHD, but figured the actual thing was that I'm on the spectrum and was experiencing this, along with my digestive issues that came from being gluten sensitive. I'm at the point now, where, even after 4 years, I'm only about 3/4ths done my degree, and I don't know what to do. I want to just take 2 classes, but then I won't have all the pre-requisites I need. I think I'll have to talk to my advisor. In Canada, to get an autism diagnosis, you either have to pay around $1500, or wait 3-4 years. I'm going to a clinic for chronic pain, and really hoping an occupational therapist will give me some ideas. They also have a doctor, pscyhologist, and dietician, so the combined approach is probably what I need.
Hi there! Just wanted to say that I hope things are going ok since you commented this & hope that you get the support you need. I think the OTs would be good for pointing you in the right direction for sure. But definitely have a chat with the advisor when you get back and wish you all the best.
@@IndieAndy Thanks! It just seems like my whole world is starting to make sense since watching videos from autistic creators about their experiences, and relating to it. I guess you could say my new year resolution is to not push myself to do things just because I see other people doing things that I know would make me more exhausted. Starting with removing deadlines from personal projects. I'm really hoping I can get to relax again once classes start up. Christmas break is always the hardest for me since I don't have a schedule or routine to follow, and what I do have often gets messed up. I am very glad that I have people who can support me, but they have some issues of their own sometimes. Either way, things are looking better!
Aww yeah totally agree with that about not pushing too hard. It's something that people don't think about until it's like too late to do anything about it.
Ooh Christmas break is the worst for sure. I mean normally I would be at work but because I've got time off, it's just very odd and the days just don't flow as they should.... Sooo weird honestly!
But as long as you have people and they have you, I'm sure you can help each other 👍👍👍
On a separate note, I have written the personal essay I was telling you about and I'm trying to sell it now. But, I have paused because I'm experiencing burn out (or close to it) and the anxiety associated with sending queries is a lot right now. :)
Awww yeah I must be honest I don't remember what the essay was about due to burnout myself. But I'm sure you will get there and it will be great!
I think I experience burnout a lot more than meltdowns, I often disconnect entirely from people that I was close to, I always thought it was like putting a lot of energy, effort and emotion into trying to be friends with someone but eventually something triggers the burnout and I stop speaking to them entirely, I've done tis throughout my life, I thought it was putting up a self preservation barrier to protect myself but now I'm not so sure. It also might be being frightened to form relationships or friendships both of which hardly exist in my universe. I've also been told that I am always depressed and not great to be around.
Sending love Brother. 🙂
My burnout is ALL THE TIME! Thank goodness for gaming! Such a relief outlet. Btw, where do you get that light in the background Pikachu is sitting on? (The one that says ‘Stay U, Stay Indie)
Aww yeah I think gaming can be good for that! Ooh those are just strip lights I bought off Amazon. I had to buy connectors and do some cutting and stuff which was a nightmare 🤯
@@IndieAndy thanks! What are they called? What games are you playing now? I’ve been addicted to Zelda and Doom
Literally you just need to search for LED strip lights and different ones come up. Ooh I'm kind of into Pokémon Go at the moment. Don't really play games alot honestly!
I have Turnersydrome and doctors are always testing if it's connected to my cousin's autism so I like learning about both topics!
Ooh I didn't know anything about Turner's syndrome until now. It's not something I've come across so thank you for giving me something new to learn about 👍
@@IndieAndy Yeah my family are health activists because my cousin and I are special needs! I am missing a chromosome and have leg and height problems due to it bit other than that it doesn't affect my college education.
Loving the new intro, Andy 😁
Aww thank you 👍
I have a 2yo and a 4yo and ASD, I’m so burnt out. Im not sure I would recommend having children for anyone with autism. I love them but I never realized how much alone time I truly needed to function in a neurotypical world. Nowadays I get like an hour or two to my self each day and I’m forced to constantly be doing something to attend to the needs of others. If it wasn’t for lack of money I think a nanny a couple days a week would help out so much. But in America we don’t value families or childcare, so we can’t afford it.
