Ben is English, but he could as well be Italian by the amount of times that he moves his hands to speak hahaha 🤣 I love how passionate he is when he’s talking about something important to him. Jenn is a queen and nothing else to say.
That intro!! What an adorable idea. Loved that you guys wrapped up with importance of deep breathing. I start yoga during the beginning of the pandemic and it made me realize how shallow my breathing is day to day and how healing it can be to just take a few deep breaths throughout the day. Really loving the mentality and mindset you guys are spreading!
Hey Jocelyn! That's amazing you're into yoga and understand the value in breathing. It's literally life changing. If you haven't already check out Wim Hof, he's the one that that helped science understand that breathing can heal the body
That intro is 🤗! You two should also start a podcast! We'd love to hear more from you, from discussing a wide range of topics to simply just sharing your thoughts and opinions. 😊
absolutely LOVED this. honest, thoughtful advice yet full of compassion and empathy from both of you. and it's so visible how passionate both of you are about what you say. also amazing all the knowledge and facts that ben knows! so many nuggets of wisdom, can't wait for more ✨🥰
I really admire yours and Jen’s ability to talk about these self improvement topics publicly together!! It’s such an inspiration for me and my partner personally and I’m always taking notes from these videos of yours. Look forward to seeing more of these discussion type videos :)
You both give amazing advice! Thoroughly enjoyed hearing your thoughts about self worth, it definitely was helpful ❤️ Looking forward to more Spill The Tea videos 😊
I will never get over how well they work together. You can genuinely feel how much they love and care for one another even when the topic isn’t something relationship related. Ugh I just love them ❤️
Hi Ben and Jenn, I feel the need to say this as someone who is like the first asker and suffers from depression. I can understand why both your responses are motivational and positive, but lately I've been tired of folks giving this advice to those suffering from mental illnesses. I believe we all need to know what our limits are in helping others and redirect folks to more sustainable, suitable resources. Depression is a sickness in the brain, and those who suffer from it need professional medical/psychiatric help. It is torturous to me to tell someone to just force themselves to do something or to change their negative perspective. Firstly, this sort of advice fuels further dismissal of how serious this mental illness is and should be addressed professionally. Secondly, those who suffer have heard all the motivational talk before, and to make them think pure willpower can solve their problems long term is disingenuous. They are not factoring the issues in their brain nor that it "takes a village" to heal. In many of our cases we are not therapists, psychologists, or psychiatrists and we should leave the work for professionals unless patients explicitly say they want casual, personal advice. I understand that Ben and Jenn did clarify that they are not professionals, but I wish they had emphasized the importance of seeing a professional or calling a hotline early on in the video. I also understand that they are showing that they care, and that is way more heartening to see than no video at all.
yes i was just going to say that the "think positive" "get into the mindset of gratefulness" almost dismisses depression because it not that depressed people don't know that. Sometimes when you're in the fog of depression, it's almost impossible to think positive. That is toxic positivity. If depressed people could just stop thinking about it just like that, they would already. Depression can happen to anyone, regardless of who they are and what they have i.e.how much they have to be "grateful" for. That being said, I'm not shitting on them this is just a PSA to anyone out there
@@feeyawn Thank you for your reply! I know what you mean by "toxic positivity." Maybe those feel good phrases help someone who's sad, but not someone who is depressed. I'm relieved I didn't get any hate about my comment and a few likes instead. I hope that we can share adequate resources to our loves ones and continue to be trusted by them
this podcast is sososoo special!! i absolutely ADORE the intro, it's so fun, creative, and cinematic!! i felt like we were about to dive into a film of sorts!!
Guys this was such a great idea! i love shows like this one, they are very popular and helpful and we all benefit from them!! As a future counsellor I tell you well done for making people's lives better! xx
i just wanted to say that i'm incredible thankful for this video and i'm really looking forward to all the other ones in this series. but it's not only this video that gives me a sense of security & calmness. i'm really thankful for the videos you and jenn both post on your channels & i'm really glad i can call this my safe place. i'm (for the 882726th time) truly truly grateful that not only me but also other people have the opportunity to come here and watch your videos whenever they want and need it. thank you.
