We answer your questions on 'Focus & Productivity' | SPILL THE TEA
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- Опубліковано 28 чер 2024
- In this episode we answer your questions on 'Focus & Productivity'.
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It's awesome to have someone in your life who is as motivated about self-growth as you
We're very lucky to be aligned on this together. That said, if your partner isn't as motivated, you can still motivate yourself to live by example and that will most likely motivate them. X
I feel like I learn so much from you guys even though I am sixteen I am trying to learn as much as I can in this lifetime. Thank you for giving me a jumpstart 🥰
Appreciate you being here at working on yourself at such a young age, Yarele. I wish I had your dedication at that age. So keep it up, don't be hard on yourself, be kind to others and by the time you're as old as me your wisdom will be through the roof!!
Splitting chores with your partner effectively does come with good communication!! Those daily/weekly chores we found easy to discuss and split, and have a good system. My partner and I are still fine tuning our system for not-so-regular chores E.g. we have a temporary fix on the garage door but needs a proper fix, insurances, planning family holidays, planning and buying Xmas presents etc etc. Who does the thinking, budgeting, research and execution?
Those chores are not regular, but in a shared lifetime they come up consistently!
Omg so good! When is this becoming a podcast? 😊
YAYYAYAYAY I'd love for this series to become a podcast bc I'm so in love with it!!
Depression is dwelling on the past😞 anxiety is worrying about the future😫 Joy is enjoying the now 😊 I love spill the tea 🍵
It's amazing how much I learn from these videos!
The best line from this video was definitely: 'don't compare yourself to other people's today, compare yourself to your yesterday.' Damn! So good!
Can you do a behind the scenes episode? - how to set up cameras, how you edit, think of topics, etc?
ben is so good at listening
*"Productivity is never an accident. It is always the result of a commitment to excellence, intelligent planning, and focused effort."* --Paul J. Meyer
Love this, Zeel!
another upload of my favourite series! would you consider uploading this on spotify?
You and Jenn are honestly one of my biggest motivations in life, thank you so much for making these videos I always finish them feeling more fulfilled and having a better understanding of not only myself, and others ❤
Watching your spill the teas vids makes me feel happy, it feels like i have a sister and brother that giving me a life advice ✨ love u guys
So excited! I love this series!! 💕
Yesssss I have waited so loooong for spill the teaaaa 🌞🌞
I've been waiting for this one!! Thank you so much. I loveee hearing your words of wisdom
You guys inspire me so much!! thank you for sharing your tips!💖 I would love to see a video on your tips for style and confidence in presenting yourself
Hi Ben, I just want to say that I always look forward to new episodes of “spill the tea.” These topics are so relevant and ur discussions with Jenn are so insightful and thought provoking. Please continue doing these!! 😊
Please do a podcast. Super love you guys 💕
love listening to you guys chat about topics like these during my walks 😊
Just in time, I need this! Thank you Ben & Jenn!
I love this, I never knew that Jenn had encountered these struggles. I learned a lot from you guys, especially the part wherein communication is the important part of a great relationship. I started to communicate my feelings to my boyfriend and heard his. It was life changing. Thanks Ben & Jenn!
You guys should get on spotify or something too! I would like to listen to these when driving and stuff as well :)
so many helpful perspectives and insights in this one video, thank you so much! all those techniques and bits of wisdom weren't necessarily new to me, but because usually they are scattered through many videos i tend to forget them or sometimes even feel like my procrastinating self makes an effort not to remember them, so hearing it all again in one video in a reassuring way has really helped me start my day today :) thank you again!
Thank you both so much for these videos!
Needed this today! Thanks Ben
I love this series soooo muchhhhhhh
Love Jenn's regal wave at the end!
This is great! It gave me a lot of peace of mind listening to you, guys!
I could listen to you guys for hours ☕️ Thank you so much for such valuable content🤍
thank you! I feel like everything you both say is all I need to hear, I always compare myself with others and never even try to appreciate what all I have accomplished-
"No one wins in comparison"
Also when Jenn said you both are perfect definition of opposites attract LITREALLY SO TRUE. You both are like key to eachothers' lock (nobody else could fit in like you both do!)