Can totally relate to this
Pretty kitty!! I feel ya on the burnouts!!
I think this has been happening at about noon, every day for the last several months. Which is better than how it used to be, before my diagnosis, where in college, I would come home for winter break and spend all of my time in bed - I ate because my father brought me food and there was ice-cream downstairs. Yes, it feels really awful, and at least I can do some things for a while.
I 100% relate because this sounds identical to depression (not saying t is depression but it just sounds similar. I’m sorry you’re going through this 😔
Aww it's alright like I say I've been through it before. Sure I'll be fine soon though 😂
IndieAndy lmk if you need anything 💜
Aww you are the best and the same goes to you too you know 💛👍
Autism shut down sounds a lot like when I get overwhelmed with anxiety for too long. Like, oh I dropped one thing. Pick it up? Nah, yell at myself for being stupid and useless and then cry.
Ooh gosh that's me. Like I'd pick it up but I would get annoyed at myself for doing something so basic wrong 😂 But at least we can understand it though! 👍
@@IndieAndy Honestly it astounds me how many things I experience that are similar to people with autism. It makes me wonder. Haha.
Aww well who knows... I'm no doctor 😂 I mean at the end of the day you're awesome 👍
@@IndieAndy Aw thank you!
Yep I have the same thing whem I have burnout I cant do anything just lay on the bed and sleep many times on the day. I live In Finland and we dont have lot of sun. Most of time the weather is dark and could and that makes my burnouts More difficult.
Aww yeah I can understand that mainly when it's winter in the UK. However I know it's not the same thing.
I’m having hella burnout! I’ve mentioned my ongoing life reboot on my videos. I’ve been looking for local supports and new friends. So I joined my local Freemasonry lodge because the pageantry is cool. However the unexpected demands on my time, disruption of my routine, and navigating organizational politics has burnt me out. Because my Brothers were complaining about my social awkwardness, I doubled down on masking and in the process I returned back to self-loathing. Despite this, I ended up in the middle of a political quagmire which has zapped all my social energy. Meltdowns? Let’s see: I kicked in the door of my car, ranted incoherently on Facebook, I’m still in the dog house with my SO, and I’ve had to do yet another apology tour with my friends. I’m wiped out, Andy. But it’s hard to explain the phenomenon to neurotypicals. Which has led me to resent dealing with NTs.
Aww gosh Doug I'm sorry to hear your trials and tribulations. I do feel though that it's always good to give things a go. It didn't work on this occasion but it might next time. Think it should be on your terms though! Think things always work better when they are on your terms you know.
Right now I’m severely burned out, I’m having trouble starting conversations with my long distance fiancée, I haven’t talked to her in 2 months but think about her all the time, I’m even getting her a promise ring for her birthday, I’ve been feeling guilty and ashamed and sometimes am hard on myself about it
p.s. I totally relate 100% . Great content xxx
Aww thank you so much!
I relate so hard to this video.
Aww thank you so much!
thanks for doing this :)
Hello !
I just look this video and seen others earlier about the subject so i have a question : what differences do you make between autistic burnout and shutdown ?
Hi there! Don't know if you've seen this video of mine but I covered this question so hopefully it helps: ua-cam.com/video/wdgKacBozh0/v-deo.html
Thanks for your answer. Then i still don't know if i'm experiencing autistic burn out now. Some things make me think i am : i cry all the time for nothing, including everytime i watch a video about autistic burnout ; i have more shutdown and meltdown and i soon won't be able to hide them ; the anxiety become anger, i know what you mean when you re talking about mixed up words when you speak and regression of abilities.
But i'm still not sure because : i didn't have any big event wich might have cause this ; i've made a burnout before wich was work related and i m really not feeling the same, i m really tired but not stressed, i have a great job where i can do litteraly whatever i want, i m not in full time, my bosses know my autism and they re really great about this so i don t have pressure and i don t see what else could be the cause of burnout. Plus i m more lethargic when i m in shutdown that right now and i don t mind speaking. Finally i don t feel legit to say i m in autistic burnout because it s different of work burnout and my diagnostic is not official yet...