I feel like this video came at a perfect time! It’s just super wholesome! Maybe it’s because people be spilling their tea to you guys, that you guys feel like a warm cup of tea to the rest of us ☺️ Can’t wait for more from this series 💕
It is oficial...we need a podcast from you two. Even if it’s only a >15 min. advice podcast segment. You two give such a positive vibe and give true, helpful advice--and really make me feel normal about what I think or go through.
watching this as I let myself cried 2 hours ago after screwing up my test. I guess i'm grateful for being able to afford a slice of cake while I watch this video to feel better.
Hang in there. I hope you are feeling better and that there is an opporrunity to retake this test 💜 (But if not, there will be another. Do not be too hard on yourself, as we all tend to be.)
⇩ on motivation & negativity ❖ your consciousness is your reality ❖ negativity sells ❖ gratitude will set you in motion ❖ you can curate your law of attraction ⇩ on confronting sadness and heavy emotions ❖ find the person in your life that has *deserved* to hear you out ❖ write; be present with your thoughts (it helps you parse it out) ❖ be conscious about the tone you speak/ think to yourself with ❖ difference between complaining and just opening-up ⇩ on success ❖ success is subjective, comes from within ❖ catch yourself when you're comparing yourself ((we all do it)) ❖ how you see the world isn't how it is, it's how you are ❖ confidence is knowing yourself and owning it ⇩ on stress ❖ happens when you feel unprepared/ you're going through change ❖ fight negative thought patterns (they're not who you are) ❖ the body doesn't know the difference between thought and reality ❖ listen to your body, be present with it -- breath-work, meditation, walk. take a step back. ❖ stress is familiar and addictive this was a goldmine of healthy principles to live by! thank you two for sharing your experiences & wisdom with us. i found these lessons so challenging to learn myself, and it takes a *conscious* effort to regularly practice too. i think it's the first thing to be aware of the changes we need to make within ourselves-- and another to put them into consistent practice. progress isn't linear either, so we ought to be kind and pay attention to our bodies and minds when we fall "off-track". hope everyone has a beautiful, mindful day
yeah... i have that kinda friendsuckmyenergy problem, especially when one of my friends send such long messages to me wothin one sec as if she has copied a lot of them and shared with different vent buddies but that is all about her failed relationship...
Like you guys said, i feel like it is soo important to kind of trigger warn someone you are about to spill emotion to. Sometimes people aren’t prepared emotionally/mentally to take on the baggage of others and thus aren’t well equipped in the moment to hear or respond to you with care and understanding. That initial check in of “hey are you in the head space to talk about something heavy?” Is extremely important!
Heart warming and a needed space in our current environment. Thank you both. 🙏 I feel inclined to recommend Alan Watts Chillhop videos here on YT, they have been extremely helpful during this time. Sending blessings 💗
YES PODCAST!!!! Please, I know you two are busier than ever but if you're throwing it out there to see if we'd want it, the answer is a definite yes! I'd really trust your insights and would love some more reflective discussion like this one.
Would love if thus could be in podcast format. I can imagine myself listening to this on a nature walk. Cheers to the start of a new series!
So cute Ben! Really excited for this cute little series 🦋☺️
Every single one was relatable, I appreciate your candid reflections and would LOVE a podcast!
Ben is English, but he could as well be Italian by the amount of times that he moves his hands to speak hahaha 🤣 I love how passionate he is when he’s talking about something important to him.
Jenn is a queen and nothing else to say.
That intro!! What an adorable idea. Loved that you guys wrapped up with importance of deep breathing. I start yoga during the beginning of the pandemic and it made me realize how shallow my breathing is day to day and how healing it can be to just take a few deep breaths throughout the day. Really loving the mentality and mindset you guys are spreading!
