Why The Narcissist Starts To Regret Discarding You
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- Why The Narcissist Starts To Regret Discarding You
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Keep in mind, if they discard you it’s a compliment. You were too strong, you rocked the boat, you stood up for yourself, you had standards, or you just got a blessing from God. You will be better off, but it will be hard rewiring your brain from your time being abused, used, and thrown away. Learn from it but move forward with prayer, family, and faith in your own self worth.
True.
Initially it's confusing....then a blessing as it makes you aware of a whole dimension of human behaviour.
It's the missing 'piece' of life which you are now aware of, and what's been holding you back.
Solution to everything? To be thankful, Silent, positive and know when to walk away
It's a pretend discard they still want your next pay day etc but at least it's optional to say no ..which to someone who doesn't know what a narc is doesn't find it easy to do .
Dave, silently discard me. No marriage. No continued. Goodbye dave to just happen perspective to me.
I Shall Not Look Back
To See The Narcissist &
Turn Myself To Salt.
Amen Sis
"Why can't I have this person back who hates me" 😂😂😂 funny to hear it now, back then I never thought of it that way
I could never understand that either. If you know I can’t stand you and want nothing to do with you, why waste your time coming back 😏🤚
I am spending Thanksgiving with my adult children. The children the narc wanted to isolate me from. I have a lot to be grateful for this holiday season. I can have joy and laughter instead of misery and walking on eggshells. We got this y’all!!!!! It could be so much worse. Don’t forget that! ❤
Happy Thanksgiving!!! Have a Blessed Day!!🍁🌾💛🧡💚
I’m so happy for you! 🙌🏼
Good for You. Same here. 15 year custody battle with narcissist. I enjoyed holiday with all my children
“I miss this person sitting on the couch trashing me” wow , I felt that, God bless you!
Right. I miss the person who didn’t give a shit , and completely ignored how I felt , and wanted me to know I didn’t matter to them. I miss the woman who cheated on me 4 times in 18 months.
Just happened a few days ago, duped again after 8wks of good behavior (love bombing) devalued for a couple of weeks then I got out before he could discard me. I did 6mnths no contact and was halfway through in my recovery and he showed up. He was so depleted and had lost weight but after a few weeks I was looking like him... Soooo when he'd sucked all the energy out of me he was bouncing off the walls full of energy & excitement. I totally regret going back NOW he has a new friend... Learnt the hard way once
again😏
It's okay. Forgive yourself. We all know how hard it is. That being said, have you had enough yet? 😉Vampires are for no one. Be well. You have everything you need.
HelyenS we’ve all done it, been there. You will know next time 🙏🌹💕
You not alone
I’m so sorry, Hon. I know for a fact that I would go through the exact same thing you did if I let him back. Almost 9 months NC. Keep going, girl. ❤
wow. i was clapping over here when you said u got out before the discard! 🤣🫡🙏 omgosh i am happy to hear that. i haven't heard anyone describe this yet, since i did the same!! you were like me, went through it, blind, plugged in, had the awakening, the one way exit, went BACK in, but stayed tethered to base reality, could not pull them out, because there is no "them".. and you showed the 'god' how to kill a 'god', that you had the true power all along, and had simply allowed them to think their false reality, the shared fantasy, was all there was. but you shattered the matrix. entered a virus into the system, deprived them of their precious supply, and exited, to live free. i love it. FEELS GOOD, MAN! 😄💯 you're the gem they threw away, for their low hanging fruit i hope u find another gem to match true empathy.
I not only left the narcissist but I was told by her that she manifested me and then I 99.9 percent certain I was microdosed with ecstasy from day one for almost a year without realizing it.. I would cry uncontrollably and I would have to pull off the road and not even know where I was at like if you dropped me from out of the sky.. after living in a place for most of my life... I left though but cried for an hour every morning and slowly got to my business which thank God was very physical so I could exert the energy out of me... Didn't even realize I was coming off a bunch of crap I had no idea was inside me... Can you imagine someone doing that to someone.... There is much more to it... The good news is I'm still here and they didn't kill me God saved me💪💯
this is my feelings too
Dang that so wrong
God bless you 🙏🏼🕊️
Needed to hear this , “God doesn’t want you on the dating sites, he wants you at the throne.”