Anyway, burnout or not, i need to get slower and take care of me.
Ps : i m french so i hope my english is understandable
Chronic criticism and ostracism from most of a workplace for not being neurotypical
Even management and bosses poking at the autistic person for being different with a subtle chuckle hoping to encourage them to neurotypical
I always get ill every six months or so where I feel so awful and I can’t get out of bed. It always follows a period high stress or lots of meltdowns and overloads. Is this burnout or a coincidence?
Hmm hard to say to be honest. Think illness always bring out the more negative traits. At least that's my experience anyways.
ah burnout... my old friend. Of course, that's probably because of the flames in my case, or at least that's what I tell myself and not the potentially undiagnosed aspergers
Hmm I do love flames in a case 🤣
@@IndieAndy i heard someone trademarked them and calls the "fireplaces" now 🤔
I have problems with. Communicate with guys because I get overly excited and they think I am clingy. I been masking for 32 years
Just came across your channel and I really like your hoodie! Where did you get it? If it’s okay to ask
Hi there! Aww thank you so much! My friend Katy has her own autism clothing line which this is one of the items. Here's the link incase you want to have a look ➡️ weirdtriangle.com/shop/#!/invisible-i
She also has a UA-cam channel as well 👍
@@IndieAndyI just saw this! Thank you so much!
Oooh it's no trouble at all!
My boyfriend starts acting like a young child and gets really panicky and upset I don't know how to help him because of it
When I’m in burnout, I won’t get out of bed and I’ll order takeaway. I like to exercise at home when I’m comfortable and don’t have to go out I can function so much better. Then I go out, get stressed and need a day to recover. I then get annoyed at myself because I’ll order unhealthy food instead of cooking healthy food and get depressed because I’m eating junk but I can’t ohsically make myself food. I’m better to just not leave my house so I can keep myself going. I hate when people call me lazy... they should see how much exercise I do when I’m not in burnout 🙄
Interesting never heard of that term before
Can it manifest like being tired and clumsy or even feeling irritaded.And start cying for little things??
I feel like I have to spend every waking moment learning about my special interests which fluctuate every few months. I'm undiagnosed but feel this may be a symptom of autism
I just stop wanting to do exercise people ringing the bell while I'm trying to process my environment. Like drives and quiet activities. My environment also needs to be calm.
What about muscle pain years from burnout
Now I'm confused cause I definitely have depression but this is pretty similar so have there been times I could have gotten them both mistaken with one another
To be honest, both are similar so I can't say to people "you ha e this or you have that" because I'm not trained or also it's just my own experience.
I have Autism burnouts, it's a big struggle
Still recovering after two years
Aww hang on in there ☺️
@@IndieAndy thanks 😄
Do you think that it's possible to be experiencing burnout *and* depression at the same time?
Hmm yeah 100% because if someone is in burnout, they could feel overwhelmed and feel helpless which could affect their own self-esteem which ties into depression. So yeah it's definitely possible from what I understand.
Burnout mental and physically is directly tied to mental health decline and unable to mask or focus day to day, basically it breaks you down. Can take years or subsequent events over time.
That cat is so pretty. I've been diagnosed with depression. And now they arnt as bad and happen every now and then, wonder if I'm having autism burnout. That would makes sense lol.
Aww yeah Nova is cute! Hmm it's possible.
Is it possible to be in burn out for the larger part of several years? I think this is me. I've been like this & there's no explanation.
Pretty sure I mentioned in the video it could be longer so yeah it's possible from what I understand.
@@IndieAndy you may have mentioned it. I space out sometimes.
Wait. Isn't this the same as a shutdown.
Kind of but shutdowns are a reaction to something the same way that a meltdown does. But burnout is that feeling of feeling beaten everyday. It makes autistic people feel weak, helpless etc. Because of this we may not be as tolerant or able to do social situations as example. Burnout can caused more shutdowns and/or meltdowns as we are less able to take things on.
I hope that was an ok explanation friend & thank you for your comment!
I can be like this. 3 hours or 7 hours. Dishes... I am slow. And a slow cleaner. I cant do a hotel housekeeper job I had anxiety attacks now I got anxiety medication.