Hey Jocelyn! That's amazing you're into yoga and understand the value in breathing. It's literally life changing. If you haven't already check out Wim Hof, he's the one that that helped science understand that breathing can heal the body
@@HaveAGoodOne Definitely will! Thanks for the recommendation (:
Love the vibe of this video! What a refreshing idea to have this type of talk and engage with people! Can't wait to see what you do in the future.
That intro is 🤗! You two should also start a podcast! We'd love to hear more from you, from discussing a wide range of topics to simply just sharing your thoughts and opinions. 😊
I love love LOVE this new series. My mantra for this week “ everything comes from within” ❤️🙏
absolutely LOVED this. honest, thoughtful advice yet full of compassion and empathy from both of you. and it's so visible how passionate both of you are about what you say. also amazing all the knowledge and facts that ben knows! so many nuggets of wisdom, can't wait for more ✨🥰
Omg… if this becomes a podcast… I’d be so excited
I honestly feel so loved by this couple lowkey feeling like they’re my parents 😭 thanks for all the advice
I really admire yours and Jen’s ability to talk about these self improvement topics publicly together!! It’s such an inspiration for me and my partner personally and I’m always taking notes from these videos of yours. Look forward to seeing more of these discussion type videos :)
Love this vibe Ben….This is the CONTENT I can watch all day ….just so pure🤍💕 …you guys are love 🤍🤍
*WHO'S STILL SHOOK THAT BEN SPILLED THE TEA LITERALLY PURPOSEFULLY XDDD*
You both give amazing advice! Thoroughly enjoyed hearing your thoughts about self worth, it definitely was helpful ❤️ Looking forward to more Spill The Tea videos 😊
Ben and Jenn dropping the videos the same time. Can’t decide which one to watch first 😭😆
I will never get over how well they work together. You can genuinely feel how much they love and care for one another even when the topic isn’t something relationship related. Ugh I just love them ❤️
Hi Ben and Jenn, I feel the need to say this as someone who is like the first asker and suffers from depression. I can understand why both your responses are motivational and positive, but lately I've been tired of folks giving this advice to those suffering from mental illnesses. I believe we all need to know what our limits are in helping others and redirect folks to more sustainable, suitable resources.
Depression is a sickness in the brain, and those who suffer from it need professional medical/psychiatric help. It is torturous to me to tell someone to just force themselves to do something or to change their negative perspective. Firstly, this sort of advice fuels further dismissal of how serious this mental illness is and should be addressed professionally. Secondly, those who suffer have heard all the motivational talk before, and to make them think pure willpower can solve their problems long term is disingenuous. They are not factoring the issues in their brain nor that it "takes a village" to heal. In many of our cases we are not therapists, psychologists, or psychiatrists and we should leave the work for professionals unless patients explicitly say they want casual, personal advice.
I understand that Ben and Jenn did clarify that they are not professionals, but I wish they had emphasized the importance of seeing a professional or calling a hotline early on in the video. I also understand that they are showing that they care, and that is way more heartening to see than no video at all.
yes i was just going to say that the "think positive" "get into the mindset of gratefulness" almost dismisses depression because it not that depressed people don't know that. Sometimes when you're in the fog of depression, it's almost impossible to think positive. That is toxic positivity. If depressed people could just stop thinking about it just like that, they would already. Depression can happen to anyone, regardless of who they are and what they have i.e.how much they have to be "grateful" for. That being said, I'm not shitting on them this is just a PSA to anyone out there
@@feeyawn Thank you for your reply! I know what you mean by "toxic positivity." Maybe those feel good phrases help someone who's sad, but not someone who is depressed. I'm relieved I didn't get any hate about my comment and a few likes instead. I hope that we can share adequate resources to our loves ones and continue to be trusted by them
I agree with many of the comments - you two would be great as a podcast - enjoying this new series 💕😇👍🏽
this podcast is sososoo special!! i absolutely ADORE the intro, it's so fun, creative, and cinematic!! i felt like we were about to dive into a film of sorts!!