Trying to hang onto a narcissist in a relationship, is like climbing a telephone pole, and reaching for one of those wires marked "High Voltage"
You soon find you can't let go, because that emotional force pulls you back, at the same time they're kicking you away with all they've got.
The constant push-pull of the EMF across your heart will eventually kill you if your resistance is low, and if the amperage is high enough. Same principle with a narcissist.
Resist them with all you have. The temptation will flee from you!
Great analogy! Sad but true
Good comment. That’s exactly how it is.
Put the live wire down.
🎯💯😢
Ones you exposed them, they don't come back.
Yeah because they know their game and hustle is up. They know they can’t get anything from you anymore . So they just move on to someone else they can take advantage of.
They don't hoover because they fear being rejected again
@@RyanBourdo-z9z well that explains why my narc ex hasn’t tried contacting me after I went no contact , and it’s been about 3-4 months now.
@cincyfanjunglecity9871 hey bro you're not alone. I know how it feels. You question whether you ever mattered to them at all and their actions show us the truth. Love yourself heal your childhood wounds. For me I grew up without love and support in a narcissistic family which I still have to deal with everyday but I can disassociate from it now as an adult. I know it's here but I refuse to let it make me want to escape my feelings now. I compensate by showing myself unconditional love and forgiving myself for allowing my abusers who made me feel unwanted. I refuse to let anyone or anything alcohol drugs etc to bring me down now. Those who are meant to be in our lives will stay
@@RyanBourdo-z9z thanks brother . I think I’ve gotten past the hard part of it all now. I ended up going no contact about 3-4 months ago , and surprisingly my life has been a lot better now that I’ve broken free from that trauma bond. I’ve gotten back to my old self , but with much improvement, and as you said , I’ve learned to appreciate myself a lot more , and to better myself through that appreciation. I’ve also taken what little of time I’ve had to gain back everything I lost during that situationship . I really appreciate your message , and if any time you need somebody to chat with or whatnot , just get ahold of me bro. It’s always nice talking to someone who can relate to what we’ve both been through.
It’s ok to be alone. 💙🕊🕊💙
I was mrs b several times because I kept going back. I’m mrs a now because I left him this time, five months no contact. It still hurts and I still miss him.
Same here 😢
I miss mine too but I will never take him back when I know the truth! I hope he stays far away from me! My narsiisst became insane when he started devalue. Full of enteties. I did not recognize him after he was over with lovebombing me! He told me he loved me after our first weekend together and wanted to marry me also have kids with me but he couldnt have more kids though cut the cords. I will keep the good memories from the intense lovebombing in my heart for ever but I know it wasnt real love.
I am having trouble detaching.......I am doing better but when you love it is hard to unlove even if the person did not deserve that love.
@@cynthiabiel7714 yeah you just have to detach to actually really love yourself 100%. I know it is hard. Ive tried to dettach from my twinflame too, that has been even harder to dettach from him than my narsisist. I still love them both both my twinflame and my narsisist. But I will never have another narsisist in my life again. And I know my twinflame will not be back either yet cause I have work to do……. This yourney has been insane!
@@ainahagathat is a very healthy way of looking at it. I’m sorry this narcissist hurt you, I hope you heal and allow yourself to love and trust again in the future, when you’re ready! ❤
So true dave, I get so drained around negative people or energy vampire I have to isolate myself to recharge.
I'm 1 year and a half separated from my ex narcissist and a year and 2 months no contact 🙏 your posts are keeping me going and staying strong. Thank you so much your amazing!❤🙏
The more you heal, the more adept monsters you will attract. They can see our light and need to either eat it, or destroy it. Good luck and God Speed!
Yeah. When they realize there will be no Thanksgiving Spread Served for them tomorrow afternoon 🤣🤣
Yep. Saw that smug smirk for the last time. 8 months.