What a beautiful relationship
Thanks for the kind words! It's so hard not to compare but the first thing we can do is become aware of it and slowly catch ourselves when we do it, then slowly reduce it. An easy read on all this is 'The Four Agreements' great little book to help with changing that perspective. Thanks again!
Please start a podcast
I really enjoy this series!!!
Thank you for the thoughtful advice! Happy to see my questions on here (10:33, 12:50). I appreciate your insight so much, Ben and Jenn! You guys are so inspiring. Much love!
Thank you for sending in such great questions, Hien. I'm glad we can help out in anyway!
Thank you for all the advice and the inspiration.. would be thankful if you could post it weekly
These are the productivity tips that I needed to hear! 💫 Keep rising to be who you want to be! 💫 #keeprising #risingtobe #aswerise #riser
my favourite series on youtube yeahhhhh
Loved this vid! Super helpful and great perspective
i def compare myself to my other friends who work hard. I beat myself up about it buuut I also feel like I get motivated from it LOL I need to find a better medium!!
I think lot of people do this, Sam. There's nothing wrong with that, but the aim is to get into a mindset where you want your peers to all succeed too. For them all to do well and be happy. Most of us compare and hope others fail so they look better, that's not healthy. Love and support will always win.
real ones know its a reupload
Lolll, I had it on queue yesterday and then it disappeared and thought I was imagining the video
Yeah- I’m confused why 🤣
Haha, the audio exported weird so wanted to start fresh. Apologies guys, I appreciate you all being the real ones tho!!
Well done Ben in not playing the comparison game! As as you said, no one wins in the comparison game! Inspirations yes, comparison no! To the question how you split the chores, absolutely, it's a matter of communication! I said this before, but I love this series Ben, very inspired to do it, and the questions you are choosing are so relevant! You and Jen really can change the world! Much love from U.K! xx
Wow, you're amazing, Mihaela! Thank you for the kind words and continued support. Always nice to hear from another Brit!
Lovely communication between you
This was so interesting!
You guys are #couplegoals. The best inspiration ever!
you two are my role models
The best advisers
Relationship goals 💙
Hey Ben! I put the volume to the max and it's still a bit hard to hear you... Don't know if it's just me?
0:41 Do you ever find yourself comparing how much you can get done to others?
4:56 How to manage doing so many tasks in one day without getting overwhelmed?
9:13 How do you and Jenn split tasks in the household to be effective?
10:29 What are your thoughts on 'hustle culture'? Do you think it can get toxic?
12:49 How do you find a balance between working hard for the future vs enjoying now?
Amazing. Thank you guys! If ever you can answer this…I’m wondering how to keep composure and a bright positive spirit so that people around me can feel good. I believe the job I’ve sucked up for so many years got me stuck in a weird mindset that I’m carrying over to the new job. now that I’m doing something else I feel like I can’t get out of the negative self talk, like I don’t realize I’m allowed to be happy now. I guess what I’m asking is.. are there any tricks to coming off happy and positive even when your head is speaking so negatively ?
Thanks for being so open, Amanda. I know it's so much easier said then done but the first thing would to try and catch yourself before you say something and ask yourself 'is what i'm about to say going to make people feel better or worse?' It's the same with what you do in your own time, what you think about yourself, 'is this time serving me? Is this thought making me happier or more sad?' Once we start asking those questions and catching ourselves we can slowly choose a more positive thought/anecdote etc. It takes time but it's worked really well for me. It's all about trying to look at what's good in the world, not what's wrong. Good luck!
@@HaveAGoodOne I really appreciate that. I just have to stop and think. Something I don’t do before I speak or act! I’m very very easy to read.
damn, we do need a "ben" in our life!
this episode was so entertaining for me. i have BPD and this was like watching my 2 dominant personalities interact in third-person. at the end of the day, despite being polar opposites- they're both doing what they know to do best. eventually, a balance of jenn's foresight & ben's presentness would be ideal, instead of having to choose one way over the other-- there is no ultimatum, or at least there doesn't have to be.
thank you so much ben & jenn! this would be an amazing podcast! i'd tune in everyday ♡