Guys this was such a great idea! i love shows like this one, they are very popular and helpful and we all benefit from them!! As a future counsellor I tell you well done for making people's lives better! xx
The way you guys look at each other makes my heart flutter! Just pure love 🥺❤️
The intro !!!!!
The active listening that’s happening in this video is beautiful 👏
i just wanted to say that i'm incredible thankful for this video and i'm really looking forward to all the other ones in this series. but it's not only this video that gives me a sense of security & calmness. i'm really thankful for the videos you and jenn both post on your channels & i'm really glad i can call this my safe place. i'm (for the 882726th time) truly truly grateful that not only me but also other people have the opportunity to come here and watch your videos whenever they want and need it. thank you.
Does this series replace Fancy The Pub?
Loved this episode! Thank you so much for your insights!
Aww love the intro of this new series! Very British with the tea! You're spoiling us with the uploads! Love you both 💓
loved this so much Ben! Keep the content coming!
I feel like this video came at a perfect time! It’s just super wholesome! Maybe it’s because people be spilling their tea to you guys, that you guys feel like a warm cup of tea to the rest of us ☺️ Can’t wait for more from this series 💕
This made me feel so heard and was incredibly helpful. Please keep making this series for us!!!🙏🏻🥺🤗
It is oficial...we need a podcast from you two. Even if it’s only a >15 min. advice podcast segment. You two give such a positive vibe and give true, helpful advice--and really make me feel normal about what I think or go through.
Podcast please!!!!! Loved this & the energy you both put out into the world ❤️
Thank you for making this video. I'm currently facing something. But, your video with jen. This really have given me a motivation. Thank you so much.
watching this as I let myself cried 2 hours ago after screwing up my test. I guess i'm grateful for being able to afford a slice of cake while I watch this video to feel better.
Hang in there. I hope you are feeling better and that there is an opporrunity to retake this test 💜 (But if not, there will be another. Do not be too hard on yourself, as we all tend to be.)
You guys NEED a podcast asap! Love listening to your videos while getting ready! 💕
ughhh I love this series already! you guys will be amazing parents
⇩ on motivation & negativity
❖ your consciousness is your reality
❖ negativity sells
❖ gratitude will set you in motion
❖ you can curate your law of attraction
⇩ on confronting sadness and heavy emotions
❖ find the person in your life that has *deserved* to hear you out
❖ write; be present with your thoughts (it helps you parse it out)
❖ be conscious about the tone you speak/ think to yourself with
❖ difference between complaining and just opening-up
⇩ on success
❖ success is subjective, comes from within
❖ catch yourself when you're comparing yourself ((we all do it))
❖ how you see the world isn't how it is, it's how you are
❖ confidence is knowing yourself and owning it
⇩ on stress
❖ happens when you feel unprepared/ you're going through change
❖ fight negative thought patterns (they're not who you are)
❖ the body doesn't know the difference between thought and reality
❖ listen to your body, be present with it -- breath-work, meditation, walk. take a step back.
❖ stress is familiar and addictive
this was a goldmine of healthy principles to live by! thank you two for sharing your experiences & wisdom with us.
i found these lessons so challenging to learn myself, and it takes a *conscious* effort to regularly practice too. i think it's the first thing to be aware of the changes we need to make within ourselves-- and another to put them into consistent practice.
progress isn't linear either, so we ought to be kind and pay attention to our bodies and minds when we fall "off-track".
hope everyone has a beautiful, mindful day
Ben and if possible Jenn, please make a podcast!! You totally deserve one and your advice are life changing 🙌🏻
Wow! Amazing content !!! 💕 You guys should do a podcast.
Thank you 🙏🏼 this video pop up on my feed at the right time. Really needed this. ❤️❤️❤️
could you guys talk about how to down talk others? gossip at work, compare yourself to people in your surroundings?