They are Jerry Springers! Lol. Great analogy
I just watched the Chris Watts documentary again since a few years ago and ppl think he’s a psychopath or sociopath but I saw NPD all through his behavior. Met new supply, devalue (I don’t live you anymore, I don’t want to baby anymore), discard, murdered his family like they were trash. Just horrible! That could have happened to any of us ! Dangerous beings they are! He only knew the new supply for 6 weeks!
dont pretend he acted alone,,nicole his gf played a huge role in the demise of his family
Last Thanksgiving, I too was barely breathing. I felt like I had been thrown from a moving car onto the highway and left for dead after what I now know was a discard three weeks prior. His adult children, who are active duty military, were to fly in and our families were going to be under one roof for the first time. He watched me plan, prepare and look forward to it for weeks. Thanksgiving day, my 3 year old grand daughter roamed the house, calling his name, looking for him and tried to reach him all day on her toy cell phone. The pain was unbearable. This year, I’m surrounded by my family, sharing the day in peace. I’m starting to feel like myself again. As hard as the past year has been, I wouldn’t change a thing and I’ll never allow anyone to steal parts of me piece by piece. I’ve ignored or shut down all of the hoover attempts. Mrs A for life. Thanks Dave for all you do.
Hi Dave. I actually left him, but i never knew what a narcissist was. I told him I'll do anything to get rid of you, then i got into my car and drove away. He was SHOCKED & SURPRISED! I cried all the way home.
HAPPY THANKSGIVING ❤
@@AnnA-tu3ig Happy Thanksgiving, AnnA.
Yes. It hurts, but I got over it in about 2 years. Thank God !🙏
My narc ex was surprised that I left him too and I was surprised that he was surprised as ofc I told him very plainly that his behavior is not acceptable to be in my life. And then it's so funny to me how he didn't respect my boundaries or wishes in the relationship and still now does not respect my boundaries or wishes to be left alone by texting me from random numbers or adding me on strangers snapchats or following me while im driving and screaming out the window to please unblock him. No!
I am a mrs A that left the narcissist husband! It’s been 6 months and I’m still in the healing process! Your podcast is so spot on! It is so helpful in the healing phase! Thank you! I’m getting stronger every day! The Lord above in Heaven is the one who helped me to leave him and I’m so grateful to Him!
This is me right now! Please keep me in your prayers.
It's been 6 years since my Ex divorced/ discarded Me. Yes, it was Devastating for a couple of Years but I Truly Thank him for That. Better is the End of a Situation than it's Beginning.
Hi Dave. I left the narcissist last January. The emotional abuse got so much worse over the holidays last year. I was so afraid of him I bought a house behind his back. I left in the early morning while he was still sleeping. I found a house and closed in 10 tens days. That was God getting me out of an abusive situation. He still tries to Hoover me. I am probably going to have to get a pfa. I am dreading it. Towards the end of the relationship I found out he has a prior pfa from an ex girlfriend who later committed suicide. So sad. Glad I am getting stronger every day. Your videos have helped me so much. God bless you.
I dumped my narc gf. I didn't know about narcissim at the time, I just knew I was being abused. She moved on 3 weeks later with a new man. Posting all over her social media. I blocked her everywhere beforehand. Only found out by accident. My heart is broken, this video is saving me
I feel so bad for my narcissist and I will always love him even knowing everything that he is. I see why he is that way and all of the wounds from his childhood that formed him into this monster and I do still love him and I know that I always will. And with that being said he can never know me and he can never be in my life again and for the only reason is that I want to live a long healthy happy life and I know that I can't do that if he is in my life.
I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again… Dave, your humor is so delightful to me! “They found a new friend on the playground”describes it perfectly! Thank you for adding humor to make it more bearable, Happy Thanksgiving!
I left my ex narc during the devalue stage. It was the hardest thing I’ve ever HAD to do. I saved my own life. Literally! 🙏🏾❤️
Good evening Dave cheers got my peach tea one of my favorites to drink ,blessed thanksgiving to everyone 😊🙏🏾 I am a Mrs A got rid of the narcissist I'm out and staying out thanking Jesus for making a way for me to leave 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
Amen. Same here
A narcissist has “temporary” regrets for leaving you because at the moment they don’t have supply, so they remember you for a while until they find new supply, then they quit focusing on you. A narcissist always looks for new supply. They don’t know what love ❤ is. They have no empathy for others. I lived with a narcissist 35 plus years. Yes it sounds crazy, but it’s true. When I met the narcissist I was only 17 years old, I was grafted to their thinking pattern until I finally realized that something wasn’t right. I ran for it and never looked back. I now live in a different state than where the narcissist lives. I left everything behind. I have zero contact with the narcissist, sadly 😢 I had 2 children with him, but now my kids are grown and they understand. I live at peace and it’s a good life without a narcissist. A narcissist can be your boss, an employee, a sibling, an uncle, etc. I’m glad to say that now I am educated on “narcissism “ and I can quickly discern people with narcissistic traits. I stay-away from them. My circle is quite small and I prefer it this way.
