the thing is that we tend to care more abt wht others would feel if we said no and not think twice abt how draining it would be on us .. going above and beyond
This reminds me of a quote/saying: people who feel appreciated will always do more than what is expected. It's kind of the opposite of people pleasing. It's feeling that your value is acknowledged and appreciated and you do more (and more can be small for one day and bigger another day) because of that appreciation. But of course it should come with boundaries.
This is something that i've struggled with all my life but am now just realising how much i actually bend over backwards for the people in my life who would never do the same. This video is very helpful (and hilarious with the way that peg in the hole sounds) and i needed it at this point in my life
Thank you, loved your input on the subject! ❤ I still struggle with people pleasing and setting boundaries and I've recently read a quote I thought highlighted the essence of boundaries: 'Treat yourself well without harming others. Treat others well without harming yourself.' If we're hurting mentally and even physically because of faulty boundaries then that's not healthy or helpful.
the thing is that we tend to care more abt wht others would feel if we said no and not think twice abt how draining it would be on us .. going above and beyond
This is so true!!
This reminds me of a quote/saying: people who feel appreciated will always do more than what is expected. It's kind of the opposite of people pleasing. It's feeling that your value is acknowledged and appreciated and you do more (and more can be small for one day and bigger another day) because of that appreciation. But of course it should come with boundaries.
THIS!! Absolutely, you should do nice things and go above and beyond but the motivation shouldn’t be to “people please”.
I would recommend watching "This is going to hurt" if you haven't already. It's based on junior doctors in the NHS.
This is something that i've struggled with all my life but am now just realising how much i actually bend over backwards for the people in my life who would never do the same. This video is very helpful (and hilarious with the way that peg in the hole sounds) and i needed it at this point in my life
So so happy you found it helpful!! 💗💗💗
Thank you, loved your input on the subject! ❤ I still struggle with people pleasing and setting boundaries and I've recently read a quote I thought highlighted the essence of boundaries: 'Treat yourself well without harming others. Treat others well without harming yourself.' If we're hurting mentally and even physically because of faulty boundaries then that's not healthy or helpful.
Such a harsh truth, nice one being so open and honest about it
Your natural hair looks amazing ✨
In the same way Faye slayed the blonde hair, I think she would look so good dying it all one shade of a darkish brown 👩🏽👩🏼
This is such a good video. Well thought out, well spoken. As a future doctor this is something I struggle with a lot. Thank you, Faye! 💓
Happy you enjoyed ✨💞🫶🏼
Love your videos Faye! I am a massive people pleaser so these are great tips, thank you!
Thanks so much 🫶🏼🫶🏼 so happy you found them useful!
can't wait for this one faye!
Hope you enjoy and find helpful!! 🫶🏼
Being a people pleaser makes it hard to say no
Love this video thank you for sharing ❤
Ya know what forget birds and the bees. I think that talk should be renamed to the leg and the hole
how do you come up with your video ideas? do you reflect on things or is it something learnt and talked about in therapy?
Ahahahaha lots of things!! There was a podcast episode of “do you f*ckin mind” that inspired this + my experience in my first 7 months as a doctor
excellent topic
off topic but faye please reveal where you got this floor lamp from 💖💖💖
Dunelm!🫶🏼
thank u
Thank you
Faye you never miss I’m sitting here with anxiety because I just set A lot of Boundaries today when your video popped up
Aww I hope you find it helpful!! It’s something I honestly really struggle with and still work on so you aren’t alone xx