This was fantastic, thank you so much I really loved this episode! :)
does anyone else find the placement of Ben's necklace really satisfying :P
love the messages in this vid btw
There’s something very pleasant about the way you guys looked at each other while the other person was talking
yeah... i have that kinda friendsuckmyenergy problem, especially when one of my friends send such long messages to me wothin one sec as if she has copied a lot of them and shared with different vent buddies but that is all about her failed relationship...
I so much needed this video, even for your first answer to the first question. Thank you guys for sharing your good vibes and minds :)
Like you guys said, i feel like it is soo important to kind of trigger warn someone you are about to spill emotion to. Sometimes people aren’t prepared emotionally/mentally to take on the baggage of others and thus aren’t well equipped in the moment to hear or respond to you with care and understanding. That initial check in of “hey are you in the head space to talk about something heavy?” Is extremely important!
I love how Jenn is able to speak so calmly, yet get her point across without getting lost in her train of thought. So organized and poised.
Podcast would be amazing!!
Hey Ben & Jen, I love this series & just from this episode, I've learnt so much. You guys are going to be the most AMAZING 'rents to lil Len.
That intro was amazing! Love this new segment! Love you guys!!
LOVE this video, topic, and you guys!
I love and appreciate this so much, thank you!!!
Thank you so much for this video Ben and Jen. What great advises and opinions. 🙏❤️
This video is gold. Full of wisdom. Thank you Ben & Jenn
Please do a podcast I loved this!
THAT INTRO 🤩
Ugh. I hate partners of youtubers who try so hard to be famous by riding on the fame.
Thank you for this video! Please do more!
"not sure why you zoomed in but thats ok" LMAO
You should totally do a podcast version of this! 😌👌🏼
Ok but that intro was BRILLIANT
Great video ! Also do you know who owns the new yorker ;) they live somewhere in tel aviv
The intro to the video is cute & lovely! Great conversation!
I loved this!! Can you do more on consciousness!!
how do you know so much? you are so eloquent, im blown away
Love this! you are SO creative. Love you both!
YES. WE LOVE PODCAST 🥺🥺🥺🥺
these are exactly what i needed to hear right now, thanks xxx
Your content keeps getting more and more creative! Great stuff Ben
this was amazing, thank you ❤️❤️
WIM HOF 👌👌👌 just breathe ~~
Start a podcast already, you guys!!! 💯💯💯
A PODCAST ?!? Yes please 😭😭😭
Heart warming and a needed space in our current environment. Thank you both. 🙏
I feel inclined to recommend Alan Watts Chillhop videos here on YT, they have been extremely helpful during this time. Sending blessings 💗
I love Alan Watts but only just seeing this Chillhop! Wow, it's so good! Appreciate the recommendation and the kind words, Coconut!
Outer riches and inner poverty 👍
thank you, mum + dad
I loved this!!! Thank you!
Absolutely love this video!
I sit in chairs the way that Jenn does! 😊
I love this form Ben please do more
How was this intro made? It's so pretty!!!
I love emotionally intelligent people
Y’all need to start a podcast!!!!!
What an intro!!
Looooooved it ! #waitingonaFAMILYchnnl
Petition for Ben and Jenn to start a podcast!
Love this please keep it going!
Love your passion Ben
Too good !! Needed this to hear 🙉
Thanks for uploading as usual ☺
I would love a podcast!!!
Love the intro sequence🥺
YES PODCAST!!!! Please, I know you two are busier than ever but if you're throwing it out there to see if we'd want it, the answer is a definite yes! I'd really trust your insights and would love some more reflective discussion like this one.
I need them to make a podcast
Omg this intro is amazing!
First one already hit home 🥲
pls make it a podcast!!!
I really needed this
Dear Ben & Jenn,
I really love this new series! You guys should totally upload this on Apple podcast! 💛👌🏻