Dave, you crack me up 😂
“Let me get you a coffee and a pastry baby”
I laughed so hard lol!!! They’re indeed crazy and delusional!
You used me! You are no longer my number three… 😂😂😂 they are ridiculous
There's a lot of channels out there but I have to say I believe this one is the best... Great analogies and I believe comes from the heart... Happy Thanksgiving Dave
Spot on… My ex narc later on told me after he “discarded me” that he had planned the whole breakup prior. He took me to dinner (he knew I was done at this point and prob wanted to beat me to it) and asked if he could take a picture of me (for his weird creepy trophy photo collection) and then as I was talking and trying to get him to work with me on things but then realizing it was a lost cause and I just said “I can’t do this anymore”, he gets up from the table and just goes “okay fuck it I’m done” 😂😂😂. But yeah the pic he had to take before breaking up with me really weirded me out 😖
Lol it sounded almost like you were pouring iced Tea lol
“Level 3, level 3 please” Lol!!!
Because they find out the grass isn’t greener on the other side. They think they found better supply. So they start devaluing you and in my case treat you so bad that the reverse discard happens. By the time the mask falls with the new supply, you’re gone. So they want you back.
He once spoke for me without my even asking me ! Now I speak for him. He is very happy with what he has done !; and he is going some place far from me. That's that. Period !!
Dave Thanksgiving is my most triggering Day . The first Thanksgiving we spent together , 10 years ago he was in a handsome pink shirt cutting the turkey . He stood sobbing to my family saying I love your mom so much not a dry eye at the table. He knew full well he had got his ex pregnant . It was not till June of the next year that I found out . I took him back only for him to continue running to her .. every thx thereafter he discarded me . I hate the ruminating . 2 years away and still healing. I neve r want to see him or hear his voice again . Its sickening what I accepted.. I have no desire for a man . Thanks everyone .
I may have to move to reclaim myself.
If you need to, do so. Pray for God’s direction.
That's what happens to me. When my adult children are hurting and I want to fix the problems but I can't fix their problems but I have to fight for it not to consume me. Hardly anybody that I talked to including my family can even relate to how much somebody else's pain affects me. I can't stand it. It's something where I have to go to the Lord because I actually get sick over problems that aren't my own and my own problems get put on the back burner. This has always been the case and it is very hard to break this. I don't want to entirely break it because I think that it has a purpose but when it gets so bad that I don't take care of my own needs when they're literally is nothing but prayer that I can do...... It takes a lot for me to overcome this. By the way my ex would laugh at horror movies and repeat the lines where the woman in the movie was petrified for some reason or another and he would repeat whatever the threatening person was saying....and laugh. I hated those movies anyway. I've never watched another horror movie or another Gory movie ever since I've been away from him
Spot on‼️ past experiences happened just the way you described it. I have distanced myselff with no intentions of getting back into this foolery. Moved on in life
Thank you for being obedient to God for making these videos!! God is using you mighty it’s like daily medicine for me and a reminder of Gods grace.. ❤️🙏
Worse things in life than being alone!
Sure he/she regrets it... Because all of us were great supplies... But we don´t regret it - because no work anymore (only for us now).
Thank you, you're bringing some light in my soul right now, my Pastor Wayne prayed with me, I'm in so much pain, thank you so much God bless you. Amen
You are so welcome
Wow.. you nailed it. Exactly what I experienced twelve years ago when I was married to a narcissist. What a nightmare experience I lived through..
I LEFT THE NARCISSIST!! 11 MONTHS FREE!!🎉
Thanks Dave! Happy thanksgiving!
Pray daily and spread the good word,
When it comes to the Cluster B just flip that bird! 😂
Taking my popcorn to the Throne !
Best one yet Dave! 😂It just keeps getting better and better. Thank you for your service to humanity. Keepin it real….👏
Yes!!! I LOVE that you have no filter and don’t beat around the bush!!! That is huge!! Thank you 🙏
Boy.... You have got them pegged.... It's hilarious 😂‼️
And Happy Thanksgiving Dave .. God Bless you for helping all of us ..