This is the first video I've come across that explains burnouts in an understandable way.
Years ago I was diagnosed with clinical depression (although I didn't tell me GP the full story and didn't finish my treatment, but never mind) and I've always thought that the depression comes and goes and I've kind of got used to it... but watching this video I think maybe this could really be another potential symptom that I've been unable to understand for years. 🤔
Aww well I'm glad this video helped and maybe it'll help you going forward. Because some may feel they experience burnout but don't realise that it is and mistake it for depression or something.
@@IndieAndy Re-reading my comment I realised I didn't mention that I don't have an autism diagnosis, but I've got a GP appointment tomorrow (a phone consultation, argh!) to ask for a referral. Not sure how that'll go what with everything going on, but thanks to your videos and some others I think I've come up with a compelling amount of evidence to help state my case. 🤞
Same here 100% I get it Brother.
This cant be schizophrenia or bipolar? I feel unable to do things or i am such a slow cleaner. Like my dishes. I do it but slow. I am on seroquel and that is for bipolar. I get burnouts too.
Hmm I think people generally can burnout but burnout for autistic people can also hinder alot of other aspects of life like I mention in this video. But that's a really interesting thought so thanks for sharing 👍
I totely under stand, it's a big struggle
I having autistic bun out I have a bad mind grane I hope I can gve Sarah the gift I got her and the brasslett I made her I feal burned out I suting down I feal the wrlod Is scary I cried wen I woke up I take a sick day from work today June 6th I hope next wends day I can gve Sarah a huge hug long one to
Awww no well I hope you feel better soon. I know it feels like it won't sometimes but I hope things become ok 😊
@@IndieAndy thak you I'm fealing mitch better I just finished a 5km marathon I did it in 33 mins I raised 1000 $ Canadian for my spcal culb I got 5 huge hugs from Anne louse the team captain and a kiss on the check and this Wednesday I get to see Sarah I hope your weekend is good ? I'm glad your my friend I'm the king about changing my UA-cam name
Aww wow that's awesome work, well done you!
Hello I hope to see Sarah today so I can gve her gift will let you know how my day goes 😀 I have cush on Sarah
Word 👍
Burn out I certainly know well
Awww yeah totally agree!
Is tad a really stressful week at School Had a hard time the Pudding the pencil to the paper I'm better now
Sorry for spilling ears had to use speech to text
I can relate
Aww that's fair enough, hope you enjoyed the video in any case 👍
So me,...daily after work 8-9 hours and before work and weekends,...mondays,....ill be available march 29, 2020
I cant look into anyone's eyes for long
Ive encountered a "Narcissist" @employment . He was a psychology major in the army. me,.i been in the AF ,
..... he commanded that i finish certain tasks within a certain amount of time, i was well lower than that timeframes he however was well above,.... he tryed to emotionally and mentally abuse me,.. but ,............ i could not connect his attacks,.... therfore he tryed to physically and mentaly harm me like "he says im gonna drag you to the HR office".
I have a routine "kinda" daily to keep me focused of what i Need to do daily and weekly and monthly and yearly ,.... i fail so bad!.
Hi Karl, I wanted to reply to you in one comment to the multiple comments you left.
Firstly I am sorry to hear about your past experiences with people & that abuse you suffered. It's not something that I think anyone deserves regardless of who they are. With the eye contact side of things, I'm not very good at it most of the time and often just stare at their forehead or something just to make it look like I'm looking in their eyes. That could be something you should try if you feel able to. I fully get that looking into eyes is scary but for some reason, it's everyone else's normal so if you want to take that advice then that's fine.
Also with the routine side of things, there's no problem in not following a routine through. Maybe that routine you had didn't work for you right now but maybe try something else if it's what you need.
the curry made me laugh out loud :D
Haha it's funny looking back 😂
Everyone get burn out well al least I do at times
Well yes of course but it's still worth talking about.
... So... So that's what that is....
You sound Sick in this video.
Aww yeah to be honest I was burnt out when I made this. I was coming out of a period of burnout I think.