Good video as usual Dave. No disagreement from me, because I'm sure it happens in many relationships with narcissists. But in my case, the narcissists I had in my life were biting at the bits to get rid of me, the first chance they got, once they figured my usefulness was over.
I don't see (especially my second narc ex) ever regretting discarding me. She knows I've never been a drug addict, and I've never ran in those circles, so it follows I'd never support or condone her behavior. So she left while the getting was good, to run back to her ex, that she was arrested with for manufacturing and distributing drugs, right there in her 89 year old grandmother's garage.
I just love to hear you pour coffee . You're absolutely right
Love the way you explain everything! I have to keep coming back for more. It's great therapy! Thanks so much Dave!
Wow!!!! You nailed it!!! You nailed his MO, words he would say, his treatment to me! It’s amazing Narcs are so consistent and predictable! It’s because they are indeed demon possessed with this demon!! Thank you!!!
Thank you narcology
Great content as usual Dave! Hope you have a Happy narc-free Thanksgiving 🦃... God bless brother.
Thanks for helping me laugh through my pain with these dialogues! Thank you!
Love it! New kid on the playground ❤😂 nice one 🎉🎉🎉🎉👍🏽
I am Mrs. A who loves the Narc. 😢 I left because I knew he couldn't love me. He didn't know what love is. I saw the demons. I was casting demons out of my parents' house and the narc who was sleeping got up to leave. I asked where he was going. He replied,"I don't know." And turned around and came back. I knew them I was married to a demon(s).
Happy Thanksgiving Dave! This Mrs. A has been narc free since 2019. I came across your channel in the summer of that year and haven't looked back since. No sequels, part 2's or 2nd chances. When you know, you go and grow. Many blessings to you!
I discovered your channel at the start of covid and you honestly saves my life, if I hadn't learnt then I'd have been Mrs B for longer, I wanted rid and knew all his games but didn't know his behaviour all came under one umbrella and more so that he was irreparable and to be Mrs B means you think they are, its futile, I was gettin rid but this saved me in the recovery of trying to work out what the hell just happened. I can't thank you enough for the work tou do here and the way you do it and I agree with everything tou say about the narc and also about the devil, its so true, the truth with a narcissist is always far far worse than you could ever imagine, some people will never have the capacity to understand its a war of good and evil. Love to you Dave, please dont stop the videos, I listen to you even though I know about the narc, it's like chatting to an old friend ❤
Thank you so much for the kind words, i felt like i was in the room with you when you spoke to me. that hit the feels so hard. Happy Thanksgiving buddy
Just wanted to say thank you for everything.
You've really helped me get through some hard times
Many blessings to you
You’ve said so many truths here, I’m stunned ! You brought back so many heartbreaking memories. It’s been 18 months since the discard, it’s been very hard, I put my whole heart into the relationship and was treated very badly. To make it work, I “ upped” my game to the point where my dignity was compromised. Thankyou for helping me see the real truth.
Thanks for sharing!!
I loved this one .Thank you Dave you help me so much. Amen 🙏
Dave thiese videos make me laugh when im feeling sad. Thank God for you...
Shut that jerry springer off lol
I enjoy your channel, it helps me through this. I still love her even if it hurts and all the bad treatments
Just found your channel, glad I did you put into words what I've only been feeling lately. I've had to let go of my anger with myself for being duped and thinking I could help them.
Welcome!
Thanks for all the work you do Dave
Thanks for watching!
First comment dave GreatPour Dave … Fantastic !!!
I'm a Mrs A. I kicked her out when I got tired of the cheating. She was trying to replace me but he broke up with her before she could discard me. Glory to God!
With anyone in the Cluster b list, regret can be eased with drugs and alcohol. An increase in body count will also help ease regrets. However, that regret will double and and attack them if/when they get some help. I believe that is why they keep doing what doesn't work, all those broken unwanted parts their parents gave them compound and the cycle starts again, with a new generation. Generational curses are real and based in psychology.
I laughed this brought me peace and happiness ty❤
Yes it’s a good video 🤣I feel like this is one of your best! It’s hard to choose 😂
Dave I gott praise report coming soon. Im too excited to type right now 😆🤣
Thank you Dave you truly are a Blessing to me
Your videos have been very insightful. I’m now realizing that this past relationship I recently got broken out of, we both had narcissistic tendencies. I know what I must do to change.
Thanks Dave, you help me a lot in my healing journay
Do they ever love us?
Do they always come back?
He was cheating. A decade with him. Made promises after promises. Kept none.
Worshipped me for 8 years cheated for the last two. I finally left him dated someone else. He lost his mind! I went back to him. He left me again (fake break). We talked every day still. He stopped seeing back burner and wanted us to be forever. I left in September as I knew I would never trust him. He then blamed me for everything ignoring the fact that he cheated for 2 years. Wanted it to all disappear. He is with back burner again always called her a puppet or a filler and didn’t really care about her. Is this true? It’s so confusing all of what I have gone through. The trauma and Heartbreak is so intense.
Thank you Dave for all your videos you have made. I have been divorced for 4 years now . I was heart broken Dave and will never forget the day it all came together for me. God opened my eyes to it all. I blocked her from everything but would always try going back to her as just friends and not even able to do that. Now she's hanging around and getting the fuel she needs from somebody that was my friend first and was my mentor and now has blocked me because of my X putting things into her head about me. This drama my X caused and all the lies told to me from her make me so sick to my stomach.. I'm done letting her pull me back in and when she hurts her new supply that she has now?? I'm sorry but the thought of that makes me feel oh so good.
I just have to say it. I love your videos and also the tea pouring sound just kills me. Like nails on a chalkboard. But thank you! Keep sharing light. You are part of my healing story.
Really!? Sorry to hear that:(
9:15 'I was lying half dead on the Highway and you walked by me, laughing. You didn't help me up. You didn't even help me to the hospital. You passed me by and you let a stranger into your car and you was laughing as you were pulling away'. Yep, this describes the discard in a nutshell.
Happy Thanksgiving 🍁🦃 Dave
3 times now I've been Mrs. B but now I'm Mrs. A!!! Blocked on everything!!!
You speak truth and your videos have really helped me, I went through hell with a female narcissist, you and mamisotrue are good reality
Wow this is so profound 😮
DAVE, HAPPY THANKSGIVING TO YOU...❤🐓
Amen!!!🙏🏾 Thank you!!!
I Mrs. A pray for the salvation of the narc. I seek God and love my new husband. When I am reminded of good times I rebuke the devil and disembodied spirits I plead the blood of Jesus and then bring to mind horrible episodes 😢 then binge watch Dave...pray for their salvation that's it. That is all we can do.
I’m a mrs A I left him 3 month before we were going to get married this year!! His mask slipped and saw and heard a completely different man I was and still am heartbroken but I’m also born again and God showed me before, who he really was before I made a huge mistake.. sooo painful but thank full ❤️🙏
Oh wow. I am a year no contact on January 3, and I soooo thank God for your videos!!! You and prayer and RUNNING to God have been my saving grace. You have played a huge role in my healing and clarity. Thank you so much Dave♥️ Are you still doing the conferences in Nashville?
Pour it up Dave!! We need you❤
Thank you, Dave!
I was a horrible Mrs. B.
Until I wasn't.
One day at a time.
Amen dave...glory to ABBA...
16:30 'You're the stale salt-less pretzel stick' ! The new supply is a juicy fat steak (until the next steak comes along, that is and then they too rapidly become a dried out old pretzel). 8:00 And then the classic, 'I know it looked like I was putting extra butter on my popcorn' my ex was browbeating me from another room, once, and when he thought he could hear a crack in my voice, as if I was about to cry, he came running in, smiling gleefully, excitedly, bending down and manoeuvring his head to see if he could see an actual tear in my eye - thankfully, I was able to keep it in.
I was married to a Narc ( I called him Jackass until I found you) for 30 years and left almost 15 years ago. I can't believe I am alone with my dog and super happy!! I prefer my life this way, thank you God. I don't look over my shoulder anymore. I love my freedom and our God!! He's makes the way. Thank you for all your videos which I found a few weeks ago. It's giving me words and answers to what happened. God bless you and I love your sense of humor..............I love laughing!!
Just got my very predictable thanksgiving Hoover. His favorite past time is bothering me on this day. I was ready for it, logged the call for the probation officer and didn’t answer. I Love being FREE finally